I was bullied, I handled it calmly like an adult and reported it, it was a very black and white case, they decided it is easier to victim blame the newer employee than deal with the difficult person so I was fired.
I’m going through this right now. I endured bullying for 15 years. Last week I submitted documentation and witnesses to refute my latest write up. I know HR is there to protect managers and not employees, but WOW - retribution is swift. How dare I prove my manager falsely accused me. Since I’m in a Right to Work state, they don’t need any reason to fire you. People who haven’t been through this have no idea what a toll this takes on your health. I actually had to start a heart medication for palpitations due to the stress. And next I’m going to my regular doctor to get anti-anxiety and antidepressants because I need help getting through this. If you are reading this and you feel your emotional state is broken- you are not alone! Seek help where needed!
Was just fired today...as in 1.5 hours ago. I feel very upset and ashamed, but honestly, wasn’t happy there for a long time. At first, I was devastated at the rejection, but now that I’m thinking about it, I think that I can find something better, with better benefits and a better work environment. Thanks Chelsea.
You don't have to put up with the BS your boss anymore. I was forced resigned 3 months before retirement. Now I won't get retirement check for another year. I now have to pay 650 a month for health insurance. I'll hVe full insurance at that time.
Tam Show I’m 18 and Ive had 3 jobs since I was 16 and I quit all of them for a better job/better pay. My current job is such b.s because I actually feel really confident with my skills but one of my teammates who’s been working here a couple years is really egotistical and she seems to think that I have to run everything by her which I’m not going to do because we work in a very fast paced environment and she’s just being selfish, but anyways she told my boss I’m arrogant and made some b.s claims that are just totally watered down to make it seem like I have no idea what I’m doing. It’s honestly just crap. I really like this job and the fact that I could get fired because some people so are selfishly not accepting me and blatantly making stuff up is just so frustrating to me. I tried to bite my tongue and apologize rather than tell him my real feelings though because I feel it could give me more of an edge or a chance of not being fired I also made him a list of things I’m gonna change in order to improve my work performance even though I know in my heart that I already bust my ass and bend over backwards for this company.
I find when you’re insecure about your job performance rather than being confident in yourself and believing you can accomplish your goals you tend to do worse on the job and people can read right through those insecurities. That’s why I try to have a very positive inner dialogue with myself and I tell myself how valuable I am and how much I would love to have a worker such as myself working for me. It often bleeds into my performance and makes me work with a clear goal in mind and without too many tribulations. I’m really passionate about being a good worker but some people seem to think I’m arrogant and I usually find that those are the same people that are usually just unhappy with themselves whether it be there own performance, or they’re just insecure that you might be doing better than them. Me and my dad are actually pretty similar where we’re overly confident in ourselves and people mistake it as being arrogant when in reality we’re both just really hard workers and we believe in our skills. I 100% got my work ethic from watching my father and I also know from watching him worm day in and day out getting up early before his shifts even started and putting in work for his companies that hard work doesn’t always pay off but it’s usually companies who aren’t doing the best that let things like seniority get in the way of keeping hard workers that will literally break themselves for a company because they’d rather have someone who fits in and plays their role as the small guy. I feel there is proof in the pudding though, and although I am going to do my best for the company I’m working for I’m not going to change my positive mindset because I know that I come into work everyday to put work in. And if something isn’t meant to be then it simply is not meant to be and I’m going to find someone who appreciates my hard work and manifest my dreams into reality rather than hating myself and tearing myself down from the inside.
I wasn't embarrassed. I was numb. A manager should be very upfront when letting someone go. My manager just said things weren't working out. I went and got my stuff and everyone was working and I went out the door. No one knew and I drove down the freeway looking at people driving and thinking if those people only knew what just happened to me. And also I feel a manager should at least have a phone number or something to give for help. It's literally a traumatic crisis and you won't understand until it happens to you. I think its cold to tell someone to leave and expect them to just go out in the world to never be seen from again. I was there for 4 years. You do survive. Being at that job was killing me and I was having a nervous breakdown. Even the best of jobs can go bad because work situations change. I learned my lesson and that is to leave if it ever gets that bad again. Even if you don't have a job lined up. I never want to be fired again. It's too painful.
I know the feeling. I packed my desk and left and some coworkers came to check on me but I was numb. I don’t think I believed it myself. Those interviews after were brutal.
I’ve seen this happen at work, you most likely exspresd an opinion or said something that offended the boss or another pet employee. It could have been some thing very simple to the point that only an stupid person would have been offended over it. People have strange beliefs and are very unforgiving. I’ve also seen those same managers get totally fired a few months later. Jealousy get more people fired than any other thing I’ve seen. One girl got fired cause she went from a cashier position to a manager position and all other managers had to work their way up and took yrs so they were jealous. She was good at the job and made all the rest look bad. We were all shocked that she good fired cause did such a good job. But we knew it was coming cause we could see the rest trying to savatoge her. But the head manager was too stupid to see what was really going on. But I’m sure they got theirs. And if u were not at fail karma will make sure she stop by. Peace
It sounds like you were not at any fault and just got a petty, vindictive manager. However, I bet it was still hard to explain away being fired to a prospective employer. That said, I really needed to see your post. I just got fired today. I wasn't a good fit for the role, nor it for me, so it came as no surprise(except the timing). I actually felt relief. I was miserable and felt inadequate, not to mention the obstacles I had to face.
Thanks for your post, and for being honest about your emotions and experience. I was just let go for the second time in 3 months. It's still sinking in and I have no clue what to do. I'm freaking out and trying not to panic at the same time. The future seems so dark now.
Last Fall I bought a new car and moved to another city for my first official full-time office job which ate up like 10.5 hours of my day including commute times. 2 months later I got fired because I was too bored and "wasn't learning fast enough". 2 weeks after that I randomly stumbled into a dream job that allows me to live the lifestyle that I want and travel freely. Even got promoted. Sometimes, getting fired is the best thing that can happen.
Tal, thank you for your time on writing this. I can absolutely relate you. I moved to a new city for a "good job" but then was fired 2 months later. I feel devastated.
I've been fired from my previous job. I've studied 3 years in college and landed a job on the other side of the Canada while I was still studying. (From Ontario, to B.C) The company was willing to wait for me to finish school. I finished school, and started the job, it was everything I wanted and more. But living away from home, from ALL my friends and family started taking a toll on me after 6 months. I wasn't making any friends, my co-workers were just... co-workers. Everything at my job was great but outside of work wasn't. Then I started becoming unhappy and it was effecting my work ethic. My managers suspended me without pay because I've made a couple mistakes. I was too embarrassed to speak about my life outside work to my managers and explain my situation. So when it came to the disciplinary interview, I broke down (emotional) hardcore and I then explained my situation to the HR that were interviewing me. I was hinting at them to fire me. And so I was fired. Lesson learned: Even though you've got the greatest job in the world... you also need to have the greatest life outside of your job.
Years away from my own family, grinding away and building a career I'm not even sure I want to pursue. I can totally relate. Hope things turned out fine for you.
I know this was three years ago but I can so relate to this I have a lot going on outside of work so I keep making errors and mistakes today I made a huge one which could lead to me let go. I’m just drained I hope you’re okay now
I just got fired yesterday and I'm devastated. Your speech made me realize that I actually didn't even like my job. Thank you for your positive advice.
At my previous company, a high level manager blew to whistle on an employee from another department because she saw him on Facebook at work. She talked to the CEO and his manager. His manager checked his productivity sheet and he had the highest amount of output of work within a given time frame in his entire department. I think the internet surfing reason for firing needs to be reevaluated
Definitely true. Especially as different people work better in different ways. I've learned that i need to stimulate my senses so if i'm doing something that is mostly mental I will have a toy in my hands and if i'm doing a lot of typing i need music or other sound related stimulus. it all helps me focus better. To fire someone because they are not working the way you want is a huge mistake. Having everyone work the same way will only ensure you are not getting the best work out of everyone.
Meghan Huynh I can't say I don't agree, but realistically speaking should never use your computer at work to go on social media unless you need the assistance of those on social media to solve a work issue. You have a cell phone. Use it to go online during lunch, and before and after work. I use the company computer to get directions to a friend's house or parties, and in order to check train times. That's it.
I got fired a few days ago. I was so unhappy and depressed at that job that just a few months in I started looking for new jobs. 8 months later and still no luck finding a different job and I am "let go" for not reaching my sales quota. I was a wonderful worker otherwise and never caused problems/drama like many of my co-workers, yet I was the one they let go. I am scared because I just moved to this new city alone and that was my only source of income. This video gave me some hope but I can't shake my anxiety after this happened. Hoping and praying something else comes along soon!
Hi. Recently I got fired too for the same problem. I have not reached my sales quota too. But I never been told what it was so... They can't not fired someone with this fact. They said that I lacked skills. But it's very strange because everyone always asked me for advices (I was working in beauty products for 2 years) And I was also a wonderful worker just like you. I'm scared too, but it's life and the fact that we got fired it will bring us to a better place. Most of the companies don't call references, they juste want to know if your able to talk (communication skills). Be honest in your interview. You could simply say that you never had the objectives and there was a lack of communication which led to be «let go». If you want to talk I'm here because we're in the same situation.
Sales position is not a guaranteed that you'll have your job forever. If you can't reach your quota they will let you go. Same thing happened to me. Guess what, I have to move on from being in Sales and try other jobs. It's depressing. I hope you got a job now it's been 2 years that you posted this.
Many times people get fired from jobs when they are too acute, and might form a threat to their managers/ bosses. It sucks, but it's something I've seen many times. To hold a job at a big company, you need to be a sycophant and be able to be inconspicuous until you get promoted and then slowly be more bold. People leave school thinking idealistically that everyone wants to see you do your utmost. Sometimes that's dangerous.
Sadly you are spot on. I got fired from my job two days again with no reason given. I wasn't conspicuous - I'm tall and have good posture so that alone seems to annoy people even before I speak. While I was at this job I was thinking exactly what you said - I thought doing the work fast, high quality work at jobs, offer suggestions for how to improve things would be appreciated by managers - it never has, ever.
I have a learning disability i told them about prior to being hired and they fired me for not progressing fast enough which i felt was illegal because in no way did they attempt to accommodate me in anyway. Got a better job now but its bs.
I’m sorry that happened. I know this post was from two years ago. But I hope you found something that’s within your level of abilities and minimizes your weaknesses and enhances your strengths.
Did you tell them what accommodations you needed? They cant just guess. If you told them and they knew it was accommodations for a disability and they were reasonable requests, then yes, they should have made them.
There’s a law called the Americans with Disabilities Act which protects anyone with a qualifying disability from being discriminated against in the workplace, and it also legally requires employers to provide reasonable accommodations for any of their employees who have been diagnosed with any sort of disability should he/she request any.
I didn't feel ashamed when I was fired from a certain job. I felt relief and anger. Relief because I was tired of going into that office with the office politics and the racism and microaggressions. My supervisor was a VERY pessimistic person and a snake. She would pull personal info out of you by being friendly and then use it against you later. We were transitioning and the new manager(who trained me years ago) was sitting by her everyday and an escalated situation led me to trying to speak with his boss, but instead I wound up in HR's office and got fired. I got a better paying and easier job a couple of week's after, but it definitely made me think about my approach when working with others.
Been fired from every single job I’ve had. I’m 21 years old and for once just want leaving a job to be my choice. I want so badly to be a valuable employee. This video helped a lot. I honestly thought I was the only one. Thank you.
This is a very good video. I recently got fired and after letting it sink in, I realize it was my own fault. I need constant stimulation and office work was limiting my creative mind. I often browsed the internet and became not so motivated to do the work. Thank you for your words and encouragement. I got employed elsewhere literally the very next day, however being fired served a real lesson to me that I’ve learned from.
I love how real, honest and introspective Chelsea is. In a world where no one wants to admit their faults and instead play the victim and blame others, it's so refreshing
I got fired from my first job recently because I called in sick because I didn't want to go to work because I didn't feel comfortable with someone there. My family is very ashamed because of this and they get embarrassed when people ask about me and my job , they look down on me a little and its not a big deal for me anymore , I just want to move on from this and learn
Paola Itzel was there anyone in work who you could have spoken to about this person? That's awful that you got fired because of someone else! But I realise it can be challenging to sort out these situations. I have quit jobs and being fired and my family can't understand it but it's the nature of my industry that there are a lot of places with a really bad work culture. trust me there is something better around the corner for you. 😊
ellyb I didn't want to get anyone in trouble so I couldn't talk to anyone about it at work but I talked to my mom about it so it's ok. Thank you it's nice to have someone who understands :)
Paola Itzel i relate to this a lot, i was also fired from my first job ever because i kept calling sick because i didn’t want to be with someone. i haven’t been able to get a job not even in fast food, it’s been almost a year and it sucks so much, how are you doing? have you been able to get a job? if you have, how were you able to get the job? because doesn’t that stay on your record forever? i have so many questions
As a hiring manager I would also add that if and when you need to address it during an interview, just own it. You can spin almost any negative, and showing what you've learned from being fired is huge. Do not make it sound like it was everyone else's fault, it really won't help you. Self awareness and personal growth are huge.
I just got fired today as a cashier in a grocery store (which I didn’t even want to be/didn’t apply for) because I gave people the wrong amount of money and I was short in my till. I was mostly sad because it was my first job ever and I didn’t want to disappoint my family but after I told them I had no sad bone in my body, I was relieved. The job was getting easier but I didn’t realize how much information you have to memorize just to be a cashier and it was overwhelming for me.
Dillon I got fired from my job Bc they felt I couldn’t keep up w the pace in the call center. They also had us memorize this whole new system called GERS which was overwhelming for me too so I think my trainer told my boss and then I got a phone call from my recruiter from the temp agency that I went through to tell me not to come back. 😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭
Being fired for surfing the internet is so dumb!!! As long as you get your job done it doesn't matter unless your place has an explicit policy against it. I'm a researcher so everyone I work with realizes that what we do is really intellectually demanding, so no one cares about how many breaks we take as long as we meet deadlines. Glad I don't work in an environment where I have to just sit at my desk if I need a mental break :/
I'm ambivalent about this line of reasoning. On the one hand, I agree pretty much completely with your post, but also, I can see it from the employer side. It's a pain in the neck to track down people and give them things to do during the time they're being paid. I used to work at a call center where managers oversaw one or two hundred people, and it would have been actually impossible. This does seem to be something that happens more often at revolving-door entry level positions than real career jobs, though; call centers and fast food and retail and the like. (and it sounds like Chelsea's internet use was pretty excessive, if her boss' lunatic demonstration had any basis in reality. terrible form that she wasn't given a warning before being termed, though)
If you are using company time and company equipment to surf the net, that's a problem. But some companies actually do not care about that, I've found. I worked at a place where a co-worker spent time snapping selfies, surfing the net for beauty videos and Facetiming with family and friends, at 20 minutes at a time, loudly. We sat in an open area where it was well known this person did this. Yet this person did not get fired. The pattern was the company would hire a person to "help" out while this person came in late every day and wore very revealing or tight and inappropriate outfits that gave the male staff something to huff about. The person who was hired had to wear business attire and do all the work then would either quit or be fired for asking why this was going on.
I too have been fired many times, I was not a good employee... Like you I decided that my only possible recourse was to open my own business and make my own rules, once I settled into the mindset of a business owner, rather than just an employee I started to thrive. One thing that being fired like four times has taught me is that the only person on this Earth that you can trust is yourself, it can be depressing and even a shock to the system for social or otherwise engaged individuals but the simple and blunt fact of the matter is that not everyone has empathy, sympathy or the most important trait which is discernment. Many of the people with the privilege to hire and fire care a lot more about themselves than you, and how can you blame them?... naivety is what lost me most of the jobs, once you hit about 30 years old you have an epiphany in which you discover the secret to success is becoming a good actor because perception paints reality.
I was fired on the spot, the boss said "you are just not working out here" it got a little heated. I left abruptly out of emotion. It was never my intention, but I'm human, and it was devastating. I was always on time, I never left early. If I had to take off, I let my employer well enough in advance. All of my tasks were completed.
I got let go once and my supervisor said "I'm really sorry that I have to do this" and I said back to him, "if you were really sorry about it, you wouldn't be letting me go right now" :D But it is true that every new position I've had has been better than the last, so it all works out in the end!
As someone working in Germany, i find it very interesting how easy it is to get fired in the US. I, personally, have not been fired. In general it is a very lenghty difficult process for employers to fire someone. It would be pretty much impossible for an employer to terminate a contract immediately, especially via phone. Unless of course for some criminal actions at work.
Yes, I hear in Germany and other countries nearby it is very difficult to fire someone. There are also many other employee rights given that we dont have in the US. Many of us work 60 hours or more per week with no extra pay. If we dont use our vacation time by the end of the year because we are so busy at work, we lose our vacation time.
I wish the U.S. had the same laws as Europe. Here they can fire you anytime, for no reason...and they often do. People are expendable and thrown out like trash.
Yes, that is what my Czech bf said as well when I was fired over the phone earlier this week. “This would not have happened in Europe.” Interesting to think about the different ways countries conduct business…
Yeah it wouldn't happen no where near as easy in most of Europe. However there are stipulation that are rarely discussed and that's while you can't be fired as easily which is way less stressful, you are held to more standards and rules as an employee as well, often times you can't just leave if you're not happy you must give notice and you can't work a 2nd job (if you want one that is) without a lot of headache. However it does vary by country though 2 of my examples were taken from friends from Spain and the Netherlands. I wish the US would make it harder to fire you though none the less.
I got fired and I have never been happier! I had been dreaming of starting my own business and TH-cam for years but was held back by fear... And I am so glad I got pushed into doing this! I got my first client 2 months in and haven't missed my old life one second!
I'm a perfectionist and a "workhorse". I will literally work myself to death if no one tells me to take a break. I normally don't even take breaks at all and would rather just eat lunch at my computer. I've been in several situations where I actually worked "too hard" (supervisor's words). They charged their client for more hours than I required to finish the task, so even if I finished earlier I had to wait until the actual deadline to deliver my project. I refuse to work with liars and so I quit the job eventhough I really needed the money. I guess my personal values are more important that surviving.
I got fired because I just became bad at my job. I found at by accident. I called a staff representative about mental health issues (I went through a burnout, and I was mentally exhausted). She was not supposed to be the one telling me that but she told me a letter was just send to me for a pre-dismissal interview. I am just scared of ever working again...
I have not been fired yet, but I would say there is a chance that I could be. Mostly because my manager is very tempramental. Thanks for this video! It quieted some of my fears.
I was laid off two months ago, very frustating to me because I have a Master degree but still struggling to find a new job. Is very emotional when time passed and you still unemployed but i still positive that something will come my way.
I just generally struggle with working for other people. I know this and am working toward opening my own business. My personality just isn't built to be an employee.
Same here I’ve realized I don’t do well with having somebody over my life and having to constantly worry about not making mistakes and being perfect for a company it’s honestly too much !!
This story is so relatable. I have been fired many times as well, and this is a good reminder to evaluate yourself honestly and kindly no matter what, but especially when looking for a new job.
I’ve never commented on a youtube video before, but this video was honestly so helpful and has made me feel so much better about being fired for the first time that I had to tell you how great this is! Thank you so much.
I got fired for having panic attacks and depression. They don't want someone smart anymore, they wanted someone whom would lie down and do whatever they say. I couldn't do it. Now, I'm going back to school for something else that fits my personality and will eventually make 6 figures.
I was fired because my company does not want to provide accommodation for my disability, instead they gave no reason for termination in their letter of termination, but I was still under probation period.
Thank you for your candor Chelsea. I was fired this spring and its been very emotionally challenging getting back on my feet. It was a blessing in disguise though, I had been there 4 years and their goals for the program had grown apart from mine. I've since relocated closer to family and I love getting to spend time with my niece and nephews. I had a temp job for a while and I've recently been turned down as the second choice twice for jobs that I loved. Its difficult to keep my confidence up but it's great to know I'm not alone! Thank you again!
I've gotten fired numerous times because I gave facts for how I wasn't wrong and I refused to budge from my principles. Best thing I ever did though, because of that I stand where I am today
thank you for your honest and transparency. it really is needed for people who especially have recently been fired. When I was fired from my first job I was devastated but if I hadnt gotten fired I would have never taken the steps to get my 2nd job which paid a lot more and gave me more hours. so I always see it as "everything happens for a reason" because to this day i look back and am thankful that i was fired or else I wouldnt have half the experience I have today.
I was fired yesterday after being relentlessly harrased. I took the day off to look for another job, by manager found out and they fired me. He said they were "taking care" of that person that was harrassing me. I doubt they did anything. They're almost all amish. Terrible, toxic environment. Hopefully good opportunities open up for me in the next week.
This is one of the most important videos of this channel. Thank you for all the things you do and share. While I was listening I was thinking "I never got fired, interesting but can't relate", I was always a hard, good worker! But then I realized that I experienced in my life something very similar to get fired (and it was not my fault) and was one of the most frustrating and devasting time of my life. During my PhD when my tutor was transferred to another Univeristy, the one who replaced him "fired" me, with a ridicolous excuse. Actually i did not give my 100% at that time (thank you for letting me being honest with myself, scanning again what happened) and even if they "invited" me to terminate the PhD for an excuse, I was not 100% deserving that place (I worked very hard as professor assistant and tutor with younger students, but veeeery slowly on my research project, I admitt it!). Thank you for letting me meditate on that sad episode of my life! :)
Thank you for your video. It helped me to get back up after being fired. I wrote my letter (kept it small), listened to your video about being fired, and I'm about to write what I did well in my journal.
Thank you. I got laid off of work today and was feeling really well ashamed, frustrated and lost. Your talk helped to understand that I'm not alone. Thank you.
Thanks for talking about this - I have been fired multiple times in my career (a few lay offs and a few firings) - in sales if you're not hitting targets you don't last - it's the most heartless and unforgiving profession out there, yet I'm still in it. I find this topic is rarely talked about so thanks for the video : )
I was fired from a job i really cared about because i wasn't so much of a "team player" which i guess was true. Even though I was producing amazing results the company really valued "tending to the team" and I was let go because of it. It was humiliating and awful but also a learning experience.
I'm the team player in my group and am often at the office until after midnight. My co-worker says she cant help more because she has a family and long commute; however, she also takes personal calls all day or talks to others in the office. My other co-worker is very slow and does only 5% or less of the work I do. My other co-worker spends the day looking for other jobs. It really is starting to piss me off. I'd fire the non team players if I could, too.
I've been laid off more than once. A lot of it had to do with the company's financial state but it took a huge hit to my self esteem at the time. Thanks for sharing Chelsea. I wish this video was around sooner!
That first job, fair play you should have been fired. That second one though? Ridiculous. You did your job. So what if you did other stuff as well, what are you meant to do? Twiddle your thumbs?
I was just fired because my car broke down and the day after I got it fixed a cop pulled me over on my way to work, although I know I technically could have avoided these reasons, I feel they are human reasons and Managment should’ve understood that.. I was seen as a problem employee from that point on, and was fired for literally no reason. I I asked, “what was the reason for my being fired?”, and they said “no reason, we just don’t feel like you’re the right fit.” I feel sick to my stomach because I want to know what I did wrong, but at the same time I feel I could’ve never done anything right to fix what happened.
Great video...I just got fired on Friday...and oddly I found this video save in my Watch Later list even though I had a job at the time...everything happens for a reason❤😭😔😃😙
Wow thank you. That was extremely helpful. I just got a new job and I was fired from another job a few years back and it was devastating. Right now I'm researching and doing everything I can to not get fired at my new job.
I really appreciate the honesty about your personal experience here and I think the points you made are great! As a person who has worked in management for several years now, I find it so hard to watch some employees thinking that it's okay to just do as they please and at their own pace and then getting upset about why they are being disciplined/fired. I think what you have posted here is so important! You were able to own up to why the disciplinary action was taken and you were able to turn it into something better for yourself and your future colleagues at your next job. That is extremely difficult, but quite rewarding at the same time. I know that after my past firing, I can look back now and see that I can bear some of the blame and I've managed to put myself in a better place thanks to lessons learned.
Hello Chelsea, I need help. I have been fired from 3 different jobs and I feel hopeless. I have a bachelors degree in business and a concentration in marketing. Once for not meeting my sales quota, once for not learning a job fast enough enough and once for not doing a job fast enough. I’m worried I will end up homeless.
This was exactly what I needed to hear. Particularly the part where you learned more about yourself and from others who were similar to you. Hearing you talk about your decision to make the necessary changes was exactly what I needed to hear. Thank you for this!!
I just got fired for the same reason you gave in your second example and I just would like to thank you for this. Very good content, helped me as I’m going through this...
I was just fired and I am so glad I have an emergency fund thanks to your videos. Do you guys need to hire a math teacher? Or does anyone actually? I do other stuff too but I have an MAEd in Math and I'm 26.
I can definitely relate to the second job you were fired from. I was not fired but i quit within a few weeks as I knew it wasnt for me and was really taking a toll on me. It was so tedious and i had nothing to do for most of the day so I surfed news websites cos I knew they were appropriate. So strange of a company to hire me to basically do nothing ; my boss totally could have done everything himself. Lesson learned: know what youre getting ino and know your way out!
I don’t really understand this - if the assigned tasks are done… Then what is the problem? If you are glued to the desk for no reason and you k ow they will fire you for doing something not work related… Then do your tasks slow enough to fill up the time (Remember - there is no reward for fast and efficient work other than more work to do).
Old Chelsea really was a mess! 😂😂 lol she got her car burnt down and fired multiple times. But look at you now! Thanks for showing that you really can turn yourself around
I got fired for sleeping on the job so idk how this will apply to me XD but thank god you guys uploaded this video! it's so relevant to my life right now
At all my jobs, I've definitely gotten away with surfing the internet more than I should have - a lot of it comes from playing TH-cam videos in the background because I get bored of music. I do worry that this will one day screw me over, but so far all my jobs have been pretty relaxed about it...
I've never been fired because I hold myself accountable when I'm not doing anyone any favors by working there so I just leave but in the past been working on giving 2 weeks or having the conversation that this isnt working. It doesn't help when you never really were close to begin with, like your hiring/training was rushed and they say hi but you dont communicate beyond that.
I got fired about a week ago. I was in a brand new career field I had never done before and they fired me not even a full 3 weeks of being there. They told me I just didn’t seem to be catching on. I felt devastated because I’ve never been fired from a job before and have always been told that I’m a good worker. It’s been hard trying to find another job. I’m still a little shook up about it but I know i will make it through and eventually find something else.
THANK YOU. I just lost my dream job (or what I thought was my dream job, I suppose) and I am absolutely devastated after what was already the worst year of my life. This is very helpful, especially cause I'm going to try to shoot the moon and be self-employed. Hearing all of this was very helpful. Thankfully your previous videos about prioritizing an emergency fund helped me focus on that while I had a steady income, so now that the worst has happened, I have a little cushion for the next few months while I get back on my feet.
I was also fired recently here in Canada at a software MNC. My team lead who is Chinese and who barely knows English used to support only team members from his own country ( who are also weak in English and poor in working with others of the team ) who were very sly and selfish to say the least and did not share any info / knowledge or would not help remaining team members. I was one of the top performing team members but just because I did a small mistake I was fired. The members of team who belonged to the same country as my team lead had done many mistakes in the past but never were questioned or reported about their big mistakes. I was about to discuss all these details with the hr and manager but I did not ( even though I had all the evidence) as I thought it would affect my future career negatively. Now I am so embarrassed , disgusted, frustrated and angry. My confidence to attend interviews is also low and am feeling depressed.. I discussed this only with two of my close colleagues and not with any one else. . I will never in my life trust a mainland Chinese again. I had heard and seen of their bad behaviour online and news etc. But I saw their bad characters in real life ..
Chelsea, I beg you, please offer advice on dealing with interviews post being fired. Last time I had a breakdown during a phone interview. I felt so worthless afterwards I had no idea what strengths I even had to mention anymore and preparing beforehand still had me coming up empty.
Recent events has me watching videos like this... and the bitter part of me is pointing out that I'm watching a person that is clearly very capable of holding many more jobs than I could... and also that they ended up as a youtube broadcaster as a career.
I just got let go after less than 2 months at a job because of "company restructuring". They'd written up a 12 month career development plan for me and everything! Thanks for this Chelsea, it's crazy out there
Thanks for speaking out about this. I've been fired numerous times but at the same time I'm continually reminded and recognized as a smart person. I freaking tiple majored at a good Uni and worked more than part time. I've never really felt embressed so much as been reminded how little I cared about whatever endevor I was involved with. I certainly was victem to feeling weak and vulnerable but embarrassed .. I have a little bit more respect then that but also at the same time I've never been fired from a job I didn't feel already miserable at. Thanks for sharing
Everytime I got a job I really appreciate and try my best to not lose the job. But i have been fired three time . Still Idk what is wrong and why it happened to me. Thanks for your video.
Major props for sharing those experiences. The boss at your office job was a total douche for wasting that much paper just to shame you, but it's laughable in how ridiculous it is. Also, cute hair :-)
It's a lot about how your boss sees it too. My boss knows I watch Netflix at work, but she also knows that I'm very good at my job. She lets me do what I want because she trusts me to do my job right. Watching Netflix or TH-cam helps me concentrate at work with my ADHD.
Thank you! I have ADHD too and some bosses are great about it others act as if i'm making it up to get out of doing work, even when I'm the most productive. It's nice to know there are great bosses out there who care about making sure everyone succeeds.
I've never been fired before, but I have defintely walked out on shitty jobs and asshole bosses. There's no better feeling than this, especially when they treated me like crap and repeatedly told me "you need this job". I've thankfully had better luck starting in my mid 20's and have been a public servant for 10 years now. Haven't looked back since! Love your videos!
Thank you deeply for sharing your experience, strength and hope with us so honestly and for making yourself vulnerable in the service of encouraging others. I am so glad your video was the one I chose to watch when I googled "How to keep going after being fired". You helped me tap into more resilience. I am going to write that letter now!
I was fired from my last job for no real reason. The temporary consultant that knew the vice president personally but who every single person on the team hated was getting fired and decided to take someone down with her by convincing my boss I wasn't needed. Everyone knew it. Still, she was fired on the spot and I was given two days. Not weeks. Days.
Please do a How To Adult on coping with the emotional side of long term unemployment - as a carer I'm only allowed to work 25hrs per week (including travel time)before it effects my pension. I can't seem to nail a part time position that respects this reality. Long term unemployment is hard and quite lonley. Thanks.
Looking to quit your job? Chelsea shares advice here: th-cam.com/video/TEPfiDf_BYw/w-d-xo.html.
I was bullied, I handled it calmly like an adult and reported it, it was a very black and white case, they decided it is easier to victim blame the newer employee than deal with the difficult person so I was fired.
Patina77 could u have sued for wrongful termination?
Same shit happened to me too.
That’s a joke man similar thing happened to me
Patina77 same
I’m going through this right now. I endured bullying for 15 years. Last week I submitted documentation and witnesses to refute my latest write up. I know HR is there to protect managers and not employees, but WOW - retribution is swift. How dare I prove my manager falsely accused me. Since I’m in a Right to Work state, they don’t need any reason to fire you. People who haven’t been through this have no idea what a toll this takes on your health. I actually had to start a heart medication for palpitations due to the stress. And next I’m going to my regular doctor to get anti-anxiety and antidepressants because I need help getting through this. If you are reading this and you feel your emotional state is broken- you are not alone! Seek help where needed!
Was just fired today...as in 1.5 hours ago. I feel very upset and ashamed, but honestly, wasn’t happy there for a long time. At first, I was devastated at the rejection, but now that I’m thinking about it, I think that I can find something better, with better benefits and a better work environment. Thanks Chelsea.
@sheri did you find something?:)
I just go fired....30 minutes ago😡😡 Idk this comment spoke to me so I'm commenting...ummm yeah 🤦🏾♂️
You don't have to put up with the BS your boss anymore. I was forced resigned 3 months before retirement. Now I won't get retirement check for another year. I now have to pay 650 a month for health insurance. I'll hVe full insurance at that time.
This is a topic that I feel like NO ONE talks about. It's so relieving to hear someone talk about it in such a candid way
So true. I’ve been fired many times also and I think I’m ready to talk about it idk why we don’t hear anyone talking about this
Tam Show I’m 18 and Ive had 3 jobs since I was 16 and I quit all of them for a better job/better pay. My current job is such b.s because I actually feel really confident with my skills but one of my teammates who’s been working here a couple years is really egotistical and she seems to think that I have to run everything by her which I’m not going to do because we work in a very fast paced environment and she’s just being selfish, but anyways she told my boss I’m arrogant and made some b.s claims that are just totally watered down to make it seem like I have no idea what I’m doing. It’s honestly just crap. I really like this job and the fact that I could get fired because some people so are selfishly not accepting me and blatantly making stuff up is just so frustrating to me. I tried to bite my tongue and apologize rather than tell him my real feelings though because I feel it could give me more of an edge or a chance of not being fired I also made him a list of things I’m gonna change in order to improve my work performance even though I know in my heart that I already bust my ass and bend over backwards for this company.
I find when you’re insecure about your job performance rather than being confident in yourself and believing you can accomplish your goals you tend to do worse on the job and people can read right through those insecurities. That’s why I try to have a very positive inner dialogue with myself and I tell myself how valuable I am and how much I would love to have a worker such as myself working for me. It often bleeds into my performance and makes me work with a clear goal in mind and without too many tribulations. I’m really passionate about being a good worker but some people seem to think I’m arrogant and I usually find that those are the same people that are usually just unhappy with themselves whether it be there own performance, or they’re just insecure that you might be doing better than them. Me and my dad are actually pretty similar where we’re overly confident in ourselves and people mistake it as being arrogant when in reality we’re both just really hard workers and we believe in our skills. I 100% got my work ethic from watching my father and I also know from watching him worm day in and day out getting up early before his shifts even started and putting in work for his companies that hard work doesn’t always pay off but it’s usually companies who aren’t doing the best that let things like seniority get in the way of keeping hard workers that will literally break themselves for a company because they’d rather have someone who fits in and plays their role as the small guy. I feel there is proof in the pudding though, and although I am going to do my best for the company I’m working for I’m not going to change my positive mindset because I know that I come into work everyday to put work in. And if something isn’t meant to be then it simply is not meant to be and I’m going to find someone who appreciates my hard work and manifest my dreams into reality rather than hating myself and tearing myself down from the inside.
Because in America , people get teased so much for being fired , like me, I lost my undefeated record on my resume
I wasn't embarrassed. I was numb. A manager should be very upfront when letting someone go. My manager just said things weren't working out. I went and got my stuff and everyone was working and I went out the door. No one knew and I drove down the freeway looking at people driving and thinking if those people only knew what just happened to me. And also I feel a manager should at least have a phone number or something to give for help. It's literally a traumatic crisis and you won't understand until it happens to you. I think its cold to tell someone to leave and expect them to just go out in the world to never be seen from again. I was there for 4 years. You do survive. Being at that job was killing me and I was having a nervous breakdown. Even the best of jobs can go bad because work situations change. I learned my lesson and that is to leave if it ever gets that bad again. Even if you don't have a job lined up. I never want to be fired again. It's too painful.
I know the feeling. I packed my desk and left and some coworkers came to check on me but I was numb. I don’t think I believed it myself. Those interviews after were brutal.
I’ve seen this happen at work, you most likely exspresd an opinion or said something that offended the boss or another pet employee. It could have been some thing very simple to the point that only an stupid person would have been offended over it. People have strange beliefs and are very unforgiving. I’ve also seen those same managers get totally fired a few months later. Jealousy get more people fired than any other thing I’ve seen. One girl got fired cause she went from a cashier position to a manager position and all other managers had to work their way up and took yrs so they were jealous. She was good at the job and made all the rest look bad. We were all shocked that she good fired cause did such a good job. But we knew it was coming cause we could see the rest trying to savatoge her. But the head manager was too stupid to see what was really going on. But I’m sure they got theirs. And if u were not at fail karma will make sure she stop by. Peace
I absolutely understand your feelings. Thank you for sharing your experience. It’s nice to know I’m not alone.
It sounds like you were not at any fault and just got a petty, vindictive manager. However, I bet it was still hard to explain away being fired to a prospective employer.
That said, I really needed to see your post. I just got fired today. I wasn't a good fit for the role, nor it for me, so it came as no surprise(except the timing). I actually felt relief. I was miserable and felt inadequate, not to mention the obstacles I had to face.
Thanks for your post, and for being honest about your emotions and experience.
I was just let go for the second time in 3 months. It's still sinking in and I have no clue what to do. I'm freaking out and trying not to panic at the same time. The future seems so dark now.
Last Fall I bought a new car and moved to another city for my first official full-time office job which ate up like 10.5 hours of my day including commute times. 2 months later I got fired because I was too bored and "wasn't learning fast enough".
2 weeks after that I randomly stumbled into a dream job that allows me to live the lifestyle that I want and travel freely. Even got promoted.
Sometimes, getting fired is the best thing that can happen.
Tal, thank you for your time on writing this. I can absolutely relate you. I moved to a new city for a "good job" but then was fired 2 months later. I feel devastated.
Tal Sheynkman this gives me light at the end of the tunnel
Ok.. I guess I'll ask then. What's the Job???😯😯😯😯👂🏼
I've been fired from my previous job. I've studied 3 years in college and landed a job on the other side of the Canada while I was still studying. (From Ontario, to B.C) The company was willing to wait for me to finish school. I finished school, and started the job, it was everything I wanted and more. But living away from home, from ALL my friends and family started taking a toll on me after 6 months. I wasn't making any friends, my co-workers were just... co-workers. Everything at my job was great but outside of work wasn't. Then I started becoming unhappy and it was effecting my work ethic. My managers suspended me without pay because I've made a couple mistakes. I was too embarrassed to speak about my life outside work to my managers and explain my situation. So when it came to the disciplinary interview, I broke down (emotional) hardcore and I then explained my situation to the HR that were interviewing me. I was hinting at them to fire me. And so I was fired.
Lesson learned: Even though you've got the greatest job in the world... you also need to have the greatest life outside of your job.
Thank you. I think I'm in a similar position and this just brought that to the surface. Thank you.
Years away from my own family, grinding away and building a career I'm not even sure I want to pursue. I can totally relate. Hope things turned out fine for you.
Kenneth Racelis I agree. Your personal life can greatly affect your professional life. When I was depressed, it greatly effected my work
I'm in a similar circumstance now (BC to AB). I'm most upset about the apartment lease I am stuck in, and having no income to pay for it. I hate life.
I know this was three years ago but I can so relate to this I have a lot going on outside of work so I keep making errors and mistakes today I made a huge one which could lead to me let go. I’m just drained I hope you’re okay now
I just got fired yesterday and I'm devastated. Your speech made me realize that I actually didn't even like my job. Thank you for your positive advice.
At my previous company, a high level manager blew to whistle on an employee from another department because she saw him on Facebook at work. She talked to the CEO and his manager. His manager checked his productivity sheet and he had the highest amount of output of work within a given time frame in his entire department. I think the internet surfing reason for firing needs to be reevaluated
Definitely true. Especially as different people work better in different ways. I've learned that i need to stimulate my senses so if i'm doing something that is mostly mental I will have a toy in my hands and if i'm doing a lot of typing i need music or other sound related stimulus. it all helps me focus better. To fire someone because they are not working the way you want is a huge mistake. Having everyone work the same way will only ensure you are not getting the best work out of everyone.
Meridian i agree. It's also terribly hard to adapt and can contribute to frustration and being unhappy or really bored in the long run
Meghan Huynh I can't say I don't agree, but realistically speaking should never use your computer at work to go on social media unless you need the assistance of those on social media to solve a work issue. You have a cell phone. Use it to go online during lunch, and before and after work.
I use the company computer to get directions to a friend's house or parties, and in order to check train times. That's it.
Seeing an employee on Facebook ONCE does not warrant taking it all the way up to the CEO. That manager needs to get a life.
I got fired two times, and I started to feel like I'm not good at anything.... Thank you for this
I got fired a few days ago. I was so unhappy and depressed at that job that just a few months in I started looking for new jobs. 8 months later and still no luck finding a different job and I am "let go" for not reaching my sales quota. I was a wonderful worker otherwise and never caused problems/drama like many of my co-workers, yet I was the one they let go. I am scared because I just moved to this new city alone and that was my only source of income. This video gave me some hope but I can't shake my anxiety after this happened. Hoping and praying something else comes along soon!
Hi. Recently I got fired too for the same problem. I have not reached my sales quota too. But I never been told what it was so... They can't not fired someone with this fact. They said that I lacked skills. But it's very strange because everyone always asked me for advices (I was working in beauty products for 2 years) And I was also a wonderful worker just like you. I'm scared too, but it's life and the fact that we got fired it will bring us to a better place. Most of the companies don't call references, they juste want to know if your able to talk (communication skills). Be honest in your interview. You could simply say that you never had the objectives and there was a lack of communication which led to be «let go». If you want to talk I'm here because we're in the same situation.
How did this work out for you?
I just got fired and I’m moving to a new state as well. We can do this! Any updates on your journey?
Sales position is not a guaranteed that you'll have your job forever. If you can't reach your quota they will let you go. Same thing happened to me. Guess what, I have to move on from being in Sales and try other jobs. It's depressing. I hope you got a job now it's been 2 years that you posted this.
It will.
Many times people get fired from jobs when they are too acute, and might form a threat to their managers/ bosses. It sucks, but it's something I've seen many times. To hold a job at a big company, you need to be a sycophant and be able to be inconspicuous until you get promoted and then slowly be more bold. People leave school thinking idealistically that everyone wants to see you do your utmost. Sometimes that's dangerous.
Sadly you are spot on. I got fired from my job two days again with no reason given. I wasn't conspicuous - I'm tall and have good posture so that alone seems to annoy people even before I speak. While I was at this job I was thinking exactly what you said - I thought doing the work fast, high quality work at jobs, offer suggestions for how to improve things would be appreciated by managers - it never has, ever.
I have a learning disability i told them about prior to being hired and they fired me for not progressing fast enough which i felt was illegal because in no way did they attempt to accommodate me in anyway. Got a better job now but its bs.
Im sorry.
I’m sorry that happened. I know this post was from two years ago. But I hope you found something that’s within your level of abilities and minimizes your weaknesses and enhances your strengths.
Did you tell them what accommodations you needed? They cant just guess. If you told them and they knew it was accommodations for a disability and they were reasonable requests, then yes, they should have made them.
There’s a law called the Americans with Disabilities Act which protects anyone with a qualifying disability from being discriminated against in the workplace, and it also legally requires employers to provide reasonable accommodations for any of their employees who have been diagnosed with any sort of disability should he/she request any.
Exact same thing just happened to me.
I got fired from my previous job because some one lied on me. 🤷🏾♀️ but I got a better paying job in the process
That's the way to do it.
God blessed 🌟🌟🌟
I'm curious, did you tell your perspective employers you were fired? or did you not share that ?
@@Angelskris333 Never ever share that info, chances are you won’t get the new job
@@AL-pk2mu What happens if they call your old employer and find out you lied?
I didn't feel ashamed when I was fired from a certain job. I felt relief and anger. Relief because I was tired of going into that office with the office politics and the racism and microaggressions. My supervisor was a VERY pessimistic person and a snake. She would pull personal info out of you by being friendly and then use it against you later. We were transitioning and the new manager(who trained me years ago) was sitting by her everyday and an escalated situation led me to trying to speak with his boss, but instead I wound up in HR's office and got fired. I got a better paying and easier job a couple of week's after, but it definitely made me think about my approach when working with others.
I got fired and wrongfully terminated but I'm going to get me another job
Been fired from every single job I’ve had. I’m 21 years old and for once just want leaving a job to be my choice. I want so badly to be a valuable employee. This video helped a lot. I honestly thought I was the only one. Thank you.
This is a very good video. I recently got fired and after letting it sink in, I realize it was my own fault. I need constant stimulation and office work was limiting my creative mind. I often browsed the internet and became not so motivated to do the work. Thank you for your words and encouragement. I got employed elsewhere literally the very next day, however being fired served a real lesson to me that I’ve learned from.
It's not your fault. Your job is supposed to stimulate you.
Same here! Especially now there's remote work...so much can distract me.
You have saved my day. I was fired after 29 years of hard work and dedication. This video brightened my day. Thank you so so so much! 🙏
Sending hugs your way. smh 29 years?
I love how real, honest and introspective Chelsea is. In a world where no one wants to admit their faults and instead play the victim and blame others, it's so refreshing
I got fired from my first job recently because I called in sick because I didn't want to go to work because I didn't feel comfortable with someone there. My family is very ashamed because of this and they get embarrassed when people ask about me and my job , they look down on me a little and its not a big deal for me anymore , I just want to move on from this and learn
Paola Itzel was there anyone in work who you could have spoken to about this person? That's awful that you got fired because of someone else! But I realise it can be challenging to sort out these situations. I have quit jobs and being fired and my family can't understand it but it's the nature of my industry that there are a lot of places with a really bad work culture. trust me there is something better around the corner for you. 😊
ellyb I didn't want to get anyone in trouble so I couldn't talk to anyone about it at work but I talked to my mom about it so it's ok. Thank you it's nice to have someone who understands :)
Paola Itzel i relate to this a lot, i was also fired from my first job ever because i kept calling sick because i didn’t want to be with someone. i haven’t been able to get a job not even in fast food, it’s been almost a year and it sucks so much, how are you doing? have you been able to get a job? if you have, how were you able to get the job? because doesn’t that stay on your record forever? i have so many questions
i got fired 3 times
As a hiring manager I would also add that if and when you need to address it during an interview, just own it. You can spin almost any negative, and showing what you've learned from being fired is huge. Do not make it sound like it was everyone else's fault, it really won't help you. Self awareness and personal growth are huge.
@@aleksandrakaludjerovic1317 mmmmkay.
This is so true; I just did this and was able to land a new role by being positive about it instead of complaining about being let go.
I just got fired today as a cashier in a grocery store (which I didn’t even want to be/didn’t apply for) because I gave people the wrong amount of money and I was short in my till. I was mostly sad because it was my first job ever and I didn’t want to disappoint my family but after I told them I had no sad bone in my body, I was relieved. The job was getting easier but I didn’t realize how much information you have to memorize just to be a cashier and it was overwhelming for me.
Dillon I got fired from my job Bc they felt I couldn’t keep up w the pace in the call center. They also had us memorize this whole new system called GERS which was overwhelming for me too so I think my trainer told my boss and then I got a phone call from my recruiter from the temp agency that I went through to tell me not to come back. 😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭
I just got fired on Sunday. I was a cashier at Golden corral.... My till was short by $55 I don't even know how. I was really upset 😞
Being fired for surfing the internet is so dumb!!! As long as you get your job done it doesn't matter unless your place has an explicit policy against it. I'm a researcher so everyone I work with realizes that what we do is really intellectually demanding, so no one cares about how many breaks we take as long as we meet deadlines. Glad I don't work in an environment where I have to just sit at my desk if I need a mental break :/
I'm ambivalent about this line of reasoning. On the one hand, I agree pretty much completely with your post, but also, I can see it from the employer side. It's a pain in the neck to track down people and give them things to do during the time they're being paid. I used to work at a call center where managers oversaw one or two hundred people, and it would have been actually impossible. This does seem to be something that happens more often at revolving-door entry level positions than real career jobs, though; call centers and fast food and retail and the like. (and it sounds like Chelsea's internet use was pretty excessive, if her boss' lunatic demonstration had any basis in reality. terrible form that she wasn't given a warning before being termed, though)
sammysamz21 you are lucky :) enjoy your nice career
GoneZombie Same. When you are done with your work, you're supposed to be an adult and go looking for more.
If you are using company time and company equipment to surf the net, that's a problem. But some companies actually do not care about that, I've found. I worked at a place where a co-worker spent time snapping selfies, surfing the net for beauty videos and Facetiming with family and friends, at 20 minutes at a time, loudly. We sat in an open area where it was well known this person did this. Yet this person did not get fired. The pattern was the company would hire a person to "help" out while this person came in late every day and wore very revealing or tight and inappropriate outfits that gave the male staff something to huff about. The person who was hired had to wear business attire and do all the work then would either quit or be fired for asking why this was going on.
@@Animefreak242 What nonsense.
I too have been fired many times, I was not a good employee... Like you I decided that my only possible recourse was to open my own business and make my own rules, once I settled into the mindset of a business owner, rather than just an employee I started to thrive. One thing that being fired like four times has taught me is that the only person on this Earth that you can trust is yourself, it can be depressing and even a shock to the system for social or otherwise engaged individuals but the simple and blunt fact of the matter is that not everyone has empathy, sympathy or the most important trait which is discernment. Many of the people with the privilege to hire and fire care a lot more about themselves than you, and how can you blame them?... naivety is what lost me most of the jobs, once you hit about 30 years old you have an epiphany in which you discover the secret to success is becoming a good actor because perception paints reality.
Can you teach me how you opened a business. I’m reaching my 30s
I was fired on the spot, the boss said "you are just not working out here" it got a little heated. I left abruptly out of emotion. It was never my intention, but I'm human, and it was devastating. I was always on time, I never left early. If I had to take off, I let my employer well enough in advance. All of my tasks were completed.
I got let go once and my supervisor said "I'm really sorry that I have to do this" and I said back to him, "if you were really sorry about it, you wouldn't be letting me go right now" :D
But it is true that every new position I've had has been better than the last, so it all works out in the end!
As someone working in Germany, i find it very interesting how easy it is to get fired in the US. I, personally, have not been fired. In general it is a very lenghty difficult process for employers to fire someone. It would be pretty much impossible for an employer to terminate a contract immediately, especially via phone. Unless of course for some criminal actions at work.
Yes, I hear in Germany and other countries nearby it is very difficult to fire someone. There are also many other employee rights given that we dont have in the US. Many of us work 60 hours or more per week with no extra pay. If we dont use our vacation time by the end of the year because we are so busy at work, we lose our vacation time.
I wish the U.S. had the same laws as Europe. Here they can fire you anytime, for no reason...and they often do. People are expendable and thrown out like trash.
Yes they can fire you if Personalities don’t match or they don’t like you after 90 day Probation
Yes, that is what my Czech bf said as well when I was fired over the phone earlier this week. “This would not have happened in Europe.”
Interesting to think about the different ways countries conduct business…
Yeah it wouldn't happen no where near as easy in most of Europe. However there are stipulation that are rarely discussed and that's while you can't be fired as easily which is way less stressful, you are held to more standards and rules as an employee as well, often times you can't just leave if you're not happy you must give notice and you can't work a 2nd job (if you want one that is) without a lot of headache. However it does vary by country though 2 of my examples were taken from friends from Spain and the Netherlands. I wish the US would make it harder to fire you though none the less.
Thank you for keeping it real. I can't stand the stories with perfect people. I can't relate. Best wishes
I got fired and I have never been happier! I had been dreaming of starting my own business and TH-cam for years but was held back by fear... And I am so glad I got pushed into doing this! I got my first client 2 months in and haven't missed my old life one second!
I'm a perfectionist and a "workhorse". I will literally work myself to death if no one tells me to take a break. I normally don't even take breaks at all and would rather just eat lunch at my computer. I've been in several situations where I actually worked "too hard" (supervisor's words). They charged their client for more hours than I required to finish the task, so even if I finished earlier I had to wait until the actual deadline to deliver my project. I refuse to work with liars and so I quit the job eventhough I really needed the money. I guess my personal values are more important that surviving.
People like you should work for themselves! All that energy making someone else rich!
Sometimes the hardwork is left un or under appreciated and yet there are times when you are surprised what a difference you made in inspiring others
I work long and hard, too, and it hasn't been appreciated. In fact, people think it's insane or that I must be slow or not working smart.
I got fired because I just became bad at my job. I found at by accident. I called a staff representative about mental health issues (I went through a burnout, and I was mentally exhausted). She was not supposed to be the one telling me that but she told me a letter was just send to me for a pre-dismissal interview.
I am just scared of ever working again...
I have not been fired yet, but I would say there is a chance that I could be. Mostly because my manager is very tempramental. Thanks for this video! It quieted some of my fears.
I had a manager like that. I left before they could fire me hahahah. She wished she had got to me first! Hang in there if you can :)
Unfortunately, I’m having to revisit this video. It was helpful then. Very comforting to hear…again.
I was laid off two months ago, very frustating to me because I have a Master degree but still struggling to find a new job. Is very emotional when time passed and you still unemployed but i still positive that something will come my way.
Frances Nazario i feel you. This is what in experience right now
I just generally struggle with working for other people. I know this and am working toward opening my own business. My personality just isn't built to be an employee.
Erica Payne Same here!!!
Same here I’ve realized I don’t do well with having somebody over my life and having to constantly worry about not making mistakes and being perfect for a company it’s honestly too much !!
This story is so relatable. I have been fired many times as well, and this is a good reminder to evaluate yourself honestly and kindly no matter what, but especially when looking for a new job.
I’ve never commented on a youtube video before, but this video was honestly so helpful and has made me feel so much better about being fired for the first time that I had to tell you how great this is! Thank you so much.
I got fired for having panic attacks and depression. They don't want someone smart anymore, they wanted someone whom would lie down and do whatever they say. I couldn't do it. Now, I'm going back to school for something else that fits my personality and will eventually make 6 figures.
I got fired twice from two toxic companies. I don’t know if I will be able to find another job.
I was fired because my company does not want to provide accommodation for my disability, instead they gave no reason for termination in their letter of termination, but I was still under probation period.
Thank you for your candor Chelsea. I was fired this spring and its been very emotionally challenging getting back on my feet. It was a blessing in disguise though, I had been there 4 years and their goals for the program had grown apart from mine. I've since relocated closer to family and I love getting to spend time with my niece and nephews.
I had a temp job for a while and I've recently been turned down as the second choice twice for jobs that I loved. Its difficult to keep my confidence up but it's great to know I'm not alone! Thank you again!
Thanks for your candidness Chelse. The experience is very humbling and can be an emotional roller coaster.
I've gotten fired numerous times because I gave facts for how I wasn't wrong and I refused to budge from my principles. Best thing I ever did though, because of that I stand where I am today
thank you for your honest and transparency. it really is needed for people who especially have recently been fired. When I was fired from my first job I was devastated but if I hadnt gotten fired I would have never taken the steps to get my 2nd job which paid a lot more and gave me more hours. so I always see it as "everything happens for a reason" because to this day i look back and am thankful that i was fired or else I wouldnt have half the experience I have today.
I was fired yesterday after being relentlessly harrased. I took the day off to look for another job, by manager found out and they fired me.
He said they were "taking care" of that person that was harrassing me.
I doubt they did anything.
They're almost all amish.
Terrible, toxic environment.
Hopefully good opportunities open up for me in the next week.
This is one of the most important videos of this channel. Thank you for all the things you do and share. While I was listening I was thinking "I never got fired, interesting but can't relate", I was always a hard, good worker! But then I realized that I experienced in my life something very similar to get fired (and it was not my fault) and was one of the most frustrating and devasting time of my life. During my PhD when my tutor was transferred to another Univeristy, the one who replaced him "fired" me, with a ridicolous excuse. Actually i did not give my 100% at that time (thank you for letting me being honest with myself, scanning again what happened) and even if they "invited" me to terminate the PhD for an excuse, I was not 100% deserving that place (I worked very hard as professor assistant and tutor with younger students, but veeeery slowly on my research project, I admitt it!). Thank you for letting me meditate on that sad episode of my life! :)
Thank you for your video. It helped me to get back up after being fired. I wrote my letter (kept it small), listened to your video about being fired, and I'm about to write what I did well in my journal.
The second job is becoming too common. There's nothing to do most of the time, it's a race between finding something new and being canned Dx
I appreciate your authenticity and honesty. Great content, great channel. I am learning so much...and I'm a 40 something, Gen X-er.
Thank you. I got laid off of work today and was feeling really well ashamed, frustrated and lost. Your talk helped to understand that I'm not alone. Thank you.
Thanks for talking about this - I have been fired multiple times in my career (a few lay offs and a few firings) - in sales if you're not hitting targets you don't last - it's the most heartless and unforgiving profession out there, yet I'm still in it. I find this topic is rarely talked about so thanks for the video : )
I was fired from a job i really cared about because i wasn't so much of a "team player" which i guess was true. Even though I was producing amazing results the company really valued "tending to the team" and I was let go because of it. It was humiliating and awful but also a learning experience.
I just got fired for this very reason a few hours ago lol.
I'm the team player in my group and am often at the office until after midnight. My co-worker says she cant help more because she has a family and long commute; however, she also takes personal calls all day or talks to others in the office. My other co-worker is very slow and does only 5% or less of the work I do. My other co-worker spends the day looking for other jobs. It really is starting to piss me off. I'd fire the non team players if I could, too.
I was once fired from my job as a prep cook because I chopped my tomatoes too big and my chopped onions were cut too small.
I was fired twice and I think the most recent one wasn’t my fault. Now I am searching for my next job and it is embarrassing and depressing ..
I landed here from a random google search. Thank you so much for your openness and candor. It really helped knowing I’m not alone. Best from Texas! 👋👋
I've been laid off more than once. A lot of it had to do with the company's financial state but it took a huge hit to my self esteem at the time. Thanks for sharing Chelsea. I wish this video was around sooner!
Thanks for this vid, I was actually fired earlier this summer and this was helpful to hear :D
Jesse did you find a job? How long did it take you?
That first job, fair play you should have been fired. That second one though? Ridiculous. You did your job. So what if you did other stuff as well, what are you meant to do? Twiddle your thumbs?
Its weird i just got fired. But i feel happy
I was just fired because my car broke down and the day after I got it fixed a cop pulled me over on my way to work, although I know I technically could have avoided these reasons, I feel they are human reasons and Managment should’ve understood that.. I was seen as a problem employee from that point on, and was fired for literally no reason. I I asked, “what was the reason for my being fired?”, and they said “no reason, we just don’t feel like you’re the right fit.” I feel sick to my stomach because I want to know what I did wrong, but at the same time I feel I could’ve never done anything right to fix what happened.
Great video...I just got fired on Friday...and oddly I found this video save in my Watch Later list even though I had a job at the time...everything happens for a reason❤😭😔😃😙
Reason for termination: Not meeting program expectations/standards
Wow thank you. That was extremely helpful. I just got a new job and I was fired from another job a few years back and it was devastating. Right now I'm researching and doing everything I can to not get fired at my new job.
I really appreciate the honesty about your personal experience here and I think the points you made are great! As a person who has worked in management for several years now, I find it so hard to watch some employees thinking that it's okay to just do as they please and at their own pace and then getting upset about why they are being disciplined/fired. I think what you have posted here is so important! You were able to own up to why the disciplinary action was taken and you were able to turn it into something better for yourself and your future colleagues at your next job. That is extremely difficult, but quite rewarding at the same time. I know that after my past firing, I can look back now and see that I can bear some of the blame and I've managed to put myself in a better place thanks to lessons learned.
I like that perspective of own up and learn from it
Hello Chelsea,
I need help. I have been fired from 3 different jobs and I feel hopeless. I have a bachelors degree in business and a concentration in marketing. Once for not meeting my sales quota, once for not learning a job fast enough enough and once for not doing a job fast enough. I’m worried I will end up homeless.
Here's an advice. Don't add your bosses on social media. Unless you're not at the company anymore.
This was exactly what I needed to hear. Particularly the part where you learned more about yourself and from others who were similar to you. Hearing you talk about your decision to make the necessary changes was exactly what I needed to hear. Thank you for this!!
I just got fired for the same reason you gave in your second example and I just would like to thank you for this. Very good content, helped me as I’m going through this...
Fired 65 times?! Damn, girl.... 😱
Drew Conway That means that she has had a lot of jobs. She's not lazy.
I was just fired and I am so glad I have an emergency fund thanks to your videos. Do you guys need to hire a math teacher? Or does anyone actually? I do other stuff too but I have an MAEd in Math and I'm 26.
Can you do a video on what to do about the equifax situation?
Both times I’ve been fired were performance based. Which added another layer of frustration and failure 😫😖
I can definitely relate to the second job you were fired from. I was not fired but i quit within a few weeks as I knew it wasnt for me and was really taking a toll on me. It was so tedious and i had nothing to do for most of the day so I surfed news websites cos I knew they were appropriate. So strange of a company to hire me to basically do nothing ; my boss totally could have done everything himself. Lesson learned: know what youre getting ino and know your way out!
I don’t really understand this - if the assigned tasks are done… Then what is the problem? If you are glued to the desk for no reason and you k ow they will fire you for doing something not work related… Then do your tasks slow enough to fill up the time (Remember - there is no reward for fast and efficient work other than more work to do).
Old Chelsea really was a mess! 😂😂 lol she got her car burnt down and fired multiple times. But look at you now! Thanks for showing that you really can turn yourself around
It's about taking accountability. Learn the lesson and move on. Having the E Fund is a must and a game changer.
I got fired for sleeping on the job so idk how this will apply to me XD but thank god you guys uploaded this video! it's so relevant to my life right now
i know someone that got fired for sleeping on the job and it was televised on national news.
@@StormyHotwolf88 lol thanks for making me laugh. Am having a terrible day.
At all my jobs, I've definitely gotten away with surfing the internet more than I should have - a lot of it comes from playing TH-cam videos in the background because I get bored of music. I do worry that this will one day screw me over, but so far all my jobs have been pretty relaxed about it...
I've never been fired because I hold myself accountable when I'm not doing anyone any favors by working there so I just leave but in the past been working on giving 2 weeks or having the conversation that this isnt working. It doesn't help when you never really were close to begin with, like your hiring/training was rushed and they say hi but you dont communicate beyond that.
I got fired about a week ago. I was in a brand new career field I had never done before and they fired me not even a full 3 weeks of being there. They told me I just didn’t seem to be catching on. I felt devastated because I’ve never been fired from a job before and have always been told that I’m a good worker. It’s been hard trying to find another job. I’m still a little shook up about it but I know i will make it through and eventually find something else.
THANK YOU. I just lost my dream job (or what I thought was my dream job, I suppose) and I am absolutely devastated after what was already the worst year of my life. This is very helpful, especially cause I'm going to try to shoot the moon and be self-employed. Hearing all of this was very helpful. Thankfully your previous videos about prioritizing an emergency fund helped me focus on that while I had a steady income, so now that the worst has happened, I have a little cushion for the next few months while I get back on my feet.
I got fired for making mistakes.
I've been off work 16 months. Did it take you a long time to find another job? What did you say about leaving that job?
I got fired because I was a student at the time and couldn't come into work on Thursdays
I was also fired recently here in Canada at a software MNC. My team lead who is Chinese and who barely knows English used to support only team members from his own country ( who are also weak in English and poor in working with others of the team ) who were very sly and selfish to say the least and did not share any info / knowledge or would not help remaining team members. I was one of the top performing team members but just because I did a small mistake I was fired. The members of team who belonged to the same country as my team lead had done many mistakes in the past but never were questioned or reported about their big mistakes. I was about to discuss all these details with the hr and manager but I did not ( even though I had all the evidence) as I thought it would affect my future career negatively. Now I am so embarrassed , disgusted, frustrated and angry. My confidence to attend interviews is also low and am feeling depressed.. I discussed this only with two of my close colleagues and not with any one else. . I will never in my life trust a mainland Chinese again. I had heard and seen of their bad behaviour online and news etc. But I saw their bad characters in real life ..
Chelsea, I beg you, please offer advice on dealing with interviews post being fired. Last time I had a breakdown during a phone interview. I felt so worthless afterwards I had no idea what strengths I even had to mention anymore and preparing beforehand still had me coming up empty.
Recent events has me watching videos like this... and the bitter part of me is pointing out that I'm watching a person that is clearly very capable of holding many more jobs than I could... and also that they ended up as a youtube broadcaster as a career.
I just got let go after less than 2 months at a job because of "company restructuring". They'd written up a 12 month career development plan for me and everything! Thanks for this Chelsea, it's crazy out there
Thanks for speaking out about this. I've been fired numerous times but at the same time I'm continually reminded and recognized as a smart person. I freaking tiple majored at a good Uni and worked more than part time. I've never really felt embressed so much as been reminded how little I cared about whatever endevor I was involved with. I certainly was victem to feeling weak and vulnerable but embarrassed .. I have a little bit more respect then that but also at the same time I've never been fired from a job I didn't feel already miserable at.
Thanks for sharing
Everytime I got a job I really appreciate and try my best to not lose the job. But i have been fired three time . Still Idk what is wrong and why it happened to me. Thanks for your video.
I have been fired once after six months in the job..it is really hard to get a job..nobody want to hired me
Chris, best comment I've read all night, thanks!
Major props for sharing those experiences. The boss at your office job was a total douche for wasting that much paper just to shame you, but it's laughable in how ridiculous it is. Also, cute hair :-)
It's a lot about how your boss sees it too. My boss knows I watch Netflix at work, but she also knows that I'm very good at my job. She lets me do what I want because she trusts me to do my job right. Watching Netflix or TH-cam helps me concentrate at work with my ADHD.
Thank you! I have ADHD too and some bosses are great about it others act as if i'm making it up to get out of doing work, even when I'm the most productive. It's nice to know there are great bosses out there who care about making sure everyone succeeds.
I just got sacked. This video gave me comfort and hope. Thank you, sincerely x
Jodie Evans I’m soo sorry!!!
Queen Chealsea! You look gorg with with your new hair.
I feel like I am unemployable. I can’t keep a job for more than 7 months. A good job I’m not including food service cashier jobs and the like.
I've never been fired before, but I have defintely walked out on shitty jobs and asshole bosses. There's no better feeling than this, especially when they treated me like crap and repeatedly told me "you need this job". I've thankfully had better luck starting in my mid 20's and have been a public servant for 10 years now. Haven't looked back since! Love your videos!
Thank you for helping people.
Thank you deeply for sharing your experience, strength and hope with us so honestly and for making yourself vulnerable in the service of encouraging others. I am so glad your video was the one I chose to watch when I googled "How to keep going after being fired". You helped me tap into more resilience. I am going to write that letter now!
I was fired from my last job for no real reason. The temporary consultant that knew the vice president personally but who every single person on the team hated was getting fired and decided to take someone down with her by convincing my boss I wasn't needed. Everyone knew it. Still, she was fired on the spot and I was given two days. Not weeks. Days.
Please do a How To Adult on coping with the emotional side of long term unemployment - as a carer I'm only allowed to work 25hrs per week (including travel time)before it effects my pension. I can't seem to nail a part time position that respects this reality. Long term unemployment is hard and quite lonley.
Thanks.