LETS GOOOOO! Big agree. Yeah some folks don't like furries. But don't treat that as they same as "Coming Out". People die for coming out as queer, there are actual laws in place across the globe about that. You liking Judy Hopps and BNA isn't the same. Regardless of someone who doesn't understand the fandom reacts, it's not the same. Having a cringe hobby, is NOT the same
@@BardicRJ Hey Bardic! Couldn’t have said it better myself. Lots of people overcomplicate being a furry, just gotta remind them it’s just a hobby in the end!
just saying for some people: being *sassy* or *sensitive* or overly-sympathetic does *not* make you gay or bisexual. it just means you're not what society has crudely defined as a *male*
I was lucky enough be a furry AND to have a boyfriend that I met in vrchat,but that’s the lucky part, the unlucky part is that I never got to come out to my parents as bisexual, instead, they needed my phone for some reason, and went through some discord dms of me and my ex bf, so I start pacing around my room because I knew that they found out, then they come into the room and yell “ARE YOU A FUCKING FAG?!” Straight to my face, that was 5 months ago, me and my ex (who I care about very much) haven’t spoken since, I’m still recovering to this day from all the trauma.
Harbee it was weird to come out as Gay with my parents but it felt less worse because me sister had already come out they also know im a furry too (Also im Aromantic so it's fine i understand)
My family immediately tried to disown me after I came out as gay. I've never understood why, but you've given me some hope that maybe they'll change. Thanks Harbee.❤
Excellent video, and good advice/talking points! ❤️ It took me awhile to find out my own sexuality and come to grips with who I was. Thanks to caring and supportive online friends, I eventually came to the conclusion I was gay and also liked men. I’m more attracted to a guy’s personality rather than for their body/sex. I’d rather be with a partner that is kind and caring, rather than “hot looking” and a douche. Thankfully I’ve been in a relationship now with my bf for over a year now and I really love him.
Oh I totally get the "not wanting your bullies to be right" attitude, I didn't become comfortable in my orientation until I was, like, 30 because of the lasting effect of all that highschool shít.
The one downside to being gay with an immediate family who is all straight is just how f*cking awkward it can get when a topic comes up relating to such matters. That, and then not understanding anything pertaining to queer culture, such as drag queens, not being of a binary gender, etc.
My mom went pride in my stead (i have autism so I'd probably have a breakdown from all the energy) and she said she saw furries there. I laughed and asked her what was her first furry experience like. She said she didn't hang out with them Also, i tried explaining to my mom that i was (sorta) a furry years ago and she was so confused
Those are some very wise words, my friend. I never knew what I was when I was younger, always thought I was straight. Then I developed a crush on a male friend and though "Okay, I can live with that. No biggie!" Then after high school, I felt I was bisexual. Had a couple of relationships here and there. Now that I'm much older, I realize that I'm pansexual. I'm not hung up on what my partner identifies as, more what their vibe is and if they're male, female, trans, genderfluid, agender, then that's fine by me. I'll still love them for who they are as a person. My family is huge and there have been many of us who came out and have had nothing but support, so when I came out to my parents, they said that they love me because I'm their son and nothing will change that fact. It's been a long journey, but it is something I will never forget
@@XaipherCross hell yeah! The journey of figuring out your sexuality is a long one but worth it, I’m still even in my discovery process! Making this video helped me be more confident in who I am
My history is kinda funny lol,I realized I was gay when I was going into the pool(as a teenager) and I entered the wrong changing room,there were a bunch of girl naked,But I was just like"huh....neat"and not too long after I discovered I was one of them gays
Welp the timing couldnt be more on point with this one, literally got found out during a 4th of july party. It went well though. Someone made a joke that quickly turned into a very direct question of if I was gay (no malice behind it at all) and I froze up, it was pretty obvious but thankfully with my living situation it was more of a bandaid that was going to get ripped off some time or another, no worries about anyone actually having a problem with it or being in a position for that to matter. Definitly a shock for some people considering I dont display as flamboyant at all, but yeah, flamboyance was never a requirement
It's funny I also sorta saw being bi as a less bad alternative to being gay at one point in the past though I eventually realized that both are perfectly fine but I am in fact very much bisexual, both men and women are pretty neato.
First, congrats for your reasonings. I have a question, can you please tell me how you create this avatar? I suppose it follows your movements rather than animating it from scrap? Thanks for your kind and sensitive messages in the video.
Being a furry is just loving anthropomorphic art and media, so it should be pretty easy to say “ I love anthropomorphic art and media “. Fursonas and fursuits and yiffing are just things that some furries may also do.
My coming out was quite strange I approached my mother while she was reading a book in the living room and so totally unexpectedly said, "Mom I'm gay." My mother put the book down and looked at me saying "I know." It later turned out that her lesbian friend had seen me at a club for lgbt people. That same day I confessed to her and my father that I had a boyfriend. Just as my mother took it all calmly and showed support, after few months more than once from my father I heard texts like "Did you find yourself a boyfriend or a sponsor?" or "Who's the bitch in this relationship?" only because we were meeting at the hotels because we wanted to give my homophobic father some space and time to accept this all.
Me and my brother are both furries and one night when we were having a conversation as a family my brother randomly dropped that he was a furry, and then I followed up with same the difference between me and him though is that I am gay and he’s straight. So when my dad heard that he IMMEDIATELY without hesitation asked if he had sex in suit. He didn’t give a fuck about me being a furry but was asking so many questions to my brother about it and his reason for it is and I quote”he’s gay, I don’t care what he does”It was a fun night but it was just me and him repeating over and over it’s not sexual and that the suit cost too much to do that in. But yeah he doesn’t really care and wasn’t that sober + hasn’t brought it up again sooo :3
I view "coming out" as more of an emotional state in which you want to say something to someone but it isn't easy to and with the fear of not being accepted by the people you care about and who care about you, because to me its more about coming out of your shell but to compare "coming out" as a furry vs a sexuality is like comparing apples to oranges they aren't the same thing. So can saying what your super cringe non-mainstream strange hobby that has been attached to a bunch of weird things that probably arent true be hard. Fuck YES. Is it even close to coming out as LGBTQIA+ only if it feels that way to the people you want to tell because at the end of the day unless your making content out of it you aren't telling everyone for the world to see. But on a massive scale around the world they aren't even close in terms of the amount of hate they have and are receiving.
Ok so there’s this one thing I feel pretty shitty abt and I’m sorry for my language but I just need to get it off my chest. My siblings who are around my age (13-15) have asked what is my preference and I’ve told them that I am aroace or somewhere around that but in reality I am a gay man and have known that for quite a while. (I came to terms abt that when I was 13) and I just feel really bad using an incorrect label on myself, and especially since I have friends and creators I watch who are aroace or somewhere around that. Idk I just feel rlly bad abt that :(
Oh hey, I'm also aroace and in a complicated relationship (with three other people). Also is that Wave Race 3rd place music I hear? Best N64 game for music.
yo I think I might be the same as you I don't really know yet I am still figuring out I kissed my first boy ever but tbh not feeling anything I use to want to be straight but now I say I am bi cuz not sure what I am ready for yet I am in the same boat I told fam that I am a furry but its not like a big deal as they don't know what it is but they are amused by it somewhat lol
Its so true when you dont know your sexuality and you had to make a "safe play" as becoming Bisexual, but throughout the years I am slowly seeing myself as Gay and I love it. Coming out is hard and complicated, but as Harbee said we have to wait for the right time to do so. Even tho its July its not the end of Pride, Happy Pride/Gay Month! 💙
LETS GOOOOO! Big agree. Yeah some folks don't like furries. But don't treat that as they same as "Coming Out".
People die for coming out as queer, there are actual laws in place across the globe about that. You liking Judy Hopps and BNA isn't the same. Regardless of someone who doesn't understand the fandom reacts, it's not the same. Having a cringe hobby, is NOT the same
@@BardicRJ Hey Bardic! Couldn’t have said it better myself. Lots of people overcomplicate being a furry, just gotta remind them it’s just a hobby in the end!
just saying for some people: being *sassy* or *sensitive* or overly-sympathetic does *not* make you gay or bisexual. it just means you're not what society has crudely defined as a *male*
@@Aloofyr preach brotha🙏
I was lucky enough be a furry AND to have a boyfriend that I met in vrchat,but that’s the lucky part, the unlucky part is that I never got to come out to my parents as bisexual, instead, they needed my phone for some reason, and went through some discord dms of me and my ex bf, so I start pacing around my room because I knew that they found out, then they come into the room and yell “ARE YOU A FUCKING FAG?!” Straight to my face, that was 5 months ago, me and my ex (who I care about very much) haven’t spoken since, I’m still recovering to this day from all the trauma.
@@Blewb3rry-db4qe oh my god.. I’m so sorry to hear that. Please stay safe!🧡
@@HarbeeLive I will!
Harbee it was weird to come out as Gay with my parents but it felt less worse because me sister had already come out they also know im a furry too (Also im Aromantic so it's fine i understand)
My family immediately tried to disown me after I came out as gay. I've never understood why, but you've given me some hope that maybe they'll change.
Thanks Harbee.❤
Excellent video, and good advice/talking points! ❤️
It took me awhile to find out my own sexuality and come to grips with who I was.
Thanks to caring and supportive online friends, I eventually came to the conclusion I was gay and also liked men.
I’m more attracted to a guy’s personality rather than for their body/sex.
I’d rather be with a partner that is kind and caring, rather than “hot looking” and a douche.
Thankfully I’ve been in a relationship now with my bf for over a year now and I really love him.
Oh I totally get the "not wanting your bullies to be right" attitude, I didn't become comfortable in my orientation until I was, like, 30 because of the lasting effect of all that highschool shít.
The one downside to being gay with an immediate family who is all straight is just how f*cking awkward it can get when a topic comes up relating to such matters. That, and then not understanding anything pertaining to queer culture, such as drag queens, not being of a binary gender, etc.
My mom went pride in my stead (i have autism so I'd probably have a breakdown from all the energy) and she said she saw furries there. I laughed and asked her what was her first furry experience like. She said she didn't hang out with them
Also, i tried explaining to my mom that i was (sorta) a furry years ago and she was so confused
Let's go! I was the thousand like and i also identified myself a lot on this video xd
even i started showing early signs like with hand gestures voice change and sassy slay personality.i am gay and i am 17 and i love being one
all of this hits close to home
Dad: What are you doing in Dallas son?
Me: Pretending to be a dragon, father.
Mind this is after I 'came out' years ago.
Those are some very wise words, my friend. I never knew what I was when I was younger, always thought I was straight. Then I developed a crush on a male friend and though "Okay, I can live with that. No biggie!" Then after high school, I felt I was bisexual. Had a couple of relationships here and there. Now that I'm much older, I realize that I'm pansexual. I'm not hung up on what my partner identifies as, more what their vibe is and if they're male, female, trans, genderfluid, agender, then that's fine by me. I'll still love them for who they are as a person. My family is huge and there have been many of us who came out and have had nothing but support, so when I came out to my parents, they said that they love me because I'm their son and nothing will change that fact. It's been a long journey, but it is something I will never forget
@@XaipherCross hell yeah! The journey of figuring out your sexuality is a long one but worth it, I’m still even in my discovery process! Making this video helped me be more confident in who I am
The Bisexual to Aro Ace pipeline is real and is coming for you
My history is kinda funny lol,I realized I was gay when I was going into the pool(as a teenager) and I entered the wrong changing room,there were a bunch of girl naked,But I was just like"huh....neat"and not too long after I discovered I was one of them gays
Welp the timing couldnt be more on point with this one, literally got found out during a 4th of july party. It went well though.
Someone made a joke that quickly turned into a very direct question of if I was gay (no malice behind it at all) and I froze up, it was pretty obvious but thankfully with my living situation it was more of a bandaid that was going to get ripped off some time or another, no worries about anyone actually having a problem with it or being in a position for that to matter.
Definitly a shock for some people considering I dont display as flamboyant at all, but yeah, flamboyance was never a requirement
@@timothygooding9544 glad to hear it went well!
this is so relatable on so many levels it's great
This video definitely helped me thank you so much i know what i need to do now
Your video style here is very attention catching lol
I’m here
Now I’m here.
Now I’m here 😂
MAGIC
YIPPEE 🧡 💛 🤍 🩵 💙
It's funny I also sorta saw being bi as a less bad alternative to being gay at one point in the past though I eventually realized that both are perfectly fine but I am in fact very much bisexual, both men and women are pretty neato.
Oh my gosh thinking you were bisexual from denial is so relatable 😭😭😭
First, congrats for your reasonings. I have a question, can you please tell me how you create this avatar? I suppose it follows your movements rather than animating it from scrap? Thanks for your kind and sensitive messages in the video.
@@SomeOne2027 so I use a vtuber model (which is just any vrc model) and I use the software VSeeFace to track all my facial movements and expressions!
Pretty relatable.
Being a furry is just loving anthropomorphic art and media, so it should be pretty easy to say “ I love anthropomorphic art and media “. Fursonas and fursuits and yiffing are just things that some furries may also do.
My coming out was quite strange I approached my mother while she was reading a book in the living room and so totally unexpectedly said, "Mom I'm gay." My mother put the book down and looked at me saying "I know." It later turned out that her lesbian friend had seen me at a club for lgbt people. That same day I confessed to her and my father that I had a boyfriend. Just as my mother took it all calmly and showed support, after few months more than once from my father I heard texts like "Did you find yourself a boyfriend or a sponsor?" or "Who's the bitch in this relationship?" only because we were meeting at the hotels because we wanted to give my homophobic father some space and time to accept this all.
Me and my brother are both furries and one night when we were having a conversation as a family my brother randomly dropped that he was a furry, and then I followed up with same the difference between me and him though is that I am gay and he’s straight. So when my dad heard that he IMMEDIATELY without hesitation asked if he had sex in suit. He didn’t give a fuck about me being a furry but was asking so many questions to my brother about it and his reason for it is and I quote”he’s gay, I don’t care what he does”It was a fun night but it was just me and him repeating over and over it’s not sexual and that the suit cost too much to do that in. But yeah he doesn’t really care and wasn’t that sober + hasn’t brought it up again sooo :3
I view "coming out" as more of an emotional state in which you want to say something to someone but it isn't easy to and with the fear of not being accepted by the people you care about and who care about you, because to me its more about coming out of your shell but to compare "coming out" as a furry vs a sexuality is like comparing apples to oranges they aren't the same thing.
So can saying what your super cringe non-mainstream strange hobby that has been attached to a bunch of weird things that probably arent true be hard. Fuck YES. Is it even close to coming out as LGBTQIA+ only if it feels that way to the people you want to tell because at the end of the day unless your making content out of it you aren't telling everyone for the world to see. But on a massive scale around the world they aren't even close in terms of the amount of hate they have and are receiving.
I told my dad and he accepted it
Ok so there’s this one thing I feel pretty shitty abt and I’m sorry for my language but I just need to get it off my chest. My siblings who are around my age (13-15) have asked what is my preference and I’ve told them that I am aroace or somewhere around that but in reality I am a gay man and have known that for quite a while. (I came to terms abt that when I was 13) and I just feel really bad using an incorrect label on myself, and especially since I have friends and creators I watch who are aroace or somewhere around that. Idk I just feel rlly bad abt that :(
1:10 I'm aroace :D (btw if someone is hating on u for being gay, ignore them)
I got outed as a furry my classmates saw my Reddit account and it was full of furry stuff
Oh hey, I'm also aroace and in a complicated relationship (with three other people).
Also is that Wave Race 3rd place music I hear? Best N64 game for music.
@@nivalisilva oh man sounds like fun haha, and yeah! It is Wave Race, bangin game soundtrack
yo I think I might be the same as you I don't really know yet I am still figuring out I kissed my first boy ever but tbh not feeling anything I use to want to be straight but now I say I am bi cuz not sure what I am ready for yet I am in the same boat I told fam that I am a furry but its not like a big deal as they don't know what it is but they are amused by it somewhat lol
Came out as trans, my dad had a hard time accepting it and still thinks it's due to me being autistic.
I think bisexual switch is like blood type O negative.
Aroace and gay? Seems like the best orientation 🤭❤
I don't belong here but good job in comeing out most people find it hard
i don't know if youtube needs a new sappho but go on be shameless i guess
Its so true when you dont know your sexuality and you had to make a "safe play" as becoming Bisexual, but throughout the years I am slowly seeing myself as Gay and I love it.
Coming out is hard and complicated, but as Harbee said we have to wait for the right time to do so. Even tho its July its not the end of Pride, Happy Pride/Gay Month! 💙
nasty
fatherless lol
you sound like you have a very toxic family if you were that scared to come out...