My Mother-In-Law Stole $300,000 From Us!

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  • @K.mit338
    @K.mit338 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +147

    My mother took out two credit cards in my name when I turned 18 without my knowledge and then defaulted on both. I only found out about them when I saw mail at her home with my name on it 2 years later. I called the credit company to confirm I had accounts open then told my mother she better pay those cards off or we’re going to have some problems. If she hadn’t paid those cards back, I was going to file fraud charges against her.
    I lost so much respect for my mom after she did that.

    • @jamisojo
      @jamisojo 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +21

      And you were correct for losing respect for her.

    • @daisy9910
      @daisy9910 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +13

      I would have still reported her.

    • @theadvocate3006
      @theadvocate3006 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +6

      I did the same with my brother. Trifling. SMH.

    • @FabulousCucumber-ip9hu
      @FabulousCucumber-ip9hu 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +9

      I knew that was a risk with my mother so I made sure to tell the tax office I'm no longer a tax payer then I left the country 😁 also I'd have no problem reporting my mother to the police

    • @Me-xoxoz
      @Me-xoxoz หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      l do not live in America but l feel my mother would have done this.

  • @jimmymcgill6778
    @jimmymcgill6778 ปีที่แล้ว +431

    Call the cops and get a lawyer.
    And file for divorce.

    • @Chele-nm4qx
      @Chele-nm4qx ปีที่แล้ว +7

      My thoughts exactly!!!!

    • @alinatamashevich3354
      @alinatamashevich3354 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      @Jimmy, are you an attorney? Or a keyboard warrior who hides behind a movie character name?

    • @jordanlavalley
      @jordanlavalley ปีที่แล้ว +5

      Mom didn’t commit any crimes. Lawyer maybe but you lose your mom over money and divorce her husband over money she didn’t work for???? Make it make sense

    • @jimmymcgill6778
      @jimmymcgill6778 ปีที่แล้ว +16

      @@jordanlavalley Stealing is comitting a crime.

    • @Ryan_DeWitt
      @Ryan_DeWitt ปีที่แล้ว +7

      If her name was on the account, legally she did nothin wrong. It would only be a crime if she forged something to get access to the account.

  • @scottgiles3053
    @scottgiles3053 ปีที่แล้ว +597

    Her husband's reaction is exactly why she took the money...because she knew she could and get away with it. This "mother" is selfish and lazy. She has raised this boy to be a weakling all his life...refusing to cut the cord so she could take advantage of him for as long as needed. She knew this money was there, and has been planning this for years.

    • @ADAWGSLIFE
      @ADAWGSLIFE ปีที่แล้ว +41

      An let’s not forget that she expects him & his wife to financially support her after that… 😳

    • @Originalman144
      @Originalman144 ปีที่แล้ว +17

      Yep. And the son is scared of her. Probably something happened with his father and she’s using him now. She has turned him into her husband financially.

    • @Originalman144
      @Originalman144 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      @@Austenfan177 I doubt it

    • @Rizky06
      @Rizky06 ปีที่แล้ว +17

      Maybe he and his Mother were just making sure the money was separated from his Wife because he could be planning an exit/divorce?

    • @talyahr3302
      @talyahr3302 ปีที่แล้ว +11

      @PenelopeGuzman Wow!! Good point. He may be in on it to keep the money from the wife? Because how else could one act like this. Extreme weakness or extreme cunning.

  • @webfreakz
    @webfreakz ปีที่แล้ว +367

    "he wants to continue financially support her", wait WHAT?! 🤣

    • @freeinghumanitynow
      @freeinghumanitynow 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +26

      He gave his mom the money. Period.

    • @veronicawilliams1957
      @veronicawilliams1957 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      @@freeinghumanitynowyou think so??

    • @Bunkskunkhaha
      @Bunkskunkhaha 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

      Really she needs to stop being in denial and go it alone divorce him and start a fresh. I don't agree she should instigate marriage counselling lol.

    • @juliehorney995
      @juliehorney995 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      There may be an intangible ethnic sense of responsibility that transcends reason and freedom from abuse. Tough decisions if this wife can open her eyes.

  • @dharmadharma3960
    @dharmadharma3960 ปีที่แล้ว +698

    Either mama goes to jail or their marriage is over.

    • @AmberU
      @AmberU ปีที่แล้ว +27

      Thats what id say! Its me or her period!

    • @GS-rw9og
      @GS-rw9og ปีที่แล้ว +9

      WHAT if u have an accusing daughter n law like wishy washy commenting Lindsey. I do not believe she told all truth here!

    • @yorod4
      @yorod4 ปีที่แล้ว +38

      There is a part of me thinking the son gave his mom the money

    • @dharmadharma3960
      @dharmadharma3960 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      @@GS-rw9og agreed

    • @dharmadharma3960
      @dharmadharma3960 ปีที่แล้ว +10

      @@yorod4 agreed, something doesn't add up

  • @agatanakonieczny2213
    @agatanakonieczny2213 ปีที่แล้ว +52

    Maybe there was not an inherintance account from the beginning. What if she was made to believe her husband had money, but he actually did not.

    • @macpduff2119
      @macpduff2119 6 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

      Yes. Did she ever see actual bank accounts and whose name was on them? More questions should have been asked.

    • @HelenaBasyouni
      @HelenaBasyouni 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      She isn't telling the whole story. In some cultures when one parent passes away the kids feel their intietold to an inheritance. Never mind that there more not be any money Except maybe the house that his mother lives in. She didn't steel any money there probably wasn't any money to begin with. She should have told where this money came from.

    • @topsykretts2264
      @topsykretts2264 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Maybe we’re all in a simulation

    • @nottodaycolonizer
      @nottodaycolonizer 16 วันที่ผ่านมา +1

      ORRR there was no account...

  • @angelganggirl
    @angelganggirl ปีที่แล้ว +265

    i CANNOT imagine the headspace you have to be in to be “fine” losing 300k. this is unfathomable

    • @dolcebambina84
      @dolcebambina84 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      Maybe it wasn't really his and he knows this but the wife doesn't. I don't know it's so odd. I wish we could hear the other parties involved 😂

    • @sensimania
      @sensimania 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +9

      Ikr! If someone tried to shaft me out of even $100 (let alone $300k), that person is getting hunted down for the money and cut out of my life at the very least

    • @JDAfrica
      @JDAfrica หลายเดือนก่อน

      @@dolcebambina84 that’s what a court is for. File a charge, open a case - and let a judge decide. Both can bring evidence - and then, if she stole the money, they can force her to make restitution - force the sale of assets, cars or seize accounts.
      If she didn’t steal the money, she can prove it in court, with a full forensic audit

  • @kellycurry9164
    @kellycurry9164 ปีที่แล้ว +182

    How does she know he didn't give the money to his mom to hide it and make her keep working and sell all assets and he divorces her. He sounds like Mama comes first.

    • @youdecide4709
      @youdecide4709 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +18

      Yikes ... I didn't even think of that. Excellent point!

    • @dynamicwellness33
      @dynamicwellness33 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

      Yep!😊

    • @lanbrick5826
      @lanbrick5826 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +11

      This statement is probably true!! He gave it to her and now he’s scamming wife!

    • @dynamicwellness33
      @dynamicwellness33 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      Also, you can’t you press charges as a threat to give the money back? Odds are it’s not spent yet.

    • @jewelswinfield
      @jewelswinfield 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      This is exactly what I was thinking. The husband is in on it.

  • @jeretso
    @jeretso ปีที่แล้ว +401

    Stealing $300k is more than abuse its a crime. Your husband was abused as a child and brainwashed. Your mother in law belongs in jail. Support her by putting money in her prison account.

    • @reese85
      @reese85 ปีที่แล้ว +5

      Jail no! The husband allowed her access to the money

    • @war8036
      @war8036 ปีที่แล้ว +14

      Fun fact: as soon as he put his mom on the account she can’t go to jail

    • @jeretso
      @jeretso ปีที่แล้ว

      @@reese85 maybe the husband is scamming the wife and using his mom as a piggybank to hide money from divorce lawyers

    • @Rizky06
      @Rizky06 ปีที่แล้ว +6

      He could be in on the crime. 🤔

    • @jeretso
      @jeretso ปีที่แล้ว +3

      @@Rizky06 Family of grifters

  • @gnes04
    @gnes04 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +6

    I'm so sick of these callers who keep going "I agree BUT (insert garbage rambling excuse)"
    They get so caught up in some unnecessary detail that they don't see the elephant in the room

  • @freeinghumanitynow
    @freeinghumanitynow 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +109

    Mom didn't steal anything; son gave it to her. I wish they wouldn't take these calls. This woman is not going to hold her hubby accountable for conspiring with his mother. It's all a waste of time. She's a total doormat and is happy to remain one.

    • @katemiller7874
      @katemiller7874 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +11

      I was waiting for someone intelligent to say that. Yes of course.

    • @luchiayoung
      @luchiayoung 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      I don’t see it that way and nothing that we know of right now says that he gave it to her purposefully

    • @teach9906
      @teach9906 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +5

      @@luchiayoungwhat should say it is that he’s not upset with her

    • @luchiayoung
      @luchiayoung 7 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Stop watching then because I can tell you right now you are not a Dave Ramsey or you wouldn’t be on here being critical. Dave Ramsey knows exactly what he’s doing and people watch if you don’t like it then go away. I am just so sick of all you negative people. Oh poor poor me I have to watch this.

    • @freeinghumanitynow
      @freeinghumanitynow 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

      @@luchiayoung You sound very upset over absolutely nothing. Whatever has your spirit twisted I pray will be healed. Because I know it's not something a random stranger said on the internet. May your anger and hostility melt like butter in a heatwave. 🙏

  • @vjs4539
    @vjs4539 ปีที่แล้ว +265

    This woman got so duped. Her husband probably lied to her, the money was never his. He is stealing from his wife now.

    • @IndigoStarrAz
      @IndigoStarrAz ปีที่แล้ว +17

      @@Austenfan177 Had not considered that. Very possible.

    • @timothygibney159
      @timothygibney159 ปีที่แล้ว +34

      @@Austenfan177 Yep. I have a feeling he is planning for a divorce and is hiding the dough so she can't take 1/2 of it

    • @Naturegurl124
      @Naturegurl124 ปีที่แล้ว +9

      It was his inheritance though, it's actually wasn't technically her money.

    • @Carib6855
      @Carib6855 ปีที่แล้ว +11

      Inherited wealth is not martial property.

    • @kathleencooney1518
      @kathleencooney1518 ปีที่แล้ว +6

      It’s his sole & separate property unless or until he combined it with their marital assets. I’d like to hear his Mothers side.

  • @JustinCase780
    @JustinCase780 ปีที่แล้ว +146

    She called in but is 100% passive in tone and behavior. Get divorced yesterday. Don't bother with counceling because it will never work.

    • @AmberU
      @AmberU ปีที่แล้ว +5

      Period! Thats a lost cause!

    • @happyinparis
      @happyinparis ปีที่แล้ว +8

      She's a willing doormat! She needs a backbone! He chose his thieving, manipulative mother over her and their marriage. Leave him! He will not change!

    • @katyedwards3935
      @katyedwards3935 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Yesterday's a done deal, so I think you mean today or now.

    • @JustinCase780
      @JustinCase780 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      @@katyedwards3935 Oh, really? 🤣🤣
      ... It implies that it should already have been done.

    • @katyedwards3935
      @katyedwards3935 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@JustinCase780 True

  • @skywriting100
    @skywriting100 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +53

    Her voice says it all - timid, hesitant, full of avoidance. She’s just calling to cry not find a solution.

    • @OceanFrontVilla3
      @OceanFrontVilla3 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Trauma isn't quick n easy to overcome

  • @sct4040
    @sct4040 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +21

    Weird that they wait until the day of the closing to check on the money.
    I counted and gather my money months before I closed and it wasn’t anywhere close to $300,000.

  • @carolr7823
    @carolr7823 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +56

    He needs to file criminal charges against his mother. If he doesn't, then she should divorce him.

    • @freeinghumanitynow
      @freeinghumanitynow 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +8

      Why would he file charges? He's in cahoots with his mom and the wife is a clueless doormat.

    • @BusArch42
      @BusArch42 6 หลายเดือนก่อน

      @@freeinghumanitynowagreed

  • @mominthe209
    @mominthe209 ปีที่แล้ว +60

    I have a question for the wife. Did you ever see a bank statement for this account? Did it really exist or has this been a long term con to get at your money? I struggle when people call in and there is so much missing info.

    • @philwill0123
      @philwill0123 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Yep, I'm betting he's persuaded her he's got just as much money as her, so now they are running off her funds

  • @AnonoMoosely
    @AnonoMoosely ปีที่แล้ว +161

    I love Jade as an addition to the team. Caring, smart and she did a great job of bringing the tension down after John got frustrated. Can’t wait to see more from her!

  • @Twominnoodles
    @Twominnoodles ปีที่แล้ว +108

    Guess they missed one critical question? Where is that 300k? Is it safe? Can she return it back?

    • @shachede6828
      @shachede6828 ปีที่แล้ว +18

      Bruh it’s spent

    • @probablynot1368
      @probablynot1368 ปีที่แล้ว +18

      It would be interesting to know how long his mother had access to the money and how she managed to spend it all. Maybe she just moved it over to another account in her name only? Maybe she gambled it away? Maybe this is mom’s grand plan to cause DIL to exit the marriage, allowing mom to then choose a wife for her son in his native country. There is much more to this story.

    • @dhenderson319
      @dhenderson319 ปีที่แล้ว +9

      Thats what I'm also wondering
      U dont just spend 300k in two minutes
      Maybe she like bought a car or land or a house with it
      You can maybe sell that and get some money back
      Or if she was just spending it on smaller purchases how comes they never noticed money missing from their account?
      There are a lot of questions here about where is that 300k rn? And why cant you get it back.

    • @Twominnoodles
      @Twominnoodles ปีที่แล้ว +1

      @@dhenderson319 - Good one!

    • @penguin12902
      @penguin12902 8 หลายเดือนก่อน

      @@dhenderson319 She gambled it away or spent it on drugs. It's gone.

  • @lauriegriffin1835
    @lauriegriffin1835 ปีที่แล้ว +56

    The mother did not need access to this account to deposit money. Time to get a divorce. The husband is a liar.

    • @Patricia-pp3mr
      @Patricia-pp3mr 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +6

      I used to put money in my husbands account. I wasn't on the account but I could put money in the account at the bank teller. Yet I couldn't withdraw money from his account.

  • @mugentuner
    @mugentuner ปีที่แล้ว +77

    That husband has abandoned his responsibility as a husband. He's also refusing that his mother take any accountability in this situation. The wife is then forced to go along with it like everything is ok. Well, she's clearly not ok. So unless they get therapy and also closure to address the issue, this will be a very unhappy marriage and ultimately one that may end. IMO.

  • @JeffreySchieding
    @JeffreySchieding 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +19

    The husband is a momma's boy. Their final advice to the girl should have been,"Call the authorities on your own and report the $300,000 theft. If your husband has a fit, no loss, your marriage is already over.

  • @mathematician1234
    @mathematician1234 ปีที่แล้ว +55

    Mr. Ramsey would have asked "Where is the money?" Is it recoverable (e.g., she bought a house) or irrecoverable (e.g., she spent it on drugs and gambling)?

  • @Msnanamac
    @Msnanamac ปีที่แล้ว +108

    Something fishy about the husband. I think he and his mom are in cahoots to steal from the wife and use the money for selfish reasons because this makes absolutely no sense otherwise.

    • @derekd1510
      @derekd1510 ปีที่แล้ว +17

      There's a million holes in this story and the caller sounds out of touch with reality at best...I'm calling BS on the whole thing.

    • @Naturegurl124
      @Naturegurl124 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      It was technically his own inheritance so he would only be stealing from himself so that doesn't make sense.

  • @john1425
    @john1425 ปีที่แล้ว +65

    She lost her mom card, and the man lost his husband card. What a disgrace. Coward.

    • @XFizzlepop-Berrytwist
      @XFizzlepop-Berrytwist ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Well maybe the husband isnt… yet, but he def needs to make a decision, mother or wife, or the wife will.

    • @john1425
      @john1425 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      @@XFizzlepop-Berrytwist no way hes done. Hes a big time beta. His mom keeps his testacles on a jewelry box on her makeup table.

    • @XFizzlepop-Berrytwist
      @XFizzlepop-Berrytwist ปีที่แล้ว +2

      @@john1425
      I think that is a bit harsh, we have only heard one side to this story.

    • @jamisojo
      @jamisojo 10 หลายเดือนก่อน

      ​@@XFizzlepop-Berrytwist good point. And this woman sounds like a little girl that is afraid to say anything unflattering about anyone.
      I don't think these children were ready to deal with this situation.

    • @tonettesharp6418
      @tonettesharp6418 7 หลายเดือนก่อน

      I like your comment!

  • @WallaceDunn
    @WallaceDunn ปีที่แล้ว +29

    You do not have to be on an account to deposit money into the account...

    • @fadisalem2710
      @fadisalem2710 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      Yes. My thoughts Exactly. Sometimes I make deposits for friends and family members myself without my name being on their accounts and never I've had any issues.

  • @christinehopping
    @christinehopping ปีที่แล้ว +67

    John and Jade make me happy. They give me so much hope in this world of bleeding hearts and enablers calling themselves "Christian" but are just "cowards" in sheep's clothing. Yes!

    • @dharmadharma3960
      @dharmadharma3960 ปีที่แล้ว +8

      Yes. They cut like a knife. Society needs more of this.

  • @r.rodriguez4991
    @r.rodriguez4991 ปีที่แล้ว +27

    I know a great way to make sure his mom always has food and shelter!

  • @linhaton4957
    @linhaton4957 ปีที่แล้ว +16

    If you stay married, keep your money in your own account. No access for husband or mom.

  • @markwilkins1544
    @markwilkins1544 ปีที่แล้ว +37

    Wow, she is letting her husband use her as a doormat. Her husband does not care about her or their marriage. That marriage is doomed!

  • @will9134
    @will9134 ปีที่แล้ว +12

    “I am great, thank you for asking”
    *she was not great*

  • @andyandyandandy9
    @andyandyandandy9 ปีที่แล้ว +13

    She's being used and abused like a bounty towel. Smh

  • @esonon5210
    @esonon5210 ปีที่แล้ว +52

    I love my mother dearly and will anything I can to help her when she's down on her luck but if she ever did this to me we're done.

    • @jordanlavalley
      @jordanlavalley ปีที่แล้ว

      You have a weak mind. She didn’t steal money from his company or something it’s an inheritance probably from his dad or her family.

  • @XXnickles
    @XXnickles ปีที่แล้ว +125

    Unfortunately either they correct all this stuff, or they get divorced. There is no middle ground here. For what I am hearing the guy's priority is her mom regardless all the harm she is doing. I am not saying your parents are not important, but in this particular situation this is a huge issue. If he is not welling to see the problem, she needs to walk away and limit her losses

    • @djpuplex
      @djpuplex ปีที่แล้ว +1

      It was his inheritance not hers. Effects her but not hers.

    • @GS-rw9og
      @GS-rw9og ปีที่แล้ว +4

      me thinks from lindseys full replys , that the whole truth was not presented , here!

    • @netasedlak9454
      @netasedlak9454 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      ​@@djpuplexmarriage vows basically say that "all that is mine, is yours". He said that to her, not to his mother.
      Unless there was a prenup, excluding her from his inheritance, it was her money, too.
      And the fact that he wants to keep supporting his mother, and her paycheck will be a part of that, says a lot.
      The woman just got $300,000.00. She shouldn't need any money for years, if she had any money smarts. (And she doesn't, by the way.)

    • @djpuplex
      @djpuplex ปีที่แล้ว +2

      @@netasedlak9454 Inheritance is considered non martial property.

  • @firegirljen
    @firegirljen ปีที่แล้ว +9

    So when you hear a call like this, do you still believe in the idea of joint bank accounts when you’re married????🤔🤔🤔🤔

  • @bettysmith4527
    @bettysmith4527 ปีที่แล้ว +5

    Why did she call the show if she doesn't want to do anything about it?

  • @GolfDuff
    @GolfDuff ปีที่แล้ว +57

    First thing, her husband is not the only person being forgiving. She forgives everything.

    • @butterflygirl2285
      @butterflygirl2285 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      IMO - I would divorce him. He is a momma's boy, and the wife is being placed second below his mother. It's disgusting.

  • @lauren4078
    @lauren4078 ปีที่แล้ว +50

    I can't stand people who let others -- even if they're family -- walk all over them and treat them terribly, and then have the audacity to complain about how they're being treated, yet will do nothing to change the circumstances. This situation is absolutely insane. The husband has no spine, and the wife is weak, too. At least she's attempting to do something by making this phone call. However, it's far too little, far too late. Pathetic people, I'm sorry.

  • @mike7933
    @mike7933 ปีที่แล้ว +26

    Let me guess, husbands mom was a single mom. And she turned her son into a momma’s boy to support her financially for the rest of her life.

    • @SCL111
      @SCL111 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      She is in Columbia, probably with no social security and having kids means having someone to care for her when sheare old.

  • @boblachance7014
    @boblachance7014 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

    The fact that the son can still look to his mother with a straight face is amazing! He either is so scared of his mother that he is choosing to forgive & forget rather than hold her accountable for this felony! This is the stuff that prison sentences are provided.

    • @BabyT709
      @BabyT709 11 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Even worse he still wants to financially support her, pretty sure he already done that when he let her drain his bank account

    • @CoffeenSpice
      @CoffeenSpice 11 หลายเดือนก่อน

      @@BabyT709why does he need to financially support her after she stole 300k from him??!

  • @ditttch
    @ditttch ปีที่แล้ว +5

    This woman needed to file for a divorce yesterday. Her husband sounds like a Norman Bates type, with all things in his world revolving around his mother. There will never be any peace if she stays in this. The mother should be brought up on charges for stealing the money.

  • @CarlyLawrence-u3s
    @CarlyLawrence-u3s 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    👏well done John!! he's picking his mum over her. His actions are showing her his mum will always be more important!

  • @Britlael
    @Britlael ปีที่แล้ว +10

    The $18k in credit card debt is absolutely nothing compared to her situation

  • @v.m.4453
    @v.m.4453 ปีที่แล้ว +31

    John telling it like it is!
    Good job!

  • @ericonca
    @ericonca ปีที่แล้ว +63

    I feel like it was "legal" theft - meaning she had full legal rights to the inheritance fund. (possibly went through her to be distributed to children)

    • @ADAWGSLIFE
      @ADAWGSLIFE ปีที่แล้ว +3

      I totally get that point but, if that portion of cash was intended for her son it’s lack of morals & respect for her son to take and spend it…

    • @ADAWGSLIFE
      @ADAWGSLIFE ปีที่แล้ว +1

      @@Austenfan177 all good points

    • @Originalman144
      @Originalman144 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      No, it was probably left by the father. And he said he added mom to the account so she could manage things in his absence. Why would he add her if it was her money being distributed?

    • @katie8325
      @katie8325 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      No such thing as legal theft. It’s theft or it’s not.

    • @XFizzlepop-Berrytwist
      @XFizzlepop-Berrytwist ปีที่แล้ว +2

      @@katie8325
      Legal theft does exist.
      I suppose its how you look at it, but you can legally take (steal) stuff from other people in some cases.
      Adverse possession on property is one such example. I can buy a plot of land, and say I move out of state/country for a few years, and come back, and find out someone has been living on it, or using it for some reason, they can go to court and a judge will force you to give up the land.
      Its not right, but it does happen.

  • @matthewwilliams9200
    @matthewwilliams9200 ปีที่แล้ว +39

    She's being robbed by her husband. The whole family is lying to this girl to steal her money

  • @war8036
    @war8036 ปีที่แล้ว +63

    Fun fact: as soon as he put his mom on the account she can’t go to jail

    • @commonsenseisntcommon1776
      @commonsenseisntcommon1776 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      Maybe , maybe not

    • @bennyjoey8444
      @bennyjoey8444 ปีที่แล้ว +14

      If the mothers name is on the account, in the eyes of the law it is just as much her money as it is the sons .

    • @Rome1017Lights
      @Rome1017Lights ปีที่แล้ว +4

      There was no mention of his mom being in the account though, she said it's "his inheritance" and he gave her access to the account. Access to the account and ownership of the account are not the same thing.
      I could give anyone my bank account details, that doesn't automatically make it their account as well

    • @agricolaregs
      @agricolaregs 11 หลายเดือนก่อน

      @@bennyjoey8444actually it should be 50/50. Like a joint account for a non married couple. You can’t only withdraw half. Unless it was drained over a long period of time.

    • @jamisojo
      @jamisojo 10 หลายเดือนก่อน

      War, I don't think it's wise to claim you know something that you don't know enough about.

  • @elisedunstan2080
    @elisedunstan2080 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +7

    This woman stole a lot of money from her own child and his wife. She has to go to jail! It sounds like he loves Mommy more than his wife.

    • @jocarson5310
      @jocarson5310 7 หลายเดือนก่อน

      I think her “child” is in on it.

  • @MsMockingbird06
    @MsMockingbird06 ปีที่แล้ว +8

    John and Jade are absolutely right! I also think exploring what she meant by her husband does whatever he can to make her happy is valid. I hope they get counseling.

  • @NomadicLifer
    @NomadicLifer 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    She's in SERIOUS denial. She's built him into this person in her mind that isn't true.

  • @bryannorris3976
    @bryannorris3976 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    There has to be more to this story

  • @googleuser2426
    @googleuser2426 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    She tried HARD to not put the blame where
    the blame belong.
    Your divorcing him, or filing charges. Plain and simple

  • @austinfairbanks9142
    @austinfairbanks9142 ปีที่แล้ว +8

    John got fired up on this one.

  • @grandmaethel23
    @grandmaethel23 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    My granddaughters dad stole from her. Her grandmother passed and left them all equal amounts, including dad. She was a minor, so his name was put on her account. He went through his money and then started spending hers. But it was no surprise to anyone. He has used and abused everyone's trust for years.

  • @flytechbass1979
    @flytechbass1979 ปีที่แล้ว +32

    I think the son and the mother are working together and the wife is out later.

    • @dharmadharma3960
      @dharmadharma3960 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      Right. What is really going on here?

    • @Me-fd2yi
      @Me-fd2yi ปีที่แล้ว +1

      I’d love to hear the other side of this story. I can guarantee you this caller is not so innocent.

    • @derekd1510
      @derekd1510 ปีที่แล้ว +5

      There's a million holes in this story and the caller sounds out of touch with reality at best...I'm callling BS on the whole thing.

  • @mwhe3111
    @mwhe3111 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    Well done, Jade and John!

  • @MyLifeThai371
    @MyLifeThai371 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    I heard about a similar case. One of the spouses sued the mother-in-law who stole the money and the mother-in-law was forced to repay the spouse that sued for their half.

  • @Raven-uh5pl
    @Raven-uh5pl ปีที่แล้ว +25

    My husband & I both come from collectivistic cultures where the elders, especially the parents & grandparents are to be honored NO MATTER WHAT. It can become a very toxic dynamic, and we both have had enough and cut ties with them not too long ago. It’s not at all easy and actually a very painful thing to do. I wonder if this is the case with this couple. Either they BOTH have the mindset to “forgive” and let it go, or cut ties, they must be on the same page together. Otherwise his mom, and probably the rest of his family will drive a big wedge between the two of them. Hopefully the husband gains some courage & sets his priorities straight.

    • @Raven-uh5pl
      @Raven-uh5pl ปีที่แล้ว

      @@Austenfan177 Wow! That sounds so frustrating. I hope it gets better for them, if not, at least for her.

    • @breezyveezy1
      @breezyveezy1 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      I was wondering if it was a cultural thing. My MIL came from a different culture where you’re required to take care of your elders no matter what. She’s taken advantage of this and one son already went no contact. The only time we hear from her is if she needs money.

  • @Rachel-ul8et
    @Rachel-ul8et ปีที่แล้ว +5

    This is a storm of disfunction holding hands.

  • @Lowkey_ID
    @Lowkey_ID ปีที่แล้ว +5

    You need to divorce that spineless jellyfish.

  • @StephenNelson-de2iu
    @StephenNelson-de2iu ปีที่แล้ว +6

    I think they thought the inheritance was theirs but it was his mothers money all along. You don’t let that slide if it’s legit theft.

  • @kekkrestwood4018
    @kekkrestwood4018 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    I cannot help but laugh when the people calling in say “I’m doing great” at the beginning moments before discussing how terrible things are

  • @mirandahill8003
    @mirandahill8003 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    This was so hard to hear. I felt John at every moment. This caller needs someone on her side!

  • @jh26pt2
    @jh26pt2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Calls like these show that this show will be in good hands whenever Dave decides to hang them up.

  • @doeboydinero
    @doeboydinero ปีที่แล้ว +51

    If she did this to her Son and Daughter in law shell do it again. She needs to have her behavior corrected before more people are negatively impacted.

    • @traceyhill702
      @traceyhill702 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      From her child! Her future grandchildren! It made them broke! She belongs in jail!! A mother wouldn't do that. She is not his mother!

    • @reese85
      @reese85 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      @@traceyhill702nah I wouldn’t put my mom jail for that! I’ll just stop dealing with her

    • @unelectedleader6494
      @unelectedleader6494 ปีที่แล้ว

      Sounds like she didn’t. Sounds more like the sun is making up a story as to why they can’t spend hundreds of thousands of dollars because he has other plans for down the road.

    • @1stLtDavis
      @1stLtDavis ปีที่แล้ว +3

      Oh, it’s bigger than that. She didn’t do anything. The husband clearly is lying because he doesn’t actually want to retire down in Columbia with this chick forever. All of a sudden now they can move back to America and she has to work again blah blah blah yeah, it’s pretty obvious.

    • @TheOfficialArthurMorgan
      @TheOfficialArthurMorgan ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Life in prison sounds like a good start for behavior correction

  • @patty109109
    @patty109109 ปีที่แล้ว +153

    She didn’t steal anything.
    This woman’s idiotic husband made his mom a joint owner on an account.

    • @aao449
      @aao449 ปีที่แล้ว +10

      Ouch! We all almost forgot about that.

    • @Ryan_DeWitt
      @Ryan_DeWitt ปีที่แล้ว +11

      You're right, if her name was on the account, she technically did nothing criminally wrong. Might be able to sue her in civil court, but that would be it.

    • @vickieclark5931
      @vickieclark5931 ปีที่แล้ว +9

      That is true. It may actually be very hard to prosecute her since she was given access. You can't steal something that was in your name. So she will probably be off the hook.

    • @paulinoaz
      @paulinoaz ปีที่แล้ว +6

      She did not say the mom was a joint owner, she only said he gave his mom access to the account so it is very likely the mom's name is not on the account.

    • @Sheryl777
      @Sheryl777 ปีที่แล้ว +12

      @@paulinoaz Access to the account is basically the same as saying she was a joint owner of the account once he gave her access.

  • @xBLiiDz
    @xBLiiDz 6 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    I couldn't imagine being that delusional towards my mother. If something like that would've happened, I would have no problem, suing her for more than what she took. That is just despicable behavior on the Mom's part, and shame on the husband too

  • @IndigoStarrAz
    @IndigoStarrAz ปีที่แล้ว +31

    "I'm great, thank you for asking!" "My Mother in Law stole three hundred thousand dollars"

  • @jeraldbottcher1588
    @jeraldbottcher1588 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    And when prosecuting mommy dearest will say how could you do this to me?
    She needs to be prosecuted and as much money recovered as possible. If her husband is not willing to hold his mom accountable she will need to divorce him!

  • @parkwood6334
    @parkwood6334 ปีที่แล้ว +11

    My suspicious mind wonders if hubby is complicit in the theft. They're selling property in the Carolinas, she sold her business share. Is hubby a coward or did he and Mommy see a gringa ripe for exploiting? This woman seems very anxious to defend him.

    • @PeaceBeStill-
      @PeaceBeStill- 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      Bingo 🎯

  • @Star_Mkhize
    @Star_Mkhize 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    No one just steals that much from a kid they love. Mr forgiving is way in on it I promise you that now!!! Men and their moms. Devious pair they will show you flames

  • @bonniehalf-elven
    @bonniehalf-elven ปีที่แล้ว +14

    I can hear Dave saying, "You're so sweet." She is. IDK if the husband has been gaslighting his wife for years or if his mother has manipulated him all his life and he has no spine. He married his wife to have and to hold, not to have and to make her work the rest of her life to support his thieving mother. Whether they go into counseling or not, she needs individual counseling. She will be walked on for the rest of her life if she keeps this up. John and Jade are more upset about this than the caller is!

    • @gtf5392
      @gtf5392 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      Yeah. I will feel Dave would have been a little more sympathetic to the caller. John’s tone was a little harsh when he said things like ‘nobody’s forcing you to do anything. You’re making all of these choices’.

  • @jenniferwood8944
    @jenniferwood8944 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Thank you
    You both have helped me so much! This has been done to me twice by a sibling, twice! Enough!

  • @brendaamador8582
    @brendaamador8582 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

    This girl needs to leave NOW! The amount of resentment that will grow from this is going to strangle their relationship! His refusal to confront his mother and press charges is the END of his marriage. His mother will continue to come between them and before long, will be making all the decisions in their marriage. Time to leave is now!

  • @benhollingsworth4378
    @benhollingsworth4378 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    You can forgive someone and still demand that they give the money back.

  • @maryfigliozzi2117
    @maryfigliozzi2117 ปีที่แล้ว +27

    Sounds like he’s the one that possibly is using his mother as an excuse where the money actually went.

    • @snsn7251
      @snsn7251 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      Possibly

  • @kathleencooney1518
    @kathleencooney1518 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    She will be complaining about this forever until she decides to do something about it.

  • @WeBeatMedicare6969
    @WeBeatMedicare6969 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    Sell the mother in law

  • @Carrie_L7
    @Carrie_L7 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Well said, Dr. John and Jade!!

  • @celeste7469
    @celeste7469 ปีที่แล้ว +6

    This is so sad. What a terrible situation. What a horrible person (I reserve the title of mother to those that actually behave like one) to take advantage of her only son!

  • @breezyveezy1
    @breezyveezy1 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    She’s being used by the husband and the mom. Something doesn’t add up. Green card?

  • @ADAWGSLIFE
    @ADAWGSLIFE ปีที่แล้ว +36

    Oh lord, I’d be divorced from this dude! An I don’t advocate for divorce, but this is insane!

    • @jordanlavalley
      @jordanlavalley ปีที่แล้ว +4

      It’s an inheritance. He never truly worked for it anyways. If you divorce over money he didn’t earn that says a lot about you. Not the end of the world.

    • @sammieolat
      @sammieolat ปีที่แล้ว +4

      ​@jordan lavalley the way so many folks talk about divorce, I wonder why they get married anyway, the guy has to deal with the mom herself, it's not even the woman's money... honestly

    • @1stLtDavis
      @1stLtDavis ปีที่แล้ว +3

      Evidently you didn’t pick up on the fact that he probably is planning to divorce. The whole story is made up. Nobody stole any money. He just doesn’t want to be with this chick forever down there and now all of a sudden they have to move back to America golly. Gee, she hast to start working at her old job again oh my goodness wow. What a coincidence

    • @Guitarlvr01
      @Guitarlvr01 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      @@jordanlavalley you must be a thief who justifies their behavior with this type of thinking! 😅

    • @jordanlavalley
      @jordanlavalley ปีที่แล้ว +1

      @@Guitarlvr01 what if the money came from his dad or her parents? Either way it’s not her money. She needs to figure out her own retirement plans and stop looking for hand out. I’m not losing my mom over 300k. That’s crazy lol

  • @Once800-
    @Once800- 6 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    She probably didn’t want to share the money with the son’s wife since she’s the one who put the money in.

  • @itsyagirlashleytv
    @itsyagirlashleytv ปีที่แล้ว +7

    Heckkkkk NO! lock her up

  • @axt2
    @axt2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    I honestly wonder if the husband was running a grift from the start.

    • @breezyveezy1
      @breezyveezy1 ปีที่แล้ว

      I was thinking Green card

  • @evelyndaisy9722
    @evelyndaisy9722 ปีที่แล้ว +5

    How does she take $300k from their account ?
    Makes no sense . Dump that family gf.

  • @jeraldbottcher1588
    @jeraldbottcher1588 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    For all of you that say this is technically not stealing because her husband had her on the account. It is in fact stealing. If you are on an account at your work and you take money out of it for your own use and not the companies, do you think they will not prosecute you to the fullest extent of the law?
    When you have someone else on the account, that mean the bank is not checking or preventing them form doing anything. It does not mean it is legal. And By the way, for a long time when I was in the Army my mom was a secondary on my account cause my bank was back home and I was living far away and I needed her to be able to take care of my banking for me.
    Never once did she ever pull any stunt like this. (Of course when I got my bank accounts local to me She was not on them any longer)

  • @genglandoh
    @genglandoh ปีที่แล้ว +4

    I can not understand why a mother would steal from her son.

  • @TonyMontanaDS
    @TonyMontanaDS 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    You can't help people who don't want to be helped. Get a divorce!

  • @trollpatrol7039
    @trollpatrol7039 ปีที่แล้ว +5

    This is insane. Truth is stranger than fiction, sometimes. Wanting to still provide for someone that stole from you? Her husband is abominably weak and they need marriage counseling now.

  • @Solo76239
    @Solo76239 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    Oh hell no! Put mama in jail for stealing your money.
    The son is goofy for being “forgiving”
    If someone else besides his mom stole $300K he would put them in jail, the wife definitely needs to put her foot and talk to her husband or else she’ll have to leave him.
    I mean c’mon it’s 50/50 in a marriage. And dude is picking his mama or his wife. Shits crazy 🤦🏻‍♂️

  • @kizk1737
    @kizk1737 ปีที่แล้ว +41

    She doesn't see the problem because this is very normalized in Latin households. If he were to cut off his mother in any way, he would be seen as the bad guy.

    • @itsyagirlashleytv
      @itsyagirlashleytv ปีที่แล้ว +14

      People really need to free themselves from the opinion of others

    • @janelleg597
      @janelleg597 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      Enough coddling of feelings.

    • @unelectedleader6494
      @unelectedleader6494 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      The whole story didn’t make sense though. If there ever even was money, he knows where it is. He just didn’t wanna spend it to live with this chick there.

    • @gregkasinger5656
      @gregkasinger5656 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      How do you know they are Latin

    • @djpuplex
      @djpuplex ปีที่แล้ว +6

      Commenter heard Columbia and didn't hear south Carolina.

  • @carolynstewart8465
    @carolynstewart8465 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    That is very true......

  • @Gramps935
    @Gramps935 ปีที่แล้ว +12

    If anyone in my family stole more the $5k from me they are dead to me.

    • @alinatamashevich3354
      @alinatamashevich3354 ปีที่แล้ว +6

      And will be in need of major dental work!

    • @reese85
      @reese85 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@alinatamashevich3354 lol ok

  • @dharmadharma3960
    @dharmadharma3960 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    They are 💯 correct.

  • @CrankyGeek
    @CrankyGeek ปีที่แล้ว +3

    Momma needs to go to Jail. Son needs to get a lawyer and get his money back. Momma needs to be outed as a crook. By the way it was foolish to give momma access to his account. Momma needs to outed as a crook and a liar.

  • @shawncho5217
    @shawncho5217 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    Wait a minute. Is no one asking where da F the money went? She stole 300k and yet she has no money and the son has to support her?

  • @linhaton4957
    @linhaton4957 ปีที่แล้ว +57

    If her name was on the account, the mother in law hasn’t committed a crime.

    • @Labbernese77
      @Labbernese77 ปีที่แล้ว +9

      Yeah I wondered about that. Plus it was an "inheritance account" from whom? What did mama do with the money?

    • @shachede6828
      @shachede6828 ปีที่แล้ว +5

      She has because the inheritance is his money, along as they can prove the 300k is his inheritance it is theft

    • @rickm6076
      @rickm6076 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      You’re free to make anyone co-owner of your 300k. Put my name on that account. It’s mine too. A business account or guardianship etc etc is all different with stipulations.

    • @al1395-y3d
      @al1395-y3d ปีที่แล้ว

      It depends, if the husband is planning on leaving his wife and is doing this to avoid giving his wife her share then it could be a crime. You can't transfer assets to another person to avoid paying a judgement against you in most States and it is criminal in some of them(some others is just civil sanctions)

  • @mimimonster
    @mimimonster ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Soooo…I think her husband isn’t telling the whole truth. This doesn’t make any sense? Who gets this kind of money stolen and they just say “Oh well… I don’t want her to get in trouble.” What a PANSY. He is co-dependent or enmeshed with his mommy in a sick way. I hope she left, I really do.

  • @sammader5456
    @sammader5456 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    Let not forget he gave her access so she can’t be charged