David McMillan didn't feel Anthony Bourdain was in a good place the last time he saw him
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- David McMillan, owner of Joe Beef’s in Montreal, joins Jay and Dan to reflect upon his friendship with Anthony Bourdain, and the legacy he has left behind in Episode 39 of the Jay and Dan Podcast presented by Coors Light.
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Years ago I was driving on the highway, I just looked over and Anthony was in the car. I had to take a double take. I smiled and waved. He did the same. That was a great moment. He will be missed!
Mom Wow thats crazy i probably woulda cried lol
how cool is that ??!! neato !!!
That's really cool. 😊
Hi mom
that's awesome, thanks for sharing! made me smile
I'll miss that comforting old shoe of a voice, his twisted, intelligent humor, his genuine interest in every forgotten corner of the world. He taught us that the world is worthy of being loved and explored.
Every show was a feast for the senses...the color, sound, poetry, culture and geopolitical info... all of which was meticulously overseen by the Life Chef. No one else brought the world together the way he did. A true diplomat.
“I believe what’s important to him is this notion that otherness is not bad, that Americans should aspire to walk in other people’s shoes,” he reflected.
Kristin Lee ..just a great & inspiring comment, thank u.👌
Beautifully written
Well said Kristin, well said.
Kristin Lee So very well said & the truth...it ALL came natural to Anthony Bourdain...The world lost
a true friend, heartbreaking...💔
Kristin Lee I love the way you phrased your tribute to Anthony Bourdain!
'Old shoe of a voice', so true!
Bourdain had such a huge effect on people because he was a philosopher. He said things we all think, but don't know how to put into words. And he said it in a way that made us really stop and think. He made us feel things. He felt like your wise but crazy uncle. Shit. So sad.
He really had a huge effect on so many. I was so shocked to hear it and feel like i lost a loved one (like uncle even though i didnt know him in person). Thank you for sharing this
May I have your e-mail? This comment is very similar to how I feel. Thanks
-Greg
northofyou33 well put thanks
northofyou33 🤗well said
nice...
I've been in a malaise since the sad news came in about 8 days ago. Anthony didn't know me, but as a member of his audience for years now I have heard him share his thoughts with candor and honesty. My heart is broken. Prayers for Tony and his loved ones.
It is indeed very sad
He saw it all, ate it all, but inside.. he felt darkness way too much. He hid it all. I feel so much sadness...
Its very sad indeed - stay strong
Anthony didn't take his own life.....
Look it up more...... He was not that guy........... He was amazing an new to much bout the elite of Hollywood..
Ya know, even after all this time, I still have such an incredible sense of loss from his passing. There'll never be another Anthony Bourdain... RIP.
bourdain did as much for breaking down our human tendencies towards prejudice and discrimination. thru food - he was as open a soul as we have seen- and thru his eyes -= we saw beauty and love in all peoples around the world
Well said. I am still grieving the loss of this magnimoniuos international ambassador and kind spirit. trump conspiracy theorists are disgusting assholes, spreading their Hillary killed him gibberish on every video site comment section. Asia shamed him being photographed with 28 year old French Journalist, Clemente. She is garbage, and she knows that this hurt him.
M A K O ....so true..you said it my friend. I loved everything about him..his vision for people was beyond what other people would have
Well said. That is how I felt about him too. Loved people and loved what part food played in making all people feel like the best of family.
My heart is heavy in knowing that despite the joy he brought to each of us, he left us in so much sadness and pain. Rest in peace, wise one!
He was real. He was the most authentic & honest person I've seen, in the public eye. No fake; no facade; not ever trying to make himself 'seem' like he was something everyone would know he was not.
Here on 5/25/23... binge watching every thing Bourdain...RIP lovely, brilliant, man. I'm completely inspired still. Thank you.
I've been terribly sad since hearing the news 1 week ago. The world has lost such a great treasure. It's heartbreaking. 😢
Beth Griesauer I hope he's in peace now!!!😇😇😇😇😇
Beth Griesauer, same here.... I'm tearing up as I'm listening to this interview, I can't believe we lost such a great person..😔
Me too. I have been a fan of his since 2002 when he did "A Cook's Tour" on the Food Network. I even saw him and Eric Ripert in person when they went on the road together with a show a few years back. This is very hard to handle. I feel like I lost a relative.
Renee M - Same here. My kids and I only discovered him a few years ago (we live abroad) so we watched every episode we could find in a relatively short period of time. Anthony Bourdain was in our living room almost every day for at least a year. It does feel like losing a loved one.😢😢😢
Hell's favorite angel Mike - Reported.
Wonderful Compassionate Conversation. I learned so much. We lost so much. We knew so little.
He went into a life changing, challenging transition in his life, and this is never easy for anyone.
He gave me the courage to start jiu jitsu 3 years ago. He changed my life and I never met him. We were all so proud of him when he received his blue belt and won the NY Open. It's hard to fathom he is gone. RIP sir. Mr.Bourdain
Will miss him forever, it really felt like he was a friend.
Appreciate hearing these memories. How lucky we are to have this kindred person in our lifetime.
Deborah Mac
I think his lifestyle was majorly taking its toll on him. He hinted at it in his Argentina episode....he mentioned a recurring dream to the psychotherapist, where he was stuck in a menacing hotel with endless rooms and hallways, and tried to check out but couldn't. He also mentioned he was trying to get back home but couldn't remember where that was. I remember watching that and thinking, "Anthony, you need to take a break." I think he felt trapped by his grueling work schedule, and was wistful of a life at home. He did mention how he now gravitates towards food of comfort rather than high end...other than that, it's so sad to see him go. One of my biggest inspirations. It's been over a week and still trying to process it.
freerhymin4life You have to wonder why he didn't stop traveling for awhile. He certainly didnt have to.
I think if it was something as simple as being overworked, he wouldn't resort to suicide. We know that Anthony Bourdain has been depressive and melancholic most of his life, and of his history of severe drug addiction as well as continuing heavy alcohol abuse. In several episodes of his show he's commented on how he isn't happy, and his voiceovers have always been bleak, with hopefulness being an uncommon feature. I don't think taking time off work would've been enough to disrupt these deep rooted psychiatric issues he struggled with. I just hope he put his effort into trying to find treatment via medication and therapy before he made his final decision.
Although best case scenario is he just felt like he was getting old and did everything there was to do in his life. Maybe he just decided to go out like Hunter S. Thompson, who Bourdain was enamored with.
Farewell Tony--you brought so much happiness in my early romance with you--and learning to love again--good food and company.
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I love how they ignore the fact that his girlfriend was cheating on him OPENLY. Never mind his past history with his second ex-wife that cheated on him with the trainer he paid for out of pocket. Yeah guys, lets tip toe around that massive red flag because you don't want to offend anyone.
Hint: No man enjoys being treated like a ATM cash machine for a woman that basically treats him with ZERO respect publicly. So yes his addiction issues, his past divorce, his being prone to depression and being emotionally fragile on top of having a recently exposed cheating girlfriend who was caught swapping spit with a younger guy by photographers.
Don't tell me all of this does not add up. In fact, not only does it add up but it creates a picture perfect profile of the type of man who would commit suicide at his age. Especially when he realizes that despite all his fame and wealth he really has no one to open up to in his late stage of life. No one that truly cares for him on a emotional level that his current girlfriend didn't even bother to reach before she started publicly cheating on him with zero regards to how he would feel about it.
Garro Best and most accurate comment surrounding why Bourdain killed himself. People just don't want to admit that Asia is a shitty person because she's the face of the metoo movement. a
Thars right. Asua Argento: The face of the abusive and thoroughly dishonest "me too."
Joe Smith Straight facts Joe Smith.
Yep. He paid $380k to pay off the underage guy whom Asia slept with. Just for her to turn around and cheat without shame.
My father was a chef for 15 years in French restaurants in Hollywood/LA. He finally opened a place after my mom challenged him to.
It’s was a great Mexican kitchen with French inspiration. A big success running 25 years. Apart from his cuisine, my father visited every table and told stories, jokes, and remembered all his clients by name. My father was an authentic figure, because he never forgot his roots and captured food and life in a way that left a mark on everyone he met.
Thanks for sharing with us... I can now picture his mental situation a little better! Still doesn't make it easy for the fans to accept for this huge loss! We always love you Tony... Hope you are at peace now
Accepting Anthony Bourdain's death will be a process and challenge to say the least.
He lived in the trenches for most of his life.He saw the best in people and the worst on a daily basis.He had respect for the average man who is far above average when one looks at the challenges we face.
Watching every episode from beginning to end of Anthony and his life journey using the words the 'Pirate Captain' was a perfect fit for him. He had two distinct personalities going on. He didn't want to disappoint anyone in the end, but didn't know how to get off the hamster wheel any other way. My biggest hope is he is settling in his new existence and realizing how much people really cared about him. Thank You for this interview.
He was the coolest hippest 61 year old, which makes it hard for me.
I am beginning to think that Anthony Bourdain had lied to himself until he was no longer able to tell the truth to himself. He said in several interviews that work was his life, he wouldn't have it any other way. He also said his new lady love was his match because they both put work first. She was the only one that understood him and his work ethic. He seemed proud that he spent 5 entire days a month with his daughter. He was madly in love with the new one, but still married to the last one. On the other hand, he was tired of traveling, missed home, whatever. I am not judging him, I LOVED his shows and his wonderful humanity-he was the perfect guest and always respectful. But at some point, we have to be honest with ourselves with our truth...I am tired... I am lonely...I am afraid...I need some damn help. His death has touched so many people. Finally, rest in peace, Mr. Bourdain.
CJ you really need to do much more "due diligence" on Asia Argento, and see how this real life witch destroyed him!
The big contradiction I see is that I've seen several of his associates saying he drank a lot -- including this one -- and that is in direct contradiction to Bourdain's own repeated statements that he only drinks on the road and doesn't booze at all at home. Since he didn't live at home most of the time, the distinction is minor at best. And he also must have known that was a misleading way of characterizing himself as not being that much of a boozehound.
His willingness to be misleading about that and not really admit the truth shows he must have not felt very good about the drinking. And that suggests he did indeed drink too much.
Booze is a depressant. Both psychologically and physically. He was wearing himself out both ways by drinking, as well as living such an active and demanding lifestyle.
It sounds like that was far from his only problem -- big-time problems with his love life, for one -- but it sounds like it was a big lie he was telling himself and others.
I concur..that in itself is the problem he needed spiritual help
If she was the only one who understood him, why did she kill him?
I’m still so sad over Anthony’s death. It’s hard to think of this beautiful force of nature just gone. I’ll miss his comforting voice and his wry, sardonic yet compassionate look at the world more than I can state. I hate that he couldn’t see another option at the end. What a terrible loss. :(
He had so much strength, mental struggles can suck the life out of you once you stop being busy and distracting yourself from your own mind. It's tough, I'm 5 years sober on anti depressants and suffer massive anxiety. I present as a happy bubbly outgoing personality at work and it's draining. But hey what else can I do, crawl into bed like I want to..? Rip Anthony, what a beautiful strong soul he was. X
High intelligence is a curse. No matter how hard, fight till the end.
Front Kick does anyone tell the truth anymore?
AB was weak, coddled, and gave everything. he struggled with knowing he deserved nothing of the life he was granted so easily.
now that I said it, you all can quit being so glib now that'd be great.
@@amenhalleluyah1111 damn. Hopefully youre more positive these days.
Thanks, Tony. Love you forever.
Me too
Me too.... :(
Except he didnt like Trump so that tarnishes his character a little.
Rest easy Captain Tony. Peace, love and light!
Noooooooooooo reservations. I'll just go where i want when i want. a great maestro..
The loss of Anthony Bourdain for many, is heart wrenching…RIP
I'm only 17 but the time I've known him he's changed my view of people food morals and life so much.
Truly such a great man and he's the reason why I've started becoming a cook
Jay and Dan...You are so warm and classy, glad I happened upon you, though sadly in remembering A.B.
David, if your Food is as Good as your Kind and Generous Energy, I just may have to male a Special Trip to Joe’s Beef from LA!
How sad I loved this man why? Such great man story teller my hero
Rosely Teza He states that he wasn't sure and thst it's not easy to get involved like that.
Anthony was the quintessential guide to the world. He broke bread with the locals. Forget the resorts and the tourist trap spots. He took the route less taken and immersed himself with the culture. Anthony sent out the proverbial message of not to be afraid when traveling; drift from the tourist traps and order some yuca fries at the local bodega, or drink a soda from a food truck in Tokyo, or enjoying an underground flamenco dance. In the morning eating baguettes for breakfast. Anthony I appreciate what you did. RIP
tank you so much for your commentary about him... loved everything about his shows for the years he shared.I am so broken hearted about his choice to end it.
I think it was Asia who added to his ongoing depression complicated by his need for genuine emotional support which probably was not there.
James Bond yeah. She amplified his dark side, for sure.
Omg, it was entirely her... she a total bitch as well. Like to unreal amounts, I wish nothing but the worst for her.
Yeah she was one of those folks who sort of revelled in darkness, made it part of her hokey identity. But Bourdain was seriously that.
@@CC-dd6fm Well Asia’s father wasn’t exactly the light-hearted type, wouldn’t you say?
Don't be dumb. It ain't her fault. So what if she dumped him or she was cheating on him. It was their business. Their relationship. None of our business. Plus he wasn't a teenager. We all know how it can sometimes blow up in our face with relationships. And yeah he hurt a lot of women with his cavalier attitude towards them. So it happened to him. Love hurts. And he just couldn't cope.
He is sadly missed. I loved watching his programs and still do.
It's so very sad he chose to end his own life, and robbed his daughter of a father.
Rest In Peace, thank you 🙏🏼 for allowing to the world to see us all as human and one
One of the nicest, most insightful & thoughtful memories of a man the world loved so much... David McMillan - class act. And, yes - so well put.... Tony Bourdain was very much the captain of the pirate ship.
The body may age well - but sometimes the brain doesn't. When it comes to an addict - a 61 year old man can feel like he has the brain of an 90 year old. You just can't imagine struggling through another day.
Anai Bendai Bingo.
It doesn't matter what is going on in your life good or bad when you struggle with anxiety and/or depression. The thing we don't like to admit to or even realize is that they are an addiction to negative thinking. I know because I'm just coming out of decades of this addiction. It started very early in my life and took till I was 40 to realize it was addiction. I had already started some good new habits to shift that addiction but realizing that fact and reapproach it from the addiction mindset helped me reframe it so I could tackle it better. It's a long and hard journey and something I will always have to keep in check but it gets easier and easier.
He was a beautiful person. Alcoholism took him, no doubt. Anyone is capable of being in extreme denial. And many were the persons around him who share/d that denial. May we all learn. May his loved ones get through this with comfort of friends. Bless his soul and his memory. He shared real beauty of this world with all of us.
Sigh... I knew it, he must have been so tired of living the life, no matter the reasons that speak you'r on top u seem to have it all, HOW he was feeling was the reality he kept facing & carry on his back, in his heart, mind & moreover in his soul. He must have felt so beat! Depression has a way of just making us feel so damn tired that we can't carry on, we want out.
Grace Antonio Don't give up, please.
Grace Antonio -That's so true....
Sending you a tender embrace Grace Antonio
Grace Antonio i totally understand. When my depression has been really bad..i never really said even to myself that i wanted to die. i just wanted to sleep. Its almost like being totally overwhelmed and tired. Depression is evil because even though you know suicide is not an ok thing depression totally convinces you that everyone is better off with you gone. And that is never true.
Nancy Deis how can you speak for how others feel. When my son went to prison it affected my immediate family as well as friends because we had never experienced it before he was selfish in thinking no one but him was affected my heart ached and I fell into depression but quickly prayed and fought it because I know it as well my husband passed away. Our families love ❤️ us so please don’t think like that and remember that and sometimes that alone will help you through some of the tougher times.
You never know what somebody is really thinking... I miss Anthony's tv shows and his down to earth personality... RIP Anthony...
To Anthony , My Mom was from Corner Brook, Newfoundland and she was never offended by being called a Newfie. My daughter and my sister are both married to Newfoundlanders and we all feel very proud to be part of that amazing community. And Newfie’s we are! It’s all good!
I sure hope you found peace 🇨🇦
I was never drawn to Bourdain because I always thought that he was such an unhappy soul. For someone who got paid traveling and eating, he looked miserable, stern and angry all the time. At times I even thought that he didn't deserve all the fame and attention. Still, I was so shocked to hear about his death. RIP Anthony Bourdain.
Siamese Flower same
I wish i could tell Anthony Bourdain how much joy he brought to ordinary people. His show was unique combination of travel, great tasting unpretentious food often served in as unpretentious surroundings, local culture, geopolitcs, history and social issues, infused with dry new york sense of humour. If he really understood his impact how much joy he brought to peoples ordinary lives maybe he would be still alive. I have many episodes of his shows recorded, but things are not the same anymore. I cant help but to watch them with a degree of sadness. His shows gave me an inspiration when planning vacations abroad and often visited places he featured in his shows. I ve watched him regularly for over 10 years and i feel like ive lost a friend which i felt i knew. If he knew the impact that he had on people, maybe he would be still around
RIP dear ANTHONY
It seemed like u really cared about him...i loved hearing stories about him...im so happy he had friends like you!
it's sad to think people knew in their gut something was not right with him, but somehow couldn't just say ' are you okay, you don't seem right...do you want to talk about it'
Really great interview, David is a really well-spoken guy.
He had it all and a movie star girlfriend?? He was married to his high school sweetheart for 20 years and didnt have kids then divorced, 2 years later at the height of his career he married his 20 years younger pregnant (probably an intentional "accident") girlfriend at 50, a few years later they separated (apparently the divorce wasn't finalized) and he hooked up with another 20 years younger woman who seems to be kinda crazy. He didn't have it all, he was a very troubled man who had three significant troubling relationships.
Laura S. Right on! But liberals worship stuff like that.
StandforLiberty Jesus Christ.
Married for 20 years doesn't sound like a troubled relationship to me. That's as long as many and longer than most. Ordinary stuff; if anything, it shows a lot of stability.
The second marriage? Again, marrying someone you got pregnant is about as close to the norm as it gets. The marriage breaking apart wasn't a great thing or a good sign, but considering that his career meant he spent hardly any time with her over the course of a year (about 100 days) would strain any relationship to the breaking point for any couple. Not great, but far from particularly telling. How many of us could sustain a relationship, without anger, cheating, or whatever, where the partner simply isn't around? Even moreso w, hen you have young kids who naturally need lots of attention that your partner isn't there to provide?
So I'll give those first two a pass and count divorce in both cases as normal.
The third one, I agree. Kinda crazy person. Tony loved his kid, though, and was probably lonely all the time after so many years of being lonely on the road all the time. And now his kid was gone. I think he desperately needed a companion, maybe even an any-port-in-a-storm situation, and Argento was able to convince him he had found one. Or he convinced himself despite all evidence. I believe Tony was vulnerable after two failed marriages, being alone all the time, and feeling his child possibly slipping away, with no real love prospects to come ... wouldn't you be? Wouldn't anyone?
Unfortunately, he got reeled in by the wrong kind of person who played his generosity for all it was worth, and took down his soul.
@@dingfeldersmurfalot4560 jeez..Well put sir..take care.
At the end of his life , his fame and the love and desire of the people to see more of him ... killed him. His haggard and lined face mirrored the gruelling and backbreaking schedule of his work in order to entertain and share his experiences with his audience. Thank you Tony...for the insightful and sometimes thought provoking episodes you brought to us. RIP....
I have been following him for so long, and I will miss him forever.
Never met the guy. But I miss him😞
His girlfriend is not blameless for his untimely demise. He had chivalry toward this new woman. She was narcissistic and self-righteous. He was already fragile psychologically. She was alluring maybe, but not generous and maternally loving toward him.
PebbleSmartDog Argento is an evil person. Bourdain was a stepping stone. It's very tragic he seems to have thought she was a person he wanted to be with but she made a very public display of being with someone else.
From what I've read, she was a monster to him despite his doing incredible things for her, liking paying off someone who was blackmailing her and letting her direct his last TV episode, and firing long-time staff members because they criticized her. Only hours after she did something particularly awful and was spectacularly nasty about it, he was dead.
He just spent Mardi Gras in Louisiana in February. He loved Louisiana.
a lonely philosopher.... isolated and alone.
sad :(
So true
David L.Hello
It's obvious he was shattered by seeing his girlfriend with another guy. That simple, pride is a killer.
pride?
When you're rejected yes it hurts your pride
I agree. I think that had A LOT to do with it. Coupled w/ the fact that he valued respect and decency in people. On one hand who would have known that the guy with the tough guy exterior was so fragile beneath the surface. Seriously.....
Can you imagine how embarrassing it must have been to be as public a figure as he was, you talk up a storm about your GF / soul mate. Yet you catch sight of your GF locking lips with someone else in images & pictures blasted across the globe?
Said GF for her part didn't seem to think there was anything wrong with what she did. Shameful.....just shameful. If she didn't want to be with him any longer. That's fine. She's entitled. However, just be honest about it and tell the other person it's over.
@@trojanette8345 very true.. It's a huge loss.
@@trojanette8345 Nobody is tough we all are fragile beneath and she is a bitch he make mistake when he take her in his life
Great that you guys could get one of the Joe Beef guys on. They did know Bourdain well. Excellent interview.
I'm in my 70's now & have had theses feeling, I put it down to I've down enough & been here long enough plus the world is not the same, it get's harder in more ways then one, age, health ,& just surviving. l
Lucky I don't think that I have reached depression area yet Ciao
Miss him so much. Just heartbroken.
stay strong Barbara
I don't know him apart from seeing him on tv but lament this great loss. I only hope that he is happier and at a better place.
What I don’t understand is, if life is running you down, why not just stop doing what you’re doing? If the whole life on the road thing is getting you down, if the constant hotel rooms and planes are bringing you down, just stop. Retire. You’re a millionaire. Why can’t you just stop the whole rockstar life. Go hang with your family and relax. I don’t get it. He didn’t have to keep the gruelling schedule. He could have just stopped at anytime and be set for life.
I have always felt, even years ago, that Tony was running away from something. He spoke often about having "demons". He was unable to just sit back and smell the roses. His way of life became the road and he was unable after a while to imagine doing anything else. He was "self -medicating" by running from his problems instead of seeking help for whatever darkness he could not rise above in his soul. He is quoted once as saying he felt like he was perpetually running from the boulder like Indiana Jones in "Raiders of the Lost Ark". To me that was a window into his soul.
Ben Dagostino ..yes exactly..I thought the same! Why..but we didn’t walk in his shoes did we..? Beyond tragic..😢
Ben Dagostino I thought the same thing.But I saw an interview where he said he could not retire that he was too nervous and had to keep going. He couldn't stay sitting idle for too long so he said he won't ever retire
Ben Dagostino Yes!!
Ben Dagostino I agree Ben from Ben..
Working in a kitchen is something that can only be handled by a special breed of people. Although Anthony hasnt been in the industry for years, no matter the rockstar life, takes a toll on a persons soul. It takes a lot of taking shit and rolling off your shoulders. Anthony is a huge inspiration and i can relate to him in almost every way. It hurts and it takes the strength of everyone else that we can make it and know that there are better things in life eventually in time. For now, journeyman chef of 7 years.. mic out.
''no1 is ever really over it...'' this is the point. Truly, if you care about people, know that personal hurt, addiction, sorrow, in some of us, is a hole that nothing can fill.
And that those people need you, they NEED you.
Missing him 😢😢😢😢
Lack of love and emotional support & respect from family will do it. Especially if when your children turn against one parent because of the intentions of the other spouse will do it. I wish I could of saved him.
Hi Aries
My heart is just devastated. But I know the despair and loneliness he felt. He(Anthony) lost the love of his life. And if there's no going back in the heart of her, who he lost, then there is no point in continuing. It gets to a point where there is literally no point. No matter what angels bed he laid in. It won't ever be her, his love, ever again. And that is a horrible realization and a terrible reality. Truly a moment of emptiness. I understand his loneliness and the despair. I am just realizing, thru my own experience, what he did. My God, what is the fucking point? We only get one love like that. Once. And you take it for granted and ruin it. All there is is regret and emptiness. No matter what the woman looks like or how much she loves you. She can't spare you the memories of the one woman you were actually meant to be with. The regret of the actual one you want and love if she's completely gone is horrible. And it is absolutely overwhelming. Despair and regret are ever present in your life. God bless you Anthony. I am there with you and can understand why you left this world behind.
I am so sorry my beautiful tornado. I wish I could have understood in the moment. You were the only one. My world and my love. Regret and self hate are constant companions. Totally get why......
Thanks for a great interview, loved it. So sad about the late great Anthony Bourdain, a true original! He helped us all fly around the world inviting us to visit other wonderful cultures and cuisines, even though some of us have traveled to other countries, he took us to ' Parts Unknown'! I remember him wearing his Provincetown MA T-shirt and that he worked here on the Cape In P-town as a sous chef when he first started out. My husband and I once saw his boat " NO RESERVATIONS" shrink wrapped for the winter in Provincetown which BTW has some of the best restaurants well, just as great as Boston, NYC or Montreal, not as many but just as fabulous in their own unique way!
To honest, saw his Gf's speech at Cannes and thought there was something "off" about her... it seemed attention-seeking... but thought "well, ok" ... also she had started dating another man. Just not good.
A very angry hostile woman. her father is a satanic film maker. God knows what she is.
Shhh. Can’t speak out against her. She’s protected by the metoo movement. Shhh.
At first I thought - Mossad!, especially after seeing his recent Twitter posts that were directed pointedly at Weinstein. But then I saw the photos of Asia and Hugo Clement and their weekend tryst in Rome that were published on the 3rd. Anthony stopped posting after the 3rd.
I imagine that it devastated him. He seemed truly smitten by her. They'd just wrapped the China episode, which he called his watermark moment, his finest work.
Now I'm thinking about the rash of "death by hanging" incidents that have been reported lately. My guess is that these are really caused by a deadly mix of questionable anti-depressants and alcohol, inducing an accidental suicide. Since Pharma owns much of the media industry, it could very well be a cover up.
Parts Unknown Hong Kong aired Sunday June 2nd and in the beginning of that episode, Bourdain is telling the world he's in love with Asia (her and the continent), then the photos come out days before he's found, he doesn't show up for breakfast on Thursday morning, dinner Thursday night, and breakfast Friday morning....his friend then becomes concerned. Asia posts a picture of herself on her Instagram page hours before Bourdain's body was found wearing a Sid Vicious t-shirt with the words "Fuck Everyone" and then she or someone added to the photo, "You know who you are". Anthony Bourdain was known as the Sid Vicious of the culinary world. What timing! Or was it purposeful? She deleted that Instagram picture not long after the world was told Anthony was dead. I don't trust her. She was with another man. An open relationship? I doubt it! What a bunch of bull.
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Seriously? No one saw him on Thursday at all? I thought he just skipped dinner. Which I can't wrap my head around. Why would no one have checked on him Thursday evening? His friend? Assistant? Any of the crew members with whom he was said to be close. It all makes it seem that he had no one. All great fun and friends in public. But where were they? Where was his family after he died? No on came to France to take care of things--the paper work. His affairs.Pack up his belongs. See the scene of what happened. If it were someone close to me, I'd want to be the one to pack up and touch all the objects he had last been near. There's something so profoundly lonely, lost and sad about the ending to this man whom so many people loved and almost worshipped. Very strange.
I heard he also deleted Asia from his instragram. I checked and it seems so.
Your first thought was that the Jews killed Anthony Bourdaine, because the Israeli secret service really has nothing better to do and has unlimited resources.
Get help
Our captain is gone
Anthony Bourdain was a genuine gem. He never pretended to be someone else that he wasn't. You media/journalists have to be careful of what you present to the world. The guy said, when he saw Anthony last was not in a good place. He wasn't happy the way his life was going. My question is, if you're such a good friend, and read him so closely. Why didn't do anything about it? Did you bring it up to him? Did you alert his family? In the past, in an interview he had mentioned he had suicidal thoughts. The birth of his daughter, seeing his daughter gave him purpose to live. You just don't know, stop being a psychic. Think of his family and friends. Give them strength, and good vibes. May he RIP.
krism444 Wow, way to make someone feel responsible for Anthony Bourdain taking HIS life. What pray tell, could he have done because he saw that his friend was in a dark place? I’m sure telling his family would have solved everything and we wouldn’t be discussing this now (yes, sarcasm). I would venture to guess that more than a few people knew he wasn’t at peace and outside of being there for him, what can you do to keep someone from being unhappy? Their thoughts and struggles are things they have to work through to help bring about peace unto themselves. That man hung himself, not took pills hoping someone would find him...he wanted to die. Anthony was the only person who could have helped Anthony seek the professional help or guidance he needed. I adored that man, everything about him and like so many, can’t seem to shake this enormous sadness I feel over his death. His poor daughter, mom, family and friends I’m sure they’re still shell shocked. He looked haggard and worn down and he drank an awful lot...I think this wasn’t a passing thought, to take his life, perhaps something pushed him over the edge but he had probably been on edge for years. I read the New Yorker interview from a few years ago and he still struggled with enormous feelings of guilt over divorcing his first wife....my man had issues like we all do, and unfortunately his daughter, his mom, Asia, nothing or no one was enough to keep him here.And people need to lay off Asia...she’s catching hell
Great tribute!!
The man is head !! He had s family and that's what we should be thinking about! Pray for peace for his family that lived him!!!
He was a GIANT!
I met him in Gramercy Park, he just walked up and started talking like we knew each other and since it was mentioned, he had a bottle in a bag and said it was full a couple hours ago and now only 1/4 left. It was 11:30 am. It was sad and a bit awkward so I made light about it, he laughed crossed the street and entered a brownstone.
There is a big difference in the different types of depression.
Tony dealt with Major Depression, which is for unknown reasons, you sleep for days, experience no thrive to enjoy life and get out of bed and than you would only have a few moments or hours of clarity in which, you feel normal with no depression than it disappears and the Major Depression comes back. The mind f@$k game of Major Depression, the feeling even with medications that you still are fighting major depression and it still does not go completely away... It, is an exhausting battle. People with Major Depression need to have that one person in their life constantly to emotionally support them, encourage them and remind them that they are loved, even in their dark moments. Tony...might have felt let down by his new girl and seeing her with another man, probably pushed him over the edge. When people with major Depression give up the daily fight of hopelessness, they do not see suicide, as a selfish act. Their emotions in feeling fatigued, exhausted and lonely everyday and that no one else around them understands them suicide is their way out. It, is a moment that they are not Alert, cognitive or feeling clarity when they start having an anxiety that turns into a panic attack, crying, feeling wounded, unloved and lonely and when they start the act of suicide, and if they are not caught in the act when they are committing suicide than they can not stop. If, you have NEVER dealt with Major Depression it is something that you can not understand.
Please do NOT judge or call anyone whom has tried or committed suicide a coward.
The mind is very fragile and in one second, you are feeling and living normal than out of no where Major Depression hits and the mind snaps. Sending my strength, compassion and positive energy to those battling Major Depression.
Nurse Calls so well put
Thanks for your compassion
You said for reasons unknown,exactly.
You make me uncomfortable.
Thank you. I am lonely, too. My husband is verbally MEAN and discounts my illness, you must be a good friend/spouse. Blessings!
Bless him but as a sufferer of major depression the drugs and alcohol do not mix .... that alone was destroying him as well as contributing to enhancing the depression.... clouds the thinking destroys the nerves ....
I don’t mean to diminish what David’s saying, but if there are any kids or teens watching, he says Anthony was “smoking way too many cigarettes and for the wrong reasons”. One cigarette is too many, and there is no good reason to smoke tobacco. It is extremely addictive and unhealthy, and once you start smoking, it will be much more difficult to stop than never starting at all. Please don’t smoke tobacco.
On earlier interviews he said he had quit smoking. Now this interview said he was smoking?
girlfriend has a smoke on the go in most pics..he started up again I suspect
If he knew how much foodies, culture vultures and down to earth people like him, I think he couldn't bare to leave us so abruptly. I think he'd know that almost nothing is unforgivable. He made me laugh so hard that I cried and my belly ached on a handful of episodes and echoed my sentiments on so many things. I am not even half as adventurous as he is, so I traveled vicariously and enjoyed his poetic story-telling. He was an original, the Enest Hemmingway of food vlogging.
but his gf was holding hands with a french journalist, days b4 his suicide, maybe that added more dark thoughts to an already tired Anthony, just saying.
It did.
James - They were having an affair!
More than that, she posted a message saying F U, you know who you are. It was obviously Tony. That must have been the biggest stab in the heart imaginable outside of maybe if his child died.
No doubt. She was his downfall. Abandoned his wife and daughter for that slut? Ok, I guess she was an item after they were separated, but damn, he went all in for this woman who reinforced his worst tendencies. Started smoking, drinking heavily, back into old habits after years of good health with his wife and daughter. Sad.
A Bourdain's greatest skill was his ability to retell a story.
His career took off when he put his life's story in a book.
He was so "human" and so Real.. Just reading his books you felt you knew him. I don't believe he committed suicide.
He lost his battle with depression and anxiety! So sad :(
Probably events in life took him in path where he couldn't find another way out...
Bourdain seemed ultra confident and successful - i guess he was hiding his pain.
DEPRESSION IS DARK BUT HE'S IN PEACE 😇 NOW !!!!
It was too hard to keep going. I understand. Rest well, Tony.
Never met him but he was a mentor and a friend
How can travel all the time 265 days around the world be good life..faraway from his family is so lonely life an empty one.
Margarita M He didnt have to do it. Maybe someone will understand why he wanted to travel that much.
If he didn't travel with his show he would lose his celebrity. And few people sacrifice celebrity. it's akin to giving up popularity in High School - few kids would do that.
I'm sure he had enough celebrity and money to travel less. I dont know anything about his contract or why he traveled so much if he didn't enjoy it anymore, but certainly there are many things we don't know.
Turns out that with all his years of success, he only had about $1.3 million or so in assets. Enough to fund only a modest retirement, and nowhere near enough to sustain his many expenses, including child support and the maintenance/rent/mortgage on at least one and possibly two nice homes (his and his kids/ex-wife's). Is he still paying for his first ex-wife? Who knows. Plus he loved his kid and that means indulgences and college funds.
Tony himself said he thinks people don't know how much money he spends to eat and live the way he does, and it's easily imaginable. He's not a McDonald's kinda guy and did indeed enjoy the high life.
So Tony was going to have considerable ongoing expenses for a long time to come, certainly well over a decade. I don't think he had any choice but to keep working, even if he paid nothing else but combined family living expenses and college fund, without ever going out with his friends and living his usual life again. And we know that was not going to happen.
Heck, at the end he picked up an extremely expensive new girlfriend and paid off her blackmailer in the hundreds of thousands of dollars. Not easy for a guy with not that much more than a million.
Well we reap wot we sow. I'm sure i read that somewhere.
Insightful glimpse of what may have been going on in Bourdain's head. Thanks to Chef David for his honest comments.
Asia Argento is not a movie star.
Scott Ross I like to play soccer on the weekends that doesn't make me a soccer star. As an Italian from Italy I can tell you yes she acts, but she is mostly famous for who her father is. She also calls herself a model, photographer and singer. I encourage you to listen to her so called music, and tell me if you consider it art.
Scott Ross if you like the Giallo genre that's your right and you are entitled to your opinion, but others are also entitled to theirs. I never said I hated Asia Argento, I said she wasn't a movie star! But if you are into that genre maybe she is a star to you and you love everything she is associated with, but here in Italy she is no Meryl Streep, nor do we consider her a talented singer. I respect and commiserate with the me too movement, but being the victim of sexual assault does not give anyone an excuse to act crazy, and she often does that. Ultimately only Asia and Anthony know exactly what kind of relationship they had. I find that actions often speak for themselves, and her actions don't always paint her in the very best of lights, but we'll just have to agree to disagree.
Scott Ross I know that Weinstein is a douchebag but he didn't rape her. She was sleeping with Weinstein consensually to get ahead in her acting career and then when she didn't turn out to be some big movie star, she falsely accused him of rape. You have to be stupid not to see that. Asia Argento PLAYED Anthony Bourdain. She made him look like a fool very publicly. Anthony was naive when it came to women like all blue pilled men. Asia Argento is no victim. We can't live in a society where women can simply accuse men of rape and domestic violence without solid evidence and a person's word is NOT solid evidence. That's why men are leaving these women alone. They are very dangerous from a legal perspective.
Asia Argento is not a nice person.
On an You are so right. Asia Argento used Weinstein as a stepping stone until she couldn't use him any more and then accused him of rape. She used Bourdain too, and didnt have the decency to be honest.
I still can't believe it! Watched his show and never knew about his depression problems. So sad and to all of you that are saying his death was a hit what are you thinking? You have no more idea what happened than anyone else! RIP ANTHONY.........
Go Patrick. Life needs that Joe Beef personality.
I watch his shows, and re-runs. Footage which will last. He left an impression.
He also has covered some very depressing poor, hopeless areas around the 3rd world countries, ppl with not much hope... some of the episodes got me down for days... and I kept thinking how does he process this sadness and keep going on...? Yes, having a good relationship would have helped I’m sure.
Well stated David
The last two women in his life (not including his child) betrayed him. He put all his energy in being a good partner only to be discarded. I cannot agree with his choice in the end but I do understand how it came about.
Charlie Walker how was he betrayed? Did they cheat on him or something?
Bourdain had hurt people in the past himself, including his first wife. Way after the divorce, he started referring to her as "the love of my life". And how can you put everything you had into a relationship where you both acknowledged work came first? In fact there is a quote of Bourdain's where he talks about why Argento was such a good match for him. He didn't have to hear about why couldn't you be there? Why couldn't he be here? She understood work came first because she was the same way.
Oreo Emesis I truly believe Anthony never got over his first wife. You're right he called Nancy, "the love of my life" numerous times, and made it abundantly clear that he had regrets on how it ended. Anthony nor Nancy have ever delved too deep into the going on's of their relationship & marriage, which equaled 30 year years. Nancy is the only one who hasn't spoken out publicly about Tony, it must've hit her hard.
The depression cam way before that. Healthy people don’t kill the selves after a breakup
Charlie Walker Never ever let a Women Control you.
ever thats very sad