i think this show really needs to have an expert like a psychologist/psychiatrist for the advantage of the people who send their concerns. there are concerns that seriously need an advice from an expert, not just someone who understands the concern. i feel like there are some concerns wherein the hosts cannot fully understand how big the problem is then, the concern is left without a good/enough solution. they need a "real" counselor or at least the hosts should read things about counseling
not to be rude but like no shit. personally i dont think this program should exist at all bc combining the aspect of an entertainment show w a forum were ppl want serious help is morally wrong on a fundamental level
+hey ( ͡° ͜ʖ ͡°) but thats EXACTLY what they do though! if youve watched more than one ep of this show you would know that the majority of ppl that send in worries to the program r actually serious, which just makes the whole thing even more sad. it shows how little options ppl in korea think that they have regarding counseling and how fucked up the view on mental health issues is in korea overall
Hani, Hyelin, my loves. I'm very proud of Hani's last statement and of how they (Hyelin especially) tried to uplift that precious boy. I hope the world's prejudices lessen and people become more open minded. This was a great episode.
I really felt for the father in the second concern. Like the son I wanted to move out and live on my own. Now I'm living in the dorms while in university and at first I was soo happy and hated it when my parents called everynight. But now I worry when they don't pick up or one of them doesn't talk to me when I call them. People should really learn to treasure their parents (or those who took care of you when you knew nothing) before it's too late
It's not just the beating. I think it's probably the fighting too. If someone is always fighting around you, you would want to distance yourself from them to never have to experience that ever again. It probably was like the for the oldest. He always saw them fighting. He probably just wanted to leave all the bad things behind him and never look back.
gladitsnotme you'd be surprised. Do you know the Steve Wilkos show? A man had a similar situation with his daughter. She stopped talking to him and just disappeared from his life. He wanted to know why so they tracked down the daughter and brought her on the show to make amends with her dad. It turned out she cut ties with him because he raped her once when she was 14. They did a lie detector test and everything on both her and the dad and it turns out she was telling the truth.
The kid that won't talk to his parents is a sad case, but it seems like their must of been a lot of abuse and neglect at home because even the brother won't speak to the parents. He probably feels conflicted because he wants to love his parents but probably never developed a relationship with them. The way I see it is he has two options leave and start a new life or forgive and try to work it out. The problem is he did neither and just hid away playing video games.
"Why does he have to tell me every single thing?" Girl, he just found out that he has a goddamn heart condition, tf is wrong w you??? Since when is finding out you have a heart condition a LITTLE THING?
the little girl wants to move because of air pollution little does she know it's more polluted here in the philippines. And very hot too compared to korea
@@wrottenboiplays9301 Honestly, the fact that he was beaten and then hugged immediately after somehow makes it seem.... worse? Like, that just sounds like psychological damage waiting to happen. I would be absolutely terrified of my parents if they did that to me
They just find it normal. Like, if you're not korean and someone beat you, just love yourself and poeple will love you. LOL. Foreigners don't have to accept discrimination like it's their fault because it's not. Koreans really need to change about that.
At least he got a decent amount of votes. Other cases of discrimination (against real foreigners) get less than 100 votes. They say it's because they hope it will be solved after being on the show, which in my opinion is a pretty lame reason for not giving the vote
Grace Osas Agreed, it's terrible they live with hidden worries and dilemma which causes depression and suicidal rates go up, people don't see how serious depression is in Korea it's unfortunate. I'm glad this show let's people express their feelings.
i cried when the father cried .. i'm not the type who willcry easily but i felt like he really want to talk with his son .. hope after this ep he will be happy with his son
The first concern was so dang strange. On the one hand that woman is horribly self centered but on the other hand I can understand on deep seated grudge she has towards her husband but even then that does not excuse her behaviour.
If getting water is so trivial, why don't you get your own water? She makes me so mad. She wants her husband to leave her alone but she can't survive without him. She's so selfish and thinks she's so superior compared to her husband. Everyone has things to do so she can't say that her husband's work is less important.
He did exactelly the same thing before. She had to raise their daughter ALONE. She took medecine because she was so exausted. What do you think he lets her do ? Because he knows that he had been a asshole with her, so he can't say anithing now. If i was in her place i would do the same thing.
I understand but the fact that he can't even have a say on what he gets to eat is just not right. Yeah. He probably deserves it but to a certain extent. Everyone has different ways for dealing with stress. She had to take medicine; he writes to Hello Counselor. Both of them are wrong.
that story reminded me yet again not to judge a person or a situation if I don't have the full story from both sides! of course two wrongs don't make a right, but at least there's a reason for her current behavior.. I think this show was a good idea to make his wife realize that she doesn't have to punish him anymore.. Hani said the best thing.. stop dwelling on the past since your husband has already changed, and start enjoying your present..
The second problem: I think that this family needs professional help already. Their problem are based on deep wounds, and it would take more than an episode to conquer. But I’m happy bc this episode gave them the opportunity to talk about what they feel. I hope it doesn’t go downhill from there, but instead use this as a stepping stone to understand each other’s wishes
The third problem: Racism traumatizes people like it did on the guy. I love Hani’s and Hyelin’s statements. I couldn’t have said it better. Korea is still battling against racism. So let’s work together so it won’t become a worry again :)
I think this is my favorite episode so far, the first one hits really really close to home and I totally understand. The thing is that with all these people who caused the problem, there's always a bigger story behind it. So even though it might sound like the person is totally bad, you can't judge right away because there's more to it than you think. This episode really made me cry and I hope the best for all of them.😌
i think you're all judging the second kid a bit too hard, yeah he's rude and ungrateful but it's obvious that probably all kinds of reasons to be like that build up in him over the years, besides it seems that he just grew up that way, he said himself that the parents fought a lot and he was always by himself, no surprised that he's introverted and doesn't know how to show emotion very well. also the parents are old and brother is probably older than him a lot, who knows what he all went through when he was younger considering the fact that brother doesn't talk to them at all, that's hella weird if you ask me there's no way there's not a bigger reason behind that. you can't judge a person that hard based on an edited tv show meant for entertaining.
shiotan im from that kind of family. im a girl and only child 23 yo, ever since little i never feel happy in my family, my father often fight with mom, and yell at us. i got beaten too, we never go to family holiday (there was once when i was in playground i dont remember), then other ones when my mom pity cause i never go to the zoo, but use her money cause my dad dont have money. even then he always has angry face cause long drive hour. by this story you would thought my family is poor, lol. i live comfortable, bec my mom save money and buy gold long time ago, and gold price go up. but dad doesnt know cause if he knew he will never gave us money again. my dad has quite high salary, so he gave us ok, but when im in elementary/middle school sometimes dad doesnt give money, idk why but i remember mom cried in bathroom. now i know why, HE CHEATED ON MY MOM, he has another family and son now 8th grade. by calculation my dad start to cheat when im only in elementary. thats why he never home, i dont mind cause i hate him anyway since high school, when he came home he seems irritated and never smile, sometime picks fight too, so i often pretend to sleep so i dont have to talk to him.
shiotan in conclusion i grew up lonely, i dont believe in love, if i had to chose i dont want to be born, its unfair how i dont have happiness in childhood, cause i sneak on my dad's phone and i see him smile on picture over her mistress family holiday vacation (which he never gladly gone with us) *dad thinks we dont know over him cheat* cause im only child, all those sadness pent up and i used to cried alone on room. my mom doesnt know, all i have is my mom. i have no will to live, i have plans after my mom died im gonna kill myself (i dont care for my dad) so its not all son's fault. we all grew up differently and be grateful if you have warm family.
shiotan im not good with word lol, so it might be confusing to read whats the problem, im being ungrateful, etc. theres a lot more other incident but im tired typing
kagss my cousin was from a broken family. my uncle and auntie divorced and eventually had different families. my cousin, at such a young age, learned to fend for herself (though she was also getting help from us and from our grandma from time to time). she had all the reasons in the world to go berserk and hate everyone and ruin her life, but she didn't. she decided not to hate the world and just made sure to give herself a better life. she made sure to finish college and she's now working in a global company, holding a high position. i mean, i am telling this story because even though you have the baddest of childhood or had lived with the evilest of people, who you are and how you treat other people later in life is still your own decision and responsibility. your past has nothing to do with it. this is why i think the son in the second concern deserves no empathy. he wanted justification for his wrongdoings. no matter what the dad did in the past, the son is now living in the present. why keep on bringing the bad to the present when he can already make beautiful new memories..?
Am I the only one who don't find it normal to be beaten because you can't memorize a multiplication table ? You can scold your child, ground him but beating him... isn't it a little bit too much ? (I know about cultural diffrencies, but it still shocks me)
i got scolded so much as a kid, but looking back its good cause it learned me to respect my parents. BUT alot of people that hasnt gotten beaten is alot more dissrespectful, its not that serious
I got beaten. My teacher had a thin dried sellotaped sugarcane stick she named Love. She'd whip us and then tell us its because she loved us and wanted us to be good , talented people. Considering I later became number one I don't mind as much coz it only happened a few times but I did feel sorry for the other kids who were slow to learn and got whipped almost everyday.
It might be cultural, like I said. In my country, teachers can't beat kids, it's not allowed. And I never was beaten but learned respect. A slap, I can understand, but to inflict pain, I don't, sorry xD (but it is a cultural thing)
Yes its a cultural thing. I grew up i village so even though beating is against the law, it didn't really matter . Everybody knew everybody and because my parents and grandparents were beaten as students, they didn't really mind me getting beaten( if reasonable) because they deem it a necessary right of passage as a student.
What worries me about this show is that many times the guests will disregard and issue and say that "oh once they talk it out they'll be fine" or "now they have know the problem they can start working on the problem" However, there's no guarantee they will actually do so. Sure there are some instances where it looks like they possibly could but most of the time I see the person looking so smug and refusing to acknowledge the problem. If anything they only show some type of cooperation since they are on national TV. Especially with the issues regarding racism, most of the guest don't see it as a concern and say oh since you're on the show and you've made yourself known I'm sure no one will judge you again. Lol racism is not that simple, of it could be solved like that there would not be racist in the first place. Idk my issue is just how lightly most guests take these issues and think how they could be so simply solved when they're not the ones going home with the people they have a problem with
vivian tran FRRR. It always annoys me when a foreigner comes on the show and EVERYTIME they say "oh it's fine you just have to love yourself and after people see this they will change their minds, i dont think it's a worry" It feels like they dont care at all. They seem to be really ignorant and not get the struggle I was of course expecting Eli and Hyerin to not sympathize because they don't understand it. This is such a big problem in korea and they take it so lightly... Cutting his shoes up? Really now? wtf. I'm filipino/chinese and I feel like I'll be so discriminated when I come to Korea which is what my plan is. But people take it so lightly because they don't seem to get the struggle mixed races or foreigners go through. Also they never want to talk negatively about korean reality. Racism IS a problem just like all other social problems in korea. This really needs to be fixed
exactly, like I'm vietnamese and I get hella judged whenever I'm in koreatown and most of the koreans at my highschool really looked down on all the other students just bc of race. Like I know not all koreans are like that but racism is a problem because of the lack of diversity in Korea makes it really strong there. And the guests ALWAYS disregard the foreign guest as well as the hosts. I'm sure they think they are just being as understanding as possible but all they do is just gasp from shock and be like "wow didnt know koreans could be like this wtf" and then afterwards say "people will change their minds once they get to know you". And every time you can see the foreigner looks disappoint AF bc their problem still exists.
I'm really glad that the first concern wasn't a one sided thing for a family for once! So the husband and wife are basically switching sides? Interesting... I guess more affection needs to be shown, that's all. And their kid is really smart! 👍
I think it's very problematic the way a lot of foreigners are treated in Korea, but I liked the advice that Dongyeop gave the guy in 3rd concern in how to deal with people that may have a certain type of prejudice against his looks especially for those that are ethnic Korean, but appear more non Korean. I really love Korea, and overall I would just like to see foreigners treated better in general. It's still obviously a work in progress as change doesn't happen overnight, but I have faith it will get there one day.
It's because of where he lives (the place of the country). But people in big cities, like Seoul or Busan, are actually very nice, or don't mind foreigners. Yet, some can be very rude (mostly old adults, +60 years old)
Kookie'S cookie : But the guy says that he was beaten in high school, and i saw a tv show one time where sistar's hyorin said she was bullied in school because her skin is tanned. The younger generation is maybe a little more nicer but just a little. And i'm just shocked that everyone at the show find normal that koreans treat the guy like that just bcs they think he is a foreigner. That's horrible.
I was a foreigner in Korea (nonetheless a black foreigner) and I've had some negative comments directed toward me from multiple age groups. But it was never a daily occurrence, just every now and then.
I think the 2nd problem is miscommunication between parents and their children. When you already comfortable being alone, you will feel hard to express your feelings and thoughts. Parents aren't always right and children aren't always wrong. They have to compromise. Just a reminder!!! For parents, when the husband and wife relationship is not good, the impact is not only on the relationship of the two. But also the lives and mindset of their children.
I grow in a really strict family, so I've always used to get beat. Since I was a little kid. And for things even smaller than memorizing the multiplication table. And on top of that, I never got an apology or a hug after the beat. So I can say it was a hard time for me. I got beat until I was 15, then my mom eventually stopped doing it making it sound as if she was so considerate because she stopped doing it. I've heard only like 3 I love you from my mom ever. I only got my dad and even so there were times were he would be to drunk to help me. What I'm saying is, he got it way better. His dad used to ask for forgiveness and tried to involve more in his life. I hated my mom for a long time, but I then realized that that's the way she was raised, she didn't know better, and she was trying her best to make of me a good person. Because of her, I didn't become a drug addict or an alcoholic like most of my school friends. It wasn't the best way, and I sure as hell won't raised my kids like that, but I've learnt to forgive and forget. It was hard to do so because the aftermaths live with you for years, I think I'm still a bit careful and distant with the way I treat her, but I would never do such a thing a shut her out for 10 years. They're doing their best, even if is not the best way.
Hannah Tenten we are not the only ones, a lot of people is going through all of this. But it feels nice to actually know someone that understands what it feels like.
lolz, the difference between the kid who didn't care for his parents and the kid who didn't want to trouble his grandparents....the one guy should be so ashamed.
That second guy is going to have soo many regrets when he gets older and his parents are no longer with him..He'll never get a girlfriend or a wife b/c he's disrespectful to his parents..thats one of the biggest turn offs about a prospective spouse..How they treat their parents is usually how they'll treat you.
I understand the son in the second concern,seeing your parents fight and have this negative vibe in the house will sure make you an introvert,i barely talk to my sisters or mum. I stay in my room on my phone all day or sleep if i'm not at college. I'm not saying he's being a good son or i'm being a good daughter but parents don't even try to understand how much a word or an action can affect a child till they grow up and mostly see themselves as the victim. Where they are at fault as well. It frustrated me how they don't understand the son but i did,you can't understand someone if you haven't lived through it.
Well the woman mentioned that her husband was cold and super patriarchal. She even became depressed and took pills for it. Both of them have their faults.
Even if he was, he obviously isn't now so holding a grudge is pointless and counterintuitive. However, it is partially his fault for enabling her dismissive behavior.
Not gonna lie I clicked on this thinking it was L.E., Hani, and Hyelin. I thought somebody just screwed up the names. Good to know it was actually Eli from U-Kiss though. Nice to see him here.
No one told the first guest's wife that if she says that men usually takes cares of the cars, doesn't that mean she would have to take care of the house chores because she's a women? NO ONE POINTED THAT OUT
A good episode released on parents day with relateable stories for some. The jobless son really made me want to fight him through the screen, I really can't stand ungrateful people and still he had the cheek to act cocky? Yes, he has that image of how his family were when he was younger and his dad hitting him for not memorizing but seeing your parents work everyday whilst you do nothing is really not fair on them, hes living a comfortable life.
Hello Koreans I'm a Filipino and a newly fan of this show I only click the play button because of mamamoo but I started to like it This show makes me cry and laugh always This shows gives more lessons from the reality of your country which is almost the same problem of every family Sorry for my english
wow! I love Hani so much! i have heard her mum's stories that i now say them with her! 2nd concern the family needs a proper meeting and sort things out! wow this is more than just an hello counselor worry! those who are supposed to apologize should apologize and start afresh together happily before it's to late!
It's weird to me that it's so normal in Korea to get beaten by your parents, like they didn't even think it was weird... it's probably just the cultural difference but still...
of the second case, I don´t think that getting beaten was the real reason of the son for not speaking to his dad because although is wrong I don´t think is a traumatic event, doesn´t make sense, i mean like is not something horrible, this seem so trivial for me , I think there are much worse things, maybe because I have had so many hardships. BUT I think that SOMETHING MORE happened, something really bad , that make the son this way, he obviously refuse his dad, and if you look at his way of talking he seems really shy, I´m sure something bad happened...
grissell anahi lopez incio who knows? everyone are different. This guy from my school left his home bc he had argument with his parents, now his parents are so desperate and ready to do anything for him.It's been a month he has still not come home. My female cousin had this argument with my uncle in someone's wedding reception and it's been three years they haven't spoken to each other. My point being there are people who take a grudge no matter how small or stupid it may be an hold on to it. This is more of pride issue tbh. Best would be to go to a professional.
Could be true. Whoknows? My dad abused me emotionally and mentally then buy me things so i can fogive him. He still does it and now wont visit his grandson unless he can publiclly boast about it.... He only cares when someone important will be there.
I always smile as soon as I hear the intro of each Hello Counselor video, but then I feel like slapping the people who are the cause of these concerns. lol
Honestly, the first couple should probably divorce. She clearly doesn't love her husband anymore, she resents him too much for what she went through without his help. If she constantly loses her temper with the daughter, it's likely she resents her too, even if it's unintentional.
Its makes me cry when his dad give him a word, oh please brother pls be good to your parents be nice to them, please love your parents and please don't hurt thier fellings anymore, love them both ok😍😍
The second concern made me cry and honestly I'm at like the son In a way but maybe he tries to shy away from the problems and makes as if he didn't have any but shows it when he ignores them. But I see the parents actively showing their love and the problem and how they regret things so I hope he tries harder!
Eli did well here! He spoke well and gave good advice! I’m glad to see him in more shows I hope he does well honestly!!!! Eli and his family r adorable💕
i feel so bad for his parents.... he didn't talk to his father but how much more important can useless video games be compared to parents who just want a bit of your attention... I'm glad that they went to hello counselor since I'm sure that there will be many regrets when his parents are gone
If there is one thing this show has taught me it is that family's need to talk to each other. People need to talk to each other and openly express their feelings if something is making you unhappy. There's no point to collect years being unhappy when you could talk it out and change your life. A lot of people I know just lock themselves in their room because we've forgotten how to properly talk to each other face to face. Cell phones and the internet have done that. We have to balance out the scale of our online communication with in person interactions.
The second concern was really sad... We're viewing their problems from a stranger's point of view since we don't really know what may have happened. Talking about what may have really happened isn't easy to do in front of so many people. Each family have their own part of secrets and issues but I hope that this family will find a way to start talking again.... I felt somehow happy when the father and son hugged each other ^^
First concern I think now both have experienced the pain from each other the best they can do now is work together and get better and treat each other equally and help each other! They honestly love each other and they can do it! I hold grudges too but when I talk about the matter and they understand too, I feel like i can move on.
i actually cried watching the second concern 😭😭 especially when the son made things worst by saying he's embarrassed of his dad's job he's comfortable with not talking with his dad etc i can see the father's face darkens because he tried so hard to fix their relationship but their sons just didn't feel that way i get that maybe the son too felt some pain as a child but their parents raised him he should at least be thankful and happy of them
For the last concern, I do not agree with the fact that people don't see the problem as a concern. I mean this is absolutely not a problem with his self confidence!! First how could he be confident about himself if people keep judging him or look a t him in bad way?! That is a huge problem that their society need to face! And this is a big concern because people actually don't see it as a problem! I really feel bad for that guy because he has to struggle with everyday. *(sorry my broken english, not a native)*
i kind of understand the son from 2nd concern tho'. i think he wants to do better but its hard, feel he cant make it and the parents kind of pessimistic towards him too and suggest him to do something he doesnt want to, and video games is how he is coping with the situation. you dont know how hard it is to talk to parents when you have a lot of bad memories from past, he is coping so he wont get hurt by avoiding the situation. he wants to talk but his voice cant come out because he is afraid and shy i guess. i understand the parents feel sorry too, so i really hope they can do better. i hope the son can open his heart. i believe he loves them, it just hard to say it out loud. he need to forgive and apologizing to them and move on.
The 2nd concern😔...I genuinely hope they heal has a family. I'm glad they came to get help because another decade of silence could easily lead to regret
I can relate so much to the second story.. my parents fight heaps and now we have our grandfather who has dementia living with us, my dad's a huge narcissist, everything he does is right, everything anyone else does is wrong, he shouts SO much at my grandfather when he forgets something or asks repeated questions.. I honestly feel like blocking him out of my life.. its so hard to live with.
It's sad that eli's marriage turned out to be a flop, he should've listened to his parents but at the same time when you're in love you want to do everything quickly :(
The first problem: I can see that if they fix their communication, and understand each other’s personalities, they can work it out. The best part is that the couple looks willing to do it :)
Nabisab yup i second ur opinion he is ashamed bcoz of his father's job but not ashamed to spend the same money which he earned thru it....n young boy's concern..i seriously dn get this whats wrong being foreigner is that koreans treat foreigners from other country sum jabs here n thr i can understand but seeing hello counsler since years i got that koreans wud b the most prejudice people in world..hoping young generation (like this young guy)ll make change in their society n ll b more open minded..
Nabisab in my own opinion, nothing in life comes for free! I wonder what else the father did for his son to feel that way towards him! Idk that's just me
Stephanie Kim but i think if he did somethinf he wouldnt be brave enough to come to the peogram, and the boy's beating story was a big excuse bcoz its not a big deal especially in korea to beat your kid and even if it was a big deal for the boy he wouldnt be like that bcoz he is a human and hearts of human heal even a little bit when they hear (sorry) from other person, so i think of anything else happened the boy wouldnt keep quiet bcoz he used everything as an excuse so if something else happened won't it be easier for him to say it and shut everyone on the program?
Nabisab maybe he doesn't want to reveal everything to the whole world, and I know it ain't a big deal... I'm just saying hate and coldness is not free you have to earn it.
in the first story i was dead when he asked him "when you're having an intimate time with your wife do you do what she tells you" do you do wht your wife tells you?😂😂😂
Okay, the husband wasn't right to neglect his family in the beginning, but that's no excuse for the wife to treat him like that when he's changed. I get that she had a really hard time, and I would side with her if the husband hadn't changed his ways after seeing how bad things were. Her attitude is toxic, it's not even her aloofness -it's her mistreating him and dominating him. He shouldn't let her do that either, like firmly say "No we can't just move the family to a small island for you to open up a small restaurant -we need to discuss this." Like what if their daughter turns out to just expect other people to be the same? No one's going to run around and get water for her and wait until she's done drinking it to put it back in the sink. Marriages are complicated AF, and you need compromising on BOTH sides -not just one. That's just unfair.
TBH the second concern hit close to home as my dad was also a taxi driver at one point so he could provide us in a new country but I have never thought that I would see someone who is ashamed of their father due to their love for the family to work as a taxi driver just so the children can get what they want
His friend teased him about his father's job. Does his friend feed him after all this time? Does his friend pay his food that he always eat alone in his room? I hope that boy can quickly realized that kind of friends won't take care of him when he's sick or misfortunate, people who love him will do that. But I also don't really agree with his father too, he turned down his son's dreaming. Human is not always be a child, they will grown up into adult, which they have to be responsible for themself. I too have a friend who his father thinks like that. He was in despair because he know he can do well at certain things, but his father didn't let him be. Fortunately my friend can see a small chance for himself, try to work harder on that while doing his father's favour. Now he's success and motivated people to not let go of their dream. :-) Being a good parent is not easy I know... with that dad's occupation, maybe he's just simply want his son live well.
1:04:06 i am sorry, but as a Malaysian, personally i think his face look from Malaysian or Thailand. he's handsome tho woahh know i am worried if our people from Malaysian or Thailand get bullied if they go study to korea
for the first concern i think she does love him but has trouble expressing love (like she said lol), also she seems like the independent type? like i get why she'd want to do her own thing but maybe just a few words of affection for her husband would make him feel better. just to let him know she does love him. she seems to have plans and she only means the best but talking things out with her husband should be the first thing she does when making big decisions for the family. i'm not like this but she just seems like the type who likes to do things quickly (and thoroughly) and like if she makes a choice she won't back down on it. like a very strict and straightforward kind of person
just tell me why To be honest, she is being spiteful because of how she was treated. I think she is vengeful. Women can be very cool about their vengeance. The one thing he wants, she won't give. She's doing it on purpose. I understand her feelings but if she is not careful she will chase him aways. Marriage is about forgiveness and compromise. If you can't do either then why continue in a marriage. I think that now that she has voiced her feelings, it will get better. She should do that from now on.
The first concern is a mess and how they are acting like the wife is right in the way she is treating her husband is too. She was depressed when they had their child, likely post partum, I understand that. But he did quit his job, he did see the error in his ways for her to just think he should be her servant now is just trash. You dont treat people you love that way. The second concern was rough. I felt the parents pain so much. I love the kid in the last concern. I hope he is living his best life.
why are guys complaining doing house chores and serve women when women have been doing that since forever, mistreated, looked down upon, powerless, etc. seeing other male mc getting angry just shows how much guys values themselves over women as always. They think these tasks are women's. this is messed up and unfair af
i just wish they didn't ask the last guy to change himself. He did nothing wrong. It's the korean mentality of how they treat foreigners that should change. Discriminating someone because you are not of the same race is never okay and should always be addressed thoroughly and correctly when counseling.
I'm still on 23:37 and I can't help but smile cause the little girl wants to move to the Philippines (Boracay) however, I must warn you there are also a lot of pollution here especially in urban places.
No offense but everybody on the panel or in the audience that acted surprised by people treating the third guy wrong because they think he's a foreigner must be willfully blind. Like you can't be this oblivious in the year 2017. Other people have come out on shows to talk about this multiple times. Like open your eyes people the world is fucked up.
My lil brother also didnt talk to my father after my mom died in 2006. Since then he change and became more quiet. We tried everything but nothing change.
Kyaah! Boracay is in the Philippines! I just want to warn them that air pollution is also a problem in philippines and it's actually hot in the philippines I think there are only 2 seasons, rainy and summer...haha
Everyone are coming in such exaggerated conclusion about the second concern. Don't look this in western perspective this is definately not the case of molestation, south korea is pretty homophobic and even if that was the case why would the father come to a national show when could've continued with his daily life. This is more of pride issue tbh. I can understand this family quite well since such things have happened within my family as well. My cousin had this argument with my uncle in this wedding receptionist and bc of that they haven't been talking to each other till now which is almost 3 years. I know many more such inccidents and i live in south Asia. No matter how small or stupid the issue sounds to us there are some people who take it to their heart. Best would be to seek professional help.
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i think this show really needs to have an expert like a psychologist/psychiatrist for the advantage of the people who send their concerns. there are concerns that seriously need an advice from an expert, not just someone who understands the concern. i feel like there are some concerns wherein the hosts cannot fully understand how big the problem is then, the concern is left without a good/enough solution. they need a "real" counselor or at least the hosts should read things about counseling
Bandgeek124 I know right ¿! this is so awesome ¡ ·_· I wish it will air on our tv's >₩< *If only!¡*
not to be rude but like no shit. personally i dont think this program should exist at all bc combining the aspect of an entertainment show w a forum were ppl want serious help is morally wrong on a fundamental level
lmao though i agree with you, i still like the show
If people think they have real problems and need real help they wouldn't go to a TV show that is just for entertainment.
+hey ( ͡° ͜ʖ ͡°) but thats EXACTLY what they do though! if youve watched more than one ep of this show you would know that the majority of ppl that send in worries to the program r actually serious, which just makes the whole thing even more sad. it shows how little options ppl in korea think that they have regarding counseling and how fucked up the view on mental health issues is in korea overall
Hani, Hyelin, my loves. I'm very proud of Hani's last statement and of how they (Hyelin especially) tried to uplift that precious boy. I hope the world's prejudices lessen and people become more open minded.
This was a great episode.
Girl on the left @ 9:04 is me during every Hello Counselor ep
Abi Same 😂
Abi SAME 😂
Abi same 😂🤣
lol, I feel the same. Every concern just makes me wonder how/why these people became this way.
Abi true
it's problematic the way they threat foreigners though
You're right 😐
The first guy was too precious. He’s so sweet wtf. He does so much for his wife and daughter. ✨
I really felt for the father in the second concern. Like the son I wanted to move out and live on my own. Now I'm living in the dorms while in university and at first I was soo happy and hated it when my parents called everynight. But now I worry when they don't pick up or one of them doesn't talk to me when I call them. People should really learn to treasure their parents (or those who took care of you when you knew nothing) before it's too late
That father from the second story must have done more bad things towards his sons. A son would not disappear from his family just because of a beating
I wonder what happened to the oldest son.
leyla Polat maybe the father molested? idk
AnimeAkumu honestly, that was my first thought too. but then i thought, "nobody would come on the show if they knew they had done that" so maybe not.
It's not just the beating. I think it's probably the fighting too. If someone is always fighting around you, you would want to distance yourself from them to never have to experience that ever again. It probably was like the for the oldest. He always saw them fighting. He probably just wanted to leave all the bad things behind him and never look back.
gladitsnotme you'd be surprised. Do you know the Steve Wilkos show? A man had a similar situation with his daughter. She stopped talking to him and just disappeared from his life. He wanted to know why so they tracked down the daughter and brought her on the show to make amends with her dad. It turned out she cut ties with him because he raped her once when she was 14. They did a lie detector test and everything on both her and the dad and it turns out she was telling the truth.
The kid that won't talk to his parents is a sad case, but it seems like their must of been a lot of abuse and neglect at home because even the brother won't speak to the parents. He probably feels conflicted because he wants to love his parents but probably never developed a relationship with them. The way I see it is he has two options leave and start a new life or forgive and try to work it out. The problem is he did neither and just hid away playing video games.
"Why does he have to tell me every single thing?" Girl, he just found out that he has a goddamn heart condition, tf is wrong w you??? Since when is finding out you have a heart condition a LITTLE THING?
Fast forward to second story, even when I got beat, I never got hugged afterwards tf???
the little girl wants to move because of air pollution little does she know it's more polluted here in the philippines. And very hot too compared to korea
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Honestly, the fact that he was beaten and then hugged immediately after somehow makes it seem.... worse? Like, that just sounds like psychological damage waiting to happen. I would be absolutely terrified of my parents if they did that to me
@@samanthacutie4133 advice move to europe we have cleaner air na hugs
13:00 he's a really good husband 😭 it's melted my heart how hard he worked.
Was I the only one excited to see Eli? I feel so bad nowadays that UKISS aren't active as they used to be :(
actually i am here because of Eli :)
me too!
Eli is the only reasons Im here
was eli the handsome guy?? i know choi tae joon, i mean the other handsome guy. haha
Shz_ blinkies yes, with the white sweater 😁
And the last concern shows just how messed up discrimination can be in Korea 😌😌😥
They just find it normal. Like, if you're not korean and someone beat you, just love yourself and poeple will love you. LOL. Foreigners don't have to accept discrimination like it's their fault because it's not. Koreans really need to change about that.
At least he got a decent amount of votes. Other cases of discrimination (against real foreigners) get less than 100 votes. They say it's because they hope it will be solved after being on the show, which in my opinion is a pretty lame reason for not giving the vote
andinkify Yeah, at least the audience recognise the problem here. :(
Grace Osas Agreed, it's terrible they live with hidden worries and dilemma which causes depression and suicidal rates go up, people don't see how serious depression is in Korea it's unfortunate.
I'm glad this show let's people express their feelings.
Sadly, it applies pretty hard to mainland China as well. Japan is more of a 50/50.
Hani so savage when she called Hyelin a carp. LOOOOL.
i cried when the father cried .. i'm not the type who willcry easily but i felt like he really want to talk with his son .. hope after this ep he will be happy with his son
I hate it when people find such stupid excuses for their mistakes
The first concern was so dang strange. On the one hand that woman is horribly self centered but on the other hand I can understand on deep seated grudge she has towards her husband but even then that does not excuse her behaviour.
If getting water is so trivial, why don't you get your own water? She makes me so mad. She wants her husband to leave her alone but she can't survive without him. She's so selfish and thinks she's so superior compared to her husband. Everyone has things to do so she can't say that her husband's work is less important.
He did exactelly the same thing before. She had to raise their daughter ALONE. She took medecine because she was so exausted. What do you think he lets her do ? Because he knows that he had been a asshole with her, so he can't say anithing now. If i was in her place i would do the same thing.
I understand but the fact that he can't even have a say on what he gets to eat is just not right. Yeah. He probably deserves it but to a certain extent. Everyone has different ways for dealing with stress. She had to take medicine; he writes to Hello Counselor. Both of them are wrong.
I aggre with you, both are wrong, but both, not only the women ^^
that story reminded me yet again not to judge a person or a situation if I don't have the full story from both sides! of course two wrongs don't make a right, but at least there's a reason for her current behavior..
I think this show was a good idea to make his wife realize that she doesn't have to punish him anymore.. Hani said the best thing.. stop dwelling on the past since your husband has already changed, and start enjoying your present..
ferMADify av.
The second problem: I think that this family needs professional help already. Their problem are based on deep wounds, and it would take more than an episode to conquer. But I’m happy bc this episode gave them the opportunity to talk about what they feel. I hope it doesn’t go downhill from there, but instead use this as a stepping stone to understand each other’s wishes
The third problem: Racism traumatizes people like it did on the guy. I love Hani’s and Hyelin’s statements. I couldn’t have said it better. Korea is still battling against racism. So let’s work together so it won’t become a worry again :)
I think this is my favorite episode so far, the first one hits really really close to home and I totally understand. The thing is that with all these people who caused the problem, there's always a bigger story behind it. So even though it might sound like the person is totally bad, you can't judge right away because there's more to it than you think. This episode really made me cry and I hope the best for all of them.😌
i think you're all judging the second kid a bit too hard, yeah he's rude and ungrateful but it's obvious that probably all kinds of reasons to be like that build up in him over the years, besides it seems that he just grew up that way, he said himself that the parents fought a lot and he was always by himself, no surprised that he's introverted and doesn't know how to show emotion very well. also the parents are old and brother is probably older than him a lot, who knows what he all went through when he was younger considering the fact that brother doesn't talk to them at all, that's hella weird if you ask me there's no way there's not a bigger reason behind that. you can't judge a person that hard based on an edited tv show meant for entertaining.
shiotan im from that kind of family. im a girl and only child 23 yo, ever since little i never feel happy in my family, my father often fight with mom, and yell at us. i got beaten too, we never go to family holiday (there was once when i was in playground i dont remember),
then other ones when my mom pity cause i never go to the zoo, but use her money cause my dad dont have money. even then he always has angry face cause long drive hour. by this story you would thought my family is poor, lol. i live comfortable, bec my mom save money and buy gold long time ago, and gold price go up. but dad doesnt know cause if he knew he will never gave us money again.
my dad has quite high salary, so he gave us ok, but when im in elementary/middle school sometimes dad doesnt give money, idk why but i remember mom cried in bathroom.
now i know why, HE CHEATED ON MY MOM, he has another family and son now 8th grade. by calculation my dad start to cheat when im only in elementary.
thats why he never home, i dont mind cause i hate him anyway since high school, when he came home he seems irritated and never smile, sometime picks fight too, so i often pretend to sleep so i dont have to talk to him.
shiotan in conclusion i grew up lonely, i dont believe in love, if i had to chose i dont want to be born, its unfair how i dont have happiness in childhood, cause i sneak on my dad's phone and i see him smile on picture over her mistress family holiday vacation (which he never gladly gone with us)
*dad thinks we dont know over him cheat*
cause im only child, all those sadness pent up and i used to cried alone on room. my mom doesnt know, all i have is my mom. i have no will to live, i have plans after my mom died im gonna kill myself (i dont care for my dad)
so its not all son's fault. we all grew up differently and be grateful if you have warm family.
shiotan im not good with word lol, so it might be confusing to read whats the problem, im being ungrateful, etc. theres a lot more other incident but im tired typing
Pollar9427 just saying sometimes fate is really a bitch . I really hope you will find happiness.
coz it exists.
They said good things take time .
kagss my cousin was from a broken family. my uncle and auntie divorced and eventually had different families. my cousin, at such a young age, learned to fend for herself (though she was also getting help from us and from our grandma from time to time). she had all the reasons in the world to go berserk and hate everyone and ruin her life, but she didn't. she decided not to hate the world and just made sure to give herself a better life. she made sure to finish college and she's now working in a global company, holding a high position. i mean, i am telling this story because even though you have the baddest of childhood or had lived with the evilest of people, who you are and how you treat other people later in life is still your own decision and responsibility. your past has nothing to do with it. this is why i think the son in the second concern deserves no empathy. he wanted justification for his wrongdoings. no matter what the dad did in the past, the son is now living in the present. why keep on bringing the bad to the present when he can already make beautiful new memories..?
Am I the only one who don't find it normal to be beaten because you can't memorize a multiplication table ? You can scold your child, ground him but beating him... isn't it a little bit too much ? (I know about cultural diffrencies, but it still shocks me)
In countries like that we just laugh it off xD bcoz its just a scloding its not that serious
i got scolded so much as a kid, but looking back its good cause it learned me to respect my parents. BUT alot of people that hasnt gotten beaten is alot more dissrespectful, its not that serious
I got beaten. My teacher had a thin dried sellotaped sugarcane stick she named Love. She'd whip us and then tell us its because she loved us and wanted us to be good , talented people. Considering I later became number one I don't mind as much coz it only happened a few times but I did feel sorry for the other kids who were slow to learn and got whipped almost everyday.
It might be cultural, like I said. In my country, teachers can't beat kids, it's not allowed. And I never was beaten but learned respect. A slap, I can understand, but to inflict pain, I don't, sorry xD (but it is a cultural thing)
Yes its a cultural thing. I grew up i village so even though beating is against the law, it didn't really matter . Everybody knew everybody and because my parents and grandparents were beaten as students, they didn't really mind me getting beaten( if reasonable) because they deem it a necessary right of passage as a student.
What worries me about this show is that many times the guests will disregard and issue and say that "oh once they talk it out they'll be fine" or "now they have know the problem they can start working on the problem" However, there's no guarantee they will actually do so. Sure there are some instances where it looks like they possibly could but most of the time I see the person looking so smug and refusing to acknowledge the problem. If anything they only show some type of cooperation since they are on national TV. Especially with the issues regarding racism, most of the guest don't see it as a concern and say oh since you're on the show and you've made yourself known I'm sure no one will judge you again. Lol racism is not that simple, of it could be solved like that there would not be racist in the first place. Idk my issue is just how lightly most guests take these issues and think how they could be so simply solved when they're not the ones going home with the people they have a problem with
vivian tran FRRR. It always annoys me when a foreigner comes on the show and EVERYTIME they say "oh it's fine you just have to love yourself and after people see this they will change their minds, i dont think it's a worry" It feels like they dont care at all. They seem to be really ignorant and not get the struggle I was of course expecting Eli and Hyerin to not sympathize because they don't understand it. This is such a big problem in korea and they take it so lightly... Cutting his shoes up? Really now? wtf. I'm filipino/chinese and I feel like I'll be so discriminated when I come to Korea which is what my plan is. But people take it so lightly because they don't seem to get the struggle mixed races or foreigners go through. Also they never want to talk negatively about korean reality. Racism IS a problem just like all other social problems in korea. This really needs to be fixed
exactly, like I'm vietnamese and I get hella judged whenever I'm in koreatown and most of the koreans at my highschool really looked down on all the other students just bc of race. Like I know not all koreans are like that but racism is a problem because of the lack of diversity in Korea makes it really strong there. And the guests ALWAYS disregard the foreign guest as well as the hosts. I'm sure they think they are just being as understanding as possible but all they do is just gasp from shock and be like "wow didnt know koreans could be like this wtf" and then afterwards say "people will change their minds once they get to know you". And every time you can see the foreigner looks disappoint AF bc their problem still exists.
vivian tran PREACHHH
The man with his wife and daughter are so funny, I can't 😂😂😂
I'm really glad that the first concern wasn't a one sided thing for a family for once! So the husband and wife are basically switching sides? Interesting...
I guess more affection needs to be shown, that's all.
And their kid is really smart! 👍
I think it's very problematic the way a lot of foreigners are treated in Korea, but I liked the advice that Dongyeop gave the guy in 3rd concern in how to deal with people that may have a certain type of prejudice against his looks especially for those that are ethnic Korean, but appear more non Korean. I really love Korea, and overall I would just like to see foreigners treated better in general. It's still obviously a work in progress as change doesn't happen overnight, but I have faith it will get there one day.
I love how they slipped that little 'Ah Yeah' in after the girls danced xD
I was just watching Hani funny compilation videos yesterday and the guest is her?! This is fate XD
Do Koreans really treat foreigners badly? I have heard it somewhere too :(
It's because of where he lives (the place of the country). But people in big cities, like Seoul or Busan, are actually very nice, or don't mind foreigners. Yet, some can be very rude (mostly old adults, +60 years old)
Kookie'S cookie : But the guy says that he was beaten in high school, and i saw a tv show one time where sistar's hyorin said she was bullied in school because her skin is tanned.
The younger generation is maybe a little more nicer but just a little. And i'm just shocked that everyone at the show find normal that koreans treat the guy like that just bcs they think he is a foreigner.
That's horrible.
Chloé Le Yannou It's because of where he's from (small town).
Alem Pongen tbh it depends from my experience they weren't that bad
I was a foreigner in Korea (nonetheless a black foreigner) and I've had some negative comments directed toward me from multiple age groups. But it was never a daily occurrence, just every now and then.
I think the 2nd problem is miscommunication between parents and their children. When you already comfortable being alone, you will feel hard to express your feelings and thoughts. Parents aren't always right and children aren't always wrong. They have to compromise.
Just a reminder!!!
For parents, when the husband and wife relationship is not good, the impact is not only on the relationship of the two. But also the lives and mindset of their children.
I found the last guy attractive! Omg the way he talks and his personality! Damn
THANK YOU KBS FOR ALWAYS UPLOADING WITH ENGLISH SUBTITLES!!!
I grow in a really strict family, so I've always used to get beat. Since I was a little kid. And for things even smaller than memorizing the multiplication table. And on top of that, I never got an apology or a hug after the beat. So I can say it was a hard time for me. I got beat until I was 15, then my mom eventually stopped doing it making it sound as if she was so considerate because she stopped doing it. I've heard only like 3 I love you from my mom ever. I only got my dad and even so there were times were he would be to drunk to help me. What I'm saying is, he got it way better. His dad used to ask for forgiveness and tried to involve more in his life. I hated my mom for a long time, but I then realized that that's the way she was raised, she didn't know better, and she was trying her best to make of me a good person. Because of her, I didn't become a drug addict or an alcoholic like most of my school friends. It wasn't the best way, and I sure as hell won't raised my kids like that, but I've learnt to forgive and forget. It was hard to do so because the aftermaths live with you for years, I think I'm still a bit careful and distant with the way I treat her, but I would never do such a thing a shut her out for 10 years. They're doing their best, even if is not the best way.
MJ Tuan Youre story Its just the Same as me I thought I was the only One 😭😭💔💔💔
Hannah Tenten we are not the only ones, a lot of people is going through all of this. But it feels nice to actually know someone that understands what it feels like.
lolz, the difference between the kid who didn't care for his parents and the kid who didn't want to trouble his grandparents....the one guy should be so ashamed.
SuJu_Mimi luv ur picture
Tania Woodhouse thanks, haha XD
SuJu_Mimi Wonho! yes they should take afrom each sides that 1st son needs to learn some manners and appreciation
That second guy is going to have soo many regrets when he gets older and his parents are no longer with him..He'll never get a girlfriend or a wife b/c he's disrespectful to his parents..thats one of the biggest turn offs about a prospective spouse..How they treat their parents is usually how they'll treat you.
I understand the son in the second concern,seeing your parents fight and have this negative vibe in the house will sure make you an introvert,i barely talk to my sisters or mum. I stay in my room on my phone all day or sleep if i'm not at college. I'm not saying he's being a good son or i'm being a good daughter but parents don't even try to understand how much a word or an action can affect a child till they grow up and mostly see themselves as the victim. Where they are at fault as well. It frustrated me how they don't understand the son but i did,you can't understand someone if you haven't lived through it.
I want a husband like the guy in the first concern. I don't understand why guys like that love such horribly selfish women.
Denizen same with girls... that's where the term fuck boy comes from
Denizen He started it first now she just wants him to know how it feels
Well the woman mentioned that her husband was cold and super patriarchal. She even became depressed and took pills for it. Both of them have their faults.
she's mad with him, she suffered a lot before :c
Even if he was, he obviously isn't now so holding a grudge is pointless and counterintuitive. However, it is partially his fault for enabling her dismissive behavior.
Not gonna lie I clicked on this thinking it was L.E., Hani, and Hyelin. I thought somebody just screwed up the names. Good to know it was actually Eli from U-Kiss though. Nice to see him here.
just googleit Innn
You shouldn't be friend with the people that make fun of your parents's job tbh.
The first story was the cutest thing I've ever seen. The way it ended too
No one told the first guest's wife that if she says that men usually takes cares of the cars, doesn't that mean she would have to take care of the house chores because she's a women? NO ONE POINTED THAT OUT
he should divorce her butt seriously i hate ppl who are me me me i i i attidude
You could tell Hyerin got a little angry. I knew I wasn’t the only one to notice.
A good episode released on parents day with relateable stories for some. The jobless son really made me want to fight him through the screen, I really can't stand ungrateful people and still he had the cheek to act cocky? Yes, he has that image of how his family were when he was younger and his dad hitting him for not memorizing but seeing your parents work everyday whilst you do nothing is really not fair on them, hes living a comfortable life.
He is working lol and those beatings most likely happened a lot more then once...
22:06 HYELIN 😂😂😂 istg her laugh is adorable xD
Hello Koreans
I'm a Filipino and a newly fan of this show
I only click the play button because of mamamoo but I started to like it
This show makes me cry and laugh always
This shows gives more lessons from the reality of your country which is almost the same problem of every family
Sorry for my english
wow! I love Hani so much! i have heard her mum's stories that i now say them with her!
2nd concern the family needs a proper meeting and sort things out! wow this is more than just an hello counselor worry! those who are supposed to apologize should apologize and start afresh together happily before it's to late!
It's weird to me that it's so normal in Korea to get beaten by your parents, like they didn't even think it was weird... it's probably just the cultural difference but still...
Aida It's normal in a Black and Latino household
it's also normal in philippines.
also normal in Indonesia
Its normal everywhere except for the West
As the comment before me said it's really common in Asia..
of the second case, I don´t think that getting beaten was the real reason of the son for not speaking to his dad because although is wrong I don´t think is a traumatic event, doesn´t make sense, i mean like is not something horrible, this seem so trivial for me , I think there are much worse things, maybe because I have had so many hardships. BUT I think that SOMETHING MORE happened, something really bad , that make the son this way, he obviously refuse his dad, and if you look at his way of talking he seems really shy, I´m sure something bad happened...
grissell anahi lopez incio who knows? everyone are different. This guy from my school left his home bc he had argument with his parents, now his parents are so desperate and ready to do anything for him.It's been a month he has still not come home. My female cousin had this argument with my uncle in someone's wedding reception and it's been three years they haven't spoken to each other. My point being there are people who take a grudge no matter how small or stupid it may be an hold on to it. This is more of pride issue tbh. Best would be to go to a professional.
Could be true. Whoknows? My dad abused me emotionally and mentally then buy me things so i can fogive him. He still does it and now wont visit his grandson unless he can publiclly boast about it.... He only cares when someone important will be there.
im ending crying watching the father working hard but her children desrespect him
That little girl from the 1st worry must watch the news alot
I always smile as soon as I hear the intro of each Hello Counselor video, but then I feel like slapping the people who are the cause of these concerns. lol
Honestly, the first couple should probably divorce. She clearly doesn't love her husband anymore, she resents him too much for what she went through without his help. If she constantly loses her temper with the daughter, it's likely she resents her too, even if it's unintentional.
ok the first one is so cute he seriously loves his wife and I cant I hope my husband loves me this much even after 10 yrs
Hani is so beautiful! Hope to see her more on variety shows!
Its makes me cry when his dad give him a word, oh please brother pls be good to your parents be nice to them, please love your parents and please don't hurt thier fellings anymore, love them both ok😍😍
The second concern made me cry and honestly I'm at like the son In a way but maybe he tries to shy away from the problems and makes as if he didn't have any but shows it when he ignores them. But I see the parents actively showing their love and the problem and how they regret things so I hope he tries harder!
Hyerin is so precious. When she cried, I cried.
What an awesome episode. Hani is so cute lol
THIS IS SUCH A GOOD SHOW. Good job KBS for having smart and funny hosts! been watching this from KBS CHANNEL for 5 years... love it.. -Fr PHILIPPINES
Eli did well here! He spoke well and gave good advice! I’m glad to see him in more shows I hope he does well honestly!!!! Eli and his family r adorable💕
the second story made me teared up so much!😭it was so freaking sadd😭😭
i feel so bad for his parents.... he didn't talk to his father but how much more important can useless video games be compared to parents who just want a bit of your attention... I'm glad that they went to hello counselor since I'm sure that there will be many regrets when his parents are gone
If there is one thing this show has taught me it is that family's need to talk to each other. People need to talk to each other and openly express their feelings if something is making you unhappy. There's no point to collect years being unhappy when you could talk it out and change your life.
A lot of people I know just lock themselves in their room because we've forgotten how to properly talk to each other face to face. Cell phones and the internet have done that. We have to balance out the scale of our online communication with in person interactions.
The second concern was really sad... We're viewing their problems from a stranger's point of view since we don't really know what may have happened. Talking about what may have really happened isn't easy to do in front of so many people. Each family have their own part of secrets and issues but I hope that this family will find a way to start talking again.... I felt somehow happy when the father and son hugged each other ^^
First concern I think now both have experienced the pain from each other the best they can do now is work together and get better and treat each other equally and help each other! They honestly love each other and they can do it! I hold grudges too but when I talk about the matter and they understand too, I feel like i can move on.
the guy in the last concern is so cute tho wtf
i actually cried watching the second concern 😭😭 especially when the son made things worst by saying he's embarrassed of his dad's job he's comfortable with not talking with his dad etc
i can see the father's face darkens because he tried so hard to fix their relationship but their sons just didn't feel that way
i get that maybe the son too felt some pain as a child but their parents raised him he should at least be thankful and happy of them
For the last concern, I do not agree with the fact that people don't see the problem as a concern. I mean this is absolutely not a problem with his self confidence!! First how could he be confident about himself if people keep judging him or look a t him in bad way?! That is a huge problem that their society need to face! And this is a big concern because people actually don't see it as a problem! I really feel bad for that guy because he has to struggle with everyday. *(sorry my broken english, not a native)*
omg when the mom in the second concern talks about/to her older son at the end, I couldn't help but cry
i kind of understand the son from 2nd concern tho'.
i think he wants to do better but its hard, feel he cant make it and the parents kind of pessimistic towards him too and suggest him to do something he doesnt want to, and video games is how he is coping with the situation. you dont know how hard it is to talk to parents when you have a lot of bad memories from past, he is coping so he wont get hurt by avoiding the situation. he wants to talk but his voice cant come out because he is afraid and shy i guess. i understand the parents feel sorry too, so i really hope they can do better. i hope the son can open his heart. i believe he loves them, it just hard to say it out loud. he need to forgive and apologizing to them and move on.
The 2nd concern😔...I genuinely hope they heal has a family. I'm glad they came to get help because another decade of silence could easily lead to regret
je ne comprend pas le coréen ni l'anglais mais j'adore regarder Hani 💖et Hyerin💖 EXID suis fan, from france.
I love you EXID💖
I'm eating while watching and when he lifted his dad like that I actually spit out my food while laughing, for the first time in my 18 years of life
I had never experienced that before
I noticed that people whose lives revolve around games tend to be empty of emotions and dont care about family bonds.
I can relate so much to the second story.. my parents fight heaps and now we have our grandfather who has dementia living with us, my dad's a huge narcissist, everything he does is right, everything anyone else does is wrong, he shouts SO much at my grandfather when he forgets something or asks repeated questions.. I honestly feel like blocking him out of my life.. its so hard to live with.
It's sad that eli's marriage turned out to be a flop, he should've listened to his parents but at the same time when you're in love you want to do everything quickly :(
Aweee the first one was actually so cute!!! (after i watched all of it)
Slowly taejoon is getting scared to get married 😂😂 aaww
The first problem: I can see that if they fix their communication, and understand each other’s personalities, they can work it out. The best part is that the couple looks willing to do it :)
Omg my heart broke for the father damn he works as a taxi driver so he can feed his fucking bad son and he is ashamed???? Omg
Nabisab yup i second ur opinion he is ashamed bcoz of his father's job but not ashamed to spend the same money which he earned thru it....n young boy's concern..i seriously dn get this whats wrong being foreigner is that koreans treat foreigners from other country sum jabs here n thr i can understand but seeing hello counsler since years i got that koreans wud b the most prejudice people in world..hoping young generation (like this young guy)ll make change in their society n ll b more open minded..
Nabisab Me too ;(( !
Nabisab in my own opinion, nothing in life comes for free! I wonder what else the father did for his son to feel that way towards him! Idk that's just me
Stephanie Kim but i think if he did somethinf he wouldnt be brave enough to come to the peogram, and the boy's beating story was a big excuse bcoz its not a big deal especially in korea to beat your kid and even if it was a big deal for the boy he wouldnt be like that bcoz he is a human and hearts of human heal even a little bit when they hear (sorry) from other person, so i think of anything else happened the boy wouldnt keep quiet bcoz he used everything as an excuse so if something else happened won't it be easier for him to say it and shut everyone on the program?
Nabisab maybe he doesn't want to reveal everything to the whole world, and I know it ain't a big deal... I'm just saying hate and coldness is not free you have to earn it.
in the first story i was dead when he asked him "when you're having an intimate time with your wife do you do what she tells you" do you do wht your wife tells you?😂😂😂
I am a simple girl. If I see Hyerin and Hani in a thumbnail, I click.
My brother is rebelious too. But i thank God he acknowledges our parents oftentimes.
Okay, the husband wasn't right to neglect his family in the beginning, but that's no excuse for the wife to treat him like that when he's changed. I get that she had a really hard time, and I would side with her if the husband hadn't changed his ways after seeing how bad things were. Her attitude is toxic, it's not even her aloofness -it's her mistreating him and dominating him. He shouldn't let her do that either, like firmly say "No we can't just move the family to a small island for you to open up a small restaurant -we need to discuss this." Like what if their daughter turns out to just expect other people to be the same? No one's going to run around and get water for her and wait until she's done drinking it to put it back in the sink. Marriages are complicated AF, and you need compromising on BOTH sides -not just one. That's just unfair.
TBH the second concern hit close to home as my dad was also a taxi driver at one point so he could provide us in a new country but I have never thought that I would see someone who is ashamed of their father due to their love for the family to work as a taxi driver just so the children can get what they want
His friend teased him about his father's job. Does his friend feed him after all this time? Does his friend pay his food that he always eat alone in his room? I hope that boy can quickly realized that kind of friends won't take care of him when he's sick or misfortunate, people who love him will do that. But I also don't really agree with his father too, he turned down his son's dreaming. Human is not always be a child, they will grown up into adult, which they have to be responsible for themself. I too have a friend who his father thinks like that. He was in despair because he know he can do well at certain things, but his father didn't let him be. Fortunately my friend can see a small chance for himself, try to work harder on that while doing his father's favour. Now he's success and motivated people to not let go of their dream. :-) Being a good parent is not easy I know... with that dad's occupation, maybe he's just simply want his son live well.
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i am sorry, but as a Malaysian, personally i think his face look from Malaysian or Thailand. he's handsome tho
woahh know i am worried if our people from Malaysian or Thailand get bullied if they go study to korea
for the first concern i think she does love him but has trouble expressing love (like she said lol), also she seems like the independent type? like i get why she'd want to do her own thing but maybe just a few words of affection for her husband would make him feel better. just to let him know she does love him. she seems to have plans and she only means the best but talking things out with her husband should be the first thing she does when making big decisions for the family. i'm not like this but she just seems like the type who likes to do things quickly (and thoroughly) and like if she makes a choice she won't back down on it. like a very strict and straightforward kind of person
just tell me why To be honest, she is being spiteful because of how she was treated. I think she is vengeful. Women can be very cool about their vengeance. The one thing he wants, she won't give. She's doing it on purpose. I understand her feelings but if she is not careful she will chase him aways. Marriage is about forgiveness and compromise. If you can't do either then why continue in a marriage. I think that now that she has voiced her feelings, it will get better. She should do that from now on.
just tell me why stlipw
The first concern is a mess and how they are acting like the wife is right in the way she is treating her husband is too. She was depressed when they had their child, likely post partum, I understand that. But he did quit his job, he did see the error in his ways for her to just think he should be her servant now is just trash. You dont treat people you love that way.
The second concern was rough. I felt the parents pain so much.
I love the kid in the last concern. I hope he is living his best life.
why are guys complaining doing house chores and serve women when women have been doing that since forever, mistreated, looked down upon, powerless, etc. seeing other male mc getting angry just shows how much guys values themselves over women as always. They think these tasks are women's. this is messed up and unfair af
Siriapa Suriwong house chores should be slit between the couple but go off i guess
When Seo Hyerin cried,m , I almost cry too 😢
i just wish they didn't ask the last guy to change himself. He did nothing wrong. It's the korean mentality of how they treat foreigners that should change. Discriminating someone because you are not of the same race is never okay and should always be addressed thoroughly and correctly when counseling.
Being Asian.. Western mentality is the same when it comes to discrimination.. it’s the universal thing unfortunately.. sigh..
@@RT-xv3js You're right. Discrimination doesn't have a race. Its.... an illness of some sort.
I'm still on 23:37 and I can't help but smile cause the little girl wants to move to the Philippines (Boracay) however, I must warn you there are also a lot of pollution here especially in urban places.
No offense but everybody on the panel or in the audience that acted surprised by people treating the third guy wrong because they think he's a foreigner must be willfully blind. Like you can't be this oblivious in the year 2017. Other people have come out on shows to talk about this multiple times. Like open your eyes people the world is fucked up.
My lil brother also didnt talk to my father after my mom died in 2006. Since then he change and became more quiet. We tried everything but nothing change.
She's taking her revenge 😂
Dong yeop's words at the end were so wise wowww
i felt bad for the parents its time for you take care of them when they get old I hope it works out for them
Kyaah! Boracay is in the Philippines! I just want to warn them that air pollution is also a problem in philippines and it's actually hot in the philippines I think there are only 2 seasons, rainy and summer...haha
Everyone are coming in such exaggerated conclusion about the second concern. Don't look this in western perspective this is definately not the case of molestation, south korea is pretty homophobic and even if that was the case why would the father come to a national show when could've continued with his daily life. This is more of pride issue tbh. I can understand this family quite well since such things have happened within my family as well. My cousin had this argument with my uncle in this wedding receptionist and bc of that they haven't been talking to each other till now which is almost 3 years. I know many more such inccidents and i live in south Asia. No matter how small or stupid the issue sounds to us there are some people who take it to their heart. Best would be to seek professional help.
Their daughter is so beautiful like wow her skin is sooo smooth