3 Strategies for Turning Boys into Men (in a society that doesn’t want them to)
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- THIS is how we raise our boys into men in a society that doesn’t want them to.
Men, we’ve got to step up!
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Growed up without a father.
Making an effort to learn masculinity by myself
Jyan Machia Welcome to the majority 😂
Jyan Machia Same here brother.
Jyan Machia I have a father, but i do not spend much time with him, so we're on similar boats
The great thing about your comment is you can decide what kind of man you want to be. That's what I did for myself in the same situation. This guy will help you along the right path.
More power to u bro
Finally TH-cam recommended something that wasn’t a waste of my time
Fr this is what TH-cam should be like
Right
A glitch in the TH-cam algorithm, somehow this got through. Very happy it did!!
Remember when youtube was good? Remember oney?
Cole Rakocy facts
I would add a 4th:
Stay educated, well informed, and learn to think critically.
Critical thinking is probably the most important...then they'd realize how dumb this dude's rant is lmao
@@QuinnTheChin
I don't think he has bad intentions.
The delivery could have been a little more refined, but the message is not negative.
@@TheMonrrou it's not overtly negative, but the entirety of it is a misunderstanding of the arguments surrounding toxic masculinity and, in general, what it means to be masculine. Masculinity is a loaded word and by demanding that boys be more masculine, we're implying that 'feminine' things are lesser. Women make up roughly 50%-- how are we supposed to discount that? (And that's to say that women are all feminine; they're not) Further, a lot of our masculine traits are determined be culture. The Iroquois, for example, were governed by women. Would they be saying that men had no room in their politics? Wouldnt their conceptions of 'femininity' (and masculinity) be very different? If we look at other cultures, it becomes painfully obvious that these things (masculinity and femininity) are culturally constructed, and if we're limiting the contributions of half the population, then isnt our culture wrong? Clinging to masculinity is ridiculous and the idea of "turning boys to men" through masculinity is contributing to a toxic culture, one that devalues the feminine, one that stupidly indoctrinates people with corrupted media and leaves us with garbage like this-- a dude trying to make up for his high voice with a beard and a rant about being a 'man'
- a guy
Let's just teach our kids something
That our parents didn't, to make them better than us
I give props to all my professors rn who preach critical thinking 👌
Looking at his beard just turned me into a man.
Pussy grows hair too ya know
@@asquideatingdough5347 Damn my dude that's some deep shit
@@RoachCutscenes Exactly, *deep* .
Dick Face Your face is a dick
Cringe
We should teach more about toxic feminity of today.
Or just tell em to shut the hell up and stop listening to nonsense.
Ignore it. Move on.
just Marcin DAY UMM straight
i was literally just going to type this. the real issue is toxic femininity brother. its a real bad problem in america today
The damage has been done with women it is what is I predict by 2030 women will be played out because of the introduction of the artificial womb U can’t unfuck over 100 years of feminism but what u can do as good men is help boys become men with red pill of knowledge of how the world really works trying to change women is like trying to talk to a wall your wasting your time spend your time helping boys and men cuss remember it’s us against everyone else NO ONE gives a Fuck about us brotherhood is all we have left
1. Be a Dad
2. Be a Father Figure
3. Be in a Leadership Position and Role.
:)
And... teach them how to grow big beards*
1. Don't be an incel hating women and blaming society for your inability to succeed
2. Well, that's it actually.
4. Be the authority for your children
you forgot that
What if you dont have a dad
Dunford00 if length of facial hair is your benchmark of manhood then odds are you’re a pussy
My dad taught me that man works hard, he provides for his family, and gives generously of his time to his family and others, he is not ashamed to admit when hes wrong, and most importantly I would say, my dad taught me that a man is honest, and that a man does what he says he will do.
I’m a strong, well educated, independent woman and I agree 100% with what you’re saying. Telling a 5 year old that they’re toxic is terrible, and will do more harm than anything. My father was a tough, old school man who worked his ass off for my brothers and me. He made me feel safe, confident, and loved. He also taught me how to fight off an attacker, shoot a gun, change the oil in my car, change a tire, and gave me a toolbox and a handgun when I got my first apartment. He showed my brothers how to be “real” men; good, strong, self sufficient men who treat their wives and other women with respect but don’t apologize for who they are. Boys need men around them. If it’s not their father then other men should step in.
I wish everyone had a dad like mine.
Strong, well-educated, independent? You're also very humble, aren't you?
Gerbil Abuser you completely missed the point. I’m all of those things because of my father and the way I was raised.
@@unndunn1 lol, so you're totally dependent then on your papa?
Gerbil Abuser I feel sorry for you. Have a nice day
@@unndunn1 that's how a real man responds to a internet troll ... you proved your point
Watched this and now my dog isn't a good boy anymore. *He's a good MAN*
CrustyMilk slept on 💀
Underrated
Only in your mind. He can be a good boy but, its impossible for him to become a good man. Either it IS or it ISN'T in my world. 🇺🇸✌🙏👍
@@georgehutcheson9679 what?
CrustyMilk 😂😂😂😂😂. I seriously can't stop laughing
"Who makes a boy into a man
It's the job of another man
Who knows his role as a father
He bothers to give his son his soul" - Chuck D, 1991
Boys need to be taught how to forcibly sodomize communists like Fredo Cuomo!
I am currently and have grown up without a father figure.
Steel sharpens steel.
Society looks down on men. I’m going through a custody battle with my ex and the judge already hates be without even knowing me.
Christian Javier look up Misandry Today, the guy went through 2 custody battles and won. He should have some tips for you
I hope you get your kids bro stay strong brother
Christian, the system is prejudice against men in general, and minorities. My grandson at 15 has criminal record that no "white" or female would ever be charged with. I have seen the system change since the 1950s, and it's not really getting better. Good luck to you.
Im from brazil, having the same problem here bro, went to the audience, when i walked in and saw 4 women i knew right there i was fucked. Good luck.
No he hates you cause you beat her ass in front of your kid . Lmao
Glad this wasn’t a rant about “toughening kids up” with what mostly could be described as breaking them down with bullying until they turn into bitter hateful angry people. I agree that kids in general need guidance in matters like this as otherwise they can be suddenly overwhelmed by the stresses of adulthood. I agree that without a positive male role model they can take the wrong path. My dad wasn’t about much when I was young but the father’s of my close friends were good role models who helped shape me into what I am today.
You don't toughen someone up by bullying them if your talking about stopping your sons growing up to be pussies then it's not bullying
I think thats the shit that makes the femmies call masculinity toxic. Some think masculinity is being a big chest beatinbg loud mouth bully.
@@jakenicholaides3214 yall have some backwards 1950s thinking.
If a boy wants to play with a pink car let him.
@@steve00alt70 I AGREE
Agreed!. Seen so many boys, or men broken down to a mere shell in the name of “toughening up”. Tough people don’t become tough because they were abused. It’s total bullshit when I hear that. Discipline is a whole other thing.
It's so hard trying to be a man when your father was clearly a boy.
Killakommie Foyomommie Great comment man, but change your name so more People can seriously accept your Message and put the work in which is needed 💪🏻
.Go to the Bible
.God is your Father
.He has lots of insight he shares in the Holy Bible
Matt Montegomery yes! Or a baby
I don't know. It just came naturally to me.
Matt Montegomery ye
I’m 16 but I’m going to remember this video for a long time
Would you look at that I thought I was one of a kind
Moses Devadass Same bro
Same brother
Ace Degenerate your comment is dumb
@Ace Degenerate you judge the guy because he'd rather spend time with his kid than trying to keep uo with the Jones. Great
It's refreshing to see someone talking about masculinity on youtube, without being a mgtow or pick up artist.
Mgtow was just a response to the extremist feminism currently plaguing us. There's no such thing as toxic masculinity though.. masculinity is beautiful.
As a woman I find this awesome.
Ryan Holidays book, “the obstacle is the way” got me through one of the hardest moments in my life. I would listen to it over and over on Audible for days. I recommend it. Hearing the quotes from stoic philosophers makes me feel strong and limitless. And it got me to realize that the secret to making a million is making better investment.
I started out with a financial advisor called *" Rochelle Dungca Schreiber ".* Her honest approach gives me complete ownership and control of my positions, and her rates are incredibly affordable given my ROI. However, do your due diligence before contacting a financial advisor.
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Step it up gentlemen, we got this. Peace.
iceman4154 wait, what?
@@iceman4154 💪🏽💪🏽💪🏽
iceman4154 okay let’s take a chill pill. There are good woman
Edit: not many but there definitely are good women
@@iceman4154 Is that what you think about your mother, sister or friends as well? It's funny, I can't tell if you're being serious 😂 Acting and thinking this way is seriously helping to isolate from the problems instead of coming together to understand and solve them.
@@Chronorust I believe masuclinity is getting a bad rep because you have the worse ones preaching it. Kind of like christianity
They already have been teaching 5 year old boys about "toxic masculinity" through TV, movies, music, and in school. Often not overtly, but very subtlely and often.
That's true. The only things kids are learning are the extremes. Hollywood shows them either extremely aggressive men or incompetent and homosexual men.
Sooner or later, you gotta show your kid the bible and explain how the world is evil and run by the devil.
Mark Flierl good observation. Yes. All to subtle.
You need to counter that. Find male mentors for your son. And become a mentor to him. You need to show him that it's great to be a boy and a man. That the bullshit political propaganda doesnt care about his well being in the long run. Masculinity is something that we need in this world. Without it we are as good as done as a species.
True story bro
Crazy how much more relavent this is a year later.
A. Ross Official 😂😂😂😂😂
Little did you know this was needed for at least 20 years now
it’s not, only triggered conservatives think this is relevant. masculinity is a construct so the idea that theres something inherently essential to learning to be a man is stupid
@@secondeye1574 No wonder you have no name.
@@steampunkastronaut7081 no wonder you have no argument
4th: watch 70's, 80's and 90's action movies with him
Dragonball Z dude. Epitome of manliness.
Arnold Schwarzenegger, Sylvester Stallone, Bruce Willis, Kurt Russel.. them old action movies are testosterone in film form lol. I remember hitting 10 years old and convincing my Father I was finally ready for 18 rated movies and watched Commando, Predator and Soldier back to back. That was a good day lol.
Emphasis on the 80's and 90's.
Yes let him watch: A Bronx Tale
Just watch Charles Bronson movies
This is 100% accurate. I am a paraprofessional to a boy with a lot of anger issues, which therapists were claiming he was emotional unstable and put him on prescription drugs. After I began working with him, of course with a lot of patience because he was constantly angry and defiant, he matured and no longer needs meds or the help of his therapist to cope. He has no father and I knew that this had to be the root of his problem, with me by his side he felt like he had that leader there to guide him. He is now working hard in his studies and is taking his time to work on his low temperament. I've been a great help to this boy and we have developed the much needed Father/Son bond he desperately needed. Men aren't so bad in the world after all.
Glad you're working on this important issue.
Get him in martial arts
scott Kelley Agreed. Athletics as a whole is a great step, not only is it good for their health, but they can form friendships and bonds in a friendly and competitive community. I took Taekwondo when I was young and it really helped me a ton and later I moved on to Jiu Jitsu, Boxing, Kickboxing, and MMA.
Rafa Mart they never where so bad... society wants them to look and be bad so they can control them easier..
God bless you for your patience and insight..... you have probably saved this young man's life.... greetings from
Bellows Falls, Vermont
My nephew didn't have a dad around so I was his father and friend when he had no father figure I taught him everything I could from being a good person, work hard, honest, how to study and get info, fishing, how to fight, workout, eat for health etc... there is alot to being a father figure... number 1 is being there
willy's life 💯💯
You are a good person
That's a good thing you did
That's really great. However, had it been a girl, would that change anything?
@@ramingr no.. we have other neices as well and we show them how to work on cars and change tires and all the stuff the boys know.. girls need to learn what the guys do to. My wife has an automotive degree like me and we both have fishing, hunting camping etc. Back grounds.
I was raised without a father or a male influence in my life. I'm so happy there's people like you doing stuff like this on TH-cam.
My mom does her best but only a man can teach men certain things.
I found myself a good role model on what it's like to be a man and he's got an epic beard to match.
I'm so sorry this man poisoned your brain on what a "REAL" man should. i wish you the best in life. 😀👍✨
@@Jennawatkins73026 what is a real man then?
@@rasheemthebestfirstone3274 never ask a melanie what a man should be like
This is why my boys grew into great young men and why I still respect my father. Dad. Coach. Mentor. Repeat.
And teach them how to do things like home repair and improvements. Teach them how to fix your own dam brakes on their car so they don’t have to pay a huge amount of money for someone else to do it. Teach them to use their hands and not depend so much on other people.
I agree. As a young shy teen, I worked in maintenance with other grown men. It really helps you develop confidence. The knowledge that you can fix things on your own, is something you can’t replace.
And teach them to lift weights and build strength.
"Strong people are harder to kill than weak people and more useful in general."
Mark Rippetoe
@@Savvynomad225 Better make them learn how to fight. Muscles wont make you win a fight if you dont know to fight.
@@ViriatusYT sure. In the process of learning to fight, also learn to get strong. Most of the best fighters are also very strong.
we should teach that to all, not just males, women need to stop being taught to be prissy shits and men to not be as aggressive, women need to pull their weight and men need to stop pulling ALL the weight, that comment is a little sexist towards men in saying only a true man can fix things
A hugely disproportionate amount of America's most deadly mass shooters grew up without a stable father in the home.
Probably because like half the country is divorced
SammyG 123 yep we don’t need less masculinity we need more of it
SammyG 123 right then they want to blame at-15s... a simple tool... over the man problem... BECAUSE THEY STARTED IT!
Tyler Mcflyer indeed or else a more masculine society is gonna blow through our forces and grab this country easy... because feminized men don’t join the armed forces...
Ghost tankcommander Bingo and it’s already happening to Europe
1:04 Wow. The emotions in these eyes. So full of heart, of passion, and a conviction of purpose. That is manly.
"Train up a child in the way he should go: and when he is old, he will not depart from it."
My 15 year old son, who's been homeschooled since 1st grade, is now doing college freshman lesson plans, we work out daily, say the pledge, and pray everyday, at 15 he is certainly more mature than most millenials in their mid 20's living in their parents basement. Good on ya brotha, glad to have found your channel.🇺🇸
Right on!
I was raised fatherless for the most part, and I took it upon myself and joined the military and I think that helped get me on the right track and taught me a lot about manhood
I would agree
Am not a military man not do I agree with politics behind most of it, still I cant deny I've seen more boys grow up to be men they military so there has to be something to it.....
I just have to say, thanks. We need to speak the truth. I was hoodwinked Into thinking my masculinity was toxic for most of my life. It's only in my adult life did I actually realize how deeply I'd been programmed. It hurts you and stunts your growth as a man. Handicaps you even. But recovery is always possible. No matter how you've been traumatized or indoctrinated growing up. Follow your instincts. Seek answers and we get to actually find them.
This man is spitting wisdom. He's got *vision*
That's what men need. Vision
We have vision. Currently that vision is being blurred with the false tears of feminists and the thick smog of Marxism infiltrating western society. It's time to fight back.
Sir, you are being a dad like my dad never was. In 3 or 4 vids that I've seen I learned more than with him. And I'm 19 yrs old
Reminds me of how young male elephants without older male elephants ( killed off by poachers) will be more aggressive and destructive. I grew up without a father (in my case my father died, yet it has some of the same problems of just being neglected) what a burden that can be in the long run just trying to figure things out. Thank God for men who do for their sons in the way you've laid out. If someone brings a life into this world they owe them that much.
Lee Davenport I am not an elephant, I agree. There is differences. Though to learn from other forms of life is always possible. Besides I found it interesting and wanted to share it, seemed like a good spot to bring it up. And life has a way of programming us, I also agree then that I have programming to work through that may be harmful. In fact I agree very much that we (me too of course) can be hypnotized by many things, and believe things without qustion. Did I miss something here with regards a basic attitude or thought? I'm I being one sided? Maybe I sound like I'm saying we should trust blind comformity, just because it is more smiled upon by the group, more tamed? I like Confucius type respect for my elders, to a degree, yet I believe young Chinese began to be manipulated and pushed around unjustly by the tradition at some point. I try not to be black and white on life and there is always context to consider. Thank you for bringing this up, I think there is something there to consider.
Lee Davenport I just want to add that my father died when I was young, he was from a world now gone, I'm 40, he died at 56 in 1987. Cancer. Be for he got real sick he was very hard on me, I believe I was carrying wood twice my sizes around the time I could walk, he was set to make me a man, he would beat on me for the smallest reasons and I spent a lot if time hiding beneath the bed and such. I was 8 when he passed, leaving his education (?) mid driff and me maybe damaged and confused, so I know education of that sort, even with good intention can do harm (you shouldn't beat on a child and one could die without completing the task of making one's son tough, if it is tough, to the brutal sides of life, leaving just a mess). Like wise I hate a billboard in our town of John Wayn which has the quote "I don't like a quiter son" because who knows how someone will take it and be ironically discouraged and estranged from the community instead of encouraged or inspired (another possibility to be fair). Someone paranoid, and broken may be effected by the sign in a way someone with a different circumstance maybe effected. I don't believe that is weak sentiment, but practical consideration, the world is a tower of Bable and real time understanding is always better then generic hype.
4. Dont have children without marriage/relationship
Smart point 👍
@Joe Smith it is honestly.
@Joe Smith amen brother
THIS
@Joe Smith not really
"Be constructive, not destructive". Love this. Thank you
It's hard to turn a boy into a man if he's not even a boy anymore.
huh...good point
lol 😂 that’s fucked and true
I am a sissy boy but I identify as a man with a beautiful boy pussy
Enserio Notemientó hmm yum
@@Spreadingwingsmine you're gay
No more passive tv watching & beer bellies! This guy speaks well of the issues. Thinking well often = speaking well
Respect from Germany 👍 we have the same Problems here
Arguably even worse from my experience at least
Don't worry, your new guests will father the next generation in your absence
Haven't met one single man in germany yet. Just boys trying so hard to be alpha lmao. Why even bother being alpha when u can be the omega
SupaHoon True that, our lovely friends will do that 😡
Germans have to stand strong and as a unit to become the glorious nation we once were (1960-2000‘s)
@@spyfox9796 bro in case you forgot not even the 2 WW could not change The Germans!I live here and I'm convinced that they have more mans per/square meter than anywhere!
Take accountability and responsibility.
Do the right thing.
Be awesome.
Honestly I’m so glad I came across your channel. You speak on the issue so clearly and are a breathe of fresh air that‘s been badly needed. Thank you for sharing!
I woke up one day and my dad was gone, no where to be seen. I am more of a man than he is. When he looks at me he is so ashamed of what he didn't teach me. I am a proud dad of three beautiful girls and they bring out the best of me. My 1 year old is getting the best of me. And you young "men" out there stay with your kids and they will become something amazing. Cherish every day. 🙏
Sweden is like USA but more hardcore liberal. Sweden has taken it to a whole new level so if you want to stop what’s happening over in the States, you need to act fast before it’s to late like it is in Sweden
Wilbur Wafer lmao Sweden is in complete decay now. Overrated asf
@Wilbur Wafer Oh yes, Sweden, the country with one of the highest rape rates in the world.
@Wilbur Wafer Singapore, Japan, Australia, Spain etc but that's besides the point. Everyone is dead inside these days, low paying jobs push people to work longer hours. Ain't nobody got time for family
Wilbur Wafer Sweden is a paradise for leftist scunks and immigrants. Stop saying Sweden is the best country etc. because it’s really not. Everyone with working brain cells can tell that Sweden is a shitty place...
@Wilbur WaferDon't conflate high standards of living with actually living well.
Hell Yes. This is the most important job we have. Keep fighting the good fight bro.
This is one of the greatest videos I've ever watched. I can't thank you enough!
You know Ryan, I think one the most important things on my journey towards true manhood (it's early days yet) has been people like you. People who are preaching the right message, telling boys what manhood looks like. Thank you.
Glad you're with us!
Well spoken sir! God bless you and your family.
I've started this journey a year ago and even though it's not easy at all, I see improvement in my social circle and myself. I'm grateful to see that others are taking notice of the situation that we as a society are in. Thank you!
I'm loving this content....definitely something I'm happy to have found and would love to get involved in what you're doing! Keep up the great work men!
I was talking about this today, how great that I coincidentally came across this video.
Subscribed!
We need more people like you dawg. You explained it beautifully.
Thank you for taking the time to make these videos. Very encouraging. LETS DO THIS
I do exactly the same thing but with my daughters.
I think we are both men and women who show up powerfully to show the how to survive.
As a dad of two young men, I cannot express how important this message is.
Also, teach them that society is going after them. Be proud of manhood and stay true.
More power to you brother.
Love the podcast man. So glad for the TH-cam channel as well.
How could anyone dislike this? This dude is spot on the money.
He's quite wrong actually. He thinks toxic masculinity is an indictment of men when it's an indictment of a cultural belief about men.
Other than that he seems to be right. In order to have a positive influence on society, men have to at least be a part of society. He seems to just be hammering on the absent father problem.
@@downsjmmyjones101 Because he hates gay people. "Absent father" argument always equals homophobia, or at least that's the way I've seen every homophobe present it.
@@billyt.7306 How is it an indication of homophobia?
Homophobia doesn't exist. Nobody holds an irrational fear of gays.
because masculinity ≠ toxic masculinity. this dude speaks nonsense
2:10 Yes !! Exactly ! Spot on Brother !!!
Idk how I just found your video brother, but I’m so glad I did! You’re speaking truth and wisdom! I’m sharing this! Thank you!!
I feel that I'm doing a good job at all of these things but this video gives me the extra push to be great at all of them. Thank you!!
Great words mate !!!
Such an easy message to understand, but still many fathers aren't there. Please share this video so fathers can become dads.
Excellent message!!
Very powerful video. I’ll be a new dad in March when my son gets here. Shout out to all the men who want the best for their sons and want to raise boys to be real men.
As a new father man I think this is freaking awesome! Subbed for sure
Amen!! We have to be a force for change in our communities!!
Sometimes I always wish my father was around. I’m not even angry at him, I just imagine what could’ve been, if he was around.
Thank you! Amazing video!
Good video sir. you've earned yourself a new subscriber. Keep up the good work
Never had a “dad”! I’m a dad now myself...a man myself!!! I had to learn how to be! What do you say to a young person like myself who has to find their own way!?
Jekub B find a mentor. Someone in your church, work or social circle that is older than you and has his stuff together and is willing to give you advice and guidance when you need it. Look at a man's friends and you see who he is. Stay strong. I will pray for you. There is a lot of good information here and over at Warrior Poets Society.
Boy! you are very strong, god doesn't put you in situation you cannot handle.when l read your comment i remember lots of great ppl such as Tupac, Lebron James... They were in situation like you but they made themselves.
What kind of things you expect to be said to you about that?
Genuinely curious.
Look for a good male role model.
Decide what kind of person you want as a dad and be that kind of person
First video of yours I’ve watched, and within the first 30 seconds I hit that subscription.
Thank you! Excellent commentary!
We have to model the behaviors we want our boys to emulate as fathers and leaders in our houses. Excellent video. Thanks for sharing and God bless!
Grew up never knowing my dad. Trying to become a man at the age of 20 with many drugs and failures under my belt.
Bro God loves you and always will, he is your ultimate father, seek guidance from the Holy Spirit
No matter what a huge amount of people are rooting for you
I met my father at 27. He was cool. Really chill. My Mom likes to call 911 in an argument so I assume she did that and he left because in Baltimore in 1981 the police were dangerous for a black man.
Thank you for this video. I agree with you 100%. It's given me a few ideas I intend to act on.
Hey man, thank you for this video. I read all the comments from ppl that have many ideas (judging from their comments they know it all) but obviously did not have what you had when putting this work on yt. These are a good starting point, very useful.
I always say the only thing harder then being a parent is being a step parent. Also shout out to all my fatherless fathers out there. It’s hard being a first generation father but thanks to this channel and channels like it there is information for those of us that give a flip. Thank you.
So true I’m coaching multiple sports it’s amazing how many broken homes there are. Remember some of these boys take more time who knows what they have been through. Don’t give up on them it’s amazing to watch them transform. It takes love and patience through understanding to break down the barriers. Children are a mirror image of there surroundings what are we influencing? And why?
Seeing this 'taught shame' from men more and more in sessions...don't worry, I'm on it. Keep up the strong work.
Spot on brother, subscribed 👍
8 feminist and single mom's disliked this video
Yup, I was just going to say that, the unhappy 8 people have no idea how this message is STRAIGHT UP in our grill and needs to be said!!
Single moms would love to have dinner real men in their community. Men who don't find it a priority to trash talk women. Are you gay?
@@YoTeeFan just see a women who is just going to hit the wall is calling men gay. Isn't it pathetic and funny.
@YoungRe3hunnid on point my man
@Sailor of the Mind it isn't neccessary you have to have a father to succeed in life but he can guide you. I know some men of our generation are beta and childish. You only need your heavenly father to succeed in life.
Yeah, man it's a power. Love what you are saying.
Thank you. This helps me with my fatherless grandson. And my community.
only had to listen to 60 seconds of this MAN to sub!!! You, my friend are a real man!! Good for you, solid advice! :)
We sure do live in a society, gamers, kakyoin, and joker gangs rise up!
God bless you, you are a man amongst men
Beautiful message! Way to go.
My father was taken away from me before I entered puberty. His absence would really take a toll on my self esteem and confidence in my early twenties. I was very depressed and lost from age 20 to 23. I had to teach my self to be a man and it wasn’t easy. I had to reflect a lot on my own and I had to find my own male role models to look up to and learn from. Thank you for this message.
As a 15 year old without a father watching this kinda hits home as I dont really know what to do to become a real man
Yes you do
hey buddy i'm no parent by any means but you don't have to fit societys norms of "BECOMING A REAL MAN". be whatever the fuck you want to be. if you wanna wear a dress, you do that. if you want to wear a skirt, you do that. if you want to be gay, bi pan, or anything other than a typical cis straight male you FUCKING DO THAT. there is no such thing as a man but there is such thing as a......
human.
Isn’t it weird that most of the things that considered as “manly” are merely the common sense of what people should do? For example being a good role model or teaching children how to be responsible. I do not think that anyone within its right mind, believes that fathers or mothers should ignore their children and I seriously do not believe that anyone calls these obvious bad behaviours Toxic Masculinity. I believe there are misunderstanding of terms. Why would toxic masculinity mean something that is exteremely opposite of common senses?
Toxic masculinity is a cultural belief that men are inherently better leaders and should ignore emotional vulnerability as well as many other incorrect ideas about men.
Your first sentence is an interesting argument for gender being useless though. That's a fun one.
@@downsjmmyjones101 I didnt understand what you tried to say in 2nd paragraph
@@atakansakalli The idea that what is manly is shared among the genders is the first step. From there you can say that the genders share a lot more. Eventually gender starts to look pretty silly with all the similarities.
Well, feminists aren't wrong when they say society values men's traits more than women's. The difference is that they think that's bad.
@@yu_cp8978 I don't think society necessarily believes that. If anything men are at a point of self reflection because of so much damage caused by us, even our offspring, even our future men. You yourself is inherently making femininity a lesser to masculinity when they both go hand in hand.
Aaaaaand subscribed. Well spoken
❤this is wonderful to see and I'm 100% supporting this.
I remember watching a program about elephants in an African game preserve where the older male elephants were culled or moved. The younger elephants started destroying things & occasionally killing a Rhino or other animal. Someone finally thought to bring in older males, guess what they calmed the young ones & things got way better no more running amok causing trouble.
Have you read Lord of the Flies?
I know several school principles & teachers they have told me of the bedlam in their classrooms caused by laws & protocols made up by legislators & other functionaries that limit what they can do as discipline. Teachers are not allowed to touch that is restrain, no grabbing a hand or arm, no blocking a child's egress or access to anything, if the child is threatening to kill or throwing things the teacher has to clear the classroom & leave the child in that room to do what he wants. In one instance a child who was "relatively" calm in the morning was on a morning only school. The grandparents raising him got lawyers (one of their specialties) to make the school take him for the entire day. This boy (grade school)has threatened to kill & has chocked an aid & has access to his grandparents guns. If a child is this much of a problem he/she can be suspended or moved to another school but if he has been diagnosed with any mental or etc.. problem nothing can be done. The teachers in one district know a couple of teens that most won't be surprised if they come shooting. Then there is a recent shooter who was known by kids , teachers & police to be a threat but a local politician w/cooperating police chief didn't do anything about him because their policy was not to arrest or cause a record to be made for kids so as not to impede their way into college. The last one was in the news. This is the result of our "liberal progressives" trying to craft a perfect world. We know how that's turning out & then some wonder why there are all these shootings.
This is the truth a real man has dreams and goals and persues them cause they know what they want in life
A boy works all there life unhappy complains about life tired angry
Great message thanks for sharing. My wife and me lead a youth workout/mentoring ministry, we see all the time the effects of dadless families, abusive dads, dads that are around but don’t connect at all, etc. it’s heartbreaking. We also see the societies influence on the feminization of boys/men. That compounds the root problems that they are already struggling with. Be a positive influence in your social circles and communities. Sow money and/or time into positive, like minded organizations or ministries that help and mentor our kids/youth and young adults. Change happens when you do something different. Be blessed!
Great video. Everyone needs to see this. Rock on 🤘
Hell yeah, I thought this was going to be some other way. Sorry for judging man.
I really appreciate this video. Good explanation!
As Jordan Peterson says: take on responsibility. "Lift a damn load!" That's what we crave
Thank you for making this video Sir.
Wow. This ladies and gents... This...
Definitely a new subscriber. You give very wise advice.