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- Former FBI agent and body language expert Joe Navarro sits down with WIRED to talk about the non-verbal language of appearance. The ornate nature of how we attend to our bodies has grand significance throughout humankind. The way we present ourselves, across cultures, continues to be of massive importance. But, just how important is appearance to things like success, money and power?
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As a high school teacher it amazes me how attractive students get treated better. Even the teachers give them more attention. Unfortunately, some of them have terrible attitudes they think they can get away with. Often they do
and on the other hand you have teachers who treat you worse for it, because they want to teach you a life lesson or whatever. expericences both as a teen and wish someone would've left their personal insecurities out of my school life (positive or negative)
@@meladversity so you are calling yourself good looking, is that right? And teachers bullied you for it?
Sounds like lies to me tbh
Seems totally plausible to me. I don’t see the need to bring this person down or call them a liar
The Manipulation previously only used by psychopaths and other anti-Social personality types has now become widespread and acceptable behavior, yes.
Halo effect
My new fav quote-
“Please stop worrying about what you look like as a result of how you were born. Let’s take what we have, and let’s see what we can do.”
Let's summarise:- 1)look good naturally if not , dress well and
do makeup to change what you can leave what you can't (or shadow it)
2) be wired to stand out , be different if you can
3) be consistent build a image around yourself that says he is always powerful
Thank you for this
and keep vulnerabilities and struggles private.
When you thought you weren't much to look at because of societal beauty standards but then discovered that even babies could potentially ugly shame you :')
He did explain that how you present yourself changes how people see you, so if there's something you would like to change, try it. Your attractiveness also depends on confidence. People find you more attractive if you are confident.
🤣🤣🤣
Sometimes it just takes a little more time to get inside, but once you’re in, it’s all about character and how you make people feel.
@@taehanazono4943 I know several people first hand who stand head and solders above others based on only confidence and there ability to communicate
Lmfao 🤣🤣
It helps to be tall and attractive.
And not fat
N rich n famous n
And rich 🤑
And white, and fully able, and male
And not crippling anxiety
I will watch every Joe Narvarro video as soon as it hits my radar. Wired needs to give him a full staff role if he's interested. He needs a weekly show packed with tips. The information he provides is priceless.
He seems to say really obvious stuff though not really mind blowing
@@stellviahohenheim Maybe true, but I also think it's how it's presented. Sometimes the method is the message. This is packaged to get the attention of people who might not see it as obvious.
trustttt.. ive enjoyed his episodes sm
Yessssssss
@@stellviahohenheim It's obvious, but his explanation WHY is very fascinating and sounds scientifically accurate.
It's kind of fascinating that even across all these cultures, all these different types of people in the past that haven't met or interacted with anyone outside their group, somehow all deviated to the same, super specific aspect, like having something big and tall on your head as a symbol of power. It's pretty amazing if you think about it.
Yes; and for me though, it just goes to prove one thing. At our very core, we are all the same
If we all looked at each other's butts when we talked, we might adorn our asses with crowns instead 😂
Likely based on mimicking animals. Lions with big manes, peacocks with large feathers, etc. have always stood out as powerful. Humans simply copied that.
Human nature
That's because our similarities and differences are biological, not 'cultural.' Culture is just an expression of genes.
I have noticed people behave differently when they are dressed professionally. If you’re in a position to observe several meetings, observe people dressed casually (usually a Casual Friday) vs. a regular business day. The same individuals usually behave differently.
Nothing new. This is why private schools have always demanded that students dress up.
LOL. You discovered fire, my friend 🤣🤣🤣
Casual Friday, the OG morale booster
Dingus
I noticed that too I wonder y they change I noticed it alot in my pass relationship my ex would dress up and changed 🤔
I'd like to see a video on how extraversion/introversion affects success.
Yes, please
Bill Gates & Elon Musk are both example of successful introverts.
@@DreamCatcher-wg1bk but also only two individuals and freakish ones at that.
I don’t think introverts overall like to be in the spotlight anyway 😂 so even if there were a lot of money to be made, it would not be considered ’success’ for them by any means
@@DreamCatcher-wg1bk Marrying some hobo singer and giving the child the most fuckall name imaginable is not introvertion. It shows mental imbalance.
One more thing that was overlooked is the way a person speaks. The tone and speed of your speech will greatly affect how people perceive you.
Don't forget accents. In any culture, accents have significance and will add to the perception of the speaker.
I adore Joe's videos! He explains modestly, with proof, and logical explanations, if something doesn't know or is not sure about - he admits it. A great expert!
I love this man. Can @WIRED post more videos of him? They are really educating.
Joe Navarro could be an amazing lecturer.
They only seem to post videos starring him when he is promoting a book so maybe that's the only time he agrees to do videos. I wonder if Wired pays him.
He has a book that goes deep into non verbals. He’s ex CIA I think
@@younesmohssen8158 Retired FBI
@@danceswithdirt7197 He tours and lectures live on Non-Verbal Communication and has given at least one TEDx talk that can be found on TH-cam
@@oxide9679 I think that's what he does now since he's not FBI. It seems a lot of WIRED guests use videos like this as publicity. It's interesting how this sort of thing (videos on TH-cam) used to be this sort of niche and now it's more part of the mainstream press campaign for their products.
Don't forget many, MANY narcissists/sociopaths are dressed beautifully/handsomely. Never judge a book by it's cover. Judge by character!
Unless you can't read that character because they're a psychopath, in which case judge by their actions!
But if the actions are based on a mental health issue...
Well said
because we know the game
You mean they are BEAUTIFUL or HANDSOME lol
@@onkelpappkov2666 Unless then don't do. Don't do anything don't do it!!! No there's consequences to doing anything!!!
I always look forward to Mr.Navarros videos 👍 I hope to see him more often in wired
What an interesting informative video! Thank you, Mr. Navarro for all the informatotion you provide!
Very informative
Thanks a lot for sharing
Yay!!! Joe Navarro!! Thank you, again, for this video!
Thank you for sharing.
I will consider your suggesting into my life.
When I taught 7th and 8th grade we sometimes had dress up days. It was amazing how much overall behavior improved on those days.
In real life it's just like he said, when you dress up, people treat you better, and I don't mean expensive designer clothes, but just looking neat and put together. Anyway it's surprising that in USA majority of ppl don't think much about their appearance and wear just whatever while in Europe ppl put a lot of effort to look good.
I just spent a month in your father's country, and I can't say that people were dressed better there. People are just as sloppy as in the US if not more. The fabrics they wore were thin and cheap, the fake eyelashes made them look immature, the neck tattoos made them look unprofessional, lots of moms wore really short shorts, men wore sloppy and thin tshirts or pants that were too tight. I don't care about it that much, but feelings of superiority are just that, they are feelings not facts.
@@laliday I wonder which country you visited, cause your description hardly matches my father's country, where only about 1% of society has any tattoo and where fake lashes are worn by hookers and teenage girls experimenting with fashion trends.
In which country were you though?
"If the women don't find you handsome, they should at least find you handy!"
A more perfect combination of words cannot be spoken, hail
♥️💚👍🏼😎🇨🇦
Credit goes to Red Green
But what exactly is "handy"?
but a handsome person can also be handy...
@@MobileComputing yes but a ugly person can't be handsome so they gotta be handy
Thank you for sharing such interesting topics, I really admire this man. 👏
It helps to be attractive in general but being tall and attractive makes it even better but being attractive is enough to get you where you wanna go
i love this guy, his videos are the best of the channel
" Please stop worrying about what you look like as a result of how you were born.
Let's take what we have and let's see what we can do with it."
🙏 This comment has my respect
Good Morning 🌄 Mr. Navarro, , you have Reafirmed, and Honed, Many of my communication, and Interaction skills. Thank You, It's Basically what my Mother has been Telling me 50 plus Years
Woahhh how come i didnt know that your video came out.
Please upload more videos of Joe Navarro
When I joined the Marine Corps infantry, I weighed 112 lbs at 5’11”. I got picked on and beat up a lot my first year. I jumped on the juice train & blew up to 190 lbs with 4.5% body fat in less than 8 months. The way I was treated was night and day. I didn’t change anything other than my physical appearance.
Three points-I am 5' 11" tall.
1. Many years ago a new IMax Movie Theater Opened in my hometown and my boss gave me her VIP Tickets for the Grand Opening Party. All of the city's business and community leaders were invited. I noticed right away that the vast majority of the men were taller than me and I'd say the average height of the men was 6'1"-6'2".
2. I can off the top of my head think of four college buddies who are 6'4" or taller. They were average students and all four of them are very successful.
3. The income inequality between very attractive people and average looking people is higher than the income inequality between whites and minority groups.
I like his speech calm soothing yet informative. Thanks mr fbi.
Yes, I agree it promotes one in a more positive light but maybe not when its gets too warm in these warmer temperatures !!
Very informative interesting thanks for sharing this
I’m 6’4” and fairly good looking and people bully me because of it. I’ve actually been walked over most of my life. Trying to learn how to get stronger.
Learn mma
Because you are "competition". People try to bring down the competition. Be strong but warm.
You are probably a "gentle giant." A lot of people don't know how to handle those types. Wishing you luck!
Please do another video about what our grooming/clothing/makeup communicates to other people!
2:12
5:50malcom gladwell
7:00 4. Perception manage
8:44 trust is our ability to relax
Love Joe Navarro so much. Probably cause he's wearing a suit
Joe Navarro is back!!
interesting, thanks for the info
Very interesting ,also a antropholigical vision of "cultural codes" on each contexts. Congrats , good job.
In highschool I didn't have the best hygiene, even relative to most of my peers. I was always pretty nerdy, but I would always try to stand up for myself when picked on (not always effectively). I always tried to give every new kid the best chance, and tried to be respectful (though my understanding of what that meant was not always accurate). I wasn't shy about my enjoyment of most academics, and I was good at some I didn't enjoy (such as math) and enjoyed some that I wasn't good at (art, woodshop).
Despite my poor presentation, my senior yearbook I was one of three students my peers considered "most likely to be president." Fast forward in life, most people wouldn't consider me very successful. Academic skills that seemed nice on the surface I was not able to capitalize on due to a lack of other skills.
Life is odd that way.
What an interesting comment! Hope your hygiene has improved.
Superb analysis
Scientifically, shorter people live longer than their taller/bigger counter parts. Big bodies put more stress on the heart like dogs.
Please stop worrying about what you look like as a result of how you were born. Lets take what we have and lets see what we can do with it..
Golden quote IMO.
But its just to show how hard you be if you are unattractive and disabled the journey is so much harder
@@planu9031 it also tells you that you could improve on it to. I mean why do you think girls where heels
Depends on the person who is interview you, her/ his mood at the time, physical needs at the moment, perception also plays a huge role. If a person is hungry will be negative, if had a lunch will be more positive. If the interviewer has biases will also make a difference.
Well social media algorithms is a testament to how much beauty and attractiveness matters to humans.
It’s a great lesson on branding
Fascinating info. As an older woman, though, comfort is more important than beauty! lol
You can do both!
As a younger person, I agree comfort is better. 😄
The two are not necessarily mutually exclusive…
@@lanaj1107 yea that’s called natural beauty. Nothing more needed
Ofc now comfort matter more to you since you can t use beauty anymore ain t no one like wrinkles,dry 🍑.
Amazing guy
Thanks Joe!
Being short as a man is playing life in hard mode.
Agreed! Also, being short AND unattractive is playing life in ‘exasperating’ mode.
@@KeepingOnTheWatch in what way
Tell that to Putin, Stalin, Hitler, Toto Rina, Napoleon or Mike Tyson.
And the short guys that make it are as tough as men can get
@@Kozli1985 Mike Tyson is 5’ 10” he is not short at all.
The napoleon one is a big myth and it has been debunked already.
While the hitler and Stalin are valid examples, they weren’t super short for their their time. All studies show that a person’s height has a very positive correlation between their income
Excellent 😊👍
Interesting.
Thank you.
Peace 💕🇺🇲
"Let's take whats we have and let's see qe can do with it". If we all have this mindset, in any aspect, our lives will be better. No doubt.
Regarding the clothes, I think it is not just about being 'well dressed', but about being appropriately dressed for the occasion. :) Grooming is definitely important always. But if you wore full black tie on a regular workday, people would probably give you strange looks.
What a suit does for men, and a Galla dress for women, is it enhance their masculine or feminine physique. But it also create an appearance of good posture, even if you don't have it in reality. Good posture also signals self worth and confidence, and projecting 'I am a person of high value' to other people. This is actually the main reason why people find suits attractive; it is not just that it shows money/power/success (someone with great skills/mental energy, who have a lot to contribute with, and would be a good connection to have). It is that it enhances all the biologically most attractive things about men. (and the dress does the same for women).
When you notice, being 'well dressed' today means to have selected garments of good quality, a look that is aesthetically pleasing and enhances your best features, as well as being well groomed and display good posture/confidence. Good grooming is what makes or breaks the look - not the clothing alone.
Additionally, while past societies had a lot of focus on money and power, modern society place more and more value on character instead. Therefore, it becomes a form of power statement to wear baggy clothes and 'not caring' about appearance. The key here is to be well groomed and have good posture, even if you are very casually dressed. People who wear 'power clothes' are more often well groomed and displays confidence, than people who don't. But the 'power' of the suit is more how it makes the man feel about himself, not so much how formal it is. :)
You're really smart
Really good!
Interesting. As a life long fitness enthusiast, my conclusion is that health is beauty and vice versa….
Confidence and a positive attitude can be very attractive too. A beautiful smile can light up even the face of a “plain” person.
Keep bringing Joe back!!!
You could do a whole episode on Zelensky, Putin, Sergiy Kyslytsya, and Lavrov.
Frankly I think Sergiy is incredibly underappreciated for how well he has maintained an image that allows him to bluntly cut through bs and rally support.
Putin and lavrov are not humans.
Don't really think we need to give war criminals more publicity.
So you love fascists
Westernized brainwashed people don't like them
Nobody on the internet has anything better to say than this man does. He's as good as you will see here.
Wrong (I'm wearing a suit)
Is he really saying anything new? Pretty basic observations
Incredibly debatable
mia khalifa is pretty good...
Yes
As a species, we have a long way to go. Giving value in something so ridiculous speaks volumes about what else we like to hide behind makeup and facades.
It’s hard wired in our subconscious. Can’t change it.
True
I still wonder to this day, why did everyone in high school like me although I dressed really strange? I wore way too much makeup, really big hair, neon colored non matching clothes and plastic beaded bracelets up to my elbows. I was really confident and popular, but other people who dressed like me were bullied (until I told everyone I thought they were cool, then everyone stopped picking on them)
@MaryRae I can't give you a direct answer, but I had a similar high school experience and I went to 3 high schools and acted differently at all of them.
At one, I would act like you did and mind my own business. I was weird, I would paint my nails crazy, wear too much make up, dress gothic one day and 80s neon the next. I was also nice to everyone and everyone wanted me to sit with them at lunch and I basically ran that school for no reason.
At the 2nd school I tried to fit in, dressed casual and preppy and tried to make friends. I had way less attention that way and most "cliques" didn't care for me.
At the 3rd school I made a conscious effort to dress casual AND keep to myself. Everyone AGAIN wanted to be my friend, know my story, and figure me out. It seemed like it was more a personality thing for me than what I wore so maybe it was actually the same for you! And then there is the variable that is other people. Highschoolers aren't very predictable 😆
I think you used the key word: confidence. They wore the same things but were not confident.
You answered your own question when you said you were confident.
Richard Feynman's dad to his son:
"Now, look at those humans. Here’s one human standing here, and all these others are bowing in front of him. Now, what’s the difference? This one is the pope. This difference is the hat he’s wearing.
I was just thinking about that. I believe Feynman's point was that he considered status signals as nonsense. I wish more people saw things this way, to be honest!
顏值決定一切？
0:55 we prefer people that are well-groomed and well-dressed.
1:05 very padded shoulders 墊肩
3:53 beauty dividend 美貌紅利
5:49 height dividend 身高紅利
6:05 攝影機跟被照的人
6:21 presidential election is 9 feet apart.
7:37 the hair is straight down is perceived strength.
9:37 they're eligible for courtship 求愛
10:49 they're in essence saying 基本上是說
People here forgetting. It's not that you won't or can't be successful if you're short and or not good looking. It's just that it's a disadvantage to be that, which we all know is true. Stop looking for the exception to the rule.
My last girlfriend told me our relationship would have been x10 better if I’d have had another 4 inches…
My height was not a problem though.
Underrated comment!
4 inches where? there ! oh ok
@@cedriceric9730 she had a toe fetish I've heard
pretty sure she wasnt talking about your height
@@sikes346 well duhhhh
I’d like to see a video on how money affects wealth! 😁
Very Nice Bro! Get Good People!
So more drip is always good!
Clicked immediately, Joe Navarro
This guy is more of a history teacher than anything
Seriously, all hr did was give example after example after example of people who dressed a certain way rather than actually getting to the point
@@ratherb_skating7145 He also didnt talk about body language like posture, eye contact etc.
Richard Feynman's dad to his son:
"Now, look at those humans. Here’s one human standing here, and all these others are bowing in front of him. Now, what’s the difference? This one is the pope. This difference is the hat he’s wearing.”
As someone who is a little over 6'6'' yes I have seen taller people do well in sports, with women and have been offered more leadership roles. However I have seen shorter men try harder and have more grit in not giving up. But as the Stoics of Stoicism say, you should only think about what is in your control. So for the many times I wished I was shorter when I banged my head in doorway, was on an uncomfortable plane flight, could not find clothes that fit me or have people not want to speak with me because of the large height differential, I refused to even think a thought I had no control over.
There’s limb lengthening surgery as well as shortening surgery, i’m gonna be 6’3” and still wear 3” shoes to be 6’6”, but it’s true you should focus on what you can change
I love this
It also helps to be born into one of the most wealthiest families in South Africa. That helps.
Can you do a Rubik’s cube video about how to solve 3x3 speed cubing method
I am short and thus unattractive. But i am happy and thats what matters most.
We can all agree that Joe is the “Man”
Very rare to see suits here in Hawaii.
Years ago 30ish, men had to wear ties to enter most nightclubs.
Now barefoot and bikinis seem OK.
No matter what, people will flaunt their looks.
One should be positive and hold finger for which needs microscop to see and act ahead
Of COURSE it does.
trust is our ability to relax, because we know they will ot let us down.
I would like to know how money/wealth affects the perception.
Such an interesting point about quinceaneras and debutante balls! It seems like prom, homecoming dance, etc. fill that purpose in the US
I do not know about the height dividend because that can partially be answered by parent income and thus diet. But, I mean - overall, we can also say the way one dress is also linked to one socio-economic class and we also have pretty good understand of upward mobility in different countries.
In fact, the way you dress is a indeed a class mechanics that gives message to others who is in and who is not in a group.
That being said, I do think that better looking folks, and those with above average height probably do better than those who are not...
True that. Better access to nutrition and recreation leads to children growing taller and being more fit. Financial stability can allow for nicer clothes and the purchase of other status symbols. But in the end, it is your character, your beliefs, values, intelligence, and charisma which will help you excel in life.
Tall people hater
Japan and Korea is an example how better nutrition improve height. Compare their pre world war height and the current modern height.
King is back
“ Let’s take what we have and let’s see what we can do with it “
Nice video 📹
How and where to learn it?
It does help to be tall and attractively dressed, male or female.
Most times, outer beauty means confidence or a sense of false bravado.
But when someone is not attractive to society's standards, but has an overload of self-confidence in themselves irrespective of others opinion, they will stand out of the crowd enough to make an attractive person with a false confidence loose that "confidence".
There is something called mindset and strategy they are above any beauty and appearance. (Im 1,95cm )
Does as long as height affects personality how you approach people and treat
This is interesting but unfortunately really only covers a certain type of 'success'. Certain type of appearances (which fits within someone's stereotype of 'that type of person' should look) is the 'easier' and fastest method to gain trust and favourability. So, actually, this is an essay on how appearance affects trust and favorability than it is about success as 'success' is subjective.
Помним этого эксперта))
В смысле?
Basically what we have in hand is to learn how to be properly dressed and how to carry ourselves publicly.
" A successful man is of ordinary height with laser like focus " - Bruce Lee🔥
I don’t think he actually said that.
Bruce was short 😂
@@darnitthelma4247 and still he'll be remembered far longer than anyone pictured in this video even if in slightly changed quotes
@@TheoTattaglia exactly
@@darnitthelma4247 yet the world knows him, celebrates him and not average, ordinary individuals like u or me or pretty much anyone in the video here
We are all so superficial.
What about tall women? Tall men were talked about and how their height is a benefit. How does height correlate for women?
Probably the same tbh.. as a taller woman, you'd get noticed more. Even petite models are over 5'6" (meanwhile the definition of petite clothing is for 5'4" and under). I strongly believe that someone my height 4'11" does get taken less seriously, but I don't have any research data to prove it, only anecdotal experience.
@@puccarts i'm a 6 fot 2 attractive woman with natural RBF people assume i'm either a model, doctor, or a high power executive. It helps for sure in being taken seriously for leadership roles and men tend to treat me as an equal or are even slightly intimidated by me.
@@krissy278 Well your experience seems to align with my viewpoint.
I really wonder if we started letting more petite/short models into the industry as standard, if this would slowly begin to change world perspectives. Would be nice to not be judged simply on height. It's not like I am competing in sports where long limbs are an understandable advantage to my capabilities.
@@puccarts same im 5'ft tall and no one takes me seriously....they im a 14 y/o girl
Normally a taller women are seen as masculine by men so men go for shorter women. But being tall as a woman makes you more eligible to being a model. It makes you look more like a model but in terms of dating I know a lot of tall women who get shunned because men don’t want someone taller than them generally.