I think it’s a sign of immaturity when someone knows that they yelled at you and won’t apologize I have done this in the past too when I was younger I couldn’t apologize but now I apologize right away if I’ve hurt anyone bc I’ve grown & own up to my mistakes
My ex girlfriend never apologized about anything, I'm a humble man and I accept when I'm wrong. She hurted me really Bad. i confronted her and she gave me reasons...
Apologizing would mean she loses the upper hand and takes away the pressure on the man to strive to become what she wants and at the same time makes it difficult for the man to question her behaviour. Ironically she will get bored of the man if he actually becomes what she wanted since what she want is necessarily not the same as what she need. Take away that power and a good women stay while a narcissitic women leaves. You win in both cases.
Thank you, that's well said and something I needed now.❤ I would add on, that after unhooking ourselves, we need to reassess how to continue the relationship, if at all, knowing what we know now about them. If there is no change in behaviour, we need to change ours, by changing how much we let them into our lives.
I have been around several people in the past few years who never apologized to me for hurting me even if they didn't do it intentionally. Three years ago I had a friend start a fight with me about a personal issue and a week after that she never apologized to me for it and so I cut out all contact with her. I am currently working on myself and my first big step is to learn how to forgive and forget and to move on from negative events. This video really helped me deal with the hurt and I thank you so much for it! ☺
Really good video. I've been stuck in a lot of places where I never received apologies over the years. Thanks for adding something that's helping me in my journey to become unstuck.
Yeah.. my partner did that. Totally broke me down, said sorry, just the word sorry, and then continued repeating his behaviour. I left, and I am happy I did
Excuses excuses for a Narcissism. There are different scenarios that cause children to grow up narcissists. And they all need to stay single!! Change, or avoid relationships
I apologized for making an assumption about a now ex friend to their face and they made an assumption about me and I called them out for the same thing and they said "I don't apologize." Then ended the conversation and blocked me. People are just dysfunctional, its so annoying. The same person makes long Facebook speeches about people needing therapy etc. Like what a hipocrit.
I apologized for making an assumption about a now ex friend to their face and they made an assumption about me and I called them out for the same thing and they said "I don't apologize." Then ended the conversation and blocked me. People are just dysfunctional.
What happens when you give a sincere apology and it's never accepted? In fact it opens up a path for them to get irate. So I apologize and then they start twisting the knife instead of opening a good path to talk. I always thought apologies were supposed to get you a step closer to healing. It's the opposite in this case. Repeatedly. So I'm now always afraid not to apologize I'm afraid of her getting to lvl 10 anger instead
So you apologized without making any excuses? If that's the case, she is probably someone who wants to use your mistakes against you as leverage. Not a person to keep company with unless you have to for work.
How to deal with a person who has done something harmful to us, but instead of apologizing, they immediately give reasons how I could have prevented it and what I did wrong in the past?
@@Dottywalkers9 I've found the answer to our problems: The lack of desire to apologize and getting defensive instead is as a result of growing up being put down and shamed for every little thing, so when someone genuinely wants you to take accountability it feels exactly the same as an attack. Basically, because they were shamed and belittled and ridiculed for every little thing they did, the struggle to take accountability partially due to the fact that they can't tell the difference between a small genuine mistake that's easy to brush off and things that genuinely need an apology, so they freak out when you genuinely need an apology from them because in their minds they subconsciously see it the same as their parents screaming at them for spilling their drink when there were three. When this goes untreated, it leads to narcissism.
Thank you for sharing, definitely gave me a new perspective. My only concern now is i no longer trust the person nor do i want to be the one to hold them accountable (im tired of always being the one initiate things). How do you move forward if its a friend or family member? You cant fully end it but cant continue in the dynamic in the same way either, do i just limit my interaction etc
Unfortunately, yes, sometimes limiting interaction is best. We only have so much time and energy - I think we need to devote that to the people who want to build something beautiful with us.
I think it’s a sign of immaturity when someone knows that they yelled at you and won’t apologize
I have done this in the past too when I was younger I couldn’t apologize but now I apologize right away if I’ve hurt anyone bc I’ve grown & own up to my mistakes
My ex girlfriend never apologized about anything, I'm a humble man and I accept when I'm wrong. She hurted me really Bad. i confronted her and she gave me reasons...
Sorry brother. Some people are just built that way.
Apologizing would mean she loses the upper hand and takes away the pressure on the man to strive to become what she wants and at the same time makes it difficult for the man to question her behaviour. Ironically she will get bored of the man if he actually becomes what she wanted since what she want is necessarily not the same as what she need. Take away that power and a good women stay while a narcissitic women leaves. You win in both cases.
Thank you, that's well said and something I needed now.❤
I would add on, that after unhooking ourselves, we need to reassess how to continue the relationship, if at all, knowing what we know now about them. If there is no change in behaviour, we need to change ours, by changing how much we let them into our lives.
I have been around several people in the past few years who never apologized to me for hurting me even if they didn't do it intentionally. Three years ago I had a friend start a fight with me about a personal issue and a week after that she never apologized to me for it and so I cut out all contact with her. I am currently working on myself and my first big step is to learn how to forgive and forget and to move on from negative events. This video really helped me deal with the hurt and I thank you so much for it! ☺
You're welcome! I just finished a book about forgiveness and am working on getting it published. Stay tuned to this channel. It might help!
Really good video. I've been stuck in a lot of places where I never received apologies over the years. Thanks for adding something that's helping me in my journey to become unstuck.
And if the person never learns and repeatedly hurt you? And left you hanging repeatedly without any acknowledgement?
You leave and don’t let them hurt you. Their lack of remorse kills whatever relationship there was.
Yeah.. my partner did that. Totally broke me down, said sorry, just the word sorry, and then continued repeating his behaviour. I left, and I am happy I did
Excuses excuses for a Narcissism. There are different scenarios that cause children to grow up narcissists.
And they all need to stay single!! Change, or avoid relationships
I apologized for making an assumption about a now ex friend to their face and they made an assumption about me and I called them out for the same thing and they said "I don't apologize." Then ended the conversation and blocked me. People are just dysfunctional, its so annoying. The same person makes long Facebook speeches about people needing therapy etc. Like what a hipocrit.
THANK YOU! THAT'S REALLY HEARTWARMING!
My colleagues betrayed me but never apologized😡😡😡😡😡😡
I apologized for making an assumption about a now ex friend to their face and they made an assumption about me and I called them out for the same thing and they said "I don't apologize." Then ended the conversation and blocked me. People are just dysfunctional.
You can’t trust people at work
Beautiful story, and you tell it with understanding, compassion and love. Thank you for that, and for your words of advice and comfort.
What happens when you give a sincere apology and it's never accepted? In fact it opens up a path for them to get irate. So I apologize and then they start twisting the knife instead of opening a good path to talk. I always thought apologies were supposed to get you a step closer to healing. It's the opposite in this case. Repeatedly. So I'm now always afraid not to apologize I'm afraid of her getting to lvl 10 anger instead
So you apologized without making any excuses? If that's the case, she is probably someone who wants to use your mistakes against you as leverage. Not a person to keep company with unless you have to for work.
How to deal with a person who has done something harmful to us, but instead of apologizing, they immediately give reasons how I could have prevented it and what I did wrong in the past?
I'm not usually very angry when pointing something out, but seeing their ignorant reaction makes me mad and that's how argument starts.
Oooh you and I must be the same
I can relate
@@Dottywalkers9 I've found the answer to our problems:
The lack of desire to apologize and getting defensive instead is as a result of growing up being put down and shamed for every little thing, so when someone genuinely wants you to take accountability it feels exactly the same as an attack. Basically, because they were shamed and belittled and ridiculed for every little thing they did, the struggle to take accountability partially due to the fact that they can't tell the difference between a small genuine mistake that's easy to brush off and things that genuinely need an apology, so they freak out when you genuinely need an apology from them because in their minds they subconsciously see it the same as their parents screaming at them for spilling their drink when there were three. When this goes untreated, it leads to narcissism.
Thank you for sharing, definitely gave me a new perspective. My only concern now is i no longer trust the person nor do i want to be the one to hold them accountable (im tired of always being the one initiate things). How do you move forward if its a friend or family member? You cant fully end it but cant continue in the dynamic in the same way either, do i just limit my interaction etc
Unfortunately, yes, sometimes limiting interaction is best. We only have so much time and energy - I think we need to devote that to the people who want to build something beautiful with us.
Some or WOMEN don't do it, that's a difference, emotional beings trapped in the sea of emotional caos.
I don’t care what excuse they mak3 for themselves the6 are adults, act like it ring apologise cos I feel crap because of you.
Don’t leave us hanging. How were you punished?
Hmmm is it possible you're a narcissist?