DATING In The Philippines 4 MAJOR Hidden Risks Foreigners Face

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  • There are hidden risks associated with dating in the Philippines that foreigners aren't aware of. In this vlog I discuss 4 of these risks. Thanks for watching.
    Disclaimer: I'm not a psychologist or dating guru the views in my vlog are mine alone and based on boots on the ground experience as it pertains to dating in the Philippines.
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  • @JasperinthePhilippines
    @JasperinthePhilippines ปีที่แล้ว +28

    Don’t date a woman if she cannot produce an ID. Don’t date a married /separated woman. Don’t date single moms and do not allow women to move in with you until you’ve known her for at least six months. Never bring them to the US etc. It’s hard to do. I’m living it right now but it can be done. Stay strong guys.

    • @JasperinthePhilippines
      @JasperinthePhilippines ปีที่แล้ว +1

      @@jesse75 🎯

    • @weseleymcgirt6565
      @weseleymcgirt6565 ปีที่แล้ว

      Can You explain how it's so hard to bring your girlfriend to the United States I'm in the process of similar situation

    • @danwelterweight4137
      @danwelterweight4137 ปีที่แล้ว

      ​@@weseleymcgirt6565he was saying not to bring her to the US.
      If you do she will become Americanized and just like any other American woman in a few years and before you know she will divorce your butt and take half of everything you own.
      I hope that is not too late for you. Don't do it man. It's not going to work out well for you if you follow that path.
      Specially if she is really young.

  • @inclover780
    @inclover780 ปีที่แล้ว +48

    I married a Filipina and brought her to the US. She turned into a nightmare. She has serious mental health issues and says I am the one with the problem. We are in the process of divorcing.
    She now says I was the worst thing that ever happened to her. We have a wonderful son and beautiful memories from raising him. I was her ticket out of poverty and there was never any love from her for 20 years. Be careful guys, it is a minefield out there.

    • @robinorga528
      @robinorga528 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      Thank you

    • @peteb6072
      @peteb6072 ปีที่แล้ว +7

      Sounds like my ex American wife.. sorry it really hurts

    • @henrymcmiller2527
      @henrymcmiller2527 ปีที่แล้ว +9

      For the past very years, I dreamed of marrying a Thai or Filipina; but I have decided to simply visit. I will continue to date American women who have their own own money, home, and their own automobile. I cannot sell out just to have an Asian wife or girlfriend; and be a walking ATM. Taking care of an extended family. I know I will not be first in a Thai female or Filipina’s life. The thought of becoming an walking ATM. The Philippines government has tried to end the loophole of foreigners of just having a Filipina girlfriend by using law to give Filipina girlfriends entitlement to foreigners income and wealth. I will precede with caution when I travel to The Philippines. I am too old to lose financially.

    • @henrymcmiller2527
      @henrymcmiller2527 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      Thanks for the warning. I have 2 ex-wives; German and a Bahamian. I married for a total of 27 years, and helped make 4 children. I will not criticize their Mothers. I really don’t care for marriage now, but if it’s completely RIGHT, I will do it cautiously. I just want to date and enjoy my time with who I dating. A statement by Calvin, resonates in my mind. “The Philippines is not between a Filipina’s thighs.” I want to travel around the islands, and other places in Asia.

    • @inclover780
      @inclover780 ปีที่แล้ว +7

      As soon as she got a job where she could survive and my son left for college, she was gone.

  • @atomicvagrant7686
    @atomicvagrant7686 ปีที่แล้ว +19

    Westerners who date single mothers should very much become familiar with Philippines RA or Republic Act 7610. Part of this law covers the prevention of child abuse. Most notably, this law clearly states that being alone anywhere with a child under 12 or 10 years your junior if the child is under 18 is against the law. This part of the law applies to non family members or otherwise no legal connection to the child.
    If your relationship turns nasty or the biological father wants to extort money from you or make trouble this law could become a fn nightmare for you. At least have a consult with a local Philippine lawyer to to see how you can protect yourself. Don't make decisions based on emotions or desires. Know what you are up against and know your liabilities!

    • @key39762
      @key39762 ปีที่แล้ว

      I think I remember the Filipina Pea had a lawyer on her show and she said that's not true.

    • @Iwillroastthesocksoffyoass
      @Iwillroastthesocksoffyoass ปีที่แล้ว

      ​@@thefilipinapee Are there a lot of virgins out there or something?

  • @1clkvideos140
    @1clkvideos140 ปีที่แล้ว +54

    Always ask for ID, take a picture of it (because it could be fake - the picture might be a defense for you later). But, some of the age-related risk can be avoided by not actively seeking out such young women. And, on the psychological front:
    I dated a Filipina that was literally paranoid about missing a regular meal ( like skipping breakfast).
    Unable to understand it, I dug deeper with questions and found that it stemmed from her greatest childhood dream, which was to simply have a full bowl of rice 3 times a day - because she grew up with no food certainty. She literally had days where water was all she consumed. She is now in a situation where she can eat regularly - but missing a meal seems to take her back to her childhood memories of starving hunger.
    Try to put yourself in those shoes for a minute or so…

    • @djc6436-e4h
      @djc6436-e4h ปีที่แล้ว +4

      That's good advice. WRT the fear of missing meals, I thought you were going to say it was because she had been told for years to always eat at the same time of day or she'd get sick. My Filipina has this fear but also grew up without food certainty so it could be for that reason as well.

    • @1clkvideos140
      @1clkvideos140 ปีที่แล้ว +11

      @@djc6436-e4h Man, I grew up on the poorer side of the tracks in America (thought I had it bad because I had to wear clothes from K-mart, Buster Brown shoes a half-size too large because “you’ll grow into them” and “they’ll last longer”, etc. - but we damn sure never missed a meal - not once! I’ll take my K-mart scars over no food any day. Her childhood made mine seem like an upper class upbringing!

    • @knowledgesuncere7786
      @knowledgesuncere7786 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      @@1clkvideos140 , yes it’s hits different over there

    • @key39762
      @key39762 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      @@1clkvideos140 buster brown. lol. now you're bringing back memories. I guess the only reason we didn't miss a meal was because of welfare. even way back when you went to the center and got a month's worth of groceries. remember the government cheese. how about the spam and peanut butter.

    • @BronxBombers_726
      @BronxBombers_726 ปีที่แล้ว

      I’ve been In that situation and that’s why I’m not dealing with this drama. You should never allow your feelings and emotions to make important decisions.

  • @sunce7377
    @sunce7377 ปีที่แล้ว +13

    What I love about your content is that you state the good and the bad even with your own relationship.

  • @PhotoDaveJax
    @PhotoDaveJax ปีที่แล้ว +9

    “At the end of the day, a Filipina is a woman.” Perfectly and subtly explained. I chuckled at that one. ⚠️⚠️⚠️😆

  • @richardchandler7370
    @richardchandler7370 ปีที่แล้ว +9

    I met my gf in the Philippines in the Philippines back in 2019. But we didnt seal the deal until 2021. It was two years of give and take but i wanted to be sure I wasn't dealing with a crazy person or a gold digger. Plus with the pandemic I hadn't been able to visit since early 2020. Anyways, wheels up n 10 days and I will be back on January 12. But here is the deal, when I would send her money to help her during the lockdowns she kept every receipt and would show me what she spent the money on. I am happy and confident I got a good one and my Phil-Am friends who know her all agree.

    • @BronxBombers_726
      @BronxBombers_726 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      If you weren’t married to her why did you send her money 💰? I don’t care if she had receipts! If I’m not married to you the best thing I can do is pray for you

  • @propertymanager9603
    @propertymanager9603 ปีที่แล้ว +14

    You know, Calvin, every time I watch one of your videos, it makes me want to give more to charity. You're always talking about giving to the less fortunate. I think you're a pretty good soul.

    • @calroach1
      @calroach1  ปีที่แล้ว +6

      Thanks. Somebody helped me in my time of need and I hope I never forget it.

  • @rollingtinfist
    @rollingtinfist ปีที่แล้ว +5

    I’m really glad you brought up the mental health aspect and how poverty may be a factor. Having seen it…it’s sad. All I can say is, don’t try to be her savior, or unduly burden yourself, but do try to be kind and compassionate, even when going your separate ways.

  • @justaskKj
    @justaskKj ปีที่แล้ว +3

    I enjoy the fact that you don’t sugarcoat your information. 👏👏👏

  • @ArcticCoder
    @ArcticCoder ปีที่แล้ว +5

    Poverty is a powerful motivator. The memory and fear can destroy long relationships even over pitiful sums of money. It will catch you off guard if you do not understand this.

  • @richardzimmer5192
    @richardzimmer5192 ปีที่แล้ว +21

    Dang Calvin bro! You are so right about the mental health issues. I was married 3 years before I realized my Filipina wife is crazy as hell. I love her and we are married for almost 11 years now, but she has made my life a living hell. All she talks about is divorcing me and she does not have the mentality to see all the good I have done for her.

    • @calroach1
      @calroach1  ปีที่แล้ว +4

      Oh man I hope things improve. Happy new year.

    • @mmirafuentess1990
      @mmirafuentess1990 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      Mr. Zimmer, I’m sorry you are in this hot seat.
      I hope she will (eventually) appreciate you. (Now, there’s 2 sides to a story, I’m not saying you have flaws.)

    • @lolitasaldivar169
      @lolitasaldivar169 ปีที่แล้ว +7

      There is a reason why she wants a divorce. Maybe third party?

    • @ManOfAdventure2011
      @ManOfAdventure2011 ปีที่แล้ว +12

      Sounds a lot like my filipina wife. Im in the process of divorcing her after 30 years of being together. Kids are young adults. Time to part ways and find a new, younger one 🤔

    • @ManOfAdventure2011
      @ManOfAdventure2011 ปีที่แล้ว +14

      @@mmirafuentess1990 most women don't appreciate what men do for them until you stop doing it 😏

  • @richieredw9218
    @richieredw9218 ปีที่แล้ว +5

    Yep, stay away from the married ones even though they say the husband left them many years ago, he may just come out of the woodwork when he hears that his wife is with a foreigner, personally i didn't date young women but one in my age group. Don't be quick to get married, I was married for 6 years but now divorced, gave her all my stuff left Ph, but now feeling free and won't be making the same mistakes again, was there on a visit in Nov-Dec and had mixed feelings, won't be visiting there anytime soon, going to visit East Africa to get other experiences.

  • @dadslyfe1267
    @dadslyfe1267 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    Calvin is telling it like it is. This is all true. I’ve survived the nightmares and only made it through by the grace of god. I have 4 gorgeous children that I live for and it’s all worth it because of them.

  • @RA-qs2sr
    @RA-qs2sr ปีที่แล้ว +5

    Great that you are educating everyone about the dangers they can get into. You know the guys goes crazy in these types of environments. Good for you Bro!

  • @osvaldomateo5853
    @osvaldomateo5853 ปีที่แล้ว +5

    You hit the nail on the head. My wife is a Filipina and 90% of the time we are a normal couple but there is the other 10 %. wow is like Jekyll & Hyde I think is mental some times It scares me

    • @patland1762
      @patland1762 ปีที่แล้ว

      Been there. You are lucky it is just 10%. I finaly forced mine to get mental therapy and it dramatically improved our marriage. I don't know if it improved her level of inner happiness but it has improved the marriage. By forced, I mean it was absolute 100% divorce no looking back or get therapy and stay in it for years.

  • @neillynch290
    @neillynch290 ปีที่แล้ว +5

    Facts! You make a valid point. People should be coming over for the difference between there and there country, I/E cheaper costs, tropical weather, culture, instead of being dusty bums, and acting so thirsty, and then complaining again about why they can't find the life they want. They need to improve themselves and leave that victim mentality in their country and get some treet smarts if they don't already have any

  • @JohnThomas-lp3rf
    @JohnThomas-lp3rf ปีที่แล้ว +5

    Well said Calvin. You are a good guy man. Have a great 2023! I am originally from South Africa. Live in London now but thinking of coming to the Philippines

    • @calroach1
      @calroach1  ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Thanks John happy new year!

  • @jabaliadu8755
    @jabaliadu8755 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    Great topics as usual id is needed past trauma discussed in the beginning. Also you should check out the Law of Diminishing Returns people can at times forget the big picture. Women will also take the position you assisted them to as a springboard to unhappiness! So at times let them know to step back and appreciate where we have come. If not they can justify their inadequate feelings and you become the reason not the change in their appetite?

  • @davidkern8954
    @davidkern8954 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Another good topic and great advice. However, most of these problems occur in all walks of life.

  • @kevincauthorne8693
    @kevincauthorne8693 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    This is been the most informational video you've done and fight sometime thank you

  • @mikevaldez4895
    @mikevaldez4895 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    you 100 percent right Calvin, you know it a set-up when the parents asking for financial support on the first, week you met the girl. and Calvin the Red Cross from Australia is helping the area ,water ,food and medicine. thank god.

  • @blakdrifterok2147
    @blakdrifterok2147 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Well I'm glad that you made it clear that you can experience the same in any country not just there because you can go through the same in any country.

  • @dreamer7157
    @dreamer7157 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Thank you for this video. The underage thing is really a concern. I wish you talked about STI and HIV ..it is on the rise in the Philippines.

  • @mike8449
    @mike8449 ปีที่แล้ว +5

    Eyes Wide Open Calvin… The nitpicking isn’t a good sign…

  • @stevew3196
    @stevew3196 ปีที่แล้ว +6

    Thanks for sharing.
    Seems to me that the best way to avoid the risks or at least minimise them is NOT to rush into anything.
    Take time getting to know the Phillipines, the culture etc and the filipina you think you want to settle down with.
    I'm not really into LDR on dating sites or young women my preference is for mid to late 30's plus 10 years.
    I'm aware of the no divorce law and those relating to adultery and that your filipina can go get a certificate proving she's never been married.
    If for some reason she claims she can't RED FLAG.
    STI risk. "Let's both go get a full health screen"
    You pointed out about meeting her family friends and seeing how she behaves towards them, shop staff. In stressful situations.
    You and others mentioned the RED FLAGS asking for money, to get married/engaged/ a visa regularly.
    My best friends sister was abused by her uncle and cousin so I know some of the signs associated. After my mom died (I was 15) I became almost like an adopted family member and saw first hand how she was. She admitted the abuse years later after her second marriage failed and it all.made sense.
    Thankfully there are some good filipinas to be found but there are still cultural issues we, as foreigners have to deal with.
    Thanks to vlogs like this we have the advantage of years of experience, mistakes and successes. What to expect, how to deal with it and how to avoid problems IF WE ARE SMART ENOUGH TO LISTEN.
    THANKS CALVIN😉

    • @patland1762
      @patland1762 ปีที่แล้ว

      I dated my Filipina for four years in the US to evaluate just how she was before getting married. She was in her thirties at the time. We didn't live together during that time since I had custody of three young kids. It was only after six months of marriage that the real person my wife was revealed herself and it was a nightmare for ten years until she got therapy. You will never know the hells they lived in poverty and the acceptance of abuse in the Philippines.

  • @222jojo
    @222jojo ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Come on now... Preach it Calvin! Well done 🙏

  • @jaybee1597
    @jaybee1597 ปีที่แล้ว

    Thanks for sharing your experiences and wisdom! Good stuff!

  • @widsonsabourin9560
    @widsonsabourin9560 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Thank you sir! For this video ❤️

  • @blackdiamond306
    @blackdiamond306 ปีที่แล้ว +6

    Always remember Calvin but you did in the beginning you have to keep it up. All them trips nice places you have taken her with the frequency. She said don't stop now. That's why I'd rather a woman my age then I don't have to worry about keeping up. 🤣

  • @PeeWeeBarnes
    @PeeWeeBarnes ปีที่แล้ว

    Hi Sunshine Shoulders. I'm from Pennsylvania. My wife & I enjoy watching your show. Take care, Happy New Year!!!

  • @usinebob
    @usinebob ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Very informative video and straight to the point Mr. Calvin….beautiful homes.

  • @stylishoversixty9459
    @stylishoversixty9459 ปีที่แล้ว +5

    Happy New Year and eternal blessings joy peace and much love to you Calvin Marilyn and all your family friends and loved ones...when dating outside our familiar surroundings it's vital we remain conscious of the fact we are entering into a whole different environment when we choose to date someone from another country there is a difference in culture different laws dealing with a different kind of attitude when it comes to marriage and the family structure so it's best to know before you go to avoid some of the pitfalls of dating in the Philippines thanks for the video!

    • @ManOfAdventure2011
      @ManOfAdventure2011 ปีที่แล้ว

      You write well, like someone who grew up in the Caribbean. Am I right?

  • @darrellmfume4020
    @darrellmfume4020 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    great advice. will take it to heart.

  • @jd1811
    @jd1811 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Great specific examples for us to see just what you are talking about, excellent video Calvin.

  • @briancrowley9117
    @briancrowley9117 ปีที่แล้ว

    Excellent video, more men need to hear the truth. Thanks for your honesty

  • @jacobtonge5386
    @jacobtonge5386 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Great vlog Brother Calvin Caveat Emptor. Hopefully the crew heads your advise to slow down

  • @michaelmereday6791
    @michaelmereday6791 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Excellent video with my bad vision I have to be careful everywhere I go I'll come over to see for myself. My intent is true

  • @benevita8562
    @benevita8562 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    thank you for this video, walk in a residential area, beautiful houses... happy new year 2023 from Lyon, FRANCE 🇲🇫

  • @anthonylewis8382
    @anthonylewis8382 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Real Talk...Great Message

  • @gerardfairfield2486
    @gerardfairfield2486 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    you are so right my friend.

  • @geostruth9115
    @geostruth9115 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Yes......we must be thankful for what we have. I too would plan to just chill at that place and rest my mind for a minute. And I don't want no complaints or attitude while I'm chilling there with my woman. But, I shall remain understanding - if in my heart I have committed to her. You are right - women are women. No matter where they are. We as men must understand this fact. Only then can we attempt to understand. Without understanding, confusion abounds.

  • @halfunkbass2966
    @halfunkbass2966 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    "You're watching Maaahannh"
    Another classic show Brother!

  • @spurlworld
    @spurlworld ปีที่แล้ว +1

    That was one beautiful community you're walking through

  • @kevinhill7140
    @kevinhill7140 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Greetings Brother Calvin, Peace and Blessings to you and your Family

  • @HoodsGlobal
    @HoodsGlobal ปีที่แล้ว +4

    **If they don't have IDs or birth certificate, how do the Authorities establish their age?

    • @calroach1
      @calroach1  ปีที่แล้ว

      Good question. A lot of midwifes deliver babies here in the home.

  • @RA-qs2sr
    @RA-qs2sr ปีที่แล้ว +6

    Yes, don't want to be harming children. Even 18 is too young. Must be 25 plus min. Don't catch a case.

  • @johnsherman4035
    @johnsherman4035 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Shangri-la? Nice Calvin! Enjoy your vacation and thanks for sharing. As a Newbie expat I'm learning to proceed slowly and with caution in everything I do. I came to kick the tires last May but only got a view from the surface. Now that I'm establishing roots here I can see that there are a lot of ways you can get your ass torn up here. And not just with women. The rules here are a lot more complicated than I expected.

  • @TheMetalFunkAllStars
    @TheMetalFunkAllStars ปีที่แล้ว +1

    How about playing Music Loud from a Killer Stereo System at Home? Is that a Noise Violation of some sort? Like a Peace Disturbance Law? Thanks for Answering! I use to live in the Philippines when i was a Teen. I'm from the States, and i Still Live here after leaving the Philippines Decades ago! Good Luck Brother!

  • @DJTReinOkinawa
    @DJTReinOkinawa ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Calvin you have true “Boots on The Ground” info! Continue giving us the Nitty Gritty. Early Happy New Year to you and your loved ones!!

    • @calroach1
      @calroach1  ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Happy new year brother and continued prosperity.

  • @lifeofleon1025
    @lifeofleon1025 ปีที่แล้ว

    Calvin, some great points about the connection between poverty and mental health (I'm speaking first hand, having grown up poor). Your haters are just jealous at your intelligence and your TH-cam success. I would tell you ignore that shit but I think you have figured it out. I've watched your 'skin thicken' over your vlogging life. Will be stopping to The Philippines from NYC this summer and hopefully moving in 2025. Thank you Sir!

  • @regismaltais8269
    @regismaltais8269 11 หลายเดือนก่อน

    I'm wed to a Filipina and before taking the decision i have looked many video to understand their culture, their mentality, the risk so I will have no surprised

  • @banjammy4116
    @banjammy4116 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Merry Christmas , the house turned out nice

    • @calroach1
      @calroach1  ปีที่แล้ว

      Happy holidays!

  • @jimgee2676
    @jimgee2676 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    a friend of mine told me his ldr told him to send her money for electric bills food cell phone basicaly all her living expenses and she told him if you dont pay my bills i will have no choice and go ask my ex to support me

  • @MCC876
    @MCC876 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Life and relationships are a dangerous game.

  • @davidnelson7401
    @davidnelson7401 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Hi Calvin, the area you live Saint Carlos looks very nice, nicer than other places I've seen there. Are there any nice beaches in your area?

    • @calroach1
      @calroach1  ปีที่แล้ว +3

      Thanks. I'm actually in Lapu Lapu in this video but yes there's beaches near San Carlos City.

  • @qwintisntial1792
    @qwintisntial1792 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    PEACE AND PROSPERITY TO YOUR FAMILY IN THE NEW YEARS 🙏

    • @calroach1
      @calroach1  ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Thanks brother

  • @MegaLnichols
    @MegaLnichols ปีที่แล้ว +4

    I have a woman who needs a eye glasses is she using me , because her eye glasses were broken, what should I do ?

    • @anyt1me178
      @anyt1me178 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      If she asked, dump her. A true Filipina will NEVER ask for anything.

    • @calroach1
      @calroach1  ปีที่แล้ว +7

      I can't tell you what you do but eye glasses are not expensive here. Now having said that if she asks for 50K for a pair then it's probably questionable.

    • @MegaLnichols
      @MegaLnichols ปีที่แล้ว +2

      Thanks brother

    • @1clkvideos140
      @1clkvideos140 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      If I was dating her - must mean I like her to some degree - it’s not like she asked for cash in hand, an expensive phone upgrade, a shopping spree, etc. - eyeglasses are cheap in the PI - I think I could spring for a pair of glasses without feeling used. She’d probably be extremely grateful…

    • @yaadythommo5548
      @yaadythommo5548 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      This is a good chance to test her intentions. Help her with those glasses...... BUT should she ask again..... Say a definitive NO ...... I cannot help you.....then see how she reacts.

  • @hybrid711
    @hybrid711 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    Good stuff.

  • @imhotep1934
    @imhotep1934 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    THE CENIKOR PHILOSOPHY
    The Cenikor philosophy is based on the belief that unless a man accepts himself for what he is, he cannot grow or develop his potentialities.
    Growth is possible only when he becomes aware that his potentialities lie dormant within himself, and that he is just an extension of his fellow man; thus in securing the good of others, he continually secures his own good.
    An important part of man's growth is that he be true to himself and to his fellow man.
    He must be prepared to move forward and speak the utmost syllable of his convictions, lest his energies be used to defend, rather than to explore and actualize himself.
    The nature of his being lies dependent upon the depth of his character, and he can only find peace and happiness when he has given his best to the task at hand.
    The force which exists within him is new in nature, and he does not know what he can do, nor does he know until he has tried. God grants wisdom only to those who earn it.
    Learning is possible only when a man changes by reason of his own desire, or the learning and change will not be permanent.

  • @frankquintanarjr.5428
    @frankquintanarjr.5428 ปีที่แล้ว

    Thank you Sir, you helped me make an important decision.

  • @theone3774
    @theone3774 ปีที่แล้ว

    Bro Calvin,
    Very informative Much appreciated 👏 .
    As always thanks for keeping it 💯.
    Stay Safe.

  • @MrDee001
    @MrDee001 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    My gawd that neighborhood looks so peaceful. Where is it so I can build a house there?

  • @mrs.marys.travelers5962
    @mrs.marys.travelers5962 ปีที่แล้ว

    Happy New Year, Calvin!!

  • @patland1762
    @patland1762 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Mental issues... You have that right. I married a filipina here in the US. For the first 10 years it was a nightmare (dated four years before marriage to try to be sure everything was okay as I had custody of 3 kids from a prior marriage). She had so many mental issues from poverty, physical abuse, sexual abuse, slavery, etc. that were not apparent (other than old scars on her body which initially she said was from a motorcycle accident) until we married and she had to deal with 24/7 family life. After forcing her to get therapy or get divorced, after a few years of therapy there is now some normalacy. It gets better every year now and last two years (our of a 15 year relationship) are now good but I and my family suffered for it. I have eventually been told just the tip of the iceburg of her abuse and what I know is horrific. She said her therapist said she has never heard of anything like the level of abuse my wife shared with her. You have no idea what you are getting into because they will never share the dark side of their life because it will make you run away from them if you understand the mental issues that this abuse curses them with.
    One thing a therapist told me is that a person stops maturing when the abuse starts. A childhood of abuse means you are not dealing with an emotionally mature adult.

    • @calroach1
      @calroach1  ปีที่แล้ว

      Wow thanks for sharing. I'm glad things have gotten better for you.

    • @patland1762
      @patland1762 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@calroach1 I stuck with this woman because of the tragedies and abuse she suffered her entire life. Her first "husband" lied to her and married her in Thailand (a filipino) yet he was at the time married to a filipina in the Philippines . He beat her regularly causing a miscarriage. She got an annulment due to the invalidity of the marriage. She then married an American and came to the states and he molested her young daughter for some time and emotionally abused his wife. She found out about the molestation and testified and put him in prison where he died. Shortly after her divorce she met me. She was struggling and had to get food from a food bank and friends here yet never told me about that and never asked for any financial assitance. It may sound stupid to some but I felt and feel that perhaps I could bring some stability and peace in her life but the ghosts of her past must still haunt her. I felt if I divorced her it could well be that her nightmare in life might start again. Unfortunately, as a father, I exposed my children to poor tratment by her and lost my relationship with my now adult son as a result. Life happens, sometimes good and sometimes bad.

  • @Max-oi9es
    @Max-oi9es ปีที่แล้ว

    I just met a 41-year-old Filipina and she looks 21 if not younger but she has a 14-year-old daughter.

  • @Calyboy59
    @Calyboy59 ปีที่แล้ว +12

    I’m finding the women over their are to clingy. I’m a mature male, and have Ben speaking with a older Philippine woman. And I’m done already. Constant calls day and night…I’m over it already. Trying to back pedal out of this relationship. Her saying she loves me, and never met in person. Something wrong with that picture.

    • @thebeachoflife
      @thebeachoflife ปีที่แล้ว +2

      Look for a younger woman

    • @Calyboy59
      @Calyboy59 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@misutasutanto6312 BINGO…!’

    • @rgtunderworldrgt7773
      @rgtunderworldrgt7773 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      Younger women aren't that different there.
      They are by and large,Super jealous, clingy,
      Territorial....they are a dime a dozen there.
      They are keenly aware of their competition.
      She, they Allll know,they second you walk out the door? There's others waiting to pounce on you. They grow up understanding this dynamic

    • @Calyboy59
      @Calyboy59 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      @@rgtunderworldrgt7773 yea that rings a bell. Same thing happens in thailand

    • @rgtunderworldrgt7773
      @rgtunderworldrgt7773 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@Calyboy59
      Especially if your a foreigner, and a good dude?..Your gold

  • @W1LDWESLEY
    @W1LDWESLEY ปีที่แล้ว

    Do you believe the Philippines has a higher concentration of conservative women? In the states I'm looking for a southern bell.

  • @michaelcrews2229
    @michaelcrews2229 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    I think it's true here in the West to Calvin my wife and I have been together for 10 years legally married but the magic is gone I see her reality and the reality of her siblings back home and it just doesn't seem fair I think of myself as a good man l want to be good to people but I was raised blue collar in eastern Canada work hard was the philosophy that was beat it me as a child I just don't see that in the Philippines or maybe it's just my wife's family

    • @williamgomez4661
      @williamgomez4661 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      You are not alone, I am in the same situation here in France.......may god bless

    • @michaelcrews2229
      @michaelcrews2229 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      @@williamgomez4661 thank you brother and I am sorry about the world cup you will get them next time

    • @patland1762
      @patland1762 ปีที่แล้ว

      Same here. Married a filipina in the US. LOL they sure don't like it when you point it out.

  • @amazonseller-yf8vv
    @amazonseller-yf8vv ปีที่แล้ว

    Very intersting. I'm from California but I've been living in Russia for 10 years. I've been considering coming to the Philipines to check it out, but it sounds like the quality of living is much lower and there can still be plenty of problems with dating. I'll probably still come check it out but it's very intersting to here the pros and cons because It doesn't really sound that easy in reality.

  • @gilbellamy7713
    @gilbellamy7713 ปีที่แล้ว

    Thanks for the information 😊

  • @Speedi-tm5dm
    @Speedi-tm5dm ปีที่แล้ว +3

    Calvin
    Have you heard of the term “Having him under the skirt”
    It’s a term Philippina use!

  • @albertbrown2560
    @albertbrown2560 ปีที่แล้ว

    Hi Calvin , Happy New Year to you and your family. How is it dating an older Filipina (60 and about)?

  • @wokvonrockstein
    @wokvonrockstein ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Hi Calvin. My question is " do the under aged girls face any consiqences for praying on foreigners?". Also, do the people of the philippines know that most People have mental issues from being abused and come there an a attempt to escape the past or what could be a present situation?. One thing that i'm aware of is that there is no place on earth that allows relationships with under aged people. I believe that anywhere that money is an issue you'll find cutthroat peoples and there is nowhere that money is not an issue.

  • @chrisstoney20032003
    @chrisstoney20032003 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    How is the medical treatment and hospitals over there?

    • @calroach1
      @calroach1  ปีที่แล้ว +1

      In the urban cities medical care is comparable to the west.

  • @peteb6072
    @peteb6072 ปีที่แล้ว

    Sir .. where do you live?… it’s so quiet and peaceful.. so beautiful

  • @terranceholmes9477
    @terranceholmes9477 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Great info thanks so much for telling us your story 🙌🏾🇺🇸

  • @fruitloops3718
    @fruitloops3718 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    I really appreciate your advice Calvin but having been married once before I know you can never really know who you're getting involved with. It took my wife 10 years to reveal herself. I was partly to blame as I was in love and thought she had the same feelings for me. But no, my advice is do not get married. There's no upside for the man.

  • @tomjohnson7115
    @tomjohnson7115 ปีที่แล้ว

    Excellent commentary......

  • @noelleos1364
    @noelleos1364 ปีที่แล้ว

    Happy New Year Calvin Good to see you walking all the time great exercise Can't wait to get to the Philippines but I tell you what I would not want to get married We'd rather just see the sights enjoy The people

  • @d.l.f.7794
    @d.l.f.7794 ปีที่แล้ว

    Excellent Truths!

  • @LIGHTNING351
    @LIGHTNING351 ปีที่แล้ว

    I know Calvin and I will get along once I make it to the Philippines 🇵🇭

  • @Retired-jr3qs
    @Retired-jr3qs ปีที่แล้ว +3

    Calvin women love to complain. No matter how much you love them. Sometimes a man should have his own space away from his woman

  • @DonFashionBeauty
    @DonFashionBeauty ปีที่แล้ว

    Is there any place to call to verify the age of a Filipina?

  • @abdullahkarim4678
    @abdullahkarim4678 ปีที่แล้ว

    Ived learn a Lot From Navy Man I’m from Fort Knox Kentucky

  • @frankmosses9121
    @frankmosses9121 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Thanks for the heads-up! I guess the best bet is to not date unless she has an ID and no strange behavior..

    • @calroach1
      @calroach1  ปีที่แล้ว

      These are just some of the risks we face that's all. Many have a great dating experience over here.

    • @frankmosses9121
      @frankmosses9121 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@calroach1 yes and I'm ready to take my chances! American woman are just to crazy to mess with, if I can't find love in the Philippines I'm going MGTOW.

  • @CornellSandifer
    @CornellSandifer ปีที่แล้ว +3

    Good info but I don't see any real problems for me don't want anyone that looks that young anyway. What I'm willing to give I will give as long as I get what I want and won't give any more than I want to and Love is at the bottom of my list. Now mental problems I'm gone won't deal with that at all, can't be handpicked I do what I want when I want throw a fit on me, she done I won't tolerate it, her first time is her last time I don't understand why men put up with that BS I'm not needy for nothing, in this stage of my life my way is the only way if she is going to stay or its "next up"

    • @patland1762
      @patland1762 ปีที่แล้ว

      Good luck finding a Filipina that has not suffered abuse and resulting mental issues. She is too smart to tell you about it because she knows you will run.

    • @CornellSandifer
      @CornellSandifer ปีที่แล้ว +1

      @@patland1762 No worries when she shows it I’m running anyway I want but don’t need anything

  • @abdullahkarim4678
    @abdullahkarim4678 ปีที่แล้ว

    I tried
    Long distance post with my friends

  • @JustinJamesTravels
    @JustinJamesTravels ปีที่แล้ว

    nice video brother

  • @danielhackney7806
    @danielhackney7806 ปีที่แล้ว

    There is one thing you didn't mention that concerns me. Women that have really bad PMS, maybe that's not an issue in the PI but it sure was for me in the US. Damn near every month the Xwife would go postal during her cycle. I just got use to it UNTIL menopause when it really got out of control. Damn brother I never want to experience that again!

  • @pauladventure7953
    @pauladventure7953 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Does Amazon deliver there?

  • @MrTraveler33
    @MrTraveler33 ปีที่แล้ว

    Some of the mental situations are basically related to people don’t realize the connections and socialization talking and being out in public are different and having money is not using their it’s just resources getting and it’s normal in the usa and Europe it’s just considered dangerous in those countries and everything is abuse unless quiet and not like a drone

  • @banjammy4116
    @banjammy4116 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Very lovely, not you , your better half. God Bless . Yes the world is full of it. But can you mention dating a married woman in the Philippines? She is old enough but married.. l have been had before in this life, l am worried about the bend over hotel from adultery You are very fortunate.

  • @marcmac8944
    @marcmac8944 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    The hidden truths they don't want to share and one can understand why. Pain, hurt mistrust , violations of ones mind body and soul.
    It's good you are speaking on these issues Calvin.

    • @rgtunderworldrgt7773
      @rgtunderworldrgt7773 ปีที่แล้ว

      Stop making excuses for bad behavior.
      That saving face Bulllllshhhht is for the birds. You know it. They hide alot of sht, Don't really communicate as they should. Period. The World has Zero problems holding men accountable. Men need to stop azzz kissing and hold women in their lives just as accountable. Period

  • @CheckedOut2024
    @CheckedOut2024 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    There's no risk if you're an older man, then look for an older woman.. simple. Stop looking for jail bait.

  • @elvincarlington5310
    @elvincarlington5310 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Dam good topic.

  • @worldtraveler6887
    @worldtraveler6887 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Good morning Calvin

  • @mmirafuentess1990
    @mmirafuentess1990 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    BOLO, indeed.
    And, plenty of Filipinas are jealous or clingy.
    Wait, one more the “tampo” (I’m literally cracking up because such is silly & stupid.) Make up before you go to bed.

    • @patland1762
      @patland1762 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Heard that one hundreds of times LOL

  • @robinorga528
    @robinorga528 ปีที่แล้ว

    Thank you shipmate

  • @michaelmereday6791
    @michaelmereday6791 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Nice house