After the interment service for my dear mother was over and everyone was heading for their cars, I felt prompted to walk up to the funeral director (a tall pale fellow who looked rather grim) and I shook his hand and thanked him. I told him on behalf of my mother that I really thought she would have liked everything very much. A look of what I think was emotional relief came across his face and I thought he might start to cry which could become awkward so I turned quickly and left. Strange. I still remember how good that felt. One of God’s tender mercies.
I'm sorry abt ur mother. I know it was hard. To have that FH director release a breath & being appreciative of you, must've given YOU an uplift of sorts. I used Walter B. COOKE, and they were very professional. As I said my cousin was with me, bc I was inconsolable. My mother died suddenly, from a heart attack. So I believe I was running on auto pilot. I don't remember if I thanked him after burial, I remembered thanking him after we made arrangements. God bless u. May ur mother rest in peace.✝️🙏🏽💐🕯🕊
The first Funeral I assisted with was for a 60 year old lady who died unexpectedly. Right before we closed the casket the family was saying their final good byes and their 4-5 year old grandson is talking to grandma and starts to pray. He is pleading with Our Father in Heaven to make her heart beat again so they can play again. That broke my heart and I had to grab tissues to wipe the tears away. I asked the FD how he does it. He said he just has to look away and not think about what they are saying. He also told me he has broke down a few times because it was so heart wrenching. This profession is a calling not a job. I love helping and being there for the families I serve.
I give you,and all funeral directors alot of gratitude for the services you perform,under the most difficult of circumstances.That being said,make sure to take care of yourselves,and make time to decompress.You bring great comfort to families,maybe more than you realize.Thank you.
No excuse to attack the furneral director---even if you are not happy with them--leave for a while --family should remove that person until they calm down. Kari you are the only furneral director that Really explains what you guys go through.....your viewpoint is nessary I think-so we see furneral directors as real people--and the pain they can not help but feel at times... We have had great ones-except for one furneral home----I would pick you in a heartbeat for any of my loved ones--not too morbid I hope to say !!!! great vlog.....
So sorry those people verbally attacked you 😢 You're so nice. I know it hurt but I'm glad you could separate & know it really wasn't personal. It may sound weird, but, I believe you are operating in your true calling from God. He needs loving caring people in the role of Funeral Director. Thank you for your service. 🌷💕
Kari..I just have to say I truly admire your poise and positivity to do things so professional and politely! Working with the public is very difficult in itself. But to have a profession where you have to address some very personal, difficult and challenging questions of complete strangers takes special people. And you are one of those special people 😊💖
Heres wishing the prettiest Funeral Director in the land, a very special Valentines Day!! Thanks for all you do Kari :) Your kindness and compassion always come shining through in your videos!! Much love from Western North Carolina. 💐💐💐💐💝💝💝💝
I lost both parents at 14 and 16 one sister when I was 7 it was hard and has been im now 50 and just lost a brother I now work with the elderly and work part time at a local funeral home some times it catches up with me but I just try and some my stories help the families I just know these people are in a better place they have to be. Kari thanks for your videos and the help you give to people it really does help 🙏
I am sorry that you had too much losses that put in extra whammies. I pray and hope that Great God may see you through in these trying times. Kari the Morticianess is the best blessing.
You totally got my reaction so right! I literally shouted yey and called my mom, she is going to watch this video! Thank you sooo much for sharing, you are awesome!!
My first autopsy was hard because the guy was a young soldier. It got easier except for the really young. My wife is a Veterinarian and she gets yelled at about money all the time.
When I was 32 and in nursing school my first code was on a woman that was also 32. That really threw me for a loop and honestly effected me bad enough that I seriously considered dropping out
Kari, I really appreciate your presentations! I don t know how you do that type of very difficult work. I'm a retired state social worker, people always said, I don t know how you do it! My family had several funeral directors as close friends and I ended up applying, got accepted at Mt Ida for BS applied sciences. Found out, it was NOT for me, the children! I stuck with social work! Keep up the great presentations. Joe Caliri, New Portland, Maine
I admire your, professionalism which must be very difficult at times, especially when dealing with overly emotional or rude individuals who are grieving. Hang in there Ms Kari☺
I would pray for Kari the Morticianess, because she has had too much hard times loaded on her. Dealing with people who have poor attitudes is not easy like walking away.
Another very interesting and informative video. I have always thought the hardest part must be dealing with the death of a child, having to deal with a fetus as you did must have been so so hard. As always your compassion is so evident - thank you 🙏🏻
Was Asked by Female Family Members if I Would do Their Hair, Makeup and Nails at The Time of Their Deaths I was Asked to Make Sure I did all this for them. I had done all this for them for years after I became a Cosmetigist so when they passed I did this for them even sprayed their favorite perfume on them also. I wanted
As beautiful of a person as you are (not just physical beauty but inner beauty) as you care so much for the families as well as the deceased I felt so bad hearing how they yelled at you. your trying to give peace and solace to these people and give them a "good dignified" last image of their loved ones and for them to take it out on you is just wrong. That story about the sisters is so sad. When I worked on the rescue squad seeing the children cry or have that moment of reality that their loved ones are gone was truly heartbreaking so I can relate to you on that story. Thanks for all you do to keep people dignified in death you do a great job!
Being a funeral director can be emotionally difficult and it’s not about the money and trying to pull money out of families, because at the end of the day funeral directors are human too, and they never know when they will be sitting in the front row with their love one being laid out, so they must always treat the families as if it was their own family, and their own love one ,and just because they work with the dead doesn’t exempt them from pain. But one question I have is that some times the funeral home can go weeks and or even months without being called to service, but the bills of the funeral home and your home have to be paid, so what do you do the compensate and to pay the bills of the funeral home. “Sorry for the long paragraph”
I just couldn't do what you do. Love your heart, it's got to be tough. You seem like such a sweetheart, thank God for people like you., in the business of taking care of peoples deceased loved ones.
Hi Kari. What challenges as a funeral director? Quite an open ended question. In your field, so many various situations. You come across as strong, and have the ability to handle different situations, but you're not a robot. You have feelings just like anyone else. When people lash out, it's easy for another person to say, "don't take it personal." Or, "don't let it get to you." Well, when you've spent so much time on this person, and done the best that you can do, it is very difficult not to take it personal. And, being pregnant, with the hormones, I'm sure was a challenge in many cases. Thank you again. And, as always, look forward to your next video.
Aww, that was very very sad abt the sisters. It reminded me of when I was 5, and I didnt understand why my great-grandmother was "sleeping" in a FH. I still asked abt her, until I understood overtime that she was never coming back....when I made arrangements for my mother in 1991, I was in very very bad shape. Thankfully, my 1st cousin was with me & it helped a lot. One of the worst days in my life.
You would think she was referring to Zeke Upshaw as the athlete that collapsed but that was a month after this vid. Great vid. You are very professional and compassionate.
@@KaritheMortician I understand that dealing with people who have hard and difficult personalities and attitudes can be difficult to deal with. I would pray for you Kari.
the first funeral I ever went to was when I was 8 years old. It was my friend next door who had passed away. She was close in age to me. She also had 3 other siblings that I was friends with as well, all us neighborhood kids were pretty tight. I can remember the day of the funeral leaving the church and the sadness overtaking me. At that point I realized what had really happened and how bad it actually was. But leading up to that point, I hadn't felt any emotion. I guess kids grieve differently. Do you think my delayed reaction was normal for a kid that age? I've always wondered that.
Grief does not work in a standard way. It affects everyone differently. Hence, we are different people. When I was six-years-old, my mother died at 26-years-old. I did not cry, but my brothers and I returned from Dallas, Texas back to New York. When I asked my father where was mommy, he said that she died in heaven. I did not know that there was funeral for her in Texas. However, I went to a first funeral when I was 16-years-old. It was for my grandfather, who was my father's father. Afterwards, I was interested to learn more about what happens after people die. I had some experiences of helping funeral directors and an apprentice funeral director as a teenager.
I can see how the old adage “Leave your problems at the door” would be helpful in different situations and such. It’s almost like you would have to disconnect yourself from your work day. Especially when the clientele loses it. Does it get easier for you? Or do you just learn to respect and not show your own emotions? I mean we’re all human being cold working with families I’m sure doesn’t go over very well. I admire your courage to face death the way you do and maybe even help the families get through what It’s like for them after the burial. Offering them maybe a list of where they can go for grief counseling support groups and such because I haven’t seen too many funeral homes do that maybe a handful.
Hello Kari how are you this evening as ever you shine a light on the funeral industry That is extremely positive and informative You have a lovely evening peace and love from the harbour city
My sister in law acted like a bitch towards me from the time my husband was admitted to ICU until the time we divided the flowers and leftover food from the funeral dinner after we returned from the cemetery. The funeral director was a friend of my husband's and reassured me to plan the service that my husband wanted...not what his sister wanted. He was aware of our financial situation and that my husband wanted as much of the life insurance as possible to go to me...not his funeral. I was so grateful...my family lived in another state and it took awhile for them to make travel arrangements. It was comforting knowing that my wishes would be honored no matter how hard his sister tried to change them.
You deserved the extra support from the funeral director or directress. It is too bad that your sister-in-law was very inattentive to your needs. Needless to mention, I am sorry that your husband was so sick that he was placed in the intensive care unit and he died.
Kari Northey Auto Sensory Meridian Response. Sounds that make your skin tingle. Although I don't experience this I do listen to ASMR videos at bedtime, phone by my ear, because they almost always make me fall asleep. I just like the whispering voices.
Hi Kari. I remember when people used to be respectful of processions but now it seems like that is no longer the case. Do you have any stories about difficult processions?
Have you done any videos on preparing a body for air travel? Are there special containers, do they require the body to be packed in ice, do they require the body to be embalmed first, are there many permits involved? I live in Florida and we have a lot of snow birds here that pass away or their spouse passes away and their body goes back up north for the funeral. Are there any requirements the airlines have for special containers or amount of time the body can be in transit? Thanks
Also, have you ever done a private residence visitation like families did years ago? I was at one in my lifetime....kind of strange but I had no problem with it....thanks
Have fights ever broke off during funerals/wakes that you were involved in??..crazy question, I know 😒. I ask because I have heard of cases where that (and even shootings/killings) have happened, during services!! 🥺
Could you make a video on how you treated the woman with a hole on her pubic bone due to vaginal cancer how did you treat it and what are some other severe case's where you have had to come up with some creative solutions.
We had another pilot in my company die in the 🇦🇪 UAE. He died while driving a rented car with alcohol in his blood which is completely illegal over there (no BAC whatsoever is allowed unlike our 0.08%). His family had to do all kinds of legal wrangling to get his body back and it ended up taking over six months. If you die doing something illegal overseas it can create a world of trouble for your family. I look forward to seeing you in Dover!
Kari Northey my dad passed away back in 2010 from Mrsa. I remember that the funeral home was in a big hurry to create before payment was made in full. Thanks for the info
U are excellent at explaining all of this ... maybe u should be a teacher of this profession... although it would be a great loss for the public that u caringly serve
I want to be an arranger as I love working with families. I have a lot of experience with grief. I live in Australia. We do things a little different here. We don't usually embalm unless the family wants their loved one to go to a crypt or mausoleum. When my stepfather was killed by a driver who didn't stop and he was riding his scooter two years ago I went to say goodbye at the police mortuary as it was a police matter. But he looked normal no defects . We donated his corneas and delighted a young girl can now see. We wanted to donate as per his wishes all his parts but due to injury couldn't. He was a very environmentally friendly person and wanted what we call here the life art casket (a biodegradable box) . I would like to know why these are more expensive than the usual caskets ? Sonia Australia
Does anybody know how Funeral Homes close for the night, and how they also closed up the visitation rooms for the night when there's a person in the casket in the room?
Kari Northey oh thank you. when I get older I like to become a funeral director and my own funeral home and I was curious if some funeral homes have table lamps in the visitation room that they leave on at night or do they just completely shut all the lights off and then just lock up the door.
this has nothing to do with mouths but I'm 17 years old and I'd really love to become a funeral director/ embalmer but I'm not sure where to start. college is so expensive and I doubt I'd ever have the money it'd take to attend mortuary school without living in debt for the rest of my life. either way I'd like to get my foot in the door. Everyone says unless you were born into the industry its near impossible to get in. . How do you suggest I go about asking them if they need help with anything or if they allow shadowing or anything like that. Do I just call funeral homes around me and leave a voicemail or something? I understand they aren't gonna set me up with a body to embalm or anything but even if its simple things like washing their cars or picking weeds or setting appointments, answering phones WHATEVER I don't care I just want something to get me started there but I don't know what
When my dad died the funeral director ask my mom about payment at the casket boy that pits me of especially when it was paid already. The guy is died now but his son is very good.
People don’t seem to understand that Funeral Directors need to make a living too and a big part of that is getting paid for their services. Are painters or plumbers vultures too?
This is a strange question but what are some (there has to be a few) joyous, happy, or even funny moments that stick out to you over the years of being in the business? Not being disrespectful of course, but times families were happy or thought something about the process was funny.
I May be out of my line, but what's THE wildest request for funeral you have done. HAVE YOU never had to do reconstruction for a viewing. When would you advise against a open casket.
Larry, I’m a church organist, but I do play for funerals, at the church, and also for family members. I don’t necessarily remember special requests, but there are some funny stories of things that have happened at them. To answer your question about closed caskets, I would say you would use a closed casket in situations where the deceased died in a fire (the first funeral I ever went to), an accident, or other tragic circumstances. In the case of an accident, like what had happened to my cousin, who died in 1990 in a motorcycle accident at 17, you could possibly do an open casket, but the person might not look the way that you would have known them, and it might take a lot of reconstructive work to make him or her presentable, especially depending on the extent of injuries. In hindsight, they probably should have had it closed.
@@organrick A closed casket is appropriate because a corpse was seriously burned, or decomposed, or mashed, or lacerated, or damaged in any abnormal way, even beheaded.
A burnt corpse is not processed. If possible, it may be embalmed. If it suffered second-degree burns or third-degree burns, the corpse may unlikely be embalmed. If the person died of smoke inhalation, embalming may be possible. The difference is that the face likely be covered by black or gray billowed smoke. Some skin parts may have been burnt away as in a second-degree fire.
@@KaritheMortician A burnt corpse is not processed. If possible, it may be embalmed. If it suffered second-degree burns or third-degree burns, the corpse may unlikely be embalmed. If the person died of smoke inhalation, embalming may be possible. The difference is that the face likely be covered by black or gray billowed smoke. Some skin parts may have been burnt away as in a second-degree fire.
Aww you are such a sweet and nice person, it made me cry because some one had hurt your feelings, that lady was rude to yell at you but yeah i understand what she was going through her bereavement with her child. You just made me wonder about something, How do you guys embalm a pregnant mother while the child is still inside of her how does that process work? Thanks again and keep up the great work
Ppl need to be taught about grief in high school. Getting angry with the very person who you need to rely on to bury your child is just asinine. I could see if a child was murdered and you see the killer in court. But going off on the funeral director is abusive, and she could have been asked to leave. If she doesn't know that funerals are extremely pricey, I wonder if she has lived in a cave her entire life.
"It's frustrating when you can't do what you want your body to do". Yeah. That's my every day Life with chronic illness, not just for 9 months during pregnancy. That is why I can't get into this profession no matter how much I want to.
I'm really interested in getting into the funeral industry. do they give scholarships or financial aid for a program like that? and the only thing that really stops me is being able to take care of children. I don't know if I could handle that. how do you handle that?
After the interment service for my dear mother was over and everyone was heading for their cars, I felt prompted to walk up to the funeral director (a tall pale fellow who looked rather grim) and I shook his hand and thanked him. I told him on behalf of my mother that I really thought she would have liked everything very much. A look of what I think was emotional relief came across his face and I thought he might start to cry which could become awkward so I turned quickly and left. Strange. I still remember how good that felt. One of God’s tender mercies.
That was very nice of you ...❤
I'm sorry abt ur mother. I know it was hard. To have that FH director release a breath & being appreciative of you, must've given YOU an uplift of sorts.
I used Walter B. COOKE, and they were very professional. As I said my cousin was with me, bc I was inconsolable. My mother died suddenly, from a heart attack. So I believe I was running on auto pilot. I don't remember if I thanked him after burial, I remembered thanking him after we made arrangements. God bless u. May ur mother rest in peace.✝️🙏🏽💐🕯🕊
I'm sure he appreciated it!
Thank you for doing that. 💛
The first Funeral I assisted with was for a 60 year old lady who died unexpectedly. Right before we closed the casket the family was saying their final good byes and their 4-5 year old grandson is talking to grandma and starts to pray. He is pleading with Our Father in Heaven to make her heart beat again so they can play again. That broke my heart and I had to grab tissues to wipe the tears away. I asked the FD how he does it. He said he just has to look away and not think about what they are saying. He also told me he has broke down a few times because it was so heart wrenching. This profession is a calling not a job. I love helping and being there for the families I serve.
I give you,and all funeral directors alot of gratitude for the services you perform,under the most difficult of circumstances.That being said,make sure to take care of yourselves,and make time to decompress.You bring great comfort to families,maybe more than you realize.Thank you.
Im glad that you are so human. I always thought funeral directors had no emotions.
They tend to hold it together very well, imagine they were a blubbering mess in front of the family that would just be unprofessional
The funeral directors I know are amazing people.
God bless you Kari! Thanks for doing such a difficult job.
I'm watching your channel in mortuary school. My professor has us watching you as part of our grade.
You are the best teacher Kari!
Which school?! Tell your teacher I am happy to do a live video with your class or anything to help!
No excuse to attack the furneral director---even if you are not happy with them--leave for a while --family should remove that person until they calm down. Kari you are the only furneral director that Really explains what you guys go through.....your viewpoint is nessary I think-so we see furneral directors as real people--and the pain they can not help but feel at times... We have had great ones-except for one furneral home----I would pick you in a heartbeat for any of my loved ones--not too morbid I hope to say !!!! great vlog.....
Deanna Harby your rich got nobody should be attacked it’s just wrong
Little miss funeral is also very good at explaining and caitlin doughty I think her name is
So sorry those people verbally attacked you 😢
You're so nice. I know it hurt but I'm glad you could separate & know it really wasn't personal. It may sound weird, but, I believe you are operating in your true calling from God. He needs loving caring people in the role of Funeral Director. Thank you for your service. 🌷💕
You are the sweetest and caring person. It would be an honor to be in your hands. So caring.
Your such a special person! Thank you for all you do.
Kari..I just have to say I truly admire your poise and positivity to do things so professional and politely! Working with the public is very difficult in itself. But to have a profession where you have to address some very personal, difficult and challenging questions of complete strangers takes special people. And you are one of those special people 😊💖
Heres wishing the prettiest Funeral Director in the land, a very special Valentines Day!! Thanks for all you do Kari :) Your kindness and compassion always come shining through in your videos!! Much love from Western North Carolina. 💐💐💐💐💝💝💝💝
I lost both parents at 14 and 16 one sister when I was 7 it was hard and has been im now 50 and just lost a brother I now work with the elderly and work part time at a local funeral home some times it catches up with me but I just try and some my stories help the families I just know these people are in a better place they have to be. Kari thanks for your videos and the help you give to people it really does help 🙏
You are so welcome!
I am sorry that you had too much losses that put in extra whammies. I pray and hope that Great God may see you through in these trying times. Kari the Morticianess is the best blessing.
Love your Videos always telling my friends about you and how infromative you are
You totally got my reaction so right! I literally shouted yey and called my mom, she is going to watch this video! Thank you sooo much for sharing, you are awesome!!
My first autopsy was hard because the guy was a young soldier. It got easier except for the really young. My wife is a Veterinarian and she gets yelled at about money all the time.
I can only imagine!
When I was 32 and in nursing school my first code was on a woman that was also 32. That really threw me for a loop and honestly effected me bad enough that I seriously considered dropping out
Kari, I really appreciate your presentations! I don t know how you do that type of very difficult work. I'm a retired state social worker, people always said, I don t know how you do it!
My family had several funeral directors as close friends and I ended up applying, got accepted at Mt Ida for BS applied sciences. Found out, it was NOT for me, the children! I stuck with social work! Keep up the great presentations.
Joe Caliri, New Portland, Maine
Thank you
I admire your, professionalism which must be very difficult at times, especially when dealing with overly emotional or rude individuals who are grieving. Hang in there Ms Kari☺
I would pray for Kari the Morticianess, because she has had too much hard times loaded on her. Dealing with people who have poor attitudes is not easy like walking away.
Another very interesting and informative video. I have always thought the hardest part must be dealing with the death of a child, having to deal with a fetus as you did must have been so so hard. As always your compassion is so evident - thank you 🙏🏻
The story about the two sisters made me cry.
Was Asked by Female Family Members if I Would do Their Hair, Makeup and Nails at The Time of Their Deaths I was Asked to Make Sure I did all this for them. I had done all this for them for years after I became a Cosmetigist so when they passed I did this for them even sprayed their favorite perfume on them also. I wanted
💗💗 You do a great job at helping other people understand what you do and go through as well. Hard job for sure. 💗💗
As beautiful of a person as you are (not just physical beauty but inner beauty) as you care so much for the families as well as the deceased I felt so bad hearing how they yelled at you. your trying to give peace and solace to these people and give them a "good dignified" last image of their loved ones and for them to take it out on you is just wrong. That story about the sisters is so sad. When I worked on the rescue squad seeing the children cry or have that moment of reality that their loved ones are gone was truly heartbreaking so I can relate to you on that story. Thanks for all you do to keep people dignified in death you do a great job!
You are such a smart and very respectful person. God bless you!
Thanks so much!
Being a funeral director can be emotionally difficult and it’s not about the money and trying to pull money out of families, because at the end of the day funeral directors are human too, and they never know when they will be sitting in the front row with their love one being laid out, so they must always treat the families as if it was their own family, and their own love one ,and just because they work with the dead doesn’t exempt them from pain. But one question I have is that some times the funeral home can go weeks and or even months without being called to service, but the bills of the funeral home and your home have to be paid, so what do you do the compensate and to pay the bills of the funeral home. “Sorry for the long paragraph”
That was well-written and well-said.
I just couldn't do what you do. Love your heart, it's got to be tough. You seem like such a sweetheart, thank God for people like you., in the business of taking care of peoples deceased loved ones.
Thank you so much!!
I feel this is a career I should of done I have total respect for them in this trade also thank you for a reply on a earlier post
Thank you!
Hi Kari. What challenges as a funeral director? Quite an open ended question. In your field, so many various situations. You come across as strong, and have the ability to handle different situations, but you're not a robot. You have feelings just like anyone else. When people lash out, it's easy for another person to say, "don't take it personal." Or, "don't let it get to you." Well, when you've spent so much time on this person, and done the best that you can do, it is very difficult not to take it personal. And, being pregnant, with the hormones, I'm sure was a challenge in many cases. Thank you again. And, as always, look forward to your next video.
The job of a funeral director/directress is not easy. They can undergo tribulations just like other people.
Very true
U do a very rewarding job, when done with dignity & respect. 😰🇦🇺
Aww, that was very very sad abt the sisters. It reminded me of when I was 5, and I didnt understand why my great-grandmother was "sleeping" in a FH. I still asked abt her, until I understood overtime that she was never coming back....when I made arrangements for my mother in 1991, I was in very very bad shape. Thankfully, my 1st cousin was with me & it helped a lot. One of the worst days in my life.
Thank you for sharing
Kari...a very touching video...you guy are doing your best under very trying circumstances....don't be afraid cry now and again....you're human
You would think she was referring to Zeke Upshaw as the athlete that collapsed but that was a month after this vid. Great vid. You are very professional and compassionate.
Subscribed, I must say that I love your work. Greetings from the South Bronx of NYC!
I admire the work of the funeral director, since I was a teenager. I am from Brooklyn, New York.
Absolutely loooooved this video, superb!
All the answers were very good
thank you!
What type of records do you keep on a person? Do you keep details about the embalming? If so can family request the records?
Wow I think that would be a stressful job. The families have so many raw emotions.
It can be!
@@KaritheMortician I understand that dealing with people who have hard and difficult personalities and attitudes can be difficult to deal with. I would pray for you Kari.
that big funeral the public eye was on it
Yes it was
the first funeral I ever went to was when I was 8 years old. It was my friend next door who had passed away. She was close in age to me. She also had 3 other siblings that I was friends with as well, all us neighborhood kids were pretty tight. I can remember the day of the funeral leaving the church and the sadness overtaking me. At that point I realized what had really happened and how bad it actually was. But leading up to that point, I hadn't felt any emotion. I guess kids grieve differently. Do you think my delayed reaction was normal for a kid that age? I've always wondered that.
Emotionally I had the same reaction with my mam last year when I was 17.
Grief does not work in a standard way. It affects everyone differently. Hence, we are different people. When I was six-years-old, my mother died at 26-years-old. I did not cry, but my brothers and I returned from Dallas, Texas back to New York. When I asked my father where was mommy, he said that she died in heaven. I did not know that there was funeral for her in Texas. However, I went to a first funeral when I was 16-years-old. It was for my grandfather, who was my father's father. Afterwards, I was interested to learn more about what happens after people die. I had some experiences of helping funeral directors and an apprentice funeral director as a teenager.
I can see how the old adage “Leave your problems at the door” would be helpful in different situations and such. It’s almost like you would have to disconnect yourself from your work day. Especially when the clientele loses it. Does it get easier for you? Or do you just learn to respect and not show your own emotions? I mean we’re all human being cold working with families I’m sure doesn’t go over very well. I admire your courage to face death the way you do and maybe even help the families get through what It’s like for them after the burial. Offering them maybe a list of where they can go for grief counseling support groups and such because I haven’t seen too many funeral homes do that maybe a handful.
Hello Kari how are you this evening as ever you shine a light on the funeral industry
That is extremely positive and informative
You have a lovely evening peace and love from the harbour city
Thank you ❤
Kari I’d love rove to see you in your own business. You would be very successful
My sister in law acted like a bitch towards me from the time my husband was admitted to ICU until the time we divided the flowers and leftover food from the funeral dinner after we returned from the cemetery.
The funeral director was a friend of my husband's and reassured me to plan the service that my husband wanted...not what his sister wanted. He was aware of our financial situation and that my husband wanted as much of the life insurance as possible to go to me...not his funeral.
I was so grateful...my family lived in another state and it took awhile for them to make travel arrangements. It was comforting knowing that my wishes would be honored no matter how hard his sister tried to change them.
I am glad you had good support through the funeral home
You deserved the extra support from the funeral director or directress. It is too bad that your sister-in-law was very inattentive to your needs. Needless to mention, I am sorry that your husband was so sick that he was placed in the intensive care unit and he died.
Hi i always wondered how do you embalm a pregnant woman? As I watched your video about embalming and using the trocar seems not possible.
You can embalm me anyday!!!😂😂😂😂😂
well thanks
Great video, again!
Your videos are actually relaxing. Some asmr going on. Weird.. I know.
Kari Northey Think Bob Ross voice. Makes you relaxed. I know.the subject matter isn't really relaxing... The delivery is
Randy Eldridge I’ve always thought AMSR was weird but I totally get it now. Her voice is so calming for me.
Kari Northey Auto Sensory Meridian Response. Sounds that make your skin tingle. Although I don't experience this I do listen to ASMR videos at bedtime, phone by my ear, because they almost always make me fall asleep. I just like the whispering voices.
Love your shows
Thank you for what you do
God bless 🙏🏻
Thanks for listening
Hi Kari. I remember when people used to be respectful of processions but now it seems like that is no longer the case. Do you have any stories about difficult processions?
Have you done any videos on preparing a body for air travel? Are there special containers, do they require the body to be packed in ice, do they require the body to be embalmed first, are there many permits involved? I live in Florida and we have a lot of snow birds here that pass away or their spouse passes away and their body goes back up north for the funeral. Are there any requirements the airlines have for special containers or amount of time the body can be in transit? Thanks
A job that makes you cry.. sounds great
You did the kid from fenville Wes Lenard?
Yes I cared for him
Also, have you ever done a private residence visitation like families did years ago? I was at one in my lifetime....kind of strange but I had no problem with it....thanks
My Dad's side of the family has done that before and to me it's normal actully i had family stay in the church they went to.
Have fights ever broke off during funerals/wakes that you were involved in??..crazy question, I know 😒. I ask because I have heard of cases where that (and even shootings/killings) have happened, during services!! 🥺
How bizarre! The fallen angels of Satan come into the funeral home just as in church.
Could you make a video on how you treated the woman with a hole on her pubic bone due to vaginal cancer how did you treat it and what are some other severe case's where you have had to come up with some creative solutions.
You are an angel...
Kari Northey my pleasure... you do a very hard job and I'm amazed at what you go through.
We had another pilot in my company die in the 🇦🇪 UAE. He died while driving a rented car with alcohol in his blood which is completely illegal over there (no BAC whatsoever is allowed unlike our 0.08%). His family had to do all kinds of legal wrangling to get his body back and it ended up taking over six months. If you die doing something illegal overseas it can create a world of trouble for your family. I look forward to seeing you in Dover!
Kari. What is the procedure for a bio hazardous set of remains, and have you ever had to utilize them?.
Kari Northey my dad passed away back in 2010 from Mrsa. I remember that the funeral home was in a big hurry to create before payment was made in full. Thanks for the info
U are excellent at explaining all of this ... maybe u should be a teacher of this profession... although it would be a great loss for the public that u caringly serve
Maybe you’ve mentioned in a previous video and I missed it, but how did you know this was the career path you wanted to take? Love your channel!
I want to be an arranger as I love working with families. I have a lot of experience with grief. I live in Australia. We do things a little different here. We don't usually embalm unless the family wants their loved one to go to a crypt or mausoleum. When my stepfather was killed by a driver who didn't stop and he was riding his scooter two years ago I went to say goodbye at the police mortuary as it was a police matter. But he looked normal no defects . We donated his corneas and delighted a young girl can now see. We wanted to donate as per his wishes all his parts but due to injury couldn't. He was a very environmentally friendly person and wanted what we call here the life art casket (a biodegradable box) . I would like to know why these are more expensive than the usual caskets ? Sonia Australia
Why is it imparative to wash a body before burial or especially cremation ???
Lois Kohalyk...this is not true...see the video on YOU TUBE - G.G.Alin was in deplorable condition. G.G. Allin - The Final Hellride. John K.
People will be touching and kissing the body at the viewing, typically. Hygiene reasons, I guess.
Does anybody know how Funeral Homes close for the night, and how they also closed up the visitation rooms for the night when there's a person in the casket in the room?
Kari Northey oh thank you. when I get older I like to become a funeral director and my own funeral home and I was curious if some funeral homes have table lamps in the visitation room that they leave on at night or do they just completely shut all the lights off and then just lock up the door.
this has nothing to do with mouths but I'm 17 years old and I'd really love to become a funeral director/ embalmer but I'm not sure where to start. college is so expensive and I doubt I'd ever have the money it'd take to attend mortuary school without living in debt for the rest of my life. either way I'd like to get my foot in the door. Everyone says unless you were born into the industry its near impossible to get in. . How do you suggest I go about asking them if they need help with anything or if they allow shadowing or anything like that. Do I just call funeral homes around me and leave a voicemail or something? I understand they aren't gonna set me up with a body to embalm or anything but even if its simple things like washing their cars or picking weeds or setting appointments, answering phones WHATEVER I don't care I just want something to get me started there but I don't know what
When my dad died the funeral director ask my mom about payment at the casket boy that pits me of especially when it was paid already. The guy is died now but his son is very good.
People don’t seem to understand that Funeral Directors need to make a living too and a big part of that is getting paid for their services. Are painters or plumbers vultures too?
My mom had a ton of nightlights in her house. It drove me crazy to sleep in a well lite room. Do we buried one with her
This is a strange question but what are some (there has to be a few) joyous, happy, or even funny moments that stick out to you over the years of being in the business? Not being disrespectful of course, but times families were happy or thought something about the process was funny.
Would you be allowed to tell us who the athlete was?
Hoping to do a video with his mom at some point!
People strike out in these situations usually because they can't handle their own guilt........
Thanks for sharing 😅
No problem 😊
What about handling Arrangements for a friend .
I May be out of my line, but what's THE wildest request for funeral you have done. HAVE YOU never had to do reconstruction for a viewing. When would you advise against a open casket.
Larry, I’m a church organist, but I do play for funerals, at the church, and also for family members. I don’t necessarily remember special requests, but there are some funny stories of things that have happened at them. To answer your question about closed caskets, I would say you would use a closed casket in situations where the deceased died in a fire (the first funeral I ever went to), an accident, or other tragic circumstances. In the case of an accident, like what had happened to my cousin, who died in 1990 in a motorcycle accident at 17, you could possibly do an open casket, but the person might not look the way that you would have known them, and it might take a lot of reconstructive work to make him or her presentable, especially depending on the extent of injuries. In hindsight, they probably should have had it closed.
@@organrick A closed casket is appropriate because a corpse was seriously burned, or decomposed, or mashed, or lacerated, or damaged in any abnormal way, even beheaded.
How many funerals do you do in a year? Do you do more in the winter? Most all of my family members passed away in January and February.
Looks like you'll be dieing in the cold
I really hope the people that talked ugly to you apologized.
sometimes they have :)
How do handle a pregnant woman when embalming. Are they separated?
Check out my video on this :)
In terms of the question regarding keeping records Do most funeral homes take a photo of the person after they are prepared?
@Daniel Garcia your bring really weird and creepy #stopstalking
No. Can you think of a reason for a funeral home recording photographs of the deceased they have embalmed and prepared for viewing?
How do you process a body that had been burnt. Casket burial
It depends on the degree of burning and damage
A burnt corpse is not processed. If possible, it may be embalmed. If it suffered second-degree burns or third-degree burns, the corpse may unlikely be embalmed. If the person died of smoke inhalation, embalming may be possible. The difference is that the face likely be covered by black or gray billowed smoke. Some skin parts may have been burnt away as in a second-degree fire.
@@KaritheMortician A burnt corpse is not processed. If possible, it may be embalmed. If it suffered second-degree burns or third-degree burns, the corpse may unlikely be embalmed. If the person died of smoke inhalation, embalming may be possible. The difference is that the face likely be covered by black or gray billowed smoke. Some skin parts may have been burnt away as in a second-degree fire.
Who would yell at you
Aww you are such a sweet and nice person, it made me cry because some one had hurt your feelings, that lady was rude to yell at you but yeah i understand what she was going through her bereavement with her child. You just made me wonder about something, How do you guys embalm a pregnant mother while the child is still inside of her how does that process work? Thanks again and keep up the great work
My daddy funeral
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Need to read publc reply so I can word check
Ppl need to be taught about grief in high school. Getting angry with the very person who you need to rely on to bury your child is just asinine.
I could see if a child was murdered and you see the killer in court. But going off on the funeral director is abusive, and she could have been asked to leave.
If she doesn't know that funerals are extremely pricey, I wonder if she has lived in a cave her entire life.
Great answers. A baby and a 500 pound woman...what do you do?
@@KaritheMortician I should have elaborated. I meant what do you do considering they are tough cases.
"It's frustrating when you can't do what you want your body to do". Yeah. That's my every day Life with chronic illness, not just for 9 months during pregnancy. That is why I can't get into this profession no matter how much I want to.
I'm really interested in getting into the funeral industry. do they give scholarships or financial aid for a program like that? and the only thing that really stops me is being able to take care of children. I don't know if I could handle that. how do you handle that?
Kari Northey trust me I've watched all of your videos lol. your videos are very helpful.
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That has to be the worst position to be in🤔😥😭
You think you have stress, what about the people that are dead, now they have real stress
I'm a funeral director
Kari Northey I'm 35 oldyour from Denver Colorado funeral director
Thanks you
How is your new Husband a you doing?
Boyfriend and he is great!
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I really hope the people that talked ugly to you apologized.
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