In my country is not so rare to see people eating alone. However one time I went to an asian food restaurant, because I felt like eating ramen, so I went there by myself and started texting a friend while I was eating. When I was almost done the waiter came at me with a cupcake and told me it was on the house, so I started thinking is the waiter trying to hit on me or what, so I decided to ask the waiter why they gave me the cupcake and he said "Oh we get the feeling, I'm sure they wont leave you alone the next time!!" Seriously the thought i was stood up by my friends or date or whatever, I guess the my serious looking face and me checking my phone every 5 minutes gave that impression. I felt so embarrassed, but I took it like a champ and ate the delicious free cupcake with a pitiful act. XD
I'm a Norwegian and yes, people seriously go tanning outside in the winter. Not super common but it's a real thing. We also bathe in snow and ice water because we're vikings.
I don't know what I would do if I went to Korea, unless I brought a friend. I really want to go... but I'm definitely 98% loner. I generally hate socializing unless there's family or a close friend close by. I live in the US and I'd say as far as going to places, like the movies or restaurants, alone to big such a big deal. People, on the other hand, can sometimes be a little annoying. It seems that most don't realize that sitting alone, generally doesn't mean 'I'm-lonely-come-talk-to-me'.
Ohmygosh! You're probably a clone of mine....^_^ except for that US living part and that people not realising part... I mean like here if you're alone then you are alone, except on those REALLY RARE cases when someone actually comes to talk to you but there's a 99.99% that no one comes...~
We've been living in Korea together the whole time we've been here, but what's it like for people that aren't traveling here with a partner? How loner friendly is Korea? We're gonna talk about all this and more in this week's TL;DR!
*PUT HANDS UP* I wanna go to the movies with Soozee, she's awesome and I would Love to be friends with her and Leigh as well. Also D.O. from EXO likes to go to the movies by himself, he said so and did it in EXO Showtime.
I came to Korea alone back in 2011. But Simon and Martina are right, since I came to teach English at a private school, I already had people showing me around. But I feel that people often tend to only stick to those people they meet at their job and don't meet anyone else. I found that being by yourself makes you more approachable by others, including Koreans. Doing things you love can you help find people with shared interests. Like going to a music show like Inkigayo forces you to wait outside for many hours, so you're bound to meet new people. Taking Korean language classes, going to board game cafes, or foreign churches help you meet new people, for example. Also, if you want to make friends with Koreans, an easy first way is to be a language partner for them. I feel that coming to university here has allowed me to meet so many more people and has made my experience even better in Korea. I'm glad I did come here to Korea University, because if I solely judged my time in Korea based on my year of teaching, I would've not thought of Korea so highly. Oh, I went to my first movie theater alone here. That was strange, but I realized it's not so bad. Same goes for dining alone. Good luck!
I totally remember that. I actually cracked up 'cause it was so unexpected. One minute he was singing in the car then he shows up at a cinema,buys popcorn for himself and strolls in at what seemed like late o'clock.
TakeAStepBack1 He actually bought nachos! And then he had to squeeze the cheese on himself. haha remember the mexican music they started playing hehehehe that was such a funny episode.
Everyone is lonely in the states, there are people that are by themselves everywhere. But you know people are desperate for friends because I can strike up a convo with anyone on the streets (well, some people cuz I'm from the hood son!) and they will literally talk about EVERYTHING in their lives. Relationships, tv shows, clothing, pets, the weather, etc. I've even had some older guy around his early 30's tell me about his xxx life O.O This is why I'm so excited for you guys to open the eat your kimchi cafe, hopefully I can make friends and not be lonely lol
In Australia many people eat alone. It's not noticed if you are alone or not, and regardless of the type of restaurant, it could be fancy or takeaway, there's always a mix of people together and alone.
In the US I feel like teenagers will judge you very harshly if you are alone. If you're a college student or older than it doesn't really matter. Some restaurants have single tables and you will always see people eating alone in fast food chains. In bars and clubs there is always a space for singles. The older you get the more acceptable it is.
Can you talk about technology and how it impacts the daily lives of Koreans? I have recently developed this pet-peeve for people that are on their phone during social gatherings and to avoid greeting strangers. It really frustrates me and the conversations usually die down significantly when people pull their phones out. Does this happen in Korea? Are people stuck to screens like they are over here? Do people have more technology-less fun away from video games and social media?
I just found you guys about 2 weeks ago and marathoned probably an unhealthy amount of you vids (like 50+ hrs). I don't watch the kpop stuff but everything else. On another note, How is Soozee still single? She great qualities. Do you guys not let her out?
I keep asking myself the same question, how come she's still single? she's amazing oh, well, I VOLUNTEER AS A TRIBUTE PD: you should really watch the kpop stuff
i went to a sushi bar alone in the US once... it was really awkward, and i wished i brought a book, because the employees kept coming up and asking me if i was ok. i guess i looked really lonely, but it was more awkward for me than lonely. i shop alone a lot too, and employees often come up and ask me if i need help or if i'm lost. nowadays, i tend to just rush in and out....
The employees might have been asking if you were okay because that's something that employees tend to do, although it is slightly more common to ask you if you're alone in a store. If a waiter/waitress asks you if you are okay, it's probably because it's their job, and they're more likely to get better tips if they're polite.
Kayla Crowder I get that, I work in service too, but it was more than that, they would ask if I was waiting for someone, or needed help. I get that it's their job, but it made it awkward because they would come every 5 minutes to "check" on me.
you guys have such bizarre experiences, like eating at the same place/near martha stewart and having a sick-ass party going on at the hotel where your honeymoon night was spent like omg why can't i have cool things happen
Where I'm from (Texas/USA) it's perfectly fine to go anywhere alone. Out to eat, out to the movies... as long as you don't take up a huge booth made for six cuz that would be rude, you're fine. I especially see it at Starbucks a LOT. People will sit alone on their laptops for hours and just chill alone, drinking coffee and doing school work, sometimes they have their dog with them even. It's more common to see someone alone at Starbucks or fast food place than, say, at a sitdown restaurant because I think most people would just grab some food quickly if they were alone, but not necessarily. Being alone at a coffee shop is very common, eating alone at a restaurant is less common, but still not weird. I have been alone to the movies before and it wasn't weird at all. Actually, it was quite enjoyable. I also see people eating alone more at Diners (Like Denny's, IHOP, Waffle House, etc.) ... seems to be wherever the coffee is!! Coffee=lonely people I guess! lol! People usually bring something to do while alone, sort of like a security blanket, like a laptop (like I said ppl at starbucks do) cell phone, book, magazine, etc. People also go alone to parks and gyms all the time. But it's also very easy to meet people here too.
I'm from Texas/USA too..! and your absolutely right... Being alone is not weird here at all... tho it is easy to meet people, as people are friendly in Texas, but if you want to be alone people respect that too. You literally took the words out of my mouth ahaha!
katluver09 cool, what part of Texas are you from? I was born in Houston around the Spring area, raised in Brenham, now living in the Magnolia/Tomball area.
I completely agree with both of you I'm from Seagoville Texas right below Dallas and its not weird at all to see people eating alone, at the movies, etc. I think it depends on the persons confidence level, If they have high confidence they'll go if they're afraid of being made fun of they won't. As for making friends here its pretty easy, most of the people are friendly. You just have to complement them or ask them a question and a conversation will usually begin. You may run into some rude people or someone who is having a bad day, but most of the time people are friendly and wanting to make new friends to.
waterfalls25 Yeppers... we re nice people here... Always willing to talk.. of course ever state has their meanies, and people having a bad day as you said, but here they don't mind striking up a conversation if your will. XD YAY for TEXAS... we care for our loners, wouldn't mind being their friend but if not then we respect that too... AHAHA XD
Thanks for this! I'm headed off to teach in Changwon at the end of August and I'm going aaaaall on my own. I'm nervous but excited. Until recently I've tended to stick in my shell and not do things but I've been actively trying to go out and do things in my life here in Canada in preparation for doing the same thing in South Korea.
+Juen So I've now been in Changwon for over a year. I have to add that facebook and social media are a GREAT way to meet people. Though I'd never meet someone off facebook back in Canada it's become very normal in Korea. You can reach out easily and lots of cities have Expat groups on facebook!
In the UK it's okay to eat alone, you can definitely do it, but you will probably get a few weird looks from people. It's not the kind of place where, unless you're at a place of shared interests like a club or a concert, where you can just go and talk to anyone, people will probably think you're a little crazy! xD I've been to the cinema on my own once, because no one wanted to the see the movie, so Soozee, I would definitely like to see a movie with you!
To be honest, unless you make a big deal out if it, people probably won't notice. I went to a gig by myself and no one looked at me weirdly, haha. I think we're more adept at doing things individually.
I always end up going to concerts alone because no one i know likes the same music as me, especially the K-pop side, and I always make friends in the queue, so i guess thats one way to meet people here :')
thank you for all your videos!! I've been waiting over a year to come to Korea and now I'm going in May! Thank you for all your help in making me feel more comfortable and confident!
I live in Japan. Honestly, this is the best country for forever alone people. I dont often do it because I too am joined at the hip with my husband, but when I do, Im never the only lonely one. Im never looked at strange or judged. Its amazing.
I moved to Korea from Toronto alone for my teaching contract. This is such a great video. My favourite place to hang out is Bupyeong. Plenty of foreigners and a few great North American-style bars. Most, if not all, foreigners understand what you're going through. I've met a lot of people already who told me that they were already thinking about leaving after a month, and yet, they've renewed their contracts for multiple years. It's all up to you to go out and make the effort. People are very friendly here, Korean or foreigner. Just get out there.
When I lived in Korea I worked at an English camp with 20 other teachers but I still felt very alone because I didn't get along with them and because my Korean was at a much higher level than theirs and for some reason that was a bad thing....go fig. So when I used to go out to eat alone alot but there was only one place I could go to that had the tables for that and it was a Japanese Katsu place. So the only place in Korea where I could eat alone served Japanese food. lol So anyway, one day when they served me my food the lady says to me in Korean "So you don't have any friend." No, it wasn't a question. She had watched me come in and eat by myself for weeks and came to the conclusion that I must not have friends because I always eat alone. I eventually joined a Japanese hogwan and a Korean Hogwon and that helped me make friends. I enjoyed Korea a lot better after that. :)
You guys are the best thing I've found on the internet this month. SO informative and interesting! I want you hang out with you guys if I ever visit Korea :D
First off Grace I hope you said yes because that proposal was awesome!!!!! I found that if you're traveling by yourself to a location for few days go on one of those tours with a group. I recommend the first or second day . The tour will give you a better idea on where places are and then you can venture on your own. I did that on my travels and met very nice people. I know it may not be for everyone.
In Malaysia, I don't think it's weird to do things alone. I've seen people eat alone in restaurants, fast food outlets, coffee shops, etc. People go to the movies alone, do grocery alone, go to cyber cafes alone, and no one really cares. But of course, you will still see large groups of people doing things together. It is as normal to be in a group as it is being alone.
Hi EYK! I really, REALLY want to travel to Korea but I have a very severe nut allergy, and a moderate soy protein allergy and do not speak the language. How are food allergies handled in Korea?
I live in toronto,canada and you see people by themselves all the time. I will occasionally go sit at a starbucks by myself, or shop. Especially at malls, it's really not that strange to be buy yourself. As far as restaurants go, it's still pretty strange to be eating by yourself, but usually not that big of a deal.
Unless I meet someone in college, I'll probably be traveling to Korea alone as well. I don't mind that, however I am a little antisocial especially around new people so it'll take a lot of effort and determination to talk to strangers lol. I always feel so awkward talking to some people haha
Yes! Im from Norway and that is true! I would lay in the snow to get a tan if it's sun outside! It's warm even though there's snow because we are used to colder weather... But it depends on where you live in the country :)
Totally true! No one goes to the movies alone in the U.S. ..well besides my dad but he's kinda antisocial lol lol it's strange cus you barely even talk during the movie but it still feels weird to go alonexD But I also feel like many people don't go to restaurants by themselves unless you look like you are on your break from work. Otherwise the only place you really don't get looks for being alone are bakery/ frozen yogurt places/coffee shops...all those nonmeal places. Restaurants are for being with family or friends otherwise it's like why waste money?xD
I kinda disagree with regards of people going to the movies alone here in the U.S. I from time to time go alone. It doesn't feel weird to me or anything. Personally I like it because I don't gotta deal with people talking throughout the movie. Plus I've seen so many people go to the movies alone. The same thing with going to a restaurant alone. Ive done it as well and have seen other people alone at them countless times. It's nice to do things alone from time to time. Its like you're treating yourself for all the hard work you've done or because of how stressful a week was or just because you just want to. I'm not bashing on you or anything but did want to respond to your comment because it isn't entirely true.
Well I just wana say that the both of you r right I lyk 2 go 2 those place with friends and family but then there are some times where no one wants 2 go or idk i just want 2 b left alone and I'll go alone its healthy 2 treat yourself from time 2 time and get to u no yourself and other times when u want 2 meet new ppl and b social
Beginning from the time I stayed home for a couple of years of community college while my friends went off to a private university, I ate out and went to movies alone all the time! I really came to enjoy it; I got to do exactly what I wanted when I wanted, including reading a novel and listening to my music during dinner. And when I wanted to see a movie that no one else did, no big deal. I'd sit in my favorite spot with popcorn fixed my way and my favorite candy or two. Plus later, I didn't have to listen to my husband bad-mouth the movie I was so thrilled with. Going out by myself, I get to be really selfish, and sometimes that's a real treat to a wife and mother!
***** I do too, I don't think anybody who is surrounding me actually cares that I'm alone anyway, nobody even takes notice. I don't think it's anything to be embarrassed by- it's not like I'm antisocial, I'm just practical- if I need/want to do something I do it whether I'm with somebody or not, no biggie.
I used to go to the movies by myself all the time. And I saw lots of other people going to the movies by themselves too. I prefer going by myself because my friends and family will want to talk through the movie and discuss it while its on, but I'd rather watch it without interruption. Timing might have something to do with if you see people there by themselves or not. I liked to go during the middle of the day on a weekday when its the least busiest because I don't like crowds. But maybe if you go on a weekend afternoon or evening, it would be hard to find solo people.
I just want to say that it's not really as grim as this. I taught at a hagwon and had to eat by myself for a while because our schedules were staggered. I ate pretty frequently in the food courts you can find in most medium and large department stores and also in the fast food places in subway stations. No problem ordering and sitting by yourself to eat. Also, there are lots of street side food stalls/trucks with little seating areas. But I found people there to be really friendly towards me. I've had the regulars on route wake me to make sure I made my stops and my private students often invited me out to tea or concerts or other outings.
About that place you were talking about @ about the 6:00 mark in Japan, I believe that there is a place exactly like that in Korea. It was shown in one of the mid to late episodes of the drama "Let's Eat"
I feel like it's not weird unless you think about it. You might feel uncomfortable being alone - whatever country you're from - but other people don't really care. Yeah, they may look at you for a sec, but you're the one that's so concerned about appearing as a "loner".
I feel like from my experience in Western culture, the change up to actively pursuing friends in Korea would be difficult because when it comes to going up and talking to strangers here, they usually have this 'get away from me, I don't want to socialize, go away' type of attitude. Even my friends who are more quiet absolutely HATE being approached by anyone, and they usually get annoyed if a stranger attempts to talk to them even simply casually. Changing that mentality of 'leave people alone' to 'let's go meet people and chat' seems difficult when you are used to being treated badly for approaching strangers originally.
I wish you guys had been in Korea when I was there! I felt so alone and became so depressed - it was so hard to meet foreigners for me for some reason (I was younger than a lot of others). I miss Korea thanks to you guys and can't stop watching EYK now that I found you guys 2 days ago.
I need that boyfriend pillow, LOL but seriously, why do people have these boyfriend expectations. Like oh you should have your first boyfriend by like 14, and first kiss and so on and so on. Really, does that benefit you at all at that age? LOL I don't know (asking as an unexperienced 16 canadian teen girl), would love to hear an opinion on that! Is it the same in Korea?
i honestly wouldn't want to date until I was old enough to get married (i'm 16, so in American that'd be 18). And first I'd want to be friends for awhile before I started dating the guy. i know a lot of people don't think like me......
If we are supposed to have our first boyfriend and first kiss by 14 then I failed lol. In my opinion, I don't think you should have to. I mean just go with your own pace and find someone that you car about and enjoy. I don't recommend going out with anyone just because you want your first boyfriend and kiss to be over with. I don't think there are any benefits... But then again what do I know, I haven't had those yet sooooo yeah...
Wow I thought I was the only weird one who thought this way. I just didn't see the point of getting together and breaking up so quickly. You go girls! Haha.
You make it sound so easy. I'm not going to be a teacher, but I want to travel to Asia one day. I am really bad at putting myself out and setting down roots where I don't know anyone. If it weren't for required social outings, or work, I would be stuck in my room all day because I'm THAT terrified of meeting new people or asking for help in a new place. I prefer being on the giving end of knowledge like that. *currently in Berkley, CA for six months and though she knows a lot of people in the week she's been here, she doesn't have any friends*
How about meeting natives and not other foreigners? If I went there, I would want to meet people who can introduce me to the culture and the area, and allow me to practice my Korean. So far what I've done to prepare is get penpals online so I'll know people ahead of time, but how would you meet new Koreans there? If I was an english teacher at a public school, couldn't I be super friendly and just ask other teachers to have bbq together or something?
Conversation exchange dot com! Seriously I'm only here for two months I put an ad up two weeks in because you really can't eat alone in this country, and within a day I had 20 responses I'd say. I responded to all those similar age with me with a blanket response stating my situation where I'm not here for long term and my kakao id. I got maybe 10 or so people added me to kakao, I met with 6 in person (making sure we met at meal times so I could eat:P) and 3 of those I have formed friendships with. All Koreans on that site want to practice English so it works well if you want to learn korean culture from native Koreans or just meet native Koreans but you may find some aren't to active about teaching korean language. I use this site back home in Toronto and now my group of friends has a strong majority of Koreans who are studying English haha. I think this site would be even better for someone who was staying long term.
Koreans don't typically associate with people they do not know or have not been introduced to. That's why no one mingles in bars here (in Korea). The best way to meet Koreans is to find online groups and/or join a language exchange. As for asking other teachers to dinner, no one does that...
BittyBallOfCurly I would highly recommend reading up on Korean culture. There are just some things that aren't socially acceptable here that would otherwise be normal in the West.
VermilionLotus oh, teachers in schools aren't friends with their co-workers? i thought they would go out sometimes along with their bosses. at least that's what i've heard.
In the pacific north west of the US, it's pretty easy to be either a social butterfly or a loner! I go to college in a small town but I'm originally from Portland. in both places I find that it's easy to do do most things solo, however if you do go out to eat alone/go to a bar alone you might get a couple weird looks but it's definitely doable. In general if say it's pretty easy to be one or the other- or both!
Norwegians tanning in snow is true. After the dark time of the winter is over, alot of people strip off to feel the sun's warmth in early spring/easter vacation. Been there, done that. The sun makes the snow less jarring when you get up again as well :)
Being lonely can be a serious thing in America, and the 'forever alone' meme is pretty overused. The bad thing about it is people are so desperate for love at very young ages (as early as 4th grade) that they'll date practically anyone. In return, this makes relationships a joke. It's not always like this, but many times it is, unfortunately. Also, some people have ridiculously high standards because of famous models. Again, not everyone is like this, just some where I'm from.
In Australia, you can basically go anywhere by yourself and your good (however i wouldn't recommend being in the pub districts in the city at 3 in the morning)
I'm not really a social person. I mean I have friends but I probably wouldn't have met or talked to them if I didn't have a class with them, because I'm that socially awkward and shy. so yeah I don't mind doing a lot of things alone and I mostly talk to myself a lot so I don't think being alone in Korea would be a problem for me...... yes I do talk to myself even though I'm not an only child and yes my current friends do think I'm weird for it, but they still like me anyways for it so it's fine.
That's because we are the cool people. Who wants to sit around all day talking about boys and fashion when you could be running through the forest or contemplating the pros and cons of cannibalism? Because I know which one I would rather do. What about you?
.... I'm pretty sure I wouldn't want to be a cannibal. What I find the most hilarious is sometimes I have that one guy friend that knows I don't or wouldn't date and yet they still flirt with me, I don't care so I just go along with it. All my friends know I'm the farthest away from being materialistic because they all say that I'm cheap and lazy and that they feel bad for my future kids lol.
You can just feel the love and understanding. It's okay, my best friend's favorite line is "Catherine, no one cares about your needs." Why are true friends always the ones who insult you most and strive to make you uncomfortable? And starving to death versus being a cannibal, I'm thinking that cannibalism kind of wins. Just saying.
in my country it's totally normal to eat or to be alone but it's actually weird to go and just say hello to other people you don't know so what i'm trying to say here is it's easier to eat alone than to meet new people while you're eating
In Malaysia I don't see restaurants rejecting customers who eat alone, in fact I do see people who eat alone. But I personally think it would be awkward to do so.
QUESTION!: How is S. Korea with random acts of kindness? for example, just paying for someone's meal or randomly giving someone a flower (small things like that). It's pretty normal here in America, but how would it be like in S. Korea? Would they think that it's weird?
When Soouzie chimed in about going to the movies alone, that was the point that really got me chuckling! 08:21 to 08:29 should definitely be looped a few times with different video effects :-D :-D
In Australia if you go to a proper restaurant that has its own building, alone its considered pretty weird but if you go to a restaurant like in the city or in a food court ( or like fast food ) its not considered weird and in fact you see a lot of people eating alone in shopping centres and in the city. And with going alone at cinemas, its pretty normal for people to go alone. Its normally adults and older who go by themselves though, teens normally go on a date or with friends and you see alot of families go. But yea, its fine ~
About going to the movies alone in Korea, on EXO showtime D.O. went to see a movie all by himself, and I'm pretty sure there's many people he knows that could have gone with him, but he decided to go alone despite um him being and idol and that it would go public, so I don't think it's that awkward. Anyways, it's a TV show so it's not that informative, but I wanted to point it out so that Soozee doesn't feel like she's alone on this one haha
I'm a Korean who does a lot of things on my own, because as an introvert I get tired at constantly discussing what to eat :P And because I work freelance I can go to movies in weekdays when there are no people! But I guess this is all possible because I have friends I can turn to whenever I need. So go out and make that social circle blossom!
In my experience in California even though there are people who pity people for being alone like in restaurants, movies, and parties there is a huge support group of people that would say, "Who gives a shit about them! You are independent. What if you go eat by yourself that don't mean your lonely."
My name is Jackie and I am from Sydney, Nova Scotia. I taught in Korea for two years from 2011-2013. One of the best things I ever did was apply to a recruiting agency (i.e. Korvia Consulting), that had a large orientation for all of us. All the new teachers going to Daegu and Busan and neighboring areas all gathered at a university in Busan a few days before our contract started. We had information sessions, basic Korean lessons, group projects to help teach ESL, and more. The best thing was that we were separated by location. So all the new ESL teachers in my classes were from the same city I was going to, Daegu. It was great!! A lot of the people I met during orientation became some of my best friends that I still have today. And as you go around town, a lot of the foreigners you see, you recognize from orientation. Also, facebook groups are formed for each new contract of teachers for each city (i.e. Daegu EPIK Spring 2014/ or FALL 2014, etc.), so you can join those groups and meet more people that came at the same time as you, find out about events, hangouts, and more.
This is seriously so ironic because I just flew to Korea (Seoul) TODAY and I'm going to be studying + living here alone! I brought loads of books with me though because I know I'm going to spend a ton of time alone at home. Yes, I would love to watch a movie with SooZee and yes, I would watch a movie alone too because who gives a dang about what other people thinks. >; Oh... And Grace, you better say yes or else other Nasties will!!! Have fun at prom, alright? ;)
Jadelle Kun Hello, I'm studying Korean here in Seoul! My university is Seoul National University. Here's the link to the website if you're interested! lei.snu.ac.kr/site/en/klec/main/main.jsp All the best to you. (;
Amy Tang You are never too early to live for the future, Amy! I'm (turning) 19 and I planned for this day ever since I was 13. All the early planning are going to pay off, trust me.
I think probably the most fun, but the most socially awkward place to go to alone is an amusement park! I know that it probably seems sad, but going by yourself is a blast. You skip through lines constantly and you can go at your own pace. However, this idea doesn't apply at night. It just stops being fun after the sun goes down. My ideal visit would be to hang around in the morning and afternoon by myself and go on most of the rides. And then in the evening I would meet up with friends and hit the games, the ferris wheel, and the scariests rides (like the drop towers and the roll-o-planes)!
If you're not allowed to pour shots for yourself in Korea, then how in kdramas when a character is sad, they go out by themselves and drink all the shots they can? haha
You can survive in Korea or any other country being alone or a loner, depends on how independent and not afraid to be different you are. And in this case SImon and Martina just aren't used to being alone often so they don't know much about it
Hey can anyone explain to me what it means when they say "comeback" like when i think comeback i think like if destiny's childs were to get back together now.... but i here it a lot in reference to Kpop....
it's just another way of saying that they have a new album out. usually there is a year or so in between albums, so they made a "comeback" of new music.
Shanda Sara Actually, they use the word "comeback" when you promote a new single Whatever the period of time between the singles' launch You can launch a single in january and comeback with a new single in february
I’m moving to Korea this fall, and this is what I’m most nervous about. I’m worried I’ll leave my friends at home and spend all of my free time alone. This advice made me feel so much better, as I tend to form random acquaintanceships while traveling, but actual friendships are much harder.
You can live there even if you don't speak Korean, there is more and more young adults who are fluent in English and others who are not but who will try to talk to you. Now I think that you'll be some basic vocabulary for when you do grocery shopping or others things alone, but I have French friends who don't speak a word in Korean that stayed ere one year without problems.
I don't know a lot of Korean - granted, it's been about a month since I've been here. People here know the most basic English. Sometimes it could be frustrating. I use Google Translate in the meantime to get my points across.
I guess this is more like, my college community, but I used to be terrified to eat alone especially for lunches because in high school it's just not okay to eat by yourself, but in college, for lunch or dinner, it's totally acceptable to eat by yourself, and pretty common at certain times of the day, especially breakfast.
*raises hand* I'll take you to a movie, SooZee, if I ever go to korea. Though, you're so cute that I'm absolutely baffled as to why you're alone. ;o Seriously.... what the hell?
The picture from Norway is absolut true. Same applies to Sweden and other countries in Europe where the sun can be pretty strong but the mountains are high so the snow doesn't melt. It's cold in the air but the sun vill warm you up so you will be warm as long as it doesn't get windy :)
here in malaysia we even have a popular edible collagen thingy that whitens your skin, and not just on your face, i mean your whole freaking body. they advertise themselves as knowing the secret to beautiful korean skin and to be honest, the people look bleached and pale. my friend tried it once and said he said it tastes like bubblegum lol XD
Karima Chheal urm not sure if it's safe hahaha i don't eat stuff like this i'm too scared to try but my friend did and he said it tastes like bubblegum, its edible and you just eat it with a spoon from the container itself, kinda like eating candy hahaha my friend's using it and he's getting a little bit fairer but i can't guarantee anything lol where are you from? if you're from malaysia then there's lots of blogs and instagram accounts where you could buy it from. if you're not then this blog seems useful because they ship internationally, aurabeautykiosk.blogspot.com/2013/08/k-colly-collagen.html hope this helps :)
I'm not liking this because I like the situation, but I'm curious about their opinions! ...setting aside that they're not the biggest fans of EXO (like myself). xD
I don't think they'll have anything more to say other that the stuff they had said about Dongho when he left U-Kiss. Apart from talking again about the busy schedules and little sleep and whatnot, I don't see another reason. Unless they have some things to add. I am interested in their opinion even if I don't think it's much different from the one they had about Dongho...
As someone living in the US who is fairly shy and bad at meeting new people, I've never considered it weird to go out to movies, dinner, bars etc. alone. I'm more comfortable reading a book by myself in a public space than spending time with groups of people. That's probably why South Korea would be the worst place for me to travel to...
Random question, but what is love like in Korea? Not PDA but the actual thought of having love. Is it different from North America? Is it different for idols? What is the thought of marriage and having children like in Korea?
SooZee, I'll watch a movie with you! When I was travelling out west to Seattle, WA and Portland, OR, a lot of the times I was exploring alone because my friends out there had work. I really had to get over eating lunch on my own in a normal restaurant, but it wasn't so bad. The first days if I felt awkward, I'd bring a book to read. But, I had some of the best food and the most fun just rambling about checking things out on my own. Lunch specials are always smaller portions too. As you said though, it's a bit easier to go out alone here in North America.
Hey guys, I was wondering how the alternative scene is in Korea. Are there many so called "hippies", who don't care about image and money etc. And how is the vegan scene which may also be alternative in korea?
I fly solo all the time. It's a little difficult fumbling through Korean and I've heard of people getting denied service when they're alone but mostly I'm asked if I really want that much food for just me. Then I take it to go and share with people. I don't really go to the movies in Korea but in America I almost always went alone. You can watch exactly what you want and even watch 2 or 3 movies back to back that way!
I went to Korea and experienced it both alone and with company and I just keep telling my friends to go with someone if they plan to go because they just miss out on a lot of food if they're dinning solo. And yes! Having a support group is really important! I am doing an exchange program in Japan and I was downright miserable the first month. I had no big problems adapting but loneliness was eating me away. It taught me to appreciate just having someone to talk about my day with. In Mexico you can do anything on your own, but since it is a more group-oriented culture you might end up feeling lonely anyways. Also it's kind of dangerous to be noticeably alone and about....
Thank you for this video! Im a very sociable person but as you said in the video in western countries going up to talk to strangers is weird so I was worried it might be the same in korea. Im pretty sure that knowing korean before you get there will really help expand the options that you have with friends
I've been living and working in Korea for several years. Coming here to a public school, where I was the only foreigner and having no built in social or support structure was one of the hardest things I've ever experienced. You guys are totally right about getting out and joining groups though. Most of the long-term friends that I've made here have been made through meet-ups, classes and group trips. I am lucky that I enjoy cooking for myself though, because eating out or doing anything social alone, can be really awkward!! I'd say if you are not someone who likes spending a lot of time by yourself, the sooner you find classes and meet-up groups (especially in HBC/ Gangnam/ Hongik area) and build them into your routine, the better. That and Skype... thank the Lord for Skype.
Question: If I come to Seoul, can I go to the movies with Soozee? I mean...it's not a date or anything...err...just for the sake of company and the defeat of loneliness, right? Haha...
In Norway it is quite common to bask in the snow. I do it a lot in the winter and Easter holidays. It's actually pretty hot! But it is really cold when you ice bath after having a sunbathe. But it often takes some time to make a big enough hole in the ice.
I just got super excited to hear the mention of Mississauga! Reppin my hometown :). Cawthra's cool and all, but we all know PORT CREDIT'S WHERE IT'S AT HOMIE.
Zhanghan Zhang Just knowing you're from Cawthra makes me have the strongest urge to rep Port Credit S.S. so hard. But I've had a lot of friends who've gone to CP so I guess I'll spare you my obnoxiousness haha. Congratulations, btw!
Sooozeee! I'll go w ya! In NYC, i even prefer skipping out on friends and doing stuff by my self sometimes. There is a lot of cool ways to enjoy yourself, alone or with a group. I would say amusement parks by yourself would be a bad idea...nobody to wait in line with would be torturous.
Does Korea has an Art like university? I personally have told me i have talent in drawing and im planning to go abroad for studies art ..what do you think? #Eatyourkimchi
There's no "Art University" but there are universities with great/famous art colleges. There's 한국예술종합학교 (The Korean Arts School), National Seoul University, Hongik University, and Kookmin University
Ironically, I watched this right after returning home from eating dinner at a nice restaurant alone! I live in Florida so there are lots of really neat activities to partake in here. I go to restaurants, movies, shopping, and even to Disney World alone all the time. I'm a person that voluntarily and enthusiastically spends a lot of time alone. While I'm very personable and have a wide circle of friends, I feel better when I can have time alone to gather my thoughts every once in a while and just treat myself to something nice. I do often get weird stares or looks of pity when I go out alone, as if people think I have been stood up or am a sad, lonely person. But no one would ever comment on it or say anything, so it doesn't really bother me. People tend to mind their own business about it.
In my country is not so rare to see people eating alone. However one time I went to an asian food restaurant, because I felt like eating ramen, so I went there by myself and started texting a friend while I was eating. When I was almost done the waiter came at me with a cupcake and told me it was on the house, so I started thinking is the waiter trying to hit on me or what, so I decided to ask the waiter why they gave me the cupcake and he said "Oh we get the feeling, I'm sure they wont leave you alone the next time!!" Seriously the thought i was stood up by my friends or date or whatever, I guess the my serious looking face and me checking my phone every 5 minutes gave that impression. I felt so embarrassed, but I took it like a champ and ate the delicious free cupcake with a pitiful act. XD
GIRL! Never refuse free food! It's like the #1 surviving rule! xD
I'm a Norwegian and yes, people seriously go tanning outside in the winter. Not super common but it's a real thing. We also bathe in snow and ice water because we're vikings.
+TheKaless Savage af
That sounds awesome. I'm from America but I actually love to lay out and tan in the snow, and everyone thinks I'm crazy for it.
Kyungsoo went to the movies alone...
I was about to comment that
CATANH NGUYEN same haha
And junmyeon was worried about him 😂
I don't know what I would do if I went to Korea, unless I brought a friend. I really want to go... but I'm definitely 98% loner. I generally hate socializing unless there's family or a close friend close by.
I live in the US and I'd say as far as going to places, like the movies or restaurants, alone to big such a big deal. People, on the other hand, can sometimes be a little annoying. It seems that most don't realize that sitting alone, generally doesn't mean 'I'm-lonely-come-talk-to-me'.
Ohmygosh! You're probably a clone of mine....^_^ except for that US living part and that people not realising part... I mean like here if you're alone then you are alone, except on those REALLY RARE cases when someone actually comes to talk to you but there's a 99.99% that no one comes...~
High five 🖐
Your answer is to find an extrovert to adopt you!
We've been living in Korea together the whole time we've been here, but what's it like for people that aren't traveling here with a partner? How loner friendly is Korea? We're gonna talk about all this and more in this week's TL;DR!
Whats the main issues with couples in Korea like cheating,problems etc and do you guys ever fight/what's the main reason you fight? Luv the vids:)
**rise my both hands for SooZee** SooZee let's date! Date I mean not date like date couples date but date!!! ^_^
*puts hands up* I'd go out with Soozee, she's sweet.
*PUT HANDS UP* I wanna go to the movies with Soozee, she's awesome and I would Love to be friends with her and Leigh as well. Also D.O. from EXO likes to go to the movies by himself, he said so and did it in EXO Showtime.
wat about dango jib?? Forever alone seat anyone
I came to Korea alone back in 2011. But Simon and Martina are right, since I came to teach English at a private school, I already had people showing me around. But I feel that people often tend to only stick to those people they meet at their job and don't meet anyone else. I found that being by yourself makes you more approachable by others, including Koreans. Doing things you love can you help find people with shared interests. Like going to a music show like Inkigayo forces you to wait outside for many hours, so you're bound to meet new people. Taking Korean language classes, going to board game cafes, or foreign churches help you meet new people, for example. Also, if you want to make friends with Koreans, an easy first way is to be a language partner for them. I feel that coming to university here has allowed me to meet so many more people and has made my experience even better in Korea. I'm glad I did come here to Korea University, because if I solely judged my time in Korea based on my year of teaching, I would've not thought of Korea so highly. Oh, I went to my first movie theater alone here. That was strange, but I realized it's not so bad. Same goes for dining alone. Good luck!
D.O of EXO went to the movies alone on EXO's Show time. Well i guess the camera man went too lol
I volunteer! I volunteer as tribute!
I totally remember that. I actually cracked up 'cause it was so unexpected. One minute he was singing in the car then he shows up at a cinema,buys popcorn for himself and strolls in at what seemed like late o'clock.
TakeAStepBack1 He actually bought nachos! And then he had to squeeze the cheese on himself. haha remember the mexican music they started playing hehehehe that was such a funny episode.
+Jackal Grim ep 2
yeaaaaaa and i was thinking how precious he is to watch a movie alone... ;_;
Everyone is lonely in the states, there are people that are by themselves everywhere. But you know people are desperate for friends because I can strike up a convo with anyone on the streets (well, some people cuz I'm from the hood son!) and they will literally talk about EVERYTHING in their lives. Relationships, tv shows, clothing, pets, the weather, etc. I've even had some older guy around his early 30's tell me about his xxx life O.O
This is why I'm so excited for you guys to open the eat your kimchi cafe, hopefully I can make friends and not be lonely lol
In Australia many people eat alone. It's not noticed if you are alone or not, and regardless of the type of restaurant, it could be fancy or takeaway, there's always a mix of people together and alone.
In the US I feel like teenagers will judge you very harshly if you are alone. If you're a college student or older than it doesn't really matter. Some restaurants have single tables and you will always see people eating alone in fast food chains. In bars and clubs there is always a space for singles. The older you get the more acceptable it is.
Yes your right bom...Sometimes i feel so alone even I am always with my friends...
Can you talk about technology and how it impacts the daily lives of Koreans? I have recently developed this pet-peeve for people that are on their phone during social gatherings and to avoid greeting strangers. It really frustrates me and the conversations usually die down significantly when people pull their phones out. Does this happen in Korea? Are people stuck to screens like they are over here? Do people have more technology-less fun away from video games and social media?
I just found you guys about 2 weeks ago and marathoned probably an unhealthy amount of you vids (like 50+ hrs). I don't watch the kpop stuff but everything else.
On another note, How is Soozee still single? She great qualities. Do you guys not let her out?
I keep asking myself the same question, how come she's still single? she's amazing
oh, well, I VOLUNTEER AS A TRIBUTE
PD: you should really watch the kpop stuff
I did the same thing. i cruised through a playlist of all the tl:dr, wanks, and FAP FAPs in about a week.
we've all been there, matthew! welcome to the club.
i went to a sushi bar alone in the US once... it was really awkward, and i wished i brought a book, because the employees kept coming up and asking me if i was ok. i guess i looked really lonely, but it was more awkward for me than lonely. i shop alone a lot too, and employees often come up and ask me if i need help or if i'm lost. nowadays, i tend to just rush in and out....
The employees might have been asking if you were okay because that's something that employees tend to do, although it is slightly more common to ask you if you're alone in a store. If a waiter/waitress asks you if you are okay, it's probably because it's their job, and they're more likely to get better tips if they're polite.
Kayla Crowder I get that, I work in service too, but it was more than that, they would ask if I was waiting for someone, or needed help. I get that it's their job, but it made it awkward because they would come every 5 minutes to "check" on me.
That prom proposal was so freaking cuuute~ Grace, you're a lucky girl!
you guys have such bizarre experiences, like eating at the same place/near martha stewart and having a sick-ass party going on at the hotel where your honeymoon night was spent like omg why can't i have cool things happen
Where I'm from (Texas/USA) it's perfectly fine to go anywhere alone. Out to eat, out to the movies... as long as you don't take up a huge booth made for six cuz that would be rude, you're fine. I especially see it at Starbucks a LOT. People will sit alone on their laptops for hours and just chill alone, drinking coffee and doing school work, sometimes they have their dog with them even. It's more common to see someone alone at Starbucks or fast food place than, say, at a sitdown restaurant because I think most people would just grab some food quickly if they were alone, but not necessarily. Being alone at a coffee shop is very common, eating alone at a restaurant is less common, but still not weird. I have been alone to the movies before and it wasn't weird at all. Actually, it was quite enjoyable. I also see people eating alone more at Diners (Like Denny's, IHOP, Waffle House, etc.) ... seems to be wherever the coffee is!! Coffee=lonely people I guess! lol! People usually bring something to do while alone, sort of like a security blanket, like a laptop (like I said ppl at starbucks do) cell phone, book, magazine, etc. People also go alone to parks and gyms all the time. But it's also very easy to meet people here too.
I'm from Texas/USA too..! and your absolutely right... Being alone is not weird here at all... tho it is easy to meet people, as people are friendly in Texas, but if you want to be alone people respect that too. You literally took the words out of my mouth ahaha!
katluver09 cool, what part of Texas are you from? I was born in Houston around the Spring area, raised in Brenham, now living in the Magnolia/Tomball area.
I completely agree with both of you I'm from Seagoville Texas right below Dallas and its not weird at all to see people eating alone, at the movies, etc. I think it depends on the persons confidence level, If they have high confidence they'll go if they're afraid of being made fun of they won't. As for making friends here its pretty easy, most of the people are friendly. You just have to complement them or ask them a question and a conversation will usually begin. You may run into some rude people or someone who is having a bad day, but most of the time people are friendly and wanting to make new friends to.
kjjjacobs13 Oh really... I was born and raised on Temple Texas. It Is about 6 hours south of Houston. KEKE
waterfalls25 Yeppers... we re nice people here... Always willing to talk.. of course ever state has their meanies, and people having a bad day as you said, but here they don't mind striking up a conversation if your will. XD YAY for TEXAS... we care for our loners, wouldn't mind being their friend but if not then we respect that too... AHAHA XD
Well.. EXO's D.O. saw a movie alone.. Even Suho said he sometimes saw a movie all by himself. lolol
I was thinking that throughout this whole video
Thanks for this! I'm headed off to teach in Changwon at the end of August and I'm going aaaaall on my own. I'm nervous but excited. Until recently I've tended to stick in my shell and not do things but I've been actively trying to go out and do things in my life here in Canada in preparation for doing the same thing in South Korea.
admirable that your stepping out of your shell. good luck!
+Juen So I've now been in Changwon for over a year. I have to add that facebook and social media are a GREAT way to meet people. Though I'd never meet someone off facebook back in Canada it's become very normal in Korea. You can reach out easily and lots of cities have Expat groups on facebook!
How does one speak to strangers without being awkward?
Guess thanks to smartphones, all of us lose the skill to initiate convo with strangers haha
Em Lay it depends of situation but it is akward just if you are akward doing that
The ending made me cry! Prm propasal was soooo cute!
In the UK it's okay to eat alone, you can definitely do it, but you will probably get a few weird looks from people. It's not the kind of place where, unless you're at a place of shared interests like a club or a concert, where you can just go and talk to anyone, people will probably think you're a little crazy! xD I've been to the cinema on my own once, because no one wanted to the see the movie, so Soozee, I would definitely like to see a movie with you!
To be honest, unless you make a big deal out if it, people probably won't notice. I went to a gig by myself and no one looked at me weirdly, haha. I think we're more adept at doing things individually.
I always end up going to concerts alone because no one i know likes the same music as me, especially the K-pop side, and I always make friends in the queue, so i guess thats one way to meet people here :')
haha, in the UK, people don't really care when you eat alone xD ... speaking from personal experience !
Chloe Hancock I went to both of the B.A.P Concerts in L.A. Alone I Felt Weird But They where amazing and i made tons of new friends because of it.
alexis almada fun!
thank you for all your videos!! I've been waiting over a year to come to Korea and now I'm going in May! Thank you for all your help in making me feel more comfortable and confident!
I live in Japan. Honestly, this is the best country for forever alone people. I dont often do it because I too am joined at the hip with my husband, but when I do, Im never the only lonely one. Im never looked at strange or judged. Its amazing.
I moved to Korea from Toronto alone for my teaching contract. This is such a great video. My favourite place to hang out is Bupyeong. Plenty of foreigners and a few great North American-style bars. Most, if not all, foreigners understand what you're going through. I've met a lot of people already who told me that they were already thinking about leaving after a month, and yet, they've renewed their contracts for multiple years. It's all up to you to go out and make the effort. People are very friendly here, Korean or foreigner. Just get out there.
When I lived in Korea I worked at an English camp with 20 other teachers but I still felt very alone because I didn't get along with them and because my Korean was at a much higher level than theirs and for some reason that was a bad thing....go fig. So when I used to go out to eat alone alot but there was only one place I could go to that had the tables for that and it was a Japanese Katsu place. So the only place in Korea where I could eat alone served Japanese food. lol
So anyway, one day when they served me my food the lady says to me in Korean "So you don't have any friend." No, it wasn't a question. She had watched me come in and eat by myself for weeks and came to the conclusion that I must not have friends because I always eat alone.
I eventually joined a Japanese hogwan and a Korean Hogwon and that helped me make friends. I enjoyed Korea a lot better after that. :)
You guys are the best thing I've found on the internet this month. SO informative and interesting! I want you hang out with you guys if I ever visit Korea :D
Then there's D.O who watched a movie on his own in EXO Showtime, ahahah~
First off Grace I hope you said yes because that proposal was awesome!!!!! I found that if you're traveling by yourself to a location for few days go on one of those tours with a group. I recommend the first or second day . The tour will give you a better idea on where places are and then you can venture on your own. I did that on my travels and met very nice people. I know it may not be for everyone.
In Malaysia, I don't think it's weird to do things alone. I've seen people eat alone in restaurants, fast food outlets, coffee shops, etc. People go to the movies alone, do grocery alone, go to cyber cafes alone, and no one really cares. But of course, you will still see large groups of people doing things together. It is as normal to be in a group as it is being alone.
It's amazing that you guys spend so much time together but don't get sick of one another
Hi EYK! I really, REALLY want to travel to Korea but I have a very severe nut allergy, and a moderate soy protein allergy and do not speak the language. How are food allergies handled in Korea?
I live in toronto,canada and you see people by themselves all the time. I will occasionally go sit at a starbucks by myself, or shop. Especially at malls, it's really not that strange to be buy yourself.
As far as restaurants go, it's still pretty strange to be eating by yourself, but usually not that big of a deal.
Unless I meet someone in college, I'll probably be traveling to Korea alone as well. I don't mind that, however I am a little antisocial especially around new people so it'll take a lot of effort and determination to talk to strangers lol. I always feel so awkward talking to some people haha
+Krystal Hoff me too
Yes! Im from Norway and that is true! I would lay in the snow to get a tan if it's sun outside! It's warm even though there's snow because we are used to colder weather... But it depends on where you live in the country :)
Totally true! No one goes to the movies alone in the U.S. ..well besides my dad but he's kinda antisocial lol lol it's strange cus you barely even talk during the movie but it still feels weird to go alonexD
But I also feel like many people don't go to restaurants by themselves unless you look like you are on your break from work. Otherwise the only place you really don't get looks for being alone are bakery/ frozen yogurt places/coffee shops...all those nonmeal places. Restaurants are for being with family or friends otherwise it's like why waste money?xD
I kinda disagree with regards of people going to the movies alone here in the U.S. I from time to time go alone. It doesn't feel weird to me or anything. Personally I like it because I don't gotta deal with people talking throughout the movie. Plus I've seen so many people go to the movies alone. The same thing with going to a restaurant alone. Ive done it as well and have seen other people alone at them countless times. It's nice to do things alone from time to time. Its like you're treating yourself for all the hard work you've done or because of how stressful a week was or just because you just want to. I'm not bashing on you or anything but did want to respond to your comment because it isn't entirely true.
Well I just wana say that the both of you r right I lyk 2 go 2 those place with friends and family but then there are some times where no one wants 2 go or idk i just want 2 b left alone and I'll go alone its healthy 2 treat yourself from time 2 time and get to u no yourself and other times when u want 2 meet new ppl and b social
Beginning from the time I stayed home for a couple of years of community college while my friends went off to a private university, I ate out and went to movies alone all the time! I really came to enjoy it; I got to do exactly what I wanted when I wanted, including reading a novel and listening to my music during dinner. And when I wanted to see a movie that no one else did, no big deal. I'd sit in my favorite spot with popcorn fixed my way and my favorite candy or two. Plus later, I didn't have to listen to my husband bad-mouth the movie I was so thrilled with. Going out by myself, I get to be really selfish, and sometimes that's a real treat to a wife and mother!
***** I do too, I don't think anybody who is surrounding me actually cares that I'm alone anyway, nobody even takes notice. I don't think it's anything to be embarrassed by- it's not like I'm antisocial, I'm just practical- if I need/want to do something I do it whether I'm with somebody or not, no biggie.
I used to go to the movies by myself all the time. And I saw lots of other people going to the movies by themselves too. I prefer going by myself because my friends and family will want to talk through the movie and discuss it while its on, but I'd rather watch it without interruption. Timing might have something to do with if you see people there by themselves or not. I liked to go during the middle of the day on a weekday when its the least busiest because I don't like crowds. But maybe if you go on a weekend afternoon or evening, it would be hard to find solo people.
I just want to say that it's not really as grim as this. I taught at a hagwon and had to eat by myself for a while because our schedules were staggered. I ate pretty frequently in the food courts you can find in most medium and large department stores and also in the fast food places in subway stations. No problem ordering and sitting by yourself to eat. Also, there are lots of street side food stalls/trucks with little seating areas.
But I found people there to be really friendly towards me. I've had the regulars on route wake me to make sure I made my stops and my private students often invited me out to tea or concerts or other outings.
I think I wouldn't even care if I was alone.
About that place you were talking about @ about the 6:00 mark in Japan, I believe that there is a place exactly like that in Korea. It was shown in one of the mid to late episodes of the drama "Let's Eat"
I feel like it's not weird unless you think about it. You might feel uncomfortable being alone - whatever country you're from - but other people don't really care. Yeah, they may look at you for a sec, but you're the one that's so concerned about appearing as a "loner".
Martinas dress is so pretty! I like the way it looks with the tattoos
I feel like from my experience in Western culture, the change up to actively pursuing friends in Korea would be difficult because when it comes to going up and talking to strangers here, they usually have this 'get away from me, I don't want to socialize, go away' type of attitude. Even my friends who are more quiet absolutely HATE being approached by anyone, and they usually get annoyed if a stranger attempts to talk to them even simply casually.
Changing that mentality of 'leave people alone' to 'let's go meet people and chat' seems difficult when you are used to being treated badly for approaching strangers originally.
I wish you guys had been in Korea when I was there! I felt so alone and became so depressed - it was so hard to meet foreigners for me for some reason (I was younger than a lot of others). I miss Korea thanks to you guys and can't stop watching EYK now that I found you guys 2 days ago.
I need that boyfriend pillow, LOL but seriously, why do people have these boyfriend expectations. Like oh you should have your first boyfriend by like 14, and first kiss and so on and so on. Really, does that benefit you at all at that age? LOL I don't know (asking as an unexperienced 16 canadian teen girl), would love to hear an opinion on that! Is it the same in Korea?
i honestly wouldn't want to date until I was old enough to get married (i'm 16, so in American that'd be 18). And first I'd want to be friends for awhile before I started dating the guy. i know a lot of people don't think like me......
If we are supposed to have our first boyfriend and first kiss by 14 then I failed lol. In my opinion, I don't think you should have to. I mean just go with your own pace and find someone that you car about and enjoy. I don't recommend going out with anyone just because you want your first boyfriend and kiss to be over with. I don't think there are any benefits... But then again what do I know, I haven't had those yet sooooo yeah...
I'm not dealing with relationships until I'm in college, and can get a man with a degree and a career in his future. ;)
Wow I thought I was the only weird one who thought this way. I just didn't see the point of getting together and breaking up so quickly. You go girls! Haha.
These answers are actually awesome, at least I have faith in some of the teen generation LOL
You make it sound so easy. I'm not going to be a teacher, but I want to travel to Asia one day. I am really bad at putting myself out and setting down roots where I don't know anyone. If it weren't for required social outings, or work, I would be stuck in my room all day because I'm THAT terrified of meeting new people or asking for help in a new place. I prefer being on the giving end of knowledge like that.
*currently in Berkley, CA for six months and though she knows a lot of people in the week she's been here, she doesn't have any friends*
How about meeting natives and not other foreigners? If I went there, I would want to meet people who can introduce me to the culture and the area, and allow me to practice my Korean. So far what I've done to prepare is get penpals online so I'll know people ahead of time, but how would you meet new Koreans there? If I was an english teacher at a public school, couldn't I be super friendly and just ask other teachers to have bbq together or something?
Conversation exchange dot com! Seriously I'm only here for two months I put an ad up two weeks in because you really can't eat alone in this country, and within a day I had 20 responses I'd say. I responded to all those similar age with me with a blanket response stating my situation where I'm not here for long term and my kakao id. I got maybe 10 or so people added me to kakao, I met with 6 in person (making sure we met at meal times so I could eat:P) and 3 of those I have formed friendships with. All Koreans on that site want to practice English so it works well if you want to learn korean culture from native Koreans or just meet native Koreans but you may find some aren't to active about teaching korean language. I use this site back home in Toronto and now my group of friends has a strong majority of Koreans who are studying English haha. I think this site would be even better for someone who was staying long term.
Koreans don't typically associate with people they do not know or have not been introduced to. That's why no one mingles in bars here (in Korea). The best way to meet Koreans is to find online groups and/or join a language exchange. As for asking other teachers to dinner, no one does that...
VermilionLotus well I'd hope they'd understand that I'm just trying to meet people since I'm a foreigner and probably know no one... O.O
BittyBallOfCurly I would highly recommend reading up on Korean culture. There are just some things that aren't socially acceptable here that would otherwise be normal in the West.
VermilionLotus oh, teachers in schools aren't friends with their co-workers? i thought they would go out sometimes along with their bosses. at least that's what i've heard.
In the pacific north west of the US, it's pretty easy to be either a social butterfly or a loner! I go to college in a small town but I'm originally from Portland. in both places I find that it's easy to do do most things solo, however if you do go out to eat alone/go to a bar alone you might get a couple weird looks but it's definitely doable. In general if say it's pretty easy to be one or the other- or both!
Simon: would anyone like to go to the movies with soozee?? raise your hand
Me: I VOLUNTEER AS TRIBUTE!!!!!
Norwegians tanning in snow is true. After the dark time of the winter is over, alot of people strip off to feel the sun's warmth in early spring/easter vacation. Been there, done that. The sun makes the snow less jarring when you get up again as well :)
Being lonely can be a serious thing in America, and the 'forever alone' meme is pretty overused. The bad thing about it is people are so desperate for love at very young ages (as early as 4th grade) that they'll date practically anyone. In return, this makes relationships a joke. It's not always like this, but many times it is, unfortunately. Also, some people have ridiculously high standards because of famous models. Again, not everyone is like this, just some where I'm from.
In Australia, you can basically go anywhere by yourself and your good (however i wouldn't recommend being in the pub districts in the city at 3 in the morning)
I'm not really a social person. I mean I have friends but I probably wouldn't have met or talked to them if I didn't have a class with them, because I'm that socially awkward and shy. so yeah I don't mind doing a lot of things alone and I mostly talk to myself a lot so I don't think being alone in Korea would be a problem for me...... yes I do talk to myself even though I'm not an only child and yes my current friends do think I'm weird for it, but they still like me anyways for it so it's fine.
My recent motto is "I'm not weird, everyone else is just boring."
I don't know how my friends put up with me, either.....
Exactly. When I do make friends their normally in the same social group as me; like the weirdo's, crazy people etc....my friends are never normal.
That's because we are the cool people. Who wants to sit around all day talking about boys and fashion when you could be running through the forest or contemplating the pros and cons of cannibalism? Because I know which one I would rather do. What about you?
.... I'm pretty sure I wouldn't want to be a cannibal. What I find the most hilarious is sometimes I have that one guy friend that knows I don't or wouldn't date and yet they still flirt with me, I don't care so I just go along with it. All my friends know I'm the farthest away from being materialistic because they all say that I'm cheap and lazy and that they feel bad for my future kids lol.
You can just feel the love and understanding. It's okay, my best friend's favorite line is "Catherine, no one cares about your needs." Why are true friends always the ones who insult you most and strive to make you uncomfortable?
And starving to death versus being a cannibal, I'm thinking that cannibalism kind of wins. Just saying.
in my country it's totally normal to eat or to be alone but it's actually weird to go and just say hello to other people you don't know so what i'm trying to say here is it's easier to eat alone than to meet new people while you're eating
Please show us the Martha Stewart pictures!!!! Please!!
I love all your videos!! I would actually love to go to the movies with Soozee! I love everyone in the EYK family!! :)
love your guy's videos
Thank you! I'm glad we can make you feel happy!!!
In Malaysia I don't see restaurants rejecting customers who eat alone, in fact I do see people who eat alone. But I personally think it would be awkward to do so.
QUESTION!: How is S. Korea with random acts of kindness? for example, just paying for someone's meal or randomly giving someone a flower (small things like that). It's pretty normal here in America, but how would it be like in S. Korea? Would they think that it's weird?
When Soouzie chimed in about going to the movies alone, that was the point that really got me chuckling! 08:21 to 08:29 should definitely be looped a few times with different video effects :-D :-D
but did grace say yes??
she said yes
I'm so glad the answer was in the comments tbh
In Australia if you go to a proper restaurant that has its own building, alone its considered pretty weird but if you go to a restaurant like in the city or in a food court ( or like fast food ) its not considered weird and in fact you see a lot of people eating alone in shopping centres and in the city.
And with going alone at cinemas, its pretty normal for people to go alone. Its normally adults and older who go by themselves though, teens normally go on a date or with friends and you see alot of families go. But yea, its fine ~
About going to the movies alone in Korea, on EXO showtime D.O. went to see a movie all by himself, and I'm pretty sure there's many people he knows that could have gone with him, but he decided to go alone despite um him being and idol and that it would go public, so I don't think it's that awkward. Anyways, it's a TV show so it's not that informative, but I wanted to point it out so that Soozee doesn't feel like she's alone on this one haha
I'm a Korean who does a lot of things on my own, because as an introvert I get tired at constantly discussing what to eat :P And because I work freelance I can go to movies in weekdays when there are no people! But I guess this is all possible because I have friends I can turn to whenever I need. So go out and make that social circle blossom!
In my experience in California even though there are people who pity people for being alone like in restaurants, movies, and parties there is a huge support group of people that would say, "Who gives a shit about them! You are independent. What if you go eat by yourself that don't mean your lonely."
My name is Jackie and I am from Sydney, Nova Scotia. I taught in Korea for two years from 2011-2013. One of the best things I ever did was apply to a recruiting agency (i.e. Korvia Consulting), that had a large orientation for all of us. All the new teachers going to Daegu and Busan and neighboring areas all gathered at a university in Busan a few days before our contract started. We had information sessions, basic Korean lessons, group projects to help teach ESL, and more. The best thing was that we were separated by location. So all the new ESL teachers in my classes were from the same city I was going to, Daegu. It was great!! A lot of the people I met during orientation became some of my best friends that I still have today. And as you go around town, a lot of the foreigners you see, you recognize from orientation.
Also, facebook groups are formed for each new contract of teachers for each city (i.e. Daegu EPIK Spring 2014/ or FALL 2014, etc.), so you can join those groups and meet more people that came at the same time as you, find out about events, hangouts, and more.
This is seriously so ironic because I just flew to Korea (Seoul) TODAY and I'm going to be studying + living here alone! I brought loads of books with me though because I know I'm going to spend a ton of time alone at home. Yes, I would love to watch a movie with SooZee and yes, I would watch a movie alone too because who gives a dang about what other people thinks. >;
Oh... And Grace, you better say yes or else other Nasties will!!! Have fun at prom, alright? ;)
hey may i know what you're studying? i'm planning to study in south korea as well (:
Jadelle Kun Hello, I'm studying Korean here in Seoul! My university is Seoul National University. Here's the link to the website if you're interested! lei.snu.ac.kr/site/en/klec/main/main.jsp
All the best to you. (;
Jinger Yeoh thats where i wanna go for a couple years in college. i wanna study in us and korea.... too young to be planning that though
Amy Tang You are never too early to live for the future, Amy! I'm (turning) 19 and I planned for this day ever since I was 13. All the early planning are going to pay off, trust me.
So you're studying at KLEC? And you can go study there by youself not through your college/uni? I'm getting rly interested now xD
I think probably the most fun, but the most socially awkward place to go to alone is an amusement park! I know that it probably seems sad, but going by yourself is a blast. You skip through lines constantly and you can go at your own pace. However, this idea doesn't apply at night. It just stops being fun after the sun goes down.
My ideal visit would be to hang around in the morning and afternoon by myself and go on most of the rides. And then in the evening I would meet up with friends and hit the games, the ferris wheel, and the scariests rides (like the drop towers and the roll-o-planes)!
If you're not allowed to pour shots for yourself in Korea, then how in kdramas when a character is sad, they go out by themselves and drink all the shots they can? haha
FlamingHansol
Oh my god yes I remember that scene!!! Pinocchio is so good XD
THIS PROMPOSAL IS JUST TOO CUTE.
I HOPE SHE SAYS YES.
YAAAS.
*raises hand*
You can survive in Korea or any other country being alone or a loner, depends on how independent and not afraid to be different you are. And in this case SImon and Martina just aren't used to being alone often so they don't know much about it
Hey can anyone explain to me what it means when they say "comeback" like when i think comeback i think like if destiny's childs were to get back together now.... but i here it a lot in reference to Kpop....
it's just another way of saying that they have a new album out. usually there is a year or so in between albums, so they made a "comeback" of new music.
ohhh! makes sense! Heather McDermott thanks
Shanda Sara just to add to what Heather said it can also mean a new music video
Shanda Sara
Actually, they use the word "comeback" when you promote a new single
Whatever the period of time between the singles' launch
You can launch a single in january and comeback with a new single in february
I’m moving to Korea this fall, and this is what I’m most nervous about. I’m worried I’ll leave my friends at home and spend all of my free time alone. This advice made me feel so much better, as I tend to form random acquaintanceships while traveling, but actual friendships are much harder.
In korea do you absolutely need to know fluent Korean to be able to live there, do many Koreans speak English and can serve or talk to you in English?
You can live there even if you don't speak Korean, there is more and more young adults who are fluent in English and others who are not but who will try to talk to you. Now I think that you'll be some basic vocabulary for when you do grocery shopping or others things alone, but I have French friends who don't speak a word in Korean that stayed ere one year without problems.
I don't know a lot of Korean - granted, it's been about a month since I've been here. People here know the most basic English. Sometimes it could be frustrating. I use Google Translate in the meantime to get my points across.
I guess this is more like, my college community, but I used to be terrified to eat alone especially for lunches because in high school it's just not okay to eat by yourself, but in college, for lunch or dinner, it's totally acceptable to eat by yourself, and pretty common at certain times of the day, especially breakfast.
*raises hand*
I'll take you to a movie, SooZee, if I ever go to korea. Though, you're so cute that I'm absolutely baffled as to why you're alone. ;o Seriously.... what the hell?
The picture from Norway is absolut true. Same applies to Sweden and other countries in Europe where the sun can be pretty strong but the mountains are high so the snow doesn't melt. It's cold in the air but the sun vill warm you up so you will be warm as long as it doesn't get windy :)
here in malaysia we even have a popular edible collagen thingy that whitens your skin, and not just on your face, i mean your whole freaking body. they advertise themselves as knowing the secret to beautiful korean skin and to be honest, the people look bleached and pale. my friend tried it once and said he said it tastes like bubblegum lol XD
wait this is a comment for your previous tldr, oh well hahaha
***** its called k-colly sweet 17 if im not mistaken hahaha
Adilah Anuar I just googled this out of curiosity and whoa! :o Is it safe to take?? Have you tried it? I want to see this, where can I buy it?
Karima Chheal urm not sure if it's safe hahaha i don't eat stuff like this i'm too scared to try but my friend did and he said it tastes like bubblegum, its edible and you just eat it with a spoon from the container itself, kinda like eating candy hahaha my friend's using it and he's getting a little bit fairer but i can't guarantee anything lol where are you from? if you're from malaysia then there's lots of blogs and instagram accounts where you could buy it from. if you're not then this blog seems useful because they ship internationally, aurabeautykiosk.blogspot.com/2013/08/k-colly-collagen.html hope this helps :)
Thanks!!! :3 I'm from the UK, I searched yesterday after reading your comment but got frustrated with it all being in Malay XD
Ya Let's Eat was an awesome drama!!! Loved the food.
I have question for you guys. What do you guys think about Kris ''leaving'' EXO? Are guys shocked, sad, confused, or?
I'm not liking this because I like the situation, but I'm curious about their opinions! ...setting aside that they're not the biggest fans of EXO (like myself). xD
I don't think they'll have anything more to say other that the stuff they had said about Dongho when he left U-Kiss. Apart from talking again about the busy schedules and little sleep and whatnot, I don't see another reason. Unless they have some things to add. I am interested in their opinion even if I don't think it's much different from the one they had about Dongho...
Trust me you do not want their opinion on this one :p
As someone living in the US who is fairly shy and bad at meeting new people, I've never considered it weird to go out to movies, dinner, bars etc. alone. I'm more comfortable reading a book by myself in a public space than spending time with groups of people. That's probably why South Korea would be the worst place for me to travel to...
Random question, but what is love like in Korea? Not PDA but the actual thought of having love. Is it different from North America? Is it different for idols? What is the thought of marriage and having children like in Korea?
SooZee, I'll watch a movie with you!
When I was travelling out west to Seattle, WA and Portland, OR, a lot of the times I was exploring alone because my friends out there had work. I really had to get over eating lunch on my own in a normal restaurant, but it wasn't so bad. The first days if I felt awkward, I'd bring a book to read. But, I had some of the best food and the most fun just rambling about checking things out on my own. Lunch specials are always smaller portions too.
As you said though, it's a bit easier to go out alone here in North America.
Hey guys, I was wondering how the alternative scene is in Korea. Are there many so called "hippies", who don't care about image and money etc. And how is the vegan scene which may also be alternative in korea?
I fly solo all the time. It's a little difficult fumbling through Korean and I've heard of people getting denied service when they're alone but mostly I'm asked if I really want that much food for just me. Then I take it to go and share with people. I don't really go to the movies in Korea but in America I almost always went alone. You can watch exactly what you want and even watch 2 or 3 movies back to back that way!
I know D.O from Exo has gone to a movie alone
I went to Korea and experienced it both alone and with company and I just keep telling my friends to go with someone if they plan to go because they just miss out on a lot of food if they're dinning solo. And yes! Having a support group is really important! I am doing an exchange program in Japan and I was downright miserable the first month. I had no big problems adapting but loneliness was eating me away. It taught me to appreciate just having someone to talk about my day with.
In Mexico you can do anything on your own, but since it is a more group-oriented culture you might end up feeling lonely anyways. Also it's kind of dangerous to be noticeably alone and about....
being lonely in the Netherlands is normal I guess... most people don't care what others think about them... XD
Thank you for this video! Im a very sociable person but as you said in the video in western countries going up to talk to strangers is weird so I was worried it might be the same in korea. Im pretty sure that knowing korean before you get there will really help expand the options that you have with friends
Chicagoooo
Another one right here! :D
Ayyyyyee~~
Former Chicagoan... now living in Asia... I miss Chicago. 15 days and counting til I go home for a visit.
Hello Illinoisian friends!
my taiwanese friend's cousin is btob's peniel #perksofbeingfromchicago REUNITE
I've been living and working in Korea for several years. Coming here to a public school, where I was the only foreigner and having no built in social or support structure was one of the hardest things I've ever experienced. You guys are totally right about getting out and joining groups though. Most of the long-term friends that I've made here have been made through meet-ups, classes and group trips. I am lucky that I enjoy cooking for myself though, because eating out or doing anything social alone, can be really awkward!! I'd say if you are not someone who likes spending a lot of time by yourself, the sooner you find classes and meet-up groups (especially in HBC/ Gangnam/ Hongik area) and build them into your routine, the better. That and Skype... thank the Lord for Skype.
Question: If I come to Seoul, can I go to the movies with Soozee? I mean...it's not a date or anything...err...just for the sake of company and the defeat of loneliness, right? Haha...
Haha! For science!! (Obviously...)
1ts0bvi0us Uhh...yeah...SCIENCE!
***** you shouldn't have put the err that made it sound so awkward no offense but I'm laughing my butt off
rose ramil That was the point, I was trying to sound awkward, lol.
my bad I don't know how to joke
In Norway it is quite common to bask in the snow. I do it a lot in the winter and Easter holidays. It's actually pretty hot! But it is really cold when you ice bath after having a sunbathe. But it often takes some time to make a big enough hole in the ice.
Did she say yes? x3
Oh! Cute x3 ty, sorry i didn't see the comment!
love the surprise ending!!! - google hangout chat with them simon and martina for a bit in your next live show!!! :D
I wanna go to the movies with SOOOOZEEEEE :)
I just got super excited to hear the mention of Mississauga! Reppin my hometown :). Cawthra's cool and all, but we all know PORT CREDIT'S WHERE IT'S AT HOMIE.
OMYGOSH THE PROMPOSAL. IM VERY HAPPY EVEN THOUGH ITS NOT MY PROM;;;;; /cries/ Did she accepted? :D So kdramaland... (why cant this happens to me xddd)
YUP! she said YESSS!! :D
she is SOOO happy LOL
she crys everytime when Simon says her name ... aha
Zhanghan Zhang omg she did? :'DDD how'd u find out? xD
Hehehe... I believe he is the guy who asked Grace! :) Congrats Zhang you deserve this for being such a cutie pie and have an original propose!
x00xjenjenx00x because i'm the one going to prom with her!! LOOL :DD
Zhanghan Zhang Just knowing you're from Cawthra makes me have the strongest urge to rep Port Credit S.S. so hard. But I've had a lot of friends who've gone to CP so I guess I'll spare you my obnoxiousness haha. Congratulations, btw!
Sooozeee! I'll go w ya! In NYC, i even prefer skipping out on friends and doing stuff by my self sometimes. There is a lot of cool ways to enjoy yourself, alone or with a group. I would say amusement parks by yourself would be a bad idea...nobody to wait in line with would be torturous.
Does Korea has an Art like university? I personally have told me i have talent in drawing and im planning to go abroad for studies art ..what do you think?
#Eatyourkimchi
There's no "Art University" but there are universities with great/famous art colleges. There's 한국예술종합학교 (The Korean Arts School), National Seoul University, Hongik University, and Kookmin University
Yeah! We're right beside an Art University, in fact :)
Thanks fro replying^^ ♥ And i think i should have high grades to go there..?
Yasuri Washimoto if you feel like it c:
+Yasuri Washimoto Probably.
Ironically, I watched this right after returning home from eating dinner at a nice restaurant alone! I live in Florida so there are lots of really neat activities to partake in here. I go to restaurants, movies, shopping, and even to Disney World alone all the time. I'm a person that voluntarily and enthusiastically spends a lot of time alone. While I'm very personable and have a wide circle of friends, I feel better when I can have time alone to gather my thoughts every once in a while and just treat myself to something nice. I do often get weird stares or looks of pity when I go out alone, as if people think I have been stood up or am a sad, lonely person. But no one would ever comment on it or say anything, so it doesn't really bother me. People tend to mind their own business about it.