Really Bad MEN’S Anatomy
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Some more examples of bad men's anatomy, because this is really not how guys work
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Bro timetravelling lol
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try making recipes
The Chicken comment is actually a history joke - an ancient greek philosopher once tried to describe humans in the fewest words possible as "featherless biped", and competing philosopher Diogenes made fun of that by bursting into his lecture with a plucked chicken saying "Behold! A man."
The terfs aren't the first people to think that they have a perfect definition of an absolute category but have it turn out that reality requires just a bit more attention to detail and nuance than they're willing to admit. And sex/gender are rather more complicated as categories than species...
Beat me to it. Diogenes
"an ancient Greek philosopher" is underselling. The smug boi that Diogenes humiliated in front of everyone was only bloody PLATO.
(Who won at wrestling at the Olympic games iirc, so it's totally nerd kid humiliating the jock everyone swoons over vibes)
came to look for this comment!
Diogenderes, still searching for an honest trans, approves of your comment.
Viagra is also a heart medicine, in fact it's what it was formulated for in the first place. Spiking someone's drink with a substance that affects the heart seems like a HORRIBLE idea.
Yeah, it could even kill them if they have a heart condition!
Bingo! @@aidennevada243 you got in right in one.
Spiking someone with any drug sounds horrible too.
Plus, even if that man found a woman who actually liked him back (though the chances are microscopic), the relationship would be built on distrust and entitlement. Who does he think he is?
"Wow, there sure are a lot more trans people these days. Oh, I know what to do! Drug women without their consent!"
Yeah, & it doesn't *cause* erections anyway, lmao
Yeah maybe we just shouldn't spike people's drinks period.
As a trans girl, the one side effect of estrogen that surprised me was the feathers.
The- feathers? 😧
As a cis-ish girl I can confirm I was born with feathers as a result of estrogen
I laughed out loud 😂
It's the trans to furry pipeline. Or maybe that was the other way around.
I thought that they had scales?
"Men don't cook!!!" How much you wanna bet they'd scoff at a woman being a professional chef?
Obviously there are little kitchen fairies that appear and cook the food in professional restaurants
source? trust me bro
WHERE'S THE LAMB SAUCE?!
@@PGOuma IT’S COMING, CHEF
Being a cook and chef are different things because chefs yell at people. Like Gordon Ramsay ::tongue::
Yes I made this comment on another creators video. The running joke is that woman belong in the kitchen, but all be damned if that’s an industrial kitchen with a pay check involved. The food industry is vile. I was sexually harassed and underpaid for years before I finally gave up and start working privately.
Funnily enough, sperm are reproduced continuously throughout a man's life, just millions and millions, and they only last in the testes for a few weeks. So that "i carried the child my whole life before you did the last 9 months" is just pure malarky
In the department of "carrying around gametes", I think men and women are pretty much on a level playing field as far as carrying some around all the time.
Nobody knows for sure exactly which egg + sperm will end up coming together to make a child, at least short of IVF.
Pretty stupid comparison in any case.
@@jnharton well, not really. Sperm cells, as the original comment says, are reproduced continuously. Meanwhile all the eggs are created in prenatal life. That's why when mother's age increases, the risk of genetic problems for the baby increases (because the eggs are older so the genetic material has a higher chance to be damaged), while the father's age doesn't have such a negative effect, as sperm is always produced fresh.
@@jnhartongirls are born with all the eggs they will ever have. Literally from birth, so no it’s not comparable.
@@andreawinston8900 So one could argue that mothers of daughters even carry their grand children for a while, since the daughter's egg cells develop while she is in her mother's uterus. Men really don't do anything.
@@andreawinston8900 I took high school biology, thanks. The point was more that men are always carrying around some quantity of sperm cells at all times. It's not like they just manifest right before you go to have sex/masturbate.
Just because girls have all their eggs from the start doesn't mean that they are all equally available at any time or that she has any direct control over which ones are released. Some of them might even carry mutations which could cause the resulting zygote to result in a non-viable offspring.
And an egg only carries half the genetic information that ultimately constitutes a future child's DNA.
So if you want to be nitpicky, there is no baby/child at all prior to conception making any notion of superiority absurd.
Learned incompetence example: A few years back, I worked with a highly paid colleague, job title "Chief engineer", in a testing company. Once he said that he couldn't figure out how to operate the washing machine he was supposed to be testing - we had the operating manual on hand and everything, and other times he would be expected to test complex laboratory and telecom equipment. When I confronted him with "Are you unable to read the manual? You're the Chief Engineer" - he said, in front of our boss, "Washing machines are 'women's work', LOL."
After a few more instances of this, she fired him.
A great response would be, "Oh, women as an entire demographic have better engineering skills than a trained, professional male engineer. Good to know. You're fired, we have a female secretary who will be taking your position on this project."
@@CorwinFound Year for real :'D My standard response that works for any instance of this is "OK, got it. You're too frail for anything that women can do. OK, thank you for letting me know about your personal struggle. I'm a feminist. Ofcourse I think we should accommodate for men's struggles. So, let's see what you CAN handle at this point in time so we can see how much support you'll need and what we're trying to catch you up on, too. You'll e alright. We'll be taking baby steps. Let's start by making some capacity by removing some of your responsibilities and their respective privileges!"
Aka you can use the whole thing or just sentences. Sometimes the first sentence is enough. They CAN absolutely be incompetent. We're not ableist. We'll just have to remind them that obviously that translates to us thinking they're too incompetent for that complicated game console and they're absolutely NOT ready to safely navigate any vehicles, goodness, no! 💅
I believe that's called "weaponized incompetence." Thankfully, it was weaponized right back at him.
Is that story real?
@@Rin-zn9bo Sadly, yes. He was such an idiot.
Men crying when they see their bride isn't extremely gay... but! Men crying when they see their groom is pretty gay.
See what I did there? :3
-and yes I'm aware that bisexuality and pansexuality exist just let me have my dumb joke-
No, no, it's really funny and you have a point.
I 👏 at your funny joke 😂
👏👏👏👏👏
It was just badly punctuated. I would also cry if I saw my bride was extremely gay. I'd expect her to be at least a little attracted to men, or else what's the point?
Yup, solid!
My sister is on a high blood pressure medication because she has a hereditary condition. Looking at her people wouldn’t think she could possibly have it because it’s often not associated with people who slim and fit. If someone gave her viagra she could have a serious issue!
This
Oh Lord, I was part of a marriage bible study group with my ex that did eight weeks on "Men Are Like Waffles, Women Are Like Spaghetti." Yes, I am serious, and no, it was not ironic. I'm so glad that I'm no longer straight, married, or part of a church.
Was it cooked spaghetti?
@@SandraLugn-nc1rkOh yeah, it's cooked spaghetti. The analogy is "men compartmentalize like waffles have little boxes for everything; women's thoughts are all interrelated and jumbled up, and that's why men are better at business and women are better at serving/childrearing/domesticity because they multitask." 🤢
Congrats on getting out of that environment- with all those carbs about it sounds like a really unhealthy place to be
congratulations!!!!! =)
If that was the Church of the Flying Spaghetti Monster, I assume it was trying to say that women are divine?
Men are like waffles because they have all the pockets.
This one I can get behind. But I'm also a proponent for pockets for women!
THIS one makes more sense to my little brain
At least one answer that makes sense about this phrase. Thank you.
😂
Damn men, hoarding all the pockets
5:30 "Men are like Waffles, Women are like Spaghetti" is an Evangelical Christian version of "Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus".
The idea is that men compartmentalize their lives and for women, everything is intertwined.
My mom gave me the book and study guide when I had issues with my ex. It turned out that he wasn't a waffle, he was just abusive.
Sorry about the abuse part. Been there. Hope you're safe kiddo.
Yes, I'm fine. We broke up over 5 years ago. I gave up on the idea of getting married, went to college, graduated, got a reasonably well-paying job, and rented my first solo apartment. Now I won't be financially dependent on a relationship. That's a better feeling than all the self-help relationship books can give.
@@asongfromunderthefloorboards Oh well done! Lots of love, hugs, good vibes. Living free is the greatest craic. Beannacht Dé leat!
Thanks for the explanation on waffles vs spaghetti. I went to the comments looking for an explanation. I could tell where they were going with the waffles, but not the spaghetti…
Dittoe @@angeliquestevens1863 however now I want spaghetti.
I think the "men don't listen to music" one is a riff off how that sort of thing gets said about women "women aren't really into music" "girls are only gamers because they're trying to impress a boy" etc. There's a whole series of reversing those sorts of things to show how absurd it is. Could be wrong but that's how it read to me.
Damned if ya do, damned if ya don't, right? 🙄 These gender role things are outta hand.
Yeah I thought the same
"You have to be over 6' to be a king"
Seems like someone hasn't heard about SHORT KINGS
Most monarchs would be folded by lebron no cap
That's what I was thinking XD
We love a short king
@@OdinsSageYes, I also thought of that! (I also may or may not have laughed at my own remark.) I am just a bit over 6ft (and have been since i was 13 which is just bazaar) I and I'm a bit Jealous of other people because being tall can be a bit difficult with hitting your head on everything all the time (like I run into low-hanging branches on trees). so I just want to applaud those short Kings! 🥳
It's not gay to have emotions. Are you really a man if you have no emotions? Man up and cry.
😂😂😂😂😂😂
Underrated comment +1
i don't think reverse psychology actually works but I'd be down to try it out
That thing about men transforming is entirely true. I knew I was trans when I stayed a cat instead of becoming a gorilla at 18.
I wish you well on your journey to become a chicken.
The featherless chicken is a great reference for Diogenes vs Plato. Diogenes was an epic troll and the stories are amazing.
I had to scroll for way too long to find this comment ❤️
Im so glad so many trans people/allies have gotten large platforms a sense of community is so helpful when your questioning yourself.
You are very much welcome to not click these videos.Though viewing and commenting on a trans content creator is just fine too.@@TheWerewolfOfNorway-mf5jz
@@TheWerewolfOfNorway-mf5jzobsessed troll
It's not a coincidence I realized I was trans the same year my parents finally let me get a phone 😂
People act like progressive media is influencing their kids when all it does is let them know theres a word for what they are feeling and they arent alone@@GruulAnarch
I needed a trans person taking about being trans to realize it
Bad [insert type of person] anatomy is a great genre of video because it is wild to see how people of all walks of life do not know how bodies work at all
yeah!
It always makes me feel better about myself
27 Dresses was released in 2008. So, we have evidence that men have been crying when their brides walk down the aisle since at least then. Also, imagine wanting to walk down the aisle to see your husband just looking expressionless. That sounds depressing
I hate the whole thing about guys not being allowed to want affection. One of my friends once asked me if they could give me a hug and I answered "I guess" which really surprised. So they gave me a hug and I could have cried, and it left me with a sort of glow feeling that lasted for the next couple of days. I still treasure that moment.
Also the one about water bottles reminded me of a time when one of my friends said "hydrate or die straight" and I immediately took a sip of water (Most of my friends are LGBTQIA+ but I identify as straight to them for now) and we all laughed.
Good job being there for them and yourself. As a cis woman who's absolutely hand enough of the blasted unnecessarily sexualised interaction nonsense, I've made it a thing to explicitly make these things a topic with men when I can. Men urgently need really 1x1 on platonic friendships and skin ship. And you can hear me angrily grumbling to myself when we hug and it just breaks them emotionally to experience "being human" and hell, am I mad at their peers and especially their damn male ancestors who failed them that atrociously, all while even now I'm surrounded by women desperately trying to fight for the internal lives of their sons against everything that our "by default sexistic" systems still teach them, the second they grow into teenagers. Sometimes even earlier.
I can't stand it and I'll be damned if I don't do my part of hitting da boys hard with the hug-wake-up-calles to how terribly neglected they are of human touch and modelling all the skill sets to them that it takes, to remedy that.
We're seeing changes in the upcoming generations and we'll fan that fire until everyone's nicely cosy n warm with each other, regardless of gender. Nothing is "cool" about literal dissociation and male generalized alexithymia! (=w=#)
Straight guy right here, and I can't stop laughing at the sentence "hydrate or die straight."
I always heard it as "hydrate or die-drate" but your version is MUCH funnier. 🌈 just imagining a withered-up straight who thinks it's gay to drink water.
20:00 when my grandmother got breast cancer, my uncle talked about it at the bar. Another regular (middle aged AMAB) asked who her doctor was and after being told quickly assured my uncle that she was in good care as that had been his doctor as well. He'd had breast cancer himself and it was a big suprise formost of the bar to learn that was a thing that could happen to cis guys. A suprise for my grandmotheras well when my uncle told her about it. She told me expecting she'd get to see my suprise and was disappointed when I just said "uh-huh" expecting there to be more to the story 😂
8:45 minor correction: it is not actually proven that eggs are all there since birth. In some species it has been shown that eggs can continue being created during early life or even later life. No such thing has been proven for humans yet, but it has also not been conclusively disproven. Menopause also doesn't have to be caused by them running out. It's a bit of an oversimplification but given that we're making fun of people for not knowing how bodies work we should try to be as all-encompassing as we can.
11:37 this is a reference to a meme! This one is not serious. In Ancient Greece, Plato was asked to define a man and he said a "featherless biped", so Diogenes ran in with a plucked chicken and said "behold, a man!" Well, you know, it's a legend. Who knows whether it actually happened.
that paper (2008) has since been basically disproven--there have been a number of studies prompted by it, in none of which was found any evidence of oogenesis in adult human women.
@@skleedleplotchnu3713 "No oogenesis in adults" is not the same as "born with all eggs already present". There are quite a few years between birth and adulthood (or even the onset of puberty) when it could still be happening. Has that also been researched?
People thought humans could produce eggs after birth due to a so called 'egg stem cell', this was data from around 2012. Many people have been unable to even replicate these data findings since then. A 2020 study did a full cell map of the human ovaries and has discovered no such cell existing. There is a full and very in depth article that details running through the process of trying to identify such cells on the Nature Communications website (Single-cell analysis of human ovarian cortex identifies distinct cell populations but no oogonial stem cells). I urge you to please do thorough research before posting about science and the human body as it is such a sensitive subject, and throwing out these comments without really citing anything just makes it more difficult for people ot actually know the whole truth. People don't have the patience to look into things and will take this as gospel then go on to tell others the same thing. No hate, just passion on my end for scientific truths.
@@fghsgh "No new egg cells are made during their lifetime. This has long been accepted as fact." Medically reviewed by Stacy A. Henigsman, DO - By Rhona Lewis - Updated on May 4, 2023
Your argument reminds me of the saying "you can't prove a negative". It's a lot more conclusive than you make it out to be, to the point where I'd classify your comment as misinformation. Also, I'm pretty sure it's widely known that menopause isn't necessarily caused by "running out of eggs" and more of running out of "quality" eggs, as both quantity and quality decrease with time (not to say running out of eggs isn't all a reason). This is why we still see women who have gone through menopause still able to get pregnant in extremely rare cases. Also, why as you get older not only is it harder to get and stay pregnant, but the baby has a higher chance of abnormalities because of egg quality. It is widely accepted as fact, as there have been many studies on this.
Idk this comment feels a lot like "we havent technically proven that my bed sheets aren't blue!" "Well Fred, we can see the bed sheets are purple, so the natural conclusion is that they aren't blue". I'm not good at explaining what I mean so that's not totally accurate to have I feel, but it's close.
Actually, it's like, current research indicates this to be true, so therefore we accept this as fact until proven otherwise. But this is true of most "facts" known to man. By this logic we technically haven't proved Earth has a core. We think it does because all current evidence points to this conclusion, but hey who knows 🤷🏾♀️, maybe someday we'll get down there and there won't be anything there.
Also, the article you are referring to has been disproven as of 2023.
@fghsgh current medical evidence suggests that humans born with ovaries have 1-2 million oocytes present at birth, which subsequently declines as the person ages. At puberty, on average there are around 300,000 remaining. There has been zero evidence of oogenesis in humans born with ovaries after birth. Could there be room for error there in that there is a period of time where oogenesis occurs again? Unlikely, but admittedly also not definitively no. However, it is still more correct to state what our current evidence supports, which is that humans born with ovaries are born with all of the oocytes they will have during their lifetime
People with high blood pressure can die if their drink is spiked with viagra. Spiking is a crime for a reason.
Woho! I just discovered I'm still a child! I'm 5'5"and 45yo! XD
Regarding men struggling to deal with emotions, I'm one of those. I suffer from CPTSD and PTSD and I'm completely unable to lower my guard with other men and very rarely with women. I might be dying inside of loneliness and anxiety but I will keep smiling and going on as if nothing is wrong. Learning to deal with that with my therapist. Guess it's a good sign I can type about this here. That and the LGBTQ+ community is one of the more open-minded and less judgmental around.
And I'm a young man! Nice to know approaching my 68th...
Glad you are getting help. So sorry about the CPTSD and PTSD.
I also have CPTSD from surviving human trafficking. Glad you are getting help. :) You are not alone. I am glad you are the height you are. I am a girl and most people called me short my whole life as an insult but I am pretty close to average height. Ave. height for women is 5'4" and I am 5'2." If we were dance partners, I would find it easier to swing dance with you because I wouldn't have to crane my neck up to look at you or bend my arms at a 45 degree angle when they are supposed to be at a 90 degree angle for the pushes and the turns. So your height is good for us shorter girls to do the partner dances with and not be in pain. :) It's a good thing. Maybe ask your therapist to help you make friends by going to a dance studio to learn swing dancing or ballroom dancing. :) It helps me with my loneliness. :)
@@lemurlover7975 And I'm glad you made it out. As a former EMT, I've helped rescue some victims of human trafficking but still, I can't even start to imagine what you went through.
You sound like an amazing dance partner. I unfortunately suck badly at it. Way too crispé (stiff) for that due to my anxiety. But your advice to try dancing is not a bad one precisely because of that. I severely lack self-esteem and I'm clumsy as hell but it's worth the try. Thanks! :)
@@firbolg please tell us you gave dance a try 🙌🏻
Men who say "I carried the baby my whole life" don't know how batter cells work.
I was looking for that comment. That show everyone that not only women can be totally ignorant of how men's body work...
Yeah, it's pretty much the quivalent of "I made that cake because I put the flour in the bowl for the mother. MY flour, that I've had in my kitchen FOR ALL THIS TIME."
@@Maerahnit’s more like the flour he bought a few days ago, because those cells get produced and recycled constantly.
Batter cells? You mean nurse cells?
@@Madamchief No. Like baby batter. I'm just trying not to have YT slap my comment out of existence by heavily censoring myself, because for some frikkin reason it's like YT has a vendetta against my comments.
Considering I used to be a "straight, cis man", and the amount of time I've spent around them, I can confirm that for the most part they are immature and childish. But what would 28 years experience matter?
@@QuinnOsgood-rj7wz I don't mean to sound hateful or anything, and there are so many good men out there. It's just a shame how rare they can be. Congratulations for coming out, may I ask your pronouns?
@@QuinnOsgood-rj7wz You are absolutely right sis. I think it's a mix of toxic masculinity taught from an early age, and just general lack of education and understanding.
Seriously stop, your contributing to a stupid Untrue stereotype, that really fu***ng hurts😥😥
@@kennyholten8837 Actually, in my very humble observation, this is just the crippling effect of sexism on men. We know by now that behaviour is always triggered by emotions (and sometimes then, in a second step, regulated via other instances, such as thinking or learned pattern stemming from morals to habits etc.). But sexism has lead to men mostly being taught an incredibly tiny set of bad coping skills ta best!! Aka it's not even processing skills but suppression ones.
The number of men who have great emotional regulation skills and a lot of experience with perceiving and managing their emotions and thus their behaviours, are not only rare, but they are also often actively disregarded due to sexism :'3 (think like men catering to women's needs are automatically labelled "simp" without any discernment of their intentions).
Sexism is the system that always affected men, women and in consequence also trans people and non-binary people. It's just that for men, in a sense, for a long time the benefits supposedly (! not actually true) outweighed the terrible price of it. Now that all other groups other than cis men have launched the process of healing and the process of sorting out the negative impacts of sexism in all areas, men can no longer avoid facing the negative impact of sexism on them. Because all the "mitigating" factors are slipping out of their hands. We're all busy with our own healing journeys and can no longer spare capacities to manage their mess for them. Particularly in the case of women, society often no longer enables a parent to be full time home-maker, childcare manager and the man's private emotional mitigator (more often that, than regulator, cause the later requires for them to be open enough for input, which a portion of them are!!! Even rarer: emotional management teacher).
It has always been visible. Who hasn't yet heard "boys will be boys" and co.. But now, they are less able to avoid their bad outcomes and consequences to sexism. And that is tragic AND a good thing. It's an opportunity to stop being stuck in those miserable old patterns that require a LOT of energy and external factors, and to wake up to a more self-regulated life along-sides others, not at the enforced-cost of others or sacrifice of others.
It's a symptom of healing. Going from chronic to active (gotta drain the puss before the wound can start healing). Heading towards more consensual and kind and mutually safe forms of human relationships AND societal systems.
@@KxNOxUTA THANK YOU FOR THIS. As a trans man with many cis male friends who don't realize I'm trans (so they're 100% treating me like one of them), this is exactly it. It sucks to see men getting constantly insulted and belittled instead of helped tbh. Guys need encouragement to be more emotionally open and independent outside the workforce. My cis friends and I are trying to help each other with this but we often forget due to it still feeling embarrassing knowing we'd be judged if anyone saw us hugging each other for comfort and exploring unique styles and even just taking care of ourselves.
Today is now the fifteen year anniversary of me starting testosterone. I had my top surgery ten years ago and my bottom surgery 7 years ago. Just like you said Jamie - no regret, just happiness.
My life is the best it has ever been - I look and feel amazing and wonderfully masculine, I have an adoring and adorable husband and I have not felt dysphoric in a very long time.
To those of you reading who are in the space I was in my early 20s (that is to say, suffering from crippling gender dysphoria and other mental health issues and not having any support from your family or the world around you), it gets better. So much better. I know you can get through this.
Regardless of the madness on the internet, the world is much more accepting than it has ever been, and especially more accepting than in the late 2000s when I started my transition. All of the people before us fought so we could have access to the healthcare we need, so let’s keep fighting to make sure the next generation can have that too.
awwh, that’s so sweet 😭 I’m glad you’re happy and that you got to transition and are expressing yourself to the fullest ❤ I hope you have a wonderful life going ahead, just like you are now :)
@@sesbianlex. thank you :)
I hope your life is just as wonderful (or, if not, becomes so)
Happy T-anniversary and thank you for sharing your story!
Happy Anniversary!
I’m not even trans myself but I just love watching Jamie’s content to be educated, and also for the occasional silly video like this one :p
Same!
Same
Same
Yup! Still waiting for the social contagion to hit...
Same, OT too
on the topic of men can cry, i had a dream last night where an acquaintance of mine was crying, and the teacher/instructor barged in to yell at him because 'men dont cry', and i about threw hands, and berated the man for it.
Men deserve to cry, it is healthy to cry when you need to, and no-one shuld imply that it is a bad thing
The interesting thing about so many of these supposedly inherent tenants of Being A Man is how recent they are. My great grandma is 96, and she remembers when “manly men” were supposed to be clean shaven, and well dressed. Now it’s considered more “manly” to dress messily and have a beard. People act like the standards have always been the same but they probably would’ve called the Manliest Men alive in the 40’s gay.
i always heard that adams apple was because adam took the second bite and it got caught in his throat when they were called out. the the first sin wasnt eve taking the first bite because she hadnt been told the rules but adam taking the second bite after using eve to make sure it was safe to do so
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Plato once said that man is the only fatherless Biped, Diogenes interrupted his lecture placed a plucked chicken on the floor and declared: "Behold a man"
Fatherless??
*featherless
I (sadly) know what the waffles and spaghetti are about. It's some ridiculous bioessentialist brain nonsense.
Here we go:
Men are like waffles because they compartmentalize information, and even have spaces in their minds that are completely empty. You can't change the subject in conversation and expect them to follow along. They'll be confused, because that subject is located in a different square of the waffle.
Women are like spaghetti because everything is connected in their minds. That's why they never shut up, and why they're such a mystery to men. It's also why they berate their husbands for no real reason.
No, I am not kidding. I read a book in the 90s about this that I found in my then church's library. Don't go there anymore!
LOL actually .... it is scientifically a bit of a thing. :'D Like, even physically there are such things for us. Starting from how our immune systems work differently (aka men get sick hard but fast, full system, to be back in defence mode as quickly as possible [heard of man colds yet? they're real]. Women have a more complex immune system that takes the potential presence of extra residents into account AND the necessity to attend to any moved out ex-tenants that still need feeding, while the current resident still needs growing :'>). We also know that men literally struggling to find objects in the house if they are not where they expected or have slightly changed appearance is a real thing, when women seem to frequently come in to find said objects literally right in front of them.
Aka there IS some truth in there. But, it sure as hell does not translate to everything. Plus, the reality is, a lot of it is also an actual manner of training LOL Aka societal training for men and women tends to differ, thus, we might show gender specific patterns as to how we utilise our brains. But these things may not be solid in the sense of being ingrained due to different genders. In fact, interesting stuff is found when looking at trans people or homosexual people. :D
What I'm saying is: They may have made valid observations that ring true in their social setting. AND that by no means sets it in stone. In fact, all generalized statements have in common, that they're highly likely to be VERY off once we zoom in on the "individual" scale. :3 So, maybe that book is an interesting read, if you approach it with the right expectation.
I did not read it, mind you. But reading people's comments on it, that alone, has shown just how many options there are to perceiving that reading material LOL
Why do I feel like the author hasn’t had conversation with either men or women?
Ohhhh my god
My church said the exact same thing
I was sent to catholic school all the way through high school and we were taught this...
The explanation we were given was that men could only focus on one thing at at time and women could focus on a bunch of things at once.
Even with the slightly different explanation it fails to make sense.
@retrojon_ ugh, the whole "men are incapable of multi-tasking, women are incapable of focusing on one task" ideology is so stupid. It's sexist in both directions; might as well just say you hate everyone at that point.
I've heard the 'waffle and spaghetti' alagory before it basically falls into the trope of 'Men can compartmentalize while everything is all connected loosely in the minds of women' which I think is wrong because a lot of people have to learn to compartmentalize as well as free associate because both ways of thinking are kinda beneficial depending on the situation.
I heard a longer clip of a purity culture lecture on spaghetti and waffles, and it gets much worse. The curriculum then posits that these differences make men better leaders and women better homemakers because their spaghetti thoughts are suited to domestic multitasking.
@@JovanDacic eww.
@@JovanDacicNow just imagine if you were a man (or a woman) with a brain that doesn't work quite that way...
I just figured out I’m gender fluid after a while of going: trans? No. Gender fluid? No. Etc. so I’m happy 🎉 😊 great vid as always!
Goodjob! I had it too but nb, i looked up every gender definition i could and went "no, not exactly.." just to return to the one i started with, gender is weird :P
"Men don't listen to music." Bwhahahaha. Tell that to the guy who mansplained The White Album to me for FOUR HOURS.
FOUR HOURS???
also had to google the album bc seeing "the [color] album" makes me assume weezer which would've been extra insane
FOUR HOURS?!?! You, @PeggyWebb, are an incredibly patient person! 😮😂😂
FR. 😂😂😂
Damn. You could’ve listened to the White Album two times and been well into a third. Which would’ve been a far superior use of your time tbh
How are you still alive?!
Guys... is it gay to cry over your bride...? Lol!
That whole thing about bisexual men was ridiculous. That's one of the worst stereotypes about bi people. "Oh, they're all so horny, they want to have sex with anything that moves." That whole post was biphobia but the person tried to make it sound like a scientific fact, which makes it worse. As a bi woman, I'm offended by that but it was somehow still laughable to me because of how ridiculous it is.
I’m pan (same thing to those people) and ace so it really is just doubly ridiculous. I’m also demiromantic so it’s not like I even want to date everyone I see 😂
As a bisexual man with lots of straight men friends wanting to fuck everything that moves I find it midly offensive and way to holarious to take teal offense... 😂
As a bi afab nb i am joining with you, it really sucks to see people who can't understand what they dont know
I suspect that post about men not listening to music is satire. There's an obnoxiously tendency among some guys to assume that any woman wearing a band shirt is just doing it for attention and that they don't actually listen to them. Sometimes a guy will feel compelled to grill a woman about the band whose merch she's wearing
Oh that actor Tom Denmark is so respectful, no wonder everyone thinks he's a child. also Jamie was AFAB - Assigned Feathered At Birth.
2:39 there’s an entire topic on this called heterofatalism, and it’s basically just the experience of women trying to cope with the fact that men are never going to be equal partners in relationships
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That's so sad. If I were them, I would rather just stay single and get pet bunnies then put up with that
More reasons to join the lesbian side
(I'm a lesbian I'm allowed to make this joke)
@@amethyst_cat9532 I’m way ahead of you xD I changed teams like a year ago.
@@PGOuma More and more women and fem people are just noping out of relationships with men, whether or not they are sexually or romantically attracted to males.
I just googled it and indeed, men continue to produce sperm throughout their life.
On an unrelated note, I just found out four days ago that I’m having top surgery on February 7th! I’ve been upset about my chest for over 30 years, I’ve been actively attempting to get top surgery for 4 years, and now in less than a month, they’ll be gone! I don’t think I’ve really processed that it’s happening yet. (I live in the US, but fortunately my insurance covers it, so it’s going to end up costing me $5k, which I’m putting on a credit card with a not so friendly interest rate, but it’s more than worth it to me.)
🎊 congratulations 🎊
I hope your procedure goes well!
(I have my consultation on the 6th, so hopefully I'm not too far behind you >v
So, I'm a hazelnut waffle carrying a swimming team of babies...?
This is news to me. 😂
A hazelnut waffle sounds good right about now. The babies, not so much
Not just a swimming team... you have around ten billions times the whole planet population stored there... you need to take account of every single time you would ejaculate in your life and multiply that number for the number of babies lost each time... but yeah, that's why masturbation is a sin, you are killing babies each time... 😂
Just recently learned the waffle/spaghetti thing myself. Apparently it’s meant to represent how men’s brains (allegedly) compartmentalize everything while in women’s brains it’s all (allegedly) interconnected and free-flowing.
Well then, I don't know what that's supposed to make me. My brain does both. 🤷♀
*To be clear, I know that non-binary people exist (I gave birth to one) but like, if the waffle/spaghetti binary thing was real...
So enby people would be waffle fries?
Soooo... men are autistic?
Cause my brain is a waffle and that's tge reason for me...
Ah yes, "compartmentalize"... Uhhuh. Sure. It's definitely not actually "repressing", nope, it's "compartmentalizing".
As a fellow super dark haired person who loves putting color in their hair, I felt you on this opening.
This actually looks cooler than making the hair some unnatural color, because it makes the hair glow. Like, I can see a bluish hue in the hair when Jamie rotates his head to the side...
Yeah I would love to have pink hair but don't want to bleach it. So I dye it pink and my silver hairs get to be pink 🌸😸
@@silverghostcat1924 honestly, that sounds so cute.
@@emeraldlily673it is.
I also have dark hair, and I sometimes go purple. Some silver is starting to come in now, so it should be more interesting next time. 💜
To all of my transgender family out there. I'm so, so proud of us ❤ always remember to keep your head up and your heart full. The world's hate cannot stop us. We've got this. All the love, from a lonely trans girl in nebraska ❤❤❤
Thanks sis ❤
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19:49 Who wants to tell her that cis men can get breast cancer?
28:46 I resent this. I have a period every single month, cycling through all these eggs I was literally born with. He didn't start producing the "ingredients" until he was nearly a young man. He cycles through his "ingredients" like crazy. He doesn't have a hellish period to relieve pressure and make room. He has a nice date with Jill.
3:15 This is what I, [cis] Internet Uncle-Gay🏳🌈, consider one of the benefits of being gay: (1) You learn to be self-sufficient; (2) Thus, you learn how to be an _adult_ and; (3) You are dating _other adults._ Not freaky man-children, not overgrown little-girls. Everyone in the relationship is an Adult, everyone's expected to be able to function on their own. That's the starting point. And from there, as a couple, we help each other grow as people.
2:39 I believe the term of art for this is "Weaponised Incompetence"
It's also a huge problem, I wish I could drop links here, because there are some really interning studies that show that (statistically, every relationship is different) a woman in a relationship spends more time on housework than a single woman - even controlling for the number of kids 😢
As a trans guy I find it extremely interesting to hear things that come out of (mostly cis) guys heads. Like who failed these people to leave them with such misinformation?
I would be interested in seeing more of this tho ❤
2:40~ learned helplessness is teaching someone how to be incompetent. Weaponized incompetence is someone actively being incompetent so someone else will take care of it, now and likely in the future too.
As an ace man with high T the whole T makes you bi thing kind broke me XD
Sexuality overflow!
I am always surprised by the lack of education there is for plan old biology! Just basic anatomy 🤷♀️
look at America and how education is left to ppl, even in areas where religious beliefs rule, not political decisions and where even political decisions are made solely on religious beliefs and not things like science. :'D like .... what do you expect? Good outcomes? With all you and I have both probably learned in regards to history?? We've been there, tried that and heck, did it suck! X'D But hey, those ppl are so deep into their own collective trauma, they suffer selective memory and information processing and selective hearing and overall, they're really miserable. So let's remember where they're coming from and how their disabilities affect their ability to move beyond their trauma pattern.
It's crippling. That's sometimes the best they can manage. :'3
I think the problem is they're stuck on plain old biology, forgetting from the rest of the subject
@nitzanshu4695 yep. They don't learn past the 5th grade so they think that what they know now is enough
There's "learned" and "weaponised" incompetence. "Weaponised" is when they do it wrong deliberately so someone else has to do it instead. Or they give you the "I don't know how to". Bro, do what the rest of us do and figure it out for yourself. It's why that old song "There's a hole in my bucket" annoys me a lot. He whines to his wife that there's a hole and then asks her every question under the sun about how to do it.
Well, the thing about the song is that it's circular, also, maybe he knew the solutions at first, but was stuck in that logical loop himself.
But I don't think it's mentioned that they're husband and wife, they COULD be just brother and sister...
13:20 - This is in my experience quite common. I've had several guys just kind of cry when we're cuddling. Once a dude even was like "I like this but you need to stop because if you don't I'll start crying."
It's really cute, but also horribly sad at the same time.
5:05 - OMG. I had a marriage counselor try to use a variant on this ("men are like cabinets with drawers, women are a ball of christmas lights"). It was supposed to be about how your brain connects topics and emotions, I think. Like, that men have these discrete subject "boxes" and get confused if you are someone who includes multiple topics in a conversation because you see them as having thematic or emotional connections...hence the christmas lights.
I was VERY confused (as I could not make most of the men and women I know neatly fit these categories) and told my friends about it. One commented "The idea that you think like a 'typical woman' is HILARIOUS" (and, indeed, I do identify as the genderfae variant of non-binary, so...). Another noted: "Well, if you view it like a spectrum, you and [ex husband] are probably on different parts of it, so maybe it works as a heuristic in your specific case?"
But she never explained what we were supposed to DO with this metaphor. So I am still confused.
2:35 it's called learned helplessness. It happens often in corporate settings and family settings where people continually baby you, talk down about your abilities, and make you feel like you're genuinely useless or incompetent without supervision. This is often the result of situations like this, and micromanaging.
21:21 fellas is it gay to require hydration?
The “weaponized incompetence” is a real thing that society allows to be a thing. I am surrounded by people who are otherwise intelligent but they’re happy to just stand there looking dumb until someone (often me) steps up and does the thing.
Yes I know I should stop, but usually it’s a thing that absolutely must be done, like making sure my father’s house is freeze-proof when bad weather is coming.
I can always appreciate a diogenes reference that dude was wild
Like telling Alexander the Great to move cause he was blocking the sun. I love him!
man sometimes i forget people are british, Jamie saying that waffles go with beans really threw me
He might be thinking of potato waffles which are in the shape of smiling faces. Often served with baked beans for children’s lunches at UK schools
@@seamstressdragon8707 Potato waffles are in the shape of waffles. Potato smileys are their own thing.
The way I heard the waffle and spaghetti thing explained was that "men are like waffles" because they compartmentalize their thoughts and feelings, but "women are like spaghetti" because theirs are all just noodling around and getting all tangled up and messy. Still a load of BS but that's the explanation.
It’s so strange that they’re saying they carry babies their whole life, because men only develop sperm in puberty, whereas like Jamie said, women are born with all the eggs they’ll ever have. But either way, that takes NO EFFORT so like just give the people that carry the actual foetus credit because thats actually hard
The average height of an American male is 5'10", with about 70% of men coming in at under 6 foot. It's funny that there are people who will arbitrarily cut out over 2/3 of their potential partners based on an unchangeable physical characteristic.
2:32 Not “learned incompetence” (that’s initiated by the person refusing to learn the task), but “infantilizing”.
Infantilizing a spouse sometimes goes hand-in-hand with learned incompetence, but sometimes it’s also “perfectly capable adult” married to someone who just infantilizes them and mocks any lack of knowledge, even when the person WANTS to learn.
- What's your gender?
- I am a waffle!
Woah I have no idea how I timed this, but I'm so happy to be here so early! Love your videos Jamie, especially since I'm recovering from a stomach bug
Also I believe the term is weaponized incompetence but please correctly me if I'm wrong! It's when they purposely act dumb or useless so that way others have to do things for them.
_Weaponised_ incompetence is when a person pretends to be inept to avoid a job.
_Learned_ incompetence as Jamie was talking about is when people (usually men) are taught to be less capable especially in domestic roles.
At least that's my understanding.
Hope your tummy bug recovery is going well!
@@beardedbear9901ohhhh okay I must have misheard him, ty for the clarification! And thank you, it has been quite horrendous but it's looking up
How men are like waffles: I don't like them frozen solid and cold, I much prefer them nice and warm. If they are covered in butter and maple syrup I am much more liable to want to eat them. If I have a choice between men and pancakes I'm probably going for the pancakes.
My husband (rest his soul) needed to feel loved. He used to fall asleep on my lap all the time. IT WAS SO ANNOYING! Lol but I miss him so that's a good memory.
7:45 contrary to popular belief, big muscles doesn't hinder your Mobility as long as you keep your flexibility up. Those bodybuilders are building muscle for show and are only focusing on gaining mass. They're also incredibly dehydrated to get that look. Most guys who get big to get fit and healthy also focus on flexibility there's no need to sacrifice flexibility for strength. Wrestlers for example, are surprisingly flexible and you would have to be.
Kind of sort of related add-on: the corndog muscles are called the serratus muscles and most people should be working them more because they help protect the shoulders.
@@mikekuppen6256 Thank you!
A Sperms max life inside (start of creating to death) is about 3 months (about 64 days till viable for ejaculating) this is why many fertility clinics will suggest lifestyle changes for 3 months before attempting to Harvest sperm in people with struggles in that area
9:57 Literally almost every famous/influential musician ever: Am I a joke to you?
12:18 sometimes i wonder if humans go extinct and this textbook is the only relic we leave behind what aliens would think
Good news from Rose: I sent my mom some art I made today, with the trans flag as the main focus
She asked if theres a reason for the flag, I said yes, She said cool.
It's a good response but what the hell do I do with that
Sounds like she's trying to signal that she'd be cool with anything you want to tell her, but she doesn't want to pry.
@@QueenMegaera yes, as a mama, I agree.
@@QueenMegaera maybe
It's just a stressful thing to do, coming out
Are you a trans version of me? My mom decided to do some kind of keychains making activity (i have no idea where it came from, i can assure you all im above 8 years old). I made a bisexual panda as a big hint, and she just looked and said suspiciously "oh nice, a tricoloured bear!"
Hopefully it at least prepared her for the revelation?
@@Original_Username0 I mean she did recognize it was a flag
So hopefully lt did prepare her for the revelation tomorrow
11:37 this one isn't bad men's anatomy, its based on a meme about ancient greek philosophers. Basically, IIRC, Plato defined a man (as in a human) as a "featherless biped", and then later Diogenes showed up with a chicken he plucked exclaiming "behold, a man!".
11:38
I’m actually pretty sure this is a reference to that one guy who said that humans are “featherless bipeds” and that’s how you can tell what a human is
A philosopher wanted to define humans and said featherless bipeds.Diogenes did no agree and came into a lecture in so he could throw a plucked chicken on the ground.Proudly announcing "Behold,Man"
@@themangoartificer882 yeah, that’s what I was thinking of, :)
Once my family wanted spaghetti for dinner but my mom was sick and wanted waffles. So my dad made both spaghetti and waffles for dinner that night. That’s when I learned about that “Men are waffles and women are spaghetti” thing. My dad and I agreed that it was dumb. Then he suggested that they should have used ravioli for men instead.
What I like about the concept of "men don't listen to music" is that so many absurd "facts" about women are equally and obviously wrong, yet they are still accepted as true by the majority (including women). This is just a perfect reversal that highlights this and of course falsely gendered traits in general, like what Jamie had already said. Whether that particular quality was intended or not makes little to no difference.
23:52 Excellent point!
"I just latched on to Queen" ... As you should 🤘🤘🤘
6:55 You know, I don't really think jacked men are attractive... or anyone in the first place.
Thank you for reading my corny aroace joke🙂
That’s not corny that’s actually pretty good
Love the mention of Freddie at 10 minutes! My fav vocalist of all time.
11:55 Jamie: "Men are just featherless chickens, who knew?"
Me: "Diogenes!"
I think the chicken bit at 11:50 is actually a Diagonese joke.
11:11 I think she said it to counter the whole "women don't listen to music or play video games and if they do they're lying."
21:34 fellas, is it gay to drink water?
Well, I drink water. Always have. And I'm gay, so...
All you hetero dudes can go dry up.
Apparently it is feminine to carry anything 😂
My goal on weight and muscle is to be able to DO stuff, not to have a certain look. I think this is valid for guys, gals, and non-binary pals.
Global average height for cis men and amab folks is 5'7", provided no hormone influence beyond natural puberty.
That probably includes a non-trivial number of men who are 6' or taller wand plenty who are shorter than 5'7".
@@jnharton yes thats what average means, average is in the middle LOL theres gonna be people that go above and below
around 17:00 - that was definitely made by and/or for Furries
Yes!! I’ve been saying for years that if men are supposed to sleep around, who the heck are they sleeping with if all women need to be virtuous!?
The green doesn't stand out much because of the lighting you have going on! Contrast that against the bright background and your signature yellow, and it kinda becomes muted. I'm sure in other context it looks fine!
It actually glows in a bluish tint whenever he rotates his head to the side. Much cooler than the passive matte most probably go for...
Bi guy here, my doctor wanted to put me on testosterone since my levels were too low.
yay more hair loss
I always look forward to your videos. BTW, I recently dyed my hair a medium brown (my natural color), but I had some stubborn green that just wouldn't come out. Now the places that were stained green look like greenish silver. 🤷♀️
the funny thing about the whole 'men never grow up/your husband is you child'thing is that it's actually terrible advertising for heterosexual lifestyle. Which is why I have started to reply 'that's why I'm not getting one' whenever someone (usually wider family) told me something along those lines. (context. I'm afab, bi, never formally came out to all the fam and am single for a few years now)
This may be the earliest I've ever been on one of your videos. Hooray for me!
"And then the groom cried" is a sentence I used more than one time in my description of the last wedding I was invited to.
Nobody found it weird.
“Men don’t listen to music”
Why do guys have AirPods or headphones on then? Do they just listen to white noise while working out in the gym? These people don’t make any sense 😭
No no no...
...They listen to podcasts 😈
@@PGOuma It's true; I haven't listened to any podcasts since I transitioned.
The story about the man crying because he hadn't gotten affection like that before mad me so sad. 😢Unfortunately I have heard similar things from men I know😣
I made a woman cry by giving her flowers, because no one had ever given her flowers before. (We were both in our 30s, and I was still living as a man back then.)
The waffles and spaghetti thing is about how men's and women's minds are supposed to work.
In this worldview, men's minds are like waffles because there are compartments and everything is organized in neat little boxes.
and women's minds are chaotic, like spaghetti where everything is connected to every other thing.
I've also heard it described like an attic full of boxes vs a ball of wires.
When the man has conversation about football, he opens the football box and he can look at all the football information in the football box.
When a woman has a conversation, she starts talking about the kitchen, but that makes her think about how the trash needs to be taken out, and now she's thinking about the other things that need doing around the house and one of those is the laundry which reminds her that the laundry machine is broken so she-
basically, they're saying men have OCD and women have ADHD.
My nonbinary ass having both fits this model very well then. 😁
Guys I swear I'm a factory default male even though I have both
You described this very well, I really understood it in a vivid way. Thank you.
Damn. Guess I'm a woman. Eh, I'm not mad
@@maskedmallard537 Shouldn't enbies have neither ocd nor adhd snce they're neither male nor female though?
There’s something so wild about the “You might have carried the baby for 9 months but I carried the baby in my balls for the past 30 years” trend. Like… EVEN if that was true, do you think those two things are comparable? In any way?