Most people with depression dont have a friend to text or call. That is part of it, isolation feeds depression and unfortunately most depressed people have isolated themselves for so long they have lost all friends. What than?
Damn your right. It's really hard sometimes. My friend s stopped inviting me out a long time ago. The only reason I go out sometime s is cause there is nothing in the fridge. I don't know what to do but I'll try to do more things out there , work on me more. I can't give up an neither can you. Keep on going, keep on trying, we'll make it.
I too lost all my friends, and it HURTS! I used to be a social butterfly! Tons of friends! When everyone started getting married and having kids, it got worse. I got better for a little bit, found my husband, was great for awhile, but now I'm isolated again. 😢 And I feel bad because I get snappy with my husband, because he's the only one I see, and he gets on me nerves. Lol. He's an angel!
Living with depression is like being in an abusive relationship with your self. Your depression wants to keep you beaten down and submissive. The more you submit, the more your depression will control you. Would you want to hang around with someone all day that treats you the way your depression treats you? I doubt it. Tell your depression to fuck off like you would a toxic friend that's holding you back. - Start with small things you can do daily without overwhelming yourself. Look into Non-Zero Days. Take very small steps to work towards your goals and build momentum. - Stop trying to ignore or suppress negative thoughts, that only makes it worse. Acknowledge them and let them pass, because they *will* pass. When you lay down and look at passing clouds, you only notice when you're deliberately looking at and analyzing the cloud. Eventually, the cloud passes and you move on. You don't find yourself chasing that cloud down, following it for miles because you *have* to keep focusing on that cloud for hours on end, do you? Why do that with your thoughts? Just accept that you have those thoughts and let them pass. You are *not* your thoughts, you're just the thing *observing* that thought.
Great cloud analogy.. im suffering from depression for 1st time in my life ! I lost my long time career job!,... I loved that job!, friends. Activities etc... ALL i want to do is return, but I can't. Also knowing that I actually could have returned, and it was my fault !! I'm so mad at myself!... it's been months of daily torture .. im unable to do anything..... I hope I can survive this horror,... life was so good before
When I don’t want to do anything. I try to focus on one area in my room and tidy it up. Mindless work like that and seeing that I did something makes me feel a bit better :)
Start taking care of your personal space. Take a shower and put on clothes every day. Make sure your living space is clean. Make it someplace you want to be. It seems counterintuitive, but it gives me a boost just knowing that I am ready for the day.
^ Yeah absolutely. You have to push yourself and even if you don't want to, go take a bubble bath or paint your nails all nice and pretty cause *you deserve it*. I'm just assuming you're a female cause your name is Anna. Anyways, treat yourself!
Anna Stec then the medication would help. but also, and more importantly, i think, at least in my case, that just struggling every morning, have the little intention of force you, ask for help and do some little little things each day (taking the medication, or eating, or someting little that feels hard) can be part of the process of recovery. Kati herself says that sometimes we cant see our progress so we dont think we are recovering, but staying in focus and looking for the help, have that little intention to get out of our depression, is part of the process. Just be patient with yourself but dont lose that focus. I hope this helps, english is not my first language XD
I've found that having a pet (especially a dog) that you have to get up and take care of helps. I have days I don't want to get up but I know I have to take her out and it forces me to get up. Plus there's the extra bonus of something cuddly to hold on to! But just knowing that there's somebody that needs me helps too.
I try to show myself some love by brushing my hair, giving myself a face mask, listening to music, and taking a timed nap where I force myself to be productive once I wake up. Truth be told, it's really hard. Struggling with this now.
I make myself do " survival" things. Stuff like making a meal that's nutritious, going for even a short walk in the sun, or washing my face. When I'm really sick it doesn't make me feel better, but I now I've done something positive by keeping myself alive for another day.
Lady M that’s amazing...and that’s it. 💜 to keep surviving, keep making it to another day, and slowly things get better. I’m the same way...even when it doesn’t feel any better, if I can make myself even make one or two healthy choices when all I want to do is everything unhealthy, it makes a difference. Thanks for sharing!
Hi, I have chronic depression, have had more than 3 major depression episodes. These activities usually help me: Dancing with happy songs, esp as a group (e.g. in Zumba class, or a Groove dance performance in a park), going out in sunny days (Sunshine helps me a lot), journaling and writing my emotions and thoughts (somewhere priavte), talking to someone I trust and who really really understands me (Good therapist, one of my cousins, ....), but with all these I also believe that we should always find the root cause or main factors that contribute to our depression or any mental health challenge. So for myself, I know exactly what factors make my depression/anxiety worse, and I am really working to solve them, but I still need help. I just wish going to professional therapist as well as natropath doctors would be more affordable.
Does anyone get really selfish and mean when being depressed? I feel like I'm way more depressed than anyone else so on one can understand me, it's not even worth people try and I hate everyone that doesn't understand me and I don't care for anyone else what so ever, their story or their life, it's just a waste of time for me to care about - and all this makes me feel like a monster :-( Once upon a time I was very caring, compassionate, a great listener and very loyal friend. Now it's all ME, ME, ME and I get irritated and pissed at people that doesn't think the way I do and I am always right. It's like being narcissistic and depressed at the same time... Am I alone in this? Part of me doesn't care and thinks no one understands my situation anyway so whatever you say is wrong. (I'm bipolar type 2, got my first depression at 9 (I'm 29 now). I've been extremely ill with many years of hospitalization and never felt normal. I'm always ill or depressed, just different levels of it.)
I had that back in 2012, still have it to some degree today. Am chronically depressed since a very young age too. Been getting worse the last few weeks. Got the feeling noone will be able to help me and noone understands me and I just can't be bothered to even listen to some of the things people have to say anymore. Was feeling like a monster back in 2012 and starting to feel more and more like a monster over the last weeks. Worst thing is: In 2012 I've learned to like that feeling, while at the same time kinda hating it. All that is coming back atm. Borderliner here btw.
Go to psychiatrist..and don't think you are alone there are 350 millions in the world depressed like you be strong and think what is good in your life.
I've been feeling that for the past few months. I used to have compassion and empathy and genuinely care about other people more than I cared about myself, but now my friends talk to me and I can't even process an answer. I have to force myself to think of an appropriate answer. "this person just told you something awful, what do other people say when faced with this situation - blah blah. okay now say that. this isn't about you." it's exhausting.
The problem with pushing yourself to do things, get out with friends, go places, etc., is that it doesn't help me feel any better. Actually, it is stressful and I try every day to minimize that. It's easier to just stay home. I don't know how much anxiety plays into this, but my anxiety level goes through the roof as soon as I open my door to go somewhere. I have yet to find anything (medicine or therapy) that makes me feel better. I'm sure there's something that will help, I just haven't found it yet.
Jean-Luc La Rue I wish someone as simple as autonimated sensory meridian response would help me 😭😭😭😭😭 im truly happy you have found something that's actually helping your battle with depression, much Luv- JAY💕
Thank you Katy. Your videos are so informative and I'm bi polar type 2 and I have brain tumors in parts of my head that aren't reachable. I'm scared and the depression hit and I went to a dark place. But you basically said to force myself out of bed which I haven't done since i got out of the hospital and force myself to live. I'm gonna go for a walk tomorrow. It's not a lot but it's something. It gave me hope. Thank you so much.
This is such a late comment but I just wanted to tell you that of course that's a lot and I know how hard it can be to do these things but this is a big step from not even being able to get out of bed and you should be proud of yourself for doing that. Hope you're doing better now xx
@@chaseboudreaux8782 we can only do the best we can, i love them very much and i know they love me i just can't feel the love its hard sometimes Take Care!
I feel like circumstantial depression and depression are very different. A lot of people who are depressed can have the best day of there life and still be...sad or distant, it’s a chemical imbalance.
This is so true. After dealing with this on and off for years I can say that the best thing is to catch it early and force yourself to get out and about. The more you stay in and listen to your depression, the harder it is to get over it.
Thank You for this video I am currently seeing psychiatrist about depression but I still feel bad about myself because I still have to go to dentistry school everyday which I dont want to go the voice of depression always tells me "just give up, you cant do it, you are embarassing yourself" I need help and I'm glad that theres someone like you post this kind of video online :)
It's good that you've already recognized that that's the depression talking and not you. And since depression is always wrong this is what you should be hearing "don't give up, you can do it, you'll be so proud of your achievements" :)
Thanks but sometime its hard to distinguish between my own thought and depression thought since I am used to these kinds of negative thoughts about myself since I was a kid. I know that we should objectify depression as some dark clouds or black dog, but sometimes there is an idea that depression is just my own thinking since its happening in my head so maybe it's not a disease, it's just myself.
Well I seriously relate. Because I've always known that my family would be better off without me from the start. So it can't be irrational depressive thinking, it's just my ... practical thinking. But please know that every day that you go to that school, you're another step closer to your achievement by proving your thoughts wrong every single day. And you've survived till now so you already have your proof that you can do this so don't reply telling me otherwise. Because too late, I already believe in you. There. Done. Finish. Finite.
Me too, so many persecution in school. The lecturers even called the police on me for no apparent reason! They made up stories about me and called the cop. They failed me for vague reasons which other academic advisor and classmates were shocked by it.
I lost my wife of 17 years a little over a month ago to a sudden heart attack in bed at 12:30 am she was 55 and I'm 64. I always took great care of her she had PTSD Bi-polar wide range and had just recently broken her arm severely while walking to the bathroom on jan 31st. A whole month on Oxycodone then withdrawls and a siezure. I'm having terrible panick attacks and anxiety all day long I can't take this much more.....please help I feel so helpless.
it's scary to live on your own again but you will achieve it. Do stuff and share them with your wife in your mind. OR,do new things and have a diary where you write a letter to her and share what yi have done that way, if you want, put the letter in a bottle and through into the sea or burn the letter, the smoke will go to heaven, to her :)....give yourself time to grieve her too, one day you will wake up and feel a little bit better, until eventually you will get used to her not being next to you.
Thank you for responding to me. I do feel a little better everyday. Today I had a rough time of it waking up with a huge anxiety attack. I drank way too much last night cause it was the three month anniversary of her death.
I've been chronically depressed for five years now. It honestly sucks. People think that just cause I have dysthymia, it's not as severe. But that's not true. I can't even get out of bed without struggling and doing stuff takes me time... I can't even remember the last time I felt normal.
My papa has dysthymia too. Me and my ma have major depressive disorder (it's just a thing that runs in our family line). We all have learned when to give each other space, and when to take charge to help each other through funk. It's hard to live with and sometimes frustrating when living with loved ones who have it. All that matters is that we practice mindfulness, empathy, vent sometimes, know when to avoid negativity and stop it, and find things we all like doing together (like Sunday brunches and Sunday Morning tv, then fetch with our dogs). Papa loves playing his guitar and uses Garage Band on Mac, Mama gardens and tends to the dogs, and I love video games and being silly with my fiancé (we are weeaboos). We have our good and bad days but it's ok. Our medicine and therapists and hobbies keep things going.
Kati, watching this video is like talking to someone who really knows exactly what I'm feeling. I'm crying the whole video and I just want to hug you tightly and thank you for helping me express what I'm feeling. I am grateful that I found this video. Once again thank you so so much. You are an angel.
ah, 19 million reported to have depression? since everyone's sharing their story... I'm 18, and I've fought severe depression/anxiety (etc) on and off for nearly my whole life. I don't know when I wasn't blurry in the mind. PTSD is my diagnosis. I try not to let it define me, but I am slowly learning the time sweeping effects of the drastic events that took place over my lifetime. severe, very severe traumas from the time I was an infant to present. I could list things, or I could say I experienced a "variety", and when I get triggered (almost everyday... everyday), my senses go numb and I get mindless (forgetful). deeply affected. I get by, though... somehow. I long for a harmonious and healthy life. I also support myself, my parents are mentally unstable and toxic - same with my brother. I am also attending college (with high inclination). I hope someone can find my little share helpful. every comment I've read here was personally beyond beneficial to what I had expected.
I love this video. Whenever I feel down and have no motivation, I use this video to inspire myself to do things I really have to do that day. Each time it helps mahoosively. Thank you Katie you are a star!
I am currently pursuing higher studies and the first week is very stressful and hectic...I am having frequent mental breakdowns and feeling worthless due to stress; and some of emotional traumas are hitting again.. thank you for giving some motivation to me❤️
Kristen Upham I’m so sorry it has come back so hard for you lately...I get it. Same thing happened to me this summer I was good for the first time I years, and then out of nowhere the depression hit like crazy. I’m doing a bit better now but I get it...and I’m really sorry things are dark for you now. I am wishing you light and that the clouds will break for you soon. 💜
Hi Kati, I don't know how you do it, but after watching this video I found energy to do some work, and what's more important, it seems that I found a place inside of me where this energy could come from... Noone had ever said to me that depression is addictive and that you should just force yourself out, although I had a few therapists in my life. Their advise was usually just 'let it be' and 'watch your state', while others would just shame me (or not shame me, but I felt ashamed of myself anyway). This advice to force yourself out, cause depression is addictive, is just so pure and beautiful. I really appreciate your caring tone and willingness to help. Bless you!
I live in an area where if you go for walks, you can have breakfast or lunch, get a coffee, or just browse around at a mall even. So I try to do that at least once a week or more. It helps ☺
I love the video layout. Her on a couch with a couple of plants, gesticulating, and also kinda laid back a bit relaxed. It's very expressive and more comforting.
I love you Katie! You are so gentle, compassionate and kind. I love your attitude. The only reason I was able to get the group therapy help I needed was from being scholarshipped and it has made me that much more determined to fight back against my mental illness. I won't just sit back anymore, I am worth it and every single one of you are worth it! so grateful that people out there really want to help the people who want to help themselves. Thank you for being a warrior!
Kati I appreciate you and your videos... I is so wonderful that you really care about people and it shows through your giving through your videos... bless you
I have a diffuser and i put ylang ylang in it which is an essential oil to help depression. I meditate and journal all the good things that happen in a day (i try to write a list of at least 5) which I think helps me. I also avoid processed foods and stick with fruits veggies, and whole grains. All this together helps me.
people dont accept me the way I am, they pretend like they dont do the same things, but everybody naturally is, they just think they are cooler and hide the truth
WhyNotRandom you and your feelings are valid, please know you're wanted and that there are people who care about you and accept you for who you are. be safe xx
Regardless of this being an older video, Kati does great work here (as with all her videos). I appreciate all her efforts to help a wider community of those seeking assistance and looking for additional education.
I love how you make it seem like its not do drastic and its a lot more approachable, and less of a stigma! Thank you so much..now all I need is the courage to tell my parents.I have no idea where I'll get that from!
Just wanted to comment on how much you work means and how much I appreciate what you do, not only making all of these amazing super helpful, short and at the same time filled with so many informations videos, but also responding to messages from random people, encouraging them to seek help. Kati, you are amazing, awesome and every single other nice word. Thank you for being here so much
I'm kinda glad to hear that... I guess. You probably don't want to talk about the cause with a stranger, let alone in the comment section; but I will ask have you tried medication ? I started taking a combination of Adderall and Prozac myself (self-medicated :/) and I gotta say it's fucking amazing, just have to remember to eat and sleep when I have to and zero alcohol, it also got me to start running again. Still though, I wouldn't recommend self-medicating out of the blue. I read as much as I could about these and other drugs and also had tried amphetamines and antidepresants before, so it is still better to get a legitimate prescription. Hope you get through it friend. ;)
Ronnie Evers, you're not alone. I feel the same way. If it weren't for my dog needing me and the fear of spending eternity in Hell - I wouldn't be here. People without depression really don't understand. There are better days ahead though, if you stick around for them. Depression comes and goes. Don't miss the good days. Take care of yourself. You deserve it.
I've been diagnosed with chronic depression more than a year ago and I really relate with this urge of going to bed because I was so tired of feeling sad, useless, a failure, unloved and all these negative emotions and I just wanted all of this to stop but once in my bed, these thoughts kept me awake all night and it was just terrible, I used to cry all night, doing every trick I found to fall asleep, yet, none of it worked. And every day was harder because I was so tired, also, I had anorexia so I was sick physically too... But hey, I've been in therapy for 3 years now, inpatient during five months, on antidepressants, antipsychotics and anxiolytics, I worked on soooo much aspects of my life, my past, my present, my future, myself, my relation with others and I'm feeling soooo much better !! I can see a bright future now, I have goals, I'm much more confident, and that was just IMPOSSIBLE before ! You can get better, you will NOT be depressed ALL YOUR LIFE !
Well I don't recommend this but once a long time ago when I had a depression one night I went out walking in a thunderstorm with the too depressed to care attitude. After a while the depression started to wear off and I realize that I am an idiot standing out in water with lightning all around me. So I said to myself some not nice word I don't remember and the adrenaline kicked in and I hauled my butt outta there. I guess you're right about a nice shower to pep yourself up.
Thank you, I would think you are a successful therapist. I had to switch therapists recent as they suffered from TDS and thought all my anxiety was because of this. Thank again.
I honestly cannot even get my brain to work to function at work. No one knows that I've been diagnosed with depression. I don't know what to do. I just want to get back to my old self.
You nailed it. You have to get out of the house everyday when you get down. Even if you just go to the store. I been through this in the past. You have to keep going and living.
I'm struggling getting my partner to agree to see a therapist for her depression. Even though I am a therapist myself, and even though I am always happy to validate and support her, she needs an objective third party to talk to about her issues. I keep hitting a wall with her because she is distrustful of professionals and medications, even though she acknowledges she needs help of some kind. Any suggestions would be welcome.
as someone who is very scared of therapy, and has depression. I would suggest you make her feel like the way she is feeling is normal and lots of people have these thoughts and feelings, and even though the medical world can be scary, there are organic ways to make you feel better. But talking to someone about your problems is the biggest way to help yourself. She needs a kind push to get to where she needs to be. I hope you two are doing well.
today I didn't want to get out of bed and so I just had to fall out of my bed and I went out for a 15 minute walk for the first time this week when I am depressed I would go for a walk or I'll wait to the shop and I'll get out for an hour so that's good when I actually left my house and went for a walk in didn't feel as depressed as I was I'm m y bed so that's good
Hello..I am from india. I am depressed..I tried to explain my partents but they did not took it seriously. Then I went to a homeopathic dr..But still .It's not working.pls help me..I just want to get out of it. i just lock myself in my room and spend hours wasting.. But still your this video helped me to fell a bit positive. And I felt some one is there who cares..Pls keep on posting ..And plz suggest me something to get out of it
Vvk Vvk hello i am depressed too. Since i also have indian parents, i am not surprised that they didnt take you seriously. I have a few tips for you: Keep watching more of Kati's depression videos because she is so helpful and makes you feel like someone understands. You should also try reaching out to a counsellor if you can find one in India. If you cannot, you should try 7cups.com or imalive.org. They are both free websites that offer help for people like us. And you can look up the suicide hotline number for your area in India. The person who picks up the phone will talk to you and understand you
Homeopathy is fake science. If you look up a little about homeopathy, you'll find crazy stuff like they dilute the "medicine" to one part in millions of millions. It's all quackery
January was absolutely depressing for me, I could barely get out from bed and I'm still feeling terrible. I really wanna go to a therapist but I need to talk with my parents first and that is definitely the worst part, because I think they don't want to see how bad I really am.
Johanna your parents love you. It would break their heart if they realized you were hurting so much and they didn’t even know. Telling them will help you all heal. Of course it will be hard at first, but only because they care. They’re your parents. They want to help you. How are you doing now?
There is a street close to my home that has become overgrown with tumbleweeds, puncture vines, and other weeds. Trash has landed there as well. I just put on gloves, grab two huge trashbags, and my keys, and walk over to this neglected area, and pull weeds, pick up trash, and throw it away! Since I'm furloughed from work, it feels much better to get out of the house and do something on weekdays. I get fresh air, exercise, and the neighborhood looks better!
Depressed-get a job-can't go to work because you feel terrible-get fired-no money-for a car-nothing within walking distance-no friends because you can never get out-no girlfriend- no theropy because you are broke because no job. Never understood what you are supposed to do other than just try to get by until God takes you home.
Ray Miller try to find a money just for one visit to a psychiatrist and then ask him for a pills. It will help you stay in a good feeling enough for find a job and keep working just for some months. And than, when you will be ready and will have money, find a therapist and work with the reason of your depression. But first you just need a quick thing, which will help you break this circle and there are medicines, it works.
Ray Miller I had the same thoughts as you have, like one things takes another and one crisis is a reason of another, so how can you do something? And I also just stayed waiting God just to set me free somehow or just take me. But some medicines helped me so much for a first time. I started to feel better - I found a power to find some group of people in Internet, suffering from the same - they gave me such a support and I met with some of them - I told my friends that I am suffering and ask them to just take me sometimes out, even if I will not agree, or just call me and talk to me every week once a week - I found a job and medicines and support of people feeling the same helped me to keep working for just a month. Then I felt worse, but just said to myself - ok, just one more week. And it came to another month. - Than I had enough money to find a therapist and start working with the reasons of my problem. And now I am living normal, and you will also. I found your message in here, and somehow, even if I am sooo far away from you, I with you. Just stop making the same things you done before, and try something new, ask for a pills for the first step you have to make, it will help you. And then you will reach all the way. Universe loves you, it is showing it with making me find you and help you in a way I can, with Katy and her videos, support is everywhere. And one of the things helped me were thoughts of gratitude. Every evening I tried to write down 10 things I am thankful for. Even if it were just air, my heart working, electricity or so. Say "Thank you" for every advice in here, for your eyes, wich help you read it, for Katy making this. And day by day it changes all.
Reading the comments on this thread, I see so many people who are deeply struggling...some of the comments are 6 years old and I wonder how many were able to get the support they needed? For new people coming to this thread, there is hope! You are not alone. It can get better. Tomorrow is a new day💙🦋
I know a lot of people who struggle with depression do not have many friends (myself include) and cannot make plans. I recommend going out by yourself. Just going out to eat or going shopping by yourself can really help and I do this often. Even if I don't have the best time, I feel accomplished because I actually did something instead of sitting at home and doing nothing. If you can't go out anywhere, try going for a walk and listening to music. Getting outside helps me a lot whenever I'm having a really bad day.
depression can also be a biological issue with imbalance in neurotransmitters interacting with hormonal imbalances and disturbed biological rhythms. in my opinion therapy needs to be accompanied with some medication to get the body and the brain functioning normally.
My life is falling apart and I have tried talking to friends and family just to get told to get over it. I tried talking to my doctor and I straight up told her I just wanted everything to end, to just be over. All she did was send me for a lot of expensive tests that I couldn't afford to see if I have diabetes. All I do is cry and sleep. I have to force myself to just go to work. I barely make enough money to pay my bills let alone get help. I honestly don't know how much more I can take.
what if you have no friends, stuck in a toxic situation and have only living on the street as an option? I have a therapist, but it's not enough when you don't have a support system. I can't stand being around people, I panic, hyperventilate and sobbed! no one cares about me, I can tell you that. I've reached out and get crap. "family" says get over it and keep hurting me with words and actions. I have no where to go and no place to help where I live. I have no fight left and my injuries from a work accident are not improving for work comp drags everything out. I recently found out I can't return to my job (in any venue) if my injuries get fixed because of the weight I have gained since this all happened almost 8 years ago . so there's no point to anything anymore! I can't pretend to be ok anymore and I know how worthless and unwanted I truly am; been told by a lot of people!
My friends and I live with depression. We talk all the time about what we're feeling, what's happening in our lives, and when we're really having a strong depressive episode, we will make plans for the nearest day that we have extra time, or even the same day if we can swing it, and do something we enjoy together. That could mean coffee, or window shopping, or just staying in and watching TV together. The three of us know how hard it is to deal with depression alone, so being able to run away together or even just talk it out, sharing stories and perspectives, really helps to realize that we aren't alone in how we're feeling
a thing that really helped for me is keeping track of my feelings, i had/still have a diary and my depressions also get better when i stand in Front of the mirror and telling myself (for a minute or so) "i am beautiful in my own way. i love myself. i am a nice Person and i love myself. everyone has insecurities, sure i'm not perfect, but there is noone who is perfect" i'm not a therapist Like you Kati, but standing in Front of the mirror and saying "i love myself" for more than 100 times, makes me actually believe what i said :)
One of my friend spent 2 days for me and tried to make me happy gave me advice about different ways to get out of it. At last i won the battle. I really thankful to her for her sincere effort . Now i know how bad it is in a mood of depression.
what if you have no friends because you don't like having friends, and you like being alone so staying home is what makes you feel good, but then you are depressed because you don't do anything, and everything in life forces you to have to leave the house :(
I listen to music and walk around my block for a good 20-30 minutes it helps depression and anxiety too. I make a plan on paper for the day sometimes like a goal to clean my room or something like that. And break it into small tasks.
I’m going through a really hard time right now and getting really depressed while also taking care of a teething baby it’s exhausting and this really helped me to just fight back thank you
Andrea Roa Did you read Jared Padalecki's chapter in the Family Don't End With Blood book? he talks a lot about his depression and for me reading it was very therapeutic. It helped knowing that I'm not alone, but I think more than that it just really felt like he had my back in a way. Check it out if you've got the time :)
You better have a backup series to start watching when supernatural lets you down (e.g. episodes not available, storyline going sour, ...). Very dangerous to become dependent on things that are not dependable.
With me it's Grey's Anatomy and today I went to my doctor and he said that I'm probably addicted and when this is the only thing that helps me I should stop doing that because then I have nothing so I need to do something else Does this make sense?
What if i do want to NOT listen to my depression thoughs, what if I wanted to leave the bed and go outside, but i can't. I can't leave the house, or see my friend. What can i do then?
Kati is SO RIGHT. YOU HAVE TO FIGHT BACK!! My problem is getting that first foot on the floor and OUT OF BED!! I just can`t get out of bed. My plan for going to work this monday is to be in the shower within 60 seconds of waking up. Once i`m in the shower, i`ll be fine.
All my life I’ve been pushed away by people. I have PTD due to rape and war I experience. When I confessed my rape to my parents my dad blamed me and this caused a lot of disappointment and faith in people. I consider myself loving and people person but idk what is in me that pushes people away. I don’t do well with rejection. I feel like the world is against me.
Okay, so here's the thing. You mentioned homeopathy as a treatment. I used to work for a company that sold homeopathics, so I can tell you right now that they are at best an overpriced placebo, and at worst can stop people from receiving actually helpful treatment. It's been 5 years since you published this video, so maybe you've changed your stance on whether homeopathy is okay, but I needed to say something.
I have been diagnosed with an auto immune disease this year and for the past year I feel constant chronic fatigue and loss of motivation to do anything. I genuinely don't want to do anything other then hide in my room by myself and I'm constantly irritable I don't want to take any medication because I'm already on so many but I am curious if I have depression or if this is just normal?
I feel the same way. Since I was a freshman in Highschool. I have sleep apnea and chronic fatigue, as well as an unknown autoimmune disease. I already had a disposition toward depression, and as someone so young, its been soooo difficult to function. I had to quit sports, and my grades went to shit. I hate it. I was just a kid, and so tired all the time. I still want to sleep 100% of the time.
Kailyn Beare Just came across a book written a Dr Terry Walhs called the Walhs protocol, its regarding auto imune disease. Dr Terry Walhs cured herself of multriple sclerosis. Her videos are on the internet. Thought it was worth mentioning.
Recommended viewing > Alot of people don't know about this stuff. A short video > (What is true cellular detox and cellular detoxification DR Dan pompa). What is important regarding disease reversal is (cellular health) a wise quote > fix the cell to get well. Regarding disease reversal to a large extent the science is in.
I might be an 11 year old, but I still have 3 tips. I started struggling when I was 7 years old. My first tip is *DON'T* ignore the reality. Up until a few weeks ago, I didn't want to believe that there was something wrong. This led to me not knowing who I was, which led to making it so much worse. If you are thinking about doing this, *PLEASE* don't do this! It doesn't get you anywhere. And my second tip is *DON'T* put on a mask and pretend to be fine. I still do this, and even though I know it's wrong, it's so difficult to stop, and makes it even more difficult to reach out for help. And tip 3 is quitting life is *NEVER* the answer. It may seem like it's the right thing to do, and I know how you feel, but what helped me was thinking about how much the people who are close to you love you. You might feel like no one loves you, but that's NEVER true! Everyone has someone out there that loves them, no exceptions. I believe in you! I hope this helped you. ☺😊
I try to obtain as many new memories as possible in order to counteract the bad ones. I still have days where I do nothing but dwell, but as long as you have plans for SOMETHING to look forward to, you know that event can create new good memories. Make plans. Do stuff. Collect moments, not things.xxx
Most people with depression dont have a friend to text or call. That is part of it, isolation feeds depression and unfortunately most depressed people have isolated themselves for so long they have lost all friends. What than?
So true. I have no friends. Last time i had one is 3 years ago.
Damn your right. It's really hard sometimes. My friend s stopped inviting me out a long time ago. The only reason I go out sometime s is cause there is nothing in the fridge. I don't know what to do but I'll try to do more things out there , work on me more. I can't give up an neither can you. Keep on going, keep on trying, we'll make it.
Same I've lost all of my friends. I can't call anyone and be like hey wanna hang out.
Hey Tara amen to that. I hear you. I feel the same way that you do.
I too lost all my friends, and it HURTS! I used to be a social butterfly! Tons of friends! When everyone started getting married and having kids, it got worse. I got better for a little bit, found my husband, was great for awhile, but now I'm isolated again. 😢 And I feel bad because I get snappy with my husband, because he's the only one I see, and he gets on me nerves. Lol. He's an angel!
I made myself have a shower and wash and brush my hair last night for the first time in a week. I feel so much better :)
trippleblah That's great
oh how I have been there...
trippleblah sometimes that first step is all you need! so proud of you! keep up the good work!!
trippleblah I always feel better after making myself take care of myself too! It takes me days to finally find the energy.
I should do that either.
Living with depression is like being in an abusive relationship with your self. Your depression wants to keep you beaten down and submissive. The more you submit, the more your depression will control you. Would you want to hang around with someone all day that treats you the way your depression treats you? I doubt it. Tell your depression to fuck off like you would a toxic friend that's holding you back.
- Start with small things you can do daily without overwhelming yourself. Look into Non-Zero Days. Take very small steps to work towards your goals and build momentum.
- Stop trying to ignore or suppress negative thoughts, that only makes it worse. Acknowledge them and let them pass, because they *will* pass. When you lay down and look at passing clouds, you only notice when you're deliberately looking at and analyzing the cloud. Eventually, the cloud passes and you move on. You don't find yourself chasing that cloud down, following it for miles because you *have* to keep focusing on that cloud for hours on end, do you? Why do that with your thoughts? Just accept that you have those thoughts and let them pass. You are *not* your thoughts, you're just the thing *observing* that thought.
Thanks for this comment, very accurate one!
boy thats hard to do!
@Avalanche how about crying!
When depressed ur not living realtity. Live mind
Great cloud analogy.. im suffering from depression for 1st time in my life ! I lost my long time career job!,... I loved that job!, friends. Activities etc... ALL i want to do is return, but I can't. Also knowing that I actually could have returned, and it was my fault !! I'm so mad at myself!... it's been months of daily torture .. im unable to do anything..... I hope I can survive this horror,... life was so good before
When I don’t want to do anything. I try to focus on one area in my room and tidy it up. Mindless work like that and seeing that I did something makes me feel a bit better :)
What if you are so depressed that you can't force yourself to do anything?
Start taking care of your personal space. Take a shower and put on clothes every day. Make sure your living space is clean. Make it someplace you want to be. It seems counterintuitive, but it gives me a boost just knowing that I am ready for the day.
^ Yeah absolutely. You have to push yourself and even if you don't want to, go take a bubble bath or paint your nails all nice and pretty cause *you deserve it*. I'm just assuming you're a female cause your name is Anna. Anyways, treat yourself!
Anna Stec then the medication would help. but also, and more importantly, i think, at least in my case, that just struggling every morning, have the little intention of force you, ask for help and do some little little things each day (taking the medication, or eating, or someting little that feels hard) can be part of the process of recovery. Kati herself says that sometimes we cant see our progress so we dont think we are recovering, but staying in focus and looking for the help, have that little intention to get out of our depression, is part of the process. Just be patient with yourself but dont lose that focus. I hope this helps, english is not my first language XD
I've found that having a pet (especially a dog) that you have to get up and take care of helps. I have days I don't want to get up but I know I have to take her out and it forces me to get up. Plus there's the extra bonus of something cuddly to hold on to! But just knowing that there's somebody that needs me helps too.
Your medication may need adjusting. Be up. from with your doctor. if he's worth his/her practice the medication may be changed.
You know, doing the opposite of what depression tells you is like so obvious but exactly what I needed to hear.
Thank you.
I try to show myself some love by brushing my hair, giving myself a face mask, listening to music, and taking a timed nap where I force myself to be productive once I wake up. Truth be told, it's really hard. Struggling with this now.
Victoria Long Those steps are so hard. But they help so much, showing yourself some love. You deserve it, so so much. How are you doing now?
I make myself do " survival" things. Stuff like making a meal that's nutritious, going for even a short walk in the sun, or washing my face. When I'm really sick it doesn't make me feel better, but I now I've done something positive by keeping myself alive for another day.
Lady M that’s amazing...and that’s it. 💜 to keep surviving, keep making it to another day, and slowly things get better. I’m the same way...even when it doesn’t feel any better, if I can make myself even make one or two healthy choices when all I want to do is everything unhealthy, it makes a difference. Thanks for sharing!
that sweater looks comfy af.
Unless af is anal
Hi, I have chronic depression, have had more than 3 major depression episodes. These activities usually help me: Dancing with happy songs, esp as a group (e.g. in Zumba class, or a Groove dance performance in a park), going out in sunny days (Sunshine helps me a lot), journaling and writing my emotions and thoughts (somewhere priavte), talking to someone I trust and who really really understands me (Good therapist, one of my cousins, ....), but with all these I also believe that we should always find the root cause or main factors that contribute to our depression or any mental health challenge. So for myself, I know exactly what factors make my depression/anxiety worse, and I am really working to solve them, but I still need help. I just wish going to professional therapist as well as natropath doctors would be more affordable.
go to your nearest Mental Health Clinic it usually free Good luck!
Does anyone get really selfish and mean when being depressed? I feel like I'm way more depressed than anyone else so on one can understand me, it's not even worth people try and I hate everyone that doesn't understand me and I don't care for anyone else what so ever, their story or their life, it's just a waste of time for me to care about - and all this makes me feel like a monster :-( Once upon a time I was very caring, compassionate, a great listener and very loyal friend. Now it's all ME, ME, ME and I get irritated and pissed at people that doesn't think the way I do and I am always right. It's like being narcissistic and depressed at the same time... Am I alone in this? Part of me doesn't care and thinks no one understands my situation anyway so whatever you say is wrong.
(I'm bipolar type 2, got my first depression at 9 (I'm 29 now). I've been extremely ill with many years of hospitalization and never felt normal. I'm always ill or depressed, just different levels of it.)
I had that back in 2012, still have it to some degree today. Am chronically depressed since a very young age too. Been getting worse the last few weeks. Got the feeling noone will be able to help me and noone understands me and I just can't be bothered to even listen to some of the things people have to say anymore. Was feeling like a monster back in 2012 and starting to feel more and more like a monster over the last weeks. Worst thing is: In 2012 I've learned to like that feeling, while at the same time kinda hating it. All that is coming back atm. Borderliner here btw.
I experience this when I'm severely depressed. You're not alone
Samir C. Cat I do.
Go to psychiatrist..and don't think you are alone there are 350 millions in the world depressed like you be strong and think what is good in your life.
I've been feeling that for the past few months. I used to have compassion and empathy and genuinely care about other people more than I cared about myself, but now my friends talk to me and I can't even process an answer. I have to force myself to think of an appropriate answer. "this person just told you something awful, what do other people say when faced with this situation - blah blah. okay now say that. this isn't about you." it's exhausting.
The problem with pushing yourself to do things, get out with friends, go places, etc., is that it doesn't help me feel any better. Actually, it is stressful and I try every day to minimize that. It's easier to just stay home. I don't know how much anxiety plays into this, but my anxiety level goes through the roof as soon as I open my door to go somewhere. I have yet to find anything (medicine or therapy) that makes me feel better. I'm sure there's something that will help, I just haven't found it yet.
i think im gonna cry now. im very depressed. health issues, family, school matters, etc. .. btw thanks Katie
ASMR has helped me feel better. ASMR is a type of video that is supposed to help people relax and feel better.
ugh I honestly hate ASMR. it makes me so mad a made a hole in my door
Jean-Luc La Rue I wish someone as simple as autonimated sensory meridian response would help me 😭😭😭😭😭 im truly happy you have found something that's actually helping your battle with depression, much Luv- JAY💕
Niebieski Kroliczek Im actually the same... But just didn't have the guts to say the truth... I totally understand.
Thank you Katy. Your videos are so informative and I'm bi polar type 2 and I have brain tumors in parts of my head that aren't reachable. I'm scared and the depression hit and I went to a dark place. But you basically said to force myself out of bed which I haven't done since i got out of the hospital and force myself to live. I'm gonna go for a walk tomorrow. It's not a lot but it's something. It gave me hope. Thank you so much.
Tia Dickerson I hope you're doing better xx
hope you’re feeling better :)
Tia Dickerson *GOD BLESS YOU* much love
From- JAY💕
Tia Dickerson No, it totally IS a lot! It’s a big deal!! Bravo 👏
This is such a late comment but I just wanted to tell you that of course that's a lot and I know how hard it can be to do these things but this is a big step from not even being able to get out of bed and you should be proud of yourself for doing that. Hope you're doing better now xx
Being depressed and having a toddler isn't easy I'm dragging him down with me and I feel so bad about it I just wish I could be happy again.
i can't love my 2 cats the way i want to because of my depression!
@@healthyone100 ive started neglecting my goldfish because of my depression
@@chaseboudreaux8782 we can only do the best we can, i love them very much and i know they love me i just can't feel the love its hard sometimes Take Care!
@@Yikkoofficial how long you been battling depression.
Don’t forget to ask for help
I feel like circumstantial depression and depression are very different. A lot of people who are depressed can have the best day of there life and still be...sad or distant, it’s a chemical imbalance.
This is so true. After dealing with this on and off for years I can say that the best thing is to catch it early and force yourself to get out and about. The more you stay in and listen to your depression, the harder it is to get over it.
Thank You for this video
I am currently seeing psychiatrist about depression but I still feel bad about myself because I still have to go to dentistry school everyday which I dont want to go
the voice of depression always tells me "just give up, you cant do it, you are embarassing yourself"
I need help and I'm glad that theres someone like you post this kind of video online :)
It's good that you've already recognized that that's the depression talking and not you. And since depression is always wrong this is what you should be hearing "don't give up, you can do it, you'll be so proud of your achievements" :)
Thanks but sometime its hard to distinguish between my own thought and depression thought since I am used to these kinds of negative thoughts about myself since I was a kid. I know that we should objectify depression as some dark clouds or black dog, but sometimes there is an idea that depression is just my own thinking since its happening in my head so maybe it's not a disease, it's just myself.
Well I seriously relate. Because I've always known that my family would be better off without me from the start. So it can't be irrational depressive thinking, it's just my ... practical thinking. But please know that every day that you go to that school, you're another step closer to your achievement by proving your thoughts wrong every single day. And you've survived till now so you already have your proof that you can do this so don't reply telling me otherwise. Because too late, I already believe in you. There. Done. Finish. Finite.
Me too, so many persecution in school. The lecturers even called the police on me for no apparent reason! They made up stories about me and called the cop. They failed me for vague reasons which other academic advisor and classmates were shocked by it.
I lost my wife of 17 years a little over a month ago to a sudden heart attack in bed at 12:30 am she was 55 and I'm 64. I always took great care of her she had PTSD Bi-polar wide range and had just recently broken her arm severely while walking to the bathroom on jan 31st. A whole month on Oxycodone then withdrawls and a siezure. I'm having terrible panick attacks and anxiety all day long I can't take this much more.....please help I feel so helpless.
it's scary to live on your own again but you will achieve it. Do stuff and share them with your wife in your mind. OR,do new things and have a diary where you write a letter to her and share what yi have done that way, if you want, put the letter in a bottle and through into the sea or burn the letter, the smoke will go to heaven, to her :)....give yourself time to grieve her too, one day you will wake up and feel a little bit better, until eventually you will get used to her not being next to you.
Thank you for responding to me. I do feel a little better everyday. Today I had a rough time of it waking up with a huge anxiety attack. I drank way too much last night cause it was the three month anniversary of her death.
Kenneth please don't rely on drink to calm your nerves or for you to forget your grief, drink will destroy you.
Yes, I understand that very well. I haven't been drinking much at all over the last 3 months for fear of what it could lead to.
I'm so sorry to hear about that. Are you doing better now, Kenneth?
There are days where I feel depressed and I lay on the couch and do nothing but then when the day is over I feel anger at my self for wasting a day
I do the same thing Nicholas!
I love that she chose The Smiths. They are amazing.
MingusTale there is a light that never goes out is awesome, I read the lyrics and I started to cry 😄
I've been chronically depressed for five years now. It honestly sucks. People think that just cause I have dysthymia, it's not as severe. But that's not true. I can't even get out of bed without struggling and doing stuff takes me time... I can't even remember the last time I felt normal.
I feel your pain. I've been chronically depressed for about eight years now. Struggeling with the same problems as you.
My papa has dysthymia too. Me and my ma have major depressive disorder (it's just a thing that runs in our family line). We all have learned when to give each other space, and when to take charge to help each other through funk. It's hard to live with and sometimes frustrating when living with loved ones who have it. All that matters is that we practice mindfulness, empathy, vent sometimes, know when to avoid negativity and stop it, and find things we all like doing together (like Sunday brunches and Sunday Morning tv, then fetch with our dogs). Papa loves playing his guitar and uses Garage Band on Mac, Mama gardens and tends to the dogs, and I love video games and being silly with my fiancé (we are weeaboos). We have our good and bad days but it's ok. Our medicine and therapists and hobbies keep things going.
@@Kirschi__ i've been depressed for 10 months now add me to the list!
How Are you doing now?
Kati, watching this video is like talking to someone who really knows exactly what I'm feeling. I'm crying the whole video and I just want to hug you tightly and thank you for helping me express what I'm feeling. I am grateful that I found this video. Once again thank you so so much. You are an angel.
ah, 19 million reported to have depression?
since everyone's sharing their story...
I'm 18, and I've fought severe depression/anxiety (etc) on and off for nearly my whole life. I don't know when I wasn't blurry in the mind.
PTSD is my diagnosis. I try not to let it define me, but I am slowly learning the time sweeping effects of the drastic events that took place over my lifetime.
severe, very severe traumas from the time I was an infant to present.
I could list things, or I could say I experienced a "variety", and when I get triggered (almost everyday... everyday), my senses go numb and I get mindless (forgetful). deeply affected.
I get by, though... somehow.
I long for a harmonious and healthy life.
I also support myself, my parents are mentally unstable and toxic - same with my brother. I am also attending college (with high inclination).
I hope someone can find my little share helpful. every comment I've read here was personally beyond beneficial to what I had expected.
oh gosh, this might be too long...
your post looks like an Amazon review
It does look like an Amazon review! Lol! Kati Morton= Amazon.com. jk.
Only I am Amazon.com!! Your response seriously cracked me up.
I came across your comment, you must be 22 now. I hope that you are happier than when you commented, and that life is treating you well!
Listening 3h every day relaxing music, eating healthy, workouts, being patient with depression -it will take time to get better.
I love this video. Whenever I feel down and have no motivation, I use this video to inspire myself to do things I really have to do that day. Each time it helps mahoosively. Thank you Katie you are a star!
swimming and songwriting are my therapy activities whenever I feel down. Now I don't have the energy to do any of it. I'll try swimming tomorrow.
How do you write a song? Do you think of the rythm first or de lyrics?
Kati, you are so sweetie! You help a lot of people with your videos!
I am currently pursuing higher studies and the first week is very stressful and hectic...I am having frequent mental breakdowns and feeling worthless due to stress; and some of emotional traumas are hitting again.. thank you for giving some motivation to me❤️
I haven't had a depressive episode in a year and it has recently hit me so hard. Thanks you for this video.
Kristen Upham I’m so sorry it has come back so hard for you lately...I get it. Same thing happened to me this summer I was good for the first time I years, and then out of nowhere the depression hit like crazy. I’m doing a bit better now but I get it...and I’m really sorry things are dark for you now. I am wishing you light and that the clouds will break for you soon. 💜
Hi Kati, I don't know how you do it, but after watching this video I found energy to do some work, and what's more important, it seems that I found a place inside of me where this energy could come from... Noone had ever said to me that depression is addictive and that you should just force yourself out, although I had a few therapists in my life. Their advise was usually just 'let it be' and 'watch your state', while others would just shame me (or not shame me, but I felt ashamed of myself anyway).
This advice to force yourself out, cause depression is addictive, is just so pure and beautiful. I really appreciate your caring tone and willingness to help. Bless you!
HOW DO WE GET INCENTIVE when we have already lost our ambition???
sorry to shout but it is key...
Why thank you! i wish you had one.
I live in an area where if you go for walks, you can have breakfast or lunch, get a coffee, or just browse around at a mall even. So I try to do that at least once a week or more. It helps ☺
Forcing yourself into things you don't want to do is exhausting and I find in my case it makes me break down
I love the video layout. Her on a couch with a couple of plants, gesticulating, and also kinda laid back a bit relaxed. It's very expressive and more comforting.
When she said 'I can't wait to get back to bed, can't wait to get back to bed,' "and then we get back to bed, and we can't sleep" I fel that.
I love you Katie! You are so gentle, compassionate and kind. I love your attitude. The only reason I was able to get the group therapy help I needed was from being scholarshipped and it has made me that much more determined to fight back against my mental illness. I won't just sit back anymore, I am worth it and every single one of you are worth it! so grateful that people out there really want to help the people who want to help themselves. Thank you for being a warrior!
Kati I appreciate you and your videos... I is so wonderful that you really care about people and it shows through your giving through your videos... bless you
I have a diffuser and i put ylang ylang in it which is an essential oil to help depression. I meditate and journal all the good things that happen in a day (i try to write a list of at least 5) which I think helps me. I also avoid processed foods and stick with fruits veggies, and whole grains. All this together helps me.
Watching someone getting hurt and doing nothing about it, makes you part of the problem. Find the courage to act, then you are part of the solution.
I keep going back to these videos every year multiple times. So thanks again!
I don't have any friend
OLM there are people who care about you
OLM I don't either. I've lost all my friends..
it is hard to deal with im dealing with it too
what you need to do is to keep going life would get better
i promise
people dont accept me the way I am, they pretend like they dont do the same things, but everybody naturally is, they just think they are cooler and hide the truth
WhyNotRandom you and your feelings are valid, please know you're wanted and that there are people who care about you and accept you for who you are. be safe xx
Regardless of this being an older video, Kati does great work here (as with all her videos). I appreciate all her efforts to help a wider community of those seeking assistance and looking for additional education.
I honestly listen to sad music and let the tears flow.. it really helps :')
i wish i could cry!
@@healthyone100 I wish I could cry now too, lost the ability to do so a while ago..
I love how you make it seem like its not do drastic and its a lot more approachable, and less of a stigma! Thank you so much..now all I need is the courage to tell my parents.I have no idea where I'll get that from!
Serena Aileen how do i tell my parents
I get so mad when I hear my friends say they’re depressed or stressed out but they can’t feel what I am
Just wanted to comment on how much you work means and how much I appreciate what you do, not only making all of these amazing super helpful, short and at the same time filled with so many informations videos, but also responding to messages from random people, encouraging them to seek help. Kati, you are amazing, awesome and every single other nice word. Thank you for being here so much
Im over it,,tired of it,,tired of having to make myself get out,,,getting out today makes me feel like Im choking,, Im over it,,,sick of it..all
I just read this, please tell me you´re still here...
im still here dealing with this hell
I'm kinda glad to hear that... I guess. You probably don't want to talk about the cause with a stranger, let alone in the comment section; but I will ask have you tried medication ? I started taking a combination of Adderall and Prozac myself (self-medicated :/) and I gotta say it's fucking amazing, just have to remember to eat and sleep when I have to and zero alcohol, it also got me to start running again.
Still though, I wouldn't recommend self-medicating out of the blue. I read as much as I could about these and other drugs and also had tried amphetamines and antidepresants before, so it is still better to get a legitimate prescription.
Hope you get through it friend. ;)
You're using ''commas'' instead of periods...... < see sentence
Ronnie Evers, you're not alone. I feel the same way. If it weren't for my dog needing me and the fear of spending eternity in Hell - I wouldn't be here. People without depression really don't understand. There are better days ahead though, if you stick around for them. Depression comes and goes. Don't miss the good days. Take care of yourself. You deserve it.
I've been diagnosed with chronic depression more than a year ago and I really relate with this urge of going to bed because I was so tired of feeling sad, useless, a failure, unloved and all these negative emotions and I just wanted all of this to stop but once in my bed, these thoughts kept me awake all night and it was just terrible, I used to cry all night, doing every trick I found to fall asleep, yet, none of it worked. And every day was harder because I was so tired, also, I had anorexia so I was sick physically too...
But hey, I've been in therapy for 3 years now, inpatient during five months, on antidepressants, antipsychotics and anxiolytics, I worked on soooo much aspects of my life, my past, my present, my future, myself, my relation with others and I'm feeling soooo much better !! I can see a bright future now, I have goals, I'm much more confident, and that was just IMPOSSIBLE before ! You can get better, you will NOT be depressed ALL YOUR LIFE !
Well I don't recommend this but once a long time ago when I had a depression one night I went out walking in a thunderstorm with the too depressed to care attitude. After a while the depression started to wear off and I realize that I am an idiot standing out in water with lightning all around me. So I said to myself some not nice word I don't remember and the adrenaline kicked in and I hauled my butt outta there. I guess you're right about a nice shower to pep yourself up.
Hey i look your profile
Thank you, I would think you are a successful therapist. I had to switch therapists recent as they suffered from TDS and thought all my anxiety was because of this. Thank again.
I honestly cannot even get my brain to work to function at work. No one knows that I've been diagnosed with depression. I don't know what to do. I just want to get back to my old self.
You nailed it. You have to get out of the house everyday when you get down. Even if you just go to the store. I been through this in the past. You have to keep going and living.
I'm struggling getting my partner to agree to see a therapist for her depression. Even though I am a therapist myself, and even though I am always happy to validate and support her, she needs an objective third party to talk to about her issues. I keep hitting a wall with her because she is distrustful of professionals and medications, even though she acknowledges she needs help of some kind. Any suggestions would be welcome.
as someone who is very scared of therapy, and has depression. I would suggest you make her feel like the way she is feeling is normal and lots of people have these thoughts and feelings, and even though the medical world can be scary, there are organic ways to make you feel better. But talking to someone about your problems is the biggest way to help yourself. She needs a kind push to get to where she needs to be. I hope you two are doing well.
You do a really good job of giving advice without being critical or blaming. It's really nice
today I didn't want to get out of bed and so I just had to fall out of my bed and I went out for a 15 minute walk for the first time this week when I am depressed I would go for a walk or I'll wait to the shop and I'll get out for an hour so that's good when I actually left my house and went for a walk in didn't feel as depressed as I was I'm m y bed so that's good
I just watched you for the first time. You give me so much hope. Thank you, I love you!
Hello..I am from india. I am depressed..I tried to explain my partents but they did not took it seriously. Then I went to a homeopathic dr..But still .It's not working.pls help me..I just want to get out of it. i just lock myself in my room and spend hours wasting..
But still your this video helped me to fell a bit positive. And I felt some one is there who cares..Pls keep on posting ..And plz suggest me something to get out of it
Vvk Vvk hello i am depressed too. Since i also have indian parents, i am not surprised that they didnt take you seriously. I have a few tips for you: Keep watching more of Kati's depression videos because she is so helpful and makes you feel like someone understands. You should also try reaching out to a counsellor if you can find one in India. If you cannot, you should try 7cups.com or imalive.org. They are both free websites that offer help for people like us. And you can look up the suicide hotline number for your area in India. The person who picks up the phone will talk to you and understand you
try to craft something that's not too difficult, when you are finished, the piece you've made will remind you that you can do it no matter how hard :3
Homeopathy is fake science. If you look up a little about homeopathy, you'll find crazy stuff like they dilute the "medicine" to one part in millions of millions. It's all quackery
kati you don't know how much this helps, thank you
Hi Kati, just wanted to thank you for your wonderful videos. really helpful.
Love the idea of externalizing the issue, externalizing depression.
January was absolutely depressing for me, I could barely get out from bed and I'm still feeling terrible. I really wanna go to a therapist but I need to talk with my parents first and that is definitely the worst part, because I think they don't want to see how bad I really am.
+Johanna I'm sorry to hear that. Want a cyber Hug?
CoconutIsBest :) sure, thank you. xo
Your welcome (cyber Hug sounds)
Johanna your parents love you. It would break their heart if they realized you were hurting so much and they didn’t even know. Telling them will help you all heal. Of course it will be hard at first, but only because they care. They’re your parents. They want to help you.
How are you doing now?
There is a street close to my home that has become overgrown with tumbleweeds, puncture vines, and other weeds. Trash has landed there as well. I just put on gloves, grab two huge trashbags, and my keys, and walk over to this neglected area, and pull weeds, pick up trash, and throw it away!
Since I'm furloughed from work, it feels much better to get out of the house and do something on weekdays.
I get fresh air, exercise, and the neighborhood looks better!
Depressed-get a job-can't go to work because you feel terrible-get fired-no money-for a car-nothing within walking distance-no friends because you can never get out-no girlfriend- no theropy because you are broke because no job. Never understood what you are supposed to do other than just try to get by until God takes you home.
Ray Miller try to find a money just for one visit to a psychiatrist and then ask him for a pills. It will help you stay in a good feeling enough for find a job and keep working just for some months. And than, when you will be ready and will have money, find a therapist and work with the reason of your depression. But first you just need a quick thing, which will help you break this circle and there are medicines, it works.
Ray Miller I had the same thoughts as you have, like one things takes another and one crisis is a reason of another, so how can you do something? And I also just stayed waiting God just to set me free somehow or just take me. But some medicines helped me so much for a first time. I started to feel better - I found a power to find some group of people in Internet, suffering from the same - they gave me such a support and I met with some of them - I told my friends that I am suffering and ask them to just take me sometimes out, even if I will not agree, or just call me and talk to me every week once a week - I found a job and medicines and support of people feeling the same helped me to keep working for just a month. Then I felt worse, but just said to myself - ok, just one more week. And it came to another month. - Than I had enough money to find a therapist and start working with the reasons of my problem. And now I am living normal, and you will also. I found your message in here, and somehow, even if I am sooo far away from you, I with you. Just stop making the same things you done before, and try something new, ask for a pills for the first step you have to make, it will help you. And then you will reach all the way. Universe loves you, it is showing it with making me find you and help you in a way I can, with Katy and her videos, support is everywhere. And one of the things helped me were thoughts of gratitude. Every evening I tried to write down 10 things I am thankful for. Even if it were just air, my heart working, electricity or so. Say "Thank you" for every advice in here, for your eyes, wich help you read it, for Katy making this. And day by day it changes all.
Get Medicaid - insurance offered by your state for low income individuals. Seeing a doctor and therapist is cost you nothing.
She’s so expressive, I love it.
Reading the comments on this thread, I see so many people who are deeply struggling...some of the comments are 6 years old and I wonder how many were able to get the support they needed? For new people coming to this thread, there is hope! You are not alone. It can get better. Tomorrow is a new day💙🦋
But I can't cry it's hard for me to I haven't cried for the last 2 years....
Same tbh.
I try to but I always feel like I'm on the verge of tears.
yee
same
maybe its dysthymia
I like to cry but it's hard to.
I know a lot of people who struggle with depression do not have many friends (myself include) and cannot make plans. I recommend going out by yourself. Just going out to eat or going shopping by yourself can really help and I do this often. Even if I don't have the best time, I feel accomplished because I actually did something instead of sitting at home and doing nothing. If you can't go out anywhere, try going for a walk and listening to music. Getting outside helps me a lot whenever I'm having a really bad day.
depression can also be a biological issue with imbalance in neurotransmitters interacting with hormonal imbalances and disturbed biological rhythms. in my opinion therapy needs to be accompanied with some medication to get the body and the brain functioning normally.
My life is falling apart and I have tried talking to friends and family just to get told to get over it. I tried talking to my doctor and I straight up told her I just wanted everything to end, to just be over. All she did was send me for a lot of expensive tests that I couldn't afford to see if I have diabetes. All I do is cry and sleep. I have to force myself to just go to work. I barely make enough money to pay my bills let alone get help. I honestly don't know how much more I can take.
what if you have no friends, stuck in a toxic situation and have only living on the street as an option? I have a therapist, but it's not enough when you don't have a support system. I can't stand being around people, I panic, hyperventilate and sobbed! no one cares about me, I can tell you that. I've reached out and get crap. "family" says get over it and keep hurting me with words and actions. I have no where to go and no place to help where I live. I have no fight left and my injuries from a work accident are not improving for work comp drags everything out. I recently found out I can't return to my job (in any venue) if my injuries get fixed because of the weight I have gained since this all happened almost 8 years ago . so there's no point to anything anymore! I can't pretend to be ok anymore and I know how worthless and unwanted I truly am; been told by a lot of people!
I feel you my friend. I too am betrayed by people and I loathe people. :-( praying for ya
Love u all guys Stay Strong and take care of yourselves
I don't really enjoy being with my friends when I feel down..
My friends and I live with depression. We talk all the time about what we're feeling, what's happening in our lives, and when we're really having a strong depressive episode, we will make plans for the nearest day that we have extra time, or even the same day if we can swing it, and do something we enjoy together. That could mean coffee, or window shopping, or just staying in and watching TV together. The three of us know how hard it is to deal with depression alone, so being able to run away together or even just talk it out, sharing stories and perspectives, really helps to realize that we aren't alone in how we're feeling
yeah, i force myself to go out and i end up getting an anxiety attack
a thing that really helped for me is keeping track of my feelings, i had/still have a diary and my depressions also get better when i stand in Front of the mirror and telling myself (for a minute or so) "i am beautiful in my own way. i love myself. i am a nice Person and i love myself. everyone has insecurities, sure i'm not perfect, but there is noone who is perfect"
i'm not a therapist Like you Kati, but standing in Front of the mirror and saying "i love myself" for more than 100 times, makes me actually believe what i said :)
in today video you talk about me love you ...you doing good work I will see my doctor again thank you very much Allah bless you
One of my friend spent 2 days for me and tried to make me happy gave me advice about different ways to get out of it.
At last i won the battle.
I really thankful to her for her sincere effort .
Now i know how bad it is in a mood of depression.
what if you have no friends because you don't like having friends, and you like being alone so staying home is what makes you feel good, but then you are depressed because you don't do anything, and everything in life forces you to have to leave the house :(
I listen to music and walk around my block for a good 20-30 minutes it helps depression and anxiety too. I make a plan on paper for the day sometimes like a goal to clean my room or something like that. And break it into small tasks.
I just clicked this because i though your outfit was cool :3 Love you Kati
I knit, crochet, sketch, paint, color in a coloring book. It gives a sense of achievement and can help with your Self esteem.
Am goin through a depressing state .body aches my head hurts my chest so it’s a very hard case
hang in there!
Omg, Italian subtitles! I'm so happy, thank you!
"We have to fight back"
I’m going through a really hard time right now and getting really depressed while also taking care of a teething baby it’s exhausting and this really helped me to just fight back thank you
Only thing that helps my depression is supernatural
Andrea Roa Did you read Jared Padalecki's chapter in the Family Don't End With Blood book? he talks a lot about his depression and for me reading it was very therapeutic. It helped knowing that I'm not alone, but I think more than that it just really felt like he had my back in a way. Check it out if you've got the time :)
You better have a backup series to start watching when supernatural lets you down (e.g. episodes not available, storyline going sour, ...). Very dangerous to become dependent on things that are not dependable.
With me it's Grey's Anatomy and today I went to my doctor and he said that I'm probably addicted and when this is the only thing that helps me I should stop doing that because then I have nothing so I need to do something else
Does this make sense?
i forget what happiness even feels like i’ve been depressed for a year and a half
What if i do want to NOT listen to my depression thoughs, what if I wanted to leave the bed and go outside, but i can't. I can't leave the house, or see my friend. What can i do then?
Do some sport inside, call a help hotline maybe? Pet a cute pet! Open the window and get some fresh air inside
go as long as you have friends man
Kati is SO RIGHT. YOU HAVE TO FIGHT BACK!! My problem is getting that first foot on the floor and OUT OF BED!! I just can`t get out of bed. My plan for going to work this monday is to be in the shower within 60 seconds of waking up. Once i`m in the shower, i`ll be fine.
Thanks Kati!!! I Love your Videos and You are The Best!!!!
All my life I’ve been pushed away by people. I have PTD due to rape and war I experience. When I confessed my rape to my parents my dad blamed me and this caused a lot of disappointment and faith in people. I consider myself loving and people person but idk what is in me that pushes people away. I don’t do well with rejection. I feel like the world is against me.
Okay, so here's the thing. You mentioned homeopathy as a treatment. I used to work for a company that sold homeopathics, so I can tell you right now that they are at best an overpriced placebo, and at worst can stop people from receiving actually helpful treatment. It's been 5 years since you published this video, so maybe you've changed your stance on whether homeopathy is okay, but I needed to say something.
Agreed. It's pure pseudoscience. Homeopathy is pure placebo effect
Thank you so much... Today I finally feel motivated to get dressed and go out with my friends....
Your words spoke to me. Thank you for that.
I find latching on to something that you're passionate about helps me the most.
I have been diagnosed with an auto immune disease this year and for the past year I feel constant chronic fatigue and loss of motivation to do anything. I genuinely don't want to do anything other then hide in my room by myself and I'm constantly irritable I don't want to take any medication because I'm already on so many but I am curious if I have depression or if this is just normal?
I feel the same way. Since I was a freshman in Highschool. I have sleep apnea and chronic fatigue, as well as an unknown autoimmune disease. I already had a disposition toward depression, and as someone so young, its been soooo difficult to function. I had to quit sports, and my grades went to shit. I hate it. I was just a kid, and so tired all the time. I still want to sleep 100% of the time.
Katie is so pretty 😁
Kailyn Beare Just came across a book written a Dr Terry Walhs called the Walhs protocol, its regarding auto imune disease. Dr Terry Walhs cured herself of multriple sclerosis. Her videos are on the internet. Thought it was worth mentioning.
Recommended viewing > Alot of people don't know about this stuff. A short video > (What is true cellular detox and cellular detoxification DR Dan pompa). What is important regarding disease reversal is (cellular health) a wise quote > fix the cell to get well. Regarding disease reversal to a large extent the science is in.
What a great beautiful lady you are !Thanks for your help !
I might be an 11 year old, but I still have 3 tips. I started struggling when I was 7 years old. My first tip is *DON'T* ignore the reality. Up until a few weeks ago, I didn't want to believe that there was something wrong. This led to me not knowing who I was, which led to making it so much worse. If you are thinking about doing this, *PLEASE* don't do this! It doesn't get you anywhere. And my second tip is *DON'T* put on a mask and pretend to be fine. I still do this, and even though I know it's wrong, it's so difficult to stop, and makes it even more difficult to reach out for help. And tip 3 is quitting life is *NEVER* the answer. It may seem like it's the right thing to do, and I know how you feel, but what helped me was thinking about how much the people who are close to you love you. You might feel like no one loves you, but that's NEVER true! Everyone has someone out there that loves them, no exceptions. I believe in you! I hope this helped you. ☺😊
I try to obtain as many new memories as possible in order to counteract the bad ones. I still have days where I do nothing but dwell, but as long as you have plans for SOMETHING to look forward to, you know that event can create new good memories. Make plans. Do stuff. Collect moments, not things.xxx