Anytime fitness can go to different outlet to use machines/ weights but zumba/yoga/others classes will be in main gym. Topic : do you want a relationship or do you wish to prove you are lovable ? If you are reading this : For the 40ish lady : I am wishing that you can love yourself❤. Your value of self is how you treat and identify yourself. People will like your genuinity and sometimes the laidback qualities cause some people are always anxious and they will admire that skill of urs. I had issues on making friends at first. Tips to make friends : 1) look upon your hobbies/liking- find people similar events (Jazz music) 2) go talk on other creator online streams if insecure can hide face 3) find your values and vision of self , then slowly same vibes friend will come 40 ish year could make you feel anxious about not being with a partner. But imagine the cost of having a wrong relationship, the trauma can lingers. So think twice about relationships cause it sounds like you just wish to experience rs. One step at a time : we can’t guarantee a person will love you deeply always but we can always guarantee that there is people who love u deeply. 🎉 all the best !
Very nervous to do this because I had no plans of outting myself what so ever.... I was the first story the gym story But do feel I should clarifying things. I never quit my fitness journey. It did get somewhat wonky due to depression, but I didn't quit. To clarify I was going to two gyms. One was your normal what you guys were talking about. Like an anytime fitness. Weights, cardio, ect. The gym I quit was a kickboxing gym. The kickboxing gym was also very family minded. We went out together. Several group chats. Ect. So when I quit the first time people kept asking me to come back. Because outside of her I had a LOT of friends there. (I still get asked now to come back, but I won't.) I DID quit my kickboxing journey. I felt kickboxing as a whole was just going to upset me so I just stuck with a regular gym. The reason why I couldn't avoid her were two reasons. I have a very consistent schedule of going to the gym. That pretty much doesn't change. I'm wasn't veering that for anyone because if I shift my schedule everything else surrounding it gets shifted and it's not good for me in the long run. I have too much stuff to do. (24 hours is not enough in a day 🙃) I always go after work. This wasn't a go in and out at any time this was a classes were at 5, 6, 7 and so on. I had a hard time avoiding her because she was an instructor. I did not know her schedule. It always changed with the exception of Fridays. Fridays were pretty consistent with her. That was the day I got to talk 1 on 1 with her for a while (except after I confessed to her and I couldn't anymore) So it was basically a luck of the draw when I went in. I DID start going to 5am clases because only ONE specific instructor taught that class. One day I guess that instructor was sick and SHE (the girl I'm in love with) taught it. That lead to the events of me quitting. I got 20 minutes into the workout, left, and cried. Regarding her girlfriend being on the phone when I confessed I forgot to add I did NOT know she had a new gf nor did I know she was on the phone with her. Faye I understand where you're coming from as far as you feel she should've talked to me more, but put yourself in her shoes. You just got a girlfriend and the girlfriend overhears someone else confessing their feelings to her. Would you really hang up with your girlfriend and talk to them? She did also shoot me a message checking up on me later to which I kept my response short. Again, making sure I keep my feelings in check and respect her relationship. That aside I was damn near running out the door anyway because I was upset. Regarding why I didn't tell her earlier is because like I said before I don't believe in jumping on people after a breakup. I wasn't sure where she was mentally and didn't want to seem like I was preying on her. NOR did I want to be a rebound. I have HEAVY feelings for this girl. If we were to explore this I need her to have feelings for me too. Or else just turn me down (Like she did). Because I love very hard. When I'm in I'm in. Clearing up how she responded I'll be honest I mostly blocked out that night. I know for sure she said more, but the only thing I remember is she said she already knew and she asked me not to quit my kickboxing journey. She promised she wouldn't treat me differently. (She didn't) She did say she wanted us to still be friends like we were before. At first I said that's fine, but as time went on I couldn't. Being at the gym was hard, being out with her with mutual friends was hard. I had started avoiding outtings. Muting group chats. Ect. I did make sure to communicate to her that I was pulling away from her and I needed her to give me space, but that's about it along the lines of us talking. To this day I wish things were different. But they're not. It is what it is. So I'm working on me in the meantime. I don't know if I missed anything that needs clarification. Hopefully I caught it all. Also, just in case this comes up you got both of our signs wrong lol. Which is why I personally don't follow that stuff super closely, but that's a rant for another day. An update on the situation she no longer lives in this state. She left to be with her gf and I will be leaving soon too. She embarrassingly was the only thing keeping me here. So I've decided in order to heal I need to leave the state I was ready to leave years ago. I don't know anything about her other than she left Texas to be with her gf. That information was also unfortunately forced upon me (Just a reminder I don't have her on social media... But does social media care? Of course not 😑. It'll put stuff in your feed anyway) The whole dream thing has still been occurring, but I'm just trying to heal and make the best of this situation because I want to be happy again. Anyway sorry for the long comment. 😬 Again I hope this clears things up.
To that human in 40's, I'm 31 and dating someone 12 yrs older than me. I'm so into her and she's the love of my life. We've been in relationship for 5 years and every single day is a blessed happy day, and she's the only person I would want to grow old together. I dated with her when she was 39 and she also believed back then she would end up single whole life before meeting with me. Everyone has their own clock and it is not about late or early. It is about what is right time for you. Chin up!
To the woman in her 40’s, do you realize how many queer women are ~obsessed~ with older women? Look for late bloomers in their 30’s. They’re a little younger and will help you feel a little younger as well.
yeah i mean if she gets more positive about herself rather than just saying all this negative self-talk i think there are lots of people who would be interested. i talk to and date women in their 40s on the apps (in my 30s) and a lot of she's positioning as self-loathing isn't a negative to everyone. tbh i'd prob swipe right as long as the attitude on the profile wasn't so self-loathing
@@ArtichokeHunter I felt like that was discussed well and at length in the episode and didn’t see the need to repeat it. I just wanted to add advice that might be helpful in a different way.
you can be asexual and enjoy sex just as a pleasurable physical act, asexual just means they're not attracted sexually to specific people. and it's a spectrum of course. so it could be that the person wants to have sex without attraction to the person, but it sounded more to me like maybe they're on the aromantic spectrum and the attraction to the exes was sexual, not romantic
Really? Let me look that up! Oh… wait …”Asexual - A term used to describe someone who does not experience sexual attraction towards anyone.” So you are just making up your own definition. Got it.
@@tananario23 nope, that's literally what I said! No sexual attraction doesn't mean you can't enjoy sex. Attraction isn't behavior. These things are extensively discussed online, if you actually want to learn you can.
Anytime fitness can go to different outlet to use machines/ weights but zumba/yoga/others classes will be in main gym.
Topic : do you want a relationship or do you wish to prove you are lovable ?
If you are reading this : For the 40ish lady : I am wishing that you can love yourself❤. Your value of self is how you treat and identify yourself. People will like your genuinity and sometimes the laidback qualities cause some people are always anxious and they will admire that skill of urs.
I had issues on making friends at first. Tips to make friends :
1) look upon your hobbies/liking- find people similar events (Jazz music)
2) go talk on other creator online streams if insecure can hide face
3) find your values and vision of self , then slowly same vibes friend will come
40 ish year could make you feel anxious about not being with a partner. But imagine the cost of having a wrong relationship, the trauma can lingers. So think twice about relationships cause it sounds like you just wish to experience rs. One step at a time : we can’t guarantee a person will love you deeply always but we can always guarantee that there is people who love u deeply. 🎉 all the best !
Very nervous to do this because I had no plans of outting myself what so ever.... I was the first story the gym story But do feel I should clarifying things. I never quit my fitness journey. It did get somewhat wonky due to depression, but I didn't quit. To clarify I was going to two gyms. One was your normal what you guys were talking about. Like an anytime fitness. Weights, cardio, ect. The gym I quit was a kickboxing gym. The kickboxing gym was also very family minded. We went out together. Several group chats. Ect. So when I quit the first time people kept asking me to come back. Because outside of her I had a LOT of friends there. (I still get asked now to come back, but I won't.) I DID quit my kickboxing journey. I felt kickboxing as a whole was just going to upset me so I just stuck with a regular gym. The reason why I couldn't avoid her were two reasons. I have a very consistent schedule of going to the gym. That pretty much doesn't change. I'm wasn't veering that for anyone because if I shift my schedule everything else surrounding it gets shifted and it's not good for me in the long run. I have too much stuff to do. (24 hours is not enough in a day 🙃) I always go after work. This wasn't a go in and out at any time this was a classes were at 5, 6, 7 and so on. I had a hard time avoiding her because she was an instructor. I did not know her schedule. It always changed with the exception of Fridays. Fridays were pretty consistent with her. That was the day I got to talk 1 on 1 with her for a while (except after I confessed to her and I couldn't anymore) So it was basically a luck of the draw when I went in. I DID start going to 5am clases because only ONE specific instructor taught that class. One day I guess that instructor was sick and SHE (the girl I'm in love with) taught it. That lead to the events of me quitting. I got 20 minutes into the workout, left, and cried. Regarding her girlfriend being on the phone when I confessed I forgot to add I did NOT know she had a new gf nor did I know she was on the phone with her. Faye I understand where you're coming from as far as you feel she should've talked to me more, but put yourself in her shoes. You just got a girlfriend and the girlfriend overhears someone else confessing their feelings to her. Would you really hang up with your girlfriend and talk to them? She did also shoot me a message checking up on me later to which I kept my response short. Again, making sure I keep my feelings in check and respect her relationship. That aside I was damn near running out the door anyway because I was upset. Regarding why I didn't tell her earlier is because like I said before I don't believe in jumping on people after a breakup. I wasn't sure where she was mentally and didn't want to seem like I was preying on her. NOR did I want to be a rebound. I have HEAVY feelings for this girl. If we were to explore this I need her to have feelings for me too. Or else just turn me down (Like she did). Because I love very hard. When I'm in I'm in. Clearing up how she responded I'll be honest I mostly blocked out that night. I know for sure she said more, but the only thing I remember is she said she already knew and she asked me not to quit my kickboxing journey. She promised she wouldn't treat me differently. (She didn't) She did say she wanted us to still be friends like we were before. At first I said that's fine, but as time went on I couldn't. Being at the gym was hard, being out with her with mutual friends was hard. I had started avoiding outtings. Muting group chats. Ect. I did make sure to communicate to her that I was pulling away from her and I needed her to give me space, but that's about it along the lines of us talking. To this day I wish things were different. But they're not. It is what it is. So I'm working on me in the meantime. I don't know if I missed anything that needs clarification. Hopefully I caught it all. Also, just in case this comes up you got both of our signs wrong lol. Which is why I personally don't follow that stuff super closely, but that's a rant for another day. An update on the situation she no longer lives in this state. She left to be with her gf and I will be leaving soon too. She embarrassingly was the only thing keeping me here. So I've decided in order to heal I need to leave the state I was ready to leave years ago. I don't know anything about her other than she left Texas to be with her gf. That information was also unfortunately forced upon me (Just a reminder I don't have her on social media... But does social media care? Of course not 😑. It'll put stuff in your feed anyway) The whole dream thing has still been occurring, but I'm just trying to heal and make the best of this situation because I want to be happy again. Anyway sorry for the long comment. 😬 Again I hope this clears things up.
Damn girl this sucks 😅
I just got one question : is she air sign ?
hoping you will heal quickly girl
To that human in 40's, I'm 31 and dating someone 12 yrs older than me. I'm so into her and she's the love of my life. We've been in relationship for 5 years and every single day is a blessed happy day, and she's the only person I would want to grow old together. I dated with her when she was 39 and she also believed back then she would end up single whole life before meeting with me. Everyone has their own clock and it is not about late or early. It is about what is right time for you. Chin up!
To the woman in her 40’s, do you realize how many queer women are ~obsessed~ with older women? Look for late bloomers in their 30’s. They’re a little younger and will help you feel a little younger as well.
yeah i mean if she gets more positive about herself rather than just saying all this negative self-talk i think there are lots of people who would be interested. i talk to and date women in their 40s on the apps (in my 30s) and a lot of she's positioning as self-loathing isn't a negative to everyone. tbh i'd prob swipe right as long as the attitude on the profile wasn't so self-loathing
@@ArtichokeHunter I felt like that was discussed well and at length in the episode and didn’t see the need to repeat it. I just wanted to add advice that might be helpful in a different way.
@@devin1624 i was just agreeing with you
@@ArtichokeHunter friend, I totally misread your comment! I’m so sorry. I see what you were saying now
@@devin1624 i did go on a tangent so i deleted that. But yes as a relatively inexperuenced person in my 30s i think your advice is good! Date us lol
whoever called zoe ugly you will start coughing in 7 days
you can be asexual and enjoy sex just as a pleasurable physical act, asexual just means they're not attracted sexually to specific people. and it's a spectrum of course. so it could be that the person wants to have sex without attraction to the person, but it sounded more to me like maybe they're on the aromantic spectrum and the attraction to the exes was sexual, not romantic
Really? Let me look that up! Oh… wait …”Asexual - A term used to describe someone who does not experience sexual attraction towards anyone.” So you are just making up your own definition. Got it.
@@tananario23 nope, that's literally what I said! No sexual attraction doesn't mean you can't enjoy sex. Attraction isn't behavior. These things are extensively discussed online, if you actually want to learn you can.