Hey everyone, today i'm bringing you a pretty highly requested video, I hope you all enjoy it! Sending love always, Mak Insta/Snap/Tik Tok @Makingemi
Hey guys! Im gonna do my best to respond to as many comments as I can on this vide, I know a lot of you message me about struggling to come out and I can't respond to all of them but drop your questions below! :) Sending all of you love ❤️
I'm a 64 year old male who is not out.im afraid. To ...but I have joined a upscale gay dating service.i have met several men in the same situation. I was amazed at how many men r in this situation. I feel better now and have developed a relationship with one of them. It's great. Let me know what u think.
"New experiences whether good or bad always start out scary." That really resonates with me and is a good motivator in general and not even with just things related to coming out. When I'm trying to decide what to do, I need to remind myself of that because otherwise I'll never do anything. Thanks for sharing your story. 💛 Can't wait for the podcast!
I came out as a bisexual woman back in 2018. since I was a kid, girls had always attracted me in some way. once I put that label on myself I felt so comfortable and proud but I now realise that I was just "attracted" to fictional men and celebrities. it took me a while to accept it. I didn't know how to suddenly change my sexuality and have to come out all over again. my dad is also in the way, I feel like im disappointing him because I do not like men, I used to when I was bi, but now its 100 percent u know? its 2021 now and im still in this journey. its not easy for anybody. sexuality is fluid and who knows, maybe in a year or two im back to being bisexual or whatever. all I know is that I am proud to be a lesbian, and thank you to you for teaching to embrace it. you are one of the few people that have helped me find my true self this year, I love you. I feel understood and happy.
I won't lie, I needed this more than I realized. Thank you✨ I relate to these experiences. Being outed, the difficulty of coming out to friends and family (most specifically parents), coming out ten thousand times, facing religion and many more. Although conditions aren't always ideal for self expression, I'm just so damn thankful for creators who have made a safe space for LGBTQ+ youth. Not religious, but I believe there's light at the end of every tunnel and you will find your light ❤️❤️
YAY omg can’t wait for the podcast. thank you for these types of videos tho! i have been struggling with my orientation for a couple years now and it’s been taking such a toll, so i appreciate so much. all love
the “problem” I have is that I simply don’t want to come out and be like “hey i’m gay” bc I feel like then there would be this pressure for me to get a girlfriend idk, and like I just want to start dating a girl and then say like “hey this is my girlfriend” but it’s pretty much impossible to have any girl interested in me as they don’t know that i’m gay aaahhhh i hate it here
I came out by introducing my first girlfriend to my friends. For me it was easier that way than just saying I’m gay. Just know that having a girlfriend isn’t a stipulation of coming out or saying that you’re gay.
Im stuck in the loop of 'closeted so don't know any gay people so don't go to gay bars so don't know gay women so extremely alone' lol. and also if you're not out you're not surrounded by people with your best interests (i have to pretend to be straight). \ugh
Great video, it's never easy to come out and it can cause some rifts but in the long run your own happiness is always more important than whoever else you may upset. I haven't spoken to my father for 10 years and for the stuff he has said I won't ever forgive but I am so much more happier now than I was when he was in my life. Can't wait for the podcast, take care.
thank you for sharing this, sometimes its easy to get lost in the moment and we forget that in the ends, we have to live with ourselves and our decisions. if those decisions stand up for you and who you are, you will go far! :)
Being confronted by a truth that challenges your belief system doesn't vest you with the right to control another person's destiny, no matter the noblest intent of trying to do so. If you cannot understand atleast try being kind and supportive, it will be far more rewarding than breaking the spirit of someone who looks up to you. The well rounded, realistic and practical advice based on and along with talking about a very crucial experience of life. I can completely relate to and agree with maintaining a healthy distance as the best approach to allow those close to us to choose to accept and make peace with what they no longer can try to control. Wishing you the best ahead, and sorry for commenting so late, TH-cam decided to recommended it only now!
"When you become a parent you are agreeing to love your child unconditionally..." Major Shannon Beveridge vibes... hope to see yall work together some day😏🥰
I was going out with this girl and once I finally had the courage to tell my mom she just replied with “I know”… I guess that was a good coming out experience for me
Just hearing about the whole situation with your dad, and hearing how you have dealt with that and just those emotions it really is helpful to just understand or hear from someone with experience, that you can be who you are regardless. Your confidence in that regard is something i wish i had lol super helpful and uplifting💜
I should’ve known I was a lesbian when I would get in relationships with guys just because my friends said we would be a nice couple but also when I would tell my “boyfriends” to not show PDA or even speak to me in public.
Listening to this is like talking with an older sister about this topic of coming out since I’m still like afraid of talking about my sexuality. Thank you this was comforting.❤️❤️❤️
Honestly, such great advice Mak! I had the same thing happen as you but I hadn't told anyone in school, everyone just started assuming it and I started getting bullied for being gay. Thankfully my friends and my younger sibling squashed the rumors and I was able to wait until moving out to explore that side of myself more and come out to more people. At 23 though, I still haven't "fully come out". And that's ok. It's a long journey to figure out and I was to reiterate exactly what you said : only you know when you are ready. Don't let anyone make that choice for you! 🌈🌈🌈🌈
Mak thank u so much for doing this!! you have no idea how much you're helping. this Thursday I tried to tell my father I was going on a first date with a girl I met through social media. it was scary because it could have been a catfish and I could have been unsafe, so I really needed my father's approval although I had my mom's already. it went awful. I was just starting to tell him about everything but as I said "someone" instead of "a boy" he immediately got mad and told me my brother and I are a disaster and that he wished he would have stayed single and never got married (so I wouldn't have born)... I felt so so so sad, I cried thinking of the reaction other parents have, that they say "you're the best thing that ever happened to me and that will never change no matter what", and there was my father who told me he wishes I was never born. I hope no one else has to go through anything like this. please listen to Mak when she says if you're not completely safe it's better not to tell. I wish I haven't told him. it sucks that you have to lie and maybe put yourself at risk or just go through this stuff alone because you can't count on your parents/family in general, but we can find a community and friends in social media and have support watching lgbt+ shows, movies... I hope whoever is reading this can find at least something good in their day today. I hope you can smile at least once. have a nice day, all the love from Argentina 💜
i came out when i was like 13/14 because my mom asked me and i didn't want to lie to her, and it all went pretty well, but i still struggle with feeling comfortable with my sexuality because i came out before i was ready, so if you don't feel ready, don't feel bad about not having come out yet! you're allowed to progress on that journey as slowly or as quickly as you want. sending love to everyone!
i'm almost 14, and pretty sure im ready to come out soon, but earlier in the year my mom asked if my friend was bi, (she was, had told me like right before this) i told her no/i had no idea bc that wasn't my info to share and then asked me if i was, (i had been questioning my sexuality a lot at the time, super confused) i said idk and honestly told her that she had no right to ask me that
Thank you so much for this. I came out to my (also queer) cousin about a year ago and this year we had a plan to both come out to our other cousin together. However, I realized that I was not ready because I started questioning who I was again. She was also going to be the first person outside of my bubble that I would come out to and I really wanted to have that experience when I was ready for it, but I decided that I wasn’t ready yet. But, my cousin ended up outing me and telling her when I had told her repeatedly that I was not ready and I wanted to do it for myself. I’ll never get that experience back and even though she reacted in the best way I could have imagined, I wish I could have told her myself. I started crying when you were talking about when you got outed and you wish you could have done it yourself. I am so happy that I have at least a story that I can relate to and you are teaching a lesson to people everywhere that it is YOUR CHOICE when you want to reveal something so deep about yourself. Thank you for sharing all of your amazing content with us and educating the queer community on the important things.
AHHHH CAN'T WAIT FOR THE PODCAST!! Thank you mak for this video these tips are so useful. lolll I also have this one gay friend who spilled out my secret relationship in a Christian school to a friend was also in the school when I was dating. But thank God that friend is pretty cool about it. Had a serious discussion with my gay friend afterward, he felt really sorry and everything is fine now. I'm not planning to come out to my parents yet since I'm still financial depending to them, all the people in the family are so busy right now I don't want to make everyone to get so distracted from their work. Plus I don't have a girlfriend ;(( so I still don't feel like I NEED to come out to my parents yet
I found you randomly yesterday, and I love your channel! I'm questioning my sexuality at the moment, thinking I might be bi? Luckily, I know my family would be completely ok with it, I just want to be sure of what I am before I say anything. Anyways, thanks for the content, keep it up!🧡 Edit: I LOVE the idea of a podcast, I was walking my dog as i listened to this video, and i totally want more!
This sis kind of weird but thank you for acknowledging verbal abuse a lot of people don’t and it’s nice that you did it made me feel like i am valid so thank you so much
Mak I just want to thank you for this video. After watching it twice already I can tell it will be my new comfort video. I can’t even tell you how much you’ve helped me while I was struggling with my sexuality. I’ve come out to my household and some of my closest friends and I’ve been super lucky. Some of them might not fully understand yet but they are willing to try and support. I want to come out publicly but I’m nervous because I’m heading into my first year of highschool and I’m not going to know anyone there. I don’t wanna be made fun or for my sexuality. Especially when I don’t have anyone else who has my back. Another thing I’m super worried about is coming out as lesbian and then not being able to change my sexuality... I’m worried that if I wake up in a year from now and would wanna date a boy (which I don’t think I would) but that people would say I only came out for attention.... so is it best to just come out as bi??? I don’t know?!? :(
Good job Mak! We missed your Monday vid but we also understood. I hope your father opens up his heart one day & see you as the same daughter they raised, that nothing has changed in you, only your preferences. We love you!
I’ve been confused about my sexuality since middle school…I’m now 19 and still don’t know what I would “label” myself. I’ve felt attracted to all genders but it’s when it comes to the intimate parts of a relationship where I get confused. Recently I’ve been feeling like I’m more into girls but I really just don’t know anymore…
It's okay to not have it figured out! Something that I've been telling myself is that I'm more soul-sexual than anything, meaning that for me the most important part is who the person is and how we vibe rather than what they identify as, etc. If this mindset helps you to be okay with the uncertainty then I would encourage it, bc I know it's helped me, otherwise just go to where/who you feel drawn to, and don't worry about labels as much (:
@@hanquokkasan thank you for the advice! I have always felt the way you described. The problem is everyone I talk to (no matter their gender) seems to only care about sex, so I feel like I need to have it figured out because I have yet to meet someone like me who cares more about feelings and romance than sex
@@jessi8797 I'm so glad that you related to my comment! Sexuality is a very fluid and confusing thing especially in a society that puts so much emphasis on sex as you described. Just remember not to put too much pressure on yourself (: and don't worry there are many people out there like you, I would consider myself to be one of them, so just remember that you are not alone
True I do the same thing sometimes idk what's happening about me,.. but when I around the boz and dated them I don't feel in the right way I guess.. but also I'm not sure either if I was liked a girl .. all I wants is, welling about love and how greatful it is , it's not about just the sexuality :(
@Jessi You may want to look into asexuality/demisexuality to see if it similar to how you experience attraction. Having labels can be a good way to communicate how you feel/ find a community, but please don't focus on it too much. You are just you and that is perfect. I have the same experience as you and I got a lot happier when I decided to just...exist as me. Some people would just use the word queer (not meant as derogatory!) to explain this experience.
Hi, I wanted to make a note that it would be really better without background music, really-really It's becomes kinda hard to listen to a person while repetitive jingles are playing on a loop
I’ve been looking forward to this sit down video ever since first seeing the video you filmed w your mom in the kitchen as well as sharing about your dad finding out. Thanks for sharing with us!
I too follow several lesbian couples on TH-cam, my girlfriend of 9 years dislikes all social media, but I watch for a couple of reasons. I’m 31 and I came out to both my parents as a young teenager. My parents are not religious at all, and I’m beginning to think that might be one of the reasons my parents accepted me like it was no big deal at all. As a matter of fact, my dad thought it was great because I wouldn’t go through what he called “the horrors of teenage boys” 😉 and of course accidentally getting pregnant was out of the picture. Seems to me that when parents are religious types they are apt to see being gay as a “problem”, or worse, as a choice. 🙄 In school (I live in New Hampshire) everybody knew because no one seemed to care either way. I never cared who knew or who didn’t. When a new year started or a new guy would transfer in, I’d get hit on, just once, and friends would pull the guy away and say “she’s gay”, and every time all any guy would say is “okay. Cool”. I had girlfriends in school, we held hands, made out at the lockers or a football game, and acted like the “straight kids”. but 12 years out of school now it’s funny to see how many of my girlfriends went on to marry guys. Well, actually that’s not funny, it’s kinda sad for the girls I knew we’re not bicurious, (a few were) but too scared to come out so they bury it by getting married “like normal people”. That’s a lifelong sadness all because they refuse to risk contacts to bigoted family members being lost. If a family member is homophobic there is nothing you can do about it. For me, a cousin, aunt or uncle who didn’t like that a was 100% into girls, it was their problem not mine. Anyway, I’ve been following you on TH-cam for a few months now and I enjoy your videos. It takes a very responsible person to put yourself out there and especially to answer questions that you get from obviously young teenage girls that think they might be bisexual or lesbian. It’s a tough call to give advice to someone that young. You’re brave, and I respect that. 🌈✌️
Excellent video,very well put together and will be an enormous help to the younger members of your community, you really are an astonishing young woman.
This is the first video I've watched on your channel and I love it. I wish I had started watching you're channel earlier.. now I want to quickly go and check out your other videos.. love you💗💗
One of the first people I told that I was asexual was a gay woman I thought was my friend. But the first word out of her mouth was 'no'. And in my ensuing shock, she said a lot of really hurtful things that made me not want to come out to anyone else. But luckily for me, I have a strong mind and heart, and I speak my mind, and so I didn't let that fear stop me. But the biggest critics were the gay people in my life. It was insane! So if anyone is wondering, no, other members of the community are not automatically the safest people to tell. Sadly....
Always love hearing what you have to say Mak! I’ve come out to a lot of my close friends and you are so right about the confidence boost I thought I’d never be able to tell my sister and parents and actually ended up coming out to my sister the other night! Thank you for the content and making me feel like I have a place in this world! Also so exited for the new Podcast! Will you guys be doing a video and audio version? Or just audio? ♥️🌈
I pray one day I am safe enough to come out. I don't live in a home or a country where I can come out and love who I love :( It makes me feel really lonely sometimes knowing my family doesn't really know who I am. I have no idea how my parents would react if they found out I'm a lesbian and it's scary thinking about it especially because they're extremely religious. But I know someday I'll be on my own and independent enough to find my own happiness with people who will accept me for me. I'm still really young but your videos give me hope💖
i’m 16 years old and it’s been over 4 years that i’ve come out to myself and i still don’t think my brown family is going to be totally supportive of my sexuality. my mom is pretty chill but my dad isn’t. i think coming out would be a huge turning point in my life and so i’m always looking for excuses in order to delay it (ill come out when i get a gf) so should i or should i not get this over with? because there’s never going to be a “right time”
naur cus same- the tough part is not knowing how they'll react and its just like even if u come out to them and later u dont identify as the label u chose atm while telling them, it'll be rlly hard to go thru all over it again. its totally the same for me, im pretty sure my mum would take some time and get over it and be cool abt it(i hope) but my grandparents + dad are literally the definition of homophobia smh
there is certainly a right time, like when you're safe. personally i would wait until im no longer financially dependent on my parents before coming out if you think they may react poorly. once you've moved out / support yourself there's not much they can do. at that point if they accept you that's amazing and if not you can decide how to proceed and what kind of relationship you want with them if any on your own terms
i love this style of video it’s really easy to watch and feels super casual which is cool, for the future it would be a tiny bit better if the background music is a lil quieter, idk if it’s just me because i’m autistic but it makes it a bit hard to hear when you’re talking a bit quieter☺️
Hey Makayla, just wanted to comment on your video. I was actually raised in a Christian based family, and I was taught not to judge anyone by who they are or who they choose to be, I’m not implying that it was a choice for you by the way. I was taught that we are supposed to respect others, and not force anything on them. But yeah, just wanted to let you know that your awesome, and I love all your sense of humor
when i came out i was terrified, i came out to my best friend who i knew i could trust with anything, (she ended up coming out to me a few days after too). I slowly came out to a few more friends and they were all supportive! But it spread around that me and my friend were queer and we were made fun of a lot. But im so glad i have my best friend because we are like a team and we try to figure it all out together. 🏳️🌈
12:27 I just wanna let yall know that I have gone through the same thing. A person (confidential) who is elderly in my life is not willing to learn situations. It is a pain to go through that but just know that they are not gonna be in your life. Not just in coming out situations but generally in major decisions
I understand why you like girls, they are so beautiful). Therefore, I also like girls) You are a wonderful and good person. If you were my daughter, I would hug you and say that I love you. Your dad has no idea how lucky he is to have such a good daughter. It is sad that in my life I was not surrounded by such wonderful people like you.
I really appreciate this video. The only thing I'd like to comment on is your comment that "you'll never be done coming out." as a transgender woman, i'm not afforded the opportunity to come out necessarily because i usually get clocked as not the gender that i am. and that's common for many trans ppl.
Hey guys! Im gonna do my best to respond to as many comments as I can on this vide, I know a lot of you message me about struggling to come out and I can't respond to all of them but drop your questions below! :) Sending all of you love ❤️
João jespere que casa de famme João hoje Portugal e hoje
Best way to meet other lesbians?
João jespere que casa Portugal fretes para que haja uma vaga para 💟👩👧
Hey Makingemi you’re dad will come around eventually and hey it’s yours life as I see it love is love and do what makes you happy
I'm a 64 year old male who is not out.im afraid. To ...but I have joined a upscale gay dating service.i have met several men in the same situation. I was amazed at how many men r in this situation. I feel better now and have developed a relationship with one of them. It's great. Let me know what u think.
I have found my comfort character... It's you. Definitely
Same
"It was not it, chief" - hit the nail on the head lmaoooo
haha I try
“I don’t wanna kiss guys , I wanna kiss ….. you “ LMFAO
true tho...😳
@@Makingemi oh yes 😌😏
my lips always ready for Mak 😌🤣
@@rainbowsky9027 I know right
"New experiences whether good or bad always start out scary." That really resonates with me and is a good motivator in general and not even with just things related to coming out. When I'm trying to decide what to do, I need to remind myself of that because otherwise I'll never do anything. Thanks for sharing your story. 💛 Can't wait for the podcast!
I came out as a bisexual woman back in 2018. since I was a kid, girls had always attracted me in some way. once I put that label on myself I felt so comfortable and proud but I now realise that I was just "attracted" to fictional men and celebrities. it took me a while to accept it. I didn't know how to suddenly change my sexuality and have to come out all over again. my dad is also in the way, I feel like im disappointing him because I do not like men, I used to when I was bi, but now its 100 percent u know? its 2021 now and im still in this journey. its not easy for anybody. sexuality is fluid and who knows, maybe in a year or two im back to being bisexual or whatever. all I know is that I am proud to be a lesbian, and thank you to you for teaching to embrace it. you are one of the few people that have helped me find my true self this year, I love you. I feel understood and happy.
I won't lie, I needed this more than I realized. Thank you✨
I relate to these experiences. Being outed, the difficulty of coming out to friends and family (most specifically parents), coming out ten thousand times, facing religion and many more. Although conditions aren't always ideal for self expression, I'm just so damn thankful for creators who have made a safe space for LGBTQ+ youth. Not religious, but I believe there's light at the end of every tunnel and you will find your light ❤️❤️
YAY omg can’t wait for the podcast. thank you for these types of videos tho! i have been struggling with my orientation for a couple years now and it’s been taking such a toll, so i appreciate so much. all love
of course, I can't wait to bring you guys the podcast
the “problem” I have is that I simply don’t want to come out and be like “hey i’m gay” bc I feel like then there would be this pressure for me to get a girlfriend idk, and like I just want to start dating a girl and then say like “hey this is my girlfriend” but it’s pretty much impossible to have any girl interested in me as they don’t know that i’m gay aaahhhh i hate it here
Felt that hard
I came out by introducing my first girlfriend to my friends. For me it was easier that way than just saying I’m gay. Just know that having a girlfriend isn’t a stipulation of coming out or saying that you’re gay.
@@BRAMMA97 that’s exactly how I feel, that it’d be easier for me personally but yes you’re 100% right about that last part
Im stuck in the loop of 'closeted so don't know any gay people so don't go to gay bars so don't know gay women so extremely alone' lol. and also if you're not out you're not surrounded by people with your best interests (i have to pretend to be straight). \ugh
right and i don’t want to label myself because things might still change :/
Great video, it's never easy to come out and it can cause some rifts but in the long run your own happiness is always more important than whoever else you may upset. I haven't spoken to my father for 10 years and for the stuff he has said I won't ever forgive but I am so much more happier now than I was when he was in my life. Can't wait for the podcast, take care.
thank you for sharing this, sometimes its easy to get lost in the moment and we forget that in the ends, we have to live with ourselves and our decisions. if those decisions stand up for you and who you are, you will go far! :)
Being confronted by a truth that challenges your belief system doesn't vest you with the right to control another person's destiny, no matter the noblest intent of trying to do so. If you cannot understand atleast try being kind and supportive, it will be far more rewarding than breaking the spirit of someone who looks up to you.
The well rounded, realistic and practical advice based on and along with talking about a very crucial experience of life. I can completely relate to and agree with maintaining a healthy distance as the best approach to allow those close to us to choose to accept and make peace with what they no longer can try to control.
Wishing you the best ahead, and sorry for commenting so late, TH-cam decided to recommended it only now!
Taking down notes...
Also excited about the podcast!
me too! I'm so pumped!
"When you become a parent you are agreeing to love your child unconditionally..."
Major Shannon Beveridge vibes... hope to see yall work together some day😏🥰
I was going out with this girl and once I finally had the courage to tell my mom she just replied with “I know”… I guess that was a good coming out experience for me
Just hearing about the whole situation with your dad, and hearing how you have dealt with that and just those emotions it really is helpful to just understand or hear from someone with experience, that you can be who you are regardless. Your confidence in that regard is something i wish i had lol super helpful and uplifting💜
Can’t wait for the podcast! ❤️
me either!!!
🙌🏻🤍 wow! Im excited for the podcast 😍🤩
me too!!! more announcements to come :)
I should’ve known I was a lesbian when I would get in relationships with guys just because my friends said we would be a nice couple but also when I would tell my “boyfriends” to not show PDA or even speak to me in public.
Thanks for reminding me to drink water 😁...also congrats on 55K subs
thank you so much! I'm excited :)
I needed this, more than I can convey. Thank you for opening up and being a friend. 🤍
WHAAATTT A PODCAST ....OH MY GOD ...U JUST MADE MY DAY 🥰🥰
Listening to this is like talking with an older sister about this topic of coming out since I’m still like afraid of talking about my sexuality. Thank you this was comforting.❤️❤️❤️
Honestly, such great advice Mak! I had the same thing happen as you but I hadn't told anyone in school, everyone just started assuming it and I started getting bullied for being gay. Thankfully my friends and my younger sibling squashed the rumors and I was able to wait until moving out to explore that side of myself more and come out to more people. At 23 though, I still haven't "fully come out". And that's ok. It's a long journey to figure out and I was to reiterate exactly what you said : only you know when you are ready. Don't let anyone make that choice for you! 🌈🌈🌈🌈
Enjoyed your coming out video. I am an older male who has not come out. Your video is encouraging.
I’m not a huge podcast person but I will definitely listen to yours for sure! So excited!
I felt so heard and comforted while watching this, thank you so much!
Hello hope everyone is having a good day
you too! ❤️
Hey, thank you! Same for you!
YOURE SO FLIPPING BEAUTIFUL 🦋💙🦋
so sweet thank you :)
I feel like it's 2013 and I'm watching a baby Hannah coming out honest and genuine video this is lovely thank you
Mak, a podcast?? THAT'S AWESOME! Real excited!!!
Mak thank u so much for doing this!! you have no idea how much you're helping. this Thursday I tried to tell my father I was going on a first date with a girl I met through social media. it was scary because it could have been a catfish and I could have been unsafe, so I really needed my father's approval although I had my mom's already. it went awful. I was just starting to tell him about everything but as I said "someone" instead of "a boy" he immediately got mad and told me my brother and I are a disaster and that he wished he would have stayed single and never got married (so I wouldn't have born)... I felt so so so sad, I cried thinking of the reaction other parents have, that they say "you're the best thing that ever happened to me and that will never change no matter what", and there was my father who told me he wishes I was never born. I hope no one else has to go through anything like this. please listen to Mak when she says if you're not completely safe it's better not to tell. I wish I haven't told him. it sucks that you have to lie and maybe put yourself at risk or just go through this stuff alone because you can't count on your parents/family in general, but we can find a community and friends in social media and have support watching lgbt+ shows, movies... I hope whoever is reading this can find at least something good in their day today. I hope you can smile at least once. have a nice day, all the love from Argentina 💜
I recently go on a diet.
Probably because I really love your lifestyle,so I got the motivation for that.
Be save ❤️ love you,Grace & Mattea
whenever i watch ur vids, i get the butterflies in my stomach because of how cool you are. ilysm lolz
You change the world for good.
What more can a person want?
Keep it up!
i came out when i was like 13/14 because my mom asked me and i didn't want to lie to her, and it all went pretty well, but i still struggle with feeling comfortable with my sexuality because i came out before i was ready, so if you don't feel ready, don't feel bad about not having come out yet! you're allowed to progress on that journey as slowly or as quickly as you want. sending love to everyone!
i'm almost 14, and pretty sure im ready to come out soon, but earlier in the year my mom asked if my friend was bi, (she was, had told me like right before this) i told her no/i had no idea bc that wasn't my info to share and then asked me if i was, (i had been questioning my sexuality a lot at the time, super confused) i said idk and honestly told her that she had no right to ask me that
just wanted to thank you for your content, it has helped me feel comfortable with myself and my sexuality!!!:)
I wish I could be this open about being a gay guy it's depressing
your video is so calming thank you
Thank you so much for this. I came out to my (also queer) cousin about a year ago and this year we had a plan to both come out to our other cousin together. However, I realized that I was not ready because I started questioning who I was again. She was also going to be the first person outside of my bubble that I would come out to and I really wanted to have that experience when I was ready for it, but I decided that I wasn’t ready yet. But, my cousin ended up outing me and telling her when I had told her repeatedly that I was not ready and I wanted to do it for myself. I’ll never get that experience back and even though she reacted in the best way I could have imagined, I wish I could have told her myself. I started crying when you were talking about when you got outed and you wish you could have done it yourself. I am so happy that I have at least a story that I can relate to and you are teaching a lesson to people everywhere that it is YOUR CHOICE when you want to reveal something so deep about yourself. Thank you for sharing all of your amazing content with us and educating the queer community on the important things.
I have never been so happy and comforted by one TH-cam video I’m literally in tears right now thank you :)
AHHHH CAN'T WAIT FOR THE PODCAST!! Thank you mak for this video these tips are so useful. lolll I also have this one gay friend who spilled out my secret relationship in a Christian school to a friend was also in the school when I was dating. But thank God that friend is pretty cool about it. Had a serious discussion with my gay friend afterward, he felt really sorry and everything is fine now.
I'm not planning to come out to my parents yet since I'm still financial depending to them, all the people in the family are so busy right now I don't want to make everyone to get so distracted from their work. Plus I don't have a girlfriend ;(( so I still don't feel like I NEED to come out to my parents yet
I found you randomly yesterday, and I love your channel! I'm questioning my sexuality at the moment, thinking I might be bi? Luckily, I know my family would be completely ok with it, I just want to be sure of what I am before I say anything. Anyways, thanks for the content, keep it up!🧡
Edit: I LOVE the idea of a podcast, I was walking my dog as i listened to this video, and i totally want more!
This sis kind of weird but thank you for acknowledging verbal abuse a lot of people don’t and it’s nice that you did it made me feel like i am valid so thank you so much
Mak I just want to thank you for this video. After watching it twice already I can tell it will be my new comfort video. I can’t even tell you how much you’ve helped me while I was struggling with my sexuality. I’ve come out to my household and some of my closest friends and I’ve been super lucky. Some of them might not fully understand yet but they are willing to try and support. I want to come out publicly but I’m nervous because I’m heading into my first year of highschool and I’m not going to know anyone there. I don’t wanna be made fun or for my sexuality. Especially when I don’t have anyone else who has my back. Another thing I’m super worried about is coming out as lesbian and then not being able to change my sexuality... I’m worried that if I wake up in a year from now and would wanna date a boy (which I don’t think I would) but that people would say I only came out for attention.... so is it best to just come out as bi??? I don’t know?!? :(
You are such an incredibly inspirational person. The world needs more people like you 💌 sending so much love!
Good job Mak! We missed your Monday vid but we also understood. I hope your father opens up his heart one day & see you as the same daughter they raised, that nothing has changed in you, only your preferences. We love you!
I'm planning on taking steps to coming out so thank you for this.
@@ingridjordan5824 just make sure you're safe! Safety is definitely the #1 priority.
the idea of telling us that we can listen to the video in "podcast" mode I tried and really it was really successful I liked ❤️
wait wait wait im early??? you are literally my favourite content creator
thank you for the support! ❤️
I’ve been confused about my sexuality since middle school…I’m now 19 and still don’t know what I would “label” myself. I’ve felt attracted to all genders but it’s when it comes to the intimate parts of a relationship where I get confused. Recently I’ve been feeling like I’m more into girls but I really just don’t know anymore…
It's okay to not have it figured out! Something that I've been telling myself is that I'm more soul-sexual than anything, meaning that for me the most important part is who the person is and how we vibe rather than what they identify as, etc. If this mindset helps you to be okay with the uncertainty then I would encourage it, bc I know it's helped me, otherwise just go to where/who you feel drawn to, and don't worry about labels as much (:
@@hanquokkasan thank you for the advice! I have always felt the way you described. The problem is everyone I talk to (no matter their gender) seems to only care about sex, so I feel like I need to have it figured out because I have yet to meet someone like me who cares more about feelings and romance than sex
@@jessi8797 I'm so glad that you related to my comment! Sexuality is a very fluid and confusing thing especially in a society that puts so much emphasis on sex as you described. Just remember not to put too much pressure on yourself (: and don't worry there are many people out there like you, I would consider myself to be one of them, so just remember that you are not alone
True I do the same thing sometimes idk what's happening about me,.. but when I around the boz and dated them I don't feel in the right way I guess.. but also I'm not sure either if I was liked a girl .. all I wants is, welling about love and how greatful it is , it's not about just the sexuality :(
@Jessi You may want to look into asexuality/demisexuality to see if it similar to how you experience attraction. Having labels can be a good way to communicate how you feel/ find a community, but please don't focus on it too much. You are just you and that is perfect. I have the same experience as you and I got a lot happier when I decided to just...exist as me. Some people would just use the word queer (not meant as derogatory!) to explain this experience.
You are wise beyond your years. I wish there had been someone like you to help me decades ago.
Hi, I wanted to make a note that it would be really better without background music, really-really
It's becomes kinda hard to listen to a person while repetitive jingles are playing on a loop
I didn’t even notice 😂
IM SO READY FOR U AND MATTEAS PODCAST
I am the first one here...yeeee😁...best wishes to mak....i love ur vlogs.....and best wishes🥰🤗xoxo
thank you very much! so sweet :)
@@Makingemi welcm🤗love from india
Thanks For This Video
I’ve been looking forward to this sit down video ever since first seeing the video you filmed w your mom in the kitchen as well as sharing about your dad finding out. Thanks for sharing with us!
love love love this (so wonderfully authentic) & all your content! found u from tiktok & now I can't wait for your podcast :D
I too follow several lesbian couples on TH-cam, my girlfriend of 9 years dislikes all social media, but I watch for a couple of reasons. I’m 31 and I came out to both my parents as a young teenager. My parents are not religious at all, and I’m beginning to think that might be one of the reasons my parents accepted me like it was no big deal at all. As a matter of fact, my dad thought it was great because I wouldn’t go through what he called “the horrors of teenage boys” 😉 and of course accidentally getting pregnant was out of the picture. Seems to me that when parents are religious types they are apt to see being gay as a “problem”, or worse, as a choice. 🙄
In school (I live in New Hampshire) everybody knew because no one seemed to care either way.
I never cared who knew or who didn’t.
When a new year started or a new guy would transfer in, I’d get hit on, just once, and friends would pull the guy away and say “she’s gay”, and every time all any guy would say is “okay. Cool”.
I had girlfriends in school, we held hands, made out at the lockers or a football game, and acted like the “straight kids”.
but 12 years out of school now it’s funny to see how many of my girlfriends went on to marry guys. Well, actually that’s not funny, it’s kinda sad for the girls I knew we’re not bicurious, (a few were) but too scared to come out so they bury it by getting married “like normal people”. That’s a lifelong sadness all because they refuse to risk contacts to bigoted family members being lost. If a family member is homophobic there is nothing you can do about it. For me, a cousin, aunt or uncle who didn’t like that a was 100% into girls, it was their problem not mine.
Anyway, I’ve been following you on TH-cam for a few months now and I enjoy your videos. It takes a very responsible person to put yourself out there and especially to answer questions that you get from obviously young teenage girls that think they might be bisexual or lesbian. It’s a tough call to give advice to someone that young.
You’re brave, and I respect that. 🌈✌️
OH MY GOD MAK IM SO EXCITED FOR THE PODCAST so incredibly proud of you
I have a crush on my friend... idk what to do so thank you for making me feel good:)
Just scrolling through the comments a year later. What happened if u don’t mind me asking
OMFG IM SO EXCITED FOR YOUR PODCAST
So glad to see you have continued to make content. Your a wonderful sole. Take care.
Excellent video,very well put together and will be an enormous help to the younger members of your community, you really are an astonishing young woman.
I was just about to sleep and i get a notif so the obvious choice is to watch this video
haha sleep is important! but thank you 🙃❤️
@@Makingemi nah fam, watching your vid is more important haha, kidding but like kinda not 🤓
You’re next generation Shannon bev and I’m here for it
This is the first video I've watched on your channel and I love it. I wish I had started watching you're channel earlier.. now I want to quickly go and check out your other videos.. love you💗💗
Those kitchen lights are hilarious! 😂
One of the first people I told that I was asexual was a gay woman I thought was my friend. But the first word out of her mouth was 'no'. And in my ensuing shock, she said a lot of really hurtful things that made me not want to come out to anyone else. But luckily for me, I have a strong mind and heart, and I speak my mind, and so I didn't let that fear stop me. But the biggest critics were the gay people in my life. It was insane! So if anyone is wondering, no, other members of the community are not automatically the safest people to tell. Sadly....
thank you sm!! i needed to hear this. sending love back at you
Always love hearing what you have to say Mak! I’ve come out to a lot of my close friends and you are so right about the confidence boost I thought I’d never be able to tell my sister and parents and actually ended up coming out to my sister the other night! Thank you for the content and making me feel like I have a place in this world! Also so exited for the new Podcast! Will you guys be doing a video and audio version? Or just audio? ♥️🌈
I pray one day I am safe enough to come out. I don't live in a home or a country where I can come out and love who I love :( It makes me feel really lonely sometimes knowing my family doesn't really know who I am. I have no idea how my parents would react if they found out I'm a lesbian and it's scary thinking about it especially because they're extremely religious. But I know someday I'll be on my own and independent enough to find my own happiness with people who will accept me for me. I'm still really young but your videos give me hope💖
Thank you so much mak this video was so amazing because I was struggling so much today and this really helps
THANK YOU! My mom knows and she's awesome. I'm still working on telling my dad.
This is exactly what I needed to hear. Thank you for inspiring me!!
i’m 16 years old and it’s been over 4 years that i’ve come out to myself and i still don’t think my brown family is going to be totally supportive of my sexuality. my mom is pretty chill but my dad isn’t. i think coming out would be a huge turning point in my life and so i’m always looking for excuses in order to delay it (ill come out when i get a gf) so should i or should i not get this over with? because there’s never going to be a “right time”
naur cus same- the tough part is not knowing how they'll react and its just like even if u come out to them and later u dont identify as the label u chose atm while telling them, it'll be rlly hard to go thru all over it again. its totally the same for me, im pretty sure my mum would take some time and get over it and be cool abt it(i hope) but my grandparents + dad are literally the definition of homophobia smh
there is certainly a right time, like when you're safe. personally i would wait until im no longer financially dependent on my parents before coming out if you think they may react poorly. once you've moved out / support yourself there's not much they can do. at that point if they accept you that's amazing and if not you can decide how to proceed and what kind of relationship you want with them if any on your own terms
this is such a valuable video!! I wish I could have seen this when I was a kid.
U don't know how much i love you
Im turning 24 in a couple of months and still havent come out yet to my parents 😭 been gay since i was like 12 lol. Thanks Mac for this 💗
YES THANK YOU A PODCAST
i love this style of video it’s really easy to watch and feels super casual which is cool, for the future it would be a tiny bit better if the background music is a lil quieter, idk if it’s just me because i’m autistic but it makes it a bit hard to hear when you’re talking a bit quieter☺️
Woooww I relate so much to how you found out about yourself ☺ its a great feeling
You just became so much more relatable with your dad bit :(
Hey Makayla, just wanted to comment on your video. I was actually raised in a Christian based family, and I was taught not to judge anyone by who they are or who they choose to be, I’m not implying that it was a choice for you by the way. I was taught that we are supposed to respect others, and not force anything on them. But yeah, just wanted to let you know that your awesome, and I love all your sense of humor
Wonderful video you do have a nice voice very peaceful and helpful talk. Thanks
when i came out i was terrified, i came out to my best friend who i knew i could trust with anything, (she ended up coming out to me a few days after too). I slowly came out to a few more friends and they were all supportive! But it spread around that me and my friend were queer and we were made fun of a lot. But im so glad i have my best friend because we are like a team and we try to figure it all out together. 🏳️🌈
12:27 I just wanna let yall know that I have gone through the same thing. A person (confidential) who is elderly in my life is not willing to learn situations. It is a pain to go through that but just know that they are not gonna be in your life. Not just in coming out situations but generally in major decisions
I understand why you like girls, they are so beautiful). Therefore, I also like girls) You are a wonderful and good person. If you were my daughter, I would hug you and say that I love you. Your dad has no idea how lucky he is to have such a good daughter. It is sad that in my life I was not surrounded by such wonderful people like you.
It wasn't his secret to tell. But I'm glad you are talking about it so others can learn from that experience 🙂
amazing vidoei enjoy very cool proud of you pretty stuning queens
thank you :)
Thank you for this video
thank you for the video :), hope all is well with you. sending love xx
I can’t wait for the podcast :DDD
I really appreciate this video. The only thing I'd like to comment on is your comment that "you'll never be done coming out." as a transgender woman, i'm not afforded the opportunity to come out necessarily because i usually get clocked as not the gender that i am. and that's common for many trans ppl.
I’m actually kind of almost early for once
a podcast yaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaay
your eye color is so pretty
i am so proud of you
amazing video. relatable, great advice
thank you:)
Helping the next generation? Girl you’re helping your own generation too 🥲
Would you ever cut your hair short? Like “faded” short
hmmmm maybe :)
@@Makingemi if you do, bring us along to the barbershop :)
You don't need the approval of anyone except yourself