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I got really sick with the flu right after Christmas. These situations make you prioritize your health over everything else for without it you have nothing. This is a very timely video. Time to make healthy decisions to prevent burnout in the future.
Thank you Kalle for another beautiful video and for talking about the subject of comparing. I think everyone can relate to that in different degrees nowdays. And it takes away all the joy from creating. Even comparing yourself to yourself! You remember we spoke about that horrible top 10 list in the youtube studio, which always compare your latest video to your earlier videos. So many times I’ve lost the joy just because that list have told me that ”i was better before”. That is so heartbreaking, and it takes away the focus on what is truly important and why you are doing what youre doing in the first place. But social media is made to make us compare and get addicted and constantly chasing more. Im so glad to hear that you are taking action by stop following accounts that stresses you. I think just being concious about this and how it effects your wellbeing is such a good ”shield” to all the noise out there. And to get back in the heart. I so much admire you and Christine for the work you do and the life your are building together ❤️ In the midst of all the renovations and the new exciting chapter that will soon unfold in your life, I wish you a peaceful year ❤✨
First of all, thank you for taking the time to watch it ❤️ Exactly that top 10 list is the death of creativity! I absolutely hate it 😔 Agree, and its really hard to not look and compare because the apps are literally designed to keep us scrolling and looking. Thank you Jonna, that really means a lot 🥰❤️ I wish the same for you guys ❤️
I rarely give my very grown up children advice, unless they ask me. My experience is that this works best. I could give you some advice, but I am biting my tongue. Let it be enough to say that you are doing the very best you can do. Becoming a parent is one of the best things in life and with the first one there is a lot to learn. You will be alright. Support from others is of the greatest importance. Getting help with this new adventure is ok. Parents whom help in all kinds of ways. If that is not possible then friends need to step up and help with all kinds of jobs. Most important of all is that you stop that nasty voice in your head. You are not a piece of shit, unless you think of shit as in manure. Fertile and making things grow. How about that? Thinking of yourself as a fertile spirit who is doing his best and has been making lots of things grow! I hope this does not sound like advice. Take good care of yourself and your little family. Good luck with it
The first child is very special and will always have a special place in the parents' hearts. People say they love all their children equally. Yes, but the first one is special.
How do you think I should handle a parent who orders me around, judges, nags and believes she has the right to tell me how to live ever detail of my life ‘the right way’? I just realized, while reading your humanistic advice, that it has never occurred to me that parents could be any other way.
Don’t forget, Kalle, that you are nesting as well. It’s not just a mothering instinct. Not just to protect but to provide. It’s a very natural and masculine characteristic. My husband went through it as well. And you should rest without any guilt. My mother always said sleep when your baby sleeps. Best advice ever-for both parents when your little one arrives!
One of the reasons I follow you is not to get ideas for work or physical change, but to learn how to settle myself, how to prioritize my inner self, how to better manage my emotions. You bring me peace, even in times of your own pain. May 2024 be magical, peaceful, and filled with love. ❤
I remember when you taught me likes, subscribers, etc don't matter (entirely), it's your core audience that matter. The people who take the time to comment, watch every video and engage with your content. They will be with you regardless if you post less videos, or take a break. I also struggle with the feeling of needing to be super proactive on social media (I think all TH-camrs do) but sometimes I forget to focus the most on the core audience. I'm glad you've restarted your Patreon, they're the keepers, wholesome people who want to support you :)
Maaaaaan, can I relate to “supposedly relaxing times” get stressful because my shitty mentality of wanting to optimize everything. Taking it easy, watching TV, going for long walks, just relaxing is so hard at times. I really have to make it a point to not allow myself to try to work haha. It sucks. Definitely a problem.
Oh! Cmon, man! As soon as i heard you saying that you feel like you are piece of shit, i started to write this comment! Are you kidding me??? YOU ARE THE MAN! I know next words will be a cliche, but YOU are the inspiration to sooooo many! We are all in the same boat and we all feel like we are peace of shit every so often! What you are doing is so important! We are here for you and you are here for us!!! Much love, dear friend!
I had the same exact thing happen to me! I pushed myself so hard. Then I crashed in October and haven't been able to get much done since then. It's hurt my finances big time and also my emotional wellbeing. Lesson learned. Hope you feel better brother
I do have another suggestion for the water situation that could help now. Alaskans that are chopping through ice to get water often make a “spring box”. This is a wooden box that surrounds the opening to the water. It is heavily insulated. There is a insulated lid on top that is pulled off. Underneath, the water doesn’t freeze or only freeze a little. Much less effort to get your water.
Kalle, having a warm and cosy place for a baby is so important. I would start to isolate your cabin from outside. Even if this is another project... it would be my first one. Get help. Greetings from Germany and good luck for everything. Heidi
Love your honesty Kalle! I was like you 1,5-2 years back, could not sit still and felt lazy when I needed to just do nothing for an entire day. I almost hit the wall, and I'm still recovering from stress even though I didn't get totally burnet out (by that I mean not being able to get out of bed). But I believe that the more you rest the better you get at it. Now I rest most of my days to recover, and it's an absolute necessity and I no longer feel lazy. Regarding your bathroom, I wish you all the best and would love if there was some way to make a donation to you and your family to make your dream come true without having to commit to a monthly payment. Love from Linköping (south of Sweden) ❤
So much of what you said about not being able to rest is very relatable. I’m a stay at home mom and my home is my work. It’s like living at my office in a way, I’m always surrounded by my work. I can only manage to relax when I physically can’t do the work I need to do at home, such as when I’m not at home. Or sick. Recently I realized how bad things had gotten because I was stuck in bed with Covid and it was the least stressed I’d felt in a long while. Surely there are better ways of getting rest than being sick! In any case I hope you manage to find some healthy ways to let go and relax in the coming months so you can rest a little before the baby comes.
I just commented too. I am also a stay at home mom and homeschool 3 kids. Yes, it's like living in your office haha perfectly explained! I pray that you and I can find rest in our own wonderful homes without always seeing work. I hope you weren't totally overwhelmed after you got well again seeing all the things that needed to be done. Hehe
Kalle, saying 'no' to others is saying 'yes' to yourself. You are doing Brilliantly, remember that. It's winter, naturally we are supposed to do less, because of the weather. Taking time to rest on the sofa is actually good for you. Enjoy the silence and peace. Be kind to yourself. You are amazing! Thank you for your inspiration. 🙏🌞
Thanks so much for sharing this with us 🙏 It's so good to hear you are following your inner voice and doing what feels right for you at this moment. That is very inspiring and for sure the way to go. 👏✨ It's sad that many of us have this societal conditioning to constantly be productive and to keep pushing for achievemnets while many times this is on the expense of our mental health and happiness. I hope 2024 will be for you and the rest of the people in this community a more balanced and aligned with what really matters to us in life. 🌲☺
@@KalleFlodin What goes around comes around ☺I could say the same for your content, it brings a lot of positivity, inspiration and it's like a fresh air of breath in this chaotic world. 🙏🌲
I found myself nodding along to so much of this video, Kalle, especially the part about trying to relax and feeling guilty about not getting things done. I felt guilty over my Christmas holidays about not relaxing "correctly." Like if I scrolled on my phone I was annoyed with myself that I wasn't reading a book. Definitely get that water well dug. Simple living shouldn't mean going without modern innovations. If you're having to work so hard just to drink water or take a shower it's probably taking away from all the other things in the area you could be doing or the projects that make your heart sing.
I feel that the most important for your family is to get running water in the house. I think this will make your life much more enjoyable ❤❤❤. Good luck, joyful and happy year!
I fully understand what its like living with no bathroom or running water. Im 70 years old and have always lived in a modern house with all convenience's. But there came a time I could no longer live in my big house alone. My son living 1000 miles away built me a tiny cabin on his property, summer of 2022. It was quite the challenge with no running water and no bathroom. Also living far north of the USA ,my first brutal winter. ( a bathroom with running water was under construction to my Tiny cabin, but wouldn't be working until the summer) that was a wonderful year with special memories. But Im from south of the USA, and needed my southern roots. The Tiny cabin is now a summer place. I spend my winter months back to my house in the deep south. ...May I suggest a bedside toilet for indoor use for Christine, (one of the medical type) they are quite inexpensive. I had one "inside my cabin" before the bathroom was built, and it was a life saver for me. Just a thought until she gets her real bathroom? .... Congratulations on all new things to come. keeping you in my prayers. ox
I suspect your feelings are deeper than you might think. Feeling like you always have to improve, not being or doing enough. Realising is a necessary and important first step. I would look into the "why". Each time you answer, ask yourself again "why?". There is a good chance it will take you back to your childhood.
I feel all the feelings you do. It amazes me. Even though I knew that I wasn't the only one in the world to compare with others on social media, I did feel like I was alone feeling like sh%t trying to relax/can't stop thinking of all the things that I need to do etc. I haven't been able to read a chapter in a book or sit still to watch an episode of a series without getting up and completing something so I continue to feel productive. This has gone on for years--I'm 59. I am so glad to hear you are figuring this out earlier than I. Thank you for being honest with your feelings and sharing them. I feel a sense of freedom knowing that I'm not alone and that there are ways that I can deal with it--unfollowing accounts etc. Resting more and being more present in my life and surroundings is my top priority for 2024.
Kalle it makes perfect sense to make changes to your cabin so it fits what you need for your family. Its also your cabin, so making changes is entirely up to you (and Christina) and no one else. I have never lived in temperatures as cold as that, but having a more reliable water source, especially with a baby, and having the room you need as your family grows is really important to be able to stay there. I hope you manage to make the cabin stay warmer for you as that is going to be so important for the baby. But its also important to have work/life/rest balance so again I hope you manage to make that happen x
You’re in great company ! I have the same struggle. Yes. Please rest NOW ! Prioritize and ask for help before your child arrives. There will be time later to hustle.
You are so honest and authentic. I feel like a lot of content creators get caught up in making the content and create an ego. You are just yourself and that’s really refreshing. It sounds like you are making such positive changes and prioritising for the arrival of the little one! What an exciting new chapter. So happy for you !
Dear Kalle, hopefully you will read my message. Please, make a handrail for Christina on your staircase. She, or you, will be walking up and down with your baby boy. It is always a danger walking with a child on your arm and being able to hold yourself. Please. I have 4 children, I know what I am talking about 🙏🏻🕯️❤️
Kelle I am so happy to hear that you are going to push back your course. You will be more available for you family and that is MORE important and they WILL need you!
my word of 2024 is relax, stop taking life so seriously, and learn how to just be present. I have always worked hard, like you, set my own terms and I too am burnt out. I have also unsubscribed to topics and people who no longer serve me. my inbox is almost empty and I love it. I love you and Christine, Jonna Jinton and Johan, and Talisbuan....you are worth my time and its so relaxing to watch you all. Take care, love from AZ😎❤
Another great video 🎉 this winter in the UK I bought a storage box which we put outside and filled it with food items that can stay outside in the cold 🥶 and lasts longer as storage inside is always limited….. children are a blessing….. the main thing with newborns is to rest when they rest… they love closeness and warmth and comfort …… my 2 would sleep for hours… it used to worry me but with time I realised they were amazing babies who slept most of the day and alllll night…. Never had sleepless nights…. journal the journey of being new parents with photos too… to be able to look back and reflect…. Love journaling ❤🎉❤…memories are everything in life…
Just before this video I did the same - I unfollowed everyone that I Compare my life with and it brings me down and not feeling enough. To help me focus on my life and what I want not what I think I should want or do because someone I admire.
I think what you're saying about pushing yourself too hard, is so true for a lot of us. We compare ourselves all the time, and that's something that so easily gets worse due to social media. Even though I make videos myself, and am on social media that way... I'm the first to admit that social media can be very toxic. I think it was brave of you to unfollow similar channels, and I hope 2024 will be a year when you feel better! ☺
Thank you Kalle for these gentle reminders about the pressures we put on ourselves... definitely can relate with our little offgrid project and aspirations as well...
Looking at your fireplace it definitely requires some improvements. For example take a look at the Russian masonry fireplace and in particular Kuznetsov stove (and its many variations) for heating (I have build one and have video on my channel). Considering the fire-keeping regime (over the harsh winter season) you have, it will be a lot more efficient in burning and retaining heat. Also about your water concerns, have you thought about having a 10-20 m3 water storage (from your stream, rain), which clearly will need to be subgrounded (as not to freeze) connecting it to the house and using a simple hand-cranked pump to draw the water. It could be a considerably more cost effective method then drilling.
Ah, that was soul soothing! THANK YOU Yes on letting go of pressure. Yes to journaling. Yes to do things differently. ❤ Your Videos have such a positive impact on my and I am sure on many other peoples life. The struggles are real and we can grow. The Nesting before the Baby comes is a labor of Love. Truly. Make your experiences however, everyone has an opinion... Enjoy the adventure. Much Love from Nuremberg, Germany
Journaling is a brilliant idea. I kept an online diary for like 5 years and recently I decided to re-read it from the start. I was in absolute shock and horror when I realized while reading it how for the past 2 years or so I pored hatred on myself basically none stop. Being angry with myself, insulting for smallest mistakes. I was bullying me. It was an eye opener. I had to work on re-wiring how I think and talk to myself. So yeah, journaling can do amazing things for you.🌟
Hi Kalle--Pacing yourself and not spreading yourself too thin with too many projects sounds like smart self care to prevent burnout. I wish you a Happy New Year 2024! Jenny
I am feeling so sorry to hear that you wanted to be, I don’t know who because, you are awesome and very special! I enjoy and admire you for you and your lovely lady! We, many times don’t see what others go through and in fact we all go through the same! Please stay who and what you are, you are Awesome! I watch your channel because of you being you!! You and your lady are awesome ❤
We have been remodeling a old farmhouse. I needed storage for food. I found a old armoire, we added shelved. It made a beautiful pantry. No mice can get in and it looks nice. Also, don't worry so much. Take your time. One step at a time. It all takes time. Enjoy every moment, you have some beautiful times coming! I raised 5 babies. All they want is your love. ❤
Yeah, not a y tuber, but i started unsubbing to loads of channels, it was too much . I have decided to read again, an hour every evening. Much more calm and less filled with social media anxiety
well done Kalle. listen to yourself, your body. you've got this. just BE. you don't always have to be doing. took me 57 years to finallly get that, and once your little boy arrives that will be the most important thing you can teach and share with him.
I understand about being addicted to being busy. To work on fixing this, I now say every day during my morning prayers and meditation, I am enough. I do enough. I have enough.
I'm going to offer a different comment from a different perspective, Kalle. I play the Grass is Greener on the other side of TH-cam, also. I find all these great projects and ideas and I literally stress myself every day if I should be accomplishing more. I live in the US. When I watch your videos, however, you instantly settle me down and don't let myself get freaked out or overwhelmed. I think the reason is because of your soothing, non-judgemental style. It helps me go inside myself and feel good about the world. Here is this guy, living in Northern Sweden in a cabin with a partner and it feels absolutely beautiful. I realize you have struggles, but the way you go about life and relate to it is very soothing and helpful. I know weird, yes. But you offer hope. Hope for the rest of us to get out of this rat race(especially in the US) and be more free. Thank you for a great channel and I wish you and your family the best this coming 2024. I know you will do it.
We are always much harder on ourselves than others would be or like you said, what we would accept from someone else expecting from us. You guys are doing things our great-great-great grandparents had to do on a daily basis, albeit with some modern day frills, it's still a lot more than what we're all used to...physically and mentally and with a new baby on the way the pressure is multiplied several times. Back in the day people added rooms onto their homes as needed so there's no reason it can't work for you guys. I constantly have to remind myself to take on one thing at a time...make a list in order of importance and if there's a delay that's out of my control on one item I can move onto the next thing until the previous one can be worked on again. Give yourself some grace and make sure to take time to enjoy your lovely girl, the pregnancy, and this new life you're bringing into the world...time is fleeting and the little moments are the ones that stick with you and make you smile when you're older and least expect it. It took me a while to figure all that out but at 63 I feel confident in giving you that little bit of advice😉. I wish all the best and will keep watching to see how it all works out.
I'm 23 and have a 2 year old daughter now. Becoming a mom really forced me to look at how I prioritize taking care of myself and how that directly impacts my baby. After giving birth, I felt very guilty about resting and being "lazy" even though I couldn't walk lol. Being a parent forces you to work on this and helps you incorporate rest into your hourly life with a newborn. The important thing is to look at what you value right now, and that is renovations and time with your girlfriend and baby boy when he comes. I promise that when your baby arrives, the only important thing in your mind will be spending time with him, sleeping and helping your girlfriend. Parenthood completely changes your priorities. Yes other things are still important, but the baby will always come first. But in order for the baby to come first, rest for you will become high on the list of things to do daily. You cannot be a good father and boyfriend without as much rest as you can get in the newborn stage, which won't be a lot lol. You'll swe your girlfriend go through post partum, breastfeeding, healing from birth and see how much rest will benefit her mind and body to have a level of homeostasis during a time of big change. You also deserve this rest because you're going to be a huge support to your new family. Make a list of the most important things you need to get done before the baby comes, water, kitchen etc and then let everything else be. A good question to ask yourself is "what do I want to model to my son about work and rest?" Do you want your son growing up with a dad passing out from exhaustion? Or a dad who works hard, spends time with family, and allows himself to decompress?
I have been journaling since the 1970s. Included in my journals is gratitude, ie... the weather, the positive events of the day, goals to accomplish, even what I eat. It is also a great way to monitor your health. Enjoy your remarkable journey in 2024 everyday will be a great gift of joy!
Hi from Canada 🇨🇦! You and Christina will get through this! You both will be great parents and everything will fall into place! Right now it’s ok to ask for help with renovations! You and Christina make a great couple. She is an amazing lady and a special gift ❤for you on this journey! And just around the corner you both will be given another gift! Many are praying for you, Christina and the family you will have!
I rarely comment on yt videos, but I feel like I really need to do it now. I’ve observed that whenever I’m feeling down and behind in my life, I look for comfort in your videos. You are such a genuine person on this platform, you don’t try to avoid talking about the harsh truth and it makes your stories very relatable. I always get a feeling of hope after watching your videos. And this feeling gives me motivation to also continue my own work. I wish you all the best! 💚
The path of learning is a beautiful one, there are no rules or right and wrong. Our minds can tell us stories we don’t need to listen to. ❤ This is a beautiful time and we never think we have enough.
Kale I have just stumbled across your channel and I love it!!! I love how you are working through your feelings. Like being overwhelmed or not being productive enough. You have the most serene spiritual place on earth to reflect and journal!!! I absolutely love your life!!
du vill göra det rätt, du vill göra det bra... det är underbart! var mer överseende med dig själv! Hela ditt liv förändras. En ny person kommer till dig! ett nytt stort ansvar
I have the same mouse problem. I bought used gallon jars from the Amish and kept so much in them to keep the mice out. It's a life saver. I keep grains , flour etc. In them.
I have unfollowed many creators for the sake of my mental good health and it has worked out well. Good for you for looking out for yourself and your family. This social media concept is new for all of us, it’s definitely a new frontier. At 69 years young, I’d say less is more. Keep making good decisions on your awesome journey.
The cure for being overwhelmed is to set priorities. Yes, water is a top priority. Insulation would go a long way to keep the house warm without exhausting yourself. Bathroom, yes! It will take time. You can only do so much at a time.
It’s good that you have recognized that you are being too hard on yourself . Life is very up and down . Take the time the rest when you can and get help where you can as well . Many people struggle with turning your mind off . Remember you are not alone in these struggles . Your A frame is looking beautiful . And getting running water will change your life for your family . Thank you for sharing all that you do with the world . I hope you and Christine and your son have many happy years in that cabin in the woods.
I feel you so much. I´m self-employed with my own small crafts business as instrument maker and related jobs around it, and I feel I can never ever really relax and let loose, even when watching a movie. My mind goes round and round and I feel bad although I am pushing myself to my absolute limits all the time. It´s a real challange to develope a healthy balance for yourself without comparing non-stop (feel also stressed out when watching other instrument makers and what great ideas they have and how productive they seem to be and how well they present themselves on social media blablabla). It´s hard to stay true to ourselves, finding out what keeps us healthy and happy and not jumping on the train of higher, faster, better. Hugs from Stockholm.
Im going on 27 and I have had a journal that ive been planning on writing in for 6-8 months now and I still havent started it. Maybe ill start sometime soon? :D I know im a big procrastinator, so I really got to push myself to be consistent with it. Thanks for reminding me haha Edit: Also Kalle, I think you need to stop going crazy with projects and just take a breather, relax before the baby comes and just enjoy your time because everyone is right, you wont get that time back. Go on some long walks, write more and just show us how you do it and enjoy the peace and quiet while it lasts. Im certain you will be a great father!
Yes you are right about the journal, it not helps only yourself it can also help your children and grandchildren to get a true picture of the life in passed times ❤
I have struggled with being productive my whole life. I felt the same when i retired. Only in the past year have i learned more about intentional living. Im slowing down a bit, learning to say no. You will be an awesome dad.
You did the right thing. Never compare yourself to anyone else. It is fine to look at others for inspiration, if their goals are the same as yours. But everyone has different goals, abilities, and motivations. We can only do what what we can and that means judging ourselves by our own standards. I have only seen a few of your videos, but if I compared myself to you, I would be very sad because I would have liked to live as you do, but could never have pushed myself to do it.
I would be sad if I compared myself to his life because I would be absolutely bored out of my mind. He said he unfollowed everyone. I’m trying to understand Why would someone else’s happy life make him unhappy? They have their own life and he has own life. We all live different lives. I live in NYC where I am so spoiled to have everything I need at the tip of my fingers. I wouldn’t want it any other way! Is it because he don’t want to question himself ? About if he is making the right decision for him and his family. I never understand why people isolate themselves from the entire world. It’s ok if it’s your choice. However, to bring children up in an isolated place with no peers or relations from a young age. I feel is selfish and setting them up for a fall when they get older and you or your wife are no longer around. They will not be 100% prepared to deal with life in every setting. I would absolutely lose my mind if I lived in such a desolate place. So far away from civilization. What if they had a medical emergency like a stroke or heart attack? Or any other medical emergency? Emergency personnel will never get to them in time. Looks pretty, but I will pass on it.
Thank you for sharing. I totally relate. I nearly burnt out in December after pushing myself to finish writing my new book for performers. After finishing the content, I gave myself permission to stop and rest. I just have to go over the final edits from the proof reader and finish the cover, then I can publish it. I will start that in the next couple of weeks. Well done for giving yourself permission too. It’s a courageous thing to admit publicly how hard you've been pushing yourself. Hope you have a wonderful year at a much slower pace 🌻🙏🏼🌟
I can totally get pushing one's self too much. I did this to myself as well, so taking time over the holidays to rest and relax was just what I needed. Taking time to rest is so important, just as important as actually doing more active things. Btw, just signed up for your Patreon. Happy to do a small part to help you. :)
💙🩷💙🫶🫶🫶🙏✝️✌️☮️awesome video. I totally agree with you. Do what makes you happy. Trying to keep up with everyone else is impossible & exhausting. Re charge when you need to. Be happy with your life. We’re empty nesters. our daughters are all grown up. They’re both enjoying their life’s. Doing what makes them happy. We’re here for them. If & when they might need us. 😊😊Take care. Enjoy! 💙🩷💙🫶🫶🫶✌️☮️✝️🙏😊😊😊
I admire that you are flexibly minded and that you can upgrade and improve the cabin for your expanding little family ❤️ I love seeing the improvements, and look forward to following the well story and making your cabin nicer. It’s great that you’re not stubbornly stuck to an idea of having it as simple as possible. Each improvement you make will give you more time to do other things you enjoy as well!
I live in a secluded cottage in Northern Ontario, Canada. I have all the modern conveniences including Starlink and grid electricity. But I can also heat with wood. I have many chores. Doing the chores outside improves my mental health. And yes, absolutely journaling is a huge help. I’m excited for you guys.
Your cabin is lovely! It is yours! You do what you want and need! It is a very special place. Your home with Kristine. You shouldn't have to explain reasons for doing what you are doing. When we are overwhelmed, feeling stressed, and pressures, it is time step back , reevaluate what's important and who is important. Time to rest, tune the world out, and search your heart. I saw a quote yesterday. It said, "I go to the forest to loose my mind and find my soul." I'm 72, I've had to do just that. You are wise. Trust yourself. Happy New Year! Kathy J
Listen to your heart and body and mind…….new parenthood is a life changing thing for BOTH of you. Take that seriously…..and ENJOY it…..they will never be that age again! Dont pass it off too quickly.
I like watching “my/our biggest mistakes” videos. Or “how I figured out” videos. The first are helpful when I’m mulling a project. The second are reassuring that we all have mental blocks or overcomplicate matters.
So proud of you! Wonderful revaluations for 2024. Thank you for sharing. Know you are not alone; we all experience similar challenges. The journal makes my heart sing 😊. I do that as well, and it has been incredibly valuable. Cheers to a great new year!
Your complete honesty about struggling with your personal expectations of yourself is refreshing. It seems you have given careful thought to the changes you want (and need) to make in 2024. It sounds like you are both eager and uncertain about what it will be like to have a "baby" in the home. These couple of years watching your videos on TH-cam have been delightful for me personally--particularly your relationship to the two dogs. I hope they remain an important part of your identity as an individual...and a man. I have seen "couples" attempt to come together around a child with one of the partners forcing their ideas and wants on the other and overwhelming their personal sense of self. It will be a transformative year and I hope to share it with you here on TH-cam. Bravo and the best.
Kalle, the struggle is real, I feel it too. Being your own critic to a high level, and a perfectionist too. We tell ourselves that we need to do more, better, faster, etc etc. Why? Why? The upside is that we "only" have to change our own mindset. Taking charge. Lucka till!!
I was happy to hear you made the decision to slow down with course. You’ve become a family, nothing better to do in the world❤ Take time to Enjoy every moment of it. Much love and appreciation for your channel
have you considered a diesel heater. These are used mainly in campervans and trucks, but more and more people are fitting them in their homes. The initial outlay is affordable, easy to install. Our son has just fitted one in his tiny home which is off grid and he is more than happy with it, instead of having to light the fire for some heat at the end of the day working. Now he uses the remote control and switches it on in bed so as he can get up into a warm room.
Hello Kalle, I wish you and your family (also little baby boy) a happy, healthy, joyful and satisfied 2024. Too much social media destroys people IMHO and we all should look a bit more on ourselves and the people (directly) around us. Enjoy the year and don't pressure too much yourself. When I look back and reflect I know that sometimes we should all focus more on "living" as live can be over every day - I think a good mixture of progressing and living is the best but we are all ourself responsible for that.
Hello Kalle, I enjoy your videos. And want to help you with drinking water. You can actually use a few branches to fill the hole in the ice and cover it with snow. It helps to slow down the freezing. Used by ice fishermen. :) Just remember to put there some flag to find it again precisely.
Wise words, Kalle! It is spot on that we are comparing each other continually and social media enhances this trend. I must say sometimes I feel overwhelmed by your brave lifestyle and watching your videos I may feel inadequate for not carrying my water in from a nearby well or lake and for craving for hot showers instead of rolling in the snow. But, luckily, I'm in the middle of my middle age and it's easier to set things in proportion. :D So, less comparing is so-so much more valuable living. Glad to hear you're having a bathroom, though! A baby is not just a change, it is a transformation. Your lives will never be the same again as it will be a learning journey: you teach your child and your child teaches you. In a couple of years when the tiredness is easing off you'll know. Essential that you let your inner boss for a long holiday as the baby will keep you active just by her/ his existence. And look! You have achieved so much, your have a glorious life of your dreams. Pat yourself on the shoulder and honor all you hard work. You have everything you need. The big lovely forest will protect you and you will have the trees and the stars and the snow to silence your inner voices which do no stem from love. Love is the answer. Whichever way you look at it and whatever answers you're looking for it is always, always, always all about love. With flying colors into the new year, Kalle and family!
Hi Kalle, this really renosates with me.I watch you sometimes and today I needed to comment. I was originally from America, raised by a father that would make negative comments every time I sat down, if I watched tv, as a kid he called it the idiot box, cleaning was never good enough. I grew up to be type A perfectionist, always criticizing myself that I was never doing enough. At one point I had a 2 year old 10 year old worked full time (40 to 50 hours a week, 2 hour daily commute when there wasn't snow or black ice) I was in college full time nights 3 nights a week for 5 hours each night, top student deans list, and if that wasn't enough a full old house renovation self done. A very difficult partner to boot. I broke up and eventually moved to Northern Europe for a better quality of life, which in many ways it was. But I never could run away from the pressure I put on myself. At 50 I almost died from this mental lifestyle. Finally I sold everything moved to Portugal, retired early and trying to build a quiet off grid life outside a small city in the interior of the country. I have had alot of set backs, crooks in construction, not built up my off grid fantasy I had in mind yet. But I did finally learn to say no, learn to fight for myself and kick people out of my life if they aren't good for me. While I can love and respect others, I come first, I love myself first, then give to others but never at the expense of myself or a partner. This weekend my partner said it was crazy camping in the mountain at night it was cold. I told him, amore look at the beautiful sunny morning we woke up to. I said I didn't come here to live inside, I need nature year round. I said I go with or without you, my preference is with, so we get you better prepared, I want you to please take my advice next time when I say bring everything wool, because I was cozy all night. He agreed to try again. You can give to your family Kalle, but if you don't care for yourself mentally you won't be able to care for yourself or others physically. I know we can all tell you these things, but only you can make that switch in your head. If you want to compare yourself to others start with how much you accomplish compared to others in town switching on heat and water. It is how I finally started feeling good about myself and how I got my Dad to stop criticizing me. How many women immigrate alone at over 40, learn 3 languages 3 dialects of those languages, buy a home then sell and move again to another completely different type of country and live mortgage free at 55. I say to myself without help I was able to immigrate and build a better life than those who grew up in both countries I have lived in. This was not to insult them, as I only said this to myself, but to build myself up. Enough ranting. Well one last thing, it is great to see a man speak so openly about his struggles seemingly without shame, I guarentee you are helping alot of men out there. Good luck in the coming weeks and thanks for this video, a great reminder to myself.
You, Kalle, have reached a lot since the day you decided to live your life different. A lot, and you created a beautiful life for your own, Christine, the dogs and the little baby to come. So all I can tell you is - there is nothing wrong. I envy you, not for any physical things, but for this brave desicion you made some years ago, to live your life the way YOU want it and not everyone else is telling you. I envy you, because I haven't been brave enough to do something like that my whole life😔
You have come so far and achieved so many things! Try to breathe and think of your successes when you feel that you are "wasting" time. You will find the time and the strength to continue (even with the child). Love yourself and this beautiful gift you two are about to receive. All the best, Kalle!
I live in Minnesota, in U.S.A. when my husband & i were first married, we lived in unheated farmhouse. It was heated with 2 woodstoves. Our kitchen and bathroom were next to each other and our lower big woodstove kept both warm & prevented the pipes from freezing. We lived in a town, so more amenities were available. We switched to furnace when our twins were born. We did remodel our bathroom because it was poorly insulated. Good luck keeping up with things. Can i suggest a few things: 1. Insulate the important rooms only. 2. Add a wood room in your cabin- ours held 1 1/2 pallets of wood. We kept 3 pallets of wood outside too. This way you have a constant supply readily available. Then you won't need to go get wood everyday. Make sure the inside wood is cut to fit your stove doors. 3. Cover your current water hole with pine bushes which will help insulatie it too. 4. Get a good soapstone for the top of your wood stove and bake bread there. Rustic loaves are easier. 5. Remember you are in charge of your own destiny. I'm 67 years old and that was a perfect lifestyle for my life when i was 25-34 years old. I may not live completely like that but i still grow my own crops and purchase locally & organically.
Self inflicted pressures for sure. I went through that phase as well in my 30s. I'm almost 50yo and really value down time equally as what I produce, pacing myself and not comparing. I use TH-cam to motivate not compare, aware of my own limits. Society values productivity, but we don't have to be robots. Canadians love you. You are awesome. Thank you for sharing.
Ok re convo, but I don't know how to talk overseas to someone. Not sure if it will work, time difference, I have country WiFi re not reliable, do I need a lot of data? Can't see telegram bit anymore
I used to be just like you ..couldn't stop thinking I need to be productive...it took time, but I just keep reminding myself that I don't have to hurry thru life anymore and then I set limits on my projects per day and slowed down. I try to do one think that makes me Happy everyday and someday I just rest.
Kalle, you are burned -out. I have gone through what you are saying. You feel overwhelmed with everything you need to do or you say to yourself I should be doing this…….. You are stressed out. You are doing the right thing by just concentrating on one project at a time. Give yourself permission to have time to relax and be guilt free about it. You have the support of your family and friends. Take care. Joyce😊
Even if our western world tells us that getting a baby is no big deal (you instantly can go back to work after it) it is a big deal. So I congratulate you very much on the fact that you are making the decisions you make and take the time it needs to adapt to this change mentaly and spiritually. Kids are awesome!
This video just provided answers to questions going on in my mind for a couple of days now. Indeed, we always find ways how we can improve ourselves but not to the point where we are going to feel that we are competing with everybody else. Thank you
I enjoyed this video because I have experieced many of your thoughts. The difference is that I just retired. I realized that my whole life was managed from outside myself: parents, school, job. Now I must manage myself, ballancing new activities in a rural setting, new time frames, my emotional and creative responses to it all. It has been a big learning curve and do not see an end to that. And I am happy about it being this way. So drop the "shit" nickname and keep going and learning. Georgia
Woow, Kalle😢 Don't do the same mistakes like me. I have been sick with stress for years now, because I have been pushing myself for too long. And now it effect my body so much that pain is an everyday companion. And my hormon levels flys down up and down like it want basicly😢 So please, do take care of yourself. The same goes for everyone else who reads this. Your body and mind are precious, love it and care for it❤
don't worry about what everyone else is doing,( or not) online. Do what you can for your family & " take care of your own back yard" .esp. w new baby on the way.
Self compassion & self kindness is a good choice! If your head is spinning try progressive muscle relaxation exercises. I’ve kept a gratitude journal - but the key is tell myself it’s ok not to HAVE to enter daily, just specifically when I feel gratitude. Even if I see something God created for me to enjoy that day. I only enter in point form & often leave my book open to remind to look for gratitude. PS illness has forced me to learn to be ok with rest & be less productive 🇨🇦 ❤
I relate to this so much and I actually unfollowed most artists on social as well because of that feeling you described. I personally always ended up spiralling into "everbody else is doing so much more than me" which ultimately had me doing nothing except having anxiety and it sucked all the creativity out of me. I wish so much there was a world where you could just create without social media but unfortunately, I don't think this is going to happen.. but the balance is what you need to master in a way.
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Happy New Year from
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I got really sick with the flu right after Christmas. These situations make you prioritize your health over everything else for without it you have nothing. This is a very timely video. Time to make healthy decisions to prevent burnout in the future.
You should also plan like a World War could occur, very sorry to say.
How do you have power? I am off grid but not able to have so many lights on.
In Reno, Nevada mountains where I am….80-100,000.00 to drill a well.
Thank you Kalle for another beautiful video and for talking about the subject of comparing. I think everyone can relate to that in different degrees nowdays. And it takes away all the joy from creating. Even comparing yourself to yourself! You remember we spoke about that horrible top 10 list in the youtube studio, which always compare your latest video to your earlier videos. So many times I’ve lost the joy just because that list have told me that ”i was better before”. That is so heartbreaking, and it takes away the focus on what is truly important and why you are doing what youre doing in the first place.
But social media is made to make us compare and get addicted and constantly chasing more. Im so glad to hear that you are taking action by stop following accounts that stresses you. I think just being concious about this and how it effects your wellbeing is such a good ”shield” to all the noise out there. And to get back in the heart.
I so much admire you and Christine for the work you do and the life your are building together ❤️ In the midst of all the renovations and the new exciting chapter that will soon unfold in your life, I wish you a peaceful year ❤✨
First of all, thank you for taking the time to watch it ❤️
Exactly that top 10 list is the death of creativity! I absolutely hate it 😔
Agree, and its really hard to not look and compare because the apps are literally designed to keep us scrolling and looking.
Thank you Jonna, that really means a lot 🥰❤️ I wish the same for you guys ❤️
Completely agree with Jonna :)
I rarely give my very grown up children advice, unless they ask me. My experience is that this works best. I could give you some advice, but I am biting my tongue. Let it be enough to say that you are doing the very best you can do. Becoming a parent is one of the best things in life and with the first one there is a lot to learn. You will be alright. Support from others is of the greatest importance. Getting help with this new adventure is ok. Parents whom help in all kinds of ways. If that is not possible then friends need to step up and help with all kinds of jobs. Most important of all is that you stop that nasty voice in your head. You are not a piece of shit, unless you think of shit as in manure. Fertile and making things grow. How about that? Thinking of yourself as a fertile spirit who is doing his best and has been making lots of things grow! I hope this does not sound like advice. Take good care of yourself and your little family. Good luck with it
The first child is very special and will always have a special place in the parents' hearts. People say they love all their children equally. Yes, but the first one is special.
LOL, that was 100% advice but do not fret, it was great advice.
Great way to turn a negative into a positive!! ❤
How do you think I should handle a parent who orders me around, judges, nags and believes she has the right to tell me how to live ever detail of my life ‘the right way’?
I just realized, while reading your humanistic advice, that it has never occurred to me that parents could be any other way.
@@MAYK1NG Boundaries and distance.
Don’t forget, Kalle, that you are nesting as well. It’s not just a mothering instinct. Not just to protect but to provide. It’s a very natural and masculine characteristic. My husband went through it as well. And you should rest without any guilt. My mother always said sleep when your baby sleeps. Best advice ever-for both parents when your little one arrives!
As did my mother,a mother of four! Best advice!
One of the reasons I follow you is not to get ideas for work or physical change, but to learn how to settle myself, how to prioritize my inner self, how to better manage my emotions. You bring me peace, even in times of your own pain. May 2024 be magical, peaceful, and filled with love. ❤
I remember when you taught me likes, subscribers, etc don't matter (entirely), it's your core audience that matter. The people who take the time to comment, watch every video and engage with your content. They will be with you regardless if you post less videos, or take a break. I also struggle with the feeling of needing to be super proactive on social media (I think all TH-camrs do) but sometimes I forget to focus the most on the core audience. I'm glad you've restarted your Patreon, they're the keepers, wholesome people who want to support you :)
That's so true Dani, I should listen to my own advice 🙈 I'm very happy about Patreon as well, feels exciting!
Maaaaaan, can I relate to “supposedly relaxing times” get stressful because my shitty mentality of wanting to optimize everything. Taking it easy, watching TV, going for long walks, just relaxing is so hard at times. I really have to make it a point to not allow myself to try to work haha. It sucks. Definitely a problem.
Exactly, it's a really tricky one. Who would have thought it would be so hard to relax? 🙈
Oh! Cmon, man! As soon as i heard you saying that you feel like you are piece of shit, i started to write this comment! Are you kidding me??? YOU ARE THE MAN! I know next words will be a cliche, but YOU are the inspiration to sooooo many! We are all in the same boat and we all feel like we are peace of shit every so often! What you are doing is so important! We are here for you and you are here for us!!! Much love, dear friend!
I had the same exact thing happen to me! I pushed myself so hard. Then I crashed in October and haven't been able to get much done since then. It's hurt my finances big time and also my emotional wellbeing. Lesson learned. Hope you feel better brother
Slow steps back. Best wishes. 🇨🇦
Thank you so much @@SJC49 🙏💛
I do have another suggestion for the water situation that could help now. Alaskans that are chopping through ice to get water often make a “spring box”. This is a wooden box that surrounds the opening to the water. It is heavily insulated. There is a insulated lid on top that is pulled off. Underneath, the water doesn’t freeze or only freeze a little. Much less effort to get your water.
I was thinking the same!
Kalle, having a warm and cosy place for a baby is so important.
I would start to isolate your cabin from outside. Even if this is another project... it would be my first one. Get help.
Greetings from Germany and good luck for everything. Heidi
Love your honesty Kalle! I was like you 1,5-2 years back, could not sit still and felt lazy when I needed to just do nothing for an entire day. I almost hit the wall, and I'm still recovering from stress even though I didn't get totally burnet out (by that I mean not being able to get out of bed). But I believe that the more you rest the better you get at it. Now I rest most of my days to recover, and it's an absolute necessity and I no longer feel lazy. Regarding your bathroom, I wish you all the best and would love if there was some way to make a donation to you and your family to make your dream come true without having to commit to a monthly payment. Love from Linköping (south of Sweden) ❤
So much of what you said about not being able to rest is very relatable. I’m a stay at home mom and my home is my work. It’s like living at my office in a way, I’m always surrounded by my work. I can only manage to relax when I physically can’t do the work I need to do at home, such as when I’m not at home. Or sick. Recently I realized how bad things had gotten because I was stuck in bed with Covid and it was the least stressed I’d felt in a long while. Surely there are better ways of getting rest than being sick! In any case I hope you manage to find some healthy ways to let go and relax in the coming months so you can rest a little before the baby comes.
I just commented too. I am also a stay at home mom and homeschool 3 kids. Yes, it's like living in your office haha perfectly explained! I pray that you and I can find rest in our own wonderful homes without always seeing work. I hope you weren't totally overwhelmed after you got well again seeing all the things that needed to be done. Hehe
Kalle, saying 'no' to others is saying 'yes' to yourself. You are doing Brilliantly, remember that. It's winter, naturally we are supposed to do less, because of the weather. Taking time to rest on the sofa is actually good for you. Enjoy the silence and peace. Be kind to yourself. You are amazing! Thank you for your inspiration. 🙏🌞
Thanks so much for sharing this with us 🙏 It's so good to hear you are following your inner voice and doing what feels right for you at this moment. That is very inspiring and for sure the way to go. 👏✨ It's sad that many of us have this societal conditioning to constantly be productive and to keep pushing for achievemnets while many times this is on the expense of our mental health and happiness. I hope 2024 will be for you and the rest of the people in this community a more balanced and aligned with what really matters to us in life. 🌲☺
Thank you Lora 🙏 I hope so too, thank you for spreading such good energy in this community ❤️
@@KalleFlodin What goes around comes around ☺I could say the same for your content, it brings a lot of positivity, inspiration and it's like a fresh air of breath in this chaotic world. 🙏🌲
I found myself nodding along to so much of this video, Kalle, especially the part about trying to relax and feeling guilty about not getting things done. I felt guilty over my Christmas holidays about not relaxing "correctly." Like if I scrolled on my phone I was annoyed with myself that I wasn't reading a book. Definitely get that water well dug. Simple living shouldn't mean going without modern innovations. If you're having to work so hard just to drink water or take a shower it's probably taking away from all the other things in the area you could be doing or the projects that make your heart sing.
I wish you all a happy New Year. I hope it will bring all of us the things we seek, work and wish for. 🥰
Greetings from the black forest in Germany 🌲
Happy new year 🥰 I hope so too ❤
@@KalleFlodin And me too
I feel that the most important for your family is to get running water in the house. I think this will make your life much more enjoyable ❤❤❤. Good luck, joyful and happy year!
And, I signed up to your Patrteon! I hope that the rest of the folk reading this will do too!
I fully understand what its like living with no bathroom or running water. Im 70 years old and have always lived in a modern house with all convenience's. But there came a time I could no longer live in my big house alone. My son living 1000 miles away built me a tiny cabin on his property, summer of 2022. It was quite the challenge with no running water and no bathroom. Also living far north of the USA ,my first brutal winter. ( a bathroom with running water was under construction to my Tiny cabin, but wouldn't be working until the summer) that was a wonderful year with special memories. But Im from south of the USA, and needed my southern roots. The Tiny cabin is now a summer place. I spend my winter months back to my house in the deep south. ...May I suggest a bedside toilet for indoor use for Christine, (one of the medical type) they are quite inexpensive. I had one "inside my cabin" before the bathroom was built, and it was a life saver for me. Just a thought until she gets her real bathroom? .... Congratulations on all new things to come. keeping you in my prayers. ox
I suspect your feelings are deeper than you might think. Feeling like you always have to improve, not being or doing enough. Realising is a necessary and important first step. I would look into the "why". Each time you answer, ask yourself again "why?". There is a good chance it will take you back to your childhood.
I feel all the feelings you do. It amazes me. Even though I knew that I wasn't the only one in the world to compare with others on social media, I did feel like I was alone feeling like sh%t trying to relax/can't stop thinking of all the things that I need to do etc. I haven't been able to read a chapter in a book or sit still to watch an episode of a series without getting up and completing something so I continue to feel productive. This has gone on for years--I'm 59. I am so glad to hear you are figuring this out earlier than I. Thank you for being honest with your feelings and sharing them. I feel a sense of freedom knowing that I'm not alone and that there are ways that I can deal with it--unfollowing accounts etc. Resting more and being more present in my life and surroundings is my top priority for 2024.
Kalle it makes perfect sense to make changes to your cabin so it fits what you need for your family. Its also your cabin, so making changes is entirely up to you (and Christina) and no one else. I have never lived in temperatures as cold as that, but having a more reliable water source, especially with a baby, and having the room you need as your family grows is really important to be able to stay there. I hope you manage to make the cabin stay warmer for you as that is going to be so important for the baby. But its also important to have work/life/rest balance so again I hope you manage to make that happen x
You’re in great company ! I have the same struggle.
Yes. Please rest NOW ! Prioritize and ask for help before your child arrives.
There will be time later to hustle.
You are so honest and authentic. I feel like a lot of content creators get caught up in making the content and create an ego. You are just yourself and that’s really refreshing. It sounds like you are making such positive changes and prioritising for the arrival of the little one! What an exciting new chapter. So happy for you !
Dear Kalle, hopefully you will read my message.
Please, make a handrail for Christina on your staircase. She, or you, will be walking up and down with your baby boy. It is always a danger walking with a child on your arm and being able to hold yourself. Please. I have 4 children, I know what I am talking about 🙏🏻🕯️❤️
Kelle I am so happy to hear that you are going to push back your course. You will be more available for you family and that is MORE important and they WILL need you!
my word of 2024 is relax, stop taking life so seriously, and learn how to just be present. I have always worked hard, like you, set my own terms and I too am burnt out. I have also unsubscribed to topics and people who no longer serve me. my inbox is almost empty and I love it. I love you and Christine, Jonna Jinton and Johan, and Talisbuan....you are worth my time and its so relaxing to watch you all. Take care, love from AZ😎❤
Another great video 🎉 this winter in the UK I bought a storage box which we put outside and filled it with food items that can stay outside in the cold 🥶 and lasts longer as storage inside is always limited….. children are a blessing….. the main thing with newborns is to rest when they rest… they love closeness and warmth and comfort …… my 2 would sleep for hours… it used to worry me but with time I realised they were amazing babies who slept most of the day and alllll night…. Never had sleepless nights…. journal the journey of being new parents with photos too… to be able to look back and reflect…. Love journaling ❤🎉❤…memories are everything in life…
Just before this video I did the same - I unfollowed everyone that I Compare my life with and it brings me down and not feeling enough. To help me focus on my life and what I want not what I think I should want or do because someone I admire.
I think what you're saying about pushing yourself too hard, is so true for a lot of us. We compare ourselves all the time, and that's something that so easily gets worse due to social media. Even though I make videos myself, and am on social media that way... I'm the first to admit that social media can be very toxic. I think it was brave of you to unfollow similar channels, and I hope 2024 will be a year when you feel better! ☺
Thank you Kalle for these gentle reminders about the pressures we put on ourselves... definitely can relate with our little offgrid project and aspirations as well...
Great insights. Remember we are not perfect and rest every day is important. Congratulations to you both on baby.
Looking at your fireplace it definitely requires some improvements. For example take a look at the Russian masonry fireplace and in particular Kuznetsov stove (and its many variations) for heating (I have build one and have video on my channel). Considering the fire-keeping regime (over the harsh winter season) you have, it will be a lot more efficient in burning and retaining heat. Also about your water concerns, have you thought about having a 10-20 m3 water storage (from your stream, rain), which clearly will need to be subgrounded (as not to freeze) connecting it to the house and using a simple hand-cranked pump to draw the water. It could be a considerably more cost effective method then drilling.
Ah, that was soul soothing! THANK YOU
Yes on letting go of pressure.
Yes to journaling. Yes to do things differently. ❤
Your Videos have such a positive impact on my and I am sure on many other peoples life. The struggles are real and we can grow.
The Nesting before the Baby comes is a labor of Love. Truly. Make your experiences however, everyone has an opinion... Enjoy the adventure. Much Love from Nuremberg, Germany
Journaling is a brilliant idea. I kept an online diary for like 5 years and recently I decided to re-read it from the start. I was in absolute shock and horror when I realized while reading it how for the past 2 years or so I pored hatred on myself basically none stop. Being angry with myself, insulting for smallest mistakes. I was bullying me. It was an eye opener. I had to work on re-wiring how I think and talk to myself. So yeah, journaling can do amazing things for you.🌟
Hi Kalle--Pacing yourself and not spreading yourself too thin with too many projects sounds like smart self care to prevent burnout. I wish you a Happy New Year 2024! Jenny
I am feeling so sorry to hear that you wanted to be, I don’t know who because, you are awesome and very special! I enjoy and admire you for you and your lovely lady! We, many times don’t see what others go through and in fact we all go through the same! Please stay who and what you are, you are Awesome! I watch your channel because of you being you!! You and your lady are awesome ❤
We have been remodeling a old farmhouse. I needed storage for food. I found a old armoire, we added shelved. It made a beautiful pantry. No mice can get in and it looks nice. Also, don't worry so much. Take your time. One step at a time. It all takes time. Enjoy every moment, you have some beautiful times coming! I raised 5 babies. All they want is your love. ❤
Yeah, not a y tuber, but i started unsubbing to loads of channels, it was too much . I have decided to read again, an hour every evening. Much more calm and less filled with social media anxiety
well done Kalle. listen to yourself, your body. you've got this. just BE. you don't always have to be doing. took me 57 years to finallly get that, and once your little boy arrives that will be the most important thing you can teach and share with him.
I understand about being addicted to being busy. To work on fixing this, I now say every day during my morning prayers and meditation, I am enough. I do enough. I have enough.
I'm going to offer a different comment from a different perspective, Kalle. I play the Grass is Greener on the other side of TH-cam, also. I find all these great projects and ideas and I literally stress myself every day if I should be accomplishing more. I live in the US. When I watch your videos, however, you instantly settle me down and don't let myself get freaked out or overwhelmed. I think the reason is because of your soothing, non-judgemental style. It helps me go inside myself and feel good about the world.
Here is this guy, living in Northern Sweden in a cabin with a partner and it feels absolutely beautiful. I realize you have struggles, but the way you go about life and relate to it is very soothing and helpful. I know weird, yes. But you offer hope. Hope for the rest of us to get out of this rat race(especially in the US) and be more free. Thank you for a great channel and I wish you and your family the best this coming 2024. I know you will do it.
We are always much harder on ourselves than others would be or like you said, what we would accept from someone else expecting from us. You guys are doing things our great-great-great grandparents had to do on a daily basis, albeit with some modern day frills, it's still a lot more than what we're all used to...physically and mentally and with a new baby on the way the pressure is multiplied several times. Back in the day people added rooms onto their homes as needed so there's no reason it can't work for you guys. I constantly have to remind myself to take on one thing at a time...make a list in order of importance and if there's a delay that's out of my control on one item I can move onto the next thing until the previous one can be worked on again. Give yourself some grace and make sure to take time to enjoy your lovely girl, the pregnancy, and this new life you're bringing into the world...time is fleeting and the little moments are the ones that stick with you and make you smile when you're older and least expect it. It took me a while to figure all that out but at 63 I feel confident in giving you that little bit of advice😉. I wish all the best and will keep watching to see how it all works out.
I'm 23 and have a 2 year old daughter now. Becoming a mom really forced me to look at how I prioritize taking care of myself and how that directly impacts my baby. After giving birth, I felt very guilty about resting and being "lazy" even though I couldn't walk lol. Being a parent forces you to work on this and helps you incorporate rest into your hourly life with a newborn. The important thing is to look at what you value right now, and that is renovations and time with your girlfriend and baby boy when he comes. I promise that when your baby arrives, the only important thing in your mind will be spending time with him, sleeping and helping your girlfriend. Parenthood completely changes your priorities. Yes other things are still important, but the baby will always come first. But in order for the baby to come first, rest for you will become high on the list of things to do daily. You cannot be a good father and boyfriend without as much rest as you can get in the newborn stage, which won't be a lot lol. You'll swe your girlfriend go through post partum, breastfeeding, healing from birth and see how much rest will benefit her mind and body to have a level of homeostasis during a time of big change. You also deserve this rest because you're going to be a huge support to your new family. Make a list of the most important things you need to get done before the baby comes, water, kitchen etc and then let everything else be. A good question to ask yourself is "what do I want to model to my son about work and rest?" Do you want your son growing up with a dad passing out from exhaustion? Or a dad who works hard, spends time with family, and allows himself to decompress?
I have been journaling since the 1970s. Included in my journals is gratitude, ie... the weather, the positive events of the day, goals to accomplish, even what I eat. It is also a great way to monitor your health. Enjoy your remarkable journey in 2024 everyday will be a great gift of joy!
Hi from Canada 🇨🇦! You and Christina will get through this! You both will be great parents and everything will fall into place! Right now it’s ok to ask for help with renovations! You and Christina make a great couple. She is an amazing lady and a special gift ❤for you on this journey! And just around the corner you both will be given another gift!
Many are praying for you, Christina and the family you will have!
I rarely comment on yt videos, but I feel like I really need to do it now. I’ve observed that whenever I’m feeling down and behind in my life, I look for comfort in your videos. You are such a genuine person on this platform, you don’t try to avoid talking about the harsh truth and it makes your stories very relatable. I always get a feeling of hope after watching your videos. And this feeling gives me motivation to also continue my own work. I wish you all the best! 💚
The path of learning is a beautiful one, there are no rules or right and wrong. Our minds can tell us stories we don’t need to listen to. ❤ This is a beautiful time and we never think we have enough.
Kale I have just stumbled across your channel and I love it!!! I love how you are working through your feelings. Like being overwhelmed or not being productive enough. You have the most serene spiritual place on earth to reflect and journal!!! I absolutely love your life!!
du vill göra det rätt, du vill göra det bra... det är underbart! var mer överseende med dig själv! Hela ditt liv förändras. En ny person kommer till dig! ett nytt stort ansvar
I have the same mouse problem. I bought used gallon jars from the Amish and kept so much in them to keep the mice out. It's a life saver. I keep grains , flour etc. In them.
I have unfollowed many creators for the sake of my mental good health and it has worked out well. Good for you for looking out for yourself and your family. This social media concept is new for all of us, it’s definitely a new frontier. At 69 years young, I’d say less is more. Keep making good decisions on your awesome journey.
The cure for being overwhelmed is to set priorities. Yes, water is a top priority. Insulation would go a long way to keep the house warm without exhausting yourself. Bathroom, yes! It will take time. You can only do so much at a time.
Always doing is just a habit Kalle. Keep working on slowing down and resting. Trust me...I burnt out too...badly! All the best.
I can relate to this productivity-curse so much! Hopefully 2024 will be a year with lots of time spend on productive self-love and relaxation! x
Your such a lovely person and I think you and Kristine are such a lovely couple too and you should be so proud of what you’ve achieved!🩷🩷🩷xxxx
Thank you so much for saying that ❤
@@KalleFlodin🩷🤗🩷
It’s good that you have recognized that you are being too hard on yourself . Life is very up and down . Take the time the rest when you can and get help where you can as well . Many people struggle with turning your mind off . Remember you are not alone in these struggles . Your A frame is looking beautiful . And getting running water will change your life for your family . Thank you for sharing all that you do with the world . I hope you and Christine and your son have many happy years in that cabin in the woods.
I feel you so much. I´m self-employed with my own small crafts business as instrument maker and related jobs around it, and I feel I can never ever really relax and let loose, even when watching a movie. My mind goes round and round and I feel bad although I am pushing myself to my absolute limits all the time. It´s a real challange to develope a healthy balance for yourself without comparing non-stop (feel also stressed out when watching other instrument makers and what great ideas they have and how productive they seem to be and how well they present themselves on social media blablabla). It´s hard to stay true to ourselves, finding out what keeps us healthy and happy and not jumping on the train of higher, faster, better. Hugs from Stockholm.
Im going on 27 and I have had a journal that ive been planning on writing in for 6-8 months now and I still havent started it. Maybe ill start sometime soon? :D I know im a big procrastinator, so I really got to push myself to be consistent with it. Thanks for reminding me haha
Edit: Also Kalle, I think you need to stop going crazy with projects and just take a breather, relax before the baby comes and just enjoy your time because everyone is right, you wont get that time back. Go on some long walks, write more and just show us how you do it and enjoy the peace and quiet while it lasts. Im certain you will be a great father!
Yes you are right about the journal, it not helps only yourself it can also help your children and grandchildren to get a true picture of the life in passed times ❤
I have struggled with being productive my whole life. I felt the same when i retired. Only in the past year have i learned more about intentional living. Im slowing down a bit, learning to say no. You will be an awesome dad.
You did the right thing. Never compare yourself to anyone else. It is fine to look at others for inspiration, if their goals are the same as yours. But everyone has different goals, abilities, and motivations. We can only do what what we can and that means judging ourselves by our own standards. I have only seen a few of your videos, but if I compared myself to you, I would be very sad because I would have liked to live as you do, but could never have pushed myself to do it.
I would be sad if I compared myself to his life because I would be absolutely bored out of my mind. He said he unfollowed everyone. I’m trying to understand Why would someone else’s happy life make him unhappy? They have their own life and he has own life. We all live different lives. I live in NYC where I am so spoiled to have everything I need at the tip of my fingers. I wouldn’t want it any other way! Is it because he don’t want to question himself ? About if he is making the right decision for him and his family. I never understand why people isolate themselves from the entire world. It’s ok if it’s your choice. However, to bring children up in an isolated place with no peers or relations from a young age. I feel is selfish and setting them up for a fall when they get older and you or your wife are no longer around. They will not be 100% prepared to deal with life in every setting. I would absolutely lose my mind if I lived in such a desolate place. So far away from civilization. What if they had a medical emergency like a stroke or heart attack? Or any other medical emergency? Emergency personnel will never get to them in time. Looks pretty, but I will pass on it.
Thank you for sharing. I totally relate. I nearly burnt out in December after pushing myself to finish writing my new book for performers. After finishing the content, I gave myself permission to stop and rest. I just have to go over the final edits from the proof reader and finish the cover, then I can publish it. I will start that in the next couple of weeks. Well done for giving yourself permission too. It’s a courageous thing to admit publicly how hard you've been pushing yourself. Hope you have a wonderful year at a much slower pace 🌻🙏🏼🌟
I can totally get pushing one's self too much. I did this to myself as well, so taking time over the holidays to rest and relax was just what I needed. Taking time to rest is so important, just as important as actually doing more active things. Btw, just signed up for your Patreon. Happy to do a small part to help you. :)
💙🩷💙🫶🫶🫶🙏✝️✌️☮️awesome video. I totally agree with you. Do what makes you happy. Trying to keep up with everyone else is impossible & exhausting. Re charge when you need to. Be happy with your life. We’re empty nesters. our daughters are all grown up. They’re both enjoying their life’s. Doing what makes them happy. We’re here for them. If & when they might need us. 😊😊Take care. Enjoy! 💙🩷💙🫶🫶🫶✌️☮️✝️🙏😊😊😊
I admire that you are flexibly minded and that you can upgrade and improve the cabin for your expanding little family ❤️ I love seeing the improvements, and look forward to following the well story and making your cabin nicer. It’s great that you’re not stubbornly stuck to an idea of having it as simple as possible. Each improvement you make will give you more time to do other things you enjoy as well!
I live in a secluded cottage in Northern Ontario, Canada. I have all the modern conveniences including Starlink and grid electricity. But I can also heat with wood. I have many chores. Doing the chores outside improves my mental health. And yes, absolutely journaling is a huge help. I’m excited for you guys.
Your cabin is lovely! It is yours! You do what you want and need! It is a very special place. Your home with Kristine. You shouldn't have to explain reasons for doing what you are doing. When we are overwhelmed, feeling stressed, and pressures, it is time step back , reevaluate what's important and who is important. Time to rest, tune the world out, and search your heart. I saw a quote yesterday. It said, "I go to the forest to loose my mind and find my soul." I'm 72, I've had to do just that. You are wise. Trust yourself. Happy New Year! Kathy J
Listen to your heart and body and mind…….new parenthood is a life changing thing for BOTH of you. Take that seriously…..and ENJOY it…..they will never be that age again! Dont pass it off too quickly.
I like watching “my/our biggest mistakes” videos. Or “how I figured out” videos. The first are helpful when I’m mulling a project. The second are reassuring that we all have mental blocks or overcomplicate matters.
One day at a time. Best wishes for 2024. I love following you. You are going to do well.
Your best video yet.
So proud of you! Wonderful revaluations for 2024. Thank you for sharing. Know you are not alone; we all experience similar challenges. The journal makes my heart sing 😊. I do that as well, and it has been incredibly valuable. Cheers to a great new year!
Your complete honesty about struggling with your personal expectations of yourself is refreshing. It seems you have given careful thought to the changes you want (and need) to make in 2024. It sounds like you are both eager and uncertain about what it will be like to have a "baby" in the home. These couple of years watching your videos on TH-cam have been delightful for me personally--particularly your relationship to the two dogs. I hope they remain an important part of your identity as an individual...and a man. I have seen "couples" attempt to come together around a child with one of the partners forcing their ideas and wants on the other and overwhelming their personal sense of self. It will be a transformative year and I hope to share it with you here on TH-cam. Bravo and the best.
Happy 2024, Kalle!
Kalle, the struggle is real, I feel it too. Being your own critic to a high level, and a perfectionist too. We tell ourselves that we need to do more, better, faster, etc etc. Why? Why? The upside is that we "only" have to change our own mindset. Taking charge. Lucka till!!
I was happy to hear you made the decision to slow down with course. You’ve become a family, nothing better to do in the world❤ Take time to Enjoy every moment of it. Much love and appreciation for your channel
have you considered a diesel heater. These are used mainly in campervans and trucks, but more and more people are fitting them in their homes. The initial outlay is affordable, easy to install. Our son has just fitted one in his tiny home which is off grid and he is more than happy with it, instead of having to light the fire for some heat at the end of the day working. Now he uses the remote control and switches it on in bed so as he can get up into a warm room.
Hello Kalle, I wish you and your family (also little baby boy) a happy, healthy, joyful and satisfied 2024. Too much social media destroys people IMHO and we all should look a bit more on ourselves and the people (directly) around us. Enjoy the year and don't pressure too much yourself. When I look back and reflect I know that sometimes we should all focus more on "living" as live can be over every day - I think a good mixture of progressing and living is the best but we are all ourself responsible for that.
Hello Kalle, I enjoy your videos. And want to help you with drinking water. You can actually use a few branches to fill the hole in the ice and cover it with snow. It helps to slow down the freezing. Used by ice fishermen. :) Just remember to put there some flag to find it again precisely.
Wise words, Kalle! It is spot on that we are comparing each other continually and social media enhances this trend. I must say sometimes I feel overwhelmed by your brave lifestyle and watching your videos I may feel inadequate for not carrying my water in from a nearby well or lake and for craving for hot showers instead of rolling in the snow. But, luckily, I'm in the middle of my middle age and it's easier to set things in proportion. :D
So, less comparing is so-so much more valuable living.
Glad to hear you're having a bathroom, though!
A baby is not just a change, it is a transformation. Your lives will never be the same again as it will be a learning journey: you teach your child and your child teaches you. In a couple of years when the tiredness is easing off you'll know. Essential that you let your inner boss for a long holiday as the baby will keep you active just by her/ his existence.
And look! You have achieved so much, your have a glorious life of your dreams. Pat yourself on the shoulder and honor all you hard work. You have everything you need. The big lovely forest will protect you and you will have the trees and the stars and the snow to silence your inner voices which do no stem from love.
Love is the answer. Whichever way you look at it and whatever answers you're looking for it is always, always, always all about love.
With flying colors into the new year, Kalle and family!
Hi Kalle, this really renosates with me.I watch you sometimes and today I needed to comment. I was originally from America, raised by a father that would make negative comments every time I sat down, if I watched tv, as a kid he called it the idiot box, cleaning was never good enough. I grew up to be type A perfectionist, always criticizing myself that I was never doing enough. At one point I had a 2 year old 10 year old worked full time (40 to 50 hours a week, 2 hour daily commute when there wasn't snow or black ice) I was in college full time nights 3 nights a week for 5 hours each night, top student deans list, and if that wasn't enough a full old house renovation self done. A very difficult partner to boot. I broke up and eventually moved to Northern Europe for a better quality of life, which in many ways it was. But I never could run away from the pressure I put on myself. At 50 I almost died from this mental lifestyle. Finally I sold everything moved to Portugal, retired early and trying to build a quiet off grid life outside a small city in the interior of the country. I have had alot of set backs, crooks in construction, not built up my off grid fantasy I had in mind yet. But I did finally learn to say no, learn to fight for myself and kick people out of my life if they aren't good for me. While I can love and respect others, I come first, I love myself first, then give to others but never at the expense of myself or a partner. This weekend my partner said it was crazy camping in the mountain at night it was cold. I told him, amore look at the beautiful sunny morning we woke up to. I said I didn't come here to live inside, I need nature year round. I said I go with or without you, my preference is with, so we get you better prepared, I want you to please take my advice next time when I say bring everything wool, because I was cozy all night. He agreed to try again. You can give to your family Kalle, but if you don't care for yourself mentally you won't be able to care for yourself or others physically. I know we can all tell you these things, but only you can make that switch in your head. If you want to compare yourself to others start with how much you accomplish compared to others in town switching on heat and water. It is how I finally started feeling good about myself and how I got my Dad to stop criticizing me. How many women immigrate alone at over 40, learn 3 languages 3 dialects of those languages, buy a home then sell and move again to another completely different type of country and live mortgage free at 55. I say to myself without help I was able to immigrate and build a better life than those who grew up in both countries I have lived in. This was not to insult them, as I only said this to myself, but to build myself up. Enough ranting. Well one last thing, it is great to see a man speak so openly about his struggles seemingly without shame, I guarentee you are helping alot of men out there. Good luck in the coming weeks and thanks for this video, a great reminder to myself.
Hearing what you are saying but do understand what you are feeling. Wishing you solace and success in finding what will work for you and your family.
You, Kalle, have reached a lot since the day you decided to live your life different. A lot, and you created a beautiful life for your own, Christine, the dogs and the little baby to come. So all I can tell you is - there is nothing wrong. I envy you, not for any physical things, but for this brave desicion you made some years ago, to live your life the way YOU want it and not everyone else is telling you. I envy you, because I haven't been brave enough to do something like that my whole life😔
You have come so far and achieved so many things! Try to breathe and think of your successes when you feel that you are "wasting" time.
You will find the time and the strength to continue (even with the child). Love yourself and this beautiful gift you two are about to receive. All the best, Kalle!
I live in Minnesota, in U.S.A. when my husband & i were first married, we lived in unheated farmhouse. It was heated with 2 woodstoves. Our kitchen and bathroom were next to each other and our lower big woodstove kept both warm & prevented the pipes from freezing. We lived in a town, so more amenities were available. We switched to furnace when our twins were born. We did remodel our bathroom because it was poorly insulated. Good luck keeping up with things.
Can i suggest a few things:
1. Insulate the important rooms only.
2. Add a wood room in your cabin- ours held 1 1/2 pallets of wood. We kept 3 pallets of wood outside too. This way you have a constant supply readily available. Then you won't need to go get wood everyday. Make sure the inside wood is cut to fit your stove doors.
3. Cover your current water hole with pine bushes which will help insulatie it too.
4. Get a good soapstone for the top of your wood stove and bake bread there. Rustic loaves are easier.
5. Remember you are in charge of your own destiny. I'm 67 years old and that was a perfect lifestyle for my life when i was 25-34 years old. I may not live completely like that but i still grow my own crops and purchase locally & organically.
Simple cabin do not exclude good insulation, reliable watersource, and several sources for heat/electricity.
Self inflicted pressures for sure. I went through that phase as well in my 30s. I'm almost 50yo and really value down time equally as what I produce, pacing myself and not comparing. I use TH-cam to motivate not compare, aware of my own limits. Society values productivity, but we don't have to be robots. Canadians love you. You are awesome. Thank you for sharing.
Ok re convo, but I don't know how to talk overseas to someone. Not sure if it will work, time difference, I have country WiFi re not reliable, do I need a lot of data? Can't see telegram bit anymore
I used to be just like you ..couldn't stop thinking I need to be productive...it took time, but I just keep reminding myself that I don't have to hurry thru life anymore and then I set limits on my projects per day and slowed down. I try to do one think that makes me Happy everyday and someday I just rest.
Kalle, you are burned -out. I have gone through what you are saying. You feel overwhelmed with everything you need to do or you say to yourself I should be doing this…….. You are stressed out.
You are doing the right thing by just concentrating on one project at a time. Give yourself permission to have time to relax and be guilt free about it. You have the support of your family and friends. Take care. Joyce😊
Even if our western world tells us that getting a baby is no big deal (you instantly can go back to work after it) it is a big deal. So I congratulate you very much on the fact that you are making the decisions you make and take the time it needs to adapt to this change mentaly and spiritually. Kids are awesome!
This video just provided answers to questions going on in my mind for a couple of days now. Indeed, we always find ways how we can improve ourselves but not to the point where we are going to feel that we are competing with everybody else. Thank you
I enjoyed this video because I have experieced many of your thoughts. The difference is that I just retired. I realized that my whole life was managed from outside myself: parents, school, job. Now I must manage myself, ballancing new activities in a rural setting, new time frames, my emotional and creative responses to it all. It has been a big learning curve and do not see an end to that. And I am happy about it being this way. So drop the "shit" nickname and keep going and learning. Georgia
Woow, Kalle😢 Don't do the same mistakes like me. I have been sick with stress for years now, because I have been pushing myself for too long. And now it effect my body so much that pain is an everyday companion. And my hormon levels flys down up and down like it want basicly😢
So please, do take care of yourself.
The same goes for everyone else who reads this. Your body and mind are precious, love it and care for it❤
The improvements are very exciting. Can't believe some people think you should still have to chop through all that ice every winter.
don't worry about what everyone else is doing,( or not) online. Do what you can for your family & " take care of your own back yard" .esp. w new baby on the way.
Rest is productive in ways we cannot immediately see!! Please take good care of yourself and your little family :)
Self compassion & self kindness is a good choice! If your head is spinning try progressive muscle relaxation exercises. I’ve kept a gratitude journal - but the key is tell myself it’s ok not to HAVE to enter daily, just specifically when I feel gratitude. Even if I see something God created for me to enjoy that day. I only enter in point form & often leave my book open to remind to look for gratitude. PS illness has forced me to learn to be ok with rest & be less productive 🇨🇦 ❤
I relate to this so much and I actually unfollowed most artists on social as well because of that feeling you described. I personally always ended up spiralling into "everbody else is doing so much more than me" which ultimately had me doing nothing except having anxiety and it sucked all the creativity out of me. I wish so much there was a world where you could just create without social media but unfortunately, I don't think this is going to happen.. but the balance is what you need to master in a way.