THE INNER CHILD BATTLE | Inner Child Therapy to End Inner Conflict | Wu Wei Wisdom
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- Inner Child therapy and reparenting are essential to end inner-conflict and heal your Inner Child relationship - in this video, we explain why! …👉 Work one-to-one with David: www.wuweiwisdo...
☯️ EPISODE # 59 of our Life Lessons teaching series
Do you experience inner-conflict and turmoil? When you try to think and act authentically, does a part of you still fight against these good intentions?
This is your INNER CHILD BATTLE!
In this video you’ll discover:
The signs your Inner Child is creating your inner-conflict.
The strategies the Inner Child uses to get its own way, plus common Inner Child reparenting mistakes to avoid.
Why the Inner Child can seem more powerful than your spiritual self (Shen).
How to end your Inner Child battle and be more balanced and authentic.
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Haha, “no wonder I’ve got no hair”, that’s very funny, thank you David!☀️✌️
What helps me is to say..
I feel safe under all circumstances
This calms me down very much
Thankyou❤
Hi @infinity-vv4yj,
It's wonderful to hear that you've found such a powerful affirmation to help you feel safe and calm. Affirmations can be incredibly effective in shaping our mindset and emotional state, and it's inspiring to know that you've discovered one that resonates deeply with you. Thank you for sharing this with us and the community. If you ever want to explore more techniques or share your insights with others, our FREE Wu Wei Wisdom community is a great place to connect at facebook.com/groups/wuweiwisdomcommunity/. Your journey and strategies are valuable, and we're grateful you chose to share them.
Kind Regards,
David
@@WuWeiWisdom thank you David for taking the time to answer in your busy schedule ( i believe you have a busy schedule hihi and alott of clients)
I have only 1 question about 1 affirmation, it works for me but i sometimes think,is it avoiding ...
The affirmation is: negative thoughts and suggestions dont influence me at all
Have a great sunday with alex!! Thanks again , greetings from the Netherlands❤️❤️❤️
Thank you for this great video.
Listening to you is like connecting to a well of wisdom.
I appreciate that! Kind regards, David.
Soooooo many great takeaways!
• some I am aware of...
• some are seemingly on the edge of my awareness......
• and some I’m sure I totally missed.
Thank You 🙏 Both for sharings!
I can try and practice these in practical application as I continue this journey in current time.
Peace~
Hi Al, thanks for watching! If you rewatch in a few days or weeks time we're sure many more of the teachings and 'ah-ha' moments will come into your conscious awareness :) x
Wu Wei Wisdom, I absolutely plan on rewatching this again, sooner than later, as I do with so many of your sessions, but this one I will was really something else. I understand the a-ha moments, I believe the more of them I experience, that more of them come. The more the mind opens the easier aware to see/recognize.
Thank You, Namaste 🙏
thankyou both again
Kicking the back of the seat... relatable....😄😄💖 it's why I always admired school bus drivers....🥰😄. Your resources are life savers. 🙏🌹❤💝💪
Our pleasure! Kind regards, David.
Great. So i created the monster and then i spent my life trying to control it and fight with it. I can refocus
Another wonderful video great lessons to learn .. thank you Alex and David for your great work ❤🙏🏼
Thank you Mohammed! x
Brilliant video, thank you. Very helpful xx
Glad it was helpful Mark!
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Thank you. Always something more to grasp, a deeper learning, a more confident being emerges each time I listen, learn and explore. I love the "inner reference library " those v descriptive words help me to get a visual picture of things, and something easier to grasp and remember. Thank you. In these times yr work is even more valuable. Bless you both. ❤❤❤
Thank you Dee 🙏 x
Hi David and Alex, this was a great video, which made a lot of sense. I have also read through Daoist readings and use different terms to name things but they pretty much fit into what you just said. To me, the inner child is the programming from early childhood. And the 'library' I call the creative power that runs through us. I have been doing a lot of work with myself recently and I believe that reprogramming your mind is possible, but also an extremely difficult task, and you are right- it needs consistency, of which I am sometimes very tired.I come from a religious background where I had been traumatized and made feel worthless and insignificant before the eyes of the great god and that if I didn't pray hundred times a day and I didn't cut off my sexuality I was supposedly a horrible human being. I've put a lot of work into self-loving and growing away from the religious bulshit. Along the way, I started feeling more independent in my thinking and I started to like it. I also read books on the subject. However I reached the point where I started loving myself, but my outcry for independence went too far and now I don't want to listen to no shen or creative power, because it reminds me back when I was helpless and was placing my entire life and thinking onto an external power. It's like the pendulum went to the other extreme and I don't wanna depend on anything and anyone. Self-love gives me enough power to trust my decisions and to depend on my myself, but.. there are times and situations when that is not enough, like I had few situations lately like losing my job with the coronavirus etc. You find yourself on a crossroad and then you don't know what you want to do and what would be the best way to do it, and you can not oversee all the things and circumstances, And then you have to go the 'library', to the creative power, which I have now started to view as an enemy because it reminds me the times when I wasn't strong. And my Daoist teacher spent a lot of time to repeat that self-love is the path to enlightenment and that there isn't an anthropomorphic 'power', god or anything that loves us from above and that will rush to help you in the difficult situation like religion states. And now self-love has taken over, but I disconnected and I got annoyed that I have to give a way to that creative power, that, it turns out, has always been the most important thing. Then why just not sit quiet and find out what it has to tell us, instead of thinking independently and making our own decisions?
Hi Petya,
Thank you for sharing your story with us. We are very pleased that our videos are helping with your personal journey and emotional education.
As you will appreciate it would be inappropriate for me to comment on personal issues without full knowledge, history and background.
David
I guess I always think I need permission from someone to not think of myself that way. Is like I have to keep that "truth" about myself because it was told a long time by my father. He was my Idol. I definitely thouht something must be wrong with me.
He past away unfortunitely, 6 years ago, but his words still hunt me sometimes even if he told me he was proud of me. I made a bold step and moved to a foreign Land alone as a woman. He was very affraid for me, but coludnt convince me otherwise. Afterwards he saw him self that it was the right thing for me and I can cope with it.
I still find myself be bothered by what people say about me or how they sometimes behave...
Everything you talk about in your videos is true and sounds logic. :D I watch them gladly. I understand now. Changing it will be a challenge.
Two things - firstly is the inner child linked with where instant gratification comes from?
Secondly I notice you mention a school move could cause a problem. I moved schools at 7. Thank you for that. I will narrow down now to understand how that has affected me. Thank you.
My inner child is stuck at 3yrs old my mother went into hospital and I stayed at my aunties house, it was Christmas, I had a lovely time, until I came home when mum came out of hospital, she made a point of telling me how she supposedly nearly died and made me feel guilty that I was happy while she was so ill. As I look back I realised she was a narcissistic person who made me feel responsible for her staying alive, which was terrifying also if my parents argued my father would walk out and I would run after him begging him to come home, so I felt responsible for my parents staying together and not abandoning me, so I became a compliant child who learned basically not to exist, so my need for reassurance and love and security were never met, I can feel the fear even now of being overwhelmed by life, now my parents are long gone I can’t seem to move on, I wake up every morning terrified, her fear seems to control me and I don’t seem to have the necessary skills to deal with life as an adult. Also living alone I don’t have support around me, so I suppose the fear of abandonment has finally become a reality,
Yep. Have hate for inner child. Always trying to quash her. She rules and knocks me sideways. Cant get to have a life as always keeping her hidden and embarrased by her
Brilliant as always; I am realizing that I need to watch these videos over and over again till the truth of what you are speaking becomes a part of me and overrides that early conditioning and it is. Thank you yet again!
Wow, thank you. Kind regards, David.
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I haven't even listened to the video yet and I am sure its going to be just right. I have been listening to you for about a month now and you are slowly beginning to change the way I think. For years, I knew that what happened to the 2. and half year old girl effected her immensley but all I did was try to silence her and get rid of those feelings of insecurities I felt as an adult, or try to hide them from people pretending that I was strong...that has NEVER worked and here I am at 62yrs still battling with her, but now, I have DAVID and ALEX as my angels on earth, I AM CERTAIN, i will win her over, cuddle her and say SORRY, LITTLE ONE, i understand you and LOVE YOU ALOT. This is happening already. I love my little girl, she is bright, was bright and did what she thought was best to protect herself - how CLEVER. I am PROUD OF HER! Thank you to the Universe and for finding you guys! WORDS ARE NOT ENOUGH!
Hi David & Alex, thankk you so much for this video!!
I am now in red light feeling because of CCJ.... omg...
My gosh, I guess my inner child rebels...
A great video. Lots of tips and advice,
Brilliant, as always.
Thank you David and Alex , ❤️💜🙏🏼☯️
Xxxx
Thank you guys so so much for your content. It's outstanding
This is completely eerie that this video popped up in my suggested stream of videos today. Just brought this up yesterday with a friend. I was attempting to explain what I had been told about the inner child in the drivers seat a few years ago. I was sharing with my friend, my frustration that inner child still seems to have too much control in my life. Until David mentioned the little monster I did not realize that is what I think of her. Even though Im aware of self compassion of today I'm realizing I have not shown my inner child self compassion much less compassionate discipline so she's been getting away with all the lies that is driving my adult self crazy. Will have to listen this video a few more times to catch the other important and relevant strategies that were mentioned. I just wanted to thank you for the clear descriptive analogies to help me "see' more clearly what you were saying and what tangible steps I can to finally work more effectively with my inner child. I finally feel its clicked the context in which you keep repeating that we are not victims. It not that I want to be a victim but I felt you were saying it before in other videos in a too harsh and not understanding tone. I have had that harshness thrown at me all my life especially from my family of origin. Today I finally heard the voice of empowerment rather then "harsh discipline" that reminded me of my childhood and just made me curl up in the corner feeling like a victim even though my adult self was trying to convince I wasn't a victim. Anyway thank you for your videos. Hadn't listened to any in awhile and this one was the right one at the right time.
Another Great video
Thankyou for Sharing your Wisdom with us 😊
2 questions please
Does the inner child ever grow up ?
Does it come to a point where it has learnt the life lessons so doesnt need to be parented anymore?
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2nd Question
As our inner child creates all our feelings/Emotions
Does the Inner being /spirit within
Have any feelings /Emotions?
Or is it only the Human side that uses/has Feelings/Emotions?
Thankyou
wow THANK YOU SO MUCH! this was such a valuable information. I feel lighter already. Bless you
Hi,
Thank you for your kind words! I'm delighted to hear that the information has helped you feel lighter. Keep embracing the wisdom and nurturing your Shen spirit.
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Kind Regards,
David
Happy Saturday evening to you Wu Wei wisdom.
Hope and trust you are well.
Wishing you a peaceful and healthy week ahead! 🙏
Thanks for this useful information. But all the negative beliefs of our mind are run from our subconscious mind. And you are saying that to control it from our conscious mind.
Hi Akshay,
Thanks for your question.
Your 'subconscious' mind forms around 92-95% of your mind.
I am saying that it is YOUR mind and you have to control it. You do so by practising the Golden Thread Process that we demonstrate in many of our videos to 'own' and change your core beliefs: th-cam.com/play/PL9NQ_PWX4zIAsS_wgdRN7QGBKIk54sbyD.html
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David
@@WuWeiWisdom Thanks you..I have sent request to your facebook community group.🙏🙏
As I watched this, I had some questions come up.
* Does creating our feelings mean the same thing as controlling our feelings? As in, do I get to choose (i.e. control) the feelings I create or does creating my feelings mean that the feelings are happening in my own body and thus I create them?
* Why do young children experience red-light emotions if they do not yet have solid incongruent beliefs in place?
* When I think about shen, it reminds me of the beautiful qualities of little children, such as their ability to be present, to be authentic, and to love. I wonder what, if any, connection there might be there?
Thank you, David and Alex, for sharing these videos. They are thoughtful and thought-provoking.
Hi Megan,
Thanks for your questions.
As you will appreciate it would be inappropriate for me to comment on personal issues without full knowledge, history and background. Therefore I can only comment in general terms.
If you accept that you create your emotional experiences and feelings, then you can control what and when you create the appropriate reactions, emotions and feelings.
Babies learn very quickly that using their emotions gets a reaction... because we teach it to them! Yes, I also believe that you can get a good understand of Shen from a baby. It reminds me of a Chinese masters teaching of the truest Taoist being a new-born - see this video here: th-cam.com/video/sXPOms-2Bdo/w-d-xo.html
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The quality and depth of information provided here are incredible. What a beautiful pairing David and Alex are here in these videos. I feel so blessed to have discovered these teachings.
Thanks so much.... this video has come as a miracle . Through your videos I understood that my inner -child had been ruling all my relationships. It is so angry and rude towards love ones when thing do go its ways!. If you have more techniques to manage anger red flag feeling I would really appreciate I really don't want to keep pushing the ones that I love away.
Hi Michaelle,
Thanks for your question.
As you will appreciate it would be inappropriate for me to comment on personal issues without full knowledge, history and background. Therefore I can only comment in general terms.
I would suggest you do the Golden Thread Process on why you choose the create the Red Light Feelings of anger around loved ones.
We have several videos describing this technique have a look at the back catalogue and we are just in the process of releasing a course on the Golden Thread Process: th-cam.com/play/PL9NQ_PWX4zIAsS_wgdRN7QGBKIk54sbyD.html
We also have a video on triggers: th-cam.com/video/b6rhyu7WISQ/w-d-xo.html
And another on anger: th-cam.com/video/ja2w4DnUcZU/w-d-xo.html
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David
Wu Wei Wisdom thanks a lot ,definitely a lot of great info to start with.
Hi David and Alex.Thankyou so much , for this wonderful informative video ...It really helps .Love to you both xx ❤
Glad you enjoyed it Denise! x
Enjoying another great Wu Wei wisdom video. Thank you.
Thank you Judith 🙏 x
This is wonderful ❤️
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I never lie to myself ;)
Hello david and alex, thank you very much from this video, i gain a lot about inner child, again and i should re educated it, i always feels panic and tense when facing people like my father( he is very strict and have a harsh word like saying im stupid) , like my innerchild is afraid or tense and it affect my health i have gerd like becase its so tense
i go to the psychitric and drink anti tense like drug
, what is the best i could tell to my inner chid thank you in advance :)
Hi Valen,
Thanks for your question.
As you will appreciate it would be inappropriate for me to comment on personal issues without full knowledge, history and background. Therefore I can only comment in general terms.
In circumstances as you have shared, I would ask the Inner Child why he puts so much attention and authority on what his father currently says or does?
I can understand why that was so important when he was a young child but why do you believe is it as important at this (adult?) stage of your life?
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Wu Wei Wisdom thank you very much David , i am going to join the community :))
Thank you sooo much
Why are you always so specific with the age in which the mind can get stuck? What if something happens in the earlier years as is often the case?
Hi Cariad,
Thanks for your question.
As I say I the videos, the age range is what I have encountered during 40 years of working on these issues, but it is NOT exact and nor applies to everyone.
I do not share your experience that it is often the case to be the earlier years.
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Hi David
Thanks for the reply. I suppose what I'm getting at is if a child experiences abuse of some kind or a traumatic experience at a younger age does that not affect them in adulthood and potentially cause inner child issues?