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Hi Live, Learn and Teach, thanks for watching! We appreciate your support. You may find our Inner Child Video Playlist helpful: th-cam.com/play/PL9NQ_PWX4zICGLRS1b7q1HSJhZRash5qq.html Alex + David x
I need to lie down now ! A very powerful video which made my IC squirm a little but I’m applying a bit of TLC and she’s coming round - there’s a fear that she maybe re educated but left behind and I’m trying to reassure her that we are aiming for oneness and we are in this together but the adult me is in charge - phew !
I always believed that I was emotionally unfairly CCJ by others growing up! I took things to heart. Personal. I now realise that I was born good enough, born to cope & born with worth or value. By dropping the emotional attachment to things people I no longer remain emotionally stuck! Awesome!!! Thank you for your teachings!
Wow! "How do I stop it? No, no, no--the question is Why am I doing it? " Huge shift in being helpless against these cruel thoughts/beliefs...Taking on accountability...lots of Golden thread work ahead. And I am glad. No more just accepting "the voice." Why do I believe that? Who said that to me? What makes them an expert? Is it even true? etc. Thank you David and Alex.
🙏🏼 thank you for your work, I have been listening to your videos for about 3 weeks, is very clear to me now when the “inner child” is talking. It can be very, very sneaky but now I engage with him in dialog, this has help tremendously in reducing my red light feelings. 🙏🏼 Thank you.
Dislikes intensely someone else saying YIU HAVEN’T DONE IT RIGHT / you hit the nail on the head - the reason for my self sabotage - internalized fathers voice ! How can we be so blind to the obvious ! You’re so unbelievably wise David
I love you guys so much!!! It would also be helpful to mention that EVERY CHILD has these experiences (something you are not equipped to address). Some people's are bigger than others but if you are human, you will experience it. Looking at it this way made a big difference for me! Much love!
I have been so aware of this process happening internally the last few weeks since I started grad school...I feel like I waste so much time and energy convincing myself I am not capable/don't belong and will be "found out" (what many deem 'imposter syndrome'). I was not able to figure out why my default is to give up (not just in this situation, but in general) rather than try and fail (I need to let go of the "perfectionist" tendencies), but this video brought me so much clarity and makes me feel so empowered to keep working hard and be open and honest in my communication with my adviser about my needs and concerns. Thanks so much for this - could not have come at a better time!
I have been following you guys for sometime now and the lockdown really made my inner child too unruly for sometime.... This video was so healing... This is all I wanted to here and yes my inner child is super stubborn
23:00 OMG Alex and David, you just spoke what I myself experienced.... well, I think I'm gonna print an obvious sign on my wall: "No CCJ! Be kind to yourself!"
This video was so helpful for me! Finally it's sinking in that I am the creator of my emotions. At first I didn't see how this could be, yet listening to many videos and helping my inner child to understand, it's absolutely amazing! What six years could not accomplish in therapy, not even six weeks has! I feel as though I have started on the right path after wondering all my life which was the right path. When I have an ah-hah revelation, my inner child giggles and laughs! I've found you! She was playing hide and seek. She has been the persistent demanding child, now I am beginning to recognize when she's acting out. Love the analogy of getting back on the bicycle when I fall off in your other videos, it feels good to be pedaling and moving forward. Also a very important ability is to quiet the mind and listen for that quiet voice within. I didn't know I couldn't hear it because of all the noise from my inner child. Thank you so very much for sharing your wisdom, I am so blessed to have found both of you!
Excellent video! I've watched many of your videos and I feel like you've outdone yourselves with this one! I feel like you elegantly integrated so many core concepts and connected the dots so clearly and powerfully. I've taken lots of notes and will probably be coming back to this video. Thank you!
From start to finish this video reminded my adult my inner child’s standing in my way. When I asked my inner child what she believes she said, “I have to know everything & do everything perfectly the first time”. My father patented us from this belief. My adult told my inner child this is not true. She told her she deserves patience to learn new things. She whimpered as she passed through my adult. I am ready to explore & take baby steps toward my intention of being a holistic health mentor. Thank you David & Alexandra! So grateful you are teaching “how” to parent these parts of ourselves so we can be who God intends us to be. Judy in NJ
@@WuWeiWisdom Well, I really needed at this moment. Thank you so so much, I just quit the new job I started this week. Because it was just much too stress and my body reacted too differently. Then I am thinking: is it really the job or do I give up so easily?
Thank you for taking the time and trouble to watch and comment on our videos and work; we appreciate your interest and support. Why don't you consider joining our FREE and private Wu Wei Wisdom Community Facebook support group - Over 7,000 members discuss WWW teachings, answer questions and share experiences: facebook.com/groups/wuweiwisdomcommunity/. Kind regards, David.
Thank you for taking the time and trouble to watch and comment on our videos and work; we appreciate your interest and support. Why don't you consider joining our FREE and private Wu Wei Wisdom Community Facebook support group - Over 7,000 members discuss WWW teachings, answer questions and share experiences: facebook.com/groups/wuweiwisdomcommunity/. Kind regards, David.
So so grateful for this video. My ic is at top gear because of the move, so I've just understood thru gt the abandonment issues its taunting me with, the fear of failure, whoosh!!! She is so strong she amazes me, so determined to drag me down, to stop me, to keep me stuck. Thank you thank you thank you. Back on track now. Blessings ❤❤❤ hope yr weekend is a blast. ❤❤❤
Wow this video was such a light bulb moment for me. I could totally relate. Thank you for your wisdom. I will be watching your other videos on how to heal my inner child
This version of the "inner child" concept is an interesting mnemonic for "self-defeating scripts", "automatic thoughts", "negative self-talk", etc. Would you say, then, that we encounter challenges that trigger old negative thoughts from past traumas? In other words, are the harmful thoughts just outdated scripts that were intended to make sense of the world at a very specific time in our childhood?
Very grateful for your video’s 🙏 I am doing body- mind work for painproblems.. that has helped me in the past .. i wonder after this video: is it possible that the innerchild can even create pain (unexplained pain ) to keep you ‘safe’ i other words : stay put’ ? Love to hear your opinion on this
Most welcome 😊 Thank you for taking the time and trouble to watch and comment on our videos and work; we appreciate your interest. Why don't you consider joining our FREE Wu Wei Wisdom Community Facebook support group - we answer questions and offer guidance and teachings to our members here: facebook.com/groups/wuweiwisdomcommunity/. Please check out our next LIVE online event. More details here: bit.ly/GTP-Live-Dec-2023. Kind regards, David.
Awesome video, How to communicate with our inner child that an injustice is not? I don't agree with : i can cope with 'anything' , if something is wrong for me, how can i cope with it?
These videos are great and insightful. My only suggestion would be that redundancies tend to render them a bit too lengthy. Perhaps shorter versions would enhance focus.
Do you think that we believe all these negative beliefs(that we learned from parents and society) because we were dependent on them as kids? So they were in fact our protective mechanisms? - in a sense - “if I accept that I’m stupid, then it can’t hurt me anymore when they say it” ? and if that was our parents or a teacher at an early age, we knew we needed to go back there so we just accepted it to be true so it didn’t hurt as much. Could it be about our other needs not being met - ‘acceptance’, ‘belonging’?
The defiant inner child who feels s/he is right and mirrors the criticizing adult is one perspective. What about the defeated inner child whose parents gave up on him/her at an early age? If I were to say, "Mom, I'm a terrible person." She would say, "That's right. You are a terrible person." How would I address my inner child's view of apathy?
I'm not the best person to reply since I'm myself learning but I think you can say ... "my parents were wounded children too... now that I'm adult and here for you, let's change this mindset and do things correctly" This is how I'm working on myself. I hope it helps.
Hi david and Alex!! Great video!! I have a question,i was following everyday your teaches for maybe 2weeks I was very very focused on my innerworld, i grounded very good and affirmed i only control myself It went very well,i was so calm almost nothing outside could get me out of my center(wuwei?) I was almost without thoughts most time of the day,my "head" was so quiet But i had a week with a funeral and when i heard the news i thought oh thats not nice, sad. And that was it. I had not many thoughts about it so also no emotions/feelings And more situations like this,almost no emotions,more like it is what it is,acceptance But later i (maybe the IC hihi) start wondering, is this normal? In this " bad/confronting" situations to be without negative thoughts and so without emotions? I liked it,it was quite new to me, but i now wonder is this the wuwei balance/feeling? For 2weeks i stopped applying and listen your teachings hihi and got out of my center and became again more reactive etcetera I would love to know if this non emotional feeling is the wu wei because i started doubting that there was something wrong in this nonfeeling state?(my ic was asking this maybe?haha)❤❤❤
Hi, Thank you for sharing your experiences and for your kind words about the video! It sounds like you've been making profound progress in practicing Wu Wei, finding your center, and maintaining your composure even during challenging times. The state you described, where you felt calm and largely unaffected emotionally by external events, does indeed reflect aspects of Wu Wei-particularly the concept of staying centered and not being swayed by external circumstances. This state of acceptance and the minimal reaction can sometimes feel unusual, especially if you're used to a more emotionally reactive state. However, it's important to note that Wu Wei isn't about suppressing emotions but rather about experiencing them without letting them control you. It involves recognizing your feelings, acknowledging them, and letting them pass without attachment. Your observation that you felt almost non-emotional might be a sign of deep acceptance and detachment, which is a powerful state in Taoist philosophy. However, it's also valuable to check in with yourself to ensure that this isn't a form of emotional suppression. True Wu Wei involves a harmonious balance where you're aware of your emotions and manage them in a way that they do not disrupt your inner peace. If you ever feel uncertain, it might help to reflect on whether your reactions (or lack of them) are coming from a place of genuine peace or from avoidance. It's perfectly okay to revisit and reassess how you engage with your emotions and teachings; this is part of the journey. Thank you for your honesty and vulnerability in sharing this. If you’d like to discuss this further or seek more guidance, our Wu Wei Wisdom community would be a great place to connect and learn: facebook.com/groups/wuweiwisdomcommunity/. Kind Regards, David
Thankyou so much David!!! Iam sorry my reactions on your posts are so late😊 Yes i was wondering also at the time ,am i avoiding feeling emotions But i have to say that at this funeral my tears suddenly came and it was okay with me And i did have emotions and sensitivities and other feelings,but i could let them go very fast and move on I kept saying,i focus on my myself, i love and approve of my self When i keep repaeting in my mind,i cannot be triggered,there comes no other thought,so my mind keeps clear and calm It makes all the judging impossible Long story,but i really appreciated your long answer to my question and i gonna watch again alott of your videos,because when i stop being aware most of the day i offcourse slip back in unconciousness and out of balance Much love for you and alex❤❤❤@@WuWeiWisdom
Thank you for taking the time and trouble to watch and comment on our videos and work; we appreciate your interest and support. As you will appreciate, it would be inappropriate for me to comment on personal issues without full knowledge, history and background. This sounds a little like your Inner Child, perhaps you would find our videos on this subject helpful, have a look in the archives. Why don't you consider joining our FREE and private Wu Wei Wisdom Community Facebook support group - Over 7,000 members discuss WWW teachings, answer questions and share experiences: facebook.com/groups/wuweiwisdomcommunity/. Kind regards, David.
This model of the inner child applies to my behaviour regarding relationships with opposite sex fairly well. However, not at all with respect to work or my bosses. Is this feasible?
Thank you for taking the time and trouble to watch and comment on our videos and work; we appreciate your interest and support. The inner child can certainly CCJ (criticise, compare and being judgemental) that is why it's vitally important to re-educate and re-parent your inner child. Why don't you consider joining our FREE Wu Wei Wisdom Community Facebook support group - we answer questions and offer guidance and teachings to our members here: facebook.com/groups/wuweiwisdomcommunity/. Kind regards, David.
I really enjoy the content of these videos but is there any way you could please find a gentler way if communicating than shouting at the camera? If what you say is so profound and self evident why do you need to get so agitated? It’s like you’re frustrated with us all. Please consider a calmer approach. I would be grateful. Thank you again for the information. Peace.
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I think there are millions of people out there that need to work on their inner child.
Hi Live, Learn and Teach, thanks for watching! We appreciate your support. You may find our Inner Child Video Playlist helpful: th-cam.com/play/PL9NQ_PWX4zICGLRS1b7q1HSJhZRash5qq.html Alex + David x
Thank you so much for your teachings. I have learned so much. 73 and I am finding myself. Never too late!
I am 71 - it gives me some hope to have read your comment.
Well this uncomfortably accurate.
Hilariously uncomfortable for me 🤣🤣🤣
I love how he says at the 34 min mark..."Stop it, stop it!" Its like he really is speaking to a child.
This is intense, kinda painful and useful. It doesn't beat around the bush.
How did you guys know? Wow! This is exactly what I am going through ! Thank you for your wisdom!
I need to lie down now ! A very powerful video which made my IC squirm a little but I’m applying a bit of TLC and she’s coming round - there’s a fear that she maybe re educated but left behind and I’m trying to reassure her that we are aiming for oneness and we are in this together but the adult me is in charge - phew !
I always believed that I was emotionally unfairly CCJ by others growing up!
I took things to heart. Personal.
I now realise that I was born good enough, born to cope & born with worth or value. By dropping the emotional attachment to things people I no longer remain emotionally stuck! Awesome!!!
Thank you for your teachings!
Thanks guys. This is just what I needed. This past week I found myself slipping ever so slowly backwards into some of my old bad habits.
Wow! "How do I stop it? No, no, no--the question is Why am I doing it? " Huge shift in being helpless against these cruel thoughts/beliefs...Taking on accountability...lots of Golden thread work ahead. And I am glad. No more just accepting "the voice." Why do I believe that? Who said that to me? What makes them an expert? Is it even true? etc. Thank you David and Alex.
🙏🏼 thank you for your work, I have been listening to your videos for about 3 weeks, is very clear to me now when the “inner child” is talking. It can be very, very sneaky but now I engage with him in dialog, this has help tremendously in reducing my red light feelings. 🙏🏼 Thank you.
How do you engage with your inner child in dialouge?
Dislikes intensely someone else saying YIU HAVEN’T DONE IT RIGHT / you hit the nail on the head - the reason for my self sabotage - internalized fathers voice ! How can we be so blind to the obvious ! You’re so unbelievably wise David
You described my thoughts perfectly!!! Thank you for your comment
I never identified so much with a video. The whole video I was like - "I do that". Thank you so much !
I love you guys so much!!! It would also be helpful to mention that EVERY CHILD has these experiences (something you are not equipped to address). Some people's are bigger than others but if you are human, you will experience it. Looking at it this way made a big difference for me! Much love!
I have been so aware of this process happening internally the last few weeks since I started grad school...I feel like I waste so much time and energy convincing myself I am not capable/don't belong and will be "found out" (what many deem 'imposter syndrome'). I was not able to figure out why my default is to give up (not just in this situation, but in general) rather than try and fail (I need to let go of the "perfectionist" tendencies), but this video brought me so much clarity and makes me feel so empowered to keep working hard and be open and honest in my communication with my adviser about my needs and concerns. Thanks so much for this - could not have come at a better time!
I have been following you guys for sometime now and the lockdown really made my inner child too unruly for sometime.... This video was so healing... This is all I wanted to here and yes my inner child is super stubborn
This came at such an anointed time
Hit the nail in the head with truth and insight, amazing...
23:00 OMG Alex and David, you just spoke what I myself experienced....
well, I think I'm gonna print an obvious sign on my wall: "No CCJ! Be kind to yourself!"
Looking forward to the Wu Wei Wisdom Retreat with David and Alex, starting later today :)
See you later! :) x
This video was so helpful for me! Finally it's sinking in that I am the creator of my emotions. At first I didn't see how this could be, yet listening to many videos and helping my inner child to understand, it's absolutely amazing! What six years could not accomplish in therapy, not even six weeks has! I feel as though I have started on the right path after wondering all my life which was the right path. When I have an ah-hah revelation, my inner child giggles and laughs! I've found you! She was playing hide and seek. She has been the persistent demanding child, now I am beginning to recognize when she's acting out. Love the analogy of getting back on the bicycle when I fall off in your other videos, it feels good to be pedaling and moving forward. Also a very important ability is to quiet the mind and listen for that quiet voice within. I didn't know I couldn't hear it because of all the noise from my inner child. Thank you so very much for sharing your wisdom, I am so blessed to have found both of you!
Excellent video! I've watched many of your videos and I feel like you've outdone yourselves with this one! I feel like you elegantly integrated so many core concepts and connected the dots so clearly and powerfully. I've taken lots of notes and will probably be coming back to this video. Thank you!
From start to finish this video reminded my adult my inner child’s standing in my way. When I asked my inner child what she believes she said, “I have to know everything & do everything perfectly the first time”. My father patented us from this belief. My adult told my inner child this is not true. She told her she deserves patience to learn new things. She whimpered as she passed through my adult.
I am ready to explore & take baby steps toward my intention of being a holistic health mentor.
Thank you David & Alexandra! So grateful you are teaching “how” to parent these parts of ourselves so we can be who God intends us to be.
Judy in NJ
One of your best teachings! So much truth in this one regarding the inner child. Very helpful, thank you!
David and Alex. This video came right on time! Thank you so so much for this video 👏👏❤️ greetings from Amsterdam
Sending positive qi back to you! x
@@WuWeiWisdom Well, I really needed at this moment. Thank you so so much, I just quit the new job I started this week. Because it was just much too stress and my body reacted too differently. Then I am thinking: is it really the job or do I give up so easily?
Hi David and Alex . I really needed this video.Thankyou from the bottom of my heart xx ♥️
Thank you David and Alex....everything you are saying is so true when it comes to me....I will listen again and again.
Happy Saturday afternoon to you Wu Wei wisdom
38:58 you can cope with any and every situation. Powerful!
Thank you very much. Excellent content!
Thank you for taking the time and trouble to watch and comment on our videos and work; we appreciate your interest and support. Why don't you consider joining our FREE and private Wu Wei Wisdom Community Facebook support group - Over 7,000 members discuss WWW teachings, answer questions and share experiences: facebook.com/groups/wuweiwisdomcommunity/. Kind regards, David.
Amazing work, life changing, sir please upload more videos ❤️🌼
Thank you for taking the time and trouble to watch and comment on our videos and work; we appreciate your interest and support. Why don't you consider joining our FREE and private Wu Wei Wisdom Community Facebook support group - Over 7,000 members discuss WWW teachings, answer questions and share experiences: facebook.com/groups/wuweiwisdomcommunity/. Kind regards, David.
Thank you Wu Wei. So glad you continue to post excellent content. 💖
This video was great - you guys are great in the topics you cover! Thank you!
Wow…this hit me like a brick! Thank you for the insight!
Me everytime!! Hence why I searched this video, to stop this pattern!
So so grateful for this video. My ic is at top gear because of the move, so I've just understood thru gt the abandonment issues its taunting me with, the fear of failure, whoosh!!! She is so strong she amazes me, so determined to drag me down, to stop me, to keep me stuck. Thank you thank you thank you. Back on track now. Blessings ❤❤❤ hope yr weekend is a blast. ❤❤❤
Suffice to say my inner child did not like this video lol
Wow this video was such a light bulb moment for me. I could totally relate. Thank you for your wisdom. I will be watching your other videos on how to heal my inner child
Thank you so much!!!!!!!!
I wish I could like this video many many times. It is another outstanding video with tons of lightbulb moments. ❤️
Such a gift! Thank you
Thank you so much I really needed to hear this.
Thank u so much for this. This cam so much at the right time like a gods grace. Thank u so much both of u
Oh my goodness, I’m still only 6 years old. Lots of growing up to do . Thank you
You can do it! Kind regards, David.
A powerful teaching, thank you
This version of the "inner child" concept is an interesting mnemonic for "self-defeating scripts", "automatic thoughts", "negative self-talk", etc. Would you say, then, that we encounter challenges that trigger old negative thoughts from past traumas? In other words, are the harmful thoughts just outdated scripts that were intended to make sense of the world at a very specific time in our childhood?
I have to watch it again to understand fully. I fall prey to the IC very easily
Thank You!
Learned helplessness
Then we can unlearn it! Kind regards, David.
I love ur video. How to love myself? How to treat myself? Ple clear me.
Very grateful for your video’s 🙏
I am doing body- mind work for painproblems.. that has helped me in the past .. i wonder after this video: is it possible that the innerchild can even create pain (unexplained pain ) to keep you ‘safe’ i other words : stay put’ ?
Love to hear your opinion on this
Thank u so much
Most welcome 😊 Thank you for taking the time and trouble to watch and comment on our videos and work; we appreciate your interest. Why don't you consider joining our FREE Wu Wei Wisdom Community Facebook support group - we answer questions and offer guidance and teachings to our members here: facebook.com/groups/wuweiwisdomcommunity/. Please check out our next LIVE online event. More details here: bit.ly/GTP-Live-Dec-2023. Kind regards, David.
Awesome video,
How to communicate with our inner child that an injustice is not?
I don't agree with : i can cope with 'anything' , if something is wrong for me, how can i cope with it?
These videos are great and insightful. My only suggestion would be that redundancies tend to render them a bit too lengthy. Perhaps shorter versions would enhance focus.
Do you think that we believe all these negative beliefs(that we learned from parents and society) because we were dependent on them as kids? So they were in fact our protective mechanisms? - in a sense - “if I accept that I’m stupid, then it can’t hurt me anymore when they say it” ?
and if that was our parents or a teacher at an early age, we knew we needed to go back there so we just accepted it to be true so it didn’t hurt as much.
Could it be about our other needs not being met - ‘acceptance’, ‘belonging’?
The defiant inner child who feels s/he is right and mirrors the criticizing adult is one perspective. What about the defeated inner child whose parents gave up on him/her at an early age? If I were to say, "Mom, I'm a terrible person." She would say, "That's right. You are a terrible person." How would I address my inner child's view of apathy?
I'm not the best person to reply since I'm myself learning but I think you can say ... "my parents were wounded children too... now that I'm adult and here for you, let's change this mindset and do things correctly"
This is how I'm working on myself. I hope it helps.
Hi david and Alex!!
Great video!!
I have a question,i was following everyday your teaches for maybe 2weeks
I was very very focused on my innerworld, i grounded very good and affirmed i only control myself
It went very well,i was so calm almost nothing outside could get me out of my center(wuwei?)
I was almost without thoughts most time of the day,my "head" was so quiet
But i had a week with a funeral and when i heard the news i thought oh thats not nice, sad.
And that was it.
I had not many thoughts about it so also no emotions/feelings
And more situations like this,almost no emotions,more like it is what it is,acceptance
But later i (maybe the IC hihi) start wondering, is this normal?
In this " bad/confronting" situations to be without negative thoughts and so without emotions?
I liked it,it was quite new to me, but i now wonder is this the wuwei balance/feeling?
For 2weeks i stopped applying and listen your teachings hihi and got out of my center and became again more reactive etcetera
I would love to know if this non emotional feeling is the wu wei because i started doubting that there was something wrong in this nonfeeling state?(my ic was asking this maybe?haha)❤❤❤
Hi,
Thank you for sharing your experiences and for your kind words about the video! It sounds like you've been making profound progress in practicing Wu Wei, finding your center, and maintaining your composure even during challenging times.
The state you described, where you felt calm and largely unaffected emotionally by external events, does indeed reflect aspects of Wu Wei-particularly the concept of staying centered and not being swayed by external circumstances. This state of acceptance and the minimal reaction can sometimes feel unusual, especially if you're used to a more emotionally reactive state. However, it's important to note that Wu Wei isn't about suppressing emotions but rather about experiencing them without letting them control you. It involves recognizing your feelings, acknowledging them, and letting them pass without attachment.
Your observation that you felt almost non-emotional might be a sign of deep acceptance and detachment, which is a powerful state in Taoist philosophy. However, it's also valuable to check in with yourself to ensure that this isn't a form of emotional suppression. True Wu Wei involves a harmonious balance where you're aware of your emotions and manage them in a way that they do not disrupt your inner peace.
If you ever feel uncertain, it might help to reflect on whether your reactions (or lack of them) are coming from a place of genuine peace or from avoidance. It's perfectly okay to revisit and reassess how you engage with your emotions and teachings; this is part of the journey.
Thank you for your honesty and vulnerability in sharing this. If you’d like to discuss this further or seek more guidance, our Wu Wei Wisdom community would be a great place to connect and learn: facebook.com/groups/wuweiwisdomcommunity/.
Kind Regards,
David
Thankyou so much David!!! Iam sorry my reactions on your posts are so late😊
Yes i was wondering also at the time ,am i avoiding feeling emotions
But i have to say that at this funeral my tears suddenly came and it was okay with me
And i did have emotions and sensitivities and other feelings,but i could let them go very fast and move on
I kept saying,i focus on my myself, i love and approve of my self
When i keep repaeting in my mind,i cannot be triggered,there comes no other thought,so my mind keeps clear and calm
It makes all the judging impossible
Long story,but i really appreciated your long answer to my question and i gonna watch again alott of your videos,because when i stop being aware most of the day i offcourse slip back in unconciousness and out of balance
Much love for you and alex❤❤❤@@WuWeiWisdom
Maybe also we didn’t internalize a healthy parent - so access to shen is crowded out by the beliefs of the child.!?!
What about people who legitimately deserve our anger? And isn't it important to express anger?
If it's too hard I give up because I don't like seeing others do something I can't or they make it look easy and I'm stuck
Thank you for taking the time and trouble to watch and comment on our videos and work; we appreciate your interest and support. As you will appreciate, it would be inappropriate for me to comment on personal issues without full knowledge, history and background. This sounds a little like your Inner Child, perhaps you would find our videos on this subject helpful, have a look in the archives. Why don't you consider joining our FREE and private Wu Wei Wisdom Community Facebook support group - Over 7,000 members discuss WWW teachings, answer questions and share experiences: facebook.com/groups/wuweiwisdomcommunity/. Kind regards, David.
Anyway you can time stamp the points in the videos?
This model of the inner child applies to my behaviour regarding relationships with opposite sex fairly well. However, not at all with respect to work or my bosses. Is this feasible?
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Pleased it helped. Kind regards, David.
I don’t know how to fight for my life.
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Hello, Thank you for taking the time and trouble to watch and comment on our videos and work; we appreciate your interest. Kind regards, David.
You said "just because someone said something to you doesn't make it right." See the paradox?
Why do you believe that it is paradox?
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Inner child isn’t the inner critic
Thank you for taking the time and trouble to watch and comment on our videos and work; we appreciate your interest and support. The inner child can certainly CCJ (criticise, compare and being judgemental) that is why it's vitally important to re-educate and re-parent your inner child. Why don't you consider joining our FREE Wu Wei Wisdom Community Facebook support group - we answer questions and offer guidance and teachings to our members here: facebook.com/groups/wuweiwisdomcommunity/. Kind regards, David.
I really enjoy the content of these videos but is there any way you could please find a gentler way if communicating than shouting at the camera? If what you say is so profound and self evident why do you need to get so agitated? It’s like you’re frustrated with us all. Please consider a calmer approach. I would be grateful. Thank you again for the information. Peace.