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Thank you,this is amazing! I didn't start to look at my self(and my inner child) until I got myself in very toxic and painful relationship(my opinion with a NPD person) ,seems like life start to give me these life lessons from very early age,only now at age of 33,my eyes start to opening what is all abaut,your videos are very helpful and encouraging.. and no matter how people in my life try to help me I didn't hear them,until I was ready to look at myself first..I learn hard way.. :) I think very often children with traumas,put them selfs unconsciously in very dengerous situations in a relationships. Everyone must heal in order to have healthly relationship. Lots appreciated for the work you doing.
Zivile, thank you for sharing and taking the time to watch our videos. We're very pleased to be part of your healing journey. And, yes you are correct - taking *self-responsibility* is a powerful and transformative step in finding the emotional freedom and love that is your 100& birthright. You may also find this video helpful: th-cam.com/video/J1olSZ1wyz0/w-d-xo.html If you have questions on any of our teachings please let us know or if there's a topic or issue you'd like us to cover in future videos do tell us as this helps us plan our future videos. If you enjoy our video teachings please feel free to subscribe to our TH-cam Channel (we regularly add new videos!) ➜ th-cam.com/users/WuWeiWisdom We also run a free Facebook Group where we share daily Wu Wei Wisdom, answer supporter questions and broadcast live Q&A and video teachings - you would be welcome to join the group ➜ facebook.com/groups/wuweiwisdomcommunity/ Alex & David x
Thank you Universe for sending me help through these people with the tools they share. My life was hard, I cried for help, and Help was sent. I am so grateful. Thank you!!
Thank you for this video! I have been dealing with a lot self-destructive habits that started in college, after leaving my parents' house and I am realizing now that I need to heal my inner child. I actually thought the idea was nonsense because I didn't experience abuse as a child but I was raised very strict where I couldn't do a lot of things that my other friends were able. I had to lie and sneak out of the house to have some kind of a social life as a teenager. I always felt bad but nothing different from always feeling imperfect to my parents, especially my mom. Unfortunately, got myself involved in a toxic relationship when I was 21, where I felt I was a young child all over again, I always felt like I wasn't good enough with my parents and my former boyfriend constantly called out my flaws every chance he got, we ended up having a child and I kept running back and forth for 11 years. It's been almost 2 years of finally feeling free from that toxic relationship, but I am now dealing with boxed up traumas. I see now, that I can't keep blaming my parents, they did the best they knew to raise me. I am going to seek to heal my inner child now. Thank you!!
Hi Wendy, Thanks for sharing your story, it sounds as though you are now getting a good understanding of the Life Lessons you need to be addressing. I would suggest you watch the full Inner Child video playlist series for guidance and inspiration: th-cam.com/play/PL9NQ_PWX4zICGLRS1b7q1HSJhZRash5qq.html Why don't you consider joining our FREE Wu Wei Wisdom Community Facebook support group - we answer questions and offer guidance and teachings to our members here: facebook.com/groups/wuweiwisdomcommunity/. Thank you for taking the time and trouble for watching and commenting on our videos we appreciate your support. Please subscribe to our TH-cam channel and don't forget to click the BELL icon. David
Hi Thai Thanks for your kind comment - we appreciate your support! If you have questions on any of our teachings please let us know or if there's a topic or issue you'd like us to cover in future videos do tell us as this helps us plan our future videos. If you enjoy our video teachings please feel free to subscribe to our TH-cam Channel (we add new videos every Sunday!) ➜ th-cam.com/users/wuweiwisdom (click the 'notification bell’ when you subscribe and you’ll also get an email notification every time we add a new video). We also run a free Facebook Group where we share daily Wu Wei Wisdom and answer supporter questions - you would be welcome to join the group ➜ facebook.com/groups/wuweiwisdomcommunity/ Alex & David x
I am watching this and I am crying 😭 my life finally being explained. Someone finally speaking on my mind and it’s just amazing. God bless u guys this is so shocking and I am sooo happy I found this. Thank u for helping me understand myself
Awww thank you Liz... we're pleased to hear the video is helpful for you. If you have any questions about anything we discuss please post them here and we'll be happy to guide you if we can. Also, if you can think of a related topic or issue that we could use for a future video teaching do let us know. Alex & David x
My current life situation explained in words.The examples given during this video is exactly how my inner child trauma has influenced my life. Thank you once again for uploading this. Truly helpful during my inner child healing which I'm going through at the moment.
thank you so much for making these videos... you have no idea how helpful they are. please keep making them! also would love to know more about you both-- your backgrounds and your stories as well!
Hi thanks for taking the time to watch and comment again :)... we love sharing our teachings so will be producing more videos in 2019 (one per week if Alex can find time to do the production alongside her other projects!). I guess we don't overly share about 'us' on our videos because our message and the focus of our energy is very much about you (and supporting you) and not about us! But we can see that some folks would like to get to know us a little better and learn about our journey of how we got to do what we do... so we will definitely consider how we can address this in the future - thank you for your suggestion! Alex & David x
Hey I wasn't expecting perfect parents but at least parents that didn't call me names and try to kill me. So yeah |I am blaming them for my problems today. And yes I am taking responsibility and trying to fix me.
Hi Blue Thanks for taking the time to watch and comment on our video. We're glad it has helped you! We can't change the past but we can change how we deal with it today. Well done for taking self-responsibility for creating your today and your future. You may also find our other Inner Child videos helpful: th-cam.com/play/PL9NQ_PWX4zICGLRS1b7q1HSJhZRash5qq.html If you have questions on any of our teachings please let us know or if there's a topic or issue you'd like us to cover in future videos do tell us as this helps us plan our future videos. If you enjoy our video teachings please feel free to subscribe to our TH-cam Channel (we add new videos every Sunday!) ➜ th-cam.com/users/wuweiwisdom (click the 'notification bell’ when you subscribe and you’ll also get an email notification every time we add a new video). We also run a free Facebook Group where we share daily Wu Wei Wisdom and answer supporter questions - you would be welcome to join the group ➜ facebook.com/groups/wuweiwisdomcommunity/ Alex + David x
I love that positive talk towards the end. Yes, we're so blessed to be alive and all the things life give us. "I am my own cheerleader, I honor myself... no more going around the carousel." Thank you so much for all the enlightenment, love an encouragement to the two of you. 💕 🌷 🌹
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Thank you so much for uploading this, I am literally going through healing my inner child trauma at the moment and I can't explain enough how listening to this helps.
I am finally beginning this process. I wonder if you’ve heard the following from clients: No memorable trauma in childhood... My therapist says that those who don’t have a distinct memory have usually buried it and need to do the inner child work to uncover it and move forward.
Hi Mountain Momma, Thanks for your question As you will appreciate it would be inappropriate for me to comment on personal issues without full knowledge, history and background. Therefore I can only comment in general terms. In my experience this is when the Golden Thread Process really helps. Have a look at these two videos which demonstrate the basics of this process: th-cam.com/video/9XuoL9pQSR8/w-d-xo.html / th-cam.com/video/5N7sC1yGZO4/w-d-xo.html I'm sure that your therapist will have their own techniques in these situations. Why don't you consider joining our FREE Wu Wei Wisdom Community Facebook support group - we answer questions and offer guidance and teachings to our members here: facebook.com/groups/wuweiwisdomcommunity Thank you for taking the time and trouble for watching and commenting on our videos we appreciate your support. Please subscribe to our TH-cam channel and don't forget to click the BELL icon. David
I've been studying inner child work for years. The verbiage you two are described in empowering the inner child is powerful. I like the term carousel of despair. I wished I learned this long time ago. I'm looking forward to exploring Wu Wei Wisdom.
This is one of the most powerful videos I have ever watched on how to heal myself and the daily struggles I have with not feeling good enough which in turn has made me believe I am unlovable just as I am.
Hi KDS1000 We're pleased that we can help you! We have lots more videos on healing old trauma and Inner Child work here that you may also find helpful: th-cam.com/play/PL9NQ_PWX4zICGLRS1b7q1HSJhZRash5qq.html If you enjoy our video teachings please feel free to subscribe to our TH-cam Channel (we add new videos every Sunday!) ➜ th-cam.com/users/wuweiwisdom (click the 'notification bell’ when you subscribe and you’ll also get an email notification every time we add a new video). We also run a free Facebook Group where we share daily Wu Wei Wisdom, answer supporter questions and broadcast live Q&A and video teachings - you would be welcome to join the group ➜ facebook.com/groups/wuweiwisdomcommunity/ Alex + David x
Thank you so much for making these videos. This one by far has helped me the most in following my golden thread to the issues of unfairness and favoritism between myself and my brother as children. Every single video has been helpful and I love David's passion and Alexandra's expert way of getting across how viewers feel and think regarding how to progress in this spiritual work. This video really spoke to me because I now realize I have been wearing some type of badge and thinking somehow the universe "owes me" for the wrongs of the past. It is eye opened and I feel lighter and calmer after each video I watch.
Hi Rin thanks for taking the time to watch and comment on our videos (and also for being a valued member of our Wu Wei Wisdom Community Facebook group!). Thanks also for sharing your story here as we're sure other readers will empathise with your situation. We're pleased to hear that the videos are helping you and that this video, in particular, has offered you some powerful insights. Our intention is to inspire others to awaken to the awesome person they really are and we 100% believe in you :) Alex & David x
Hi Shawdale, you are welcome! Thanks for taking the time to watch and comment we really appreciate it ...please share the video with anyone else who you think may benefit :) If you have any questions about the issues we talk about in the video please do post them here and we'll be happy to answer them for you. Alex & David x
Hi Pat Thanks for taking the time to watch and comment on our video. We're glad it has helped you! You may also find this video on childhood hurt helpful: th-cam.com/video/jxmMKS9qyCs/w-d-xo.html If you have questions on any of our teachings please let us know or if there's a topic or issue you'd like us to cover in future videos do tell us as this helps us plan our future videos. If you enjoy our video teachings please feel free to subscribe to our TH-cam Channel (we add new videos every Sunday!) ➜ th-cam.com/users/wuweiwisdom (click the 'notification bell’ when you subscribe and you’ll also get an email notification every time we add a new video). We also run a free Facebook Group where we share daily Wu Wei Wisdom, answer supporter questions and broadcast live Q&A and video teachings - you would be welcome to join the group ➜ facebook.com/groups/wuweiwisdomcommunity/ Alex + David x
Thanks for taking the time to watch and comment on our video. We're glad it has helped you! If you have questions on any of our teachings please let us know or if there's a topic or issue you'd like us to cover in future videos do tell us as this helps us plan our future videos. If you enjoy our video teachings please feel free to subscribe to our TH-cam Channel (we add new videos every Sunday!) ➜ th-cam.com/users/wuweiwisdom (click the 'notification bell’ when you subscribe and you’ll also get an email notification every time we add a new video). We also run a free Facebook Group where we share daily Wu Wei Wisdom, answer supporter questions and broadcast live Q&A and video teachings - you would be welcome to join the group ➜ facebook.com/groups/wuweiwisdomcommunity/ Alex + David x
Hi Casey, we're glad you've found us and thanks for watching and commenting - we really appreciate it! You may also find this video helpful: th-cam.com/video/CdcFs3qOwmw/w-d-xo.html If you have questions on any of our teachings please let us know or if there's a topic or issue you'd like us to cover in future videos do tell us as this helps us plan our future videos. If you enjoy our video teachings please feel free to subscribe to our TH-cam Channel (we add new videos every Sunday!) ➜ th-cam.com/users/wuweiwisdom We also run a free Facebook Group where we share daily Wu Wei Wisdom and answer supporter questions - you would be welcome to join the group ➜ facebook.com/groups/wuweiwisdomcommunity/ Alex & David x If you'd like to learn more about our unique approach to the Inner Child, we also have a full-length mp3 teaching album on this subject (includes a guided Inner Child meditation): 'Oneness ~ Loving & Healing Your Inner Child' - available here ➜ www.wuweiwisdom.com/shop/
Absolutely loved this you are like the parents I never had thank you so much!! I’ve been on a self healing journey and most definitely being my own cheerleader. I’m just battling because I have been conditioned by narcissistic caregiver. But I’m going to fight for myself. Thank you so much God bless the both of you!!
thanks to mindfulness and acceptance therapy i learned the practice of cognitive defusion for depression and anxiety plus for the resentment about my trauma.
Hello Sound Healing, Thank you for taking the time and trouble to watch and comment on our videos and work; we appreciate your interest and support. Why don't you consider joining our FREE and private Wu Wei Wisdom Community Facebook support group - Over 7,000 members discuss WWW teachings, answer questions and share experiences: facebook.com/groups/wuweiwisdomcommunity/. Kind regards, David.
What a powerful video, thank you both so much. It certainly resonates with me and you explained both the symptoms and healing method so clearly. I have just been through a lot of inner child healing. This video is certainly worth watching again. Thank you.
Thank you Annie - we're glad the video has helped you 💜 We have lots of videos on our channel about the Inner Child that you may find helpful. Have you watched our 2-part 'Inner Child Reparenting' series? PART 1: th-cam.com/video/SndWtblVf2U/w-d-xo.html / PART 2: th-cam.com/video/BYUxAQYpsKg/w-d-xo.html We also run a free Facebook Group where we share daily Wu Wei Wisdom and answer supporter questions - you would be welcome to join the group ➜ facebook.com/groups/wuweiwisdomcommunity/ Alex & David x
Hi Jaclyn Thanks for taking the time to watch and comment! We have lots of videos on the Inner Child on our channel - for example, you may also find there videos helpful: th-cam.com/video/eoiZex2C9SI/w-d-xo.html / th-cam.com/video/CdcFs3qOwmw/w-d-xo.html If you have questions on any of our teachings please let us know or if there's a topic or issue you'd like us to cover in future videos do tell us as this helps us plan our future videos. If you enjoy our video teachings please feel free to subscribe to our TH-cam Channel (we add new videos every Sunday!) ➜ th-cam.com/users/wuweiwisdom We also run a free Facebook Group where we share daily Wu Wei Wisdom, answer supporter questions and broadcast live Q&A and video teachings - you would be welcome to join the group ➜ facebook.com/groups/wuweiwisdomcommunity/ Alex & David x
Thomson, you are welcome! We're glad the video has helped you. You may also be interested in our latest video on toxic shame: th-cam.com/video/o6VRiMRIHmY/w-d-xo.html If you have questions on any of our teachings please let us know or if there's a topic or issue you'd like us to cover in future videos do tell us as this helps us plan our future videos. If you enjoy our video teachings please feel free to subscribe to our TH-cam Channel (we add new videos every Sunday!) ➜ th-cam.com/users/wuweiwisdom We also run a free Facebook Group where we share daily Wu Wei Wisdom, answer supporter questions and broadcast live Q&A and video teachings - you would be welcome to join the group ➜ facebook.com/groups/wuweiwisdomcommunity/ Alex & David x
Hi Yasmin Thanks for taking the time to watch and comment on our video - we appreciate your support! You may also find this video helpful: th-cam.com/video/o6VRiMRIHmY/w-d-xo.html If you have questions on any of our teachings please let us know or if there's a topic or issue you'd like us to cover in future videos do tell us as this helps us plan our future videos. If you enjoy our video teachings please feel free to subscribe to our TH-cam Channel (we add new videos every Sunday!) ➜ th-cam.com/users/wuweiwisdom (click the 'notification bell’ when you subscribe and you’ll also get an email notification every time we add a new video). We also run a free Facebook Group where we share daily Wu Wei Wisdom and answer supporter questions - you would be welcome to join the group ➜ facebook.com/groups/wuweiwisdomcommunity/ Alex & David x
Hi thanks for watching an commenting - we appreciate it! You may also find this video helpful: th-cam.com/video/J1olSZ1wyz0/w-d-xo.html If you have questions on any of our teachings please let us know or if there's a topic or issue you'd like us to cover in future videos do tell us as this helps us plan our future videos. If you enjoy our video teachings please feel free to subscribe to our TH-cam Channel (we regularly add new videos!) ➜ th-cam.com/users/wuweiwisdom We also run a free Facebook Group where we share daily Wu Wei Wisdom, answer supporter questions andbroadcast live Q&A and video teachings - you would be welcome to join the group ➜ facebook.com/groups/wuweiwisdomcommunity/ Alex & David x If you'd like to learn more about our unique approach to healing the Inner Child, we also have a full-length mp3 teaching album on this subject (includes a guided Inner Child meditation): 'Oneness ~ Loving & Healing Your Inner Child' - available here ➜ www.wuweiwisdom.com/shop/
Wow this is amazing. Talk about hit the nail on the head. This is certainly a video that I will need to play over to get me into a new way of thinking and keep me there till it is habit, because these circles r making me dizzy.
Thanks for watching and for your feedback - you can do this and you are worth it! :) If you have questions on any of our teachings please let us know or if there's a topic or issue you'd like us to cover in future videos do tell us as this helps us plan our future videos. If you enjoy our video teachings please feel free to subscribe to our TH-cam Channel (we regularly add new videos!) ➜ th-cam.com/users/wuweiwisdom We also run a free Facebook Group where we share daily Wu Wei Wisdom, answer supporter questions and broadcast live Q&A and video teachings - you would be welcome to join the group ➜ facebook.com/groups/wuweiwisdomcommunity/ Alex & David x
You're welcome! Thank you for taking the time and trouble to watch and comment on our videos and work; we appreciate your interest and support. Why don't you consider joining our FREE and private Wu Wei Wisdom Community Facebook support group - Over 7,000 members discuss WWW teachings, answer questions and share experiences: facebook.com/groups/wuweiwisdomcommunity/. Kind regards, David.
a lot of times we don’t remember exactly what happened but we know from the results in our beliefs and sabotaging actions that this go back in something deep and not direct, so when someone is asked about the incidence they would not remember, so what to do in this case ? and the second question is what to do when an adult is frozen in earlier age and can’t manage, they grew in years but their being is stuck in the past
I think it would be a good idea to share about the tools that can be used such as breathing exercises, EFT, meditation, EMDR, neurofeedback & so much more.
Most welcome 😊 Thank you for taking the time and trouble to watch and comment on our videos and work; we appreciate your interest and support. Why don't you consider joining our FREE and private Wu Wei Wisdom Community Facebook support group - Over 7,000 members discuss WWW teachings, answer questions and share experiences: facebook.com/groups/wuweiwisdomcommunity/. Kind regards, David.
i am crying because i know this to be all too true!! i hate how this has happened to me. My dad has made me fearful of him till this day. I need this emotional healing
Hi Hien Thanks for sharing your story. You can do this and the emotional healing work is worth it - you are awesome! You may also find this video helpful: th-cam.com/video/9XuoL9pQSR8/w-d-xo.html If you have questions on any of our teachings please let us know or if there's a topic or issue you'd like us to cover in future videos do tell us as this helps us plan our future videos. If you enjoy our video teachings please feel free to subscribe to our TH-cam Channel (we add new videos every Sunday!) ➜ th-cam.com/users/wuweiwisdom (click the 'notification bell’ when you subscribe and you’ll also get an email notification every time we add a new video). We also run a free Facebook Group where we share daily Wu Wei Wisdom and answer supporter questions - you would be welcome to join the group ➜ facebook.com/groups/wuweiwisdomcommunity/ Alex & David x
I really need help dealing with this issue, I don't know how to let go and move forward. The bad thing is I know it's unhealthy for my health and future in all aspects. But I can't seem to let it go
You care enough about yourself to have found this page I am doing the same. I just landed here as well. these videos sound like they are useful. You deserve to be happy you deserve to be treated with care and respect. You deserve to forgive and to love. Wish you all the best and many blessings.
At 9:07 into i hit pause and pushed it back to repeat. You were talking to me! You said the very things I’ve said for years. Because i live in a greed motivated society, i find it hard to get the psychological help i need. (Poor insurance) I was raped at the age of 5 but didn’t remember till last year when i was attacked in my home, in my sleep. My mother hid what happened to me but she couldn’t hide the emotional or physical ticks that developed. I also have Asperger so i was way different. My mother and the rest of my family got comfortable in calling me crazy. And I accepted that label all my life. I’m still struggling with being happy. Because I didn’t know how. I’m learning now, how to be happy.
Hi Unwilling Vegan, Thanks for sharing your story. We work with many clients who are addressing the childhood situations you experienced. As I say on many videos, this is my evidence of how awesome you are, to have come through that situation still connected to your 'Shen' divine spirit. I have no doubt that you will be able to move on now in Wu Wei balance and harmony and live your authentic life journey. Why don't you consider joining our FREE Wu Wei Wisdom Community Facebook support group - we answer questions and offer guidance and teachings to our members here: facebook.com/groups/wuweiwisdomcommunity/. Thank you for taking the time and trouble for watching and commenting on our videos we appreciate your support. Please subscribe to our TH-cam channel and don't forget to click the BELL icon. David
I was an unwanted child (girl) and the trade-off was the paternal side would teach my 3 boys (my dad had no boys, just girls) how to disrespect me; and the maternal side's trade off was they'd treat my kids like they treated me and my mentally ill mother. So they never met my father, half sisters - nadda. Anyway, I didn't realize how deep my pain ran until I spoke to a grandma who helped take care of her grandchildren. I told this grandmother that her daughter was taking advantage of her and that she should hire a sitter. With kind eyes, Eileen turned to me and said, "'What, no!!! I love taking care of my grandchildren!". All these years I've made up a story that said I was strong and independent when in fact I was abused and neglected aka: over-functioning. It took that specific moment in time with that specific person, - who shares the same name as my maternal grandma, to tell me such a painful message without actually saying the words. Thankfully, I heard her.
Happy day Alex and David! Thank you so much for sharing your work through these inspiring videos. Through the processing of my pain I discovered my purpose in life, so the Tao saying “challenges reveal you” completely resonates. As I dive deeper and deeper in order to help others connect with their immense power and share their inspiring story, more layers become apparent. I have been guided to inner child work and am fascinated by your approach. I like the simplicity of a 10 min daily talk with my inner child to be the parent I so longed for. Would you recommend talking or journaling? And if it’s the latter, what would be an inspiring prompt? I’m thinking something along the lines of what do you need today my dear? ☺️ Fascinated with your teachings and styles!! Thank you so much 💕
I have childhood trauma and have been doing emdr therapy. I get anxious to drive anywhere even with being a passenger. I have been doing prolonged exposures litle by little as I gain trust with myself. Is this a good approach? Will it work?
Hi there. When I was very young I experienced some scary scenes around my alcoholic father which made me isolate myself as much as possible. The dinner table is where I had to be in his presence (This is a theory I've recently come up with). I believe this is why I had a hard time eating as a child. This is a problem that has haunted me all my life. If I am having any anxiety about anything my appetite is the first thing to cave. And I mean I literally struggle to get anything down. I could be so hungry and still really struggle. Sometimes if it's bad I will almost faint when trying to eat. Except in my later teens I seemed to snap out of it and become a wild card. I became a travelling rock musician and did lots of stupid stupid things. I drank and smoked weed and stuff. But I can't help but think an unpleasant LSD experience brought all the anxiety back (or dissolved the false ego 'fearless' self I invented as a late teen?). Sometimes in my life my anxiety isn't so bad. But if something even slightly traumatic happens I fall into a huge pit of anxiety and depression. I have no one to blame but myself for being a dickhead doing LSD, but I'm wondering if this makes sense about my troubles with food/anxiety, and if the way to go about getting past my anxiety is by not running from the anxiety. Should I see my anxiety as a 'traumatized child' that I should cherish and listen to? Is that the crux of all this? Along with this approach I've also stopped trying to make myself eat if I'm anxious. Since thinking of all this I noticed that maybe I've been in the role of the parent trying to force myself (the anxious child) to eat, reliving the battles of yesteryear. Does this qualify as some sort of eating disorder? Any suggestions or videos you think might help would be greatly appreciated. Does it sound like I'm on to something, or am i being a bit of an over-thinker? I also think a problem that keeps me stuck is that I'm a really creative person who's good at telling stories. And sometimes when I have a problem I can't stop telling the story of it in my head. Anyway, sorry this is as long as it is. I welcome any perspectives or advice. Thx for the videos.
Hi Sando, Thanks for your comments. As I said before, you have done a great deal of good work here, well done! Remember, you are the creator of your emotions….not the victim. Stop focusing on the emotions that you label anxiety and focus of the thinking and beliefs that create them. You CANNOT change what happened in your childhood, BUT you can change your perception of it! This is your choice. This is your time to consider being self-responsible and accountable for your thoughts, beliefs and actions as you interpret your childhood experiences. Accept what happened as the truth, but place it in your history and rearview mirror. It has NO bearing on what decisions you make today, unless YOU choose to allow it. As you correctly said, it is a story, a true story, but only of the past… don't make it your future! Thank you for taking the time and trouble for watching and commenting on our videos we appreciate your support. David
So empowering! Thank you. How might you address dissociation after visiting past trauma? I severely depersonalized after a therapist conducted an EMDR session where we first began looking at a traumatic event. I’m enjoying your insights very much. Thanks again!
@@WuWeiWisdom funny this post and question was two years ago when I was soon after diagnosed with DID. So I have my answer. I’ve since started a non profit to assist with educating the public through our counseling office, Front Porch Counseling in Cincinnati, Ohio.
I had a near drowning incident when i was 6 seems the shock. Fear grief from that incident got stuck in my psyche and i have thede feelings especially grief time to time come to surface and making me vulnerable...when i am resolving it fully experiencing it making these feelings friendly to me i am getting relief and peace....does it go along with wu wei wisdom philosophy??
Hi @khansherani, Thank you for sharing your experience. It's brave of you to explore these deep feelings and work towards resolving them. Your approach to acknowledging and befriending your feelings aligns well with Wu Wei's wisdom, emphasising harmony with our inner selves and experiences. By observing and accepting your emotions without resistance, you're practising a key aspect of this philosophy. facebook.com/groups/wuweiwisdomcommunity/. Keep embracing your path to peace and relief. Kind Regards, David.
Yes, after watching this; I think it may be possible that I´ve been wearing those yellow lensed glasses too! I just need to learn how to remove them. I´m going to begin the process; painful though it may be. Thankyou :)
Hi Marco, taking self-responsibility in this way is a powerful first step. Often the Inner Child wants us to perceive things as being too painful/difficult to do so that we don't break away from our normal habit of (emotional) avoidance, which the Child perceived as the 'safe zone' (even though this has never worked for you as an adult). The Child may continue to resist, struggle and cast doubt on your new journey, but remember to be kind, patient and loving with that part of your mind because it distrusts and dislikes the unknown. It now needs to learn to trust you first as the guiding 'parent'. Do let us know how you get on or if you have any questions we can help you with. Alex & David x
Thankyou so much for your prompt reply. I must say that since viewing your video two days ago, I´ve been trying to follow your guidance. I´m finding it quite extraordinary to indeed recognise that my core beliefs are indeed out of sync with reality. I´m beginning to recognise (although I haven´t accepted yet )that my perceptions might be distorted and indeed wrong. Do you have an email address with which I could communicate more discreetly? Thankyou so much for your guidance and support. :)
@@Marco-en3jl this sounds like a great realisation. I only work privately one-to-one via my therapy sessions (you can email us at info@wuweiwisdom.com for more info on these). I'm also very happy to offer you general guidance and support via TH-cam or our Facebook community group - this is obviously more publically shared information but the intention is that the Q&A will help other people who read it if they are in a similar situation. I hope this makes sense. :) David
Yes, I understand totally. In reality, I only made that suggestion when on another video you invited viewers to email if they could prove a certain point; I forget which point it was, lol. Anyway, I shall continue following the process; & hope that I can break these traumatic beliefs and see life without these yellow lensed glasses, :)
Marco 64 you absolutely can, Marco! Heck you already took a huge step!! 👏👏 although it seems like these lenses were attached to us in some way without our being conscious of it, now that you are aware you’ll see it is just a choice. The selection of our lenses is our choice!! It’s sooo freakin freeing!! Oh my... you’re in for one heck of a ride . So excited for you!
I "believe" I'm overwhelmed because I feel my overactive Sympathetic Nervous System affecting my gut, viscerally, and creating a whole host of other "symptoms". Early trauma, implicit memories. While your words resonate, I am concerned with the lack of somatic aspects. For early trauma, infants as an example, the body cannot first be helped by CBT; we're traumatized. Gotta work bottom-up. I'm very interested, sincerely so, in your reply, because I'd like to get an idea if you're of possible assistance to me, but, with your response you may also help others to determine for themselves, if your teachings are for me/them. Thank you for taking the time to read this, and I greatly look forward to, and and in advance, thank you for this.
I vomit countless times a week from PTSD but I have started to laugh at it. Instead of buying into my own feeling of grief, I just say ‘here we go again! 😜 crazy shit’ and after I flush that toilet I forget about it. Instead of bringing in the whole kit of despair and grief. I’m not trying to give you advice but just saying what I’m trying because I’m out of options honestly.
Thank you for a really insightful video. I have many of the difficulties you ascribe to childhood trauma - anxiety, depression avoidance etc but I have very few memories of my childhood and no specific memories of traumatic events. Does that prevent any recovery ?
Hi John Thanks for your question. It is NOT unusual for the mind to bury emotional issues believing that will protect you and stop the need to address and deal with them. In my experience, the most effective way to deal with any traumatic event is to confront it and learn the Life-Lesson it offers. Although this approach can produce 'red-light' feelings of fear it is NEVER as bad as first thought. In fact, the opposite: it can be a tremendous relief and create authentic emotional freedom. Thank you very much for taking the time and trouble of watching our videos and commenting. If you enjoy our video teachings please feel free to subscribe to our TH-cam Channel (we regularly add new videos!) ➜ th-cam.com/users/wuweiwisdom We also run a free Facebook Group where we share daily Wu Wei Wisdom, answer supporter questions and broadcast live Q&A and video teachings - you would be welcome to join the group ➜ facebook.com/groups/wuweiwisdomcommunity/ David x
Hi John, Thanks for your question. It is understandable that your mind (Inner Child) will close down and avoid those childhood traumatic memories as a form of protection and keeping you safe. I believe it is important to do this work, resolving the challenging 'Life-lessons' you have encountered. We have a saying: "You can't change what you don't understand!" I hope and trust that you come through this challenge stronger and more authentic than ever. Thank you for taking the time and trouble to watch and comment on our videos . David
It’s one thing to make allowances and understanding for a parent who made mistakes. It’s another for a mother who willfully and purposely neglected and abused her children. Who chose to hate them and tell them that she didn’t love them or want them. To threaten to send them away as soon as the child stood up against the violence. A parent who knew full well she was in the wrong because she kept her child at home locked away to hide the bruises from the child’s school. A mother who was so jealous and envious of her daughters when they grew up that she tried to take her daughter bf and thought it was acceptable to pin her teen daughters bf down to the floor and rub her vagina into his face whilst in her knickers. A mother who made everything about her and allowed her kids to starve. A mother who allowed others to beat and sexually abuse her kids. A mother who did everything to punish and destroy her kids. A mother who put cigarettes out on the bodies of her toddlers and then had them taken away!! No! Sorry no! Some parents don’t make mistakes. Some parents are just evil. And yes I grew up with the false belief that I was unlovable and didn’t have permission to exist, but now I know different. I know that others loved me. I am loved. I have permission to be here. It’s my life and my body. I never felt like that before. Before I felt like just a servant to her. Not any more. Not all parents make mistakes. Some are psychopathic and do not deserve our love or forgiveness.
Forgiving others isn't about them or whether they deserve it or not, it's about you healing from your pain, about letting go of the pain and the heartbreak and the acid that eats away at your soul because you're hanging on to the bitterness and anger. You need to forgive them, not for their sake, not because they deserve it, but for your own sake, because YOU deserve it.
Hi Malka Thanks for watching and commenting! We have an Inner Child video playlist that includes videos which cover this topic and how to heal the Inner Child - you can access the playlist here: th-cam.com/play/PL9NQ_PWX4zICGLRS1b7q1HSJhZRash5qq.html If you have questions on any of our teachings please let us know or if there's a topic or issue you'd like us to cover in future videos do tell us as this helps us plan our future videos. If you enjoy our video teachings please feel free to subscribe to our TH-cam Channel (we add new videos every Sunday!) ➜ th-cam.com/users/wuweiwisdom (click the 'notification bell’ when you subscribe and you’ll also get an email notification every time we add a new video). We also run a free Facebook Group where we share daily Wu Wei Wisdom, answer supporter questions and broadcast live Q&A and video teachings - you would be welcome to join the group ➜ facebook.com/groups/wuweiwisdomcommunity/ Alex + David x
Because I chose to stay in an abusive marriage my son is now 23 and is scarred and hurting so much. With reason, he has so much anger and hatred towards me. He is such a brilliant, beautiful and sensitive person. Please how do I help him? Can you help me?
My suggestion would be to first apologize for not protecting him from the abuse, and then second to suggest that he start to check out videos like this one, or self-help books if he's not into videos.
@@lupechacon-florez7520 don't be judgmental, don't criticize, don't compare. Set a good example of growth yourself. No one wants to be in pain but not everyone one has the tools and disciplines to walk away the comfort zone, ironically the zone of pain.
Hi David I learned about lucid living from Timothy Freke and his book the laughing Jesus. It’s a way of thinking about life where one experiences themself as both the lifedreamer and a person in the life dream. I don’t feel I would do it justice if I tried to explain it with my limited understanding of it but I can post a link to Tim’s audio book on TH-cam, he has loads of other stuff asides, where he explains the concepts. It’s really about waking up to oneoness or gnosis. I hope you are having a great day. Sending my love from sunny ☀️ Edinburgh x
th-cam.com/play/PLRbbbFVf--hsNoITzHimwVf1jOFpQvSqw.html this is the link to Tim’s audio book it’s a fascinating and very bold set of concepts which challenge our perceptions of life. I hope you enjoy and I love wu Wei it gets easier every day
@@CraigTara113 I have not heard of this. The principle of Oneness is a fundamental Taoist teaching though. These videos relate to the subject of Oneness and living your truth: th-cam.com/video/FkMgphUkLB4/w-d-xo.html / th-cam.com/video/NTCicUQwet8/w-d-xo.html Thanks David
How can I find my childhood trauma??? I cannot pinpoint it! Had and still have loving parents... it feels like I was born with co-dependancy. As a small kid I was already a pleaser, had fear of abondenement... my dad was my God, if he rand out of my sight I cried my loungs out... still van feel of fear now (44) they did their best to raider me with independence... Would like to heal my innerchild, just don’t know what to heal. Can hypnosys help?
Hello Nathalie dp, Thank you for sharing your story. I would suggest you do the Golden Thread Process we demonstrate in many of our videos (for example: th-cam.com/video/9XuoL9pQSR8/w-d-xo.html ) to find and understand the core issues and beliefs that are involved here. If you have questions on any of our teachings please let us know or if there's a topic or issue you'd like us to cover in future videos do tell us as this helps us plan our future videos. If you enjoy our video teachings please feel free to subscribe to our TH-cam Channel (we add new videos every Sunday!) ➜ th-cam.com/users/wuweiwisdom (click the 'notification bell’ when you subscribe and you’ll also get an email notification every time we add a new video). We also run a free Facebook Group where we share daily Wu Wei Wisdom and answer supporter questions - you would be welcome to join the group ➜ facebook.com/groups/wuweiwisdomcommunity/ David
Seems easy for someone to tell you what you should and shouldn’t feel “think” “believe” when we were programmed a certain way. Maybe provide a better roadmap or actual steps to take, rather than just stopping these deeply engrained reactive thoughts etc,. We need more trauma informed (or people who have experienced it thenselves) to be teaching more on this bc they GET it more than just the science or experience of “working” with those with ACE, or complex PTSD.
why would someone try to sabotage their selves damage their selves and bring illness to them selves, what’s happening there inside that wants that and in the same time the other side of this person is looking for healing and health it’s always swaying between the two not able to settle to one of them, what is the cause of this chronic actions ?
The sense of unworthiness causes one to punish oneself for anger in life. On the other hand, there's a rational side of oneself trying to help. Feed the helping side. Say often to yourself, I am healthy, I'm lovable, I'm strong several times a day loudly.
I was made fun of as a child about clothes & the way I chewed my food (which was very scarce at home.. Now I can't eat out in crowds and can't have a normal relationship. Js
Thank you for sharing your story with us. We are very pleased that our videos are helping with your personal journey and emotional education.
As you will appreciate it would be inappropriate for me to comment on personal issues without full knowledge, history and background. Therefore I can only comment in general terms.
I think you should be very pleased with your achievements for being able to come through such a challenging early period in your life… WELL DONE!!
The Golden Thread Process questions for you is why are you letting those childhood experiences affect you today? If you enjoy our video teachings please feel free to subscribe to our TH-cam Channel (we add new videos every Sunday!) ➜ th-cam.com/users/wuweiwisdom (click the 'notification bell’ when you subscribe and you’ll also get an email notification every time we add a new video). We also run a free Facebook Group where we share daily Wu Wei Wisdom and answer supporter questions - you would be welcome to join the group ➜ facebook.com/groups/wuweiwisdomcommunity/ Alex & David x
I grew up in a web of lies. I was alone in the house with little attention from both parents. In the evening my dad would slipper my brother and I after a couple of beers if we made a noise. My mum and dad couldn't stand each other and at 14 my mum left the city and moved in with another man. My mother died when I was 28. At 42 after years of trying to figure out why my relationship with my dad was almost non existent I took a paternity test. It came back as no match. My brother had his, same result. I remember receiving my result via WhatsApp from my supposed dad. It has been a shambles
I can imagine how confusing your life has been. It's not late to do the healing work. Create your reality and forgive yourself. Watch Aaron Abke on forgiveness
14:22 Alexandra Lees: "The Universe Owes them Something" ...up until this moment, i was right there with you both. Making this terrible generlisation you just lost me. So many trauma kids don't ask for anything. They struggle for most of their lives alone.
Hi TheDiaperedDJ Thanks for your comments, I'm not quite sure of the point you are making. Could you explain what you mean by justice correction? Thanks David
@@WuWeiWisdom sure, This is a lovely video, but people need to face the cause and effect of their trauma. My life was full of little traumas, and it still continues to this day. I'm dealing with it by creating an entirely new childhood for myself. Its usually the parents who caused the childhood trauma, so you need to face them, and stand up to them. In my case, mine won't budge so I have to carry out Justice as follows. I'm putting them through hell, showing them the mistakes, and pain they caused to me as a child.
@@mylittlescienceproject That's not healthy, either. Turning around and abusing those who abused you isn't breaking the cycle, it's just perpetuating it. Remember that your parents were abused by their parents in turn, and they may have done their best not to treat you the same way their parents treated them. Still not good enough, but better than their grandparents did. You're not fully healed until you can forgive your parents for being imperfect. I'm not there yet myself, but I can see your way is wrong.
🙈 Not much useful here. ALSO- a lot of family abuse is ONGOING. It carries on .. when you're 25, 36, 42... the abusers / tormentors esp if they are your parents, carry on & influence other family members, etc. Its very wrong to focus on a one-time incident of the past.
While I appreciate your videos, it concerns me when supposedly educated people do not use language correctly. There is no such word as "incidences". Incidents is the plural of incident. Incidence is not a word commonly used and refers usually to medical issues e.g. The incidence of measles in the community has increased due to irresponsible parents deciding not to vaccinate their children against the disease.
How about you go and teach this on your own TH-cam channel Bruce? So rude coming to shot on someone’s door step! They never claimed they are English teachers!
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Thank you,this is amazing! I didn't start to look at my self(and my inner child) until I got myself in very toxic and painful relationship(my opinion with a NPD person) ,seems like life start to give me these life lessons from very early age,only now at age of 33,my eyes start to opening what is all abaut,your videos are very helpful and encouraging.. and no matter how people in my life try to help me I didn't hear them,until I was ready to look at myself first..I learn hard way.. :) I think very often children with traumas,put them selfs unconsciously in very dengerous situations in a relationships. Everyone must heal in order to have healthly relationship. Lots appreciated for the work you doing.
Zivile, thank you for sharing and taking the time to watch our videos. We're very pleased to be part of your healing journey.
And, yes you are correct - taking *self-responsibility* is a powerful and transformative step in finding the emotional freedom and love that is your 100& birthright.
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@@WuWeiWisdom thank you.
@@zivilecesnaite119 you're welcome - we're pleased that you're now a member of our Facebook Community too!
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Thank you Universe for sending me help through these people with the tools they share.
My life was hard, I cried for help, and Help was sent. I am so grateful. Thank you!!
Thank you for this video! I have been dealing with a lot self-destructive habits that started in college, after leaving my parents' house and I am realizing now that I need to heal my inner child. I actually thought the idea was nonsense because I didn't experience abuse as a child but I was raised very strict where I couldn't do a lot of things that my other friends were able. I had to lie and sneak out of the house to have some kind of a social life as a teenager. I always felt bad but nothing different from always feeling imperfect to my parents, especially my mom. Unfortunately, got myself involved in a toxic relationship when I was 21, where I felt I was a young child all over again, I always felt like I wasn't good enough with my parents and my former boyfriend constantly called out my flaws every chance he got, we ended up having a child and I kept running back and forth for 11 years. It's been almost 2 years of finally feeling free from that toxic relationship, but I am now dealing with boxed up traumas. I see now, that I can't keep blaming my parents, they did the best they knew to raise me. I am going to seek to heal my inner child now. Thank you!!
Hi Wendy,
Thanks for sharing your story, it sounds as though you are now getting a good understanding of the Life Lessons you need to be addressing.
I would suggest you watch the full Inner Child video playlist series for guidance and inspiration: th-cam.com/play/PL9NQ_PWX4zICGLRS1b7q1HSJhZRash5qq.html
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The link between childhood trauma and commitment phobia is strong, most strong when the child takes on the role of parent during a trauma.
Many parents refuse to grow but we need to grow.
Dear sir and madam, thank you so much for your content. You guys speak honestly and passionately and I cannot thank you guys enough.
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I am watching this and I am crying 😭 my life finally being explained. Someone finally speaking on my mind and it’s just amazing. God bless u guys this is so shocking and I am sooo happy I found this. Thank u for helping me understand myself
We need to grow beyond parents' wrong perception of us. We are God's masterpiece.
I’ve watched this one 3 times now, I’m trying to get my head around everything, bit by bit. Soo helpful, You are both amazing. 💙
Awww thank you Liz... we're pleased to hear the video is helpful for you.
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I appreciate your post as well. I have to watch this a few times too. I'm trying to help my son.
My current life situation explained in words.The examples given during this video is exactly how my inner child trauma has influenced my life. Thank you once again for uploading this. Truly helpful during my inner child healing which I'm going through at the moment.
Life changing!
You are doing a great service to humanity by making all these videos. Thank you a lot.....
Thanks Mamunur - we appreciate your support!
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Totally agree. Thank you for the time you give to people who need it. Makes me feel comforted in my dark times
thank you so much for making these videos... you have no idea how helpful they are. please keep making them! also would love to know more about you both-- your backgrounds and your stories as well!
Hi thanks for taking the time to watch and comment again :)... we love sharing our teachings so will be producing more videos in 2019 (one per week if Alex can find time to do the production alongside her other projects!).
I guess we don't overly share about 'us' on our videos because our message and the focus of our energy is very much about you (and supporting you) and not about us! But we can see that some folks would like to get to know us a little better and learn about our journey of how we got to do what we do... so we will definitely consider how we can address this in the future - thank you for your suggestion!
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I am starting the golden thread TODAY. I need to do this now
Thank you so much for helping to heal us. A wonderful privilege to help the universe.
I'm thankful to God for allowing me to find you and for your Help. I'm Grateful for you both♡ God Bless You Always!!!
Hey I wasn't expecting perfect parents but at least parents that didn't call me names and try to kill me. So yeah |I am blaming them for my problems today. And yes I am taking responsibility and trying to fix me.
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Thanks for taking the time to watch and comment on our video. We're glad it has helped you!
We can't change the past but we can change how we deal with it today. Well done for taking self-responsibility for creating your today and your future.
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I love that positive talk towards the end. Yes, we're so blessed to be alive and all the things life give us.
"I am my own cheerleader, I honor myself... no more going around the carousel." Thank you so much for
all the enlightenment, love an encouragement to the two of you. 💕 🌷 🌹
Lumiere, you are AWESOME!
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I have been in that prison, for 57 years, thank you so much for this
I am so grateful for you two ❤🙏
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Thank you so much for uploading this, I am literally going through healing my inner child trauma at the moment and I can't explain enough how listening to this helps.
I have just started a journey to healing my childhood trauma and I am so scared 😢 I am holding on to the fact that it's going to be worth everything.
Love this message and your channel! Thank you❤️
Thanks Cheryl - we appreciate your support! :)
I am finally beginning this process. I wonder if you’ve heard the following from clients: No memorable trauma in childhood... My therapist says that those who don’t have a distinct memory have usually buried it and need to do the inner child work to uncover it and move forward.
Hi Mountain Momma,
Thanks for your question
As you will appreciate it would be inappropriate for me to comment on personal issues without full knowledge, history and background. Therefore I can only comment in general terms.
In my experience this is when the Golden Thread Process really helps. Have a look at these two videos which demonstrate the basics of this process: th-cam.com/video/9XuoL9pQSR8/w-d-xo.html / th-cam.com/video/5N7sC1yGZO4/w-d-xo.html
I'm sure that your therapist will have their own techniques in these situations.
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thank you for helping us recover
I've been studying inner child work for years. The verbiage you two are described in empowering the inner child is powerful. I like the term carousel of despair. I wished I learned this long time ago. I'm looking forward to exploring Wu Wei Wisdom.
This information is unbelievably valuable. Thank you so much!!
So much helpful information here, thank you both very much.
This is one of the most powerful videos I have ever watched on how to heal myself and the daily struggles I have with not feeling good enough which in turn has made me believe I am unlovable just as I am.
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We're pleased that we can help you!
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Thank you so much for making these videos. This one by far has helped me the most in following my golden thread to the issues of unfairness and favoritism between myself and my brother as children. Every single video has been helpful and I love David's passion and Alexandra's expert way of getting across how viewers feel and think regarding how to progress in this spiritual work. This video really spoke to me because I now realize I have been wearing some type of badge and thinking somehow the universe "owes me" for the wrongs of the past. It is eye opened and I feel lighter and calmer after each video I watch.
Hi Rin thanks for taking the time to watch and comment on our videos (and also for being a valued member of our Wu Wei Wisdom Community Facebook group!).
Thanks also for sharing your story here as we're sure other readers will empathise with your situation. We're pleased to hear that the videos are helping you and that this video, in particular, has offered you some powerful insights. Our intention is to inspire others to awaken to the awesome person they really are and we 100% believe in you :)
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Thank you! Thank you! Thank you!This is the most useful video for me that I have watched thus far.
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Thank you for bringing this information to us!! I so needed to hear this to work on my trauma issues from the past!!
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God bless you both abudantly with your knowledge. keep sharing and reach out many helpless adult with broken childhood all over the world.
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I love you guys....you really speak the truth.
Thank you thank you thank you 🙏🏼 this video is so helpful. Thank you for making this and doing the work that you do.
Glad it was helpful! x
Thank you so much for all the wonderful videos. It helps me tremendously.
Glad you like them!
I love you videos, please keep them coming.
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Absolutely loved this you are like the parents I never had thank you so much!! I’ve been on a self healing journey and most definitely being my own cheerleader. I’m just battling because I have been conditioned by narcissistic caregiver. But I’m going to fight for myself.
Thank you so much God bless the both of you!!
this was SO helpful
Thank you really appreciate Dave’s words
Very welcome. Kind regards, David.
Thank you 😇🙏
thanks to mindfulness and acceptance therapy i learned the practice of cognitive defusion for depression and anxiety plus for the resentment about my trauma.
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This is great advice! I definitely relate to what your saying.
Thank you for helping me increase my own self awareness ✨
Glad it was helpful!
What a powerful video, thank you both so much. It certainly resonates with me and you explained both the symptoms and healing method so clearly. I have just been through a lot of inner child healing. This video is certainly worth watching again. Thank you.
Thank you Annie - we're glad the video has helped you 💜
We have lots of videos on our channel about the Inner Child that you may find helpful.
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Watching this now and crying... AMAZING!
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me too ❤
Thank you so much it helped me to review my perception on responsibility
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Amazing.thank you so much
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Amazing! Thank You
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I just love you both 🤗❤️
Wow this is amazing. Talk about hit the nail on the head. This is certainly a video that I will need to play over to get me into a new way of thinking and keep me there till it is habit, because these circles r making me dizzy.
Thanks for watching and for your feedback - you can do this and you are worth it! :)
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Thanku.
thank you.
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a lot of times we don’t remember exactly what happened but we know from the results in our beliefs and sabotaging actions that this go back in something deep and not direct, so when someone is asked about the incidence they would not remember, so what to do in this case ? and the second question is what to do when an adult is frozen in earlier age and can’t manage, they grew in years but their being is stuck in the past
Thank you very much. ..appreciated
You are very welcome. Kind regards, David.
Yesterday's neglected abused child becomes the adult that easily gets overwhelmed.
I think it would be a good idea to share about the tools that can be used such as breathing exercises, EFT, meditation, EMDR, neurofeedback & so much more.
Thank you
You're welcome. Kind regards, David.
Thank u very much guide me both of u.
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Excellent video.
Thank you Mildred! x
I just have to say thank you
i am crying because i know this to be all too true!! i hate how this has happened to me. My dad has made me fearful of him till this day. I need this emotional healing
Hi Hien
Thanks for sharing your story. You can do this and the emotional healing work is worth it - you are awesome!
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I really need help dealing with this issue, I don't know how to let go and move forward. The bad thing is I know it's unhealthy for my health and future in all aspects. But I can't seem to let it go
You care enough about yourself to have found this page I am doing the same. I just landed here as well. these videos sound like they are useful. You deserve to be happy you deserve to be treated with care and respect. You deserve to forgive and to love. Wish you all the best and many blessings.
At 9:07 into i hit pause and pushed it back to repeat. You were talking to me!
You said the very things I’ve said for years. Because i live in a greed motivated society, i find it hard to get the psychological help i need. (Poor insurance)
I was raped at the age of 5 but didn’t remember till last year when i was attacked in my home, in my sleep. My mother hid what happened to me but she couldn’t hide the emotional or physical ticks that developed. I also have Asperger so i was way different. My mother and the rest of my family got comfortable in calling me crazy. And I accepted that label all my life.
I’m still struggling with being happy. Because I didn’t know how.
I’m learning now, how to be happy.
Hi Unwilling Vegan,
Thanks for sharing your story. We work with many clients who are addressing the childhood situations you experienced.
As I say on many videos, this is my evidence of how awesome you are, to have come through that situation still connected to your 'Shen' divine spirit.
I have no doubt that you will be able to move on now in Wu Wei balance and harmony and live your authentic life journey.
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Admire your courage of opening yourself. May you have a smooth path in recovery.
I was an unwanted child (girl) and the trade-off was the paternal side would teach my 3 boys (my dad had no boys, just girls) how to disrespect me; and the maternal side's trade off was they'd treat my kids like they treated me and my mentally ill mother. So they never met my father, half sisters - nadda. Anyway, I didn't realize how deep my pain ran until I spoke to a grandma who helped take care of her grandchildren. I told this grandmother that her daughter was taking advantage of her and that she should hire a sitter. With kind eyes, Eileen turned to me and said, "'What, no!!! I love taking care of my grandchildren!". All these years I've made up a story that said I was strong and independent when in fact I was abused and neglected aka: over-functioning. It took that specific moment in time with that specific person, - who shares the same name as my maternal grandma, to tell me such a painful message without actually saying the words. Thankfully, I heard her.
idk who down voted this, very enlightening stuff.
I love you guys ❤
Thank you - we really appreciate your support! 😊
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Happy day Alex and David! Thank you so much for sharing your work through these inspiring videos.
Through the processing of my pain I discovered my purpose in life, so the Tao saying “challenges reveal you” completely resonates.
As I dive deeper and deeper in order to help others connect with their immense power and share their inspiring story, more layers become apparent.
I have been guided to inner child work and am fascinated by your approach.
I like the simplicity of a 10 min daily talk with my inner child to be the parent I so longed for.
Would you recommend talking or journaling? And if it’s the latter, what would be an inspiring prompt?
I’m thinking something along the lines of what do you need today my dear? ☺️
Fascinated with your teachings and styles!! Thank you so much 💕
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We appreciate it!
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I have childhood trauma and have been doing emdr therapy. I get anxious to drive anywhere even with being a passenger. I have been doing prolonged exposures litle by little as I gain trust with myself. Is this a good approach? Will it work?
Hi there. When I was very young I experienced some scary scenes around my alcoholic father which made me isolate myself as much as possible. The dinner table is where I had to be in his presence (This is a theory I've recently come up with). I believe this is why I had a hard time eating as a child. This is a problem that has haunted me all my life. If I am having any anxiety about anything my appetite is the first thing to cave. And I mean I literally struggle to get anything down. I could be so hungry and still really struggle. Sometimes if it's bad I will almost faint when trying to eat. Except in my later teens I seemed to snap out of it and become a wild card. I became a travelling rock musician and did lots of stupid stupid things. I drank and smoked weed and stuff. But I can't help but think an unpleasant LSD experience brought all the anxiety back (or dissolved the false ego 'fearless' self I invented as a late teen?). Sometimes in my life my anxiety isn't so bad. But if something even slightly traumatic happens I fall into a huge pit of anxiety and depression. I have no one to blame but myself for being a dickhead doing LSD, but I'm wondering if this makes sense about my troubles with food/anxiety, and if the way to go about getting past my anxiety is by not running from the anxiety. Should I see my anxiety as a 'traumatized child' that I should cherish and listen to? Is that the crux of all this? Along with this approach I've also stopped trying to make myself eat if I'm anxious. Since thinking of all this I noticed that maybe I've been in the role of the parent trying to force myself (the anxious child) to eat, reliving the battles of yesteryear. Does this qualify as some sort of eating disorder? Any suggestions or videos you think might help would be greatly appreciated. Does it sound like I'm on to something, or am i being a bit of an over-thinker? I also think a problem that keeps me stuck is that I'm a really creative person who's good at telling stories. And sometimes when I have a problem I can't stop telling the story of it in my head. Anyway, sorry this is as long as it is. I welcome any perspectives or advice. Thx for the videos.
Hi Sando,
Thanks for your comments.
As I said before, you have done a great deal of good work here, well done!
Remember, you are the creator of your emotions….not the victim. Stop focusing on the emotions that you label anxiety and focus of the thinking and beliefs that create them.
You CANNOT change what happened in your childhood, BUT you can change your perception of it! This is your choice.
This is your time to consider being self-responsible and accountable for your thoughts, beliefs and actions as you interpret your childhood experiences.
Accept what happened as the truth, but place it in your history and rearview mirror. It has NO bearing on what decisions you make today, unless YOU choose to allow it.
As you correctly said, it is a story, a true story, but only of the past… don't make it your future!
Thank you for taking the time and trouble for watching and commenting on our videos we appreciate your support.
David
Perfection is a perception not a reality.
So empowering! Thank you. How might you address dissociation after visiting past trauma? I severely depersonalized after a therapist conducted an EMDR session where we first began looking at a traumatic event. I’m enjoying your insights very much. Thanks again!
Thanks for sharing!! Kind regards, David.
@@WuWeiWisdom funny this post and question was two years ago when I was soon after diagnosed with DID. So I have my answer. I’ve since started a non profit to assist with educating the public through our counseling office, Front Porch Counseling in Cincinnati, Ohio.
I had a near drowning incident when i was 6 seems the shock. Fear grief from that incident got stuck in my psyche and i have thede feelings especially grief time to time come to surface and making me vulnerable...when i am resolving it fully experiencing it making these feelings friendly to me i am getting relief and peace....does it go along with wu wei wisdom philosophy??
Hi @khansherani,
Thank you for sharing your experience. It's brave of you to explore these deep feelings and work towards resolving them. Your approach to acknowledging and befriending your feelings aligns well with Wu Wei's wisdom, emphasising harmony with our inner selves and experiences. By observing and accepting your emotions without resistance, you're practising a key aspect of this philosophy. facebook.com/groups/wuweiwisdomcommunity/. Keep embracing your path to peace and relief.
Kind Regards, David.
Yes, after watching this; I think it may be possible that I´ve been wearing those yellow lensed glasses too! I just need to learn how to remove them. I´m going to begin the process; painful though it may be. Thankyou :)
Hi Marco, taking self-responsibility in this way is a powerful first step.
Often the Inner Child wants us to perceive things as being too painful/difficult to do so that we don't break away from our normal habit of (emotional) avoidance, which the Child perceived as the 'safe zone' (even though this has never worked for you as an adult). The Child may continue to resist, struggle and cast doubt on your new journey, but remember to be kind, patient and loving with that part of your mind because it distrusts and dislikes the unknown. It now needs to learn to trust you first as the guiding 'parent'.
Do let us know how you get on or if you have any questions we can help you with.
Alex & David x
Thankyou so much for your prompt reply. I must say that since viewing your video two days ago, I´ve been trying to follow your guidance. I´m finding it quite extraordinary to indeed recognise that my core beliefs are indeed out of sync with reality. I´m beginning to recognise (although I haven´t accepted yet )that my perceptions might be distorted and indeed wrong. Do you have an email address with which I could communicate more discreetly? Thankyou so much for your guidance and support. :)
@@Marco-en3jl this sounds like a great realisation.
I only work privately one-to-one via my therapy sessions (you can email us at info@wuweiwisdom.com for more info on these).
I'm also very happy to offer you general guidance and support via TH-cam or our Facebook community group - this is obviously more publically shared information but the intention is that the Q&A will help other people who read it if they are in a similar situation. I hope this makes sense. :)
David
Yes, I understand totally. In reality, I only made that suggestion when on another video you invited viewers to email if they could prove a certain point; I forget which point it was, lol. Anyway, I shall continue following the process; & hope that I can break these traumatic beliefs and see life without these yellow lensed glasses, :)
Marco 64 you absolutely can, Marco! Heck you already took a huge step!! 👏👏 although it seems like these lenses were attached to us in some way without our being conscious of it, now that you are aware you’ll see it is just a choice. The selection of our lenses is our choice!! It’s sooo freakin freeing!!
Oh my... you’re in for one heck of a ride . So excited for you!
I "believe" I'm overwhelmed because I feel my overactive Sympathetic Nervous System affecting my gut, viscerally, and creating a whole host of other "symptoms". Early trauma, implicit memories.
While your words resonate, I am concerned with the lack of somatic aspects. For early trauma, infants as an example, the body cannot first be helped by CBT; we're traumatized. Gotta work bottom-up.
I'm very interested, sincerely so, in your reply, because I'd like to get an idea if you're of possible assistance to me, but, with your response you may also help others to determine for themselves, if your teachings are for me/them.
Thank you for taking the time to read this, and I greatly look forward to, and and in advance, thank you for this.
I vomit countless times a week from PTSD but I have started to laugh at it. Instead of buying into my own feeling of grief, I just say ‘here we go again! 😜 crazy shit’ and after I flush that toilet I forget about it. Instead of bringing in the whole kit of despair and grief. I’m not trying to give you advice but just saying what I’m trying because I’m out of options honestly.
Thank you for a really insightful video. I have many of the difficulties you ascribe to childhood trauma - anxiety, depression avoidance etc but I have very few memories of my childhood and no specific memories of traumatic events. Does that prevent any recovery ?
Hi John
Thanks for your question.
It is NOT unusual for the mind to bury emotional issues believing that will protect you and stop the need to address and deal with them.
In my experience, the most effective way to deal with any traumatic event is to confront it and learn the Life-Lesson it offers.
Although this approach can produce 'red-light' feelings of fear it is NEVER as bad as first thought. In fact, the opposite: it can be a tremendous relief and create authentic emotional freedom.
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Hi John,
Thanks for your question. It is understandable that your mind (Inner Child) will close down and avoid those childhood traumatic memories as a form of protection and keeping you safe.
I believe it is important to do this work, resolving the challenging 'Life-lessons' you have encountered.
We have a saying: "You can't change what you don't understand!"
I hope and trust that you come through this challenge stronger and more authentic than ever.
Thank you for taking the time and trouble to watch and comment on our videos
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David
You might have suffered a mild form of abuse, neglect, around unhappy adults who did not beat or call names but easily aggravated.
It’s one thing to make allowances and understanding for a parent who made mistakes. It’s another for a mother who willfully and purposely neglected and abused her children. Who chose to hate them and tell them that she didn’t love them or want them. To threaten to send them away as soon as the child stood up against the violence. A parent who knew full well she was in the wrong because she kept her child at home locked away to hide the bruises from the child’s school. A mother who was so jealous and envious of her daughters when they grew up that she tried to take her daughter bf and thought it was acceptable to pin her teen daughters bf down to the floor and rub her vagina into his face whilst in her knickers. A mother who made everything about her and allowed her kids to starve. A mother who allowed others to beat and sexually abuse her kids. A mother who did everything to punish and destroy her kids. A mother who put cigarettes out on the bodies of her toddlers and then had them taken away!! No! Sorry no! Some parents don’t make mistakes. Some parents are just evil.
And yes I grew up with the false belief that I was unlovable and didn’t have permission to exist, but now I know different. I know that others loved me. I am loved. I have permission to be here. It’s my life and my body. I never felt like that before. Before I felt like just a servant to her. Not any more.
Not all parents make mistakes. Some are psychopathic and do not deserve our love or forgiveness.
Forgiving others isn't about them or whether they deserve it or not, it's about you healing from your pain, about letting go of the pain and the heartbreak and the acid that eats away at your soul because you're hanging on to the bitterness and anger. You need to forgive them, not for their sake, not because they deserve it, but for your own sake, because YOU deserve it.
They don't deserve forgiveness but you deserve peace. Forgive what happened.
Can you make video about healing from child physical and emotional abuse?
Hi Malka
Thanks for watching and commenting!
We have an Inner Child video playlist that includes videos which cover this topic and how to heal the Inner Child - you can access the playlist here: th-cam.com/play/PL9NQ_PWX4zICGLRS1b7q1HSJhZRash5qq.html
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Can you do over the zoom
Parents should be EDUCATED damn it !!!!!! We have courses for everyone why not for parents!!!! 😮🤯😳🥵😡😡😡
Because I chose to stay in an abusive marriage my son is now 23 and is scarred and hurting so much. With reason, he has so much anger and hatred towards me. He is such a brilliant, beautiful and sensitive person. Please how do I help him? Can you help me?
My suggestion would be to first apologize for not protecting him from the abuse, and then second to suggest that he start to check out videos like this one, or self-help books if he's not into videos.
anonygent thank you.
@@lupechacon-florez7520 don't be judgmental, don't criticize, don't compare. Set a good example of growth yourself. No one wants to be in pain but not everyone one has the tools and disciplines to walk away the comfort zone, ironically the zone of pain.
Hi David and Alexandra could you do a video exploring the relevance of lucid living 👍
Hi Colin, could you explain a little more about what you mean 'lucid living' - we have not heard this term before! Thanks :)
Hi David I learned about lucid living from Timothy Freke and his book the laughing Jesus. It’s a way of thinking about life where one experiences themself as both the lifedreamer and a person in the life dream. I don’t feel I would do it justice if I tried to explain it with my limited understanding of it but I can post a link to Tim’s audio book on TH-cam, he has loads of other stuff asides, where he explains the concepts. It’s really about waking up to oneoness or gnosis. I hope you are having a great day. Sending my love from sunny ☀️ Edinburgh x
th-cam.com/play/PLRbbbFVf--hsNoITzHimwVf1jOFpQvSqw.html this is the link to Tim’s audio book it’s a fascinating and very bold set of concepts which challenge our perceptions of life. I hope you enjoy and I love wu Wei it gets easier every day
@@CraigTara113 I have not heard of this. The principle of Oneness is a fundamental Taoist teaching though. These videos relate to the subject of Oneness and living your truth: th-cam.com/video/FkMgphUkLB4/w-d-xo.html / th-cam.com/video/NTCicUQwet8/w-d-xo.html Thanks David
How can I find my childhood trauma??? I cannot pinpoint it! Had and still have loving parents... it feels like I was born with co-dependancy. As a small kid I was already a pleaser, had fear of abondenement... my dad was my God, if he rand out of my sight I cried my loungs out... still van feel of fear now (44) they did their best to raider me with independence...
Would like to heal my innerchild, just don’t know what to heal.
Can hypnosys help?
Hello Nathalie dp,
Thank you for sharing your story.
I would suggest you do the Golden Thread Process we demonstrate in many of our videos (for example: th-cam.com/video/9XuoL9pQSR8/w-d-xo.html ) to find and understand the core issues and beliefs that are involved here.
If you have questions on any of our teachings please let us know or if there's a topic or issue you'd like us to cover in future videos do tell us as this helps us plan our future videos.
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David
You might have insecurity Brought from previous life.
Seems easy for someone to tell you what you should and shouldn’t feel “think” “believe” when we were programmed a certain way. Maybe provide a better roadmap or actual steps to take, rather than just stopping these deeply engrained reactive thoughts etc,. We need more trauma informed (or people who have experienced it thenselves) to be teaching more on this bc they GET it more than just the science or experience of “working” with those with ACE, or complex PTSD.
why would someone try to sabotage their selves damage their selves and bring illness to them selves, what’s happening there inside that wants that and in the same time the other side of this person is looking for healing and health it’s always swaying between the two not able to settle to one of them, what is the cause of this chronic actions ?
The sense of unworthiness causes one to punish oneself for anger in life.
On the other hand, there's a rational side of oneself trying to help. Feed the helping side. Say often to yourself, I am healthy, I'm lovable, I'm strong several times a day loudly.
One year later, I found out sometimes a person does that to seek love and it's their comfort zone.
I was made fun of as a child about clothes & the way I chewed my food (which was very scarce at home.. Now I can't eat out in crowds and can't have a normal relationship. Js
Hi m&m M7m
Thank you for sharing your story with us. We are very pleased that our videos are helping with your personal journey and emotional education.
As you will appreciate it would be inappropriate for me to comment on personal issues without full knowledge, history and background. Therefore I can only comment in general terms.
I think you should be very pleased with your achievements for being able to come through such a challenging early period in your life… WELL DONE!!
The Golden Thread Process questions for you is why are you letting those childhood experiences affect you today?
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I hope you are better now
I grew up in a web of lies. I was alone in the house with little attention from both parents. In the evening my dad would slipper my brother and I after a couple of beers if we made a noise. My mum and dad couldn't stand each other and at 14 my mum left the city and moved in with another man. My mother died when I was 28. At 42 after years of trying to figure out why my relationship with my dad was almost non existent I took a paternity test. It came back as no match. My brother had his, same result. I remember receiving my result via WhatsApp from my supposed dad. It has been a shambles
Hi N
Thank you for your powerful and helpful share.
It never ceases to amaze me just how strong and amazing children are to come through such a dysfunctional experience.
Well done, you are inspirational!
Why don't you consider sharing your experiences more widely because there our still many children going through similar issues.
Thank you for taking the time and trouble for watching and commenting on our videos we appreciate your support.
David
I can imagine how confusing your life has been. It's not late to do the healing work. Create your reality and forgive yourself. Watch Aaron Abke on forgiveness
14:22 Alexandra Lees: "The Universe Owes them Something" ...up until this moment, i was right there with you both. Making this terrible generlisation you just lost me. So many trauma kids don't ask for anything. They struggle for most of their lives alone.
They really mean take responsibility for your own healing because universe can't just repay you.
What you talk about here contradicts your other video on anger?😞
Hi, D V,
Could you please explain the contradictions you have identified?
Thanks David
Are they husband and wife
Yes! ;)
Sorry but this doesn't change anything. Justice correction begins with the parents who raised you.
Hi TheDiaperedDJ
Thanks for your comments, I'm not quite sure of the point you are making. Could you explain what you mean by justice correction?
Thanks David
@@WuWeiWisdom sure,
This is a lovely video, but people need to face the cause and effect of their trauma. My life was full of little traumas, and it still continues to this day. I'm dealing with it by creating an entirely new childhood for myself. Its usually the parents who caused the childhood trauma, so you need to face them, and stand up to them. In my case, mine won't budge so I have to carry out Justice as follows. I'm putting them through hell, showing them the mistakes, and pain they caused to me as a child.
@@mylittlescienceproject That's not healthy, either. Turning around and abusing those who abused you isn't breaking the cycle, it's just perpetuating it. Remember that your parents were abused by their parents in turn, and they may have done their best not to treat you the same way their parents treated them. Still not good enough, but better than their grandparents did. You're not fully healed until you can forgive your parents for being imperfect. I'm not there yet myself, but I can see your way is wrong.
@@kunzang5136 I have never taken revenge.
@@kunzang5136 That was diaperedDJ, not me.
They sound like two burnouts ranting. Time for a career change.
🙈 Not much useful here. ALSO- a lot of family abuse is ONGOING. It carries on .. when you're 25, 36, 42... the abusers / tormentors esp if they are your parents, carry on & influence other family members, etc. Its very wrong to focus on a one-time incident of the past.
Agree, it's normally for decades.
David’s got some unresolved anger issues
While I appreciate your videos, it concerns me when supposedly educated people do not use language correctly. There is no such word as "incidences". Incidents is the plural of incident. Incidence is not a word commonly used and refers usually to medical issues e.g. The incidence of measles in the community has increased due to irresponsible parents deciding not to vaccinate their children against the disease.
How about you go and teach this on your own TH-cam channel Bruce? So rude coming to shot on someone’s door step! They never claimed they are English teachers!
Get over yourself.
thank you.
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