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- Hey guys, today is a long overdue life update about some tough stuff (family, IVF, upcoming trial ) and oh yeah, I guess I'm a Fashion Blogger now (Links in Description Below - click "more" to expland)!!!! 💕 xo's Tati
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I am 48 and we just adopted after years of our own fertility issues. I’m currently gazing at my 8 day old daughter and I’ve never been happier. I wish you all the luck on your journey however you decide to move forward. And you don’t owe anyone an explanation.
That’s amazing! Congratulations on your sweet baby girl! ❤
Adoption is a whole other hard decision but I agree with you, it can be beautiful. I suffered with infertility for years and now I am at an amusement park with by 8 and 9 year old sons, through adoption, from birth (I was in the delivery room with our AMAZING birth mom) and they are biologically brothers too.
Congrats!!!
Congratulations! enjoy every sleepless minute!
I know that excitement oh too well we got the news on Christmas Eve 27 years ago and when you bring that baby home and put them in their little bed that’s when you can breathe again and the excitement is so overwhelming. Congratulations!
Thank you so much for sharing with us,
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As someone with reproductive issues, I’ve never understood how people think it’s so normal to ask people about their family planning😭 bless you for handling it with such grace💗 14:44
U kidding right? Why in this world people are declaring their sessual preferences on a PARADE, but Q about baby planning puts you off? Hello?
@@Nikkka82with all due respect, if you’ve never dealt with fertility struggles you wouldn’t understand.
@@Nikkka82 u should be able to separate something that someone DECLARES with his free will, from something he does NOT WANT to discuss with you who rudly ask about...
@amandamustain2868 you are wrong, I'm on my 10 anniversary of unsuccessful planning.
Agreed! I think it’s pretty crass to message a stranger and ask about something so delicate.
I’m 41 and just had my first baby girl Tati! Miracles happen! 💗💗💗
she said kindly don’t mention babies…
She said kindly cease all communication. She meant stop asking about her private business. I don't think she'd mind at all if people wanted to leave a comment to share their own happiness
Oh Tati, you’re so open with your life. I wish you and James (and of course, Puka) all the best on the journey❤️
I had tears during your discussion about not getting pregnant. I’m almost 75 now, but I was in the same situation. I felt everything you do. I’m so sorry hon.
@@carolefrank2234 Me too, Carole! I'm 73 and have 2 adopted children. When I was going thru tests and every month found out I wasn't pregnant, I became jealous of women who were, even my own sister-in-law. But I know now, with hindsight, had I become pregnant I would not have the beautiful adult children I have. God knew what He was doing I believe.
Thank you so much for sharing with us, Tati. As someone who has been facing fertility issues and has also chosen to not pursue IVF, it's so helpful to hear someone else say it. You are so loved and appreciated, lady! 💜
I resonate with this. Thank you for sharing 🙏🏽
Everyone’s problems are different but I think that difficulty to accept that your future isn’t what you wanted or planned is something we all have and it’s very difficult to overcome. I believe you have to choose to face it and be proactive about finding joy despite things being different from what you expect and Tati is doing that and showing that it has good outcomes.
My husband and I were never able to have children. The constant questions really got next to me. Everything you said is EXACTLY how we felt. Last year, I ended up having a total hysterectomy and discovered that I would have never gotten pregnant naturally. I had some deformities that were never discovered. I guess God really had it in His plan for us to not have children. Now we have embraced being childless. We have a dog we spoil rotten now. Much love to y’all! ❤
I had a partial hysterectomy but already had a child and I was cool with having one. After 23 yrs of marriage to a cheating male crossdresser of a husband, divorced and I will never see my daughter again due to her being in a different country. But I met someone much younger than I who wants to take care of the rest of my days peacefully.
I’m sorry about the shock and betrayal from your cross-dressing ex, but is your daughter still with him? I hope that you get to see her again, and that she isn’t with him. Best to you, I’m glad that you are okay!
I always thought I would have children. Between not finding the right one and being diagnosed with PCOS, amongst other things, I also very likely would not have gotten pregnant either. I got a dog 7 years ago and like you is the receiver of all my motherly love!! Enjoy your doggo!
I couldn't have children and those questions made me and my husband crazy. It was hard enough knowing I couldn't get pregnant but when people ask, I found it very upsetting. I feel your pain and you described exactly how I felt.
I do not normally comment. I don't think people understand the reality of how hard it can be unless they have been there. I was in that situation for such a long time, everywhere you go there are reminders. You are not alone and to air it publicly... Wow you are very strong ❤ I can't tell you how much admiration I have for you
Not us crowning you a fashion blogger for how amazing this production, modeling and styling is! Yesssss Tati!
Right?!? Like, where's the modeling contract? She could sell everything on QVC. Quick couple shows over a few days, well all the things, be creative, make all the cash!
@@namantherockstarDon't beg to be noticed by strangers. You're only being taught to seek validation through others.
Agree ❤❤❤
I was not able to conceive throughout my 20s, no birth control at all. All of a sudden at 32 I got pregnant with my first and now at 34 I’m having my second. Every woman’s body is different ❤ sending love and prayers to you and your family Tati ❤ 🙏
Same, we had just gone on the wait list for IVF and suddenly..pregnant, miscarriage...pregnant, baby, pregnant, miscarriage, pregnant..baby... so I spent about 4yrs being pregnant but ended up with two healthy babies.❤
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Omg sameeee, had my first at 32 and second at 34 ❤❤❤
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I just wanted to say.. you’re literally the ONLY makeup influencer I watch regularly these days, and I love your content. Keep it up Tati!! ❤️
As someone with 10 years sobriety, a felon on my record from 17 years ago to a completely new person it is soooo extremely hard to not think about the I should’ve’s, could’ve’s and wish I would’ve’s!! I find gratitude in my growth, and that to me is so rewarding!! Every single person should always wanna have growth, in my opinion that is what I always strive to have!! I wish you everything in life you want to happen Tati!! The younger Tati looking at you from your vanity never imagined the growth that would happen, she’s proud of you ❤❤
We do recover love! 11 years myself and I feel this! So many would've should've could've but life is to dam short to beat yourself up moving forward and living life to the fullest is where it's at ! Life is to short and Flys by to dam fast ! Congrats on ur great success
Congratulations on your sobriety! Definitely something to be super proud of.
Amazing ! It’s crazy how we really are completely different people sober. You just can’t have regrets! Congratulations to you!
I'm glad you've asked people to stop asking about babies..... I've struggled with my own journey and have made the decision not to pursue it but the questions from others hurt a lot....... Whatever your journey is we wish you love and happiness 🥰❤️🤩
I’m sorry that people have hurt you for asking such personal questions. I don’t know why people have to ask these type of personal questions. If someone does not have children it does not give them the right to ask. I personally hate asking this and hate to hear other people be so nosy.
@@Mari92313old people often do because that is how "they make conversation". Same with them asking if we are dating anyone 🙄
I'm living for fashion blogger Tati! More of this content please! ♥
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My husband and I gave up TTC officially when I turned 39, after 12 years of trying everything short of IVF and a surrogate. It did bring me so much peace letting it go. We had our multi-rainbow nearly 2 years later completely out of the blue.
I'll keep my fingers crossed for you guys. Lots of prayers for you.
Tati is going through so much, but she is dealing with it really gracefully and looks like she is able to find joy. Proud of Tati, I can learn a lot from her.
Its so so hard to want something so badly and be completely out of control in the outcome, my heart breaks for you, I know the pain intimately. Praying for you both ❤
Tatiii 😩😩 you literally looked like Barbie trying on these clothes. You are so incredibly beautiful and all the pieces looked gorgeous on you ❤️
Totally agree with your view on the hardest part is getting over what you thought your life would look like. It’s like grief but also re-envisioning what your life could be
Tati thank you for sharing your story. I realized at around 35 that being a mom was not my path but like you, I started to envision my life in a different way. I now see that life without children can be just as fulfilling - travel, rescue animals, adopt - whatever your heart desires! Trust life and follow the path to happiness :)
I absolutely understand the feeling of missing the train ❤
We went through years of trying, many rounds of IVF and were approved to be foster parents. Then disaster struck... IVF had triggered my undiagnosed endometriosis and it quickly went to stage 4 and spread like wildfire through my body. I went from healthy, functioning, being in talks of placement of baby girls (sisters) to one surgery after the other for the past 4 years. Now 5 years down the line I've lost my uterus and ovaries, my health is completely shot, there's inoperable endo that has completed destroyed my body where the function of my left leg is in jeopardy.
I feel like we missed the train. 😢 The heartbreak of not being a mom will forever be in my heart. 💔
As I know you have endo, I absolutely get if that makes you hesitant of going down the IVF route. It's definitely a risk with endo, and there are unfortunately many like me with this outcome.
My heart goes to you❤
I am so sorry you went through all of that. My heart goes out to you and your hubby❤
Sending you love and blessings for all that you’ve endured. Keep strong 🤗
My greatest wish for the longest time was also to have a family, to be surrounded by life and hope for the future, and to be able to give someone the care that I never got. It feels weird when that longing expires and a brutal reality takes over. That being said, if you are able to let it go, something new and amazing will find you. I have a new magical life now, different from what I ever expected or wanted, and yet surprisingly better and deeper than any of it. Sending you prayers that you find your truest joy and purpose ❤ Much love!
Thank you for sharing your story. I don't think enough women talk about how dangerous IVF can be for your health and mental well-being.
Sending you lots of strength and I hope you can eventually fulfill your dream of having a family. ❤
Thank for sharing your baby journey. I am 47 and am in the process of processing the fact that I will never be a mother. It is the hardest dream I have ever had to let go of. My sister and mother try to be supportive, but it is hard for them to understand the feeling of loss. It helps when you know you are not the only one “crying behind closed doors.”
I'm exactly the same as you, so feel your pain. Its so hard when my mum keeps asking when my fiancé and I are having kids. I have to remind her we are not going to have them.
I love that you’re branching out into fashion! I loved the pieces you showed (especially the flowy pants). It was disappointing to see that when I went to the website it was way out of the every day woman’s price range and some things only have three sizes. I hope as you continue branching out that you can partner with more size inclusive and affordable brands!
I didn't watched your videos in a whiiiiile, but I'm blown away by the fact that you are one of the few youtubers ,who is truly real and aging with grace and not running into surgery / fillers .I'm just baffled and all my respects is yours❤
Why are you baffled lol. Tati is a naturally beautiful woman. She doesn't need fillers. She is still a young woman. Lol. She can wait another 10 to 15 years and then reconsider. ~
She’s right, we should NOT be asking each other when we will have kids. There’s lots of other questions it’s 2023.
And some people just don't want to have kids, its my case and absolutely ok 😊
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Thats just dumb why not ? Of course u dont ask a total stranger but why would be so bad to ask just dont get it.
Im childfree as well and I get so annoyed when people ask me if I have kids or want them. I've never had a maternal instinct in my body and hated babies as a kid.
@@gala9593 some people are sensitive to the question for a number of reasons. in my case, i was diagnosed with a condition that usually comes with infertility issues, and the older i’m getting, the more i think kids are annoying. so yeah, when people ask if i’ll change my mind or if i’m going to consider, i get annoyed. either way, it’s really none of your business whether or not a person wants to have children. ask better questions. having children is not the center of the universe, nor is it life’s purpose.
I am on my second round of IVF. It’s very hard when friends & family ask about it. You are not alone! Thanks for opening up.
Same here.
It's literally a grieving process. It's like a literal death. So so hard.
@@kelliintexas3575 Agreed!
Hugs. I'm 45 and expected to have at least two kids in middle and high school by now but my body said no. I finally got to a point where I changed my perspective (thank you therapy) and while it hurts, you're right: God's plan makes no sense to us but it's there for a reason.
Had my first baby at 41 via IVF. Then got pregnant naturally at 42. Sending all the love and support
That’s wonderful! 😊
I really loved the silk pants that flowed like a skirt. When I saw the price, I was like, "Wow", but then I saw the material and I understood. Plus, it's a timeless piece that can be in style for years. Please give us more fashion. 💜
Yes, 100% agree. Many other TH-camrs promote fast fashion.
I was like "gulp" 200 bucks for pants...
What I really want to know is how they looknafter the first and fifth wash, does animal fur stick to it, etc. I don't like when influencers are doing the try on hauls of what they bought when clothes are in their best condition. I need to see how it looks after a few wears.
@@anetehofmaneI bought lilysilk before and it fell apart after 3 wears; even with hand washing, not worth the high price tag.
@@kristinapella right? As if those $219 pants aren't 4-5 bags worth of groceries from Walmart. Timeless or not; people are struggling to live. I love Tati but this was tone deaf.
I am 49 and do not have children, it wasn’t the plan for me either. It is so hard when we have to lay down our desires and see what truly is before us. So I completely understand those conversations. It is difficult and awkward but it’s definitely a trust God situation for whatever His plan may be. I applaud your openness and know you are amazing as you are, children are a blessing, but it doesn’t happen as you hoped, you are enough! I just found your channel and truly enjoy your content, thank you for all you share!
I hope this in no way seems condescending but I’m so pleased you firmly but graciously told the world what you needed about your family journey. I think it’s a good plan to model in all our lives. Find ways to place boundaries in inoffensive ways. It’s a great life skill to master. I’m 50 and still trying to figure that out. So thank you Tati for being so elegant in everything.
I love the whole idea of “learn from your choices” vs “learn from your mistakes”. We make sooooooo many choices just in 24hrs and they affects every part of our being and not all of them are mistakes per say. My mindset is now to learn from my choices. Thanks Tat! 😘💚
Omg I love the pics of little you. Great idea. I’m in my 50s. Your grandma is right. I had my kids at 38 and 43. I’m so happy it happened when I was older. Makes you stay younger longer ❤
You’re a breath of fresh air Tati. Forever wishing you the absolute best!!
I’m so obsessed with the closet set up I’m so here for this
Okay also I’m obsessed with the eyeshadow trick of not bringing it all the way out cause I literally was looking at my eyeshadow when I did that this morning and I was like this isn’t working for me anymore. So going to try this!
Reading the comments of every woman going through what Tati is going through has me in tears. May you all find peace and happiness. Sending all of you my love and warm thoughts. May God bless you all.
Another glass half full thought….. You are in a position to financially afford to fix your ceiling etc!!! That is such a blessing! I had a house fire and then a flood 2 months later. I’m still living in house while it falls apart around me bc I can’t afford to fix ANY of the damage! Love you and your content! It’s all going to be ok!! At least that’s what I’m telling myself
You are right! Houses are so expensive. I am so sorry you are going through this and hope all goes well ❤
Hi Tati! I love that you’re so open and willing to share your life with us. You’re a beautiful woman both inside and out! Sending you lots of love and continued support . 💕
Thank you for being so open about what is going on in your life, Tati! It must be such a strange feeling to talk about your private struggles publicly, but you did it with such grace! Thank you for inspiring me to keep some pictures of myself as a child around. I have always struggled with horrible self-talk, chronically really...and I'll try anything to think of myself even just a little better... I'm trying to purge the negative from my life each day and maybe asking myself if I would say those things to the little girl in the picture will help, it's worth a try! Thanks so much and I wish you all the luck in where ever this crazy but wonderful journey takes you!
My grandmother was thought to be infertile, she moved across the world for my grandfathers job. And then she got pregnant at 39, huge shock to everyone and no one believeded it at first!!! My aunt, same story but had to get her uterus removed and decided to not adopt. My aunt and uncle have the most amazing fulfilling life, both have amazing careers, traveled the literal whole world, saw so many cultures, they go on so many vacations. Life is amazing, you have to make it amazing with whatever cards you are dealt. Much love and admiration for you! ❤
I lost my dad to cancer in January and initially spiraled into bad habits just so I wouldn’t have to deal or feel the pain. I was so unhappy and decided in June that I would pour all the love my dad had for me into myself, mentally and physically. I feel the best I’ve ever felt physically and my mindset is much more peaceful. I am definitely in my glow up era too & have been treating myself to new clothes because I’m so proud of how far I’ve come. Life is what you make of it!! Thank you so much for sharing! I always say you’re my internet big sister & I wish you all the happiness in the world 🤍🤍
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@@Aly_2014 thank you 🫶🏼
TATI you killed the fashion blurb in there, so effortless, seemed like you had ton it a million times. I have been obsessed with your style forever, so I absolutely love the addition❤️
Negative self talk is very hard to overcome. Thanks for this great tip on curbing that unhealthy pattern ❤
❤❤ have waited forever to hear about ivf. You deserve all that happiness in the world, whatever that might mean for you!!
She's not getting IVF done.
I can relate so much. I’ll be 44 later this year and have mourned the loss of ever becoming a Mom. In 2018 I was diagnosed with cancer and I’m currently fighting cancer for the 3rd time. Treatment has put me into premature menopause. We came to terms with our reality. Then in June, my treatment team said I was pregnant. Turns out it was a false positive (which is exceptionally rare.) But it brought back all the emotions that I thought I had worked through.
However, my husband and I have decided we want to be Willy Wonka. We want to find those kids who are driven and passionate and pour into their lives. We plan to mentor them, help them with school (or other resources) and ultimately we plan to leave our modest estate to some kid who is currently a stranger.
It’s so hard. I’m glad you’ve found your path. I’ve had three losses and basically given up at this point but I’m really struggling to accept it
Praying for you that kick cancer's ass 🙏🏼
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We came into fertility late in life…had our first when I was 37 and twins when I was 43. Everyone is different. I wish you the very best.
I think how you talked about your process with family planning is a really good perspective and took a lot of courage to share! Praying for blessings, comfort, and strength in this season 🫶🏼
43yo here and also felt very heavily against IVF. Then, surprise, 7 months later found out I was pregnant naturally. It's all in God's timing. Due in 2 weeks ❤
You are absolutely right about it being Gods will. I wish you all the best with your new baby.
All Glory to God the Most High!!! Praise Him!!
Why were you heavily against IVF? Just interested! Thanks
I did two rounds of IVF and felt like a Guinea pig. It was an emotional and physical roller coaster. We walked away and chose to adopt. My son is now 14 and that boy literally saved me! He is my joy and I don’t know what his life would have been like had we not adopted him. God has a plan for you Tati, keep the faith and it will come at the right time. It’s the journey we personally go through during the waiting process that opens your eyes to a new you and new chapter. Stay Blessed❤
I have one adopted child and one bio kid and the love is the same. You are going to be a great Mama ❤
I’ve been married to a very busy hairdresser for over 2 years and WOW dream coat is the BEAT OF THE BEST! All WOW products are phenomenal!
Watching. I've been praying for you, and I've been so happy since you've been on TH-cam. It wasn't the same without you. I'm glad you reconnected with us too, an old subscriber, I can so relate to the baby thing... xo ❤
LOVE a neutral eye look!!! 🩷
You handle everything with such poise and grace .. it's so appreciated! You're an amazing woman!! 😁
That’s a great point of the childhood photos bc I am 2 yrs PP and still not happy with my body, but grateful that I made a healthy baby after an awful ectopic emergency surgery experience. Being a woman is so hard and emotional! 💕 god has a plan for everyone 🙏🏽
I love this life update! You have just blossomed so much in the last couple years and I am here for it!! 🙌🏻
I know that it’s so hard to talk about, and i admire you for setting boundaries when it comes to questions you receive about your family and fertility. I also want to express how much gratitude I have for how open you have been about about your struggles with fertility. I am one of six children and was never aware that struggling to conceive was a challenge that so many people face. That is until I started trying to build a family of my own. I appreciate you for sharing this aspect of your life, as it makes me feel so much less alone. For that I thank you🤍 i also thank you for being so strong to set boundaries around this topic. It’s important to put your well-being first, and by doing so you set a great example for others to do the same. You continue to inspire me. I am sending so much love to you, James and Puka🙏🏼
Childless PCOS girl here and I 💯 respect your decision to not do IVF and to keep some of your reasons private.
Whatever you decide to do in your journey to have a family, or even if you decide not to pursue it, I pray you will have peace in that and always remember that God is in control 💕
My heart goes out to you because I know the heartache and the wanting to be understanding of those that keep asking questions even though it can still feel hurtful because it forces you to keep thinking about the difficulties you've faced with infertility. Much love to you! 💕
I’m here with you. I have PCOS and want a child more than anything. We all need to support each other and lean on one another. It’s a hard struggle
MORE FASHION!!! I have been obsessed with your tops, your jewelry and your hair for YEARS.
I’ve been praying for you for years and praying for you to have supernatural beautiful heaven sent babies and I believe it for you sis!!
That’s so beautiful that you keep your childhood pics near by to remind yourself to have positive self talk. I like that. I’m def trying that.
I know LA wasn’t a good time for you, but the energy that you had during that time, is coming back and I love it. You’re getting more into fashion again and I love that for you. Much love 💕 keep your head high and can’t wait to see what the results of the trial will be! Praying for you ❤
I love these videos when you are so raw. You are beyond relatable on so many subjects and I appreciate that. I find myself able to refocus and regroup on my own battles. Thank you for the inspiration! Sending many blessings your way!!
It's so hard when people tell you just hang in there or it will happen!! when they don't know what you've already tried or are privately going through, even when it's with the kindest of intentions. I'm in the same boat and just giving it over to God. I hope he blesses you with peace and comfort throughout this process. You're doing great in how you're handling this on the internet! 😊
Giving it to God is the right thing to do. I had a friend who was having issues getting pregnant and was going to try different medical procedures, but instead, we prayed about it and shortly later she got pregnant. Praying for you
I love a “boring eye” because it shows how naturally beautiful you are
Been watching you since 2016, I always pop in for these life update videos. Love you girl🩷🥺
I saw a therapist who helped me to mourn the life I didn't get to live (the one I planned for myself when I was younger). I learned so much from it. It made me appreciate the life I currently have.
That people haven't figured out those kinds of comments (your turn soon) are completely INAPPROPRIATE just blows my mind. Anyone commenting on a woman having a child or not having a child needs to sit down and stop. Thanks for being vulnerable here, Tati. All the love. 🥰🥰
Tati, so proud of you! Talking about IVF is never easy. Congratulations on sleeping better. Wishing you always the best! ❤️
I’m turning 35 and in this season of my life, I’m really into neutral makeup one focusing on lighter everyday makeup with a focus on skin. If I want to look extra polished, I do a winged liner. Please post more videos about fashion. I would love to see your input and I loved all your choices with Lily silk. Can’t wait to see what you come up with!
I feel like we are in such similar spots. I’ve never been able to get pregnant and I’m turning 40 in January. I’m also is a heart wrenching lawsuit involving a company that stole inheritance from when my father died💔 My husband and I have incredibly modest incomes and it has been a hard road. We are praying for God’s will In everything 🤍
Thank you for sharing-I find so much comfort in what you shared🤍
Tati, having children was something I always wanted but endometriosis took that away, and I had to have a hysterectomy at 32. But God had a plan and there was a child that needed me and that child was my nephew who I have raised since he was 2 and he is 18 now and still with me. God gifted me with a child just not the way I thought. I am his Aunt but also his Mom and he knows that. Here I am at 52 and I feel so much love. Sending you hugs Tati.
I can’t even imagine being in your shoes with all you have going on over the last few years and being in the public eye. I am grateful you shared your personal side. I can’t speak for everyone, but for me it was well received. Sending you lots of positivity, love and prayers through all of the layers of your life. God has a plan ❤
Prayers to you and James, Tati! My husband and I went through similar heartbreak too when wanting to start a family. I feel your pain, I too did not even think of infertility when wanting to start a family. No one I knew had ever been through anything like this so it was hard to process and deal with, felt so alone. I have faith that one day your family journey will come full circle No matter the path. 💚
Tati please gives us updates about the trial when ever it's safe to! ❤
Whatever the journey… is a personal one. Don’t feel like you need to explain ever. But I understand why you did. FYI I got a job with Estée Lauder! You inspired me to just go for it! I got that dream job Tati! Thank you for making these videos. Your tips and tricks are priceless. Your influence changed my life for the better. I can support myself now, so I left an abusive marriage. Doors just opened up and I feel like I’m back on the right path! Thank you🥰❤️❤️
Thank you for sharing your life with us throughout the years. So many ppl feel comfortable asking even though they know it’s an uncomfortable topic, and I’m sorry for that. You & your family are incredible people & I wish you all the best of luck with everything. ❤
Loving the Lilysilk clothing! Thanks for the life update, too. Happy for you that the litigation will soon be behind you.
You were such a cute little girl ❤ Glad you are speaking to yourself in a loving way. We are own worst critics and can be so cruel to ourselves. I am going to do the same thing. Put my baby pictures up and make sure I speak to myself in a loving and kind way. Thanks so much for sharing ❤
Hi Tati! Never clicked faster ❤
Btw, totally respect the not wanting to talk about the baby thing anymore. I had to have that change of mindset after I learned last year that I can’t have kids. And it’s hard and painful. So I respect it. You’re an awesome Aunt. And thats important too. ❤❤
My daughter in-law is going through this. I do not ask. Ticks me off when people question her. I want to scream at them. The nerve of some people!
@@liliabenavides4052 yes! It’s an incredibly personal and difficult topic for many many women. I am glad Tati said basically id appreciate moving on from this topic. She and James need to do what’s best for them and their little family.
I'm sorry to hear that. I 'could' have a child, but I have a high health risk and could basically drop dead. So basically if I want to live, I can't carry on my genes. As you're aware, insurance does not cover surrogates. :( But at least I have the option to do it knowing I could die in the process. I'm okay with that. I hope modern medicine and/or insurance evolve to help fix some of these issues so people who have medical issues can still have affordable options. Even adopting is not affordable.
@@broken_rebirth I’m so sorry to hear that! 💔 for me, I’ve just accepted I will probably never have kids and although that was my childhood dream, I’ve had to let that go and that’s painful too. Took me almost a year to accept it. But I’ll love on my nieces and that brings me joy 😍
And its okay to not want kids after all, like I don't.
Yes, Lilysilk!!! I am so looking forward to seeing you get that lovely blue color you love in silk!! Your going to look fabulous:) I love their pillowcases! Much more affordable than the name brands;) Tati - about the baby thing...... The purpose in life is to grow and help others, exactly what you are doing right now. Sometimes people help more people in the world by not having children, it's a sacrifice to put out love to more people. While I hope you have the dream you want, just know you are shinning a beautiful light into the world and you make a huge difference!
I have watched your videos for many years. You are doing something right. This is one of the most smooth and natural videos you have made in a long time. I like all of your work, however, this one really seems more normal, and comfortable, just you being yourself and not thinking of the camera at all, I loved this one.
Yay for fashion content! And also thank you for the serious talk and for reminding us to be nice to ourselves. Having a hard time and feeling sad is normal, but it's also important to lift yourself up again after being in a funk for a while.
Just know you aren't alone on the non baby train. I've come realize that I've been given an opportunity to volunteer to help foster children as a CASA, I've been given the opportunity to care for my aging parents. There's always a way to fill any void if you just look around. You're an amazing human and I know your path forward will be bright and fulfilling. You're an inspiration ✨️
I like what you said. There’s a way to fill the void if you look around. ❤️
I’m a CASA too! It’s the most rewarding thing I’ve ever done in my life!
Thank you for sharing your journey with us, Tati. We ALL compare ourselves to others, especially when it comes to how we age! I am only 24, but you are such an inspiration to me, I appreciate that you haven’t gotten any work done on your face (you don’t need it!) and instead embrace your natural beauty! You are literally STUNNING! 🩵
*Silently sobbing in Disney adult* lol it’s more of a comfort nostalgia thing! It connects (at least me) to your inner child, and that in itself is just a magical feeling.
100% support you adding fashion to your show Tati!!! Truly appreciate how vulnerable you are here… be blessed young lady 💕🎶🎉🤗
Can’t wait for you to be in the peace glow. Sending you so many positive vibes ✨💕
Tati you share because God is using you to spread the joy in that he has given you even when things haven't worked out how we expected. The world just puts so much pressure and even ourselves . I for one have received encouragement from you being in a similar situation. God bless u❤
My 2 cents if your AMH number are normal you can skip IVF however if they are low please don’t wait.. I m telling from my own experience.. it gets hard and even ivf gets challenging because you don’t have that many eggs per cycle so please please don’t delay .. god bless
Thanks for letting us into your life a bit. I know it's not the easiest to be vulnerable on line. I pray that your trial goes well. I will pray for peace on your ttc journey.
Omg, I was stuck in litigation from 2018-2022, & it's such an absolute nightmare. I understand the excitement of going to trial, and I hope it goes well for you. Being able to move past it is so huge.
It’s such a sensitive topic in general hey! Glad you just mentioned that people shouldn’t ask unless you share ❤
Had my daughter (only child currently) at 41 with IVF. She’s 18 months now and I’m in heaven.
Anyone else have slight closet envy 🤣🤣? Thanks for sharing your news with us. Btw had my son at age 44, so it's never too late - he's now a v tall, handsome 13 yr old. I had miscarriages and got to the stage where I thought if it happens, it happens. Stay strong. Emma x
PS I love working out and have mainly used dvds over the yrs (Cathe Freidrich, Kelly Coffey Meyer - both amazing btw). Thank you for sharing Eleni fit. I love her workouts! I had covid I June, followed by a cold and her low impact standing workouts are brilliant if you want to work out, but aren't feeling great! Emma x
❤❤ my sis did too!!
I might delete this later but Thanks for that encouragement. I’m currently 44. I had one baby 17 years ago and I was unmarried at the time. Although I love my daughter and I would never change the fact that I had her, I vowed never to ever have anymore kids without being married no matter how much I think I love the person. Well it took me a very, very, very (lol) long time to find the husband but now unfortunately getting pregnant at 44 isn’t as easy as it was at 25. I never considered that it would be difficult. I guess I thought that I must be fertile because I’ve already had a baby but it’s just not happening as easy this go round. Hearing these stories of women in their 40s having babies encourages me to remain hopeful.
It's definitely possible to get pregnant after 40 but it's not likely for most people, as most of your eggs are gone by then. Glad it happened for you :) it's just good to manage expectations
@@keepfitgirl8191 been thinking about looking into low impact workouts thanks for a name to look for (just had a baby 39 va c section)
Stage 4 endo here 💛 Accepting life isn't going to go as planned and mourning your fertility is extremely hard. Thank you for the validation ❤
Praying that all goes well & in your favor through trial! I totally understand not wanting to pursue IVF. Lots of love, Girlie! Love these chatty vids❤
I'm so excited for you to do fashion and makeup! You are such a role model in many ways. I've done Ivf 5 times and throughout these years you have come on here and said the same things I feel, as you did today, its like you take the words out of my mouth. It's nice to hear someone say the things you think and feel. Wishing you the best with your new fashion blogging journey! You're so elegant and perfect for this!
I love you showing us more fashion stuff! You are so elegant and I’m 32 and have been wanting to grow up and elevate my wardrobe and it feels hard to find inspiration thats in that category!