The original is waaay better. I personally don't like any these other artists verses. Dax nailed it and they couldn't compete with anything that even comes close
@@scottkibler4147what a hater! Every one of these artists did phenomenal and the original was also a masterpiece. If you don’t appreciate the authentic messages of all these artists I don’t know what’s wrong with you. You don’t get the message of the original in that case either.
A lot of people, women in general, tend to think the not sharing / not letting it out, is something guys do because of toxic masculinity/etc. But it's not something so simple, it's multifaceted, in the sense that the reasons guys do it are very varied. From wanting to protect their children from seeing burdens, to not wanting to add stress to his partner, to not wanting to add another weight to someone else. A lot of the time you're needed to be an emotional rock, an anchor. Men have a lot of experience when it comes to "sharing" their vulnerabilities. Most guys do not start off just holding their emotions back - they learn through different relationships that showing it usually doesn't result in anything good, and often results in the complete opposite, in that their vulnerabilities will be used against them in an argument down the road, in other words, it's more damaging than helpful. This song, and especially the original one that Dax did, hit just about every guy right in the feels, because it touches on several things that almost every single guy can relate to.
I’m not speaking from the “toxic masculinity” belief, I’m speaking more so from the perspective of seeing many men sick with heart or liver (drinking) issues from holding things in. Dying younger than anticipated will ALWAYS hurt those who care for you more than any sort of stress / weight that you could possibly lay on anyone. But I can understand that the anchor role is extremely important also and I’m sure it’s an extremely challenging role to have. I work at a hospital, the cardiac floor is ALWAYS majority men. There are studies showcasing that men’s coping styles can result in an earlier grave. I dislike this. I feel although it would really hurt to be rejected or belittled by someone you love if you decide to open up…the other option can be fatal. Opening up in my opinion is better than bearing weight alone and then passing suddenly leaving said companion alone with the responsibility of all the burdens of life which you completely held inside to “protect” said partner. Obviously this isn’t always the case, but I see that men work hard and are most often less likely to complain. I appreciate them, just want everyone to try to see the bigger picture. Holding things in can potentially be a much worse outcome for yourself snd those you wish to protect. Sending support though, and I appreciate your message! ❤️
@ItsMattyMayReactions To be honest, both options can be fatal. I made the mistake of being vulnerable with someone I had spent 6 years with. It was weaponized against me until I broke down, put a gun in my mouth and pulled the trigger. The gun jammed. Doesn't matter the circumstances, no one will ever have that kind of power of me. Years of working through a torn muscle, broken bones, 100+ hour work weeks, days with no sleep at all... all for nothing. So, I'm sorry, but being vulnerable for men can just be a fast track to an early grave.
Lady, you may understand your role in a hospital but you do not understand what men live with. If we are open and vulnerable with anyone other than a very close male friend, it will be weaponized against us by other men and by women. It is the fastest way to kill a woman’s attraction to you. The only women who care are the ones not attracted to you. You sitting on here telling men how they should handle their issues is like men trying to school you on what it’s like to get your first period. You don’t know.
We really should stop expecting men to deal with things like women. Our lives and roles are not the same, and what is good and works for one is not necessarily good and healthy for the other.
It’s so true! Growing up in the Deep South born 1964 where a boy must prove himself to be a man by never complaining or putting ourselves first over anything or anyone and “Manning The Fuck Up” no matter the consequences! It never occurred to me that there was any other way to live! I’m glad of it but this song does reveal something about men that I have never considered…it helped me understand that we count as well!! Life is a choice and if you choose to take up the mantle of a man it’s incumbent on you to follow through…however all of this disrespect to men over the last 40+ years has beaten us down some what…women need to do better!
As a man. Some of us have been hurt hard enough and enough times we've shut down our emotions as a form of protectionism. To the point, we no longer feel the pain that even comes with the grief of loosing their child to death itself. We're also, the ones who would take the life of someone who hurts a loved ones, without losing a second of sleep, and that's a dangerous place to be. It's been over 50 plus years now, and as a father of six daughters, with one who has died. I am finally, as the sunset of my life is nearing. I'm finally, starting to feel love, even though I've been married for 30 years. It took the hug and a sincere "I love you" from my 7 year old granddaughter to break me, to my core. Me a 6ft, 300lb Steelworker, and military veteran. That hug and those words, had me leave and cry for the first time like a baby...later that afternoon this song by Dax hit my youtube feeds. It's been an awakening of sorts. I'm finally starting to feel free.
I’m only 29 years old and I feel like I already know pain as if it was an old friend. I know I’m just a Stranger on the Internet but we love you brother. Also, thank you for your service.
And this is coming from a male trauma nurse as well. So hard for us men to see, find, or hear a genuine compliment from a true loving woman, Thank you from all of us hard working men out here trying to give you women and kids we love such a better life even at the cost of ours. Thats how much we love!
Working at the hospital can be so intense, and then continuing on with “normal” life after 12 hours of insanity is such an under appreciated skill. I appreciate what you do! Thank you!
Many of these trauma nurses and such people who help people deal with such struggles seem to be women, which makes it hard to know how much of what they say to take to heart, cause they just don't fully understand what it's like to be a man. I am soooo grateful for a chance to read this comment and see how you, as a male trauma nurse, sees the message in this song.
@@JesseReimer-dm1qp I cant thank you enough for such a positive comment. Trust me, they are few and far between. I've been at this for 18+ years now and truly feel it has to call to you to allow the ability to have that deep compassion and understanding when people are at their absolute worst usually. And you are correct, it is still fairly dominated by female nurses, not that it is a bad thing at all, but it really is the truth. Again, thank you and have a great week.
@@traumasurg2827by trauma nurse do you mean you work in a mental hospital? If so, thank you so much man😢! I've been there a couple times as a patient. It's hard cuz, as a guy, that's when you feel at your most pathetic-you're being cared for like a little kid despite being grown. Not to mention the reasons you're in there which are monumental themselves. Thank you man. Damn im crying again
@@iamjacksennui Hey there brother, not sure how TH-cam let this message fall through the cracks on my end- trust me, it was not intentional. To answer your question, yes I do both. I have 18 +yrs behind me and I started in the ER and still work there PRN cause I love helping people when there's not much hope. But I am also the Director of Nursing for our area CSC- Crisis Stabilization Center and I absolutely LOVE doing this as well!!! It was an easy transition for me cause I myself dealt with immense trauma growing up with abuse. You are so very welcome and thank you as well for recognizing us nurses that have made a difference for you guys. Never see it as being a kid, because the difference is it takes someone that's fully GROWN to admit they need some help to get through a tight spot and that's what I was put on earth to do. Much love to ya brother and reach out if you ever need someone to talk to- I will listen without judgement.
The origonal video has a scene where the kiddo runs up to her dad. Men tend to have simple needs. When we walk through the door after work we will never ask for it but kiddos runing up to dad for a hug is a number 1 desire. "I missed you" is one of the most powerful 3 word sentences to a man.
Honestly. I feel this song and every verse so much. Im honesty at one of the lowest points ive ever been. Fighting to try and see my daughter and it kills me every day i go without her. But i keep going for her. Ill have my baby girl back one day. My cousin came to work the other day bc one of the guys saw i was having a bad day she asked if i wanted a hug and broke down when she asked. I needed it so much.
We don’t tend to share with the women in our lives because it will be used against us, and we get diminished in her eyes for showing we are human. The line , “unconditional love is for women, children, and dogs” is so true. Women love to tell us we need to share emotions more, but yet they are the ones that have taught us that it’s dangerous to show any emotions. In short, we don’t share because nobody cares. Love is always conditional for men.
I have battled depression and anxiety my entire life. Sometimes I’ll make a mistake and I dwell on it and it puts me in a funk for awhile. Sometimes I get depressed for no reason whatsoever. It gets bad. I feel like I want to be somebody else. Someone bigger, stronger, better looking, smarter, more athletic, better personality, doesn’t care what people think. I’ve given him a name and everything. But then reality hits and I remember that I’m me. I remember when I was early in my first marriage to my kids mother I got depressed and didn’t know why. Instead of hugging me and telling me that it’ll be okay and she’ll help me through it she yelled at me saying “I need you to be strong. If you can’t do that then we aren’t going to work.” Ever since then I’ve just pushed it all down and learned to fake being happy when I’m around people. My current wife is completely different. She will hug me and comfort me. But I’m still afraid to tell her every time I’m depressed. I don’t want her to think that she’s doing something wrong. I just hate being me.
The last verse from the last guy "just remember I tried to be a man when you lose me y'all and I'm gone" hits close to home. I been there, blade in my hand, blood dripping down my arm, its such an easy way out of the mental pain but it will just cause the ones you love to hurt, so we just barely miss that artery. The pain somehow makes you feel better, especially if your in a place where you hate yourself and feel you deserve every bit of that pain. I'm now, years later, doing much better and no longer have those feelings at that degree. This song is amazing, thank you for your reaction. ❤
As I said elsewhere: Women are never alone; always another to talk to, work things out and whatever. Men don't do that, we get our burdens, pains and regrets and we handle our own buisness. Thanks for your reaction and honesty. Women would know men better if the next time a big problem is eating at them, unplug yourself from every other woman for a month. Smile and act like its nothing, then carry it alone until you just put it in that big closet in your head with everything else. A man provides comfort but rarely asks for it; it makes you emotionally strong as you grow up. We have to deal with comforting and guiding our wives, children or just girlfriends out of their traumas. Somebody has to be the rock for others, and true men need to be there.
You do have a choice, sir. 💖 Unless your life has already been written out and you have a script telling you how to act out every scene of your life, you can always attempt to find community / solace / friends / romantic partners. Don’t give up!
@@MaddyReactions We don't always have a choice. If you don't have friends or family, who do you talk to? There aren't support groups for men who are victims of abuse, victims of divorce, etc... women have support groups for pretty much everything. Men don't have those type of support groups. If you don't have friends, don't have family, who do you even talk to? Therapists are majority women and they are the worst ones to talk to when it comes to men's mental health. I went to therapy with a female because none of the places around here had male therapists and all it did was make things worse. As for my work, I'm literally 1 of 2 guys on a team of all women with all my leadership at every level being women. I just don't have any place to open up to. I'm not opening up on social media because all the evil women out there will just come to tear me down. So I leave a lot of comments on youtube hoping someone responds with something to give me hope or find someone that is willing to just sit and listen to me vent, not try to fix me, no invalidate me, just simply listen and acknowledge that I am feeling that way and its valid to feel that way.
1 she is beautiful in and out 2 she chose an artist with great message 3 the remix is so so soul searching 4 thank you for a great reaction ❣️ From Nigeria 🇳🇬
I am unsure of your outside life away from the screen, but you speak as one of us nurses and to that and so much more- I thank you as well. So many of the reaction individuals on this platform fail to understand or grasp just how much of a needed distraction or better yet, line of support music means for us. Individuals that are special as yourself allow us to know we are not the only ones in the boat alone. It is true, I don't know you, but I hold a special place in my heart for you simply because you proved that you truly care and that's a love and respect that remains solid.
One of the best reactions I’ve seen. As a man I appreciate your view and words. That means a lot to me and I’m sure many other men who struggle on the daily. You have a new subscriber. Keep on with the positive message. God bless.
This one broke this old divorced vet. No words just no words. I fight the battle within every day. I wake up every day and think shit, I'm still here, I walk outside and smile at my neighbors as I walk alone. They all look at me as the old white vet with head issues, that is not afraid of anything. Dying I stopped worrying about a long time ago. Living like I have for another ten years. That's too scary to think of. It just is what it is.
People Don't understand how powerful a hug can really be for a man. I'm not saying it's not powerful for a women as well. Because I'm not a women. But for a man like myself. That hug helps me to release a lot of stress and pain in my heart and head.
After a 20yr marriage ending in divorce, I listened to this song only ONCE and could not do it again. This effen song rings sooo effen true that it hurt me to my core. I wish I could watch, but I can't do it again. It brought back all the feeling I had in my marriage that hasn't been resolved "Because I'm A Man"🙁
You are not a lone. I don’t know anything about you, but in some sense as a man we’ve all lived the same life, the same experiences. I’m here for you brother and so is God. I hope you are able to have an open heart to our Heavenly Father. I love you brother.
You should look up Norah Vincent, author of Self-Made Man. She went undercover as a man for over a year. On the inside, she saw what men went through and detailed it in her book. Afterward, she developed major depression and in 2014 tried to kill herself. In 2022 she died in Switzerland by assisted suicide.
Ben (long blond hair) is personally my favourite , his voice like you said is so angelic and his emotions gets me right in the 'feels' every single time ! , .. & you saying '' men often suffer of heart conditions and in my unmedical perspective it's probably by letting theirs emotions in '' it's so sad yet so true .. , love your reactions x
Ben is one of my verses here cuz I'm a very emotional guy anyway(ptsd will do that), raised by a feminist mom(of the older school kind), yet still feel embarrassed to cry in front of folks
Men, we need to foster a culture in which we teach our sons & brothers to develop the kind of relationships with other men with which we can share our frustrations, emotions and trials, so that we can be the rock our wife and family need when we are home. Only men can truly understand the struggles of being a man. Women can offer sympathy but only men can offer true empathy. Seek Wisdom.
the women in my life have ALWAYS been harder on me then ANYONE.. They would rather watch me DIE on that hill then to fall to my knees. Women cause this Mothers DESTROY sons
The issue is so many men have their children stripped away from them by the legal system. That causing a lot of the depression in men's lives. We can deal with so much but losing our children is a whole another level.
I am a older veteran guy. i raised a family when I was young and doing it again now. I can see a difference in how younger people feel about this topic where as older people this is mostly how we were raised and live. Protect, Provide, Press on was my lessons growing up. I often wonder how people who tell each other everything how the wife views her husband. Its such a great song that hits pretty hard to those of that that stand alone and carry this every day. Thank you for views and comments. God Bless.
Try every relationship until my latest left not long after letting my emotions show and when I did they were either downplayed or told to man up and don’t be a punk, every guy in close to comes to me to talk to because their spouses don’t listen, you can say to talk about it and show emotion but because I have and others I know have they now see their kids on the weekends
I'm sorry about your situation. I feel unfortunately many women go into relationships for selfish reasons rather than a deep and true care / love for their partner. Hoping the best for you, friend!
That's what every word in this mix is about. It's about men having to suffer in silence cuz majority of women don't provide a safe space. So we escape best we can with drugs, alcohol, our friends, maybe a family member. But when all of those things disappear for the night and we go back home, we have to repeat it again n hope for a better outcome. Stay strong brother..Hopefully this message with touch women in America hearts deeply.
Men: Don't avoid the struggle, push into it. There is purpose in the pain. There is value in the struggle. There is no GLORY and HONOR without Suffering. BE BRAVE.
It’s all thrown into our head at our younger years. And it’s mostly from women us men know. Moms, aunts, sisters, cousins etc. we’re told, “man up, men don’t cry”.
I'm a father. I have 7 kids, I lost one a couple years back. I work 100+ hours a week. I have nothing to complain about. Ever! I made my choices in life. I can't hide myself. I was made for this.
It’s just crazy how something as simple as a hug can be all someone may need to just feel that little bit better and not feel so alone. But it’s also crazy how it’s sometimes so hard to ask for that little thing.
I am blessed enough to have multiple people ask me why I’m quiet when I’m quiet, I am blessed enough to be loved by more people than I deserve. This song still describes, more than I want to admit, how hard it is to be strong man, a rock for others. Just want my two boys to know how to be as strong, and pray they have the same support.
A channel on youtube called default lyrics compiled 2 videos of contestants, there's some really great talent that didn't get picked. Thanks for your reaction.
I was almost a part of that statistic seconds away if my nephew wouldn't of called I wouldn't be here he never calls I don't think I'll ever find my true happy ending cause it will always end with me being alone but I accept it
Being alone doesn’t have to equal being lonely. 💖 Delve into discovering yourself and get lost in your passions. Find groups online and in person with common interests and the right people will cross your path! ☺️ You’re welcome to join my discord, everyone there is super cool…also I’d check out meetups.com, this is a site where you can find groups with common interests! 💖💖💖
It's so important to talk with friends or cry if need be. Fighting and drinking only leads to perpetuating pain...death, and disability. I'm currently disabled and never expected this. Oh yeah, I "chill", with my daughter s bunny throughout the day....she keeps me company, to strategize. Life is good
So much truth, it doesn’t matter how you feel it’s what you provide as a man it’s extremely hard to be a lover and provider in todays world, as a veteran and first responder who was always taught to hold it in and has always gravitated to alchohol to subdue my thoughts and feelings in order to provide for my family. My feelings don’t matter as long as my family is taken care of. Who do the helpers turn to when the help needs help???
I think you're right about the heat conditions in men, sometimes it feels like never ending stress. Stress about work, kids, relationships, life in general.
@@MaddyReactions of course!! I just dropped a music video to my song, Dear YHWH. I don't know if you'd be interested, but I'd be so blessed to see you react. It's a song with a different perspective than people tend to speak on and I'm trying to be real about what belief really means. Thanks again!!!
This song is very heavy and important to listen and I am grateful to Dax for writing this song because this is about men mental health issues and it is great messages and ladies who have husband, brother and father could understand this issue will be open mind and support their families Thank you for your reaction ❤
@christyrichardson9284 You're wrong. If you open up to a woman, not all, but most of them. She will start to see you as less dependable, less stable, less manly. Eventually, you, as a man, will be replaced. That's a fact I've learned twice now. I make good money, I'm in fairly good shape. My 2nd wife left me and refused to tell me why. She told me she was unhappy and within two weeks she had moved out. I had no idea, I work a lot. I'm an engineer and I sometimes work over 80 hours a week. I'm always on call. If the machines my company needs to manufacture our goods go down, they send men home, those men lose money and that hurts their families. I work for my family, not for me, when they're happy I'm happy. That's all most good men want. My ex told me that our life was perfect and that I didn't do anything wrong. She just wasn't happy. I don't know why I do any of this anymore, there's no point. I can fix anything, I can build a house from the ground up. After she left she was in another relationship the following week. I asked her how she was able to do that and she told me he was more of a man than I was.
Sometimes it’s not easy for us men to let it out. Some things we men go through is honestly hard to explain. Life is tough for men and women for sure but it’s harder for men in so many ways. It’s easy to say just let it out but it’s a whole different ballgame to actually do it.
We don't know cause we don't get told Or treated as such we carry our weight and the weight of all those we love. And just suck it up and keep driving on. If we cracke under the pressure yall pack your shit, take our kids and leave so we don't have a choice but to hide the cracks as long as we can. You should watch the original with all of Dax's original lyrics.
Great Song, Dax is a wonderful soul! I just discovered him a couple weeks ago. Been listening to a lot of his music since. So many deep, insightful messages! Mandy, you’re a wonderful soul also! Take Care, God Bless! ❤️
Thank you for reacting to this. My ex wife heard I was vulnerable with the kids and shared that I was sad about splitting up, that we aren’t all together anymore. She weaponized that and used it against me. I was hurt deep by the person I bent over backwards for years for. She lied, cheated, and made accusations that has alienated me from my children. I won’t stop fighting for them though. She wanted to separate 2 days after our 7th anniversary by text. It was also 4 months after we adopted our 4th child (fostered and adopted all 4 kids). Life is tough for men, especially when it comes to divorce or raising children. I’ll be praying for all the men going through tough times and feel trapped with no way out.
Dax's pain paints paintings album helped me through so much, this one does more for me though, he is saying exactly what all of us think at one point in our lives
"I just want to cry, to be given a hug, and be told everything will be okay." A hug can be so powerful when it comes from someone who actually cares about you. You can feel that deep inside you and I swear it can help heal whatever pain you're feeling. But you have to find those people who can provide that for you. I hope everyone has at least one person who can be that for them. ❤🩹 Just stumbled on your channel today so I might be watching/responding to a bunch. Sorry in advance if I flood your notifications. 😆
Just touching on your point that you mentioned people around you will feel it.... They don't, I was at rock bottom and ready to end it all but nobody knew it had gotten to that point. It was over a year and a half after my worst point that someone found out and it was only because I shared it with them. We are unfortunately wired to act like everything is fine at least in my experience. Was always told there's no point in crying about it if something's wrong you have to fix it and that was that. Not a human on earth knew where I was at mentally in my situation. Thankfully I had my dog with me and the thought of him relying on me to take care of him and knowing that even though every day was immensely hard to go through I would get home and see him and it would make me a little bit less sad. My dog is the only reason I made it through that time in my life It's unfortunate but it's the reality of it just because you're close with someone and doesn't mean that they have any idea you're going through something or at least to the level that you're going through it.
I agree with the energy shift. If you listen to the original it makes more sense. Its explaining that even if we try to explain we can't do it adequately. Unfortunately not all men have outlets and culture tells us to toughen up and provide because our family is more important than our feelings. Just like men can't truly feel what its like to be a mom or woman, women can only hear but not truly understand.
It's not about being tough, it's about never being enough. Giving everything when you have nothing. And when you can't give anymore you realize that you fighting alone.
Thank you sweetheart, you im living this nightmare right now and it breaks my heart. I told her I was depressed and I was trying. She said I was stupid for being depressed and to man up.
Thank you for your heartfelt and warm reaction and understanding. I'm hoping Dax and his music will be the catalyst for the change that needs to happen in society. Men need to be treated as equal in the justice system when it comes to custody, divorce, etc... So a man is struggling financially to no fault of his own and because of that, his wife divorces him and takes the kid. Now the man on top of the financial struggle already is now forced to pay child support and alimony. How the hell does that help the man out in anyway? Half the time he's lucky if he even gets to the see the kids he's spending thousands of dollars a year to support. The justice system needs changed and its the first thing that needs changed. The 2nd thing that needs changed, is organizations need to step up and have men's mental health support group. You have support groups for women in boundless numbers but you don't have organizations out there supporting men's mental health, We need an organization to support men like women have for victims of abuse, etc... If the justice system were fair, men would be able to leave disrespectful women and not have their entire life destroyed by it. It's easy to say "just reconsider removing that person from your life" but do you realize the consequences of doing so can be far worse because of how the justice system is? I went through a divorce with my ex wife (who's now a man but that's a different story) and literally I got stuck with 16K in credit card debt that she racked up, she took every penny out of the savings account and left me with nothing. Thankfully I didn't have children and we weren't married long enough for alimony but the justice system is completely against men. Hopefully Dax's music pushes enough people to be the catalyst to make the changes that society desperately needs. Society needs massive change and I believe Dax might just be the man to do it!
I have already been here with this reaction, but here I am again, one of the biggest problems is that as older men as an example group, I am from 1971, we cannot find people willing to listen, for many reasons, for a start we do no not know how to find them, and the closest people we love, we do not want to burden them with what we feel are not allowed to acknowledge in ourselves, this goes well beyond national borders, but, we do not want to create a repeat circle and see our sons repeating what we have done because they deserve better. I do tell my son it is okay to be emotional, I not tell him or his sisters to hold it in. When Dax sings "they don't care about how you feel" I have learned that this is not always a conscious thing they do not mean to be so cold, but it happens.
It's the 4th of July. I feel like I'm fighting at home. The fireworks are terrifying. I'm trying to maintain. I don't have anyone to talk to but this song makes sense
I know you mean well but all that about "men should/have to/must" talk about it and get things off our chest but the thing is that for so many of us men, we CAN'T, we have nothing, not a single person we trust to that degree. And it's not for lack of trying, it's just that life have tought us that we only seem to be a burden to other people, therefor, we bottle everything up 😕 Edit; I only wanted to say thank you for reacting to this song
The hardest part is when they weaponize what you have told them in a vulnerable show of openness is the quickest way to turn a man cold and silent to the point it kills him
As the song says “I don’t expect you to understand”, but you will never know a man is struggling until its to late, they could be battling the devil himself and they will be smiling, from a very early age we’ve learned how to stop showing emotion, its easier to be hated while showing no emotion than to be hated for showing your emotions
Almost every relationship ive had that wanted me to be "vulnerable" backfired. They used all of it as ammunition against me when they got angry. Dont get me wrong, i have had a couple of relationships with amazing women who truly did care, who truly DID let me cry on THEIR shoulder, who tried their best to understand what i went through for myself, and for them. But these days... its really hard to find relationships like that. After a while, we give up and just decide its easier to be alone.
I literally give my own life to save others, but there is never anyone here to save me. I just want a shoulder to lay own and actually feel like im understood.
If you haven't yet, i recommend listening to the original version. It has Dax's own lyrics which are equally as powerful.
I definitely will!! ☺️
I 💯% agree
The original is waaay better. I personally don't like any these other artists verses. Dax nailed it and they couldn't compete with anything that even comes close
@@scottkibler4147what a hater! Every one of these artists did phenomenal and the original was also a masterpiece. If you don’t appreciate the authentic messages of all these artists I don’t know what’s wrong with you. You don’t get the message of the original in that case either.
@@MaddyReactions , also the newest one with Darius Rucker.
A lot of people, women in general, tend to think the not sharing / not letting it out, is something guys do because of toxic masculinity/etc. But it's not something so simple, it's multifaceted, in the sense that the reasons guys do it are very varied. From wanting to protect their children from seeing burdens, to not wanting to add stress to his partner, to not wanting to add another weight to someone else. A lot of the time you're needed to be an emotional rock, an anchor. Men have a lot of experience when it comes to "sharing" their vulnerabilities. Most guys do not start off just holding their emotions back - they learn through different relationships that showing it usually doesn't result in anything good, and often results in the complete opposite, in that their vulnerabilities will be used against them in an argument down the road, in other words, it's more damaging than helpful. This song, and especially the original one that Dax did, hit just about every guy right in the feels, because it touches on several things that almost every single guy can relate to.
I’m not speaking from the “toxic masculinity” belief, I’m speaking more so from the perspective of seeing many men sick with heart or liver (drinking) issues from holding things in. Dying younger than anticipated will ALWAYS hurt those who care for you more than any sort of stress / weight that you could possibly lay on anyone. But I can understand that the anchor role is extremely important also and I’m sure it’s an extremely challenging role to have. I work at a hospital, the cardiac floor is ALWAYS majority men. There are studies showcasing that men’s coping styles can result in an earlier grave. I dislike this. I feel although it would really hurt to be rejected or belittled by someone you love if you decide to open up…the other option can be fatal. Opening up in my opinion is better than bearing weight alone and then passing suddenly leaving said companion alone with the responsibility of all the burdens of life which you completely held inside to “protect” said partner. Obviously this isn’t always the case, but I see that men work hard and are most often less likely to complain. I appreciate them, just want everyone to try to see the bigger picture. Holding things in can potentially be a much worse outcome for yourself snd those you wish to protect. Sending support though, and I appreciate your message! ❤️
@ItsMattyMayReactions To be honest, both options can be fatal. I made the mistake of being vulnerable with someone I had spent 6 years with. It was weaponized against me until I broke down, put a gun in my mouth and pulled the trigger. The gun jammed. Doesn't matter the circumstances, no one will ever have that kind of power of me. Years of working through a torn muscle, broken bones, 100+ hour work weeks, days with no sleep at all... all for nothing. So, I'm sorry, but being vulnerable for men can just be a fast track to an early grave.
Lady, you may understand your role in a hospital but you do not understand what men live with. If we are open and vulnerable with anyone other than a very close male friend, it will be weaponized against us by other men and by women. It is the fastest way to kill a woman’s attraction to you. The only women who care are the ones not attracted to you.
You sitting on here telling men how they should handle their issues is like men trying to school you on what it’s like to get your first period. You don’t know.
Best interpretation I've heard
We really should stop expecting men to deal with things like women. Our lives and roles are not the same, and what is good and works for one is not necessarily good and healthy for the other.
We are taught from an early age to at the very least never be a burden to anyone. Sharing how we feel is a burden.
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Like that fella said, we bury it deep down and get up on our feet. Love you guys
It’s so true! Growing up in the Deep South born 1964 where a boy must prove himself to be a man by never complaining or putting ourselves first over anything or anyone and “Manning The Fuck Up” no matter the consequences! It never occurred to me that there was any other way to live! I’m glad of it but this song does reveal something about men that I have never considered…it helped me understand that we count as well!! Life is a choice and if you choose to take up the mantle of a man it’s incumbent on you to follow through…however all of this disrespect to men over the last 40+ years has beaten us down some what…women need to do better!
@@MaddyReactionsi 💯 enjoy your reaction to this .❤
You know that you aren't supposed to let them know that, man.
As a man. Some of us have been hurt hard enough and enough times we've shut down our emotions as a form of protectionism. To the point, we no longer feel the pain that even comes with the grief of loosing their child to death itself. We're also, the ones who would take the life of someone who hurts a loved ones, without losing a second of sleep, and that's a dangerous place to be. It's been over 50 plus years now, and as a father of six daughters, with one who has died. I am finally, as the sunset of my life is nearing. I'm finally, starting to feel love, even though I've been married for 30 years. It took the hug and a sincere "I love you" from my 7 year old granddaughter to break me, to my core. Me a 6ft, 300lb Steelworker, and military veteran. That hug and those words, had me leave and cry for the first time like a baby...later that afternoon this song by Dax hit my youtube feeds. It's been an awakening of sorts. I'm finally starting to feel free.
I’m only 29 years old and I feel like I already know pain as if it was an old friend. I know I’m just a Stranger on the Internet but we love you brother. Also, thank you for your service.
Powerful words.
And this is coming from a male trauma nurse as well. So hard for us men to see, find, or hear a genuine compliment from a true loving woman, Thank you from all of us hard working men out here trying to give you women and kids we love such a better life even at the cost of ours. Thats how much we love!
Working at the hospital can be so intense, and then continuing on with “normal” life after 12 hours of insanity is such an under appreciated skill. I appreciate what you do! Thank you!
Many of these trauma nurses and such people who help people deal with such struggles seem to be women, which makes it hard to know how much of what they say to take to heart, cause they just don't fully understand what it's like to be a man. I am soooo grateful for a chance to read this comment and see how you, as a male trauma nurse, sees the message in this song.
@@JesseReimer-dm1qp I cant thank you enough for such a positive comment. Trust me, they are few and far between. I've been at this for 18+ years now and truly feel it has to call to you to allow the ability to have that deep compassion and understanding when people are at their absolute worst usually. And you are correct, it is still fairly dominated by female nurses, not that it is a bad thing at all, but it really is the truth. Again, thank you and have a great week.
@@traumasurg2827by trauma nurse do you mean you work in a mental hospital? If so, thank you so much man😢! I've been there a couple times as a patient. It's hard cuz, as a guy, that's when you feel at your most pathetic-you're being cared for like a little kid despite being grown. Not to mention the reasons you're in there which are monumental themselves. Thank you man. Damn im crying again
@@iamjacksennui Hey there brother, not sure how TH-cam let this message fall through the cracks on my end- trust me, it was not intentional. To answer your question, yes I do both. I have 18 +yrs behind me and I started in the ER and still work there PRN cause I love helping people when there's not much hope. But I am also the Director of Nursing for our area CSC- Crisis Stabilization Center and I absolutely LOVE doing this as well!!! It was an easy transition for me cause I myself dealt with immense trauma growing up with abuse. You are so very welcome and thank you as well for recognizing us nurses that have made a difference for you guys. Never see it as being a kid, because the difference is it takes someone that's fully GROWN to admit they need some help to get through a tight spot and that's what I was put on earth to do. Much love to ya brother and reach out if you ever need someone to talk to- I will listen without judgement.
I definitely vibe with both versions, unfortunately mainstream will never let this blow up like it shouldve
I hope that we can instead! ☺️
To late, it’s surpassing Mainstream
That’s why I don’t listen to mainstream. I’d rather listen to real music from the heart
Lol it's already viral worldwide dude
A simple word of encouragement from those closest to us is all that most men need in our darkest times.
That is so real! Boss up, shin!
That large gulp not even 10 seconds in is just a testament to how powerful this chorus is
It really is!!! Lol
Thanks!
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The origonal video has a scene where the kiddo runs up to her dad. Men tend to have simple needs. When we walk through the door after work we will never ask for it but kiddos runing up to dad for a hug is a number 1 desire. "I missed you" is one of the most powerful 3 word sentences to a man.
Honestly. I feel this song and every verse so much. Im honesty at one of the lowest points ive ever been. Fighting to try and see my daughter and it kills me every day i go without her. But i keep going for her. Ill have my baby girl back one day. My cousin came to work the other day bc one of the guys saw i was having a bad day she asked if i wanted a hug and broke down when she asked. I needed it so much.
Sending more hugs! It gets better, keep grinding, friend!
Lol thanks for reacting to this and I don't spend my every weekend chilling with my demons but they be here sweetheart. Much love tho
GOOD TO HEAR!!! LOL I’m happy to hear that! Sending hugs! Great work, continue sharing such a strong message!
We don’t tend to share with the women in our lives because it will be used against us, and we get diminished in her eyes for showing we are human. The line , “unconditional love is for women, children, and dogs” is so true. Women love to tell us we need to share emotions more, but yet they are the ones that have taught us that it’s dangerous to show any emotions. In short, we don’t share because nobody cares. Love is always conditional for men.
I have battled depression and anxiety my entire life. Sometimes I’ll make a mistake and I dwell on it and it puts me in a funk for awhile. Sometimes I get depressed for no reason whatsoever. It gets bad. I feel like I want to be somebody else. Someone bigger, stronger, better looking, smarter, more athletic, better personality, doesn’t care what people think. I’ve given him a name and everything. But then reality hits and I remember that I’m me. I remember when I was early in my first marriage to my kids mother I got depressed and didn’t know why. Instead of hugging me and telling me that it’ll be okay and she’ll help me through it she yelled at me saying “I need you to be strong. If you can’t do that then we aren’t going to work.” Ever since then I’ve just pushed it all down and learned to fake being happy when I’m around people. My current wife is completely different. She will hug me and comfort me. But I’m still afraid to tell her every time I’m depressed. I don’t want her to think that she’s doing something wrong. I just hate being me.
Wow 🩷
Amazing reaction, thank you for sharing your thoughts and understanding.
Of course! ✨☺️ Thanks for the support!
The last verse from the last guy "just remember I tried to be a man when you lose me y'all and I'm gone" hits close to home. I been there, blade in my hand, blood dripping down my arm, its such an easy way out of the mental pain but it will just cause the ones you love to hurt, so we just barely miss that artery. The pain somehow makes you feel better, especially if your in a place where you hate yourself and feel you deserve every bit of that pain. I'm now, years later, doing much better and no longer have those feelings at that degree. This song is amazing, thank you for your reaction. ❤
As I said elsewhere:
Women are never alone; always another to talk to, work things out and whatever. Men don't do that, we get our burdens, pains and regrets and we handle our own buisness. Thanks for your reaction and honesty. Women would know men better if the next time a big problem is eating at them, unplug yourself from every other woman for a month. Smile and act like its nothing, then carry it alone until you just put it in that big closet in your head with everything else. A man provides comfort but rarely asks for it; it makes you emotionally strong as you grow up. We have to deal with comforting and guiding our wives, children or just girlfriends out of their traumas. Somebody has to be the rock for others, and true men need to be there.
"dont strugle alone" like we have a choice lol
You do have a choice, sir. 💖 Unless your life has already been written out and you have a script telling you how to act out every scene of your life, you can always attempt to find community / solace / friends / romantic partners. Don’t give up!
@@MaddyReactions It has been written now im just waiting on the final page.
That’s such a cop out, sir! Work towards your goals…no permanent solutions for temporary issues.
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We don't always have a choice. If you don't have friends or family, who do you talk to? There aren't support groups for men who are victims of abuse, victims of divorce, etc... women have support groups for pretty much everything. Men don't have those type of support groups. If you don't have friends, don't have family, who do you even talk to? Therapists are majority women and they are the worst ones to talk to when it comes to men's mental health. I went to therapy with a female because none of the places around here had male therapists and all it did was make things worse.
As for my work, I'm literally 1 of 2 guys on a team of all women with all my leadership at every level being women. I just don't have any place to open up to. I'm not opening up on social media because all the evil women out there will just come to tear me down. So I leave a lot of comments on youtube hoping someone responds with something to give me hope or find someone that is willing to just sit and listen to me vent, not try to fix me, no invalidate me, just simply listen and acknowledge that I am feeling that way and its valid to feel that way.
Don't worry. No matter haw many time she listen the song...She'll still not gonna get it. 🙄
1 she is beautiful in and out
2 she chose an artist with great message
3 the remix is so so soul searching
4 thank you for a great reaction ❣️
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I am unsure of your outside life away from the screen, but you speak as one of us nurses and to that and so much more- I thank you as well. So many of the reaction individuals on this platform fail to understand or grasp just how much of a needed distraction or better yet, line of support music means for us. Individuals that are special as yourself allow us to know we are not the only ones in the boat alone. It is true, I don't know you, but I hold a special place in my heart for you simply because you proved that you truly care and that's a love and respect that remains solid.
Thank you so much! 💖💖💖 Keep bossing up!
Music is the reason I'm still breathing.
Awesome job on this reaction, you were made for this 🎉, I Absolutely love this song, this is what the world needs more of this!
And I'm requesting more of Dax, and also Harry Mack
Aww, thank you so much Lou!! I’ll look into Harry Mack! ✨
@@MaddyReactions check out Harry Mack freestyles for baseball legends
Will do!
One of the best reactions I’ve seen. As a man I appreciate your view and words. That means a lot to me and I’m sure many other men who struggle on the daily. You have a new subscriber. Keep on with the positive message. God bless.
Thanks so much, sending hugs!
Is it just me.... or is Matty not just beautiful in appearance but her soul, we look for that every day!
Thank you for the kind words! ☺️
Tea or juice Matty......that's why we got beer, whiskey n video games lol
LOL beer / whiskey is okay sometimes!!! Just take care of your kidneys and liver!!
Facts. Beer and whiskey. All we need
I'm only 22 and I drink almost everyday. It's kinda sad if you think about it
@@1ksubswithnovideoschalle-gq5oy take care of your liver, friend!
As a former wino, I'll just say be careful bro
I love this video it makes me emotional and it’s great to bring awareness to mental health
I agree! It's nice to hear from the perspective of men!
This one broke this old divorced vet. No words just no words. I fight the battle within every day. I wake up every day and think shit, I'm still here, I walk outside and smile at my neighbors as I walk alone. They all look at me as the old white vet with head issues, that is not afraid of anything. Dying I stopped worrying about a long time ago. Living like I have for another ten years. That's too scary to think of. It just is what it is.
Sending hugs 🤗
Honestly, the best and most authentic reaction I’ve ever seen. Men’s mental health is real and thank you for carrying that torch, Maddy! 💚
People Don't understand how powerful a hug can really be for a man. I'm not saying it's not powerful for a women as well. Because I'm not a women. But for a man like myself. That hug helps me to release a lot of stress and pain in my heart and head.
Thank you so much
Great work on this track!! 🫡
Awesome reaction! Thanks for your authenticity
Thanks for your kind comment Augustine!
After a 20yr marriage ending in divorce, I listened to this song only ONCE and could not do it again. This effen song rings sooo effen true that it hurt me to my core. I wish I could watch, but I can't do it again. It brought back all the feeling I had in my marriage that hasn't been resolved "Because I'm A Man"🙁
💖💖💖 I’m sending hugs 🤗
You are not a lone. I don’t know anything about you, but in some sense as a man we’ve all lived the same life, the same experiences. I’m here for you brother and so is God. I hope you are able to have an open heart to our Heavenly Father. I love you brother.
You should look up Norah Vincent, author of Self-Made Man. She went undercover as a man for over a year. On the inside, she saw what men went through and detailed it in her book. Afterward, she developed major depression and in 2014 tried to kill herself. In 2022 she died in Switzerland by assisted suicide.
Wholesome reaction 💙 it's truly mind blowing too see your even prettier inside then you are on the out 🥇
Wow, thank you ✨☺️
Ben (long blond hair) is personally my favourite , his voice like you said is so angelic and his emotions gets me right in the 'feels' every single time ! , .. & you saying '' men often suffer of heart conditions and in my unmedical perspective it's probably by letting theirs emotions in '' it's so sad yet so true .. , love your reactions x
Ben is one of my verses here cuz I'm a very emotional guy anyway(ptsd will do that), raised by a feminist mom(of the older school kind), yet still feel embarrassed to cry in front of folks
Men, we need to foster a culture in which we teach our sons & brothers to develop the kind of relationships with other men with which we can share our frustrations, emotions and trials, so that we can be the rock our wife and family need when we are home. Only men can truly understand the struggles of being a man. Women can offer sympathy but only men can offer true empathy. Seek Wisdom.
Eloquently said!
the women in my life have ALWAYS been harder on me then ANYONE.. They would rather watch me DIE on that hill then to fall to my knees. Women cause this Mothers DESTROY sons
@@brettmckee7735 I agree that this is true, unless they have a father who is in charge and is the Patriarch of the family.
The issue is so many men have their children stripped away from them by the legal system. That causing a lot of the depression in men's lives. We can deal with so much but losing our children is a whole another level.
@@KebbieG I completely agree, but my statement still holds true.
Loved the reaction! 🤟 Thanks for the reaction!
Thanks 🙏☺️
I am a older veteran guy. i raised a family when I was young and doing it again now. I can see a difference in how younger people feel about this topic where as older people this is mostly how we were raised and live. Protect, Provide, Press on was my lessons growing up. I often wonder how people who tell each other everything how the wife views her husband. Its such a great song that hits pretty hard to those of that that stand alone and carry this every day. Thank you for views and comments. God Bless.
Try every relationship until my latest left not long after letting my emotions show and when I did they were either downplayed or told to man up and don’t be a punk, every guy in close to comes to me to talk to because their spouses don’t listen, you can say to talk about it and show emotion but because I have and others I know have they now see their kids on the weekends
I'm sorry about your situation. I feel unfortunately many women go into relationships for selfish reasons rather than a deep and true care / love for their partner. Hoping the best for you, friend!
That's what every word in this mix is about. It's about men having to suffer in silence cuz majority of women don't provide a safe space. So we escape best we can with drugs, alcohol, our friends, maybe a family member. But when all of those things disappear for the night and we go back home, we have to repeat it again n hope for a better outcome. Stay strong brother..Hopefully this message with touch women in America hearts deeply.
Men:
Don't avoid the struggle, push into it.
There is purpose in the pain.
There is value in the struggle.
There is no GLORY and HONOR without Suffering.
BE BRAVE.
Very nice! 👏
Dax's words literally saved me from suicide
Wow! I’m happy you’re still on this planet, Tony! 💖
Glad you're still with us, Brother
Hang on
Last fella is awesome, because he hit the Twista flow with the speed. Really cool !!!!!
Definitely!!
It’s all thrown into our head at our younger years. And it’s mostly from women us men know. Moms, aunts, sisters, cousins etc. we’re told, “man up, men don’t cry”.
I'm a father. I have 7 kids, I lost one a couple years back. I work 100+ hours a week. I have nothing to complain about. Ever! I made my choices in life. I can't hide myself. I was made for this.
Boss up! 🩷
I am 1:18 into this and had to pause because this kid seems so sweet that my heart hurts that she is going to be introduced to our world.
Great reaction here ❤❤
Thank you! ☺️✨
It’s just crazy how something as simple as a hug can be all someone may need to just feel that little bit better and not feel so alone. But it’s also crazy how it’s sometimes so hard to ask for that little thing.
"Have a nice herbal tea" lol, great reaction appreciate you taking the time to make the video. RLTW
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I am blessed enough to have multiple people ask me why I’m quiet when I’m quiet, I am blessed enough to be loved by more people than I deserve. This song still describes, more than I want to admit, how hard it is to be strong man, a rock for others. Just want my two boys to know how to be as strong, and pray they have the same support.
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I've shut down tired of this life😂
A channel on youtube called default lyrics compiled 2 videos of contestants, there's some really great talent that didn't get picked. Thanks for your reaction.
Oh wow!! No problem ☺️
What an Amazing collaboration ❤🎉
It’s SO GOOD!!! 😍
I was almost a part of that statistic seconds away if my nephew wouldn't of called I wouldn't be here he never calls I don't think I'll ever find my true happy ending cause it will always end with me being alone but I accept it
Being alone doesn’t have to equal being lonely. 💖 Delve into discovering yourself and get lost in your passions. Find groups online and in person with common interests and the right people will cross your path! ☺️ You’re welcome to join my discord, everyone there is super cool…also I’d check out meetups.com, this is a site where you can find groups with common interests! 💖💖💖
It's so important to talk with friends or cry if need be. Fighting and drinking only leads to perpetuating pain...death, and disability. I'm currently disabled and never expected this. Oh yeah, I "chill", with my daughter s bunny throughout the day....she keeps me company, to strategize. Life is good
So much truth, it doesn’t matter how you feel it’s what you provide as a man it’s extremely hard to be a lover and provider in todays world, as a veteran and first responder who was always taught to hold it in and has always gravitated to alchohol to subdue my thoughts and feelings in order to provide for my family. My feelings don’t matter as long as my family is taken care of. Who do the helpers turn to when the help needs help???
I think you're right about the heat conditions in men, sometimes it feels like never ending stress. Stress about work, kids, relationships, life in general.
100%! I wish you good health! ☺️
@@MaddyReactions you as well.
Thank you! ☺️ Have any songs you’d like to hear next?
@@MaddyReactions have you heard Monsters by James Blunt? I'm still trying to watch all of your other reactions, so maybe you have done one already.
@@zekepentecost2393 Haven’t done that one before!
Loved the reaction
Thanks for the support JB!
As a man, and a father of 4 struggling to survive and teach them right, I just want to say thank you. Your tears said more than your words ever could!
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Thank you for the kindness! God bless :)
Thanks for sharing your soul with us, friend!
@@MaddyReactions of course!! I just dropped a music video to my song, Dear YHWH. I don't know if you'd be interested, but I'd be so blessed to see you react. It's a song with a different perspective than people tend to speak on and I'm trying to be real about what belief really means. Thanks again!!!
This song is very heavy and important to listen and I am grateful to Dax for writing this song because this is about men mental health issues and it is great messages and ladies who have husband, brother and father could understand this issue will be open mind and support their families Thank you for your reaction ❤
NEVER CRY IN FRONT OF YOUR WOMEN !!! NEVER !!! ASK TO YOUR BUDDY FOR THAT !!!
Wrong a strong real woman will wipe those away and love u through it.
@christyrichardson9284 You're wrong. If you open up to a woman, not all, but most of them. She will start to see you as less dependable, less stable, less manly. Eventually, you, as a man, will be replaced. That's a fact I've learned twice now. I make good money, I'm in fairly good shape. My 2nd wife left me and refused to tell me why. She told me she was unhappy and within two weeks she had moved out. I had no idea, I work a lot. I'm an engineer and I sometimes work over 80 hours a week. I'm always on call. If the machines my company needs to manufacture our goods go down, they send men home, those men lose money and that hurts their families. I work for my family, not for me, when they're happy I'm happy. That's all most good men want. My ex told me that our life was perfect and that I didn't do anything wrong. She just wasn't happy. I don't know why I do any of this anymore, there's no point. I can fix anything, I can build a house from the ground up. After she left she was in another relationship the following week. I asked her how she was able to do that and she told me he was more of a man than I was.
Thanks honey, unfortunately your one in a million.
Preach brother ❤
Great reaction, you are a real one, I really appreciated your perspective on this topic!
Hugs to you ❤️
There has never been a truer word spoken pressure to provide giving your family the best life all self care ceases
It’s such an impactful and eye opening video!
You are a REAL woman! Thank you for being so understanding!
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That 2nd guy makes me want to cry every time I hear his verse. So honest.
Thank you 1st hug in 10 years.
🌸 keep your head up, soldier!
8:05 that's my favorite verse. I've said that for years "most men are halfway dead inside" myself included
Sometimes it’s not easy for us men to let it out. Some things we men go through is honestly hard to explain. Life is tough for men and women for sure but it’s harder for men in so many ways. It’s easy to say just let it out but it’s a whole different ballgame to actually do it.
We don't know cause we don't get told Or treated as such we carry our weight and the weight of all those we love. And just suck it up and keep driving on. If we cracke under the pressure yall pack your shit, take our kids and leave so we don't have a choice but to hide the cracks as long as we can. You should watch the original with all of Dax's original lyrics.
Great Song, Dax is a wonderful soul! I just discovered him a couple weeks ago. Been listening to a lot of his music since. So many deep, insightful messages!
Mandy, you’re a wonderful soul also! Take Care, God Bless! ❤️
He is so great! His messages are important
YOU are a real woman. She builds you up with TRUTH in the softest way it could be given, from a woman's heart.
TY FORR THAT HUG
Thank you for reacting to this. My ex wife heard I was vulnerable with the kids and shared that I was sad about splitting up, that we aren’t all together anymore. She weaponized that and used it against me. I was hurt deep by the person I bent over backwards for years for. She lied, cheated, and made accusations that has alienated me from my children. I won’t stop fighting for them though. She wanted to separate 2 days after our 7th anniversary by text. It was also 4 months after we adopted our 4th child (fostered and adopted all 4 kids). Life is tough for men, especially when it comes to divorce or raising children.
I’ll be praying for all the men going through tough times and feel trapped with no way out.
Dax's pain paints paintings album helped me through so much, this one does more for me though, he is saying exactly what all of us think at one point in our lives
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Hi ItsMattyMay, Ben Becker's dad here -- Yes, the "daddy [who] taught [him] how to put a fire out" -- Enjoyed your reaction video. Blessings!
Great teachings, my friend! Thanks for your comment! ❤️
Love your reaction
Thanks, friend!
Well done.
Thanks so much Area 51! Lmk what you’d like to see next!
"I just want to cry, to be given a hug, and be told everything will be okay."
A hug can be so powerful when it comes from someone who actually cares about you. You can feel that deep inside you and I swear it can help heal whatever pain you're feeling. But you have to find those people who can provide that for you. I hope everyone has at least one person who can be that for them. ❤🩹
Just stumbled on your channel today so I might be watching/responding to a bunch. Sorry in advance if I flood your notifications. 😆
Just touching on your point that you mentioned people around you will feel it.... They don't, I was at rock bottom and ready to end it all but nobody knew it had gotten to that point. It was over a year and a half after my worst point that someone found out and it was only because I shared it with them. We are unfortunately wired to act like everything is fine at least in my experience. Was always told there's no point in crying about it if something's wrong you have to fix it and that was that. Not a human on earth knew where I was at mentally in my situation. Thankfully I had my dog with me and the thought of him relying on me to take care of him and knowing that even though every day was immensely hard to go through I would get home and see him and it would make me a little bit less sad. My dog is the only reason I made it through that time in my life It's unfortunate but it's the reality of it just because you're close with someone and doesn't mean that they have any idea you're going through something or at least to the level that you're going through it.
I agree with the energy shift. If you listen to the original it makes more sense. Its explaining that even if we try to explain we can't do it adequately. Unfortunately not all men have outlets and culture tells us to toughen up and provide because our family is more important than our feelings. Just like men can't truly feel what its like to be a mom or woman, women can only hear but not truly understand.
That sounds accurate to me Marco, I feel compassion for the other gender and their struggles is the best thing to have!
For all the men who need and deserve their flowers 🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉
Really liked this reaction keep er goin lol
Thanks ☺️
It's not about being tough, it's about never being enough. Giving everything when you have nothing. And when you can't give anymore you realize that you fighting alone.
Damn! where do I find a real one like you? gorgeous and understanding! Amazing reaction! New subscriber😍
this song is beyond powerful!!!
Thank you sweetheart, you im living this nightmare right now and it breaks my heart. I told her I was depressed and I was trying. She said I was stupid for being depressed and to man up.
A partner who cares would not say something like this, I’m sending strength and hugs. Please reconsider this sort of negative person in your life. ❤️
I absolutely love your reaction, thank you!
Thank you for your heartfelt and warm reaction and understanding. I'm hoping Dax and his music will be the catalyst for the change that needs to happen in society.
Men need to be treated as equal in the justice system when it comes to custody, divorce, etc... So a man is struggling financially to no fault of his own and because of that, his wife divorces him and takes the kid. Now the man on top of the financial struggle already is now forced to pay child support and alimony. How the hell does that help the man out in anyway? Half the time he's lucky if he even gets to the see the kids he's spending thousands of dollars a year to support. The justice system needs changed and its the first thing that needs changed.
The 2nd thing that needs changed, is organizations need to step up and have men's mental health support group. You have support groups for women in boundless numbers but you don't have organizations out there supporting men's mental health, We need an organization to support men like women have for victims of abuse, etc...
If the justice system were fair, men would be able to leave disrespectful women and not have their entire life destroyed by it. It's easy to say "just reconsider removing that person from your life" but do you realize the consequences of doing so can be far worse because of how the justice system is?
I went through a divorce with my ex wife (who's now a man but that's a different story) and literally I got stuck with 16K in credit card debt that she racked up, she took every penny out of the savings account and left me with nothing. Thankfully I didn't have children and we weren't married long enough for alimony but the justice system is completely against men.
Hopefully Dax's music pushes enough people to be the catalyst to make the changes that society desperately needs.
Society needs massive change and I believe Dax might just be the man to do it!
Let's Gooooo!
Thanks Chris!!!
I have already been here with this reaction, but here I am again, one of the biggest problems is that as older men as an example group, I am from 1971, we cannot find people willing to listen, for many reasons, for a start we do no not know how to find them, and the closest people we love, we do not want to burden them with what we feel are not allowed to acknowledge in ourselves,
this goes well beyond national borders, but, we do not want to create a repeat circle and see our sons repeating what we have done because they deserve better. I do tell my son it is okay to be emotional, I not tell him or his sisters to hold it in.
When Dax sings "they don't care about how you feel" I have learned that this is not always a conscious thing they do not mean to be so cold, but it happens.
Still 1 of my favs
Agreed!
It's the 4th of July. I feel like I'm fighting at home. The fireworks are terrifying. I'm trying to maintain. I don't have anyone to talk to but this song makes sense
I know you mean well but all that about "men should/have to/must" talk about it and get things off our chest but the thing is that for so many of us men, we CAN'T, we have nothing, not a single person we trust to that degree.
And it's not for lack of trying, it's just that life have tought us that we only seem to be a burden to other people, therefor, we bottle everything up 😕
Edit;
I only wanted to say thank you for reacting to this song
Hugs 🤗
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The hardest part is when they weaponize what you have told them in a vulnerable show of openness is the quickest way to turn a man cold and silent to the point it kills him
you know lady mwah full respect
Beautiful song, beautiful woman, solid reaction.
Video rating: 9/10
Haha, thanks for the rating! 😇 Lmk what song you want to see a reaction to next!
@@MaddyReactions Anything DAX the man touches on some heavy topics.
As the song says “I don’t expect you to understand”, but you will never know a man is struggling until its to late, they could be battling the devil himself and they will be smiling, from a very early age we’ve learned how to stop showing emotion, its easier to be hated while showing no emotion than to be hated for showing your emotions
Almost every relationship ive had that wanted me to be "vulnerable" backfired. They used all of it as ammunition against me when they got angry. Dont get me wrong, i have had a couple of relationships with amazing women who truly did care, who truly DID let me cry on THEIR shoulder, who tried their best to understand what i went through for myself, and for them. But these days... its really hard to find relationships like that. After a while, we give up and just decide its easier to be alone.
I literally give my own life to save others, but there is never anyone here to save me. I just want a shoulder to lay own and actually feel like im understood.
Caring is good. Being understood, and supportive is all any man really wants.
So true!
Thank for reacting to this and getting it to your subs. Just a tip in order to pause TH-cam use the space bar 😊 it's pause/play