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In one of your comments in the video you don't know why men attack you over trying to help them. Insecurity and victimization is part. They also don't understand that wisdom part you were talking about. I've been spouting wisdom for several years now, it really is a thing. I think most men have been socially constructed not to use wisdom. Most women too. People in general it doesn't matter. We've stopped thinking for ourselves. That is in-part due to government/social media involvement in aiding/attempting to ruin our lives. I completely believe that. Instead of getting down and hateful over it, I try and help people become aware so we can fight in our own ways and take back our minds. Be happy and healthy. For many people, it seems it's either you're with me or against me, and you're not trying to help if you don't agree 100%. That is a very damaging behavior to believe in and to enable. I like that you don't enable, you come at it from a very honest perspective. I'm out of the loop though, my reality is much different and much happier than most. At least in my personal life. I left the victimhood life a long time ago and it's very difficult for me to understand people like this anymore, though I still attempt to use reason and empathy to understand and help in any way I can. I just hope and pray other people stuck in a rut will see this love energy and want to change if anything for themselves. Sorry for the long posts. I'm an intellectualist O.o. Or at least I'd like to think so haha.
This song hits me so hard right now, been with my wife for 15 years providing for her without fail. Recently had to have my legs amputated below the knee and unable to work. She decided that she wants to separate and divorce because I can no longer give her the lifestyle she wants.
This is the first time I'd ever listened to a reaction this long. Thank you Amanda for the reaction but more importantly for the conversation. Love it...
This old vet pulled up a chair for your reaction. I have watched your reactions going before your FFDP wrong side of heaven reaction..this song ( like FFDP) being in an old divorced vet with TBI and PTSD, existing under a VA program for homeless vets, this song always hits hard and personal to me. As for masculinity and crying? I went to the Army 1st Inf. a week after 17 and had done almost 4 years before i was old enough to drink. Then did four years with the Coast Guard, spent almost 20 years with DOD contractors. I have lost more tears in the darkness of my old world than I would ever want to count. The battle within.
I honestly love this version more than the original, it's so good 16:07 that's my favorite verse, I've said that same thing for years "most men are halfway dead inside" myself included
POWERFUL! It is frustrating and exhausting to feel like you are the only true parent that really tries to raise my kids in a way that they deserve! "Jesus wept and so can you!" I have zero issues crying (getting rid of the society stigma). As the boys and I repair our hearts, that involves strengthening our faith and that a real man CAN cry too as we do that, this is one of the things that I try to teach them and I am praying constantly that those lessons is one they keep doing when they go back to their mother!
1000 % truth,,,even as survivors we are attacked,grouped into the same group as abusers. we cant win, cant open in support groups lest we are attacked, attacked if we stay silent.
Please don't misunderstand, I know you are a good person and are working to help and I believe you do and I appreciate it, I do think there's a little bit of the old trope where someone tells a depressive person, "just don't be sad." It's not right and I certainly work to find safe spaces and find ways to express myself but I do have to live in this world and, in this world, it is the way it is. I hope it will change. I am working to change it for my son. You're working to to see it change. And I believe it will. But behaving as though the world isn't what it is isn't really viable either.
Thank you for reacting to this video. I commented on the last one and I hope that you did not feel attacked because that was never my intent. Now I would like to address some of your comments. The first one is that you said not all women, perhaps you have said not all men in one of your other videos, there are enough women who make men feel less that the not all women comment does not sit right. When you ask what are we protecting women from? Poverty, homelessness, negative emotions. Now I agree that women can go to work and do any job that men do. I understand that you don't need a man in your life. This reaction reduces a man's usefulness in his mind. And because we already don't feel needed there is no point in living. Lastly without realizing it a lot of conversations get turned against men when we try to express how we feel. Comments like that is not true and you should not feel or believe the way you do really damages trust. I appreciate you and am grateful that you are willing to give this space for discourse.
Just found your channel and want to say thank you for trying to break this stigma.. living like this almost killed me but thanks to women like you it’s become easier to let go off all the years of bottled up emotions. Appreciate you more than you will ever know
There was a feminist who was happy, loved and desired with many friends, both male and female who decided to "be a man" to show that it's not true that men have a rough life. She became a he and was attacked, put down, unable to have a conversation with females, men treated her like men do each other and on and on... She made a video of how horrible it was and committed suicide.
This is not true, quit pedaling this nonsense, Norah Vincent lived as a secret man in the early 2000s and wrote a book about it in 2006. She committed suicide in 2022....do you ACTUALLY BELIEVE that she had such a traumatic time that she committed suicide 17 years later ?!?
I think it's terrible if you were getting aggressive comments about your parenting decision regarding your son. All I'll say is that it is important to teach boys that there are unsafe spaces to be open with their emotions.
I think all of the artists are in the description of the original video, but I only knew Atlus (first guy) and Phix (blonde guy with tattoos) going into this for the first time. They've both worked with Dax a number of times.
There's something I need to point out here and I hope it helps contribute to your peace of mind. Whenever there is a cultural touchstone like this where people gather to share their pain, there are always some people who are less graceful about it and can lash out. That's why you see aggressive comments about how you can't understand, or you contribute to the problem, or whatever it may be. I can tell you have a caring soul. You are not the person this lashing out is meant for, you are a target of convenience. Please know that their anger comes from their pain, not from what you are doing. Anyone should be able to read your intentions and see that you mean well here.
Thank you for your reaction for this video. Your response is validation of what most men including myself longs to hear. Most females say that a male is weak if he shows emotion and it puts us in a dark place so thank you for your thoughts on this.
Welp.... I have a new favorite song. This song defiantly accurately depicts what it's like to be a man. I'm not a very big fan of diversity, but from a visual story telling perspective I'm glad they added diversity, it helps to express how this experience isn't one race or the other, it's universal to all men of all races. Also, sadly, women like you are the minority. We in this rabbit hole think it might be tied to evolution from back in the hunter-gatherer days where if a man always talked about his feelings all the time instead of hunting then they would literally not bring home the bacon. On the glimmer of hope side, I suppose as the generations go there could/would be more women like you. Men are starving for women like you too. So much so you can predict with 100% accuracy what anime characters will be the most popular or called "Wifus" by if they don't judge a man and listen to his feelings or problems without being turned off, abandoning him or getting grossed out. Needless to say: We Love You! 🤗💖
Also, to address what you were saying about how it was mostly women you got those responses from. It's really.... more difficult for an average guy to find a woman who thinks as you do than you might think. I showed this song to my sister a couple of weeks ago, and you know what she told me? She told me I don't understand how hard women have it. I don't understand that mindset, though. Can I not advocate for men's issues while also advocating for women's issues? Why does it have to be one or he other? Just because I stand up for men's issues doesn't mean I'm AGAINST women's issues! The thing is, there are PLENTY of people advocating for women, but barely anybody actually doing the same for men. I will ALWAYS stand by women against the issues that face them. But I'd also like it if they would, in return, stand with ME as well. There are lots of awful men in the world, it's true. There are also plenty of awful women. But, for instance, I don't use my experience with my most recent ex who was INCREDIBLY emotionally, financially, and psychologically abusive to me to justify hatred of ALL women, because that's stupid.
I have no social life. Chilling at home with my demons. I get that lies so much so understand that line. Probably one of the best minds in the whole thing
I appreciate your take! Remember the cliche, “hurt people, hurt people”. Some of the “men” who might have dumped on you and nitpicked your view have probably been hurt too many times. It absolutely doesn’t justify it, it more shows how screwed up our society has made a lot of men feel. Society has made it a competition between men and women and in certain areas it’s worse than others. We’re not meant to compete we’re meant to complement. In my opinion men are crying out for complementary relationship with women without being accused of holding down the ones they love and loving them the way their instincts curated by previous generations taught them but also improving them. ❤
love your thoughts on co-communication in relationships and how there is a responsibility on both partners to both express their needs and meet the needs of their partner. Well said
And a man that had stage four cancer and was going to six months of chemotherapy I felt that it was still my job to go out and work provide for the household no matter how I was physically feeling how sick I felt I felt I had to live up to the stereotypes that you’re a man go to work bring the money home and support the familyno matter what you’re going through but now I am a cancer survivor
Love your reaction ❤. I had a very different takeaway from the song. It seems to me there're ask people to recognize the work/sacrifices men make to provid for everyone and asking for a little help in providing so they can do a little self care.
So happy to see you do this one... also a real man by dax. ❤❤❤ BTW. You my mom and my psychiatrist are the only female I have ever opened up to. I trust you unconditionally. I know you are a safe place and no judgements. Thank you
Yes its very hard to describe the struggles men go threw,i got locked up for wrong friends.lost my job and couldnt work on mines untill my case was solved,i have wife and 3 daughters.i need to provide,so i had to make plan to get going.hustling .but the more i made money my wife just wanted bigger house,better car just upgrade more and more even though she sees me only working!but men are to proud to say enough is enough!things build up and build up.and i chose my wife and kids above my family,so no one to talk to or to confide in!!,we feel dead inside!!
The young lady at the end of the song got to my soul and frankly made me cry! My second ex told me that I was "being selfish" if I started off our nightly discussions about how our days went rather than letting her lead off (wasn't always me "going first"). That hurt something fierce and that portion of the song is a reminder that I should not have to feel like that. 😭😭😭
this being just my own opinion, I think of the women I have seen react to both to be a man videos, getting backlash or anger, as I think for men, not all of course but for maybe many, when things are botteled or surpressed for along time, the build up for that posion, is anger rage etc, its why you hear stories or men going to like some mens retreat and just raging, about things, when they feel safe and free to do that, as you can't unleash all that bottled up posion at your loved ones, as trypically that will cause them to no longer be your loved ones. I have seen many a time when men haved tried to talk, and it destroyed things, or maybe it helped but I think many men weigh that risk, and for some they feel its just safer and easier to die by inches then risk just jumping off the cliff. My opnion of course doesn't apply to all men, but just my thoughts.
Very well said. Interesting how you said die by inches rather than jump off a cliff. My second failed attempt was off a 10 story hotel. I am so glad it didn't work but ex said "you can't even do that right". Made me want to do it again. I got away from her in January. Long story but yeah she said she cheated because I am now disabled. Had a child by him and let me raise for 3 years before I found out she wasn't mine. But I love both my daughters equally even if only 1 is blood.
@@user-sw2xp8tl9b I am glad you made it man, had to many brothers (vet here) that choose that route and well, and hey Family goes beyond blod ties, I am closer and consider some people I would list as Family, that are not related to me by blood, then most of my so called blood family.
The hard part is as a husband, father, and to be a head of our home, is that weakness, uncertainty or fear will perpetuate through the family. I want to protect them from those feelings to the best extent possible. My wife and I are very much in lock step with each other, and she is my side-by-side forever love. She is much more nurturing and teaching our 4 daughters that skill. What I don't want them to do is fear how they are going to be provided for in the many ways of providing. Not just monetarily, but that is a big part. For men in the workplace, if you are not taking the bull by the horns, you won't get promoted. You will be stepped over. When you do take on a project to lead, if you are expressing uncertainty, your coworkers won't follow you and your project may just likely fail. Might cost you your job. With gas prices, insurance cost and interest rates... it's a lot on the shoulders. Add to that a faltering society that decides rioting, looting, mugging, home invasions and other crimes are ok... then that's the protector aspect. Plus add the lack of time to just "get away from it all", no time to fill that glass you were speaking of. My get-away is either hiking, hunting, or sometimes just going near the airport and guessing where that plane may be going.. (was in the Air Force for 13 years and did multiple tours) I fixed planes and have a love of aviation. No time now. I agree with you on the vast majority of your points. It's putting that balance into action that trips me up.
I understand where these men are coming from because I used to feel lots of these emotions, but fortunately I no longer succumb to social 'experiments' easily. Social media does a smart job at pitting everyone against each other. I've worked hard for several years to not be offended by anything. Not let certain things affect me. I guess mainly it started because I didn't want anyone having control over me. I listened to a comedian making a joke about somebody getting offended over something and it stuck. One of the worst things to me is not having control. So drugs/drinking/smoking/pills etc., just like being offended, is a nono for me. It helps you be able to think more clearly and be more reasonable among other things. I'm glad you're bringing up this topic, it needs to be shared and you have a very eloquent way of presenting your thoughts and ideas. I'm very grateful for you and all you do to strive to help this community. And all people really. I don't have any form of mental health as far as I'm aware, but many in my family do. I've been able to help some even from listening to you and people like you. So again, thank you. Much love and appreciation to you and this community. And to the haters, my father always allowed us to share our feelings and cry when we needed to. Unless out of a joke, he never told us to man up or stop crying. I have my head on very straight, I've worked in the medical field 'aware' of what goes on in it and have been trying to fight the bad since waking up to so many terrible things that are being done. There is strength in standing up for what's right, and not just following the mob because it's the easier route.
Once again, no matter what, it’s a man’s fault for being treated poorly. It’s his dating pool. It’s the type of women he goes after. He sees other men with the same experience and assumes that all women are the same. “It’s not my gender; it’s your perception of women. It’s really your fault.” Imagine telling a woman who thinks all men are abusive cheaters that it's just her choices in men, or that seeing other women comment that a man beat them and cheated on them is making her generalize. You'd get destroyed for "victim blaming." No matter what, being abused is always our fault as a man. Your intro is exactly why men don’t talk about things. We do, and we get blamed for it.
It's important to recognize that men don't have near freedom, support, or space that women have to deal with their heard ships and pain. It's unfortunate but we can change that but we have to recognize how far behind men are socially with no add programs
What exactly does an emotional stable men is? Is it a men that can suppress their emotions or is it a men that can express their emotions without any consciousness? What exactly is the women's perspective of it?
@mentalAmanda..... any parent, can think they can think the best for their child, then you have those who dont like those thoughts.... its what us parents have to deal with now a days
What men are trying to get everyone to understand is that the man up trope was started by women, and believe it or not still remains. We have been told to be emotional, but the minute we are it is always weaponized against us. Society wants men to be work horses and nothing more. However it does not give anyone an excuse to be disrespectful to you. We just want everyone to understand that we want to be open, but every single time we are, we're treated like trash, then cheated on, or left.
Great reaction, if you are interested in learning more about what the modern man is facing there is a great video where Dr. K from HeathyGamerGG was on the podcast The Diary of a CEO. I'd recommend giving it a watch even if you don't react because it will give you an idea of what is bombarding young men so you can use that knowledge in raising your son.
I could do a reaction to you from beginning to end. Not to correct or demean. But to see another side. But this is not the time nor place and truthfully I ain’t ready not were I’m at. But it’s… it’s the life I I got.
Do the song r**e me by nirvana next. the reason why I didn’t put the APN was because I didn’t want it to get flagged and taken down and me getting my account suspended for even saying the R word. But if you’re able to do the song great, if not then let me know and I’ll gladly understand as well
Well Amanda I've never been in a relationship in my life so i can't say anything about it 😊😅 s Ryan Barron sometimes i wish I could Believe in love so I could see what it feels like to have someone
Focus on your health...be selfish doing that for YOU and no one else. As you do that, God will put the love of a good woman in your life on his time and you will be in a better place to see it. I am here if you need to talk. Much love!
With all due respect, there is another angle. Men will test the waters with being open. If any of that is used against him in an argument, he will never open up again. This is because betrayal can only be handled 2 ways, and neither are really good. Most will just withdraw. Others turn to violence. Ladies, if you want your man to open up to you, and stay that way, do not betray that trust when he tries to open up. There is no way to take it back once it's been done.
yeah, here's the thing, we don't say all women, but the majority of women say all men. women say they want men to be emotional until they get it, and most often weaponize their feelings against them. as for divorce, 80 percent of women initiate divorce, not because of infidelity or abuse, they are simply " unhappy", men don't leave but end up staying even when unhappy. but they are considered deadbeats if they do leave
it's not wrong for wanting to help men, give safe spaces, try to understand etc, but the most important thing I think men cannot quite explain to women is, the best thing (mostly) women can do to help us, is LEAVE US ALONE. I don't mean that in a nasty way or unappreciative way. Obviously some things should only be between partners or spouses, those things are evident to most people, but we are simple creatures. The main thing men need to help with depression or mental health etc, IS OTHER MEN. For the most part, it is NOT women. The main issue with the modern day is that men's spaces, clubs, groups etc have been eroded by women and feminism on the grounds of being "toxic" and "misogynistic" or whatever lie they want to tell. They do know not, or do not care, just how important these male only spaces are to men. I'm not trying to diminish the struggles of women, they have their own issues men will never understand, but most women will NEVER know what it is to be TRULY alone. Nobody comes to help us, nobody checks how we are, nobody cares how we are doing. Women used to see mens only groups, clubs, pubs, gyms, YMCA, boy scouts etc etc etc, and just saw the "boys club", a place they were excluded from, and they HATED it. They didn't see or care about the good those places did for men. A place for men to talk to others, to express emotions that only other men will understand. A place for boys to be mentored and learn skills, about life and relationships and fatherhood etc. The eradiation of these mens spaces has done untold damage to western society and the entire male species as a whole.
I also dont think it helps that men in media are portrayed as useless emotional wrecks in movies & tv shows. Gone are the days of a strong male role model with their emotions in check. Instead of telling men to express their emotions, they should teach them how to control them. Men have an urge to provide & protect and in order to do that, they need to have their emotions under control & managed. Men & women are very different in how they think & behave.
I feel as if I owe you an apology, and I will certain take that opportunity. You mentioned in this reaction that you received a lot of "negative" comments following the reaction of the other version of this song. I re-read the comment that I made and realized that I can see how a person would view this negatively. This was not my intent, nor will I take an opportunity here to "justify" what I really meant. I sincerely apologize if my comment was one of those that lent any negativity towards you or yours. I will be more careful, here and everywhere else. I recognize I cannot take back, nor would I take back, anything on the internet. How instead a positive story regarding the efforts of people, like yourself, that have chosen this particular hill to stand on. A celebration of efforts if you will. About 20 years ago, my family after traveling back to our hometown stopped in a fast food joint to get something to eat. It was very late, we were very tired. We ordered at the counter and went to grab a booth. On my way to the booth I saw an old man, maybe 80, full WWII uniform, sitting by himself. He looked upset. I told my people "do what you gotta do, I can walk home from here if the kids (3 and 1) get too impatient". I walked up the old man and asked him if I can get anything for him. He said no, so I asked him if I can take his trash for him. I was expecting a "yes" or a "no". This man answered with "Have you ever seen anybody just blow up?" I thought oh crap, this is gonna take a minute, maybe two. I will forego all of the details, but in the next hour and a half, I learned that he got married at home, then in short order went to a ship in Pearl Harbor (yup, that one), somehow lived through that and went on to, ummm, "work" in the Pacific. This man detailed so many things that I had hoped I would never even have to visualize. I just listened. He had never told this to anybody, not his wife, not friends, not anybody, he stated. I asked him why tell me now? He said he had to tell somebody so there was witness to his crimes. I asked him what crimes he was referring to. He said that when he got back home, he and his wife never had children because he could never invite people into a world where people were capable of doing the kinds of things to each other he had witnessed. I asked if that was his crime. He said that it was. His only family, his wife, had already departed. He asked what he should tell his maker when he got there? I told him, "When you get there, you square up, feet together at a 45, thumbs by your pants seams, and you look straight ahead and you tell him the truth sir. I don't know myself how it works there, but I'm guessing it's like a Marshall here, and you'll have one shot at it. The good news is that you'll finally get the truth in return". I asked him if there was anything I could do for him here in the meantime. His was was no, he was ready. I got his name, and about two weeks later, went to his funeral. I go every year to his grave. So here's the thing; I think about this all the time. Following our conversation, I aspired to be just like him, to carry my burdens, no matter what, then die with them. Over time, I began to no longer aspire for this, but to aspire to be that strong instead. Because of people like you Mrs. Amanda and the work that you do (the hill you stand on), this hill has gotten a lot smaller over time. People are changing their views. Their attitudes toward gender roles, gender based expectations, the like, are changing. Generations like mine will be gone soon enough, and with it, our fallacies too will erode. I believe this story, and from it a comparison of then vs. now, warrants some celebration, but highlights the work left to be done. I wish you strength, good will, and clarity.
The fact that men should be overly emotional or simply cry once are better off is not true.. There have been many women who have voiced that if they witness their man cry once turns them off and immediately makes them lose respect their man and leave them shortly after.. And religion is no longer a factor in today's world in America at least.. The majority of this new generation are looking to spit in the face of the old times and religion.. A lot of modern women are claiming to be witches and Satan worshippers and not just spiritual or atheists. So that's not really an argument anymore.
I'm not justifying it as OK because its not, but I think a lot of the attacks come from people who have heard what youve said 100 times before and its always been used against them. I know thats been the case for me. Now I know you specifically are being genuine and logically I grasp that but my gut emotional immediate response is "Yeah you SAY that but its bullshit". Much like if a woman is hit enough she flinches when you try to give her a hug the same thing happens to men who have had their vulnerability pissed on and shoved back in their face over and over - its instinctual defense. I dont date, I tell people its because Im done and Im happy alone but the reality is I'm not but I cannot trust women anymore. I just can't and thats not the woman's fault she may be completely honest, trustworthy and innocent but I am too broken for any form of healthy relationship and seeing as Im a straight man that means being alone. When a woman is nice to me my default setting is "Get out of here NOW this is a trap". I have my cats instead.
Stoicism is hardwired into our caveman brain, it goes back to the beginning of time, men had no use for being emotional, you can't let emotion run when a sabertooth tiger is coming in the cave, you can't be emotional when going out for weeks long hunts in the middle of winter, emotions were a danger to early man, he had to be cold and calculated, and it was all for the family, the main purpose of all life on this planet is to reproduce, the species can survive with 100 women and only 1 lucky man, because you can have around 100 children a year, but if there were 100 men and only 1 woman, the species is doomed because you cannot repopulate at that rate, so therefore in an evolutionary sense, women are more important because they birth the children that keep our species going, but they are also the only ones able to feed a baby, so if the woman gets hurt, the baby dies, so the man, since the beginning of time, has had to protect women and be willing to give their lives so she and the baby can survive, so his genes are passed on and the species can survive, even just 150-200 years ago, life was very difficult, there were bandits, no modern medicine, no birth control, no prenatal care, no abortion, no epidural or anything like that, untamed wilderness, no grocery stores ect, so only up until fairly recently in human history has it become safe enough for men to not NEED to protect women that way for the survival of our species, we still have a primitive side of our brain that thinks like a caveman, men and women, it's deep in our subconscious mind, hardwired from hundreds of thousand of years of passed down experiences, so we don't even notice it working, problem is, men no longer get the acknowledgement and respect for what they do like they once did, and that is the currency men are looking for, not pitty, the world still needs strong men who don't let emotion cloud their judgement, because let's face it, there is more than likelly always going to be bad people trying to do bad things, and we need strong men to stand against them, I'm sure I missed some things, but I think I got the main idea across
Not all women but every one I have dated or married2x has been like this or gaslight the crap out of you. I grew up in military family as a.gen x. The seed of hiding emotions early. Women please if your man opens up to you do not EVER throw it in thier face. Toxic masculinity as.well.as.toxic feminism are both going on. Divorce rates are.going down but the back side of that is separations are on rise. Look at both stats. That will show different side of marriage.
I haven't seen the reaction yet, just your opening comments. I appreciate what you were trying to do by addressing the negative comments. However, it seems like partway through, you switched over to victim blaming when you suggested that the men were attracting the bad women in their lives. Then, you hit us with the 'Uno reverse card' when you said 'not all women' are like this. We continually have women iump down our throats when we want to clarify that not all men want to assault them at the drop of a hat. (Ex: man or bear discussion.) This is why the counter question is would a man rather tell his problems to a woman or a tree? Overwhelmingly, trees win. Again, I appreciate what you are doing here, but I think this missed the mark you were going for. Now, on to the song. Edit to add, (most)Men don't protect women in their lives because they are weak. They protect women because they are important.
One thing that is 1000% guarantee is if you show a woman where your weak at all the "big" arguments following that reveal will use that self exposed weakness as a club to beat you with. It's all part off how women argue I thank the Lord I am a Sigma and don't have that issue of exposure!! This isn't meant as hate toward you Amanda or any women it is just how y'all argue as women when your on "the attack" in an argument..
Honestly, your opening monolog came across as dismissive of the kale experience. Er aren't saying all women act a certain way. Society in general is telling men they aren't needed. Stays men are toxic. Says women don't need no broke ass man. Says men have everything so damn easy that they don't have anything to cry about. That's what society in general is telling men.
While I agree and disagree with many things you say, I would like to point out that when I clicked on this video I was looking for a first time reaction. Now 7 minutes in I have recieved nothing but a response to comments.. please add that to your title.
Amanda: who told you that? Literally countless men: women Amanda: not all women, you're just bias Me: so, men express themselves, and you dismiss it? You're proving them right.
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In one of your comments in the video you don't know why men attack you over trying to help them. Insecurity and victimization is part. They also don't understand that wisdom part you were talking about. I've been spouting wisdom for several years now, it really is a thing. I think most men have been socially constructed not to use wisdom. Most women too. People in general it doesn't matter. We've stopped thinking for ourselves. That is in-part due to government/social media involvement in aiding/attempting to ruin our lives. I completely believe that. Instead of getting down and hateful over it, I try and help people become aware so we can fight in our own ways and take back our minds. Be happy and healthy. For many people, it seems it's either you're with me or against me, and you're not trying to help if you don't agree 100%. That is a very damaging behavior to believe in and to enable. I like that you don't enable, you come at it from a very honest perspective. I'm out of the loop though, my reality is much different and much happier than most. At least in my personal life. I left the victimhood life a long time ago and it's very difficult for me to understand people like this anymore, though I still attempt to use reason and empathy to understand and help in any way I can. I just hope and pray other people stuck in a rut will see this love energy and want to change if anything for themselves. Sorry for the long posts. I'm an intellectualist O.o. Or at least I'd like to think so haha.
The singer that did the "Jesus wept so brother, you can too" is a gentleman named Ben Becker
Ben Becker is the second singer. He's my favorite. Kelsi Watts is the best Female.
Look up Dax To Be a Man featuring Darius Rucker.
That was soooo bueatiful Ryan Barron
The singer that did the "Jesus wept so brother, you can too" is a gentleman named Ben Becker
Thank you
This song hits me so hard right now, been with my wife for 15 years providing for her without fail. Recently had to have my legs amputated below the knee and unable to work. She decided that she wants to separate and divorce because I can no longer give her the lifestyle she wants.
Hang in there man you can do this
You deserve better brother, my prayers and wishes that its on its way to you 🙏 ❤
There's a whole support system in this comment section. Hang in there and reach out if you need help.
Really nothing to sat other then be strong there is something better for you out there sad that she was not the one but stay strong
I love you brother, keep on fighting. Remember, it's a war not a battle.
Really loved your closing statements as well. You are a strong voice on youtube and I appreciate everything you do.
Amanda is freakin awesome
This is the first time I'd ever listened to a reaction this long. Thank you Amanda for the reaction but more importantly for the conversation. Love it...
This old vet pulled up a chair for your reaction. I have watched your reactions going before your FFDP wrong side of heaven reaction..this song ( like FFDP) being in an old divorced vet with TBI and PTSD, existing under a VA program for homeless vets, this song always hits hard and personal to me. As for masculinity and crying? I went to the Army 1st Inf. a week after 17 and had done almost 4 years before i was old enough to drink. Then did four years with the Coast Guard, spent almost 20 years with DOD contractors. I have lost more tears in the darkness of my old world than I would ever want to count. The battle within.
Thank you for sharing, and thank you for your service!
You are making a big difference Amanda. You are loved more than you know. Your best days are just ahead! Blessings!
Oh so true on all of it! She quite literally saved my life. ❤❤
I honestly love this version more than the original, it's so good
16:07 that's my favorite verse, I've said that same thing for years "most men are halfway dead inside" myself included
POWERFUL! It is frustrating and exhausting to feel like you are the only true parent that really tries to raise my kids in a way that they deserve! "Jesus wept and so can you!" I have zero issues crying (getting rid of the society stigma). As the boys and I repair our hearts, that involves strengthening our faith and that a real man CAN cry too as we do that, this is one of the things that I try to teach them and I am praying constantly that those lessons is one they keep doing when they go back to their mother!
1000 % truth,,,even as survivors we are attacked,grouped into the same group as abusers. we cant win, cant open in support groups lest we are attacked, attacked if we stay silent.
I'm glad you finally did this. I may have been one of the people who requested it. Nice intro btw.
Please don't misunderstand, I know you are a good person and are working to help and I believe you do and I appreciate it, I do think there's a little bit of the old trope where someone tells a depressive person, "just don't be sad." It's not right and I certainly work to find safe spaces and find ways to express myself but I do have to live in this world and, in this world, it is the way it is. I hope it will change. I am working to change it for my son. You're working to to see it change. And I believe it will. But behaving as though the world isn't what it is isn't really viable either.
Thank you for reacting to this video. I commented on the last one and I hope that you did not feel attacked because that was never my intent.
Now I would like to address some of your comments. The first one is that you said not all women, perhaps you have said not all men in one of your other videos, there are enough women who make men feel less that the not all women comment does not sit right.
When you ask what are we protecting women from? Poverty, homelessness, negative emotions. Now I agree that women can go to work and do any job that men do. I understand that you don't need a man in your life. This reaction reduces a man's usefulness in his mind. And because we already don't feel needed there is no point in living.
Lastly without realizing it a lot of conversations get turned against men when we try to express how we feel. Comments like that is not true and you should not feel or believe the way you do really damages trust.
I appreciate you and am grateful that you are willing to give this space for discourse.
Just found your channel and want to say thank you for trying to break this stigma.. living like this almost killed me but thanks to women like you it’s become easier to let go off all the years of bottled up emotions. Appreciate you more than you will ever know
There was a feminist who was happy, loved and desired with many friends, both male and female who decided to "be a man" to show that it's not true that men have a rough life. She became a he and was attacked, put down, unable to have a conversation with females, men treated her like men do each other and on and on... She made a video of how horrible it was and committed suicide.
This is not true, quit pedaling this nonsense, Norah Vincent lived as a secret man in the early 2000s and wrote a book about it in 2006. She committed suicide in 2022....do you ACTUALLY BELIEVE that she had such a traumatic time that she committed suicide 17 years later ?!?
U never know
If you’re not getting sick of the song, check out the official remix with country music star Darius Rucker. And the sequel to this song, “A Real Man”
Really appreciate it,been single for about 8 yrs and been through some bad ish.. Hopefully one day I'll be happy
I think it's terrible if you were getting aggressive comments about your parenting decision regarding your son. All I'll say is that it is important to teach boys that there are unsafe spaces to be open with their emotions.
YEEEEES I'VE BEEN WAITING FOR YOUR REACTION TO THIS
This woman is so effin dope, God bless this channel 💛
I think all of the artists are in the description of the original video, but I only knew Atlus (first guy) and Phix (blonde guy with tattoos) going into this for the first time. They've both worked with Dax a number of times.
The second gentleman that you were asking who he was because you loved his voice is Ben Becker
There's something I need to point out here and I hope it helps contribute to your peace of mind.
Whenever there is a cultural touchstone like this where people gather to share their pain, there are always some people who are less graceful about it and can lash out. That's why you see aggressive comments about how you can't understand, or you contribute to the problem, or whatever it may be.
I can tell you have a caring soul. You are not the person this lashing out is meant for, you are a target of convenience. Please know that their anger comes from their pain, not from what you are doing. Anyone should be able to read your intentions and see that you mean well here.
I'm ok. The biggest Lie I tell people on a daily basis
Thank you for your reaction for this video. Your response is validation of what most men including myself longs to hear. Most females say that a male is weak if he shows emotion and it puts us in a dark place so thank you for your thoughts on this.
Thank you! ❤
Welp.... I have a new favorite song.
This song defiantly accurately depicts what it's like to be a man. I'm not a very big fan of diversity, but from a visual story telling perspective I'm glad they added diversity, it helps to express how this experience isn't one race or the other, it's universal to all men of all races.
Also, sadly, women like you are the minority. We in this rabbit hole think it might be tied to evolution from back in the hunter-gatherer days where if a man always talked about his feelings all the time instead of hunting then they would literally not bring home the bacon. On the glimmer of hope side, I suppose as the generations go there could/would be more women like you. Men are starving for women like you too. So much so you can predict with 100% accuracy what anime characters will be the most popular or called "Wifus" by if they don't judge a man and listen to his feelings or problems without being turned off, abandoning him or getting grossed out.
Needless to say: We Love You! 🤗💖
Also, to address what you were saying about how it was mostly women you got those responses from. It's really.... more difficult for an average guy to find a woman who thinks as you do than you might think. I showed this song to my sister a couple of weeks ago, and you know what she told me? She told me I don't understand how hard women have it. I don't understand that mindset, though. Can I not advocate for men's issues while also advocating for women's issues? Why does it have to be one or he other? Just because I stand up for men's issues doesn't mean I'm AGAINST women's issues! The thing is, there are PLENTY of people advocating for women, but barely anybody actually doing the same for men. I will ALWAYS stand by women against the issues that face them. But I'd also like it if they would, in return, stand with ME as well. There are lots of awful men in the world, it's true. There are also plenty of awful women. But, for instance, I don't use my experience with my most recent ex who was INCREDIBLY emotionally, financially, and psychologically abusive to me to justify hatred of ALL women, because that's stupid.
I have no social life. Chilling at home with my demons. I get that lies so much so understand that line. Probably one of the best minds in the whole thing
I have to start proof reading my talk to text. So many mistakes. Lol
when she sings the ' IM sorry Part.'... .I flippin loose it.......
I appreciate your take! Remember the cliche, “hurt people, hurt people”. Some of the “men” who might have dumped on you and nitpicked your view have probably been hurt too many times. It absolutely doesn’t justify it, it more shows how screwed up our society has made a lot of men feel. Society has made it a competition between men and women and in certain areas it’s worse than others. We’re not meant to compete we’re meant to complement. In my opinion men are crying out for complementary relationship with women without being accused of holding down the ones they love and loving them the way their instincts curated by previous generations taught them but also improving them. ❤
Great and beautiful song and reaction.
Thank you Amanda.
18:53 just in case you didn't notice, when dax says the first line of the chorus, "I can't hide myself," she says, "Please don't hide yourself"
love your thoughts on co-communication in relationships and how there is a responsibility on both partners to both express their needs and meet the needs of their partner. Well said
And a man that had stage four cancer and was going to six months of chemotherapy I felt that it was still my job to go out and work provide for the household no matter how I was physically feeling how sick I felt I felt I had to live up to the stereotypes that you’re a man go to work bring the money home and support the familyno matter what you’re going through but now I am a cancer survivor
Now react to Dear alcohol by Dax Mega Remix 🙏🙏
Love your reaction ❤. I had a very different takeaway from the song. It seems to me there're ask people to recognize the work/sacrifices men make to provid for everyone and asking for a little help in providing so they can do a little self care.
Most of us men cry, we just wont let you see it out of fear.
So happy to see you do this one... also a real man by dax. ❤❤❤ BTW. You my mom and my psychiatrist are the only female I have ever opened up to. I trust you unconditionally. I know you are a safe place and no judgements. Thank you
Yes its very hard to describe the struggles men go threw,i got locked up for wrong friends.lost my job and couldnt work on mines untill my case was solved,i have wife and 3 daughters.i need to provide,so i had to make plan to get going.hustling .but the more i made money my wife just wanted bigger house,better car just upgrade more and more even though she sees me only working!but men are to proud to say enough is enough!things build up and build up.and i chose my wife and kids above my family,so no one to talk to or to confide in!!,we feel dead inside!!
Here's a truth most men won't admit till it's past the breaking point, if a man tells you he's fine
Hug him, he needs it and is breaking down inside
Like a farmer that goes to the doctor due to something being wrong, it's way past center at that point, yeah? I mean it's like broke, broke.
The young lady at the end of the song got to my soul and frankly made me cry! My second ex told me that I was "being selfish" if I started off our nightly discussions about how our days went rather than letting her lead off (wasn't always me "going first"). That hurt something fierce and that portion of the song is a reminder that I should not have to feel like that. 😭😭😭
this being just my own opinion, I think of the women I have seen react to both to be a man videos, getting backlash or anger, as I think for men, not all of course but for maybe many, when things are botteled or surpressed for along time, the build up for that posion, is anger rage etc, its why you hear stories or men going to like some mens retreat and just raging, about things, when they feel safe and free to do that, as you can't unleash all that bottled up posion at your loved ones, as trypically that will cause them to no longer be your loved ones. I have seen many a time when men haved tried to talk, and it destroyed things, or maybe it helped but I think many men weigh that risk, and for some they feel its just safer and easier to die by inches then risk just jumping off the cliff. My opnion of course doesn't apply to all men, but just my thoughts.
Very well said. Interesting how you said die by inches rather than jump off a cliff. My second failed attempt was off a 10 story hotel. I am so glad it didn't work but ex said "you can't even do that right". Made me want to do it again. I got away from her in January. Long story but yeah she said she cheated because I am now disabled. Had a child by him and let me raise for 3 years before I found out she wasn't mine. But I love both my daughters equally even if only 1 is blood.
@@user-sw2xp8tl9b I am glad you made it man, had to many brothers (vet here) that choose that route and well, and hey Family goes beyond blod ties, I am closer and consider some people I would list as Family, that are not related to me by blood, then most of my so called blood family.
The hard part is as a husband, father, and to be a head of our home, is that weakness, uncertainty or fear will perpetuate through the family. I want to protect them from those feelings to the best extent possible. My wife and I are very much in lock step with each other, and she is my side-by-side forever love. She is much more nurturing and teaching our 4 daughters that skill. What I don't want them to do is fear how they are going to be provided for in the many ways of providing. Not just monetarily, but that is a big part. For men in the workplace, if you are not taking the bull by the horns, you won't get promoted. You will be stepped over. When you do take on a project to lead, if you are expressing uncertainty, your coworkers won't follow you and your project may just likely fail. Might cost you your job. With gas prices, insurance cost and interest rates... it's a lot on the shoulders. Add to that a faltering society that decides rioting, looting, mugging, home invasions and other crimes are ok... then that's the protector aspect. Plus add the lack of time to just "get away from it all", no time to fill that glass you were speaking of. My get-away is either hiking, hunting, or sometimes just going near the airport and guessing where that plane may be going.. (was in the Air Force for 13 years and did multiple tours) I fixed planes and have a love of aviation. No time now. I agree with you on the vast majority of your points. It's putting that balance into action that trips me up.
Well done 👍
Do yourself a favor and check all these artists out. The 2nd one is Ben Becker and the gentleman with the beard is Brutha Rick they’re all awesome!
I understand where these men are coming from because I used to feel lots of these emotions, but fortunately I no longer succumb to social 'experiments' easily. Social media does a smart job at pitting everyone against each other. I've worked hard for several years to not be offended by anything. Not let certain things affect me. I guess mainly it started because I didn't want anyone having control over me. I listened to a comedian making a joke about somebody getting offended over something and it stuck. One of the worst things to me is not having control. So drugs/drinking/smoking/pills etc., just like being offended, is a nono for me. It helps you be able to think more clearly and be more reasonable among other things. I'm glad you're bringing up this topic, it needs to be shared and you have a very eloquent way of presenting your thoughts and ideas. I'm very grateful for you and all you do to strive to help this community. And all people really. I don't have any form of mental health as far as I'm aware, but many in my family do. I've been able to help some even from listening to you and people like you. So again, thank you. Much love and appreciation to you and this community. And to the haters, my father always allowed us to share our feelings and cry when we needed to. Unless out of a joke, he never told us to man up or stop crying. I have my head on very straight, I've worked in the medical field 'aware' of what goes on in it and have been trying to fight the bad since waking up to so many terrible things that are being done. There is strength in standing up for what's right, and not just following the mob because it's the easier route.
This is hard why im not a open book and for me life stink and ,i dont trust anyone
I think you'd like Just Like Nothing, Before We Say Goodbye or Until Then by Prozak or A Real Man by Dax I'd love to see a reaction to one of them.
Sometimes You’re The Hammer Sometimes Your The Nail
Once again, no matter what, it’s a man’s fault for being treated poorly. It’s his dating pool. It’s the type of women he goes after. He sees other men with the same experience and assumes that all women are the same. “It’s not my gender; it’s your perception of women. It’s really your fault.” Imagine telling a woman who thinks all men are abusive cheaters that it's just her choices in men, or that seeing other women comment that a man beat them and cheated on them is making her generalize. You'd get destroyed for "victim blaming." No matter what, being abused is always our fault as a man. Your intro is exactly why men don’t talk about things. We do, and we get blamed for it.
It's important to recognize that men don't have near freedom, support, or space that women have to deal with their heard ships and pain.
It's unfortunate but we can change that but we have to recognize how far behind men are socially with no add programs
Hey Amanda I normally don't comment but could you check out the song devil by phix it has a lot to do with mental health
What exactly does an emotional stable men is? Is it a men that can suppress their emotions or is it a men that can express their emotions without any consciousness? What exactly is the women's perspective of it?
@mentalAmanda..... any parent, can think they can think the best for their child, then you have those who dont like those thoughts.... its what us parents have to deal with now a days
What men are trying to get everyone to understand is that the man up trope was started by women, and believe it or not still remains. We have been told to be emotional, but the minute we are it is always weaponized against us. Society wants men to be work horses and nothing more. However it does not give anyone an excuse to be disrespectful to you. We just want everyone to understand that we want to be open, but every single time we are, we're treated like trash, then cheated on, or left.
Great reaction, if you are interested in learning more about what the modern man is facing there is a great video where Dr. K from HeathyGamerGG was on the podcast The Diary of a CEO. I'd recommend giving it a watch even if you don't react because it will give you an idea of what is bombarding young men so you can use that knowledge in raising your son.
I could do a reaction to you from beginning to end. Not to correct or demean. But to see another side. But this is not the time nor place and truthfully I ain’t ready not were I’m at. But it’s… it’s the life I I got.
You should react to the dear alcohol mega remix!
Love ya. Beautiful lady.
Do the song r**e me by nirvana next. the reason why I didn’t put the APN was because I didn’t want it to get flagged and taken down and me getting my account suspended for even saying the R word. But if you’re able to do the song great, if not then let me know and I’ll gladly understand as well
Well Amanda I've never been in a relationship in my life so i can't say anything about it 😊😅 s Ryan Barron sometimes i wish I could Believe in love so I could see what it feels like to have someone
Focus on your health...be selfish doing that for YOU and no one else. As you do that, God will put the love of a good woman in your life on his time and you will be in a better place to see it. I am here if you need to talk. Much love!
@@tonytravis5624 thanks Tony Brother Ryan
@@user-dt8zq2ev1h no thanks necessary brother! IGY6
@@user-dt8zq2ev1h no need for thanks brother! It's what family does. Love you
I have been bottling my emotions up for 10 years i have been taught crying or talking about ir emotions is not ok
Your amazing love everything you do plz react to fallen angel 2
React to the megamix❤❤
You should watch suicide by Ren
With all due respect, there is another angle.
Men will test the waters with being open. If any of that is used against him in an argument, he will never open up again.
This is because betrayal can only be handled 2 ways, and neither are really good. Most will just withdraw. Others turn to violence.
Ladies, if you want your man to open up to you, and stay that way, do not betray that trust when he tries to open up. There is no way to take it back once it's been done.
yeah, here's the thing, we don't say all women, but the majority of women say all men. women say they want men to be emotional until they get it, and most often weaponize their feelings against them. as for divorce, 80 percent of women initiate divorce, not because of infidelity or abuse, they are simply " unhappy", men don't leave but end up staying even when unhappy. but they are considered deadbeats if they do leave
it's not wrong for wanting to help men, give safe spaces, try to understand etc, but the most important thing I think men cannot quite explain to women is, the best thing (mostly) women can do to help us, is LEAVE US ALONE. I don't mean that in a nasty way or unappreciative way. Obviously some things should only be between partners or spouses, those things are evident to most people, but we are simple creatures. The main thing men need to help with depression or mental health etc, IS OTHER MEN. For the most part, it is NOT women.
The main issue with the modern day is that men's spaces, clubs, groups etc have been eroded by women and feminism on the grounds of being "toxic" and "misogynistic" or whatever lie they want to tell. They do know not, or do not care, just how important these male only spaces are to men. I'm not trying to diminish the struggles of women, they have their own issues men will never understand, but most women will NEVER know what it is to be TRULY alone. Nobody comes to help us, nobody checks how we are, nobody cares how we are doing.
Women used to see mens only groups, clubs, pubs, gyms, YMCA, boy scouts etc etc etc, and just saw the "boys club", a place they were excluded from, and they HATED it. They didn't see or care about the good those places did for men. A place for men to talk to others, to express emotions that only other men will understand. A place for boys to be mentored and learn skills, about life and relationships and fatherhood etc. The eradiation of these mens spaces has done untold damage to western society and the entire male species as a whole.
I also dont think it helps that men in media are portrayed as useless emotional wrecks in movies & tv shows. Gone are the days of a strong male role model with their emotions in check. Instead of telling men to express their emotions, they should teach them how to control them. Men have an urge to provide & protect and in order to do that, they need to have their emotions under control & managed. Men & women are very different in how they think & behave.
I feel as if I owe you an apology, and I will certain take that opportunity. You mentioned in this reaction that you received a lot of "negative" comments following the reaction of the other version of this song. I re-read the comment that I made and realized that I can see how a person would view this negatively. This was not my intent, nor will I take an opportunity here to "justify" what I really meant. I sincerely apologize if my comment was one of those that lent any negativity towards you or yours. I will be more careful, here and everywhere else. I recognize I cannot take back, nor would I take back, anything on the internet.
How instead a positive story regarding the efforts of people, like yourself, that have chosen this particular hill to stand on. A celebration of efforts if you will.
About 20 years ago, my family after traveling back to our hometown stopped in a fast food joint to get something to eat. It was very late, we were very tired. We ordered at the counter and went to grab a booth. On my way to the booth I saw an old man, maybe 80, full WWII uniform, sitting by himself. He looked upset. I told my people "do what you gotta do, I can walk home from here if the kids (3 and 1) get too impatient". I walked up the old man and asked him if I can get anything for him. He said no, so I asked him if I can take his trash for him. I was expecting a "yes" or a "no". This man answered with "Have you ever seen anybody just blow up?" I thought oh crap, this is gonna take a minute, maybe two. I will forego all of the details, but in the next hour and a half, I learned that he got married at home, then in short order went to a ship in Pearl Harbor (yup, that one), somehow lived through that and went on to, ummm, "work" in the Pacific. This man detailed so many things that I had hoped I would never even have to visualize. I just listened. He had never told this to anybody, not his wife, not friends, not anybody, he stated. I asked him why tell me now? He said he had to tell somebody so there was witness to his crimes. I asked him what crimes he was referring to. He said that when he got back home, he and his wife never had children because he could never invite people into a world where people were capable of doing the kinds of things to each other he had witnessed. I asked if that was his crime. He said that it was. His only family, his wife, had already departed. He asked what he should tell his maker when he got there? I told him, "When you get there, you square up, feet together at a 45, thumbs by your pants seams, and you look straight ahead and you tell him the truth sir. I don't know myself how it works there, but I'm guessing it's like a Marshall here, and you'll have one shot at it. The good news is that you'll finally get the truth in return". I asked him if there was anything I could do for him here in the meantime. His was was no, he was ready.
I got his name, and about two weeks later, went to his funeral. I go every year to his grave. So here's the thing; I think about this all the time. Following our conversation, I aspired to be just like him, to carry my burdens, no matter what, then die with them. Over time, I began to no longer aspire for this, but to aspire to be that strong instead. Because of people like you Mrs. Amanda and the work that you do (the hill you stand on), this hill has gotten a lot smaller over time. People are changing their views. Their attitudes toward gender roles, gender based expectations, the like, are changing. Generations like mine will be gone soon enough, and with it, our fallacies too will erode. I believe this story, and from it a comparison of then vs. now, warrants some celebration, but highlights the work left to be done.
I wish you strength, good will, and clarity.
There is no such thing ss you truth its either true or a lie
The fact that men should be overly emotional or simply cry once are better off is not true.. There have been many women who have voiced that if they witness their man cry once turns them off and immediately makes them lose respect their man and leave them shortly after.. And religion is no longer a factor in today's world in America at least.. The majority of this new generation are looking to spit in the face of the old times and religion.. A lot of modern women are claiming to be witches and Satan worshippers and not just spiritual or atheists. So that's not really an argument anymore.
Please site the statistics that you refer to
Which statistics would you like citations for? The marriage/divorce ones that pop up include where the data came at the bottom of each graphic.
I'm not justifying it as OK because its not, but I think a lot of the attacks come from people who have heard what youve said 100 times before and its always been used against them. I know thats been the case for me. Now I know you specifically are being genuine and logically I grasp that but my gut emotional immediate response is "Yeah you SAY that but its bullshit". Much like if a woman is hit enough she flinches when you try to give her a hug the same thing happens to men who have had their vulnerability pissed on and shoved back in their face over and over - its instinctual defense.
I dont date, I tell people its because Im done and Im happy alone but the reality is I'm not but I cannot trust women anymore. I just can't and thats not the woman's fault she may be completely honest, trustworthy and innocent but I am too broken for any form of healthy relationship and seeing as Im a straight man that means being alone. When a woman is nice to me my default setting is "Get out of here NOW this is a trap".
I have my cats instead.
Stoicism is hardwired into our caveman brain, it goes back to the beginning of time, men had no use for being emotional, you can't let emotion run when a sabertooth tiger is coming in the cave, you can't be emotional when going out for weeks long hunts in the middle of winter, emotions were a danger to early man, he had to be cold and calculated, and it was all for the family, the main purpose of all life on this planet is to reproduce, the species can survive with 100 women and only 1 lucky man, because you can have around 100 children a year, but if there were 100 men and only 1 woman, the species is doomed because you cannot repopulate at that rate, so therefore in an evolutionary sense, women are more important because they birth the children that keep our species going, but they are also the only ones able to feed a baby, so if the woman gets hurt, the baby dies, so the man, since the beginning of time, has had to protect women and be willing to give their lives so she and the baby can survive, so his genes are passed on and the species can survive, even just 150-200 years ago, life was very difficult, there were bandits, no modern medicine, no birth control, no prenatal care, no abortion, no epidural or anything like that, untamed wilderness, no grocery stores ect, so only up until fairly recently in human history has it become safe enough for men to not NEED to protect women that way for the survival of our species, we still have a primitive side of our brain that thinks like a caveman, men and women, it's deep in our subconscious mind, hardwired from hundreds of thousand of years of passed down experiences, so we don't even notice it working, problem is, men no longer get the acknowledgement and respect for what they do like they once did, and that is the currency men are looking for, not pitty, the world still needs strong men who don't let emotion cloud their judgement, because let's face it, there is more than likelly always going to be bad people trying to do bad things, and we need strong men to stand against them, I'm sure I missed some things, but I think I got the main idea across
Rare to see a wise mind anymore. Just tictok brain
Not all women but every one I have dated or married2x has been like this or gaslight the crap out of you. I grew up in military family as a.gen x. The seed of hiding emotions early. Women please if your man opens up to you do not EVER throw it in thier face. Toxic masculinity as.well.as.toxic feminism are both going on. Divorce rates are.going down but the back side of that is separations are on rise. Look at both stats. That will show different side of marriage.
I haven't seen the reaction yet, just your opening comments.
I appreciate what you were trying to do by addressing the negative comments. However, it seems like partway through, you switched over to victim blaming when you suggested that the men were attracting the bad women in their lives.
Then, you hit us with the 'Uno reverse card' when you said 'not all women' are like this. We continually have women iump down our throats when we want to clarify that not all men want to assault them at the drop of a hat. (Ex: man or bear discussion.) This is why the counter question is would a man rather tell his problems to a woman or a tree? Overwhelmingly, trees win.
Again, I appreciate what you are doing here, but I think this missed the mark you were going for. Now, on to the song.
Edit to add, (most)Men don't protect women in their lives because they are weak. They protect women because they are important.
One thing that is 1000% guarantee is if you show a woman where your weak at all the "big" arguments following that reveal will use that self exposed weakness as a club to beat you with. It's all part off how women argue I thank the Lord I am a Sigma and don't have that issue of exposure!! This isn't meant as hate toward you Amanda or any women it is just how y'all argue as women when your on "the attack" in an argument..
What is Sigma definition? Never heard this term before.
She really just said, "Not all women." 😦
Honestly, your opening monolog came across as dismissive of the kale experience. Er aren't saying all women act a certain way. Society in general is telling men they aren't needed. Stays men are toxic. Says women don't need no broke ass man. Says men have everything so damn easy that they don't have anything to cry about. That's what society in general is telling men.
While I agree and disagree with many things you say, I would like to point out that when I clicked on this video I was looking for a first time reaction. Now 7 minutes in I have recieved nothing but a response to comments.. please add that to your title.
I stated very clearly twice that if you wanted to jump right to the reaction, I created chapters for the video that allow you to do so 😊
Amanda: who told you that?
Literally countless men: women
Amanda: not all women, you're just bias
Me: so, men express themselves, and you dismiss it? You're proving them right.
10min talking...too long