Fun story; A guy in school when I was 14 probably told me I "didn't count as a girl". I was offended at the time bc I felt like I should've been more girly but now it makes me so happy. Son of a bitch was right lol
I'm afab agender transmasculine person and few years ago when I was like 15 this one guy in snapchat stated that "wow you actually sound like a girl" after a voice message I sent him. apparently my voice sounded more of a guys voice before and in that voice message it sounded like a girls voice. I was furious that he said that my voice was like a guys voice, but now I'm actually really happy about my voice, it sounds androgynous or more of a masculine than feminine.
Same from the other end of the spectrum! not being manly enough to be on any sportsball team. *sigh*. we can meet in the middle now for a nice non binary high five!
As a cis gay guy now in my 70s, what boggles my mind is the amount of transphobia still around in the LGBTQ+ community. Hey, people - this is exactly what we gay guys & gals experienced in the past!
As someone who’s in high school right now, it is indeed terrifying lmao. The amount of times people have shouted “suicide squad” and “show your cuts” at me in the hallway is uncountable, purely because I’m trans. And just the fights with classmates (literally in class, while the teacher was listening) about whether trans people should be allowed to do top surgery. Yeah, it’s something
I am so sorry for you, waht you describe is awful and nobody should have to live through that hate. I don't know what to say except that I don't want you to feel alone and think that there is no hope. I really hope that you have some form of support in your life. And if you agree, I send you big virtual hugs.
I mostly relate to this. I’m not out in high school (which I commend you for) because the students in my high school will literally make racist, homophobic, transphobic, etc. jokes all the time. Additionally, I’m non-binary so no matter what I try to do to make my dysphoria decrease, I still feel either masculine or feminine. Sometimes I wish I were cis-het just so I could fit in with my peers. Stay strong!
I’m FTM and used to use the male bathrooms until I got attacked 6 different times for going in there and was almost set on fire once (he had a lighter?) and I went to the nurse the last time cuz pain, and she said I can use her bathroom (there’s a bathroom in the nurse’s office) whenever I wanted So.. don’t use the male bathrooms anymore
I'm in Australia, so it isn't too bad, but I'm still scared. You're not alone in this. When you're queer, you're family. There's so many of us fighting for things to get better, I have to believe we will
also yes, this statement is very true. everything is weird, nothing is clear to anyone, where the hell should i know what i liked deep down, i suppressed everything to appear normal. gimme a few years....
I just remembered a really trans moment I had as a child I was like eight and visiting someone in the hospital (for context at the time I had a boy haircut I begged my mom for) and the lady at the front desk said to my mom "oh your son is so cute I love his haircut" and as we were walking away I told my mom "she thought I was a boy" and my mom said "yeah do you want me correct people when they do that" and I just said "I.. don't know" then we just went on with our day she didn't realize I was trans until like five years later when I was like "hey umm by the way I'm a boy I think"
Awwww that’s cute. I wish I had such experiences as a child. I was too scared to explore my gender and so I just spent my whole days daydreaming about being a girl since I didn’t have the courage to make it reality.
When I was a kid, a bully in primary school called me a boy because of my blue glasses (pointlessly gendered, lol) and I was just like, “Thank you. :)”
I remember whenever I used to play with people on Xbox Lives (like, example, friends of my friends that I personally didn’t know) a lot of the time people used to think I was a boy because I had a lower voice than most AFAB people and it used to make me really happy and I loved it, I never understood why until 2021-ish when I realized I was a guy.
As a trans girl, I can say that about 90% of this video is very relatable to me. I actually did identify as non-binary for a couple of months because I was afraid that I would be disappointing my family if I tried to properly express my identity. I feel a lot better now, and I was very surprised about how accepting my community is, especially since I live in Charlotte, NC, where I have to use disabled bathrooms at school to avoid breaking the law. Also, I am a massive fan, and my only regret thus far is not getting a ticket to see the show in Greensboro.
"...my only regret thus far is not getting a ticket to see the show in Greensboro." I'm sorry you didn't get to go this year, but he will probably be back next year, maybe you can go then. Noah has too many fans in the USA to stay away for long. I went to both last year's and this year's shows and they were both great.
I’m a trans man but I’ve also identified as nonbinary and a demiboy for quite a while when i was 15, because i also thought it would be easier to process for other people even tho I’ve known that I’m a boy since i was 4 years old and what trans means at age 12 but i didn’t accept it for myself until i was 15 but i came out as nonbinary as a compromise then as a demiboy and then at 16 as a trans boy. even tho my family and everyone was supportive i still thought it would be easier for them if i identified as nonbinary. But I’m glad i didn’t came out to my entire school as nonbinary when i identified like this because especially when everyone was 14-16 they made fun of nonbinary people a lot. So I’m glad i only came out as a trans boy at age 17 at school when everyone in my grade was 16-20. And yeah I’m 18 now and out everywhere and I’m almost a month on testosterone
trans dude here and i also originally identified as non-binary. in my case tho it was moreso due to internal biases my parents instilled in me. it didn’t help that i’m generally a feminine guy and i like makeup and dresses and pretty things so it took a while for me to fully accept that i’m actually just a guy. much happier now! would be happier if i wasn’t 5’2 but you know, i lost the genetic lottery in more ways than one lol
As a trans teen growing up in America right now, yeah, it's terrifying. My therapist took all mentions of me being trans out of her records for my safety. But I have a really great group of really queer (and neurodivergent) friends and I'm so glad I have them. My friends, and trans people on the internet, whether they're content creators or people I talk to in comments, give me hope for the future. Maybe not much hope, but we've just gotta cross our fingers it's all gonna be okay. Especially as a minor who can't really do much. I really appreciate your videos Noah, it's nice to see that there's a future out there for me.
@Ville Looking at a comment that essentially says "I can't have any written record of me being trans because something very bad might happen to me" and deciding to say "fatherless" says a lot about you. P.S. I'm trans. And guess what? I have a dad. And a mom. Neither of them are trans or part of the LGBTQ+ community. You can't just become trans because of something like not having a dad.
I still remember the day my son threw all his skirts and dresses out of his room, stating: I don't want any of this ever again! So I looked through my old clothes and found some old Stuka trousers and band shirts, gave them to him, and asked him: So "tomboy" or "boy"? And his didn't hesitate to say "boy" I said "okay" and put all the clothes her threw out into a bag to give to someone who could use them. No need to make a big deal out of it, though it did feel like a waste to throw out clothes we literally bought a week earlier (which is why I prefer gifting clothes instead of throwing them in the bin) He still didn't feel comfortable coming out to me, after that, so I gave him space to find the courage to tell me. And now, a few years later, I sometimes even forget what the name we gave him at birth even was. His new school only knows his new name, and exclusively uses he/him pronouns for him. Petty much everyone except for his transphobic grandmother calls him by his new name (he tries to avoid her, because he's terrified of her finding out and going on another anti-trans rampage, having seen how she treated his de-trans dad, and how she constantly insults and even wishes death upon my son's friends for being trans. and of course she's all "why doesn't she like me anymore" instead of realising she's a horrible person that no one actually likes.)
Wow. Ur such a good parent. God I wish my parents were like this, u seem to just have been so calm and chilled out about it! I hope more parents become like u
your son sorta reminds me of myself except I have a transphobic father instead of grandmother. My dad's kinda awful and wonders why I avoid him even though he constantly talks about how "Ben Shapiro says trans people suck and he's right." My moms really good though and truely sees me as her son. You're a really good parent though I'm glad you really love your son :).
Trans girl here! I know about 99% of your audience are trans guys, but your shit has helped me a lot too and I'm sure other transfem people as well! Keep it up my man
Same here, that content is amazing and even though it’s not that relatable it makes me feel less alone. I only know one person who is genderfluid and except that I’m the only trans person I know.
I hate to tell you this. You're not a girl but if you are and you believe all this BS don't why don't you try competing or having one of your friends! Lol competing male sports because in your little tiny war to mind that would be fair. The problem is it's not fair because you lose every damn time. You're sick. You need mental health. Please please please go get some mental health for yourself
Hey Noah, Im a gay trans guy and I have really bad anxiety around my gender. Sometimes I have panic attacks about it and watching your videos always helps because you’re so much like me it makes me feel validated. Thank you for doing what you do your videos are hilarious ❤
My partner is in the military in the US and we're both trans. The fact that we have no control over where we're located as all of these anti-trans bills are being introduced and passed is so upsetting and honestly I'm kind of terrified.
If you have anykind of sympathetic, or even just pragmatic people in the chain of command, they might be able to help. For military personell to fear state persecution for something immutable, its not only a morale issue, but a readyness issue, and if anything is sacred in this counrty, its military readyness.
I'm 61 and I am so sick of all the hatred! I was 18 through the late 70s early 80s and didn't have the balls to come out because of the hatred. I am so blown away by you and your amazing self you are a true inspiration ❤ . Much Love and Respect. And I Love your Music.❤ Peace
my mother literally had to drag it out of me, I simply could not bring myself to come out to her and she knew it. then I had her pretty much tell the rest of my family for me. the only people I came out in person to were my mom and very close friends. I could not imagine coming out to my family with a joke lol
I came out to my biofam last actually heh, and since everyone else id come out to didnt care; i just didnt care one iota if they disagreed with my existence. They didnt in the end, but it was very freeing to go into it knowin that id have a plethora of ppl supportin me even if these ppl decided to hate my existence
@@WhyIsTheClosetDoorOpening OMG YES THAT'S A BRILLIANT IDEA however no it's not like I had to wake up at 3 AM that day, I just didn't go to sleep yet because I was binge-watching Noah's videos
When I began to socially transition, it was very smooth and subtle. Honestly, I was bullied a ton more before socially transitioning. Now for some reason, I feel like I’m untouchable. I also have GAD so it’s very interesting how confident I can be when I’m allowed to be out around my peers.
Hey i started testosterone about a month ago and i just wanna say thank you for helping me understand that being trans was ok and i was not the only one feeling like this. Hope the bigots suck a toe and thanks for helping me come out!
I came out to my mom as non binary by sending her a meme on whatsapp, she didn't respond but we ended up talking about it face to face and she was super supportive :)
The first time I stood up and told a group of people who I was, they called me brave, and now I'm freaked out and terrified to directly tell anybody else.
sometimes coming out really can feel like you’re being patronized. similar to disabled people just living their lives and getting these comments. nobody enjoys it leave us alone
I recently came out to a girl on my sports team as non-binary and she told me she’s transphobic, this video really made my day! I’ve been going through a rough patch in my mental health and being able to have this community really helps. ❤❤
I was in a lesbian-seeming relationship with L when I was in high school. Everyone would say we were lesbians and it felt so wrong. I would correct them and say I wasn't a lesbian, but an "L Lover". Eventually we both came out as trans. Turns out we weren't lesbians, we were gays, lol!
I'm in high school right now and I'm trans. I'm from America and thankfully I have seen a lot of good experiences in school. So while my home life isn't the best and I have not have any medical help my school life has helped me a lot with my dysphoria and my sense of self.
Thank you for making my day They amount of transphobia going around right now is terrifying to me, especially living in a republican state and this helped me forget about it for awhile
As a trans man in high school, the amount of times I was attacked in the men’s bathrooms (6 in a row, last time was almost set on fire, one time had water poured on me) made it so I had to use the nurse’s bathroom. So yeah, scary.
@@jacineyatrakos3149 i actually did! I still do. One of the last times I used it & I got suspended while the guy got lunch detention, so I only used it once.
I’m straight + transmasc and have gotten so much bullying cause of my presentation and dating life and your videos have been a bright light in a dark time of my life. thank you for making your content noah :)
Same is so hard to go from lesbian and a cis women and then I realise that I am a straight trans man, like lesbian flag was my Comfort and now what🥲even tho trans flag is also realy nice🩵🩷🤍🩷🩵
The people that says high school are your best years... I think those are the school bullies. Once it's over, it's downhill for them, while everyone else thrives.
When you were talking about how binding has affected your breathing I was like "I know that" and then I took a deep breath for the first time since I've had my mastectomy (2weeks ago) and I was shocked of how different it is. I can breathe 😅😂😂
It's interesting that you described your bottom dysphoria getting less bad as you got older because it was completely the opposite for me. I was somewhat okay with it before but since i started E ive been crying myself to sleep every night.
It was the same for me, now I've got bottom surgery 2 weeks ago and am still in hospital due to infections etc. BUT it was the right decision. I think, what was really hard for you and me were our hole body matching slowly our gender, but our bottom area did not. Stay strong! You are never alone
@@simonbenjo8950 Congratulations! Hope your recovery is relatively smooth. Ahhhh I'm so looking forward to this. Still gotta wait two more years though.
Lol as for me hearing about what E does makes me conflicted and gives me reverse bottom dysphoria like I'm ok with it now how it is and I don't want that to change.
@@phoenix2965 I'm having some hard times lately but it's getting better. I hope you are doing great on your journey and life in general and wish you good luck :)
@Ville Are you offering to be our father then? Or would you rather be fathered yourself because you definitely have issues too if you're going around being rude on purpose. I'm happy to be your daddy, baby boy 😘
My girlfriend was the first person I came out to as trans she used to call me “sad boi” as a joke but it make me elated and I used to binge trans TH-camrs at the time so she just kind of popped the question one night before bed I give the most unconvincing “nooooo” and rolled over and went to bed like a month later I’d accepted the fact I was trans and wrote her a letter 😂
I came out w/ a meme, luckily my sister reacted positively and she was like "oh cool, what's your new name & pronouns, and does everyone in the family know?" And then we moved on to a different convo 💀
I came out to my family all at once with a text message and it was both the scariest moment of my life and the happiest moment of my life. Everyone was so supportive. I came out to one of my friends face to face but I was too ashamed to say anything even though he knew there was something I wanted to tell him so he had to guess it lol. Accidentally came out as bi too because he guessed that and I was like well yes but no
I get the sexuality thing! My partner and I have been together since before I realized I was transmasc (and we both identified as girls), so although both of us are pan and genderqueer, we still have our identities intertwined with the wlw community. It's weird sometimes bc I still have this kneejerk explanation of 'oh I'm a lesbian' and have to remind myself that I'm a guy now lol I also have been obnoxiously trans and genderqueer on Facebook, even though I never post ever, at all, except to crawl out of my cave to post about trans issues, mainly to educate those in my life, but to weed out the queerphobes
Hah, I'm a bit opposite of the icky-binder chat. I love mine...too much. Turns out, it hugs the anxiety quiet. Yep, now I swear by the weighted blanket.
I'm so glad you're making this content because I send them to my trans-nephew who is in high school right now... In indiana! it's awful. Thank you for what you're doing!
The nonbinary frustration of not being a shapeshifter/ when my body dysmorphia butts up against my gender issues. I don’t look the way I want to as a femme but I’m too curvy to look masculine or androgynous. I went shopping with a guy friend to buy him a suit and I started crying in frustration because the dysphoria and dysmorphia just hit me.
There’s this dude in my homebase who said “Females are dishwashers and since you used to be a female would you be a broken dishwasher or a trans dishwasher?” I really wanted to punch him in the face but I just awkwardly laughed it off. 💀
People assume I’m a lesbian too, as a gay man, that is kinda the worst thing. You in high school sounds a lot like me right now too I love the timeline, my dysphoria began when I started going through puberty, so it’s literally perfect. I’m 5’2”… platform shoes forever! I came out to my parents impulsively during an argument about why trans is a sin… 0/10 would not recommend…
Oh, man, that's rough. *Hugs* if you want them. Also, 5'2 trans kings unite! (Though I'm really 5'1 3/4 - what's a quarter of an inch between friends, really 😂)
I found your channel recently and as a bisexual trans guy who is also autistic/adhd, i relate to you SO MUCH and honestly I'm like so surprised I hadn't found your channel sooner, especially since you were recently on tour in Seattle, WA my state! (but I found out after the fact) But I'm so glad I found your channel and can't wait see more fun chaotic videos from you!
Your videos keep me going in a time with alot of transphobia not only from my family and people at school but just overall in society. You give me hope for my future. Thank you Noah :)
Yeah the height disphoria is real. I'm 6'3" and around 230 pounds and several people have described me as being built like a house lol. Thankfully I have pretty wide hips and a fairly tight waist, so hopefully estrogen will be able to make me have a beautiful hour glass figure.
Hey! I'm a non-binary teen who's probably on the spectrum at a single-gender high-school who deals with transphobia... nearly every day from certain classmates (who go out of their way to do it and then claim we're friends ten seconds later), and looking up trans memes can often make me question who's really in the right. I think I'll stick around for a while. This seems like a good channel.
I love that your reaction videos always end up very story-timey ! Keep doing those, they're very entertaining and informative at the same time🤍 have fun on tour !
ive had so much difficulty being proud of myself and my community as a trans kid, but then i remember like "im a pioneer and im the next generation of these people" and its up to us to speak out and change shit whether we like it or not; Noah's such a great figure of this community and im glad to be able to fight this battle for our basic human rights alonside yall : )
omg I’ve been watching your videos for a while now and thought they were super entertaining and NOW, WEEKS LATER i realize you are one of the artists of “(Not a) love song” that I’ve been listening to all day long on Spotify ?? edit: “no point pretending” is also fire
,,Picture this: You‘re neurodivergent, trans and you have sensory issues“ I‘m not picturing, I’m experiencing xD (Also your videos are sooo comforting to me in every way possible, thanks for your content
being trans in highschool now must be terribly hard, im cis & bi and most my classmates are homphobic/transphobic. I literally said one thing in class that was like “trans ppl should be able to live the way they wanna” and im still being bullied abt it. Like im not even trans I just said trans ppl deserve rights and its just horrible- can’t imagine how a trans person would survive in my school.
Noah: “i'm sure you’re tired-“ Me: “yes i am!” Also Noah: “of transphobia” Also me:”Oh oh! Y-yeah I'm tired of that too!” 😅Forgot to let people finish speaking
It's great to watch a positive video like this! I'm a cis woman and truly enjoy watching your videos. You're talking about important topics while still being entertaining and I feel like I always learn something!
I remember a very lovely moment in school when I felt safe halfway coming out (I've had to go back into the closet recently tho) I had told my teachers and peers the name I preferred but not my pronouns (they/them) because i would have definitely been bullied. Anyway in PE we were almost done with class and the PE teacher was calling out boys and girls to go get water. I did not move until he said "anybody else can go now" and when I moved to the door, where he was standing, he said "haha I did not forget about you!" I felt so happy... That was the only good experience I had being non-binary at school haha! Have a good day! :))
As a nonbinary person I feel gender envy towards kpop idols regardless of their physical gender. But mainly I'm envious due to their body shape. How thin waisted they are. It makes me try to be healthy and exercise so I can have a smaller waist. Not as small as them but to where I'm comfortable with my body.
1:00 LITERALLY ME, I was LITERALLLYY so obsessed with Austin moon from Austin and ally when I was younger for LITERAL YEARS to the point where my first “boy” accounts would be named Austin and would look similar to him. All because he had that highschool cool boy character 🙄, not to mention I’d also try to be like that irl while being chronically uncool
NOAH I’M SEEING YOU AT YOUR SHOW IN AUSTIN ON SUNDAY I’M LITERALLY ECSTATIC AND CAN’T WAIT ANY LONGER I’VE BEEN WAITING TO SEE YOU FOR SO LONG!!!!!!!!!
As a neuridivergent person with sensory issues, constriction and pressure actually make me more comfortable. I used to walk up to a friend and go "break my hands" to which he would just squeeze my hands until my anxiety went away
i got to see you on tour yesterday!!!! so wacky to see you like. physically. in real life. and not just as a funny trans guy on my screen when I’m watching TH-cam :D
7:30 it was the same for me but in reverse. Before I got fucked up by puberty people always thought my sister and I were twins. Same height, similar builds, both redheads. It used to make me so happy.
Fun story; A guy in school when I was 14 probably told me I "didn't count as a girl". I was offended at the time bc I felt like I should've been more girly but now it makes me so happy. Son of a bitch was right lol
My sister told me that my side angle with my glasses on make me look like a nerdy guy Im now non-binary and I wish to be more androgynous but I can't
"HA! You look like a BOY!"
"SHUT UP, YOU--no, wait, keep talking..."
As a fellow afab non-binary person I can just say I extremely relate to this
I'm afab agender transmasculine person and few years ago when I was like 15 this one guy in snapchat stated that "wow you actually sound like a girl" after a voice message I sent him. apparently my voice sounded more of a guys voice before and in that voice message it sounded like a girls voice. I was furious that he said that my voice was like a guys voice, but now I'm actually really happy about my voice, it sounds androgynous or more of a masculine than feminine.
Same from the other end of the spectrum! not being manly enough to be on any sportsball team. *sigh*. we can meet in the middle now for a nice non binary high five!
As a cis gay guy now in my 70s, what boggles my mind is the amount of transphobia still around in the LGBTQ+ community. Hey, people - this is exactly what we gay guys & gals experienced in the past!
@Ville no one likes you
@NotVille_yeah i'm pretty sure their dad is dead at this point,since their like,65 years older then you
@NotVille_ I hope your father comes back with the milk soon, so you can stop saying that 😐
@NotVille_pov: projection
@NotVille_ Saw you comment on Keara Graves’ channel too. Do you just go around TH-cam looking for LGBTQ+ content to hate on?
"This is more enjoyable than being called slurs" is a great descriptor
As someone who’s in high school right now, it is indeed terrifying lmao. The amount of times people have shouted “suicide squad” and “show your cuts” at me in the hallway is uncountable, purely because I’m trans. And just the fights with classmates (literally in class, while the teacher was listening) about whether trans people should be allowed to do top surgery.
Yeah, it’s something
I am so sorry for you, waht you describe is awful and nobody should have to live through that hate. I don't know what to say except that I don't want you to feel alone and think that there is no hope. I really hope that you have some form of support in your life. And if you agree, I send you big virtual hugs.
I mostly relate to this. I’m not out in high school (which I commend you for) because the students in my high school will literally make racist, homophobic, transphobic, etc. jokes all the time. Additionally, I’m non-binary so no matter what I try to do to make my dysphoria decrease, I still feel either masculine or feminine. Sometimes I wish I were cis-het just so I could fit in with my peers. Stay strong!
I’m FTM and used to use the male bathrooms until I got attacked 6 different times for going in there and was almost set on fire once (he had a lighter?) and I went to the nurse the last time cuz pain, and she said I can use her bathroom (there’s a bathroom in the nurse’s office) whenever I wanted
So.. don’t use the male bathrooms anymore
Oh yeah one of my trans friends did something like that, but then he moved so now I'm sad because now I can't talk to him😭
I'm in Australia, so it isn't too bad, but I'm still scared. You're not alone in this. When you're queer, you're family. There's so many of us fighting for things to get better, I have to believe we will
"Your sexuality is not... STRAIGHTforward, excuse the pun."
I will not excuse it, Noah. I will embrace your pun. I will shake your pun's hand.
i will love the pun for what it is
I will hug and embrace the pun
Puns keep me alive:D
also yes, this statement is very true. everything is weird, nothing is clear to anyone, where the hell should i know what i liked deep down, i suppressed everything to appear normal. gimme a few years....
Worship the pun 🙇
I just remembered a really trans moment I had as a child
I was like eight and visiting someone in the hospital (for context at the time I had a boy haircut I begged my mom for) and the lady at the front desk said to my mom "oh your son is so cute I love his haircut" and as we were walking away I told my mom "she thought I was a boy" and my mom said "yeah do you want me correct people when they do that" and I just said "I.. don't know" then we just went on with our day she didn't realize I was trans until like five years later when I was like "hey umm by the way I'm a boy I think"
Awwww that’s cute. I wish I had such experiences as a child. I was too scared to explore my gender and so I just spent my whole days daydreaming about being a girl since I didn’t have the courage to make it reality.
When I was a kid, a bully in primary school called me a boy because of my blue glasses (pointlessly gendered, lol) and I was just like, “Thank you. :)”
I remember whenever I used to play with people on Xbox Lives (like, example, friends of my friends that I personally didn’t know) a lot of the time people used to think I was a boy because I had a lower voice than most AFAB people and it used to make me really happy and I loved it, I never understood why until 2021-ish when I realized I was a guy.
As a trans girl, I can say that about 90% of this video is very relatable to me. I actually did identify as non-binary for a couple of months because I was afraid that I would be disappointing my family if I tried to properly express my identity. I feel a lot better now, and I was very surprised about how accepting my community is, especially since I live in Charlotte, NC, where I have to use disabled bathrooms at school to avoid breaking the law. Also, I am a massive fan, and my only regret thus far is not getting a ticket to see the show in Greensboro.
"...my only regret thus far is not getting a ticket to see the show in Greensboro."
I'm sorry you didn't get to go this year, but he will probably be back next year, maybe you can go then. Noah has too many fans in the USA to stay away for long. I went to both last year's and this year's shows and they were both great.
I’m a trans man but I’ve also identified as nonbinary and a demiboy for quite a while when i was 15, because i also thought it would be easier to process for other people even tho I’ve known that I’m a boy since i was 4 years old and what trans means at age 12 but i didn’t accept it for myself until i was 15 but i came out as nonbinary as a compromise then as a demiboy and then at 16 as a trans boy. even tho my family and everyone was supportive i still thought it would be easier for them if i identified as nonbinary. But I’m glad i didn’t came out to my entire school as nonbinary when i identified like this because especially when everyone was 14-16 they made fun of nonbinary people a lot. So I’m glad i only came out as a trans boy at age 17 at school when everyone in my grade was 16-20. And yeah I’m 18 now and out everywhere and I’m almost a month on testosterone
@@matheohno I'm glad that your family was supportive and congrats on the testosterone!
ayyy another transfem noah finnce enjoyer! happy to see it, and happy you found yourself! i went thru something very similar
trans dude here and i also originally identified as non-binary. in my case tho it was moreso due to internal biases my parents instilled in me. it didn’t help that i’m generally a feminine guy and i like makeup and dresses and pretty things so it took a while for me to fully accept that i’m actually just a guy. much happier now! would be happier if i wasn’t 5’2 but you know, i lost the genetic lottery in more ways than one lol
As a trans teen growing up in America right now, yeah, it's terrifying. My therapist took all mentions of me being trans out of her records for my safety. But I have a really great group of really queer (and neurodivergent) friends and I'm so glad I have them. My friends, and trans people on the internet, whether they're content creators or people I talk to in comments, give me hope for the future. Maybe not much hope, but we've just gotta cross our fingers it's all gonna be okay. Especially as a minor who can't really do much. I really appreciate your videos Noah, it's nice to see that there's a future out there for me.
Yeah, fellow trans teen growing up in America right now. I’m honestly scared as hell but I really hope it turns around.
@Ville Looking at a comment that essentially says "I can't have any written record of me being trans because something very bad might happen to me" and deciding to say "fatherless" says a lot about you. P.S. I'm trans. And guess what? I have a dad. And a mom. Neither of them are trans or part of the LGBTQ+ community. You can't just become trans because of something like not having a dad.
@Ville Actually I do have a dad, unfortunately. He's just emotionally abusive :)
@Ville Are we sure what's not the other way around?
@Ville Are we sure what's not the other way around?
I still remember the day my son threw all his skirts and dresses out of his room, stating: I don't want any of this ever again!
So I looked through my old clothes and found some old Stuka trousers and band shirts, gave them to him, and asked him: So "tomboy" or "boy"?
And his didn't hesitate to say "boy"
I said "okay" and put all the clothes her threw out into a bag to give to someone who could use them.
No need to make a big deal out of it, though it did feel like a waste to throw out clothes we literally bought a week earlier (which is why I prefer gifting clothes instead of throwing them in the bin)
He still didn't feel comfortable coming out to me, after that, so I gave him space to find the courage to tell me.
And now, a few years later, I sometimes even forget what the name we gave him at birth even was.
His new school only knows his new name, and exclusively uses he/him pronouns for him.
Petty much everyone except for his transphobic grandmother calls him by his new name (he tries to avoid her, because he's terrified of her finding out and going on another anti-trans rampage, having seen how she treated his de-trans dad, and how she constantly insults and even wishes death upon my son's friends for being trans. and of course she's all "why doesn't she like me anymore" instead of realising she's a horrible person that no one actually likes.)
Hey. I'm glad you're supportive.
Wow. Ur such a good parent. God I wish my parents were like this, u seem to just have been so calm and chilled out about it! I hope more parents become like u
your son sorta reminds me of myself except I have a transphobic father instead of grandmother. My dad's kinda awful and wonders why I avoid him even though he constantly talks about how "Ben Shapiro says trans people suck and he's right." My moms really good though and truely sees me as her son. You're a really good parent though I'm glad you really love your son :).
Trans girl here! I know about 99% of your audience are trans guys, but your shit has helped me a lot too and I'm sure other transfem people as well! Keep it up my man
Cis girl here. Am very happy about what youtubers like this are doing for the community.
Lots of love.
You go girl👍💅
nice name and pofile pic
Same here, that content is amazing and even though it’s not that relatable it makes me feel less alone. I only know one person who is genderfluid and except that I’m the only trans person I know.
Cis (but bisexual 💅🏻) girl here.
Welcome to sisterhood! One of us, one of us...
I hate to tell you this. You're not a girl but if you are and you believe all this BS don't why don't you try competing or having one of your friends! Lol competing male sports because in your little tiny war to mind that would be fair. The problem is it's not fair because you lose every damn time. You're sick. You need mental health. Please please please go get some mental health for yourself
Hey Noah, Im a gay trans guy and I have really bad anxiety around my gender. Sometimes I have panic attacks about it and watching your videos always helps because you’re so much like me it makes me feel validated. Thank you for doing what you do your videos are hilarious ❤
Omg...im gay and trans too ❤
Me, too! And I'm 36 and married - it can be done, I promise ❤
The level of transphobia going around everywhere is so depressing D: but at least we' ve got trans youtubers like Jamie and Noah cheering us up !
And Ty :)
@@SethMyles yeah
@@SethMyles I read that as "and thank you" rather than as "and Ty Turner" lmao
@@HyperNovva lol
Yeah.
every time i watch noah my day instantly gets a little better
Mine too 😊
My partner is in the military in the US and we're both trans. The fact that we have no control over where we're located as all of these anti-trans bills are being introduced and passed is so upsetting and honestly I'm kind of terrified.
I’m sorry to hear that. Stay strong ❤
If you have anykind of sympathetic, or even just pragmatic people in the chain of command, they might be able to help. For military personell to fear state persecution for something immutable, its not only a morale issue, but a readyness issue, and if anything is sacred in this counrty, its military readyness.
As a trans man whose family doesn't support your channel is a big comfort for me. You've helped me so much. Thank you so much Noah
I'm 61 and I am so sick of all the hatred! I was 18 through the late 70s early 80s and didn't have the balls to come out because of the hatred. I am so blown away by you and your amazing self you are a true inspiration ❤ . Much Love and Respect. And I Love your Music.❤ Peace
omg, so glad you're out and hopefully accepted now. lots of love from the lesbians!!
my mother literally had to drag it out of me, I simply could not bring myself to come out to her and she knew it. then I had her pretty much tell the rest of my family for me. the only people I came out in person to were my mom and very close friends. I could not imagine coming out to my family with a joke lol
I came out to my biofam last actually heh, and since everyone else id come out to didnt care; i just didnt care one iota if they disagreed with my existence. They didnt in the end, but it was very freeing to go into it knowin that id have a plethora of ppl supportin me even if these ppl decided to hate my existence
'HELLO UNDERACHIEVERS'
my day is immediately healed
Same
This just fixes my day no matter how bad it’s going
My device earlier this week at 3 AM: HELLO UNDERACHIEVERS
@@HyperNovva Omg I should make it my alarm in the morning, good day every day
@@WhyIsTheClosetDoorOpening OMG YES THAT'S A BRILLIANT IDEA
however no it's not like I had to wake up at 3 AM that day, I just didn't go to sleep yet because I was binge-watching Noah's videos
When I began to socially transition, it was very smooth and subtle. Honestly, I was bullied a ton more before socially transitioning. Now for some reason, I feel like I’m untouchable. I also have GAD so it’s very interesting how confident I can be when I’m allowed to be out around my peers.
@Ville shut
@Ville bro get a hobby lol
Hey i started testosterone about a month ago and i just wanna say thank you for helping me understand that being trans was ok and i was not the only one feeling like this. Hope the bigots suck a toe and thanks for helping me come out!
Please don't tell them to suck a toe or they might actually do it-
I came out to my mom as non binary by sending her a meme on whatsapp, she didn't respond but we ended up talking about it face to face and she was super supportive :)
1 is that Gerard way in ur pfp?
2 if so hello fellow killjoy
3 where did you find that pic💀
Bro, HOW?!?!?!
The first time I stood up and told a group of people who I was, they called me brave, and now I'm freaked out and terrified to directly tell anybody else.
sometimes coming out really can feel like you’re being patronized. similar to disabled people just living their lives and getting these comments. nobody enjoys it leave us alone
I recently came out to a girl on my sports team as non-binary and she told me she’s transphobic, this video really made my day! I’ve been going through a rough patch in my mental health and being able to have this community really helps. ❤❤
@Ville_x I care + I have a father + I hope you live a happy life and become more accepting of people that are different to you :)
@@a_cats same.
I give all the best wishes and am happy you feel better.
It'll be okay, you are valid.
@Ville Maidenless
@Ville_xYou're probably fatherless. And motherless.
@Ville_x cope and seethe loser
I was in a lesbian-seeming relationship with L when I was in high school. Everyone would say we were lesbians and it felt so wrong. I would correct them and say I wasn't a lesbian, but an "L Lover". Eventually we both came out as trans. Turns out we weren't lesbians, we were gays, lol!
15:56 Ok but I literally did this. I sent the meme of the funky wizard saying “swiggity swirl I’m a guy not a girl” to my family group chat.
if you dont mind me asking, how did they react?
I'm in high school right now and I'm trans. I'm from America and thankfully I have seen a lot of good experiences in school. So while my home life isn't the best and I have not have any medical help my school life has helped me a lot with my dysphoria and my sense of self.
Off topic but my mom got me some men’s flannels today (I’m a closeted trans guy) and she unknowingly gave me so much gender euphoria
I’m not trans but I love you content Noah keep up what your doing ❤😁
That's what they all say. Give it a few months and you'll be joining the trans ranks like the rest of us lol
@@angryasfuck6662 Lmao I’ve been questioning for a while though so maybe, but for now I think I’m fine as a girl lol
Same I’m not trans
Based username 😌
@@okayimdone8290 Thanks man 😊❤️(I call everyone man so sorry if that bothers you)
9:37 OMGOMG I feel this to my CORE. Everyone always assumes I'm just Lesbian.. like no. I'm a boy. Stop.
I'm also Bisexual.. My bf is trans as well and everyone just assumes we're a Lesbian couple.. 🥲
Not to mention the fact that I like more feminine clothes.. Like Idc if I'm trans. I'm a boy. I'll wear what I want 😗😗
Thank you for making my day
They amount of transphobia going around right now is terrifying to me, especially living in a republican state and this helped me forget about it for awhile
u know it’s gonna be a good day when noah uploads
As a trans man in high school, the amount of times I was attacked in the men’s bathrooms (6 in a row, last time was almost set on fire, one time had water poured on me) made it so I had to use the nurse’s bathroom. So yeah, scary.
I'm so sorry that happened to you.
@@dinosaurs_rule its alright, it’s been a few months now so 🤷🏻♂️
@@CalmedCChaos Still though, that's awful. I'm really glad that it isn't happening to you at the moment though. People really suck sometimes.
Carry pepper spray or a taser
@@jacineyatrakos3149 i actually did! I still do. One of the last times I used it & I got suspended while the guy got lunch detention, so I only used it once.
"i was like 'hell yeah, where are my facial hairs'... no but still, where are they? wHeRe ArE tHeY?" - noahfinnce 2023
I’m straight + transmasc and have gotten so much bullying cause of my presentation and dating life and your videos have been a bright light in a dark time of my life. thank you for making your content noah :)
Aww, being asked if u r someone’s boyfriend or girlfriend sounds like one of the nicest ways to come out to someone.
Thank you for talking about the lesbian thing. It IS hard to leave one community that you ‘grew’ up in to join another
Same is so hard to go from lesbian and a cis women and then I realise that I am a straight trans man, like lesbian flag was my Comfort and now what🥲even tho trans flag is also realy nice🩵🩷🤍🩷🩵
The people that says high school are your best years... I think those are the school bullies. Once it's over, it's downhill for them, while everyone else thrives.
the way your roommate went about asking if you were trans is one of the sweetest things i’ve ever seen❤️
When you were talking about how binding has affected your breathing I was like "I know that" and then I took a deep breath for the first time since I've had my mastectomy (2weeks ago) and I was shocked of how different it is. I can breathe 😅😂😂
Really needed this right now mate, things are tough, but you give me hope. Have a good one, everyone
It's interesting that you described your bottom dysphoria getting less bad as you got older because it was completely the opposite for me. I was somewhat okay with it before but since i started E ive been crying myself to sleep every night.
It was the same for me, now I've got bottom surgery 2 weeks ago and am still in hospital due to infections etc. BUT it was the right decision. I think, what was really hard for you and me were our hole body matching slowly our gender, but our bottom area did not. Stay strong! You are never alone
@@simonbenjo8950 Congratulations! Hope your recovery is relatively smooth.
Ahhhh I'm so looking forward to this. Still gotta wait two more years though.
@@fghsgh But you are getting there, i wish you all the best!
Lol as for me hearing about what E does makes me conflicted and gives me reverse bottom dysphoria like I'm ok with it now how it is and I don't want that to change.
needed a laugh rn thank u noah :) 🏳️⚧️
Ayy, another trans Phoenix :D
@@Phoenix-33SG omg slay we’re the coolest - hope you’re doing good mate :)
@@phoenix2965 I'm having some hard times lately but it's getting better. I hope you are doing great on your journey and life in general and wish you good luck :)
whenever I see noah post my entire week gets better honestly
I’m a sensory seeking neurodivergent and I love how binders feel lol, like a strong hug
@Ville Are you offering to be our father then? Or would you rather be fathered yourself because you definitely have issues too if you're going around being rude on purpose. I'm happy to be your daddy, baby boy 😘
My girlfriend was the first person I came out to as trans she used to call me “sad boi” as a joke but it make me elated and I used to binge trans TH-camrs at the time so she just kind of popped the question one night before bed I give the most unconvincing “nooooo” and rolled over and went to bed like a month later I’d accepted the fact I was trans and wrote her a letter 😂
Aw thank you, I recently realized a now-previous friend is transphobic and this honestly cheered up my day
That sucks. I'm not part of the community, but also had to end a long friendship over religious bigotry. So hard. 🫂
coming to watch this after watching the last two videos of ty turner and crying my eyeballs out... i really need the trans memes rn.
I can always recommend One Topic At A Time if you need more. It's a tough time alright.
I came out w/ a meme, luckily my sister reacted positively and she was like "oh cool, what's your new name & pronouns, and does everyone in the family know?" And then we moved on to a different convo 💀
Bless her ^_^
I came out to my family all at once with a text message and it was both the scariest moment of my life and the happiest moment of my life. Everyone was so supportive. I came out to one of my friends face to face but I was too ashamed to say anything even though he knew there was something I wanted to tell him so he had to guess it lol. Accidentally came out as bi too because he guessed that and I was like well yes but no
@@Victoria_Huot Well I'm glad it went well!!
@@FutureMint thank you! Only person who cares is my dad but he’s delusional and kind of weird so like idc
w sister
u just made my day so much better :)
i introduced one of my friends to your music recently and now theyre obsessed with it so thank you 😭
I get the sexuality thing! My partner and I have been together since before I realized I was transmasc (and we both identified as girls), so although both of us are pan and genderqueer, we still have our identities intertwined with the wlw community. It's weird sometimes bc I still have this kneejerk explanation of 'oh I'm a lesbian' and have to remind myself that I'm a guy now lol
I also have been obnoxiously trans and genderqueer on Facebook, even though I never post ever, at all, except to crawl out of my cave to post about trans issues, mainly to educate those in my life, but to weed out the queerphobes
"What if you wanted to be flat, but your ribs said pain"🤣 That one seriously got me.😂
Hah, I'm a bit opposite of the icky-binder chat. I love mine...too much. Turns out, it hugs the anxiety quiet. Yep, now I swear by the weighted blanket.
Watching this while wearing my first binder! Love you Noah, you make my days.
I'm so glad you're making this content because I send them to my trans-nephew who is in high school right now... In indiana! it's awful. Thank you for what you're doing!
as a trans guy struggling with huge height, voice and overall body dysphoria and depression atm this made my day tysm noah
The nonbinary frustration of not being a shapeshifter/ when my body dysmorphia butts up against my gender issues. I don’t look the way I want to as a femme but I’m too curvy to look masculine or androgynous.
I went shopping with a guy friend to buy him a suit and I started crying in frustration because the dysphoria and dysmorphia just hit me.
I feel the first part of what you said so hard. ❤
There’s this dude in my homebase who said “Females are dishwashers and since you used to be a female would you be a broken dishwasher or a trans dishwasher?” I really wanted to punch him in the face but I just awkwardly laughed it off. 💀
you'd be a person
oh no, an overused insult, how sCaRy
People assume I’m a lesbian too, as a gay man, that is kinda the worst thing.
You in high school sounds a lot like me right now too
I love the timeline, my dysphoria began when I started going through puberty, so it’s literally perfect.
I’m 5’2”… platform shoes forever!
I came out to my parents impulsively during an argument about why trans is a sin… 0/10 would not recommend…
Oh man yeah that's not a great way to do it (through no fault of your own). I hope you're okay now.
Oh, man, that's rough. *Hugs* if you want them. Also, 5'2 trans kings unite!
(Though I'm really 5'1 3/4 - what's a quarter of an inch between friends, really 😂)
@@chrematisaiomg that’s literally my exact height, I rounded up 😂
@@hakelevtov1977I’m fine at the moment, still a bit rough, but things are decent.
I found your channel recently and as a bisexual trans guy who is also autistic/adhd, i relate to you SO MUCH and honestly I'm like so surprised I hadn't found your channel sooner, especially since you were recently on tour in Seattle, WA my state! (but I found out after the fact) But I'm so glad I found your channel and can't wait see more fun chaotic videos from you!
Your videos keep me going in a time with alot of transphobia not only from my family and people at school but just overall in society. You give me hope for my future. Thank you Noah :)
Yeah the height disphoria is real. I'm 6'3" and around 230 pounds and several people have described me as being built like a house lol. Thankfully I have pretty wide hips and a fairly tight waist, so hopefully estrogen will be able to make me have a beautiful hour glass figure.
Soon you'll get the "model height" comments instead :)
@@nope31697 OH, you right!
Feel you I want my wacking my head on door frames rights 😔
Hey! I'm a non-binary teen who's probably on the spectrum at a single-gender high-school who deals with transphobia... nearly every day from certain classmates (who go out of their way to do it and then claim we're friends ten seconds later), and looking up trans memes can often make me question who's really in the right.
I think I'll stick around for a while. This seems like a good channel.
I love that your reaction videos always end up very story-timey ! Keep doing those, they're very entertaining and informative at the same time🤍 have fun on tour !
Hi, I’m a closeted 13 year old trans guy and I wanted you to know that your videos have really helped me ❤
thanks so much for making videos, they help me a lot, the usa is just a dumster fire right now, i'm so glad your videos are here to cheer me up ❤
ive had so much difficulty being proud of myself and my community as a trans kid, but then i remember like "im a pioneer and im the next generation of these people" and its up to us to speak out and change shit whether we like it or not; Noah's such a great figure of this community and im glad to be able to fight this battle for our basic human rights alonside yall : )
"Jump around with a bunch of gay people , or trans people or even people who just like music " me - i got to do that
omg I’ve been watching your videos for a while now and thought they were super entertaining and NOW, WEEKS LATER i realize you are one of the artists of “(Not a) love song” that I’ve been listening to all day long on Spotify ??
edit: “no point pretending” is also fire
The "just torture" one cracked me up.
for me with binders, i really like the tight feeling of it. its comforting. and the fabric of it doesnt move and rub my skin weirdly
The attack helicopter joke is making a comeback at my school, so this positive trans video was extremely well timed. Thanks Noah!
Treat them like they're not human, then when they complain say oh but you're an attack helicopter you're not actually a person
TRANS MEMES WOO. Let's GOOO
“You don’t need to imagine. I know why you’re watching this.”
I feel called out. And also seen.
#neurodivergenttransmascsunite
2:46 the “you don’t need to imagine, I know why you’re watching” was the most validating call out I’ve ever gotten.
,,Picture this: You‘re neurodivergent, trans and you have sensory issues“
I‘m not picturing, I’m experiencing xD
(Also your videos are sooo comforting to me in every way possible, thanks for your content
i love when Noah tells stories about his childhood, its always so intresting
"You're not a girl, you don't even pass."
I'm trans ftm. God, the euphoria was amazing.
"Don't ever measure me. EVER!" is very relatable.
being trans in highschool now must be terribly hard, im cis & bi and most my classmates are homphobic/transphobic. I literally said one thing in class that was like “trans ppl should be able to live the way they wanna” and im still being bullied abt it. Like im not even trans I just said trans ppl deserve rights and its just horrible- can’t imagine how a trans person would survive in my school.
Noah: “i'm sure you’re tired-“
Me: “yes i am!”
Also Noah: “of transphobia”
Also me:”Oh oh! Y-yeah I'm tired of that too!” 😅Forgot to let people finish speaking
It's great to watch a positive video like this! I'm a cis woman and truly enjoy watching your videos. You're talking about important topics while still being entertaining and I feel like I always learn something!
I remember a very lovely moment in school when I felt safe halfway coming out (I've had to go back into the closet recently tho) I had told my teachers and peers the name I preferred but not my pronouns (they/them) because i would have definitely been bullied. Anyway in PE we were almost done with class and the PE teacher was calling out boys and girls to go get water. I did not move until he said "anybody else can go now" and when I moved to the door, where he was standing, he said "haha I did not forget about you!" I felt so happy... That was the only good experience I had being non-binary at school haha! Have a good day! :))
As a nonbinary person I feel gender envy towards kpop idols regardless of their physical gender. But mainly I'm envious due to their body shape. How thin waisted they are. It makes me try to be healthy and exercise so I can have a smaller waist. Not as small as them but to where I'm comfortable with my body.
the mcr posters in the background make this so much more relatable
It’s so enjoyable to watch even if I’m not trans but I like to Leeann abt trans ppl and their experiences x
Me to I like to be opened minded
1:00 LITERALLY ME, I was LITERALLLYY so obsessed with Austin moon from Austin and ally when I was younger for LITERAL YEARS to the point where my first “boy” accounts would be named Austin and would look similar to him. All because he had that highschool cool boy character 🙄, not to mention I’d also try to be like that irl while being chronically uncool
NOAH I’M SEEING YOU AT YOUR SHOW IN AUSTIN ON SUNDAY I’M LITERALLY ECSTATIC AND CAN’T WAIT ANY LONGER I’VE BEEN WAITING TO SEE YOU FOR SO LONG!!!!!!!!!
"you don't have to imagine, I know why you're here" dang man, didn't have to call me out like that chill
When I came out as Nonbinary to my parents the joke was,
“Well now you have the entire set!” Since I have a brother and a sister atm
Your roommate sasha sounds chill af, that’s such a great way to approach the subject
As a neuridivergent person with sensory issues, constriction and pressure actually make me more comfortable. I used to walk up to a friend and go "break my hands" to which he would just squeeze my hands until my anxiety went away
@Ville You're not supposed to use POVs to describe yourself lmao
@Ville You forgot to add "by choice"
noah to his nonexistent face hair "were are they?" my brain:"were are youuuuu"
i got to see you on tour yesterday!!!! so wacky to see you like. physically. in real life. and not just as a funny trans guy on my screen when I’m watching TH-cam :D
the meme with the "oh man, oh geez, oh man oh geez oh no" is absolutely brilliant xD
@Ville sorry, what? I don't understand what you mean by your comment.
8:36 "and i remember we go around, squishing ants" HELP ☠
4:28 Oh my God! You could definitely pull off Peter Pan!
The amount of gender envy I get from Gerard Way is unbelievable
7:30 it was the same for me but in reverse. Before I got fucked up by puberty people always thought my sister and I were twins. Same height, similar builds, both redheads. It used to make me so happy.
Ugh too real too real, me wanting to look like a twink when I go to the club, and then trying to dance in my binder and my body says noop