As an INFJ, I must say that we feel like we don't have the right to speak about our problems, and even if We do when the other person doesn't give us the response we are searching for, they make us feel like we are overreacting. We keep complicating things in our head, but honestly, it is very special to be an INFJ.
true but its not like we complicate things we are emotional and think a lot but they see us complicated and ultimately when you share your feelings and thoughts and they don't understand what we are going through it's an insult and then boom blunder
“We feel like we don’t have the right to speak about our problems”. WOW. That’s so true. I always feel like my situation is not as bad as others so I have no right to complain. I work hard and demand a lot from myself, but I feel like this is how we’re all expected to live so I don’t look for a better job. My grades are pretty good but I always feel stupid and lazy and won’t be good at the career I’m dreaming of.
1. You tend to take an all or nothing approach to life 2. Everyone tends to gravitate towards you 3. You have a natural talent for language 4. You make decisions based on your intuition 5. You absolutely despise interpersonal conflict 6. You are concerned about what others think of you 7. You have principles etched in stones
INFJ We are the quiet ones Artists and world changers Musicians speaking through lyrics Truth tellers and people relators When the soul can no longer be insulted Gave love, but it was not given back Taken advantage of by lost souls Those who wage a vicious attack Take back our true power We are here to tell it to you straight Don't want your toxic behavior It's all about love and not about hate What you ask, we will give No problem in giving you advice If you don't listen and keep coming back Cut you off without thinking twice Shades of grey between black and white And if you fail to understand We won't please you if you can't please us Piss off with your controlling demands You can be you, I'll always be me Don't tell me who you think I am Not in the mood for your judgment Because I no longer give a damn
@@tenzinlhak12 No longer afraid to say what the rest of us are thinking.... Spitting Bullets An animal, locked in a cage Spitting bullets, fueling rage Fangs of a wolf Wisdom of a sage An enemy you don't want to fight Spank you, remind you of your age Platinum tongue, breathing fire Charm even your mother would admire Come back stronger, always a fighter You wanna smite me, go-ahead almighty smiter Words that cut your ego like a knife You wanna stay or run for your life? No character assassination, just tell it to you straight Lock your mind in a coffin, final nail in your fate Bite is worse than the bark All challengers accepted Tuck your tail between your legs You will be torn apart Seriously had enough of this shit Step over the line, be ready to commit Push all your buttons Your twisted logic doesn't compute Final blow completely exposes you You'll turn into a mute No comebacks, unless it's calling me names Look in the mirror, just a window to shame You think you are a wizard, but I'll pull back the curtain Find that scared little child Cowering and uncertain Walls gonna rattle, slam the door When I'm done, you'll be left crying on the floor Get up baby, go grab a tissue You want to get offended? Go-ahead, it's not my issue Exploit your insecurities, seal your own demise The worst of human excrement, a delicacy for flies
that is where the self-care is important; we are empaths most of the time so we cannot allow ourselves to be drain by seeking to offer balance to others. In the ensure self-care we must be selfish.
When I found out I was an INFJ I finally understood why I always felt a little different and why no one in my family ever understood me.Also, I was always labelled as weird since they are all extroverted. The conflict thing kills me. I literally suffer for days and I still find myself mulling over arguments years later. I like who I am but its not easy being an INFJ surrounded by people who think you are "too sensitive" so those me-time breaks are so important. I might share this video with people in the future who want to understand me better.
I can relate to you, I usually feel that my family is a group of individuals that understand one another better. While, for me I wonder why I'm so different (alien). I love helping them no matter what, but feel that when I ask for understanding they don't and think wrongly. I am rooting for all INFJ's out there to don't feel lonely. I always think I am a unique jewel around my family, even if they misunderstand me.
Being an INFJ is like a blessing and a curse. My INFJ experience on the blessing part is that I have hope in life. I think that life is beautiful even though their are bad things in it. Those don't last long. I can also live in the moment. Being an INFJ can make you understand the beauty of life. However, the curse is that we're perfectionist and when things dont get done we feel unmotivated. I have a love/hate relationship with myself
No matter how many times I've tested for this, it always results INFJ. Recently, my current boyfriend also had INFJ results after multiple trials. It's both a blessing and a curse to be INFJs. We're both very sensitive about each other's feelings and often have the same principles and outlooks in life. We also have a very keen sense of deciphering people's personalities. It surprises us how we always have common opinions about people. We work harmoniously around the house. No need to discuss roles, the division of work just flows. The downside is that we also both have the same flaws. We much prefer to be with our own company when in a big group of people, so people would think we're weird or family members would think us uncooperative. We either procrastinate a lot on our tasks or we zone out whenever we're so focused on doing something that we can't notice when the other is calling to us. We've both reflected on our good and bad traits and remind each other when we're leaning towards our bad habits again. My favorite part of the day is when both of us share this common silence in a room and we both get to do our hobbies in peace. Occasionally looking up to the other to check if we're doing okay.
I'm an INFJ. I indeed am a great listener. I keep my secrets to myself and I never open up. Everything in this video is true. It's hard to make others understand us. My favourite point is about how everyone gets drawn to us. This is the most accurate thing ever. All we do is just stare at them or maybe nothing and they already start liking us. One of the popular girls made me sit next to her because she wanted me to befriend her. Many people tell that I'm a bit mysterious as I always listen to others and barely share anything about myself. I have the rarest type of INFJ and I'm proud of that.
That's sooo true!!! I always feel like people don't care if i talk and only i can understand myself so i stick to being a listener ... it's a blessing and a curse..and you're sooo right people have asked me why i always listen and never talk!!!! Gosh i feel understood
I'm an older INFJ, so the following words are for my fellow, younger INFJs: yes, the way in which you experience your life will likely be vastly different than they way others around you will experience their lives. Yes, you will usually feel like an alien in this world even though you'll be a chameleon in your everyday interactions at work, etc. Just know that if you live in your truth, guard your heart and share with people who have earned your trust and loyalty, you will be surrounded and valued for who you are, just the way you are. Stay humble and curious. Surround yourself with those who encourage and inspire you, embrace and enforce healthy boundaries (you can still love hard-to-love people without having to be in direct relationship with them), don't be guilted into things that don't sit right with you (use and hone your intuition -- the more you do, the more you'll live in harmony with everything and everyone and, most importantly, with yourself), and don't be afraid because life does get better the more you become your true, essential self.
As an older INFJ who has only recently started learning about it, and my related HSP traits, I wish someone had told me exactly what you said forty years ago. My life would have been so much more fulfilling, and the people around me wouldn't be so confused trying to relate to me. It's so easy to hurt, and be hurt, when no one understands. I wish there were an easy way to reach all the INFJ's out there with your wise words. Thank you for sharing them.
I would highly recommend confronting all of the things that make you nervous or angry head on, other people will fall in line if you simply show them the path that you have carefully navigated for them. It doesn't require you to do anything other than what you have deemed necessary. Monkey see, monkey do will take over. Don't take my word for it, do the right thing, the hard thing in each moment and watch what the people around you often start doing.
1) all or nothing 2) people open up to u 3) natural talent for language 4) decision based on intuition 5) despise interpersonal conflicts 6) concerned about what others think of u 7) principles etched in stone
INFJ We are the quiet ones Artists and world changers Musicians speaking through lyrics Truth tellers and people relators When the soul can no longer be insulted Gave love, but it was not given back Taken advantage of by lost souls Those who wage a vicious attack Take back our true power We are here to tell it to you straight Don't want your toxic behavior It's all about love and not about hate What you ask, we will give No problem in giving you advice If you don't listen and keep coming back Cut you off without thinking twice Shades of grey between black and white And if you fail to understand We won't please you if you can't please us Piss off with your controlling demands You can be you, I'll always be me Don't tell me who you think I am Not in the mood for your judgment Because I no longer give a damn
As an INFJ, I found the whole video extremely accurate. My social anxiety makes me immensely introverted, but what mostly helps me fight it is by helping other people, no matter if it's family, friends, or even strangers. Kindness and empathy will always be the biggest strengths in my eyes.
@@aaravthehaterofluck7427 I understand completely and I'm grateful for your advice. Thankfully, I don't live in a hell environment. Plus, when it comes to kindness, I mostly like to be empathetic. For example, a few months ago, I went to have my haircut, and a few seats away, there was a 2 year-old boy screaming in fear. His parents were trying to comfort him as the barber tried to cut his hair. Immediately, my heart was breaking for him, because when I was his age, I was exactly the same. However, I noticed that the barber was selling bags of sweets for charity, and that gave me an idea. Once my haircut was finished, I bought a bag. Then, the difficult part was for me to push my social anxiety aside and give the bag of sweets to one of the parents and explain to them how I knew how their son felt. And I did. I walked up, gave the sweets to the mum, explained how I was the same when I was 2 years old, and wanted to let the boy feel safe and calm. Both her and the dad were so emotionally happy. Later on, a letter was posted through the door, and it was a thank you card from them. I've kept it close to my heart ever since. Sorry if this comment seemed quite long.
@@HealingSpirit415 it wasn’t long and I have the exact same instinct but it has became my weakness quite a lot of times and by hell environment I meant no one caring about us at all but I think I am just pathetic. I have already gone past hell in my life I think it won’t occur anymore Also I am not English first so I would probably be trash at English sorry
I actually became emotional watching this. I've gotten INFJ results after testing several times over the years. I have always felt different. I feel like I see things entirely different than everyone else. And I value my differing perspectives a lot, but at the same time, I feel so alone. Being an INFJ is a blessing and a curse. This video did a great job at helping me feel less isolated. 💕
i’m an INFJ and i’ve really struggling with friendships, especially throughout highschool because they all felt superficial.. i’m also currently studying psychology!!
Superficial friendships are really hard to deal with!!! I dont want to be seen as a snobby person but I really don't like to waste my time and breath on superficial conversations 😨 the struggle is real
Perhaps this so called rarest personalities of INFJ only applied to usa, In Asia, I actually found plenty of my acquitance are INFJ tho. I guess is the culture differences in different society breed different proportion of personalities among the population.
Ya because personality test tells about people on a broader sense and many people who have different personality can find each other relatable afterall personality type don't draw strict line so people should go for a personality test rather than just deciding it by only knowing some traits of the personality
I'm tearing up watching this. As an INFJ, my heart feels warmed. It feels like someone knows what we go through, as though they just dug into our lives and know exactly what goes on. Being an INFJ is beautiful. But being beautiful is what every personality is as well
As an INFJ, this is so accurate. I gain energy and positivity from comforting or helping others! I am super kept to myself but around others, I put my troubles away so I can help another person avoid troubles I may have faced. Sometimes it's hard for others to get me but I will know what they mean if they try to explain something personal to me. INFJ'S, UNITE! edit: Please note that this is definitely not accurate for all and I am just stating from my personal opinion and experience! Thank you.
being an INFJ is hard especially when you grew up in a family who blackmails, gaslight, guilt trip and narcissist, manipulator relatives and will blame u for their wrong actions literally victim blaming. My life has been full of trauma in this toxic household and being Infj is a blessing to me, it makes me stand on the right path.
carter yeah, until now the situation is still the same but some things got better maybe because I matured more, however, I'm still an INFJ like before. As an INFJ I learned how to handle/ surpass situations even if it hurts cause deep inside I have a soft heart, but being an INFJ is a blessing to me, I hope to u too as well. We INFJ]'s are rather unique than the rest hehe that's why ik that we got this. :>
I went trough the same thing. I was raised by a narcissist grandmother, abandoned by my mother and neglected by my father. I kinda see this pattern in INFJs. Sometimes I think that for you to became a INFJ (and most intuitives) you have to suffer a little bit more than others.
As an INFJ, this truly described me. Great listener and ppl open up to me but a private person myself, very hard to share something about myself to others & so ppl doesn't understand me most of the time. It feels great to read the comments and see fellow INFJ❤
Having a wife with this trait makes me feel incredibly honored. I’m glad I’ve come to understand it more and more through the years. Treat them with gentleness and respect, they are precious and life giving
Jonah Ullman How absolutely beautiful. Just lovely! Fellow INFJ here, I think all we want is mutual respect and a harmonious world. Blessings to you both 🌈
INFJ We are the quiet ones Artists and world changers Musicians speaking through lyrics Truth tellers and people relators When the soul can no longer be insulted Gave love, but it was not given back Taken advantage of by lost souls Those who wage a vicious attack Take back our true power We are here to tell it to you straight Don't want your toxic behavior It's all about love and not about hate What you ask, we will give No problem in giving you advice If you don't listen and keep coming back Cut you off without thinking twice Shades of grey between black and white And if you fail to understand We won't please you if you can't please us Piss off with your controlling demands You can be you, I'll always be me Don't tell me who you think I am Not in the mood for your judgment Because I no longer give a damn
@@mkchristner Thank you. I've written so much truth that nobody bothers to listen to. Empath and the Narcissist An all so common relationship dynamic Starts as a whirlwind, ends up in panic The empath truly has love and compassion The narcissist requires constant validation The narcissist feels truly empty inside Afraid to be alone in their darkened mind Afraid of the voices in their head Believing they're worthless, better off dead The empath has nothing to gain Builds up the narcissist to shut off their pain What the empath doesn't realize Is the narcissist's inability to empathize The narcissist thinks it's a power struggle The empath has all their feelings to juggle Pushing and pulling, a constant fight Waiting for the next rage to ignite Idealize, devalue, and discard The narcissistic calling card The empath is tired of insulting their soul They awaken and take back their control Narcissist moves on to another fixation Unable to live without validation Never to blame, ego increases While the empath is left to pick up the pieces
@@TheDarkness1 wow… that was incredible too! I feel that one… I just got out of that dynamic myself! Keep up the writing, it’s insightful, well put and amazing.
@@mkchristner Thank you. Over the last year I've unleashed everything. I've written over 1100 of them. Nobody seems to want to publish poetry. All I Want Just want one person that listens With an open mind to understand One with only pure intentions Willing to lend an open hand Gave too much to wrong people Used me for my understanding Been villified and victimized By the empty and demanding I want the truth to be heard Setting free to all humanity Understand love and creation Sick and tired of the Insanity Just one, best friend and lover A queen that supports the king One with the undamaged psyche That sees exactly what I bring What if I said I'm not like the others Feel no need to pretend Trust in me, I'll trust in you Laughter to the very end
@@mkchristner I'm the Man in the Mirror I am your mirror Returning energy A reflection of your inner being Heightening senses Opening your mind Glimpses of what I'm seeing For what you do not like in me A direct reflection of you Triggering feelings Opening wounds Path to awareness and healing Insecurities rise Tempers flare Laughter clears the air Mirror sees behind the mask The true self The one hiding from shame As energy cannot be hidden Polarized in light or dark Resonating in the soul Negative entity of fear Looks to reject love Feeling unworthy Internal battle of voices Angels and devils Voices of past ring loudly Affecting choices Consuming in shadows Efforts to break free Pulls the ropes tighter Truth resides in the heart Lies cover up fear Slowly darkening awareness Internal gaslighting Coping from false indoctrination Unable to see reality Caught in a dream of illusion
Being an INFJ is difficult indeed. You could be a great listener to others.. but opening up, oh it's hard. And the pt about expressing our thoughts, feelings and emotions through writing was absolutely accurate. It is something that I myself do. Thanks for this video..felt acknowledged 😊
It's difficult, yeah. I myself only open up to those who I trust. But if I open up, I don't stop. Sometimes I have problems to find the right words, but I don't stop and go on until I have the feeling that Iexplained it like I mean it. But lately I open up less than a few montgs ago. Maybe it's bcs I don't need totalk about so much bcs I'm happier now, idk. But sometimes I have the feeling I annoy this specific person when tell them my worries again and again. So sometimes I find my own way of dealing with my thoughts (I get better I think), smetimes I go for it...but hesitantly and sometimes I go all in (when I really need help). I open up to people who I trust deeply but that's really just a few. Atm there's only one person I could tell absolutely anything and sthey wouldn't judge me. So...yeah...and I don't want to annoy them so I sometimes try to hold back :/ I also tried to write down my thoughts and emotions. It's not really a thing for me, but there are a few rimes where it helps me so much. So I type a message to myself and most of the time that's the only thing I need bcs my worries cleared up while reading it after typing 👍 there's too much going on inside my INFJ brain 😮💨
I'm an INFJ, and I often feel like I am called upon to be a therapist, although the one who needs therapy the most is me. But, I feel as if I cannot share my feelings, to keep the burden away from others. I've found that writing is a great way to relive some of my internalized pain. I write poems each night, spinning my feelings in to metaphors, as complicated as they are. If you struggle with internalized pain, find something that you can do that expresses your true emotions, that expresses you. But, what do I know, I'm only 14
Oh, be a little careful with psychology videos like this one. The brain doesn't stop developing until you are like 21, and even then we never stop changing, so even if you feel like an INFJ now, your cemented type might be completely different later on. But, if you do want to be a therapist, know that you can become one regardless of your personality type. Also know that all therapists need a therapist themselves.
funny enough, the 'therapist' thing happens a lot to me. for some reason people would come to me to seek advice and me not wanting to disappoint them would tell them what they want and need to hear (telling them what they just NEED to hear is a bit too mean in my book). talking to strangers half of the time lead to them telling me their problems too and I just sit and listen while deep inside I'm just questioning what I am even doing listening to people's private lives
It's crazy that just 4 letters can explain a whole lot. I've taken many tests, and they've all come out as INFJ, and as I think about you just described my whole "life". I am really glad that I am an INFJ. Not that I just have that personality, but that I can make a great impact on people.
I don't think I've ever met another INFJ so it is awesome to see so many of you on here ❤. I'm 37 now and have tested INFJ many times. This video is spot on!
It's so wild. I am an INFJ...I've recently found out my Dad is an INFJ...and also found out that my brother's girlfriend is an INFJ. HOW DID THIS HAPPEN? My dad and I get along really well. I feel we've always understood each other on another level.
I am a INFJ, and wish I could meet more INFJ'S so I could be better understood. I'm always there for Others, but rarely are Others their for me. Sometimes it gets lonely 🥺
I am also INFJ i tend to help even they didn't see it. It helps me to see they are happy and comfortable and it makes me sad when they facing a problem that i can't help.
We tend to feel like an alien on this planet as a result; we're out here...just super rare. I don't think I have met another INFJ yet either. Before I knew what an INFJ was, I always called my "gifts" as a damn curse and wished I was just like everyone else.
@@trudysenglishvictorianhome3244 I know exactly how you feel. Is there some unwritten contract that we had to be the pillar for everyone else? It's a compelling thing that we cannot simply opt out of either - because we care too much.
Never knew about personality types until yesterday in school. When I got home I spent three hours researching, and it’s official. I’m INFJ. It’s strangely satisfying, since now I understand why I can never find someone just like me. 1-3% isn’t a lot of people. I’ve always felt somewhat different from everyone, whether that’s in a good or bad way. I’m proud of my personality and all that comes with it, but that doesn’t mean it isn’t hard. Thank you for this video; it’s really helped.
I fall under the INFJ-A, but I urge you all to not let these tests define you. Many of us all want to answer our questions with simple labels and take comfort in them, but just because INFJ might be rare don’t let it make you feel “special”. Of course everyone is unique in their own way, but as INFJs we shouldn’t take comfort in these labels because they’ll make you conform to your current life rather than aim higher, and you’ll hate yourself in the future for this. Don’t let a label comfort you. Find comfort within yourself.
INFJ-A here as well. And I was just thinking about this as well. It can be very easy to justify some things that are not necessarily helpful or beneficial to our growth in the guise of “that’s just what INFJs do I can’t change it”
*As an INFJ, you are emotional but is also strong in logical issues, but OVERTHINKING SMALL DETAILS can make you doubt yourself thus causing anxiety and trust issues. But you still try to understand others*
As another INFJ this was insanely accurate. My friends often confide in me and have given me the constant nickname of "therapist". I do my best helping others, I immerse myself in it. I have a large social circle despite being extremely introverted, and I try to retain a connection with every one of my friends despite the large amount. Even so, I find it extremely difficult to open up. So much so that I fool myself into thinking that I do sometimes.
INFJ's are interesting. Some are considered to be completely introverted and some to be extroverted. In reality, we're ambiverts. Social "chameleons" in a way. We can present as extroverted in groups and that's why being in a large social circle is pretty doable for INFJ's despite preferring smaller groups and more intimate settings with closer friends. So long as we can separate ourselves from continuous socialization. I agree with the confiding and opening things though. As much as I love helping others and them confiding in me, I feel an extreme discomfort talking about my own issues to others. Only opening up to those very, very close to me or those I can sense have similar traumas that make them kindred.
It’s so hard to open up as an infj,I open up only when i want them(my loved ones) to be vulnerable to me,so i could help them and understand them better.But no one knows my absolute secrets and struggles.
I of course am getting emotional while being up later than I should be - but could not go without saying how deeply I resonate with one of the last clips just showing the perserverance thru the rain. It’s been hard but my family and others and now myself are worth it!
This video spoke to me so much. It’s hard being so introverted yet wanting to go out there and help so many people. It’s weird because it’s almost conflicting sometimes. And the investing into hobbies and goals is so accurate too. I get burnt out sometimes if I don’t make a conscious effort to watch myself.
@@Samanthax1221 you should do an MBTI test and you will get the results. Give a true and fast answer to every question. Not all INF‘s have the same interests. You can find tests online.
@@kerstingravel8160 kersting thanks i did a few tests a year or so ago i cant remember what they were if they were MBTI tests but they came back as infj but i am not sure what that means or says about me, i feel like i am different to everyone else but i am not sure if that is my personality difference or due to trauma, is it possible trauma could cause an injf personality type, i have zero friends and never have i feel different and unlike everyone else, maybe i am just messed up or maybe its because i have some rare personality type, i would appreciate your insights,
@@Samanthax1221 th-cam.com/video/Sz3pEBA30z4/w-d-xo.htmlsi=OpM_PXY6rDGQfj73 ( this is the difference between infj a and infj t) this might could be helpful
Summary 0:00 intro 0:54 1. You tend to take an all or nothing approach to life 1:28 2. Everyone tends to gravitate towards you 2:06 3. You have a natural talent for language 2:37 4. You make decisions based on your intuition 3:01 5. You absolutely despise interpersonal conflict 3:34 6. You are concerned about what others think of you 4:03 7. You have principles etched in stones 4:54 ending
Being an INFJ I can confirm, fact I can see and feel emotions WITHOUT even having to see them. I can hear it in their voice or by the amount they talk. also being an INFJ you would have to be careful of being manipulated by people. However once you're starting to recognise manipulative behaviours you're going to get used/hurt allot less as you prevent yourself from being. However the only downside is... I personally tend to ignore myself and still get myself manipulated/used
LITERALLY EVERY WORD ON THIS COMMENT IS SOOOO TRUEEEE Wthh I literally almost screamed. I was in another room where one of my family and this person that we know were talking and I could hear them bc it was very quite. After they finished talking I was talking with my family and they were like idk what happened but I was straight away like she was obviously lying (and I was right bc the person turns out was completely lying). Up until that point I thought I could only know these things when I’m physically observing their expressions and body language but it was like I could FEEL their thoughts / intentions through the way they speak. I guess we observe in our hearing just as much as through sight.
Exactly. Everything in this comment I can relate to it It's like I know what's gonna happen, I know what they're doing to me is wrong, yet I still choose to keep on going this path
I just wanted to say thank you. I started my self journey a couple of years ago, and instead of always trying to "fix" myself and fit into society, I started taking things as a sign and figuring out why. This definitely answers a lot of the why, and helps point me in the right direction! Keep up the good work, I've been watching your channel for a while now. Back to my INFJ cave! Lol
I'm an INFJ. Before I took a personality/psychological test, I already knew that I am an introvert person. But I was surprused that my result was labeled as INFJ-T.. This video is like sharing who I am to everyone. Thank you for making this video to introduce us to everyone and for them to understand us.
Please don't take the 16personalities test, it's not an accurate Myers Briggs test and it's based off of the big five test. The term "T" (Turbulent) and "-A" (Assertive) does not exist from Carl Jung's MBTI. You should learn about the cognitive functions of the mbti types to learn more about which type you really are.
you're not an infj-t as that doesn't exist. i suggest reading up on cognitive functions if you want to know what your actual mbti is. there is no -t or -a, it's made up by 16 personalities. you're probably an fi dom if you empathize with people easier and are introverted. best of luck.
This was actually kind of encouraging for me (an INFJ). My husband is quite opposite of me and sometimes we clash because of my “etched in stone” moral compass and need for alone time. Thank you for this!
I hope people arent equating rare with valuable. It's not a pokemon card. There are such things as personality disorders. My mom is INFJ and she's a horrible mother.
@@leighcarlson87 lol precisely I’m not always a big fan of this channels just 100% victim or positive sunshine videos, there’s always two sides to positivity lol
I’ve tested multiple times over the years and always result as an INFJ. This is so relatable. I don’t think I know another INFJ so this comment section is so interesting to read. This video is spot on.
I’m an INFP, but this video is still interesting to me. I guess the other INFPs, much like INFJs, are also creative, intuitive, and tend to keep things for themselves.
i almost cried watching this.. I resonate with everything, and i learned that its okay to be like that. Its okay to not want to talk to others, in a big group. Its okay to love to be alone. Its okay not to be popular, or the one with the biggest Friend Group. I always thought i have to change myself to be more extroverted, for others to like me more. But why? There is no good and bad personality. it’s just the way it is!
exactly .. even i did feel that changing myself to extrovert would help me but then i thought its better to be a therapist for all rather than changing yourself to someone who u not are. i hv always prayed to god to make me a person who is capable of helping others and is only dependent on god. when i realized that it was being true, i dropped the idea of changing myself
So very true. I also resonated with everything and it kind of hurts in a way. This video...it's looking into a mirror. I can relate that I used to think and believe there was something wrong with me...for most of my life in fact. That sucks. To go about life believing you're broken and you need to be fixed somehow. But as a personality type this rare, you come to believe that you're the only one like you - and for that reason it's just you and the world. Now I understand it's not just me and while I am different, I'm not just broken. Sometimes I still feel broken though since people don't understand the real me. I read about these comments where two INFJs found one another and have a happy relationship and I am happy for them. I am approaching my mid 30s and wondering if I should find a way to be happy on my own but I am uncertain what that looks like. I'm talking about true happiness, not just status quo. Should I just be content with a good job? It seems like such a shallow pool I'd be standing in, telling myself this is enough. But would I believe that? Maybe given enough time. Many say they would not trade their INFJ status; good for them. I am not so sure if I had the chance. I can't seem to reconcile if the trade offs would be worth it.
@@sern.21 Every personality has different struggles. So why change? The only difference is that ours is the most rarest, but being on the internet you see sooo many INFJs that you think how is that possible to be so rare, hahah. Also happiness depends on many other things. And you cant always be happy.. I for myself learned, to accept how life is, accept all the struggles and search for the good in everything AND appreciate what you have,never forget what you have and what you already achieved. Being alive also is something to apreciate ! I wish you good luck on your journey.
@@taurus7119 Finding INFJs on the internet is easy because we're drawn to this central 'location' discussing the very nature of who we are. In the real world, on average and with all things in perfect balance, only 2 people in a room of 100 will be an INFJ. So yeah, we'll run into INFJs in the wild but only rarely and we likely will never know. So the odds of ending up in a relationship with another INFJ just seems like ridiculous odds to me lol. Imagine two INFJs finding one another in a room full of 100 people... > _Every personality has different struggles. So why change?_ That is a valid point. Trade the problems I know well for some problems I don't know well. I do try very hard to appreciate what I have and remind myself. Here's to hoping in the next 6 months I can find even more ways to appreciate where I'm at in life. Thank you and I wish you luck on your journey as well. ☮
@@taurus7119 unfortunately, I'd have to disagree I would trade my INFJ personality type for ENTJ personality type. Reasons : ENTJ is a natural leader, bold, imaginative, strategic, analytical, logical, considered to be one of the most successful personality types, so in other words, if I got a choice I'd definitely choose ENTJ Sure ENTJ isn't perfect, they struggle with emotions, can be impulsive / pushy sometimes, argumentative / stubborn, but that's a small price to pay given all the benefits of being an ENTJ Well I know I am who I am and can't change and all that. However, by the theory of behaviorism, we inherit traits from our environment, meaning I could potentially inherit some ENTJ traits by being around ENTJs in real life.
As a INFJ, I personally have a love/hate relationship with my personality, and it being rare, to be honest, only makes me feel frustrated and more lonely, which is weird because I'm person that people go to when they feel lonely or misunderstood, but at the same time, I don't want to give up on my personality either, which creates this feeling me being dissatisfied with myself, but very aware that it is just an emotion that will pass... Eventually at least that is what I hear from older INFJs.
I don't mean to make you feel bad, but it's more like you learn to get along with it. Eventually you learn to cope (and even enjoy) your lone time and your unique self. It's not like you can find people who easily gets you and INFJ tends to repel other INFJ; not because you don't like each other, more like you find where you are needed. In the end you end up being a light, not finding a light.
@@M00nban3 Thank you, your comment didn't make me feel bad, I understand what you mean by we learn to cope, and I'm fine with other INFJs oddly enough we the type can not talk for a year and come back like no time went by. 😅
I used to kinda hate myself. Still, now, I’m proud to be a Weirdo! It’s become part of me and now I’m happy I’m unique and different. After all, that means ull never find someone like u or me. I used to think I was no one but I’m happy I’m not alone. You can do this thing!
genuine infj here, this video covers everything there is about us quite well. i have trouble focusing and concentrating on things alot, writing some things down def help. i have been writing a diary for almost 5 years now and i can say that is prolly my fav thing to do ever...great video
You know, it's crazy how true people gravitating towards you is. I work in a job that tends to be a lot of socialization and interaction with others but at times I become "overwhelmed" and kind of get lost in my own mind as a way to separate myself and decompress. Despite me undoubtedly looking depressed or lost, people will come up to me, stand next to me, and start talking about their issues. I've even had people tell me that they don't know why but they almost felt compelled to talk to me about their issues. Like I exuded some kind of friendly energy and positive vibe. Coupled with loving to help them and truly loving those around me, I really find joy in these interactions. And, as crazy as it sounds, I've really grown to love and understand myself better as a result of knowing my personality type. It just can be so exhausting sometimes.
I'm honestly really proud to be an INFJ. I love to make others happy and it feels nice to make lots of friends this way. I DO get the burnout from those that put me down for my quirks and working hard on personal projects, but the support I've gotten balances it out. And like everyone else says, I thank you for giving me and other INFJs a feeling of comfort for their traits. I hope a better understanding for most people could be widespread.
I am an INFJ-T, who is also highly sensitive and a high avechier, I can relate. I have realised that I can change hobbies (so people will love me more) but when someone is questioning my inner values and principles, I get mad easily. I try to please everyone and this also makes me concerned about what others think of me, this is also why I am so quilet sometimes, because I calculate what I will say or not say anything in the fear of someone thinking something bad about me, about my attidute, about my grades (They are very used to me having straight A's) about my voice tone and literally everything I do. "Go hard or go home" relatable, even it is for fun, I try to be the best. Then accuse myself for being "selfish". It is hard for me to speak my emotions, due to my fear of being judged, I usually write or tell it to my non-existent imaginary friends. Here in my country, the president is making a social Media law that doesn't allow us to speak our opinions. (the truth) and if I was older, I swear I would show how I disagree to this law. Yes, there are struggles of being an INFJ, but they have the capasity to change the world, don't worry, INFJ's!
Im an infj-t too, honestly all of these is so accurate to me that it scares me, it really is relatable, i thought im the only one who has this personality honestly
I am an INFJ, and I teared listening to this video. So misunderstood and keep trying to be better while others may take advantage of it. Have to learn to be tougher to others, especially because only being tough to those you love will help them grow. Man thank you for doing this, love the comments here!
You are not INFJ. IT DOESNT EXIST. ITS FAKE. IT WAS MADE UP BY 2 WOMEN WITH NO QUALIFICATIONS. this entire personality type shit was invented by people like this Disgusting you tuber to Abuse and exploit children into thinking its real and giving them money and attention. it litterally has 0 basis in any kind of science. its just fake. or do you really think you as an individual human are so easily defineable? of course not. you are a unique being not some combination of letters.
As an INFJ, I personally relate to everything that was mentioned in the video at the same time I don't. It's probably due to the fact that I'm a turbulent advocate. The all-or-nothing part got me developing a perfectionist attitude that usually annoys everyone. I'm usually self-destructive but I can still give a sound intuitive advice, and topped with the easy burnouts, people usually come to me and disappears the next day. I do openly and freely want to help but sometimes that really kind of hurt me knowing people only comes to me whenever THEY need help and can't be bothered the next when the tables have turned. Also, I unintentionally communicate really well and say the things they want to hear at the spur-of-the-moment but whenever I try to think of things to say I end up resetting all the social skills I supposedly have and it's extremely frustrating. I also don't like how I feel concerned about what others think of me while I self-destruct and not sleep, eat and work well. That feeling that I know I can do something for myself but when I attempt to do it, I don't feel like doing it anymore. All these about myself makes so much sense to me at the same time it doesn't which is aggravating since I know I have to face this alone because no one else is there to help me. :/
That’s pretty similar to what used to happen to me. Sorry your having to go through all of this alone. Idk if ull see this but I’d just like to say that u can do this thing. I rly like the comment section of this vid cuz everyone pours their heart out. Maybe u can find advice.
This is me. Its so frustrating they only want you as a stress release or quick therapy session. I still always help but lately i was the one in crisis and found no one was there in return. It can be overwhelming how much i take in. The world is heavy these days
i'm an infj and the part where you talked about wanting to leave people better off after interacting with you resonated with me on a personal level. i really do feel bad if i think that an interaction left a bad taste in the mouth of someone i care about.
I am an INFJ-T. Growing up I always set very high standards for myself and would go into a meltdown if I didn't preform to my expectations. My parents always tried to reassure me that "You tried and did you best, that is okay." but to me it never was. I never understood why I was always this way until I took the MBTI. To say I am introverted is an understatement, I like being in my own little world, taking time to rest up and focus on my hobbies/interests. This video really hit the nail on the head for me. Thank you for your great content. Can't wait to learn more about the INFJ personality.
Yes I’m the one everyone tells their deep secrets too. Great responsibility. I always worry that I might let them out and hurt them. Even people who dislike me tell stuff 🤨 I wasn’t surprise when I was told I was an INFJ - I always remember feeling other peoples disappointment hurt and sadness. Even have animals come to me for help.
Totally agree and I agree with the animals too I’ve always had a special bond with them and feel like I can understand them for the most part love my animals
I am as true of an INFJ as you can be. Just figuring this out has changed my life immensely. I never understood why I didn’t fit in. I have done so much Introspection on my personality type, and understanding myself has helped me navigate the world in a completely different way. With more confidence and acceptance. ❤
*I AM INFJ AND THIS IS VERY DEEP. I CAN RELATE TO ALL OF THESE THINGS (ESPECIALLY THINKING WHAT OTHERS THINK OF YOU OR OPPOSING EVEN THE LEADER JUST TO FOLLOW THE RIGHT THING OR OUR REAL PURPOSE AND THE ONE WHO IS PRIVATE BUT READY TO LISTEN). I CAN RELATE TO THEM ALL* *MAYBE WE ARE RARE AND I STRUGGLED ON IT. BUT THAT DOESN'T MEAN THERE AREN'T, SO HELLO FELLOW INFJ!*
Team Introvert all the way! For me as an INFJ myself, I feel like I can relate to all of what was explained in this video, but despite all the bad things that might happen, I will always try to stay positive whenever possible. Sometimes, it doesn't always work out and I just break down and feel really bad and blame myself about what happened, but I won't let that feeling control me. This is why I find doing art is really calming. I feel like this video is very accurate.
I am an INFJ and lol never knew it's so rare. These videos makes me feel special 💀😂 Edit-Everyone please don't start a fight here,Ik we are same,you can comment that but I have just stated my opinion so don't come for INFJs😭
I took a school personality test and I got istj I think but with the options I had I couldn't really explain how I felt. I actually related to mostly INFJ when I tried watching other videos and I think I know what I am now, this video is a huge help. Thanks for helping me find my personality type, it's a blessing, and a curse because of the perfectionist part of us.
Honestly the most accurate way to find your personality type based on cognitive functions, I was mistyped as a INFP. I felt i couldn’t exactly relate to them so I decided to do a research on cognitive functions it turned out I was a INFJ, fellow Reddit users helped me too haha
The classic truth seeking through research, very Ni-Ti in fashion. No assumptions to justify you being otherwise. Did the same myself through months of painstaking research, trying to deny being one (did not work). Have to admit being one...
I got INFP-T in 16personalities (SURPRISE!!🥳, like everyone) and knowing about functions I knew I have Ne, so I was an XNXP and I still with the INFP, then I thought that my Ne was too strong to be at the second place, so I was an ENXP and I continue with the ENFP. Everything to finally decide that I was an ENTP. So even knowing about functions is a long way getting to know your true type but 16personalities doesn't give any information
@@laomedeia5957 ah that is quite the long path from INFP-T to ENTP :,D but also having a bit of knowledge on functions makes me feel a bit more “sure” about it too *the process of learning functions was something too, for me at least
For me personally, I feel that being an infj is "special" and yet not, because you can never truly categorize someone into a "personality type" because everyone has different experiences and mindsets (although some are similar). I have taken personality tests multiple times and every time I've gotten infj, but I feel that "assigning" four letters to a person can take away from that person's core being. All of this may be useless nonsense, but I felt like sharing today so here you go.
You are a matured one :) Your writing patterns are the classic. Those that are happy of being confirmed, still have a looonnnngggg ways to go. Considering that many in the media with their initial discovery, are younger individuals. Those that can recognise the limitations of this personality theory, are the ones already outgrowing it.
In fact, if you know the subject of personalities in depth, you are aware that the four letters are just something indicative, which shows thoughts, behaviors, etc. which are more frequent in certain individuals in a very general way. To give an example: I am an INFJ and everything that was said in the video made me exclaim "but she is really talking about me!" because they are behaviors and thoughts that INFJs have in common, but I can be different from another INFJ because I could be more or less Introverted, Intuitive, etc. and of course everyone has their own life experiences.
@@thatonetitan8456 they are very similar to ENFJ and INTJ at the same time They are just something between them and nothing special because of rarity Peoples treat them as a superhumans But they are normal They just feel like aliens But in this way can also think other intuitive type I'm ENFJ or maybe INFJ. But cannot decide for now But soon I will discover this mystery
@@nixtrid2282 Easy enough to figure out.. does talking to people drain your energy, or energize you? INFJ is probably the most social of introverts, but too much will make any introvert start begging for some alone time. People often think I'm an extrovert, but I'd die without my writing, painting, sculpting and playing music
time stamps for those who need them! --- 1- 0:54 You tend to take an all-or-nothing approach to life. 2- 1:28 everyone tend to gravitate towards you. 3- 2:07 you have a natural talent for language. 4- 2:37 you make decisions based on your intuition. 5- 3:02 you absolutely despise interpersonal conflict. 6- 3:35 you are concerned about what others think of you. 7- 4:04 you have principles etched in stone. i hope everyone has a blessed day/night ty for all this amazing content!!
I am INFJ Advocate . This video is a blessing. I can relate to every single point mentioned here. Now, understood a lot of things about me. And I won't force myself to change myself from now on. Enough of self doubt, it's time for self-care. I really appreciate your effort for making such insightful content.
discovering INFJ as my personality type was a major stepping stone in understanding myself and why everything just feels so ridiculously complicated. it's like you have a very conflicting set of drives that creates a unique view on life, but are opposite focus points. The strongest 'pilot' for INFJ's is introverted intuition. They perceive and analyse everything, they are driven by their inner complex worlds and conclusions of those constructs, but their second pilot is extraverted feeling, which has to do with understanding others beyond mere perception, both the functionality of that other as a individual and a group, usually neglecting inner needs based on feeling, for the greater good of the exterior/group. it's like you are in a constant battle between your focus points. :'-)
As an INFJ, I see all of these within myself. It can be tiring trying to balance everything all the time, but I'm overall happy with the hand I've been dealt in life. I also really like writing! It's a really fun way for me to channel my thoughts and feelings into something fun, new and creative that I can share with others! It makes me genuinely happy to write stories and it's always been a big passion of mine.
I love writing too!! It's so relaxing to write out what I'm feeling and thinking. Also sharing it or re reading my words always brings me joy and clarity 😇
I think as I've gotten older (45 now) some of these things have changed - especially fearing what others think of you. I am in a lot of turmoil if I have HURT somebody, but I have outgrown the need for everybody to be pleased by what I have to say. I do work in advocacy - I'm here for the rights of the vulnerable, not to make friends with people who are going to work against me. If you hate me, it's probably because I'm being effective. When I was younger, though, the thought of disappointing others was devastating.
MBTI is not perfect it does not include the two crucial and very dangerous personalities the Sociopath and Psychopath which are common, can mask themselves like INFJs
This was very insightful! And the part about literature and writing...SO ACCURATE. I'm a INFJ and I write deep novels mainly focusing on each character's inner thoughts and turmoils. So many other things hit home as well!
Thanks for understanding us so well. I've taken the test four times and I've always got INFJ. I figured that probably why i feel so different than the rest of the bunch, and i never could socialize without feeling awkward. I realize it's ok though. I understand people, i like challenging myself, i never stop trying, but most importantly I care about everyone. Not many people see this from me though, so seeing you describe us so accurately? It feels nice.
A few years ago, I took a personality test and turned out to be INFJ. I took another one this year and it still turns out to be the same! Your channel is very insightful and inspiring. Thank you so much for talking about this!
As an INFJ this is so accurate for me. I always felt like no one really understood me or that I was feeling so lonely, or something was wrong with me cause people weren’t like me but it does make sense that it’s rare for people being INFJs cause that’s why it has been hard and rare to connect with people who’s just like me and understands me. I love to help other people and their issues, while I hate talking about my issues. And also, love to be alone to do my favorite hobbies or to be with a small group who i’m comfortable hanging out with but that’s very rare. Mostly it’s the family i’m comfortable with though.
As a matter of fact INFJ’s actually like going outside to hang out they are more like the extroverted introverts rather that fully introverted. But good.
How can others do a better job to let I share yrself and what’s the things u do when u are alone ? (Thx I’m INTP, have INFJ friend, want to be a better friend)
I am also an INFJ, and this video certainly confirmed it lol. I’ve taken the test usually once a year and alway get INFJ, and I’m 25 now so guess it’s set lol. I felt heard with this video! Reading other’s comments was interesting too, it’s funny how people disconnected around the world are all facing similar struggles because of a personality type we all share. Shout-out to the other INFJ’s!!
I'm an INFJ and I relate to all of these full heartedly, there was nothing in this video that I disagreed with. I'm also an Aries so I take a head first all or nothing approach all the time! Everyone definitely gravitates towards me, I often feel like a confessions lol, they come to me for advice or venting all the time, I have multiple hobbies, I have a knack for learning languages, I follow my heart and intuition 98% of the time, I can't stand when someone is insincere and likes to debate and argue, I consider others feelings all the time and tend to their needs before my own, I enjoy seeing others be able to grow and better themselves on their own, I have strong morals and values and I'm not easily convinced otherwise, it's nearly impossible to change my mind on certain things. When I love I love deeply, and I value deep connections over superficial ones. I value honest, truth and loyalty, and I do not bode well with deceitful and two faced people. They can keep their personalities to themselves and I wish them the best in life but I will not be included in theirs. I also frequently feel misunderstood. and so on :) Thanks for the video! They ending of keep it civil and INFJ might stop in was cute hahaha.
I got the result of being an INFJ multiple times and I relate to most attributes. The only thing I don't think I am is an introvert. I always thought of myself as an extrovert but in the past like 2 years I've realized that it strongly depends on the people I'm surrounded with and how comfortable I am with them. When I'm surrounded by people who make me feel off, I feel drained after a short period of time and need some alone time. But when I'm with people who make me feel good and accepted, I get really loud and outgoing and I could go on forever. I guess it kinda fits into the "feeling the vibes and acting accordingly" category of this personality type. I'm proud to be an INFJ tbh
For me, its like im COMPLETELY extroverted around people who talk to me, even if they have only ever said one thing to me, but being in a social setting in general is absolutely terrifying (social anxiety for me). However, if someone even comes up and starts the conversation with me, its like they break the dam and it all comes flooding out LOL. I’m both introverted and extroverted
I completely relate to this on every level, its the same with me I would say I'm extroverted as I'm really confident with socialising with others and I could honestly be around people who I connect with all day put people who aren't on the same level I can't be around for long at all and would much rather be alone
I’m so proud to be an INFJ! I have trouble with friends because when I don’t know enough about them, I find it hard to stay passionate around them. I want a friend that i know A LOT about and agrees with my perspective and such. I struggle with my friends now because even though I see them everyday I don’t know a lot about them and they are so different from me. It’s nice to know that I got a special personality, though! But it also adds to the pressure to put it to use. When I heard that the biggest fear to an INFJ was not putting in their full potential I couldn’t agree more. I’m scared I won’t be able to make the lasting impact I want to in this world, of course I have a lot of time since I’m a young teenager, but I’m scared I won’t be able to do what I feel I am in this world to do. Like what others say, being an INFJ is wonderful, but it’s also awful. I don’t think I would want to be anything else, though.
My therapist told me that I'm an INFJ and possibly traits of ENFP I'm actually bawling my eyes out watching this. I've been struggling. BAD. I can't stop crying. I feel like I'm just withering away. Thank you for posting this. I'm genuinely searching, searching to be loved, searching for my real purpose, searching for normalcy... Just. Searching. God Bless. ❤
As an INFJ, I felt really inspired and identified. Yes, we somehow find easy to help others, and not just that, it is part of our identity, a part of our happiness, but we are very misunderstood by others. We are a very rare personality and also introverted, this are some of the reasons why we feel like we don’t belong, but that doesn’t mean we are a piece of the puzzle that doesn’t fit, is just that we are different, and that’s okay!! Once you get to know us, you’ll love us! Our personality is like a beautiful rainbow with an secret inner, noisy storm. I loved this video, it made me understand myself a bit more (self-knowledge), each day you learn something new. 😁
As an INFJ, this video has helped me understand more about my personality type and has highlighted behaviours I never knew I naturally did, but can now think of solid examples of me doing so. Thanks
I’ve taken the quiz 3 different times (twice the same one and the 3rd time a different test) and I got INFJ on all of them. I tried to be truthful and honest as much as I could be. Honestly, I know this is considered to be a Pseudo science, but I felt soooo understood once I read all the details. I’m happy to be an INFJ, I know certain aspects of my life are immensely challenging, but I love who I am and what I can do, and what I can bring to peoples lives. 👁️🔥I am considered to be eccentric, but I cherish that about myself.
Took the MBTI test many years ago and I came up as an INFJ. This video describes me quite accurately! I even found that I’m very secretive about my personal life, yet everyone else is opening up to me left and right! Writing fiction has been a very good vent for me, inserting parts of myself into stories as inspiration. I’ve had people in my life who tried to break down my psyche to change my personality, but I proved to be too stubborn in my beliefs and moral views to cave to their manipulative tactics. Said person is an expert manipulator who outright said I’m one of the hardest people he ever had to crack. I take away a sense of pride from that. :3
As an INFJ-T, who's also a highly sensitive person, I recognise myself in all of these traits. And I can confirm that life can be very challenging at times. I often feel overwhelmed by emotions - not only mine, but the emotions of others as well - and I find it very hard to find an "anchor" to keep me grounded. I have GAD and social anxiety due to the fact that I always try to please other people. And obviously when I fail, I feel miserable and I go into panic mode. It can be very, very, veeery consuming but it's also beautiful. I don't think I would change the way I can look at the world around me, because - in spite of all the struggle - I like being so much in contact with emotions. I feel that it makes me a much more complex person and this is one of my best qualities in my opinion.
As an INFJ-T who has GAD and social anxiety as well, I completely agree! When I don't meet someone else's expectations I think about it for days on end and cringe at the thought of it and it makes me feel physically sick to my stomach too
I am an INFJ. I’m 57 and I’ve felt very misunderstood my whole life. The emotions I feel for myself and others can be overwhelming at times. I have learned to accept myself and appreciate my uniqueness in the world .
There is no A/T in MBTI. There is a high chance you took a test which is likely to be incorrect. I advice you to learn the cognitive functions to type yourself- Intj
@@randomperson1658 Thank you friend; I took the test multiple times and I'm pretty satisfied with the result! I don't recognise at all in INTJ, so I'll stick with the result depicted above.
This gave me so much clarity. I keep being told I'm weird for being alone and working on the things I love. Also agree on the principles or morals part. I never get swayed in doing something I don't like.
So true everything about this video....being an INFJ personality....no one in my class really understand me well if they have been close to me yet...and yes we do take things on our emotion.... that's why I'm very sad sometimes 🙂 A great video ❤!!
I'm pretty surprised that you can really open everything what I feel in this video, ngl pretty scary but also awesome in the same time! Keep up the good work Psych2Go!
To be honest, since I was little I felt like nobody could understand me, not even my closest friends But the problem was I didn’t want to be seen as a pathetic loser that was constantly sad, I always pretended to be happy and quirky so that people could see me differently. My family doubted me for being to introverted and “too sensitive” and that made me sad knowing I was different. Nowadays I always hear people saying things like “being different is good, it makes you unique!” Whenever i hear phrases like that I feel sad knowing I’d rather be the same as everyone else. I remember once I didn’t want to go up and do prayer in front of the class but this boy, Ben, called me a shy, introverted loser and it mad made me feel really, really sad. I hope some of you guys can relate to me :)
Me too always feel like it's no point to tell my stuffs to close friends even tho they are close friends but even close friends and family members won't be able to understand. It's true that on some days this can be very sad but on the other day you just need to let yourself embrace and have a different focus point. I once thought I found one people that can understand me fully and got myself too deep into it and when things went ugly the hurt for INFJs are double. So instead of focusing on others' point of view (which is what we spent too much caring) we should focus on making ourselves contented!
As an ifnj, we seek significant relationships, including family members. When we found out people around us are not cherishing this relationship as we do, we would rather feel disappointed (which in the eyes of them we are being sensitive). Clearly there is no right or wrong about this. It is your own behaviours. Just always remember to remind yourself you needed to be loved too, which is to care more about your own feeling.
@@inoriyamay I know why no body understand ? Is not rocket and science… What don’t they understand ? Plz tell me , I have an INFJ friend , what to understand better, thx
Meanwhile, I as well took the test three times However, the result was always different (one of them was INFJ) 😑 However, each of those three do compliment my personality 😊
Idk if I am an INFJ because I haven’t taken a personality test yet, but here’s some things about myself; 1. I used to be crazy dedicated to improving my speed for speedcubing (speedcubing is solving the rubik’s cube within a matter of seconds), and i’d practice new algorithms so much and i’d get faster each time, and i’d always challenge myself to beat my personal record. I was never satisfied until i hit a sub-15s time. After a little over 2 years of doing that, I got really burnt out and didn’t practice as much anymore. 2. I have a crush on this South Korean girl in my class at uni (im a 22yo Malaysian male), and I have been writing a personal diary to document my thoughts and feelings. I feel that this was the best way of capturing what I am experiencing and reading back on them always made me smile because I know I wrote them from my heart. 3. Relating back to point number 2, i often worry about what my crush thinks of me after all the interactions we’ve had together, both in-person and through text. I try to forget that worry, but she is someone special to me and her feelings automatically become important to me. 4. I listen very carefully whenever a friend is sharing his or her story, and i never interject in between.
So I really am an INFJ.. This is totally me. I've always felt like I'm different than the others of my family and friends. Sometimes that difference felt like odd and weird. I really hated being like that. It's so hard to be open up to people and talk about what I have on my mind. Writing makes me feel much better. I wanna write a book one day but for my lack of confidence, I always gave up in the midst of writing. Hope I can somehow finish writing a book one day. I don't want anyone to understand me cause it's very hard but I just hope they won't find me weird and let me live my life like this. And hope they'll see the good I'm trying to do. Also I must mention that you have a very warm and nice soothing voice that can make someone's day better :)
taking the test and getting my results that i am an infj, and watching this just solidifies that i really am this personality type. as and infj its hard to find and keep good friends who want to hear you out and stick around for not wanting to open up so easily. also the raging anxiety you get when you are around new people and don’t know how they feel/ think about you.
First-- I'm very grateful to have, at this late stage, come across my own personality type, since I always suspected something like it but never had a description. Many things make much more sense to me now. Second-- and I mean absolutely nothing untoward saying this, or any sexism or disrespect-- the woman narrating the video has the most delicious and feminine voice I've ever heard. My compliments to her! Wishing each of you well.
I have been taking more personality tests in my MFA courses because I'm close to getting my online teaching certification. Testing as an INFJ gave me more insight to what kind of teacher I can be as long as I balance my expectations, establish professional boundaries and avoid burnout. Thanks for the upload!
@@Psych2go I definitely related to the video, especially about the love of language. I have a BA in English Language and Literature and enjoy writing 5-minute poems for friends and family.
As an INFJ here, I feel this was all very spot on relatable! 😯 Also, I love the cute animations 😄 It’s kind of hard sometimes with it being a rare personality type, not many people out there to relate.
They understand everyone. But no one understands them. The INFJ personality truly is a major gift that comes at a major price.
It is certainly a double edged sword.
Very much so , it’s a balance taht is scary
Thank you! I'm INFJ and I think I'm not special
Unfortunately Ur Right we’re blessed but also cursed
Yep
As an INFJ, I must say that we feel like we don't have the right to speak about our problems, and even if We do when the other person doesn't give us the response we are searching for, they make us feel like we are overreacting. We keep complicating things in our head, but honestly, it is very special to be an INFJ.
true but its not like we complicate things we are emotional and think a lot but they see us complicated and ultimately when you share your feelings and thoughts and they don't understand what we are going through it's an insult and then boom blunder
@@bangtanfriends4977 Yeah, Exactly.
“We feel like we don’t have the right to speak about our problems”. WOW. That’s so true. I always feel like my situation is not as bad as others so I have no right to complain. I work hard and demand a lot from myself, but I feel like this is how we’re all expected to live so I don’t look for a better job. My grades are pretty good but I always feel stupid and lazy and won’t be good at the career I’m dreaming of.
@@nettaboyar9870 yoooo, wanna vent of smth? I'll be happy to hear whatever you have.
Great reflection!
1. You tend to take an all or nothing approach to life
2. Everyone tends to gravitate towards you
3. You have a natural talent for language
4. You make decisions based on your intuition
5. You absolutely despise interpersonal conflict
6. You are concerned about what others think of you
7. You have principles etched in stones
INFJ
We are the quiet ones
Artists and world changers
Musicians speaking through lyrics
Truth tellers and people relators
When the soul can no longer be insulted
Gave love, but it was not given back
Taken advantage of by lost souls
Those who wage a vicious attack
Take back our true power
We are here to tell it to you straight
Don't want your toxic behavior
It's all about love and not about hate
What you ask, we will give
No problem in giving you advice
If you don't listen and keep coming back
Cut you off without thinking twice
Shades of grey between black and white
And if you fail to understand
We won't please you if you can't please us
Piss off with your controlling demands
You can be you, I'll always be me
Don't tell me who you think I am
Not in the mood for your judgment
Because I no longer give a damn
@@TheDarkness1 Dammmm ✨✨ that's beautiful. It is totally I can relate
@@TheDarkness1 This relates to me so much. I'm an INFP-T instead though
@@tenzinlhak12 No longer afraid to say what the rest of us are thinking....
Spitting Bullets
An animal, locked in a cage
Spitting bullets, fueling rage
Fangs of a wolf
Wisdom of a sage
An enemy you don't want to fight
Spank you, remind you of your age
Platinum tongue, breathing fire
Charm even your mother would admire
Come back stronger, always a fighter
You wanna smite me, go-ahead almighty smiter
Words that cut your ego like a knife
You wanna stay or run for your life?
No character assassination, just tell it to you straight
Lock your mind in a coffin, final nail in your fate
Bite is worse than the bark
All challengers accepted
Tuck your tail between your legs
You will be torn apart
Seriously had enough of this shit
Step over the line, be ready to commit
Push all your buttons
Your twisted logic doesn't compute
Final blow completely exposes you
You'll turn into a mute
No comebacks, unless it's calling me names
Look in the mirror, just a window to shame
You think you are a wizard, but I'll pull back the curtain
Find that scared little child
Cowering and uncertain
Walls gonna rattle, slam the door
When I'm done, you'll be left crying on the floor
Get up baby, go grab a tissue
You want to get offended? Go-ahead, it's not my issue
Exploit your insecurities, seal your own demise
The worst of human excrement, a delicacy for flies
@@Alpha125 P.S. an infp-t is not the alpha wolf.
An infj’s life is one of quiet suffering.
Some of us thrive, others go mad from all the things we know.
that is where the self-care is important; we are empaths most of the time so we cannot allow ourselves to be drain by seeking to offer balance to others. In the ensure self-care we must be selfish.
When I found out I was an INFJ I finally understood why I always felt a little different and why no one in my family ever understood me.Also, I was always labelled as weird since they are all extroverted. The conflict thing kills me. I literally suffer for days and I still find myself mulling over arguments years later. I like who I am but its not easy being an INFJ surrounded by people who think you are "too sensitive" so those me-time breaks are so important. I might share this video with people in the future who want to understand me better.
I can relate to you, I usually feel that my family is a group of individuals that understand one another better. While, for me I wonder why I'm so different (alien). I love helping them no matter what, but feel that when I ask for understanding they don't and think wrongly. I am rooting for all INFJ's out there to don't feel lonely. I always think I am a unique jewel around my family, even if they misunderstand me.
True that me time is soooo important
True. i can relate to this. sometimes i feel like why i am getting everyone but no one is getting me. and yes me time is most important to charge up
It be like that
So quirky
Being an INFJ is like a blessing and a curse. My INFJ experience on the blessing part is that I have hope in life. I think that life is beautiful even though their are bad things in it. Those don't last long. I can also live in the moment. Being an INFJ can make you understand the beauty of life. However, the curse is that we're perfectionist and when things dont get done we feel unmotivated. I have a love/hate relationship with myself
FACTS. It’s such a strong long for the world but an absolute hate does linger with our everyday.
That's me so often
Same😭
My thoughts exactly, fellow INFJ.
No matter how many times I've tested for this, it always results INFJ. Recently, my current boyfriend also had INFJ results after multiple trials. It's both a blessing and a curse to be INFJs. We're both very sensitive about each other's feelings and often have the same principles and outlooks in life. We also have a very keen sense of deciphering people's personalities. It surprises us how we always have common opinions about people. We work harmoniously around the house. No need to discuss roles, the division of work just flows. The downside is that we also both have the same flaws. We much prefer to be with our own company when in a big group of people, so people would think we're weird or family members would think us uncooperative. We either procrastinate a lot on our tasks or we zone out whenever we're so focused on doing something that we can't notice when the other is calling to us. We've both reflected on our good and bad traits and remind each other when we're leaning towards our bad habits again. My favorite part of the day is when both of us share this common silence in a room and we both get to do our hobbies in peace. Occasionally looking up to the other to check if we're doing okay.
Sounds wonderful :) I’m happy u found someone meant for u.
can you send me the link for the test
@@ethereal222716personalities, just obviously with the com.
Sounds perfect
That's so sweet ❤
Put a ring on it and sign the contract already 😆
I'm an INFJ. I indeed am a great listener. I keep my secrets to myself and I never open up. Everything in this video is true. It's hard to make others understand us. My favourite point is about how everyone gets drawn to us. This is the most accurate thing ever. All we do is just stare at them or maybe nothing and they already start liking us. One of the popular girls made me sit next to her because she wanted me to befriend her. Many people tell that I'm a bit mysterious as I always listen to others and barely share anything about myself. I have the rarest type of INFJ and I'm proud of that.
That's sooo true!!! I always feel like people don't care if i talk and only i can understand myself so i stick to being a listener ... it's a blessing and a curse..and you're sooo right people have asked me why i always listen and never talk!!!! Gosh i feel understood
I'm an older INFJ, so the following words are for my fellow, younger INFJs: yes, the way in which you experience your life will likely be vastly different than they way others around you will experience their lives. Yes, you will usually feel like an alien in this world even though you'll be a chameleon in your everyday interactions at work, etc. Just know that if you live in your truth, guard your heart and share with people who have earned your trust and loyalty, you will be surrounded and valued for who you are, just the way you are. Stay humble and curious. Surround yourself with those who encourage and inspire you, embrace and enforce healthy boundaries (you can still love hard-to-love people without having to be in direct relationship with them), don't be guilted into things that don't sit right with you (use and hone your intuition -- the more you do, the more you'll live in harmony with everything and everyone and, most importantly, with yourself), and don't be afraid because life does get better the more you become your true, essential self.
thank u)
As an older INFJ who has only recently started learning about it, and my related HSP traits, I wish someone had told me exactly what you said forty years ago. My life would have been so much more fulfilling, and the people around me wouldn't be so confused trying to relate to me. It's so easy to hurt, and be hurt, when no one understands. I wish there were an easy way to reach all the INFJ's out there with your wise words. Thank you for sharing them.
I would highly recommend confronting all of the things that make you nervous or angry head on, other people will fall in line if you simply show them the path that you have carefully navigated for them.
It doesn't require you to do anything other than what you have deemed necessary. Monkey see, monkey do will take over. Don't take my word for it, do the right thing, the hard thing in each moment and watch what the people around you often start doing.
Thanks mate ;)
I just wanted someone that shared the same ideas and visions the way I do :( I would feel less lonely
1) all or nothing
2) people open up to u
3) natural talent for language
4) decision based on intuition
5) despise interpersonal conflicts
6) concerned about what others think of u
7) principles etched in stone
As an ISFJ, I am all of those things. I’m confused lol
@@AS-dw9oe Dont get confused 🤣. Just go with the flow .
INFJ
We are the quiet ones
Artists and world changers
Musicians speaking through lyrics
Truth tellers and people relators
When the soul can no longer be insulted
Gave love, but it was not given back
Taken advantage of by lost souls
Those who wage a vicious attack
Take back our true power
We are here to tell it to you straight
Don't want your toxic behavior
It's all about love and not about hate
What you ask, we will give
No problem in giving you advice
If you don't listen and keep coming back
Cut you off without thinking twice
Shades of grey between black and white
And if you fail to understand
We won't please you if you can't please us
Piss off with your controlling demands
You can be you, I'll always be me
Don't tell me who you think I am
Not in the mood for your judgment
Because I no longer give a damn
im an INFP and all of these can be applied to me
I can definately relate to 2, 3, 4, 5, 6, and 7. Only reazon I'm not 1 is I'm just lazy.😅
As an INFJ, I found the whole video extremely accurate. My social anxiety makes me immensely introverted, but what mostly helps me fight it is by helping other people, no matter if it's family, friends, or even strangers. Kindness and empathy will always be the biggest strengths in my eyes.
Agreed, though kindness becomes your biggest weakness if you live in a hell environment
@@aaravthehaterofluck7427
I understand completely and I'm grateful for your advice. Thankfully, I don't live in a hell environment. Plus, when it comes to kindness, I mostly like to be empathetic.
For example, a few months ago, I went to have my haircut, and a few seats away, there was a 2 year-old boy screaming in fear. His parents were trying to comfort him as the barber tried to cut his hair. Immediately, my heart was breaking for him, because when I was his age, I was exactly the same.
However, I noticed that the barber was selling bags of sweets for charity, and that gave me an idea. Once my haircut was finished, I bought a bag. Then, the difficult part was for me to push my social anxiety aside and give the bag of sweets to one of the parents and explain to them how I knew how their son felt.
And I did. I walked up, gave the sweets to the mum, explained how I was the same when I was 2 years old, and wanted to let the boy feel safe and calm. Both her and the dad were so emotionally happy. Later on, a letter was posted through the door, and it was a thank you card from them. I've kept it close to my heart ever since.
Sorry if this comment seemed quite long.
@@HealingSpirit415 it wasn’t long and I have the exact same instinct but it has became my weakness quite a lot of times and by hell environment I meant no one caring about us at all but I think I am just pathetic. I have already gone past hell in my life I think it won’t occur anymore
Also I am not English first so I would probably be trash at English sorry
Same I feel you, I'm a INFJ too
@@emoselohW which country do you live in?
Being an INFJ is all 100% pain or 100% happiness. I know this from experience
I actually became emotional watching this. I've gotten INFJ results after testing several times over the years. I have always felt different. I feel like I see things entirely different than everyone else. And I value my differing perspectives a lot, but at the same time, I feel so alone. Being an INFJ is a blessing and a curse. This video did a great job at helping me feel less isolated. 💕
Cap 🧢
I relate so much to this comment!
I feel like I'm almost a INFJ personality but the hobby thing I don't know about
This comment express my feelings so well🥺
Hislerime tercüme oldu bu yorum 💜
Exactly!
i’m an INFJ and i’ve really struggling with friendships, especially throughout highschool because they all felt superficial.. i’m also currently studying psychology!!
Ahaha so true! Same 😄
Superficial friendships are really hard to deal with!!! I dont want to be seen as a snobby person but I really don't like to waste my time and breath on superficial conversations 😨 the struggle is real
this! i only had 4-5 friends from high school which feels so sad and miserable. and good luck on your study.
Literally same, to the T 😂
Me with a solid 1 friend in high school lmao
“INFJ is the rarest personality type”
100 million people on YT: “omg that is so me!”
Psych2Go: Craps out inaccurate content and confuses people by not properly studying mbti cognitive functions.
FR
out of 8 billion people, that is-
Perhaps this so called rarest personalities of INFJ only applied to usa, In Asia, I actually found plenty of my acquitance are INFJ tho. I guess is the culture differences in different society breed different proportion of personalities among the population.
Ya because personality test tells about people on a broader sense and many people who have different personality can find each other relatable afterall personality type don't draw strict line so people should go for a personality test rather than just deciding it by only knowing some traits of the personality
I'm tearing up watching this. As an INFJ, my heart feels warmed. It feels like someone knows what we go through, as though they just dug into our lives and know exactly what goes on. Being an INFJ is beautiful. But being beautiful is what every personality is as well
As an INFJ, this is so accurate. I gain energy and positivity from comforting or helping others! I am super kept to myself but around others, I put my troubles away so I can help another person avoid troubles I may have faced. Sometimes it's hard for others to get me but I will know what they mean if they try to explain something personal to me. INFJ'S, UNITE!
edit: Please note that this is definitely not accurate for all and I am just stating from my personal opinion and experience! Thank you.
Yea
That's so true
I do very much think we all need to come together and be friends lol I would love to know more about other INFJs in this world!
Same!
I belong this stste all of me
being an INFJ is hard especially when you grew up in a family who blackmails, gaslight, guilt trip and narcissist, manipulator relatives and will blame u for their wrong actions literally victim blaming. My life has been full of trauma in this toxic household and being Infj is a blessing to me, it makes me stand on the right path.
Sorry about this. you got this!
@@Psych2go thank you! ❤️
carter yeah, until now the situation is still the same but some things got better maybe because I matured more, however, I'm still an INFJ like before. As an INFJ I learned how to handle/ surpass situations even if it hurts cause deep inside I have a soft heart, but being an INFJ is a blessing to me, I hope to u too as well. We INFJ]'s are rather unique than the rest hehe that's why ik that we got this. :>
Why is it always us infjs? 😭
I went trough the same thing. I was raised by a narcissist grandmother, abandoned by my mother and neglected by my father. I kinda see this pattern in INFJs.
Sometimes I think that for you to became a INFJ (and most intuitives) you have to suffer a little bit more than others.
Cheers to all INFJs. Please take care of yourself too. 💕
Ah thanks, we appreciate it.
You are right 😅
You too :-) have a blessed day
Thanks. I appreciate it.
Thanks, but you take care of yourself too.
As an INFJ, this truly described me.
Great listener and ppl open up to me but a private person myself, very hard to share something about myself to others & so ppl doesn't understand me most of the time.
It feels great to read the comments and see fellow INFJ❤
Having a wife with this trait makes me feel incredibly honored. I’m glad I’ve come to understand it more and more through the years. Treat them with gentleness and respect, they are precious and life giving
this is so cute :') I wish my future husband will feel like this asdfghjkl 😂
This is so cute wish you guys the best :)
You better feel honoured, we are awsome
Your wife is very luckily to have someone who tries to understand you and appreciate who you are.
Jonah Ullman How absolutely beautiful. Just lovely!
Fellow INFJ here, I think all we want is mutual respect and a harmonious world.
Blessings to you both 🌈
INFJ
We are the quiet ones
Artists and world changers
Musicians speaking through lyrics
Truth tellers and people relators
When the soul can no longer be insulted
Gave love, but it was not given back
Taken advantage of by lost souls
Those who wage a vicious attack
Take back our true power
We are here to tell it to you straight
Don't want your toxic behavior
It's all about love and not about hate
What you ask, we will give
No problem in giving you advice
If you don't listen and keep coming back
Cut you off without thinking twice
Shades of grey between black and white
And if you fail to understand
We won't please you if you can't please us
Piss off with your controlling demands
You can be you, I'll always be me
Don't tell me who you think I am
Not in the mood for your judgment
Because I no longer give a damn
So VERY WELL said!
@@mkchristner Thank you. I've written so much truth that nobody bothers to listen to.
Empath and the Narcissist
An all so common relationship dynamic
Starts as a whirlwind, ends up in panic
The empath truly has love and compassion
The narcissist requires constant validation
The narcissist feels truly empty inside
Afraid to be alone in their darkened mind
Afraid of the voices in their head
Believing they're worthless, better off dead
The empath has nothing to gain
Builds up the narcissist to shut off their pain
What the empath doesn't realize
Is the narcissist's inability to empathize
The narcissist thinks it's a power struggle
The empath has all their feelings to juggle
Pushing and pulling, a constant fight
Waiting for the next rage to ignite
Idealize, devalue, and discard
The narcissistic calling card
The empath is tired of insulting their soul
They awaken and take back their control
Narcissist moves on to another fixation
Unable to live without validation
Never to blame, ego increases
While the empath is left to pick up the pieces
@@TheDarkness1 wow… that was incredible too! I feel that one… I just got out of that dynamic myself! Keep up the writing, it’s insightful, well put and amazing.
@@mkchristner Thank you. Over the last year I've unleashed everything. I've written over 1100 of them. Nobody seems to want to publish poetry.
All I Want
Just want one person that listens
With an open mind to understand
One with only pure intentions
Willing to lend an open hand
Gave too much to wrong people
Used me for my understanding
Been villified and victimized
By the empty and demanding
I want the truth to be heard
Setting free to all humanity
Understand love and creation
Sick and tired of the Insanity
Just one, best friend and lover
A queen that supports the king
One with the undamaged psyche
That sees exactly what I bring
What if I said I'm not like the others
Feel no need to pretend
Trust in me, I'll trust in you
Laughter to the very end
@@mkchristner
I'm the Man in the Mirror
I am your mirror
Returning energy
A reflection of your inner being
Heightening senses
Opening your mind
Glimpses of what I'm seeing
For what you do not like in me
A direct reflection of you
Triggering feelings
Opening wounds
Path to awareness and healing
Insecurities rise
Tempers flare
Laughter clears the air
Mirror sees behind the mask
The true self
The one hiding from shame
As energy cannot be hidden
Polarized in light or dark
Resonating in the soul
Negative entity of fear
Looks to reject love
Feeling unworthy
Internal battle of voices
Angels and devils
Voices of past ring loudly
Affecting choices
Consuming in shadows
Efforts to break free
Pulls the ropes tighter
Truth resides in the heart
Lies cover up fear
Slowly darkening awareness
Internal gaslighting
Coping from false indoctrination
Unable to see reality
Caught in a dream of illusion
Being an INFJ is difficult indeed. You could be a great listener to others.. but opening up, oh it's hard. And the pt about expressing our thoughts, feelings and emotions through writing was absolutely accurate. It is something that I myself do.
Thanks for this video..felt acknowledged 😊
hi how are you what are your interests i think i am an infj trying to make freinds
wow this feels a little bit INFJ
It's difficult, yeah. I myself only open up to those who I trust. But if I open up, I don't stop. Sometimes I have problems to find the right words, but I don't stop and go on until I have the feeling that Iexplained it like I mean it.
But lately I open up less than a few montgs ago. Maybe it's bcs I don't need totalk about so much bcs I'm happier now, idk. But sometimes I have the feeling I annoy this specific person when tell them my worries again and again. So sometimes I find my own way of dealing with my thoughts (I get better I think), smetimes I go for it...but hesitantly and sometimes I go all in (when I really need help).
I open up to people who I trust deeply but that's really just a few. Atm there's only one person I could tell absolutely anything and sthey wouldn't judge me. So...yeah...and I don't want to annoy them so I sometimes try to hold back :/
I also tried to write down my thoughts and emotions. It's not really a thing for me, but there are a few rimes where it helps me so much. So I type a message to myself and most of the time that's the only thing I need bcs my worries cleared up while reading it after typing 👍 there's too much going on inside my INFJ brain 😮💨
Why is this so accurate? I just found out about my own personality after watching this video. Thanks for this full of knowledge video :)
I'm an INFJ, and I often feel like I am called upon to be a therapist, although the one who needs therapy the most is me. But, I feel as if I cannot share my feelings, to keep the burden away from others. I've found that writing is a great way to relive some of my internalized pain. I write poems each night, spinning my feelings in to metaphors, as complicated as they are. If you struggle with internalized pain, find something that you can do that expresses your true emotions, that expresses you. But, what do I know, I'm only 14
Oh, be a little careful with psychology videos like this one. The brain doesn't stop developing until you are like 21, and even then we never stop changing, so even if you feel like an INFJ now, your cemented type might be completely different later on.
But, if you do want to be a therapist, know that you can become one regardless of your personality type. Also know that all therapists need a therapist themselves.
This is me. 💯
funny enough, the 'therapist' thing happens a lot to me. for some reason people would come to me to seek advice and me not wanting to disappoint them would tell them what they want and need to hear (telling them what they just NEED to hear is a bit too mean in my book). talking to strangers half of the time lead to them telling me their problems too and I just sit and listen while deep inside I'm just questioning what I am even doing listening to people's private lives
Absolutely this is mee💯💯💯 but im 16yo
Good words. I'm a poet and musician. Keep pressing on
It's crazy that just 4 letters can explain a whole lot. I've taken many tests, and they've all come out as INFJ, and as I think about you just described my whole "life". I am really glad that I am an INFJ. Not that I just have that personality, but that I can make a great impact on people.
Not really
@@dimunnpabebet7040 ?
If you are really interested, look into cognitive functions and function stacks of the types
It’s not 4 letters- LOOK AT THE COGNITIVE FUNCTIONS AND STOP WATCHING THE PSYCH2GO CRAP!!
@@rosienell4446 yess exactly
I don't think I've ever met another INFJ so it is awesome to see so many of you on here ❤. I'm 37 now and have tested INFJ many times. This video is spot on!
It's so wild. I am an INFJ...I've recently found out my Dad is an INFJ...and also found out that my brother's girlfriend is an INFJ. HOW DID THIS HAPPEN?
My dad and I get along really well. I feel we've always understood each other on another level.
I am a INFJ, and wish I could meet more INFJ'S so I could be better understood. I'm always there for Others, but rarely are Others their for me. Sometimes it gets lonely 🥺
I am also INFJ i tend to help even they didn't see it. It helps me to see they are happy and comfortable and it makes me sad when they facing a problem that i can't help.
We tend to feel like an alien on this planet as a result; we're out here...just super rare. I don't think I have met another INFJ yet either. Before I knew what an INFJ was, I always called my "gifts" as a damn curse and wished I was just like everyone else.
@@trudysenglishvictorianhome3244 I know exactly how you feel. Is there some unwritten contract that we had to be the pillar for everyone else? It's a compelling thing that we cannot simply opt out of either - because we care too much.
Never knew about personality types until yesterday in school. When I got home I spent three hours researching, and it’s official. I’m INFJ. It’s strangely satisfying, since now I understand why I can never find someone just like me. 1-3% isn’t a lot of people. I’ve always felt somewhat different from everyone, whether that’s in a good or bad way. I’m proud of my personality and all that comes with it, but that doesn’t mean it isn’t hard. Thank you for this video; it’s really helped.
I fall under the INFJ-A, but I urge you all to not let these tests define you. Many of us all want to answer our questions with simple labels and take comfort in them, but just because INFJ might be rare don’t let it make you feel “special”. Of course everyone is unique in their own way, but as INFJs we shouldn’t take comfort in these labels because they’ll make you conform to your current life rather than aim higher, and you’ll hate yourself in the future for this.
Don’t let a label comfort you. Find comfort within yourself.
Same sentiments. I'm INFJ-A too and I agree with u, it's better to stick with your principles and not to be identified with the test
Exactly.
Typical INFJ response. 😉
INFJ-A here as well. And I was just thinking about this as well. It can be very easy to justify some things that are not necessarily helpful or beneficial to our growth in the guise of “that’s just what INFJs do I can’t change it”
All INFJs already know this…
*As an INFJ, you are emotional but is also strong in logical issues, but OVERTHINKING SMALL DETAILS can make you doubt yourself thus causing anxiety and trust issues. But you still try to understand others*
As another INFJ this was insanely accurate. My friends often confide in me and have given me the constant nickname of "therapist". I do my best helping others, I immerse myself in it. I have a large social circle despite being extremely introverted, and I try to retain a connection with every one of my friends despite the large amount. Even so, I find it extremely difficult to open up. So much so that I fool myself into thinking that I do sometimes.
INFJ's are interesting. Some are considered to be completely introverted and some to be extroverted. In reality, we're ambiverts. Social "chameleons" in a way. We can present as extroverted in groups and that's why being in a large social circle is pretty doable for INFJ's despite preferring smaller groups and more intimate settings with closer friends. So long as we can separate ourselves from continuous socialization. I agree with the confiding and opening things though. As much as I love helping others and them confiding in me, I feel an extreme discomfort talking about my own issues to others. Only opening up to those very, very close to me or those I can sense have similar traumas that make them kindred.
It’s so hard to open up as an infj,I open up only when i want them(my loved ones) to be vulnerable to me,so i could help them and understand them better.But no one knows my absolute secrets and struggles.
@@zagorith14hi what are your interests i believe i am an injf not completely sure, i am trying to make friends as an infj,
@@lalmalsawmi0537hi what are your interests
I always say I’m a free therapist to my loved ones but sometimes you need to cut them off bc it can become draining! ❤
I of course am getting emotional while being up later than I should be - but could not go without saying how deeply I resonate with one of the last clips just showing the perserverance thru the rain. It’s been hard but my family and others and now myself are worth it!
This video spoke to me so much. It’s hard being so introverted yet wanting to go out there and help so many people. It’s weird because it’s almost conflicting sometimes. And the investing into hobbies and goals is so accurate too. I get burnt out sometimes if I don’t make a conscious effort to watch myself.
My own experience is that you can help people the most in on by one conversations. When you got a connection it works really well.
@@kerstingravel8160 hi, what are your interests, i am trying to figure out if i am an infj, do you believe yourself to be an injf thanks
@@Samanthax1221 you should do an MBTI test and you will get the results. Give a true and fast answer to every question. Not all INF‘s have the same interests.
You can find tests online.
@@kerstingravel8160 kersting thanks i did a few tests a year or so ago i cant remember what they were if they were MBTI tests but they came back as infj but i am not sure what that means or says about me, i feel like i am different to everyone else but i am not sure if that is my personality difference or due to trauma, is it possible trauma could cause an injf personality type, i have zero friends and never have i feel different and unlike everyone else, maybe i am just messed up or maybe its because i have some rare personality type, i would appreciate your insights,
@@Samanthax1221 th-cam.com/video/Sz3pEBA30z4/w-d-xo.htmlsi=OpM_PXY6rDGQfj73 ( this is the difference between infj a and infj t) this might could be helpful
Summary
0:00 intro
0:54 1. You tend to take an all or nothing approach to life
1:28 2. Everyone tends to gravitate towards you
2:06 3. You have a natural talent for language
2:37 4. You make decisions based on your intuition
3:01 5. You absolutely despise interpersonal conflict
3:34 6. You are concerned about what others think of you
4:03 7. You have principles etched in stones
4:54 ending
Sounds like someone w| an ego instead 🤷🏽♂️
Thanks for putting this together!
@@SteezysWorld And that's why INFJs says that people don't understand them cuzz they really don't
As an INFJ, I’m not sure if I agree with #2 to be honest.
Can someone explain me the difference between INFJ and INFP please?
Being an INFJ I can confirm, fact I can see and feel emotions WITHOUT even having to see them. I can hear it in their voice or by the amount they talk.
also being an INFJ you would have to be careful of being manipulated by people. However once you're starting to recognise manipulative behaviours you're going to get used/hurt allot less as you prevent yourself from being. However the only downside is... I personally tend to ignore myself and still get myself manipulated/used
can you? interesting...
huhu that's right the "manipulation" always get me
LITERALLY EVERY WORD ON THIS COMMENT IS SOOOO TRUEEEE
Wthh I literally almost screamed. I was in another room where one of my family and this person that we know were talking and I could hear them bc it was very quite. After they finished talking I was talking with my family and they were like idk what happened but I was straight away like she was obviously lying (and I was right bc the person turns out was completely lying). Up until that point I thought I could only know these things when I’m physically observing their expressions and body language but it was like I could FEEL their thoughts / intentions through the way they speak. I guess we observe in our hearing just as much as through sight.
stand up to what they are doing to you. it might be hard but its the right thing to do, they're the problem not you.
Exactly. Everything in this comment
I can relate to it
It's like I know what's gonna happen, I know what they're doing to me is wrong, yet I still choose to keep on going this path
I just wanted to say thank you. I started my self journey a couple of years ago, and instead of always trying to "fix" myself and fit into society, I started taking things as a sign and figuring out why. This definitely answers a lot of the why, and helps point me in the right direction! Keep up the good work, I've been watching your channel for a while now.
Back to my INFJ cave! Lol
I'm an INFJ. Before I took a personality/psychological test, I already knew that I am an introvert person. But I was surprused that my result was labeled as INFJ-T.. This video is like sharing who I am to everyone. Thank you for making this video to introduce us to everyone and for them to understand us.
Yay! A fellow INFJ-T ! 😄
Please don't take the 16personalities test, it's not an accurate Myers Briggs test and it's based off of the big five test. The term "T" (Turbulent) and "-A" (Assertive) does not exist from Carl Jung's MBTI. You should learn about the cognitive functions of the mbti types to learn more about which type you really are.
If you want a test to take you can try Sakinorva or John's Personality Test. Although, finding your mbti type through self researching is much better.
@@ellecapone1337 Same
you're not an infj-t as that doesn't exist. i suggest reading up on cognitive functions if you want to know what your actual mbti is. there is no -t or -a, it's made up by 16 personalities. you're probably an fi dom if you empathize with people easier and are introverted. best of luck.
the fact that being the rarest mbti type doesn't make us the least bit excited says everything
😂 😂😂 I get that so much, I still feel worthless most times lol
So true. The first time I took it I was happy that I was apparently 'rare' but by time I realised that being rare isn't a good thing at all
This was actually kind of encouraging for me (an INFJ). My husband is quite opposite of me and sometimes we clash because of my “etched in stone” moral compass and need for alone time. Thank you for this!
Same with me. I’ve been married twice - widowed and divorced. Neither husband fully understood me. The guy I’m with now doesn’t either, but he tries.
even if they don't if they still love u thats all that matters
I hope people arent equating rare with valuable. It's not a pokemon card. There are such things as personality disorders. My mom is INFJ and she's a horrible mother.
@@CircmcisionIsChi1dAbus3 Yes. Serial killers are rare too. Hardly unique in a good way!
@@leighcarlson87 lol precisely I’m not always a big fan of this channels just 100% victim or positive sunshine videos, there’s always two sides to positivity lol
I’ve tested multiple times over the years and always result as an INFJ. This is so relatable. I don’t think I know another INFJ so this comment section is so interesting to read. This video is spot on.
I’m an INFP, but this video is still interesting to me. I guess the other INFPs, much like INFJs, are also creative, intuitive, and tend to keep things for themselves.
I’m INFP too.
Same
I'm an infp too though I've found ways to kinda adjust my personality by force
I'm a INFP too
I am not now confused, I also think I am a INFP but it's just a enternaiment vid nothing else xd
i almost cried watching this.. I resonate with everything, and i learned that its okay to be like that. Its okay to not want to talk to others, in a big group. Its okay to love to be alone. Its okay not to be popular, or the one with the biggest Friend Group. I always thought i have to change myself to be more extroverted, for others to like me more. But why? There is no good and bad personality. it’s just the way it is!
exactly .. even i did feel that changing myself to extrovert would help me but then i thought its better to be a therapist for all rather than changing yourself to someone who u not are. i hv always prayed to god to make me a person who is capable of helping others and is only dependent on god. when i realized that it was being true, i dropped the idea of changing myself
So very true. I also resonated with everything and it kind of hurts in a way. This video...it's looking into a mirror. I can relate that I used to think and believe there was something wrong with me...for most of my life in fact. That sucks. To go about life believing you're broken and you need to be fixed somehow. But as a personality type this rare, you come to believe that you're the only one like you - and for that reason it's just you and the world. Now I understand it's not just me and while I am different, I'm not just broken. Sometimes I still feel broken though since people don't understand the real me.
I read about these comments where two INFJs found one another and have a happy relationship and I am happy for them. I am approaching my mid 30s and wondering if I should find a way to be happy on my own but I am uncertain what that looks like. I'm talking about true happiness, not just status quo. Should I just be content with a good job? It seems like such a shallow pool I'd be standing in, telling myself this is enough. But would I believe that? Maybe given enough time.
Many say they would not trade their INFJ status; good for them. I am not so sure if I had the chance. I can't seem to reconcile if the trade offs would be worth it.
@@sern.21 Every personality has different struggles. So why change? The only difference is that ours is the most rarest, but being on the internet you see sooo many INFJs that you think how is that possible to be so rare, hahah. Also happiness depends on many other things. And you cant always be happy.. I for myself learned, to accept how life is, accept all the struggles and search for the good in everything AND appreciate what you have,never forget what you have and what you already achieved. Being alive also is something to apreciate ! I wish you good luck on your journey.
@@taurus7119 Finding INFJs on the internet is easy because we're drawn to this central 'location' discussing the very nature of who we are. In the real world, on average and with all things in perfect balance, only 2 people in a room of 100 will be an INFJ. So yeah, we'll run into INFJs in the wild but only rarely and we likely will never know. So the odds of ending up in a relationship with another INFJ just seems like ridiculous odds to me lol. Imagine two INFJs finding one another in a room full of 100 people...
> _Every personality has different struggles. So why change?_
That is a valid point. Trade the problems I know well for some problems I don't know well.
I do try very hard to appreciate what I have and remind myself. Here's to hoping in the next 6 months I can find even more ways to appreciate where I'm at in life.
Thank you and I wish you luck on your journey as well. ☮
@@taurus7119 unfortunately, I'd have to disagree
I would trade my INFJ personality type for ENTJ personality type.
Reasons : ENTJ is a natural leader, bold, imaginative, strategic, analytical, logical, considered to be one of the most successful personality types, so in other words, if I got a choice I'd definitely choose ENTJ
Sure ENTJ isn't perfect, they struggle with emotions, can be impulsive / pushy sometimes, argumentative / stubborn, but that's a small price to pay given all the benefits of being an ENTJ
Well I know I am who I am and can't change and all that. However, by the theory of behaviorism, we inherit traits from our environment, meaning I could potentially inherit some ENTJ traits by being around ENTJs in real life.
As a INFJ, I personally have a love/hate relationship with my personality, and it being rare, to be honest, only makes me feel frustrated and more lonely, which is weird because I'm person that people go to when they feel lonely or misunderstood, but at the same time, I don't want to give up on my personality either, which creates this feeling me being dissatisfied with myself, but very aware that it is just an emotion that will pass... Eventually at least that is what I hear from older INFJs.
I don't mean to make you feel bad, but it's more like you learn to get along with it.
Eventually you learn to cope (and even enjoy) your lone time and your unique self.
It's not like you can find people who easily gets you and INFJ tends to repel other INFJ; not because you don't like each other, more like you find where you are needed.
In the end you end up being a light, not finding a light.
@@M00nban3 Thank you, your comment didn't make me feel bad, I understand what you mean by we learn to cope, and I'm fine with other INFJs oddly enough we the type can not talk for a year and come back like no time went by. 😅
The fact that even I have the same love/hate relationship with myself 💀
I used to kinda hate myself. Still, now, I’m proud to be a Weirdo! It’s become part of me and now I’m happy I’m unique and different. After all, that means ull never find someone like u or me. I used to think I was no one but I’m happy I’m not alone. You can do this thing!
@@thewolfed1687 Yes, don't hate yourself again! We INFJ really have great personality then people think..
genuine infj here, this video covers everything there is about us quite well. i have trouble focusing and concentrating on things alot, writing some things down def help. i have been writing a diary for almost 5 years now and i can say that is prolly my fav thing to do ever...great video
You know, it's crazy how true people gravitating towards you is. I work in a job that tends to be a lot of socialization and interaction with others but at times I become "overwhelmed" and kind of get lost in my own mind as a way to separate myself and decompress. Despite me undoubtedly looking depressed or lost, people will come up to me, stand next to me, and start talking about their issues. I've even had people tell me that they don't know why but they almost felt compelled to talk to me about their issues. Like I exuded some kind of friendly energy and positive vibe. Coupled with loving to help them and truly loving those around me, I really find joy in these interactions. And, as crazy as it sounds, I've really grown to love and understand myself better as a result of knowing my personality type. It just can be so exhausting sometimes.
I feel you, completely.
I'm honestly really proud to be an INFJ. I love to make others happy and it feels nice to make lots of friends this way. I DO get the burnout from those that put me down for my quirks and working hard on personal projects, but the support I've gotten balances it out. And like everyone else says, I thank you for giving me and other INFJs a feeling of comfort for their traits. I hope a better understanding for most people could be widespread.
I am an INFJ-T, who is also highly sensitive and a high avechier, I can relate. I have realised that I can change hobbies (so people will love me more) but when someone is questioning my inner values and principles, I get mad easily. I try to please everyone and this also makes me concerned about what others think of me, this is also why I am so quilet sometimes, because I calculate what I will say or not say anything in the fear of someone thinking something bad about me, about my attidute, about my grades (They are very used to me having straight A's) about my voice tone and literally everything I do. "Go hard or go home" relatable, even it is for fun, I try to be the best. Then accuse myself for being "selfish". It is hard for me to speak my emotions, due to my fear of being judged, I usually write or tell it to my non-existent imaginary friends. Here in my country, the president is making a social Media law that doesn't allow us to speak our opinions. (the truth) and if I was older, I swear I would show how I disagree to this law. Yes, there are struggles of being an INFJ, but they have the capasity to change the world, don't worry, INFJ's!
As an infj, I’m in the exact same situation but I didn’t really know how to explain it but you did it very accurately. I feel you so much.
I'm a INFJ too I feel you guys, and I can relate:)
im also an infj-t too and these things were so relatable, so accurate
As an INFJ-t
this feels really accurate to my situation , im glad to see other people in the comment section who have the same situation as me :)
Im an infj-t too, honestly all of these is so accurate to me that it scares me, it really is relatable, i thought im the only one who has this personality honestly
As an INFJ... I am learning to take the criticism as help vs breaking me down. 😀 That's helped a lot!
I am an INFJ, and I teared listening to this video. So misunderstood and keep trying to be better while others may take advantage of it. Have to learn to be tougher to others, especially because only being tough to those you love will help them grow. Man thank you for doing this, love the comments here!
Men INFJ'S ....
The rarest of them all....🥹
One of the best things about finding out I’m INFJ is seeing clear, solid descriptions in videos like these. I finally feel somewhat understood!
You are not INFJ. IT DOESNT EXIST. ITS FAKE. IT WAS MADE UP BY 2 WOMEN WITH NO QUALIFICATIONS.
this entire personality type shit was invented by people like this Disgusting you tuber to Abuse and exploit children into thinking its real and giving them money and attention.
it litterally has 0 basis in any kind of science. its just fake.
or do you really think you as an individual human are so easily defineable? of course not. you are a unique being not some combination of letters.
As an INFJ, I personally relate to everything that was mentioned in the video at the same time I don't. It's probably due to the fact that I'm a turbulent advocate. The all-or-nothing part got me developing a perfectionist attitude that usually annoys everyone. I'm usually self-destructive but I can still give a sound intuitive advice, and topped with the easy burnouts, people usually come to me and disappears the next day. I do openly and freely want to help but sometimes that really kind of hurt me knowing people only comes to me whenever THEY need help and can't be bothered the next when the tables have turned. Also, I unintentionally communicate really well and say the things they want to hear at the spur-of-the-moment but whenever I try to think of things to say I end up resetting all the social skills I supposedly have and it's extremely frustrating. I also don't like how I feel concerned about what others think of me while I self-destruct and not sleep, eat and work well. That feeling that I know I can do something for myself but when I attempt to do it, I don't feel like doing it anymore. All these about myself makes so much sense to me at the same time it doesn't which is aggravating since I know I have to face this alone because no one else is there to help me. :/
That’s pretty similar to what used to happen to me. Sorry your having to go through all of this alone. Idk if ull see this but I’d just like to say that u can do this thing. I rly like the comment section of this vid cuz everyone pours their heart out. Maybe u can find advice.
I relate to you 100%
This is me. Its so frustrating they only want you as a stress release or quick therapy session. I still always help but lately i was the one in crisis and found no one was there in return. It can be overwhelming how much i take in. The world is heavy these days
Wenzes - INFJ coach, may you find the answer here. Be strong. Be healthy.
I’m so happy everyone here is so supportive!
i'm an infj and the part where you talked about wanting to leave people better off after interacting with you resonated with me on a personal level. i really do feel bad if i think that an interaction left a bad taste in the mouth of someone i care about.
I am an INFJ-T. Growing up I always set very high standards for myself and would go into a meltdown if I didn't preform to my expectations. My parents always tried to reassure me that "You tried and did you best, that is okay." but to me it never was. I never understood why I was always this way until I took the MBTI. To say I am introverted is an understatement, I like being in my own little world, taking time to rest up and focus on my hobbies/interests. This video really hit the nail on the head for me. Thank you for your great content. Can't wait to learn more about the INFJ personality.
same i feel you
so true
If you wanna learn more study cognitive functions?
I'm INFJ-T too! I relate to you so much!
As always, shocking accuracy. I’m impressed with your guy’s data collection
Yes I’m the one everyone tells their deep secrets too. Great responsibility. I always worry that I might let them out and hurt them. Even people who dislike me tell stuff 🤨
I wasn’t surprise when I was told I was an INFJ - I always remember feeling other peoples disappointment hurt and sadness.
Even have animals come to me for help.
Yep.
Yes I feel the responsibility like u and I also worry about not having met their expectations when they came for asking help too..
Animals..?
Totally agree and I agree with the animals too I’ve always had a special bond with them and feel like I can understand them for the most part love my animals
I am as true of an INFJ as you can be. Just figuring this out has changed my life immensely. I never understood why I didn’t fit in. I have done so much Introspection on my personality type, and understanding myself has helped me navigate the world in a completely different way. With more confidence and acceptance. ❤
*I AM INFJ AND THIS IS VERY DEEP. I CAN RELATE TO ALL OF THESE THINGS (ESPECIALLY THINKING WHAT OTHERS THINK OF YOU OR OPPOSING EVEN THE LEADER JUST TO FOLLOW THE RIGHT THING OR OUR REAL PURPOSE AND THE ONE WHO IS PRIVATE BUT READY TO LISTEN). I CAN RELATE TO THEM ALL*
*MAYBE WE ARE RARE AND I STRUGGLED ON IT. BUT THAT DOESN'T MEAN THERE AREN'T, SO HELLO FELLOW INFJ!*
Why are you yelling?
Team Introvert all the way! For me as an INFJ myself, I feel like I can relate to all of what was explained in this video, but despite all the bad things that might happen, I will always try to stay positive whenever possible. Sometimes, it doesn't always work out and I just break down and feel really bad and blame myself about what happened, but I won't let that feeling control me. This is why I find doing art is really calming. I feel like this video is very accurate.
I am an INFJ and lol never knew it's so rare. These videos makes me feel special 💀😂
Edit-Everyone please don't start a fight here,Ik we are same,you can comment that but I have just stated my opinion so don't come for INFJs😭
Same :’)
*INFJ gang where you at?*
I am as well
same
Same here!
True bro same.
I took a school personality test and I got istj I think but with the options I had I couldn't really explain how I felt. I actually related to mostly INFJ when I tried watching other videos and I think I know what I am now, this video is a huge help. Thanks for helping me find my personality type, it's a blessing, and a curse because of the perfectionist part of us.
Honestly the most accurate way to find your personality type based on cognitive functions, I was mistyped as a INFP. I felt i couldn’t exactly relate to them so I decided to do a research on cognitive functions it turned out I was a INFJ, fellow Reddit users helped me too haha
The classic truth seeking through research, very Ni-Ti in fashion. No assumptions to justify you being otherwise. Did the same myself through months of painstaking research, trying to deny being one (did not work). Have to admit being one...
I got INFP-T in 16personalities (SURPRISE!!🥳, like everyone) and knowing about functions I knew I have Ne, so I was an XNXP and I still with the INFP, then I thought that my Ne was too strong to be at the second place, so I was an ENXP and I continue with the ENFP. Everything to finally decide that I was an ENTP.
So even knowing about functions is a long way getting to know your true type but 16personalities doesn't give any information
I've mistyped as infp too I did the test a few more times though and got infj all the other times
@@laomedeia5957 ah that is quite the long path from INFP-T to ENTP :,D but also having a bit of knowledge on functions makes me feel a bit more “sure” about it too
*the process of learning functions was something too, for me at least
16 personalities typed me right 💀💀 but sometimes i wonder if im entp bc of my high fe
btw whats yall typology? im INTP so5w6 514 ILE RCUAI phleg-san
For me personally, I feel that being an infj is "special" and yet not, because you can never truly categorize someone into a "personality type" because everyone has different experiences and mindsets (although some are similar).
I have taken personality tests multiple times and every time I've gotten infj, but I feel that "assigning" four letters to a person can take away from that person's core being.
All of this may be useless nonsense, but I felt like sharing today so here you go.
You are a matured one :)
Your writing patterns are the classic.
Those that are happy of being confirmed, still have a looonnnngggg ways to go. Considering that many in the media with their initial discovery, are younger individuals. Those that can recognise the limitations of this personality theory, are the ones already outgrowing it.
What an INFJ opinion of you to have
In fact, if you know the subject of personalities in depth, you are aware that the four letters are just something indicative, which shows thoughts, behaviors, etc. which are more frequent in certain individuals in a very general way. To give an example: I am an INFJ and everything that was said in the video made me exclaim "but she is really talking about me!" because they are behaviors and thoughts that INFJs have in common, but I can be different from another INFJ because I could be more or less Introverted, Intuitive, etc. and of course everyone has their own life experiences.
@@thatonetitan8456 they are very similar to ENFJ and INTJ at the same time
They are just something between them and nothing special because of rarity
Peoples treat them as a superhumans
But they are normal
They just feel like aliens
But in this way can also think other intuitive type
I'm ENFJ or maybe INFJ. But cannot decide for now
But soon I will discover this mystery
@@nixtrid2282 Easy enough to figure out.. does talking to people drain your energy, or energize you? INFJ is probably the most social of introverts, but too much will make any introvert start begging for some alone time. People often think I'm an extrovert, but I'd die without my writing, painting, sculpting and playing music
time stamps for those who need them! ---
1- 0:54 You tend to take an all-or-nothing approach to life.
2- 1:28 everyone tend to gravitate towards you.
3- 2:07 you have a natural talent for language.
4- 2:37 you make decisions based on your intuition.
5- 3:02 you absolutely despise interpersonal conflict.
6- 3:35 you are concerned about what others think of you.
7- 4:04 you have principles etched in stone.
i hope everyone has a blessed day/night ty for all this amazing content!!
Thanks for putting this together!
At first I had doubts of being INFJ But when I watched this video I recognized all 7 signs which made me smile thinking this video hit the spot🤣.
I am INFJ Advocate .
This video is a blessing.
I can relate to every single point mentioned here. Now, understood a lot of things about me. And I won't force myself to change myself from now on. Enough of self doubt, it's time for self-care. I really appreciate your effort for making such insightful content.
Be yourself. I'm INFJ-A too. If age has taught me, be yourself for you and not for others. Our quirkiness is something magical.
discovering INFJ as my personality type was a major stepping stone in understanding myself and why everything just feels so ridiculously complicated. it's like you have a very conflicting set of drives that creates a unique view on life, but are opposite focus points. The strongest 'pilot' for INFJ's is introverted intuition. They perceive and analyse everything, they are driven by their inner complex worlds and conclusions of those constructs, but their second pilot is extraverted feeling, which has to do with understanding others beyond mere perception, both the functionality of that other as a individual and a group, usually neglecting inner needs based on feeling, for the greater good of the exterior/group. it's like you are in a constant battle between your focus points. :'-)
is it even possible to show an example of what’s the thought process going on inside yr head??
INtP try to understand better,thx
As an INFJ, I see all of these within myself. It can be tiring trying to balance everything all the time, but I'm overall happy with the hand I've been dealt in life. I also really like writing! It's a really fun way for me to channel my thoughts and feelings into something fun, new and creative that I can share with others! It makes me genuinely happy to write stories and it's always been a big passion of mine.
Samee!! 🤗
@@nuruls7606 :D
I love writing too!! It's so relaxing to write out what I'm feeling and thinking. Also sharing it or re reading my words always brings me joy and clarity 😇
Mee too!!
Love writing,reading,drawing,craft,music..etc 👍
I think as I've gotten older (45 now) some of these things have changed - especially fearing what others think of you. I am in a lot of turmoil if I have HURT somebody, but I have outgrown the need for everybody to be pleased by what I have to say. I do work in advocacy - I'm here for the rights of the vulnerable, not to make friends with people who are going to work against me. If you hate me, it's probably because I'm being effective. When I was younger, though, the thought of disappointing others was devastating.
Not an INFJ, but still here to learn about you guys 👀
Look at cognitive functions
@@hutchi9135 I know about cognitive functions :D
👀😳 y rho
MBTI is not perfect it does not include the two crucial and very dangerous personalities the Sociopath and Psychopath which are common, can mask themselves like INFJs
@@wingsofzekke42 Yes I know. MBTI is just a rough estimate, at most
The trying to upbuild others was pretty big for me. We want everyone around us to succeed and find happiness.
This was very insightful! And the part about literature and writing...SO ACCURATE. I'm a INFJ and I write deep novels mainly focusing on each character's inner thoughts and turmoils. So many other things hit home as well!
Thanks for understanding us so well. I've taken the test four times and I've always got INFJ. I figured that probably why i feel so different than the rest of the bunch, and i never could socialize without feeling awkward. I realize it's ok though. I understand people, i like challenging myself, i never stop trying, but most importantly I care about everyone. Not many people see this from me though, so seeing you describe us so accurately? It feels nice.
A few years ago, I took a personality test and turned out to be INFJ. I took another one this year and it still turns out to be the same! Your channel is very insightful and inspiring. Thank you so much for talking about this!
Me too.. i took it 4 times on different times since 2015, and still get the same result..
That is awesome!
As an INFJ this is so accurate for me. I always felt like no one really understood me or that I was feeling so lonely, or something was wrong with me cause people weren’t like me but it does make sense that it’s rare for people being INFJs cause that’s why it has been hard and rare to connect with people who’s just like me and understands me. I love to help other people and their issues, while I hate talking about my issues. And also, love to be alone to do my favorite hobbies or to be with a small group who i’m comfortable hanging out with but that’s very rare. Mostly it’s the family i’m comfortable with though.
As a matter of fact INFJ’s actually like going outside to hang out they are more like the extroverted introverts rather that fully introverted. But good.
How can others do a better job to let I share yrself and what’s the things u do when u are alone ? (Thx I’m INTP, have INFJ friend, want to be a better friend)
I am also an INFJ, and this video certainly confirmed it lol. I’ve taken the test usually once a year and alway get INFJ, and I’m 25 now so guess it’s set lol. I felt heard with this video! Reading other’s comments was interesting too, it’s funny how people disconnected around the world are all facing similar struggles because of a personality type we all share. Shout-out to the other INFJ’s!!
I'm an INFJ and I relate to all of these full heartedly, there was nothing in this video that I disagreed with. I'm also an Aries so I take a head first all or nothing approach all the time! Everyone definitely gravitates towards me, I often feel like a confessions lol, they come to me for advice or venting all the time, I have multiple hobbies, I have a knack for learning languages, I follow my heart and intuition 98% of the time, I can't stand when someone is insincere and likes to debate and argue, I consider others feelings all the time and tend to their needs before my own, I enjoy seeing others be able to grow and better themselves on their own, I have strong morals and values and I'm not easily convinced otherwise, it's nearly impossible to change my mind on certain things. When I love I love deeply, and I value deep connections over superficial ones. I value honest, truth and loyalty, and I do not bode well with deceitful and two faced people. They can keep their personalities to themselves and I wish them the best in life but I will not be included in theirs. I also frequently feel misunderstood. and so on :) Thanks for the video! They ending of keep it civil and INFJ might stop in was cute hahaha.
I got the result of being an INFJ multiple times and I relate to most attributes. The only thing I don't think I am is an introvert. I always thought of myself as an extrovert but in the past like 2 years I've realized that it strongly depends on the people I'm surrounded with and how comfortable I am with them. When I'm surrounded by people who make me feel off, I feel drained after a short period of time and need some alone time. But when I'm with people who make me feel good and accepted, I get really loud and outgoing and I could go on forever. I guess it kinda fits into the "feeling the vibes and acting accordingly" category of this personality type. I'm proud to be an INFJ tbh
If you read the article on the test side about talkative introverts it gets clear :) most people mix up introvert and shy behavior.
This is me exactly!
Think of it this way: introverted means you build up your energy reserves when you're alone but you spend that energy when you're with others. 🙂
For me, its like im COMPLETELY extroverted around people who talk to me, even if they have only ever said one thing to me, but being in a social setting in general is absolutely terrifying (social anxiety for me). However, if someone even comes up and starts the conversation with me, its like they break the dam and it all comes flooding out LOL. I’m both introverted and extroverted
I completely relate to this on every level, its the same with me I would say I'm extroverted as I'm really confident with socialising with others and I could honestly be around people who I connect with all day put people who aren't on the same level I can't be around for long at all and would much rather be alone
This is all spot on, as they say. I find the affirming cred very comforting. I frequently lose sight of who I am.
I’m so proud to be an INFJ! I have trouble with friends because when I don’t know enough about them, I find it hard to stay passionate around them. I want a friend that i know A LOT about and agrees with my perspective and such. I struggle with my friends now because even though I see them everyday I don’t know a lot about them and they are so different from me. It’s nice to know that I got a special personality, though! But it also adds to the pressure to put it to use. When I heard that the biggest fear to an INFJ was not putting in their full potential I couldn’t agree more. I’m scared I won’t be able to make the lasting impact I want to in this world, of course I have a lot of time since I’m a young teenager, but I’m scared I won’t be able to do what I feel I am in this world to do. Like what others say, being an INFJ is wonderful, but it’s also awful. I don’t think I would want to be anything else, though.
i relate so much !!! especially with what you feel about your friends :'))
I relate too. I am having similar issues with my college friends. Your sharing helps me feel better.
I totally agree!!
My therapist told me that I'm an INFJ and possibly traits of ENFP
I'm actually bawling my eyes out watching this. I've been struggling. BAD. I can't stop crying. I feel like I'm just withering away. Thank you for posting this.
I'm genuinely searching, searching to be loved, searching for my real purpose, searching for normalcy... Just. Searching.
God Bless. ❤
As an INFJ, I felt really inspired and identified. Yes, we somehow find easy to help others, and not just that, it is part of our identity, a part of our happiness, but we are very misunderstood by others. We are a very rare personality and also introverted, this are some of the reasons why we feel like we don’t belong, but that doesn’t mean we are a piece of the puzzle that doesn’t fit, is just that we are different, and that’s okay!! Once you get to know us, you’ll love us! Our personality is like a beautiful rainbow with an secret inner, noisy storm.
I loved this video, it made me understand myself a bit more (self-knowledge), each day you learn something new. 😁
I think u guys are ultimate form of human being ..
Able to have both 50% emotional and 50% logical thinking
Amazing
As an INFJ, this video has helped me understand more about my personality type and has highlighted behaviours I never knew I naturally did, but can now think of solid examples of me doing so. Thanks
I’ve taken the quiz 3 different times (twice the same one and the 3rd time a different test) and I got INFJ on all of them. I tried to be truthful and honest as much as I could be. Honestly, I know this is considered to be a Pseudo science, but I felt soooo understood once I read all the details. I’m happy to be an INFJ, I know certain aspects of my life are immensely challenging, but I love who I am and what I can do, and what I can bring to peoples lives. 👁️🔥I am considered to be eccentric, but I cherish that about myself.
I took the 16personalities test and am also an INFJ-T! This video is very relatable, loved it ❤️
Took the MBTI test many years ago and I came up as an INFJ. This video describes me quite accurately! I even found that I’m very secretive about my personal life, yet everyone else is opening up to me left and right! Writing fiction has been a very good vent for me, inserting parts of myself into stories as inspiration.
I’ve had people in my life who tried to break down my psyche to change my personality, but I proved to be too stubborn in my beliefs and moral views to cave to their manipulative tactics. Said person is an expert manipulator who outright said I’m one of the hardest people he ever had to crack. I take away a sense of pride from that. :3
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@@cervatillo most ppl in these comments don't know that
@@anushadanadamani284 I KNWO HELP just trying to be funny
@@cervatillo ik ik. and it's so annoying how they glamourise a personality type
As an INFJ-T, who's also a highly sensitive person, I recognise myself in all of these traits. And I can confirm that life can be very challenging at times. I often feel overwhelmed by emotions - not only mine, but the emotions of others as well - and I find it very hard to find an "anchor" to keep me grounded. I have GAD and social anxiety due to the fact that I always try to please other people. And obviously when I fail, I feel miserable and I go into panic mode. It can be very, very, veeery consuming but it's also beautiful. I don't think I would change the way I can look at the world around me, because - in spite of all the struggle - I like being so much in contact with emotions. I feel that it makes me a much more complex person and this is one of my best qualities in my opinion.
wow!! as an INFJ-T who's also an HSP, i relate to everything you said! it feels great to know that i'm not alone
As an INFJ-T who has GAD and social anxiety as well, I completely agree! When I don't meet someone else's expectations I think about it for days on end and cringe at the thought of it and it makes me feel physically sick to my stomach too
I am an INFJ. I’m 57 and I’ve felt very misunderstood my whole life. The emotions I feel for myself and others can be overwhelming at times. I have learned to accept myself and appreciate my uniqueness in the world .
There is no A/T in MBTI. There is a high chance you took a test which is likely to be incorrect. I advice you to learn the cognitive functions to type yourself- Intj
@@randomperson1658 Thank you friend; I took the test multiple times and I'm pretty satisfied with the result! I don't recognise at all in INTJ, so I'll stick with the result depicted above.
This gave me so much clarity. I keep being told I'm weird for being alone and working on the things I love. Also agree on the principles or morals part. I never get swayed in doing something I don't like.
So true everything about this video....being an INFJ personality....no one in my class really understand me well if they have been close to me yet...and yes we do take things on our emotion.... that's why I'm very sad sometimes 🙂
A great video ❤!!
I'm pretty surprised that you can really open everything what I feel in this video, ngl pretty scary but also awesome in the same time! Keep up the good work Psych2Go!
To be honest, since I was little I felt like nobody could understand me, not even my closest friends
But the problem was I didn’t want to be seen as a pathetic loser that was constantly sad, I always
pretended to be happy and quirky so that people could see me differently. My family doubted me
for being to introverted and “too sensitive” and that made me sad knowing I was different.
Nowadays I always hear people saying things like “being different is good, it makes you unique!”
Whenever i hear phrases like that I feel sad knowing I’d rather be the same as everyone else.
I remember once I didn’t want to go up and do prayer in front of the class but this boy, Ben, called
me a shy, introverted loser and it mad made me feel really, really sad.
I hope some of you guys can relate to me :)
I relate to you don't worry its gonna be okay
Me too always feel like it's no point to tell my stuffs to close friends even tho they are close friends but even close friends and family members won't be able to understand. It's true that on some days this can be very sad but on the other day you just need to let yourself embrace and have a different focus point. I once thought I found one people that can understand me fully and got myself too deep into it and when things went ugly the hurt for INFJs are double. So instead of focusing on others' point of view (which is what we spent too much caring) we should focus on making ourselves contented!
Yes
As an ifnj, we seek significant relationships, including family members. When we found out people around us are not cherishing this relationship as we do, we would rather feel disappointed (which in the eyes of them we are being sensitive).
Clearly there is no right or wrong about this. It is your own behaviours. Just always remember to remind yourself you needed to be loved too, which is to care more about your own feeling.
@@inoriyamay I know why no body understand ? Is not rocket and science…
What don’t they understand ? Plz tell me , I have an INFJ friend , what to understand better, thx
Took the test in high school, in college, and at thirty-INFJ all three times 🖤✨
Meanwhile, I as well took the test three times
However, the result was always different (one of them was INFJ) 😑
However, each of those three do compliment my personality 😊
Same got same INFJ results when I took it twice in Degree and post Masters
Me too - even did it for work and again got it
Same!! 🙌🏻🙌🏻🙌🏻
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Idk if I am an INFJ because I haven’t taken a personality test yet, but here’s some things about myself;
1. I used to be crazy dedicated to improving my speed for speedcubing (speedcubing is solving the rubik’s cube within a matter of seconds), and i’d practice new algorithms so much and i’d get faster each time, and i’d always challenge myself to beat my personal record. I was never satisfied until i hit a sub-15s time. After a little over 2 years of doing that, I got really burnt out and didn’t practice as much anymore.
2. I have a crush on this South Korean girl in my class at uni (im a 22yo Malaysian male), and I have been writing a personal diary to document my thoughts and feelings. I feel that this was the best way of capturing what I am experiencing and reading back on them always made me smile because I know I wrote them from my heart.
3. Relating back to point number 2, i often worry about what my crush thinks of me after all the interactions we’ve had together, both in-person and through text. I try to forget that worry, but she is someone special to me and her feelings automatically become important to me.
4. I listen very carefully whenever a friend is sharing his or her story, and i never interject in between.
I am an INFJ and this is so true!!! I can relate each and every line of this video. THANK YOU for this! It made my day!
So I really am an INFJ.. This is totally me. I've always felt like I'm different than the others of my family and friends. Sometimes that difference felt like odd and weird. I really hated being like that. It's so hard to be open up to people and talk about what I have on my mind. Writing makes me feel much better. I wanna write a book one day but for my lack of confidence, I always gave up in the midst of writing. Hope I can somehow finish writing a book one day. I don't want anyone to understand me cause it's very hard but I just hope they won't find me weird and let me live my life like this. And hope they'll see the good I'm trying to do. Also I must mention that you have a very warm and nice soothing voice that can make someone's day better :)
taking the test and getting my results that i am an infj, and watching this just solidifies that i really am this personality type. as and infj its hard to find and keep good friends who want to hear you out and stick around for not wanting to open up so easily. also the raging anxiety you get when you are around new people and don’t know how they feel/ think about you.
Why no friend wants to hear u? I don’t understand
First-- I'm very grateful to have, at this late stage, come across my own personality type, since I always suspected something like it but never had a description.
Many things make much more sense to me now.
Second-- and I mean absolutely nothing untoward saying this, or any sexism or disrespect-- the woman narrating the video has the most delicious and feminine voice I've ever heard. My compliments to her!
Wishing each of you well.
I have been taking more personality tests in my MFA courses because I'm close to getting my online teaching certification. Testing as an INFJ gave me more insight to what kind of teacher I can be as long as I balance my expectations, establish professional boundaries and avoid burnout. Thanks for the upload!
Thanks for sharing :) Did you relate to the video?
@@Psych2go I definitely related to the video, especially about the love of language. I have a BA in English Language and Literature and enjoy writing 5-minute poems for friends and family.
As an INFJ here, I feel this was all very spot on relatable! 😯 Also, I love the cute animations 😄 It’s kind of hard sometimes with it being a rare personality type, not many people out there to relate.
there's a lot here in the comment :)
Found out I was an infj and at first didn't believe it but watching videos like this makes me believe it
same !!
Yeah me too my guy
That explains perfectly what I’ve been trying to tell people for 46 years.😢great video