Its one of those things its easy to agree with objectively but not when you're going through it. The way I'm feeling about it at the moment; I'm happy not to have equal opportunities on that one!!! ;-)
agree... and being aware of this at the onset or occurence of conflict really helps to tame the emotions and focus on the potential correct action based on the situation... understanding this improves the odds of a better outcome
control your emotions is difficult since confrontation is hard. This reminds me of my former job when people could get away with anything and management did nothing over this rude person. This Indian Upali at Chesterbrook Academy.
I was taught , to mind own business, keep your mouth shut, and do your job. I have done that for the most part, and it has work very well for me. Getting working done is all about concentration and focus, so do not be drawn and/or provoked into situations that will interfere with you concentration and focus. DO NOT get involved work place dramas or cast judgement on it.
Thought provoking video. This is a topic of great interest to me and I speak to it myself sometimes. One of the things I teach is de-personalising the situation. Thanks for this.
Thanks , One more tip - know the persons involved. 50% of time it’s a power play and challenging your power of authority in the position. Always do homework and prepare with the points on notepad. It’s shark tank these days in job. - from my 20 yrs of SW industry experience.
all points r valid other than apology thing...when u hv to aplogise for none of ur fault to save ur job..nothing unfortunate than that...very difficult for people with self respect
All these you mentioned are good but only works out if the other person (your coworkers,boss,etc)are the same and genuinely want to solve the problem.but it doesn’t work when they are not Honest and cover up each other mess up at work and make your motivation for the job fade away. My experience says they don’t want good employees they only wants slaves to follow their own created rules and even not the company.
हॅलो निहारिका अच्छा बोलती हैं आप। संघर्ष और उन्हें समझने तथा हैंडल करने के तरीके बहुत सही बताए। Controlling emotions is very important. As well as talking the habbit of jumping to conclusions, to be corrected. And ofcours learning to consider the conflicting situation as a challenging opportunity is really important. Thank you.
Thank so much for sharing these video.Its very usefull and helpfull for me to increase and improve my English skill.Your sound so clearly,your smily so exciting and your style so imprressing.You are a trully great English teacher.
Crying does not mean that you are being a drama queen or king.,or alternatively those are crocodile tears , there are people who are emotional.. that's just their nature,maybe you can correct on that
That is true about some people just being emotional, but sometimes it’s the bully that is always upset and people they don't like are at the mercy of whatever mood they're in that day. If you’re not wise or strong enough they’ll make you feel that their emotional instability is your fault. I think its about respecting difference and sadly not everyone can do that. To the upset bully its like your being there is considered an affront them and their own well-being/fragile ego. Their emotions are everything and if something about you doesn't make them feel good about themselves, for example not engaging in gossip or messing around when you have work to do, not moaning about how bad your job is etc, wanting to keep a professional distance until you know people. I am working with a girl like this at the moment, so was looking for some tips tbh. We've got to the stage now where even wishing her a nice weekend or commenting that her lunch smells nice gets a snappy response, and its affecting our work, because if she has to take a message for me she is very resentful and if ever I make a mistake it makes her angry. All the time she's acting sweetness and light to people and playing the good Christian girl - but even people who get on well with her stand up to her at times and are aware of other run-ins she’s had with people before I got there. She was bitching about a women who had worked there previously and was returning; saying how horrible, loud and arragant she was and how she didn't want her back in the team. To which the youngest member of the team, to her credit said "Actually I quite like her"! One of our I know that she is running me down to her clique but trust that they have their own minds. I know I should probably talk to her before either one of us loses it angry but I just cannot face it. I should maybe speak to my manager. I don't take against people, look to be supportive without favour and find it hard to understand why some people don't just be polite and get on and do their jobs without all this playground crap.
It takes a bit for me to cry but once it happens I can't stop. It comes from years of abuse by my mother. Don't jump to conclusions. I avoid drama and hate I can't stop it.
Right. Sometimes you are allowing vulnerability by STILL SAYING WHAT YOU NEED but working through the sensation that is driving you to avoiding the conflict. Sometimes people cry while doing their best to be fair to themselves as well as the person they're communicating with. I really dont like the accusation that crying is only for drama. Anger especially when warranted, is even allowed if there is no tantrum and there is no screaming and no physical activity involved. We are not robots.
Excellent presentation of overtake work please conflict and develop personality skills. Understand and learn tips of overcome it(open mind, control emotion, avoiding assumptions, etc). Thank you
That's nowt, I was transferred to another town by the company I worked for, they needed me there because of my skills, they used constructive dismissal techniques against me for their own gain and my loss.
I am here to tonight to find resources because for time for a long time time I had big conflict and argurments with my co-worker whitch I hate it. I'm not a queen drama at all! I like work place to be peaceful and drama free. I hope my co-worker thinks the same way. Thank you. This video helps me to forgive
But some jobs you can't do that the some jobs you have to communicate And then some managers don't want to resolve the problem after you've told them about the issue between you and another coworker and it just makes things so much worse
I don't work in an office. But, this will work. There was a conflict, but I apologized for my actions. They chose to stay mad. He is really rough around the edges so I wasn't surprised. I informed the manager that I apologized. I just went back to work.
There is an employee who starts chatting with anyone the minute he arrives at the office. He continues to talk with people who come to the office.. and when everyone is busy he starts talking on the phone. All he does is talk. If other employees said a simple sentence to the other he would interrupt and join and tell stories reagarding that topic. I have work to do, I would like to read a book in my free time. Can someone help me with this tragedy?
Here’s my situation: one of the supervisors at work does not like me. That’s ok cos we’re at work to do what we have to do, not make friends. However, it’s getting to the point that it’s bothersome. I don’t interact with her that much & vice versa but when I’m talking to someone else, she interrupts the conversation and starts talking to the other person. I’ve noticed this on a daily basis so I know it’s not coincidental. It gets tiring at times cos it’s disrespectful. I’m not gonna go and argue with her, I’m not even going to ask to speak to her in private. I don’t want to face it head on cos I’m sure she’ll deny it. It’s just a nuisance to put up with. I get along with everyone except for her and I can live with that but just as I don’t go interrupting or getting in the way of whatever she’s doing with someone else, it’s be nice if she did the same for me. We don’t have to like each other, we just have to learn to coexist which I can do on my part, not sure she can do on hers.
Face it head on and speak the facts with how you are feeling. Say what kind of perception you are receiving/ how she is making you feel. State your goals and ask her, can we work together to remove any barriers? You are an employee and have rights, it is a manager’s job to bring the best out of its employees and improve on their team performance. It is your job to confront the issue, own the situation, and communicate effectively
good video but so far my experience in corporate world, I disagree with crocodile tears point. I respect emotionality of people and don't consider tears as drama.This kind of thinking simply breeds negatively about natural human aspect.
I would like some advice here, and see who is right and who is wrong here. I have a paid job, but I worked as a volunteer for 4 years I really enjoyed it, however a new manager took over and demanded I work the same hours as staff, despite not being paid for it! I couldn’t work full hours due to over commitment after a certain time. I disputed this with senior management, but they couldn’t care less. What should I do here ?
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Life hacks or should I say TH-cam hacks lol
Much better 😂👍🏽
She was sooooo rude to me!! Literally ruined my day. Now I’m watching to get ideas to move forward. Thank you 😊
Same
'Approach every conflict as an opportunity'
I love that
Its one of those things its easy to agree with objectively but not when you're going through it. The way I'm feeling about it at the moment; I'm happy not to have equal opportunities on that one!!! ;-)
agree... and being aware of this at the onset or occurence of conflict really helps to tame the emotions and focus on the potential correct action based on the situation... understanding this improves the odds of a better outcome
Yes hit her to the face
control your emotions is difficult since confrontation is hard. This reminds me of my former job when people could get away with anything and management did nothing over this rude person. This Indian Upali at Chesterbrook Academy.
I agree, its really difficult when unexpected blems comes to you from the people.
I was taught , to mind own business, keep your mouth shut, and do your job. I have done that for the most part, and it has work very well for me. Getting working done is all about concentration and focus, so do not be drawn and/or provoked into situations that will interfere with you concentration and focus. DO NOT get involved work place dramas or cast judgement on it.
In education institutions a very trivial conflict disrupts the mood of teachers. Really a good and helpful video.
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Thought provoking video. This is a topic of great interest to me and I speak to it myself sometimes. One of the things I teach is de-personalising the situation. Thanks for this.
Thanks ,
One more tip - know the persons involved. 50% of time it’s a power play and challenging your power of authority in the position.
Always do homework and prepare with the points on notepad. It’s shark tank these days in job. - from my 20 yrs of SW industry experience.
My God You are so right
all points r valid other than apology thing...when u hv to aplogise for none of ur fault to save ur job..nothing unfortunate than that...very difficult for people with self respect
All these you mentioned are good but only works out if the other person (your coworkers,boss,etc)are the same and genuinely want to solve the problem.but it doesn’t work when they are not Honest and cover up each other mess up at work and make your motivation for the job fade away. My experience says they don’t want good employees they only wants slaves to follow their own created rules and even not the company.
True i agree
हॅलो निहारिका अच्छा बोलती हैं आप। संघर्ष और उन्हें समझने तथा हैंडल करने के तरीके बहुत सही बताए। Controlling emotions is very important. As well as talking the habbit of jumping to conclusions, to be corrected. And ofcours learning to consider the conflicting situation as a challenging opportunity is really important. Thank you.
Too late I already had an argument with my Co worker
Sol Mer KaBa Akoma I don't want to laugh plz
Thanks for such wonderful tips. Its helps us to make a difference.... Keep posting ...
Never too late to forgive and apologize
Keep focused on doing your job, do not let this person provoke you into making a mistake that could or will cost you.
M with U ...
Thank so much for sharing these video.Its very usefull and helpfull for me to increase and improve my English skill.Your sound so clearly,your smily so exciting and your style so imprressing.You are a trully great English teacher.
Crying does not mean that you are being a drama queen or king.,or alternatively those are crocodile tears , there are people who are emotional.. that's just their nature,maybe you can correct on that
That is true about some people just being emotional, but sometimes it’s the bully that is always upset and people they don't like are at the mercy of whatever mood they're in that day. If you’re not wise or strong enough they’ll make you feel that their emotional instability is your fault. I think its about respecting difference and sadly not everyone can do that. To the upset bully its like your being there is considered an affront them and their own well-being/fragile ego. Their emotions are everything and if something about you doesn't make them feel good about themselves, for example not engaging in gossip or messing around when you have work to do, not moaning about how bad your job is etc, wanting to keep a professional distance until you know people. I am working with a girl like this at the moment, so was looking for some tips tbh. We've got to the stage now where even wishing her a nice weekend or commenting that her lunch smells nice gets a snappy response, and its affecting our work, because if she has to take a message for me she is very resentful and if ever I make a mistake it makes her angry. All the time she's acting sweetness and light to people and playing the good Christian girl - but even people who get on well with her stand up to her at times and are aware of other run-ins she’s had with people before I got there. She was bitching about a women who had worked there previously and was returning; saying how horrible, loud and arragant she was and how she didn't want her back in the team. To which the youngest member of the team, to her credit said "Actually I quite like her"! One of our I know that she is running me down to her clique but trust that they have their own minds. I know I should probably talk to her before either one of us loses it angry but I just cannot face it. I should maybe speak to my manager. I don't take against people, look to be supportive without favour and find it hard to understand why some people don't just be polite and get on and do their jobs without all this playground crap.
not always true
It takes a bit for me to cry but once it happens I can't stop. It comes from years of abuse by my mother.
Don't jump to conclusions. I avoid drama and hate I can't stop it.
FACTS
Right. Sometimes you are allowing vulnerability by STILL SAYING WHAT YOU NEED but working through the sensation that is driving you to avoiding the conflict. Sometimes people cry while doing their best to be fair to themselves as well as the person they're communicating with. I really dont like the accusation that crying is only for drama. Anger especially when warranted, is even allowed if there is no tantrum and there is no screaming and no physical activity involved. We are not robots.
Great video post, there was a lot of helpful content. Workplace conflicts should never be taken lightly.
Niharika thanks for sharing reasons of conflicts & ideas on how to deal with workplace conflicts
Excellent presentation of overtake work please conflict and develop personality skills. Understand and learn tips of overcome it(open mind, control emotion, avoiding assumptions, etc).
Thank you
She flaps her arms like their wings taking off for flight
Beautifully explained workplace conflicts and ways to manage them. Thank you
I hundred percent agree with you but how difficult it is my God
I think there are some good ways to make it easier. I teach people to focus on the outcome rather than the people (including us).
That's nowt, I was transferred to another town by the company I worked for, they needed me there because of my skills, they used constructive dismissal techniques against me for their own gain and my loss.
I am here to tonight to find resources because for time for a long time time I had big conflict and argurments with my co-worker whitch I hate it. I'm not a queen drama at all! I like work place to be peaceful and drama free. I hope my co-worker thinks the same way. Thank you. This video helps me to forgive
I find not talking to anyone works best
But some jobs you can't do that the some jobs you have to communicate And then some managers don't want to resolve the problem after you've told them about the issue between you and another coworker and it just makes things so much worse
It’s the best apart from the fact that the bastards won’t give you a promotion
I have to learn this!
I don't work in an office. But, this will work. There was a conflict, but I apologized for my actions. They chose to stay mad. He is really rough around the edges so I wasn't surprised. I informed the manager that I apologized. I just went back to work.
Did it escalate?
There is an employee who starts chatting with anyone the minute he arrives at the office. He continues to talk with people who come to the office.. and when everyone is busy he starts talking on the phone. All he does is talk. If other employees said a simple sentence to the other he would interrupt and join and tell stories reagarding that topic.
I have work to do, I would like to read a book in my free time. Can someone help me with this tragedy?
Or just hug him and kiss that works but it's gay if you are a man
hi niharika ,i m healing with your words.
short but beautiful presentation about How to deal with workplace conficts
Thank you Niharika.... I love the way you speak
Tambaku chabate hue bolti h.... Overacting
Wonderful explanation, very helpful lecture. Thank you.
It's not always black and white. You make some good points though.
I snapped and had a major bust up at work. Very close to becoming physical and cba to deal with it tommorow and see him again. Not sure what to do
Very useful session to apply in our profession and life. Thankyou mam
Office conflict are inevitable and thank you for suggestion
Madam,
Thank you for your explanation on workplace conflicts is true, practical and effective.
I work as a volunteer, and my manager now wants me to work full hours! From 9-4pm. Is this right or even legal, when you are not getting paid?
Here’s my situation: one of the supervisors at work does not like me. That’s ok cos we’re at work to do what we have to do, not make friends. However, it’s getting to the point that it’s bothersome. I don’t interact with her that much & vice versa but when I’m talking to someone else, she interrupts the conversation and starts talking to the other person. I’ve noticed this on a daily basis so I know it’s not coincidental. It gets tiring at times cos it’s disrespectful. I’m not gonna go and argue with her, I’m not even going to ask to speak to her in private. I don’t want to face it head on cos I’m sure she’ll deny it. It’s just a nuisance to put up with. I get along with everyone except for her and I can live with that but just as I don’t go interrupting or getting in the way of whatever she’s doing with someone else, it’s be nice if she did the same for me. We don’t have to like each other, we just have to learn to coexist which I can do on my part, not sure she can do on hers.
You really have to say something to her. Obviously not blow up but at least say "excuse me?".
Face it head on and speak the facts with how you are feeling. Say what kind of perception you are receiving/ how she is making you feel. State your goals and ask her, can we work together to remove any barriers?
You are an employee and have rights, it is a manager’s job to bring the best out of its employees and improve on their team performance. It is your job to confront the issue, own the situation, and communicate effectively
Am really delighted you have touch the situation I am in now, It not easy
Very important topic and nice presentation mam
good video but so far my experience in corporate world, I disagree with crocodile tears point. I respect emotionality of people and don't consider tears as drama.This kind of thinking simply breeds negatively about natural human aspect.
It's strange how the Author doesn't recognise situations like that as possibly genuine? I'm baffled!
Excellent class
effectively explained how to overcome with the conflicts
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Important and useful tips .
Very nice explanation of Workplace conflicts
Thank you beautiful young lady, for the valuable information. Absolutely iam going to use this tips in my work and life conflicts.
Very lively and charming presentation....thank you
Thank you for your explanation on work place conflicts is true, effective and practical
Videos are very helpul Thank you mam
Many thanks for sharing us such an important information. It is the great tips to deal with conflict.
Thank you for the tips
Thank you very much for your usefull tips to tackle workplace conflicts
Nice presentation and useful to us
Nice information and presentation
thanks this is helpful in bank customer staff conflicts .
I like how you said apologizing will not put you down! Great advice, and good video.
Very useful video ℹ️
Very nice presentation.
I want to speak fluently like you ....this my dream 🤔
Great tips!! using it with my ESL students today, helps you speak clearly and slowly! Thanks ;)
Great presentation Niharika ma'am Thanks
Nice information to avoid conflicts by presenting different tips.
Good presentation.
Thank you madam for useful knowledge .
at my work they always treated me different from them even though i did not do anything frm them 😕
Very good session on how to handle conflicts
very nice information
Nice presentation mam
Very good information,thanks.
videos are very helpful
Good knowledge
It's helpful however always play Niharika's video in 2X ❤️
Wonderful explanation in this video
Thank you
I need this for my movie theater job, because one specific person pisses me off.
Thank you for excellent explanation
Very interesting and useful video Thanks so much 👍👌
Thanks for great tips. I love your videos.
Very informative lecture
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Very useful video
Thank you for the informative presentation
Very helpful thanks
Your tips fill my day.
Very helpful
Thank u sooo much....for sharing such workplace videos..just loved ur videos and most important--the way u speak..just crazy about it....💕💕💕
Fantastic video
Wow thank you for ur great tips. You're awesome, eloquent speaker and beautiful niharika.
This is mind control instead good advice!
Obey
I would like some advice here, and see who is right and who is wrong here. I have a paid job, but I worked as a volunteer for 4 years I really enjoyed it, however a new manager took over and demanded I work the same hours as staff, despite not being paid for it! I couldn’t work full hours due to over commitment after a certain time. I disputed this with senior management, but they couldn’t care less. What should I do here
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Thank You. I needed this!
Thank you for really good advice
Very useful tips, thank you
Thanks
thanks so much, I have really learn a lot from your videos
very well said Niharika
I have learnt a lot from this video. Thank you very much Niharika
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Very nice thanks for this video
A Good & thought inspiring Video!
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Excellent video content and presentation. Thank you.
Very nice
good tips
thank you soooooo much,you helped me....❤❤💗💗💗
Thank you mem.