Saviour Complex: 7 Signs You're A Hurting Hero (Read This Psychology) - Inner Work Library [174/500]

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  • @PriyaPrasad-u5h
    @PriyaPrasad-u5h 2 วันที่ผ่านมา +11

    Really divine timing and eerie synchronicity with this talk.
    Seems profoundly magical and mystical, and looks like I am on the right Path.

    • @jordanthornton
      @jordanthornton  2 วันที่ผ่านมา +5

      Here for those spooky syncs - enjoy the books!

    • @holism
      @holism วันที่ผ่านมา

      Especially at 77.7k subscribers

  • @arpita.patnaik
    @arpita.patnaik 19 ชั่วโมงที่ผ่านมา +1

    Thank you for caling out my shadow in this video! Hits a spot and I will be working on it. :)

  • @auracristea9863
    @auracristea9863 วันที่ผ่านมา

    “Where your fear is, there is your task”. CG Jung - Well, in this case, where my illusions are challenged by hard truths. Thank you, Jordan! As always, you’re the voice of reason. 👍

  • @Urmitha
    @Urmitha 14 ชั่วโมงที่ผ่านมา

    hey Mr Jordon. I felt really thankful for your content. Literally all videos felt very authentic. i felt a great sense of bot been misleaded from truth

  • @sburgos9621
    @sburgos9621 วันที่ผ่านมา +3

    I noticed I have a savior complex when it comes to romantic relationships. The worst part about it is that I put all of my energy into raising my partner up and less on myself and they end up leaving once they have been lifted to a certain point. My family notices this and brings it up but oddly enough my partner never acknowledges it in the end of the relationship, only in the beginning do they tell me their friends and family tell them since we started dating they have changed in a positive way. Sometimes I wonder if they even realize what happened at the end or if they think that I am holding them back once they are better.

  • @DanielMadeNew
    @DanielMadeNew วันที่ผ่านมา +1

    I go from feeling cursed to feeling like i have everyone esles answers. I literally do think i understand the world better than alot of people. I would say though that i dont consider people as losers or at least not when im in a saviour complex mode of thinking. I have to see myself in a person to be able to help them or to do outrageous things for others. Thats what brings out my saviour because its like im saving myself as im trying to save them or literally saving them who knows. I shift from helper to apathetic from burn out from trying to essentially walk on eggshells assuming others are just as sensitive as me when in reality most people are not that sensitive.

  • @introvertedfeeler2215
    @introvertedfeeler2215 วันที่ผ่านมา

    This one hit home. Also a profoundly powerful synchronicity as I just did a Shadow Work exercise akin to 'show me what I don't want to see'. This video spawned itself *instantly.* Recognized strong shame around the saviour/victim complexes. Almost felt an urge to trauma dump in the comments; sat with it instead.
    The only victim complex video I see is a year ago and doesn't seem to be structured the same way. The video linked in this one is, for me at least, a livestream Q&A. What's the name of the victim complex video? Thanks. 🙏

  • @stenpoldsamm9732
    @stenpoldsamm9732 2 วันที่ผ่านมา +1

    I think my saviour complex brought me to my job as a personal/online trainer/mentor. 🤯

    • @jordanthornton
      @jordanthornton  2 วันที่ผ่านมา +6

      Led me to being the kind of guy who makes these videos - I can relate lol

  • @laresiaschuelke2441
    @laresiaschuelke2441 2 วันที่ผ่านมา +3

    This has been a tough one to find balance with for sure. 🙏❤️

    • @jordanthornton
      @jordanthornton  2 วันที่ผ่านมา +1

      I know what you mean, but I hope the books help you out - make sure not to sleep on these.

    • @laresiaschuelke2441
      @laresiaschuelke2441 2 วันที่ผ่านมา

      @@jordanthornton I really appreciate it and I definitely will be reading them. 👍

  • @Jacqueoldfield
    @Jacqueoldfield 2 วันที่ผ่านมา +2

    Thank you Jordan , eternally grateful,🌲💜🌲Your content blows my mind.

    • @jordanthornton
      @jordanthornton  2 วันที่ผ่านมา +1

      Thank you for being here every week.

  • @tg_5565
    @tg_5565 วันที่ผ่านมา

    Ahhhhh, yes. I recognize a bit of that. Thank you. Well done

  • @gailaltschwager7377
    @gailaltschwager7377 2 วันที่ผ่านมา +1

    Thank you, Jordan!

    • @jordanthornton
      @jordanthornton  2 วันที่ผ่านมา +2

      Always my pleasure 🌲

  • @jamesmccool503
    @jamesmccool503 2 วันที่ผ่านมา +7

    Actually...it's because I identify with people who life hasn't been kind to. Life wasn't kind to me when I was a kid. Sure a lot of people had it much worse. But it still wasn't kind and certainly not fair. I have always tried to help people who are in a bad spot out. I have only recently been able to see that almost everyone past a certain age is absolutely responsible for their own situation. You just can't help the vast majority people. As much as you may want to, most people are idiots and you will simply enable them to continue to be idiots with you paying for their bad decisions. I have helped very few people in life without regretting it.

    • @jordanthornton
      @jordanthornton  2 วันที่ผ่านมา +6

      It’s true that many people cannot be helped until they’re ready… but I have hope for when the time is right.

    • @jamesmccool503
      @jamesmccool503 2 วันที่ผ่านมา +2

      ​@@jordanthorntonTo be honest. My issues with always trying to help people is a mixed bag. I can see some of what you are talking about in my own life, but a lot of it I don't. I have recently started to try to really work on myself. I just wanted to say thank you for your videos. They have given me a good starting point.

    • @DanielMadeNew
      @DanielMadeNew วันที่ผ่านมา

      That sound alot more narcissistic than Saviour. People are "idiots"? So you only help people if it benefits you in some way? How's that trying to be a hero. Thats more of a villian complex. Thinking your the saviour but deciding who's worthy of your compassion (fake compassion*)

    • @jamesmccool503
      @jamesmccool503 วันที่ผ่านมา

      @DanielMadeNew You can't help people who won't help themselves. That is just a fact. I have genuine compassion for most people. I have always been ready to believe someone sob story because life is hard on people for no fkn reason. I try to help people because life wasn't great for me when I was younger. If I had had someone in my life to help me, my younger years would have been a little better. I am not trying to be seen as a hero. Unfortunately, it usually ends up being me "saving" them over and over again from the consequences of their own actions. Until I eventually have to ask myself why I am even trying to help them. Most of the people turn out to be black holes of helping. It doesn't matter what you do for them. They are still going to destroy their own lives. This is why they are idiots. I have a tendency to "help" people for YEARS on end. To the point I regret even trying. If you think coming to the realization that you just can't help them because no matter what you do, they ALMOST ALWAYS screw it up, is narcissistic, then be ready to become their enabler. Because that is where it leads. Actually helping someone and being their enabler looks the same from your end. The difference is in what they do when helped. Do they continue to make the same mistakes and need your help to avoid the consequences of those mistakes over and over again? If the answer is yes, you are an enabler. You end up harming them more than helping them, and in the process, you will end up hurting yourself. I have been able to help a few people. I don't get anything from helping them other than knowing I helped someone. However, from now on, I am going to judge whether or not they are worthy of my continued help by their actions and not their sob story. All users have a sob story. That's not being narcissistic. It's just the reality of it. As a matter of fact I just found out last weekend that 2 people I tried to help for on and off for far longer than I should have were arrested because they were living in a tent doing meth. The reason I found out is because one of their children messaged looking for her younger sisters' urn because it wasn't in her mother's and her mother's baby's daddy meth tent. Her mother left her little sisters urn at another meth monkeys house. Like I said, black holes of helping. Their lives were not that bad when I was in the picture trying to keep them straight, but it was ALWAYS a struggle just to try to keep them out of trouble. Once my wife and I moved, they predictably destroyed their own lives. Being non-judgemental will have you trying to help people who can't be helped.

    • @jamesmccool503
      @jamesmccool503 วันที่ผ่านมา

      ​@DanielMadeNew Trying to be non-judgemental will have you helping people who will take advantage of you. It will have you enabling people to make the same mistakes in their lives over and over again. You end up repeatedly "saving them" from the consequences of their own actions. That's why they are idiots, because nothing you do will ever be enough. It isn't narcissistic to say most people can't be helped because they won't help themselves. That is just reality. Who is and who isn't worthy to be helped boils down to what they do after you help them. Helping and enabling look similar from the perspective of the person trying to help. If the person receiving the help keeps getting themselves into the same types of situations afterwards. You are enabling them. I have actually helped a several people in my life. I am not looking for praise. I don't get anything from it other than knowing I helped them. However, most people don't actually want help. They want an enabler. Everyone has a sob story. Some of them are genuine runs of bad luck. However, most of the time, they brought their misfortune on themselves and aren't willing to change anything to stop it from happening again. It doesn't matter whether or not you believe they are worthy of your help. The end results will often be the same. With the exception that you could have saved yourself time and effort and maybe have helped someone else and it actually have made a difference. That is assuming you pay more attention to their actions than their sob story after you help them the first time.

  • @officialbipesh
    @officialbipesh วันที่ผ่านมา

    I never knew till now why I always liked side characters than Main Heroes, Failing characters and who are not able to achieve their objective

  • @riniraw
    @riniraw 2 วันที่ผ่านมา

    Lots of profound thoughts I don't know if I'm willing to share online.
    This video allowed me to appreciate my journey so far, and to be grateful for it. all of it.
    Facing The Dragon looks fascinating.👀 I find that I gravitate towards learning more and more about cults and spiritual grandiosity. Learning about these topics feels so immersive to me it provides me with much needed dose of escapism. I wonder why that is.
    Yay to conscious saviors 💪🐻

    • @jordanthornton
      @jordanthornton  2 วันที่ผ่านมา +1

      Three cheers for conscious saviours, yes 🌲🌲🌲

  • @user-gd5tq7df8h
    @user-gd5tq7df8h วันที่ผ่านมา

    Relieved to come to the last bit, where I find myself currently. Ooff..

  • @Lifelover-zj3oo
    @Lifelover-zj3oo 2 วันที่ผ่านมา

    Painfully relatable 🙄😬
    Thank you, Jordan 🤍

    • @jordanthornton
      @jordanthornton  2 วันที่ผ่านมา

      Thanks for being here, even with the pain lol

  • @lexuscrow1932
    @lexuscrow1932 2 วันที่ผ่านมา

    Robert Moore is full of wisdom. Came here for the book in the thumbnail.

    • @jordanthornton
      @jordanthornton  2 วันที่ผ่านมา

      Completely agree. He’s a legend.

  • @dianevierra781
    @dianevierra781 2 วันที่ผ่านมา +1

    Thanks for thinking of the US when the hurricane hit.

    • @jordanthornton
      @jordanthornton  2 วันที่ผ่านมา

      Of course, impossible not to. I'm glad it wasn't as devastating as the news was predicting.

  • @NN-ht1lp
    @NN-ht1lp 2 วันที่ผ่านมา

    Thank you.

  • @beckymagnolia1
    @beckymagnolia1 วันที่ผ่านมา

    Oh no Jordan! I'm only five minutes in and I'm seeing myself...ack! Well looks like I have another shadow friend to look at. Ha!

  • @Lifelover-zj3oo
    @Lifelover-zj3oo 2 วันที่ผ่านมา

    with Type 1 on the enneagram as the second in my tritype: I relate very deeply :)

    • @jordanthornton
      @jordanthornton  2 วันที่ผ่านมา

      Sure thing, hope you find these books good for you!

  • @NH-xl6du
    @NH-xl6du วันที่ผ่านมา

    .. well, I found my inner Loser and saved him 😇

  • @vinsaintmichael
    @vinsaintmichael 2 วันที่ผ่านมา +3

    I think the savior complex is the false prophet, the second beast. 🤔

    • @jordanthornton
      @jordanthornton  2 วันที่ผ่านมา

      Hmm - what do you mean?

  • @nickmcgruber7052
    @nickmcgruber7052 2 วันที่ผ่านมา +1

    I feel attacked

    • @jordanthornton
      @jordanthornton  2 วันที่ผ่านมา +1

      In the best way, I hope? Right there with you with many of these signs 🌲

  • @rshicks256
    @rshicks256 17 ชั่วโมงที่ผ่านมา

    ✝️

  • @yinglan9606
    @yinglan9606 2 วันที่ผ่านมา +2

    8 billion you say 👀 📕 🍽️

    • @jordanthornton
      @jordanthornton  2 วันที่ผ่านมา

      I shall never regret these words.

  • @Antiagingalchemy
    @Antiagingalchemy 2 วันที่ผ่านมา

    Oh yes… 🙁❤️‍🩹