Buyer's remorse: how to handle (& avoid) purchases you regret | Sustain This Podcast | Episode 27
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- เผยแพร่เมื่อ 31 พ.ค. 2024
- Have you ever made a purchase on a whim, only to try it on at home and realize that it wasn’t a great buy? We certainly have. Buyer's remorse is a very real thing, and we all make mistakes. In today’s episode, we chat about buyer's remorse, why we should give ourselves more grace in or efforts to be more mindful shoppers, and how we can avoid buyer's remorse so that we make fewer impulsive purchases in the future.
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My biggest regrets/mistakes have occurred when shopping 2nd hand online. Can't try them on, hard to return, I've imagined I was getting a deal and it turned out wasteful every time.
Same - it was the scratchiest cashmere sweater that I own, and wouldn't have bought it if I could have felt it in person. I also don't like buying unknown fragranced products online (bath and body products, makeup, candles, etc.) because even if they tell you the fragrances, you don't know what the combination will smell like.
It can create even greater shame if you are on a strict low-buy and the item doesn't meet your expectations.
@@ifetayodavidson-cade5613 Just bought an 100% wool jumper second hand, waiting for it to arrive and now filled with dread
same here, I end up donating them to an opshop and going out to buy something else so now I will not shop second hand online ever again
Shopping with friends is when I make most of my mistakes. EVERYTHING "looks good" or "you can definitely make that work" or "I wish I could wear something like that" gets me UGH!
Just this year I made the rule to not buy if I can't try it on. Too many mistakes otherwise
‘There’s always going to be something to want’. Such a great reminder.
I don't sell anything I don't want anymore, it's always either a charity shop (a small indie one rather than one that's part of a large corporation with plush offices) or I leave it on my front gate, it makes me happy to know that someone who likes the item will have it for free, I feel OK just picturing the smile on their face and hopefully they will pay it forward and do something nice for someone else too.
I bid on two items on ebay, one a Miu Miu dress and after winning the bids I immediately regretted it. Although the sellers stated "no returns" I emailed them and said I'd made a terrible mistake. They had not sent the clothes yet and they gave me a refund, it's always worth asking, appeal to the seller's better side, say you will give them a great review for customer service.
Related to the regrets-I’m curious about the flip side of them. What was a time when y’all went through what you’d consider a comprehensive, thorough analysis of an item and then ended up bringing it into your closet successfully? What were the steps of analyzing the piece, what does passing each step approaching the decision to purchase look like, and what success criteria exist for integrating the piece into your existing wardrobe?
I rarely have buyers remorse but rather analysis paralysis. I'm so worried about making a mistake that I don't invest in quality pieces. It pushes me back to picking something up that is inexpensive, a neutral color or super basic because it can be styled many ways. But my wardrobe lacks hero pieces.
❤ the idea of having an exit plan if buying something online I can’t return. I also appreciate that the subject of high expectations being discussed.
Brand loyalty with consistent sizing and hood quality pieces has DRASTICALLY decreased my buyer’s remorse. And I no longer buy cheap crappy fast fashion tanks/shirts🤣
The money is a big part of it. It’s like investments…you haven’t realized the loss until you “sell low”. With clothes it almost feels like if you hang onto it and hope that you will wear it, you wont have “realized the loss!!
Christina, you are such a great speaker and a natural for a podcast. So enjoy listening to the three of you. Great info!
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Could we savor a bit of that giveaway moment between Christina and Alyssa? I suppose there has been a glimpse of that, but so quick and without words.... Pleassseeeeee
Sadly a lot of my regrets come from second hand online shopping too! Especially shoes 😢
Hi Guys! There's something I never understood. When I find something wonderful on sale, the question is, would I think about getting it at full price? Of course not! I guess the question would have to be: If this piece was full-priced I could only dream about it, but on sale, I can get it. It has become compatible with my budget... does this make sense? Normally you talk about this matter referring that one shouldn't buy on sale a piece you wouldn't buy at full price. Perhaps, in reality, we're pointing out the same idea...
Agree! I've thought about this a lot. If I only bought what I would pay regular price for, I wouldn't have a wardrobe. #1cheapskate lol
Completely agree, wouldn't have any clothes, never buy at full price😂
I look at it this way - if it is an item you only are attracted to because it's on sale, it's a no. If you find something truly wonderful that fits in your wardrobe, fill a gap and it's better quality than you normally could afford it's a yes 😊
I guess it depends on the type of mistake, if I buy something for my fantasy self I wear that piece when on vacation and it makes me feel like I’m living that fantasy, but if the piece doesn’t fit or it’s uncomfortable I learn my lesson and move on.
I would echo Alyssa's point about donating to the secondhand shops that you would buy from yourself. I mainly donate to my local AgeUK shop (which is where I shop from the most) , they specialise in better quality secondhand and vintage. They also have a system whereby you can have a member donation card with a number, when you donate the number gets noted on the bag, it is written on the price tags of the items and then noted again when the items sell. They will write to you periodically to tell you how much your items have made at resale - I keep those emails so I know how much money my stuff has made for that charity. That system makes you feel more confident that you're not just passing your problem onto someone else.
Also in the uk charity shops will sometimes put a note in the window saying what they are short of - men's shoes/belts and bags/ladies coats etc so you can target your donations to their need.
Second hand shopping is so tricky! My biggest mistakes happened when I was still figuring out my style (including colors and fit/silhouettes) and how to shop vintage. For example, I bought two second hand button down shirts in my exact size from a familiar brand without realizing that, because they are from the early 2010s, they were too fitted for a contemporary look. So I should have bought them a size up. Today I think about how clothes from a certain era fit. I love trousers from the 80s because they usually accommodate my pear shaped body. I also think about the kinds of alterations I am able to do. Getting it hemmed is easy but making small hips fit on my hips is impossible. And I always ask for measurements. If the seller doesn't reply, I won't risk buying it, even when the item looks amazing and the price is good.
Sale shoes are my biggest regret. Shoes nowadays are disposable… majority of them. Sale shoes were impulse buying and most of them I donated without even using. Some of them were so ruined that couldn’t even be donated 😢 were thrown out. I have issues to fix from childhood and I can clearly see them today.
This is actually why I don’t shop second hand online and try to limit my online purchases all together. Thankfully (credit to Christina) I put a pair of boots on my wishlist saw them in store and wanted to try them and then think about it for at least another winter. I ended up hating them and they came off my list.
Some of the shopping regrets i've had in the past several years have been with purchases through style services ie Stitch Fix. The concept was a big draw at the time, as i started with them early in the pandemic, and it was fun to get a nice package, wrapped carefully, with items a "stylist" picked. But, then was realzing quality of some garments wasn't that great, or I was spending more than what I likely would if shopping in person. I've also become more aware of fast fashion and sustainable fashion. I'm no longer subscribed to this service, and i'm working at being a more mindful shopper, and you all have been a wonderful source of information and support in that 😊
I wonder if others would like to hear your thoughts on these types of services. There are so many now, I get ads popping up all the time!
My biggest regrets are when I’ve bought shoes I love on second hand online buys. I have a bigger foot and I can never finds any friends to give to. Firstly, I am upset because I loved so much and excited about the purchase. Secondly, the money I wasted
I regret buying most of trendy items 🥺🥺 because sometime I found them overpriced and everyone is wearing it so I don’t like it anymore 😢
💭A thought on "how to avoid regrets":
Analyzing one's body shapes, both horizontal (shoulders vs hips) and vertical (upper vs lower proportions) can help avoid repeating mistakes.
Definitely. I think it's really important to analyze where a garment hits you on your body so essentially where is that horizontal line falling. Is it at the smallest part of my waist, below my hips etc, because that break in the vertical form of an outfit draws attention to that location. If we think to ourselves, "well the shirt can be tucked or sweater could be rolled under", then we need to try it that way when we're trying it on and see how comfortable is that? and does the tuck create a bulge in the belly area?
I saw a Coach bag, black and white, in one of Alyssa's videos and I became obsessed with it, so I searched and searched, and bought it in black, and another one in the same patchwork as Alyssa's but not black and white, is like green blue, etc... they are beautiful but I regret so much buying them. :( I'm trying to sell them LOL
Maybe Alyssa will sell you her black and white one now that she has her puzzle. 😅
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Signed, I love the coral color sweater on you. You look great
You ladies all have such beautiful smiles! Signe I wish your smile wasn't hidden behind your mic so much. I've noticed that in other videos from this podcast as well. Thanks for listening and have a beautiful week.
Most of my buying mistakes become donated to a fitting charity supporting a good cause and hopefully somebody will re-wear whatever I donate down the line. No regrets, pass it along.... And know what that temptation feels like and try to veer in a different direction- like adding to my wishlist and try to find locally for the chance to try on. So Appreciate you all❤
So many gems here! Wonderful work, you three! Thank you
I regret that there are no good 2nd hand stores in my area. All we have are Clothes Mentors. There is an unpleasant oder walking into the store, and it's full of clothing that comes from places like Walmart. I truly don't understand their buying strategy.
thank you ladies
wow yes
Yeahhh I guess who never had that problem of feeling guily after buying something? For me I can usually tell if it is a mistake, but I do it because of impulse, company etc... Nowadays it baraly happens anymore, but it takes a lot of energy and time to be able to get better and loose that learned behaviour of jsut getting something that you like, plain and simple. ☺ The checklist helps me a lot: does it actually fit my wardrobe, do I see myself wearing this?
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Color adviser will you be doing videos soon?