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Coach Melannie, I disagree with you on the no-contact technique because it worked well with some of them and now, we’re communicating well, again. You’re right on everything else.
YES, I WAS MARRIED 29 YEARS, MY WIFE DIED WITH ALZHEIMERS IN 2018. NOW I AM 61 YEAR OLD. I FEEL STUPID IN THE DATING WORLD. I HAVE ENJOYED YOUR HELP WITH WOMEN AND AND FIGURING THEM OUT.
No contact doesn’t mean ignoring. It’s the appropriate and really the only response you should have to someone who has blown you off or taken you for granted. You can’t keep pursuing if they stop reciprocating any kind of effort.
Something is really wrong with our world today. Relationships should not be this hard. People have lost the ability to focus on what’s important and to value other peoples lives and time.
When women does their game nobody gives complains as its "girl privilege", but when guys does game on a girl everybody loses their minds and call them misogynistic and objectifying women!
Thats not entirely true. Theres context to it all. We didnt have social media and cell phones until ten years ago. Yea i had a cell ph in 1995 but they werent on the cusp of reliable until about ten years ago. Using cell phones and immediate posting in real time is a few years old. The chase has changed since then. If youre too available, youre doomed.
No when she pulls away walk away and move on. If she really was interested she wouldn't pull away. Yes you will lose her but you need a woman that really likes you and wants to be with you.
She pulls away - I load up the motorcycle and head out for a two week road trip. Complete ghost. no phone, no texts, no social media. annnnnd after 2 weeks, I usually discover that I don't miss her, and I am not interested in her any more.
I had feelings for this gorgeous female, and she pulled away. In my defense Melannie she was at the light in the right turn lane and I was right next to her in the left lane making a turn. I wasn't going to chase her because I'm in a good place with my auto insurance company.
Sir i have to inform ye that this is probaly a good joke and i say that as a german, i will pursue thy comedy career in the near future, keep it funny from Bavaria.
I made all the mistakes with women I liked that are mentioned in this video when younger. Never got a problem with asking the girl out, always had a positive response. My problems started when already dating by never read signals right or guess women's games and those kind of things. I opened my heart too soon and of course I scared them and they pulled away. My big mistake, I think, was to constantly put women on pedestals and act like a fan of a celebrity instead of an equal. Of course they lost interest and respect for me almost immediately. Fortunately I never insisted neither begged, but I was left with the feeling that something was terrible wrong with me. Then I learned that I needed to work on myself, in loving me and appreciating me the way I wanted to be loved and appreciated. Later on, someone whom I was fascinated by ask me out and I decline the invitation, she asked me again and we have been married for 20 years ! I wish this kind of videos existed in the 90s it would had been a lot easier for us guys
Hi Carlos..i need advice if can help me out..My on and off Gf couldnt sleep at night , and affecting her mental health….should I pull away or show my love or care by initiating contact? She didn’t text me for 6days She also having problem with Neck Degeneration and back pain..she is in her Menopause age… Should I be more caring like a Beta or I should Dont care like Alpha to just respond only when she reach out She want to do her own thing and I wonder whether am I the part time bf or she only need me when she want to ? I tried to arrange appointment with Doctors…she rather go on her own but medicine or gynae or chiropractic couldnt help her …she blame me is the source of her Mental Stress by me wanting her to put more effort on our relationship she feel pressure till she break down telling me she need rest..i told her she need Love but she said she want peace and to heal on her own.. How to save the relationship with a gf having Menopause and Medical and Mental health ?
I'm so lonely, my wife died after a 31 year marriage, and now I'm left all alone. Now i know that there are women out there but i have no idea of how to get one to even notice me. I don't want a woman that will use me, but i want some one that i can fall in love with. HELP
Which of these mistakes do I think is the easiest to make ? Being needy. It's easy due to falling head over heels in love with a lady right from the start without getting to know her first. Physical attraction. I've been there, done that, and bought a T-shirt. Not anymore. I'm gonna take one step at a time, and show self control and patience. Thanks again Coach Melannie. God bless you.
Mixed signals are what is driving me nuts. I'll go out and this woman will ask me if I'm there and show up. Then when I talk to her, I'm the only one asking questions. I ask her all kinds of questions about her and she answers honestly, but never asks me anything! What does this mean?? She makes it a point to show up in the places I go, then acts disinterested. She'll ask me to get up and join her on the dance floor, then she turns to people she barely knows and asks them if they would like to join her at her friend's wedding! WTF??
Games! Why can't we just be honest with one another? If she pulls away, be patient! If she misses you, she'll be back. If she doesn't, then she wasn't that into you. It's that simple!
Yes, I've made these mistakes, but am grateful there's room for improvement by learning how to date righteously and not remain in ignorance. I feel much better now and dating life is improving.
Yes, this video hit home. I don’t think I made these mistakes. However I think she became scared. Look for more videos and or direction with this. Thank you for your videos
What do I do when I've noticed the texting is diminishing... I havnt recieved a text most the day and that's not the normal, she's an amazing girl and I really don't want to lose her...please help
I love how you touched on reading a woman's "pursuit signals." It's an important, but oft neglected aspect of the dating game. That said, how do you deal with platonic female friends who give you those signals but you're only interested in friendship? I've had a few female friends who got hurt when they found out I wasn't interested and lost them as friends. 🤷🏿♂️
That is certainly a difficult situation! Sadly, that's just how life goes. You can't feel bad about not being interested in someone. Of course you want to be as kind as possible and not flirt or lead her on, but you can't feel bad for not being interested. Thanks for your comment!
I had a similar experience where I met a woman through a sports group recommended by mutual friends. Her personality was bubbly and lively and I soon became good friends with her through the 2022 WC period. She also liked talking about sports. However, she soon started to give me some obvious signals that she liked me and I was mortified because I wasn't ready to be in a relationship and didn't want to hurt her feelings (she's such a nice person). Me not reciprocating those feelings (even in the nicest way) really did hurt her. About two months later, she started becoming distant and cold towards me and I feel like our friendship is falling apart. I guess that's just life sometimes, and some things are beyond our control.
I dated one four months just seeing her on weekends. We lived two hours apart. Went to church together, worshiping and praying together. Told me she wanted something long term and beautiful with me and wanted me to move closer to her. I was able to do that. The first week I was there, she broke up! lol. Mind you she also had revealed to me that she had borderline personality disorder. I have empathy for her and prayed with her and had to let go. I was pleased to see how much I’ve grown and learned from past divorces and not let it wreck my life. I just went on. Squared up, chest out. Doesn’t compare with ex wives having affairs. They find me!
I can't remember if I sent these videos to you. th-cam.com/play/PLsQq0KK7pJ-VyeTDmwCE46a85Pme0uqRA.html They will teach you how to spot and avoid these kinds of women so you can move on to healthy relationships. God bless! 😀
Melannie, you know what? First of all I performed my English thanks to your messages. You are a good speaker. Secondly, it's been more than 3 months since I've been watching your posts that many things have changed in my life. I thank you because you're saying exactly what were my mistakes and how to resolve them! Be blessed! Oliver from DRC.
Assuming that smiling and being inviting is her pursuing you is a wild assumption to make. There could be so many reasons and it’s not our responsibility to pick up on things. More directness is needed and pursuing by doing things like smiling and being inviting is not putting forth any effort.
I’m guilty of being committed to her before we actually became actual partners. She kept saying that we’re just only getting to know each other but I was already acting too far ahead and got attached. Now she left me and I’m just focusing on myself for now and if there’s any hope for me she might miss me.
I'm a widower and figured I start dating again. I took a woman out a couple of times and both times were great. I asked her to check her schedule and I'd like to do something with her, well, it's only been 4 days and haven't heard back. Lol... it's been 20 yrs since I've dated, so I'm new at this again.
Yes! Thanks for the tips. Here’s the hard thing that I don’t hear enough about though…after a divorce, knowing how to START a new relationship and how challenging this is! Especially when meeting someone who hasn’t been married. Uggh
Guys who are well put together should have an ordinary, mundane reason for being around a girl they're attracted to -- an art class (or any class), a guest at a restaurant, a clothing store (and she's a checker), anywhere where the situation will naturally (eventually) lead to a conversation about the place you are in together when the time for talking to her "just automatically happens." Don't talk about her at all; focus on whatever the wholesome occasion calls for -- ordering food, study groups, whether or not you want to pay cash for that shirt or put the payment on a store credit card. Keep it brief and almost business-like but friendly. It's in the way you handle these (small talk) conversations where you can be yourself and let your views on how to interact in a charming but neutral way (and on an energy level a little higher than hers) can be put on display by just being your ordinary everyday self. It'll be the way you make or don't make eye contact, seem calm or agitated, confident or insecure, witty or boring, kind or stingy, optimistic or pessimistic, ambitious or lazy, empathic or controlling, and so on, that your personality will come through for her to assess. If you are a "natural," you'll be steps ahead of the so-called pickup artists (if you're looking for a high-value woman you want to spend the rest of your life with), the chasers and the pursuers. She'll pursue you, if you provide her with a level of authenticity and security that makes you reveal the good, smart, well groomed, humorous, trustworthy, and attractive man you are. So, this means you'll need to see the girl from one to three times a week, if possible. Don't escalate things; if the meet-ups allow you to spend a few extra minutes talking with her, that's great. But resist the urge to pursue or chase. Remember, it takes time to develop attraction; so, take it slow. There isn't any reason why you wouldn't make yourself available in this way just about everywhere you go, if you feel like it. It won’t be too long before you'll have one or more platonic relationships where you can get to know each other better, and where you’ll have an opportunity to figure out what the future holds for the two of you. Control your libido, so you can focus on the quality of the person's character instead of her physical attractiveness. Don't compliment her appearance directly. She'll know if you find her attractive simply by being a modern, authentic gentleman -- treating her with respect and the subtle but possibly adoring way you look into her eyes. So, the above approach isn’t intended for folks looking to hook up. It’s for people who want to find a mate to share their life with, forever, as you grow older and happier together each day. Lastly, I’d avoid becoming too emotionally involved until such time you feel very confident that she’s not a player, gold digger, taker, suffering from a personality disorder, a two-timer, (secretly) married, or in some other way damaged goods. And remember, most women have a guy friend somewhere in the picture in this day and age. Think about whether or not you want to deal with that. I most likely would just move on, maybe even to another country. But that’s no guarantee you’ll find what you’re looking for. It’s challenging, but remember: ultimately, you are enough! The world is filled with countless opportunities to be happy and successful without being a husband and/or parent.
Melannie thank you because I was really wrestling with this one. I was listening to John Piper his QA was mentioning lack apathy was pushing women into the arms of Christian boys . Pursing her is and being desired is a turn on for her . I knew to not chase like this is just a test so got to do to filter out all the guys that are capable of saying what's up? I was really interested to hear this from a Christian women about chasing and pursuing . One thing I did was stop texting and prayed for her instead . This works I mean cleaned my house found her no. Cashier was her name, people with her figure and accent would remind me of her . Bible verses in my head would seem to guide me. By like the like the 5 day she wanted to see me and wore more make up then normal .
She pulled away after I accidentally came across as too committed to her. She was my best friend, but I gradually caught feels for her, and weeks after she broke up with her BF, she started to show strong signs, and I accidentally did more than merely ask her out, I gave away some of my feelings partly by mistake and partly because I thought she wanted me to confess. It's been days since we last spoke. What do I say and do to reverse the damage?
A woman i was with pulled away and is now with another guy, I dropped her. Neither once of them are working and she might move to arkansas. What are the chances she will come back?
I hope she's not toxic, there's this coworker that seems interest in me but then pulled away after I left for training for work. Shes was playing hot and cold games with me after I came back. I recently stopped trying to say hi because she wasn't reciprocating with me but my coworkers and I keep noticing she keeps staring at me when she thinks that I'm not looking. Don't know if she see me as intimidating because I don't approach her aggressively like everyone else because she is super attractive and she's use to that approach from guys.
It's funny that I have chatted to a girl on an app then the convo went dead, then a year later chatted the same girl on a different app but she was chatting as if she didn't remember me 🤣. Then it died. We connected on humour and struggles. But now I've just met a girl in person and the chat feels like it won't get lost lol.
She told me she needed some space..so I did..but every once in a while I feel her pain..so I find her crying and give her some comfort..and I gave her space. One day we were talking and I said I'll write her a letter every few weeks.she said that well be nice.and we went our way..one day I saw her and stopped to talk to her ..her mom goes after me telling me that she don't want me.and I'm some kind of stalker...that moment realy crushed me because we have been there for each other
Well, I think I creeped out this girl who is a coworker that I don’t see all that often. I finally was able to get her alone today to apologize for my behavior and to say that I am sorry if she felt creeped out and made her feel uneasy. She looked relieved, and accepted my apology. I then told her that I think she’s the kind of gal I like to get to know a bit better, and she said she had a lot going on in her life right now, which is true. I said I understand that’s cool, and gave her a knuckle-bump. At least she forgave me which made me feel better. I think I’ll just try to not push it and let her come around if and when she’s ready.
Stop acting / being needy. If someone tells you "Im busy and have a lot going on right now" - theyre not interested. Youre not her type or her Chad. Move on. Shes trying to be polite to you and not make it anymore awkward. If you were a Chad to her, she would make all the time in the world for you. Your last sentence speaks of neediness and lack of the abundance mindset.
Usually this happens for one of two reasons. Either she likes attention but isn't interested in a serious relationship or something happened that made her feel uncomfortable and think a relationship wouldn't work. The key is to learn how to approach and interact with a woman in a way that makes her feel safe with you, melts her heart and makes her want a relationship with you. Feel free to email me if you have questions!
If you can't get second dates , unfortunately you didn't live up to the hype. Self improvement is needed and you will walk the first date into a second easily
I am in my early sixties, married and divorced twice. I have usually dated women 10-12 years younger. Never women looking for an experienced gentleman with money, but high value, intelligent, professional ladies. My last wife was a catalog lingerie model, turned public relations executive, 12 years younger. In any event, I find that Melanie`s principles are applicable for any age. However, as we grow older its very, very, temping to get involved with a toxic woman. Even the ones you would never expect. My advice, as I have yet again, done what I have avoided for 6 years, is fall in love. She is gorgeous, well educated, very athletic and 15 years my junior. Before this, I found myself focusing on the end result, whether a simple date, or the next weekend together. I learned to enjoy the process. And, always employ what Melanie suggests. Sometimes the hard way!
Hi Melannie! Is there a fine line between too "passive" and not direct to the point of getting friend- zoned vs. being to "aggressive" and direct at first as to your intentions?
@@CoachMelannie Thanks for the link with videos. Also this video above was great. I finally realized that . . . "I married her before I married her" I must've freaked her out. I feel bad & foolish. I hope to fix this. Thanks!
This woman I’ve known for some years, when things got tense n she told me off I didn’t take as incitement for ‘no-contact’ games, I simply gave space n then after a lil while I sent some fun video that she really laughed at n so we started talking again, n I’ve repeated the same ‘pattern’. For me a fail doesn’t mean total failure. We don’t learn from our successes, we learn from our failures, what goes wrong, not what goes right. Michael Jordan when asked about what made his success happen once said that it wasn’t about all the baskets he shoot, it was about all the ones he DIDN’T shoot into it, all the thousands that he missed. That is something that hit home with me.
I liked her. Maybe she liked me as well, actually I think that she did, but she couldn’t really say that bc well she wasn’t really um ‘available’ lol 😝
Yup we’re still in contact. It’s was a bit rough tho last year but we’ve started over ...again lol . Yaa man, as soon as she’s fully ‘available’ I would damn sure go for it, she’s tha bomb, ...n with two of them too haha 😆😜😝
?? Stop using Micheal Jordan as a cover for your neediness. Of all the women you know, shes the only one youre interested in (and shes unavailable)? Why would you want a relationship with someone - in your words - that indicated she might be interested in you, yet is unavailable at the time. Someone like that is simply waiting for a better option to come along and will do the same to you, come your turn. Value yourself more and work on that self-esteem.
Melanie how do I show support with all the positive things she's done for me in and around at the church she works at? It's like more people are talking to me because I know her. Melanie I don't want to lose this woman. We prayed together once already. I want to do that more with her
Test..I am just editing my comment as I was meant to say yes on not “test” I just started watching your valuable life lessons and it’s great..thank you
Because I am a clueless I have been classed in church "A player ". I get home after church and kick myself on why did I not pick up on the signs that she was pursuing me. You guessed it I teach mainly on being a single person in Christ. The elder of the church I was saved in kept telling me to just keep seeking first the kingdom of God. I was doing this anyway seeing many healed at work and out and about then bringing them to church and still nothing would happen!
Hi Coach Melannie!! When we do the opposite things she will percieve us as someone who respect her and appreciate who she is and what is she doing. When we do these eight mistakes she will see us as jerks, who are no interested in who she is and what she is doing; and only care about what we can take from her. Am I right? Thanks for sharing your knowledge and help us to understand what do to get our dream girl.
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P.S. Which of these mistakes do you think is the easiest to make? 💭 Tell me about it in the comments!
Thank you keep making more videos like that if you can God bless you have a good day
You are awesome and 😎 .
Coach Melannie, I disagree with you on the no-contact technique because it worked well with some of them and now, we’re communicating well, again. You’re right on everything else.
YES,
I WAS MARRIED 29 YEARS, MY WIFE DIED WITH ALZHEIMERS IN 2018. NOW I AM 61 YEAR OLD. I FEEL STUPID IN THE DATING WORLD. I HAVE ENJOYED YOUR HELP WITH WOMEN AND AND FIGURING THEM OUT.
COACH🌹🍓❤💥💅🍷🍷MELANNIE.....
No contact doesn’t mean ignoring. It’s the appropriate and really the only response you should have to someone who has blown you off or taken you for granted. You can’t keep pursuing if they stop reciprocating any kind of effort.
Fire! I like that!
Something is really wrong with our world today. Relationships should not be this hard. People have lost the ability to focus on what’s important and to value other peoples lives and time.
Exactly. I agree. This is a reason why there are so many single people
When women does their game nobody gives complains as its "girl privilege", but when guys does game on a girl everybody loses their minds and call them misogynistic and objectifying women!
Maann.. complete waste, sht so draining
Stop your crying
Thats not entirely true. Theres context to it all. We didnt have social media and cell phones until ten years ago. Yea i had a cell ph in 1995 but they werent on the cusp of reliable until about ten years ago. Using cell phones and immediate posting in real time is a few years old. The chase has changed since then. If youre too available, youre doomed.
No when she pulls away walk away and move on. If she really was interested she wouldn't pull away. Yes you will lose her but you need a woman that really likes you and wants to be with you.
Couldn't agree more.
She pulls away - I load up the motorcycle and head out for a two week road trip. Complete ghost. no phone, no texts, no social media. annnnnd after 2 weeks, I usually discover that I don't miss her, and I am not interested in her any more.
I had feelings for this gorgeous female, and she pulled away. In my defense Melannie she was at the light in the right turn lane and I was right next to her in the left lane making a turn. I wasn't going to chase her because I'm in a good place with my auto insurance company.
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Woooooowwww lmao
😆 funny.
Sir i have to inform ye that this is probaly a good joke and i say that as a german, i will pursue thy comedy career in the near future, keep it funny from Bavaria.
Meet at the next traffic lights
When she pulls away leave her and move on.
I made all the mistakes with women I liked that are mentioned in this video when younger. Never got a problem with asking the girl out, always had a positive response. My problems started when already dating by never read signals right or guess women's games and those kind of things. I opened my heart too soon and of course I scared them and they pulled away. My big mistake, I think, was to constantly put women on pedestals and act like a fan of a celebrity instead of an equal. Of course they lost interest and respect for me almost immediately. Fortunately I never insisted neither begged, but I was left with the feeling that something was terrible wrong with me. Then I learned that I needed to work on myself, in loving me and appreciating me the way I wanted to be loved and appreciated. Later on, someone whom I was fascinated by ask me out and I decline the invitation, she asked me again and we have been married for 20 years ! I wish this kind of videos existed in the 90s it would had been a lot easier for us guys
Hi Carlos..i need advice if can help me out..My on and off Gf couldnt sleep at night , and affecting her mental health….should I pull away or show my love or care by initiating contact? She didn’t text me for 6days
She also having problem with Neck Degeneration and back pain..she is in her Menopause age…
Should I be more caring like a Beta or I should Dont care like Alpha to just respond only when she reach out
She want to do her own thing and I wonder whether am I the part time bf or she only need me when she want to ?
I tried to arrange appointment with Doctors…she rather go on her own but medicine or gynae or chiropractic couldnt help her …she blame me is the source of her Mental Stress by me wanting her to put more effort on our relationship she feel pressure till she break down telling me she need rest..i told her she need Love but she said she want peace and to heal on her own..
How to save the relationship with a gf having Menopause and Medical and Mental health ?
*Instead of chasing, take that time to work on your goals, passions, and self-development. This is what will keep you attractive in the long run.*
I'm so lonely, my wife died after a 31 year marriage, and now I'm left all alone. Now i know that there are women out there but i have no idea of how to get one to even notice me. I don't want a woman that will use me, but i want some one that i can fall in love with. HELP
I completely understand. You can email me if you'd like my help. melannie@coachmelannie.com God bless! 😀
Which of these mistakes do I think is the easiest to make ? Being needy. It's easy due to falling head over heels in love with a lady right from the start without getting to know her first. Physical attraction. I've been there, done that, and bought a T-shirt. Not anymore. I'm gonna take one step at a time, and show self control and patience. Thanks again Coach Melannie. God bless you.
Good for you!! I know you can do this! Have a happy day! 😀
your background music keeps me checking our gate if someone is really honking
Mixed signals are what is driving me nuts. I'll go out and this woman will ask me if I'm there and show up. Then when I talk to her, I'm the only one asking questions. I ask her all kinds of questions about her and she answers honestly, but never asks me anything! What does this mean?? She makes it a point to show up in the places I go, then acts disinterested. She'll ask me to get up and join her on the dance floor, then she turns to people she barely knows and asks them if they would like to join her at her friend's wedding! WTF??
I just let her go i love being single
Amen
Agreed
Yo I feel that😂😂😂😂
One of the best ways to handle this honestly,don't give her joy by chasing her.Let her go,only then will you know if she truly cares for you.
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Melannie,
Great video, Thx for the info!!
YES! Another great video. Please keep them coming. Your perspective is so positively different than most other coaches.
Games! Why can't we just be honest with one another?
If she pulls away, be patient! If she misses you, she'll be back. If she doesn't, then she wasn't that into you.
It's that simple!
Yes,
I've made these mistakes, but am grateful there's room for improvement by learning how to date righteously and not remain in ignorance.
I feel much better now and dating life is improving.
Melanie... good stuff, thanks! I enjoy your clips at the end as well.
Interaction=being myself 100% all the time, cool & relaxed
Thank you. You're the best!
Who could resist an honest woman with Apple cheeks and a big smile. You are a breath of fresh air.
No time for mind games, she pulls away, then she takes her stuff with her. Job done. I have heard enough excuses for women behaving badly.
Yes, this video hit home. I don’t think I made these mistakes. However I think she became scared. Look for more videos and or direction with this. Thank you for your videos
As soon as I get the funds I'm signing up thank you so much for all you do, your true blessing!
You are so welcome!
Yes.. This is some real content to watch. More power to you girl.
Thank you! And thanks for watching 😀
YES !!! And after watching this video. In all Humility it just reinforces that YES I am totally clueless !!!
When she pulls away, walk away. You got the message.
What do I do when I've noticed the texting is diminishing... I havnt recieved a text most the day and that's not the normal, she's an amazing girl and I really don't want to lose her...please help
I'm learning a lot from your videos!! Thank's for sharing your knowledge..
I love how you touched on reading a woman's "pursuit signals." It's an important, but oft neglected aspect of the dating game. That said, how do you deal with platonic female friends who give you those signals but you're only interested in friendship? I've had a few female friends who got hurt when they found out I wasn't interested and lost them as friends. 🤷🏿♂️
That is certainly a difficult situation! Sadly, that's just how life goes. You can't feel bad about not being interested in someone. Of course you want to be as kind as possible and not flirt or lead her on, but you can't feel bad for not being interested. Thanks for your comment!
@@CoachMelannie good point; no use feeling bad about it. Just tell the truth and move on!
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I had a similar experience where I met a woman through a sports group recommended by mutual friends. Her personality was bubbly and lively and I soon became good friends with her through the 2022 WC period. She also liked talking about sports. However, she soon started to give me some obvious signals that she liked me and I was mortified because I wasn't ready to be in a relationship and didn't want to hurt her feelings (she's such a nice person). Me not reciprocating those feelings (even in the nicest way) really did hurt her. About two months later, she started becoming distant and cold towards me and I feel like our friendship is falling apart. I guess that's just life sometimes, and some things are beyond our control.
Welcome gorgeous and respected friend❤ your voice is wonderful✨😍 keep it up❤
If she pulls away from you, tell her to get out of your house. She's just as replaceable as you are to her.
I dated one four months just seeing her on weekends. We lived two hours apart. Went to church together, worshiping and praying together. Told me she wanted something long term and beautiful with me and wanted me to move closer to her. I was able to do that. The first week I was there, she broke up! lol. Mind you she also had revealed to me that she had borderline personality disorder. I have empathy for her and prayed with her and had to let go. I was pleased to see how much I’ve grown and learned from past divorces and not let it wreck my life. I just went on. Squared up, chest out. Doesn’t compare with ex wives having affairs. They find me!
I can't remember if I sent these videos to you. th-cam.com/play/PLsQq0KK7pJ-VyeTDmwCE46a85Pme0uqRA.html They will teach you how to spot and avoid these kinds of women so you can move on to healthy relationships. God bless! 😀
Melannie, you know what? First of all I performed my English thanks to your messages. You are a good speaker. Secondly, it's been more than 3 months since I've been watching your posts that many things have changed in my life. I thank you because you're saying exactly what were my mistakes and how to resolve them! Be blessed!
Oliver from DRC.
So happy to hear that!
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Assuming that smiling and being inviting is her pursuing you is a wild assumption to make. There could be so many reasons and it’s not our responsibility to pick up on things. More directness is needed and pursuing by doing things like smiling and being inviting is not putting forth any effort.
Yes .. I appreciate your work very much
The best way to counter this behavior is by doing it yourself.
I’m guilty of being committed to her before we actually became actual partners. She kept saying that we’re just only getting to know each other but I was already acting too far ahead and got attached. Now she left me and I’m just focusing on myself for now and if there’s any hope for me she might miss me.
I GET TO HEAVY TO FAST, I WRITE THEM A POEM AND THEY RUN, IT SUCKS, THANK YOU FOR YOUR WISDOM
I'm a widower and figured I start dating again. I took a woman out a couple of times and both times were great. I asked her to check her schedule and I'd like to do something with her, well, it's only been 4 days and haven't heard back. Lol... it's been 20 yrs since I've dated, so I'm new at this again.
Yes!
Thanks for the tips. Here’s the hard thing that I don’t hear enough about though…after a divorce, knowing how to START a new relationship and how challenging this is! Especially when meeting someone who hasn’t been married. Uggh
Dont get married. Smh bro,
Yes, thank you Melannie
Honestly tell everybody who are here only to see Melanie 😁😁😁
I'd be embarrassed to be seen with an outspoken Christian who just bags people. And they believe in a freaking sky daddy.
Guys who are well put together should have an ordinary, mundane reason for being around a girl they're attracted to -- an art class (or any class), a guest at a restaurant, a clothing store (and she's a checker), anywhere where the situation will naturally (eventually) lead to a conversation about the place you are in together when the time for talking to her "just automatically happens." Don't talk about her at all; focus on whatever the wholesome occasion calls for -- ordering food, study groups, whether or not you want to pay cash for that shirt or put the payment on a store credit card. Keep it brief and almost business-like but friendly. It's in the way you handle these (small talk) conversations where you can be yourself and let your views on how to interact in a charming but neutral way (and on an energy level a little higher than hers) can be put on display by just being your ordinary everyday self. It'll be the way you make or don't make eye contact, seem calm or agitated, confident or insecure, witty or boring, kind or stingy, optimistic or pessimistic, ambitious or lazy, empathic or controlling, and so on, that your personality will come through for her to assess. If you are a "natural," you'll be steps ahead of the so-called pickup artists (if you're looking for a high-value woman you want to spend the rest of your life with), the chasers and the pursuers. She'll pursue you, if you provide her with a level of authenticity and security that makes you reveal the good, smart, well groomed, humorous, trustworthy, and attractive man you are. So, this means you'll need to see the girl from one to three times a week, if possible. Don't escalate things; if the meet-ups allow you to spend a few extra minutes talking with her, that's great. But resist the urge to pursue or chase. Remember, it takes time to develop attraction; so, take it slow. There isn't any reason why you wouldn't make yourself available in this way just about everywhere you go, if you feel like it. It won’t be too long before you'll have one or more platonic relationships where you can get to know each other better, and where you’ll have an opportunity to figure out what the future holds for the two of you. Control your libido, so you can focus on the quality of the person's character instead of her physical attractiveness. Don't compliment her appearance directly. She'll know if you find her attractive simply by being a modern, authentic gentleman -- treating her with respect and the subtle but possibly adoring way you look into her eyes. So, the above approach isn’t intended for folks looking to hook up. It’s for people who want to find a mate to share their life with, forever, as you grow older and happier together each day. Lastly, I’d avoid becoming too emotionally involved until such time you feel very confident that she’s not a player, gold digger, taker, suffering from a personality disorder, a two-timer, (secretly) married, or in some other way damaged goods. And remember, most women have a guy friend somewhere in the picture in this day and age. Think about whether or not you want to deal with that. I most likely would just move on, maybe even to another country. But that’s no guarantee you’ll find what you’re looking for. It’s challenging, but remember: ultimately, you are enough! The world is filled with countless opportunities to be happy and successful without being a husband and/or parent.
Melannie thank you because I was really wrestling with this one. I was listening to John Piper his QA was mentioning lack apathy was pushing women into the arms of Christian boys . Pursing her is and being desired is a turn on for her . I knew to not chase like this is just a test so got to do to filter out all the guys that are capable of saying what's up? I was really interested to hear this from a Christian women about chasing and pursuing . One thing I did was stop texting and prayed for her instead . This works I mean cleaned my house found her no. Cashier was her name, people with her figure and accent would remind me of her . Bible verses in my head would seem to guide me. By like the like the 5 day she wanted to see me and wore more make up then normal .
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yes, i made all the mistakes you mentioned
She pulled away after I accidentally came across as too committed to her. She was my best friend, but I gradually caught feels for her, and weeks after she broke up with her BF, she started to show strong signs, and I accidentally did more than merely ask her out, I gave away some of my feelings partly by mistake and partly because I thought she wanted me to confess. It's been days since we last spoke. What do I say and do to reverse the damage?
A woman i was with pulled away and is now with another guy, I dropped her. Neither once of them are working and she might move to arkansas. What are the chances she will come back?
I hope she's not toxic, there's this coworker that seems interest in me but then pulled away after I left for training for work. Shes was playing hot and cold games with me after I came back. I recently stopped trying to say hi because she wasn't reciprocating with me but my coworkers and I keep noticing she keeps staring at me when she thinks that I'm not looking. Don't know if she see me as intimidating because I don't approach her aggressively like everyone else because she is super attractive and she's use to that approach from guys.
It's funny that I have chatted to a girl on an app then the convo went dead, then a year later chatted the same girl on a different app but she was chatting as if she didn't remember me 🤣. Then it died.
We connected on humour and struggles.
But now I've just met a girl in person and the chat feels like it won't get lost lol.
Being raised in a toxic my whole life, I was never taught these basic skills.
She told me she needed some space..so I did..but every once in a while I feel her pain..so I find her crying and give her some comfort..and I gave her space. One day we were talking and I said I'll write her a letter every few weeks.she said that well be nice.and we went our way..one day I saw her and stopped to talk to her ..her mom goes after me telling me that she don't want me.and I'm some kind of stalker...that moment realy crushed me because we have been there for each other
I'm so very sorry!
Thanks again
Precious voice and your beautiful video
Yes! I would like to learn more about pursuing. How to tell if a woman is pursuing me, and what the best approach is to pursue a female.
Well, I think I creeped out this girl who is a coworker that I don’t see all that often. I finally was able to get her alone today to apologize for my behavior and to say that I am sorry if she felt creeped out and made her feel uneasy. She looked relieved, and accepted my apology. I then told her that I think she’s the kind of gal I like to get to know a bit better, and she said she had a lot going on in her life right now, which is true. I said I understand that’s cool, and gave her a knuckle-bump. At least she forgave me which made me feel better. I think I’ll just try to not push it and let her come around if and when she’s ready.
Stop acting / being needy. If someone tells you "Im busy and have a lot going on right now" - theyre not interested. Youre not her type or her Chad. Move on. Shes trying to be polite to you and not make it anymore awkward. If you were a Chad to her, she would make all the time in the world for you. Your last sentence speaks of neediness and lack of the abundance mindset.
Love the bloopers!
Glad you like them! Have a happy day! 😀
Absolutely yes
Appreciate your great content!
wow thats great advice thanks melannie
You are very welcome! I'm so glad it helped 😀
Yes this happens to me all the time. Many First dates but they pull away . Thanks
Usually this happens for one of two reasons. Either she likes attention but isn't interested in a serious relationship or something happened that made her feel uncomfortable and think a relationship wouldn't work. The key is to learn how to approach and interact with a woman in a way that makes her feel safe with you, melts her heart and makes her want a relationship with you. Feel free to email me if you have questions!
If you can't get second dates , unfortunately you didn't live up to the hype. Self improvement is needed and you will walk the first date into a second easily
It's very interesting to hear and watch you
Yes! I am interested in some type of video for men 50's and older.
I am in my early sixties, married and divorced twice. I have usually dated women 10-12 years younger. Never women looking for an experienced gentleman with money, but high value, intelligent, professional ladies. My last wife was a catalog lingerie model, turned public relations executive, 12 years younger. In any event, I find that Melanie`s principles are applicable for any age. However, as we grow older its very, very, temping to get involved with a toxic woman. Even the ones you would never expect. My advice, as I have yet again, done what I have avoided for 6 years, is fall in love. She is gorgeous, well educated, very athletic and 15 years my junior. Before this, I found myself focusing on the end result, whether a simple date, or the next weekend together. I learned to enjoy the process. And, always employ what Melanie suggests. Sometimes the hard way!
What do you do if she marries you before she marries you?
Hi Melannie! Is there a fine line between too "passive" and not direct to the point of getting friend- zoned vs. being to "aggressive" and direct at first as to your intentions?
Coach Melanie, I absolutely love the way you talk and explain things! Your voice puts me at ease! Keep up the great work!
Melaqnnie thank you,
Yes.
What if women want to celebrate monthly relationship anniversaries? What does that mean?
You are a good relationship expert. I am interested in your lessons please.
Yes! Very informative 👍
Glad it was helpful! Thanks for watching! 👍
Yes! more on what to dol if she pulls away. Also please more on her signals & spotting some of her ways when she's pursuing us.
Have you seen these videos? th-cam.com/play/PLsQq0KK7pJ-WjotkCVLvYKp30QhuvcKDN.html They will help you with this!
@@CoachMelannie Thanks for the link with videos. Also this video above was great. I finally realized that . . . "I married her before I married her" I must've freaked her out. I feel bad & foolish. I hope to fix this. Thanks!
This woman I’ve known for some years, when things got tense n she told me off I didn’t take as incitement for ‘no-contact’ games, I simply gave space n then after a lil while I sent some fun video that she really laughed at n so we started talking again, n I’ve repeated the same ‘pattern’. For me a fail doesn’t mean total failure. We don’t learn from our successes, we learn from our failures, what goes wrong, not what goes right. Michael Jordan when asked about what made his success happen once said that it wasn’t about all the baskets he shoot, it was about all the ones he DIDN’T shoot into it, all the thousands that he missed. That is something that hit home with me.
Who liked whome that girl told you that she likes u or you told her that?
I liked her. Maybe she liked me as well, actually I think that she did, but she couldn’t really say that bc well she wasn’t really um ‘available’ lol 😝
@@waudicas are you still in contact? If yes why don't you give it a try? If that happened woh you're gonna make a love story, lucky person you'll be 😄
Yup we’re still in contact. It’s was a bit rough tho last year but we’ve started over ...again lol . Yaa man, as soon as she’s fully ‘available’ I would damn sure go for it, she’s tha bomb, ...n with two of them too haha 😆😜😝
?? Stop using Micheal Jordan as a cover for your neediness. Of all the women you know, shes the only one youre interested in (and shes unavailable)? Why would you want a relationship with someone - in your words - that indicated she might be interested in you, yet is unavailable at the time. Someone like that is simply waiting for a better option to come along and will do the same to you, come your turn. Value yourself more and work on that self-esteem.
Please send me more if your trying classes
This is amazingly down to earth. Thanks so much.
That was helpfull coach 🙏
So glad!
Yes! Good stuff...takes hearing it in different ways.
How much wrong knowledge i had....thanks....you just earned a follower
I been out of the dating game for 14 years
mst be nice
Nice content Melannie
Thanks for watching!
@@CoachMelannie Would love to interview you sometime on our channel ...if you are open to it ;)) -PJ
Melanie how do I show support with all the positive things she's done for me in and around at the church she works at? It's like more people are talking to me because I know her.
Melanie I don't want to lose this woman. We prayed together once already. I want to do that more with her
I hope these videos will be helpful. th-cam.com/play/PLsQq0KK7pJ-WuesbR1wpmgbm6busP8kPQ.html God bless 🙏
When is the right time to try again?
Test..I am just editing my comment as I was meant to say yes on not “test” I just started watching your valuable life lessons and it’s great..thank you
the more I watch your clips the more I want them.👏 thanks 👍😊😊
You just made my day! Thank you for such a kind comment! 😀
Hey coach Melannie, what sign of zodiac are you? Gemini? Is only a curiosity
Because I am a clueless I have been classed in church "A player ". I get home after church and kick myself on why did I not pick up on the signs that she was pursuing me.
You guessed it I teach mainly on being a single person in Christ.
The elder of the church I was saved in kept telling me to just keep seeking first the kingdom of God. I was doing this anyway seeing many healed at work and out and about then bringing them to church and still nothing would happen!
This is my first time to watch your videos and I really enjoyed it.
Welcome!
I've learned this as a teenie...never chase a girl, when she's not being interested. It's just a time waste, doesn't make sense after all.
Thank you! Different!!
You're welcome! Have a happy day! 😀
Yes 💟 You are an amazing coach!
I teach you, I'll explain, ad, link, masterclass, so much fluff in this video
Yes! Great video
Glad you enjoyed it! 😀Thanks for watching!
Yes very useful. Thank you
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Coach yu are BFUL💜.
Yes.
Hi Coach Melannie!!
When we do the opposite things she will percieve us as someone who respect her and appreciate who she is and what is she doing.
When we do these eight mistakes she will see us as jerks, who are no interested in who she is and what she is doing; and only care about what we can take from her.
Am I right?
Thanks for sharing your knowledge and help us to understand what do to get our dream girl.
How are you coach??... I just hope U're doing well...
Yes, more of you!