Extraordinary conversation, so informative, inspiring and deeply moving, between two wonderful human beings. Everyone who sees this film should be trying to share as much as possible. Thank you, Bruce and Fritzi.
I love this because neuroscience is my gateway to comprehension of psychology, and he makes it understandable for everyone. Fritzi- so full of grace- this is just such a great interview!
Wooow omgggg 🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏 Thank YOU 🤗🥳🤩😍🥰😘😍🤩❤️🧡💚💙💙💙💙💜♥️💕💓💗💝💝💗🙏🙏🌹🌹❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️🌹❤️🌹❤️🌹❤️🌹❤️🌹❤️🌹❤️🌹❤️🌹❤️🌹mental health should be a number one priority 🙏❤️🌹💝
I appreciate these wonderful, insightful and thorough conversations. My 32 yo son is high-functioning Autistic who was gas-lighted into commenting on social media. Considered stalking but he was defending a revenge-stalking campaign against him. His belief that if he could just tell the truth … this mild mannered, believes everything anyone tells him, gives everyone his power, money, food- it’s incredibly tough. Thank you for your wonderful efforts.
This type of bs is really an push to 'normalize' crime and let violent criminals off the hook. It is an effort to focus attention and sympathy on the violent, criminal segment of our society, and paper over their abusive exploitative, immoral and disgusting behavior. Being human means that we are expected and obligated to rise about our primitive impulses. people who are unable to do that should be locked up and prevented from victimizing the rest of society. It is just crazy and upside down to focus on helping criminals while ignoring the plight of their victims. Its pure wokie politics in action.
I wish every mother could hear, what Dr. Bruce Perry tells here - rearing a child or children just with 2 parents is way too much burden for them, we live for the first time in history of human race, where parents with small children are so isolated and without daily help of a big community, grandparents, aunts, uncles, cousins, etc.; in hunter and gather groups there were in average 4 adults to 1 child...
In that case people who want to have children should recruit their support system before breeding. Maybe the Mormon system of multiple wives (polygamy) would suit their purpose.
@@theinkbrain Yes, I think the same - support system is, what is needed. And the awareness in the culture, how big and complex the task of caring for a child is...
@@katerfindus8998 Its an enormous task - almost impossible if both parents are working outside the home. In the old days both parents worked in and around the home, so kids were always taken care of by parents and even older siblings, as well as extended family. The situation today is totally unsuited for the proper care of children.
This was all done years before when Bowlby along with Ainsworth formulated attachment theory. But Bowlby always maintained that relationship is key. Attentive consistent care and without this there are consequences. Also as regards when trauma or adverse events happen this was tackled by Eriksson with his stages of social development and when something happens at a certain stage results in particular emotional and development difficulties. I think Perry has added to this but I am disappointed that he never credits the work of Bowlby in particular. To add to that Attachment based therapy is based on the power of relationships to try and rework difficulties loses and trauma. Now where Perry really is challenging the consensus is the length of therapeutic interventions and what is effective. Perry please acknowledge the shoulders you stand on.
Exactly, you need to invent a school for parenting. And dont allowed everybody to Have kids Only parents with skils, Love, compesion wisdom, education 🙏🌹❤️♥️💪👍🤶💃🥰🥰😘💗💓🌸🌺
Is there a therapy that most aligns itself with what the guy says at 13:00 ?? I've been to different therapists for 10 years nearly and they all fail to get through in the way he's talking about. I've expressed that I need someone to force their way through because I'm unwilling to open up even though I want to. There is something out of my control that won't let them in, and the therapists I've seen are ones who sit and wait for me to express myself... It ain't happnin dude.
Self love ❤ ? I started asking myself what would a healthy person do? Because love was too abstract. A couple weeks ago I graduated to " what would someone that loves themselves do?". I have repeatedly told myself "you are safe " that turned into I am safe , big difference. I also had to accept I abandone myself . That hurts! But like the old saying says, it's got to hurt to heal. Good thing I like nightmares. I also got myself the childhood toy I always wanted. This gift to myself gave me the ability to like and be interested in the person I see in the mirror. Love yourself like no one else
20:22 Since I used "Executive Function" to survive Trauma, my bodymind associates it with Trauma and doesn't want to do that anymore. It's literally broken. Now my Emotional Dysregulation is completely off the scale and delaying expression of pain/suffering/etc. feels like placating and co-dependency. This is a Double Bind in the Recovery Community. And as most of us know, Double Binds add a Meta-Layer of Trauma over the first layer of trauma. People who routinely exploit other people often know this and use it to condition them to accept their treatment. It's called "Grooming". Clinicians who treat Clients with this problem often label the Client "Resistant" and treat them with disdain. Totally ignorant of how the bodymind works and how it can be broken.
32:18 Threat. 32:47 Group up. 33:31 This. Is the dilemma. And it permeates the whole Universe. And, no, we may not be able to "Understand it". That is part of "Executive Function".
around minute 31 of the conversation systemic environmental factors are mentioned and also how they are intentionally evolved to deregulate, and to keep certain power structures going, with systematically the same people at the top, the same at the bottom: it was mentioned that this is a whole other conversation: does anyone know if that conversation can be found online somewhere? and if so, where.
re. around minute 39: could the goal be a global us? marshall rosenberg actually has the language for the global us. it is returning to the need instead of staying at the level of the individual preference to fullfill the need. eg: i express myself in one language, you in another, but we are the same in our need of expressing ourselves through language. i love country, you love metal, but we are the same in our need for joy, or relaxation (or whatever you use the music for at a given moment in time). or the topic mentioned here: we all need connection, i get it through this group of people, you through that one, and we tend to do hicking, and others tend to do weekly lunches together etc etc
Gave me new insight into what happened to me. But still, just a scant few nuggets of information are buried in a huge pile of bs. Human beings have rights, but with those rights come responsibilities. If people choose criminal behavior over law-abiding behavior, they have no one else but themselves to blame. Waves of immigrants from the lower, illiterate, deprived classes came to to this country and made good. Most did not even speak the language. So what is the problem? If being of a certain race is the problem, why do the females of that race do better than the males. Same thing for poverty. Look at the prison population and you will see clear choices being made by criminals to do criminal things. Its pure bs to claim that society is to blame. That is the wokie mantra. No: People hold their fate in their own hands, and if they choose to throw away their freedom because they would rather turn to crime and exploitation of others rather than live within the constraints of the law, screw them. They belong behind bars, and society does not need them, and society owes them nothing.
Anything with Ophray..never watch...after her awful trouble making interviews with Harry+MM...did not receive money..do not believe it.. she lost a lot a respect 🤨Oprah talks about story as only she has suffered...
Extraordinary conversation, so informative, inspiring and deeply moving, between two wonderful human beings. Everyone who sees this film should be trying to share as much as possible. Thank you, Bruce and Fritzi.
Getting to the cortex... Empathy before education - Marshall Rosenberg
I love this because neuroscience is my gateway to comprehension of psychology, and he makes it understandable for everyone. Fritzi- so full of grace- this is just such a great interview!
Wooow omgggg 🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏 Thank YOU 🤗🥳🤩😍🥰😘😍🤩❤️🧡💚💙💙💙💙💜♥️💕💓💗💝💝💗🙏🙏🌹🌹❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️🌹❤️🌹❤️🌹❤️🌹❤️🌹❤️🌹❤️🌹❤️🌹❤️🌹mental health should be a number one priority 🙏❤️🌹💝
Amazing. And so frustrating that these systems continue to run amok. Thank you both for your work!!
I appreciate these wonderful, insightful and thorough conversations. My 32 yo son is high-functioning Autistic who was gas-lighted into commenting on social media. Considered stalking but he was defending a revenge-stalking campaign against him. His belief that if he could just tell the truth … this mild mannered, believes everything anyone tells him, gives everyone his power, money, food- it’s incredibly tough. Thank you for your wonderful efforts.
What I got most out of this is how important relational connection is - something that a childhood trauma survivor is not very good at🤩
Try Why Love matters by Sue Gerhardt. Great book.
This type of bs is really an push to 'normalize' crime and let violent criminals off the hook. It is an effort to focus attention and sympathy on the violent, criminal segment of our society, and paper over their abusive exploitative, immoral and disgusting behavior. Being human means that we are expected and obligated to rise about our primitive impulses. people who are unable to do that should be locked up and prevented from victimizing the rest of society. It is just crazy and upside down to focus on helping criminals while ignoring the plight of their victims. Its pure wokie politics in action.
Thank you for your work Fritzy !
AMAZING!!! Thank you so much, for this video.
Wonderful discussion. Extremely informative. Please keep these podcasts up!!
I wish every mother could hear, what Dr. Bruce Perry tells here - rearing a child or children just with 2 parents is way too much burden for them, we live for the first time in history of human race, where parents with small children are so isolated and without daily help of a big community, grandparents, aunts, uncles, cousins, etc.; in hunter and gather groups there were in average 4 adults to 1 child...
Sooooo true!!!
I found your lecture interesting would like to know how to contact Dr. Bruce Perry in regard to consultation
In that case people who want to have children should recruit their support system before breeding. Maybe the Mormon system of multiple wives (polygamy) would suit their purpose.
@@theinkbrain Yes, I think the same - support system is, what is needed. And the awareness in the culture, how big and complex the task of caring for a child is...
@@katerfindus8998 Its an enormous task - almost impossible if both parents are working outside the home. In the old days both parents worked in and around the home, so kids were always taken care of by parents and even older siblings, as well as extended family. The situation today is totally unsuited for the proper care of children.
This was all done years before when Bowlby along with Ainsworth formulated attachment theory. But Bowlby always maintained that relationship is key. Attentive consistent care and without this there are consequences. Also as regards when trauma or adverse events happen this was tackled by Eriksson with his stages of social development and when something happens at a certain stage results in particular emotional and development difficulties. I think Perry has added to this but I am disappointed that he never credits the work of Bowlby in particular. To add to that Attachment based therapy is based on the power of relationships to try and rework difficulties loses and trauma. Now where Perry really is challenging the consensus is the length of therapeutic interventions and what is effective. Perry please acknowledge the shoulders you stand on.
So interesting
Learned so much
Thank you ❤
Thank you both this was wonderful.
Exactly, you need to invent a school for parenting. And dont allowed everybody to Have kids
Only parents with skils, Love, compesion wisdom, education 🙏🌹❤️♥️💪👍🤶💃🥰🥰😘💗💓🌸🌺
Thank you
Too much focus on events. Many children grow up with neglectful and emotionally abusive parents and it wields the same results, without bruises.
Is there a therapy that most aligns itself with what the guy says at 13:00 ?? I've been to different therapists for 10 years nearly and they all fail to get through in the way he's talking about. I've expressed that I need someone to force their way through because I'm unwilling to open up even though I want to. There is something out of my control that won't let them in, and the therapists I've seen are ones who sit and wait for me to express myself... It ain't happnin dude.
Self love ❤ ?
I started asking myself what would a healthy person do? Because love was too abstract. A couple weeks ago I graduated to " what would someone that loves themselves do?".
I have repeatedly told myself "you are safe " that turned into I am safe , big difference. I also had to accept I abandone myself . That hurts! But like the old saying says, it's got to hurt to heal. Good thing I like nightmares.
I also got myself the childhood toy I always wanted. This gift to myself gave me the ability to like and be interested in the person I see in the mirror.
Love yourself like no one else
14:44 This is why giving advice - friends, family strangers or "professionals" - doesn't always help and can actually make things worse.
This is so good.
20:22 Since I used "Executive Function" to survive Trauma, my bodymind associates it with Trauma and doesn't want to do that anymore. It's literally broken. Now my Emotional Dysregulation is completely off the scale and delaying expression of pain/suffering/etc. feels like placating and co-dependency. This is a Double Bind in the Recovery Community. And as most of us know, Double Binds add a Meta-Layer of Trauma over the first layer of trauma.
People who routinely exploit other people often know this and use it to condition them to accept their treatment. It's called "Grooming".
Clinicians who treat Clients with this problem often label the Client "Resistant" and treat them with disdain. Totally ignorant of how the bodymind works and how it can be broken.
32:18 Threat.
32:47 Group up.
33:31 This. Is the dilemma. And it permeates the whole Universe.
And, no, we may not be able to "Understand it". That is part of "Executive Function".
around minute 31 of the conversation systemic environmental factors are mentioned and also how they are intentionally evolved to deregulate, and to keep certain power structures going, with systematically the same people at the top, the same at the bottom: it was mentioned that this is a whole other conversation: does anyone know if that conversation can be found online somewhere? and if so, where.
Oprah put his name on the famous people list....
re. around minute 39: could the goal be a global us? marshall rosenberg actually has the language for the global us. it is returning to the need instead of staying at the level of the individual preference to fullfill the need. eg: i express myself in one language, you in another, but we are the same in our need of expressing ourselves through language. i love country, you love metal, but we are the same in our need for joy, or relaxation (or whatever you use the music for at a given moment in time).
or the topic mentioned here: we all need connection, i get it through this group of people, you through that one, and we tend to do hicking, and others tend to do weekly lunches together etc etc
Marriage before children makes sense. Society can't prevent pregnancy
Gave me new insight into what happened to me. But still, just a scant few nuggets of information are buried in a huge pile of bs. Human beings have rights, but with those rights come responsibilities. If people choose criminal behavior over law-abiding behavior, they have no one else but themselves to blame. Waves of immigrants from the lower, illiterate, deprived classes came to to this country and made good. Most did not even speak the language. So what is the problem? If being of a certain race is the problem, why do the females of that race do better than the males. Same thing for poverty. Look at the prison population and you will see clear choices being made by criminals to do criminal things. Its pure bs to claim that society is to blame. That is the wokie mantra. No: People hold their fate in their own hands, and if they choose to throw away their freedom because they would rather turn to crime and exploitation of others rather than live within the constraints of the law, screw them. They belong behind bars, and society does not need them, and society owes them nothing.
Did we not read the same book? It was explained pretty clear in it most of the reasons you just said.
Omgggg 🙏🙏🙏🙏🌹🌹🌹🌹❤️❤️❤️❤️🌹❤️🌹❤️🌹❤️🌹❤️🌹❤️🌹❤️🌹❤️🌹❤️🌹❤️🌹❤️
Anything with Ophray..never watch...after her awful trouble making interviews with Harry+MM...did not receive money..do not believe it.. she lost a lot a respect 🤨Oprah talks about story as only she has suffered...