Are We Still Pursuing IVF?
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- เผยแพร่เมื่อ 29 ส.ค. 2023
- This is a severely intimate episode! We have a fun-filled Q&A style episode for you this week. We are pulling back the covers on what it means to be intimate and oh boy do we have a couple of stories for you!
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Do you ever notice how much more attractive someone is when you find out how intelligent, humorous,kind and empathetic they are? And vice versa, someone can be very physically attractive but that dwindles when you find out they are narrow minded, or lacking in a sense of humour, mean spirited, or selfish. Beauty is in the eye of the beholder.
she is here for a payday.
@@user-vv7hb8ok2f terrible take
@MarvelousMarie92 What is criminal?
Why can't we just see all humans as just that, a fellow human, deserving of love and the full human experience?
Lol when the last ti.e you got laid 😅
I enjoy watching you guys. My husband has cerebral palsy , he is not as disabled as Shane but it did affect intimacy issues at first. It was trial and error and lots of laughter together. We will be celebrating our 40th wedding anniversary in Oct. When we got married there was really no resources for us , it's nice that you are able to share with others and these days interable couples are more readily accepted.Keep up the great work and keep laughing even now after all these years we can still laugh together. Also I agree with Hannah Shane is an attractive man.
Happy Anniversary! I hope you have many more wonderful years together.
Many congratulations on 40 years of marriage! I wish you many more happy years!
Yes, He is VERY HandSome.
I agree with you Shane. You know, the movies will always paint a picture of what marriage and intimacy “looks” like, but the majority of it all is never realistic. Everyone has to figure out what works in their relationship 💕
U HUH!
I think its adorable when Shane goes into another direction and he has that devilish face and Hannah is nervously waiting for him to say something he shouldn't and you hear her softly say ....Shane and he has that smirk that makes people smile ! ❤
Consistently make me laugh!!!!
That’s why I don’t understand people who say their marriage is fake… it’s classic husband behaviour 😅
Hannah, the answer to Shane's intimacy question directed at you is...
"FANTASTIC" 😅
And that devilish chuckle!😂
Yep.😊
My brother, who has autism, lives with us. And he’s always SO worried people are going to think we’re married or he’s my kids’ dad so he ALWAYS leads with, “I’m their uncle! NOT their dad.” 😂 Heaven forbid someone misunderstand!
My son has autism too 😊
Shane's immediate "No!" to being bored with severe intimacy is hilarious. You two are so much fun to watch. Wishing you the best on your journey to parenthood!
YES! You are SO SWEET & I am SURE...FIRE at times...Hot... good & sometimes tough, Just like "normal"(which I maintain, is only a setting on the DRYER.)😂
Thank you sooo much for clarifying SMA as muscle atrophy v. Dystrophy. This is the first time I understood the difference and you explained it perfectly. Again, thank you.
Happy anniversary, some folk will always be judgemental but the sense of humor you two share is amazing.
Sex and intimacy aren’t mutually exclusive. You can have one without the other. But it’s truly nobody’s business how or when you grow your family. Ignore the haters. You guys are sweet and very necessary for interable couples. Keep going.
using IVF to avoid sex would probably qualify as the most expensive commitment to celibacy of all time lol
And probably you have to a needle kinks or something to top of the wallet 😂
I don't think the person commenting meant that they are celibate on purpose though. I think they are implying that he can't perform s3x so that's why they have to do IVF.? 🤷♀️
Happens alot. More sadly, fake works and pregnant by someone else. One if the wildest things, when we would have a baby with sickle cell pos result and parwnts white. Hospital roof would raise in that room:/
Do they tell us if stull tryong
Just getting started on video.
😂😂😂. No Doubt!
@@kss8866crazy plot twist of getting impregnated through cheating whilst doing ivf horrible 💀
I love how you guys are playful about everything. It is so cool to see how you guys open up about your lives. Love it
I love how you both are so open about this.❤️🙏🏼
Congrats on 3 years! 🎉
God bless you both! 🙏
You two are so good natured to even address these topics! I don’t think, if it were me, that I would be gracious enough to share this.
Love that you are so giving to your community while being respectful of one another and your life together. You two have great boundaries! 👏🏻❤
Love your honesty and openness. I’m sure it is an encouragement to other couples facing intimacy challenges.
I want to thank you for sharing and for all of your good advice, particularly about NOT paying attention to so-called norms. I'm not physically disabled but sometimes it feels like I carry a lot of emotional baggage that does not serve me well. I feel like I pay too much attention to imaginary expectations and to take them too seriously. And then I forget to use humor - which you describe as being so helpful in so much of your lives. I feel inspired to use it more. Really, your advice is good for all people, disabled or not.
Now that you've said that, it makes me think about the emotional disabilities we all have, that don't show on the outside can effect our intimacy in relationships.
@@melaniemartinez-kx7ng Shane and Hannah are one of the ways I learn about healthy intimacy and interaction, actually. They're my role models.
Love you guys, and really like to listen to you talk about your life. I was a little taken back by Hannah’s sassy response in regards to Shane‘s medical condition. Isn’t that the point of your podcast and foundation, to raise awareness? People really don’t know about Shane’s condition, that’s why they’re asking the questions. It’s common knowledge to you as college educated people. But not every person has the same in-depth knowledge that you have about his condition, and the difference between atrophy and dystrophy. I’m sure it’s annoying to get the same questions over and over, but I do believe the people that are viewing your content for the most part are generally kind and curious.
Your insight is very helpful…..thank you both for being so candid
Happy Anniversary!!! All the best to you two!
As someone who has been a caregiver to people with disabilities and become disabled myself the best advice I can give someone who's nervous about sex with disabilities is...
Go slow it doesn't have to be everything all at once.
Have fun with it, don't stress if something isn't working just have a laugh and try something else.
Don't be ashamed of your body, if they didn't want to see it they wouldn't be trying for naughty time 😏.
Good communication is so important and so is the imagination, even whispering a naughty story while having fun can drive a partner wild.
Be creative don't dwell on what you can't do but instead think outside the box so to speak.
Toys and good swings harnesses and all sorts of things can actually help when movement and/or mobility is an issue so don't be afraid to get a lil kinky. (always get quality made supportive equipment it's worth the money)
If you have a hired caregiver then don't be embarrassed to ask for help if they aren't prudish, I've set up swings I've charged toys I've helped with sexy clothes and even taken a client to a "special appointment" so he could have some fun because every human needs physical human contact.
Hope this helps someone at least a little bit.
Thanks for saying all that, I wouldn’t have said it better.
Absolutely disgusting
This is all good advice! thank you
@@Drew-uh9ozwell yes, yes you are. Are you one of these angry little men that make angry videos of your self screaming in your car?
@@Drew-uh9ozif you think sex is disgusting, maybe this isn't a video you should be watching
You guys vibe so well together!❤
Love watching you 2 interact with such naturalness and humor! ❤️❤️
I just love watching you! Thank you for sharing and also educating us. ❤
I’m an old Illinois crone and I’ve been a subscriber from almost the beginning of your public relationship. I realized I enjoy watching for the same reasons you two love each other! Your humor, intelligence and over all kindness. Being willing to put yourselves out there in the hopes of reaching others to increase awareness, offer an example and generally entertain.
I’m so sorry about the trolls and crazies but I guess that’s one hazard of what you and others like you, share.
All my best good energy coming your way! PS. Went through 3 ectopic pregnancies and IVF 30 years ago, so if you ever need my perspective or experience, just ask. Namaste!
Happy Happy Anniversary!!!! Many more years of happiness, good health and much love!!!! 💚💚💚
Huge respect to you two for sharing your life with us. I´m paraplegic myself, and I´ve gotten so much useful information from your videos. And I absolutely love your ways, to take on these serious topics... Funny, but serious and respectful
It´s really reassuring to me, to know that there´s females, that don´t care about the body, but sees the person behind the disability
I truly enjoy your channel! Thank you for being who you are and sharing your lives with us. ❤
Happy Anniversary, you two! 🎉❤
Happy Anniversary!! Wishing you blessings!!
Bravo! You guys did a great job with this one! You two are delightful. 😊
Always impressed by your intimacy episodes. They could feel clickbait-y, but they don't. Really high-quality discussion that applies to all types of couples, honestly.
I love all your episodes. I love both of your sense of humor and sarcasm.
I don't always comment like I did at one time, because when I say anything positive I have trolls coming out of the woodwork attacking the relationship you two share and my obvious admiration and belief in such a fun and open hearted love such as yours.
However, today I'm just feeling like trolls be damned. I adore the antics, the humor the honesty and the unwavering commitment in your marriage, and I every right to continue letting my own opinions be heard.
So Shane and Hannah...love, love, love you. ❤
Thank God you realize your positive, loving, supportive comments are far more important than any troll reaction. Speak your kind truth!
I love your honesty...rebuke the trolls...and you my lady, have a bright 🌞 joyous day...
Much love all around...❤️🌍❤️
Shane and Hannah you both are awesome and amazing couple l pray 🙏 some day that you both have a baby.Take Care of yourselves and each other God bless you all 😊❤
Love what you said
It’s sort of like “everyone hates you but I AM NOT LIKE THEM. Please. The “trolls” come out because you’re insulting.
I love when you kick your family out. It cracks me up everytime 😂
Thank you for sharing this, love you guys!
So happy to see you guys pop up. I started watching you guys from the beginning & cant believe you guys have been married 3 years now! Literally time goes too fast & it seem like a few months but congratulations & may you both be blessed with decades of happiness, laughter, good health, amazing memories & never ending love ❤ thanks for sharing your journey 😊
Thank you for this episode. I have enjoyed it. Thank you so much for sharing.
Y’all are just the most beautiful couple and the reason why I believe in soul mates
You 2 are beautiful!!! Don't let anything mess your love up. I worry about it only because people that get really popular in the social media at times destroy good people. Don't let that happen to you.
Keep your great sense of humor!!!!
You two are an adorable couple! Love the way you interact with each other and the humor and sarcasm is hilarious! I stumbled across your content today and can’t stop watching. Y’all are so much fun! Thanks for sharing your lives and even answering the super prying, ableist, and downright inappropriate questions with humor and compassion. ❤
I found your comment in regards to the mental and emotional stressors before and after intimacy, so true, I had never thought about it that way, thanks for helping partners understand.
I so agree with Hannah , Shane does have a handsome face and really good hair , you make a great couple to look at , and your so on the same level with funny humour and and smarts .
I love the fact that you are extremely open with your life emotional and explaining that one’s medical problems does not mean you cant have an intimate and totally normal ,relationship . I love you both with you honest approach to the wonderful life you two have , both good and bad , in other words a normal life .
I love your channel. I worked with people with disabilities and it always shocked me when others thought it was not possible for them to have or need intimacy.
I never miss your videos. You 2 are so funny and lighthearted. When you do this q/a thing, it makes me a better person. I don't often have opportunity to interact with people with disabilities. However, because of you 2, I am learning to not be so stupid when I do.
Love your outlook on life… you guys ROCK!!!😊
I would love to hear more about recent advocacy for disability rights, as I have grown weary of seeing how often public locations fail to provide access. I have had to miss occasions that were important to me and have grown so frustrated and depressed at constantly fighting for my rights. That’s the initial reason I was drawn to your channel, and while I appreciate your personal love story and am so happy for you both, I would love more content about things we all can do to move things forward for those of us with mobility challenges. Maybe it won’t be as popular and get as many views(?) although I wish it would, because to me, what could be more important than assuring public compliance with a law that was passed over 30 years ago. It is so frustrating and I’m sure you and your followers must agree. Continued happiness in your marriage and life, always, and continue on with your wonderful advocacy.💗
I can't believe it's your third year anniversary?! I remember watching long before you guys were even engaged, I can't believe it's been so many years 🩷
I'm not usually a commenter, but I've just realized I've been watching you for over 4 years and that is crazy to me. I kind of miss your old style silly videos (the kind that you say you look back on and cringe)😂, but I am still never bored with any of your content.
Still amazed that people ask the detailed severe intimacy questions!
Thanks for sharing your journey and your humor 😊.
Following your story . And wish you all good things life has to offer ❤ Keep smiling 😊
These two are fabulous together.
Love watching you two
Happy Anniversary you 2! 💗
I have been following you two for years and just learned that Shane's issue is with his brain not his muscles. I am taking Psychology 101 as I just started back to college at 43 years old :) We are learning about the brain right now. It is so interesting
Mmm yes and no. SMA is a genetic mutation. The brain signals do not get through to the muscles, causing atrophy. It's a neuromuscular disease, neuro (or your nervous system), is brain, spine, and nerves. In his case, his brain IS working properly sending out the signals. All-in-all, it is really a gene problem, not necessarily a brain problem
I wonder if the older lady/waitress was asking because oftentimes you will see someone with a disability eating out with either their parents or a caregiver. Maybe she could feel your closeness when she walked up and thought it would be sweet to see a brother/sister relationship instead of a caregiver one. I bet she meant it when she told you that's amazing after hearing you are married - an even more heartwarming moment than what she thought of before!!! ❤❤ I wish everyone disabled or otherwise had a great family relationship, but sadly that is not the case... even more so when there are special circumstances like allergies, disabilities, etc. which can change what you do together. If only we could universally shift the perception from burden to privilege and I have to ---> I get to... because it really is a beautiful thing to live this life together. 😊
Congratulations on your Anniversary!!! You are a very lovely couple. The IVF process is taxing but a good benefit is you can also do preimplantation genetic testing prior to proceeding if desired. Working in Maternal/Fetal medicine we have had couples do this due to both being carriers of a genetic condition or if it is one that is autosomal dominant. We do have some that choose donor sperm due to both having a rare complication in pregnancy that can be highly likely to have a baby with issues that will not survive after birth. Whatever they choose to do is completely fine and I wish you the very best in your journey whatever you decide to do next. You suit each other well and are beautiful people inside and out.
A sweet video, thanks. Good tips and reminders for abled couples as well.
Can we see a day-in-the-life video?? I love watching these types of videos from anyone 😂 just feels relatable and interesting to see others daily lives!
This was great! I'm always impressed with how you talk so openly about sex stuff that is SO awkward to talk about. I'm awkward talking about everything haha. So yeah I know it can't be easy and I appreciate what you guys are doing for LOVE (yours and everyone else's) in this world. My hubby is a fan now too btw.
You to r so open and honesty, you have such an amazing relationship after 7 years you still talk and spend all day together … and I know many who don’t
Love you both and so enjoy junkyard. Mayhem ❤❤❤❤❤❤
This podcast has really helped me to understand intimacy.. as a 43 year old women when I was growing up so many issues were not addressed and just left me wondering with that said I’m appreciative you 2 share this because it’s important for future generations to understand how and what intimacy is… ❤❤❤
Yeah our generation, our parents weren't exactly forthcoming were they lol?!
🤣🤣🤣 Not a bit! Have spent most of my life reprogramming myself!!!
Regarding the last question answered by Shane, very well said!
My adoration for you guys grows and grows daily.
Love that your humor still comes through, even when discussing what some consider a touchy subject. And what a great junkyard closing statement to flash that humor one last time. You two are the best!!
You guys are awesome!
I have to say how much I adore you two as a couple. I love your humor your crazy banter and your chemistry with each other. God bless you both. Oh and your great as individuals. ❤️🙏🏻❤️
I so look forward to your videos! Thank you!
Happy 3rd Anniversary!! 🎉
Happy anniversary 🎉🎉🎉🎉
I know people are ableist and doubt your relationship, but listening really just shows how normal a couple you are despite your interabled difference. Happy anniversary! 🎉🎉🎉 Anyone would be lucky to have the connection the two of you have
I love my expartner dearly. I am a disabled person who is also a mother. I live on a care home because i am no longer able to assist myself. We both agreed a long time ago that we loved each other. Sadly these days my daughter's dad and i no longer talk, i rarely see my daughter because she finds visiting me to difficult. As do my family. Life is tough, i truly hope you are able to have a child together. It is worth every single minute. My daughter loves me and i love her, that wont change no matter what and that is what is important.
God bless you hope your doing OK I'm sorry you don't have much family coming around lots of time chosen family is a blessing
Happy anniversary to you🎉❤
i wish you hav 1 in the future.happy anniversary hanna n shane❤❤❤
You two are amazing love you both!
All morning I’ve been hearing Shane’s voice singing your intro song in my head. LOL!
Just ordered some undies from Skims. My current ones fall apart in no time. I mentioned "Junkyard Mayhem" when prompted. Done! 😉
You two are so adorable! I just love seeing the love you share!
Hey guy's!!!😁 love yous.all the way from new Zealand, im so glad all is well x
About the woman at the restaurant who asked if you were related...some people just have to, as a part of how they function in the world, ask the random questions that pop into their minds. It's how they show friendliness. Seemed like she was not judgemental in her reaction, but you being married was a surprise to her. The perfect person to beiefly educate; she will remember it forever!
Love you guys♥️♥️♥️
It still blows my mind how inappropriate people can be to ask you questions about your private experiences. I understand some people may be searching for educational/learning purposes if it's something they're needing advice or guidance for their own journey as a couple with disability perhaps. But, just random strangers out of the blue seeking details to be nosey in your business is absurd and rude. Thank you both for handling those so eloquently when you really shouldn't have to. I think the two of you are amazing and fantastic role models and I just love how your humors work so well together. Sending much love and respect to you both.
Hello,
Happy Anniversary !💞
I am obsessed with your videos. I came across them a while back and have been watching daily. I so enjoy you, as a couple and individually. The love you have for each other is palpable. I see it, I hear it and I experience it through your adventures and podcasts. I think what you are doing to raise awareness about interable couples is so important. I have increased awareness as a result of watching your content. I have mad love for both of you!!! I really liked this podcast. It's so nice to know that you enjoy a rich intimate life. You're sharing of it is really sweet. I look forward to catching up and going along your journey as it continues. So much love and gratitude.
Thank you for restating the importance of protecting your kids from online creeps! Love your work!🌻
People are just too, darn nosy! And negativities is their problem because it certainly is not on you guys! How awful a prayer that a little P brains learn to blossom or stop watching TH-cam one or the other! Love you guys and keep on being your wonderful selves. We love you so very much.❤ 6:05
I think your sense of humor and abilities to communicate will last with you two ❤
You guys are so cute to listen to. I love your banter!
Shane and Hannah, I don't know if you will see this, but I just wanted to thank you for something! About 8 months ago you did a video sponsored by Bright Cellars. It sounded interesting to me, so I went to the website and ended up getting a subscription. I've now been enjoying the convenience of having wine delivered to my door for 8 months now.
I don't drink a huge amount, so my deliveries are usually about every 6-7 weeks, rather than monthly. That's the nice thing about it, is you can tailor your subscription to your own taste, and your own frequency. And the wine is AWESOME!
I'm not affiliated with Bright Cellars, just a happy customer! I just wanted to thank you for introducing me to such a fine service! 😊
Happy Anniversary!!!! Here’s to many more decades of happiness!!! ❤
I love you guys. The luttle things in life that alot of people you two truely enjoy it.
omg you had a skims ad??????? so proud of you guys!! that is a big sponsor!
also i have a question, given that shanes problem is his nerves and not his muscles, would help him get those electronic machines that make the muscle contract (like exercise) with external imput? i know that wouldt help his movility but keep the muscles a bit trained i guess, maybe having more muscles would just be unconfortable for his day to day life, idk, just asking lol have a nice week
Great share time. Thank you.
You guys are seriously awesome!
Omg when you said “and the head” it took me a minute to figure out you were talking about the one on his shoulders. I thought “well that was much more information than I anticipated”
I love Hannah's calming voice....just love it
That was a great episode. I wish we had heard the term "interabled" when my husband was still alive because it's great! Thanks for sharing yourselves with all of us.
I too wish that was a term when mine was alive also. So sorry for your loss. My sweetie was a quadriplegic and we had 10 amazing years and were blessed with a miracle daughter thanks for modern medicine. It would have been His 61st birthday on September 20. He is so missed by all that knew him.
You two are such awesome people. Love watching your videos. Good luck on baby would be great parents ❤❤
These 2 are so right for each other!!
Yeah they're both insufferable.
Love you guys ❤