Isn't that so sad to hear someone say how on Earth is she attracted to him. I think both Shane and Hanna are both beautiful people inside and out. It's so sad that people make others feel less then because of a disability just blows my mind. I'm so happy for them and I wish nothing but the best for them. ❤️
It's because when those rude ppl say rude things about others it supposedly makes them feel like they are better than the ppl they are being rude about or saying rude thing to. I dont see how but that's suppose to be how it works. They cut others down to build themselves up.
There’s a lot more nuance to the situation. I myself am disabled, and I can recognize that having a disabled partner can be a lot for some people, and not everyone can handle it. Questioning an interabled doesn’t automatically imply that disabled people are less valuable.
Respectfully, Christina, millions and millions of men get shot down in flames by women, and are made to feel lesser, simply because they're shorter than 6', or bald ... things they have zero control over. A significant percentage of women won't even _consider_ a guy -- no matter how awesome he is -- simply because of height or baldness (or 50 other nit-picky things). So why the surprise about people's reaction to Hannah and Shane?
@@xyzct I'm not surprised by anything anyone says or does but, I do think it's very sad. There's much more to a person like a kind loving heart. Well I guess it's their loss. In my eyes I know I'm not perfect by any means so why would I judge another by that petty stuff. It bothers me that others judge others for anything and everything. But, like I said it's their loss.
Amazing story. My mom was in a car accident in 1971 that left her paralyzed. She met and married my dad in 1977 and I was born in 1979. Spouses as caretakers is hard but it's so fulfilling. My dad was a Rockstar!
That was one of the better ways to spend an hour and a half. Wow, thank you! This talk was super illuminating. Also, when you said "When men want sex what they really want is emotional intimacy" a lot of light bulbs went off in my head. Being a disabled women, sex is this big scary thing for me. I worry that i'll stay single because this area is really hard for me to offer in the usual way. Someday I will find a man secure enough to be emotionally vulnerable and intimate with me to where what i'm able to offer is more than "enough". 🥰
@disabledyogi I do too. Thank you for sharing that here! I stayed away from dating because - and back to that word - I couldn't stand to be a burden. Sometimes lately I think Why did I assume all men would think that? Not give anyone a chance? Extra silly as one of my earliest heroes is a lady named Joni Earekson (I butchered her name, yikes). When she got married I was so encouraged. Joni broke her neck at 17 diving into a pond & became quadriplegic. She learned to paint with her mouth! Really beautiful paintings. I love that her husband's name is "Tada". So I thought, ok, I'm not looking for Mr. Right, I'm looking for Mr Tada. (My friends thought that meant " Ta dah!", which I think works too. :0)
When Shane said he didn't feel like he would make for a valuable partner, my heart broke. I love these two so much. Thank you for doing this podcast with them!
I said that very thing to my husband years ago ‘just listen to me, I don’t want you to fix it’. That was a real eye opener for him. He loves to talk and fix everything. He listens more now. Side note: we’ve been married 60+ years!
Thanks to ALL of you for doing this show. As someone who has invisible disabilities, along with many of my children, I struggle with feeling worthy of love and of value to my family. Also, due to the isolation due to these disabilities it has been difficult to find a supportive community. Thankfully, we now have connections virtually. Thanks again!
My Mom used to say, We are all just walking or rolling along in our Earth Suits". I don't remember the context now, but hearing that from my Mom - who has always been stunningly beautiful, and I don't think she knew it, which makes her even more beautiful! But having been in a very broken body for 30 years, I love that. We are who we are inside. And I believe I'll leave this thing behind one day.
As a physical disable man myself i recognized myself a lot in some of the things he was saying but i learn a lot from the couple perspective because it has been and it still is hard for people that i am in a intimate relationship with to know how to handle and me feeling uncomfortable with my condition . This episode has been a really helpful. Thank you Shane and his wife and you three Justin, Jamey and Liz you always approach your guests with so much respect, empathy and care . Good on you guys.
I've been watching Shane & Hannah for a few years. Great interview. So many good points. One thing that stuck out for me was when Shane talked about his burden complex. I have Spina Bifida, so I have been disabled since birth. I have struggled with the same feelings of not being worthy of relationship, or not wanting to be a burden to a potential partner.
Shane and Hannah demonstrate the qualities that develop and are intricate to maintaining a healthy realationship. I feel blessed to use those qualities in all my relationships, not just with a partner. Thanks for teaching this old girl new tricks!
What a great show. I love them so much. I learned alot too about myself and my emotional uncomfortableness in this discussion. Also, I gotta say, when we think of one aspect of masculinity being about protectiveness and how Shane's disability meant he couldnt protect Hannah, he did in fact protect Hannah and did it rapidly, when Justin asked about sex he said that he likes to keep some things private. So, once again he did it emotionally with words, by setting boundaries.
The Man Enough Matchmaker! I love it! I'm a big fan of Shane and Hannah, and have followed them for quite a while. I am disabled and have a beautiful husband who really is the love beneath my wings. We're not only life partners, but parents to four amazing kids and grandparents to 3 beautiful, healthy grandchildren. You get out of life what you put into it, and where there is love, there is a way❤❤❤
I'm one of Shane & Hannah's subscribers so of course I watched this for them but I'm subscribing to your channel because of you three! What sweet people you all are. My husband & I are both disAbled but we were still doing pretty well when we met. He actually went online & researched my disease, he was not the first one either, and knowing that what I have is terminal & only going to get worse, he felt I was worth it. His issues took the lives of two of my siblings, that was hard for me to know but he's worth it & we have been together 24/7 since our 3rd date, 12 years ago! I never get tired of him & vice versa. We have our own interests & social circles online so it gives us plenty of free time & together time. TOTALLY open communication is absolutely key. We talked out the good, bad, & ugly before our first date. No secrets to come to life no questioning how the other feels about anything. We are to each other the best friends ever, love of each other's lives & we've both been married long term & raised families. I never worry that I am enough even though I can't do everything for every body anymore. I might be afraid of dying too Shane, but I know people will all remember me for being strong, stubborn, & a fighter. You too!
Love is not a burden. Thank you. I've felt like a terrible burden, especially lately, my Mom was my caregiver, then we were shocked, then... I have no words for the next feeling. She was diagnosed with early onset Alzheimer's. So now my 84 year old Dad - dealing with an almost completely U shaped spine, & pain I will not pretend to know - is caring for both of us. My very able bodied brother moved back to our town, I so hoped to help. But he just ... couldn't. He is an angry guy. All the privilege in the world, & he just hates. He loves to tell me & the Internet that it's my fault my parents don't have things, & that's hard to deny. Until I saw that line. Thank you, sorry, all a cry baby now. Thank you for sharing your story, for living out love. Love isn't just a feeling, it's definitely actions. ❤
Wow this is an amazing show. I’ve been following Shane and Hannah for only a few weeks, and I clicked very quickly on this podcast. It did not disappoint!
Shane and Hannah used to live in my town and I regret that I never met them, or had the opportunity to buy Shane a beer. I love their podcast/channel. What a great couple!
I saw my husband in person for the first time at the Philadelphia airport as well. I was late to pick him up also. Lol. That moment is burned into my mind though. I was 17 when we met, and I was disabled at 19 after an accident. My husband stood by me, like it was never a question. I always related a lot to your love story, Hannah and Shane. Unfortunately, my husband passed away unexpectedly in April of this year. I'm 39 now, and I don't know how to move forward.
You know, I've been following you guys for mobths .. and without a doubt this is my very favourite interview. I am incredibly grateful to the interviewers for being willing to dig deep and ask the really deep questions, while being so respectful of Hannah and Shane, not afraid to be completely honest and straightforward. Hannah and Shane you guys really blow my mind.. I'm used to you joking around a lot and still addressing issues but you really laid your selves bare during this interview, you really were incredibly transparent. So much about what you say applies to people in relationship whether they're interabled or not.
OMG thank you guys for bringing this beautiful souls Shane and Hannah on the show. Thanks for teaching us alot with your life experience and perception. Appreciate xx
Love Shane and Hannah, followed them for so long and as someone who has disabilities with an 'abled' husband, they show the normality of life as a couple. Love their humour,their honesty and their ability to brighten my day!
I loved the interview and Shane's & Hannah's relationship, and their honesty. The panel was great! I have SMA as well so I can definitely relate to the prejudice and injustice that those of us who have a disability deal with daily. I love their openness and the courage they share regardless of what ignorant people may think! Much love to you, Justin who first introduced the world to Shane/ disability community! (Smile)
Im just curious, was this your first time being introduced to Shane and Hannah? ( I have been a huge fan of theirs for years and was just wondering).. If they are new to you I highly suggest catching up on their older videos on their channel ( Squirmy and Grubs), they are amazing!
@@sanniwartinen3595No, but it was the best thorough interview (in my opinion) and yes, I am aware of their channel, and I enjoy a lot! But thank you so much
They really are a testimony. I love Shane and Hannah. ----- I know the power. I had a heart attack 5 years ago. I Had a spiritual experience when it happened and I had the choice to live or die. There was a split of light in the air and I could have just reached up and went to Heaven. But I saw my husband and he was all alone, in the darkness. I chose to stay. Our love is so strong. I know I am here to help him cross over and he takes care of me on this earth. Love is so precious. It goes so far beyond the physical. True love is eternal. ---- Love this video. Thank you.
I swear their sexual relationship sounds better than that of many both able bodied couples I know. They just have a beautiful, true love for each other. And the talk about emotional intimacy is so on point. (Once again, sorry for so many comments but this interview really brought up a lot that needs mentioning.)
I follow these two, and they make me believe in the human race again. What a wonderful human being this world would have if they have a child. Thank you for this conversation.
@@fiftyandfnifty1752 what? You obviously don't understand how difficult it is to be disabled. Im not in a wheelchair and a RN and still need a large amount of parental assistance for physical and financial means as disability wants you to stay under the poverty line. Why do you feel they should live a more difficult life when the parents wanted to help more? Parents help out a lot of able people as well due to financial insecurity post xenials.. Are you like this to people in your personal life? I'd consider being kinder or no one will be around when you are old and disabled before you die and just hope you're financially secure enough to not need outside assistance "to keep up with your fairy tale".
@@dana102083 thanks to the Squirmies for teaching the world what true love is all about. Cant wait until their next video where they can remind us how wonderful they are and how much they love each other. Maybe Hanna will wear bikini to promote disability awareness
I love watching the podcasts, I am a disabled woman who never thought anyone would want me, my amazing husband is my rock, looks past my disability and 46 years later he is the best part of me
Shane's personality is fire he's so funny he's supporting... it does make him cute, and I see why Hannah loves him. And Hannah, I love how calm Hannah is... she has great vibes.
Hannah you are such a mature and wise woman who knows what you needed in a real loving relationship. Shane honor and cherish your gift from God. You are a blessed man.
My thought about all of us is we are not enough because we're human. But having a person who can deal specifically with our "not enoughness" while God works on our hearts is the biggest blessing. And every couple is unique in their oneness. 🤗
To be disabled I had to lean into my vulnerability! Understanding that there are things I can't do but I need lean into how my character as a human has grown because of my disabilities. Justin and Shane you are men that I deeply love! I love you both for being who you are.
Liz’s comment hit the nail on the head with respect to why I enjoy and in many ways look up to Shane and Hannah’s relationship. It has nothing to do with the inter-abled nature, more so their ability to communicate, laugh, and tackle the world as a team. Sadly, it makes me feel “not enough” when watching their videos as I struggle to make sure I am the best partner, not “man”, I can be, and I am the guy who mows the lawn, is the breadwinner, etc, all the traditional “manly” activities one does in a relationship.
I've adored these two for years. They are so grounded and hilarious and genuine. I've known a lot of men who can't change a tire. lol I remodeled two homes mostly by myself. I'm perfectly capable on my own, as is Hannah. The concept that women are incompetent of handling the physical rigors of life is behind the misogyny. Women don't actually need a man to be their protector, handle the spider in the room, or change the oil in their car. We have Jiffy Lube now to handle the car and know how to disable an attacker and use a glass to get the spider. We pay the bills and can do anything a man can and can hire someone if we can't. So, to me, it was never confusing why Hannah and Shane are together because he's kind, intelligent, hilarious, and fully capable of many things, and contributes a lot to the relationship just as any man would but in different ways in some regards. It's not odd to me at all. So, when I hear someone suggest that it isn't fair that Shane has a beautiful woman and they don't, I want to suggest to them that if they actually saw her rather than their own idea that she somehow needs protecting or someone who can mow the lawn, they'd see that Shane is more than enough and in fact preferred over this guys misogynistic view of what a great man is or what a woman needs. Being a great man isn't about physical strength, it's about emotional strength and intelligence, calmness in crisis yet excited about life, and laughing together and all the little things you do that show you care. If you don't have those things, you are more of a burden to a woman than Shane ever could be.
Hannah has been brainwashed in college by feminist propaganda to believe masculinity is bad. She never even tried dating a normal guy prior to Shane. So she picked a partner who can never stand up to her or criticize her and where she has complete control
@@sammiech9602 Wow, um, Nope. As Hannah would say. lol That's a whole lot of lies you have to tell yourself because you simply can't comprehend 'she's just not into YOU.'
@@sammiech9602 your opinion has no bearing or a relationship that isn't yours. If you had any good traits you wouldn't be single being angry against people that have no influence on your life. your insecurity is showing..womp.
I have been following Shane since Justin’s documentary 9 years ago and I just love his journey and Hannah is just perfect for him. I’m so happy for them and this podcast was so perfectly articulated and put together.
What a great discussion and perspective. My husband and I are not interabled. He is a healthy big strapping man. But that being said he was not raised like the topical mannly man ideal. He can't build or fix things or work the land. But he is a wonderful man, amazing father and husband, and my safe place. For so long I would hold that typical ideal of what a man 'should' be and it would cause issues. In the recent years I have finally come to the conclusion that we each bring our own strengths to the table. And truly that is why it works. He is good at yard work, and making sure our tanks are filled, and vacuuming, and getting the groceries and working hard at his job and so many things. I am the builder and fixer of things and the emotional guide and so many other things. So some of the gender roles are not as they 'should' be, but for us it's what works and makes our household function best. We need to stop 'shoulding' all over everyone and thing. Also, love watching all Shane and Hannah's episodes and love to see them normalize the interabled couple. They are so natural with each other and prove that it's not a gender thing or an abled thing, it's a personal strength thing and working as a true partnership to make the relationship work. That looks different for every couple and should not come from a society mold. Man! The part about how Hannah wasn't a natural care giver hit home big time. She and Shane fell for each other regardless of all their differences. This reminds me again of me and my husband... I always tell him that when we met I literally felt this electric felling in my body. I just knew he was my person. We fell hard for each other within weeks of being friends. And when we started dating a year later all our thoughts came out and turns out he had felt the same as me the whole time. I was the girl who never wanted to get married, never wanted kids, never wanted that society driven typical life, but once he came into my life everything changed. Not to say we have the typical societal roles but we did get married and gave a kid and are happy just being.
Thank you so much for sharing! This is why we need to have more of these conversations and normalize people being who they naturally are. There's so much joy and fulfillment to be found by finding partnerships and lifestyles that let each person flourish in their own authentic way.
This was the best TH-cam video I have ever seen. Thank you for sharing all of this. It puts life into perspective on what we need… Even the able-bodied. I have been married twice and engaged a couple times and I have yet to have such a loving relationship… You are so blessed
As a polio/post polio condition women… I would like to see a movie with a disable person , that is not about the disabled person. We just want to live the best we can. Show the challenges and how it’s part of life. As a women , I am suppose to have a miss America goal. Especially because I am offering less because of my disability (as a teenager) we all have growth.. I do still apologize when my partner has to lift me, or get me food at a buffet .He doesn’t even think about it it’s just part of us. This video, was great.
Thank you for sharing your experience. We agree - we need a lot more representation in media of people with disabilities that is about their humanity, not their bodies. We are so much more alike than different, yet we so often focus on the differences.
So many things that can be said here. My biggest take away is that there is many nuances in the realm of man and women loving and connecting outside of the normal biosocial norms. Though the biosocial norms, tendencies and expectations are very real and come from an organic animalistic place...the way our personalities and psyches can provide joy and safety for each other knows no bounds. Where the body is limited the spirit flourishes
Been following them for a while.... I'm also in an interable relationship, with my husband as my caregiver..... I can relate with them in many levels....
@@sammiech9602 you mean his parent's house that they earned? Its cheaper to live under one house as disability gives crap and keeps you in poverty. What is wrong with making life easier for themselves? What part of their lifestyle is lavish?
I watched this today and the lightbulb in my head went off. I have a husband who is good a fixing, building, lifting, work but is a man who has a bad temper who finds his manhood in doing heavy work and lacks sensitivity towards me. Has no sympathy for my chronic back pain. Because of anger issues I could care less about his Physical abilities. So to be loving, to be sensitive, to be supportive emotionally is what matters. ❤❤❤❤❤😊
I've been following their story since day 1 on TH-cam. I love their love. They've opened my eyes to the world of abelism, and how our world isn't built for the Shane's out there. Great interview, thanks guys!
I absolutely loved this. Thank you so much. I see so much of God and Hannah and Shane they are beautiful people. Also Shane is an ENFJ and Hannah is an infp on the mbti. He is a natural encourager and she is a natural caretaker of all things including nature animals plants birds and humans so even though she didn't recognize that about herself it's tucked inside her personality which makes them a match made in heaven❤
Hi! I’m so happy for you both, and can see true Love for each other. God love Us all, and truly see you both are so kind. Thank you so much. Love you both, and wishing you the best always. Thank you for sharing. I only wish people would keep negative words to themselves that are hurtful 😢 I’m 75yrs Old, and years working in Human Services, and on the Volunteer Committee for Special Olympics Connecticut for years, and worked in group homes for years. Please remember to be Kind. Thank you. Amen 🙏.
I have attention span of a gnat so the fact it only tookme 2 sittings to watch this says something! I love squirmy and grubs so much!! I caretake for my husband and I learn so much from them...they have taught me to find the joy in helping my partner and they have taught me how to have the more difficult conversations. I LOVE THEM!!!
AMEN Everything said by any of you is completely excellent and honest, seeming at least. What a GREAT interview. Thank you all for your time and efforts.
To all the brain dead people that could say what is wrong with Hannah that she could love Shane. You should be studying her like the most important book in the world and saying what is right with her that I need to learn so I can be the best addition to the human race that I can be. Shane and Hannah have something worked out in each of them that is allowing them to be the best examples of what humanity is supposed to be. We all have something to learn from each of them.
Well said. Thank you for your support of this beautiful relationship. We would encourage you to avoid using language like "brain dead", as it's not necessary or respectful. We wouldn't want your valuable perspective to get lost by alienating the people that it needs to reach.
@@WeAreManEnough that's a good point about reaching the people it needs to. I should have taken some time before writing, but I responded while emotion was high, while watching the video.
Hannah talking about wanting Shane to just listen and not give her advice or a solution about some things --- that's a relationship issue even able bodied people have. It's a thing even between me and my adult son. It's a human nature thing, not an interabled or able bodied thing. It's wonderful that they are learning that about each other so early on. I know of couples that have been married 30, 40 years or more who still haven't figured that out. Kuddos to Shane and Hannah for allowing each other to be who they are.
What an amazing podcast!! Beautiful, we have so much to learned as a society, and respect one another. We need to learn to communicate more emotionally. We need to learn to connect emotionally with one another. Shane and Hanna praises to both of you and many blessings to come.
I was my husband's caregiver for the last 14yrs of our 37yr marriage. Sadly, for us, it did change the intimacy in our marriage. My husband stopped seeing me as his wife, but as his nurse. In addition, his medical issues (and meds) did play a huge part in causing incontinence & erectile dysfunction. All that definitely affected his feelings of inadequacy as a male and in his masculinity. I, on the other hand, was desperate for closeness. I won't say it wasn't hard at times, but I loved him and truly did understand how he felt. Shane and Hannah, you two are a great example of what we all should be striving for in a relationship. ❤️❤️❤️👏👏👏🤗🤗🤗
The difference here is you are open and honest about the intricacies and complexities of inter abled relationships, whereas these two jokers are totally disingenuous. The pain an overly simplistic and fairytale picture of such a relationship. Every relationship have difficulties, never mind one's as complex as this, yet they will not admit to even ONE difficulty in the power balance. They protest too much, and where I have an issue is I regularly see posts from other disabled people questioning themselves and their own relationships and capacity, because their life doesn't match up to the idyllic picture S & G paint, which in my opinion is irresponsible for two people who claim to be disability advocates. I wondered why originally, until they bought their mansion and very quickly realised that the story they paint is very lucrative, hence all the smoke and mirrors. I have very little respect for either of them. I'm not a troll who questions their relationship, if they say they are together then I will take that at face value, but they could actually be out there doing some good for the disabled community if they were honest about their lives. Instead, they chose the most marketable story. Shane has tried this twice before with two other blonde beauties, it's just this time he found someone willing to go all the way down the rabbit hole with him.
Thank you so much for sharing, Pegge. It is not easy and we're glad that you were able to find love and closeness despite the challenges. We're glad you're here with us.
@@WeAreManEnough Thx you ❣️ Yes, the struggles were hard, but I married him because I loved him, worts and all. When his time to go finally came, I wanted another 14 yr gift of more time. However, God knew better and it was right time for his struggles to be over. It just took me awhile to come to terms with it. It's been a little of 4 yrs now and I so glad he is no longer suffering. I was given one last give just hours before he passed. He'd been on a trach for 2mos and they were weaning him down. I was able to hear him say he loved me one last time. What we lost intimacy was hard, but our love grew in so many other areas. For me, I discovered how hard my husband would fight to stay with me and give us more time together. I've never regretted my choices, he was my hero. I'd do it all again without a second thought. ❤️❤️❤️. I miss you my love......
Would love for you to have Andrew Gurza (they/he) on this show! They're a disabled, queer, and non binary writer, podcaster, and disability awareness consultant. I think you would have a great conversation on masculinity, queerness, and disability.
@@sammiech9602 if you’re a Black person (same) then totally fair. We need more representation of Black and brown disabled people in media. Andrew is white and has a really nuanced and beautiful perspective on masculinity that I think would be beneficial to this audience. I don’t know a lot of Black men/masc disabled people who are in media, but I think Syrus Marcus Ware, a Black transmasc abolotionist would be an incredible guest on this podcast as well!
I'm invisibly disabled. Meaning not noticable. However, the sad part is people don't always treat you kind of you look great and you're intelligent. I'm learning so much this evening and love this channel/podcast. Also, I'm a huge fan of Shane and Hannah. They deserve their own sitcom lol I wanted to share that my husband and I are best friends. Kinda like George and Gracie Burns lol (Google them you youngins) 😉 He's a touring musician and the breadwinner and I was a sickly, Newly divorced, momma scared and alone. I later was told by my husband that my heart, beauty, momma skills, kindness and compassion. He actually felt very inadequate due to looks, shyness, awkwardly adorable I call it lol we realized we both were in it to win it as best friends and lovers. Not keeping score, communication but most importantly compassion and respect. Very few disagreements, we can't stay angry at each other (cause that's no fun) lol I compliment him and he compliments me. If we feel something's wrong we set time aside. I'll be honest though at 58yrs old... Have a great sense of humor 😂✌🏻🙏🏻💕
This was such a great Podcast. It is so easy to compare each others lives when you all speak so well about feelings. I have been suffering from similar feelings as Shane in regards to feeling like a burden. I am in an able-bodied relationship, and it sucks to feel that way. So glad you found Hanna, who has helped you begin to think differently! Love watching you both! Just subscribed to The Man Enough Podcast. Thank you!
This is a great show! First time watching. The hosts are really good, and thoughtful. They ask great questions and really listen to the answers. Love the Burcaws! 💗
Love this podcast! I've followed the lovely Hannah and Shane since they started TH-cam. They're wonderful human beings and I think they have and will continue to teach the world about real love! I worked as an ICU/ER LPN nurse for years. I was diagnosed with SLE-lupus at 27, have 4 children, 2 are adopted. I have been happily married for 42 years. My husband still makes my butterflies rise when he enters a room. I wish for all to have the love my husband and I have. Justin, get busy finding that certain someone for Liz! All the best to you all and your families!
I came here as a subscriber (and fan) of Shane and Hannah. I am thoroughly enjoying this podcast and am looking forward to watching some of your other offerings. Thank you for sharing a quality experience.
I love this video. This couple is the epitome of what a loving/healthy relationship should be. My husband and I of 26 years are finding ourselves in a similar situation. I've recently found out that I am going blind and although we are starting to see more and more that I'm getting dependent on him, obviously we are not to the level of this couple. I really hope that we can learn to our caregiving as well as Shane and Hannah.
Hello from faraway Austria. Wow. This was amazing. Listening to this podcast was a revelation for me. And I don't only mean Hannah and Shane, but most of all you 3 interviewers. I loved the way you conducted this interview. Loved your sophisticated authentic humourous frank talk. Loved it!! I've been following the Burcaws for a while and I admire and envy them for their strength, dry humour, courage to be so open , their resilience to hate postings. 2 weeks ago here in Austria a general practicioner, having spoken out critically about people denying the existence of the pandemic, tragically ended her life at age 36, because she couldn't cope anymore with the amount of hate, hatemail and death threats from antivaxxers and conspiracy theorists and the lack of support from authorities. It is this latter that sparked a bitter argument between a close friend and me. To his mind the doctor herself was to blame because she chose to a) speak publicly about a delicate matter and b) kill herself, no one told her to do that. I still cannot put my head around this. This chosen ignorance and wilful denying of mental suffering. And there are many Austrians who think along the same line. I don't know if she was suffering from a temporary or permanent mental disease, but a lot of people are. And are not taken seriously in their disability to cope with certain aspects of life or life itself. I have known depression for a looong time and I still catch myself having to explain to close friends why I am not like "millions other single full-time working parents" who "go through the same" and "keep their shit together" apparently way better than me. It is because often I am simply overwhelmed by life and don't have the mental strength to perform more than the daily chores. It is NOT because I'm weak-minded, lazy or stupid. Mental illnesses are a kind of disability as well. And those need to be addressed as such. And represented in daily life. In TH-cam Channels. Movies. TV ads. We need more anchors that talk about their panic attacks. Couples who talk about how they cope with one of them suffering from obsessive-compulsive disorder. We need to dissect and dismantle the so-called 'normalcy' and the norms that we derive from the abstract state of this normalcy and look at life itself as it is. Acknowledge the many and manifold ways that lifes can be led and love can be found. If we cast away preformed concepts and have the courage to take an unbiased look at reality, allow ourselves to feel instead of judging, THEN we will truly be able to be Man or Woman Enough. That's all we need really. And maybe sometime in the future more people like me will be able to make fun of their mental illness and laugh at their nightmare 😊
I think that comes from our grandparents,great grandparents that a man has to be strong. You’re groomed that a man has to be able to do all these things. And a woman has to be weak and rely on a man. Hopefully with you doing this it will prove that they can be strong at other things. Men and woman can be equal. I love watching these two and see their love for each other. Great interview.
Wooooowwww guys, just wooooowwww! One of the best episodes ever! So touching, deep, honest… Thank you for sharing all this beauty, humanity at its best, knowledge and kindness. Lots of love to all of you guys! ❤️🫂😀😘🥰❤️
I wish our society and our world operated through the same lens of Shane and Hannah’s love. So incredibly inspiring and beautiful - in the TRUE sense of what “beautiful” deeply means. 🙏🏽❤️
Wow! Justin you just know who to bring into the "Man Enough Family" to open up the "Waterworks"❤. Once again it is Society that somehow taught us that people being disabled and especially as an extreme disability like Shane has doesn't qualify them to be in a relationship with someone who is fully able.Like Hannah says so many people question her and basically tell her she is crazy to be married to Shane🤦♀️Yet there are people in normal physical relationships in this world that are so broken emotionally that their Souls are disabled. Shane is such an inspiration to the world yet he also openly talks about his struggles and how hard it was to get where he is.Attracting such a Beautiful, Intelligent Woman like Hannah as a friend and then falling in Love is amazing.And the way they both have navigated their way through all of the Emotions they had to face to extend way past Caregiving. We easily forget that in every normal health relationship/marriage, Caregiving happens all the time its just different.Like Jamie said when his wife in the first few months of their marriage had to take care of him which was sometimes embarrassing. I also had to do all those unspoken tasks for my husband when he had a triple bypass and then when he had a Spine op.He also just a week ago suffered a mild stroke and I had to clean him up before the paramedics arrived to take him to hospital. And on Saturday past we celebrated our 45th Anniversary an it was still embarrassing for him to have me do those things.. Shans and Hannah like Justin says you are More than Enough..❤❤❤✨✨✨ If only more disabled people can find their purpose in life and even through all the challenges they face rise above the disability and proof that they are humans with the same " ❤...Strong Muscle " like every other "Abled" person has.🙏❤✨
First of all to everyone involved in this podcast & it's message BRAVO! My husband has been mentally ill for years and physically ill for at least 6 months now. He deals with so many issues that affect how he views himself that are caused by 'the standard' or 'what a man should be or be able to do', I can't wait to share this with him. And as for Shane & Hannah, I love them both so much & have supported them for years, so thanks to that I found your channel. There are so many people who give them negative comments that could learn so much from them if they would just open their minds up. So all in all, I just really enjoyed this for several different reasons!
Thanks for bringing a differently abled human being to your show. My sister is also like that. Many in my family thinks she doesn't have wishes like every normal human beings in terms of relationship and love. I have enrolled into a dating site for differently disabled people.
What a great conversation! I was picturing y'all sitting in a living room having this same natural conversation as good friends. PS: I Love Shane and Hannah, been following them on TH-cam for over a year
I love you so much Hannah. You have a way of making people relax around you. It's not only for Shane but also for others. I feel so relaxed during your interviews because I know that you'll always say the right things and make everyone comfortable. I love the way you love Shane - may God bless your union.
Like ask a bunch of softball questions, believe everything and smile. Maybe you should have asked why Hannah never tried dating a normal guy from her city. Or why her family and friends were totally supportive of her decision to date a disabled guy which is complete bs.
@@fiftyandfnifty1752 why are you sp angry about this, sending negative multiple.posts on this video? Sounds like you're jealous and just angry. You get what you project to the world.
That’s exactly where I was when things started to change and people started to treat me differently in a more positive manner was bc i left my small hometown and moved to college where there was a wider perspective from so many diverse people and cultures.
thank you for sharing this! What a greAt interview. Brought up sweet memories for me, having worked with a paraplegic man who was married. It was great to hear each of the interviewers. Thank you.
Absolutely fabulous. What an amazing couple that makes me see the world in a ways I would not have thought about. Gives a new meaning and definition to the word and meaning of true love
Hannah you are enough so is Shane, Each of you are 1 in a million, you 2 are husband & wife. As long as y'all are Plenty for each other. That's all that matters! ❤
This vlog was amazing. This was my first time watching you'll.I love watching Hannah and Shame. They keep me laughing. I love Shane's attitude. I watch all of their vlogs.
Isn't that so sad to hear someone say how on Earth is she attracted to him. I think both Shane and Hanna are both beautiful people inside and out. It's so sad that people make others feel less then because of a disability just blows my mind. I'm so happy for them and I wish nothing but the best for them. ❤️
It's because when those rude ppl say rude things about others it supposedly makes them feel like they are better than the ppl they are being rude about or saying rude thing to. I dont see how but that's suppose to be how it works. They cut others down to build themselves up.
There’s a lot more nuance to the situation. I myself am disabled, and I can recognize that having a disabled partner can be a lot for some people, and not everyone can handle it. Questioning an interabled doesn’t automatically imply that disabled people are less valuable.
Respectfully, Christina, millions and millions of men get shot down in flames by women, and are made to feel lesser, simply because they're shorter than 6', or bald ... things they have zero control over. A significant percentage of women won't even _consider_ a guy -- no matter how awesome he is -- simply because of height or baldness (or 50 other nit-picky things). So why the surprise about people's reaction to Hannah and Shane?
@@xyzct I'm not surprised by anything anyone says or does but, I do think it's very sad. There's much more to a person like a kind loving heart. Well I guess it's their loss. In my eyes I know I'm not perfect by any means so why would I judge another by that petty stuff. It bothers me that others judge others for anything and everything. But, like I said it's their loss.
Thanks for saying that especially if ur able bodied ❤
Amazing story. My mom was in a car accident in 1971 that left her paralyzed. She met and married my dad in 1977 and I was born in 1979. Spouses as caretakers is hard but it's so fulfilling. My dad was a Rockstar!
Find someone that looks at you the way Hannah and Shane look at each other. ❤
Shane looks at Hannah the way a man looks at his little sister
@@BlackBiggot Yup ! Lol!!!
Shane and Hannah found true love for one another! Congratulations you two on your TH-cam channel! God bless ✝️ you both!
Absolutely its love we should all be so blessed to have love
Shazam! 💕✌🏻
That was one of the better ways to spend an hour and a half. Wow, thank you! This talk was super illuminating. Also, when you said "When men want sex what they really want is emotional intimacy" a lot of light bulbs went off in my head. Being a disabled women, sex is this big scary thing for me. I worry that i'll stay single because this area is really hard for me to offer in the usual way. Someday I will find a man secure enough to be emotionally vulnerable and intimate with me to where what i'm able to offer is more than "enough". 🥰
Hi yogi hello from Florida positive vibes and super confidence heading your way
@@garyragsdale3 awww so cute ur kindness 🤗
U got this ❤️❤️
@disabledyogi
I do too. Thank you for sharing that here! I stayed away from dating because - and back to that word - I couldn't stand to be a burden. Sometimes lately I think Why did I assume all men would think that? Not give anyone a chance? Extra silly as one of my earliest heroes is a lady named Joni Earekson (I butchered her name, yikes). When she got married I was so encouraged. Joni broke her neck at 17 diving into a pond & became quadriplegic.
She learned to paint with her mouth! Really beautiful paintings. I love that her husband's name is "Tada". So I thought, ok, I'm not looking for Mr. Right, I'm looking for Mr Tada. (My friends thought that meant " Ta dah!", which I think works too. :0)
When Shane said he didn't feel like he would make for a valuable partner, my heart broke. I love these two so much. Thank you for doing this podcast with them!
It brings such joy that he has found a partner like this.
I like Shane but not Hannah .
they are fake as F
I said that very thing to my husband years ago ‘just listen to me, I don’t want you to fix it’. That was a real eye opener for him. He loves to talk and fix everything. He listens more now. Side note: we’ve been married 60+ years!
It's so simple, yet so hard. Congratulations on such a long, loving relationship!
Thanks to ALL of you for doing this show. As someone who has invisible disabilities, along with many of my children, I struggle with feeling worthy of love and of value to my family. Also, due to the isolation due to these disabilities it has been difficult to find a supportive community. Thankfully, we now have connections virtually. Thanks again!
Thank you! So glad we could help you feel a bit more supported.
I am disabled and I love them They bring me joy each day
Everyone has a purpose can live your life in a box.
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Their relationship shows so strongly how who you are inside is more attractive than what we look like.
Thank you for sharing this
My Mom used to say, We are all just walking or rolling along in our Earth Suits". I don't remember the context now, but hearing that from my Mom - who has always been stunningly beautiful, and I don't think she knew it, which makes her even more beautiful! But having been in a very broken body for 30 years, I love that. We are who we are inside. And I believe I'll leave this thing behind one day.
A real man/husband show’s kindness,love,good listener, conversations together total communication I see this in you two. Love you guy’s ❤️
Thier fake .
Exactly!
As a physical disable man myself i recognized myself a lot in some of the things he was saying but i learn a lot from the couple perspective because it has been and it still is hard for people that i am in a intimate relationship with to know how to handle and me feeling uncomfortable with my condition . This episode has been a really helpful. Thank you Shane and his wife and you three Justin, Jamey and Liz you always approach your guests with so much respect, empathy and care . Good on you guys.
I've been watching Shane & Hannah for a few years. Great interview. So many good points. One thing that stuck out for me was when Shane talked about his burden complex. I have Spina Bifida, so I have been disabled since birth. I have struggled with the same feelings of not being worthy of relationship, or not wanting to be a burden to a potential partner.
Thier fake !
@@chillitaco8429 source instead of being a hater?
@@chillitaco8429 sounds like you have a little jealousy going on over there.
@@chillitaco8429 Shane is definitely not fake.
@@chillitaco8429 How have you come to this conclusion?
Shane and Hannah demonstrate the qualities that develop and are intricate to maintaining a healthy realationship. I feel blessed to use those qualities in all my relationships, not just with a partner. Thanks for teaching this old girl new tricks!
Yeah thier scam works very well .
@@chillitaco8429 it's really sad to me that you cannot see beauty where it exists. I hope you can eventually
@chillitaco8429 did you take your medication?
What a great show. I love them so much. I learned alot too about myself and my emotional uncomfortableness in this discussion. Also, I gotta say, when we think of one aspect of masculinity being about protectiveness and how Shane's disability meant he couldnt protect Hannah, he did in fact protect Hannah and did it rapidly, when Justin asked about sex he said that he likes to keep some things private. So, once again he did it emotionally with words, by setting boundaries.
Yess thats so true. He actually does that alot in many ways. I never really thought of it that way but your totally right
Great point!!!
Shane is just an all around intelligent and caring guy.
He definitely protects her heart. ❤
The Man Enough Matchmaker! I love it! I'm a big fan of Shane and Hannah, and have followed them for quite a while. I am disabled and have a beautiful husband who really is the love beneath my wings. We're not only life partners, but parents to four amazing kids and grandparents to 3 beautiful, healthy grandchildren. You get out of life what you put into it, and where there is love, there is a way❤❤❤
Thank you for sharing your experience, and so happy that you've found a partnership like that. Glad you're here with us.
I'm one of Shane & Hannah's subscribers so of course I watched this for them but I'm subscribing to your channel because of you three! What sweet people you all are. My husband & I are both disAbled but we were still doing pretty well when we met. He actually went online & researched my disease, he was not the first one either, and knowing that what I have is terminal & only going to get worse, he felt I was worth it. His issues took the lives of two of my siblings, that was hard for me to know but he's worth it & we have been together 24/7 since our 3rd date, 12 years ago! I never get tired of him & vice versa. We have our own interests & social circles online so it gives us plenty of free time & together time. TOTALLY open communication is absolutely key. We talked out the good, bad, & ugly before our first date. No secrets to come to life no questioning how the other feels about anything. We are to each other the best friends ever, love of each other's lives & we've both been married long term & raised families. I never worry that I am enough even though I can't do everything for every body anymore. I might be afraid of dying too Shane, but I know people will all remember me for being strong, stubborn, & a fighter. You too!
Thank you so much for joining us and for sharing your journey. So happy you found your husband.
The maturity of the relationship the 2 of you share... is beyond its years
Love is not a burden. Thank you. I've felt like a terrible burden, especially lately, my Mom was my caregiver, then we were shocked, then... I have no words for the next feeling. She was diagnosed with early onset Alzheimer's. So now my 84 year old Dad - dealing with an almost completely U shaped spine, & pain I will not pretend to know - is caring for both of us.
My very able bodied brother moved back to our town, I so hoped to help. But he just ... couldn't. He is an angry guy. All the privilege in the world, & he just hates. He loves to tell me & the Internet that it's my fault my parents don't have things, & that's hard to deny. Until I saw that line.
Thank you, sorry, all a cry baby now. Thank you for sharing your story, for living out love. Love isn't just a feeling, it's definitely actions. ❤
Thank you for being so vulnerable and sharing your story. The team is sending you lots of love!
Wow this is an amazing show. I’ve been following Shane and Hannah for only a few weeks, and I clicked very quickly on this podcast. It did not disappoint!
Yay, yes! I have no idea how they showed up in my TH-cam rec's or whatever it's called. So glad they did though!!
!!SO EXCITED FOR THIS EPISODE!!
THE BURCAWS ARE HILARIOUS AND INTELLIGENT AND KIND
Shane and Hannah used to live in my town and I regret that I never met them, or had the opportunity to buy Shane a beer. I love their podcast/channel. What a great couple!
We agree! Maybe you'll get that chance someday.
I love Shane and Hannah. This is the most serious I've seen them. Usually Shane's full of jokes and cant stop. Lol.
I saw my husband in person for the first time at the Philadelphia airport as well. I was late to pick him up also. Lol. That moment is burned into my mind though. I was 17 when we met, and I was disabled at 19 after an accident. My husband stood by me, like it was never a question. I always related a lot to your love story, Hannah and Shane. Unfortunately, my husband passed away unexpectedly in April of this year. I'm 39 now, and I don't know how to move forward.
Thank you for sharing. Sending you love as you work through the grief. That's a difficult journey.
I'm so sorry for your loss My heart goes out to you. I hope you are doing ok. 🙏❤️
You know, I've been following you guys for mobths .. and without a doubt this is my very favourite interview. I am incredibly grateful to the interviewers for being willing to dig deep and ask the really deep questions, while being so respectful of Hannah and Shane, not afraid to be completely honest and straightforward.
Hannah and Shane you guys really blow my mind.. I'm used to you joking around a lot and still addressing issues but you really laid your selves bare during this interview, you really were incredibly transparent. So much about what you say applies to people in relationship whether they're interabled or not.
OMG thank you guys for bringing this beautiful souls Shane and Hannah on the show. Thanks for teaching us alot with your life experience and perception. Appreciate xx
Love Shane and Hannah, followed them for so long and as someone who has disabilities with an 'abled' husband, they show the normality of life as a couple. Love their humour,their honesty and their ability to brighten my day!
I loved the interview and Shane's & Hannah's relationship, and their honesty. The panel was great! I have SMA as well so I can definitely relate to the prejudice and injustice that those of us who have a disability deal with daily. I love their openness and the courage they share regardless of what ignorant people may think! Much love to you, Justin who first introduced the world to Shane/ disability community! (Smile)
Thank you so much! It was so much fun to reunite Justin and Shane.
Im just curious, was this your first time being introduced to Shane and Hannah?
( I have been a huge fan of theirs for years and was just wondering)..
If they are new to you I highly suggest catching up on their older videos on their channel ( Squirmy and Grubs), they are amazing!
@@sanniwartinen3595No, but it was the best thorough interview (in my opinion) and yes, I am aware of their channel, and I enjoy a lot! But thank you so much
@@sanniwartinen3595
I 100% agree, they are an excellent example of a partnership.
They really are a testimony. I love Shane and Hannah. ----- I know the power. I had a heart attack 5 years ago. I Had a spiritual experience when it happened and I had the choice to live or die. There was a split of light in the air and I could have just reached up and went to Heaven. But I saw my husband and he was all alone, in the darkness. I chose to stay. Our love is so strong. I know I am here to help him cross over and he takes care of me on this earth. Love is so precious. It goes so far beyond the physical. True love is eternal. ---- Love this video. Thank you.
I swear their sexual relationship sounds better than that of many both able bodied couples I know. They just have a beautiful, true love for each other. And the talk about emotional intimacy is so on point. (Once again, sorry for so many comments but this interview really brought up a lot that needs mentioning.)
An old friend (95 yrs) of mine said find someone with “common interests and complementary assets.” The have this in a HUGE way. Beautiful!
What I’ve seen with Shane and Hannah is pure love ❤️. The way she looks at him says it all. They laugh together so much. 😊 They’re awesome.
I follow these two, and they make me believe in the human race again.
What a wonderful human being this world would have if they have a child.
Thank you for this conversation.
We couldn't agree more!
Good thing they live with her parents and have unlimited resources to keep up this fairytale
@@fiftyandfnifty1752 what? You obviously don't understand how difficult it is to be disabled. Im not in a wheelchair and a RN and still need a large amount of parental assistance for physical and financial means as disability wants you to stay under the poverty line. Why do you feel they should live a more difficult life when the parents wanted to help more? Parents help out a lot of able people as well due to financial insecurity post xenials.. Are you like this to people in your personal life? I'd consider being kinder or no one will be around when you are old and disabled before you die and just hope you're financially secure enough to not need outside assistance "to keep up with your fairy tale".
@@dana102083 thanks to the Squirmies for teaching the world what true love is all about. Cant wait until their next video where they can remind us how wonderful they are and how much they love each other. Maybe Hanna will wear bikini to promote disability awareness
I love watching the podcasts, I am a disabled woman who never thought anyone would want me, my amazing husband is my rock, looks past my disability and 46 years later he is the best part
of me
Shane's personality is fire he's so funny he's supporting... it does make him cute, and I see why Hannah loves him. And Hannah, I love how calm Hannah is... she has great vibes.
Hannah you are such a mature and wise woman who knows what you needed in a real loving relationship. Shane honor and cherish your gift from God. You are a blessed man.
Thank you! Glad you're here with us.
My thought about all of us is we are not enough because we're human. But having a person who can deal specifically with our "not enoughness" while God works on our hearts is the biggest blessing. And every couple is unique in their oneness. 🤗
Absolutely!
To be disabled I had to lean into my vulnerability! Understanding that there are things I can't do but I need lean into how my character as a human has grown because of my disabilities. Justin and Shane you are men that I deeply love! I love you both for being who you are.
Liz’s comment hit the nail on the head with respect to why I enjoy and in many ways look up to Shane and Hannah’s relationship. It has nothing to do with the inter-abled nature, more so their ability to communicate, laugh, and tackle the world as a team. Sadly, it makes me feel “not enough” when watching their videos as I struggle to make sure I am the best partner, not “man”, I can be, and I am the guy who mows the lawn, is the breadwinner, etc, all the traditional “manly” activities one does in a relationship.
Thank you for sharing so honestly. You are enough, especially since you're recognizing this and striving to be a better partner.
I've adored these two for years. They are so grounded and hilarious and genuine. I've known a lot of men who can't change a tire. lol I remodeled two homes mostly by myself. I'm perfectly capable on my own, as is Hannah. The concept that women are incompetent of handling the physical rigors of life is behind the misogyny. Women don't actually need a man to be their protector, handle the spider in the room, or change the oil in their car. We have Jiffy Lube now to handle the car and know how to disable an attacker and use a glass to get the spider. We pay the bills and can do anything a man can and can hire someone if we can't. So, to me, it was never confusing why Hannah and Shane are together because he's kind, intelligent, hilarious, and fully capable of many things, and contributes a lot to the relationship just as any man would but in different ways in some regards. It's not odd to me at all. So, when I hear someone suggest that it isn't fair that Shane has a beautiful woman and they don't, I want to suggest to them that if they actually saw her rather than their own idea that she somehow needs protecting or someone who can mow the lawn, they'd see that Shane is more than enough and in fact preferred over this guys misogynistic view of what a great man is or what a woman needs. Being a great man isn't about physical strength, it's about emotional strength and intelligence, calmness in crisis yet excited about life, and laughing together and all the little things you do that show you care. If you don't have those things, you are more of a burden to a woman than Shane ever could be.
Hannah has been brainwashed in college by feminist propaganda to believe masculinity is bad. She never even tried dating a normal guy prior to Shane. So she picked a partner who can never stand up to her or criticize her and where she has complete control
@@sammiech9602 Wow, um, Nope. As Hannah would say. lol That's a whole lot of lies you have to tell yourself because you simply can't comprehend 'she's just not into YOU.'
@@imscanon I'd say she is more into laydeez. She just makes money with disabled guy who isn't funny
@@sammiech9602 your opinion has no bearing or a relationship that isn't yours. If you had any good traits you wouldn't be single being angry against people that have no influence on your life. your insecurity is showing..womp.
@@dana102083 I need a woman to civilize me so that my toxic masculinity can evaporate and re enter society as a gay man
The end of that conversation literally made me cry when all of you were thanking them… 😢full of gratitude!!!
I have been following Shane since Justin’s documentary 9 years ago and I just love his journey and Hannah is just perfect for him. I’m so happy for them and this podcast was so perfectly articulated and put together.
This couple are new to me. I just watched Shane, Live Life To The Fullest. What a way to start my day. Thank you so much.
Thier fake no marriage license records I've checked ect Nothing.
What a great discussion and perspective. My husband and I are not interabled. He is a healthy big strapping man. But that being said he was not raised like the topical mannly man ideal. He can't build or fix things or work the land. But he is a wonderful man, amazing father and husband, and my safe place. For so long I would hold that typical ideal of what a man 'should' be and it would cause issues.
In the recent years I have finally come to the conclusion that we each bring our own strengths to the table. And truly that is why it works. He is good at yard work, and making sure our tanks are filled, and vacuuming, and getting the groceries and working hard at his job and so many things. I am the builder and fixer of things and the emotional guide and so many other things. So some of the gender roles are not as they 'should' be, but for us it's what works and makes our household function best.
We need to stop 'shoulding' all over everyone and thing.
Also, love watching all Shane and Hannah's episodes and love to see them normalize the interabled couple. They are so natural with each other and prove that it's not a gender thing or an abled thing, it's a personal strength thing and working as a true partnership to make the relationship work. That looks different for every couple and should not come from a society mold.
Man! The part about how Hannah wasn't a natural care giver hit home big time. She and Shane fell for each other regardless of all their differences. This reminds me again of me and my husband... I always tell him that when we met I literally felt this electric felling in my body. I just knew he was my person. We fell hard for each other within weeks of being friends. And when we started dating a year later all our thoughts came out and turns out he had felt the same as me the whole time. I was the girl who never wanted to get married, never wanted kids, never wanted that society driven typical life, but once he came into my life everything changed. Not to say we have the typical societal roles but we did get married and gave a kid and are happy just being.
Thank you so much for sharing! This is why we need to have more of these conversations and normalize people being who they naturally are. There's so much joy and fulfillment to be found by finding partnerships and lifestyles that let each person flourish in their own authentic way.
I have been watching Shane and Hanna for years. Now I've got a new podcast to listen to!
Welcome! We're so glad you're here. We love them too and were so happy to reunite Shane and Justin after a few years.
This was the best TH-cam video I have ever seen. Thank you for sharing all of this. It puts life into perspective on what we need… Even the able-bodied. I have been married twice and engaged a couple times and I have yet to have such a loving relationship… You are so blessed
Business relationship based on selling romance online while being victims of mean comments or improper treatment every time they step out.
Thank you! We're so glad you're here with us.
As a polio/post polio condition women… I would like to see a movie with a disable person , that is not about the disabled person. We just want to live the best we can. Show the challenges and how it’s part of life. As a women , I am suppose to have a miss America goal. Especially because I am offering less because of my disability (as a teenager) we all have growth.. I do still apologize when my partner has to lift me, or get me food at a buffet .He doesn’t even think about it it’s just part of us.
This video, was great.
Thank you for sharing your experience. We agree - we need a lot more representation in media of people with disabilities that is about their humanity, not their bodies. We are so much more alike than different, yet we so often focus on the differences.
So many things that can be said here. My biggest take away is that there is many nuances in the realm of man and women loving and connecting outside of the normal biosocial norms. Though the biosocial norms, tendencies and expectations are very real and come from an organic animalistic place...the way our personalities and psyches can provide joy and safety for each other knows no bounds.
Where the body is limited the spirit flourishes
Been following them for a while....
I'm also in an interable relationship, with my husband as my caregiver..... I can relate with them in many levels....
Thier fake!
Can you relate to their lavish lifestyle and million dollar mansion?
@@sammiech9602 their lifestyle is lavish? I missed that part
@@chillitaco8429 if you're gunna spam at least spell correctly.
@@sammiech9602 you mean his parent's house that they earned? Its cheaper to live under one house as disability gives crap and keeps you in poverty. What is wrong with making life easier for themselves? What part of their lifestyle is lavish?
I watched this today and the lightbulb in my head went off. I have a husband who is good a fixing, building, lifting, work but is a man who has a bad temper who finds his manhood in doing heavy work and lacks sensitivity towards me. Has no sympathy for my chronic back pain. Because of anger issues I could care less about his Physical abilities.
So to be loving, to be sensitive, to be supportive emotionally is what matters.
❤❤❤❤❤😊
Thank you for sharing. Sending you love.
Excellent! I love Shane and Hannah's TH-cam videos and this show delved so deeply into who they are. Wonderful and encouraging to hear. Thank you!
I've been following their story since day 1 on TH-cam. I love their love. They've opened my eyes to the world of abelism, and how our world isn't built for the Shane's out there. Great interview, thanks guys!
This was a phenomenal podcast. Thank you for having Shane and Hannah as guests and everything that you all spoke about. I have no words. Beautiful.
Thank you! So glad you're here.
I absolutely loved this. Thank you so much. I see so much of God and Hannah and Shane they are beautiful people. Also Shane is an ENFJ and Hannah is an infp on the mbti. He is a natural encourager and she is a natural caretaker of all things including nature animals plants birds and humans so even though she didn't recognize that about herself it's tucked inside her personality which makes them a match made in heaven❤
Hi! I’m so happy for you both, and can see true Love for each other. God love Us all, and truly see you both are so kind. Thank you so much. Love you both, and wishing you the best always. Thank you for sharing. I only wish people would keep negative words to themselves that are hurtful 😢
I’m 75yrs Old, and years working in Human Services, and on the Volunteer Committee for Special Olympics Connecticut for years, and worked in group homes for years. Please remember to be Kind. Thank you. Amen 🙏.
Congratulaciones to the five of you for this magnificent conversation. Hannah y Shane are beautiful.
I have attention span of a gnat so the fact it only tookme 2 sittings to watch this says something! I love squirmy and grubs so much!! I caretake for my husband and I learn so much from them...they have taught me to find the joy in helping my partner and they have taught me how to have the more difficult conversations. I LOVE THEM!!!
AMEN Everything said by any of you is completely excellent and honest, seeming at least. What a GREAT interview. Thank you all for your time and efforts.
To all the brain dead people that could say what is wrong with Hannah that she could love Shane. You should be studying her like the most important book in the world and saying what is right with her that I need to learn so I can be the best addition to the human race that I can be. Shane and Hannah have something worked out in each of them that is allowing them to be the best examples of what humanity is supposed to be. We all have something to learn from each of them.
Well said. Thank you for your support of this beautiful relationship. We would encourage you to avoid using language like "brain dead", as it's not necessary or respectful. We wouldn't want your valuable perspective to get lost by alienating the people that it needs to reach.
@@WeAreManEnough that's a good point about reaching the people it needs to. I should have taken some time before writing, but I responded while emotion was high, while watching the video.
Hannah talking about wanting Shane to just listen and not give her advice or a solution about some things --- that's a relationship issue even able bodied people have. It's a thing even between me and my adult son. It's a human nature thing, not an interabled or able bodied thing. It's wonderful that they are learning that about each other so early on. I know of couples that have been married 30, 40 years or more who still haven't figured that out. Kuddos to Shane and Hannah for allowing each other to be who they are.
So true. Thank you for sharing.
What an amazing podcast!! Beautiful, we have so much to learned as a society, and respect one another. We need to learn to communicate more emotionally. We need to learn to connect emotionally with one another. Shane and Hanna praises to both of you and many blessings to come.
Fantastic conversation among the five of you. Incredible!! Sooo intelligent.
I was my husband's caregiver for the last 14yrs of our 37yr marriage. Sadly, for us, it did change the intimacy in our marriage. My husband stopped seeing me as his wife, but as his nurse. In addition, his medical issues (and meds) did play a huge part in causing incontinence & erectile dysfunction. All that definitely affected his feelings of inadequacy as a male and in his masculinity. I, on the other hand, was desperate for closeness. I won't say it wasn't hard at times, but I loved him and truly did understand how he felt. Shane and Hannah, you two are a great example of what we all should be striving for in a relationship. ❤️❤️❤️👏👏👏🤗🤗🤗
Yeah like buying your first car without any wheels and pretending to be happy
The difference here is you are open and honest about the intricacies and complexities of inter abled relationships, whereas these two jokers are totally disingenuous. The pain an overly simplistic and fairytale picture of such a relationship. Every relationship have difficulties, never mind one's as complex as this, yet they will not admit to even ONE difficulty in the power balance. They protest too much, and where I have an issue is I regularly see posts from other disabled people questioning themselves and their own relationships and capacity, because their life doesn't match up to the idyllic picture S & G paint, which in my opinion is irresponsible for two people who claim to be disability advocates. I wondered why originally, until they bought their mansion and very quickly realised that the story they paint is very lucrative, hence all the smoke and mirrors. I have very little respect for either of them. I'm not a troll who questions their relationship, if they say they are together then I will take that at face value, but they could actually be out there doing some good for the disabled community if they were honest about their lives. Instead, they chose the most marketable story. Shane has tried this twice before with two other blonde beauties, it's just this time he found someone willing to go all the way down the rabbit hole with him.
Thank you so much for sharing, Pegge. It is not easy and we're glad that you were able to find love and closeness despite the challenges. We're glad you're here with us.
@@WeAreManEnough Thx you ❣️ Yes, the struggles were hard, but I married him because I loved him, worts and all. When his time to go finally came, I wanted another 14 yr gift of more time. However, God knew better and it was right time for his struggles to be over. It just took me awhile to come to terms with it. It's been a little of 4 yrs now and I so glad he is no longer suffering. I was given one last give just hours before he passed. He'd been on a trach for 2mos and they were weaning him down. I was able to hear him say he loved me one last time. What we lost intimacy was hard, but our love grew in so many other areas. For me, I discovered how hard my husband would fight to stay with me and give us more time together. I've never regretted my choices, he was my hero. I'd do it all again without a second thought. ❤️❤️❤️. I miss you my love......
@@sammiech9602 I'm sorry, you must not be posting this to me. If u are you completely missed the point.
Would love for you to have Andrew Gurza (they/he) on this show! They're a disabled, queer, and non binary writer, podcaster, and disability awareness consultant. I think you would have a great conversation on masculinity, queerness, and disability.
Unless he is also black, I'm not interested
Wow! Sounds amazing! I hope they do! Sounds fascinating.
@@sammiech9602 I feel like you need some attention or a hug so I'll send one!
@@sammiech9602 if you’re a Black person (same) then totally fair. We need more representation of Black and brown disabled people in media. Andrew is white and has a really nuanced and beautiful perspective on masculinity that I think would be beneficial to this audience. I don’t know a lot of Black men/masc disabled people who are in media, but I think Syrus Marcus Ware, a Black transmasc abolotionist would be an incredible guest on this podcast as well!
You guys need to watch Fresh and Fit podcast where real men tell the ladies what time it is
I have followed Hannah and Shane from the beginning. I have now subscribed to this podcast. I think all three of you are amazing people. Thank you!
Thank you so much! Welcome!
I'm invisibly disabled. Meaning not noticable. However, the sad part is people don't always treat you kind of you look great and you're intelligent. I'm learning so much this evening and love this channel/podcast. Also, I'm a huge fan of Shane and Hannah. They deserve their own sitcom lol I wanted to share that my husband and I are best friends. Kinda like George and Gracie Burns lol (Google them you youngins) 😉
He's a touring musician and the breadwinner and I was a sickly, Newly divorced, momma scared and alone. I later was told by my husband that my heart, beauty, momma skills, kindness and compassion. He actually felt very inadequate due to looks, shyness, awkwardly adorable I call it lol we realized we both were in it to win it as best friends and lovers. Not keeping score, communication but most importantly compassion and respect. Very few disagreements, we can't stay angry at each other (cause that's no fun) lol I compliment him and he compliments me. If we feel something's wrong we set time aside. I'll be honest though at 58yrs old... Have a great sense of humor 😂✌🏻🙏🏻💕
Thank you so much for sharing your perspectives ❤️
I love Shane and Hanna! ❤ I really enjoyed watching this to see how they became a couple! ❤
Thank you! Glad you're here with us.
This was such a great Podcast. It is so easy to compare each others lives when you all speak so well about feelings. I have been suffering from similar feelings as Shane in regards to feeling like a burden. I am in an able-bodied relationship, and it sucks to feel that way. So glad you found Hanna, who has helped you begin to think differently! Love watching you both! Just subscribed to The Man Enough Podcast. Thank you!
Thank you! So glad you found us. Welcome.
This is a great show! First time watching. The hosts are really good, and thoughtful. They ask great questions and really listen to the answers. Love the Burcaws! 💗
Thank you so much! We're so glad you're here.
Love this podcast! I've followed the lovely Hannah and Shane since they started TH-cam. They're wonderful human beings and I think they have and will continue to teach the world about real love!
I worked as an ICU/ER LPN nurse for years. I was diagnosed with SLE-lupus at 27, have 4 children, 2 are adopted. I have been happily married for 42 years. My husband still makes my butterflies rise when he enters a room. I wish for all to have the love my husband and I have.
Justin, get busy finding that certain someone for Liz! All the best to you all and your families!
Thank you!
YOU Two are SO MUCH FUN to watch!! Never know what SHANE IS GOING TO SAY NEXT!!❤❤😊😊🙏🙏
I came here as a subscriber (and fan) of Shane and Hannah. I am thoroughly enjoying this podcast and am looking forward to watching some of your other offerings. Thank you for sharing a quality experience.
I love this video. This couple is the epitome of what a loving/healthy relationship should be. My husband and I of 26 years are finding ourselves in a similar situation. I've recently found out that I am going blind and although we are starting to see more and more that I'm getting dependent on him, obviously we are not to the level of this couple. I really hope that we can learn to our caregiving as well as Shane and Hannah.
Thank you for listening and sharing your story 🧡
Hello from faraway Austria. Wow. This was amazing. Listening to this podcast was a revelation for me.
And I don't only mean Hannah and Shane, but most of all you 3 interviewers. I loved the way you conducted this interview. Loved your sophisticated authentic humourous frank talk. Loved it!!
I've been following the Burcaws for a while and I admire and envy them for their strength, dry humour, courage to be so open , their resilience to hate postings.
2 weeks ago here in Austria a general practicioner, having spoken out critically about people denying the existence of the pandemic, tragically ended her life at age 36, because she couldn't cope anymore with the amount of hate, hatemail and death threats from antivaxxers and conspiracy theorists and the lack of support from authorities. It is this latter that sparked a bitter argument between a close friend and me. To his mind the doctor herself was to blame because she chose to a) speak publicly about a delicate matter and b) kill herself, no one told her to do that. I still cannot put my head around this. This chosen ignorance and wilful denying of mental suffering. And there are many Austrians who think along the same line.
I don't know if she was suffering from a temporary or permanent mental disease, but a lot of people are. And are not taken seriously in their disability to cope with certain aspects of life or life itself.
I have known depression for a looong time and I still catch myself having to explain to close friends why I am not like "millions other single full-time working parents" who "go through the same" and "keep their shit together" apparently way better than me. It is because often I am simply overwhelmed by life and don't have the mental strength to perform more than the daily chores. It is NOT because I'm weak-minded, lazy or stupid.
Mental illnesses are a kind of disability as well. And those need to be addressed as such. And represented in daily life. In TH-cam Channels. Movies. TV ads. We need more anchors that talk about their panic attacks. Couples who talk about how they cope with one of them suffering from obsessive-compulsive disorder.
We need to dissect and dismantle the so-called 'normalcy' and the norms that we derive from the abstract state of this normalcy and look at life itself as it is. Acknowledge the many and manifold ways that lifes can be led and love can be found. If we cast away preformed concepts and have the courage to take an unbiased look at reality, allow ourselves to feel instead of judging, THEN we will truly be able to be Man or Woman Enough. That's all we need really. And maybe sometime in the future more people like me will be able to make fun of their mental illness and laugh at their nightmare 😊
Thank you so much for sharing. Sending love.
I think that comes from our grandparents,great grandparents that a man has to be strong. You’re groomed that a man has to be able to do all these things. And a woman has to be weak and rely on a man. Hopefully with you doing this it will prove that they can be strong at other things. Men and woman can be equal. I love watching these two and see their love for each other. Great interview.
Thank you! We're so glad you're here with us.
By far one of the BEST interviews I’ve seen with Shane and Hannah!!! ❤️❤️❤️❤️
So happy to hear that it resonated with you.
Wooooowwww guys, just wooooowwww! One of the best episodes ever! So touching, deep, honest… Thank you for sharing all this beauty, humanity at its best, knowledge and kindness.
Lots of love to all of you guys! ❤️🫂😀😘🥰❤️
I wish our society and our world operated through the same lens of Shane and Hannah’s love. So incredibly inspiring and beautiful - in the TRUE sense of what “beautiful” deeply means. 🙏🏽❤️
Wow! Justin you just know who to bring into the "Man Enough Family" to open up the "Waterworks"❤. Once again it is Society that somehow taught us that people being disabled and especially as an extreme disability like Shane has doesn't qualify them to be in a relationship with someone who is fully able.Like Hannah says so many people question her and basically tell her she is crazy to be married to Shane🤦♀️Yet there are people in normal physical relationships in this world that are so broken emotionally that their Souls are disabled.
Shane is such an inspiration to the world yet he also openly talks about his struggles and how hard it was to get where he is.Attracting such a Beautiful, Intelligent Woman like Hannah as a friend and then falling in Love is amazing.And the way they both have navigated their way through all of the Emotions they had to face to extend way past Caregiving. We easily forget that in every normal health relationship/marriage, Caregiving happens all the time its just different.Like Jamie said when his wife in the first few months of their marriage had to take care of him which was sometimes embarrassing. I also had to do all those unspoken tasks for my husband when he had a triple bypass and then when he had a Spine op.He also just a week ago suffered a mild stroke and I had to clean him up before the paramedics arrived to take him to hospital. And on Saturday past we celebrated our 45th Anniversary an it was still embarrassing for him to have me do those things..
Shans and Hannah like Justin says you are More than Enough..❤❤❤✨✨✨
If only more disabled people can find their purpose in life and even through all the challenges they face rise above the disability and proof that they are humans with the same " ❤...Strong Muscle " like every other "Abled" person has.🙏❤✨
In the old days they would say well said 😎 positive healing and happy energy being sent your way and to your family
First of all to everyone involved in this podcast & it's message BRAVO! My husband has been mentally ill for years and physically ill for at least 6 months now. He deals with so many issues that affect how he views himself that are caused by 'the standard' or 'what a man should be or be able to do', I can't wait to share this with him.
And as for Shane & Hannah, I love them both so much & have supported them for years, so thanks to that I found your channel. There are so many people who give them negative comments that could learn so much from them if they would just open their minds up. So all in all, I just really enjoyed this for several different reasons!
Thanks for bringing a differently abled human being to your show. My sister is also like that. Many in my family thinks she doesn't have wishes like every normal human beings in terms of relationship and love. I have enrolled into a dating site for differently disabled people.
Being strong and making money have been the only role model men have had for a long, long time. All of us are growing better as time goes by.
What a great conversation! I was picturing y'all sitting in a living room having this same natural conversation as good friends. PS: I Love Shane and Hannah, been following them on TH-cam for over a year
I just loooove these two!!! They have an amazing connection ❤
Beautiful conversation!
Can’t wait to watch this again to pick up on stuff I missed the first time around!!
Great, let us know what you think.
Shane is so smart; Hannah as well, and she's such a natural.
I love you so much Hannah. You have a way of making people relax around you. It's not only for Shane but also for others. I feel so relaxed during your interviews because I know that you'll always say the right things and make everyone comfortable. I love the way you love Shane - may God bless your union.
We feel the same way!
Like ask a bunch of softball questions, believe everything and smile. Maybe you should have asked why Hannah never tried dating a normal guy from her city. Or why her family and friends were totally supportive of her decision to date a disabled guy which is complete bs.
@@fiftyandfnifty1752 why are you sp angry about this, sending negative multiple.posts on this video? Sounds like you're jealous and just angry. You get what you project to the world.
That’s exactly where I was when things started to change and people started to treat me differently in a more positive manner was bc i left my small hometown and moved to college where there was a wider perspective from so many diverse people and cultures.
Sometimes geography makes a big difference. Thank you for sharing.
Thank you for having them on ✨they have reached a level few people attain. Their relationship gives me hope for my children and for myself.❤❤
I think I've watched this video a number of times. I love it!
I love Shane and Hanna! I've never watched your Podcast..... you are very handsome! I shall be back. Your topics rock!!
Thanks for joining us!
absolutely brilliant all around, thank you! really love what's being discussed around 29/30 minutes in.
Thank you!
thank you for sharing this! What a greAt interview. Brought up sweet memories for me, having worked with a paraplegic man who was married. It was great to hear each of the interviewers. Thank you.
Absolutely fabulous. What an amazing couple that makes me see the world in a ways I would not have thought about. Gives a new meaning and definition to the word and meaning of true love
Play perpetual victims become millionaires
We agree!
Hannah you are enough so is Shane, Each of you are 1 in a million, you 2 are husband & wife. As long as y'all are Plenty for each other. That's all that matters! ❤
Love Shane and Hannah...they teach me so much and help me become more aware
This vlog was amazing. This was my first time watching you'll.I love watching Hannah and Shame. They keep me laughing. I love Shane's attitude. I watch all of their vlogs.
looking forward to this show, Ive followed Hannah and Shane for years.
I loved ur documentary on Shane and how cute how Hannah found Shane thru that. How awesome
Thank you!
@@WeAreManEnough no thank u. If it weren't for u we wouldn't know them 😉
this was phenominal!! So much good info for ALL couples. Excellent job!
Thank you!