My husband asked me about my credit score early too… We did background checks and credit checks on each other along with health and STD checks. It’s real when you merge someone into your life.
That's perfectly fine, but also very different from what he did to collect the info... As a woman, I agree with doing ALL the checks, esp background checks _(ex: Shirley Strawberry)_
This is where I failed at when me and my husband got married. I failed to do a credit check on him and I should have because he was doing whatever he could to NOT let me see it. I started watching patterns and his patterns told me he had terrible credit, terrible money management skills, and lack financial responsibility and intelligence. He hid it from me, but it was too late I was stupid. I ended up Separating my finances because I can't trust him financially.
✅Starting off a relationship based on manipulation deception mistrust are grounds for transparency speculation of what else would be done without consent🤔
To me a high value, high caliber man doesn't just provide and protect but also consistently nurtures the well being of his partner and family and definitely has integrity.
I had the same thought. Some black men just don't like black women they are just making excuses because they definitely would marry a spicy/masculine lightskin/white latina
I get your point. But as black Latina who grew up abroad I can tell you there is a big difference. When I came to this country I used to ask myself: why do they (black Americans in general but specially women) always look so mad or upset? I understand it’s a very deep point, and I am not judging, just letting you know that most of the time that’s the feeling you get 😅
I agree with the wife! Self-assessment first is so important. And I tell my female clients all the time to “be quiet!” (sometimes women tend to dominate conversations). Learn the value of listening. Listen to what a man is saying and what he’s not saying.
High value is high morals, standards, good character, integrity, resources A man with ambition is simply just a man with ambition. A man on a mission is simply a man on a mission. And a man with money is simply just a man with money
My husband has an 800+ credit score. He never asked me about my credit what he did was add me as authorized user! That boosted my credit immediately. I Don't think its disrespectful; it was ILLEGAL for his cousin to do that. A high value man would have just asked. A high value man looks for the intrinsic value in a woman. Upon finding her, he makes her life easier. He's not concerned about what she's bringing to the table.
Hello guys. This is Jacqueline from Uganda, East Africa. I just wanna let you know that I am so grateful and appreciative of this channel in general. As a single lady looking to get married, a lot of wisdom is being poured into me. Also to every one, the bible tells us to get wisdom above everything! With all I am learning here, I have come to a conclusion that what actually keeps a marriage may not be love alone. It is 'Wisdom.' So go out there and get wisdom! All my Love, Jacqueline.
I am a Kenyan living in the USA. This channel has helped me view and handle my personal life and marriage differently than before. Kudos to Tysean and Ryan for the good work and all the effort to bring guests that enlighten us. .
The 1:23 minute mark where the brother isn't understanding how his multiple jobs and hustles are, to alpha, dominant woman, are a sign of instability!!! She gave a perfect breakdown and explanation. If a man if all over the place, grasping at which gig will "hit" its hard for some women to look at him as something stable in her life, let alone as a partner. So many precious gems in this episode!!
Don’t get it twisted ladies, if a man wants that woman he will work through it all. The women that have men are not necessarily the women with better character, it seems it’s all about if a man wants to be in that relationship or not for the most part. I’ve been married for 15 years peacefully and I’m not near perfect so this I know for a fact.
I'm all for it. Because I do background, credit, and STD tests before moving forward with the person I decide to get serious with. I also sit down to see if you pay your bills and evaluate how you see your finances. Credit determine if you pay for the debt you acquire or let it charge off or that you're reckless with your money and sitting or sleeping on everybody's couch or if your buying expensive cars but you have no place to sleep priorities are screwed up 🔥🔥🔥 topic
Sometimes charge offs are not due to irresponsibility but unforeseen medical issues. Occasionally, people are hit with circumstances beyond their control. People who get cancer; their medical bills are so high. One's FICO score suffers. I look at it as a case by case basis.
It’s time to stop hanging on to everything these internet relationship coaches say, because they’re wrong about a lot of things. Your partner having a problem with the music you like and changing the station while you’re listening, then running your credit behind your back are red flags in real life
It’s not for everybody I agree. But how many people get into relationship and then find out all types of issues with their partner. Maybe he should not have done behind her back but I feel like definitely that is something that should be done when the situation is serious or heading there 😊
Completely agree! Why not tell the person and then do the background? Nothing hide, no problem, right? Checking, as the first step, behind their back? That's being secretive and disingenuous. A wrong step to take in the beginning. And, communication is the most important attribute in all relationships! Ask the seasoned saints if u want.
I may be mistaken but isn't it illegal to run a CC without SOMEONE'S APPROVAL , That is why companies ask for permission to do so, Move with integrity and ask, I think it is more effective,
Blessed!!! I’m 64 and just because of the title I was not going to watch this episode. I love their definition of highly valued man/woman. Being single and retired, I came away with many nuggets. Already planning my cruise.
Hardly initiated is fantastic. Love it so much! Your content. I listen to it mostly at the moment because the content is soo great. Keep going. You're making all of us better people who really take you seriously
Really using your family member and accessing sensitive information through a bank is highly illegal and unnecessarily deceptive. If we’re moving towards marriage, we need to be able to have hard conversations including finances. Just ask me. Don’t go behind my back.
Really enjoyed this video. Powerful lessons to learn on how to grow, understand, educate oneself on requirements of a relationship & marriage. I'm in Indianapolis, if I had applied this knowledge, I would have never married twice, until I had my stability in place instead of chosing to marry someone and wanting to build together. For I found out, she wasn't wanting to achieve the house and build stability.
Darien thank you for asking that question about wanting to be a traditional housewife!!! I love that! Never heard of the MRS degree! But I love it! White women do that all the time. They keep up their appearance, weight, support and attract the men that is on their way to the $$$
High value or not thats disrespectful conniving and illegal 34:41. If you’re communicating with your partner and the both of you are serious, the both of you should go to the bank. Discuss going to the bank and pull both your credit check so they going to make moves. That’s intentional. No illegal. Michelle don’t lose your job over you cousins, inability to communicate and insecurities.
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This content was inadequate. All this talk about material possessions or analogies thereof, are irrelevant. The bottom-line is JESUS! You're lacking wisdom. You need be seasoned by the Holy Ghost, y'all ain't been thru any serious hardships, you're too young! 2 Tim. 2:15
It’s absolutely not disrespectful. In today’s world it’s essential to value yourself, your direction, your time… if you are looking for someone to BUILD with that means all cards on the table. Secrecy is not an option.
Love this session of transparency and truth. Our values are placed on materialistic verses the mission and can you walk with it. Or even would you date you before telling someone what you desire when you don't have the criteria yourself. I think this is such a great session in reminding us to self evaluate you and determine our 1, 3 and 5 year goal for ourself.
This is a super episode. I COMPLETELY agree with checking people’s background and credit. You better know if the person you’re considering is a fugitive. You wanna know if you’re gonna end up paying for that person’s child support cuz they’re dodging the law. You wanna know if they’re professional cons moving across the country or HOBOSEXUAL. You wanna know if they make a habit of taking out loans and not paying them. You wanna know if they’re scared of money or have a stingy spirit with it and will use it to control you. Side note: I truly wish that people could just answer the questions DIRECTLY when they call in. It’s exhausting hearing the whole life story for a yes or no question!
Background absolutely! It helps paint a clear picture. You need to know if a person got a record and so. A credit check not so much. Credit is fluid and can change. And just because it’s not great now all that means is they don’t have the tools and need a little help
I'm so proud of you guys and your growth! I've watched your videos for only a couple of months now and the comparison from just a few months ago to now I notice how you've both evolved. Keep persevering and inspiring! You're doing amazing, praise God! 👏 🙏
YES it's disrespectful for the partner to do all that without your permission. I'm about transparency and honesty and you should be able to ask that person upfront if you can do that. If they say No, you can choose to leave them alone or not, if they say Yes, you can proceed 😎👍🏾♥️why we grown and sneaking or hiding?👀👀👀that doesn't sit well with me
My spirit is telling me that this isn’t the couple that we should be seeking counsel from. Especially Black women. Notice how they keep making her attitude issues something cute at light. They kept saying she was “spicy”, “passionate”, “fiery”, “strong”. She goes on to say how she learned to be quiet and to tone down because her husband was patient with her and redirected her. They dated for several years before they even became married. But then her husband stated, a high value man isn’t going to put up with aggression, even though he considers himself hi value and he tolerated his wife’s. He also made excuses for her actions because he stated, he knows Latina women can be hot tempered but he still tolerated her bad behavior because he understood it was rooted in culture…. I said all that to say this… he dealt with disrespect because he valued her and because he fetishized her. Would he have given a black woman grace for disrespect… Clearly, I don’t know this man. But I question the advise of a man who willingly married a woman that admitted to having attitude issues and was controlling, and his reason for staying was compassion because she is a Latina and it’s embedded in their culture. As for Ryan, the more I listen to these podcasts, the more I see how toxic he is. In several other interviews he states that he doesn’t like aggressive women, but in this clip, he states he prefers spicy women. Which tells me it’s a self hatred thing. You like aggressive Latina women, you just want Black women to be docile. I really hope, this podcast doesn’t head into the direction I think it’s starting to head in, because it’s starting to come off as pandering. That they only pander to black women because that’s majority of their supporters, but they really don’t rock with them… I pray that’s not the case.
I agree with everything you said until you got down to Ryan. He said in another podcast he wants to marry a black woman. Maybe by spicy he means fired up, opinionated, but not disrespectful. As for the couple. I’m curious as to how they say to look at a man’s vision and drive, not his pockets. Then say it was okay for him to check her credit score, especially without her consent. It looks hypocritical to me. Your credit score can easily drop if you fall on hard times. I’m wavering if I should even finish the episode 😅
Well said, I 100% agree!!! Black men can f off with that bs about black woman being angry and every other race of women fiery, spicy, strong etc. F these ignorant ninjas!!!! SMH
By the way, credit scores go down when you don't use credit. So if you are not living above your means and only using a debit card, you won't build credit.
This couple dropped serious bombs in this episode. They shook everything that is not correct in our mindsets. Money and Relationships can work! Thanks Ty and Ryan, great job guys. By the way I'm in South Africa and always watch the pre-records🥰
I understand getting this information, but is it high value to not ask me straight out? In my opinion, that makes you low class. I have nothing to hide, but you could be a scamming man. Ask me if you can. It is illegal for the bank to share my personal information with a person without my consent.
Thank you guys! Fabulous show. Much love too you both. Blessed with valuable knowledge before marriage! The couple was truthful too their union, very important, needed discussion before marriage! God Bless! ❤
No, I don't necessarily view it as sneaky or disrespectful to conduct a background and credit check without my prior knowledge, but this is because I'm ready... Appreciate the perspective of this couple. Their teamwork is remarkable, inspiring a vital discussion for healthy relationships. I am blessed! Thank you, Tysean and Ryan! 💎
Not even going to watch after seeing the comments lol. Background check for safety, fine, I get it. Personally not doing it. Not providing my real info or # for strangers to have this much info about me. I use my middle name. I had one guy to try to move close to me after he checked me out and we had not even met. A look into finances, that’s a no, unless you’re considering marriage and that’s important to you. But early in dating or relationship, no.
His cousin Michelle would have been out of a job sharing my info like that. And he would have been history. If you want to know, just ask or ask questions that will reveal their feelings and habits about money. It’s deceitful and disrespectful and he lost my respect and attention after hearing that.
I would not be disrespected if my prospective partner performs a credit and or background check. I would appreciate that because it shows his intention is serious and besides, I have nothing to hide. I think some may have an issue if they have a dark past.
A guy who calls himself high value but is seeking a credit score early and without permission is not a high value man. A man automatically asking for a submission or talking about submission is a huge red flag. It shows that he is controlling. A woman will only respect you if you respect her.
Loved miles Monroe. Used to fly to sit at his ministry had all his books and tapes. Went everywhere he spoke missed him he didn’t go anywhere without his so much so they died together. 😢
Dr. Myles MUNROE preacher teacher awesome blessing would be about people getting the Bible word message & use it in life & not about him getting praise cause praise belongs to GOD 🙏🌹!!!!!
I agree with the caller regarding women being called, “Alpha” women. That term has been misused by the Red Pill community without correction. The word “Alpha” means first, The Alpha and The Omega which means last. Marriage isn’t guaranteed, therefore, women need to work. Whether or not she works for as an office clerk or runs her own business,some men are very intimidated. Her story is REAL. I’ve run into this scenario time and time again. It’s important to live your best life until or IF you find that man that adds VALUE to your life and you his. Those men need self-development and we keep marching forward.
Yes, it is disrespectful and deceptive and those patterns often shows up in other places in the relationship.If you are being intentional, then why not align it with transparency and ask if you two can mutually run the information together. Side note: his friend completely overstepped by sharing her financial information with him.
Those patterns often show up in other places in the relationship…..deeper words haven’t been spoken! I’m low key worried for her, I’m not fooled by all the smiles.
☝️😌🌷 Agreed re being quiet and listening to your man …. My husband of 25+ years scolded me early on about that and he was so right…. He said, “Why do you always have to have the last word?!” I shut my self-righteous self up and kept a healthy relationship going because I simply listened 😌
No about the background check and yes I feel it is disrespectful about the credit report. I think if you are studying patterns you can get an idea about financial pattern while you are dating. How they handle and speak about money gives you an idea about their credit score.
Damn, so he pulled HER credit cause HE was on a mission??? A background check, ok, but a “high value man” wouldn’t need to pull her credit. Sounds like she was a stepping stone for him🤦🏾♀️
@ the 1:24 mark, I understand both sides, however, everyone is not a entrepreneur. I believe social media is pressures people nowadays to run businesses. It’s Inflation going on right now. People who work regular job sometimes have to have multiple jobs to put food on the table.
When Ryan said “Shout out to Myles Munroe btw” after she quoted his “Di- prefix quote” without giving him the recognition. All I heard was SLAYERRRRRR 😅‼️
There is something about the titles or thumbnails that I don’t like on your show and I always go in rolling my eyes Lmaoo I’m so sorry to say however I always end up loving the show. And this was my favorite episode. Sooo good. And loooove this couple. ❤️
I am going to say this. Just because you have two ambitious people with the same goals. Does not make the foundation two pp will need to have to have true success together. As it is written. Pride comes before the fall. I was married 26 years before my marriage ended. And no matter how successful our 2.5 million dollar company was. Ambition did not save thoses 26 years. We put to much on what we believe true success is. Not fully coming to a understanding of what real success is in the eyesight of God.
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My husband asked me about my credit score early too… We did background checks and credit checks on each other along with health and STD checks. It’s real when you merge someone into your life.
That's perfectly fine, but also very different from what he did to collect the info... As a woman, I agree with doing ALL the checks, esp background checks _(ex: Shirley Strawberry)_
As a MAN, I definitely do the Credit and STD Checc’s before engaging in adult situation’s with a woman just to cover my basis!
@@KINGDEVON16 as you should!
This is where I failed at when me and my husband got married. I failed to do a credit check on him and I should have because he was doing whatever he could to NOT let me see it. I started watching patterns and his patterns told me he had terrible credit, terrible money management skills, and lack financial responsibility and intelligence. He hid it from me, but it was too late I was stupid. I ended up Separating my finances because I can't trust him financially.
✅Starting off a relationship based on manipulation deception mistrust are grounds for transparency speculation of what else would be done without consent🤔
To me a high value, high caliber man doesn't just provide and protect but also consistently nurtures the well being of his partner and family and definitely has integrity.
The first 30min helped me so much. I can’t be offended at this man for “spec’ing me out”
Why is it that when it's a latina woman it's "spicy" but when it pertains to black women it's "masculine" "ghetto" "bad attitude?" 🤔
Yup
I had the same thought. Some black men just don't like black women they are just making excuses because they definitely would marry a spicy/masculine lightskin/white latina
I was looking for this comment.. Thank you!! I was thinking the same thing
Agreed
I get your point. But as black Latina who grew up abroad I can tell you there is a big difference. When I came to this country I used to ask myself: why do they (black Americans in general but specially women) always look so mad or upset? I understand it’s a very deep point, and I am not judging, just letting you know that most of the time that’s the feeling you get 😅
I agree with the wife! Self-assessment first is so important. And I tell my female clients all the time to “be quiet!” (sometimes women tend to dominate conversations). Learn the value of listening. Listen to what a man is saying and what he’s not saying.
High value is high morals, standards, good character, integrity, resources
A man with ambition is simply just a man with ambition. A man on a mission is simply a man on a mission. And a man with money is simply just a man with money
My husband has an 800+ credit score. He never asked me about my credit what he did was add me as authorized user! That boosted my credit immediately. I Don't think its disrespectful; it was ILLEGAL for his cousin to do that. A high value man would have just asked. A high value man looks for the intrinsic value in a woman. Upon finding her, he makes her life easier. He's not concerned about what she's bringing to the table.
Absolutely! @ makes her life easier! That’s my reality for a fact.
Personally, you should just ask the question about your HV partner. If they refuse to share or discuss, that may be a Redflag
Hello guys. This is Jacqueline from Uganda, East Africa. I just wanna let you know that I am so grateful and appreciative of this channel in general. As a single lady looking to get married, a lot of wisdom is being poured into me.
Also to every one, the bible tells us to get wisdom above everything! With all I am learning here, I have come to a conclusion that what actually keeps a marriage may not be love alone. It is 'Wisdom.'
So go out there and get wisdom!
All my Love,
Jacqueline.
Fellow ugandan who came on this podcast as well , Jacqueline you on point
I am a Kenyan living in the USA. This channel has helped me view and handle my personal life and marriage differently than before.
Kudos to Tysean and Ryan for the good work and all the effort to bring guests that enlighten us. .
As a single woman I felt very blessed listening to this couple, please have them back. Thank you guys❤
The 1:23 minute mark where the brother isn't understanding how his multiple jobs and hustles are, to alpha, dominant woman, are a sign of instability!!! She gave a perfect breakdown and explanation. If a man if all over the place, grasping at which gig will "hit" its hard for some women to look at him as something stable in her life, let alone as a partner. So many precious gems in this episode!!
Don’t get it twisted ladies, if a man wants that woman he will work through it all. The women that have men are not necessarily the women with better character,
it seems it’s all about if a man wants to be in that relationship or not for the most part.
I’ve been married for 15 years peacefully and I’m not near perfect so this I know for a fact.
I'm all for it. Because I do background, credit, and STD tests before moving forward with the person I decide to get serious with. I also sit down to see if you pay your bills and evaluate how you see your finances. Credit determine if you pay for the debt you acquire or let it charge off or that you're reckless with your money and sitting or sleeping on everybody's couch or if your buying expensive cars but you have no place to sleep priorities are screwed up
🔥🔥🔥 topic
Sometimes charge offs are not due to irresponsibility but unforeseen medical issues. Occasionally, people are hit with circumstances beyond their control. People who get cancer; their medical bills are so high. One's FICO score suffers. I look at it as a case by case basis.
Yes get that background check it might save your life.
This episode and the Dr Spirit episode are probably the 2 best episodes of any podcast I have ever seen.
Love and respect from the UK 🇬🇧👊🏽
It’s time to stop hanging on to everything these internet relationship coaches say, because they’re wrong about a lot of things. Your partner having a problem with the music you like and changing the station while you’re listening, then running your credit behind your back are red flags in real life
Yessss.
It’s not for everybody I agree. But how many people get into relationship and then find out all types of issues with their partner. Maybe he should not have done behind her back but I feel like definitely that is something that should be done when the situation is serious or heading there 😊
@@preciousmocha78it’s not a maybe. It is illegal to conduct a credit report without consent
Completely agree! Why not tell the person and then do the background? Nothing hide, no problem, right? Checking, as the first step, behind their back? That's being secretive and disingenuous. A wrong step to take in the beginning. And, communication is the most important attribute in all relationships! Ask the seasoned saints if u want.
I may be mistaken but isn't it illegal to run a CC without SOMEONE'S APPROVAL , That is why companies ask for permission to do so, Move with integrity and ask, I think it is more effective,
You guys are the best at making sense out of other nonsense spewed on all of social media. I know you all will keep up the great work!
That was a well spent 3-1/2 hours!!! Love the vibe, the knowledge, the wisdom, and laughter!
Blessed!!! I’m 64 and just because of the title I was not going to watch this episode. I love their definition of highly valued man/woman. Being single and retired, I came away with many nuggets. Already planning my cruise.
I really like how T took that advice with so much maturity. I can tell he will turn things around. He really listened!! Bravo!!! 👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾
Hardly initiated is fantastic. Love it so much! Your content. I listen to it mostly at the moment because the content is soo great. Keep going. You're making all of us better people who really take you seriously
Really using your family member and accessing sensitive information through a bank is highly illegal and unnecessarily deceptive. If we’re moving towards marriage, we need to be able to have hard conversations including finances. Just ask me. Don’t go behind my back.
I was blessed hearing this couple share & be vunerable so that others may grow individually & as a married couple.
Really enjoyed this video. Powerful lessons to learn on how to grow, understand, educate oneself on requirements of a relationship & marriage. I'm in Indianapolis, if I had applied this knowledge, I would have never married twice, until I had my stability in place instead of chosing to marry someone and wanting to build together. For I found out, she wasn't wanting to achieve the house and build stability.
Darien thank you for asking that question about wanting to be a traditional housewife!!! I love that! Never heard of the MRS degree! But I love it! White women do that all the time. They keep up their appearance, weight, support and attract the men that is on their way to the $$$
Blessed@75 years young! Never too late❤
"There's a difference between hustling and building....." That's a whole word right there.
High value or not thats disrespectful conniving and illegal 34:41. If you’re communicating with your partner and the both of you are serious, the both of you should go to the bank. Discuss going to the bank and pull both your credit check so they going to make moves. That’s intentional. No illegal. Michelle don’t lose your job over you cousins, inability to communicate and insecurities.
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If you feel this strongly you need to get a membership!
This content was inadequate. All this talk about material possessions or analogies thereof, are irrelevant. The bottom-line is JESUS! You're lacking wisdom. You need be seasoned by the Holy Ghost, y'all ain't been thru any serious hardships, you're too young! 2 Tim. 2:15
Absolutely you’re 💯spot on… leadership in a man is so attractive!!!❤
30:11 the mission , submitting to the wrong thing 🔥 disrespectful is a distraction 1:07:17
🎉❤Blessed...For seeing this couple in a successful Marriage and business showing and lighting the way. Thanks for having them on show🙏
Everyone relationship is not the same period. Eat the fish and throw out the bones. It’s a old saying but so true.
Dominirican in da house 🇩🇴🇵🇷💪🏽💁🏻♀️
It’s absolutely not disrespectful. In today’s world it’s essential to value yourself, your direction, your time… if you are looking for someone to BUILD with that means all cards on the table. Secrecy is not an option.
Love this session of transparency and truth. Our values are placed on materialistic verses the mission and can you walk with it. Or even would you date you before telling someone what you desire when you don't have the criteria yourself. I think this is such a great session in reminding us to self evaluate you and determine our 1, 3 and 5 year goal for ourself.
This is a super episode. I COMPLETELY agree with checking people’s background and credit. You better know if the person you’re considering is a fugitive. You wanna know if you’re gonna end up paying for that person’s child support cuz they’re dodging the law. You wanna know if they’re professional cons moving across the country or HOBOSEXUAL. You wanna know if they make a habit of taking out loans and not paying them. You wanna know if they’re scared of money or have a stingy spirit with it and will use it to control you.
Side note: I truly wish that people could just answer the questions DIRECTLY when they call in. It’s exhausting hearing the whole life story for a yes or no question!
Background absolutely! It helps paint a clear picture. You need to know if a person got a record and so. A credit check not so much. Credit is fluid and can change. And just because it’s not great now all that means is they don’t have the tools and need a little help
Communication actually talking to each is important ‼️‼️
I'm so proud of you guys and your growth! I've watched your videos for only a couple of months now and the comparison from just a few months ago to now I notice how you've both evolved. Keep persevering and inspiring! You're doing amazing, praise God! 👏 🙏
These two guest are authentic people! They consider the whole unlike most! God bless them! Great choice of guest! Thank you.
YES it's disrespectful for the partner to do all that without your permission. I'm about transparency and honesty and you should be able to ask that person upfront if you can do that. If they say No, you can choose to leave them alone or not, if they say Yes, you can proceed 😎👍🏾♥️why we grown and sneaking or hiding?👀👀👀that doesn't sit well with me
My spirit is telling me that this isn’t the couple that we should be seeking counsel from. Especially Black women.
Notice how they keep making her attitude issues something cute at light. They kept saying she was “spicy”, “passionate”, “fiery”, “strong”.
She goes on to say how she learned to be quiet and to tone down because her husband was patient with her and redirected her. They dated for several years before they even became married.
But then her husband stated, a high value man isn’t going to put up with aggression, even though he considers himself hi value and he tolerated his wife’s. He also made excuses for her actions because he stated, he knows Latina women can be hot tempered but he still tolerated her bad behavior because he understood it was rooted in culture….
I said all that to say this… he dealt with disrespect because he valued her and because he fetishized her.
Would he have given a black woman grace for disrespect…
Clearly, I don’t know this man. But I question the advise of a man who willingly married a woman that admitted to having attitude issues and was controlling, and his reason for staying was compassion because she is a Latina and it’s embedded in their culture.
As for Ryan, the more I listen to these podcasts, the more I see how toxic he is. In several other interviews he states that he doesn’t like aggressive women, but in this clip, he states he prefers spicy women. Which tells me it’s a self hatred thing. You like aggressive Latina women, you just want Black women to be docile.
I really hope, this podcast doesn’t head into the direction I think it’s starting to head in, because it’s starting to come off as pandering. That they only pander to black women because that’s majority of their supporters, but they really don’t rock with them…
I pray that’s not the case.
Thank you
I agree with everything you said until you got down to Ryan. He said in another podcast he wants to marry a black woman. Maybe by spicy he means fired up, opinionated, but not disrespectful.
As for the couple. I’m curious as to how they say to look at a man’s vision and drive, not his pockets. Then say it was okay for him to check her credit score, especially without her consent. It looks hypocritical to me. Your credit score can easily drop if you fall on hard times. I’m wavering if I should even finish the episode 😅
Well said, I 100% agree!!! Black men can f off with that bs about black woman being angry and every other race of women fiery, spicy, strong etc. F these ignorant ninjas!!!! SMH
Am really blessed by this couple. Their openness is dope.
Such a blessing! I love the transparency and guidance. Thank you
By the way, credit scores go down when you don't use credit. So if you are not living above your means and only using a debit card, you won't build credit.
This couple dropped serious bombs in this episode. They shook everything that is not correct in our mindsets. Money and Relationships can work! Thanks Ty and Ryan, great job guys. By the way I'm in South Africa and always watch the pre-records🥰
I agree. This episode was excellent and gave a whole new way of thinking.
28:52 integrity, solid character and solid journey with God, your own independence
I understand getting this information, but is it high value to not ask me straight out? In my opinion, that makes you low class. I have nothing to hide, but you could be a scamming man. Ask me if you can. It is illegal for the bank to share my personal information with a person without my consent.
That’s what I was thinking, it’s sneaky behavior-like what else would you do? Just be upfront.
Now you have my attention for sure. This was by far the best conversation I've watched on this platform.
Blessed!
OMG I would love to just hang out with them for a day and pick their brain!
This was an amazing episode! Please have them back!!!!
Not feeling these 2! It's giving business partners and money money money instead of husband and wife. 🙄
They are giving business partners vibes , and he seems to be controlling not loving husband
2:19:52 yes ma’am
2:20:11 yes
2:20:22 absolutely because we can trust, respect and bring forth our ability
Very blessed 🙌🏾 this episode confirmed so much for me. I so enjoy this podcast. ❤
Thank you guys! Fabulous show. Much love too you both. Blessed with valuable knowledge before marriage! The couple was truthful too their union, very important, needed discussion before marriage! God Bless! ❤
No, I don't necessarily view it as sneaky or disrespectful to conduct a background and credit check without my prior knowledge, but this is because I'm ready... Appreciate the perspective of this couple. Their teamwork is remarkable, inspiring a vital discussion for healthy relationships. I am blessed! Thank you, Tysean and Ryan! 💎
Incredible podcast segment. The guests really dropped some gems. Thank you HI ❤
Wow!!! Congrats! Love you guys and what you are doing ! Hurray from Zambia ❤
Zambia women have shown me in the past how to be proper wife. I respect that country Zambia. I am American born my deceased husband is from Zambia.
Not even going to watch after seeing the comments lol. Background check for safety, fine, I get it. Personally not doing it. Not providing my real info or # for strangers to have this much info about me. I use my middle name. I had one guy to try to move close to me after he checked me out and we had not even met.
A look into finances, that’s a no, unless you’re considering marriage and that’s important to you. But early in dating or relationship, no.
His cousin Michelle would have been out of a job sharing my info like that. And he would have been history. If you want to know, just ask or ask questions that will reveal their feelings and habits about money. It’s deceitful and disrespectful and he lost my respect and attention after hearing that.
That is illegal what was done pulling up info that is not a need to know. Just pull up your credit report and show each other.
Yes ,I am for credit and background check.
I would not be disrespected if my prospective partner performs a credit and or background check. I would appreciate that because it shows his intention is serious and besides, I have nothing to hide. I think some may have an issue if they have a dark past.
A guy who calls himself high value but is seeking a credit score early and without permission is not a high value man. A man automatically asking for a submission or talking about submission is a huge red flag. It shows that he is controlling. A woman will only respect you if you respect her.
Congratulations on 2 years!!!🙌🏾 Nov 1 is my birthday! Maybe that’s why I feel so close to you guys!😊
Another great video!
Loved miles Monroe. Used to fly to sit at his ministry had all his books and tapes. Went everywhere he spoke missed him he didn’t go anywhere without his so much so they died together. 😢
Dr. Myles MUNROE preacher teacher awesome blessing would be about people getting the Bible word message & use it in life & not about him getting praise cause praise belongs to GOD 🙏🌹!!!!!
Yes I wish I'd known to do that early in my relationship and marriage. 1000 tears lateŕ😢
I agree with the caller regarding women being called, “Alpha” women. That term has been misused by the Red Pill community without correction. The word “Alpha” means first, The Alpha and The Omega which means last. Marriage isn’t guaranteed, therefore, women need to work. Whether or not she works for as an office clerk or runs her own business,some men are very intimidated. Her story is REAL. I’ve run into this scenario time and time again. It’s important to live your best life until or IF you find that man that adds VALUE to your life and you his. Those men need self-development and we keep marching forward.
Woo we just bought a house also. Took our savings I felt that. Greatly appreciate the encouraging words.
So Blessed by this conversation!
This is awesome! I relate to this in so many levels!
Yes, it is disrespectful and deceptive and those patterns often shows up in other places in the relationship.If you are being intentional, then why not align it with transparency and ask if you two can mutually run the information together. Side note: his friend completely overstepped by sharing her financial information with him.
Those patterns often show up in other places in the relationship…..deeper words haven’t been spoken! I’m low key worried for her, I’m not fooled by all the smiles.
Not behind my back or without my knowledge. That conniving. Say it to my face instead of lurking in the shadows.
☝️😌🌷 Agreed re being quiet and listening to your man …. My husband of 25+ years scolded me early on about that and he was so right…. He said, “Why do you always have to have the last word?!” I shut my self-righteous self up and kept a healthy relationship going because I simply listened 😌
Tysean's face be having me weak when people call that come out of left field😂😂😂
Yess it’s my the delivery with my husband and I am still learning after 37 years of marriage 🙏🏾 .My husband is more calm with discussing things.
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Great advice like I really appreciate your channel and the solid insight and advice that can change your point of view
No about the background check and yes I feel it is disrespectful about the credit report. I think if you are studying patterns you can get an idea about financial pattern while you are dating. How they handle and speak about money gives you an idea about their credit score.
Absolutely BLESSED!! Amazing episode....
I really enjoyed this couple. Thank you for having them on❤
🎉2yrs in. Congratulations guys🎉
Yes marriage goes through season 👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾
When she said “I’m not crazy…”
You think she's crazy ? 😂😂😂😂
😂😂 of course not
Damn, so he pulled HER credit cause HE was on a mission??? A background check, ok, but a “high value man” wouldn’t need to pull her credit. Sounds like she was a stepping stone for him🤦🏾♀️
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OH, What A Blessing.
That was amazing!!! (BLESSED)
I agree, your pordcast is bringing so much value! it is therapy.
Am so blessed with this conversation,a lot of highlights😇
OUTSTANDING!!!!❤
Blessed. So many gems dropped.
He seem to don’t want her opinion on anything
Blessed by this amazing episode
Loved loved loved everything about this episode ❤
@ the 1:24 mark, I understand both sides, however, everyone is not a entrepreneur. I believe social media is pressures people nowadays to run businesses. It’s Inflation going on right now. People who work regular job sometimes have to have multiple jobs to put food on the table.
When it comes to the specs conversation, I find that to be true.
This episode was dope! I was blessed......Thank you ❤
When Ryan said “Shout out to Myles Munroe btw” after she quoted his “Di- prefix quote” without giving him the recognition. All I heard was SLAYERRRRRR 😅‼️
There is something about the titles or thumbnails that I don’t like on your show and I always go in rolling my eyes Lmaoo I’m so sorry to say however I always end up loving the show. And this was my favorite episode. Sooo good. And loooove this couple. ❤️
It's clickbait to attract men
I am going to say this. Just because you have two ambitious people with the same goals. Does not make the foundation two pp will need to have to have true success together. As it is written. Pride comes before the fall. I was married 26 years before my marriage ended. And no matter how successful our 2.5 million dollar company was. Ambition did not save thoses 26 years. We put to much on what we believe true success is. Not fully coming to a understanding of what real success is in the eyesight of God.