The taboo of depression | Silja Björk Björnsdóttir | TEDxReykjavík
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- Silja shares with us what it is like to be in a state of depression by conveying her own experience. She seeks to destigmatize depression and mental illness and encourages us to take a different look at how we as a society deal with these issues.
Silja is a film theory student at the University of Iceland, columnist and motivational speaker who focuses on depression and related matters.
Silja and friends' blog: www.freyjur.is
TEDxReykjavík was held for the fourth time on May 17th 2014 in Harpa conference and concert center. The audience experienced engaging and motivational talks from some of the brightest artists, thinkers and entrepreneurs in Iceland, and from further afield. You can find more about TEDxReykjavík at www.TEDxReykjavik.is
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I've been stuck in bed for two days. I have work tomorrow. I have to make myself go. I know exactly what you mean. I don't even talk about depression anymore, because people just don't know what to do with the information.
I feel you. Don't mention the forbidden word "suicide" either. People will leave you faster than you'll ever believe. We aren't allowed to talk about it. Lol. Stay strong and I wish you luck. Depression is a bitch.
i know how it feels
I don't talk about it anymore with anyone I know. No one really understands depression except those who have had it themselves.
TokyoBlue totally agree.
You are totally right :/
But, hey, Do you feel a little bit better?
I love this girl. The fact that people like her exist gives me hope
Excuse me,do you have her social media, just like her Instagram...?
I can't not find anything about her.
Those of us who have been through this understand completely. Those who haven't don't.
I broke down watching this because I found myself in every word that she said.
At the same time, this video gave me that little bit of energy I needed to be happy again.
Thank you for every beautiful word.
Ena Ravlić I feel the same
Lo Ka same your not alone
I was going to reply: then stopped. "I can't write that!" I can't write that no matter how "good" today is going....I'm always one bad thought away from an unstoppable sadness.
I avoid it because I don't want to hurt my family....but there will come a time...when I just have to think about me.
I can't stay here because of you......
Oh; there, see? I shouldn't have posted.
this video really deserves more views. mental illness is so crippling because of the stigma surrounding it, and depression is a life threatening illness. The common perception of depression encourages the depressed to not talk about it, to suffer in silence. It is fine if you don't understand what depression is, it is something extremely complex. What isn't fine is to assume you know what it is and that a depressed person just needs to get over it, or that they are weak. It takes true strength to live with depression, and more so to talk about it openly and publicly.
Thanks for the great talk Silja, well done.
There is a strong connection between loneliness, lack of friends/family and depression. So it is kinda glib to simply say "Access your friends and family". She was lucky to have some and maybe that is why she is on the TED stage and got over HER depression. Nice voice, sweet attitude but I must say her mental hospital experience was benign compared to the way they treat most people, and that is with the kind of built in contempt that proves they don't care about you one tenth as much as their paycheck.
I suffer from Depression *and* Loneliness for more than 30 years. NO Friends, NO Love.
@@slcncr I know how hard it is. But I don’t know how to help you. I don’t know how to help myself. Maybe the solution is to find those who are even worse than you and try to take care of them?
I enjoy my loneliness since I don't have to please people, and I hate large sound. and yes I had a time of tendency of depression, used to reach out to the world wanting more love more people around me, but I really like the way I'm living in. Only few friends(chat online, seldom meet with each other), seldom meet my family, and a lot of love toward myself ❤
Self perceiving and taking care of your inner child are important skills that everyone should practice to make themselves feel better😊
When she said depression is an illness that you deal with your entire life, that really destroyed my morale. I have been battling depression for about a year with no end in sight. I have tried medication, diet, exercise, vitamins ect.. with little to no success. I completely lost sight of who I once was and forgot what happiness feels like. I can't imagine enduring this pain for another 60 years or so. Holy shit, that's like the mental equivalent of being sentenced to life in prison without parole. I can't do it. Suicide seems to be the only rational response in order to put an end to this madness.
I think what she meant is that once you cure it or get it under control who have to follow certain rules and notice any signs of it coming back so that you can take action before it comes again. Yes, this will usually last the entire lifetime. But that does not mean that you feel bad all the time. You jus have to take it into consideration that you have the tendency to get depressed, so you must make a certain effort ta avoid it all your life. For example avoiding working too much or not getting enough sleep or whatever it is in any individual case.
I know exactly how you feel. I've been depressed since at least the age of 8. It comes and goes. But the downs always hit really hard.
I'm at a point where I think that I don't want to keep doing this. Life ends in death anyways, why not just speed up the process and spare myself years of anguish?
If I could get better it would be a different story. But with my family history of life long depression and knowing that with each relapse, a new relapse becomes more likely, I'm getting really tired of fighting.
Drugs are a temporary fix tho
Thanks for this. I recently gave up my 16 year career because my employers put physical and mental illnesses on two completely different levels of validity and I got tired of being always treated like I was a liar by co-workers, management and HR. The workplace SUCKS for people with depression and anxiety.
It's worse for people with physical health issues. Physical problems have a very huge stigma, and when you have them, people will laugh at you for having those physical problems. Believe me, physical problems are worse than mere mental problems. Having mental issues is trendy these days, and way-too-many people claim to have them, so they don't carry the stigma that physical problems do.
+Charles I'd like to known if you have ever suffered a mental illness?
People don't really understand other person's situation unless they have something to relate to it. I'm depressed and have attempted at least 9 suicide attempts in the last 2 months. (I'm a type 1 diabetic (diagnosed at the age of 2) and also have hypothyroid (diagnosed at age 2.5 because of type 1 diabetes), 19 years old now). All the stress of college life, peer pressure, going through stigma related to diabetes and daily attention this disease requires just pushed me to my limits. I have lost my hope for living, don't have a good support system either. All the people who I knew moved away. Recently someone who I loved most dearly told me that "You are weak and you can't do anything." All those things keep coming back. Most of the times I tried to just "Shake it off", but it didn't help. It only got worse. I just can't deal with this anymore. Would have been better if I died before my diagnosis.
Charles, trendy?!! really?!
Aditya Kumar, I am so sorry that a loved one said that to you. Please know that is not the truth.
She said it all, you can't explain depression-but she did a great job doing it as well as a person could, thank you very much--
I love her voice
Also, I'm currently crying because I relate
I'm crying too..
She's an attention seeking feminazi who is a legitimate pscycopath.
@@theodorherzl4695 Shoo
You reading this, you are an amazing person and you are the best that you can be. Stay strong. you can and will get through this. You will be so proud of yourself when you do. Somebody cares, I care. Sending love your way :)
Thanks..this mean a lot to me❤💜
Bless Up!
Saidy Cedano ❤️
I, myself do not have depression, but I choose to learn and understand my best about depression because I know many people in my life who suffer from it, and it kills me not being able to understand them. It’s hard hearing the person you’re in a relationship with not be able to get out of bed and constantly saying she can’t do anything. I wish I could help. I know it’s not easy or maybe even possible, but I know all I can do is do my best to understand how they are feeling.
You're one smart and articulate young lady. Loved your analogy of your broken brain, broken soul broken leg etc. I went through a period of depression in my teens. No one noticed until I took a bunch of pills in class allergy pills. My grandmother swung to the rescue. She noted that I have high goals and felt overwhelmed. Her cure for my depression was to give me tasks. Bake her cakes that she would share proudly with her friends. She told me one thing that cured my depression and helped me learn how to cope when I get depressive thoughts. Three single words. 'I will try' that has been my cure and I hope others will find those three words healing.
My dad says that someone is putting words in my head so I think I'm depressed, and that I choose to be depressed and have anxiety, but I don't, I've kind of had anxiety as far as I can remember, and I don't know why I'm either depressed or have anxiety, and I really just need my mom, but I'm never going to be able to see her ever again, so I'm all alone and it feels terrible, I cry myself to sleep every night hoping that one day the pain will go away.. And I'm reaching out for help but I feel like everyone is teaming up with my dad and that's terrifying to me...
(I'm Icelandic too so this was cool to watch cause it felt more special)
Smile More your post was one yee ago, but I wondered if you are better and okay?
Ohhh... I hug you. Wish you relief and happiness. In spite of all.
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my dad said my mother made me depressed cause she used to talk about killing herself when ive been depressed from school and being horribly treated by other people and ive never heard her talking about dying even once.
It sounds to me like your dad is toxic. I think learning about toxic parents might be very helpful to you. If I had left my toxic family when I turned 18 my entire life would have been different. I wish you the best.
This is the best Ted talk ever
Not to discredit this video, but the Andrew Soloman talk on depression is also really good. Probably the most accurate description of depression I've ever heard anyone explain.
There are friends whom you may want to avoid when taking about your depression or suicidal thought. They will simply brush it off and this makes you feel even worse. Choose carefully whom you want to share with.
I think this a lot...I personally don’t think anybody cares about it. They just want me to be happy so I can hangout and stuff. But tbh I feel down a lot of the time.
thank you, ive waged this war my whole life, I'm 42, and just now telling the people around me, it feels as though a huge relief to tell them and to see them understand why I had the issues I've had threw out life, see them understand why, understand how I feel, to not have to hide it, it so hard to hide it.
For the first time, someone understands a suicidal. People say they’re so selfish, don’t they think about their loved ones. That’s the problem. We think the world, including our family and friends, would be better off without us. Some of us went through with it and they’re not here to tell the tale. I was stopped in time and feel the need to tell the world to stop judging us. Instinctively, would a healthy happy person want to die? All mammals fear for their lives, so unless the pain is so much to bear, no one would want to die. Some of us just feel like we can no longer go on.
One of the few Ted Talks or any other "talks" on depression that I've been willing to listen to in it's entirety. Very sincere and sobering delivery of a difficult subject. So thankful that you were spared a fate so many have doomed themselves irrevocably to. A battle that demands much, and is oh so exhausting. Small victories seem inconsequential and infrequent. I consider myself fortunate to have endured...thus far...
thank you silja. beautiful name and smile. youre so well spoken. the world needs more of you
She is beautiful inside n out❤️❤️❤️❤️
This is a top notch video. Perfectly describes the view and feeling of people that are depressed. Great work.
Thank you for the video. I will try not to hide my depression anymore.
You have described this state of depression so very well. Thank you for 'coming out' something many of us are so frightened to do.
"You're weak! You even can't hurt yourself!" That voice is rolling in my head every single morning. I'm so scared of myself. Sadly people really thought deppression is completely taboo.
I know right
Seeing depression as taboo and personal problem is one of the dumbest things people do
They don't even want to understand others, so they label those who suffer, and I'm just saying the possibility of getting depression, like if you don't care about others, you should at least care for your own future, knowing how to take care of yourself is no harm to anyone
Thank you Silja for sharing your experiences. I'm sure millions out there will continue to benefit from your talk. Yours is a message of hope to countless souls stricken with this malady.
This is the best depiction of what it feels like to be ready to take your own life I've ever heard. This young woman is spot on and so eloquent in her portrayal of despair, hopelessness, and suicidal ideology. I have experienced every level of depression from having a blue day that turns into weeks and months that can escalate into exactly what she describes; that you are so miserable you feel everyone would be better off without you. Nothing takes away the pain. You don't want to die. You want to live. But you can find no way to do that living with the pain. I have tried every treatment short of electro shock available. I was willing to go to that level when I finally was hospitalized. Intense therapy, medication, tenacity and working to get out of a toxic marriage was my prescription. I can happily say I'm in remission. My prayer every day is to stay here. But alas, there are no guarantees. It's remission, not a cure. Bravo to Silja for her brave battle fought and using her pain for purpose!
This is one of the best videos for someone dealing with severe depression thank you
Thank you for speech. I fight with depression already almost 9 months.
I'm suffering too. I have 8 months now. I hate every day and night. I just can't stand it.
It happened from losing my career job... It was a traumatic event I couldn't handle. Now. I just suffer.
This is the best explanation ever
I just burst in tears.. thank you and much love ... this really helps
One of the most powerful thought provoking speeches on this subject I’ve ever heard. I’ve suffered with depression and this really hit home . I can’t thank you enough for sharing this you are an inspiration to so many people x
When she's talking about being rushed to the hospital, being treated just like you have a broken leg or infected gums, because of swallowing the pills, the only thing I can think is that this illness fights at your from the inside until you come back at it from the outside... and then you ARE in the same position as anyone else with a physical injury. It's dark like that.
Thank you so much, your delivery is unrivaled, that very good Silja,
Thank you silja, you're great ♡ I know exactly what you mean. In such situations you can't really think if it's wrong, the depression has the power and you just react. That's aweful! But we're alive and do have good times as well. Never give up! Lots of love from Germany ♡♡♡
I would not say depression, alone, is "the worst" as you can not compare individual experience with any illness. It is the same attitude that creates stigma around depression. Having suffered depression for years , I find approaching this illness from an exlusively scientific point of view limiting; yes, it IS an illness but on many different levels. I found exploring these layers or levels helped broaden my understanding of depression, they consist of: physical, psychological and spiritual.
“Simply Thankyou”
Introduction:
After more than twenty years of fighting depression, many psychologists and many psychiatrists and so many cycles of medication, this simple personal insight brought me home!
To all those beautiful people who have suffered from depression I would like to say “Thankyou, Simply Thankyou” for doing such a wonderful job. Thankyou for being such beautiful and courageous messengers , such shining beacons!
I hear your pain , I have felt your pain, and now I hear your message and I hear it loud and clear for your message is simply the pain of humanity and the way it has to live now. The way we are living now is so wrong, so wrong, there is so little human-ness left in the way we live. We need to change, and we need to change now! So now relax in the knowing of a job well done, your message has been heard, that there has never been anything wrong with you, you are simply a gifted messenger!
I know that place you go to; that deepening, darkening tunnel, which you shuffle down with trembling knees, and your body full of terror and panic. I know that place you go to, where the tunnel ends, where your bare feet are on solid ground but your toes are dangling over nothingness, an empty abyss, and it is so dark and frightening. Then dimly just ahead there is a feint outline, misty at first, that slowly forms into a shape, a doorway, and it's only about five feet away.
And I know that moment when you are rocking on the balls of your feet, trying to decide wether to jump or not. “ I wonder if I can leap across in one bound or shall I take a few steps back and take a running jump?”
Then for some reason, you stop rocking and plant your heels firmly back on the ground, and from somewhere deep, deep inside you grab hold of something primal, something essential and you turn around facing back the way you came and take a deep breath. I thank you in this moment for choosing to return to life rather than taking the leap of death.
All ahead is blackness and you squint your eyes and then dimly percieve a minute spec of light, so small you are not sure it is real at all. So you slowly retrace your steps, and that little spec of light gets bigger and bigger as you shuffle fearfully upwards.
You are heading back to the light and it is your light, and it is getting brighter and brighter until it's the colour of Cornish Ice cream and you can feel it's warmth enfold you, and suddenly you are out of the tunnel, back in the gallery of life.
So you take your light and sit down, and relax and look back at where you came from. The tunnel is gone, the entrance has been bricked over, then plastered over and some artists have painted a mural over the place honouring the purpose of the tunnel.
You are Home, you are safe! Well done and Simply Thankyou!
Namaste' Bob and Barnaby Eden. Woof.
So beautiful, thank you for sharing this:)
@@suzannephillips6236 You are welcome, I have much more on my youtube channel
Thank you, dear Silja, for this hard and truthful presentation. Being in depression (right now) is the worst thing that ever happened to me. When you're afraid, angry, hurted and.. just broken. Like if your whole life was burned into 1 minute.
Honestly speaking, many years passed since humanity learned about such kind of desease. We're not alone, there's millions of us making war with ourselves daily, each minute. So WHY this problem is still so hided?
Thank you on more time for that truth. I'm really happy for you who crashed this desease and was able to win in a war!
Great one!
Привет, Алиса. Как ты себя чувствуешь в эти дни? Есть улучшение?
Amazing amazing presentation ! Suffered from depression for many many years and seems like nobody gets it ! It is NOT a choice to be depressed .
I'm finding out.... I didn't know what depression was, until my life was destroyed. I couldn't believe , I lost so much, and my career job too. I stressed at first, then the insomnia and anxiety... then the depression. From Trauma,.. and having my life destroyed, knowing it was my fault.... I sunk into depression. It really isn't a choice! And really is an illness...
The only reason i am alive today, is because i dont have the courage to commit suicide, if i commit it i dont want come out more damaged than i am already. jumping and surviving,
Exactly my words. Every single word.
...попытки разговора на наболевшую тему с т.н."родными" и "близкими" и поспособствовали тому, что мой некогда крепкий дух сломился в сторону суицида. Уберегло банальное знание. Знание "благоприятных исходов" тех или иных способов. Было, как и у девушки, это стойкое осознание, что у меня даже тут ничего не получится, и я попаду именно в тот процент людей, который останется страдать инвалидом до конца своих дней. Я и так здоровьем не блещу и часто испытываю муки от обострения разных хронических заболеваний, поэтому мысль о ещё больше аде, сотворённому моими же руками, оставила меня продолжать страдать в меньшей степени на этой планете. А депрессия - всё-таки блажь. Блажь для слабых духом. Когда у меня начали умирать один за одним реально близкие и родные - это меня не сломало, но когда у меня появилась новая хроника, лишающая меня единственной отдушины в виде моего призвания, то я сломалась, а потом стала медленно тонуть в пучине депрессии. Из неё нельзя выбраться, хватаясь за ту самую сломанную основу личности. Надо отстраивать её заново и стараться не ухудшить своё состояние ещё больше. Сравнение с ногой очень похоже. Вот только в моём случае пришлось отращивать ногу заново несколько лет. Без внешних врачей и медикаментов. Я пошла к врачу, как только мне стало лучше, чтобы найти сил для этого. Мне некому было позвонить и попросить о помощи, у меня самой не было на это сил... Сейчас мой психотерапевт не верит, что я переживала такое состояние, но он не был в моей шкуре. Он сказал, что я крайне редкий процент людей по своей силе. Но теперь уже я ему не верю: я обычный человек, которому просто не оставалось выбора, как продолжать жить. Парадоксально: внутреннее одиночество, которое нас ломает, нас же и уберегает от самоуничтожения. Оно как паразит, который берёт ровно столько, чтобы хозяин не подох и продолжал быть конкурентноспособным, а иногда даже придаёт ему силы, когда чувствует опасность для собственной жизни. Очень хорошая лекция. Очень добрая и трогательная. Невольно накатывали слёзы каждый раз, когда я видела их в глазах рассказчицы. Это как пуповина, которая соединяет души людей в конкретный момент. Ощущается внутреннее родство с человеком, который пережил такую же боль. Спасибо девушке за откровение!
I'm watching this for a class, but if you're watching this in 2020, YOU ARE IMPORTANT and valued in this world. You are loved. This is your cue to seek out someone for help if you're silently battling depression. ❤️️
I don’t know if I’ve had mild depression all my life or if I “attained” it from Jr. High and grade school, but I know it’s hard having any form of depression and no one to talk to. Thank you for voicing thoughts that all people who suffer alone can’t say aloud due to circumstances.
you are so beautiful, you are so impressive, you described the words every depressed patient want to screem out with to the world .. thank you for this useful talk :)
The fucked up thing is that ignorance reigns among this subject! People really don't fucking get it unless they too get hit with it! I hate depression it seriously wants to make life impossible in every aspect!
Silja thank you. Never heard such an honest and useful speech about depression
before. For people who are not familiar with depression personally or thru a close
friend/relative, it's difficult to understand our situation. However, I do hope they can
understand your two main points: that depression and/or "mental" illness as you
called it (I believe it's really a "feeling" illness) is an illness like any other and that
it IS NOT A CHOICE. We cannot feel or not feel depressed on command. It happens to us exactly like cancer or heart disease happen to anyone. Regards from the USA.
I have depression many many years... I understand all... Thank you very much ❤️
Beautiful talk, yet sad and so true.
My Dad probably had Clinical Depression but he dealt with the pain he must have felt. I just had a minor version (Dysthymia) and it really hurt! Thank goodness I got over it.
After my Grama died I finally told my aunt that I wanted to see a councilor. And she said "Oh just because of Grandma?" and I said "No, because of my whole life." My Grandmother's death was what finally broke me after carrying around all this pain for going on 8 years. (i'm 25)
I saw a school councilor for a single year in grade school and everyone assumed that was a fix-it-all solution. My family especially thinks that if you take pills, that somehow magically makes all the problems go away. I was never allowed to talk about my feelings growing up because it was always thrown back in my face as my fault.
If I hadn't gotten out of there and found friends that actually loved me it would have killed me.
And I'm now currently looking for a councilor.
Good luck, I hope you get a good councilor ❤️❤️
That is a really encouraging video. I'm glad someone gets it.
The stigma surrounding mental health confuses me.
After my first battle with depression, I promised myself that I would never hide the fact I was , or am , broken.
Finally someone who not only explains it to perfection but truly and knowingly gets it.
I was depressed for years. Stuck on morphine because of a messed up back. The docs or doc would not take me off because of my back. I got off of it by myself and it took two years. Another year of waking up from the nightmare. I was still depressed. I could have cared less about anything or anyone. No feelings whatsoever. The psychologist ask me if I had my testosterone checked? No I haven't but I am game. The nurse who gave me my first shot said she has never seen it that low on anyone she has dealt with. Our bodies are like a huge city, and when one part fails the rest will not work right. So for men out there. Get it checked. If your good to go then live on and listen to music. That has helped me too. All kinds of music even the stuff kids listen to today. We are so complicated it is not even funny. At a certain point I decided to always smile and get others to smile. I don't how long I will be able to do all this but we are all on this planet to help each other.
This video made my cry.
I describe it as being a burn victim.that when faced with those who don't understand and make( well meaning) comments that sear me like a flame thrower!..today i limit my contact with people...i just CAN.T relax around them!...1965..high school.".Gayle, you are smart and beautiful...so what is your problem!?!?!?."
.HELL..I wish I knew!...50 years later I struggle EVERY DAY!..I've put myself in hospital 9 times..educated myself,had years of therapy,been on countless meds(with some ugly consequences!)..at 62 I can only maintain the mask for a very short time..less than an hour.I find peace in solitude and my pets!..
Dear Silla. Many thanks for this performance!
It's amazing how people living in different parts of the world are alike. Four years ago, when I was 21, in June, I ate my last supper and three packs of sleeping pills. All thoughts to the one that you voiced, and I said to myself. I'm glad that I'm not alone =)
Thank you again, I will be able to defeat this disease too!
This is a touching story
Nice job.. so very well said. You have to care a lot about people you don't know, to give and share so much of how you are to help. I really feel for you.. I feel for all of us in this darkness. I pray we hold on long enough to get better.. hang on everyone.😢😢😢😢😢
Broken souls... simply beautiful, and too true!
im lucky I have a job that understands and that is paying for my therapy snd paying for the time I miss from work because they know I cant afford help
My job threw me out after almost 13 years because of depression. The side effects of the medication caused me to oversleep one day. Fired. You should thank your employer a million times for not giving up on you and being supportive. Stay strong girl and congrats for being strong and seeking help.
So sorry I hope you can find a job that supports you and Thank you
Thanks Tracy me too. :)
They fired you for being late just ONCE?
On
You are tremendous ... Loved the presentation. GREAT JOB! You nailed it. Thanks so much
Wonderful Talk. You are still helping depressed people 7 years on.
I admitted I wanted to die after my relationship ended with my best friend. It was taken as a threat and I was told by a friend of hers that I was pathetic for saying it and even more so for not doing it. It's been a year and I can't say anything has gotten better. I just want to say I'm sorry and then disappear right after wards, but I can't. I'm just really lost
Thank you for putting thoughts to words. That I can't
Can't is the same as can ...minus the t...😊
Depression is not a choice, but an illness... I needed to hear this so much!
Consider the things in your life that you are thankful for. Be appreciative, don’t focus on what is not perfect. We cannot experience a perfect existence here in this material world. Most other living beings in this world have much greater suffering than we do.
On the subject of Hope, it is really important that everyone has something to look forward to, especially young people. And also the elderly, so that they don’t just wait to die. It is essential that one still has motivation, makes plans, tries to improve things on this human journey. Otherwise, if people feel hopeless, this can lead to feeling depressed, lonely, overwhelmed, without purpose.
We need to have realistic expectations of others and this world. This world is full of problems and imperfections so we learn over time that we probably should not be placing all of our hopes and expectations that things will work out great here for any length of time. Yet the problem is that the messages that we receive from many others is that one can experience perfect love and happiness in this world. We see in all the advertising that other people supposedly are so happy, living such a perfect life. But we know this is not reality. If we have more realistic expectations, we can avoid many disappointments.
Well said! Thank you for sharing your story.
There was a time when I was horribly depressed but.. I have a much better handle on it these days. This video kind of reminded me of that experience and how much I appreciate not being lost in that illness anymore.
Powerful story, mjög sterkt skilaboð. Brave on you, young lady. Our soceity perhaps makes us mentally ill? It needs to be addressed. Good video.
I can't help thinking about how it does not seem to get better when I've been struggling depression for half my life. It's true that stigma is a big problem. And people not knowing how to help. Every time again I lose friends, because they can't cope. They either get mad, start ignoring me, or have to retreat in their own sadness and helplessness. Most don't know how to get help, neither for themselves nor for me.
Everything thing she say is absolutely true ,I found myself in every bit of word ,when she said finally I'm happy I'mhappy😢😢 I couldn't control my tears ,one day hope I'm gonna say that
This is beautiful - thank you
It's the first time that a motivational video give me any real hope.
Beautifully said
Wonderful talk. Thank you. I've had a very similar journey. End the silence and reduce stigma! I work with The National Alliance on Mental Illness.
I spent over 20 years smoking and drinking too much to mask the pain I destroyed my health and had a stroke before I was 50. Now iI do not have the masks and now I have to face my depression for the first time in my life. And Christ its tough.
I used to have terrible addictions before I utilized spirituality and psychedelic medicine. There is so much more than the mind knows, the universe is so complex, we can always surprise ourselves
you are pretty, you are a leader, you won and I'm sure you live in so many hearts wherever you stand on your shoes. As if the so called depression became tired of people making fun of it and chose you to reveal the true message. God bless your heart Silja Bjork Bjornsdottir.
Thank you so much
This is so profound I can't believe person's actually touch d thumbs down button. I'm battling with depression myself
if life is so wonderful, and great and all that crap, why is it that everybody is looking for a reason to live? because there is nothing.
some say it is a journey, what if you do not like the journey? you have the right to get off the ship, or boat or whatever you want to call it and be free of this crap
A great video, of which I know I relate to so thank you for posting this. I thought the broken leg analogy was a great way to describe how you mask the pain of which I 100% understand. At the end of each working day I just feel so exhausted. I'm hiding it all from my colleagues and everyone around me. Even to the people who know that I suffer, I still put on this bright positive face in front of them despite the fact that it doesn't reflect how I am inside. No one wants to be perceived as the doom and gloom person in any group as the last thing anyone wants is to be alone while you have dark thoughts. The only person I can reveal my true state of mind to is my therapist.
Thank you for sharing! Let me know that I am not alone.
Спасибо Красавица, за интересный рассказ!
Among the best speeches and videos on the subject. My experiences over the the last 30+ years have not been as rewarding as the speaker. Only meds and asylums that have led to homelessness and poverty. But hopefully the newer and younger sufferers will have more positive options and outcomes
That was an excellent presentation. I understand depression and the stigma that comes with it. I have sunk into the well of sadness many times, but thankfully come out of it again and live my life again for awhile in what I call my 'strong self'. I hope every time to never have the feeling that depression gives again. I wish you the best and stay strong.
a beautiful testimony of a what it means to be human Much love
sophie love this made me cry my heart out.
Thank you so much. This gives me hope that things in my life will get better.
Thank you for this x you are an inspiration and you are causing so many people to be the change they want to see in this world. THANK YOU
Thank you so much for sharing your story. It´s very important. Socially stigmatizing experiences need to become a part of our common discourse. We all need more information.
Thank you for sharing this with us Silja. Wishing you strength and happiness in your struggle against this terrible illness, and congratulations on your progress so far. You are an excellent communicator, thank you. Kind Regards from Helen
Seriously, why should we have to hide our dark feelings and thoughts
Well.......I pride myself in believing I am so smart! People tell me I'm smart; I believe it! "That's me!"
But I've outsmarted myself........I know the world only ends in death & destruction. There are clues.....
That's why I hide the feelings.....I'd like to talk to a "wonderful" phyc....& see what someone....smarter than me!....has to answer.
3 years ago I finaly get the step to call a theropist. I have tried medicin, talking. Nothing works
The RIGHT therapist is needed. I don't know if one exists! But if you find them..... You'll know!
I personally believe that to get over/cure depression you have to find the thing that caused you to become depressed to start with. That's why everyone reacts differently to different treatments. I think depression is your minds way of trying to cope with a persistent emotion of either self loathing or something like hopelessness. If someone is lonely for sometime the mind changes the chemicals in their brain to try to level out that feeling of loneliness, and for a time, it might help. In the long run though, it just makes that person feel more, and sometimes unreasonably lonely. Do you see what I mean? So, my theory is that you can use that to try to get over depression. In the example of loneliness, they just need to almost completely purge any feeling of loneliness. It sound simple but not really because a symptom of depression is social isolation, makeing it very difficult for them to get over deprestion. Just, think about it. It's not a perfect theory, but it makes a lot of sense to me.
so thankful for this. it was amazing. gave me so much hope I can tell it has saved me. this literally changed me. thank you loads. you are a Angel xxx
You gave a superb speech ! I honestly hope you're getting better and better.
Thank you very much for this TEDx talk. Very authentic.
Well done girl 👏👏👏 People mostly try to act though. Instead we need to share our weaknesses as well.
Beautiful talk! Very pure and real!
From where I've been, it really matters where you are, and what your situation is. Mine isn't that I'm enrolled in and expressing myself through university studies. Socially reintegrating with a life is a much more natural process when its potential is there. The echoes of the antithetical potential to "it's going to get better" are not quiet. And even if it manages to do so for me, It's not going to for many more people still.