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Everyone should become familiar with personality disorders like Borderline, Histrionic, Narcissist, etc. Also know the symptoms of neurological disorders like ADHD, obsessive compulsive, Aspergers and so on. A lot of people who have these conditions don't know they even have them and they can contribute a lot to depression.
Yes I too thought 💭 how powerful her closing remarks were on medical aide verses mental / mind aide! Not a extreme position but rather a sound mind one- Freedom to overcome these deadly stigmas. Continue to reach out & serve!
@@daffodil815 things are a bit better now though i still have some rough days where i feel like giving up but i'm really trying to work on myself and change my mindset
@@pastelkitten4885 my mom does the same thing so i know how you feel, but we should try not to let their words get to us and just be proud of the small accomplishments even if it's just that you got out of bed
I thought I was getting better until I was home alone one night and attempted suicide. I thought I was better. I was 13 and I’m still struggling half a year later.
“It’s having some days where it’s incredibly difficult to get out of bed because I don’t see a reason to” i’m 16 in one week and this is what i’m going through. i don’t know i can call it depression but i feel very lonely. I’ve lost all my motivation, i don’t even have a dream anymore. my life is a all mess. my parents got a divorced, my mom, my siblings and I and living in a hotel. i have a low self esteem. i don’t feel like making friends, nor try to talk. i have a bad relationship with both of my parents. i used to be a straight A student but now i’m a failure. i’m writing this with my eyes full of tears. I’ve watched more than 20 videos about depression last week. when someone asks me how i am/feel, i reply that i’m okay/fine but in my head i say “i’m alive”. However i can’t say it out loud because people will find me weird. not having a purpose in life is really bothering me. my friends don’t understand me. my family doesn’t. but i will be happy one day, even if it has to be in 10 years, I will be happy.
im going through something very similar to u, i feel alone and hopeless, i feel like a failure, basically everything u said, but for me, my parents have a beautiful strong marrige, i have a great relationship with my family, but somehow im still very lonley and down all the time, after i read what u have gone through it makes me feel week, u went through so much but yet ur still fighting unlike me, i envy u for that, and all i can say is keep ur head up and keep going strong, remember god is always with u, i wish i took my own advice, i think its too late though, ive already gone through so much and i dont think i can handle anymore, its just so hard being alone u know what i mean? the only reasonim not ending it all is my love for lord jesus, ik hes always with me and ik he truly cares for me, hes my bestfriend and hes been with me all this time, and ik that things will get better in jesus name amen. im sry if ur not christian i just felt like telling u about my saviour lord jesus, i felt like if i talked about him u might have hope too, anyway sry for venting, just knkw that everything will be okay soon :)
Hey young prize. You are on the right track. Talk about it and seek help. You sound like me to be honest i feel you. Just know youare young and amazing and things can change. The people around you or this world doesent dictate how great you are and will be. Call the help hotline or talk to a specialist in the field of mental health .i believe in you young awsomeness
I never owned up to my depression because I was scared to open up or fear of ppl thinking I’m weak. Thank you for making this video. I know I’m not alone.
I am crying while reading comments ..I have depression ...nobody knows it .Even if i am surrounded by relatives and friends, I don't have anyone to share my depression..That means I am terribly lonely .
If you are seeing this message, please know that you have a worth. You are breathing for a reason. Life is like a river, it changes course unexpectedly. I am suffering too just like you are. Please never compare yourself to others. You don't know anything about what they might be struggling with. You are you and you are unique because no one is like you. As a fellow human being who struggles with several mental illnesses, I believe you can do it ❤️.
Sometimes i think i’m only showing symptoms of depression because deep down i’m just avoiding responsibilities because i know i’m incompetent and unworthy and lazy.
This quote means a lot to me so whoever is reading this I hope it means a lot to you too. Depression isn't a battle it's a war that no one around you can see and you can't fight this war alone. You need someone.
You are never alone💛. If you EVER need anyone to talk to, to rant to, or just a friend I’m here for you💛 my insta is @_thrivin_mindz_ you Can txt me anytime :)
I dont know about you guys but when i was deep in depression information like this woulda just went over my head. People try to talk to the depressed from a position of health and sound thinking. If they were able to do sound thinking they likely wouldn't be depressed in the first place. If we want to be supportive of depressed people we need to treat them as we would a good friend. Listen to them, let them talk and use you as a sounding board and be supportive. Most people are depressed in my opinion because they have no positive support. People that encourage them, spend time with them and let them know that they are truly valuable. I did this with somebody once and he was like "why are you hanging out with me, why are you being so nice" when we are deep in depression we are so battered that when someone is good, nice to us we become suspicious or are bafled as to why because we generally have come to believe the world to be an awful place full of awful people. Overall nice video, kinda simple but nice
You’re absolutely right. Thank you for being there when someone needed it the most! I’m depressed and have no support. I just wish someone would check up on me and take me out to get my mind off things. I can’t do this alone.
Correction: 1 in 4 people suffer from mental illness... It's getting worse. Isn't that just awful? So many TED talks trying to break down the stigmas of mental illness and depression, yet it's only gotten worse. That's quite sad. Gives a sort of powerless feeling.
maybe it’s cause more people are brave enough to step up and ask for help when it comes to their mental illness, a lot of people tend to hide it because it’s so taboo and people will make you the outcast. it might have gotten worse but it could also be this.. update : i said this because this happened to me, i struggled with my mental health since age 13 or maybe even earlier, and i only went to talk about it at nearly 17, i’m pretty strong and if i don’t feel like i can share my feelings and thoughts to the people around me, i simply wont, 17 years and still i felt like i couldn’t open up, it became too much, my grades dropped really fast and my teachers were worried. i opened up to one of them and she got me my first help, who later sent me to a therapist to treat my depression. my mom doesn’t like my decision, that’s one of the reasons i never talked about it, it’s a taboo, it isn’t a surface wound so it doesn’t exist according to most of the people of the culture i come from. i felt weak, so i never spoke up. i never felt comfortable, and especially now i don’t have friends its very hard to carry everything alone for so long.
It’s so hard to talk about depression with anyone, I try to talk with my mom about it and she thinks I’m sad. I have been dealing with pain for the last couple years and last weekend there was something that just triggered my depression and made me realize how bad I am and that I need help
Its so hard to see a purpose in anything, especially when you cant find joy in anything. And theres no one to talk to because they confused depression for sadness. I'm not sad. I am so numb.
This is what i have been feeling, people think i'm sad, i'm just depressed and yesssss i feel so numb. I dont have certain feeling like ashamed, shy or happy. I'm totally like zombie now.
I'm 19, severely depressed and recently moved away from home. I'm coping with my suicidal thoughts by literally living day-to-day. I tell myself that my only objective each day is to eat at least something, regardless how small, and go to sleep on a night. Everything else is an achievement. The days meld together and I'm getting rather bored but planning any further than a week ahead of time is terrifying. I've had some god-awful days but I'm still here... So I guess those days have been good enough.
I’ve been dealing with depression since I was almost 9 years old, I’m turning 38 in under 3 weeks and depression is my constant unwanted partner. It got really bad in my high school years to the point that I attempted suicide when I was 16. I’ve come close a few times, and it’s something that lead to addiction and almost killed my marriage. Mental health is essential for everyone and I hope that anyone wAtches this gets help. I wish I would’ve had help as a teen and not had my mental health issues cast off as a “phase” or “you’re just sad, you’ll get over it”
Monu Keys no I am not I mean things have kind of gotten better but I’m still struggling with motivation how about you? I’m sorry you’re going through the same thing
I work in crisis mental health with children and teens. I am so impressed with you Dianna! Your talk and your message needs to be not only heard but understood by those of all ages and in all walks of life. Keep up the good fight.. You’re worth it!
I've had depression and anxiety for as long as I can remember. I'm turning 29 next month. It feels like I've missed out on so much in life that could have been fun...
Preach!🙏 I have depression and ADD. This ted talk is amazing! That one part where she says "if your arm is broken you get a cast, but if your mind is broken you get outcast" because sadly that is true in America.
I am amazed by how such a young lady gave such an impressive and informative speech in such a less time . I wish I had seen you earlier when I didn't know what was happening to me, I would have seeked help sooner 💙 You are an inspiration
the most painful truth to know about depression is when u know deep down inside u, u'll never genuinely get well but u can be happy some times, u can continue waking up well but the abyss in ur soul tells u otherwise and i guess u just have to accept it and maybe... just maybe, u can cope with it better
I'm not so sure she has it figured out. In fact I'm not most of us ever will because the state of the Mental Health System of Protocol and the "approved methods of diagnosis/treatment" are so horrifically and catastrophically broken that a lot of us...most of us...never make progress. I heard her description of her behavior and it's clear she is Bipolar like I am. It's totally different(in terms of treatment...especially medications) than major depressive disorder or similar forms of depression. What she described was a hypommanic episode. 2021 was the first year I ever experienced one. I wish I experienced the kind of mania that most of my fellow pwBipolar do. Unfortunately, my Lazer Focus is on my own self destruction or the adrenaline rush that is riding that fence between life and death, that although has me no less suicidal, has me less sad about the fact I am. It takes the edge off the days that are usually filled with ruminating about the heartbreaking reason I am so depressed and puts my focus on what can be done about it. The mental health system misdiagnosed me for years. They recently destroyed everything that ever brought me joy by doing the same thing for the person I loved most. Haphazard diagnosises after less than an hour meeting an individual, a lust of prescriptions to pick up that day, and a 30-60 minute meeting where they ask you how your meds are working every 2 weeks. That's treatment. Never mind asking how many other people's lives are destroyed, what it means in terms of "feeling better" to the patient...like a complete loss of empathy, compassion, and remorse from the Ill prescribed meds that have made it easier to destroy their life and everyone else's like they have been over and over for years....it's AN ABSOLUTE TRAGEDY AND A DISCRACE . They take no account of all the lives they wreck. They just keep filling the appointments and handing out the pills. It killed me. Literally.
@@antimonyrocks3939 The future is tough to think about, but I believe in you. Work hard, and you've got it! I'm sorry that you can't see a therapist, because it really would help, but talking to others, even if they can't help, should at least make your mental state a bit better. Of course, I'm as inexperienced as any random person out here, but I just want you to know that I'm here to listen and I support you in every way. I believe that you can keep on fighting through this :) and you just have to believe in yourself too.
I really appreciate that a lot thank you💛 And the same goes for you if you EVER need anyone to talk to, to rant to, or just a friend I’m here for you💛 my insta is @_thrivin_mindz_ you Can txt me anytime :)
yesterday I was with my friends, one of which will be leaving soon. I wanted to get away from the noise and friends asking if I was ok, kindly but too much. I just wanted to be alone to cry. but I felt bad because I would probably only be doing this with her a few more times and didn't want to not be enjoying everyone's company with her. i hate depression. i hate social anxiety. they both work against me to make every thing harder. we will miss you immie.
“Getting a struggling teen/person of any age to get help, is the most difficult step in this process” This hit hard! I’ve had recurring major depression for almost 13 years and I had no idea. I am 24 and didn’t know how or why I felt the way I did. I’ve had an intussusception when I was 9 months old and struggled my whole teen years to learn how to live with my appearance because I’ve been bullied for it for so long… I just thought that it’s my fault for being the way that I am, and honestly I just started going to therapy 2 months ago and it’s helped me realize some things I’ve never thought about before. It’s a major step that only the person who actually needs it has to decide to take because otherwise it’s a waste of time for everyone.
I also struggle a lot with depression, on and off my whole life. But I've never blamed my chemistry for it. Its me! I'm at fault. I lack imagination. Happiness is like a muscle, you have to flex it, build it, work it, tear it down, build it up again. If you don't, well, you become depressed. So few people know and understand the science of happiness. So many people lack imagination, or even lack the resources to figure out how to get better. It starts by talking to others, admitting you need help - it ENDS by YOU doing the work, by going out and helping yourself. Only you can save you. And believe me, you and I are both worth the effort of saving. You never know where you'll be in a year. 5 years. 10 years. 20 years. Life is a long, long road to live - and no matter what there's a chance something awesome happens and your whole world changes for the better. Don't let the NOW get in the way of THE FUTURE! The future is limitless. Start working on those mental muscles - one gratitude push-up at a time.
How incredibly brave of this young lady....truly. I personally have struggled as long as I can remember with depression. She just gave me a voice, and she just managed to validate the struggle that is my life. Thank you
I can relate to each and everything right now. Especially the start of the video, exactly how i feel. Thank you for putting it into words. More power to you each day ❤️
You're a good speaker young lady. I know your heart is in the right place, but those of us who have MDD, Bipolar, Complicated Grief...any disorder that includes CLINICAL DEPRESSION as something we experience know there's NOTHING OK ABOUT IT. It's crippling. It destroys our chances at experiencing anything similar to a life we can honestly say we are glad we are living. It brings others down as well. Eventually we operate in 2 states of existence: 1.) What I call my public face, where I pretend I'm the same as all the other smiling people and stretch enough of a smile or say enough words to not let on I won't have a good day to the clerk or that GREAT! is how I'm doing when someone asks, and 2.) The isolated, hopeless, helpless, desolation that is ME. The true existence where I hold back an emotional break down and choke back tears(not very well mind you) every minute of every day im alone. The one where I'm HEARTBROKEN that I woke up in the morning and pray ever so hard I don't in the evening. That's what it's like, and I think that it makes people so uncomfortable that they minimize it or try to convince you if you can just get the uncomfortable thought out of YOUR head like THEY are trying to do, that "it'll get better", and I just need to "hang in there"....my favorite...from a family member..."Have a hot cup of tea. That always makes me feel better". They wonder why we end up taking our lives. If that's not a hopeless, helpless situation, I don't know what is. Oh...and your numbers are wrong. 1 in 2. Between 40 and 50% of adults...will need help from a mental health professional in their lifetime for a mental health issue they cannot handle on their own. Just because they aren't diagnosed with a "mental illness"(so vague) doesn't mean they can't become mentally ill.
since barely any ppl are here, my dad think mental illness is a joke, he pushes it on me and i try my best to be my old self, i want a break from seeing ppl, everytime i talk to my mom she just says some some quote or smthing, i have no friends and i struggle so much during school. i don’t feel like getting up too and i hate how it makes me look lazy..
I am not alone, yet I am lonely. I have no one to talk, no one I can share my feelings, nobody that cares about me, nobody texts me... Am I selfish ? I'm tired.
badly wanna cry right now, i'm currently diagnosed with covid-19 and it really hurts. i've been struggling with my mental health since the pandemic came and now i have them both. physically and mentally, i'm so tired.
Im here and it is struggle, reaching for help is so hard, at least from the inside.. a quote that has helped me sorry is in Spanish, 'recién cuando el tiempo transforma de los momentos en recuerdos es cuando uno se da cuenta de que esó, es de lo que está echa la vida, de recuerdos"..
great speech great analogies even for me who has dealt with this illness my whole life . I hope you keep speaking on this subject you put it in easy to understand terms even for me who understands day to day of this illness very eloquent speech on a serious illness and deadly thx
what is depression? am i really struggling with it or just hallucinating? am i overthinking my sad times and environment when i should'nt? etc etc (the list goes on) are many problems people (not just teens) face all over the world. and NOBODY TALKS. people just dont know where to get trustworthy answers. how do we cope with this?
From my perspective, no, you can't fully take out depression out of you. You can try to cover it, and you can reduce it. But you can't make it disappear. Depression is there and always pull you down. But I believe all of you are strong. You can pull yourself up. Getting others to pull you up is always good. But if you have so much weight, others would feel it too. People care about you. I care about you. Nobody wants depression. Nobody wants sadness. But most importantly, I believe there's someone out there that wants you to be happy.
i am 17, no close friends and I am too afraid to open up to people. I have social anxiety, I don't know how to talk with people or start a conversation. I'm lonely and I hate it. I don't know what to do. I need help. I need someone
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It doesn't matter if you get it out in the open. People who understand think it's an escape from responsibilities. It's heartbreaking. Better to keep it to yourself
It is very difficult for people with normal brains to understand and they don't truly try. I have family members that make it feel worse. I don't understand it myself sometimes. You can be strong and high functioning with depression. My husband became disabled and after 17 years of many health issues, both legs amputated, kidney transplant, stage 3 melanoma cancer, 14+ eye surgeries he unfortunately passed away. I had to work every day. We had to have the health insurance and we struggled financially but with the insurance it helped with additional financial stress. My mind and body were finally breaking down. I had depression for as long as I can remember. After he passed away, I retired, sold my house and moved to be close to my only son and granddaughters. I had never been I'll other than sinus and colds. I was never in the emergency room for myself. In the last 5 years, I have been to the ER 7 times. My depression became severe and my family wanted me to find a part time job, exercise, join some groups. I wanted to go to bed forever. I am having a horrible day today. Depression is not one size fits all and I wish people who are lucky enough not to have it would learn about it.
I am 16 and want to die because of a brokenheart, have no idea what i am anymore in literally aspect. I want to die and I am not surprised why my dad doesn't love me. I'll keep all my feelings right here and then one day I'll die.
Its okay... keep your trust in god and in yourself. Ur gonna get better, dont worry. After all, u were born for a reason, and there is nothing worthless about u. Love❤❤
i struggled with my first heartbreak when i was 16 too, what i can ensure you is that no matter how drained you feel, how lonely, sad and destroyed... it will get better, i promise. I was you, and now here i am happy again, relieved and stronger.
I am a survivor of childhood cancer, you think I’d be happy about it right. Now don’t get me wrong at first I was but that’s only because I didn’t realize yet what I’d lost I didn’t realize I’d lost apart of myself along the way. I lost the kind hearted happy child I used to be and without him I’ve felt hollow and alone inside and have been looking through the darkness trying to find him and if he’ll forgive me for losing him there. ( I know talking in third person is a weird way to put it but it’s the best way I know to describe how i feel ) I started my fight at 5 years old and thought I’d won 7 years later after I turned 11 but turned out I’d only won the battle but not the war. For the past 10 years I’ve been wondering why it even had to happen to me, It caused me nothing but misery an yet stranger still is I actually miss having it, I miss going to the hospital, I miss getting my treatments, i miss spending time in hospital what does that say about me dose it make me weird? I know my mother, sisters and the rest of my family cares but sometimes it feels like they care more for the me they want me to be rather the the me I am that especially goes for my father. They don’t really understand how I feel how could they, they didn’t experience it they way I did. It’s only been the last few years that I fell into my depression or that I’ve come to realize anyway. An I’ve begun to think “I shouldn’t even have survived after all” that way I’d be free of this depressing sadness in my heart. Why I’d I live I’m not good at anything, I have no friends , I’m not the smartest, I’m not that strong, what can I offer the world? I can’t even remember the last time I was genuinely happy an sure I’ll get a chuckle now an then but the feeling never lasts it’s like lighting a match in the middle of a dark room an watching the moment burn away. An I doubt I’ll ever find love so what is left for me to live for I’ve got nothing left. Also my doctors have told me that it could come back or I could get sick again in other ways, low odds but still I’ll forever live with that in the back of my mind. An it’s not like I want to die to end my pain but I also don’t want to keep living like this anymore. It feels like my strength is waning, like my will is weakening as each year passes. There’s so much more I could go on about or have explained better but I’ve gone on long enough I’m not looking for pity just getting it off my chest if only temporary to anyone who wants listen. If you’ve read up to this point I thank you for taking the time to listen me ramble. If there is a god I ask why did this have to happen to me or anyone else for that matter especially for children. Finally if and that’s a big IF I ever find a partner and am able to be rescued from my darkness heaven help me should anything like this happen to any child I may have in the future I don’t know if I could stand it. It’s funny a quote from an anime I liked kinda reflects my thoughts on my situation “Unless you’ve experience the same pain as another you can never truly understand then” who would have guessed I’d be quoting a television show. Anyway I’ve started to ramble again my apologize I’ve taken enough of your time this evening. Thoughts? Good night- stranger.
This....is how i feel a lot most of the time i push it down and hide it and put on a smile....it works 99.9% of the time till the 0.1% drags me down into a deep hole when it surges i cope with it till i can push it back down then the cycle keeps on going...im fine till im not fine and im not fine till im fine
Regarding the description to the video: Having the ability to feel "OKAY" about being clinically depressed calls into question the severity of the depression under consideration. It almost amounts to a denial of the condition. And, it puts pressure on those suffering with the disorder. It could be a step backward regarding the education of those who have no idea what it is like. People who have never experienced a clinical depression, and who try to relate to it by how they feel when they are "down", may assume that people who are depressed just have to "pull themselves up by their bootstraps", thereby reinforcing the stereotypes among the general public. It is like saying to someone who has suffered a physical trauma, "It's OKAY to be in pain".
I agree. Though her heart is in the right place, those of us who have MDD, Bipolar, Complicated Grief...any disorder that includes CLINICAL DEPRESSION as something we experience know there's NOTHING OK ABOUT IT. It's crippling. It destroys our chances at experiencing anything similar to a life we can honestly say we are glad we are living. It brings others down as well. Eventually we operate in 2 states of existence: 1.) What I call my public face, where I pretend I'm the same as all the other smiling people and stretch enough of a smile or say enough words to not let on I won't have a good day to the clerk or that GREAT! is how I'm doing when someone asks, and 2.) The isolated, hopeless, helpless, desolation that is ME. The true existence where I hold back an emotional break down and choke back tears(not very well mind you) every minute of every day im alone. The one where I'm HEARTBROKEN that I woke up in the morning and pray ever so hard I don't in the evening. That's what it's like, and I think that it makes people so uncomfortable that they minimize it or try to convince you if you can just get the uncomfortable thought out of YOUR head like THEY are trying to do, that "it'll get better", and I just need to "hang in there"....my favorite...from a family member..."Have a hot cup of tea. That always makes me feel better". They wonder why we end up taking our lives. If that's not a hopeless, helpless situation, I don't know what is. Oh...and her numbers are wrong. 1 in 2 adults will need professional help from a mental health professional in their lifetime for a mental health issue they cannot handle on their own. Just because they aren't diagnosed with a "mental illness"(so vague) doesn't mean they can't become mentally ill.
@@vincec.202 I agree her heart is in the right place, but so too those who offer advice such as to "keep busy". That presumes you have the motivation and energy to get out of bed, and the concentration to focus on something constructive. I have heard physicians who had never experienced a clinical depression, say they would rather have cancer than depression. I cringe when I hear people in the media try to put a happy face on it, or assume what worked for them ought to work for others, without any data to support their claim.
This social stigma of mental illness make people that suffer blaming themselves that "something is wrong with them". People used to give "good advices" of so called normal people "get a grip", this is all we have to offer for people that need a little empathjy, understanding, encouragement not "good advices".
"If your arm is broken you get a cast, but if your brain is broken you get outcast." - Great quote. Powerful speech for such a young girl!
hey ,if anyone else wants to uncover all natural treatment for depression try Elumpa Cure Depression Alchemist (Have a quick look on google cant remember the place now ) ? Ive heard some awesome things about it and my friend got excellent success with it.
Everyone should become familiar with personality disorders like Borderline, Histrionic, Narcissist, etc.
Also know the symptoms of neurological disorders like ADHD, obsessive compulsive, Aspergers and so on.
A lot of people who have these conditions don't know they even have them and they can contribute a lot to depression.
Yes I too thought 💭 how powerful her closing remarks were on medical aide verses mental / mind aide!
Not a extreme position but rather a sound mind one-
Freedom to overcome these deadly stigmas. Continue to reach out & serve!
i wish more people especially adults realized how mental health really affects us. it’s so hard to get up everyday and just find meaning in life.
Are things better?
I know. I have such a hard time getting out of bed and my grades are dropping and my mom just calls me lazy.
@@daffodil815 things are a bit better now though i still have some rough days where i feel like giving up but i'm really trying to work on myself and change my mindset
@@pastelkitten4885 my mom does the same thing so i know how you feel, but we should try not to let their words get to us and just be proud of the small accomplishments even if it's just that you got out of bed
@@raisajannati you have good anime taste though.
I had depression a while ago and *thought* I beat it but I'm learning the hard way that you cant just "beat" depression
Same like 2 days ago i thought i was over depression and here i am
I thought I was getting better until I was home alone one night and attempted suicide. I thought I was better. I was 13 and I’m still struggling half a year later.
RIPGrumpyCat :c I hope you’re doing better and that you know it gets better
@@str4wberrystarburst who asked though
@@ДаниалКуандык-с1ж nobody I just wanted to say to sweetheart😚
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“It’s having some days where it’s incredibly difficult to get out of bed because I don’t see a reason to”
i’m 16 in one week and this is what i’m going through. i don’t know i can call it depression but i feel very lonely. I’ve lost all my motivation, i don’t even have a dream anymore. my life is a all mess. my parents got a divorced, my mom, my siblings and I and living in a hotel. i have a low self esteem. i don’t feel like making friends, nor try to talk. i have a bad relationship with both of my parents. i used to be a straight A student but now i’m a failure. i’m writing this with my eyes full of tears. I’ve watched more than 20 videos about depression last week. when someone asks me how i am/feel, i reply that i’m okay/fine but in my head i say “i’m alive”. However i can’t say it out loud because people will find me weird. not having a purpose in life is really bothering me. my friends don’t understand me. my family doesn’t.
but i will be happy one day, even if it has to be in 10 years, I will be happy.
nice attitude at the end.
im going through something very similar to u, i feel alone and hopeless, i feel like a failure, basically everything u said, but for me, my parents have a beautiful strong marrige, i have a great relationship with my family, but somehow im still very lonley and down all the time, after i read what u have gone through it makes me feel week, u went through so much but yet ur still fighting unlike me, i envy u for that, and all i can say is keep ur head up and keep going strong, remember god is always with u, i wish i took my own advice, i think its too late though, ive already gone through so much and i dont think i can handle anymore, its just so hard being alone u know what i mean? the only reasonim not ending it all is my love for lord jesus, ik hes always with me and ik he truly cares for me, hes my bestfriend and hes been with me all this time, and ik that things will get better in jesus name amen. im sry if ur not christian i just felt like telling u about my saviour lord jesus, i felt like if i talked about him u might have hope too, anyway sry for venting, just knkw that everything will be okay soon :)
Hey young prize. You are on the right track. Talk about it and seek help. You sound like me to be honest i feel you. Just know youare young and amazing and things can change. The people around you or this world doesent dictate how great you are and will be. Call the help hotline or talk to a specialist in the field of mental health .i believe in you young awsomeness
@@christopherholley3820 ❤🙏
I hope your life gets better never give up you can do it.
I never owned up to my depression because I was scared to open up or fear of ppl thinking I’m weak. Thank you for making this video. I know I’m not alone.
Who diagnozed your depression?
You should tell your parents
I tried to open up but I end up feeling weak and overwhelmed instead. I shouldn't have told anyone...
I am crying while reading comments ..I have depression ...nobody knows it .Even if i am surrounded by relatives and friends, I don't have anyone to share my depression..That means I am terribly lonely .
If you are seeing this message, please know that you have a worth. You are breathing for a reason. Life is like a river, it changes course unexpectedly. I am suffering too just like you are. Please never compare yourself to others. You don't know anything about what they might be struggling with. You are you and you are unique because no one is like you. As a fellow human being who struggles with several mental illnesses, I believe you can do it ❤️.
thank you , I really needed this ❤️
@@carrie6838 All the best to you miss🥰
Your message is like a big hug that makes one break down and have that much needed cry that has been bottled up for so long💜 thank you
Thank you ❤
God bless you and your encouraging words. We all deserve to find our inner happiness. ❣️
Sometimes i think i’m only showing symptoms of depression because deep down i’m just avoiding responsibilities because i know i’m incompetent and unworthy and lazy.
Hazel Grey same!
Me too
@Serj Welp. Looks like I will have a "journey" then.
Same
I struggle with words but your description is scarily accurate. I'm enlightened now. Thank you for putting these feelings into words.
This quote means a lot to me so whoever is reading this I hope it means a lot to you too.
Depression isn't a battle it's a war that no one around you can see and you can't fight this war alone. You need someone.
In these comments i find comfort of knowing that i’m not alone
You are never alone💛. If you EVER need anyone to talk to, to rant to, or just a friend I’m here for you💛 my insta is @_thrivin_mindz_ you Can txt me anytime :)
Its both comforting and saddening for me. I wish this on no one
Me too❤
Truuu
I dont know about you guys but when i was deep in depression information like this woulda just went over my head. People try to talk to the depressed from a position of health and sound thinking. If they were able to do sound thinking they likely wouldn't be depressed in the first place. If we want to be supportive of depressed people we need to treat them as we would a good friend. Listen to them, let them talk and use you as a sounding board and be supportive. Most people are depressed in my opinion because they have no positive support. People that encourage them, spend time with them and let them know that they are truly valuable. I did this with somebody once and he was like "why are you hanging out with me, why are you being so nice" when we are deep in depression we are so battered that when someone is good, nice to us we become suspicious or are bafled as to why because we generally have come to believe the world to be an awful place full of awful people. Overall nice video, kinda simple but nice
You’re absolutely right. Thank you for being there when someone needed it the most! I’m depressed and have no support. I just wish someone would check up on me and take me out to get my mind off things. I can’t do this alone.
this video is so important, it made me cry
Correction: 1 in 4 people suffer from mental illness... It's getting worse.
Isn't that just awful? So many TED talks trying to break down the stigmas of mental illness and depression, yet it's only gotten worse. That's quite sad. Gives a sort of powerless feeling.
maybe it’s cause more people are brave enough to step up and ask for help when it comes to their mental illness, a lot of people tend to hide it because it’s so taboo and people will make you the outcast. it might have gotten worse but it could also be this..
update : i said this because this happened to me, i struggled with my mental health since age 13 or maybe even earlier, and i only went to talk about it at nearly 17, i’m pretty strong and if i don’t feel like i can share my feelings and thoughts to the people around me, i simply wont, 17 years and still i felt like i couldn’t open up, it became too much, my grades dropped really fast and my teachers were worried. i opened up to one of them and she got me my first help, who later sent me to a therapist to treat my depression. my mom doesn’t like my decision, that’s one of the reasons i never talked about it, it’s a taboo, it isn’t a surface wound so it doesn’t exist according to most of the people of the culture i come from. i felt weak, so i never spoke up. i never felt comfortable, and especially now i don’t have friends its very hard to carry everything alone for so long.
It’s so hard to talk about depression with anyone, I try to talk with my mom about it and she thinks I’m sad. I have been dealing with pain for the last couple years and last weekend there was something that just triggered my depression and made me realize how bad I am and that I need help
Hello, how are doing? Did you get the help you need?
@@tuneby1403 not really, but I feel a little better now, thanks you asking
@@santiagosanchez7384 it you can go get that help. It's hard but it doesn't have to be this way. Be patent with yourself
hey, how are you doing currently?
I’m definitely not dying to make anybody else feel better you can bet on that.
I paused the video and just cried for an hour
Its so hard to see a purpose in anything, especially when you cant find joy in anything. And theres no one to talk to because they confused depression for sadness. I'm not sad. I am so numb.
I'm here for you. I feel the same way. You are welcome to talk to me ❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤
This is what i have been feeling, people think i'm sad, i'm just depressed and yesssss i feel so numb. I dont have certain feeling like ashamed, shy or happy. I'm totally like zombie now.
shush
I am so proud of you Dianna--thank you for your continued work to educate others and share your story---it is so inspirational!
anyone who is suffering from depression and manages to wake up every day should be proud of themselves
I cry every night or whenever I am alone
I'm sorry but 2 minutes in and I'm already crying. Thanks for giving this talk. It made me connect with the emotions that I tried to hide.
Depression is worse when you have no real support. You start to feel depressed and very lonely
Sadly social media is not helping in the battle against mental illness amongst young people. This young lady is wonderful in her mission.
I'm 19, severely depressed and recently moved away from home. I'm coping with my suicidal thoughts by literally living day-to-day. I tell myself that my only objective each day is to eat at least something, regardless how small, and go to sleep on a night. Everything else is an achievement. The days meld together and I'm getting rather bored but planning any further than a week ahead of time is terrifying.
I've had some god-awful days but I'm still here... So I guess those days have been good enough.
Same bro
❤
I’m proud of you!
I'm so tired... So so tired
I understand i feel the same way ... sending you a lot of love 💘
I’m so tired too... Tired of trying so hard
Am tired tew..sooo sooo tired
I hear you😢
Me too and I'm sorry you feel this way
What’s important is not wanting to fix people but simply being there for them.
I’ve been dealing with depression since I was almost 9 years old, I’m turning 38 in under 3 weeks and depression is my constant unwanted partner.
It got really bad in my high school years to the point that I attempted suicide when I was 16. I’ve come close a few times, and it’s something that lead to addiction and almost killed my marriage.
Mental health is essential for everyone and I hope that anyone wAtches this gets help. I wish I would’ve had help as a teen and not had my mental health issues cast off as a “phase” or “you’re just sad, you’ll get over it”
When I feel my depression creeping, I always feel I’m ready for it next thing you know I’m in the bathroom crying a couple days later.
I have no motivation either and im up all the time thinking about stuff i did wrong I just feel so sad and lonely 😔
I just want to give you a BIG INTERNET HUG... and let you know that everything will be ok, just keep pushing..
Remember, one of the big points she made was that depression is an illness. Please get help. You deserve it.
Technically depression is a feeling, a feeling that last for a vast majority of time
Me too but are you ok now ??
Monu Keys no I am not I mean things have kind of gotten better but I’m still struggling with motivation how about you? I’m sorry you’re going through the same thing
0:58 - 1:45 Love this description
I work in crisis mental health with children and teens. I am so impressed with you Dianna! Your talk and your message needs to be not only heard but understood by those of all ages and in all walks of life. Keep up the good fight.. You’re worth it!
If people could only realize how hard we are fighting this disease.
Its literally painful feeling inside of us.
How we're slowly dying inside😢
💔
I've had depression and anxiety for as long as I can remember. I'm turning 29 next month. It feels like I've missed out on so much in life that could have been fun...
This talk made me cry a lot. But thank god at least I’m not alone in this.
Preach!🙏 I have depression and ADD. This ted talk is amazing! That one part where she says "if your arm is broken you get a cast, but if your mind is broken you get outcast" because sadly that is true in America.
Please tell me the meaning of that quote
I am amazed by how such a young lady gave such an impressive and informative speech in such a less time .
I wish I had seen you earlier when I didn't know what was happening to me, I would have seeked help sooner
💙 You are an inspiration
thank you, your story makes me rise again. I will fight this depression:)
get down please
@@kittiernan1771 now this cure my depression for 0.14 sec
This video should have more views and likes! Great job Dianna!
the most painful truth to know about depression is when u know deep down inside u, u'll never genuinely get well but u can be happy some times, u can continue waking up well but the abyss in ur soul tells u otherwise and i guess u just have to accept it and maybe... just maybe, u can cope with it better
I am 46 years old and I am now coming to terms with my lifelong depression and anxiety. I commend you for figuring things out so early on in life.
I'm not so sure she has it figured out. In fact I'm not most of us ever will because the state of the Mental Health System of Protocol and the "approved methods of diagnosis/treatment" are so horrifically and catastrophically broken that a lot of us...most of us...never make progress. I heard her description of her behavior and it's clear she is Bipolar like I am. It's totally different(in terms of treatment...especially medications) than major depressive disorder or similar forms of depression. What she described was a hypommanic episode. 2021 was the first year I ever experienced one. I wish I experienced the kind of mania that most of my fellow pwBipolar do. Unfortunately, my Lazer Focus is on my own self destruction or the adrenaline rush that is riding that fence between life and death, that although has me no less suicidal, has me less sad about the fact I am. It takes the edge off the days that are usually filled with ruminating about the heartbreaking reason I am so depressed and puts my focus on what can be done about it. The mental health system misdiagnosed me for years. They recently destroyed everything that ever brought me joy by doing the same thing for the person I loved most. Haphazard diagnosises after less than an hour meeting an individual, a lust of prescriptions to pick up that day, and a 30-60 minute meeting where they ask you how your meds are working every 2 weeks. That's treatment. Never mind asking how many other people's lives are destroyed, what it means in terms of "feeling better" to the patient...like a complete loss of empathy, compassion, and remorse from the Ill prescribed meds that have made it easier to destroy their life and everyone else's like they have been over and over for years....it's AN ABSOLUTE TRAGEDY AND A DISCRACE . They take no account of all the lives they wreck. They just keep filling the appointments and handing out the pills. It killed me. Literally.
depression on my left ear is cured but my right ear is still un-touched
I never expected myself to become depressed...
to anybody who needs a helping hand, whether you think so or not, i'm here for you to talk to. please do. i want to help.
@@antimonyrocks3939 The future is tough to think about, but I believe in you. Work hard, and you've got it! I'm sorry that you can't see a therapist, because it really would help, but talking to others, even if they can't help, should at least make your mental state a bit better. Of course, I'm as inexperienced as any random person out here, but I just want you to know that I'm here to listen and I support you in every way. I believe that you can keep on fighting through this :) and you just have to believe in yourself too.
I really appreciate that a lot thank you💛 And the same goes for you if you EVER need anyone to talk to, to rant to, or just a friend I’m here for you💛 my insta is @_thrivin_mindz_ you Can txt me anytime :)
Hey??
@@fatimabaali661 Hey! Sorry for the late reply~ how are you?
yesterday I was with my friends, one of which will be leaving soon. I wanted to get away from the noise and friends asking if I was ok, kindly but too much. I just wanted to be alone to cry. but I felt bad because I would probably only be doing this with her a few more times and didn't want to not be enjoying everyone's company with her. i hate depression. i hate social anxiety. they both work against me to make every thing harder. we will miss you immie.
“Getting a struggling teen/person of any age to get help, is the most difficult step in this process” This hit hard! I’ve had recurring major depression for almost 13 years and I had no idea. I am 24 and didn’t know how or why I felt the way I did. I’ve had an intussusception when I was 9 months old and struggled my whole teen years to learn how to live with my appearance because I’ve been bullied for it for so long… I just thought that it’s my fault for being the way that I am, and honestly I just started going to therapy 2 months ago and it’s helped me realize some things I’ve never thought about before. It’s a major step that only the person who actually needs it has to decide to take because otherwise it’s a waste of time for everyone.
I also struggle a lot with depression, on and off my whole life. But I've never blamed my chemistry for it. Its me! I'm at fault. I lack imagination. Happiness is like a muscle, you have to flex it, build it, work it, tear it down, build it up again. If you don't, well, you become depressed. So few people know and understand the science of happiness. So many people lack imagination, or even lack the resources to figure out how to get better. It starts by talking to others, admitting you need help - it ENDS by YOU doing the work, by going out and helping yourself. Only you can save you. And believe me, you and I are both worth the effort of saving. You never know where you'll be in a year. 5 years. 10 years. 20 years. Life is a long, long road to live - and no matter what there's a chance something awesome happens and your whole world changes for the better. Don't let the NOW get in the way of THE FUTURE! The future is limitless. Start working on those mental muscles - one gratitude push-up at a time.
How incredibly brave of this young lady....truly. I personally have struggled as long as I can remember with depression. She just gave me a voice, and she just managed to validate the struggle that is my life. Thank you
All I need is somebody to recognize my pains and believe me..., I don't know if I can go on .am losing my voice in fear yet it's pointless... ..
no one asked
I can relate to each and everything right now. Especially the start of the video, exactly how i feel. Thank you for putting it into words. More power to you each day ❤️
MY LEFT EARPOD JUST BROKE TWO DAYS BEFORE I SAW THIS AND I CAN’T HEAR ANYTHING okay i’m so sad rn :(
Ju-just disconnect the airpods from the bluetooth next time
Was I crying throughout the video? Yes I was 🙌🏾
You're a good speaker young lady. I know your heart is in the right place, but those of us who have MDD, Bipolar, Complicated Grief...any disorder that includes CLINICAL DEPRESSION as something we experience know there's NOTHING OK ABOUT IT. It's crippling. It destroys our chances at experiencing anything similar to a life we can honestly say we are glad we are living. It brings others down as well. Eventually we operate in 2 states of existence: 1.) What I call my public face, where I pretend I'm the same as all the other smiling people and stretch enough of a smile or say enough words to not let on I won't have a good day to the clerk or that GREAT! is how I'm doing when someone asks, and 2.) The isolated, hopeless, helpless, desolation that is ME. The true existence where I hold back an emotional break down and choke back tears(not very well mind you) every minute of every day im alone. The one where I'm HEARTBROKEN that I woke up in the morning and pray ever so hard I don't in the evening. That's what it's like, and I think that it makes people so uncomfortable that they minimize it or try to convince you if you can just get the uncomfortable thought out of YOUR head like THEY are trying to do, that "it'll get better", and I just need to "hang in there"....my favorite...from a family member..."Have a hot cup of tea. That always makes me feel better". They wonder why we end up taking our lives. If that's not a hopeless, helpless situation, I don't know what is.
Oh...and your numbers are wrong. 1 in 2. Between 40 and 50% of adults...will need help from a mental health professional in their lifetime for a mental health issue they cannot handle on their own. Just because they aren't diagnosed with a "mental illness"(so vague) doesn't mean they can't become mentally ill.
since barely any ppl are here, my dad think mental illness is a joke, he pushes it on me and i try my best to be my old self, i want a break from seeing ppl, everytime i talk to my mom she just says some some quote or smthing, i have no friends and i struggle so much during school. i don’t feel like getting up too and i hate how it makes me look lazy..
I am not alone, yet I am lonely. I have no one to talk, no one I can share my feelings, nobody that cares about me, nobody texts me... Am I selfish ? I'm tired.
I know.
Beautiful. Love you and thank you for your words, Dianna
badly wanna cry right now, i'm currently diagnosed with covid-19 and it really hurts. i've been struggling with my mental health since the pandemic came and now i have them both. physically and mentally, i'm so tired.
don’t give up please❤️
im scared at how accurate this is for me personally
I'm depressed but still watching this video
the lady part made me cry so hard. thank you.
This really helped me thanks a lot, a supportive community really helps
“ mental health literacy “ is great. I applaud you! 🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼
Show this in schools instead of subjects that have no reality value
High school students whould benefit from this beautiful girls ex experiences.
Im here and it is struggle, reaching for help is so hard, at least from the inside.. a quote that has helped me sorry is in Spanish, 'recién cuando el tiempo transforma de los momentos en recuerdos es cuando uno se da cuenta de que esó, es de lo que está echa la vida, de recuerdos"..
I found myself relating to her a lot, very good talk
Thank you. I live with chronic lifelong depression. Sharing.
I cried buckets while watching this. thankyousomuch
great speech great analogies even for me who has dealt with this illness my whole life . I hope you keep speaking on this subject you put it in easy to understand terms even for me who understands day to day of this illness very eloquent speech on a serious illness and deadly thx
“Nothing in this life is permanent cause life itself is not permanent “~…..So Chill out guys !!😊😌😌🤟👏👏
I am 30 and she is nineteen and she is a lot smarter than myself.
She has much brighter future than myself.
☘️
what is depression? am i really struggling with it or just hallucinating? am i overthinking my sad times and environment when i should'nt? etc etc (the list goes on) are many problems people (not just teens) face all over the world. and NOBODY TALKS. people just dont know where to get trustworthy answers. how do we cope with this?
Very well spoken and made alot of good points
From my perspective, no, you can't fully take out depression out of you. You can try to cover it, and you can reduce it. But you can't make it disappear. Depression is there and always pull you down. But I believe all of you are strong. You can pull yourself up. Getting others to pull you up is always good. But if you have so much weight, others would feel it too. People care about you. I care about you. Nobody wants depression. Nobody wants sadness. But most importantly, I believe there's someone out there that wants you to be happy.
Words can't really express a person's emotions.
"Okay, I'll simply reschedule my panic attack from third period to sixth period! No problem there!" I cracked up!
She is so well-spoken~
Realising that i am not alone
As soon as this ended I started crying.
Iam tired too. Thats why I am writing about it.
i am 17, no close friends and I am too afraid to open up to people. I have social anxiety, I don't know how to talk with people or start a conversation. I'm lonely and I hate it. I don't know what to do. I need help. I need someone
I feelyou CoCo...
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Don't have any thoughts and feel empty all the time
This video is spot on. Thank you for sharing your life with us 🙏
Good video. I can totally relate to her speech.
It doesn't matter if you get it out in the open. People who understand think it's an escape from responsibilities. It's heartbreaking. Better to keep it to yourself
It is very difficult for people with normal brains to understand and they don't truly try. I have family members that make it feel worse. I don't understand it myself sometimes. You can be strong and high functioning with depression. My husband became disabled and after 17 years of many health issues, both legs amputated, kidney transplant, stage 3 melanoma cancer, 14+ eye surgeries he unfortunately passed away. I had to work every day. We had to have the health insurance and we struggled financially but with the insurance it helped with additional financial stress. My mind and body were finally breaking down. I had depression for as long as I can remember. After he passed away, I retired, sold my house and moved to be close to my only son and granddaughters. I had never been I'll other than sinus and colds. I was never in the emergency room for myself. In the last 5 years, I have been to the ER 7 times. My depression became severe and my family wanted me to find a part time job, exercise, join some groups. I wanted to go to bed forever. I am having a horrible day today. Depression is not one size fits all and I wish people who are lucky enough not to have it would learn about it.
I am 16 and want to die because of a brokenheart, have no idea what i am anymore in literally aspect. I want to die and I am not surprised why my dad doesn't love me. I'll keep all my feelings right here and then one day I'll die.
Its okay... keep your trust in god and in yourself. Ur gonna get better, dont worry. After all, u were born for a reason, and there is nothing worthless about u. Love❤❤
i struggled with my first heartbreak when i was 16 too, what i can ensure you is that no matter how drained you feel, how lonely, sad and destroyed... it will get better, i promise. I was you, and now here i am happy again, relieved and stronger.
This was legit awesome!!!! I felt every word.
How can I talk to this lady? I also suffer from these issues. I wanna help
I woke up this morning and it started again this depression is eating me inside i cant control neither tell anyone thats its happening
"I Am Depressed" clearly has not realized this is the best of all possible worlds
So insightful. Thanks Dianna, really needed to listen to this :)
I am a survivor of childhood cancer, you think I’d be happy about it right. Now don’t get me wrong at first I was but that’s only because I didn’t realize yet what I’d lost I didn’t realize I’d lost apart of myself along the way. I lost the kind hearted happy child I used to be and without him I’ve felt hollow and alone inside and have been looking through the darkness trying to find him and if he’ll forgive me for losing him there. ( I know talking in third person is a weird way to put it but it’s the best way I know to describe how i feel ) I started my fight at 5 years old and thought I’d won 7 years later after I turned 11 but turned out I’d only won the battle but not the war. For the past 10 years I’ve been wondering why it even had to happen to me, It caused me nothing but misery an yet stranger still is I actually miss having it, I miss going to the hospital, I miss getting my treatments, i miss spending time in hospital what does that say about me dose it make me weird? I know my mother, sisters and the rest of my family cares but sometimes it feels like they care more for the me they want me to be rather the the me I am that especially goes for my father. They don’t really understand how I feel how could they, they didn’t experience it they way I did. It’s only been the last few years that I fell into my depression or that I’ve come to realize anyway. An I’ve begun to think “I shouldn’t even have survived after all” that way I’d be free of this depressing sadness in my heart. Why I’d I live I’m not good at anything, I have no friends , I’m not the smartest, I’m not that strong, what can I offer the world? I can’t even remember the last time I was genuinely happy an sure I’ll get a chuckle now an then but the feeling never lasts it’s like lighting a match in the middle of a dark room an watching the moment burn away. An I doubt I’ll ever find love so what is left for me to live for I’ve got nothing left. Also my doctors have told me that it could come back or I could get sick again in other ways, low odds but still I’ll forever live with that in the back of my mind. An it’s not like I want to die to end my pain but I also don’t want to keep living like this anymore. It feels like my strength is waning, like my will is weakening as each year passes. There’s so much more I could go on about or have explained better but I’ve gone on long enough I’m not looking for pity just getting it off my chest if only temporary to anyone who wants listen. If you’ve read up to this point I thank you for taking the time to listen me ramble.
If there is a god I ask why did this have to happen to me or anyone else for that matter especially for children.
Finally if and that’s a big IF I ever find a partner and am able to be rescued from my darkness heaven help me should anything like this happen to any child I may have in the future I don’t know if I could stand it.
It’s funny a quote from an anime I liked kinda reflects my thoughts on my situation “Unless you’ve experience the same pain as another you can never truly understand then” who would have guessed I’d be quoting a television show. Anyway I’ve started to ramble again my apologize I’ve taken enough of your time this evening.
Thoughts?
Good night- stranger.
Bro what your age
This....is how i feel a lot most of the time i push it down and hide it and put on a smile....it works 99.9% of the time till the 0.1% drags me down into a deep hole when it surges i cope with it till i can push it back down then the cycle keeps on going...im fine till im not fine and im not fine till im fine
Great speech from a young lady. Thank you for that.
I do not feel depressed. I will not feel depressed after watching this video.
Regarding the description to the video: Having the ability to feel "OKAY" about being clinically depressed calls into question the severity of the depression under consideration. It almost amounts to a denial of the condition. And, it puts pressure on those suffering with the disorder. It could be a step backward regarding the education of those who have no idea what it is like. People who have never experienced a clinical depression, and who try to relate to it by how they feel when they are "down", may assume that people who are depressed just have to "pull themselves up by their bootstraps", thereby reinforcing the stereotypes among the general public. It is like saying to someone who has suffered a physical trauma, "It's OKAY to be in pain".
I agree. Though her heart is in the right place, those of us who have MDD, Bipolar, Complicated Grief...any disorder that includes CLINICAL DEPRESSION as something we experience know there's NOTHING OK ABOUT IT. It's crippling. It destroys our chances at experiencing anything similar to a life we can honestly say we are glad we are living. It brings others down as well. Eventually we operate in 2 states of existence: 1.) What I call my public face, where I pretend I'm the same as all the other smiling people and stretch enough of a smile or say enough words to not let on I won't have a good day to the clerk or that GREAT! is how I'm doing when someone asks, and 2.) The isolated, hopeless, helpless, desolation that is ME. The true existence where I hold back an emotional break down and choke back tears(not very well mind you) every minute of every day im alone. The one where I'm HEARTBROKEN that I woke up in the morning and pray ever so hard I don't in the evening. That's what it's like, and I think that it makes people so uncomfortable that they minimize it or try to convince you if you can just get the uncomfortable thought out of YOUR head like THEY are trying to do, that "it'll get better", and I just need to "hang in there"....my favorite...from a family member..."Have a hot cup of tea. That always makes me feel better". They wonder why we end up taking our lives. If that's not a hopeless, helpless situation, I don't know what is.
Oh...and her numbers are wrong. 1 in 2 adults will need professional help from a mental health professional in their lifetime for a mental health issue they cannot handle on their own. Just because they aren't diagnosed with a "mental illness"(so vague) doesn't mean they can't become mentally ill.
@@vincec.202 I agree her heart is in the right place, but so too those who offer advice such as to "keep busy". That presumes you have the motivation and energy to get out of bed, and the concentration to focus on something constructive. I have heard physicians who had never experienced a clinical depression, say they would rather have cancer than depression. I cringe when I hear people in the media try to put a happy face on it, or assume what worked for them ought to work for others, without any data to support their claim.
A lot of adults suffer from depression as well. Some people go their whole life with depression and suicidal thoughts.
stop this made me cry bro
Being depressed is ok, it's nice being numb to everything, not having oppions towards or against anything.
I just spend many days just by sitting doing nothing, i just don't want to ...ugghh
I am in depression too
Thank you for that talk!
This social stigma of mental illness make people that suffer blaming themselves that "something is wrong with them". People used to give "good advices" of so called normal people "get a grip", this is all we have to offer for people that need a little empathjy, understanding, encouragement not "good advices".
Depression is real and can be deadly if not treated in time.