Just tried it out. It made me feel ill. Every girl was holding a glass of wine and talking about traveling and living their "best life". I have never seen so many incredibly materialistic and vapid people in one place in my entire life and I HAVE traveled all over the world. Couldn't look at it anymore.
I think it might be partly the algorithm showing you the same types of women, if you clicked like on some of them initially. I was only shown adrenaline junkie engineers, quite literally 90% of the men I was shown were engineers with photos of them climbing mountains, bungee jumping etc. I don't want to bungee jump around the world myself, I'd like an introverted partner like me so I deleted it as it felt depressing.
Haha majority of the girls on dating sites tend be like this. Or they’re avid drug users. Inorganically formed relationships tend to have issues like this.
Blame social media and media brainwashing for that. Remember that by nature, young women in general are naive, easily influenced and easily lead, meaning they’re extremely easy to brainwash. Society knows this very well and has done exactly that. So now every girl wants to live life like an instagram celebrity. Even if theyre nowhere close. Their delusion doesnt care. Simping men also facilitate this this nonsense belief by splashing money & attention on these girls out of desperation, because said men often cant get regular sexual access because outside of their finances theyre undesirable to women. The result: every woman thinks she’s beyonce, and has a wine glass in her hand, on a yatch in some super exotic location. Ego is inflated. And she thinks she’s a queen… even though she’s a 4 without makeup and almost 200lbs 🤣 The trick to being successful with hinge or tinder is to be such an experienced man with women that you KNOW that those types of women are NOT the ones you should ever pursue, and that *they are the true low quality ones.* Yes even if their bodys bangin and theyre a 10 in the face. If they are showing any signs of materialism, lavish lifestyle, promiscuity, lack of modesty. Then those are 100% low quality women. And should be ignored. A man whose experienced with multiple women/female behaviour does this easily, and pursues the opposite. Because he knows this well through experience. But a man whose never been able to get girls in his life will pursue these types of women thinking this is these are the kinds of girls he wants cos their hot. Little does he know theyre cancer. But he will find out. Long story short. If you want to be successful on hinge and find someone decent. Ignore the 70% of girls that are showing blatant materialistic qualities. And pursue the 30% who dont show those traits. If youre a man who knows how to vet women propperly, a low quality woman can NEVER enter your space. Its very simple.
I feel like if you miss the old school way, you can just keep doing it the old school way. No one is forcing you to download the app, just take your time no rush
@Bryan Jun Bruh, ngl. I'm Army and have been bounced around the world in the last two years. Best experience I had was getting out and meeting people or trying to at least. Conventions, festivals, etc. It's not an every weekend thing sadly, but I try to stay cheap and do things to meet people when I can. Sometimes you gotta just take the L and stay inside and treat yourself though. I only keep Hinge because maybe 20% of the time it'll work. I've actually had a date but it's hit or miss on the person. Overall, shits toxic af on both gender sides.
The problem is that the amount of people who are on these apps for the "good reason" is so low that the odds of finding a match for a real relationship is almost impossible... Society is sick man!
I’m SO over ppl not wanting to meet, I have figured out a lot of guys (same as many women) like the validation of the match but there’s no follow through or they’re freaked out that someone doesn’t want to text for three weeks before having a call or meeting up…. Wth?!? This landscape is insane 😂 Also, the algorithms are REALLY off!!! Hinge keep suggesting ppl the OPPOSITE of what I’m looking for 😂😂😂😂
It's probably less the validation and more like those guys matching u are playing the numbers game and trying to put out many likes I would guess females do the same too so don't think it's unfair lol
It shows you the people it thinks you can get which for men and women is much lower quality than who they think they deserve lol. The key to successful dating is settling, like in the old days but no one wants to do that lol. Men can also get ripped, learn “game,” get rich, etc. but most of them also don’t wanna do that because it’s hard
@@live688 she's prob also only matching with top-tier men who have alot of options too. I'm someone who gets alot of matches/likes (100+/month) and I only go for the women who look the best if I get mult messages. Like If I have 3-5 girls interested in meeting up on a free day I have, I go for the best looking one. But a guy without alot of options will go for any girl since he doesn't have variety.. beggars cant be choosers lol.
As a guy, I average 1 match per day, with girls I could actually like also in real life. The point is that, after the first two sentences, they always ghost me!It's happened more than 20 times in a row! But in real life people like talking to me, so what is this all about? Jesus
Online dating is a hellhole for most hetero guys, bro, you're better off finding someone in person whether that's at the grocery store, at work, in martial arts classes, whatever.
I think online dating is what you make of it. It's definitely been a fun way to meet people, but I'm also looking for something serious at this point and I don't think Hinge is the best place for that.
no it isn't. Most guys dont get matches to begin with so they're always having to "settle" for anything they can get. And even for women who have unlimited options, all the men they want who're in the top 20% of men also have unlimited options so they aren't looking to settle down. Unless you're looking for hookups or don't mind settling, dating apps aren't good.
I'm honestly considering online dating, I know the population on dating apps is like 1 girl for 5 guys. But out in public when ever I go to events and bars everyone who goes is a couple or in a relationship. Dating apps seem like a better choice simply because for the most part everyone has a similar goal. Some might go for attention and some might not even be real but if I do talk to 2 people at least one of them will have the same goal as me.
Also my smoking hot professor found her husband in dating apps and a person who goes to the same class as me, so like 2 people who I see often that found a person on a dating app just gave me optimism. My professor is smoking hot hubba hubba type and the person I know was just cute, so I feel like I got good odds
@@silent_march8130 dude I’m the type of person who takes months to really make a decision on stuff like this, even tho physically and monitarily im not losing anything, I know the mental strain gonna hit me hard. Butt not yet 🤭, gonna get on it real soon tho. My choice of app will be hinge tho
@@xxxxxxxx9165 okay deadass, the day after I made that reply to that one guy, I slid into a gals DM and we went on a couple dates but it ended up not working so this time I might actually do the dating sites LMAO
I think just take your time and get to know people in real life, don't go rushing for a relationship, make friends first then if it leads anywhere further well that's a timing thing at the end of the day
The problem nowadays, everybody is glued to their cellphones, even if you meet a girl in RL she will ask you for your social media account to check you out. Weird world.
Men want sex and Women want an ego boost plus inatagram followers. Online dating is so broken. But don't give up there's always someone who is serious, only bad thing is that you have to drop your expectations all the way to the bottom
Does feel like a rough dating scene and I agree with a lot of your takes. It is unfortunate since I almost feel like the same with you as like man... the traditional values seem far gone and we're probably gonna be single till we're 30 or worse... and for me the type of person I'd even want to be with wouldn't be on a dating app... (i.e it feels like most girls have photos/vids of them at raves/clubs/fancy dinners eating out with groupies/etc) and its like... man... that's totally not my style and I find it hard to match that energy... yet its like the ultimate paradox as people who are more to themselves/introverted/shy wouldn't even venture out on these kind of apps to begin with as they'd welcome unwanted comments and such and thus its a self conflicting prophecy on how to meet people with similar values/interests. I wish there was an app for that haha - but dating apps just don't feel catered to those not as extravagant in their lifestyles at all for sure. And I wonder if its the asian-ness or the societal pressures that make me feel like I absolutely need to have found the one in my mid 20s now... but it is rough out there for sure as someone who is also more introverted and just wants an enjoyable but quieter life.. (Sorry /endrant)
Adapt or get left behind. It’s a sad reality. We live in an ever-changing world we’re people don’t meet like our baby boomer/gen x parents did. Best of luck.
@@Jamieka Yup same here, dating apps and social media ruined my chances. People think cause I look decent im automatically in a relationship but said part is its been years 😂
my experience was I dated a few girls. Just no chemistry on most of them. For me its a lot of time and money. Dating is like another job. Even if you match with a hot chick doesn't mean you'll have her forever. 1 2 dates ghost.
You dont want the hot ones anyway. Theyre the worst for obvious reasons. The humble 5’s 6’s & 7’s are where its at. If you know. You know. For the ones that dont, headache, disrespect, stress & heartbreak from those 10’s will teach them.
@@JEFFMAN90 You aint missing out. Literally the only good thing was showing pics to your friends going "Dude I matched, we're going on a second date." Yeah and that's the extent of happiness you get from it
I remember not too long ago watching a video by Ali Abdaal talking about some of the dating app options and he mentioned hinge being the best one, not sure if he was sponsored by them at the time but he did mention in the video that no matter what app you use, you should use the paid option if you’re serious about dating. In that sense I do kind of see it as you would most things like a course or a subscription service, if you weren’t serious or didn’t seriously want it you wouldn’t pay no matter what. Anyways, I decided to give it a shot without paying and maybe because of where I live I didn’t really get a lot of suggestions, let’s not even talk about likes/matches lol. Anyways it just all reminded me that like you said, they are a business and they want you to spend money. Currently, that’s just not for me. If that means being single a bit longer that’s fine, I’ve been single quite some time now and rushing things never really goes well.
This chick and I matched, I reached out to her, asked what her ethnicity was, told her she had a beautiful name and hoped to chat soon and never heard from her. Pretty much sums up this app for a guy, these women want a super hero
To me works the same way, it's hard to find someone real without much ego, playing to be cool it's over at some point of life when you want to meet a person and set real expectations.
I'd agree, but some people just need companionship as a lifeline, or they will drown in miserable loneliness. I have some online friends, but due to my lifelong struggle with severe social anxiety, and avoidant detachment, i can't meet people in person so comfortably. These kinds of Apps almost never factor in the psychological condition your in, so it all just makes it fit only within the societal expectations of almost cookie cut ideal people, as an upfront algorithm, making you awkwardly and depressingly self aware, that you are out of leauge with most. I know that your problem with things like this, is shallow dishonesty, but mine is broken dishonesty, people are just too afraid these days to admit they have issues, and so all we ever get is superficial surface level status oriented personas. So much for actual love lmao.
Man I had good conversations, went on a few dates. But then my dates flaked on me, they made lame excuses e.g. I'm ill, or I'm not looking to date right now. This was obvious that the girls were dating other guys, and I was one of many guys who was probably on standby.
I personally really like Hinge, mainly because of 2 reasons: 1: I'm amazing at taking pictures, which allows me to go on dates with more girls than I would by meeting them in real life 2: You're 100% sure to not harrass someone, both people got the same expectation and that is great
@@xstreamgamer-ib4nt doesnt sound pathetic at all bro. I fully get where youre comming from. I take good pics too and worked hard on my self inprovement, so When i used to use dating apps, it was easy & i was killing it too. Its how i met an awesome girl that i still have in my life till this day :) keep on doing well bro 👊🏽
Hinge and dating apps are rough. In the strangest way though Hinge has been a confidence booster for me. Sure I haven’t had incredible success but I’ve had a lot more matches than I expected, and with women I never expected to go with me. I’m actually actively talking to one right now but far too early to know if it’s for real but it’s given me a better shot then I have going to work, the gym, grocery store, then home every day. Zero social life that exposes me to women as a 37 year old male outside of work which is not a good place to try and pursue women 😂
Can't believe how far this app has fallen. It used to be one of, if not the best. Now it's literally worse than tinder. Down to greed surprise surprise. Now, simply put, every attractive person is not shown to you at all and locked behind a pay wall. (After that initial new user period you mentioned where it will show you stunning people). The only profiles you will get shown are one's that the majority of people swipe no. Such a shame as the app used to be brilliant.
Nah tinders worse by far. Hinge is so much better bro. You just have to know how to vet women propperly. Ignore the materialistic low quality ones near naked in bikinis on yatches in exotic locations and only give attention to the ones who dont show these traits. The introverted wholesome ones who dont go to clubs & bars, arent damaged, ran through and actually keep their clothes on. Those are the high quality ones. But of course first, you yourself you have to be facially attractive, good physique & good height. Because of course she has to be attracted to you too, the way youre attracted to her. But yeah man, nothing is worse than tinder. That place is a gutter. Even handsome guys have to pay on that app to truely get its usefull features and even then, the girls there are of waaaayy lower quality than on hinge. All the rubbish brainwashed girls/whores are on there. At least hinge has more decent people.
Dating apps are annoying I used 6+ different apps so far and they all have one similarly they want to make money and that's about it. It's not about the user experience it's all about making money. It's not working for men and it's also not ideal for women, even tho by design and user base it works a bit better for them.
Hinge is the only one worth using. It works well. But you cant sleep on the self improvement and expect good results. If youre not facially attractive. Good physique. decent height & well dressed. Forget it.
Hinge is depressing. You can put 1 hour into each personalized message, message 10 people, and get 0 responses. The women will not even read your message let alone reply. Its like stepping into a room with 3 girls and 15 guys, 5 guys are screaming at each girl. Your best chance of dating is joining a group of guys and also scream into the void.
On hinge i could only like woman 15 times a day, if i remember correctly. I was very meticulous and patient with my swipes. I payed close attention to womans personality and responses. A lot of women had very basic prompts, like they just copy and pasted from somebody else's profile.
I don't think apps destroy healthier or traditional values of dating, I think our environment (lack of 3rd spaces etc.) makes it harder to find connections organically, and apps feel like some of the only alternatives. This lack of better, more effective choices seems like much more the issue. aka: you can't really blame the apps for these problems b/c they didn't create them
My issue with it, is similar to your first point, but also, because of the first point, the standards are unrealistically high or uneven, either between you, or the potential match, and sooo.......its essentially just like any other dating app Lol except the only difference is, you can easily delete it once you find a compatible match, which would be great, if they didn't make the "League Range" so far distant from where you currently are in life, by comparison to other potentials, my situation is one that is subpar due to psychological/physiological health conditions, and financial limitations, i realize and understand that i have to self improve, but it can be very difficult when you have a clusterfuck trauma induced neurological problems that can lead to self sabotage, and let me tell you, there is absolutely no quick or easy fix in the form of meds or therapy for that! ( fuck what they say, its bull) all i know is, i am lonely as hell, and have no experience in relationships all thanks to the strict adherence to abstinence from the Ex cult i was unfortunately indoctrinated into at an early age, so i guess i am screwed. I am 28 going on 30 now, there is really no dating app that can fix this for me, i guess some guys are born with shitty luck, i would look for compassion and understanding, but thats just to much to ask for these days.
Yeah honestly bro, forget about dating until all that stuff is unpacked and first sorted. They’ll do you no good whatsoever. Soz to hear that though. All the best
I use the app for free so if I want to see if there’s anyone besides those random 5 that liked or is interested, I have to match with them or X them and wait few days to see new ones 💀 they purposely do that so you purchase their subscription thing. I deleted app shortly after cuz it’s pointless if you don’t get to see anyone at all.
Usually these dating apps have “boosts” which the algorithm favors them for 30 minutes and they go back the bottom stack of the pile. It’s not worth even downloading them.
yeah it seems like if i even match with a girl she has so many dudes already talking with them that they end up never responding even when they send the first msg, because im just 1 of hundreds of other dudes at the bottom of the pile since i dont pay for the premium shit. it just doesnt work lol, best way to meet women is to get a job with a positive women vs men ratio. Like nursing or something
I remember setingt up my sister on plenty of fish years ago, withing seconds she had 10 messages from different guys. It takes us men about 2weeks to receive that amount of messages.
I'm a "Chad", I got one match at the end of the 30 days, just to message her and quickly realize it was a bot. (hinge just did it in hope I would cancel). I only had 6 ladies on the app w/ 30 miles of me.(I live in a town of 30k people) I did have a few conservation w/ few girls I didn't match w/, including one girl who just messaged me to say "Ewww, you should commit "S' " , after blocking and reporting Hinge was kind enough to get back w me and let me know, Her message was Hinge approved. 70% of the girls on it are liberals that are 4's, who very few men will suffer feminism personalities, or 50+ year olds well past the wall with filters turned to 11, who think they are 10's because their high value boss pumped and dumped them a few years ago. That's what I got for my 50 bucks, and I'm a "Chad" so I hope the best for you guys.
It’s awful for women too. But I’d never ask a guy out, no offense. I had a lot of dates and never had to and the few times I’d even send a like the return wasn’t the same. Always way better outcome when I was the one who was liked first
@@LandofLit well it worked for me. I’m in a relationship now since this post off of someone I met on hinge literally around the time I posted my comment. Lol
It’s incredibly glitchy. Full of bugs. I’m not overly impressed. All the apps have gotten harder for guys. I was a sex addict and used to get a lot of action on the apps but half of it is pay-walled now. All the algorithms have changed and it’s a different beast to navigate. We’re all in the same boat so, best of luck my dudes.
Hinge absolutely sucks. The algorithm is designed to keep you away from your best matches so you spend more more time on the app and spend more more of your money on their service. If you wanna meet somebody, get out in your community be socially active. Your chances are so much better finding tricks, dates, and even a long-term partner
If I can get this girl rn to meet up and we click like we do on phone calls then the app will have been worth it cuz I didn’t have to put in much effort at all until this girl cuz I like her. In fact she seemed too good to be true I started to think she was a catfish/scamming but after talking to her on the phone and checking her phone number she seems legit and maybe your boy has finally gotten lucky
hey! i 'v been using Hinge for one week and , at least for now , i only got one match lol. i mean ... i do put a lot of likes , but nobody likes me back yayyy. idk what 's wrong : \
@@JEFFMAN90 exactly. I loved the old format better where I could just pull up profiles with a zip code. It’s faster and more efficient. Sadly women prefer the swipe mechanism which almost ALL dating apps use now even POF.
Excellent video. The problem is that I prefer meeting in person, but It feels like a weird thing to go and talk to a girl in person that you liked. It is for sure destroying the nature way of meeting people in person.
I can see where you’re coming from but I feel as though you’re too busy taking your own thoughts with subject confirmation bias and then giving everyone else the same answer based off of that. (I could be wrong easily and do NOT mean to come at you personally this is just open conversation) YES, these apps destroy regular relationships to an extent but this is only to the extent someone will allow it. Just because you met on hinge doesn’t mean the interaction will go the same. I feel as though you can learn to date through apps the same way you do through irl. This is what I did and what I believe a lot of people do. It’s quite easy to get into a normal healthy relationship through these apps. Set boundaries, if we match by x day. We should meet irl by x day if we are actually interested. And from there it gets easier. The hardest part about getting to really know your matches is finding out how y’all will vibe and actually meeting. Now yes it’s not hard to score meets, people play games etc but you will figure out who’s serious based off of conversations and learning the ways of different people. While these apps are disastrous for us as a people in some ways, they also help a lot of us find love in unconventional ways!
Hey is it safe to pay for Hinge? Like when I pay for it using my App Store will they get my real name and personal information? I wanted to pay for a month. Let me know
I been on hinge for over a year now sent out about 1000 likes I got 2 responses with led to 0 dates. I had 2 women like me also that I liked back and then boom unmatched I guess they just wanted validation that I found them cute or they played it like a guy and right swiped on everything. To be fair i do not even right swipe more than 1 in 10 times as a guy I am very selective so I understand my lack of success. When I see liberal if you voted for trump swipe left I follow their orders no matter if the woman is a kate upton clone. If i see they have kids automatic swipe left. If the woman is more than 15 pounds overweight swipe left. If the woman mentions I want to travel swipe left. If the woman mentions she likes watching nfl or college football that is usually a right swipe if she is not liberal and a single mom and at least a 5 in looks. It is ok i have given up on love women only want the top 1 percent of men on dating apps. It is a reminder of what women really think of men.
I am weirdly attracted to pretty girls is a horrible prompt. It's fine to think it but it doesn't make your profile unique. There's only so much space to make an impact. That's a waste of space.
If you are going in with a mission and trying to make a relationship happen you will fail. Use it as a supplement to your normal dating life not the main source. I’ve had plenty of good dates off of it and 2 relationships. It’s also nice to meet people outside your normal circles. But you really can’t take it seriously or personal. I’ve ghosted people too because I had too many to talk to or I got bored with the app. But I’ve also got to go on a date with some wild people like a billionaires daughter. It was intriguing. Just use it for the experiences.
@@tajiri7 sure we women have top notch options. Men totally aren’t just trying to get hit and run they love commitment. They totally can take rejection well no physical repercussions whatsoever. It’s so easy Henry Cavill and I can be married tomorrow if I wanted to
I heard Bumble is better (haven't tried it yet), I tried hinge and I got very few matches. This one match we're kind of talking now but it's going super slow, haven't met yet, might never but it's whatever
Depends on the area. But for most areas…. NOOOOPPEE!! Despite feminist lies, Girls dont actually like being put in the position of being the man and having to be the one that makes the first move.
Not really, I started using Hinge for about 1.5 weeks and I got a ridiculous amount of high-quality likes in NYC as a guy. This kind of becomes a first-world problem for me right now. You probably set up your profile incorrectly. lol
You must be really hot then or you're LGBT and looking for men. That is not a typical experience for a straight man. You can look up pretty much any discussion about this. Most average or slightly above average men get very little attention from women on most apps.
Dead on brother! I agree 100% with everything you said. Online dating is ruining society. I get a lot of matches but these women are very fickle and always looking for the next dude because they think life works as easy as swiping left
You always say you are going to get cancelled but the take never ends up being that hot 😂
Maybe I've been brainwashed to be that soft too
He’s just insecure
He’s good at being very neutral subtlety hints at his opinion lol
@@aaronday7677 truth
@@summertings3307 this is my core talent
Just tried it out. It made me feel ill. Every girl was holding a glass of wine and talking about traveling and living their "best life". I have never seen so many incredibly materialistic and vapid people in one place in my entire life and I HAVE traveled all over the world. Couldn't look at it anymore.
LMFAO go out touch grass be happy
I think it might be partly the algorithm showing you the same types of women, if you clicked like on some of them initially. I was only shown adrenaline junkie engineers, quite literally 90% of the men I was shown were engineers with photos of them climbing mountains, bungee jumping etc. I don't want to bungee jump around the world myself, I'd like an introverted partner like me so I deleted it as it felt depressing.
Haha majority of the girls on dating sites tend be like this. Or they’re avid drug users. Inorganically formed relationships tend to have issues like this.
Blame social media and media brainwashing for that. Remember that by nature, young women in general are naive, easily influenced and easily lead, meaning they’re extremely easy to brainwash. Society knows this very well and has done exactly that.
So now every girl wants to live life like an instagram celebrity. Even if theyre nowhere close. Their delusion doesnt care.
Simping men also facilitate this this nonsense belief by splashing money & attention on these girls out of desperation, because said men often cant get regular sexual access because outside of their finances theyre undesirable to women.
The result: every woman thinks she’s beyonce, and has a wine glass in her hand, on a yatch in some super exotic location. Ego is inflated. And she thinks she’s a queen… even though she’s a 4 without makeup and almost 200lbs 🤣
The trick to being successful with hinge or tinder is to be such an experienced man with women that you KNOW that those types of women are NOT the ones you should ever pursue, and that *they are the true low quality ones.* Yes even if their bodys bangin and theyre a 10 in the face. If they are showing any signs of materialism, lavish lifestyle, promiscuity, lack of modesty. Then those are 100% low quality women. And should be ignored. A man whose experienced with multiple women/female behaviour does this easily, and pursues the opposite. Because he knows this well through experience.
But a man whose never been able to get girls in his life will pursue these types of women thinking this is these are the kinds of girls he wants cos their hot. Little does he know theyre cancer. But he will find out.
Long story short. If you want to be successful on hinge and find someone decent. Ignore the 70% of girls that are showing blatant materialistic qualities. And pursue the 30% who dont show those traits.
If youre a man who knows how to vet women propperly, a low quality woman can NEVER enter your space. Its very simple.
Ahahahahaaaaa…you know what they say (at least I think this is what they say) if a women talks about traveling or LOVES to travel then 🚩
Yeah. It felt more like uploading a resumè than a way to meet new people.
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hell yes! you hit it on the nail.
Yea dating apps really mess with a guys head. Its either a desert or an oasis depending on if your first profile pic is good or not.
I feel like if you miss the old school way, you can just keep doing it the old school way. No one is forcing you to download the app, just take your time no rush
true but there's something to be said about where society's moving at a systemic level and whether or not it destroys the norm
@Bryan Jun Bruh, ngl. I'm Army and have been bounced around the world in the last two years. Best experience I had was getting out and meeting people or trying to at least. Conventions, festivals, etc. It's not an every weekend thing sadly, but I try to stay cheap and do things to meet people when I can. Sometimes you gotta just take the L and stay inside and treat yourself though.
I only keep Hinge because maybe 20% of the time it'll work. I've actually had a date but it's hit or miss on the person. Overall, shits toxic af on both gender sides.
@@TheBryanJun its the deep state
Hmmm thing is it’s hard to meet a person organically as u start working and you are the only person in the friend group that is single
lmfao
Thank you!
The problem is that the amount of people who are on these apps for the "good reason" is so low that the odds of finding a match for a real relationship is almost impossible... Society is sick man!
yeah it's a mismatch of intended mission vs actual usage
Love the bruttally honest opinion! Especially what you said at 2:05 Men typically try to shoot lower while women try to shoot higher.
Of course!
I’m SO over ppl not wanting to meet, I have figured out a lot of guys (same as many women) like the validation of the match but there’s no follow through or they’re freaked out that someone doesn’t want to text for three weeks before having a call or meeting up…. Wth?!? This landscape is insane 😂 Also, the algorithms are REALLY off!!! Hinge keep suggesting ppl the OPPOSITE of what I’m looking for 😂😂😂😂
It's probably less the validation and more like those guys matching u are playing the numbers game and trying to put out many likes
I would guess females do the same too so don't think it's unfair lol
it's a dystopian process
I think the guys are just scare to meet you and the girls are just playing games they are there for the attention.
It shows you the people it thinks you can get which for men and women is much lower quality than who they think they deserve lol. The key to successful dating is settling, like in the old days but no one wants to do that lol. Men can also get ripped, learn “game,” get rich, etc. but most of them also don’t wanna do that because it’s hard
@@live688 she's prob also only matching with top-tier men who have alot of options too. I'm someone who gets alot of matches/likes (100+/month) and I only go for the women who look the best if I get mult messages. Like If I have 3-5 girls interested in meeting up on a free day I have, I go for the best looking one. But a guy without alot of options will go for any girl since he doesn't have variety.. beggars cant be choosers lol.
As a guy, I average 1 match per day, with girls I could actually like also in real life. The point is that, after the first two sentences, they always ghost me!It's happened more than 20 times in a row! But in real life people like talking to me, so what is this all about? Jesus
Online dating is a hellhole for most hetero guys, bro, you're better off finding someone in person whether that's at the grocery store, at work, in martial arts classes, whatever.
it's about looks
So many ghost. Even ones that match me first. We’ll have a good talk and they disappear, I’ve disappeared on some too I won’t lie 😂
I think online dating is what you make of it. It's definitely been a fun way to meet people, but I'm also looking for something serious at this point and I don't think Hinge is the best place for that.
truth
So frustrating but all of this is true 😢
Female here and it’s trash for us too. They all are. Meeting people in person is so much better
no it isn't. Most guys dont get matches to begin with so they're always having to "settle" for anything they can get. And even for women who have unlimited options, all the men they want who're in the top 20% of men also have unlimited options so they aren't looking to settle down. Unless you're looking for hookups or don't mind settling, dating apps aren't good.
Do you have any successes to share?
I'm honestly considering online dating, I know the population on dating apps is like 1 girl for 5 guys. But out in public when ever I go to events and bars everyone who goes is a couple or in a relationship. Dating apps seem like a better choice simply because for the most part everyone has a similar goal. Some might go for attention and some might not even be real but if I do talk to 2 people at least one of them will have the same goal as me.
Also my smoking hot professor found her husband in dating apps and a person who goes to the same class as me, so like 2 people who I see often that found a person on a dating app just gave me optimism. My professor is smoking hot hubba hubba type and the person I know was just cute, so I feel like I got good odds
@@mr.burkenstock4188did you do it lol?
@@silent_march8130 dude I’m the type of person who takes months to really make a decision on stuff like this, even tho physically and monitarily im not losing anything, I know the mental strain gonna hit me hard. Butt not yet 🤭, gonna get on it real soon tho. My choice of app will be hinge tho
How it went mate?
@@xxxxxxxx9165 okay deadass, the day after I made that reply to that one guy, I slid into a gals DM and we went on a couple dates but it ended up not working so this time I might actually do the dating sites LMAO
I think just take your time and get to know people in real life, don't go rushing for a relationship, make friends first then if it leads anywhere further well that's a timing thing at the end of the day
gotta roll more dice
The problem nowadays, everybody is glued to their cellphones, even if you meet a girl in RL she will ask you for your social media account to check you out. Weird world.
Men want sex and Women want an ego boost plus inatagram followers. Online dating is so broken. But don't give up there's always someone who is serious, only bad thing is that you have to drop your expectations all the way to the bottom
Does feel like a rough dating scene and I agree with a lot of your takes. It is unfortunate since I almost feel like the same with you as like man... the traditional values seem far gone and we're probably gonna be single till we're 30 or worse... and for me the type of person I'd even want to be with wouldn't be on a dating app... (i.e it feels like most girls have photos/vids of them at raves/clubs/fancy dinners eating out with groupies/etc) and its like... man... that's totally not my style and I find it hard to match that energy... yet its like the ultimate paradox as people who are more to themselves/introverted/shy wouldn't even venture out on these kind of apps to begin with as they'd welcome unwanted comments and such and thus its a self conflicting prophecy on how to meet people with similar values/interests. I wish there was an app for that haha - but dating apps just don't feel catered to those not as extravagant in their lifestyles at all for sure. And I wonder if its the asian-ness or the societal pressures that make me feel like I absolutely need to have found the one in my mid 20s now... but it is rough out there for sure as someone who is also more introverted and just wants an enjoyable but quieter life.. (Sorry /endrant)
I relate so hard
I am 31 and I still don't have that special someone. :( I have not dated since I was in high school even then my dates weren't anything long trem.
Adapt or get left behind. It’s a sad reality. We live in an ever-changing world we’re people don’t meet like our baby boomer/gen x parents did.
Best of luck.
@@Jamieka Yup same here, dating apps and social media ruined my chances. People think cause I look decent im automatically in a relationship but said part is its been years 😂
Broo no homo but that was spot on! Likewise 💯
my experience was I dated a few girls. Just no chemistry on most of them. For me its a lot of time and money. Dating is like another job. Even if you match with a hot chick doesn't mean you'll have her forever. 1 2 dates ghost.
LOLv
At least you're getting dates. I haven't gotten no dates off Hinge yet
You dont want the hot ones anyway. Theyre the worst for obvious reasons. The humble 5’s 6’s & 7’s are where its at. If you know. You know. For the ones that dont, headache, disrespect, stress & heartbreak from those 10’s will teach them.
@@JEFFMAN90 You aint missing out. Literally the only good thing was showing pics to your friends going "Dude I matched, we're going on a second date." Yeah and that's the extent of happiness you get from it
The women on hinge are fcked up, I asked 4 or 5 girls out for dates after good back and fourth chatting and I got ghosted every single time.
I remember not too long ago watching a video by Ali Abdaal talking about some of the dating app options and he mentioned hinge being the best one, not sure if he was sponsored by them at the time but he did mention in the video that no matter what app you use, you should use the paid option if you’re serious about dating. In that sense I do kind of see it as you would most things like a course or a subscription service, if you weren’t serious or didn’t seriously want it you wouldn’t pay no matter what. Anyways, I decided to give it a shot without paying and maybe because of where I live I didn’t really get a lot of suggestions, let’s not even talk about likes/matches lol. Anyways it just all reminded me that like you said, they are a business and they want you to spend money. Currently, that’s just not for me. If that means being single a bit longer that’s fine, I’ve been single quite some time now and rushing things never really goes well.
This chick and I matched, I reached out to her, asked what her ethnicity was, told her she had a beautiful name and hoped to chat soon and never heard from her. Pretty much sums up this app for a guy, these women want a super hero
You need to learn to start a conversation 😂 not the app problem. The problem is you
I feel you, things are headed in a weird direction
dystopian season letsgoooooo
The last thing capitalism will take away from us is our ability to form relationships and have families. Lovely.
“Things are getting weird, and they’re getting weird fast.”
~ Elon Musk
@@MarshallArtz007 "Would you please touch my penis? I will buy you a horse!" - Elon Musk
To me works the same way, it's hard to find someone real without much ego, playing to be cool it's over at some point of life when you want to meet a person and set real expectations.
true
I'd agree, but some people just need companionship as a lifeline, or they will drown in miserable loneliness. I have some online friends, but due to my lifelong struggle with severe social anxiety, and avoidant detachment, i can't meet people in person so comfortably. These kinds of Apps almost never factor in the psychological condition your in, so it all just makes it fit only within the societal expectations of almost cookie cut ideal people, as an upfront algorithm, making you awkwardly and depressingly self aware, that you are out of leauge with most.
I know that your problem with things like this, is shallow dishonesty, but mine is broken dishonesty, people are just too afraid these days to admit they have issues, and so all we ever get is superficial surface level status oriented personas.
So much for actual love lmao.
Internet dating is a scam.
SoundCloud rapper is the best career right out of college
Only second to full time influencer
Man I had good conversations, went on a few dates. But then my dates flaked on me, they made lame excuses e.g. I'm ill, or I'm not looking to date right now. This was obvious that the girls were dating other guys, and I was one of many guys who was probably on standby.
yeah it's a toxic enviro
I personally really like Hinge, mainly because of 2 reasons:
1: I'm amazing at taking pictures, which allows me to go on dates with more girls than I would by meeting them in real life
2: You're 100% sure to not harrass someone, both people got the same expectation and that is great
the fact that you associate asking women out with harassment is exactly whats wrong with the world this day and age
uhhhhhhhhh
@@TheBryanJun LOL I only just realized how pathetic my comment sounds hahah, thanks for the video regardless
Your lying
@@xstreamgamer-ib4nt doesnt sound pathetic at all bro. I fully get where youre comming from. I take good pics too and worked hard on my self inprovement, so When i used to use dating apps, it was easy & i was killing it too. Its how i met an awesome girl that i still have in my life till this day :) keep on doing well bro 👊🏽
Hinge and dating apps are rough. In the strangest way though Hinge has been a confidence booster for me. Sure I haven’t had incredible success but I’ve had a lot more matches than I expected, and with women I never expected to go with me. I’m actually actively talking to one right now but far too early to know if it’s for real but it’s given me a better shot then I have going to work, the gym, grocery store, then home every day. Zero social life that exposes me to women as a 37 year old male outside of work which is not a good place to try and pursue women 😂
Can't believe how far this app has fallen. It used to be one of, if not the best. Now it's literally worse than tinder. Down to greed surprise surprise. Now, simply put, every attractive person is not shown to you at all and locked behind a pay wall. (After that initial new user period you mentioned where it will show you stunning people). The only profiles you will get shown are one's that the majority of people swipe no. Such a shame as the app used to be brilliant.
Nah tinders worse by far. Hinge is so much better bro. You just have to know how to vet women propperly. Ignore the materialistic low quality ones near naked in bikinis on yatches in exotic locations and only give attention to the ones who dont show these traits. The introverted wholesome ones who dont go to clubs & bars, arent damaged, ran through and actually keep their clothes on. Those are the high quality ones.
But of course first, you yourself you have to be facially attractive, good physique & good height. Because of course she has to be attracted to you too, the way youre attracted to her. But yeah man, nothing is worse than tinder. That place is a gutter. Even handsome guys have to pay on that app to truely get its usefull features and even then, the girls there are of waaaayy lower quality than on hinge. All the rubbish brainwashed girls/whores are on there. At least hinge has more decent people.
Hinge has gotten it into its head that I'm really into people who wanna do nothing but travel all the time 🙃 it's the opposite of what I wanna do, lol
The girls on hinge are DISTURBING. The voice memos are just wacked, I just played one and it was this girl screaming like some high pitched creature
Dating apps are annoying I used 6+ different apps so far and they all have one similarly they want to make money and that's about it. It's not about the user experience it's all about making money. It's not working for men and it's also not ideal for women, even tho by design and user base it works a bit better for them.
Hinge is the only one worth using. It works well. But you cant sleep on the self improvement and expect good results. If youre not facially attractive. Good physique. decent height & well dressed. Forget it.
Hinge is depressing.
You can put 1 hour into each personalized message, message 10 people, and get 0 responses.
The women will not even read your message let alone reply.
Its like stepping into a room with 3 girls and 15 guys, 5 guys are screaming at each girl.
Your best chance of dating is joining a group of guys and also scream into the void.
So are you still on hinge
On hinge i could only like woman 15 times a day, if i remember correctly. I was very meticulous and patient with my swipes. I payed close attention to womans personality and responses. A lot of women had very basic prompts, like they just copy and pasted from somebody else's profile.
It’s only 8 times a day
Now I see why same sex relationships are popular now
I don't think apps destroy healthier or traditional values of dating, I think our environment (lack of 3rd spaces etc.) makes it harder to find connections organically, and apps feel like some of the only alternatives. This lack of better, more effective choices seems like much more the issue.
aka: you can't really blame the apps for these problems b/c they didn't create them
Merchandise is definitely the right word. These apps make money off of men paying to see the fake accounts that liked their profile. 😅
My issue with it, is similar to your first point, but also, because of the first point, the standards are unrealistically high or uneven, either between you, or the potential match, and sooo.......its essentially just like any other dating app Lol except the only difference is, you can easily delete it once you find a compatible match, which would be great, if they didn't make the "League Range" so far distant from where you currently are in life, by comparison to other potentials, my situation is one that is subpar due to psychological/physiological health conditions, and financial limitations, i realize and understand that i have to self improve, but it can be very difficult when you have a clusterfuck trauma induced neurological problems that can lead to self sabotage, and let me tell you, there is absolutely no quick or easy fix in the form of meds or therapy for that! ( fuck what they say, its bull) all i know is, i am lonely as hell, and have no experience in relationships all thanks to the strict adherence to abstinence from the Ex cult i was unfortunately indoctrinated into at an early age, so i guess i am screwed. I am 28 going on 30 now, there is really no dating app that can fix this for me, i guess some guys are born with shitty luck, i would look for compassion and understanding, but thats just to much to ask for these days.
delete and enjoy life my dude
Oh i definitely plan on deleting social media, its just enjoying life is the hard part.
Yeah honestly bro, forget about dating until all that stuff is unpacked and first sorted. They’ll do you no good whatsoever. Soz to hear that though. All the best
apps shouldn't decide who is hot and who is not. it's an huge discrimination and inequity for people.
Women of hinge - why don’t you respond? If you don’t want to chat with anyone that you match with, get tf off.
I use the app for free so if I want to see if there’s anyone besides those random 5 that liked or is interested, I have to match with them or X them and wait few days to see new ones 💀 they purposely do that so you purchase their subscription thing. I deleted app shortly after cuz it’s pointless if you don’t get to see anyone at all.
You didnt even give it a chance bro. Hinge works great. After the first 3ish weeks when its done sorting out your algorithm, it works very well.
Do you have to pay to get matches or is the app completely free
Usually these dating apps have “boosts” which the algorithm favors them for 30 minutes and they go back the bottom stack of the pile. It’s not worth even downloading them.
Dw bro I'm in the same boat. Single till 30.
yeah it seems like if i even match with a girl she has so many dudes already talking with them that they end up never responding even when they send the first msg, because im just 1 of hundreds of other dudes at the bottom of the pile since i dont pay for the premium shit. it just doesnt work lol, best way to meet women is to get a job with a positive women vs men ratio. Like nursing or something
I remember setingt up my sister on plenty of fish years ago, withing seconds she had 10 messages from different guys. It takes us men about 2weeks to receive that amount of messages.
I'm a "Chad", I got one match at the end of the 30 days, just to message her and quickly realize it was a bot. (hinge just did it in hope I would cancel). I only had 6 ladies on the app w/ 30 miles of me.(I live in a town of 30k people) I did have a few conservation w/ few girls I didn't match w/, including one girl who just messaged me to say "Ewww, you should commit "S' " , after blocking and reporting Hinge was kind enough to get back w me and let me know, Her message was Hinge approved. 70% of the girls on it are liberals that are 4's, who very few men will suffer feminism personalities, or 50+ year olds well past the wall with filters turned to 11, who think they are 10's because their high value boss pumped and dumped them a few years ago. That's what I got for my 50 bucks, and I'm a "Chad" so I hope the best for you guys.
It’s awful for women too. But I’d never ask a guy out, no offense. I had a lot of dates and never had to and the few times I’d even send a like the return wasn’t the same. Always way better outcome when I was the one who was liked first
Same. As a woman this is also my experience. More success when you are liked first by guys.
@@clauaome25 yes. If a guy isn’t consistently pursuing you, he isn’t it. It doesn’t get any better
@@Eg-jd9zt you know why that’s wrong? You ever heard the phrase…”it takes 2 to tango” lol?
@@LandofLit well it worked for me. I’m in a relationship now since this post off of someone I met on hinge literally around the time I posted my comment. Lol
@@Eg-jd9zt time will tell if I’m correct…especially if you break up with them 1st lol
I'm almost 30 and still single lets fucking gooooo 🤩
It’s incredibly glitchy. Full of bugs. I’m not overly impressed.
All the apps have gotten harder for guys. I was a sex addict and used to get a lot of action on the apps but half of it is pay-walled now. All the algorithms have changed and it’s a different beast to navigate.
We’re all in the same boat so, best of luck my dudes.
Hinge absolutely sucks. The algorithm is designed to keep you away from your best matches so you spend more more time on the app and spend more more of your money on their service. If you wanna meet somebody, get out in your community be socially active. Your chances are so much better finding tricks, dates, and even a long-term partner
Yeah I noticed a shift…like 2009 was the last year women were making 1st moves on guys or something 🤔
If I can get this girl rn to meet up and we click like we do on phone calls then the app will have been worth it cuz I didn’t have to put in much effort at all until this girl cuz I like her. In fact she seemed too good to be true I started to think she was a catfish/scamming but after talking to her on the phone and checking her phone number she seems legit and maybe your boy has finally gotten lucky
I thought that it was bots I just want to talk to something that there is no doubt it's cold and unfeeling
too many bots in this world
hey! i 'v been using Hinge for one week and , at least for now , i only got one match lol. i mean ... i do put a lot of likes , but nobody likes me back yayyy. idk what 's wrong : \
I agree with everything you said in this video. Great video. Accurate takes!
Glad you liked it!
I miss old school POF before the rise of BOTS and OnlyFans. The latter is what killed online dating.
The Tinder swiping style killed online dating
@@JEFFMAN90 exactly. I loved the old format better where I could just pull up profiles with a zip code. It’s faster and more efficient.
Sadly women prefer the swipe mechanism which almost ALL dating apps use now even POF.
Excellent video. The problem is that I prefer meeting in person, but It feels like a weird thing to go and talk to a girl in person that you liked. It is for sure destroying the nature way of meeting people in person.
I know I’m a 3 and that’s why I stay off those apps. Discover me in the street or the damn park.
I can see where you’re coming from but I feel as though you’re too busy taking your own thoughts with subject confirmation bias and then giving everyone else the same answer based off of that. (I could be wrong easily and do NOT mean to come at you personally this is just open conversation)
YES, these apps destroy regular relationships to an extent but this is only to the extent someone will allow it. Just because you met on hinge doesn’t mean the interaction will go the same. I feel as though you can learn to date through apps the same way you do through irl. This is what I did and what I believe a lot of people do. It’s quite easy to get into a normal healthy relationship through these apps. Set boundaries, if we match by x day. We should meet irl by x day if we are actually interested. And from there it gets easier. The hardest part about getting to really know your matches is finding out how y’all will vibe and actually meeting. Now yes it’s not hard to score meets, people play games etc but you will figure out who’s serious based off of conversations and learning the ways of different people. While these apps are disastrous for us as a people in some ways, they also help a lot of us find love in unconventional ways!
That's the point of this video to give his opinion/experience on the topic
ye it's just not for me I think
great vid and i totally agree with your takes! 💯
Appreciate it!
you think 50 likes for men is low? Damn, I have bumble for a year and I have 4 likes for 1 year and yes my profile is good
LOL
I can get around 70 matches over months but I've had a female friend create a Tinder account and she had about 200 in that day.
Wow, awesome. Thanks for your honesty!
only the truth here
hinge is my fav dating app I think it has the most quality men ( well the ones I get matched with)
Hey is it safe to pay for Hinge? Like when I pay for it using my App Store will they get my real name and personal information? I wanted to pay for a month. Let me know
Stop saying “I don’t mean to objectify”. You weren’t objecting anything 😂
“… very toxic and chaotic…”. v true
I been on hinge for over a year now sent out about 1000 likes I got 2 responses with led to 0 dates. I had 2 women like me also that I liked back and then boom unmatched I guess they just wanted validation that I found them cute or they played it like a guy and right swiped on everything. To be fair i do not even right swipe more than 1 in 10 times as a guy I am very selective so I understand my lack of success. When I see liberal if you voted for trump swipe left I follow their orders no matter if the woman is a kate upton clone. If i see they have kids automatic swipe left. If the woman is more than 15 pounds overweight swipe left. If the woman mentions I want to travel swipe left. If the woman mentions she likes watching nfl or college football that is usually a right swipe if she is not liberal and a single mom and at least a 5 in looks. It is ok i have given up on love women only want the top 1 percent of men on dating apps. It is a reminder of what women really think of men.
My hinge goes crazy
Fax as usual Bryan, keep it up.
I only speak facts
Should I pay for membership?
No
No
Hell no
I am weirdly attracted to pretty girls is a horrible prompt. It's fine to think it but it doesn't make your profile unique. There's only so much space to make an impact. That's a waste of space.
Lmfao it was literally for this thumbnail
As a bisexual my options are unlimited with anybody of my sex. Its not hard
“Bisexuality immediately doubles your chances for a date on Saturday night.”
~ Woody Allen 😀
I have way more luck just talking to a girl I find attractive in public and if we vibe I’ll offer to give my number
That’s nice he called his friend with below average likes.
You should do a vid in your car(and a car reveal) you said it was a fiat but never showed us
I think i have a vlog that shows it off but I'll do one when i'm home home
best quality in small locations
interesting theory, only lived in cities
If you are going in with a mission and trying to make a relationship happen you will fail. Use it as a supplement to your normal dating life not the main source. I’ve had plenty of good dates off of it and 2 relationships. It’s also nice to meet people outside your normal circles. But you really can’t take it seriously or personal. I’ve ghosted people too because I had too many to talk to or I got bored with the app. But I’ve also got to go on a date with some wild people like a billionaires daughter. It was intriguing. Just use it for the experiences.
Glad that you explained the algorithm, this was helpful! I like your voice 😁
Thank you! 😃
Hey you won’t be single - if you ask 30 girls out chances are one of them will be everything you hoped for. 🙌🏻
that's probably statistically true yes
But the fact that you get rejected by 29 women is a lost in itself
@@jayku9524the odds are against women too though probably not as low. But it’s like the lottery you only need to get a yes once
@@whenraindropsfallThe odds are for women, not against.
@@tajiri7 sure we women have top notch options. Men totally aren’t just trying to get hit and run they love commitment. They totally can take rejection well no physical repercussions whatsoever. It’s so easy Henry Cavill and I can be married tomorrow if I wanted to
I heard Bumble is better (haven't tried it yet), I tried hinge and I got very few matches. This one match we're kind of talking now but it's going super slow, haven't met yet, might never but it's whatever
Bumble is shit
Depends on the area. But for most areas…. NOOOOPPEE!! Despite feminist lies, Girls dont actually like being put in the position of being the man and having to be the one that makes the first move.
bumble is sht, even if i match they dont respond in 24 hours its useless
I'm just waiting for that dating app from the Black Mirror episode 'Hang the DJ' at this point...
Oh No! the sushi algorithm D:
hahhahaahhaah
Above average? What da fuck dam son is thinking
Below average tbh
Dudes beautiful wdym????
If he is tall and has a good hairline he is automaticially, statisticially at least a 7.5 or higher
@@TheBryanJun dont let these salty comment pull you down, you're a cool looking guy
Brooooo love this video , very though
Red pill moment lol
welcome to life
Respect. I’m giving you a subscribe
thank you!!
Not really, I started using Hinge for about 1.5 weeks and I got a ridiculous amount of high-quality likes in NYC as a guy. This kind of becomes a first-world problem for me right now. You probably set up your profile incorrectly. lol
probably!
You must be really hot then or you're LGBT and looking for men. That is not a typical experience for a straight man. You can look up pretty much any discussion about this. Most average or slightly above average men get very little attention from women on most apps.
Nyc is better than other places cuz there's a lot more single women than single guys
Not ultimately ruin 😭
:(
Omg you made perfect sense. I’ve had men unmatch me because I didn’t reply back quick enough. 😐
it's all a game imo
the purttyest
Women have no idea how easy they have it on dating apps
Not if you’re looking for a relationship! Most women aren’t interested in hookups.
@@Lauren-nr1wk it might be true, but the problem is because they all want a relationship with Chads.
@@Vbnnghjjnnb there is mostly chads on apps, nature of the establishment
niceinsight
It ain't that deep bro
yeah life really isn't
the only thing i was thinking about when watching this was, hopefully he's not trying to be a philosopher like this when he's talking to the girls.
turn up ur volume like damn bro
You objectifying bro?
LMAO you mad!
always!
oh my gosh you talk so fast I can't really follow much of what you are saying. Like your content tho.
Change the playback speed to 0.75x on the settings. That helps a lot with fast talkers.
lil incel energy :$$
nah
Dead on brother! I agree 100% with everything you said. Online dating is ruining society. I get a lot of matches but these women are very fickle and always looking for the next dude because they think life works as easy as swiping left
False Optionality
Men do the same.