Of course, sleep problems are linked to autism. I'm usually awake between 3 and 4:30 in the morning, solving math problems on my smartphone or watching TH-cam videos. But one reason for not being able to fall asleep can be that you keep thinking about a stressful situation you had. Keep up the good work, Greets from Germany!
Hi back from Switzerland! When I wake up at 3am which happens time to time, I try to force myself to meditate. We turn our WLAN off at night because it helps us sleep better, plus my daughter is electro-sensible, so phone/handy is off the table. But the reason why I try to meditate then is because it is said that around 3am, the spiritual Masters are active around the world helping people who want to meditate to go deeper. I have been meditating (Atma Kriya Yoga specifically) since 2012 so that's my Go-to. It helps me to get back to sleep.
You have so much courage to come out like this. So much compassion for those of us who are different and struggling with the challenges of neurodivergence. You are an inspiration. Thank you. As far as “sleep resistance” well, I used to be an architect. I went through architecture school in the 1980s, and not sleeping for days at a time was required to get through the grueling workload. Medical school and residency is similar from what I gather, so take heart- Your little girl might be a budding doctor or architect! 😁 It can’t be easy as a parent, but then again, nothing that’s truly good in this world comes easy 😉
The things is that with the sleepiness the opposite is also true. Burnout❗️ My youngest goes through both and at the same time. Meaning they can't sleep, yet they are extremely exhausted.
TBH I also function well on only 6 hours of sleep and I asked my mom and she said that I was also a night owl 😂sooo I suppose I can’t complain too much. 😅 Regarding coming out to everyone, what I found is that no one really cared so much as I expected them to. I’m a negative or positive way. So it’s like meh. If I was employed and worried about discrimination in the office then I would 100% think twice unless I was ready to fight for equality rights and fair treatment. I don’t take it for granted that I have support in disclosure from my closest people and many don’t have that luxury. The more we come out and raise awareness the less alone we will feel as neurodivergent individuals floating out there in the social universe.
@@crybebebunnymy oldest goes through phases of this too. And sadly me too sometimes. 😅 My strategy on those days or phases is to go on survival mode. Stay home more. Reduce plans and activities and try to reduce stimulation. For both me and my boy.
@NeurodivergentMom I middle school children/ teenagers don't have that luxury as much anymore. Mine is about to enter High School after not attending to school in person because of burnout. They discovered that online classes are not challenging enough. They didn't learn much this past semester.
I have always needed to learn things, like it’s not just physical activity that tires me out, I need to put my mind to work so that my mind gets tired, too.
8pm also felt like a ridiculous bedtime from a very young age, even though it was pretty standard. Implementing evenings from 8-10 as quiet play time where they learn to entertain themselves in their room, and then you come in at 10 to do the bedtime routine, could be helpful,
Reading and drawing work well for me, too. My theory is their required eye movements resemble REM, easing the brain into sleepiness. Sometimes when I can't fall back asleep, I do "reading movements."
@@GuineaPig361 huh. I wonder if there is something to that. Very interesting theory! Reading really can put you into a mesmerized trance when you’re really into it. 🤔
Very interesting. I remember my mother telling me I used to refuse to nap when I was little. I would fall asleep at dinner with my face in my spaghetti!
Growing up, from not wanting to take naps in kindergarten and being the only one awake during nap time, to becoming a teenager and trying to convince my friends and cousins to stay up past midnight during sleepovers (they could not last and would end up falling asleep before me), I remember feeling very lonely while the rest of the world slept and I was up. I despised naps and sleeping growing up and truthfully to this day, although I try to force myself to bed earlier as a responsible adult, I naturally still dislike going to sleep. There is always something interesting for my brain to engage. On the bright side, this could be beneficial for certain things such as late night exam studying or career such as a detective. 🕵🏻♀️ Now that I understand how important sleep is to the mind and body, I make the effort to value my full night’s rest but it is still challenging to this day. My goal now is to go to bed earlier so that I can be up really early like 5am instead.
Your comment gave me a new understanding into my daughter. Tonight instead of having her play independently next to me while I finished up work in bed because she was still awake at 9:30pm, I gave her my attention and played with her. When I brought her to her bed after she fell right asleep.
I have always resisted. Everytime there was a nap time in kindergarten i just lying there waiting, It seemed to me stupid to sleep in daylight and having enough energy. Almost whole time when i was going to elementary school i woke up at 5 am and if i woke up i could not fall asleep again that morning. Now as an adult i still resist to sleep when i am tired at the end of a day. I think it is a PDA think, because i just do not want to obey my body and i "fight" the sleepiness as much as i can .
That's an interesting way to look at it through the PDA lens. I also fight sleep... so I can't complain that my daughter does too. I do it because I love having the house to myself when everyone else is asleep. I would love to shift my awakefulness from nighttime to early morning with a 5am wakeup for example. Instead of fighting it, harness it. You know what I mean?
Of course, sleep problems are linked to autism. I'm usually awake between 3 and 4:30 in the morning, solving math problems on my smartphone or watching TH-cam videos. But one reason for not being able to fall asleep can be that you keep thinking about a stressful situation you had. Keep up the good work, Greets from Germany!
Hi back from Switzerland! When I wake up at 3am which happens time to time, I try to force myself to meditate. We turn our WLAN off at night because it helps us sleep better, plus my daughter is electro-sensible, so phone/handy is off the table. But the reason why I try to meditate then is because it is said that around 3am, the spiritual Masters are active around the world helping people who want to meditate to go deeper. I have been meditating (Atma Kriya Yoga specifically) since 2012 so that's my Go-to. It helps me to get back to sleep.
You have so much courage to come out like this. So much compassion for those of us who are different and struggling with the challenges of neurodivergence. You are an inspiration. Thank you.
As far as “sleep resistance” well, I used to be an architect. I went through architecture school in the 1980s, and not sleeping for days at a time was required to get through the grueling workload. Medical school and residency is similar from what I gather, so take heart-
Your little girl might be a budding doctor or architect! 😁
It can’t be easy as a parent, but then again, nothing that’s truly good in this world comes easy 😉
The things is that with the sleepiness the opposite is also true. Burnout❗️ My youngest goes through both and at the same time. Meaning they can't sleep, yet they are extremely exhausted.
TBH I also function well on only 6 hours of sleep and I asked my mom and she said that I was also a night owl 😂sooo I suppose I can’t complain too much. 😅
Regarding coming out to everyone, what I found is that no one really cared so much as I expected them to. I’m a negative or positive way. So it’s like meh. If I was employed and worried about discrimination in the office then I would 100% think twice unless I was ready to fight for equality rights and fair treatment.
I don’t take it for granted that I have support in disclosure from my closest people and many don’t have that luxury.
The more we come out and raise awareness the less alone we will feel as neurodivergent individuals floating out there in the social universe.
@@crybebebunnymy oldest goes through phases of this too. And sadly me too sometimes. 😅
My strategy on those days or phases is to go on survival mode. Stay home more. Reduce plans and activities and try to reduce stimulation. For both me and my boy.
@NeurodivergentMom I middle school children/ teenagers don't have that luxury as much anymore. Mine is about to enter High School after not attending to school in person because of burnout. They discovered that online classes are not challenging enough. They didn't learn much this past semester.
As soon as I wasn’t an infant, the naps completely stopped for me. The world is too interesting and I am not tired.
I have always needed to learn things, like it’s not just physical activity that tires me out, I need to put my mind to work so that my mind gets tired, too.
8pm also felt like a ridiculous bedtime from a very young age, even though it was pretty standard. Implementing evenings from 8-10 as quiet play time where they learn to entertain themselves in their room, and then you come in at 10 to do the bedtime routine, could be helpful,
Reading and drawing work well for me, too. My theory is their required eye movements resemble REM, easing the brain into sleepiness. Sometimes when I can't fall back asleep, I do "reading movements."
@@GuineaPig361 huh. I wonder if there is something to that. Very interesting theory! Reading really can put you into a mesmerized trance when you’re really into it. 🤔
Very interesting. I remember my mother telling me I used to refuse to nap when I was little. I would fall asleep at dinner with my face in my spaghetti!
This has happened in my family! haha. True story. Both kids.
@@NeurodivergentMom 🤣
Take care of yourself and family all the best 👍
Thanks so much
Growing up, from not wanting to take naps in kindergarten and being the only one awake during nap time, to becoming a teenager and trying to convince my friends and cousins to stay up past midnight during sleepovers (they could not last and would end up falling asleep before me), I remember feeling very lonely while the rest of the world slept and I was up. I despised naps and sleeping growing up and truthfully to this day, although I try to force myself to bed earlier as a responsible adult, I naturally still dislike going to sleep. There is always something interesting for my brain to engage. On the bright side, this could be beneficial for certain things such as late night exam studying or career such as a detective. 🕵🏻♀️ Now that I understand how important sleep is to the mind and body, I make the effort to value my full night’s rest but it is still challenging to this day. My goal now is to go to bed earlier so that I can be up really early like 5am instead.
Your comment gave me a new understanding into my daughter. Tonight instead of having her play independently next to me while I finished up work in bed because she was still awake at 9:30pm, I gave her my attention and played with her. When I brought her to her bed after she fell right asleep.
At least she didn’t feel the loneliness that you described in your comment. Or at least I hope not.
I have always resisted. Everytime there was a nap time in kindergarten i just lying there waiting, It seemed to me stupid to sleep in daylight and having enough energy. Almost whole time when i was going to elementary school i woke up at 5 am and if i woke up i could not fall asleep again that morning. Now as an adult i still resist to sleep when i am tired at the end of a day. I think it is a PDA think, because i just do not want to obey my body and i "fight" the sleepiness as much as i can .
That's an interesting way to look at it through the PDA lens. I also fight sleep... so I can't complain that my daughter does too. I do it because I love having the house to myself when everyone else is asleep. I would love to shift my awakefulness from nighttime to early morning with a 5am wakeup for example. Instead of fighting it, harness it. You know what I mean?