Women NEED to understand this about Men!

แชร์
ฝัง
  • เผยแพร่เมื่อ 13 ม.ค. 2025

ความคิดเห็น • 910

  • @lumintalocke7724
    @lumintalocke7724 ปีที่แล้ว +374

    This is so beautiful! I sometimes think to myself what else could Tony say that I have not heard him say but everytime I listen to a video he actuallt says something I have not heard or thought about. All I can say is this is Gods word bc we will never hear everything God knows. This video alone will save your life. I'm a blessed Tribe member and I pay 1.99 a month. Almost everything he thinks is Incredible. If we all can't do anything for Tony and his family, we all can give this man 24.00 a year for this Wonderful Service that does. Fyi I don't know Tony at all but what I do know is this message is straightt from God. How can it not be, IT'S BEAUTIFUL!

    • @TonyGaskins
      @TonyGaskins  ปีที่แล้ว +78

      Thank you so much. This blessed my heart!

    • @tonyalbert6940
      @tonyalbert6940 ปีที่แล้ว +20

      I have been following Mr. Gaskins for a few years now. I decided to download one of his free courses just to give it a try. I have greatly benefited from his teachings, but it was your comment that challenged me to join his Blessed Tribe. He extends the invitation to join in almost every video, but the way you pointed out the immense value of what he provides, I knew it was time to join and begin financially supporting his work. I thank you!

    • @lumintalocke7724
      @lumintalocke7724 ปีที่แล้ว +9

      @tonyalbert6940 Yw and Ty!!!! That was so beautiful! Reading your comment and seeing the star by your name says EVERYTHING. It says that you truly understand this thing now and that you know that you are a woman, which is Gods greatest gift to mankind. It can't do anything at this point but get better. You will immediately feel and walk differently. You know without a doubt that you, too, will be just fine in any relationship and in life. We all just have to learn how to live here. Please challenge everyone and pass it on. Praise God. ALL the blessings to you!

    • @HarmonyandHope7
      @HarmonyandHope7 ปีที่แล้ว +11

      @@TonyGaskins 10:24 do you have any videos or able to make videos for married people who may have intimacy challenges? I’m looking for male perspective about husbands (my husband😅) who are only or mostly affectionate when they want sex & as a result I’m annoyed and don’t want to be bothered. His attitude & lack of daily affection is annoying and of course he understands when I tell him at that moment but after that it’s the same old shifting back to no affection.

    • @Marquita-ms7kp
      @Marquita-ms7kp ปีที่แล้ว +3

  • @JoannA-sweetly
    @JoannA-sweetly ปีที่แล้ว +19

    “The MAN for you will step up to the plate!” 😍

  • @LoveAlways1002
    @LoveAlways1002 ปีที่แล้ว +845

    💯💕💐💯💕💐💯💕💐
    I remember one of my best friends was getting married and her fiance at the time told me "You have to approach dating the way men approach buying a car, we walk in knowing what we want and how much we are willing to pay, and if we cant get what we want for how much we want, we walk out. You have to be willing to always walk away if it is not what you want or it costs too much for you" I never forgot that ❤❤

    • @lyfesaquarium
      @lyfesaquarium ปีที่แล้ว +13

      Like dat

    • @ira_herself997
      @ira_herself997 ปีที่แล้ว +21

      That’s easier when and if we don’t have any trauma bonds. I know life before, during and after trauma healing and I can tell its so much different.

    • @ricardajames5769
      @ricardajames5769 ปีที่แล้ว +18

      I won't forget this either. Thanks for sharing.

    • @nawi332
      @nawi332 ปีที่แล้ว +6

      ❤❤

    • @lucibarretto9883
      @lucibarretto9883 ปีที่แล้ว +8

      He forgot to mention that he still would be able to ar least Test Drive it for fun. Lol

  • @unapologetic1413
    @unapologetic1413 ปีที่แล้ว +140

    🌬️💨💨💨 UNTIL WE AS WOMEN "Learn" to truly FALL IN LOVE with God FIRST, we shouldn't even be thinking about some doggone man!

  • @JennyAmigo31
    @JennyAmigo31 ปีที่แล้ว +72

    I’m divorcing this boy who is 56 and can’t pay his own bills. He wanted a mommy. I saw the red flags but kept pumping him up and “fixing him” what a mistake! He is a covert Narc and I didn’t see through his live bombing and manipulation. Liar!!! I kept my standards- and he married me- he couldn’t keep up the acting. Lesson learned: Don’t rush things. See who they are! Do not marry or date a professional theater guy- the best actor!

  • @peaceisgolden
    @peaceisgolden ปีที่แล้ว +137

    I agree with this, it starts with you ladies! My life totally changed once I finally stood on my standards when it came to men. I use to make excuses and bend on my own rules, but it always lead to heartbreak on my end.
    The man I'm with now respected my standards from Day 1 and proposed to me after 7 months of dating. We are going on 3 years of marriage now and it is amazing, best decisions I've made in my life so far ❤

    • @lauramapani3627
      @lauramapani3627 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      This is amazing! Im looking forward to these results

  • @Qwani11_11
    @Qwani11_11 ปีที่แล้ว +254

    Just got out of a relationship, Celibate for 4 years & he couldn’t wait to have sex until marriage?
    He walked away from the relationship like it was nothing and blocked me on ALL PLATFORMS. I was hurt but at the same time.
    I thank GOD for this.
    Rejection is GOD’S protection & redirection.
    You spoke so much truth Thank You. ❤

    • @blessingsandfavor1799
      @blessingsandfavor1799 ปีที่แล้ว +19

      Nothing was wrong with you, it just said a lot about him. 🙏.When you wait,or as time goes by,true colors get revealed.

    • @natashajarvis6938
      @natashajarvis6938 ปีที่แล้ว +25

      Girl,you dodged a bullet. That man meant you no good! Proud that you held onto your standards. God is good!

    • @Qwani11_11
      @Qwani11_11 ปีที่แล้ว +7

      Thanks ❤️

    • @hereisayana8207
      @hereisayana8207 ปีที่แล้ว +16

      Sometimes I wonder how they can be that evil and just not care about a person, but a lot of them don't believe in or have a relationship with God.... so that is how

    • @naoedouard4422
      @naoedouard4422 ปีที่แล้ว +6

      I hope you have a good day, know that JESUS died for you and loves you so very much!

  • @Kimberlyloves1122
    @Kimberlyloves1122 ปีที่แล้ว +99

    Even when a woman is straightforward with a man, he will still cheat and play games if that’s his character. Just like some men will leave a woman the first time they cheat or get caught lying, that’s how us women should be. So they can finally get the picture.

  • @alexisgilley3948
    @alexisgilley3948 ปีที่แล้ว +69

    This is Facts. Women have to believe they’re worthy of regard. The highest regard.

  • @beu7624
    @beu7624 ปีที่แล้ว +134

    Men will say ANYTHING to get you in bed literally anything, anything no matter how sad it sound, how crazy it sound, they will pull on our heartstrings, they will literally say anything to get us in bed.

    • @edt4080
      @edt4080 11 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Literally that's why men always win in the end when men cheats it works out it doesn't when women cheat cause men gone dawg em how you get it em is how you loose em a man will always win in the world

    • @sharonjacksonakagrannij5269
      @sharonjacksonakagrannij5269 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      ,..1 correction: “GROW in GOD!” Bcus,…if we fall, we’ll fall for anything.

    • @joseg.6133
      @joseg.6133 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

      @@sharonjacksonakagrannij5269 men should be held accountable for predatory behavior regardless if women fall for it or not.

  • @Kashmir-lt4cx
    @Kashmir-lt4cx ปีที่แล้ว +22

    @10:17-10:20 "If you take short cuts you get cut short!"
    "I love myself"- Ciara

  • @staceythorpe7938
    @staceythorpe7938 ปีที่แล้ว +154

    I met a guy and at the end of our conversation and he saw where my mind is at, he literally said, "stay away from guys like me, I'm no good!" Which means he is a dirty dog. He said that he is the type of guy that goes with the flow and he is going in on the woman (making the first moves) on the very first date. Tony is right be direct with your questions, let them know where you adamantly stand in terms of your morals and standards and the truth of who they are and their intentions will be spilled from their very mouths

    • @msprettysunshine
      @msprettysunshine 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      So true.. we just need to Hear… listen.. take the action to keep moving

    • @terrell6439
      @terrell6439 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      @@staceythorpe7938 I Agree!!

  • @keishahudson6304
    @keishahudson6304 ปีที่แล้ว +67

    He be preaching! Don’t be bend on your standards it’ll never lead to happiness

  • @hellothere8347
    @hellothere8347 ปีที่แล้ว +376

    I was on the Bible app one day and the verse if the day stuck with me and I thought about Tony Gaskins first. God really blessed us with this man! In chapter 1 Thessalonians 5:12-13. Dear brothers and sisters, honor those who are leaders in the lords work. They work hard among you and give you spiritual guidance. Show them great respect and wholeheartedly love because of their work. And live peacefully with each other. Thank you so much Tony God bless you and your family!

    • @MomsMoneyMindset
      @MomsMoneyMindset ปีที่แล้ว +4

      Amen 🙏🏾

    • @nadinehughes8486
      @nadinehughes8486 ปีที่แล้ว +7

      Hello to all,I'm not a Bible Scolari, But this is biblcle that's happening today 2023,This mistreatment of women is huge,It's unusual for so many of us to be single,It's sign of times,Real 💯 percent men are kind of rare, these day's, find yr joy sis❤❤❤❤❤ Be strong ,love yr self first,❤❤❤❤❤

    • @ladyktalkshow
      @ladyktalkshow ปีที่แล้ว +2

      He has me as a spiritual witness and even if he makes a mistake he has me as his prayer worrior

    • @tlashai9902
      @tlashai9902 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Amen

    • @marilynking527
      @marilynking527 ปีที่แล้ว +6

      Amen. I def agree. God uses others to answer our prayers. Tony clarified so many questions I had about men. I’ll never be able to unlearn what I’ve learned about men, thanks to Tony! God bless

  • @Misunderstood1_
    @Misunderstood1_ ปีที่แล้ว +132

    As a former individual out in these streets Tony is spot on. Great women are being cheated on repeatedly by the same men that they're taking care of. Low self esteem and desperation for marriage has women putting up with toxic behavior just to be Instagram official. My karma for my past behaviors is that I don't trust easily anymore because I've seen great women being dogged out.

    • @1crownkyngg
      @1crownkyngg ปีที่แล้ว +2

      Big facts

    • @steph6109
      @steph6109 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      It's not quite accurate. Women who put up with that have never seen better men and think that's the best that God has made. It's that or nothing. Some choose cats, some choose the grown boys qnd try to help them grow in the relatuonship

  • @MsNebraska
    @MsNebraska ปีที่แล้ว +75

    Tony, the economy didnt force women to go out and work, Men abanding their families and running from responsibilities did

  • @ira_herself997
    @ira_herself997 ปีที่แล้ว +44

    “If you settle for less, this is what you are going to get” - true for a job interview or a relationship. 🤘

  • @maroonbloodline4628
    @maroonbloodline4628 ปีที่แล้ว +61

    I had a man call me bipolar, because I wasn't willing to have sex with him. Needless to say he is no longer around. Oh God I thank you. ❤

    • @mmommo-hx4dx
      @mmommo-hx4dx ปีที่แล้ว +8

      they all say that now.

  • @jenniferbrooks6924
    @jenniferbrooks6924 ปีที่แล้ว +277

    Thank you Tony. I really needed this. I walked away going on 5 months from a grown bum of 5 years off and on. He was cheating on me with his ex. The disrespect and betrayal hurts so bad. But I'm accepting the pain, healing and drawing on my strength in the Lord everyday. I'm so looking forward to the light at the end of the tunnel. I can see it.

    • @hellothere8347
      @hellothere8347 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      @@annmorrow7112i needed that I just really left my ex completely alone almost a month ago. I’m done playing

    • @queensun6059
      @queensun6059 ปีที่แล้ว +12

      👸many wm are w/u. been down that road w/evil👹, selfish, p-orn addicted, pedo-philia, use, abuse, make a fool of u, grown-boys . thank God u escaped. bc tragically so many didn't.😌

    • @betsyakoko6810
      @betsyakoko6810 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Jennifer kindly gather your strength for you heads up look up go to gjm make you fit take care of your self and God will bring you the right man at the right time you are strong beautifully made in the image of God don't cry for a man but to the Load be blessed stay safe

    • @naturallyaziz
      @naturallyaziz ปีที่แล้ว +1

      @@queensun6059 klkl

    • @drew9344
      @drew9344 ปีที่แล้ว

      Lmaoo where do y’all find these men at tho ? 🤔

  • @MsFitVegan
    @MsFitVegan ปีที่แล้ว +231

    Because of Tony... I am BULLETPROOF when it comes to dating. I can easily spot a time wasting grown boy now within a few conversations. What a blessing to have discovered you Sir 🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼 thank you for everything you do! I can never make the Growth Group calls because I’m running my own calls but I will always stay a member to support in that small way for all you have taught me. You sir are a LIFE CHANGER and I am so grateful to you for the knowledge, wisdom and guidance 🙏🏼 God bless you Tony!

    • @sross1990_
      @sross1990_ ปีที่แล้ว +3

      So grateful for Tony's wisdom!

    • @divinebydesignladyrenee
      @divinebydesignladyrenee ปีที่แล้ว +4

      💯 facts‼ Never lower your standards or morals. Use your intuition and keep pressing if he's making you compromise!! lm a loyal subscriber and follower, I consider it a blessing to have found you, and I'm truly thankful for your guidance and courses. You are a true game changer, and I'm deeply grateful for the knowledge and wisdom you consistently share. God bless you, Tony!

    • @Abishaiah
      @Abishaiah ปีที่แล้ว

      I concur. Same!

  • @RanaTerrellCsIt
    @RanaTerrellCsIt ปีที่แล้ว +210

    “What you won’t do, another woman will.”
    Then let her do it. I’m out. ✌🏾
    This singleness journey has been very peaceful and drama free. I’m not with the games.

    • @DF-fp4cg
      @DF-fp4cg ปีที่แล้ว +2

      Oh I HEAR THAT. Than you see how all these people getting cheated on than dumped.

  • @TheMarriedMillennial
    @TheMarriedMillennial ปีที่แล้ว +70

    Women need to hear this everywhere, everyday! ❤

  • @cynthiareynolds1941
    @cynthiareynolds1941 ปีที่แล้ว +148

    You are so right! I use to lower my standards just to settle for less. I divorced my ex husband fifteen years ago because he cheated and he had a child while we were still married. I started to go through therapy and got in a Bible and praying in bible believing church. I know my values and my strength and my worth! I don’t take any risks anymore. Because I know what God wants for me.

    • @Joycelang2495
      @Joycelang2495 ปีที่แล้ว

      My daughter was always under me she turned on me

    • @cynthiareynolds1941
      @cynthiareynolds1941 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@Joycelang2495 I’m so sorry that this happened to you. Keep praying

  • @BlancaRosa79
    @BlancaRosa79 ปีที่แล้ว +39

    I have learned that I have to align myself to receive the God fearing man I need and want .

  • @loudmouthentertainment1277
    @loudmouthentertainment1277 ปีที่แล้ว +8

    That is why women should not cast our pearls to swine….
    Thank you 🙏🏾 Mr. Gaskins

  • @joycenash8271
    @joycenash8271 ปีที่แล้ว +151

    AGAIN! I know God directed me here because I am going through this very thing.
    And I want to say ladies, it doesn't matter what age you are. When they want to get what they want, they want to get what they want.
    I was so disheartened, but refuse to come off any standards.
    And AGAIN, God sent a message to let me know I was on the right track.
    Because the worse thing a man can do is belittle and berate one of God daughters who has standards.
    God will come through and uplift their hearts and send a word from Him to say "keep standing."
    So I know, God sent this message tonight! Let them be mad! Let them walk away!
    But go to bed with peace in your mind and heart that you did not compromise with someone who promised you nothing but a good time......for them.

    • @Universaltruth333
      @Universaltruth333 ปีที่แล้ว +7

      Amen sister!!!

    • @heleyy
      @heleyy ปีที่แล้ว +4

      Amen❤

    • @hellothere8347
      @hellothere8347 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      When you said, “that promised you nothing but a good time…. For them”! That hit because my ex use to do that to me

  • @Soj-88
    @Soj-88 ปีที่แล้ว +53

    This message is helping women to change our behavior to stop that behavior.

  • @Toyed1987
    @Toyed1987 ปีที่แล้ว +12

    I’ve been married 13 years now. My husband when we were dating although I gave up the cookie 🍪, wanted so badly for me and him to move in together. I said no I’m not your wife! He said how do I know if you know how to cook or clean or do laundry! I said I guess you will have to find out! Now I see he was wanting to test drive the car and I refused! I never backed down from this and today I see my sisters unmarried and living with their boyfriends and he is not inching any closer to marriage.
    A man likes terms he is lazy! My hubby says nothing now about me not moving in with him and I think he is more appreciative of my stance and saw I was not going further into being his “wife” without being his “wife”

  • @BashaerB-h2c
    @BashaerB-h2c ปีที่แล้ว +144

    I'm a Muslim woman but what you say still resonates with me on many levels. Thank you so much May God bless you and your family 🌷

    • @MehrnoshDavari
      @MehrnoshDavari ปีที่แล้ว +1

    • @truthseeker3967
      @truthseeker3967 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      But at a Muslim woman, in your culture, or with your family, you have more protections built in against these predators bc you have all the male relatives in your corner that scheming men have to go through to get to the females. I know this is a generalization, but seems to be the case in general.

  • @latechiahogue9581
    @latechiahogue9581 ปีที่แล้ว +12

    I finally got it. These men have so much respect for me now. They tantrum and act a fool and I just look at them. Then they straighten up.

  • @GodDogPassport
    @GodDogPassport ปีที่แล้ว +50

    My only and big brother passed away 8 months ago today of cancer. He was the wisest man I knew and always quoted scripture, he answered me in parables and using examples. I prayed to God to bring me wise Christian men and women who could continue to teach me up and I’m grateful that God led me to this page this week. Amen.

    • @brittanyb5942
      @brittanyb5942 ปีที่แล้ว +8

      Sorry for your loss 🙏🏾

    • @GodDogPassport
      @GodDogPassport ปีที่แล้ว +1

      @@brittanyb5942 Thank you. I just left the cemetery and drove by the nursing facility where he spent his final months 🥀🪦 he was 45.

    • @Grateful4Lyfe1
      @Grateful4Lyfe1 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      Sorry for your loss and my deepest and sincerest condolences to you and your family 🙏🏾

    • @GodDogPassport
      @GodDogPassport ปีที่แล้ว +3

      @@Grateful4Lyfe1 thank you. It’s a loss indeed. He lived in Philly and gave his life to the church headquarters there. He was a different kind of man and person. Miss his wise guidance.

    • @Grateful4Lyfe1
      @Grateful4Lyfe1 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      @@GodDogPassport you're welcome beautiful

  • @mssouthernlady222
    @mssouthernlady222 ปีที่แล้ว +26

    Such a wise, brave, strong young man. He is not a panderer. He speaks biblical truth in a clear, honest way.

  • @akilahbatyah6505
    @akilahbatyah6505 ปีที่แล้ว +86

    This is so needed. I had no clue when I was young. I had a jealous mother who didn’t teach me nothing about men and dating. Glad TG is on post.

    • @queensun6059
      @queensun6059 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      👸bingo!👏👏👏

    • @relaxcalmnaturepeace
      @relaxcalmnaturepeace ปีที่แล้ว

      Wow, does that equal jealousy? Because mines never taught me either. I ended up with someone that I’m not with now after almost 10 years of marriage and 3 children.

    • @LiveLovely9
      @LiveLovely9 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

      Same sis same❤❤momma trauma is real and I keep hearing more and more stories about it……I too had a jealous mother. I can relate.

    • @TASHAS_CROWN
      @TASHAS_CROWN 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      Same.

  • @trincityyy
    @trincityyy ปีที่แล้ว +94

    I’m so tired of going through the same loop over and over, because of the reckless decisions I’ve made because of my unstable emotions. Tony I thank you and I thank God for continuously bringing this wisdom to us women even though it may seem though your message is a broken record. I’m currently in a season of knowing my worth and this message gives me so much hope. Thank you Tony!

    • @karenkelly1216
      @karenkelly1216 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      You said a mouth full❤️❤️❤️❤️

    • @heartwellnessandfitness
      @heartwellnessandfitness ปีที่แล้ว +2

      I need to stop but so much of my closer relatives sinned against their flesh and ruined the blood line. I don't want this. But I feel tortured. ❤

    • @montanamvk
      @montanamvk ปีที่แล้ว +2

      ​@@heartwellnessandfitness totally understand & think some of it is LEGIT torture; spiritually and maybe also manifested in the flesh. I think we are the generation to break these lies we've inherited from our fathers. Idk if we get any prizes (or get to be someone's) on this here plane, but to be entrusted/known to be the ones that will allow our Maker to do this through us can become the highest honor for us. And betchya we'll get that LOVE-love on the next plane. I'm not saying this is easy AT ALL; it's beyond brutal. But if we have been awakened to it and can withstand...
      Much love and respect and just want to encourage you that you are not alone in the torture. Speak His Word against it as best you can, or even listen to others doing so when the torture takes away your breath and voice.

    • @hellothere8347
      @hellothere8347 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Girl I feel you! ❤️ I’m never going back to what broke me! We got to keep going

  • @AshleyPrestonRealtor
    @AshleyPrestonRealtor ปีที่แล้ว +19

    "Kick rocks with open toe sandals on" killed it for me! 🤣😂 But all jokes aside, this was a great message, and one that I definitely needed to hear. Thank you Tony for your service! 💯💜

  • @kathyb5246
    @kathyb5246 ปีที่แล้ว +7

    Men can’t take no for an answer. That can be problematic and can be dangerous. I’ve been snatched leaving bruises, stalked, and even told I was blocking my blessings when I’ve respectfully said I wasn’t interested. I am perfectly happy by myself.

  • @Janae-ni5it
    @Janae-ni5it ปีที่แล้ว +12

    So the blue balls thing is a lie!!! Wow 🤣
    Yea my fiancé already knew I was not letting my boundaries down for him he was mad but he appreciates it now. Love the honesty 🙏

  • @Love_Lacie
    @Love_Lacie ปีที่แล้ว +18

    Thank you Tony! Men really do apply major pressure for that thing. Even the most upstanding admirable men I know want it right away even when they were abstinent for months prior to meeting me (whether intentional or unintentionally abstinent) regardless when they meet me , they immediately ask me to be their girlfriend, want to start having sleepovers, and all that. What I find interesting is they actually think they’re doing right by me by presenting that way. One guy told me he was dating for marriage, wants me to be his girlfriend and start spending at least one night together per week then 3 and keep working our way up from there…not 3 dates! Sleeping over! He’s 43 years old and thought what he said sounded good. He genuinely believed he was doing right by me. Good guy but clueless. He didn’t have a dad or a good father figure.

    • @queensun6059
      @queensun6059 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      👸most pre-tending to be clueless for sympathy/manipulation 101. get u in the bed fast. rushing, askn to be his girlfriend soon. to make u open ur legs quicker is play #3. bc he got 10,000 plays/games & tricks to get u on ur back faster than u can say back. aka mission accomplished.😌

  • @RareAr
    @RareAr ปีที่แล้ว +20

    This topic has been on my mind heavy the past few weeks. Majority of the time I just “go with the flow” gone are the days! I know what I want and I’m after it.

  • @C2Different
    @C2Different ปีที่แล้ว +11

    Since ℹ divorced my ex-husband & have focused on my family & purpose ❤My Life continues to Thrive! Superb Video Tony G.

  • @movievisionarena3771
    @movievisionarena3771 ปีที่แล้ว +34

    Thank you for saying this. At the age of 48 I now know my worth. I can see BS from a mile away now! My discernment is on point! Come correct or dont come at all. I will no longer settle for less than I deserve. I would rather be alone, happy, and whole than deal with a grown boy! I wish someone had told me this in my 20s though. I would have avoided so much trauma. And the game hasn't changed. These men still using the same game they were using 20 years ago. 😂

  • @sross1990_
    @sross1990_ ปีที่แล้ว +17

    I recently had to put my worth into practice. It was the greatest thing I ever did for myself. I deserve better and I will have it.

  • @loladivinitysugarladyacademy
    @loladivinitysugarladyacademy ปีที่แล้ว +19

    It’s so much psychological work to have a man in our lives that’s it’s barely worth all the effort.

    • @utamu777
      @utamu777 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      in 2023 it's only worth it if the two people are committed to moving together in purpose and have clear vision for their future. If it's just to fulfill a need or check a box or impress people, then no, it's not worth it

  • @marygp1616
    @marygp1616 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    You are literally one of the only things giving me hope in this world. Everyday I just see on social media all this crap, and men who treat women like their just a product. Thank you for being logical, kind, wise, and God loving!

  • @gianniisfire
    @gianniisfire ปีที่แล้ว +25

    No compromise Get all God's promises 🙏🏾 ❤

  • @wildflower3517
    @wildflower3517 ปีที่แล้ว +6

    Gratitude ❤, yesss! Men that chase a woman, is chasing lust, not love. A favorite quote by Stephan Speaks is; You'll never be good enough, for the wrong man!

  • @letesamimms3846
    @letesamimms3846 ปีที่แล้ว +20

    Everything you are saying is spot on truth. I wish i had your advice when I was younger it would have prevented a lot of heartache and prevented me from wasting so much of my valuable time dealing with grown boys. When you set standards and the man does not want to honor your request let him go. Do not compromise your standards he will use you if you do. Now I'm very thankful that I'm in tune to discerning people's spirits. I had to pray and ask God to let me see men clearly because it seemed like I just kept meeting grown boys. I just want to say this to every woman time is something that you can't get back stop wasting it on toxic men and if that means being by yourself then do it!

  • @Erika-be9hq
    @Erika-be9hq ปีที่แล้ว +68

    This message was so timely. Thank you Tony for doing God’s work. Seriously. You’re positively influencing so many people. Thank you 👍🏾

  • @HarmonyandHope7
    @HarmonyandHope7 ปีที่แล้ว +13

    8:01 being single may save the lives of a lot of women🙌
    -crazy men
    -crazy ex’s
    -crazy mistresses, etc

    • @brittanyb5942
      @brittanyb5942 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      Dating, marriage and divorce is all so dangerous and potentially deadly imo. I would rather stay single forever!

    • @hellothere8347
      @hellothere8347 ปีที่แล้ว

      You right that’s one of the other reasons why I’m nervous

  • @HappyHealthyHair
    @HappyHealthyHair ปีที่แล้ว +30

    When KS used to say , " you will die alone" , I didn't know that then , but I know now, " I'd rather die alone than live as a fool" 😊
    God gave me the gift of GIVING LIFE to multiply, so if that Same God sees some Man worthy of my gift, That same God who created me & Gifted me will Deliver to me that worthy man .
    Otherwise I will remain alone and still Blessed by God ! 🙏🏽 AMEN😊

  • @joycenash8271
    @joycenash8271 ปีที่แล้ว +13

    They'll become condescending. But I like what Mr. Gaskins said "I am not for you."
    There is someone else who is willing to do all you want without standards and morals, but "I am not for you."

  • @sharonjacksonakagrannij5269
    @sharonjacksonakagrannij5269 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    I thought I wasn’t telling him but I was bcus,……..
    Everything U mentioned was DNE to ME! I’ll NEVER forget my prayer: “LORD, if U jus’ let me marry him, ‘I’ can handle everything else.” Well, da LORD GAVE ME The DESIRE of MY HEART!
    And I tell U,….”BAE BAE”
    Whew,…..WHAT A WORD!

  • @KaylaDalvon
    @KaylaDalvon ปีที่แล้ว +31

    This here came right on time♥️...Thank you Mr. Tony... 3 kids ,single mom at the moment, abstaining....been 8 months..i have a long story....one day im going to have a book...i found this page when i broke down after crying for so long in 2021...helped me thru some of the toughest times in my life...im changing so much by the grace of God and i thank Him for it...

    • @hellothere8347
      @hellothere8347 ปีที่แล้ว +5

      I’m happy for you keep going you will meet the right person one day 🩷

    • @KaylaDalvon
      @KaylaDalvon ปีที่แล้ว

      @@hellothere8347 thank u🙂

  • @tlashai9902
    @tlashai9902 ปีที่แล้ว +28

    Wonderful message as always Tony, but I must say; the only reason I stopped having sex is because is because 1.) It is safer 2.) I want to honor God with my body 3.) I would like to see what man can wait. I’m baffled that most men have gotten to the age they are at and still lack self control.

  • @lindimashinini7237
    @lindimashinini7237 ปีที่แล้ว +17

    Been by myself for almost a year now, and i find myself blessed and highly favored that I found your channel in the process... thank you for helping us raise the bar

  • @temekiawilliams8467
    @temekiawilliams8467 ปีที่แล้ว +10

    Tony you are telling the truth because one thing I've learned and observed about men is that if a man don't want to do something he's not doing it. They will not compromise and they will not change their minds. Either you with it or you're not. And that's how I've learned to be and I am willing to walk away just like them ❤

  • @lovejones1897
    @lovejones1897 ปีที่แล้ว +13

    I'm married and I'm paying for it now. But I am fully at the strength to walk away. Thank you Tony. I wish I followed God before losing my virginity. If I was to have a daughter I will guide her with God but I have boys so it's my time now. I pray my husband wakes up we are separated and I'm moving in Dec down south. He is a grown boy. I'm tired and done

  • @laceygriffin1225
    @laceygriffin1225 ปีที่แล้ว +30

    100% truths that can be confirmed with the word. It will not only save you from the grown boys but will save your life….literally/emotionally/spiritually. 🙏🏽👍🏾💯

  • @Universaltruth333
    @Universaltruth333 ปีที่แล้ว +36

    We are not their mothers. If they don’t know how to treat a woman that’s their problem not the woman’s. It becomes a woman’s problem if she stays with him. I got pregnant and still walked away. Sure it wasn’t easy but I’m in the Lords good favor now and that is the most valuable validation I can get. Validation from a man is cheap. Validation from the Lord is expensive.

    • @ShenellEvans
      @ShenellEvans ปีที่แล้ว +1

      I have a 10 month old but had to end it. It hurts so bad. 💔

    • @Universaltruth333
      @Universaltruth333 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@ShenellEvans I’m sorry girl. Trust and believe you are better off with Jesus on your side. That control isn’t Gods will for your life.

    • @faitheloveschrist
      @faitheloveschrist 11 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Ou this is so true even I did this settling believing in the lies

  • @queenofthesouth4205
    @queenofthesouth4205 ปีที่แล้ว +8

    I thought about "Ernesto Williams" (husband to Radio Host Shirley Strawberry). He scammed multiple women out of millions.. I pray that all those women heal🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏

  • @OluwaAngela
    @OluwaAngela ปีที่แล้ว +6

    And let the church say AMEN !!! Tony is always dropping mad wisdom !

  • @YodyMarie2011
    @YodyMarie2011 ปีที่แล้ว +15

    This message is straight from The Throne of Grace ❤🙌🏾

  • @ladyboss2944
    @ladyboss2944 ปีที่แล้ว +14

    Officially among my top 10 video from mentor Tony. Gems on gems with each statement. Thank God for giving you wisdom and boldness and, touching lives.

  • @nellymoore9913
    @nellymoore9913 ปีที่แล้ว +7

    This is so on point ! Every woman should see this video. I love that. Giving a grown boy attention. So crazy ! That we either did that in the past or some women are still doing that. Women should be loved, cherished, respected as God intended. ❤

  • @JuanaeTheRealtor
    @JuanaeTheRealtor ปีที่แล้ว +16

    All I can say is I love this brother with all my heart. Coming from someone who didn’t grow up with a father or any male figure at all. Your guidance means a lot ! & you are making a difference. Thank you !

  • @gretiquemartin
    @gretiquemartin ปีที่แล้ว +78

    Once again this was soooo good. I wish I had done all this in my younger days. I think because I exposed myself to pornography at a young age I opened a door for the enemy and the spirit of lust was attached to me. Because of that, whenever I would be in the presence of a man I was attracted to or worse I would fornicate. I do not believe it was me but the incubus and sucubbus spirits that were controlling me. Now I’m almost 40 and fighting these demons even though I’m in a much better place now but I try to talk to women even my age and younger who are operating in the spirit of lust so they don’t miss out on all God has for them because of their disobedience. I also wrote a book about my life that’s on Amazon. Be blessed!

    • @taahiramcgee
      @taahiramcgee ปีที่แล้ว +15

      You have to fast and pray. Stop watching porn. Read your Bible and begin to develop a new mindset. Remove triggers. I realized that some non sexual t.v. show also caused me problems, so I stopped watching them. I was the same way. I used to watch porn. I used to sleep with or want to sleep with every guy who said I was pretty. I had to get to the bottom of why and change my mind. You are going to keep being tempted with it, and at first, it's going to be hard, but consistency is the key. I've been abstinent for 8 years. I'm 38 now. I can talk to a guy and give clear boundaries and stick with them. Even if I'm attracted to them.

    • @gretiquemartin
      @gretiquemartin ปีที่แล้ว +15

      @@taahiramcgee I have fasted and prayed ma’am. I said I’m in a better space now and work on trying to talk to other women so they don’t make the same mistakes but even with all the fasting and praying I still get attacked. I need strong deliverance to break the chains. I haven’t watched porn in years and I don’t listen to secular music or even watch movies I don’t watch tv at all and I saturate my mind with the word.

    • @dominiquedelaine
      @dominiquedelaine ปีที่แล้ว +5

      @@gretiquemartinsending love for sharing your testimony!! 🙏🏽 God is good! We all battle with flesh vs spirit, but you’re winning girl! God’s grace is sufficient. 🙏🏽

    • @gretiquemartin
      @gretiquemartin ปีที่แล้ว +1

      @@dominiquedelaine thanks sis 🙏🏾🩷

    • @AllDay_AJ
      @AllDay_AJ ปีที่แล้ว +2

      Sending love. Hang in there sis, you got this! God has you ❤️

  • @Mrs.smitty
    @Mrs.smitty ปีที่แล้ว +19

    This is definitely a conversation that needs to be constantly had with us and I thank you Tony for caring enough to speak on it 🙏🏾

  • @tiffanyraeann
    @tiffanyraeann ปีที่แล้ว +3

    This is so true. I’ve let grown boys walk over me for years. Finally got fed up and saw that I am worth more than that. I also saw that following Gods way is the best way. Me and my bf have stopped having sex, and you know what? He thanks me all the time! He seeks after discipline in other areas of his life and can see how valuable it is and also how attractive it is to have a woman set boundaries. I feel so much better as a woman and also our relationship quality has got so much deeper like I knew it would. Sisters, you are worth the best! Don’t settle❤

  • @Tairab
    @Tairab ปีที่แล้ว +3

    When I tell you you are speaking to me…. You are! Whew I just put my foot down with this guy. Im done settling. Thank you for this confirmation.

  • @Mangomalone
    @Mangomalone ปีที่แล้ว +20

    I definitely need all of this thank you Tony.

  • @bootzb7037
    @bootzb7037 ปีที่แล้ว +5

    It was the kick rocks with open toe sandals on 😂😂😂thanks alot for the message Tony 🙏🏾

  • @kayzaynel
    @kayzaynel ปีที่แล้ว +2

    man. i got back with my ex, we had a child & the other day i saw in his phone he’s talking to girls from FB but supposedly has never met them IRL. i feel at my lowest because i really thought he changed & we’d have this happily ever after.
    🤣🤦🏾‍♀️ jokes on me.
    he’s a great dad & he takes care of us well but i can’t deal anymore. i resent my parents for not guiding me in dealing with the opposite sex.

  • @TheParis121
    @TheParis121 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    This happens to me all the time. Men appear very jealous of me & things turn toxic quickly. Ladies, if your guy is not respecting you. Then tell him to leave with immediate effect 😘

  • @SMJTheMousedleboi
    @SMJTheMousedleboi ปีที่แล้ว +9

    You are holding nothing back! We appreciate you

  • @Rochelle-ov6of
    @Rochelle-ov6of ปีที่แล้ว +26

    I'm going through a break up right now and this makes a lot of sense

  • @nzingahoney
    @nzingahoney ปีที่แล้ว +92

    Wish someone had told me this aged 22, when I was just starting university. Now, at 42, I do not appreciate still being single and childless, and I made desperate choices not becuase I was desperate but because I absolutely know I'm wasted single and I was ignorant of all that Tony said in this video. About my value. About his laziness. I did not know that all I needed to do was to apply my legendary stubbornness to men. Thank you very much Tony. I will let you know when this teaching of yours bears fruit!

    • @Didi-fr5ic
      @Didi-fr5ic ปีที่แล้ว +16

      It's okay but come to terms with it , we as women are not taught about men but now we know , you might have difficulty with birth now that you are older but we can live a full life without children too :)

    • @nzingahoney
      @nzingahoney ปีที่แล้ว +2

      @@jamuq3589 interesting. How do you plan to find one?

    • @lovelykiyah7415
      @lovelykiyah7415 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      glad somebody being real about it🤷🏾‍♀️ because yall be living in La La Land like it's easy🤔💀🙄😏 and I just can't get that

    • @queensun6059
      @queensun6059 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      👸only a suggestion: if u haven't. please look into fostering a child. if/when u have a child. obviously it'll just be more love. bc u seem like u'd give hope and a very wonderful life to a child that desperately needs it.😌

    • @nzingahoney
      @nzingahoney ปีที่แล้ว +1

      @queensun6059 thank you, I will.

  • @damitacrockett1
    @damitacrockett1 ปีที่แล้ว +23

    Lord I thank you for this word and this man bringing the message!! You really blessed me with this word!!!

  • @LiveLovely9
    @LiveLovely9 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    I had a guy ask me after one date….and after me telling him I didn’t want to see him again due to non negotiables he disclosed on our first date….Don’t I have casual sex like an adult????? I didn’t even respond…..blocked!

  • @tha161
    @tha161 ปีที่แล้ว +12

    I need to start having my journal to write down all this wisdom.... I appreciate it... none of this has ever been told to me...I learned a lot of lessons the hard way...I truly have a new understanding of love between man and woman

  • @LACARMENMARIE21
    @LACARMENMARIE21 ปีที่แล้ว +22

    @TonyGaskins thank you again for speaking to my soul. I have been through a lot from my child’s absentee dad to ex boyfriend just men in general and I have been on this spiritual and healing journey and it’s been great! I have seen my growth in myself as woman,sister,mother,daughter and friend. And my relationship to GOD as well. So again thank you 😊

  • @myboys313
    @myboys313 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    Being created and made for the man is so deep. We are designed in a way that, this is our weakness. Knowing your value is everything. Another good one Tony!

  • @reallove5068
    @reallove5068 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Damn you’re so right. They don’t learn unless you hold them accountable and STAND ON IT!

  • @courtneylashayy8736
    @courtneylashayy8736 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    Tony, I’m speaking for all of the ladies WE APPRECIATE YOU😊

  • @rhondahart1132
    @rhondahart1132 ปีที่แล้ว +7

    I needed this in my spirit. I can think back if only I had this when I was a younger, but I am grateful to be getting this now. Thank you Mr Gaskins

  • @lynneerickson5933
    @lynneerickson5933 ปีที่แล้ว +5

    So true! I wish I had someone tell me this when I was younger but we waste time and energy on men who fool us and charm us when they are not serious. But we have hearts and fall easier than a man. Don’t fall for their BS until they show you true intentions by their actions not just words.

    • @h8h215
      @h8h215 ปีที่แล้ว

      The s3xual liberation movement pushed by women had nothing to do with men folling women or charming them, but had everything to do with women wanting to sleep around without shame. Your argument should be with feminists.

  • @pricilasanabria1882
    @pricilasanabria1882 ปีที่แล้ว +14

    You are a blessing, I’m currently struggling with getting myself back to the strong women God created me to be. It’s been rough the last 2 years going back and forth with my child father, all the confusion has really broke me in a multitude of different ways. I want to make myself whole again, the way God see me, the way he designed me to be.

    • @brittanyb5942
      @brittanyb5942 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      Leave him for good! He will only continue to hurt you and destroy your life and self esteem!

    • @pricilasanabria1882
      @pricilasanabria1882 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      @@brittanyb5942 I’m trying my best to, my heart is still there and has been for a long time.

  • @Florida_gyrl
    @Florida_gyrl ปีที่แล้ว +5

    I felt like Tony was directly speaking to me LOL! Love it! Bit yes! 100% agree! I have been single for about 14 years now. After my first boyfriend and learning how men really are I think I’d much rather be single than taken and wishing I was single all over again.

  • @Soj-88
    @Soj-88 ปีที่แล้ว +6

    Such a straightforward, humbling message.

  • @Soulhearts4ever
    @Soulhearts4ever ปีที่แล้ว +4

    Vice versa, men need to understand themselves instead of constantly putting the blame on women.

  • @cloudslady3400
    @cloudslady3400 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    3:05 the issue you’re discussing here is lack of boundaries…even if she wasn’t deceived which in many cases she knows…but women are literally not made to set boundaries with the harshness of a man…women were made to have someone else setting those boundaries for them….it isn’t insecurity it’s someone usually a father should have been there for her to force her boundaries…women should be sensitive and open and not pay a price…

  • @brendavillanueva1447
    @brendavillanueva1447 ปีที่แล้ว +6

    Because of you Tony, you have saved so much of us. Thankyou so so so much!!! Thankyou for being our brother!

  • @jessicascreenwritingservices
    @jessicascreenwritingservices ปีที่แล้ว +4

    Recently cut off a dude that was emotionally unavailable. I’d rather be in peace alone than be with someone who can’t communicate like a grown person.

  • @nettas5437
    @nettas5437 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    Please single ladies, listen to what Tony is saying 🙏🏾. He is telling the 💯% truth!!!

  • @melminus6132
    @melminus6132 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    First time hearing this brother. What naketh truth, wisdom and God fearing principles. Women please take his advise seriously. Men listen, seek knowledge, seek God and get helpGod bless you brother. You are saving lives.

  • @mattiecrosby8217
    @mattiecrosby8217 ปีที่แล้ว +6

    I appreciate you Brother. It takes boldness to speak truth in this way. May the Lord greatly bless you.

  • @BeautyyV
    @BeautyyV ปีที่แล้ว +11

    Amen that’s why I have my women empowerment organization

  • @queenkeesh8660
    @queenkeesh8660 ปีที่แล้ว +21

    I wish there were more men grown up minded instead of making them 😊 it’s so many grown boys out here trying to bend n fold me to compromise 🤦‍♀️

  • @michellelowe7991
    @michellelowe7991 11 วันที่ผ่านมา

    Thank you so much for the wisdom that you have provided. As a widow, this is valuable information!!! Thanks again. God bless you!!!

  • @akaalwayseatting
    @akaalwayseatting ปีที่แล้ว +5

    I love how soft spoken and patient you are with us humans, so many times I hear you speak to both men and women but the topic be for women to realize something about you men. Keep these videos coming hopefully it will get around to so many people that it changes our community.

  • @shedagirl1726
    @shedagirl1726 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    YOU ARE SPEAKING TRUTH!; SO MANY WOMEN DEAL WITH FOOLISHNESS