bruh, same. i think i over analyse my own actions n emotions, i feel like some people just feel the emotion n move on. I feel it stronger cos I'm stuck as to WHY I'm feelingit tho
What changed my life: Taking walks! Nothing like a calm thirty minutes of being by yourself, reflecting on things that were, things that are and things that will be.
In the far South the sun of autumn is passing Like Walt Whitman walking along a ruddy shore. He is singing and chanting the things that are part of him, The worlds that were and will be, death and day. Nothing is final, he chants. No man shall see the end. His beard is of fire and his staff is a leaping flame. Wallace Stevens
Love this! I take super long walks after work and call it the in-between time. I’m absolved of all sense of responsibility, just me, some music in my ears and my camera until whenever I’m ready to head home.
That's so beautiful showing that thing's don't have to be perfect they just have to be real Congratulations 💐💐💐 on your marriage and I wish a very happy married life to you 🎉🎉🎊🎊
I'm 56 years old, I really wish we'd had the internet and videas like this when I was about 20. It's great to see these topics thought about and discussed, not only thought provoking but also life affirming.
I am 48. I absolutely agree. I love that hopefully all of us, but especially those younger than we are, are delving deep into these ideas and thoughts.
I don't agree. The largest part of my generation is not able to simply do nothing and think about philosophical topics. This is mostly because we don't know life without internet. We don't learn wise lessons from our grandpas and other family members anymore. Everything comes from the internet... It tears families apart. But that's just my opinion as a generation z person.
I m 47 and watching this ,thinking if there are ppl of my age who are trying to pick themselves up and shape up their life . There is everything but yet feel empty and feel like something is yet to be done .
It is funny to watch how young people are messing up their life even more despite having all this help and the how tos and the chance to look everything up on the internet. The internet is the most reliable place if you want bad influence as a teenager!
@@ilinemanja6060 Exactly. The internet teaches you that your family sucks, doesnt do enough for you, and that your parents are abusive, no matter what they are doing, and that the older generations are dumb af, to be ridiculed, and that they are to blame for everything, because all they are is greedy and uncaring, and that the solution to your parents not doing what you want is to stop contact, unless you go for the things cost money and i dont want to work way of life, because then you have to put up with your abusive parents until you are 35 and tell people on the internet how much you hate them and that they deserve to die when you ran out of your favorite food because that wh_re, aka mom, did not go grocery shopping fast enough to replace it. How often I heard that from those who chose to freeload. Older people thinking that younger people are learning useful stuff off the internet just shows how they are using the internet. (Not really, because a lot of older people do not make good use of the internet too) You cant draw conclusions about others just because you are like that. Anyway, I dont know anyone age 20 who is saying nice things about their parents when they dont listen. Add in the amount of hate speech being normalized through the internet and you know I am telling the truth. I forgot to add that the internet shows teenagers perverted porn to normalize that, and that they either better be beautiful af or they are garbage who better starts crying over all the mental illnesses they deserve because they are ugly. Add in drugs are cool, love means cheating, and being straight is nasty, and you know why the young ones are the way they are. The internet is just that huge network of peer pressure getting even the ones who have zero friends.
"I can only be open to other people to the extent to which I'm open to myself." Wow. Maybe I hadn't been open to myself all along... in the process of changing, Thank you! This hit me.
I'm feeling the same - slowly opening myself up to the world, and the world has returned the favor. We really are all connected to each other in some way!
I’ve watched only 2 min of the video but I want to say already: Your smile is gorgeous! I’m so happy to see ya happy! Thank you for sharing your inner light, Nathaniel ✨
i love how he used the word “changing” instead of “changed.” like he’s currently evolving, he’s learning, and this isnt a one and done thing. i personally find myself comparing myself and idolizing self-help youtubers, forgetting that they’re trying everyday and they’ve not “reached enlightenment and perfectness” per se. they’re sharing knowledge, but not because they’re the epitome of it- but because it’s something they work on every single day. but they are pretty damn wise. -------------- NOTES: - “tell me who you spend time with, and i’ll tell you who you are” 1) “people will forget what you said. people will forget when you did. but people will never forget how you made them feel.” - “without intent, content is empty” 2) stay in your lane - it’s a massive waste of time to try to change others (and it’s not your job) - unless someone is asking for it, my time and energy is best invested in myself - the most influential people focus entirely on putting out an amazing example, not trying to change others - less tension when you stop telling people how to live their life 3) the most important relationship in your life is the one you have with yourself - “i can only be open to other people to the extent to which i am open to myself” - “i am less destructive and capable of greater generosity when i feel solid- when i take care of myself”
That's a great point, and thank you for the write-up! I think they/we all share a profound openness to the world around, and figuring out how to be better versions of ourselves and enjoy life more. We're all on separate journeys that will require different experiences that lead us to a range of outcomes. I think the best thing to do is just honor that journey and find meaning in it, because to find meaning is to find everything.
Man, I've had this same idea for TH-cam videos before but I never actually went through with it. Just exploring and talking about shit that's on my mind that I'm working on, kinda like an audio journal. It always felt narcissistic to me so I never started :/ fuck self doubt yo
@@CandidlySubtle actually, i knew they were on a break, that was the main reason for the date, but he just showed up at her house when she was leaving to see me at the bar and... well, she doesnt handled it very brightly, i guess. He kinda leave us alone for a while, but the situation overwhelmed me and i took off asap. Later that night i received a lot of questions from him on my phone, haha, it was insane
things that are helping to ameliorate my daily walk: deactivating social media accts. reading daily. workouts, yoga/stretching. drinking water and tea. sitting in the present and keeping a positive perspective.
I actually relate to you so much about not being as open to relationships. It’s now that I’ve begun to love myself more deeply, that I’m allowing myself to love others fully. Thanks Nathan ❤️
I think the purpose of that was to show contrast- it's the internal things rather than the external behaviors/habits that can cause changes in our lives sometimes.
Something I’ve been doing recently is this: whenever there is something that I think that I should get done, I do said things immediately, right after I think about it. Sometimes I only just start and then take a break but that’s better than nothing. I’ve found that for me it’s about getting the ball rolling one step at a time. I used to worry so much about planning and making time for work and scheduling etc, now I’ve decided to let that go a bit and allow myself to be spontaneous with my life. It’s helped. I hope maybe this can inspire someone to try the same
I find that a good way to manage these 'things I should get done' is to write them down on a piece of paper the day prior. Then the next morning you check your list and start doing the first thing on it without thinking. This way you don't just rely on your mind for 'remembering' you have to do something, but now you have a structured to-do list every day.
@@marinova1147 I always feel bad after procrastinatig, and I always feel good after doing the thing. So whenever I don't feel like doing something I think about those feelings
Hey, you should really ask for permission before reading my daily journal. I'm kidding XD. I'm just surprised by how much these sentences fit exactly some of my latest reflections about how I'm able to work the best. It sounds very intuitive, but you can be spending a lot of time before the realization comes to you. And people reading this, please try it out and see, it may and probably would work for you too.
To anyone who reads this, I hope you find success in whatever you do next 🙌 Your content keeps inspiring me to continue with my TH-cam channel, thank you for all that you do Nathaniel 👏
I just watched your vlog on success. I agree with you about overnight success. Personally as I grow older and develop I am constantly changing my own perception of success.
What changed my life: *Meditating and doing Yoga twice a day *The only thing that is real is Consciousness, the rest is an illusion *We are all ABLE to respond to everything. *If you do not do what you cannot do, that’s no problem. But if you do not do what you can do, you are a tragedy. *I am not my body nor my mind. I am beyond that. Thank you for inspiring people. Keep it up :)
The 4th one made me feel anxious because I still struggle with my self awareness. thank you for accentuating more on how important it is to know one self and self reflect!
@@HomrxD sitting in a nice comfortable way, but spine straight, closing the eyes, focusing the attention on the breath. as you breath in you also feel how your belly rises, as you breath out how it de inflates, you can inhale and count to 4, hold the breath count to 4, exhale count to 4, and hold it out count to four... orrrr also using a mantra... as you inhale you say the mantra in your head .. you can say “I am not this body” and as you exhale you can say “I am not even this mind” or whatever you choose. theres so many ways too, using visual images, or even guided ones lol, but ultimately what you want is to quiet that messy chatter and purifying your mind 🙏🏼 hope it works ❤️
What is changing my life right now: every time when I feel overwhelmed, or sad or not enough, I step away from all social media, YT videos, and Netflix, which used to be my go-to coping mechanism for sadness, to escape the real world. And instead I JUMP into the real world. When I feel like my friends don't care about me, I reach out to hang out. When I feel so overwhelmed my head hurts I go on a walk, sometimes I even walk to the next village over. And it's honestly changed my life in so many ways. Also, I totally agree that having a good relationship with yourself is the most important! When I liked myself far less, I had far fewer friendships, I was lonely and miserable. Learning to love myself has allowed me to live my life like I couldn't before. Thank you for videos like these!
So you’re telling me the three simple ideas that are changing your life AREN’T tying your shoe laces, making a cup of coffee, and staring at a handful of paintbrushes???
Awkward date anecdote: So when I fifteen or so I went on a date with my friend's cousin. We had been texting for a while and were going to see a movie. Coincidentally it had just been my birthday. So this nice guy had brought me a card with red roses on it and a little message. I was a bit spaced out and it took me far too long to read the card, so I kind of never finished reading it? I don't know how that happened... i was mostly worrying about talking too much time reading it, which is ridiculous, but as a fifteen year old I was having these thoughts, lovely. So we get our tickets a stand in line for snacks. I never really take snacks when going to the cinema. But this guy was asking whether I wanted this or that. I said no to all of it. So we watch the movie and have some very uncomfortable not very stimulating conversations. Afterwards, we walk back to where he has to take the bus. And again, I point to an ice cream shop, he asks me whether I would like an ice cream. And I am there thinking: do I really sound like I am fishing for food? So... the date was uncomfortable, but I have seldom felt more uncomfortable as when I actually read the whole birthday card he gave me when I came home. "Happy birth day! As a present I would like to buy you 1 or more snacks!" *face palm* so lesson learned: don't think so much about what other people are thinking, it will interfere with who you are. You cannot live your life depending on what you THINK they expect or want. I am now dating another friend's cousin. so all good. ;) (really sound like I am fishing for cousin's)
Agree with the third point. At the age of 23 I'm yet to have a relationship, purely because I don't think I can truly love somebody until I love myself. It's been a long path, but I'm definitely getting there. Largely due to self-consciousness, I care too much about what people think of me. Hopefully, I'll get to a stage in my personal development and career that I'll feel comfortable meeting somebody. Everything happens for a reason I suppose.
One of the best pieces of advice I got was this question "When you look at a pregnant teenage girl, what are your thoughts?" For years, I would see this and instantly think the worst and most nasty things. *Oh how awful of her, how irresponsible* *That's shocking she's ruined her life* *I would never do that* etc... Like, I would project so much nasty and mean spirited energy but the truth is, I have no idea what that person has gone through, perhaps she was a victim and has made a choice to keep the baby, maybe she's having a baby for someone who can't have one, maybe she's from a very conservative family and she is living her best life- who knows? You have no idea what someone's story is... But, the point was that I was just spewing out negativity without realising, this really made me check myself and what energy I give off, now I'm a lot more positive and have changed my way of thinking
I seriously don't understand why your comment doesn't have 2k likes, a heart, and several comments of it's own. Very well said! Have a peaceful evening.
" I can only be open to people to the extent to which I'm open to myself" I find that's true for some, but for me it's the furthest thing from truth and this puzzles me a lot. I do A LOT of self reflection and I have been journaling for three years writing down and analyzing every single one of my emotions and yet I find it extremely hard to let people see my inner, most profound self. I find it so hard that I can say no one truly knows me, and it's all my fault, but at the same time it feels like there's a glass wall that lets me observe and appreciate other people from a distance without being able to truly open up. What you do on your channel, the way you talk about your thoughts and how you feel, I think it's extremely brave. Thanks
To be honest. Its a process. Its so hard to fully encapsulate your thoughts, emotions and reflections and to be responsive in a clear and cohesive manner. I think the best we can do is create a focal point within your conscious mind to tap into and expand on those. We have to divide and conquer some of the most intriguing or thought provoking emotions. If I follow every thought that could possibly be remotely interesting for further expansion and dissection; it would be like looking for a needle in a hay stack. That phrase is a cliche. Anyhow, I think being aware of emotions is a great place to start understanding and managing yourself. Its not overburdening and its not counter productive in the long run. Personally, I see more damage from people who are instinctively reactive and say things that are very superficial and unnecessary. It lacks reasoning or compassion. It is painstakingly obvious when we encounter such beings; especially from the vantage point of someone who is reflective of their own inner engineering. In fact, I think the more reflective we are about our thoughts and emotions; we create a great platform emotionally in terms of emotional intelligence. The most difficult aspect about human interaction is that people don't invest enough time in analyzing their own emotions. Thank you for this channel and everyone who ponders a thought. It really does make the world a better place. I love it.
@@soytodo9520 I think it's more like a popular saying with biblical basis, there is a proverb in the bible that says "Walk with the wise and become wise, for a companion of fools suffers harm."
What is changing my life: trying to meditate every morning, taking cold showers, and the most important thing, learning how to listen. And listen to others to understand them, not to reply. Great vid
Here are the 3 Simple Ideas, 1》People will remember how you made them feel 2》Stay in your Lane (Do not focus on changing others Nature/Behavior infect put that time to build yourself) 3》The most IMP relationship that you have in Life is with yourself.
@insertnicknamehere I am studying social work at the moment and had similar thoughts about this phrase in the first place. But isn‘t it the goal of a social worker to provide tools to their clients that help them to change or save them by their selfes?
@@dominikhummel944 Yes, giving them tools, a hand, a gentle push. Like Nath said, if someone isn t ready or doesn t want to change, then it s best to let them be. Just be available for them. PS: i am also studying it but also working in a resting place for the homeless.
Two very different things: 1. To try to change somebody who doesn't want ot or is not ready yet, and 2. To help somebody to change when they want/need to, but can't do it alone.
What I love about this video: - "Flower" in the background - your ideas - the visuals and editing - the little anecdote I am in film production and your videos inspire me to where I want to go, and your ideas really help me (curiosity etc) Thanks 💖 Lots of love from germany 💖💖
Not a long time ago I came across a conclusion that to transform a relationship, one person has to change. Whenever I come from this perspective, thinking that this person will be me (even though it can take a lot of energy!), I become more kind and stop projecting my expectiations on others. I simply try to enjoy them as they are. And yes, if you take care of yourself well, you have more to give to the world. 🌎
I have seen a couple of your videos now and absolutely love your channel. What fascinates me is that a channel like this is all you. TH-cam gets knocked alot these days but the way it has opened up the world to so many more voices is wonderful. Without this service, a man, just with a camera and a backpack, who talks honestly about his experiences , may have gone by totally un noticed. The messages and philosophical tones to your journey are what draws me in. And the techne in the presentation of your life through editing and video is true art. Keep it up. Certainly making Lockdown for me much more interesting.
“We learn how to do math, right?” What we should learn as well... Psychology...learn to understand ourselves Sociology...learn to understand others Philosophy...learn a meaning for living
Honestly I don't think most kids in school would be interested in learning these things from a teacher. Its something you have to be open to and willing to learn IMO.
It was very liberating for me to understand that the only person responsible for making me happy is myself. This lead me to removing all the toxicity from my life and it allowed me to alleviate pressure off of my own relationships (both romantic and platonic). It was life changing.
Hey! A newbie to your channel and I am absolutely inspired by your down to earth, well-read, articulate and mindful way of communicating your thoughts and ideas. Your work has such a refreshing pace to engage with, and I often find myself reaching for my notebook - rewinding, pausing, and making a note. Thank you for the amazing work that you do, and thank you for being a pen and paper, poet, painter soul - and somehow merging that with truly brilliant video procuction style. As to this particular piece, I was reminded of a quote in Shantaram (an incredible book!) : "Fate gives us three teachers, three friends, three enemies, and three great loves in our lives. But these twelve are always disguised, and we can never know which one is which until we've loved them, left them, or fought them."
Date anecdote: It was my boyfriend’s and I’s first date. Except we hadn’t officially called it date. So we go to a brewery and get a couple beers. I hadn’t eaten yet and I get very tipsy very quickly on an empty stomach. The date was going great so far. He was being a perfect gentleman. So we go to get food, and I’m just feeling the alcohol more and more. I never feel braver and more bold when I’ve had alcohol. At the particular restaurant we were at if you wanted a noodle bowl you have to go and pick out your toppings, and then give it to the line of chefs to make for you. I didn’t know that. So I drunkenly take my bowl of toppings back to the table with me- I also have no idea how much time has passed. My boyfriend was very patiently waiting (and as I would find out later) wondering why I had brought back the bowl of toppings. Apparently about 30 minutes had passed...and drunk me is sitting there wondering why I don’t have food yet. The waitress very kindly explained to me that I needed to bring my bowl up to the chefs... I had my “aha” moment. Followed by “gawd I’m such an idiot.” So we finally get our food. We’re having great back and forth banter and in my drunken bravery I blurt out “YOU DIDN’T EVEN HAVE THE GUTS TO CALL THIS A DATE!” He’s taken a back for a moment. Before he gets this big goofy grin on his face and goes “So this IS a date!”. I blurt back “OBVIOUSLY, we were talking about how nicely we would dress!”. So now almost 2 hours into our not official date it is officially a date. I finally sober up a bit and want ice cream before we go see our movie. I hadn’t kept an eye on the time and we only had a couple minutes before the movie starts. I’m thinking “Oh shit” So I deep throat my icecream in front of him, not thinking about how much of a dork I probably looking like shoving icecream down my throat. He just looked at me affectionately and went “That was kind of hot.” The movie was great, and we decided to end the night with a walk. He had wanted to take me to this park that he loved. He said there was a surprise. So we walk out to this very lovely park with a pond. He gets really quiet for a moment and goes..well this was supposed to be more special. Apparently the pond was usually lit up with lights and fountains, and he had wanted to show me that. But they weren’t tonight. He sheepishly tried to brush it off and went “This never happened. Just pretend there were lights and everything was perfect.” I say back “I think its very sweet- even there weren’t lights.” He goes “I have no idea what you’re talking about, there were totally lights and fountains and everything was perfect.” To me everything was. It was great night, and I liked him so much more because I was awkward and a bit of an airhead- and he NEVER made me feel uncomfortable about it. I felt comfortable being myself around him- and what shocked me he ACTUALLY liked myself. Morale of the story is go out with someone who makes you can be yourself around and loves you for it. No matter how big of a dope you are. I loved our first date. It was imperfect and awkward. We were accepting of each others quirks, and love the fact that we’re both kind of weird. Its probably why still over a year a later we’re still together.
I just wanted to thank you. Every time i feel lost in life or generally unhappy or even depressed i come back to your channel and get a huge amount of happiness calmness and self love. Your channel is therapeutic and it really lets me realize how most of what I’m feeling is amplified in my brain and that problems are not as significant as i feel like they are.
Okay so to start this date anecdote I must say, I wasn’t supposed to be going on a date. It was freshman year in high school ( I am now a freshman in college) and I had asked one of my guy friends if he wanted to go to the movies. He said yes, we both got dropped off by our parents, he arrived before me and he did something that I never expected. He paid for our tickets! It was so sweet to at the time and even now I think about it because it never happed to me before even on planned dates and I was so taken back by it I really didn’t know how to act on the rest of the “date”. This turned into a make out during the last half of the movies and to this day I still haven’t seen the end of Passengers.
Captain Sinbad I hadn't thought this is you.Your videos are so inspiring and motivating.I came to know about your channel through Matt'd Avella.Keep doing the great work buddy.Lots of love from the country which your country(India)hates the most.Nepal🇳🇵🇳🇵🇳🇵😊😊😊
You've made my day, and I feel so grateful to found you because what we see and where we focus our attention is so important and relevant in our day today and in our lives tomorrow. Thanks for being real, transparent, pure... I feel everything you've said and what you didn't- Love from Spain!
The thing about lesson number two is also to recognize why you are so adamant about changing someone. I still fall into the trap of trying to change my family to little or to no avail. It's a let down every time and I'm left feeling misunderstood and frustrated. Then when I remember to take a step back, I realize I don't necessarily want to change them for their own benefit, but to create a space for myself to fit into better, to be heard better. "It's what worked for me, it has to work for them." - but people are different and maybe they will come to those same conclusions you were advocating for and when that happens you'll be happy to help them out. And maybe they never will and that has to be okay (except if they are being truly hurtful, then of course find a way to explain to them why it is hurtful and why it's better to stop). There are other people that will see me and hear me and that I will hear and see much better myself and it's energy better spent showing gratitude for those people rather than trying to change someone who won't budge.
I’m highly spiritual and have had many of the same ah ha moments in the past two years, but having them concisely all laid out in video form.. this is LIFE ALTERING stuff. You are helping so many. Love to you and to anyone reading this, you would be doing yourself a great service to write down his main points and read them each day until they’re second nature. ❤️
Dating anecdote because you asked for it: We were supposed to watch “Me Before You” but I was running late and based on my ETA, the movie that was to be screened close to my ETA was “Finding Dory”. It was embarrassing at first but we watched Finding Dory and then watched the last full show for Me Before You on that same day. Oh I guess it didn’t go so bad. But thanks for sharing your story and the three gems you’ve also just shared :)
The most memorable date ever was with a girl at a Rollingstones’ concert. She liked this other guy that was supposed to show up but didn’t. So I would have been a third wheel. He didn’t show so it was just she and myself. I was nervous. “ I wonder what happened to Brandon?”, she asked. Heck I didn’t care because she caught me eye in that 3rd wheel string of pearls triangle. The concert started and we sang without the other guy there. She was bummed. But I was cheesing inside because I got to accidentally go on a date with someone I adored. It rained that evening at the Voodoo concert at Texas Stadium. I mean, it poured that evening at the Voodoo concert at Texas Stadium. And I had bought and wore a brown suede jacket. But I was happy! And to top it off, we held hands throughout some of the songs and during the walk back to our cars. Odd night. Fun night. And bittersweet because she talked about him not showing which returned me back to reality. That was almost 30 ago.
Thank you so much. I have to say that I needed to hear this. Especially the second advice "stay in you lane". As someone overflowing with compassion, always trying to fix people's life, always trying to help and save anyone who is struggling, that really made me feel relieved. Your word are so right. This is not my job. And, a lot of times, it's juste a waste of energy. Teach people just by being the best version of yourself. Thank you from the bottom of my heart.
Sometimes in life you can feel lose yourself but when u watch people like Nathaniel, or meet beautiful souls. You can find a piece of yourself. Your videos inspire me and make me feel solid in who I am. Brings tears to my eyes. I enjoy your videos and point of views on life. Its rare to find people like you. Sending nothing but love n good vibes!
no man your friend, no man your enemy, every man your teacher. This is a quote that I carry with myself as i navigate relationships. Thank You love your words and truth!
You said "I can only be open to other people to the extent to which I'm open to myself" This one struck me hard. And you talked in the context of relationships. And I think same goes for so many other subjects like when listening to people who are relying on you for some meaningful words and you feel the need to be careful to not let your conflicts and vulnerability come in the way of effective communication. You are doing such an amazing job at developing ideas and being open. You're one of the few people who I truly admire for their genuine content, accessible to all.
I can’t believe you’ve just found Watts! That’s great - there are SO many amazing teachers out there. Dr. Joe Dispenza is a modern teacher who I highly recommend. And Neville Goddard & Ram Dass have fascinating lectures from the 60’s also. Spiritual science, reality creation at it’s finest! Great video, I like a mix between your serious and lighthearted ones🦋
Julia Duprey I know it! He has a way of explaining things in such an easy-to-understand way. I’ve been on this path for many years and just discovered Ram last year! And all the Kundalini people - they’re fascinating and I’m drawn to their vibe. The music has esp hit me - very healing🦋 So many teachers...in ALL of us!💫
I personally have loved the more self-reflective style of the recent videos. It's really inspired me to try and be a bit more honest and open about me and my experiences within my videos rather than just spouting out the facts and the science. Another amazing video, great job!
I agree with all three ideas. And I also have constantly caught myself trying to change people. It is such a draining thing to do... I've had to relearn it over and over again, like you! Thanks for sharing these thoughts. I was already familiar with them, but it's good to relearn them and to know that someone is sharing them with the world. Everyone should learn this!
A date gone wrong. I was invited for supper with his group of friends. He had cooked. At the end of the meal I started choking and ended up throwing up 😂 thank you, next 😂
You always seem to post content that reflects what I'm realizing and learning in my own life. The most simple lessons are often the most profound and take you furthest in life. Learning to not try to change the people around me, be transparent about my own thoughts/fears/needs, and stop assuming people think or need certain things from me without checking so I don't build up these false walls in relationships.
This style of video was a lot more grounded and closer 2 reality for most of us I guess. I love the deep philosophical type of videos where u go out and show all the beauty of the world in your personal style (which is gorgeous to experience btw). For me personally. Every evening I write down the beautiful things of the day. It varies between 2-5 beautiful things most of the time. And the Concentrated shots you used in your videos were so carefully chosen. Like the "stay in your lane" one with the forest in the background and this one clear street with a turn in the unknown. This density has a lot more power and less chance of overwhelming me personally. Enjoy exploring Nath and thank you for being 🌟
This is one of the most beautiful video i've ever watched. If you're averse to relationship during honest introspection you will probably find that you don't imagine yourself being yourself fully with anyone else. Start to imagine that and work on believing that that person is worth the love you want and or wished you deserved.
idea number 2 really really hit, i have been thinking about this for a while. I always seem to be trying to 'save' people and help them but it has been for nothing because they don't want to change/aren't ready
I would like to add a concept of Adlerian psychology to this video, since it relates to interpersonal relationships and comes quite close to the second point you're making. The concept is called the seperation of tasks, this concept states that in order to create close relationships with people, you need to create some distance. If you are too close, you will not be able to take everything in properly. Compare it to holding a book too close to your eyes. If you do that, you will not be able to read everything properly, so too does being too close in your relationship limit the relationship. To prevent this from happening, you need to ultilize the seperation of tasks; you need to carefully discern where your tasks end and where the task of the other person starts. For example, it is not your your task to change someone, that is their own task. You can offer assistence, but you cannot intrude on it. You should not force them to do things and you should not stimulate them. What you need to do is offer your assistance for when they need it, thus, you create some distance, which will be better for you and the person you desire to change. Furthermore, you should not care about what other people think of you, or what judgement they form on you. Their judgement of you is their task, not yours. You should not attempt to control or lead their judgement of you in a certain direction, for if you do that you intervene with their task. You should not focus on how others perceive you, but you should focus on being you. That is your task. It is not your task to control what judgement people form about you. It is a hard concept to adopt, but if you manage to do it, it will definitly lead to better interpersonal relationships, because it creates the distance necessary for strong bonds, and prevents misjudgements by being too close to people. Only tell them you are there whenever they need you; it is not your task to change them, that task is theirs, but what your task is is to be there for yourself and for others. Do not live your life intruding on other peoples tasks, but only work on your own. Edit: This comes from the psychologist Alfred Adler, but the knowledge I have obtained from the book: The Courage to be disliked by Ichiro Kishimi and Fumitake Koga. I cannot recommend this book enough.
´"No words just feelings" that's how I feel when I meet the right person. And when I see your videos! You have got that confidence and "free rein" when you speak to the camera that grabs our attention!
I watch all of your videos, I love to hear how you think and what you are learning. I lost my heart in France when I got "stuck" there because of corona for 3 months this year, after traveling for 1,5 years. Knowing you are 4 hours away from where I live now in Ghent (Belgium) makes me want to keep pursuing my dreams. I can't wait to move to another country again, and meet new people and cultures and keep learning new kind of ways of thinking. Started writing this and it's more than I intended to, but most of all, it's to give you the support you deserve. ♥️🙏
this is that kind of video that changes your life. the one that you write about on your journal, to always remember. thank you for these advices, Nathaniel. it came in the right moment for me❤
I've got so much to say to you Nathaniel, but all I can say right now is Thank You for making these videos and putting yourself in a complete vulnerable (natural) state. I'll probably make a video on this, to tell you how I feel about your videos and the impact you've had on me. Thank you. I'm grateful that I came across your channel.
your warm presence is felt through the screen and thats something quite rare. your happiness is infectious ❤️ you’re worthy of all the good that is happening to you right now and in the future
The third point! Its such a true process. being honest with yourself and treating myself right helps me to treat others and my relationships in the same way. Very few people can can truly face their true selves but once you do its the beginning to a truly beautiful relationship with life. just my thoughts.
"maybe I've been reflecting too much", he reflects
Oh no. Keep reflecting. I see you.
Lol this is personal for me. So me
hahahahahaaaaa
Lol Something I’m equally guilty of 🤫
bruh, same. i think i over analyse my own actions n emotions, i feel like some people just feel the emotion n move on. I feel it stronger cos I'm stuck as to WHY I'm feelingit tho
What changed my life: Taking walks! Nothing like a calm thirty minutes of being by yourself, reflecting on things that were, things that are and things that will be.
Beautifully said.
Walks are undoubtedly underrated. Especially during quarantine or for people who were already working from home.
That's a great one, I agree!
In the far South the sun of autumn is passing
Like Walt Whitman walking along a ruddy shore.
He is singing and chanting the things that are part of him,
The worlds that were and will be, death and day.
Nothing is final, he chants. No man shall see the end.
His beard is of fire and his staff is a leaping flame.
Wallace Stevens
Love this! I take super long walks after work and call it the in-between time. I’m absolved of all sense of responsibility, just me, some music in my ears and my camera until whenever I’m ready to head home.
On my first date, I forgot my wallet and she threw up twice. That was 4.5 years ago and we got married this weekend!
That's so beautiful showing that thing's don't have to be perfect they just have to be real
Congratulations 💐💐💐 on your marriage and I wish a very happy married life to you 🎉🎉🎊🎊
Lol congrats
Jesus christ
That’s a love story
Good lad :)
I'm 56 years old, I really wish we'd had the internet and videas like this when I was about 20. It's great to see these topics thought about and discussed, not only thought provoking but also life affirming.
I am 48. I absolutely agree. I love that hopefully all of us, but especially those younger than we are, are delving deep into these ideas and thoughts.
I don't agree. The largest part of my generation is not able to simply do nothing and think about philosophical topics. This is mostly because we don't know life without internet. We don't learn wise lessons from our grandpas and other family members anymore. Everything comes from the internet... It tears families apart. But that's just my opinion as a generation z person.
I m 47 and watching this ,thinking if there are ppl of my age who are trying to pick themselves up and shape up their life . There is everything but yet feel empty and feel like something is yet to be done .
It is funny to watch how young people are messing up their life even more despite having all this help and the how tos and the chance to look everything up on the internet. The internet is the most reliable place if you want bad influence as a teenager!
@@ilinemanja6060 Exactly. The internet teaches you that your family sucks, doesnt do enough for you, and that your parents are abusive, no matter what they are doing, and that the older generations are dumb af, to be ridiculed, and that they are to blame for everything, because all they are is greedy and uncaring, and that the solution to your parents not doing what you want is to stop contact, unless you go for the things cost money and i dont want to work way of life, because then you have to put up with your abusive parents until you are 35 and tell people on the internet how much you hate them and that they deserve to die when you ran out of your favorite food because that wh_re, aka mom, did not go grocery shopping fast enough to replace it. How often I heard that from those who chose to freeload. Older people thinking that younger people are learning useful stuff off the internet just shows how they are using the internet. (Not really, because a lot of older people do not make good use of the internet too) You cant draw conclusions about others just because you are like that. Anyway, I dont know anyone age 20 who is saying nice things about their parents when they dont listen. Add in the amount of hate speech being normalized through the internet and you know I am telling the truth. I forgot to add that the internet shows teenagers perverted porn to normalize that, and that they either better be beautiful af or they are garbage who better starts crying over all the mental illnesses they deserve because they are ugly. Add in drugs are cool, love means cheating, and being straight is nasty, and you know why the young ones are the way they are. The internet is just that huge network of peer pressure getting even the ones who have zero friends.
"I can only be open to other people to the extent to which I'm open to myself." Wow. Maybe I hadn't been open to myself all along... in the process of changing, Thank you! This hit me.
I'm feeling the same - slowly opening myself up to the world, and the world has returned the favor. We really are all connected to each other in some way!
I feel you, I felt the same 😊
Need to open to myself more
"I can only be as open to other people as I am to myself".
Beautiful
And accurate
I’ve watched only 2 min of the video but I want to say already: Your smile is gorgeous! I’m so happy to see ya happy! Thank you for sharing your inner light, Nathaniel ✨
Wholeheartedly agree with this! It's also very contagious!
his really happy big charismatic eyes cheers me up a lot also
I guess you grew bored not even halfway through the video. Hahahhhaah.
I noticed this as well, good vibes from the beginning :D
Yeah... Your smile make me smile... Thanks
i love how he used the word “changing” instead of “changed.” like he’s currently evolving, he’s learning, and this isnt a one and done thing. i personally find myself comparing myself and idolizing self-help youtubers, forgetting that they’re trying everyday and they’ve not “reached enlightenment and perfectness” per se. they’re sharing knowledge, but not because they’re the epitome of it- but because it’s something they work on every single day. but they are pretty damn wise.
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NOTES:
- “tell me who you spend time with, and i’ll tell you who you are”
1) “people will forget what you said. people will forget when you did. but people will never forget how you made them feel.”
- “without intent, content is empty”
2) stay in your lane
- it’s a massive waste of time to try to change others (and it’s not your job)
- unless someone is asking for it, my time and energy is best invested in myself
- the most influential people focus entirely on putting out an amazing example, not trying to change others
- less tension when you stop telling people how to live their life
3) the most important relationship in your life is the one you have with yourself
- “i can only be open to other people to the extent to which i am open to myself”
- “i am less destructive and capable of greater generosity when i feel solid- when i take care of myself”
That's a great point, and thank you for the write-up! I think they/we all share a profound openness to the world around, and figuring out how to be better versions of ourselves and enjoy life more. We're all on separate journeys that will require different experiences that lead us to a range of outcomes. I think the best thing to do is just honor that journey and find meaning in it, because to find meaning is to find everything.
Man, I've had this same idea for TH-cam videos before but I never actually went through with it. Just exploring and talking about shit that's on my mind that I'm working on, kinda like an audio journal. It always felt narcissistic to me so I never started :/
fuck self doubt yo
...ing.
Whaouu thank you for your comment I was thinking kind of the same way and idolizing maybe too much peace and love from Paris France 🌼
To simplify my worst date: she came with her boyfriend.
LOL YIKES my g.
What?? I suppose she was trying to make some kind of point to her boyfriend?
@@CandidlySubtle actually, i knew they were on a break, that was the main reason for the date, but he just showed up at her house when she was leaving to see me at the bar and... well, she doesnt handled it very brightly, i guess. He kinda leave us alone for a while, but the situation overwhelmed me and i took off asap. Later that night i received a lot of questions from him on my phone, haha, it was insane
@@agugonzalez5481 Oh okay, she didn't do it intentionally; it just happened. Yeah, I would have been overwhelmed, too. And maybe ran, too haha.
Lol
INTENT>CONTENT
"without the intent the content is empty"
This simple phrase opens a lot.
things that are helping to ameliorate my daily walk: deactivating social media accts. reading daily. workouts, yoga/stretching. drinking water and tea. sitting in the present and keeping a positive perspective.
Love these 👍
Just deleted Instagram: feels good. Thank you for giving me that last little push :)
Crazy how we have similar names and are doing similar things.
😎😎
Badass
I actually relate to you so much about not being as open to relationships. It’s now that I’ve begun to love myself more deeply, that I’m allowing myself to love others fully. Thanks Nathan ❤️
1) tying your shoelace
2) drinking coffee
3) choosing a pencil
At least according to the thumbnail.
This comment is underrated
I think the purpose of that was to show contrast- it's the internal things rather than the external behaviors/habits that can cause changes in our lives sometimes.
Choosing a paintbrush
BASTARD!!!!!!!
Lautaro Maiarú Wow I straight up laughed at that
I’m glad there is someone else out there who finds life as confusing as I do, I love these lessons
right! love u
Sometime I forget we are the same age!
Number 4: watching Nathaniel Drew's videos
Btw thank you for inspiring me to create self development videos too!!
Agree !!!
@Nishant Joshi I see him everywhere too lol
Always says something and gets many likes and reply from them or a heart
@Nishant Joshi yeah I'm a bit too much into self development 🤣
you and demetri are everywhere
Something I’ve been doing recently is this: whenever there is something that I think that I should get done, I do said things immediately, right after I think about it. Sometimes I only just start and then take a break but that’s better than nothing. I’ve found that for me it’s about getting the ball rolling one step at a time. I used to worry so much about planning and making time for work and scheduling etc, now I’ve decided to let that go a bit and allow myself to be spontaneous with my life. It’s helped. I hope maybe this can inspire someone to try the same
I can relate. I've been trying to implement this too.
I find that a good way to manage these 'things I should get done' is to write them down on a piece of paper the day prior. Then the next morning you check your list and start doing the first thing on it without thinking. This way you don't just rely on your mind for 'remembering' you have to do something, but now you have a structured to-do list every day.
so jealous of you!! I'm a master inoverthinking and procrastination and can never get myself to start my tasks
@@marinova1147 I always feel bad after procrastinatig, and I always feel good after doing the thing. So whenever I don't feel like doing something I think about those feelings
Hey, you should really ask for permission before reading my daily journal.
I'm kidding XD. I'm just surprised by how much these sentences fit exactly some of my latest reflections about how I'm able to work the best.
It sounds very intuitive, but you can be spending a lot of time before the realization comes to you.
And people reading this, please try it out and see, it may and probably would work for you too.
To anyone who reads this, I hope you find success in whatever you do next 🙌 Your content keeps inspiring me to continue with my TH-cam channel, thank you for all that you do Nathaniel 👏
Thanks bro,good luck
I appreciate that - keep going!!
I just watched your vlog on success. I agree with you about overnight success. Personally as I grow older and develop I am constantly changing my own perception of success.
What changed my life:
*Meditating and doing Yoga twice a day
*The only thing that is real is Consciousness, the rest is an illusion
*We are all ABLE to respond to everything.
*If you do not do what you cannot do, that’s no problem. But if you do not do what you can do, you are a tragedy.
*I am not my body nor my mind. I am beyond that.
Thank you for inspiring people. Keep it up :)
The 4th one made me feel anxious because I still struggle with my self awareness. thank you for accentuating more on how important it is to know one self and self reflect!
Maybe you will never see this but how do you define “meditation? How do you do it?
@@HomrxD sitting in a nice comfortable way, but spine straight, closing the eyes, focusing the attention on the breath. as you breath in you also feel how your belly rises, as you breath out how it de inflates, you can inhale and count to 4, hold the breath count to 4, exhale count to 4, and hold it out count to four... orrrr also using a mantra... as you inhale you say the mantra in your head .. you can say “I am not this body” and as you exhale you can say “I am not even this mind” or whatever you choose. theres so many ways too, using visual images, or even guided ones lol, but ultimately what you want is to quiet that messy chatter and purifying your mind 🙏🏼 hope it works ❤️
What is changing my life right now: every time when I feel overwhelmed, or sad or not enough, I step away from all social media, YT videos, and Netflix, which used to be my go-to coping mechanism for sadness, to escape the real world. And instead I JUMP into the real world. When I feel like my friends don't care about me, I reach out to hang out. When I feel so overwhelmed my head hurts I go on a walk, sometimes I even walk to the next village over. And it's honestly changed my life in so many ways. Also, I totally agree that having a good relationship with yourself is the most important! When I liked myself far less, I had far fewer friendships, I was lonely and miserable. Learning to love myself has allowed me to live my life like I couldn't before. Thank you for videos like these!
So you’re telling me the three simple ideas that are changing your life AREN’T tying your shoe laces, making a cup of coffee, and staring at a handful of paintbrushes???
😂
Took me a while...but I get it now! 😅
I WAS SHOOK TOo. NOT GONNA LIE.
Ffr
I was going to say using chopsticks for the last one 🇯🇵
Awkward date anecdote:
So when I fifteen or so I went on a date with my friend's cousin. We had been texting for a while and were going to see a movie. Coincidentally it had just been my birthday. So this nice guy had brought me a card with red roses on it and a little message. I was a bit spaced out and it took me far too long to read the card, so I kind of never finished reading it? I don't know how that happened... i was mostly worrying about talking too much time reading it, which is ridiculous, but as a fifteen year old I was having these thoughts, lovely.
So we get our tickets a stand in line for snacks. I never really take snacks when going to the cinema. But this guy was asking whether I wanted this or that. I said no to all of it. So we watch the movie and have some very uncomfortable not very stimulating conversations. Afterwards, we walk back to where he has to take the bus. And again, I point to an ice cream shop, he asks me whether I would like an ice cream. And I am there thinking: do I really sound like I am fishing for food?
So... the date was uncomfortable, but I have seldom felt more uncomfortable as when I actually read the whole birthday card he gave me when I came home.
"Happy birth day!
As a present I would like to buy you 1 or more snacks!"
*face palm*
so lesson learned: don't think so much about what other people are thinking, it will interfere with who you are. You cannot live your life depending on what you THINK they expect or want.
I am now dating another friend's cousin. so all good. ;) (really sound like I am fishing for cousin's)
Agree with the third point. At the age of 23 I'm yet to have a relationship, purely because I don't think I can truly love somebody until I love myself. It's been a long path, but I'm definitely getting there. Largely due to self-consciousness, I care too much about what people think of me. Hopefully, I'll get to a stage in my personal development and career that I'll feel comfortable meeting somebody. Everything happens for a reason I suppose.
my worst date:
she turned into the moon.
thats rough, buddy
ok sokka
Sokka is that you?
🤣🤣🤣
BEST date!
One of the best pieces of advice I got was this question "When you look at a pregnant teenage girl, what are your thoughts?"
For years, I would see this and instantly think the worst and most nasty things. *Oh how awful of her, how irresponsible* *That's shocking she's ruined her life* *I would never do that* etc...
Like, I would project so much nasty and mean spirited energy but the truth is, I have no idea what that person has gone through, perhaps she was a victim and has made a choice to keep the baby, maybe she's having a baby for someone who can't have one, maybe she's from a very conservative family and she is living her best life- who knows? You have no idea what someone's story is...
But, the point was that I was just spewing out negativity without realising, this really made me check myself and what energy I give off, now I'm a lot more positive and have changed my way of thinking
I seriously don't understand why your comment doesn't have 2k likes, a heart, and several comments of it's own. Very well said! Have a peaceful evening.
" I can only be open to people to the extent to which I'm open to myself" I find that's true for some, but for me it's the furthest thing from truth and this puzzles me a lot. I do A LOT of self reflection and I have been journaling for three years writing down and analyzing every single one of my emotions and yet I find it extremely hard to let people see my inner, most profound self. I find it so hard that I can say no one truly knows me, and it's all my fault, but at the same time it feels like there's a glass wall that lets me observe and appreciate other people from a distance without being able to truly open up.
What you do on your channel, the way you talk about your thoughts and how you feel, I think it's extremely brave. Thanks
To be honest. Its a process. Its so hard to fully encapsulate your thoughts, emotions and reflections and to be responsive in a clear and cohesive manner. I think the best we can do is create a focal point within your conscious mind to tap into and expand on those. We have to divide and conquer some of the most intriguing or thought provoking emotions. If I follow every thought that could possibly be remotely interesting for further expansion and dissection; it would be like looking for a needle in a hay stack. That phrase is a cliche. Anyhow, I think being aware of emotions is a great place to start understanding and managing yourself. Its not overburdening and its not counter productive in the long run. Personally, I see more damage from people who are instinctively reactive and say things that are very superficial and unnecessary. It lacks reasoning or compassion. It is painstakingly obvious when we encounter such beings; especially from the vantage point of someone who is reflective of their own inner engineering. In fact, I think the more reflective we are about our thoughts and emotions; we create a great platform emotionally in terms of emotional intelligence. The most difficult aspect about human interaction is that people don't invest enough time in analyzing their own emotions.
Thank you for this channel and everyone who ponders a thought. It really does make the world a better place. I love it.
We have the same saying in Portugal. “Diz-me com quem andas e dir-te-ei quem és”
I feel like it's really translated everywhere because It's a Bible quote ;)
Soy Todo yes, I know... but it became a saying. We’re past the bible quote now.
@@soytodo9520 I think it's more like a popular saying with biblical basis, there is a proverb in the bible that says "Walk with the wise and become wise, for a companion of fools suffers harm."
Si. En España igual : Dime con quien andas y te diré quién eres.
Happy if I spend my time with Nathaniel
And in German: Zeig mir deine Freunde und ich sage dir, wer du bist
"When someone shows you who they really are, believe them." -my mom
I feel intellectually and spiritually connected with you, Nathaniel. Thank you for the great content! Keep it up!
What is changing my life: trying to meditate every morning, taking cold showers, and the most important thing, learning how to listen. And listen to others to understand them, not to reply. Great vid
I love this. Powerful tactics my friend. Listening to others better is a skill I'm learning as well :)
Here are the 3 Simple Ideas,
1》People will remember how you made them feel
2》Stay in your Lane
(Do not focus on changing others Nature/Behavior infect put that time to build yourself)
3》The most IMP relationship that you have in Life is with yourself.
Thank you !
@@MoInTheCity03 My pleasure 😄
Someone once said to me: "concentrate on your own path and inspire through change" this sentence helps me A LOT in not trying to change other people 😁
Ur very beautiful :) i hope to know more about you !
"Trying to change, or save people, is a waste of time."
Me, a social worker, trying to change or save people for the best, got denied.
@insertnicknamehere I am studying social work at the moment and had similar thoughts about this phrase in the first place. But isn‘t it the goal of a social worker to provide tools to their clients that help them to change or save them by their selfes?
@@dominikhummel944 Yes, giving them tools, a hand, a gentle push. Like Nath said, if someone isn t ready or doesn t want to change, then it s best to let them be. Just be available for them.
PS: i am also studying it but also working in a resting place for the homeless.
Two very different things: 1. To try to change somebody who doesn't want ot or is not ready yet, and 2. To help somebody to change when they want/need to, but can't do it alone.
A social worker is a worse form of a cop
What I love about this video:
- "Flower" in the background
- your ideas
- the visuals and editing
- the little anecdote
I am in film production and your videos inspire me to where I want to go, and your ideas really help me (curiosity etc)
Thanks 💖
Lots of love from germany 💖💖
Not a long time ago I came across a conclusion that to transform a relationship, one person has to change. Whenever I come from this perspective, thinking that this person will be me (even though it can take a lot of energy!), I become more kind and stop projecting my expectiations on others. I simply try to enjoy them as they are.
And yes, if you take care of yourself well, you have more to give to the world. 🌎
I have seen a couple of your videos now and absolutely love your channel. What fascinates me is that a channel like this is all you. TH-cam gets knocked alot these days but the way it has opened up the world to so many more voices is wonderful. Without this service, a man, just with a camera and a backpack, who talks honestly about his experiences , may have gone by totally un noticed. The messages and philosophical tones to your journey are what draws me in. And the techne in the presentation of your life through editing and video is true art. Keep it up. Certainly making Lockdown for me much more interesting.
"Trying to change or save people is waste of time" wow!
I need to remember this one. :s haha
@@nanobot2788 very true. I've tried change someone myself. It's not easy
thats a very old wisdom
“We learn how to do math, right?”
What we should learn as well...
Psychology...learn to understand ourselves
Sociology...learn to understand others
Philosophy...learn a meaning for living
Beautiful!
Honestly I don't think most kids in school would be interested in learning these things from a teacher. Its something you have to be open to and willing to learn IMO.
Milan van der Meer Isn’t that true for all types of learning though?
@@MilanSmore we have all those subjects and it was really cool! Most of us loved it :)
@@qwertyuiopqwertyuiop-bb4mi true
It was very liberating for me to understand that the only person responsible for making me happy is myself. This lead me to removing all the toxicity from my life and it allowed me to alleviate pressure off of my own relationships (both romantic and platonic). It was life changing.
Petition to bring back " whats up my dudes" into the video
I second that. Godspeed
What about dudettes
Kim Tae dude is gender neutral
@@fareehamehmood5278 nah it's not
Kim Tae uhh yes it is
"I can only be open to people to the extent in which I am open to myself." -Nathaniel Drew
Hey! A newbie to your channel and I am absolutely inspired by your down to earth, well-read, articulate and mindful way of communicating your thoughts and ideas.
Your work has such a refreshing pace to engage with, and I often find myself reaching for my notebook - rewinding, pausing, and making a note. Thank you for the amazing work that you do, and thank you for being a pen and paper, poet, painter soul - and somehow merging that with truly brilliant video procuction style.
As to this particular piece, I was reminded of a quote in Shantaram (an incredible book!) : "Fate gives us three teachers, three friends, three enemies, and three great loves in our lives. But these twelve are always disguised, and we can never know which one is which until we've loved them, left them, or fought them."
I’ve always said “don’t stress about the things you cannot change. If you can change them then do so” 😁
u look so Sweet by wearing makeup😅😆
Strange creature
@@treeladder5338 who?
@@treeladder5338 that's rude bro
@@zahrarahimiseyfoddin1801 ik that's why I said it
Anyone else wondering if he got a girlfriend because he is smiling the whole time and this video is suprisingly about relationships?
I was totally thinking that lol
yesssss
I've always been interested about his love/dating life hahaah
I find in this video that he is laughing while he speaks all the time too much, I found it a bit fake(like an Instagram feed), but maybe I am wrong.
“You must be the change you wish to see in the world.” - Gandhi.
Actually, Gandhi never said that.
Date anecdote:
It was my boyfriend’s and I’s first date. Except we hadn’t officially called it date. So we go to a brewery and get a couple beers. I hadn’t eaten yet and I get very tipsy very quickly on an empty stomach. The date was going great so far. He was being a perfect gentleman. So we go to get food, and I’m just feeling the alcohol more and more. I never feel braver and more bold when I’ve had alcohol. At the particular restaurant we were at if you wanted a noodle bowl you have to go and pick out your toppings, and then give it to the line of chefs to make for you. I didn’t know that. So I drunkenly take my bowl of toppings back to the table with me- I also have no idea how much time has passed. My boyfriend was very patiently waiting (and as I would find out later) wondering why I had brought back the bowl of toppings. Apparently about 30 minutes had passed...and drunk me is sitting there wondering why I don’t have food yet. The waitress very kindly explained to me that I needed to bring my bowl up to the chefs... I had my “aha” moment. Followed by “gawd I’m such an idiot.” So we finally get our food. We’re having great back and forth banter and in my drunken bravery I blurt out “YOU DIDN’T EVEN HAVE THE GUTS TO CALL THIS A DATE!” He’s taken a back for a moment. Before he gets this big goofy grin on his face and goes “So this IS a date!”. I blurt back “OBVIOUSLY, we were talking about how nicely we would dress!”. So now almost 2 hours into our not official date it is officially a date. I finally sober up a bit and want ice cream before we go see our movie. I hadn’t kept an eye on the time and we only had a couple minutes before the movie starts. I’m thinking “Oh shit” So I deep throat my icecream in front of him, not thinking about how much of a dork I probably looking like shoving icecream down my throat. He just looked at me affectionately and went “That was kind of hot.” The movie was great, and we decided to end the night with a walk. He had wanted to take me to this park that he loved. He said there was a surprise. So we walk out to this very lovely park with a pond. He gets really quiet for a moment and goes..well this was supposed to be more special. Apparently the pond was usually lit up with lights and fountains, and he had wanted to show me that. But they weren’t tonight. He sheepishly tried to brush it off and went “This never happened. Just pretend there were lights and everything was perfect.” I say back “I think its very sweet- even there weren’t lights.” He goes “I have no idea what you’re talking about, there were totally lights and fountains and everything was perfect.” To me everything was. It was great night, and I liked him so much more because I was awkward and a bit of an airhead- and he NEVER made me feel uncomfortable about it. I felt comfortable being myself around him- and what shocked me he ACTUALLY liked myself. Morale of the story is go out with someone who makes you can be yourself around and loves you for it. No matter how big of a dope you are.
I loved our first date. It was imperfect and awkward. We were accepting of each others quirks, and love the fact that we’re both kind of weird. Its probably why still over a year a later we’re still together.
mucho texto
“My boyfriend and I’s”?? You mean “my boyfriend’s and my first date”
that was amazing!
this was so cute to read!
such a cute story, wishing the best for you two!
I just wanted to thank you. Every time i feel lost in life or generally unhappy or even depressed i come back to your channel and get a huge amount of happiness calmness and self love. Your channel is therapeutic and it really lets me realize how most of what I’m feeling is amplified in my brain and that problems are not as significant as i feel like they are.
Okay so to start this date anecdote I must say, I wasn’t supposed to be going on a date. It was freshman year in high school ( I am now a freshman in college) and I had asked one of my guy friends if he wanted to go to the movies. He said yes, we both got dropped off by our parents, he arrived before me and he did something that I never expected. He paid for our tickets! It was so sweet to at the time and even now I think about it because it never happed to me before even on planned dates and I was so taken back by it I really didn’t know how to act on the rest of the “date”. This turned into a make out during the last half of the movies and to this day I still haven’t seen the end of Passengers.
Love the vid - detached from reality or not!
Captain Sinbad I hadn't thought this is you.Your videos are so inspiring and motivating.I came to know about your channel through Matt'd Avella.Keep doing the great work buddy.Lots of love from the country which your country(India)hates the most.Nepal🇳🇵🇳🇵🇳🇵😊😊😊
Love your videos brother man. Oddly I have been binging on your no fap videos.
@@JonJosephKuhn dont fap to them!
@@AntoniatheUniverse does edging count? I can't help it.
@@sakshamportel7885 I don't think we(indians) hate you ... afterall we are all Nepalis ...😉
The way you tell stories !! Is just mind blowing.
When are you writing your first book ?
I second this! Nathaniel: pls write a book! I would definitely read it!
"nothing is lost, everything transforms"
i dont remeber where i read that or if it was written like that but it really changed my perspective
You've made my day, and I feel so grateful to found you because what we see and where we focus our attention is so important and relevant in our day today and in our lives tomorrow. Thanks for being real, transparent, pure... I feel everything you've said and what you didn't-
Love from Spain!
The thing about lesson number two is also to recognize why you are so adamant about changing someone. I still fall into the trap of trying to change my family to little or to no avail. It's a let down every time and I'm left feeling misunderstood and frustrated. Then when I remember to take a step back, I realize I don't necessarily want to change them for their own benefit, but to create a space for myself to fit into better, to be heard better. "It's what worked for me, it has to work for them." - but people are different and maybe they will come to those same conclusions you were advocating for and when that happens you'll be happy to help them out. And maybe they never will and that has to be okay (except if they are being truly hurtful, then of course find a way to explain to them why it is hurtful and why it's better to stop). There are other people that will see me and hear me and that I will hear and see much better myself and it's energy better spent showing gratitude for those people rather than trying to change someone who won't budge.
"By changing nothing, nothing changes"
Simple and true.
I have been improving my relationship with myself throughout the quarantine and even after it and realized that I am much happier that way.
I’m highly spiritual and have had many of the same ah ha moments in the past two years, but having them concisely all laid out in video form.. this is LIFE ALTERING stuff. You are helping so many. Love to you and to anyone reading this, you would be doing yourself a great service to write down his main points and read them each day until they’re second nature. ❤️
Dating anecdote because you asked for it:
We were supposed to watch “Me Before You” but I was running late and based on my ETA, the movie that was to be screened close to my ETA was “Finding Dory”. It was embarrassing at first but we watched Finding Dory and then watched the last full show for Me Before You on that same day.
Oh I guess it didn’t go so bad.
But thanks for sharing your story and the three gems you’ve also just shared :)
The most memorable date ever was with a girl at a Rollingstones’ concert. She liked this other guy that was supposed to show up but didn’t. So I would have been a third wheel. He didn’t show so it was just she and myself. I was nervous. “ I wonder what happened to Brandon?”, she asked. Heck I didn’t care because she caught me eye in that 3rd wheel string of pearls triangle. The concert started and we sang without the other guy there. She was bummed. But I was cheesing inside because I got to accidentally go on a date with someone I adored. It rained that evening at the Voodoo concert at Texas Stadium. I mean, it poured that evening at the Voodoo concert at Texas Stadium. And I had bought and wore a brown suede jacket. But I was happy! And to top it off, we held hands throughout some of the songs and during the walk back to our cars. Odd night. Fun night. And bittersweet because she talked about him not showing which returned me back to reality. That was almost 30 ago.
Thanks for the feels man
I felt like I was reading a novel or sumn, damn😭❤
Beautiful story man. Crazy how we will always remember 'those' moments!
That sounds like a beautiful memory man
SG Thank you. That was brutal revealing that because I totally came out in the negative but it really was a cool accident date night.
My Argentinian self:
- ¡Che, dijo una frase Argentina!
[Pays more attention in Argentinian]
Love it!
Uff same waso
JAJAJAJJAJAJAJAJA
jajajajaja este chabon es genial
Thank you so much. I have to say that I needed to hear this. Especially the second advice "stay in you lane". As someone overflowing with compassion, always trying to fix people's life, always trying to help and save anyone who is struggling, that really made me feel relieved. Your word are so right. This is not my job. And, a lot of times, it's juste a waste of energy. Teach people just by being the best version of yourself. Thank you from the bottom of my heart.
Sometimes in life you can feel lose yourself but when u watch people like Nathaniel, or meet beautiful souls. You can find a piece of yourself. Your videos inspire me and make me feel solid in who I am. Brings tears to my eyes. I enjoy your videos and point of views on life. Its rare to find people like you. Sending nothing but love n good vibes!
Imagine being able to spend a whole day with him, and just talking bout random stuff, how life-changing that would be...
"The most important conversation is the one you have with yourself." -- David Goggins
no man your friend, no man your enemy, every man your teacher. This is a quote that I carry with myself as i navigate relationships. Thank You love your words and truth!
You said "I can only be open to other people to the extent to which I'm open to myself"
This one struck me hard. And you talked in the context of relationships. And I think same goes for so many other subjects like when listening to people who are relying on you for some meaningful words and you feel the need to be careful to not let your conflicts and vulnerability come in the way of effective communication.
You are doing such an amazing job at developing ideas and being open.
You're one of the few people who I truly admire for their genuine content, accessible to all.
I can’t believe you’ve just found Watts! That’s great - there are SO many amazing teachers out there. Dr. Joe Dispenza is a modern teacher who I highly recommend. And Neville Goddard & Ram Dass have fascinating lectures from the 60’s also. Spiritual science, reality creation at it’s finest! Great video, I like a mix between your serious and lighthearted ones🦋
Julia Duprey I know it! He has a way of explaining things in such an easy-to-understand way. I’ve been on this path for many years and just discovered Ram last year! And all the Kundalini people - they’re fascinating and I’m drawn to their vibe. The music has esp hit me - very healing🦋
So many teachers...in ALL of us!💫
Julia Duprey YESS! The Angels Are Listening changed my life! Thanks for the info my friend⭐️
"I really like listening to smart (insightful) people articulate their ideas..."... and that is why I admire your channel
ShanaYardley I wonder if you would enjoy some of the videos I’ve made lately?
I personally have loved the more self-reflective style of the recent videos.
It's really inspired me to try and be a bit more honest and open about me and my experiences within my videos rather than just spouting out the facts and the science.
Another amazing video, great job!
I agree with all three ideas. And I also have constantly caught myself trying to change people. It is such a draining thing to do... I've had to relearn it over and over again, like you! Thanks for sharing these thoughts. I was already familiar with them, but it's good to relearn them and to know that someone is sharing them with the world. Everyone should learn this!
A date gone wrong. I was invited for supper with his group of friends. He had cooked. At the end of the meal I started choking and ended up throwing up 😂 thank you, next 😂
You always seem to post content that reflects what I'm realizing and learning in my own life. The most simple lessons are often the most profound and take you furthest in life. Learning to not try to change the people around me, be transparent about my own thoughts/fears/needs, and stop assuming people think or need certain things from me without checking so I don't build up these false walls in relationships.
This style of video was a lot more grounded and closer 2 reality for most of us I guess.
I love the deep philosophical type of videos where u go out and show all the beauty of the world in your personal style (which is gorgeous to experience btw).
For me personally. Every evening I write down the beautiful things of the day. It varies between 2-5 beautiful things most of the time. And the Concentrated shots you used in your videos were so carefully chosen. Like the "stay in your lane" one with the forest in the background and this one clear street with a turn in the unknown. This density has a lot more power and less chance of overwhelming me personally.
Enjoy exploring Nath and thank you for being 🌟
Is no one gonna talk how hot he looks in the beard
I will. HOT A F!
This man is fine af, ngl.
Personally think there needs to be more self reflection on a daily basis. Gotta love these.
“Don't compromise yourself - you're all you have.”
― John Grisham
Loved it!
This is one of the most beautiful video i've ever watched. If you're averse to relationship during honest introspection you will probably find that you don't imagine yourself being yourself fully with anyone else. Start to imagine that and work on believing that that person is worth the love you want and or wished you deserved.
idea number 2 really really hit, i have been thinking about this for a while. I always seem to be trying to 'save' people and help them but it has been for nothing because they don't want to change/aren't ready
Good thing you're here to remind me what life is really about
True
I freaking love this video and this new "change of pase"
I would like to add a concept of Adlerian psychology to this video, since it relates to interpersonal relationships and comes quite close to the second point you're making.
The concept is called the seperation of tasks, this concept states that in order to create close relationships with people, you need to create some distance. If you are too close, you will not be able to take everything in properly. Compare it to holding a book too close to your eyes. If you do that, you will not be able to read everything properly, so too does being too close in your relationship limit the relationship. To prevent this from happening, you need to ultilize the seperation of tasks; you need to carefully discern where your tasks end and where the task of the other person starts. For example, it is not your your task to change someone, that is their own task. You can offer assistence, but you cannot intrude on it. You should not force them to do things and you should not stimulate them. What you need to do is offer your assistance for when they need it, thus, you create some distance, which will be better for you and the person you desire to change. Furthermore, you should not care about what other people think of you, or what judgement they form on you. Their judgement of you is their task, not yours. You should not attempt to control or lead their judgement of you in a certain direction, for if you do that you intervene with their task. You should not focus on how others perceive you, but you should focus on being you. That is your task. It is not your task to control what judgement people form about you. It is a hard concept to adopt, but if you manage to do it, it will definitly lead to better interpersonal relationships, because it creates the distance necessary for strong bonds, and prevents misjudgements by being too close to people. Only tell them you are there whenever they need you; it is not your task to change them, that task is theirs, but what your task is is to be there for yourself and for others. Do not live your life intruding on other peoples tasks, but only work on your own.
Edit: This comes from the psychologist Alfred Adler, but the knowledge I have obtained from the book: The Courage to be disliked by Ichiro Kishimi and Fumitake Koga. I cannot recommend this book enough.
Hey, thanks for sharing! Makes huge sense and well-explained
Thanks soo much
´"No words just feelings" that's how I feel when I meet the right person. And when I see your videos!
You have got that confidence and "free rein" when you speak to the camera that grabs our attention!
I watch all of your videos, I love to hear how you think and what you are learning. I lost my heart in France when I got "stuck" there because of corona for 3 months this year, after traveling for 1,5 years. Knowing you are 4 hours away from where I live now in Ghent (Belgium) makes me want to keep pursuing my dreams. I can't wait to move to another country again, and meet new people and cultures and keep learning new kind of ways of thinking.
Started writing this and it's more than I intended to, but most of all, it's to give you the support you deserve. ♥️🙏
Is it just me or is his voice phenomenally calming ?
His voice is so soothing
"I went on a date--"
Me: 😳 What?!
"A couple of years ago"
Me: whew!...there's still a chance 🥰😄
i need to confess you that i felt the same
@@fernandadealencar1158 literal gasp was heard over here
FOR REAL
this is that kind of video that changes your life. the one that you write about on your journal, to always remember. thank you for these advices, Nathaniel. it came in the right moment for me❤
Hearing all this treasures make me feel it'd be such a nice thing to have you as friend. A very healthy direction about friendship.
Did I suggest you already? To read the book "the autobiography of a yogi"? If not this would be the best time to do so. Loved this video 💛
In Italy we say: "Dimmi con chi vai, e ti dirò chi sei", I was very surprised to see they use the same phrase in Argentina too!
i think it is a quite popular phrase actually, in Brazil we say "Diga-me com quem andas e te direi quem és"
we borrowed a lot of things from italian bc 50% of our population has at least one italian ancestor, we also call beer birra hahah
Well, there's analogue of this phrase in russian as well : " скажи мне кто твой друг, и я скажу кто ты"
La colonización, amigos...
Nathaniel, this "expression in argentina".... is from the bible man LOL
Thiago Costa haha oops. Good to know.
LMAO
@@nathanieldrew but is very used in Argentina anyways lol
HAHAAHHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAH
Yeah we use it in Ecuador too, I guess pretty common in Latin America
I've got so much to say to you Nathaniel, but all I can say right now is Thank You for making these videos and putting yourself in a complete vulnerable (natural) state. I'll probably make a video on this, to tell you how I feel about your videos and the impact you've had on me. Thank you. I'm grateful that I came across your channel.
I am struck by how right you are. It makes me feel that what I feel is not wrong or guilty, because the other feels hurt. Good Philosophy
Would love a podcast from this guy.
Alan Watts, YES 👏🏼 We gotta get you on Eckhart Tolle, Noam Chomsky, Alain de Botton, and Gary Zukav next!
Haven’t heard of the last two but the first three are spectacular so I’ll check them out
your warm presence is felt through the screen and thats something quite rare. your happiness is infectious ❤️ you’re worthy of all the good that is happening to you right now and in the future
I stumbled on your channel out of depression.. it helped thank you, not exaggerating but you saved a soul.
"Díme con quien andas y te diré quien eres" Saludos desde Argentina
🤍❤
"Dime con quién andás y te diré quién eres", greetings from Mexico!
"Interdependence is more important than independence." - Stephan R. Covey in The 7 Habits Of Highly Effective People
Thank you for differentiating that just because people go through the motions, it doesn't translate to real feelings in someone else.
The third point! Its such a true process. being honest with yourself and treating myself right helps me to treat others and my relationships in the same way. Very few people can can truly face their true selves but once you do its the beginning to a truly beautiful relationship with life. just my thoughts.