Wow yeah that’s exactly what toxic femininity looks like, and as a woman who’s beginning to genuinely love herself….you stop chasing the bad guys. You actually stop chasing and rewarding bad behavior. This man is the truth, so happy to stumble upon him
I see the edges of this so often and then you come along and do the bullseye, and wow, it comes together in both explanation and solution - such profound and yet universally useful insights! You are a blessing Theo Wilson.
@@acegikm you want to invade our spaces and becasue we run the world the one who have built and advanced civilization they very thing tou wouldnt have without us yet you complain about us
Actually women are more likely to commit suicide. Men are just more likely to die from it due to a risk prone tendency that causes them to take more lethal methods of suicide. Suicide is gender neutral, it has nothing to do with gender.
@@TaraCarmelina well youtube keeps deleting my comment and I have no idea why but anyway it is very short sighted opinion you have and the only reason why I am not speaking in detail is because TH-cam doesn't believe in talking about anything important and sensors everything to the point I am not even sure what is censored anymore.
@@vlirixiavee5824 suicide rates in general are going up due to social isolation and constant demoralization through fear propaganda but I agree that it is definitely and issue that needs to be addressed.
No! when the brother you talk about at 13:28 raised a valid point, you call it "blame game" yet you were comfortable playing that game for close to a quarter of an hour.
This has soooo many layers, yet I know the deeper focus groups served to address them. This presentation was truly crafted so well and pricks the consciousness of both men and women to dive deeper, including the cultural inclusion for the room.
@@Penuelism but it is patriarchy that produces badness. Individual leaders may or may not be bad, but patriarchy implies an a priori male dominance. There is no good patriarchy. Of course, there are many good men, because men are not necessarily patriarchal anymore than women are matriarchal.
@@hannamakela6989 I don't agree that patriarchy produces badness... just as I don't think parent-led homes produce child abuse. Patriarchy is a leadership system that favours men to lead. The fact that there are bad and vile men doesn't mean the system is bad.
so would matriarchy. so would a culture with neither. it is really easy to only look at the bad and says it hurts. example. exercise hurts men, exercise hurts women, exercise hurts
@@zippidisx2749 if matriarchy is defined as one's gender's rule over the other (and as accepting only the binary expression of gender), then of course that would be bad as well. I cannot think of any matriarchies in existence today, so I will comment on the all-pervasive patriarchy instead. There is no good patriarchy, just as there is no good slavery or racism.
The race which has the lowest incarceration rate in the US: Asians The race which has the highest median income in the US: Asians The race which has the highest average education level in the US: Asians The race which has the highest life expectancy in the US: Asians Asians are doing better than the dominant race in this country in so many areas, is it because we somehow have "Asian privilege", or simply because we behave better? I hope the speaker can explain to me with reasons and logic before he pull more race cards.
@@alvincyt look up American history y'all who are fresh of the boat from every race dont now what other memebers of yalls group have dealt with for decades/ centuries. So before comparing your hosue to other look at the materials that were accessable
I believe gender is not biological, so when I say "toxic masculinity" I mean what society deems as masculine and how it promotes toxicity. When I talk about masculinity I am not talking about you having XY chromosomes, because that isn't the only thing that influences gender.
The race which has the lowest incarceration rate in the US: Asians The race which has the highest median income in the US: Asians The race which has the highest average education level in the US: Asians The race which has the highest life expectancy in the US: Asians Asians are doing better than the dominant race in this country in so many areas, is it because we somehow have "Asian privilege", or simply because we behave better? I hope the speaker can explain to me with reasons and logic before he pull more race cards. (One more thing to add on 10/21/2021: One of the most successful ethnic groups in the US is Nigerians, who generally have a darker skin tone than native blacks, alongside with Indians who are one of the darkest among all Asians, and Cubans.)
Love it :). Asians have been treated so poorly yet never truly as slaves or considered legally as subhuman (Aboriginal people in Australia were legally considered to be native fauna up until around 1975). I am from Australia, when we had a small rebellion (eureka stockade) the white people refused to let Asian people fight along side of them. All the white people in the rebellion were slaughtered. At the same time Aboriginal people were not allowed to enter towns and had to live on reservations. I think you have just highlighted the stupidity ingrained in Western politics, culture and values. Often white people will say I don't like Chinese people except this one, and refer to the only Chinese person they have ever met.
it most likely has to do with the traditions, beliefs, and values that are embedded within the Asian community along with the facing the least amount of disenfranchisement in comparisons with other minority groups that exist within the US. the countries in which Asian immigrants within the US typically come from more developed countries from immigrants coming from countries on the Central and South American continent. This speculation as i have not done my full research of it, speak from my knowledge of corruption within Central America. In other words, this is my educated guess on to why those statiscis are the way the are.
There aren't that many Asians. There are so few in fact that the top earners skew the statistics. Meanwhile, the modern minority myth does adversely affect asians especially if you aren't what white ppl see as asian like South East Asian, South Asian etc many of whom are poor in America.
Funny, there are so few Asians that the top earners skew the statistics, but the top prisoners don't? Blacks are much fewer than whites as well, do their top earners also skew the statistics? And you are wrong again, actually the top earners among Asians in this country are Indian-Americans (South Asians), their median household income is 100k. Filipino-Americans are also in top 3 (with Taiwanese-Americans).
@@alvincyt actually yes. To the point where ppl think oh what do y'all have to complain about anymore when the reality is that the majority aren't doing to well even though we are making strides. I grew up in NYC and the Asians in Chinatown aren't wealthy. They make due. The rich Asians live around white ppl.
This is some of the most pathetic drivel I have ever heard. These "pearls of wisdom" that he advocates will prove themselves a recipe for disaster, that will destroy any man who is foolish enough to employ them. In my opinion, his friends tried to make a man out of him..... But his wife's boyfriend didn't think it was a good idea.
@giants fan really? Im tired of people operating on false information and hyperbole based on fallacious reasoning and defended to death against good reasoning on the contrary. so what is it that your tired of seeing people type?
It's hard enough to get white men to acknowledge privilege, even with them accounting for 44 of our 45 presidents." That's great, Theo. That's what got me my job and kept you from yours. Privilege talk is just complaints resulting from envy. That said, I think much of what followed made sense. I support masculinity, but it shouldn't lead men to glibly hurt women. It's tough to define the line between controlling one's environment and controlling one's mate.
The race which has the lowest incarceration rate in the US: Asians The race which has the highest median income in the US: Asians The race which has the highest average education level in the US: Asians The race which has the highest life expectancy in the US: Asians Asians are doing better than the dominant race in this country in so many areas, is it because we somehow have "Asian privilege", or simply because we behave better? I hope the speaker can explain to me with reasons and logic before he pull more race cards.
@@alvincyt It comes down discipline, values and common decency. We simply work HARDER at keeping families together and staying out of trouble, when compared to other groups in this country. America needs a dose of discipline. Modern day liberalism is taking things way too far out into left field.
@@axelfoley1406 While Nigerians, Indians (Asian Indians) and Cubans are doing very well in this country too and they are all people of color. Nigerians even have a darker skin tone than native blacks too. They all have a few things in common: Value education, value family and parenting, and value self-responsibility.
This is what some of us need to hear bruh. Sometimes we support this toxic masculinity & have no idea that we’re part of the problem
Wow yeah that’s exactly what toxic femininity looks like, and as a woman who’s beginning to genuinely love herself….you stop chasing the bad guys. You actually stop chasing and rewarding bad behavior. This man is the truth, so happy to stumble upon him
This has to be one of the most profound Ted talks I’ve ever seen.
I see the edges of this so often and then you come along and do the bullseye, and wow, it comes together in both explanation and solution - such profound and yet universally useful insights! You are a blessing Theo Wilson.
This man criticizes everybody equally, I like it a lot
The left is fun
He criticized men more which is good. Male culture causes more harm to other people than female culture does.
@@acegikm you want to invade our spaces and becasue we run the world the one who have built and advanced civilization they very thing tou wouldnt have without us yet you complain about us
@@HashimyHuseini this ain't the left this is just something else this has nothing to do with social liberals,progressives,or leftist idealogy
@@hbsupreme1499 Why do u say "you" as if he/she is the problem. Sounds very personal.
Men are suffering and the culture is turning them from caring pragmatic people into soulless helpless suicidal adults. Also they are privileged.
Actually women are more likely to commit suicide. Men are just more likely to die from it due to a risk prone tendency that causes them to take more lethal methods of suicide. Suicide is gender neutral, it has nothing to do with gender.
@@TaraCarmelina well youtube keeps deleting my comment and I have no idea why but anyway it is very short sighted opinion you have and the only reason why I am not speaking in detail is because TH-cam doesn't believe in talking about anything important and sensors everything to the point I am not even sure what is censored anymore.
the female suicide rate is going up
@@vlirixiavee5824 suicide rates in general are going up due to social isolation and constant demoralization through fear propaganda but I agree that it is definitely and issue that needs to be addressed.
then why would you say men instead of people
I enjoyed listening to your view point. Ty Theo w.
No! when the brother you talk about at 13:28 raised a valid point, you call it "blame game" yet you were comfortable playing that game for close to a quarter of an hour.
This has soooo many layers, yet I know the deeper focus groups served to address them. This presentation was truly crafted so well and pricks the consciousness of both men and women to dive deeper, including the cultural inclusion for the room.
Patriarchy hurts women. Patriarchy hurts men. Patriarchy hurts.
Nothing wrong with patriarchy or matriarchy. We mustn't mistake bad people and bad behaviour for male leadership. Most male leadership is good.
@@Penuelism but it is patriarchy that produces badness. Individual leaders may or may not be bad, but patriarchy implies an a priori male dominance. There is no good patriarchy. Of course, there are many good men, because men are not necessarily patriarchal anymore than women are matriarchal.
@@hannamakela6989 I don't agree that patriarchy produces badness... just as I don't think parent-led homes produce child abuse.
Patriarchy is a leadership system that favours men to lead. The fact that there are bad and vile men doesn't mean the system is bad.
so would matriarchy. so would a culture with neither. it is really easy to only look at the bad and says it hurts. example. exercise hurts men, exercise hurts women, exercise hurts
@@zippidisx2749 if matriarchy is defined as one's gender's rule over the other (and as accepting only the binary expression of gender), then of course that would be bad as well. I cannot think of any matriarchies in existence today, so I will comment on the all-pervasive patriarchy instead. There is no good patriarchy, just as there is no good slavery or racism.
Western society is over sexualized and social media gives people to many options.
And who's over sexualized it? Men.
@@acegikm OnlyFans, tiktok challenges, and WAP are perpetuated by Women.
@@acegikm Wrong. Both genders.
Women know it and they love it.
@@NarutofightsHD1 til tic is a stretch and it's owned by and eastern company (China)
@@hbsupreme1499 And.......
This man is brilliant!!!
Brilliant? People had said those things before him.
What rights and privileges do I have as a male that you dont as a woman?... women can't even use 2 damn seconds of their brain to answer this question
Well done son. That was a great speech.
Judging by the ratings on other videos on the same topic, this could've been a lot worse.
He spoke his/our truth to a room full of white people! I appreciate that he shared his message with compassion and honesty. Excellent!
What's that matter? Dude spoke some truth, can't we just leave it at that?
Funny..I saw asians and hispanics and others in the audience too.
The race which has the lowest incarceration rate in the US: Asians
The race which has the highest median income in the US: Asians
The race which has the highest average education level in the US: Asians
The race which has the highest life expectancy in the US: Asians
Asians are doing better than the dominant race in this country in so many areas, is it because we somehow have "Asian privilege", or simply because we behave better? I hope the speaker can explain to me with reasons and logic before he pull more race cards.
@@alvincyt look up American history y'all who are fresh of the boat from every race dont now what other memebers of yalls group have dealt with for decades/ centuries. So before comparing your hosue to other look at the materials that were accessable
@@hbsupreme1499 How about starting with pointing out which part I said is factually wrong? 🤣🤣🤣
This was amazing and I’m sharing on every platform I have
Not many things enrage men quite so much as a simple request to do better.
Eloquence, focused intent and truth that resonates to action are my feelings. Thank you Theo. Let's keep training the dog within us.
Pander fest...steve harvey's little clone.
We found the beater.
What would you say?
😂😂😂😂 I think bro means well & brings up solid points. We definitely have to do better by our Women. But yea😂🤦🏽♂️
Excellent
I believe gender is not biological, so when I say "toxic masculinity" I mean what society deems as masculine and how it promotes toxicity. When I talk about masculinity I am not talking about you having XY chromosomes, because that isn't the only thing that influences gender.
LOVED THIS!!!!
this guy went from old fashioned to woke.....lemme know when he's red-pilled....
I can't help but immediately think of Jordan Peterson everytime I hear someone discuss any matter related to manhood.
And everytime I hear the name of Jordan Peterson I can't help but immediately think of a little PP.
Oh please....
Small minded comment.
No women president. You didn't mention that.
This was great!
The race which has the lowest incarceration rate in the US: Asians
The race which has the highest median income in the US: Asians
The race which has the highest average education level in the US: Asians
The race which has the highest life expectancy in the US: Asians
Asians are doing better than the dominant race in this country in so many areas, is it because we somehow have "Asian privilege", or simply because we behave better? I hope the speaker can explain to me with reasons and logic before he pull more race cards.
(One more thing to add on 10/21/2021: One of the most successful ethnic groups in the US is Nigerians, who generally have a darker skin tone than native blacks, alongside with Indians who are one of the darkest among all Asians, and Cubans.)
Love it :). Asians have been treated so poorly yet never truly as slaves or considered legally as subhuman (Aboriginal people in Australia were legally considered to be native fauna up until around 1975). I am from Australia, when we had a small rebellion (eureka stockade) the white people refused to let Asian people fight along side of them. All the white people in the rebellion were slaughtered. At the same time Aboriginal people were not allowed to enter towns and had to live on reservations. I think you have just highlighted the stupidity ingrained in Western politics, culture and values. Often white people will say I don't like Chinese people except this one, and refer to the only Chinese person they have ever met.
it most likely has to do with the traditions, beliefs, and values that are embedded within the Asian community along with the facing the least amount of disenfranchisement in comparisons with other minority groups that exist within the US. the countries in which Asian immigrants within the US typically come from more developed countries from immigrants coming from countries on the Central and South American continent. This speculation as i have not done my full research of it, speak from my knowledge of corruption within Central America. In other words, this is my educated guess on to why those statiscis are the way the are.
There aren't that many Asians. There are so few in fact that the top earners skew the statistics. Meanwhile, the modern minority myth does adversely affect asians especially if you aren't what white ppl see as asian like South East Asian, South Asian etc many of whom are poor in America.
Funny, there are so few Asians that the top earners skew the statistics, but the top prisoners don't? Blacks are much fewer than whites as well, do their top earners also skew the statistics?
And you are wrong again, actually the top earners among Asians in this country are Indian-Americans (South Asians), their median household income is 100k. Filipino-Americans are also in top 3 (with Taiwanese-Americans).
@@alvincyt actually yes. To the point where ppl think oh what do y'all have to complain about anymore when the reality is that the majority aren't doing to well even though we are making strides. I grew up in NYC and the Asians in Chinatown aren't wealthy. They make due. The rich Asians live around white ppl.
This is some of the most pathetic drivel I have ever heard. These "pearls of wisdom" that he advocates will prove themselves a recipe for disaster, that will destroy any man who is foolish enough to employ them. In my opinion, his friends tried to make a man out of him..... But his wife's boyfriend didn't think it was a good idea.
I call b.s. He had some good points but he's wrong. Even a broke clock is right twice a day.
Go seek a therapist, or cry into a pillow.
@@annt.7785 Cuz you love his nonsense
🔥
Feminists are saying this for decades and they are getting insulted, when a men comes up with this, he is a hero and he gets an standing ovation 😂😂
Sometimes, the messager makes the difference.
dont really agree with alot of what he says but the way he speaks is great and he makes some valid points
There were a lot of quotables in this
I have always been male and white but neither have ever benefited me so can someone tell me where my privilege went?
White men have benefited from everything in America that is your privilege.
It’s not our privilege it’s their racism.
@giants fan really? Im tired of people operating on false information and hyperbole based on fallacious reasoning and defended to death against good reasoning on the contrary. so what is it that your tired of seeing people type?
SMH…don’t see his privilege???
that's the point. you're not supposed to be able to recognize it
Honestly this is just pathetic
It's hard enough to get white men to acknowledge privilege, even with them accounting for 44 of our 45 presidents." That's great, Theo. That's what got me my job and kept you from yours. Privilege talk is just complaints resulting from envy. That said, I think much of what followed made sense. I support masculinity, but it shouldn't lead men to glibly hurt women. It's tough to define the line between controlling one's environment and controlling one's mate.
The race which has the lowest incarceration rate in the US: Asians
The race which has the highest median income in the US: Asians
The race which has the highest average education level in the US: Asians
The race which has the highest life expectancy in the US: Asians
Asians are doing better than the dominant race in this country in so many areas, is it because we somehow have "Asian privilege", or simply because we behave better? I hope the speaker can explain to me with reasons and logic before he pull more race cards.
some people have far more privilege than other people for sure it ain't always connected to race.
That's the Apex fallacy.
@@alvincyt It comes down discipline, values and common decency.
We simply work HARDER at keeping families together and staying out of trouble, when compared to other groups in this country.
America needs a dose of discipline. Modern day liberalism is taking things way too far out into left field.
@@axelfoley1406 While Nigerians, Indians (Asian Indians) and Cubans are doing very well in this country too and they are all people of color. Nigerians even have a darker skin tone than native blacks too.
They all have a few things in common: Value education, value family and parenting, and value self-responsibility.
He said something's right but using that to assert wrong is not okay.