If you feel like you have to hide the relationship and you know it will hurt your partner and family. It's an affair. And you are playing with FIRE putting yourself in that position to move it further. IMO it may be worse. When you have an Individual going to someone else to make them feel better instead of their spouse, ESPECIALLY when they are consoling eachother and turning to eachother about their unhappy marriages instead of working it out with their spouses.
I think the biggest issue with emotional affairs is that it is harder to emotionally connect with a spouse who is in love with someone else, and that is at the detriment of the marriage.
Very irrealistic view of the world. If you are married to someone that doesn’t have the same psychic patterns for years and you meet someone where your psyche awakens it’s not something avoidable. People could be more rational and realistic about these things. You can awake physically, emotionally, mentally or spiritually by another’s person system that operates in unison with you. It happens. And life moves on after all this is not new and EVERYBODY knows about that it.
Emotional affairs hurt so much, even though I think it was also physical. I’m going on two years. He had an affair with our neighbor and our daughter’s soccer coach. He left me for her. She is also married with children.
An emotional affair means nothing has happened - yet, it is just a matter of time before it does. An emotional affair is how an affair starts for most women. The fact that you are in an emotional affair means your spouse is excluded and that you are not connecting with her/him when you should be. Taking a man for example, it is just a matter of time before the man starts discussing his wife's shortcomings with his "emotional friend" and in effect giving her inside info on what she should not be doing if she wants to please him. So it is just a matter of time. Now with phones and social media it is really easy for it to happen so all your accounts, phone, etc. should be accessible to your spouse any time. There is no way in which an open marriage can work, it goes against the very definition of marriage. If you need an open marriage, you should not be married because you really are testing the waters with a backup plan in case you find out you are not as desirable as you thought you were.
Over and over "traveling for work" seems to always cause these problems. Although, of course it isn't the only cause. It's very frustrating that affairs of every kind is so common. 🤦🏾♀️
Can a person who is in a limerent affair choose to be with their spouse and end the affair? Can they choose to detox from the affair and come back to the marriage or do you just have to wait until the limerence ends?
I think yes. Waiting for the limerence to end is a dicy option. To be with your spouse will take a deliberate effort if you are in an affair. Not sure what the best thing is, i.e. to tell them about it or not. Sometimes I think taking the affair to your grave is the best overall, if all ties have been broken and the affair has ended, never to be repeated again, what good will telling the spouse really do. Maybe I'm wrong.
I had an emotional affair. But I had an emotionally unavailable husband. If you don’t enjoy emotional intimacy with your partner you shouldn’t be married. He didn’t and now we’re divorced.
ok so does anything suppose to change or should we fix a marriage where the husband got caught and probably would of continued if he hadn’t got caught , how do you find this answer from your husband , so meaning it would of continued and if not got caught they would of continued this behavior and still can’t tell the truth and i do believe in you believing in your gut instincts especially if they are a serial cheater for years, so yes the spouse aloud this behavior to continue, even though they promised it wouldn’t happen again but it did happen again , now what , let them continuing this behavior and continue to hurt you ?
I'm referring to between the 0:30 and 1:00 mark Mrs Holmes says she recorded a video and doesn't know when it's going to be posted and dropped the term "micro cheating"
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If you feel like you have to hide the relationship and you know it will hurt your partner and family. It's an affair. And you are playing with FIRE putting yourself in that position to move it further. IMO it may be worse. When you have an Individual going to someone else to make them feel better instead of their spouse, ESPECIALLY when they are consoling eachother and turning to eachother about their unhappy marriages instead of working it out with their spouses.
I think the biggest issue with emotional affairs is that it is harder to emotionally connect with a spouse who is in love with someone else, and that is at the detriment of the marriage.
After emotional affair there will be physical inevitably. Why wait and lose time. Cut off cheater and move on. Life is too short to fix unfixable.
Holding hands DOES COUNT!!
If you can't do it infront of your spouse, you have crossed the line.
Too many partners are jealous and make life miserable.
Totally agree
Very irrealistic view of the world. If you are married to someone that doesn’t have the same psychic patterns for years and you meet someone where your psyche awakens it’s not something avoidable.
People could be more rational and realistic about these things.
You can awake physically, emotionally, mentally or spiritually by another’s person system that operates in unison with you.
It happens.
And life moves on after all this is not new and EVERYBODY knows about that it.
Emotional affairs hurt so much, even though I think it was also physical. I’m going on two years. He had an affair with our neighbor and our daughter’s soccer coach. He left me for her. She is also married with children.
An emotional affair means nothing has happened - yet, it is just a matter of time before it does. An emotional affair is how an affair starts for most women. The fact that you are in an emotional affair means your spouse is excluded and that you are not connecting with her/him when you should be. Taking a man for example, it is just a matter of time before the man starts discussing his wife's shortcomings with his "emotional friend" and in effect giving her inside info on what she should not be doing if she wants to please him. So it is just a matter of time. Now with phones and social media it is really easy for it to happen so all your accounts, phone, etc. should be accessible to your spouse any time.
There is no way in which an open marriage can work, it goes against the very definition of marriage. If you need an open marriage, you should not be married because you really are testing the waters with a backup plan in case you find out you are not as desirable as you thought you were.
Over and over "traveling for work" seems to always cause these problems.
Although, of course it isn't the only cause.
It's very frustrating that affairs of every kind is so common. 🤦🏾♀️
Great Topic
Can a person who is in a limerent affair choose to be with their spouse and end the affair? Can they choose to detox from the affair and come back to the marriage or do you just have to wait until the limerence ends?
I think yes. Waiting for the limerence to end is a dicy option. To be with your spouse will take a deliberate effort if you are in an affair. Not sure what the best thing is, i.e. to tell them about it or not. Sometimes I think taking the affair to your grave is the best overall, if all ties have been broken and the affair has ended, never to be repeated again, what good will telling the spouse really do. Maybe I'm wrong.
@@witblitsfpv1265 I was thinking more about the betrayed partners perspective. But okay.
@@witblitsfpv1265I agree. There is no use in telling them, just makes things worse
Staying together for lack of something better?
I had an emotional affair. But I had an emotionally unavailable husband. If you don’t enjoy emotional intimacy with your partner you shouldn’t be married. He didn’t and now we’re divorced.
ok so does anything suppose to change or should we fix a marriage where the husband got caught and probably would of continued if he hadn’t got caught , how do you find this answer from your husband , so meaning it would of continued and if not got caught they would of continued this behavior and still can’t tell the truth and i do believe in you believing in your gut instincts especially if they are a serial cheater for years, so yes the spouse aloud this behavior to continue, even though they promised it wouldn’t happen again but it did happen again , now what , let them continuing this behavior and continue to hurt you ?
Can you provide a link for the video that was made by Mrs holmes?
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Will this course benefit if only the spouse that is being cheated on takes it or do both partners have to take it.?
If you're referring to the Save My Marriage Program, it is designed for either or both spouses. It doesn't require both spouses
I'm referring to between the 0:30 and 1:00 mark Mrs Holmes says she recorded a video and doesn't know when it's going to be posted and dropped the term "micro cheating"
So I heard this on one of the videos.What do you do when you have been de eroticised?
when you are in a shity marriage why should you remain in that shity marriage