They were eating the business money right from time. 😂 I know what this thing is, my mother suffered this thing too. My dad gave her some money to add to her capital to open a provision and continence store. And all of a sudden he stopped carrying any of the bills in the house everything was on my mother. Including fuel for his car and other many expenses. All her five children including my dad too until the business crashed. So it’s normal when you start a new business, you don’t eat from the profit for at least 6months. If at all you are eating the profit it shouldn’t be so much. I understand them both, the man was magnifying the business gain in his mind thinking that house expenses cannot finish the profit dey play. Nothing eats up money like home expenses especially when kids are involved.
The man feels robbed and is frustrated by the failure of his first business and is now scapegoating his wife. 80% of all new businesses fail even in good economies, it might be higher in Nigeria where there are no stats. I wish he would get over his hurt and reclaim his family since there are no accusations of serious issues such as domestic violence, infidelity, etc. Throwing away his family at this point would be a double tragedy.
Honestly. He has a good wife. it's just lack of business sense which led to the failure of the business that is frustrating the man. And he is now channeling the blames on the woman
This problem is the situation in the country, you will think that someone is behind your predicament, this lady has know fault at all, you should have set apart some money for the personal used,and not touch business money at all, please take back your wife,the way she spoke she definitely knows what she wants, please don't destroy this family,it shall pass in Jesus name.
They were eating from the capital unknowingly. Business needs time to grow and less profit at start. The same way he came back and rush marriage, the same way he's expecting business turn over
I think the man is not in love again, but seems the lady still wants the marriage. There’s something likeable and mature about these two. It’s unfortunate the marriage has gone bad. I think the man blaming the woman for the business failure is not fair. Nigeria probably happened to them. Very articulate and fluent couple.
Immediate he saw the business not going as he wished, he should have returned back to Dubai... Unless their is more to the story, He could have had another family... Or investments that didn't profit well also.
@@chukwukadibiaokonkwo3973building what?? Do you know her personally? Una go just open mouth waaa start to talk…. Once it concerns women body go dey pepper una
She is irresponsible. She says she told him taking money indiscriminately from the business would ruin the business but she is the one who decided to take a (usually expensube) trip back to the village. And she was also asking for a househlep. Where did she think the money was going to come from since she already thinks (as she claims) that the business is going bad as a result of expenditure for the upkeep of the home?
The woman seems very humble. Its unfortunate the husband became her boss and she didn't managed the business well as expected. Theyll have s beautiful marriage if the business hasnt been in between them.
You're funny, even you I love you but the reason why I referred to her was how she'd feel so comfortable advising couples to solve their problem amicably.
I have said this before now, from siblings to parents to wife and in-laws, do business with them on your peril. I learn in a had way after making some mistakes. I rather do give away with my money than doing business with close relatives.
The lady is amazing! He should have provided a separate account for living expenses and set a monthly salary for his wife. He didn't monitor the expenses against the profit!
The main issue here is money-, money has finished and d man is unhappy... the fact is that it's not the marriage the man is unhappy about, it's d fact that money has finished. May God bless every man with unending financial resources to keep being man enough. Amen.
I know the man is angry but from my observation, the woman was living a lavished lifestyle when the business was booming and did not bother about its falling. She is the type that has the mentality that whatever it is, my husband must find a way to take care of me. If not, she would had raised alarm when the business was going down. I am also suspecting her family members. They were not helping matters with demands too
Business was not even booming… yet there was so much money to do many things… 3 years? Plus house renovation in the village? Thats a lot of money… the man himself slack. He is not good with money management.
As a product of parents like this (similar toxic personality) instead of pointing fingers, it's ok to take personal accountability first, instead of finding fault with the other party. Only then can both come together, admit their own mistakes aka (showing maturity). And find a way together as a couple on how to move forward. And please be careful of how you speak about each other (there is power in the tongue) 🙏🏾 I had to learn all this myself. Parents please don't forget your children they are the ones suffering the most. I was one of them (currently 23)
Sorry, I'm also one from a toxic marriage... And I've grown up not being able to have a steady relationship with anyone of the opposite sex...still struggling to find healing from my childhood experiences...and still unmarried at 43.
When running a business with your significant other, it is important that you have each person's role clearly stated out. Doing business with ones spouse can be a very good thing if well done but if not well done, it can ruin the most beautiful relationship.
Culturally, we have a way of blaming our misfortunes on women. It was obvious the business wasn't viable and its collapse was imminent. I empathize with the lady.
No that is not the problem here, her family is more in the marriage and she is the type want to do everything for her family they control her, that is why a day for them to go back they ask the lady to come so the husband can come over and, she don't have her own opinion in her home her family chose what she will do. Brother no marry from a family that your mother in law will be the one telling your wife what to do. I want to tell you that the woman build the house
@@Mariamsadventure Both of you proved the commentators point. Both of them are to blame as the business is both of their responsibility. Not just the lady (besides the lady was even the one that gave an accurate business analysis of the problems their business was facing)
@@ikennachukwuka2113Both of you proved the commentators point. Both of them are to blame as the business is both of their responsibility. Not just the lady (besides the lady was even the one that gave an accurate business analysis of the problems their business was facing)
Never put any of your relationships close to a new business, because they would think stealing from you is normal. I took my family off from my building construction when i quickly discovered the habit of unseriousness and high demand of products money. So i finally gave it to someone i can shout on if he's not doing what i want and now i spent less that what i was spending before. I hope they can still reconcile and rebuild their mistakes.
And the Europeans come there and have no problem, because they just sit back and allow them.. I don't understand, with as many Africans compared to them reading in Africa, how can this be allowed? Very sad.
Honestly, the family doesn't need to break up. The wife still loves her husband, so the man should soften his heart and accept his wife back ; reconciliation and new strategies are what the family needs. Trust me, finding a beautiful, intelligent and hardworking woman, in modern time, is like a cow passing through the eyes of a needle!!! Man, GO BACK Home!!! The street are not smiling oooo !!! 😔😔😔!
That woman is purely narcissistic and very toxic, energy don't lie, and it's has affected the man's fortune, she will want to stay because shes benefiting from the mans energy as hes going down she will be progressing unknowingly to the man..these are deep things only the selective few understands..
They really need counseling at this moment,it had happened it has happened,its not easy running a business in this country,they should try and resolve everything because of the children ,no marriage is perfect,it is well.
Happy weekend everyone please always be patient to each other because you guys have children together and you guys try to love each other again I know that love is not enough but be patient
This man is just feeling frustrated because of his business failure. The wife is the easiest person to blame for the failure. This couple is a strong workforce with a perfect counseling and business orientation.... God help them
I have date someone like this woman, they will always say the relationship is perfect and we understand ourselves but am not happy with the relationship
As someone who managed shops for my late mum, i know exactly what the wife did. It’s never regarded as stealing 😂but it is. During daily sales we do something called partial remittance. So then when you make sales 150k in a day, you only write 120k as daily sales and have to do right it in a book, it’s might not be much but because it’s a daily act it will later emerge into something big. The mistake she made was to renovate her father’s house with those personal savings from the business instead of giving her husband since they were in a bad financial state. She should have used it for something that would benefit the family.
Sometimes we don't listen, she mentioned that before collects money she tells him and she records whatever she collects. They do all their expenses from the business, when she complained to him he said will they stave. She even suggested to work but he complained that she doesn't want to help him grow his business. He's just frustrated that things didn't go as he planned. She also mentioned that the profit coming from the business is small.
I totally understand what went wrong. The man is the first Igbo man I know who doesn't know how to do business. How can you be making expenses directly from sales? You're eating the chicken laying the eggs already.
This man is putting unnecessary blame on the wife. Business takes time to grow. Never automatic. The.method of running the business and fund is poor. Oga left madam to be doing his business, who does that. As a new business he ought to take it to a level before leaving the wife to mamage it after teaching her the business route. I wandered where he goes after dropping the wife in the shop in the morning. Oga take responsibility. Your wife did not squander your money.. Stay and grow ur business. Let madam go and find her own job as she suggested. This will enable u know how the business is doing. Don't trade blame. With the attitude i perceive from your narrative, even if u marry another person i doubt if u will take the business higher Go learn from others. Instead of branching in beer palour, go look for who will mentor u on business growth and success. To break even in business is hard work. I pray u both reconcile your difference s and forge ahead. Put God in your home and business and u will smile. I come.in peace
he made very big error allowing his wife have access to business money. She go chop the money and nothing go happen. I run a business with my wife but na only me dey in charge of money. The reason is very simple
@@biodunayinde9711not everyone can many money well. It’s not about the woman being wicked or anything but when two people who cannot manage finances marry, it’s always a disaster. Hence the importance of courting before marriage. You study your partner, find strength in them in areas you are weak
They were mismanaging the business capital, I think where the man got it all feeded up was the peace he no longer enjoyed at home and the property he said he saw in the village
I perfectly understand what's going on. The man is looking for a scapegoat for his business woes. The lady's clearly a typical housewife who shouldn't be placed in charge of their main source of income.
When running a business you have to separate your business expenses from your other expenses. Then pay yourself and other workers a salary from which they solve their other problems. Then every month and every 3 months you should audit your accounts to see if you are making profits or losses.
This case is a sad one. The man established a business and gave instructions for both the capital and profit to be chewed like chewing gum then expects the book keeper (his wife)to manufacture the money again after it had been chopped! Onyeze dubai don hustle sotey, e don tire. He can never accept that he was irresponsible financially. Also, how do you ask a NYSC girl to manage a business of millions for you solely? New business you havent monitored or run yourself. The matter get as e be. Anyway, the girl still loves him very much. I see the way she looks at him. God will restore the marriage. But it looks like onyeze dubai don go meet fake prophets wey tell am say the woman na hin problem. With this his behaviour, let him marry 700 wives like solo, na thesame outcome.
God bless you. Only someone with wisdom can understand what’s going on here. Those people shouting she wants free money I don’t understand. The girl is young with little experience not to talk of experience running a multimillion business. The man was careless. Marrying a wife does not mean she would just work magic to make life perfect for you when, he was putting minimal effort to manage his business
@@AncientHebrewNeverDied clearly that commentators has an issue with women 🤣. I've just been seeing them post negative comments. I bet you, they didn't even watch and comprehend the facts of the case
Between God & Man i really enjoy watching this program. Apart from the pleasure i derive from watching the program i also find it very thoughtful & educative. Judge Funmi with all my heart❤ you're the best. Keep it up.
From a business mindset this woman did a good job by being accountable. If you are not fit to do business and accept loss don't do the business. I only see misunderstanding here. None of them is evil 👺
You're very right...the main issue here is money-, money has finished and d man is unhappy... the fact is that it's not the marriage the man is unhappy about, it's d fact that money has finished. May God bless every man with unending financial resources to keep being man enough. Amen.
@@Mariamsadventure of course, but the man was giving her a go ahead to spend the money (infact the man was the one endorsing the spending...he once told her "are we going to starve"... and in the court the man was laughing when the woman pointed that out... The only mistake the woman made was she didn't use her discretion and put the spending on check. Now that money has finished, the man blames her.
Bro if you are not abroad and open business for someone in Nigeria to manage no just talk. I'm talking out of experience. Wife, family members this is who they are, only few will do the business well. My own is over 13m naira businesses and same excuse of no profit but if I say make I sale the property they will not agree. Pray to get a virtuous woman if not you will understand.
I will love to meet this very special woman (JUDGE FUNMI ) I need to ask her for advice cos of her wisdom and i don't even mind paying consultation fee.
The business must have been feeding the family then. There is an Igbo adage that says : mwepu aburo ntinye(meaning - removal is not addition). For the fact that bills were paid from that business, it’s bound to affect the financial status of that business.
What trainings did he give to her making her the sales, accountant, etc. He should go jor. All these exerting type of husband. He didn’t build his business with structure.
As someone who worked for one of the top FMCG brands in Nigeria & Internationally, the years from 2016 to 2020 were absolutely not the years to invest as a Distributor expecially as a newcomer. Likelihood of failure is 97%. The Judge was wrong to blame her for that business failure.
She did not totally blame her, Judge just told her was she was meant to have done, which she clarified she did. Life has been hard on the guy and he carried the frustration into the marriage
She did not blame her for business failure. She only blamed her for not doing her due diligence to prevent her husband from finishing his capital. If she had really kept her records well, especially the profit records, she would have proper evidence to prove her husband wrong and even save her marriage.
which of the god do you ask. Pastors wey dem marriage crash no ask god or wetin you dey yarn. There is nothing about god for marriage. Na logic. If you no understand am, pray and fast for 100 years, it will fail
My bro, Igbo say marriage is like a wrapped gift, you open it before knowing that is inside. Yorùbá say marriage is like something you bought in the dark, you won't know what it looks like until day break.
Mr man don't transfer the anger of your collapsed business to your wife. It's clear you don't know about business very well, because your supposed to know that you don't leave your business like that until it's well established and flourishing. You didn't marry her under duress. Nigeria is not Dubai, so you must adjust to Nigeria system of managing life, and not ending up in beer parlour. Because even if you marry another woman but God forbid, the same thing will still happen. So as the man of the house, you control your business and your family. Your wife is only there to help, not to control.
The man and the lady don't really have any problem, just understanding is missing because of the situation in Nigeria, someone who cam3 back from abroad with high moral to set up a business and bad government policies frustrated him and he thinks it's his wife causes the problem, NO . Just take your wife back rebuild your home . Millions of people are going through that . Buhari messed up with Nigeria business environment, and Tinubu is now doing the worst. Many guys abroad are afraid to bring down their business in Nigeria because you gonna lose 📉 your money 💰 in a short period of time.
When investing in a business, even after a year you might not get up to 10% profit.. its better you have a different money for spending and leave the business money alone because definitely you'll eat the business profit and the capital you used in starting it
I was about to put blame on the wife, but when i listen carefully to her statements i have to put the blame on bad economy , government policy, all this things now affect their marriage, because the business money is being over used in paying bills, i pray God change his mind to accept her wife back
From the whole thing he has no idea about being successful. Every dime was for eating. No plan at all. Then the next is put pour all Frustration on the wife because he failed.
When a man speaks so fluently, u can blindly see everything as truth. Dis family need to go back together, sit, plan, forgive where necessary, better understand & re strategize. God will see Dem thru . I only see business mismanagement here. dis man need patience.
100 percent... She definitely does... the man on the other hand is not stable to grow the business he is more eager for the proceeds/gains and less concerned about putting in the effort, learn the ropes, go through the process to make sure the business succeeds.
Where's the proof? Even the husband is just insinuating and his claim is out of frustration... He cannot give any instance of she sending the money, so why do you believe him? And the 15m is probably the capital of the business too... Lastly, Lack of money and setbacks would lead to depression, no joy, drinking etc. He just transferred all these to his wife
I don’t know why you’re so sure, maybe you know them personally. The husband probably has unrealistic expectations regarding the business and was frustrated when it fell short. Also it appears he was a bit too hands off.
Don't speak like this bro. I don't know if you are married but if you are not, you will understand that anything that negotiates your peace of mind, by nature you will react
WAS HE NOT CHECKING HIS BUSINESS ACCOUNT LEGDER...HOW CAN U OPEN A BUSINESS, LOOK THE OTHER WAY AND LATER BLAME YOUR WIFE FOR RUNNING THE BUSINESS DOWN? THE ONLY BUSINESS SUSTAINING YOUR FAMILY....I'M SORRY, BUT THIS YOUNG MAN IS NOT A SERIOUS HUMAN BEING...A YOUNG LADY THAT JUST FINISHED HER YOUTH SERVICE...U SHLD BE GUIDING HER, NOT HEAPING RESPONSIBILITIES ON HER WITHOUT ANY ADEQUATE TRAINNING OR EXPERIENCE....
Having listened to both of them, i clearly see poor business managers. N15 million seems big money truly but would finish within few months, if there is no addition (profit) to it. Soup money take from the purse, transport fare take from the purse, medical bill pay from the purse, etc. Except the profit margin is huge, with such poor business management style nothing would be left within short time. Another thing the man must know is, spiritual manipulations is real in that, if you think you're being jinxed or having spiritual attacks just because some prophets are seizing your situation to milk you by say your wife is behind your predicament, pls be wise. Money will naturally finish unless you make more and added to it constantly, nothing spirutual about. Though,the mam didn't mention going to herbalist or prophets but we know these things. They're both rookies who would not but ruin any business any day. Judge Funmi, you're such well experienced judge, i always love your way of wading into matters, you killed this one too, well-done your honour.
She is from my town a very close family friend the man kicked she and her kids out and brought in another woman the same month he kicked them out. She is not innocent either but the man is very not a good person and refuse supporting the kids because they are both females
There is something called separate entity in accounting, this is one of the principles of accounting, no matter what,you are not allowed to take personal money from the business money... This is just a case of mismanaged business.. From the day to day sales, they take money for feeding, transportation, medical bills,house rent if possible..What exactly do you expect from such business? I mean all their household bills were paid from the business na
Its always best to keep money for upkeep for at least 6 months away from your business capital. Eating immediately from a new business has high probability of crashing the business. Always have a part time source of income apart from the main business.
She said the marriage was never toxic but she has threatened to leave the house 7 times in 3 years, this woman also brutalized her house girl and everyone is acting like they didn’t hear that part? She ran his business down but is claiming otherwise 🤦🏽♂️🤦🏽♂️
Brutalize? The husband will say anything to make her look bad. The worst people to take as help are families cause no matter what you do,they expect you to do more. Some hope you will send them money even while training their kids and when you don't,fight. I have a first hand experience with this. Finally,why will his mother be the one to decide they don't need a help in the house?
Na so our uncle wife build 6 rooms bungalow for her papa house with the husband business. Business collapsed! Man used lands for loan, still he won't see capital nor gain after business. It's common with Abia State women....... For her grandma, dad and mom to support her, she did it!
Oga don’t use your marriage as a reason to stay in Bar after a day’s work. It’s irresponsibility. Off all the places to go na Beer parlor. You didn’t go to your church to stay till midnight night. You did what you wanted to do. The women is not perfect., neither are you but don’t sleep in Beer as an excuse.
The woman explained it well. But you dont open our business for a lady first. Open her business for her and if she can handles it well, you can bring her to our business. Must ladies sees every money as profit.
She squandered the whole money on her family, the man has been doing well before this marriage. That lady is very toxic, nobody should misconcept her gentleness. She used all hi resources to sort her family issues.
If you are married, and your wife builds a house for her parents without your knowledge, what would you do? Unfortunately, many mothers coerce their daughters into buying expensive cars for them , or building them a house. I can not image what my reaction would be, if I worked alone, and my wife builds a house for her parents.
This lady look responsible and wise. I seriously doubt she is as bad as the husband is painting her. She is also eager to return to the marriage unlike most ladies I have witnessed here. The problem all started with him not making progress in the business. It can be frustrating. But even if the wife mismanaged the fund, its not enough to send her home. All the other allegations of toxicity and her building house in the village are substantiated. I pray they find reason to come back together. Marriage is a cross. They have to carry it together. You don't run away from marriage because of challenges.
In my view, the husband accused her of misappropriation and indirectly accusing of ill luck bcs he is down and assumed she doesnt have good omen but he didnt mention it
It's true, I can tell he was being honest... I hope we can learn the end result... He needed someone from Dubai, who maybe thought like he thought, to build the business very well... No matter how long a business is going, if they placed Jesus in front and prayers, while playing soft music the business will never Crash. I believe in the ambiance of it all..
They were eating the business money right from time. 😂 I know what this thing is, my mother suffered this thing too. My dad gave her some money to add to her capital to open a provision and continence store. And all of a sudden he stopped carrying any of the bills in the house everything was on my mother. Including fuel for his car and other many expenses. All her five children including my dad too until the business crashed. So it’s normal when you start a new business, you don’t eat from the profit for at least 6months. If at all you are eating the profit it shouldn’t be so much. I understand them both, the man was magnifying the business gain in his mind thinking that house expenses cannot finish the profit dey play. Nothing eats up money like home expenses especially when kids are involved.
The man feels robbed and is frustrated by the failure of his first business and is now scapegoating his wife. 80% of all new businesses fail even in good economies, it might be higher in Nigeria where there are no stats. I wish he would get over his hurt and reclaim his family since there are no accusations of serious issues such as domestic violence, infidelity, etc. Throwing away his family at this point would be a double tragedy.
The man doesn't know about business education. I don't think he is business educated that's why he is channeling all the blame on the woman
Honestly. He has a good wife. it's just lack of business sense which led to the failure of the business that is frustrating the man. And he is now channeling the blames on the woman
You got that correct✅.
She ain't good she had nothing an took from him an he has nothing
Where did she get the money to build a house when business wasn’t going well
She was in charge of the man’s business and the her family took advantage of that. Nobody is talking about how she built a house for her family.
That one pain me eh
That was an accusation from the husband, did she said is the truth???
How are you sure its true she built house foe her family
Where you there?
This problem is the situation in the country, you will think that someone is behind your predicament, this lady has know fault at all, you should have set apart some money for the personal used,and not touch business money at all, please take back your wife,the way she spoke she definitely knows what she wants, please don't destroy this family,it shall pass in Jesus name.
Amen oooo. Nigeria wahala will make person reason like mad person
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They were eating from the capital unknowingly. Business needs time to grow and less profit at start.
The same way he came back and rush marriage, the same way he's expecting business turn over
Exactly
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She mismanaged funds, why would she go rebuild her father’s house without his consent? She is deceptive and manipulative
@@Goddess_NkemTrust me if the house accusation was true that man would have shown the pictures of that house..It's a lie
I think the man is not in love again, but seems the lady still wants the marriage. There’s something likeable and mature about these two. It’s unfortunate the marriage has gone bad. I think the man blaming the woman for the business failure is not fair. Nigeria probably happened to them.
Very articulate and fluent couple.
Immediate he saw the business not going as he wished, he should have returned back to Dubai... Unless their is more to the story, He could have had another family... Or investments that didn't profit well also.
This lady is not sounding irresponsible...
She sound like a good wife
You are truly miserable
And she was building from where ?
She's my cousin, you are right!
@@chukwukadibiaokonkwo3973building what?? Do you know her personally? Una go just open mouth waaa start to talk…. Once it concerns women body go dey pepper una
She is irresponsible.
She says she told him taking money indiscriminately from the business would ruin the business but she is the one who decided to take a (usually expensube) trip back to the village. And she was also asking for a househlep. Where did she think the money was going to come from since she already thinks (as she claims) that the business is going bad as a result of expenditure for the upkeep of the home?
That's what you get when you jump into a business without passing through apprenticeship
You want to grow business overnight. It doesn't work that way
Plenty went through it n still failed
The woman seems very humble. Its unfortunate the husband became her boss and she didn't managed the business well as expected. Theyll have s beautiful marriage if the business hasnt been in between them.
I love this program and the judge with her transparency.
Keep up the good work.
I love her more than you!!! 😂😂😂
You're funny, even you I love you but the reason why I referred to her was how she'd feel so comfortable advising couples to solve their problem amicably.
@@segunhudu260 I love you too.
Love is in the air. 😂😂😂.
😅😅😅@@Glorious2480
Country hard sha... I blame inflation. Anyone buying and selling in this country now needs a lot of grace. 😢
Exactly
Precisely
I have said this before now, from siblings to parents to wife and in-laws, do business with them on your peril. I learn in a had way after making some mistakes. I rather do give away with my money than doing business with close relatives.
The lady is amazing! He should have provided a separate account for living expenses and set a monthly salary for his wife. He didn't monitor the expenses against the profit!
Exactly. And he now expects to get the money spent back as profit. Man does not know that what you put into your wife is what you get in return.
Onishorire
@@bashirolayinka3863 You are too late but pls receive your wishes for me seventy-fold! 😎
I don't like joined business with anyone even family
The main issue here is money-, money has finished and d man is unhappy... the fact is that it's not the marriage the man is unhappy about, it's d fact that money has finished. May God bless every man with unending financial resources to keep being man enough. Amen.
😢 am telling you money is the real issue here.
AMEN
My thought too. Business is hard in Nigeria...
Where she gets the money to build a house when business is collapsing ?
@@sufiyanumohammed7951u the only one u got that point
I know the man is angry but from my observation, the woman was living a lavished lifestyle when the business was booming and did not bother about its falling. She is the type that has the mentality that whatever it is, my husband must find a way to take care of me. If not, she would had raised alarm when the business was going down. I am also suspecting her family members. They were not helping matters with demands too
The both of them were doing that
Business was not even booming… yet there was so much money to do many things… 3 years? Plus house renovation in the village? Thats a lot of money… the man himself slack. He is not good with money management.
Lack of business knowledge from both parties is reason for what's going on.
May they reconcile. Both are nice persons from my observation.
Nothing like lack of bizness knowledge... She z not a good person simple
@@nwamakapeace4813Ypu must be related to the man. Tell him he lacks knowledge 9f boz n what sent him back from Duboa is stil after him...
What do you know about business you .
This is marriage be careful
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The man speaks so well...and the lady is still interested in the marriage.I pray they settle amicably
she is interested in the free money you mean?
She speaks well also.
@@biodunayinde9711What free money, so let him prove the business was making money.
@@biodunayinde9711what do you mean by free money? Who is supposed to take care of her and her children if not the man
@@biodunayinde9711😢😢😢😢😢
Toxic women or toxic pple are very manipulative only the one inside feel the pain pple outside cannot see it
As a product of parents like this (similar toxic personality) instead of pointing fingers, it's ok to take personal accountability first, instead of finding fault with the other party. Only then can both come together, admit their own mistakes aka (showing maturity). And find a way together as a couple on how to move forward. And please be careful of how you speak about each other (there is power in the tongue) 🙏🏾
I had to learn all this myself. Parents please don't forget your children they are the ones suffering the most. I was one of them (currently 23)
Sorry, I'm also one from a toxic marriage... And I've grown up not being able to have a steady relationship with anyone of the opposite sex...still struggling to find healing from my childhood experiences...and still unmarried at 43.
@@Ibro.kitchenTry to see a therapist. May God heal you
@@realkemiadeyemo Amen. Thank you
If a woman could bodly say a marriage is not toxic while the man insisted... She has already finished the man💯
You are a very wise person. Means that one person is so used to toxicity that they think it’s normal. That man is exhausted
She has finished the man
She has absolutely no awareness of how toxic the relationship was and that’s the key sign that she is toxic
😂😆 lolxxxxx hahahaha abi
She is saying it is not toxic because she is getting everything she needs
I like this lady . She seems to be saying the truth . Besides she looks very humble & responsible.❤️
....and beautiful...looks like a model
The monster who can't even keep a small housemaid?
God will punish you
Because she's a pretender. 🤷🏾
Is that how you know a humble person
The man supposed to be auditing his BUSINESS quarterly to know if a large sum is been taken out, but was careless..
When running a business with your significant other, it is important that you have each person's role clearly stated out. Doing business with ones spouse can be a very good thing if well done but if not well done, it can ruin the most beautiful relationship.
Culturally, we have a way of blaming our misfortunes on women. It was obvious the business wasn't viable and its collapse was imminent. I empathize with the lady.
It was not obvious, she misused the money
No that is not the problem here, her family is more in the marriage and she is the type want to do everything for her family they control her, that is why a day for them to go back they ask the lady to come so the husband can come over and, she don't have her own opinion in her home her family chose what she will do. Brother no marry from a family that your mother in law will be the one telling your wife what to do. I want to tell you that the woman build the house
@@Mariamsadventure Both of you proved the commentators point. Both of them are to blame as the business is both of their responsibility. Not just the lady (besides the lady was even the one that gave an accurate business analysis of the problems their business was facing)
@@ikennachukwuka2113Both of you proved the commentators point. Both of them are to blame as the business is both of their responsibility. Not just the lady (besides the lady was even the one that gave an accurate business analysis of the problems their business was facing)
@@Mariamsadventurerest already Mariam..Not every business will make profit
You are doing well ma'am, continue your good work, may God rewards you
This brother is tired, and I perfectly understand why he’s so tired.
He is tired from servicing many ladies instead of being a responsible father. He is tired alright😄
You got the gist
What about d house help she beat to stupor? No one is talking about it
Never put any of your relationships close to a new business, because they would think stealing from you is normal.
I took my family off from my building construction when i quickly discovered the habit of unseriousness and high demand of products money. So i finally gave it to someone i can shout on if he's not doing what i want and now i spent less that what i was spending before. I hope they can still reconcile and rebuild their mistakes.
Is the Economy of the country that is causing the breakup. God help us !!
And the Europeans come there and have no problem, because they just sit back and allow them.. I don't understand, with as many Africans compared to them reading in Africa, how can this be allowed? Very sad.
Gather here when you know that any time judge Funmi remove her glasses she is about to be sincere 💯with people in front of her
They are good Couple.
I never heard of infidelity or Domestic Violence in their words.
I think their Marriage is Reconcilable.
The man thought the woman could manage the business well and feed the family from it. It's so sad
Exactly
Honestly, the family doesn't need to break up. The wife still loves her husband, so the man should soften his heart and accept his wife back ; reconciliation and new strategies are what the family needs. Trust me, finding a beautiful, intelligent and hardworking woman, in modern time, is like a cow passing through the eyes of a needle!!! Man, GO BACK Home!!! The street are not smiling oooo !!! 😔😔😔!
This is funny even if your woman cheat go back too her. That man mental health is paramount simp
Go back where?
Until he kpai you go understand.
See white hair all over the mans head.
i will never support that
That woman is purely narcissistic and very toxic, energy don't lie, and it's has affected the man's fortune, she will want to stay because shes benefiting from the mans energy as hes going down she will be progressing unknowingly to the man..these are deep things only the selective few understands..
They really need counseling at this moment,it had happened it has happened,its not easy running a business in this country,they should try and resolve everything because of the children ,no marriage is perfect,it is well.
Happy weekend everyone please always be patient to each other because you guys have children together and you guys try to love each other again I know that love is not enough but be patient
😢😢😢 judge funmi teaching entrepreneurship😊😊😊😊😊... Learned a lot
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This man is just feeling frustrated because of his business failure. The wife is the easiest person to blame for the failure.
This couple is a strong workforce with a perfect counseling and business orientation....
God help them
Exactly
Who was managing the business
Don't worry, ur own will come soon I hope u get the heart to contain it
I have date someone like this woman, they will always say the relationship is perfect and we understand ourselves but am not happy with the relationship
Maybe you are unhappy with yourself. 🤷🏽♀️
She is very smart
The man can't win her
As someone who managed shops for my late mum, i know exactly what the wife did.
It’s never regarded as stealing 😂but it is. During daily sales we do something called partial remittance. So then when you make sales 150k in a day, you only write 120k as daily sales and have to do right it in a book, it’s might not be much but because it’s a daily act it will later emerge into something big.
The mistake she made was to renovate her father’s house with those personal savings from the business instead of giving her husband since they were in a bad financial state. She should have used it for something that would benefit the family.
Hmm so it's definitely true she stole money
Taking any money that is not yours is stealing... There should be proper accountability whether it is sole proprietorship or joint business
you can make a good wife, I'm here in Holland i need a good woman that can help me so that we can grow together
Sometimes we don't listen, she mentioned that before collects money she tells him and she records whatever she collects. They do all their expenses from the business, when she complained to him he said will they stave. She even suggested to work but he complained that she doesn't want to help him grow his business. He's just frustrated that things didn't go as he planned. She also mentioned that the profit coming from the business is small.
Business is very hard to do if you don’t understand it
I totally understand what went wrong. The man is the first Igbo man I know who doesn't know how to do business. How can you be making expenses directly from sales? You're eating the chicken laying the eggs already.
Honestly. Imagine taking out money from total sales, without knowing how much profit you made from that total sales
The best reasonable intelligent comments on this issue.
The best and reasonable intelligent comment on this issue
Accounting was poor. You eat from your profit and not from total sales. Investment must not be used.
This man is putting unnecessary blame on the wife.
Business takes time to grow. Never automatic. The.method of running the business and fund is poor.
Oga left madam to be doing his business, who does that.
As a new business he ought to take it to a level before leaving the wife to mamage it after teaching her the business route.
I wandered where he goes after dropping the wife in the shop in the morning.
Oga take responsibility. Your wife did not squander your money..
Stay and grow ur business. Let madam go and find her own job as she suggested. This will enable u know how the business is doing.
Don't trade blame.
With the attitude i perceive from your narrative, even if u marry another person i doubt if u will take the business higher
Go learn from others. Instead of branching in beer palour, go look for who will mentor u on business growth and success.
To break even in business is hard work.
I pray u both reconcile your difference s and forge ahead.
Put God in your home and business and u will smile.
I come.in peace
I just love this guy.. my kind❤
This man is well detailed...when someone is telling you an event which happened with date/year backing it up..the person is a historian
he made very big error allowing his wife have access to business money. She go chop the money and nothing go happen. I run a business with my wife but na only me dey in charge of money. The reason is very simple
@@biodunayinde9711not everyone can many money well. It’s not about the woman being wicked or anything but when two people who cannot manage finances marry, it’s always a disaster. Hence the importance of courting before marriage. You study your partner, find strength in them in areas you are weak
Liars, too, can be well-rehearsed.
Why is no one talking about how he claimed she beat her maid and the house she built?
Like I noticed the same thing too .ran down the family business for her own selfish interests
she said she did not build any house. Did you hear that
They were mismanaging the business capital, I think where the man got it all feeded up was the peace he no longer enjoyed at home and the property he said he saw in the village
I perfectly understand what's going on. The man is looking for a scapegoat for his business woes. The lady's clearly a typical housewife who shouldn't be placed in charge of their main source of income.
When running a business you have to separate your business expenses from your other expenses. Then pay yourself and other workers a salary from which they solve their other problems. Then every month and every 3 months you should audit your accounts to see if you are making profits or losses.
This case is a sad one. The man established a business and gave instructions for both the capital and profit to be chewed like chewing gum then expects the book keeper (his wife)to manufacture the money again after it had been chopped! Onyeze dubai don hustle sotey, e don tire. He can never accept that he was irresponsible financially. Also, how do you ask a NYSC girl to manage a business of millions for you solely? New business you havent monitored or run yourself. The matter get as e be. Anyway, the girl still loves him very much. I see the way she looks at him. God will restore the marriage. But it looks like onyeze dubai don go meet fake prophets wey tell am say the woman na hin problem. With this his behaviour, let him marry 700 wives like solo, na thesame outcome.
God bless you. Only someone with wisdom can understand what’s going on here. Those people shouting she wants free money I don’t understand. The girl is young with little experience not to talk of experience running a multimillion business. The man was careless. Marrying a wife does not mean she would just work magic to make life perfect for you when, he was putting minimal effort to manage his business
So instead of holding the woman accountable for indirectly stealing, you’re placing full blame on the man? Okay
@@MariamsadventureWhere did you see any evidence of stealing in this video? 😮
Absolutely👌...d man needs to be accountable, rather than looking for who to blame for his bad decisions...he needs to look inwards!
@@AncientHebrewNeverDied clearly that commentators has an issue with women 🤣. I've just been seeing them post negative comments. I bet you, they didn't even watch and comprehend the facts of the case
My own observation:
I think this man is venting his frustration on his wife...
Between God & Man i really enjoy watching this program. Apart from the pleasure i derive from watching the program i also find it very thoughtful & educative. Judge Funmi with all my heart❤ you're the best.
Keep it up.
From a business mindset this woman did a good job by being accountable. If you are not fit to do business and accept loss don't do the business. I only see misunderstanding here. None of them is evil 👺
You're very right...the main issue here is money-, money has finished and d man is unhappy... the fact is that it's not the marriage the man is unhappy about, it's d fact that money has finished. May God bless every man with unending financial resources to keep being man enough. Amen.
@@Ibro.kitchenthe main issue is her wasting business money
@@Mariamsadventure of course, but the man was giving her a go ahead to spend the money (infact the man was the one endorsing the spending...he once told her "are we going to starve"... and in the court the man was laughing when the woman pointed that out... The only mistake the woman made was she didn't use her discretion and put the spending on check. Now that money has finished, the man blames her.
Bro if you are not abroad and open business for someone in Nigeria to manage no just talk. I'm talking out of experience. Wife, family members this is who they are, only few will do the business well. My own is over 13m naira businesses and same excuse of no profit but if I say make I sale the property they will not agree. Pray to get a virtuous woman if not you will understand.
@@wisdomugo5094did you have someone supervising the business thuo?
I will love to meet this very special woman (JUDGE FUNMI ) I need to ask her for advice cos of her wisdom and i don't even mind paying consultation fee.
The business must have been feeding the family then.
There is an Igbo adage that says : mwepu aburo ntinye(meaning - removal is not addition).
For the fact that bills were paid from that business, it’s bound to affect the financial status of that business.
What trainings did he give to her making her the sales, accountant, etc. He should go jor. All these exerting type of husband. He didn’t build his business with structure.
I can’t imagine bringing up my family issues to a public space like this . Omo 🌝. Una no get family members
There re some cases that the family members don't even know who to believe and what to do
The both of you did know each other before saying yes to each other
Yes, i concur with u
Good point!👍
Excellent 👌
As someone who worked for one of the top FMCG brands in Nigeria & Internationally, the years from 2016 to 2020 were absolutely not the years to invest as a Distributor expecially as a newcomer. Likelihood of failure is 97%. The Judge was wrong to blame her for that business failure.
She did not totally blame her, Judge just told her was she was meant to have done, which she clarified she did.
Life has been hard on the guy and he carried the frustration into the marriage
She did not blame her for business failure.
She only blamed her for not doing her due diligence to prevent her husband from finishing his capital.
If she had really kept her records well, especially the profit records, she would have proper evidence to prove her husband wrong and even save her marriage.
What would have happened if she did not use the business money for personal use???
@@Mariamsadventurepersonal use as in for the family Which her husband authorized her to use ? Did you even watch the case
@@evelinek.4493don't mind her, she is everywhere in the comment ranting
Marriage is something else 😳 that is why it is good to ask God before you get married
which of the god do you ask. Pastors wey dem marriage crash no ask god or wetin you dey yarn. There is nothing about god for marriage. Na logic. If you no understand am, pray and fast for 100 years, it will fail
@@biodunayinde9711you took the response out of my mouth. Everything they call God even the one you can do yourself.
My bro, Igbo say marriage is like a wrapped gift, you open it before knowing that is inside.
Yorùbá say marriage is like something you bought in the dark, you won't know what it looks like until day break.
The my asked ogun Abi???
@@biodunayinde9711logic that you lack Abi??? Smh.
She's not the problem. He wants to japa and does not want wife and children responsibility abroad.
Mr man don't transfer the anger of your collapsed business to your wife. It's clear you don't know about business very well, because your supposed to know that you don't leave your business like that until it's well established and flourishing. You didn't marry her under duress. Nigeria is not Dubai, so you must adjust to Nigeria system of managing life, and not ending up in beer parlour. Because even if you marry another woman but God forbid, the same thing will still happen. So as the man of the house, you control your business and your family. Your wife is only there to help, not to control.
The man and the lady don't really have any problem, just understanding is missing because of the situation in Nigeria, someone who cam3 back from abroad with high moral to set up a business and bad government policies frustrated him and he thinks it's his wife causes the problem, NO . Just take your wife back rebuild your home . Millions of people are going through that . Buhari messed up with Nigeria business environment, and Tinubu is now doing the worst. Many guys abroad are afraid to bring down their business in Nigeria because you gonna lose 📉 your money 💰 in a short period of time.
When investing in a business, even after a year you might not get up to 10% profit.. its better you have a different money for spending and leave the business money alone because definitely you'll eat the business profit and the capital you used in starting it
I believe you.
I learnt alot from this episode about business
What did you learn
As simple as this case look it's a difficult one
I am just learning how to handle my life more better
Finances and marriage go like five and six!
I was about to put blame on the wife, but when i listen carefully to her statements i have to put the blame on bad economy , government policy, all this things now affect their marriage, because the business money is being over used in paying bills, i pray God change his mind to accept her wife back
I just feel for this man they say behind every successful man there's a good woman behind it emmm
Behind every successful man, there is no woman. Na that man dey behind himself
@@biodunayinde9711if it’s not their mother, it’s their wives….
From the whole thing he has no idea about being successful. Every dime was for eating. No plan at all. Then the next is put pour all Frustration on the wife because he failed.
When a man speaks so fluently, u can blindly see everything as truth. Dis family need to go back together, sit, plan, forgive where necessary, better understand & re strategize. God will see Dem thru . I only see business mismanagement here. dis man need patience.
What i see is that this mam got married too early without getting fully on his feet...
What do you mean by too early, didn't you see the white hair already
@@ariyoayodele718early marriage isn’t about age, but maturity
@@ellmarich God bless you brother for this beautiful explanation. My definition of early isn't age related but stability financially.
He should have taken over and ran the businesses himself instead of making her director...
The woman might not be a bad person but the truth is she sends her parent and siblings money from the business
Is that west she should be doing??
100 percent... She definitely does... the man on the other hand is not stable to grow the business he is more eager for the proceeds/gains and less concerned about putting in the effort, learn the ropes, go through the process to make sure the business succeeds.
Very correct 💯
Where's the proof? Even the husband is just insinuating and his claim is out of frustration... He cannot give any instance of she sending the money, so why do you believe him?
And the 15m is probably the capital of the business too...
Lastly, Lack of money and setbacks would lead to depression, no joy, drinking etc. He just transferred all these to his wife
I don’t know why you’re so sure, maybe you know them personally. The husband probably has unrealistic expectations regarding the business and was frustrated when it fell short. Also it appears he was a bit too hands off.
The man should accept the business risks and failings. U better take back your wife.
Don't speak like this bro. I don't know if you are married but if you are not, you will understand that anything that negotiates your peace of mind, by nature you will react
@@adejugbemike6366His lack of peace is from the frustration of his failed business.
@@abishagmusa8230why would she build house with someone else money for her parents
Aman is speaking out of Experience
She run down d business nothing she wan tell me
If he came back with nothing ?
How the business start ?
How the marriage start?
Where the money come from ?
WAS HE NOT CHECKING HIS BUSINESS ACCOUNT LEGDER...HOW CAN U OPEN A BUSINESS, LOOK THE OTHER WAY AND LATER BLAME YOUR WIFE FOR RUNNING THE BUSINESS DOWN? THE ONLY BUSINESS SUSTAINING YOUR FAMILY....I'M SORRY, BUT THIS YOUNG MAN IS NOT A SERIOUS HUMAN BEING...A YOUNG LADY THAT JUST FINISHED HER YOUTH SERVICE...U SHLD BE GUIDING HER, NOT HEAPING RESPONSIBILITIES ON HER WITHOUT ANY ADEQUATE TRAINNING OR EXPERIENCE....
The man is really in pain,it’s always good to get a woman who actually wants your success not the type who’s after your money
Having listened to both of them, i clearly see poor business managers. N15 million seems big money truly but would finish within few months, if there is no addition (profit) to it. Soup money take from the purse, transport fare take from the purse, medical bill pay from the purse, etc. Except the profit margin is huge, with such poor business management style nothing would be left within short time. Another thing the man must know is, spiritual manipulations is real in that, if you think you're being jinxed or having spiritual attacks just because some prophets are seizing your situation to milk you by say your wife is behind your predicament, pls be wise. Money will naturally finish unless you make more and added to it constantly, nothing spirutual about. Though,the mam didn't mention going to herbalist or prophets but we know these things. They're both rookies who would not but ruin any business any day. Judge Funmi, you're such well experienced judge, i always love your way of wading into matters, you killed this one too, well-done your honour.
The man na really English teacher 😢😮 and the woman really loves him. I pray they come back together
She is from my town a very close family friend the man kicked she and her kids out and brought in another woman the same month he kicked them out. She is not innocent either but the man is very not a good person and refuse supporting the kids because they are both females
There is something called separate entity in accounting, this is one of the principles of accounting, no matter what,you are not allowed to take personal money from the business money...
This is just a case of mismanaged business..
From the day to day sales, they take money for feeding, transportation, medical bills,house rent if possible..What exactly do you expect from such business? I mean all their household bills were paid from the business na
Its always best to keep money for upkeep for at least 6 months away from your business capital. Eating immediately from a new business has high probability of crashing the business. Always have a part time source of income apart from the main business.
He's done.. They need to just co parent and move on
At this point I believe they should go their separate ways. It won’t work anymore
He shifted his hostility to wife and said he no longer needed the marriage as a result of his business collapse
She said the marriage was never toxic but she has threatened to leave the house 7 times in 3 years, this woman also brutalized her house girl and everyone is acting like they didn’t hear that part? She ran his business down but is claiming otherwise 🤦🏽♂️🤦🏽♂️
Brutalize? The husband will say anything to make her look bad. The worst people to take as help are families cause no matter what you do,they expect you to do more. Some hope you will send them money even while training their kids and when you don't,fight.
I have a first hand experience with this.
Finally,why will his mother be the one to decide they don't need a help in the house?
Theirs always more to the story... Anyway... Valuable lessons shown here.
Please how much does it cost to sue someone in justice court
Na so our uncle wife build 6 rooms bungalow for her papa house with the husband business. Business collapsed! Man used lands for loan, still he won't see capital nor gain after business. It's common with Abia State women.......
For her grandma, dad and mom to support her, she did it!
Oga don’t use your marriage as a reason to stay in Bar after a day’s work. It’s irresponsibility. Off all the places to go na Beer parlor. You didn’t go to your church to stay till midnight night. You did what you wanted to do. The women is not perfect., neither are you but don’t sleep in Beer as an excuse.
You see Marriage is more than a pretty face. My man said he is tired and i can see and believe him. Only he knows what he is passing through
I understand he needs be alone for his mental health b4 him loose am. This lady is a regular hustler
The woman explained it well. But you dont open our business for a lady first. Open her business for her and if she can handles it well, you can bring her to our business. Must ladies sees every money as profit.
She squandered the whole money on her family, the man has been doing well before this marriage. That lady is very toxic, nobody should misconcept her gentleness. She used all hi resources to sort her family issues.
I agree, she is very smart
Building with for your parents without your partner's awareness is bad. Her parents are not helping
She didn’t.she It is her grandfathers house, even her father doesn’t own a house
If you are married, and your wife builds a house for her parents without your knowledge, what would you do?
Unfortunately, many mothers coerce their daughters into buying expensive cars for them , or building them a house. I can not image what my reaction would be, if I worked alone, and my wife builds a house for her parents.
She should have used the profit made... make sure her expenses doesn't go into the working capital.
So even when his sister was sick she will make sure they don't use the money so that her in-laws will tag her bad abi?
The family of the girl took advantage of her run down the business . More to that she was living an extra lavish lifestyle
This lady look responsible and wise. I seriously doubt she is as bad as the husband is painting her. She is also eager to return to the marriage unlike most ladies I have witnessed here.
The problem all started with him not making progress in the business. It can be frustrating. But even if the wife mismanaged the fund, its not enough to send her home. All the other allegations of toxicity and her building house in the village are substantiated.
I pray they find reason to come back together. Marriage is a cross. They have to carry it together. You don't run away from marriage because of challenges.
In my view, the husband accused her of misappropriation and indirectly accusing of ill luck bcs he is down and assumed she doesnt have good omen but he didnt mention it
The man speaks very well
It's true, I can tell he was being honest... I hope we can learn the end result... He needed someone from Dubai, who maybe thought like he thought, to build the business very well... No matter how long a business is going, if they placed Jesus in front and prayers, while playing soft music the business will never Crash. I believe in the ambiance of it all..