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- Do you have a partner who struggles with depression? Does your partner currently see help? If not, you might be the one taking care of them. And that can be very hard.. especially when you have not had experiences. Psych2Go decided to put together a list of things to keep in mind when being with a depressed partner. If you find these tips helpful, and want to see a series on other mental health problems, leave that in the comment.
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I needed this :)
What do yourself and your partner have depression?
I have depresso lol
That's mainly the reason why we broke. Because of depression but I just don't get why she entered into a rebound relationship few weeks after we broke up. Any thoughts regarding on this?
Thanks, this will help
My boyfriend has depression, and I’ve never loved someone so much. I just want to be better for him
Same
You sound so nice.
Same
I hope everything is better for both of you.
Update: He’s trying his hardest and it’s still hard for me but I love him and I know he will get through it. 🙏🏾
Me watching this for myself
Edit: who ever feels like they’re depressed and things are not going great just know one day you will be happy you lived through this.
another edit: i commented this a year ago and trust me things have gotten much better. patience is key
Same.
Mariam M me as well :(
Relatable
Yay I'm not alone
Same
I wish someone would watch this video bc they wanted to help me ._.
Coco-chan :3 yep but now we gotta help ourselves :/
I would. I loved to help you :)❤
What's wrong?
Something that can be helpful are self-help books and workbooks about depression
Coco-chan :3 I’d like to help but idk how
This is A little more difficult when you're in a long distance relationship :(
True :) I donno what to do.
@@marius9239 me neither
Me 3
I agree. My girlfriend just moved to college and is very depressed and I’m trying to find any way to help her. If anyone has ideas please let me know
@@matthewkeenan8698 I wish I knew.....
1. Depression doesn't always need a reason to strike. You're partner might not always know what's wrong, but a hug is always appreciated (ask first! some people can't handle being touched when their depression is really bad)
2. Be prepared for mood swings when Fall season starts.
3. Don't expect much energy in general. Don't force anything.
4. Encourage humor.
5. Don't take their reactions personally.
6. Help around with chores.
7. Respect their boundaries.
8. It's ok to ask for your friend's insights.
9. It won't always be like this.
10. They need you more than ever. They don't need a hero, just someone to be there for them.
*We are addicted to our thoughts. We cannot change anything if we cannot change our thinking.*
This is true.
Amen
Well said
you think you thought of a thought while you thinking when you thought you thinked of a thought about how you think you're thinking but, really you're thinking of thoughts that while you where thinking those thoughts come from thinking of bs thoughts you just thinked of! :/
only me that is confused by his comment? :/ lol
I'm so grateful I have learned strategies to observe, analyze, and change my thoughts/feelings/actions. It has helped me SO MUCH. Including my current situation with a partner who is depressed. I am trying to be the best partner I can be, and I'm able to do that because I have worked SO HARD on myself.
I whis I had someone to help me from my self hate and suicidal thoughts but I'm left to pretend that if fine to everyone.
So If your reading this that means someone cares about in the world and your special
Thank you for the nice comments I fell much better thank you
You can tell me. I will try to help you. You do matter btw :3 ❤
Wishing you the best. when there is life there is hope, BE STRONG!
@@quietkenna Thank you well at school I'm always being bullied and older kids are saying comments like hey babe because my skirt is a different size to other girls and my family life is bad my grandad /my mum's dad thinks I'm fat my mum tries to be a little bit nice when calling me fat I get judge by my dad plus in the holidays no one asks if I want to hang out and at Scholl when he have to pick groups I'm always last
@@potatocat8589 im so sorry just know that they will look back and think i wish i never said that. My friend is going through a lot right now but back to the point. I bet your not fat, dont stop eating and just eat water. Your you and if they dont care then just walk away. ❤❤❤ i really do care.
Hello Potato Cat. If you are being bullied at school, you need to tell the counselor, the teachers, the director, or any adult. If one doesn't listen, tell another adult.
so am i the only one who is actually not depressed here and just wants to help someone?
Nah youre not the only one friend
i am but i want to help a friend that looks a little down
Hii
You're not the only one, bro
@@llorensilove Hello!
I just want to be there for her and I know she needs space too. It breaks my heart to see her like this. I try my best but it's hard. I just have to remember I'm not the one suffering the most but I still hurt. I love her so much and I miss her every day.
Hey this is how I feel and I don’t know what to do and I don’t k ow how to help and everything is complicated
Same. I try to talk to her but she only says idk and maybe when I bring it up. I give her space and it hurts to see her this way
I'm in that situation too rn, with my boyfriend
And i get you all, this is really frustrating
I also wish i could help him but he needs space
@@tpwkarl1882 @ChristianOlsen @BrydonMohon
I ended up breaking up with her because it was too much for the both of us and she needed to work on herself first. my advice to all of you is to take care of yourself as your upmost important task even though u love your s/o a lot, dont put urself on the line to help them. if you can communicate with them clearly the relationship will work. this goes for any relationship. you will all be fine no matter what happens my dears.
@@ellzrandom2392 thank you for your response! It means a lot to me
And you're right, taking care of ourselves is the most important thing
Oof can you do a vid on this to help yourself?
Yes, of course.
No I mean can they make a video to help yourself with depression.. u can’t just hug yourself smh
@@moogi3610 hug a tree
gregthegreat I can’t because people are cutting down trees and the planets gonna die and it is dying and just *AAHH*
i love your name and pfp😂😂
I'm clinically major depression. I have autism and it feels very different in my world. People will never understand me.
Same situation
someone in the same boat might understand more though
Niji Tsubasa oh wow. Hugs
Same here~~ honestly that basically describes my life
A. REN :(
0:41 wait... depression usually lasts from just hours to days? What the fuck happened to me?
No. I guess they're describing like a mood, cause depression can last years and might or might not go away.
They mean episodes of depression that happen within long term depression...make sense?
Sometimes the feeling of depression can come and go for some people. But if you feel depressed for about 6 months-2 year, then you probably have major depressive disorder.
@@dantederi5062 thanks, it was a joke but i still appreciate your comment. Also, weird how it did endure exactly 6 months, guess i technically have a major depressive disorder
Edit:spelling
I’ve been feeling depressed for years, and the worst episodes last for a minimum of three months if I’m very lucky. I can’t remember the last time I felt good. I’m just empty or sad now.
Sends the video to all my friends**
Dang it, I don’t have any
Tessa Compton right same
Tessa Compton lost them because of my depression
Hi New Friend :)
Rapunzl Artic Fox Absolutely :)
Us clique members are ALL frens.
Stay alive ||-//
It sucks worse when you're in a long distance relationship and your time zones don't match for anything. So much miscommunication, no clarity, no closure and it begins to feel like maybe you're the reason why your partner is depressed.
Hey, I see your reply is from 2 yrs ago… I am going thru same situation, so I just wanted to ask, did it get better?
Can you do a video on how to help someone trying to commit suicide?
Victoria’s Universe do it with them at least what i woud do but i woud smoke a fat blunt before we woud do it and then they woud change their mind and not do it
*Cough* mainly myself but also my friends.
*Cough*
If you are the one with suicidal thoughts you need professional help. I tried to kill myself a few months ago and I can tell you it was not worth it. Talk to someone about it and get some help.
We did a video on how to help a friend who's thinking of suicide here: th-cam.com/video/4-JXkCtiYWY/w-d-xo.html
... do you mean how to help someone with suicidal thoughts? Cause I'm pretty sure your not supposed to help someone commit suicide... that would be murder. :/
My boyfriend and my best friend are both struggling with depression. It can be exhausting sometimes. And even though I know about their condition, I tend to forget it sometimes. I also take many things personally. This video came just in the right moment.
Yes, I’m going through that now my girl opened up to me at the hospital with the weather for a year. And I felt the pull back and I still take it personally
Most of these were not ways to "help a depressed person".
A better title would have been "things to know when a partner/friend is depressed" than "how to help them".
Helping yourself to stay strong is often the most important thing when helping someone with delression
Because you cant help someone with depression. Unless you're a doctor and are qualofied to do so. But if you're a partner of someome who's struggling- being with him amd showing him support is the only thing you can do.
Thanks. It's hard managing my depressed friend
@@NekoNihhal thx for saying that
Good luck to everyone reading this. I hope you, your partners or your friends gets through this and get the help you need. My father always tells me «enten går det bra, eller så går det over». It’s Norwegian and means ‘it’s either alright, or it will pass’. It sounds better in Norwegian tbh. But it’s true. I’ve struggled a lot myself to the point where i thought i was schizofren and i wanted to off myself. Now i don’t hallucinate anymore, im in a healthier relationship with someone who actually loves me (1year
Hugs and confirmation of love are the best things you can do for your depressed partner, or at least for me. When that I happens I break down crying because I'm just so relieved that all these depressed thoughts aren't true and that there is someone who does love and care for me.
Those are really good advices! Is there other tips you would like to recommend for those who are in your shoes?
But...no one knows that I have depression. I said it to my mom, she was just like: „honey, it‘s not depression, that‘s more like sadness, I will give you a hug and it‘ll be alright“.
I was like: „but...“
Mom: „it‘s alright...“
And my friend doesn’t take me serious, because I‘m always making jokes and being funny, I think she thinks that I‘m a really happy person, but she doesn’t really knows my soul at all...and she doesn’t take me seriously when I try to talk about „sad-depression-things“. She is just like: „I know depression is bad ans all that stuff, but I don‘t believe that it can be so bad, that it can physically or mentally disturb you, you are just sad and having a bad time at school, let‘s go and do something together“
It‘s so hard to tell anyone that I‘m depressed, and it‘s NOT getting better...
And I also tried to tell it my dad...but he doesn’t listen to me.
It can be difficult when people don't take it seriously. Perhaps, and I'm just guessing based off context clues, you are hiding your depression behind your humor.
But don't stop trying. Someone can and will help if you can find them.
I wish you luck.
Im sorry I believe you and your amazing and i wish they would make a video on how to handle it because im in the same boat...
Random Dogface That’s tough. Some people can’t understand depression or don’t take it seriously. That’s how my mother is as even though she knows I have it and even takes me to a psychologist, she acts like I can’t be sad for no reason or as if after a day of psychology I’m cured! It’s not how it works. Just know there is always someone out there who cares. You may not have met them yet but keep trying. For you it would feel good to know someone can understand and care for you
No one in my family gets me too!. I have an amazing friend (the only one that understood what I'm going through), she recommended this website to me 7cupsoftea.com you'll get to speak with professionals and those who have been through what you're going through now!. Hope you find solace :)
TL;DR: Physical and creative outlets are what I use since I don't have anyone that I can trust with my demons. Eat well and regularly.
People don't like to talk about the hard stuff. I still don't have anyone that i'm comfortable with constantly opening up to/confiding in. Since i'm doing this alone, I either work out or distract myself when I'm too angry, and use creative outlets when I need to talk to someone. It can be as simple as writing the negative thoughts feelings until you don't have anything else to say (and throwing that page in the trash so you don't have to see it again, also symbolic of being physically done with those feelings) or using a Buddha board to calm down and play with your creative abilities. Buddha boards are used with water, so no worries if you're not a confident artist. Remember to eat on time, even if you're not hungry, and take the day to day tasks slowly, like they're on a to do list.
Needed this to be able to help others. Thank youuu
My girlfriend has recently been admitted to a mental health clinic because she's had a relapse with her depression... she suffers from PTSD and sees a therapist about that, but sometimes it's too much for her to process, and it sends her on a downward spiral. This time it was basically the final "push" so to speak to put her in this depressive episode. It's very hard for me right now, I want to help but also don't want to overburden her, and it hurts my soul seeing her like this... I can only imagine the pain she's going through right now. I hope it gets better soon
Love & prayers for you. ❤️. Lean on your support system
some tips:)
-never leave them totally alone, i know we claim for 'silence' for a 'break' but thats actually isolating even more and the depression gets worser.
- mood swings are maybe every other week here for does not last for so long, some ppl can be happy for a couple time but than the next depressive ep. or the old habits make you feel empty again and you literally forget all the "happy" or good feelings from that days.
- this emptyness/\sadness cant get filled up by something. but actions gestures and Words helps us a lot to feel valid and like a human beeing and loved by someone.
Thank you for this comment
Thanks for your comment. My partner has depression and I originally thought he was pushing me away. When I told him how I felt he said he is just depressed. I had been playing the texting and calling game because he said multiple times before that he wants his own space. I’ve been doing research ever since he told me about this, and I want to make sure that he is okay. Thanks so much for your comment. I’m gonna try to be a better partner
I'm finally recovering from a depression that's been destroying me for years. My SO has been here for some time now and watching this I could see him doing each one of those things. Cosmic gratitude!
I’ve struggle with depression since the age of the 9. I’m 18 now . It took awhile to find positive ways to deal with it. I have scars and bad memories from it. I honestly think having my firstborn at 15 saved me . Everyone has a purpose and god gave me mine right after I tried ending my life . (I have 2 and pregnant with my last one now) my kids give me a reason to keep going even when I’m at my lowest . I do this for them ❤️❤️
My best friend has depression and I’ve always been there for her and helped her out to keep from harming herself during an episode but lately she’s been acting kinda toxic and it’s been bothering me-
And I honestly don’t know how to tell her without making her feel bad
I’ve kinda come to the conclusion that she has this tiny belief that since she’s been through and is still going thruw a lot she thinks that other ppl who experience feelings of sadness or something thruw the lines she thinks it’s minor compared to her situation and kinda brushes it off-
And that’s what’s brung me to never rlly talking to her about what’s bothering me or how she’s acting kinda mean and rude-
I honestly have no idea what to do;-;
Same
Catcable is this still happening?
Catcable my friend is depressed and I’m dying I don’t even know I’m scared of her committing suicide I can’t live without her.
Jake Woods since quarantine we’ve drifted and don’t talk anymore but I made sure to leave her in good hands so that she can take care of herself,, tho she is still a bit toxic when we talk,, it was hard cuz sometimes I would feel genuinely sad and not ok and I wanted to talk to her about it but she would brush it off saying it’s nothing or calling me a hypochondriac,, and if ur best friend is depressed try being there for them all the time,, always make sure she’s ok and just keep checking in on them,, even if she’s still sad she’ll know that u care
I would tell her whats going on.. although something is going on, she needs to treat you like a human still. If she still acts like this and has made no attempt, i would drop her. You dont need that negativity when you are giving an actual effort
This was incredibly helpful. My guy suffers from severe depression and anxiety and I’ve been trying to find more ways to help him. I know sometimes I can’t but I know being there for him helps a lot. I’ve learned that “I’m proud of you” “I’m here for you” “if there’s anything I can do let me know.” “I’m always here for you.” Have been things I’ve said to him that seem to help him a lot. Of course cuddles help too. Sometimes cuddling speaks more than words do. Just being held/holding someone who you care about helps them enormously and shows them you care without even using words, because sometimes actions speak louder. I try to make him laugh as often as I can and when he gets bad I always hold him and remind him that he is worthy and he is strong and He isn’t alone and I’ll be by his side and help him through it.
Oh I wish I had a partner like you😢
I wanted to thank psych2go and this community! Your videos and comments help me in understanding mental disorders. While I'm fine my partner is dealing with depression. Since he told me I'm constantly trying to learn more about the illness, trying to understand his struggles and to avoid hurting him through mistakes I make. I easily relate to this video, it still takes me by surprise when he's unwell or sad suddenly out of nowhere. When your partner starts crying and tellls you his life is meaningless and has no purpose, a part of you dies from the hurt these words inflict. But that's what depression does, right? Therefore, I will continue to be there for a cuddle and a smile on the worst days and appreciate the good ones even more.
To everyone reading to this point: Have a peaceful and pleasant day, you deserve it!
Why do you dare insult me? Do you say these words to peoples faces to? Get your manners together.. My boyfriend does not have to be "manly" cause he is perfect the way he is. I wouldn't leave him because of an illness. Thats rediculess
As it has been said, this video came up at the right time. My boyfriend is currently battling depression. While I have been depressed before, it has been a while and I don't remember all of the things I felt. Advice from others, videos like these, and my gut instincts help me care for him in ways I did not know how before. Relationships are never perfect. How can you have a serious relationship if you cannot handle your partner at both their high's and low's? Thank you!
I really needed this video! Unfortunately I have a friend who's going through some tough times, so I'm glad that I found this video. Hopefully she'll feel a little bit better after me and her other friends spend some time with her.
It's hard sometimes, we all tried to support her but she seemed to be getting worse and worse. It's starting to take a bit out of all of us, but in these past few days, she's started to improve, and even watched a movie with us all! This video came at just the right time ;-)
Much love to every parent and married couple going through this while trying to raise strong kids. The struggle is real.
OH MY GOD THANK YOU SO MUCH!
I have a friend who I have been inseparable from since kindergarten. I love her with all of my heart but now in our late teen years she has started drifting away... She became distant and moody. I felt so honoured when she admitted to me that she had been diagnosed with depression, its always heartwarming knowing she could have that trust for me despite all, but it also made me very worried since I have no clue what to do.
I’ve tried pep talks and remedies and things that usually help cheering people up but I’ve always known depression is far different than a temporary sad feeling. I’ve been so clueless, I want to help my best friend so bad but I never know how to. So really thank you! This might help me get better at helping her!
I usually don't post, but this really relates to what I have been going through. I'm on medications for ADD, Anxiety, and Bipolar Disorder (have been since I was 14, I'm 23 now). I am fortunate to have a significant other that supports me fully and helps me push through. We recently moved 9 hours away from where we were living before, and it has been quite a change. We left our friends, and both of our families are further away now. I have been in a rut of depressive episodes, coming out of them to manic episodes that will last a couple of days, then back to depressive. My partner was receiving a lack of affection and attention since I had become closed off. Despite this, they still were there for me. The guilt I felt from not holding up my side of the relationship caused me so much stress that I thought they would be better if I left them. When I brought up the topic their response was a definite no. They said that we can get through this, and they definitely would not be better off without me. They sat through 5 months of me being like this, but they still stayed there supporting me, trying to help me and eventually I was able to start feeling better. For everyone out there that doesn't feel like they will ever have someone that cares, you definitely will. It could be family or friends (though I acknowledge some of you may come from unhappy families and have toxic or abusive friends, and I can relate to that because I had some horrible friends that left me scared of people). Many of you may be watching this wishing that you had a partner that will care enough to push through depression with you, and there is someone out there. Choose your partner carefully, and you can find someone who will be your teammate in life. Good luck all, don't give up. I'm right here on the struggle bus with ya.
thank you so much. in a new relationship and i’m trying so hard to help her as much as i possibly can. this helps so much. coming from a sufferer of depression as well. 💞 thank you!
I hope you can help her. ❤
That's so cuuuuute. Aw, crying. Okay, you made my day.
Hope this video helps :) Usually people with depression just wants to feel accepted and understood.
Thank you so much for making this video, one of my best friends has seasonal depression and I'm trying my best to be there for her.
Great video! These have all helped me tremendously through my depression at some point, but the biggest things are letting them know you’re there for them and that you genuinely care, IMO.
Also, check on your strong friends - and remember that the Suicide Hotline isn’t just for people that are a threat to themselves, but a tool for others to help friends in need.
I’m not but I suffer from serve clinal depression, serve social anxiety, bpd amongst other things and that was so difficult for my boyfriend and I both in the beginning, I’ve suffered with both for more than half my life but he doesn’t suffer from either so it was really really hard for him to understand.
However what helped us and made us closer and stronger was me explaining in the best way I could that when I’m like that it’s never his fault and he hasn’t done anything wrong, also 9/10 times I honesty don’t know what’s caused it or triggered it and if you’re reading this and are having trouble, Communication, having an open mind and pure honesty is what is needed and a huge heart to heart and my boyfriend told me he was never angry at me but he felt helpless so I told him little things that could help (many were suggested in this video) and while he can’t cure it or fix me, he knows that I love and appreciate him more than ever for his love, support and understanding.
I have a friend who has been going through a lot and one thing I have learnt is that when their mood swings causes them to push people away, it's a signal that they really need them after the worst of what ever is happening is over.
This video is fantastic! I'm glad i was following all of these things before i saw this. Im dating someone with depression, and sometimes she will completely break down. But it always ends up okay, because i am here for her. We're looking in on the professional help as well.
Thank you so much for making this video!! I really needed it! My best friend has depression and I always wanted to do my best to support her ^^
Most of the time I'm sad because my girlfriend is. I feel like I'm experiencing with her. Of course, it is worse for her. I just feel so bad... and I know she can't control it, but I hate it so much.
But, you know, it's awesome you are still there. If you're experiencing it will be easier to you to understand her, that's a fact, but if you're willing to "suffer" for her... well, it must be love, or you're a great person (or both).
I'm pretty sure that when she has a good day she's feeling super duper grateful for you supporting her and sometimes when she's really sad she can smile knowing you're there.
Idk, I feel that way whenever my boyfriend makes me laugh or gives me a hug saying that he doesn't want to lose me.
Sometimes when I have an anxiety attack I would think in him trying to calm myself, and when I'm in danger of harming myself I try to remember good things (there are a lot of good memories with him). So you're really important rn, believe it or not.
Props to you ^^
@@sobonghyunseung7610 Thank you very much 😊
I just want to send all of pysch2go’s videos to all my friends and family but I just can’t
Well, we can always make it anonymous. 7w7
Why not? :)
Because they're going to take it like a passive-aggressive stab at how they're not good friends and family. @@Psych2go
Thank you! This upload was very much needed. The insight you gave is real for so many and can be hard to verbalize, this video said plenty and it has depth!!! 🙏☺❤
I've noticed that my partner just likes me being there. They get mood swings a lot and sometimes I don't always know what to do. So thank you enlightening me
"Depression can leave you in a fog for hours, or even days."
*Me rolling in on my 6th year of depression* Cute
play skyrim, listen to toto, enjoy wonder that only you understand
And I hope that it’s the 8th one
I'm watching this to educate myself so that when it happens to a loved one or a relative, I have an idea of how I may be able to help them through it because I feel guilty and useless when I am aware but I don't know how to help
This was so helpful thank you.
My boyfriend has depression and told me he wants to take a break from our relationship for a month. I was very hurt at first, but I know he made an appointment to talk to a therapist and hes been opening up to his friends.
When I see him next I will know to not take things personally anymore. I also noticed he does have a hard time with chores too so I'll be aware to help him out more
thank you soo much psych2go! I have depression and my boyfriend has been struggling to survive with me, my low energy and mood swings lately. I'm now going to show him this video to help him out! thank you again.
My boyfriend is cutting and it makes me so sad 😞 I don’t know how to help him... I want him to be happy
Same thing 😢 I'm doing research the figure out how to help him
Hope your boyfriend is feeling better today
@@katiadani820 hows your bf? any better?
I have an ex that has depression. It was ldr, and it wasn’t that long either but we’ve known each other for more than a month now. He pushed his friends away and I was also included, but he came back to me and we started talking again. Me being the only one he reached out to again, caused a big stress on me. I felt that I had a huge responsibility for him. And for the past few days, he has been struggling with sleeping no matter how long he tried to. And i knew things were getting worse with him and I hated how I couldn’t do anything to help him. I started questioning my love for him because it seemed that it wasn’t enough to help him atleast a little. (This was all in my head) I also asked him on how I could make him feel more love from me and stuff that I could do for him, which might’ve gave him an idea that maybe he was a burden to me?? Or yk. Yeah, he recently stopped chatting me. It was very unexpected. I thought it was only for a couple of hours without talking to each other because i usually give him space cuz I know that’s what he wanted and what would be best for myself too. But yeah hours turned to days. It’s now been 4 days since he hasn’t reply lol it’s not THATT long but I’ve been really worried for him. Been praying every single hour to God to help him and hope that he didn’t do anything bad to himself. Anyways, I’ve been spamming him with messages and hopefully he read those from the notification tab cuz my messages are still delivered. (I messaged him on messenger) I honestly don’t know why I made this comment, but yeah. :))
Update: turns out he lost his phone. 😃
I love that these videos are always short and entertaining and useful, i cant imagine better
Honestly yes me and my partner both have depression. And I just want to help her the best way I can. Even in my darkest moments I will always shine for her. No matter what and I know she shines for me too. And honestly now just by watching this. I can always help her even more. Thank you so much . Just to let you know I'm always inspired by you guys to help me and my friends keep going.
“Ever feel sad but don’t know why? That’s depression” well explains my life right there
“Are you dating someone with depression?”
It’s sort of the opposite..and it also doesn’t help when your partner has not responded to you in 2 or 3 weeks...but is still playing video games sometimes..
Or talking to other people but not you...
They need to at least listen to what you have to say... they should not be ignoring you...
Thank you, thank you so much, really
i like to watch these, i allways send them to my bf when i can relate. and ever since that it has gone sm better.
i have suffered from depression in 3 years. but now its getting sm better.
so to anyone who is a lil depresso out there. like me. just know it gets better. even tho it seems like it wont it does
I think I might have depression
If you think that you should see a medical professional. Never Self-Diagnose. and if you do end up having it, I hope it gets better!
@@isthisenne thank you
@@pengin9056 dont worry your not alone... I deal with the same thing
Shellular Device no. Self diagnosing helps because you know you better than some therapist who is going off of what you tell them and dont know your feelings and the severity of the situation (my therapist doesnt take me seriously). Plus they misdiagnose all the time (getting bipolar mixed with BPD or even DID)
@@pengin9056 I doubt they won't entirely listen, and its perfectly fine to get help yourself. But don't say that you do have depression unless you've been addressed by a medical professional. Also, you can't change your family, but if you try being more open with them, they might be more open to you in return
I had a depressed best friend but she kept pushing me away and just ignored me then started to post revealing pictures and accusing me of stuff and even became bestfriends with her bully and it made me so depressed I just wish life was better for me
Im sorry. Just know that you got the past and i know you can get through this. ❤
@@quietkenna thank you😊😢
It's sad when people you care push you away. All you could do is move on. Eventually they will come back and realize it.
@@Kayla-sh6yd np, you can get through it :3❤❤❤
I'm. blue. You sound like a good friend can u be my friend? But people always hate me or get bored of me idk why...
Psych2Go, we really enjoyed your take on depression in relationships with partners and friends. Keep up the awesome work!
This was really helpful. I have a friend with depression. I help her with everything I can, and this was actually very helpful. Thanks. :)
I wish my whole family can TRULY understand this with me. My family knows I'm struggling with severe depression, but they don't fully understand i sometimes need space. Im taking medicine for it but sometimes it doesn't work and i want to cry alone. I just want my family to understand things I wish I can too.
Maybe you could try writing them a letter explaining your feelings and needs
Im sorry i hope you feel better. I get it that your family doesnt understand. My family (my step mom) doesnt understand that my anxiety is getting worst. My step mom says just stop worrying, but i cant. Im not hateing my step mom btw. I get it but not fully. Just know you can you get through it❤❤❤
@@LittleLulubee Thats a good idea. Im going to try to write down stuff that they need to understand about me now. Thank you for the idea! I hope they could understand more after
@@Phe0nix07 Great, I hope it helps :)
I am sorry to hear that. Things will get better
It’s like you read my mind for the video topic ;-; Thanks a lot for this~
that's called youtube algorithm
This is like the best Video ever.... My best Friend has Depression and everything said in this video is very much relatable and true. Actually 3 of my very close friends did suffer from it, and I am so grateful that I was able to be by their side, that they were strong and got help and therapy when they needed it. Life is not easy with it, but they manage to be happy and I'm so glad.
Thank you so much! My girlfriend recently lost her father and has been super depressed and I've been at my wits end trying to understand how to react to certain situations and how to handle it for myself to show that I'm there without being needy and stuff, this helped me understand like everything I need to know tbh. I can do better now(:
My mom knows my depression and stuff but she doesn't realize how fucked up my life is overall she just makes me feel like I'm ungrateful and alone but she doesn't know that, she's the best mom without anything hard going on in my life, idk her mood just changed when she found out.
My girlfriend told me that she she dpesnt randomly get sad she is sad and feels bad all the time and I'm the only one that makes her happy but its pressuring to deal with and I sometimes snap
Idk what to do anymore
Thank you so much for this video,I've been looking for this type of help for a long time!
Really thank you for your videos, they are very helpful, especially for a person like me that don't want to make a bad move scared of hurtinh his partner...I really appreciate your work, keep going💪😊
my friend is dealing with depression and im trying to be there for her as much as i can. i want her to trust me and not take me as a person that will just say they understand and leave. shes going through so much and i wanna help her the one of the best friends can. im really worried for her because im trying to get her more open with her feelings and thoughts but i understand sometimes she wants to be by herself. she believes that she can find a way alone even though she is going through this for 3 years. i wasnt there for her before because she kept it to herself and i feel so bad for not knowing. Im trying
to convice her to find someone to talk to and that she must give a chance for people trying to help her. I want the best for her
I’m going through the same thing.........
OMG!!! I *needed* this! Thank you Psych2Go! Now let’s see if these might help me to help my friend.
Edit: These tips might seriously help me to care for my friend who has depression, and some of these tips I already do myself, so that makes me feel good knowing I’m already doing the right things to help my friend. 😊
I need to watch this for my beloved girl. She's suffering now. I couldn't do anything because we are far from each other. And her cellphone was taken away from her. That added on her anxiety because I've been there, we were talking day and night, now she feels alone. I want to give her new phone but I don't have money either. I am unemployed because of the pandemic. She's really sad by now. That's the only way to feel that she's not alone.
The only way is to flood her with message that It's okay and I am here,and read it when she gets home from work. I know she's tired. I love her so much but what I am capable of is not enough.
Oh my god thank you so much for this, we're 4 months and we're in a long distance relationship, and we still haven't met cuz of covid-19, she get's really drained so easily and I wish I could help her. I always get to her level, I get sad when she's like that. She always takes her sweet time alone and I get worried because she didn't chat me for 2 days but now she did. But she was still out of energy and very down. This really helped thankyou so much keep making more
I would love to help a depressed partner but no one I know has depression but for me....
Then perhaps the first person you can help is yourself. By doing that, then you can help others.
And just remember, you aren't alone.
It may help to stop denying that other people have it as bad as you.
I'm early! Thanks for this video, it was needed.
Thankyou so much! My friend has depression and social anxiety and used to get bullied a lot at his old school. I used to get irritated at him screaming at random periods in time and one crying for no reason at all. I now understand why.
Thank you so much, this will really help my friend right now. She doesn't want hugs or any comfort physical contact with me because she will get emotional. It's hard, but I have to be strong for her.
edit: we separated since we have different school in college, and i can confidently say that she is in much more happier and confident state that she's in, i am so proud of her!
Proud of you and her.❤️❤️❤️
This is so relatable...thanks for the advice..!
Np! Hope it helped! Is there any other topics you'd like us to cover?
I’m watching a video on how to help a depressed person while I need help myself 😔
I’m glad this was recommended to me now, my friend who suffers from depression has feelings for me (and wants to start a relationship). It’s good to know what I can do to support him
It's very good to know, how I can help yomeone with depression, even if they don't say much about it. I'm not in a relationship with someone who has depression, but my friend has depression. I try to use these tricks to help her. Your videos really help me to understand and help my friend. She doesn't talk about it much, but thanks to you I can understand how she's feeling and how I can behave to make her feel better. C:
*waits for one of my friends or family to watch the video and help me*
They would firstly need to care enough to believe you 😑
Thanks for the video! My best friend hasn’t been feeling the same after she broke it off with an abusive ex friend, I just want her to feel better and know that I’m there for her
In my eyes these things are equally important for someone with depression even outside of a relationship. Having supportive friends can be a lifesavior, and not having such people can really get to you.
Anyway, great video, i'm sure it will help a lot of people~
The truth is, people don't care and usually don't understand. They have their lives to live and you will be left behind if you don't catch up. If someone didn't do it, it's either they have their uses of you for own benefit or it's rare af kind of relationships.
The lesson learned:
If you're depressed, nobody is gonna wanna be your friend and nobody will love you inless you're beneficial to their needs. Thanks, made me feel great.
@@Loopimay that really depends if you want to change and actually acknowledge that you are depressed or not. If you are mean and manipulative to your partner obviously they are not going to want to stick around for
People do care, yes sometimes i dont understand but i care, i care for her sm, and i dont know what to do anymore, should i text her or should i give her the space that she asked, but the last time i gave her space she thought that i dont care about her, that i abandoned her. Dilemmas in life. I hope she reach out to me soon. 🙂🙏💞
I had a close friend for 6 years, I believed that we had a really close bond. At the time I started getting early symptoms for depression. I felt like we were growing apart, but still pretty close.
So I opened up to her with how I was feeling. At the time she also had BPD, but I wasn’t aware of this until after this story. I told her how I thought I had depression. I also told her about the horrible relationship I have with my parents so I didn’t trust them enough to tell them.
And guess what she told me.. she told me she had it way worst than me, and told me it was probably just a phase. I can understand now where she was coming from but at the time I felt so guilty. I still do, it’s only been one year and she moved away.
Now I have a lot of severe depression symptoms but I’m too scared to tell others. I feel so lonely and was abandoned by someone I thought was close to me. I hope one day I’ll find someone I can trust again but right now I feel lonely.
Im so sorry:( how are you today?
Thanks for making videos like this one. I appreciate that you guys take the time to make these
Thank you for this vid, my friend has an eating disorder and depression and I’m not really good in those situations and I hope to help her now and make her feel better 😀
To all partners/friends of a person with a depressive disorder.
Please remember that you do not have to save your partner, friend, family member or anyone else.
Being in a relationship with person with depression is very, very exhausting. It can hurt you and sometimes the depression can even be contagious.
So take care of yourself and don’t hesitate to seek out professional help as well. x3
*Me:* *Is highly traumatized and has trouble expressing feelings *
*Also me:* If it's for you... I can try a little harder.
Thank you for this. I have been trying to help the guy I love with SAD. I have read articles for so long trying to find ways to help or the causes of it and ways to make things less hard for him. Before bed since he is asleep I am looking up videos on the best ways I can support him. He has been real dry and it kinda hurts with how much I love him. But I am realizing it’s not my fault. He is there for me in my troubles and hard situations and he always makes me feel so much better. I wish I could find a way to deliver the same happiness and peace he gives me. I know I can’t cure it I just want to help ease it so badly.
I've been trying to help my close friends with similar things. Most are a little more serious and I've lost a few on the way.
Thank you so much for this video, I'll be sure to use it!
A future suggestion if it doesn't already exists (if so could someone link it): a similar styled video but about suicide and how to help close friends and/or talk someone out of it.
My depressed partner keeps pushing me away. And I don't know what to do since I even live in another country
Give them space, and reassure them that you are there for them no matter what. Maybe you can text them once a day or every other day. Best of luck 🥰😇🙏💞
Whenever I told my mom I was having suicidal thoughts she'd always spin it into me hating her and play victim ._.
She hates you and she plays victim.
Watching this vid reassures me that I did well and I am happy that my dear friend is no longer depressed. She is very active and happy now ^_^
Great video. Helping others is good for the world
WHERE MY NOTIFICATION SQUAD AT 👏👏👏👏
here mah boi
RIGHT👏HERE👏
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@Bri likes art YT The comment that everyone is replying on
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Thx for this video. My best friend has depression and although I did most of these things already I'm glad to get some advice❤💕she means so much to me