BENEFITS OF RAISING A CHILD IN THE NETHERLANDS + Challenges I've faced as a Black Nigerian Mom..
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- เผยแพร่เมื่อ 24 ก.พ. 2022
- Hi Beautiful People,
In this video I share with you the benefits of raising your child in the Netherlands. I also share some of the challenges I have faced as an African mum living in the Netherlands.
Do let me know your thoughts on my points and please consider subscribing😊
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Some links referred to in the video
www.unicef-irc.org/publicatio...
www.unicef.nl/files/Report%20...
Link on childcare benefits
www.government.nl/topics/chil...
www.svb.nl/en/
#blackmominthenetherlands #lifeinthenetherlands #childcarenetherlands
I am ghanian girl born in the netherlands, 24 years old now and everything you are telling us is true. I have expierenced the best childcare suport ever in my life. Wich makes me very happy!
I would love for you to compare Nigerian and Dutch culture, Im always ready to discover more cultures! Also its very smart to raise your child to speak Dutch & English. Will give him a lot of benefits in life!
Hi Kormit, thank you for your comment.
I will add this video to my list then🤗.
I agree with you on raising kids to be bilingual. For my son I think it will be so much beneficial for him 🤗🤗🤗. That’s why we enrolled him in a Dutch day care from the start
@@josphineogugua I think that you could teach your son your native language (I didn't want to assume that they speak Nigerian there as I know that many languages differ from the country name in Africa) because he may want to speak his parents' native language. Also, love your content!
I’m actually excited about raising my son here in the Netherlands, all the points you stated are very valid sis
Thank you so much sissss🤗🤗🤗🥰🥰🥰
About equality. As a white dutch kid around 5-10 years old my best friend was a kenian migrant. I don't have any memory of seeing black as different. I didn't realize any difference. Nor is there of course but we all know the world isnt perfect and skin tone makes people think differently of each other. We had fun times and he didn't experience any racism in class (from what I know). As far as I know not being treated, or talked about or referenced as different is very good for mental health and being self secure. I hope that is the experience your son will find at school. And it's possible! ;p
This is beautiful 😍, also a new mom in the Netherlands and your contents are valid.
Delft is a beautiful city, it’s so calm and family oriented. I was in Rotterdam for a year and watching your videos makes me relive all the great moments I had in 2020. Can’t wait to be back with my family. Truly love your content🤍
Well done dear, this video did not only show us what we need to know but also the values you have as a mother. I learnt a lot and might be reaching out soon. Thanks
Jason's opening ovation was the highlight for me 😅
Hahahahah. I agree🤣🤣
Makes me gratefull to live here! Beautifull video. Thanks Joshpine!
Very nice video again. Im Dutch but i moved to Belgium a long time ago. The benefits for having kids are a little bit higher here. I know the kinderbijslag in Holland comes every three months. Overhere its paid monthly and you will get 160 euros. Also when you have a kid you pay less taxes here. Not saying Belgium is better than Holland because in the end things might equal out
Amazing content! I love your energy 💕
New in the channel, I will watch everything 😊
Hi Monique,
Thank you so much for subscribing. I’ll be in the comments responding for sure🤗🤗🤗🤗
one of my favorite benefits is that you can be yourself and that were on a way where everyone is treated equaly
Thank you Pien for your comment. I agree with you, this is soo important. Not being under pressure to be someone else
Your video’s are good 👍. I’m married to a woman with African roots(Morocco) a lot of things were a culture shock. But also a window into your own culture that i hadn’t thougt about. Now i take the good of both which means some Dutch customs went out of the door😉 and some African ones are adopted.
Hi Sjaak,
Thank you so much for your comment.
I am so glad your able to experience and enjoy both cultures. May I know some of the Dutch customs that went out the door? I’m just curious😆
@@josphineogugua hahaha well there are a lot. I’ll give you a few examples. Shoes in the house. In my household we kept on our shoes. Same with my friends. First thing my wife said no we are not doing that. People dropping by without appointments. Dutch want to make appointments ahead and time schedule it. In my wife’s culture people drop by unexpected. Now i’m cool with that. First i asked what are they doing here? My wife said that is hshoema( impolite or culturally unacceptable). People staying over for diner unannounced. Planning your whole week is one. Not eating at 5 only, people sleeping over, family bonding is different. Less individualistic, man the circle sitting birthdays went out the door. When there is a crisis in the family everyone pitches in to help. Cooking for elderly people. They look at elderly people with more respect and can’t understand housibg for the elderly. I can go on😅
@@sjaakafhaak5441 ha ha thats nice!
@@sjaakafhaak5441 well some things the dutch can really improve as you said. I think what you said about family is very good
Much appreciated dearest 💕🙏
I enjoyed watching this video 🤗
Very nice! 💙 awesome for u.
With your video about your struggle with Dutch I wrote a lengthy comment with ideas, but then it vanished when I posted it. Which I discovered later. But now your are talking about children one comes back. My advise was to read Dutch books. But easy ones.
Ask an adult how her/his teddy bear was called. Good change it’s Pippeloentje. It’s a little bear that appears in some of the children poems by Annie M.G. Schmidt. Look if you can find the book “Ziezo” in the library or buy it. The book contains all her children poems. A couple of the songs have been set on music. And you are going to meet them somewhere during your sons school life. Annie is the most dutch you can get. She also wrote books. Jip en Janneke are typically to read to young children
Toon Tellegem is another author. He writes beautiful, funny, short stories. Kind of Pooh like but more of today and more fantasy.
Oh and another tip one to watch Dutch tv with subtitles. I learned English mainly by watching the bbc with English subtitles. (And reading books) currently I’m trying to better my French that way.
Jannette I just want to say thank you so much. Dutchies like you make the Netherlands such a beautiful place to live. You didn’t have to do this but you took out time to help. Thank you🙏🏾
I have taken a screenshot of your suggestion and I will consider doing this.
I might come back to this comment to update you.
Thanks again 🥰😘
@@josphineogugua I can second the tip about reading the book Jip and Janneke. I'm Dutch but I made a lot of international friends during my time at University. My family lend a Jip and Janneke book to an Italian friend to help her learn Dutch.
PS I love your vibe and energy and your son is adorable.
Hi Josphine its me again what you say about the kids is the same that i was living in the netherlands ( for me Holland ) you are right with the kids even in the sixty 's. I am proud to be a dutch canadian and still feel for the way the people of the Netherlands react with there social welfare .
Hi Robert, thanks so much for sharing 🤗
NL is not a family-oriented country. It is family-friendly but not family-oriented. Family-oriented means people's life evolving around family and this is not the case in NL. There is a very high rate of divorce and also after a certain age, kids' life is totally separated from parents' life. They don't communicate, they don't talk to each other often etc. Even parents push their kids to set free and leave them alone.
Also, the benefit that the government gives is peanuts compared to the cost of life.
Child education is free but so it is in all European countries, it is nothing special.
Last but not least, the maternity leave period is not that long. There are other countries with longer maternity leave.
I love NL by the way but I think it is way better for single people than people with families.
Highly appreciate your comment
Amazing 👏👏👏👏
Thank you baby🤗🤗🤗
I really love this video God bless you. My favourite is that kids are allowed to be kids meaning they can play around, go to school on their own without my checking up on them all the time. 👍
Please can u do a video or leave a link how nurses can migrate to the Netherlands. I can't wait please.
Wow Josephine thanks so much for the information... It was so detailed 😃 ... Please can you say something about works that are available and can be easily applied to as a foreigner. I'll really love that. Thanks
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Hi Grace. Thanks for your comment.
I’ll consider that too. It will require a bit more research on my end but I think it will be a really interesting topic🤗
My mum learned dutch during our school period. She did the same work as us at the same time. Started with the basic words we learned in the class to write etc.
Thanks so much for sharing. I'll be learning Dutch alongside my son too🤗
would totally love to see a video where the two cultures are compared
Sureeee🤗🤗🤗
Stumbled on your channel today and I love, love, love it here 😍😍
Please as a Nigerian mum who gave birth in Netherlands (I presume), does the country give your son an automatic citizenship by birth? If no, how many years does he have to be to get citizenship and is there any special process that needs to be carried out for him to get it?
Children born in the Netherlands don't automatically get the Dutch nationality like they do in the US (I believe). Only if one of the parents is Dutch do the children automatically get the Dutch nationality.
@@Cl0ckcl0ck Ohhh! Thanks for this information
Dutch is one of the hardest language to learn. I'm from Aruba and from 1ste grade onwards students are taught in Dutch. I moved to the Netherlands when I was 18. I had 12 years of learning Dutch under my belt and I still made mistakes.😂
Hahahah. Thank you so much for your comment Shaqira.
It gives me a bit of hope not to be too hard on myself. Lol.
I’m taking my Dutch a bit more seriously. Hopefully I’ll at least get better. I’m sure I’ll be making mistakes 😆😆😆
We all do, just trying makes you loved!
I was born and raised in the Netherlands and could not wait to get out.
@@MrXclc and?
I was born, raised and educated in Holland - was told I needed extra lessons in speaking Dutch due to my blatant Zaans accent
100% correct
Thank you so much🤗🤗🤗
jason eating paper at ~7:20 😭😂 so precious
Raise with you hart, don’t forget where you are from but always be respectful to where you are. If you do, you are loved by the Dutch and they want to know how it is to be living in Nigeria. Bridges are build by people who know how green the grass is on both sides.
Please explain the different values you are struggling with.
You have a lovely son. 😌
can you also do a video about you're dislike of the netherlands or raisin you're child in the netherlands or both ofc!
Sure Pien, I will consider this. In this video I shared some of the challenges I’ve faced raising my child in the Netherlands. But I can have a video going more into details
I had an incident with my neighboor about my kid making noise while running at house. She is 2 years old she complained about noise and it is just 5 minutes running at 10 pm. She came at my door first i apoligized but later i asked my friends who also live at nederland they said it is impossible to make a complaint about child making noise, especially small kids. So when lady came my door i told her that in dutch law it is ok to a baby makes noise you can not complain me about that issue. I said the lady i am not throwing a party or i am not making any intentional noise. So i said the lady call the police if you are concerned about noise but she knows police is not at her side.
Hi dear, I really appreciate your video, nice one👍👍, pls I want to know, to what extent do they offer free education for the kids, is it up to university level or only secondary school level?
Alot of similarities with Germany ,I just love these big boys in Europe 🇪🇺 like Germany,Luxembourg,Netherlands and co.We call them big boys because they are good, the benefits you get from them are not seen in other countries in the world did I tell you that you have a cute son😍😍?
Thank you soo much Nora🤗🤗🤗🤗🤗
I’ve only visited Germany and have never been to Luxembourg, but I’ve heard a lot about them 🤗🤗🤗. Thanks so much. I’ll extend some greetings to my son😆😆😆😆
Thank you for the video, are these oppurtunities for people who have Dutch citizenship or only residence permit is enough?
There are many ways you can learn dutch. When you go to the laibary ( bibliotheek) they can tell you how. I live in Enschede and it is to far for me. Veilig leren lezen is a good method for learning dutch.
Hmm thank you for stating this, i’ve never looked at it this way… born and raised I rather want to leave 🙈
You can go to all places. You are safe. Every where.
Yes please, mske a video to see Nigerian and Dutch cultures.
Dutch is not easy, that is a fact. If you have a Library, you can have a course there. Then you get to know more people. My fiancé is from Nigeria. He needs to learn it as well. Keep on trying. Its ok to make mistakes, that is how to learn
Well you said 'sociaal verzekeringsbank' perfect except of the fact that it is 'sociale'
Thank you Josephine for this content, what if the child was not born in the Netherlands?. what is the easiest route to relocate from Nigeria to the Netherlands and how much will it cost? what documents are needed, please help. how easy is it to have work? Thank you.
Very interesting video
Thank you Vito
Nice kid. So leuk
Please share with us the cost of education especially in International schoosl for parents with grown up children.
You may think your Dutch is bad...but I think our Nigerian is worse! ;-))) (use some Nigerian words! I'd like to hear the difference!
Feel good about yourself, you know several languages already, and I think anything you add is just a huge accomplishment. Languages are not that easy! And if you count Nigerian, English, and Engineering, I think that's plenty of language already to be proud of :) I don't speak two of those. I just speak Dutch and English. Plus perhaps ten words in German and ten in French. Two in Italian and Spanish, LOL :))
Edit to add: YES to comparisons! I LOVE video's about all the similarities and differences. Sometimes I think we have countries for a reason, especially when we clash! So, learning and emotionally growing to a united planet is my dream. And for us to grow and learn, we need to understand and value ALL people and cultures! Instead of accusing each other of racism, I want to learn why your country is your country! Why is Nigeria Nigeria? What makes it different from us?
Me, total geographical layman, imagines Nigeria to be a desert mostly, and I suppose I have a very juvenile view on that due to comic books in my youth probably. Or bad discovery channel commercials about sand, camels, poverty and poor, poor people who need help. Same thing you addressed about "the nigerian prince". I'm not a fan of such stereotypes, but when I ask myself what do I actually KNOW about Nigeria? I have NO clue. Some vague idea about possible mining? like diamond, gold, other resources? perhaps safari kind animals, like giraffe and rhino? I'm not sure. Oil?
So there, now you see how you can enlighten us and teach us about Nigeria Today. :) I'm ashamed already about how much I don't know, ;-)
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I noticed one more thing in one of your vids... how eagerly you wanted to leave the home of your father. That really made me wonder how your father was a father. Mine was interested in me, playful, taught me gardening, carpentry, drumming, smoking weed (oops) and some pretty weird ideas overall. He was always trying to achieve the Perpetuum Mobile. (for real). He never did, but it always kept him thinking.
I was wondering how your did the dad job. Mine should definitely have given me stricter rules because that's the one thing I lacked. rules and discipline. Not all Dutch dads are smart, wise, structured or very dutch for that matter. My grandfather was a Frencheman. (dad's fater) Never met them though.
Teach him both values and when he's learning dutch he will be bilingual so he will be able to translate for you it's a very good skill to have
I want to come to the nerthland but I want to know if I can get my ROI back in the nerthland after study.
I let my 3 year old watch peppa pig in English and dutch and he talks for a dutch child pretty good English. I think for a small country its important to learn more languages.
Are you trying to say that kids will be thought in Dutch language in school or mixed. Asking because i have a 6 & 11yr old children.
Lovely little man
When you are raising your child with dutch as first language and you mingle with the dutch people you will learn dutch very quickly.
You know how the Dutch like to give unasked advice, right? Well, If I were you, I would go on holiday to France, so your son gets natural exposure to French. He will learn to speak Dutch and English without any problem (hears enough of it), but many Dutch people are bad in French from lack of exposure, even though we have to learn it for school. Holidays in France can help, especially at a young age. .
Pls how can I bring in Nigeria food in the Netherlands for my husband
All these positive video's about our country are getting me a bit worried. There are only so many Americans that we can accomodate here. And judging by the way things are going in the US right now I think a lot of Americans are thinking about a future outside "the land of opportunity", which is going to have to be renamed shortly to "the totalitarian state of faillure". The Scandinavian countries and Germany are also very nice.
You forget one benefit: hagelslag on bread🥳
Great thing about Dutch education is you learn a lot of languages. If your son does 'gymnasium,' those languages will include Latin and Greek. Quite a lot of work and difficult, but knowing those languages is prestigious. It classes him as 'intellectual' for life. In England, you only get that at Eton (very expensive). In Holland, indeed, it's free.
The more beautiful ladies such as yourself move to the Netherlands, the better.
We have pearls. 9000km away. The most beatifull is Saba, Nederlanse Antillen
Take a look with Google.
Is healthcare free as well?
Hi Norman,
Healthcare is free for children up to 18 years old. But the child needs to be registered to a health care insurer usually under a parent. This means as long as the child’s parent has a health care insurance, the child’s care is covered for free until 18.
Every year you are here the goverment puts money away for you when you are old. You have then money enoug to live from. A decent live.
Everbody gets it.
The university is very expensive
If you want your son to learn Dutch, it's important that you and your husband learn to speak Dutch too and try to speak Dutch at home on a regular basis. Just learning Dutch in school will proof to be very hard.
We want him to be bilingual. He learns English at home and Dutch in school. He is coping very well.
My husband already speaks Dutch, I’m the one being left behind but I’m already working on it🤗
@@josphineogugua That's a perfect reason to practice Dutch at home, for you too.. Ofcourse it's good to give your son a bilingual education, but don't forget your own integration in Dutch society.
@@eddys.3524 I see your point Eddy. We already know practicing Dutch is something we will do but didn’t consider starting as early and possible but thanks for your comment 🤗
@@josphineogugua Thank you for the opportunity to be of any help ;)
@@eddys.3524 Darling, not to be rude, but you're wrong.
The child WILL learn the language they use at school, and when they grow up and spend more time with their friends rather than with their parents, chances are, that the "school" language will be their strongest one (and basically the only way to prevent it is for parents to only (or as much as possible) use their native tongues with the child).
That's what you will find in literature about bilingualism in children. :) Have a good day!
Mostly your boss puts money a way to.
Many bonanza because of the high tax I guess 😆
I would like to settle in European countries like Monaco>Switzerland 🇨🇭>FINLAND 🇫🇮 Austria 🇦🇹 because these countries are more expensive than Netherlands 🇳🇱 i love you so much 🇨🇭🇨🇭🇳🇱🇳🇱🇦🇹🤗🤗😘😘my dear Nigerian who's from south africa am i right 🤗😘😘
I wanted to subscribe to you, but after I clicked the button it exploded right before my eyes.
Sorry...😇
We strucle without our history. We where big slave traders and built Holland from it.
Lots, 40%, dont want to thinl about it.
We have some racial things like Zwarte Piet. Our cops puts profiles. We try to do something about it but its not easy. We have people from afrika, marokaans, treath bad
The kids reacts bad. I think it normal. Bad gives bad.
IT'S THE PARENTS HO MAKE HET WORKS. WITH THE HELP OF THE GOVERNMENT. YOU CAN SCREW IT UP TOO DON'T SHE DUTCH LATER NO NOW !!!!!!1
Hi John,
Bear in mind that I’m doing my best as a parent. Trust me I don’t depend on the Government to raise my child.
This video was made to create awareness to potential experts who are considering the Netherlands for work. So they can know the benefits here too.
As for my Dutch, I’m already working on it. And I’m doing that at my own pace.
Thanks for your comment
Just ignore johnnie, or sjonnie as we call him here😉
Wat een nare reactie, John, op zo'n postieve video. En al die hoofdletters, echt niet nodig.
Not trying to be rude.. but not your dutch is bad, your english is wors. Just sayinge
Zegt degene die twee schrijffouten in één zin maakt!