They truly do, not everything has to be new, especially when you can’t have your own or you decide you’re ready to take on older kids that don’t have a forever home. my heart says those are the truly blessed humans of the world,😇✌🏻💕
When I first decided to adopt I said straight out I would want to adopt older kids. I always advocate for those kids because i know exactly how it feels to be them. Every single one of those babies, children, teens deserve a home.
I absolutely agree, I sadly hear way too many horror stories than beautiful, endearing, happy endings, at least here in the US, perhaps that can change one day, perhaps🙏🏻✌🏻💕
Yes it does my grandma adopted my mom and aunt and I’ve never knew till I was older a person that adopts can love a child as much as the mother that had it
I hate the Social Worker and the adoptive parents of the 3 kids. They are so cold about how they have helped steal babies away from the birth parents. The adoptive mom was so rude when she said "the birth mom will keep having kids and we can only adopt so many." Horrible People the adoptive parents, as well as the Social Worker. The Social Worker was so cold while she is talking about how this is the last time they will see thier baby because we are stealing her from them right after this. I hate them all. I hope the adoptions fall through or the adoptive parents die, they don't deserve to be parents. And as for the Social Worker who makes her living by helping to steal children away from a loving home I hope for nothing but the worst. And I hope the adoption of the older kids falls through or the adoptive parents die, they don't deserve those kids. They are helping to steal them away from the birth mom. And I absolutely hate thier Social Worker, she was manipulating that poor little girl so much. Trying to brainwash her into forgetting about her real mom and only thinking of the people that are helping to steal her away from a loving home. I wish nothing but the worst for the Social Worker.
Lauren setting up her toys on her bed at the end of the video speaks louder than words. She knows she's home. What a bright little spark she is. I'm so happy Lauren, Liam and baby Destiny found their forever homes. What wonderful families (both foster and adoptive) - and the workers involved, all showing such love and tenderness towards these gorgeous kids.
Destiny and her siblings are so lucky to have such a lovely adopter family. You can tell how full of love they are. I hope they will grow to be like their new parents.
I was holding my breath, absolutely, a very blessed moment, a little tear in my eye, if it didn’t happen, they would’ve dealt with it, but hallelujah it went through, and I bet all three children are just a happy bunch of ,what they deserve to be, kids😇✌🏻💕
I’ve just spent a few hours crying over how lovely this is… we have fostered my sisters daughter for almost 4 years now (she’s now 7, like Lauren), and are now on the way to adopting her after my sister has passed away. It’s been so challenging but more rewarding than anything in our lives. I so hope that Lauren and Liam are doing well!!
Liam & Lauren’s foster parents deserve loads of praise! What amazing, wonderful, selfless people! God Bless and I how they continue to foster and change more little peoples lives for the better!
I was so surprised to hear the social worker say that at the tender age of seven, little Lauren was “too old” and they had trouble finding an adoptive home (bless the parents who adopted them). There are so many teens in foster care. I know personally of 17 year old twin boys, who turned 18 last month and now have no hope of an adoptive home, as they aged out of the system. Terribly sad. Teens in foster care are very vulnerable. I sponsor children in foster care at Christmas but wish I could do more.🙏
My mom did foster care and she said it qas difficult cuz you fell in love with all yhe kids that come through. She adopted each one of us when we became available and the ones she didn't got either placed with there bio families or there birth parents go rights back. She never wanted any of us to feel unwanted.
I was adopted 2 days after my birth and am soooo thankful and happy for it as I got the best parents in the world. Some people should not have children and it's better if they don't raise them. My life would not have been as good as it is now, my real mother could not cope and had 3 children by 2 different men. She could not even look after herself properly. Regards from Germany.
How do you know? Why blame your mother and not the men who got her pregnant. She might have been abused. Social service doesn't help parents, they take away children.
I just think about the thousands of kids like Lauren and Liam who are in foster care and will never be adopted. It's just devastating. So happy for Lauren, Liam, and Destiny
This is why I'd like to adopt, never had plans to have biological children because I find the entire process such as birth to be terrifying. Still not having kids isn't entirely out the window, adopting is an option.
I love the social worker`s reply to the question put to her at the end - 'someone has to do it - what`s the alternative?' a very good point. Let`s hope more people who see this and can adopt do so, this is a good eye opener into a world wide situation.
What angels these social workers are. They really care about the children. I'm adopted with my twin 62 years ago. We would have had a horrible life with our birth mom for many reasons. But the state decided we needed a family foster cares were not taking care of us. We almost died in their care. Blessings to the children. They deserve every but of happiness in life.
These social workers are wolves in sheep's clothing, I'll stop ✋ there 😒 and I don't have children SOB'S Not all parents deserve this 😤 that's why you have people stealing kids or wanting abortions! This world's DOOMED!
My biological father grew up never being adopted or fostered, he just aged out of an orphanage, it caused him so many issues to the point I never had a relationship with him because he's now just an angry, resentful person. My mother on the other hand not only raised 4 daughters, she's fostered 6 other teenage girls since we all grew up and left. I never really thought about how amazing it is that her and my stepdad are in their 60s and continue to open their house to girls that nobody else wants. She's been a social worker for over 20 years, I've been working in the same field as her and am getting ready to foster a 13 year old boy (my biological son is 13) since I have an extra room. The system might have failed my father, but it's motivated my family to want to change the lives of children that would never otherwise know what it's like to have a home and people that care about them.
Lauren there is absolutely nothing NOT TO LOVE ABOUT YOU KIDDO! It’s your moms loss! You’re an amazing little girl! And I’d take you and Liam in a heart beat! You deserve so much! And I hope you’re adoptive family gives you that!!! I hope you find love and family!!!
For anyone that scolds people for not wanting kids: STOP IT. Usually there is an excellent reason for it. And NO, it's NOT different if it's your own child.
The episode before this showed a 2 year old called Tommy getting adopted, His foster parents had had him since he was 3 days old. When the adoption was announced you could see the old man's glasses start fogging up, there were also various parts throughout the process where they were sad, they were also very happy for him, though and were glad he ended up in a good environment.
I'm so *HAPPY FOR LAUREN & LIAM!* I really hope that they are living their best life, growing, playing, & just being kids. More importantly, I hope they feel safe, loved, & not having a worry in this world. I know that foster family did wonders with them. But when the foster Dad said in a previous episode that when they came to them Liam was a "frozen baby". Which is caused due to total neglect & abuse. He more than likely was left in a crib or cot, since birth. Had no stimulation, no interaction with people. Lauren, bless her little heart, you can tell, had to grow up fast in her short 7 years on this planet due to what she's already been through. She had to discuss things that grown adults sometimes may not even understand the full scope of. Adoption (which she of course wanted) & Long term foster(meaning forever in foster homes, which she as a 7 yr old shouldn't even know what that means, was dreading) I really hope & wish that her childhood trauma is still being addressed & if she needs help, she's recieving it. She's a very wise little girl & very perceptive to everything that has gone on or that is going on around her. I hope & pray they are both thriving, better than ever. All these cases are so sad, & I feel bad for all the kids, but these siblings just tore at my heartstrings.
It will take both kids a while to understand. They don't yet know how to feel about the abuse, especially Lauren. They need lots of love and patience. Lauren will start to act out her feelings, but with therapy and love she will begin to heal. I was 12 when I went into foster care, and I was broken. Through the years I've gone from anger, to hatred, to peace with it. I still have nightmares, I don't sleep through the night. I also have depression, anxiety, and PTSD.
@@rachelmartin3631 Oh Rachel! I'm so incredibly sorry that you had to go through that! Truly I am, my heart just breaks for any child that had to or has to suffer any kind of trauma or abuse. It seems that you are able to identify with Lauren in some way due to your own childhood. If you don't mind me asking, what are/were your thoughts on the foster care system where you live? Where you placed in a group home type of setting, or a foster parent's home? Where you reunited with your family? Adopted? I'm sorry, I hope you don't mind me asking these questions. & if you don't want to say or answer, I completely understand. It was honestly just so incredibly sad to watch with the fact that Lauren was about to "age out" of the short term fostering/adoption & be placed into long term fostering. I was so happy when they were getting their forever home with their mom & dad. I really don't like seeing kids upset or hearing they've been abused. I'm a huge empath, especially for kids. If I could, I'd adopt every kid that needed a mom & dad & a home free of abuse, & neglect. Ugh, I'm tearing up just now while writing this.... Thank you for taking the time for even reading my long comment to begin with, & thank you for commenting. I hope that you're in a better place now, & are able to still receive the help you may need. Your life is important & because someone couldn't do right by you, that isn't fair to you, & should not be a chain that holds you back. Keeps you from sleeping, or having good dreams, or accomplishing your goals. Just know that not everyone in this world are horrible, even though it seems like we're constantly seeing nothing but that. Sending you internet hugs. 😊🧡💕
@@rachelmartin3631 So sorry you have to go through this. Also wish the best on Lauren and Liam, they had a rough and tough beginning, poor little things. Lauren is very smart and picks up everything very quickly, I wish she could relax and just enjoy being a kid now.
When the foster mum said that Lauren never cried, I wondered if she had been ignored or punished when she expressed emotion. When she was told that she would never see her bio mum again, everything flooded out at once.
@@windybeach2184 Yeah, what you said takes me back to what the parents said about Liam. That he was a "frozen baby." Which leads me to believe that that is exactly what happened to Lauren as well. The neglectful part of abuse, I sometimes feel, isn't mention or talked about as much as say, physical or emotional abuse. But to be neglected by a parent or loved ones can cause a lot of damage to a child.
Some people just shouldn't have kids. 2 taken away and decided to have a 3rd and got that one taken away too. The careless choices of adults effect the children. Sad.
It's pretty selfish. I work with young adults aging out foster care and one of my clients had 11 other siblings, all were removed from the home and sent to foster care. My great grandmother had 6 children from 5 fathers. My grandmother being the second oldest. Everytime my great gma got a new man in her life the others were sent into care. This happened on and off for years until my grandma was 17 and left care. She did raise the baby of the family but I always couldn't understand how she could do that over and over.
I still dream of adopting some day. Even after having one of my own, it’s still a very big dream of mine. I love being a mom more than anything else and I want to give a child a life of love that they deserve.
What awesome people, and the dad of Lauren &Liam had the right attitude, just treat kids like they’re family like anyone else, only way you can do it, that’s from being from a family with several adopted people, he really came out of his shell with his kids, it’s all so great!
This three part series was brilliant. What a privilege to follow those precious children, their foster parents, social workers and adoptees. Great insight and very, very moving. The children couldn´t give their consent to participate though due to their age. That is problematic.
Try to work with birth parents. Then that will at least initiate hope for the child - always examine your motives. It’s a wholistic thing. You must care about the child’s origin and parents to really care
@@BD-ir7gp oh, really? The commenter was most likely a virtue signaler, and won't foster anyway. Your expectations of anyone fool enough to do this should take on the burden of the child's failed parents is ABSURD. Most failed parents are drug addicts/alcoholics and/or severely mentally ill. The level of responsibility and sacrifice that you seem do expect is actually PUNITIVE, look up that word. A saint would not do such a stupid thing since they know the difference between kindness and masochism. The root of the problem is an alarming number of people who SHOULD NOT BREED because they are unfit and always will be.
@@carecc7191 no virtue signaling here. I can't take another child into my home yet because I don't have the legally required single bedroom yet. Anyway...
Lauren should ideally been told that her feelings were normal, valid and understandable but also given lots of reassurance that the people she was being adopted by were very nice, kind, loving and that they really wanted to have her join their family. She should also have been (and maybe she was ?) given a list of phone numbers and ways to reach someone that she can trust in case things weren’t going well, she felt overwhelmed or upset or was being hurt in any way. They need to know that they have a safety net if things don’t go well!
Surely the kids and prospective adopting parents get to meet first before the decision is made? I'm happy they found a forever home but it just seemed a bit off to me that a 7 year old is told these are your new parents here's a photo album. Babies won't remember but a 7 year old knows.
@@suzannekirkwood6392from what I've heard, not always. I know someone who has adopted children and one in particular, they had to fly to another country and pick the child up. No meeting, no conversation. Nothing.
I understand why they wanted to reassure her and tell her not to worry when she asked “what if”. The extra step is to acknowledge her fears and empower her to prepare for possible outcomes.
It’s heartbreaking - the whole scenario. It’s the hamster wheel / Groundhog Day of Poverty, lack of Education, no parenting skills, no job skills and a life on benefits. I would suspect that Carl and Rachel were both born into poverty. For starters, they need to understand the importance of Birth Control. THREE children, removed by Child Welfare Services and adopted. There REALLY has to be SOME facility for Social Services to make Birth Control a prerequisite for collecting benefits, or at least provide them at no cost. Carl should go for the big snip. I’m sure it’s covered by the NHS.
Canuckmom1958. I was just going to comment about the fact that birth control should be a prerequisite for future assistance. You're right, if any of these birth parents got pregnant again after having children taken from them already. I'd say their extremely selfish and seriously mentally ill. What a difference it will be for these beautiful, bright children to be raised in a stable home, no addiction or domestic violence issues. 💙 🙂
The adoptive dad worrying the kids won't like him...that was the sweetest thing I have ever seen! Just be genuine with kids, let them know that you are nervous, too! Also, all little kids love being winked at secretly by an adult...in a non-creepy way of course. Kids love the idea of secrets and having a special secret with someone helps them bond. By secrets I mean things like...don't tell mom I give you an extra cookie when she leaves the room....kid secrets.
I don't that's healthy at all. The source of problems in the world that are result of encouraging competition at all levels. You aren't succeeding unless you are doing better than someone else. Holding secrets and 'force teaming' children is a bit manipulative really.
Never healthy to tell child to keep a secret from mom about anything, big or small. That sends such a dangerous message and makes them vulnerable for predators. They can't differentiate between petty secrets and dangerous secrets. They just learn secrets are ok, which is what no responsible adult want to teach or role model.
I'm an adopted Mother and on my word we had to go through so much to get our baby girl. I think more people would adopt if their was more support out their for adopting families. It was so hard but worth it. But i don't have the emotional strength to go through it a second time.
@@gillianbrookwell1678 the biological mother did say that she feels like killing someone, so to me that doesn't make her realise that they can't take care of her, to me that is a mum and dad who have made too many wrong choices unfortunately 💔...even the adoptive mum said that she will most likely keep having babies, which is really sad 😪...I mean a judge doesn't take away parenting rights away for no reason 💔
Love this happy ending and the lovely adoptive parents taking in to and three kids into their heart and homes. God Bless them all. CPC did a good impression as well. Good job!
What amazing couples there are out there who adopt these precious children. These babies, children ,teens are a loan of love and a gift from God above. It is such a beautiful thing. God bless all of you and your families. 😊🙏💕
I'm so glad destiny gets to be with her brothers. And I ache for little Lauren. They're not animals They're children... I couldn't fathom enduring that. I wish I could foster and adopt but I wouldn't be approved bc I don't make enough money. I make enough but not enough for those standards. It's sad how many of us would take in kids and give them the best memories and most loving homes but make too little money. So sad. All of this. Shameful ANY child ever cannot stay with their own parents bc they're too sick or messed up to have their own child. So sad.
It disturbs me that it's even an option to separate children. They've already lost enough by losing birth parents. I can't even imagine the trauma that has on a developing brain. I cry thinking about kittens and puppies being separated from mom and siblings lol. It's so very sad. I'm glad that siblings DO get adopted together but I think that should be the norm.
It's not a lack of love that always brings these situations about. People show emotions in different ways. We should not be so quick to pass judgement. This is not easy for anyone. Truly a heartbreaking necessity
I bursted out crying when they said they approved to adopt Lauren and Liam. Also when I saw Lauren starting to feel upset. I can imagine it's exciting but also a bit scary.
42:21 I love the adoptive mom’s honesty about not loving them right away, but you still care about them. When my BF was pregnant w/my goddaughter, very seriously she said she needed to talk something out. She was having a hard time deciding where to put the new babies car seat. Kase: I know the middle is the most safe, & that’s where Ry has always been. Do I put the new baby in the middle now? I mean she is my kid, obviously I care about her safety… but I don’t even know her, I’ve know Ry for 3yrs! I just busted out laughing. I swear a group of parents should get together & write a book about all the stuff most parents don’t dare share, for being parent shamed. The real stuff parents do, did, thought, didn’t do, ect.
Being perfectly honest as a mother myself my biggest "secret" as a mother is I have a favorite child. I love them all the same but I like my middle son the most. I always thought that mom's aren't allowed to have a favorite but we are human after all lol. I don't speak for all mom's of coarse.
The audio on this is fantastic. I can hear the spit moving around their mouths with so much clarity. Its like im right there with their lips against my ear.
I'm so sorry you were failed twice, you didn't and still don't deserve that. I hope you have been able to find a "family" no matter what it looks like. Family can be our friends, our coworkers, and so much more. Sending you a giant hug
Don't believe everything you see. They are painting one side of the story. A very positive one. There are plenty of children who are removed from their birth parents and end up in terrible foster homes.
All I ever heard in the States was the wonders of adoption until I started meeting some of the kids who had been adopted. Parents who foster and adopt are like the rest of us - imperfect human beings and some do better than others. We need parenting classes and free birth control for males and females. And the fact is that many/most females get pregnant and sometimes they don't believe it till it happens. Males don't get pregnant. It is the fundamental difference between the sexes. And liberated females get abortions, get an education and a career and then want a child and they can get them from poor women.
I was adopted at age 9. From my experience I’d recommend more monitoring of the adopting parents. In America if you have enough money they’d adopt you to the devil.
But ARE they mothers? I took my 2 grandsons, ages 3 and 4, from my daughter when she and her husband became heroin addicts. She got clean 8 years later. They were living in filth, drugs, and neglect. Best thing I ever did.
Perhaps heavily drugged? If talking about the couple and the baby, I read it was their 3rd child to be taken away from them. Perhaps they're numb to the process. I can't imagine how they feel in the long run.
Thanks god there are foster parents to be able and willing to give abused and neglected children the love and the care, they need. Not everybody is fit to be a parent. There's so many children suffering, there's not enough foster families.
One day I would love to give a child who needs a family a loving home..unfortunately it is so so so difficult to get approved. Even good families who want to adopt find it very difficult
So have the "no termination for any reason" folks considered the pain of the children born might be greater than their own discomfort over doctrine? Every child should have the chance to be truly wanted, truly loved & truly cared for. Condemning them to less than that to avoid deep discussion with those who have different opinions is abhorant IMHO.
That's so true and it's so sad that those people will always have "reasons" that aren't realistic. They only care about the fetus. When it's actually a baby, they're no where to be found
The thing is though that it's not these people having abortions. It's people who are responsible and sensible enough to know they can't care for or dont want a child which means they likely would be better parents than some of these people to start with.
@noone-jw7nd Read what you wrote really slowly..... are you serious? "Responsible" women take birth control and keep track of their own menstruation cycles and ovulation. There's literally a million apps for that and it takes less than 5 minutes to figure out what extremely narrow window it is that you can get pregnant- AVOID SEX for those 48 hours...problem solved.. Literally all you have to do in order to avoid murdering an innocent defenseless living thing in the womb
As an adoptee this is to all you adopted parents you make sure that you tell your children the truth and get all you can for their medical history! This makes me angry that these children are treated like a commodity and if you do adopt a child don’t ever call them anything but your child! Adoptees go through so much abandonment issues you better treat these kids like jems!
Sadly Destiny's mum will carry on having kids and getting them taken away,how selfish she is,but I'm happy Destiny will be raised with her brothers and that Liam and his sister Lauren found a good forever home,so many people overlook older kids sadly.
Aww Lauren ❤️ they picked you!! They love you! This is an honest question - Do these kids get any therapy? Like play therapy? Or maybe family therapy after they’ve been in their family’s home? I’m in the states so I’m really curious.
In the states usually therapy is required in most foster situations. At least that's how it is in the state I live in. I've been in mental health for 10 yrs and working specifically with young adults aging out of foster care for 7. They usually get therapy while in care and it's typically required at least for a short time post adoption. However, if they remain in care it's usually required at least monthly until they age out, could be more times per month depending on the child's needs.
Then we age out and that's it. No one helps with life skills, finding housing, getting a job. No one helps the disabled get SSI, or Medicaid. When I aged out I ended up turning to drugs to help deal with the changes. Then I ended up in prison. Aging out can be worse than being in care.
@@rachelmartin3631 I’m so sorry, Rachel. I won’t even pretend to know the emotional toll that takes on kids. (I say kids cuz when I was 18 - I was most certainly still a kid) I can relate to the drugs part tho. Unfortunately. My (and my sis who’s 2.5 years younger but mentally challenged functioning around 2-3yrs old) childhood was filled with domestic violence, drug abuse, and being shifted from one family member to the next - over and over. I was probably 10yo when I realized that our household life was NOT normal. And honestly I’m really surprised that I made it to 15yo before I started using drugs. After 14 years of never ever being clean/sober I was finally finalllllly able to actually get the help I needed (and asked for on several occasions) to get straight. I’ve been clean since 11/6/2013 I hope you are taking care of yourself now. You are worth it. You are enough. And don’t forget to smile!!!!!
@@rachelmartin3631 I aged out 2 & Life has been Hard,but we hold our Heads up & keep going..We are much Stronger bc of it..Hold ur Head High young Lady
What beautiful souls those people are that help these kids ..to see all of the vetting processes in front of my face after watching a documentary on children being "re-homed" on fb here in the U.S. makes it even more terrifying that it is legal here..those children being sold online need advocates like these women featured here but it is heartbreaking to know they don't have that or even one single law protecting them from ending up w/ pred*tors. If I could afford to adopt I'd do it in a heartbeat but it breaks my heart knowing that I'll never be able to since I can barely financially take care of my 2 girls as it is living in a 2 bedroom apt. Makes me so sad..I wish there was some way i could help ..idk how so many ppl can just put their kids in this position in the 1st place..🙏❤😪
Oh, please. The fact that you have no husband, are most likely on the margins of poverty makes you unfit, period. Your decisions prove that you aren't capable of adopting/fostering and that you are ruled by your emotions, not reason. In socio-economic terms, you are the type of mother whose kids end up in foster care. The normalization of recreational sex and the attack on the nuclear family are the reasons behind these abandoned children.
@@Shannon_Moore I read about it, but surely it's illegal! Poor kiddies. Why isn't the law after the adults, if they're on Facebook, it should be easy to find them.
It differs in every country. In the UK the stability & safety for the child goes first. They don't put years on trying "fix" the parents as the US would. They decide quickly for permanent adoption, esp with a baby. It's preferred to do a permanent adoption fast before it has a chance to affect the baby/child negatively. Because we know this is best for the child. The sooner they get into a permanent stable home & can start develop the relationships, the better. So yes the parents will get a chance, but the window is small & high up! so the parents REALLY have to change a lot & fast. Which is really hard. Also permanent adoption doesn't necessarily mean 0 contact with bio parents.
@@ingridakerblom7577you know absolutely nothing about the American Child Protective Services or you're just straight-up lying. 3 months to a year is how long these cases last not a year not years. So stop lying or educate yourself
@@ingridakerblom7577and adoption does means zero contact with the birth-parent unless the adoptive parent decides it's okay. You're really not very educated on this
@@rachelsill79in some countries that might be the case but I can definitely tell you here in Australia that is not the case most if not all adoption cases here are open adoption and when the child hits an age where they can consent to having contact with biological they are allowed to the only time it is not an open adoption is if the biological parents chose for no contact or the kids decide to not know their biological parents
17:34 hurt, it's a slight change of words. But everytime she had been asked earlier it was "Adoption!.... or fostering" and this time it was "fostering or adoption" which seems like she had given up on the idea of being adopted
I hope you realize you did nothing wrong and deserved better. I also hope you cut them out of your life. I’ve been there. We were innocent children. Monsters preyed on us. You deserve love, hope you’ve found replacement parents or the love you need.
I love my kids and grandkids being a parent was so hard for me. I had no patience and got frustrated easily. Thank God my kids made good choices and are productive members of society. Destiny's parents don't need kids at all.
I have a problem with how the little girl was so happy and then they keep putting it in her head that she needs to be scared enough until she starts second guessing
I thought the exact same thing, you can do harm planting an idea that perhaps you would have a reason to be scared. Unless the child brought up the word "scared" I certainly would not make the child think the future may very well be something to be scared of
I didnt like that either. She was so excited until they said it would be frightening too. They brought being scared, worried, nervous, frightened every single time when she was excited and didnt really talk to her about how wonderful it was. They seem like good foster parents but i got the feeling that subconsciously the lady wanted to feel like they would miss her instead of just telling her that they will miss her if that makes sense
Its been 3 yrs for this couple they deserve to have their children home,as well as the time lauren and liam has spent in limbo they deserve to be a family, and ive got a feeling its going to be a chore for lauren to adjust to a real family,
I can’t imagine trying to decide whether to continue adding siblings once a year. Where’s the end? It seems that if you fail 3 children to the point they are taken away you need to have a mandatory subcutaneous contraceptive. It’s awful to load children into the system over and over.
Imagine being a mother of 3 having them 2 taken from you not learning from your first lesson and riding a pink bike to see your 3rd kid you cant have . I'm not dragging on her mode of transport at all but the lack of awareness
She needs someone to become a mother. Dont judge to quickly. Its difficult to raise a child even when everything is good in your life. Imagine when there are issued like mental health, abuse, ptsd, poverty etc. Abuse and neglect are two different things. Abuse is evil and hurting your child. Neglect is a situation in which you can't give your child what he needs, but doesn't make you a bad parent. Its the situation or health or bad luck or a poor life dissicion.
Your little girl will come looking for you. Get straight get your stuff together and when real life hits you'll be ready to be there for her. At 18 she'll still be a baby
I couldn't imagine how children process being told hey guess what here your new parents are as if it's a new pair of shoes. The damage has to be lifelong for these kids. How you can give up two children after two years is mind-numbing. The couple with toddler boys seemed overwhelmed already and the last thing I think they needed was an infant. Not to mention I think all the pro-life people should be running to adopt all the children they wanted born.
What they don’t tell you is that children are frequently taken away from good parents for little to know real reason. One example of this is myself. I had a daughter when I was 21. I lacked some social skills but never harmed or neglected my daughter in anyway. I had a diagnosis of adhd but otherwise did not have a mental illness. Yet the social work removed my daughter claiming I had bi-polar and was a danger to her because I wasn’t on medication. I did not have bi-polar but they were able to not only take but to keep my daughter for six months on the option of the social worker that I had bi-polar and that I MIGHT hurt my daughter do to the mental illness I didn’t even have because I’m on low income and couldn’t afford a lawyer and had a court appointed one that was more of a problem than a help. At the end of about six months the social worker had me tested by a man that I was told was a psychiatrist but I later found out was an intern and unable to do diagnostic testing despite this the person I met with made a report stating I had bipolar and could not safely care for a child within the next two years based on the assessment that he wasn’t legally able to do. Some how the social worker was able to use that report to severe my rights to my daughter and take her away forever. I wasn’t given the results of the testing until they were read in court to severe my rights. I found out that the so-called psychiatrist wasn’t really a psychiatrist when I went to the office he worked in and spoke to the receptionist and ask to speak to him. When the receptionist ask what this was regarding I explained about the report and that I wanted to ask him how he came to the conclusion I had bipolar when previous testing hadn’t found that. The receptionist said they didn’t have a psychiatrist by that name they had an intern by that name. I ask can the intern diagnose and make diagnostic reports and the receptionist said no. Despite this court was over and it was too late the decision was already made to severe my rights based on the report. About a year and a half later I had a little boy I raised him myself as a single mother to adult hood he has a successful career and is court appointed guardian to four children at only 23. Shortly after my son was born a councilor brought up possibility of my having autism but I wasn’t tested. When my son was seven another Councelor suspected autism but again I wasn’t test. Finally I went to be tested when my son was 18 and I have autism. I am very high functioning and I’ve had four mental health professionals say their is no reason my autism jeopardizes Children in any way. So I lost my daughter because I MIGHT hurt my daughter do to a mental illness I never had in the first place not do to ever really hurting her or neglecting her and that isn’t right ! I wish I can saw I’m a one time mistake in the system but I have witnessed similar stories many times with people who can’t afford to fight back.
That is SO WRONG! Nothing is being done, I'm sure. The foster care system needs a complete overhaul. Corruption rules, and children are at their mercy. Wish I could help!
Why the hell would you pump out MORE fatherless bastard children whilst living in poverty and dependent on tax benefits after having already lost one child to the system already? Wtf is wrong with you people?
I'm sorry for all you went through, may I ask if this took place in the USA? Congratulations on successfully raising your son, high function autism doesn't stop a person from raising a child, which you proved.
@@margaretr5701 It happened in Colorado in 1996. I met my daughter again when she was 19. She was in college taking psychology and had planned to go into research. She believed lies her adoptive parents told her which was sad because she doesn’t want me in her life ongoing. Surprisingly after she met with me she changed her plans and started working with kids with autism after she graduated instead so maybe deep down she saw the truth.
Thats horrible! Even criminals have rights, but parents dont get any rights and children have a right to know their parents. Family court doesn't care about human rights or the pain they cause. Its inhuman!
It’s not done like this in Australia. Parents are never forced to sign the children over for adoption. They can be placed into foster care permanently until the children are 18 but unless a massive crime has been committed toward the child by the parent, they have access to visitation until the child is 18. I think we do this better. Some children are adopted but the parents sign over their rights willingly
I agree, it makes me sad that they determine in a short period of time to remove their rights as parents and get the kids adopted as quickly as possible. I guess it’s best for the kids to get them in a stable home as quickly as possible, but what if the parent turns their life around in 2 years but their child already has new adoptive parents and the parent is left childless despite doing all the work.
That sounds horrible. Children need continuity, not back and forth like that. Im so glad I got adopted and didnt have to go through fosterhomes. Over all children in fosterhomes dont get on as well as adopted. This is clear in suicided and everything. To get this right, ask the children. Only we can tell you whats best for us.
There should be a law that means if you have had one child removed from your home that you can't have more children. This hit home when destiny's potential foster Mum said that the birth parents will keep on having kids and there are only so many children they can manage. Bless them for adopting the two boys and then their sister.
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I'm so happy for Lauren and Liam. Older kids deserve good homes as well as babies. God bless the family that adopted them.
Amen
They truly do, not everything has to be new, especially when you can’t have your own or you decide you’re ready to take on older kids that don’t have a forever home. my heart says those are the truly blessed humans of the world,😇✌🏻💕
Made me cry
When I first decided to adopt I said straight out I would want to adopt older kids. I always advocate for those kids because i know exactly how it feels to be them. Every single one of those babies, children, teens deserve a home.
I bet they were just as scared & nervous.. but as adults we can cope with it better bcs we aren't as dependent on everyone else..
If all social workers were like this wonderful woman, the world would be a better place for many children.
I absolutely agree, I sadly hear way too many horror stories than beautiful, endearing, happy endings, at least here in the US, perhaps that can change one day, perhaps🙏🏻✌🏻💕
You dont know what great evil it is to separate a child from his parent
God bless that couple who adopted the 3 siblings! My former manager and her wife adopted five kids who are all siblings! Takes a true heart of gold!
Yes it does my grandma adopted my mom and aunt and I’ve never knew till I was older a person that adopts can love a child as much as the mother that had it
I hate the Social Worker and the adoptive parents of the 3 kids.
They are so cold about how they have helped steal babies away from the birth parents.
The adoptive mom was so rude when she said "the birth mom will keep having kids and we can only adopt so many."
Horrible People the adoptive parents, as well as the Social Worker.
The Social Worker was so cold while she is talking about how this is the last time they will see thier baby because we are stealing her from them right after this.
I hate them all.
I hope the adoptions fall through or the adoptive parents die, they don't deserve to be parents.
And as for the Social Worker who makes her living by helping to steal children away from a loving home I hope for nothing but the worst.
And I hope the adoption of the older kids falls through or the adoptive parents die, they don't deserve those kids. They are helping to steal them away from the birth mom.
And I absolutely hate thier Social Worker, she was manipulating that poor little girl so much.
Trying to brainwash her into forgetting about her real mom and only thinking of the people that are helping to steal her away from a loving home.
I wish nothing but the worst for the Social Worker.
@@elizabethcampbell5428 blood means nothing
Yes! God bless the family who kept the family together and also the ones who adopted the much older kids. Beautiful souls
I know a family who adopted seven siblings ages 5 to 15. They had six kids of their own, the same age range
Lauren setting up her toys on her bed at the end of the video speaks louder than words. She knows she's home. What a bright little spark she is. I'm so happy Lauren, Liam and baby Destiny found their forever homes. What wonderful families (both foster and adoptive) - and the workers involved, all showing such love and tenderness towards these gorgeous kids.
Destiny and her siblings are so lucky to have such a lovely adopter family. You can tell how full of love they are. I hope they will grow to be like their new parents.
I was holding my breath, absolutely, a very blessed moment, a little tear in my eye, if it didn’t happen, they would’ve dealt with it, but hallelujah it went through, and I bet all three children are just a happy bunch of ,what they deserve to be, kids😇✌🏻💕
I’ve just spent a few hours crying over how lovely this is… we have fostered my sisters daughter for almost 4 years now (she’s now 7, like Lauren), and are now on the way to adopting her after my sister has passed away. It’s been so challenging but more rewarding than anything in our lives. I so hope that Lauren and Liam are doing well!!
It was good that your sister had you, to take care of her child. God bless and sorry about your sister.
Liam & Lauren’s foster parents deserve loads of praise! What amazing, wonderful, selfless people! God Bless and I how they continue to foster and change more little peoples lives for the better!
I love them.
I was so surprised to hear the social worker say that at the tender age of seven, little Lauren was “too old” and they had trouble finding an adoptive home (bless the parents who adopted them).
There are so many teens in foster care. I know personally of 17 year old twin boys, who turned 18 last month and now have no hope of an adoptive home, as they aged out of the system. Terribly sad.
Teens in foster care are very vulnerable. I sponsor children in foster care at Christmas but wish I could do more.🙏
@@HerMuffiness You do what you can, which is more than most. ❤
Yes! What wonderful parents they got! Yay!
My mom did foster care and she said it qas difficult cuz you fell in love with all yhe kids that come through. She adopted each one of us when we became available and the ones she didn't got either placed with there bio families or there birth parents go rights back. She never wanted any of us to feel unwanted.
I was adopted 2 days after my birth and am soooo thankful and happy for it as I got the best parents in the world. Some people should not have children and it's better if they don't raise them. My life would not have been as good as it is now, my real mother could not cope and had 3 children by 2 different men. She could not even look after herself properly. Regards from Germany.
How could you disrespect your birth mother like that your sick. Without her you would not be alive.
Me too 🤗
I'm happy for you and your family ☺️
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How do you know? Why blame your mother and not the men who got her pregnant. She might have been abused. Social service doesn't help parents, they take away children.
I did NOT think this would make me as emotional as it did. I'm so incredibly happy for Lauren and Liam, I'm bawling my eyes out
@ProfessorMM me tooo I couldnt see the screen I was crying so much haha
ok ditto 😂😢😢😢
I thought my hormones are driving me crazy or something
I just think about the thousands of kids like Lauren and Liam who are in foster care and will never be adopted. It's just devastating. So happy for Lauren, Liam, and Destiny
I aged out in the system since was a toddler.
This is why I'd like to adopt, never had plans to have biological children because I find the entire process such as birth to be terrifying. Still not having kids isn't entirely out the window, adopting is an option.
Well, their new father was a product of the foster system so it's not all bad. In fact it seems to have worked out marvelously in this family's case!
@@nicole4659 So sorry to hear that.
I love the social worker`s reply to the question put to her at the end - 'someone has to do it - what`s the alternative?' a very good point. Let`s hope more people who see this and can adopt do so, this is a good eye opener into a world wide situation.
What angels these social workers are. They really care about the children. I'm adopted with my twin 62 years ago. We would have had a horrible life with our birth mom for many reasons. But the state decided we needed a family foster cares were not taking care of us. We almost died in their care.
Blessings to the children. They deserve every but of happiness in life.
These social workers are wolves in sheep's clothing, I'll stop ✋ there 😒 and I don't have children SOB'S Not all parents deserve this 😤 that's why you have people stealing kids or wanting abortions! This world's DOOMED!
I love how excited that “Mom” was to meet the new baby girl it was adorable! She will have a good life with them and her brothers it made me tear up.
The father too. They were happy with their decision.
I was so excited for them! A perfect little trio. I do share their same fears that the bio parents will keep having more kids though.
This is devastating. I’m so glad though, that Lauren and Liam were adopted by loving people. I hope they live their best lives.
Blessings to Lauren and Liam's foster carers for being there for them for the past 2 1/2 years !
As a Foster kid who never got adopted , adopted parents you all are heros.
I wish I was adopted by a good family
My biological father grew up never being adopted or fostered, he just aged out of an orphanage, it caused him so many issues to the point I never had a relationship with him because he's now just an angry, resentful person. My mother on the other hand not only raised 4 daughters, she's fostered 6 other teenage girls since we all grew up and left. I never really thought about how amazing it is that her and my stepdad are in their 60s and continue to open their house to girls that nobody else wants. She's been a social worker for over 20 years, I've been working in the same field as her and am getting ready to foster a 13 year old boy (my biological son is 13) since I have an extra room. The system might have failed my father, but it's motivated my family to want to change the lives of children that would never otherwise know what it's like to have a home and people that care about them.
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Lauren there is absolutely nothing NOT TO LOVE ABOUT YOU KIDDO! It’s your moms loss! You’re an amazing little girl! And I’d take you and Liam in a heart beat! You deserve so much! And I hope you’re adoptive family gives you that!!! I hope you find love and family!!!
U know Lauren and Liam had amazing foster parents by her reaction. And so glad adoptive parents were found
I wish the foster parents could of adopted them .
@@andreakuipers6406 if they adopted them then they couldn't save other kids
They looked so excited when they saw their new big brothers. 😭 I hope they're well now.
Thank you, social workers, for all you do for these kids who need homes. You are angels..
For anyone that scolds people for not wanting kids: STOP IT. Usually there is an excellent reason for it. And NO, it's NOT different if it's your own child.
Yasss thank you
I only scold those who don’t want kids and had them anyway.
@@marialiyubman Thank you for understanding. 😀
THIS!
You’re right, it’s not for everyone and good on people who know themselves enough to recognise this.
This made me bawl like a baby. It’s beautiful to see these children go where they are wanted and loved. ❤
Bitter sweet. Their foster family has loved them as parents for years and to gain a mommy and daddy they lose the foster parents. ❤️
The episode before this showed a 2 year old called Tommy getting adopted, His foster parents had had him since he was 3 days old. When the adoption was announced you could see the old man's glasses start fogging up, there were also various parts throughout the process where they were sad, they were also very happy for him, though and were glad he ended up in a good environment.
It would be such a difficult transition. I’m glad it’s to adoptive parents and not to more foster parents.
I'm so *HAPPY FOR LAUREN & LIAM!*
I really hope that they are living their best life, growing, playing, & just being kids. More importantly, I hope they feel safe, loved, & not having a worry in this world. I know that foster family did wonders with them. But when the foster Dad said in a previous episode that when they came to them Liam was a "frozen baby". Which is caused due to total neglect & abuse. He more than likely was left in a crib or cot, since birth. Had no stimulation, no interaction with people. Lauren, bless her little heart, you can tell, had to grow up fast in her short 7 years on this planet due to what she's already been through. She had to discuss things that grown adults sometimes may not even understand the full scope of. Adoption (which she of course wanted) & Long term foster(meaning forever in foster homes, which she as a 7 yr old shouldn't even know what that means, was dreading) I really hope & wish that her childhood trauma is still being addressed & if she needs help, she's recieving it. She's a very wise little girl & very perceptive to everything that has gone on or that is going on around her. I hope & pray they are both thriving, better than ever. All these cases are so sad, & I feel bad for all the kids, but these siblings just tore at my heartstrings.
It will take both kids a while to understand. They don't yet know how to feel about the abuse, especially Lauren. They need lots of love and patience. Lauren will start to act out her feelings, but with therapy and love she will begin to heal.
I was 12 when I went into foster care, and I was broken. Through the years I've gone from anger, to hatred, to peace with it. I still have nightmares, I don't sleep through the night. I also have depression, anxiety, and PTSD.
@@rachelmartin3631 Oh Rachel! I'm so incredibly sorry that you had to go through that! Truly I am, my heart just breaks for any child that had to or has to suffer any kind of trauma or abuse.
It seems that you are able to identify with Lauren in some way due to your own childhood. If you don't mind me asking, what are/were your thoughts on the foster care system where you live? Where you placed in a group home type of setting, or a foster parent's home? Where you reunited with your family? Adopted? I'm sorry, I hope you don't mind me asking these questions. & if you don't want to say or answer, I completely understand. It was honestly just so incredibly sad to watch with the fact that Lauren was about to "age out" of the short term fostering/adoption & be placed into long term fostering. I was so happy when they were getting their forever home with their mom & dad.
I really don't like seeing kids upset or hearing they've been abused. I'm a huge empath, especially for kids. If I could, I'd adopt every kid that needed a mom & dad & a home free of abuse, & neglect. Ugh, I'm tearing up just now while writing this....
Thank you for taking the time for even reading my long comment to begin with, & thank you for commenting. I hope that you're in a better place now, & are able to still receive the help you may need. Your life is important & because someone couldn't do right by you, that isn't fair to you, & should not be a chain that holds you back. Keeps you from sleeping, or having good dreams, or accomplishing your goals. Just know that not everyone in this world are horrible, even though it seems like we're constantly seeing nothing but that. Sending you internet hugs. 😊🧡💕
@@rachelmartin3631 So sorry you have to go through this. Also wish the best on Lauren and Liam, they had a rough and tough beginning, poor little things. Lauren is very smart and picks up everything very quickly, I wish she could relax and just enjoy being a kid now.
When the foster mum said that Lauren never cried, I wondered if she had been ignored or punished when she expressed emotion.
When she was told that she would never see her bio mum again, everything flooded out at once.
@@windybeach2184 Yeah, what you said takes me back to what the parents said about Liam. That he was a "frozen baby." Which leads me to believe that that is exactly what happened to Lauren as well. The neglectful part of abuse, I sometimes feel, isn't mention or talked about as much as say, physical or emotional abuse. But to be neglected by a parent or loved ones can cause a lot of damage to a child.
Some people just shouldn't have kids. 2 taken away and decided to have a 3rd and got that one taken away too. The careless choices of adults effect the children. Sad.
It's pretty selfish. I work with young adults aging out foster care and one of my clients had 11 other siblings, all were removed from the home and sent to foster care. My great grandmother had 6 children from 5 fathers. My grandmother being the second oldest. Everytime my great gma got a new man in her life the others were sent into care. This happened on and off for years until my grandma was 17 and left care. She did raise the baby of the family but I always couldn't understand how she could do that over and over.
The fourth one will soon be on the way... and the cycle continues..
100%should be fixed so no more bring babies they won't change their lives
Idk about there but I've heard of cases in the US where females have been fixed due to it, but males should be as well.
As much as it’s heartbreaking to see children neglected, forced sterilization by the state is a very slippery slope.
I still dream of adopting some day. Even after having one of my own, it’s still a very big dream of mine. I love being a mom more than anything else and I want to give a child a life of love that they deserve.
Have you thought about fostering?
What awesome people, and the dad of Lauren &Liam had the right attitude, just treat kids like they’re family like anyone else, only way you can do it, that’s from being from a family with several adopted people, he really came out of his shell with his kids, it’s all so great!
This three part series was brilliant. What a privilege to follow those precious children, their foster parents, social workers and adoptees. Great insight and very, very moving.
The children couldn´t give their consent to participate though due to their age. That is problematic.
Obviously…. Then there would never be babies on tv
This series is so heartbreaking. I am looking forward to fostering when my own children leave home.
Try to work with birth parents. Then that will at least initiate hope for the child - always examine your motives. It’s a wholistic thing. You must care about the child’s origin and parents to really care
@@BD-ir7gp oh, really? The commenter was most likely a virtue signaler, and won't foster anyway. Your expectations of anyone fool enough to do this should take on the burden of the child's failed parents is ABSURD. Most failed parents are drug addicts/alcoholics and/or severely mentally ill. The level of responsibility and sacrifice that you seem do expect is actually PUNITIVE, look up that word. A saint would not do such a stupid thing since they know the difference between kindness and masochism. The root of the problem is an alarming number of people who SHOULD NOT BREED because they are unfit and always will be.
⬆️This⬆️
Uu must be joking!
@@carecc7191 no virtue signaling here. I can't take another child into my home yet because I don't have the legally required single bedroom yet. Anyway...
PS. All the best for this lovely couple who did take the 3 siblings to them, I wish you all a very happy life together. Viel Glück und Gesundheit.
Lauren should ideally been told that her feelings were normal, valid and understandable but also given lots of reassurance that the people she was being adopted by were very nice, kind, loving and that they really wanted to have her join their family. She should also have been (and maybe she was ?) given a list of phone numbers and ways to reach someone that she can trust in case things weren’t going well, she felt overwhelmed or upset or was being hurt in any way. They need to know that they have a safety net if things don’t go well!
Surely the kids and prospective adopting parents get to meet first before the decision is made? I'm happy they found a forever home but it just seemed a bit off to me that a 7 year old is told these are your new parents here's a photo album. Babies won't remember but a 7 year old knows.
@@suzannekirkwood6392from what I've heard, not always. I know someone who has adopted children and one in particular, they had to fly to another country and pick the child up. No meeting, no conversation. Nothing.
I understand why they wanted to reassure her and tell her not to worry when she asked “what if”.
The extra step is to acknowledge her fears and empower her to prepare for possible outcomes.
“ She will continue to have kids.” How true, how true.
I saw this documentary years ago, but it is still powerful rewatching now.
This just came out 4 days ago but there was another one before this years ago ..diff one tho
I think they just re posted it because I watched it years ago too
I would cry for these babys getting adopted because I know they wait and wait for someone to love them
It’s heartbreaking - the whole scenario. It’s the hamster wheel / Groundhog Day of Poverty, lack of Education, no parenting skills, no job skills and a life on benefits. I would suspect that Carl and Rachel were both born into poverty. For starters, they need to understand the importance of Birth Control. THREE children, removed by Child Welfare Services and adopted. There REALLY has to be SOME facility for Social Services to make Birth Control a prerequisite for collecting benefits, or at least provide them at no cost. Carl should go for the big snip. I’m sure it’s covered by the NHS.
Canuckmom1958. I was just going to comment about the fact that birth control should be a prerequisite for future assistance. You're right, if any of these birth parents got pregnant again after having children taken from them already. I'd say their extremely selfish and seriously mentally ill.
What a difference it will be for these beautiful, bright children to be raised in a stable home, no addiction or domestic violence issues. 💙 🙂
The adoptive dad worrying the kids won't like him...that was the sweetest thing I have ever seen! Just be genuine with kids, let them know that you are nervous, too! Also, all little kids love being winked at secretly by an adult...in a non-creepy way of course. Kids love the idea of secrets and having a special secret with someone helps them bond. By secrets I mean things like...don't tell mom I give you an extra cookie when she leaves the room....kid secrets.
I don't that's healthy at all. The source of problems in the world that are result of encouraging competition at all levels. You aren't succeeding unless you are doing better than someone else. Holding secrets and 'force teaming' children is a bit manipulative really.
No! No secrets because kids aren't mature enough to distinguish between "good" secrets and creepiness. Best to be safe and NO secrets.
The skinnier older dad gives me a creepy feeling. Keep secrets? Dont tell? Wink? That is horrible and creepy to me.
Never healthy to tell child to keep a secret from mom about anything, big or small. That sends such a dangerous message and makes them vulnerable for predators. They can't differentiate between petty secrets and dangerous secrets. They just learn secrets are ok, which is what no responsible adult want to teach or role model.
I'm an adopted Mother and on my word we had to go through so much to get our baby girl. I think more people would adopt if their was more support out their for adopting families. It was so hard but worth it. But i don't have the emotional strength to go through it a second time.
Those parents of Destiny don't even seem sad about losing their daughter. I'd be devastated 😢.
Same for me😢
Maybe they are realizing that they can't take care of her in the way they should; I would myself be devastated too.
@@gillianbrookwell1678 the biological mother did say that she feels like killing someone, so to me that doesn't make her realise that they can't take care of her, to me that is a mum and dad who have made too many wrong choices unfortunately 💔...even the adoptive mum said that she will most likely keep having babies, which is really sad 😪...I mean a judge doesn't take away parenting rights away for no reason 💔
They’ve already had two other children removed from their care. At this point they’re probably desensitized. Very sad.
I would too!!!
What a happy happy ending!
My heart is smiling for both families!!
Those kids are absolutely adorable! ❤️❤️🙏🏻
The love and care the foster parents provide is so sweet ❤
This brake my heart 😢 the kids desrves best!! thank u kind heart people who take care this angle ❤
Love this happy ending and the lovely adoptive parents taking in to and three kids into their heart and homes. God Bless them all. CPC did a good impression as well. Good job!
What a beautiful little girl. I hope she has an awesome life ahead of her filled with love.
What amazing couples there are out there who adopt these precious children. These babies, children ,teens are a loan of love and a gift from God above. It is such a beautiful thing. God bless all of you and your families. 😊🙏💕
I'm so glad destiny gets to be with her brothers. And I ache for little Lauren. They're not animals
They're children... I couldn't fathom enduring that. I wish I could foster and adopt but I wouldn't be approved bc I don't make enough money. I make enough but not enough for those standards. It's sad how many of us would take in kids and give them the best memories and most loving homes but make too little money. So sad. All of this. Shameful ANY child ever cannot stay with their own parents bc they're too sick or messed up to have their own child. So sad.
It disturbs me that it's even an option to separate children. They've already lost enough by losing birth parents. I can't even imagine the trauma that has on a developing brain. I cry thinking about kittens and puppies being separated from mom and siblings lol. It's so very sad. I'm glad that siblings DO get adopted together but I think that should be the norm.
It's not a lack of love that always brings these situations about. People show emotions in different ways. We should not be so quick to pass judgement. This is not easy for anyone. Truly a heartbreaking necessity
Lauren and Liam’s dad came through the door with dad jokes turned on already 😂 I am so happy for them! 😊❤
I hate when they separate biological siblings it's so sad 😢 I hope these children have a happy childhood. ❤
Omg if you want a good cry watch this! I would have a hard time saying no to any child! If I had a extra big house I would adopt them all! ❤️❤️
I cried all through this documentary.
I bursted out crying when they said they approved to adopt Lauren and Liam. Also when I saw Lauren starting to feel upset. I can imagine it's exciting but also a bit scary.
I'm so happy for Lauren and Liam....that made my heart so full❤
That social worker just explained the whole racket right there “everyone wants babies without problems”
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42:21 I love the adoptive mom’s honesty about not loving them right away, but you still care about them. When my BF was pregnant w/my goddaughter, very seriously she said she needed to talk something out. She was having a hard time deciding where to put the new babies car seat. Kase: I know the middle is the most safe, & that’s where Ry has always been. Do I put the new baby in the middle now? I mean she is my kid, obviously I care about her safety… but I don’t even know her, I’ve know Ry for 3yrs! I just busted out laughing. I swear a group of parents should get together & write a book about all the stuff most parents don’t dare share, for being parent shamed. The real stuff parents do, did, thought, didn’t do, ect.
Being perfectly honest as a mother myself my biggest "secret" as a mother is I have a favorite child. I love them all the same but I like my middle son the most. I always thought that mom's aren't allowed to have a favorite but we are human after all lol. I don't speak for all mom's of coarse.
@@jessa3654of course (not coarse) you don't speak for all moms. Most moms are decent people. You certainly don't speak for the decent people.
@@rachelsill79 funny how you’ve taken offence over someone “scolding” you on TH-cam before but here you are doing the same. Pot, black much?🙄
What a sweet soul Lauren is!!
The audio on this is fantastic. I can hear the spit moving around their mouths with so much clarity. Its like im right there with their lips against my ear.
I was adopted at 2.5. I ended up in such an abusive home 😭 I have cut contact with my adoptive parents. It sucks. 2 chances I was failed both times.
I'm so sorry you were failed twice, you didn't and still don't deserve that. I hope you have been able to find a "family" no matter what it looks like. Family can be our friends, our coworkers, and so much more. Sending you a giant hug
Don't believe everything you see. They are painting one side of the story. A very positive one. There are plenty of children who are removed from their birth parents and end up in terrible foster homes.
All I ever heard in the States was the wonders of adoption until I started meeting some of the kids who had been adopted. Parents who foster and adopt are like the rest of us - imperfect human beings and some do better than others. We need parenting classes and free birth control for males and females. And the fact is that many/most females get pregnant and sometimes they don't believe it till it happens. Males don't get pregnant. It is the fundamental difference between the sexes.
And liberated females get abortions, get an education and a career and then want a child and they can get them from poor women.
I was adopted at age 9. From my experience I’d recommend more monitoring of the adopting parents. In America if you have enough money they’d adopt you to the devil.
More so in the USA. I've lived in both countries.
So very sad,but heart-warming at the same time 💞foster carers are angels.
SOME of them are. There are some really bad foster parents out there. It happens much more often than it should.
But ARE they mothers? I took my 2 grandsons, ages 3 and 4, from my daughter when she and her husband became heroin addicts. She got clean 8 years later. They were living in filth, drugs, and neglect. Best thing I ever did.
Aww thats so sweet the guy sitting in the back seat with Destiny.....❤
I cannot fathom sitting there calmly waiting to see my child for the last time. How can they do it????
Perhaps heavily drugged? If talking about the couple and the baby, I read it was their 3rd child to be taken away from them. Perhaps they're numb to the process. I can't imagine how they feel in the long run.
Such a beautiful story for Lauren and Liam
Perfect ending, or beginning rather. That brought a few tears to the eyes.
I wish they wouldn't tell her about being scared over and over putting that fear into her head.
This is really sad. I do hope the childen get the best chance of growing up happy and well ajusted. They deserve that much. Bless them one and all.
Thanks god there are foster parents to be able and willing to give abused and neglected children the love and the care, they need. Not everybody is fit to be a parent. There's so many children suffering, there's not enough foster families.
One day I would love to give a child who needs a family a loving home..unfortunately it is so so so difficult to get approved. Even good families who want to adopt find it very difficult
So have the "no termination for any reason" folks considered the pain of the children born might be greater than their own discomfort over doctrine?
Every child should have the chance to be truly wanted, truly loved & truly cared for. Condemning them to less than that to avoid deep discussion with those who have different opinions is abhorant IMHO.
That's so true and it's so sad that those people will always have "reasons" that aren't realistic. They only care about the fetus. When it's actually a baby, they're no where to be found
The thing is though that it's not these people having abortions. It's people who are responsible and sensible enough to know they can't care for or dont want a child which means they likely would be better parents than some of these people to start with.
But yes, why is the adoption list so big when the "prolife" rallies are packed?you're right.
@noone-jw7nd Read what you wrote really slowly.....
are you serious?
"Responsible" women take birth control and keep track of their own menstruation cycles and ovulation.
There's literally a million apps for that and it takes less than 5 minutes to figure out what extremely narrow window it is that you can get pregnant- AVOID SEX for those 48 hours...problem solved..
Literally all you have to do in order to avoid murdering an innocent defenseless living thing in the womb
Would love an update on Liam and Lauren.
Same here
Yes!
Are they zoo animals to be gawked at?
@@keithlightminder3005 No, they were pa
They were adopted.
As an adoptee this is to all you adopted parents you make sure that you tell your children the truth and get all you can for their medical history! This makes me angry that these children are treated like a commodity and if you do adopt a child don’t ever call them anything but your child! Adoptees go through so much abandonment issues you better treat these kids like jems!
What a great ending so happy for those kids! Finally they are home.
Sadly Destiny's mum will carry on having kids and getting them taken away,how selfish she is,but I'm happy Destiny will be raised with her brothers and that Liam and his sister Lauren found a good forever home,so many people overlook older kids sadly.
Aww Lauren ❤️ they picked you!! They love you!
This is an honest question - Do these kids get any therapy? Like play therapy? Or maybe family therapy after they’ve been in their family’s home?
I’m in the states so I’m really curious.
In the states usually therapy is required in most foster situations. At least that's how it is in the state I live in. I've been in mental health for 10 yrs and working specifically with young adults aging out of foster care for 7. They usually get therapy while in care and it's typically required at least for a short time post adoption. However, if they remain in care it's usually required at least monthly until they age out, could be more times per month depending on the child's needs.
Then we age out and that's it. No one helps with life skills, finding housing, getting a job. No one helps the disabled get SSI, or Medicaid.
When I aged out I ended up turning to drugs to help deal with the changes. Then I ended up in prison. Aging out can be worse than being in care.
@@rachelmartin3631 I’m so sorry, Rachel. I won’t even pretend to know the emotional toll that takes on kids. (I say kids cuz when I was 18 - I was most certainly still a kid)
I can relate to the drugs part tho. Unfortunately. My (and my sis who’s 2.5 years younger but mentally challenged functioning around 2-3yrs old) childhood was filled with domestic violence, drug abuse, and being shifted from one family member to the next - over and over. I was probably 10yo when I realized that our household life was NOT normal.
And honestly I’m really surprised that I made it to 15yo before I started using drugs. After 14 years of never ever being clean/sober I was finally finalllllly able to actually get the help I needed (and asked for on several occasions) to get straight. I’ve been clean since 11/6/2013
I hope you are taking care of yourself now. You are worth it. You are enough. And don’t forget to smile!!!!!
@@rachelmartin3631 I aged out 2 & Life has been Hard,but we hold our Heads up & keep going..We are much Stronger bc of it..Hold ur Head High young Lady
@@cobycuzzocrea9142 Thanks. 😺
oh they are right. Look at you two , making right mock of your lives. I hope she finds happiness with the parents they deserve.
An excellent series!
What beautiful souls those people are that help these kids ..to see all of the vetting processes in front of my face after watching a documentary on children being "re-homed" on fb here in the U.S. makes it even more terrifying that it is legal here..those children being sold online need advocates like these women featured here but it is heartbreaking to know they don't have that or even one single law protecting them from ending up w/ pred*tors. If I could afford to adopt I'd do it in a heartbeat but it breaks my heart knowing that I'll never be able to since I can barely financially take care of my 2 girls as it is living in a 2 bedroom apt. Makes me so sad..I wish there was some way i could help ..idk how so many ppl can just put their kids in this position in the 1st place..🙏❤😪
What was the name of that documentary?
@@ashleysix2523 oh shoot let me try to find it
@@ashleysix2523 Re-homing: America's shocking trade In unwanted children|60 minutes Australia
I'd paste the link but it won't allow it
❤🙏
Oh, please. The fact that you have no husband, are most likely on the margins of poverty makes you unfit, period. Your decisions prove that you aren't capable of adopting/fostering and that you are ruled by your emotions, not reason. In socio-economic terms, you are the type of mother whose kids end up in foster care. The normalization of recreational sex and the attack on the nuclear family are the reasons behind these abandoned children.
@@Shannon_Moore I read about it, but surely it's illegal! Poor kiddies. Why isn't the law after the adults, if they're on Facebook, it should be easy to find them.
It is shocking to me how early the system decides that Lauren and Liam will remain in foster care throughout their childhood.
It's because most people want toddlers. It is really sad, though.
My understanding is that I n the US children who’s parents had their rights terminated can be adopted for as long as they are in foster care.
Why cant they be adapted??
Why cant they be adopted? Why do they need to be in foster care their entire lives??
@@lindagusch2671 Ask the foster care people
For a judge to take the baby from bio parents , they have to have really really made it impossible to be trusted with a child.
It differs in every country. In the UK the stability & safety for the child goes first. They don't put years on trying "fix" the parents as the US would. They decide quickly for permanent adoption, esp with a baby. It's preferred to do a permanent adoption fast before it has a chance to affect the baby/child negatively. Because we know this is best for the child.
The sooner they get into a permanent stable home & can start develop the relationships, the better.
So yes the parents will get a chance, but the window is small & high up! so the parents REALLY have to change a lot & fast. Which is really hard.
Also permanent adoption doesn't necessarily mean 0 contact with bio parents.
@@ingridakerblom7577you know absolutely nothing about the American Child Protective Services or you're just straight-up lying. 3 months to a year is how long these cases last not a year not years. So stop lying or educate yourself
@@ingridakerblom7577and adoption does means zero contact with the birth-parent unless the adoptive parent decides it's okay. You're really not very educated on this
@@ingridakerblom7577that’s really interesting… I never knew that about the UK
@@rachelsill79in some countries that might be the case but I can definitely tell you here in Australia that is not the case most if not all adoption cases here are open adoption and when the child hits an age where they can consent to having contact with biological they are allowed to the only time it is not an open adoption is if the biological parents chose for no contact or the kids decide to not know their biological parents
17:34 hurt, it's a slight change of words. But everytime she had been asked earlier it was "Adoption!.... or fostering" and this time it was "fostering or adoption" which seems like she had given up on the idea of being adopted
For a person that can't have children this is heart breaking
highly interesting!😍
I’m that statistic that got adopted into violence. To be honest, a part of me is jealous. I wish them nothing but happiness and love.
I wish YOU happiness and love
I hope you are happy and safe now
I hope you realize you did nothing wrong and deserved better. I also hope you cut them out of your life. I’ve been there. We were innocent children. Monsters preyed on us. You deserve love, hope you’ve found replacement parents or the love you need.
I love my kids and grandkids being a parent was so hard for me. I had no patience and got frustrated easily. Thank God my kids made good choices and are productive members of society. Destiny's parents don't need kids at all.
I have a problem with how the little girl was so happy and then they keep putting it in her head that she needs to be scared enough until she starts second guessing
Which is suggestion, it’s wrong.
I thought the exact same thing, you can do harm planting an idea that perhaps you would have a reason to be scared. Unless the child brought up the word "scared" I certainly would not make the child think the future may very well be something to be scared of
I didnt like that either. She was so excited until they said it would be frightening too. They brought being scared, worried, nervous, frightened every single time when she was excited and didnt really talk to her about how wonderful it was. They seem like good foster parents but i got the feeling that subconsciously the lady wanted to feel like they would miss her instead of just telling her that they will miss her if that makes sense
'It's a sensitive time. We will try to keep it as quiet and confidential as possible.'
Turns to look at the camera....
Its been 3 yrs for this couple they deserve to have their children home,as well as the time lauren and liam has spent in limbo they deserve to be a family, and ive got a feeling its going to be a chore for lauren to adjust to a real family,
I can’t imagine trying to decide whether to continue adding siblings once a year. Where’s the end? It seems that if you fail 3 children to the point they are taken away you need to have a mandatory subcutaneous contraceptive. It’s awful to load children into the system over and over.
I agree. Mandatory sterilization.
Some demographics are worse than others.
@@yeetnama9094👀
As good as that sounds, eugenics is bad as well
Imagine being a mother of 3 having them 2 taken from you not learning from your first lesson and riding a pink bike to see your 3rd kid you cant have . I'm not dragging on her mode of transport at all but the lack of awareness
She needs someone to become a mother. Dont judge to quickly. Its difficult to raise a child even when everything is good in your life. Imagine when there are issued like mental health, abuse, ptsd, poverty etc.
Abuse and neglect are two different things.
Abuse is evil and hurting your child. Neglect is a situation in which you can't give your child what he needs, but doesn't make you a bad parent. Its the situation or health or bad luck or a poor life dissicion.
Your little girl will come looking for you. Get straight get your stuff together and when real life hits you'll be ready to be there for her. At 18 she'll still be a baby
I couldn't imagine how children process being told hey guess what here your new parents are as if it's a new pair of shoes. The damage has to be lifelong for these kids. How you can give up two children after two years is mind-numbing. The couple with toddler boys seemed overwhelmed already and the last thing I think they needed was an infant. Not to mention I think all the pro-life people should be running to adopt all the children they wanted born.
What they don’t tell you is that children are frequently taken away from good parents for little to know real reason. One example of this is myself. I had a daughter when I was 21. I lacked some social skills but never harmed or neglected my daughter in anyway. I had a diagnosis of adhd but otherwise did not have a mental illness. Yet the social work removed my daughter claiming I had bi-polar and was a danger to her because I wasn’t on medication. I did not have bi-polar but they were able to not only take but to keep my daughter for six months on the option of the social worker that I had bi-polar and that I MIGHT hurt my daughter do to the mental illness I didn’t even have because I’m on low income and couldn’t afford a lawyer and had a court appointed one that was more of a problem than a help. At the end of about six months the social worker had me tested by a man that I was told was a psychiatrist but I later found out was an intern and unable to do diagnostic testing despite this the person I met with made a report stating I had bipolar and could not safely care for a child within the next two years based on the assessment that he wasn’t legally able to do. Some how the social worker was able to use that report to severe my rights to my daughter and take her away forever. I wasn’t given the results of the testing until they were read in court to severe my rights. I found out that the so-called psychiatrist wasn’t really a psychiatrist when I went to the office he worked in and spoke to the receptionist and ask to speak to him. When the receptionist ask what this was regarding I explained about the report and that I wanted to ask him how he came to the conclusion I had bipolar when previous testing hadn’t found that. The receptionist said they didn’t have a psychiatrist by that name they had an intern by that name. I ask can the intern diagnose and make diagnostic reports and the receptionist said no. Despite this court was over and it was too late the decision was already made to severe my rights based on the report. About a year and a half later I had a little boy I raised him myself as a single mother to adult hood he has a successful career and is court appointed guardian to four children at only 23. Shortly after my son was born a councilor brought up possibility of my having autism but I wasn’t tested. When my son was seven another Councelor suspected autism but again I wasn’t test. Finally I went to be tested when my son was 18 and I have autism. I am very high functioning and I’ve had four mental health professionals say their is no reason my autism jeopardizes Children in any way. So I lost my daughter because I MIGHT hurt my daughter do to a mental illness I never had in the first place not do to ever really hurting her or neglecting her and that isn’t right ! I wish I can saw I’m a one time mistake in the system but I have witnessed similar stories many times with people who can’t afford to fight back.
That is SO WRONG! Nothing is being done, I'm sure. The foster care system needs a complete overhaul. Corruption rules, and children are at their mercy. Wish I could help!
Why the hell would you pump out MORE fatherless bastard children whilst living in poverty and dependent on tax benefits after having already lost one child to the system already?
Wtf is wrong with you people?
I'm sorry for all you went through, may I ask if this took place in the USA?
Congratulations on successfully raising your son, high function autism doesn't stop a person from raising a child, which you proved.
@@margaretr5701 It happened in Colorado in 1996. I met my daughter again when she was 19. She was in college taking psychology and had planned to go into research. She believed lies her adoptive parents told her which was sad because she doesn’t want me in her life ongoing. Surprisingly after she met with me she changed her plans and started working with kids with autism after she graduated instead so maybe deep down she saw the truth.
Thats horrible!
Even criminals have rights, but parents dont get any rights and children have a right to know their parents.
Family court doesn't care about human rights or the pain they cause. Its inhuman!
This is SO SAD. No matter how you look at it, it’s sad
Not all adoptions end up with kids in happy homes. Adopted kids get abused and mistreated in their adopted homes too.
It’s not done like this in Australia. Parents are never forced to sign the children over for adoption. They can be placed into foster care permanently until the children are 18 but unless a massive crime has been committed toward the child by the parent, they have access to visitation until the child is 18. I think we do this better. Some children are adopted but the parents sign over their rights willingly
I mean also one of the good places that doesn’t allow commercial surrogacy
I agree, it makes me sad that they determine in a short period of time to remove their rights as parents and get the kids adopted as quickly as possible. I guess it’s best for the kids to get them in a stable home as quickly as possible, but what if the parent turns their life around in 2 years but their child already has new adoptive parents and the parent is left childless despite doing all the work.
Sounds much more humane
@@alexshaw8167 trust me to a child 2 years of back and forth seriously isn't the best for the development.
That sounds horrible. Children need continuity, not back and forth like that. Im so glad I got adopted and didnt have to go through fosterhomes. Over all children in fosterhomes dont get on as well as adopted. This is clear in suicided and everything. To get this right, ask the children. Only we can tell you whats best for us.
There should be a law that means if you have had one child removed from your home that you can't have more children. This hit home when destiny's potential foster Mum said that the birth parents will keep on having kids and there are only so many children they can manage. Bless them for adopting the two boys and then their sister.
Actions have consequences, hard way to learn.
The implications of taking on children with emotional neglect are endless.
That, coupled with the parents mental health..good-luck.