My has dad works at one of these schools for 30 years in the USA. He has had his car windows broken and peed on. But most notably, he has had his jaw broken by a student. He continues to teach these students. Most have been traumatized, a lot are foster children, and many have mental disorders. My dad has stayed after school to help kids who are struggling learn, he has bought bikes for kids who had none, and gifts for his students in need. Not everyone can do what he does but it truly was his calling.
This was me as a kid. I was severely neglected for the first year of my life and then put into foster care. Adopted at four and had my biological foster sibling removed when I was six. And I was sexually abused and emotionally abused. I struggled, a lot. I was so angry and so anxious that I just couldn’t control it. My feeling we’re just so big that no little five year old could handle. I would bite my self, others, hit, scream, scratch, rip my hair out, shred stuffed animals, rip things off walls, run away, probably more. With time I learned to cope and eventually became a mostly normal adult. I still have severe anxiety (thanks trauma!) but I’m no longer full of rage. I can control my feelings 95% of the time. I’m in college, I live alone, I have a dog and enjoy creating with my hands. I would like to believe that most of my friends would say I’m one of the kindest people they know. Which couldn’t be said for me as a kid. But really, these kids are just the most sensitive kids with the biggest emotions, that are just to much for them to handle. These are the kids that have experienced things most adults can’t imagine and they have to keep on living. These aren’t violent, disturbed, broken kids. These are traumatized kids with big hearts, big feeling and no place to put them. And they just need someone to be there with them as they learn to navigate those treacherous waters and to help guide them along the way. Because in the end, they do eventually make it to shore.
I wish I could give you a hug. 💔 I was neglected and abused, but no one knew because I was an introvert to I spent my entire life feeling highly ashamed of being useless in helping myself get out of that situation. Kids are so resilient. Please hang in there, none of it was your fault and you did the best you could to stay here. ❤️🇮🇱
@@nl-ho4wm These are children, traumatized children. No, if they killed someone I wouldn’t excuse their actions. But by blatantly making a statement that these are just violent dangerous children they will never have a chance of healing because they will believe it themselves. Of course you shouldn’t just leave them to their own devices. In fact what I was saying is that we should be supporting and teaching these kids so that they can learn to cope, instead of just writing them off. An eight year olds future isn’t set in stone, and to say it is, is to condemn them before they ever had a chance to try. There is a difference between a traumatized child and a purely violent child, a difference a psychologist can determine, and an important one. These aren’t hardened criminals, and with help they won’t become one, these are children with trauma.
I’m glad hear the head teacher say there’s no such thing as “bad kids” Because there isn’t. There is only traumatized kids, bullied kids, mentally ill kids, grieving kids… but none of them are “bad”
@John Doe I agree with you. Some kids may be born bad. Or may even have permanent behavior changes triggered by medication or treatments they needed as a baby. They’re finding out certain meds are doing that to kids who needed to be in the NICU. But yeah I’m sure some people are just born bad. However we still need people with that positive mind set because if we don’t have people who are optimistic like that how are any of them gonna get a chance? Many of these kids may simply grow out of it as they mature.
@John Doe based on your response, what they said is not false. You suffer from a mental illness. It's not your fault that you are this way. But as you said, your grandma was able to "save" you and prevent you from hurting others. And let me tell you. It doesn’t matter if you feel differently, or if you don’t feel anything at all. As long as you keep yourself away from hurting others, you ARE a good person. Perhaps, you are even more of a good person because you struggle more than "normal" people not to hurt others. Of course, i don’t know you. My opinion may be naive and stupid. However, it just saddens me to read that someone doesn’t consider themself human because of the illness they have. You ARE human. You ARE a human being as long as you keep yourself from hurting others. And even if you are uncapable of emotions, there are things like emotional intelligence which can be developed over the years. And i think your grandma was very important in this process. Again, this is my very naive opinion based on a comment you made. Yes, i agree that some children are born differently, with a tendency to evil or lack of emphaty. However, that tendency can be either encouraged or discouraged. And that's what is really determining in making a person.
I've never heard about a kid being born bad, I've only seen children with predispositions to violent behaviour be in environments that allowed them to become that way
"she's never been a bad child, she's just been a misunderstood child. no one really understood her." that mother's way of putting it is so simple and so so true. so many of the "bad kids" that we all knew in school weren't bad at all, they just needed someone to really understand them and want to figure out what was best for them. i think the world focuses way too much on making children "good" and well-behaved when instead we should focus on making sure they're happy and appreciated.
If they’re good and well behaved they will be happy and appreciated as well as appreciative! This behavior doesn’t make them happy either and certainly anyone else for that matter. It’s one thing to have patience, understanding, and to talk to a child but it’s another entirely to just allow them to do whatever makes only them happy and for us to appreciate when they act out! That’s ridiculous actually! It benefits no one in the long run.
@@coffeecrimegal5968 I dont know,I had severe emotional/,psychological problems but was "well behaved" but I certainly wasn't happy. I wish someone would've took the time to understand me
God bless Phil and Stig for taking on troubled kids and not giving up. The calmness and love they give to these children is unbelievable ❤ also giving them positive male role model. I am surprised I didn't see it mentioned much in comments.
If I'd had help when I was a kid, I'm sure things would be a lot different. I still have outbursts and fits into adulthood. Please get your kids the help they need!
Me too. Ironically, my parents who were psychologists, knew very little about the mental illnesses I have and resorted to quite a few inappropriate ways of disciplining me
Same with me if only my school and family could have understood that I was autistic and not to think I was faking then maybe I could have had all the help I needed as a kid I’m also dyslexic
That kid that’s been there a long time is very smart. You can tell he has a broad vocabulary for someone his age. Im sure a lot of these kids can channel themselves and do better in the future. Hopefully as long as people don’t give up on them.
Some of these behaviors remind me of when my boys were younger and they were struggling to deal with my divorce from their dad. The techniques I learned from therapists really helped to diffuse situations like this. The staff have my utmost respect for helping these troubled kids. They need understanding, compassion and guidance. Not more trauma. ❤️
What techniques worked for you? I have a child who experienced a major trauma a few years back and hasn’t been the same since. She has such a big heart but her behavior has been a struggle and she’s only 7. We’ve done therapy with specialist for the trauma for over a year and nothing is working. It’s heart breaking.
@@margaretrangel7223 Mine mostly struggled with anger issues and my youngest had really bad temper tantrums. For the older ones, it was learning how to talk to them, acknowledge their feelings, let them know their feelings were valid but also setting boundaries and enforcing them. The youngest, I was taught non-violent crisis intervention holds and techniques to help myself remain calm through his tantrums. It was years of modeling this behavior. I slipped up sometimes and we had set backs but I just kept up with the positive reinforcement and eventually they grew up to be amazing young men. 🥰❤️
@@nl-ho4wm trauma isn’t an excuse, it’s an explanation. No one said that they don’t face consequences for their actions, it just explains why they got to this point
@@TRC2002 you’re trying to set up a paper tiger, anyone who attempts to / succeed in killing someone (excluding self defence) is arguably a “bad person”. But especially with children you can’t honestly look at them and say they’re just behaving badly. Any child who’s capable of either attempting or following through with a violent crime has something DEEPLY wrong with them. Trauma is never an excuse it only offers an explanation or insight into a disorder. And acknowledging that a child has a serious issue does not absolve them of consequences.
What a great documentary, thanks for the upload. I was abused during my entire childhood and became very "disruptive" in class - especially between age 9 to 12. I had no respect for any adults. Nobody could control me. I finally felt that I needed some help so when I turned 13 I went to our school councelor to tell what went on at home but she just called my mother on the phone and told her that I had disclosed the "big family secret". My mother beat me to a bloody pulp so nothing good came out of that. I never got the help I so desperately needed. Look at me now. I have been diagnosed with severe PTSD, depression, anxiety. I have nightmares every night, and no family or friends left in my life. Life is far from being easy...
Oh brother, that’s awful! I have had students disclose and I’ve had to call student services (it’s the law here that teachers are legally obligated). Never ever would I phone the family directly…so not okay. I am so sorry that your reaching out for help resulted in that extra trauma on trauma.
Josh I hope you're doing okay all these years later. It's clear to me you're a very smart kid from the way you speak and you've got a big heart for taking care of others. I know you have emotional triggers but that doesnt make you less of a person, it's the way you respond to them that matters.
Childhood trauma literally rewires the brain. These children need intense and consistent help. I work in the same type of school but near Chicago. Our staff members are the consistency and love these kids need.
Neglect, different forms of abuse from their parents/caregivers, and the effects of their mothers using alcohol/drugs when pregnant. Combination of all the above. Very sad.
These kids break my heart. I started dealing with mental health at 15. I'm an adult now, and I can't imagine how scary this must be for those precious little ones.
Anger is easier to choose. Rejection, fear, anxiety are scary and we don’t feel in control but we can choose anger because it doesn’t leave us feeling vulnerable.
The world is a better place because of people like Phil and Stig! They are so patient and caring with those boys and are just truly amazing parents! They are restoring faith in humanity one child at a time ❤️
Amazing parents don't let there adopted children with mental health issues go to a school where there problems will be aired for the whole world to see with there faces un-blurred & there names un-bleeped so the school & themselves can look like heroes.😠
My nephew has all these problems. He stayed with me for a couple of months and I swear I just didn't see any of the problems everyone said he had. He came straight away saying he had all these problems and I said sure...I have the same. He did not know what to do or think. I think he was scared straight. As soon as he was back home all the behavior came right back. It was so bad at home he would beg to come by me. I'd relent most weekends but the parents just could not understand. Their jealousy kept him home. Sadly for him he just kept on with his behaviors until he landed in foster care. After foster care Juvenile detention then big boy jail. Sad. He still contacts me. I really don't know why he thought so much of me. I just treated him equally and like a person. He tells every one I'm the only person in his life that ever treated him decent.
Siblings should never ever be separated..and it's all about positive loving and an understanding sense of discipline. Unless one is effecting the others with their behavior that truly effects the rest.even so it's really hard to be a good parent we just want the best for out kids but yet it's just so hard.
Oh little josh, you remind me of myself. i was neglected and abused, and had very bad anger issues. the calm collected way you talk about manipulation, and not being afraid of a tussle. It really becomes easier to be numb, but don't lose all those emotions. it's not worth it. i can say from experience that trying to fix emotions is worse than feeling them in the first place. memories aren't really my thing, as i have D.I.D. but i do remember the rage. i also remember realizing that it wasn't normal for a child to be able to manipulate so well
The comfort thing, them being able to lay down and cover with a blanket & feel “comfy “ -children need this . Especially children suffering from emotional issues .
I go to a small highschool like this in Australia. Everyone is nice, the teachers are really understanding too. Obviously sometimes people have outbursts but it's never towards other students, I think there's an understanding that we all relate to each other in some way or another.
That's good. I just had a conversation with my momm about bullies in primary school we went to. Then also in middle school. It can be so horrible to be taunted and abused by them, physically and mentally.
I have to agree, so I go to this High School and in the High School there is an area for People With Disabilities And many disorders In Perth WA and one of my classmates can get really upset and it is usually if somebody creates really loud noise he'll get really upset and often he will have a outburst/ Meltdown And he is a good kid. He is really smart and he is a nice person and I think sometimes he gets misunderstood and I feel sorry for him And he often gets pretty upset when a new changes happen!
I have three adopted children from foster care with Fetal Alcohol Syndrome. I see strong signs of FAS in Josh, particularly in his behavior, but also his upturned nose and eyes.
@@Duvmasta because I love them and they needed a home. Children with disabilities are children just like those without disabilities. The challenges are just different
Good that places like this exist to help the children who struggle, but also to give them a separate place away from others until they can be more stable In school. I’ve seen violent kids trash classrooms and hurt kids and teachers in a regular school over and over but never be removed. It’s really scary
Those poor children, I wish I could scoop them all up and cuddle them and keep them safe, it breaks my heart what they have endured. Thank goodness for the special home and loving foster homes
Phil and Stig are truly amazing and they are examples of unconditional love which these boys needed so desperately I hope Josh comes around and sees how truly loved and lucky he is he seems to show remorse so i have no doubt he’ll conquer his trauma. Stig and Phil thank you for being the wonderful men you are
I wish psychiatric workers in America were emotionally understanding like these workers when I was a kid in the 2000s. Most of the ones myself and my cousin's dealt with seemed to hate us, and the ones who did care about us didn't really try to understand us. We were all heavily medicated. I have added trauma from my psychological care growing up now on top of my other issues. I'm crying from the one worker telling the one kid that it's okay to be angry. I was drugged up for feeling anything that outwardly showed, not just anger. Emotions weren't allowed.
I’m sure that if America makes a documentary about troubled kids and their teachers, they’ll find some angels in America as well, but most of the system is absolute junk and I don’t understand why some of them, if not most of them, even get into that line of work… I was lucky to find one school counselor who beloved me when I told her I had fatigue and chronic pain and that’s why I was skipping school…. Before her, they’d just claim I’m making it up to cut school.
I tell my students on the regular that angry is okay. I am naturally one who tended toward anger…fuelled by anxiety and trauma. So, I “get” anger. What I tell them is, no, I can’t expect you to like all of your classmates or even me, let alone the schoolwork. You can even hate it, hate me, hate them. However, what we DO WITH that anger is the key. How can we work it through and find the other side? Dealing with one particularly angry kiddo in my class right now…and have worked with kids similar to the ones shown here.
Josh worries me. He is manipulative, aggressive, has harmed an animal(s), has no empathy/guilt etc.. That's a psychopath right there. He's also smart and can appear extremely pleasant. I'm not 100% convinced he's really learned to feel guilt and regret - could just be he's learnt that's how he's supposed to feel, so he's just saying it, saying the 'right' things.. He worries me.
I completely agree . He’s very much not a good person. I know all these people say aww no bad kids kids aren’t ever bad blah blah . Kids can still have bad behavior, that’s what matters, how they behave . They can be the best kid but I’d they behave disgusting that’s what it is .
Anyone can make a baby. It just seems so unfair to these kids that they had parents that screwed them up. These kids got a crapy start to life. I really hope they can work through their problems. I wonder if the camera being there worked Josh up more. He seems to be desperate for attention, ANY kind of attention.
Speaking as a teacher: the children are seeking physical contact by kicking off and being restrained. They don't know how to seek physical contact in a normal way, like hugging, etc.
You’re a teacher not a therapist, stop pretending you know what these kids need. If your watched the video you would know these kids were abused and neglected. Sit down
@@madji6886 She's right. I know. I was one of these kids. It hurts too much to ask for love the way a child would usually get it because you're afraid of being pushed away or trusting. It takes a lot of time to look at your own pain and realize that by yelling "let me go!" you're saying "hold me tight!" and you'd do anything for a safe adult to hug you but you're just too scared. Hopefully in time, sometimes a long time, healing can take place and the child knows there are some safe people to trust and to love in the right way
@@raea3588 Yeah, I was also like that as a kid. Behaving ‘badly' to get attention, nice words, hugs, etc. But my behavior only pushed people away and I always wondered why.
Some of these kids anger also is actually a symptom of learning disabilities that haven’t been managed. Growing up there was a boy who was a bit of a neighborhood bully. He was older than me and basically illiterate. Me and my mom actually taught him how to read and he was extremely sweet and thankful after.
It’s also nice to see how much they care for these kids in the UK. Unfortunately in the USA often they either fall thru the cracks or go to schools where they’re basically retraumatized.
all of these poor babies need love and hugs they are in my prayers. I feel that many of these adults need to listen more to these kids, my main concern being that if they say don't touch them do NOT touch them, I feel these baby's pain :(
Josh is such a good brother, Having three boys would be a dream come true for me. How can parents not realise how blessed they are? I'm never going to be able to have kids of my own, I'd do literally anything to have kids of my own 😢 Take care of your children and love them. Theres no such thing as too much love ❤️
I cant help but also look at this thru a 3rd world lens, bcuz wow the treatment provided to these troubled kids is incredible, the facilities are clean, staffed and equipped. The people there try their best and arent abusive and torturing them, they genuinely care u can see it they genuinely want the best, its not a control or power abuse thing, they care about the kids, they have good hearts. Its very touching to see that this is the type of care being given to such young ppl coming from broken homes who didnt deserve such a bad experience so young.
Yeah, I noticed the like from origin & knew I just had to reply to this one. It's truly disgusting that channels like these peddle these horrible documentaries exploiting & humiliating troubled children so that educators as well as parents/guardians can look good on camera & a bunch of idiots can feel better about themselves by watching kids who are worse off then themselves. These children should have every right to privacy in their lives. I really wouldn't be at all surprised if this turned out to be a bot set up by origin as this appears to be the only comment the've liked.😠
Did u even watch this video? I agree w u. There's far too many postings of children just to get views. I detest it like u do. Thats not what this vid is about. Its a documentary on a very different approach to teaching some kids who would otherwise be chewed up in the regular education system. Its showing the progress possible and sharing some of the insights that make it possible.
@@christinemalaka8636 But then why does it need to be made for public consumption when it can just be a private teaching tool for educators & psychology students? The answer is because not only does this sort of content Bring in morbid viewership, it also makes the parents & teachers look heroic & gets viewers such as yourself to leave positive comments.
That statement is lunatic leftism at its worst. It came from a narcissistic, power grubbing, corrupt politician: Hilary Clinton. Her daughter was "raised" by nannies while her parents feathered their nest. It takes a committed, married couple with good values to raise a child in a society that reflects those same values. Since the West has gone down the toilet morally, good parents are usually on their own. What if your neighbors dumped their kids on you for a night/weekend and claimed you as part of their village. The sane reponse: you would call social services immediately. Pull your head out.
being misunderstood is so lonely. these kids are acting out because they’re pleading for someone to notice how they feel. having trauma at such a young age will forever change you. kids are resilient and when they figure out that it doesn’t have to be that way, it can be scary.
I love the glitter activity and building a feelings sensory jar….better way to gain info than weird questions, while providing a tactile and visual way for the student to see what their emotions are doing. Going to use that one! (I really feel like the girl in this piece has a degree of ASD too…having it myself and knowing how differently it presents in girls).
I find it fascinating how Luke will cuddle himself up in a blanket when he is feeling troubled. It seems like his sort of escape. I wonder if it was something he did when he was younger to soothe himself when no one else was? Probably feels so lonely and misunderstood.
I work at a school for kids with behavioral disorders. Learning disabilities go hand in hand with that. I don't know why I'm watching this after getting off work. This is my work life daily.
One big difference I see is in Illinois where I work we are no longer allowed to restrain a child (because of a student being held wrong and suffocating in California a few years ago). My school had already moved away from restraining; but now it's law. And if we do restrain there is a ton of paperwork that is needed to be reported to the state within 24 hours.
I probably say "you are not making safe choices right now, can we please figure out a better way to x y z" at least 100 times a day. Great to see how similar these staff members are to our own
I was one of these kids, now I run multiple businesses! I wouldn't have made it if not for teachers like these that understand some kids just need "more"!
I'm absolutely amazed that some off the kids can explain really well how they feel in an "anger situation". I can't explain it as good as the wee lad 👍🏻
As someone who worked with high risk children ages 0-15 for 8yr prior to furthering my education and becoming a Pediatric (0-19yr old) Healthcare provider…I am wondering something that is essential to being able to handle high risk children. Do all of you get on going training that teaches you how to empathically connect with a child when they are in a state of heightened rage? Saying to a child in a state of rage, “Clearly you just want to be in control…” You need more training on empathic connect-ability and patient verbalization.
Thankless and tireless work that you need to be committed to for the long haul. Teaching and working in these schools/ program is the equivalent of doing hard time.
When people say that family structure, and the way parents treat the child during early years as well as to the teen years don’t affect you in adult life…. The child’s brain is developing and when you add trauma, the brain won’t develop “normally”. I love how the head teacher said that there are no bad kids.
I wish more nurses and psychologist would just work like this in regular schools especially in the USA it would be so incredible or each child involved
I cannot express how amazing these people are. I really wish that we had more of this in the USA. The UK is working with children at risk with such compassion, understanding and the resources which we somehow cannot manage here because of Capitalism. If only we had a "people first" model here, we would be better off as a society.
God Bless these children . Just like the one teacher said “I don’t believe in bad kids” she’s so right , the parents mess up these great children , and this school is helping , parents just don’t know how to love and protect , and they never learned it from there parents , it’s getting higher in rates because it’s just being passed down the generations of these certain groups of parents all over the world , and the children are suffering from the lack of good parenting , is so sad ,also getting worse .
It’s not always both parents or even the parents… sometimes in these situations a single parent has to work multiple jobs to provide for a kid… some of these kids also have mental health struggles that are outside of the parents control. The parents are always to blame and the kids are not to blame either.
It doesn't appear that Luke has any parents involved. Leaving Gloucester House, for a special needs school, probably makes him feel like he is being abandoned again. When he broke down at the end, I couldn't help but weep with him. His little heart has been battered and bruised during his short life. These are emotions that even adults struggle with. How is a young child supposed to understand? I wish all these children the very best in life.
Sorry to say this but Josh’s future isn’t looking too bright. This kid has no empathy he knows he can manipulate people and he is quite proud of that fact.
25:15 in a mainstream school, he'd never be allowed to negotiate the behavioral norms for the term with a teacher; either you follow the class rules or they put you out. The therapeutic school puts such a big emphasis on managing the kids' need for control but the set-up gives them way more autonomy than what other children get.
I have autism and had behavioral problems as well people would often say don’t use your behavior as excuse just yesterday a lady bullied me calling me a bully and saying other stuff over time I was mock and bullied because my mind thinks different I suffered form anxiety depression and anger issues because I was bullied so badly over several past years I still get bullied which is really annoying
Truly sorry to hear that, it's unfortunately almost the same as my experience! Luckily I'm at the end of my final year of highschool but the marks of stuff that's happened to me still remains, especially one instance... Stay strong, we'll get through that; take care 💙🐈⬛
Our mental health system in the US isn’t equipped to even deal with anyone under the age of 21 for mental health issues especially ones who self harm and have other diagnoses. They fail to focus on the self harming aspect and more on the others like depression, anxiety, etc and tend to not address the self harm which IMO is more important and needs addressing first as that triggers the others as I’m speaking from having two of my own as well as taking in numerous other kids whose parents kicked them out due to self harming.
This documentary has opened my eyes on thre perspective of the children that we as adults overlook and just judge them. God Bless these people who help and guide them 🙏
“Hurt kids Hurt kids!!!”👀🥺👀🥺 It all boils down to being NEGLECTED and feeling ABANDONED and feeling ALONE with receiving little 2 no attention 😞☹️Such bright kids it’s so sad to watch😕😞☹️😩🥺 Thee adults in these kids lives SEVERELY FAILED THEM🤬👎🏾🤬 I just want 2 grab each child up and squeeze them so tight not letting go THEYVE NEVER I’m sure have ever had or experienced that feeling of stability and Love🥺☹️😩🥺🥺🥺
I don’t want to sound negative but unless something drastic changes all I see for Luke is jail in his future ! 😢 poor josh is actually quite scary to see at such a young age how he knows how to manipulate people into what ever he wants & unless he realises that’s not the right way to go about things I worry for his future also !
The psychiatrist estimation is correct about the importance of child’s first six years of development. These children are made by the people who should NOT have had children! I think that there should be some sort of counseling before becoming parents, learn how to manage a baby and the importance of those developmental, the foundation, years! I’m sure many are drug
I went to school with some kids like this. They had the audacity to put psycho children into a school with a bunch of other”normal” kids, which is extremely dangerous.
The Ron Clark Story comes to mind. RIP Matthew Perry, who struggled with mental illness, depression, and addiction. Bless these kids' hearts...The absence of a loving father is so important. My family fell apart and I "acted out" so my mom institutionalized me for 7 months and 2 days at Coldwater Canyon Hospital in 1986, I was ten years old. The staff did awful things to those teens...I still don't talk to my mother. I stopped dating and self isolate in my room 24/7 after cps took my boys in 2016. At 14 and 15, I was locked up in Juvie for chronic kleptomania. Alcohol addiction ruined my life and career. I understand these kids. I worked as an ASL Interpreter in the local public school districts for 20 years until covid shut the classroom down in 2020.
I wish every child could have a second chance at life from a place like this. Poor broken hearts and scared souls, just utterly shatter me 💔 You can just see that hurt in then.
I wish I had proper help when I was a kid. at age 12 I was completely considered a bad kid and lost my friends due to it, I was known for my anger and aggression, I developed the issues when I was 10 especially because I began to get bullied but by 12 I was completely messed up. autism, anxiety, BPD, hypothyroidism and depression were the main reason behind my behavior and having a teacher who did not understand me at all only made it much worse. most troubled kids need someone who is willing to take the time to understand and know them, in my 20s now and I feel lots of regret for not being able to manage my issues back then.
i think it would do him well to not think about himself so much. Give him a break from all the criticism and correction of his behaviour, its stressful and frustrating when you cant handle ur emotions well and process ur feelings and communicate. That lady was spot on about identity and comfort in familiair behaviours, he needs new experiences to see himself in a new light. thats my two cents
When I was a kid I was in a place like this kids like these usually don't know or understand how to express thier selfs or handle thier emotions alot of times this starts with parenting and their home environment alot of times they are mocked looked down on they don't need to be ignored or thrown away somewhere they are normal and special in their own ways and alot of times need love special care and attention unlike so called normal kids define normal most kids and adults have mental or behavior issuses
I survived two programs in the US and Costa Rica 20 years ago. It kills most of us surviors to know kids are still stuck and suffering in these places. No one is coming to save them if we dont.
These children if not helped the way these brilliant teachers ,councillors , help and care for ,these children would be terrible people in society , with out saying the worlds ,you can figure out what or how they would be ,with out the awesome trading ,teachings ,counciling they all get from these brilliant teachers who should be acknowledged big time for all they do ,God Bless them all !
It might make me sound not understanding, but I think that they place far too much blame on the families and not enough on the fact that these are all kids who ALWAYS had a propensity toward violence. More than likely, even growing up in perfect families, most of these kids would’ve found some extremely ordinary occurrence in their life to blame their behavior on. After all, there are literally MILLIONS of us who came from extremely abusive and neglectful homes who haven’t committed any crimes or acts of violence against the public… I’ve known people who went through far more horrible things than I did at the hell I called home as a child, and they’re extremely gentle and kind people. These kids are NOT just the products of bad environments. They will go on to be diagnosed with disorders such as antisocial personality, psychopathy, obstinate defiant disorder, etc. either in prisons or mental health units. The home life was just the catalyst to bringing out the behaviors so early as opposed to at 16+.
@@ivysdiary1248 Um… I minored in psychology. I had to go through a few child psych classes and have a fair understanding of it. Fair enough, I’m not going to claim that I have a master’s in it or anything, and things may have updated in the years since, but I have studied my fair share of child psych.
I came from a bad home, never really knew my dad , etc. I never behaved this way with my mother or anyone . Kids that hit, screech, hurt other people, bully others . They really need to be punished not coddled and let them do whatever they want all the time with no real punishment.
@@superdupersnowflake Right! I’m not saying that it’s right to abuse children AT ALL, but some children are so out of control that a good spanking or other very stern punishment is the only thing that’ll stop that behavior. If you don’t properly punish out of control kids, they become out of control adults. Obviously positive reinforcement should be used before any punishment should, but out of control children often don’t respond to positive reinforcement attempts!
I hope that school manages to find a way to teach music to these kids. It may be able to save them. I never had any trouble reading, but I couldn’t read music until I was 27 and I remember how it crippled me. I learned because I had a voice teacher who told me: you better be really stupid on the page than sound stupid when you read the music. She taught me some basic marks and gave me the legitimacy to put them on my page when no one else was marking theirs. I also learned that reading music is much easier once I memorized the melody, which then helped my brain relax a little when I’d get an unknown piece of music. Also, reading in group and making mistakes together. Bottom line is, good teachers, your own pace and music can help save an angry child. ❤️ Not that I’d know, because I’m awful with kids, but it’s how I learned.
I want to spread awareness about mental illness and bullying and autism no one deserves to be bullied just because they do it but it still happens and people get very angry because of it people can be very rude online now and often name call others so sad I don’t know how many adults and kids bully now in schools but happens very often even though we try and stop it it still hasn’t worked
I was extremely violent from ages 3-8. Unknown to my family at the time I am autistic. I had (and still have) issues understanding my emotions and regulating them. This plus sensory issues led to me lashing out through violence. I was never intentionally hurting others but I would throw things, scream, destroy things, and be over all very hostile. I was put in cbt therapy, which didn’t work and was moved to occupational therapy. We found that when I would lash out I needed pressure to regulate and get myself under control, now I rarely lash out (only at my parents).
I've been so concerned about the kid with his face taped in the into of all these videos, it's so funny to see he put it there himself and is just fine!
These children when they look back to this time in their lives, will realise just how lucky they are. Resources like this do not occur very often and these teachers are beyond wonderful.
I'm pretty sure these poor kids will grow up with serious trust issues as the parents/guardians & school that were supposed to help them with their problems just let a camera crew follow them around while they were having episodes & there "saintly" adopted parents told the whole world horrific personal stories about their mental health issues so that for the rest of their lives they'll be known as the "psycho" kids by their communities. there's nothing lucky about being exploited during you're childhood so that the adults in your life can get some clout. gross videos like these outta be banned.😠
My has dad works at one of these schools for 30 years in the USA. He has had his car windows broken and peed on. But most notably, he has had his jaw broken by a student. He continues to teach these students. Most have been traumatized, a lot are foster children, and many have mental disorders. My dad has stayed after school to help kids who are struggling learn, he has bought bikes for kids who had none, and gifts for his students in need. Not everyone can do what he does but it truly was his calling.
Your dad is a great man!!
Much respect for your dad!!
We need more people like your dad he has a lot compassion then some people I seen
It'd be awesome if there were more people like your dad in the world. 💗
has dad
This was me as a kid. I was severely neglected for the first year of my life and then put into foster care. Adopted at four and had my biological foster sibling removed when I was six. And I was sexually abused and emotionally abused. I struggled, a lot. I was so angry and so anxious that I just couldn’t control it. My feeling we’re just so big that no little five year old could handle. I would bite my self, others, hit, scream, scratch, rip my hair out, shred stuffed animals, rip things off walls, run away, probably more. With time I learned to cope and eventually became a mostly normal adult. I still have severe anxiety (thanks trauma!) but I’m no longer full of rage. I can control my feelings 95% of the time. I’m in college, I live alone, I have a dog and enjoy creating with my hands. I would like to believe that most of my friends would say I’m one of the kindest people they know. Which couldn’t be said for me as a kid. But really, these kids are just the most sensitive kids with the biggest emotions, that are just to much for them to handle. These are the kids that have experienced things most adults can’t imagine and they have to keep on living. These aren’t violent, disturbed, broken kids. These are traumatized kids with big hearts, big feeling and no place to put them. And they just need someone to be there with them as they learn to navigate those treacherous waters and to help guide them along the way. Because in the end, they do eventually make it to shore.
Wishing you well for a happy life now.
if one of these kids end up killing someone you would still say "oh no he just have a big heart"?
@@nl-ho4wm I wouldn't want them near any of mine.
I wish I could give you a hug. 💔
I was neglected and abused, but no one knew because I was an introvert to I spent my entire life feeling highly ashamed of being useless in helping myself get out of that situation.
Kids are so resilient.
Please hang in there, none of it was your fault and you did the best you could to stay here. ❤️🇮🇱
@@nl-ho4wm These are children, traumatized children. No, if they killed someone I wouldn’t excuse their actions. But by blatantly making a statement that these are just violent dangerous children they will never have a chance of healing because they will believe it themselves. Of course you shouldn’t just leave them to their own devices. In fact what I was saying is that we should be supporting and teaching these kids so that they can learn to cope, instead of just writing them off. An eight year olds future isn’t set in stone, and to say it is, is to condemn them before they ever had a chance to try. There is a difference between a traumatized child and a purely violent child, a difference a psychologist can determine, and an important one. These aren’t hardened criminals, and with help they won’t become one, these are children with trauma.
I’m glad hear the head teacher say there’s no such thing as “bad kids”
Because there isn’t. There is only traumatized kids, bullied kids, mentally ill kids, grieving kids… but none of them are “bad”
@John Doe I agree with you. Some kids may be born bad. Or may even have permanent behavior changes triggered by medication or treatments they needed as a baby. They’re finding out certain meds are doing that to kids who needed to be in the NICU. But yeah I’m sure some people are just born bad. However we still need people with that positive mind set because if we don’t have people who are optimistic like that how are any of them gonna get a chance? Many of these kids may simply grow out of it as they mature.
@John Doe based on your response, what they said is not false. You suffer from a mental illness. It's not your fault that you are this way.
But as you said, your grandma was able to "save" you and prevent you from hurting others.
And let me tell you. It doesn’t matter if you feel differently, or if you don’t feel anything at all. As long as you keep yourself away from hurting others, you ARE a good person. Perhaps, you are even more of a good person because you struggle more than "normal" people not to hurt others.
Of course, i don’t know you. My opinion may be naive and stupid. However, it just saddens me to read that someone doesn’t consider themself human because of the illness they have.
You ARE human.
You ARE a human being as long as you keep yourself from hurting others.
And even if you are uncapable of emotions, there are things like emotional intelligence which can be developed over the years. And i think your grandma was very important in this process.
Again, this is my very naive opinion based on a comment you made.
Yes, i agree that some children are born differently, with a tendency to evil or lack of emphaty. However, that tendency can be either encouraged or discouraged. And that's what is really determining in making a person.
Unless they're diagnosed as a pyschopath. No cure for that.
I've never heard about a kid being born bad, I've only seen children with predispositions to violent behaviour be in environments that allowed them to become that way
Well they behave bad…
Anger is a secondary emotion, people are always hurt or scared underneath it. This school is approaching anger in a great way
"she's never been a bad child, she's just been a misunderstood child. no one really understood her." that mother's way of putting it is so simple and so so true. so many of the "bad kids" that we all knew in school weren't bad at all, they just needed someone to really understand them and want to figure out what was best for them. i think the world focuses way too much on making children "good" and well-behaved when instead we should focus on making sure they're happy and appreciated.
If they’re good and well behaved they will be happy and appreciated as well as appreciative! This behavior doesn’t make them happy either and certainly anyone else for that matter. It’s one thing to have patience, understanding, and to talk to a child but it’s another entirely to just allow them to do whatever makes only them happy and for us to appreciate when they act out! That’s ridiculous actually! It benefits no one in the long run.
@@coffeecrimegal5968 so absolutely very true!
@@coffeecrimegal5968 I dont know,I had severe emotional/,psychological problems but was "well behaved" but I certainly wasn't happy. I wish someone would've took the time to understand me
God bless Phil and Stig for taking on troubled kids and not giving up. The calmness and love they give to these children is unbelievable ❤ also giving them positive male role model. I am surprised I didn't see it mentioned much in comments.
Are Phil and Stig gay?
@@Duvmasta No, they're roommates who decided they wanted to adopt three children together... Yes, they're gay.
@@cjfqg don’t be a jerk
@@Duvmasta Then use context clues
@@cjfqg why are you being so rude?
If I'd had help when I was a kid, I'm sure things would be a lot different. I still have outbursts and fits into adulthood. Please get your kids the help they need!
Same here!
Me too. Ironically, my parents who were psychologists, knew very little about the mental illnesses I have and resorted to quite a few inappropriate ways of disciplining me
We try, we really do ...
Same with me if only my school and family could have understood that I was autistic and not to think I was faking then maybe I could have had all the help I needed as a kid I’m also dyslexic
That kid that’s been there a long time is very smart. You can tell he has a broad vocabulary for someone his age. Im sure a lot of these kids can channel themselves and do better in the future. Hopefully as long as people don’t give up on them.
I know a good number of late 20s to early 30s with a less extensive vocabulary and understanding 😅
I know its serious but I fell out when he said " this help you with your behavior school" I was in literal tears
Some of these behaviors remind me of when my boys were younger and they were struggling to deal with my divorce from their dad. The techniques I learned from therapists really helped to diffuse situations like this.
The staff have my utmost respect for helping these troubled kids. They need understanding, compassion and guidance. Not more trauma. ❤️
Oh... that ending though ❤️😭
What techniques worked for you? I have a child who experienced a major trauma a few years back and hasn’t been the same since. She has such a big heart but her behavior has been a struggle and she’s only 7. We’ve done therapy with specialist for the trauma for over a year and nothing is working. It’s heart breaking.
@@margaretrangel7223 Mine mostly struggled with anger issues and my youngest had really bad temper tantrums. For the older ones, it was learning how to talk to them, acknowledge their feelings, let them know their feelings were valid but also setting boundaries and enforcing them.
The youngest, I was taught non-violent crisis intervention holds and techniques to help myself remain calm through his tantrums.
It was years of modeling this behavior. I slipped up sometimes and we had set backs but I just kept up with the positive reinforcement and eventually they grew up to be amazing young men. 🥰❤️
maybe dont get divorced in the first place would've been nice
Pain = rage, and rage can't be contained. These kids aren't bad kids, they're hurting, and not able to express that pain .
so if one of these kids tries to kill you, you would still say that "oh no they arent bad kids"?
@@nl-ho4wm trauma isn’t an excuse, it’s an explanation. No one said that they don’t face consequences for their actions, it just explains why they got to this point
@@TRC2002 no it means they need psychological help and stay in therapy so they learn how to deal with stuff in non aggressive ways.
@@TRC2002 you’re trying to set up a paper tiger, anyone who attempts to / succeed in killing someone (excluding self defence) is arguably a “bad person”. But especially with children you can’t honestly look at them and say they’re just behaving badly. Any child who’s capable of either attempting or following through with a violent crime has something DEEPLY wrong with them. Trauma is never an excuse it only offers an explanation or insight into a disorder. And acknowledging that a child has a serious issue does not absolve them of consequences.
That's correct
What a great documentary, thanks for the upload. I was abused during my entire childhood and became very "disruptive" in class - especially between age 9 to 12. I had no respect for any adults. Nobody could control me. I finally felt that I needed some help so when I turned 13 I went to our school councelor to tell what went on at home but she just called my mother on the phone and told her that I had disclosed the "big family secret". My mother beat me to a bloody pulp so nothing good came out of that. I never got the help I so desperately needed. Look at me now. I have been diagnosed with severe PTSD, depression, anxiety. I have nightmares every night, and no family or friends left in my life. Life is far from being easy...
I'm so sorry that happened to you and that the adults in your life didn't protect you as they should have 😔
@@katiekelleher2560 TY 🧡
of course the school councelor did not believe you, you were a menace after all. He or she maybe though you were making it up to hurt other people
@Candice P Hi Candice. I'm very sorry that all of this happened to you. May you heal and feel better soon, you are NOT alone. 💕
Oh brother, that’s awful! I have had students disclose and I’ve had to call student services (it’s the law here that teachers are legally obligated). Never ever would I phone the family directly…so not okay. I am so sorry that your reaching out for help resulted in that extra trauma on trauma.
The headmaster "I dont believe in naughty children". What an amazing attitude to have. 🥰🥰
Exactly the temperament a headmaster at a place like that needs.
Ignoring a problem does not help to solve it
The headmaster is fucking delusional
@@mariad.5823exactly
Yeah it's a great attitude to have when your exploiting you're mentally ill &/or traumatized pupils on a documentary for publicity.😠
Josh I hope you're doing okay all these years later. It's clear to me you're a very smart kid from the way you speak and you've got a big heart for taking care of others. I know you have emotional triggers but that doesnt make you less of a person, it's the way you respond to them that matters.
Those 2 dads were amazing, such an incredible level of commitment and compassion for Josh and his brothers.
Already left a reply with @TheMaybella77 about my feelings for these two.
I feel so sorry for these kids - what do they have to struggle with in early years to get so angry and aggressive? No one is born as a bad person!!!
Childhood trauma literally rewires the brain. These children need intense and consistent help. I work in the same type of school but near Chicago. Our staff members are the consistency and love these kids need.
Neglect, different forms of abuse from their parents/caregivers, and the effects of their mothers using alcohol/drugs when pregnant. Combination of all the above. Very sad.
REALLY😭😭
OMG TYSM!!
These kids break my heart. I started dealing with mental health at 15. I'm an adult now, and I can't imagine how scary this must be for those precious little ones.
Just 15? You were lucky lol.
@@sallyann985 uhhhh that is really distasteful of you to say. Nobody is "lucky" when dealing with mental illness
@@sallyann985 that’s invalidating
@@mariagriffin5873 I'm aware of that
Anger is easier to choose. Rejection, fear, anxiety are scary and we don’t feel in control but we can choose anger because it doesn’t leave us feeling vulnerable.
i work in a school similar to this and it can be hard but it’s the most rewarding thing in the world to see children grow and heal.
Agreed! ❤️
Hopefully you guys don't shove a camera in your students faces during their worst moments like with these jerks.
Josh seems like such a sweet child - just super misunderstood. hopefully he has a great life.
The world is a better place because of people like Phil and Stig! They are so patient and caring with those boys and are just truly amazing parents! They are restoring faith in humanity one child at a time ❤️
They were amazing. So glad those boys ended up with such a caring couple.
Amazing parents don't let there adopted children with mental health issues go to a school where there problems will be aired for the whole world to see with there faces un-blurred & there names un-bleeped so the school & themselves can look like heroes.😠
My nephew has all these problems. He stayed with me for a couple of months and I swear I just didn't see any of the problems everyone said he had. He came straight away saying he had all these problems and I said sure...I have the same. He did not know what to do or think. I think he was scared straight. As soon as he was back home all the behavior came right back. It was so bad at home he would beg to come by me. I'd relent most weekends but the parents just could not understand. Their jealousy kept him home. Sadly for him he just kept on with his behaviors until he landed in foster care. After foster care Juvenile detention then big boy jail. Sad. He still contacts me. I really don't know why he thought so much of me. I just treated him equally and like a person. He tells every one I'm the only person in his life that ever treated him decent.
empathy is unfortunately rare to come by sometimes. i didn’t feel like i truly experienced it until i was in my 20s.
Underrated
Kudos 2 the teachers, hard job undoing learnt behaviours.
They are not teachers😅🤦🏻♀️
@@madji6886 teachers/ staff You knew which people Linda was talking about. 🤷♀️
Edit for typo
Very hard job indeed.
@@madji6886 some of them are teachers! They refer to several of them as teachers but the place has other staff too.
Most of this dysfunctional behavior begins in the home. Makes you wonder what kind of parents these kids have!😒
Siblings should never ever be separated..and it's all about positive loving and an understanding sense of discipline. Unless one is effecting the others with their behavior that truly effects the rest.even so it's really hard to be a good parent we just want the best for out kids but yet it's just so hard.
Oh little josh, you remind me of myself. i was neglected and abused, and had very bad anger issues. the calm collected way you talk about manipulation, and not being afraid of a tussle. It really becomes easier to be numb, but don't lose all those emotions. it's not worth it. i can say from experience that trying to fix emotions is worse than feeling them in the first place. memories aren't really my thing, as i have D.I.D. but i do remember the rage. i also remember realizing that it wasn't normal for a child to be able to manipulate so well
The comfort thing, them being able to lay down and cover with a blanket & feel “comfy “ -children need this . Especially children suffering from emotional issues .
I go to a small highschool like this in Australia. Everyone is nice, the teachers are really understanding too. Obviously sometimes people have outbursts but it's never towards other students, I think there's an understanding that we all relate to each other in some way or another.
That's good. I just had a conversation with my momm about bullies in primary school we went to. Then also in middle school. It can be so horrible to be taunted and abused by them, physically and mentally.
I have to agree, so I go to this High School and in the High School there is an area for People With Disabilities And many disorders In Perth WA and one of my classmates can get really upset and it is usually if somebody creates really loud noise he'll get really upset and often he will have a outburst/ Meltdown
And he is a good kid. He is really smart and he is a nice person and I think sometimes he gets misunderstood and I feel sorry for him
And he often gets pretty upset when a new changes happen!
I have three adopted children from foster care with Fetal Alcohol Syndrome. I see strong signs of FAS in Josh, particularly in his behavior, but also his upturned nose and eyes.
Why did you adopt children with FAS?
@@Duvmasta because I love them and they needed a home. Children with disabilities are children just like those without disabilities. The challenges are just different
@@nicolemyers4584 did you start out as a foster parent?
@@Duvmasta yes
@@nicolemyers4584 what made you want to foster children?
Josh is acting out his last two weeks because he knows change is coming in his life, and that’s very stressful for Josh !
Good that places like this exist to help the children who struggle, but also to give them a separate place away from others until they can be more stable In school. I’ve seen violent kids trash classrooms and hurt kids and teachers in a regular school over and over but never be removed. It’s really scary
Those poor children, I wish I could scoop them all up and cuddle them and keep them safe, it breaks my heart what they have endured. Thank goodness for the special home and loving foster homes
Phil and Stig are truly amazing and they are examples of unconditional love which these boys needed so desperately I hope Josh comes around and sees how truly loved and lucky he is he seems to show remorse so i have no doubt he’ll conquer his trauma. Stig and Phil thank you for being the wonderful men you are
my heart
I wish psychiatric workers in America were emotionally understanding like these workers when I was a kid in the 2000s. Most of the ones myself and my cousin's dealt with seemed to hate us, and the ones who did care about us didn't really try to understand us. We were all heavily medicated. I have added trauma from my psychological care growing up now on top of my other issues.
I'm crying from the one worker telling the one kid that it's okay to be angry. I was drugged up for feeling anything that outwardly showed, not just anger. Emotions weren't allowed.
I’m sure that if America makes a documentary about troubled kids and their teachers, they’ll find some angels in America as well, but most of the system is absolute junk and I don’t understand why some of them, if not most of them, even get into that line of work…
I was lucky to find one school counselor who beloved me when I told her I had fatigue and chronic pain and that’s why I was skipping school…. Before her, they’d just claim I’m making it up to cut school.
I tell my students on the regular that angry is okay. I am naturally one who tended toward anger…fuelled by anxiety and trauma. So, I “get” anger. What I tell them is, no, I can’t expect you to like all of your classmates or even me, let alone the schoolwork. You can even hate it, hate me, hate them. However, what we DO WITH that anger is the key. How can we work it through and find the other side? Dealing with one particularly angry kiddo in my class right now…and have worked with kids similar to the ones shown here.
So sorry for what happened to you... take care of yourself. :)
Josh worries me. He is manipulative, aggressive, has harmed an animal(s), has no empathy/guilt etc.. That's a psychopath right there. He's also smart and can appear extremely pleasant. I'm not 100% convinced he's really learned to feel guilt and regret - could just be he's learnt that's how he's supposed to feel, so he's just saying it, saying the 'right' things.. He worries me.
Agreed 100%
I agree.
I completely agree . He’s very much not a good person. I know all these people say aww no bad kids kids aren’t ever bad blah blah . Kids can still have bad behavior, that’s what matters, how they behave . They can be the best kid but I’d they behave disgusting that’s what it is .
And the fact that he described to his adoptive parents how he was going to kill them and what he will tell police exactly 😳
@@superdupersnowflakekids can be be bad people, wdym? They can be psychos. It’s hereditary.
Anyone can make a baby. It just seems so unfair to these kids that they had parents that screwed them up. These kids got a crapy start to life. I really hope they can work through their problems. I wonder if the camera being there worked Josh up more. He seems to be desperate for attention, ANY kind of attention.
Speaking as a teacher: the children are seeking physical contact by kicking off and being restrained. They don't know how to seek physical contact in a normal way, like hugging, etc.
You’re a teacher not a therapist, stop pretending you know what these kids need. If your watched the video you would know these kids were abused and neglected. Sit down
@@madji6886 She's right. I know. I was one of these kids. It hurts too much to ask for love the way a child would usually get it because you're afraid of being pushed away or trusting. It takes a lot of time to look at your own pain and realize that by yelling "let me go!" you're saying "hold me tight!" and you'd do anything for a safe adult to hug you but you're just too scared. Hopefully in time, sometimes a long time, healing can take place and the child knows there are some safe people to trust and to love in the right way
@@raea3588 Yeah, I was also like that as a kid. Behaving ‘badly' to get attention, nice words, hugs, etc. But my behavior only pushed people away and I always wondered why.
@@peaceonakalu7852 I'm so sorry you had that pain inside of you. You are worthy
@@raea3588 Thank you 🤗
Some of these kids anger also is actually a symptom of learning disabilities that haven’t been managed. Growing up there was a boy who was a bit of a neighborhood bully. He was older than me and basically illiterate. Me and my mom actually taught him how to read and he was extremely sweet and thankful after.
It’s also nice to see how much they care for these kids in the UK. Unfortunately in the USA often they either fall thru the cracks or go to schools where they’re basically retraumatized.
Then eventually they end up in prison, addicts and homeless.
The UK is one of the worst places for kids. This is an exception, not the norm!🙄
What grace you have. Self-control. And great care. Thanks so much for your dedication.
all of these poor babies need love and hugs they are in my prayers. I feel that many of these adults need to listen more to these kids, my main concern being that if they say don't touch them do NOT touch them, I feel these baby's pain :(
Josh is such a good brother, Having three boys would be a dream come true for me. How can parents not realise how blessed they are? I'm never going to be able to have kids of my own, I'd do literally anything to have kids of my own 😢 Take care of your children and love them. Theres no such thing as too much love ❤️
I cant help but also look at this thru a 3rd world lens, bcuz wow the treatment provided to these troubled kids is incredible, the facilities are clean, staffed and equipped. The people there try their best and arent abusive and torturing them, they genuinely care u can see it they genuinely want the best, its not a control or power abuse thing, they care about the kids, they have good hearts. Its very touching to see that this is the type of care being given to such young ppl coming from broken homes who didnt deserve such a bad experience so young.
Everything beautiful and positive is in this story. What a shining light. So progressive. May it grow and spread.
Yeah, I noticed the like from origin & knew I just had to reply to this one. It's truly disgusting that channels like these peddle these horrible documentaries exploiting & humiliating troubled children so that educators as well as parents/guardians can look good on camera & a bunch of idiots can feel better about themselves by watching kids who are worse off then themselves. These children should have every right to privacy in their lives. I really wouldn't be at all surprised if this turned out to be a bot set up by origin as this appears to be the only comment the've liked.😠
Did u even watch this video?
I agree w u. There's far too many postings of children just to get views. I detest it like u do.
Thats not what this vid is about. Its a documentary on a very different approach to teaching some kids who would otherwise be chewed up in the regular education system. Its showing the progress possible and sharing some of the insights that make it possible.
@@christinemalaka8636 But then why does it need to be made for public consumption when it can just be a private teaching tool for educators & psychology students? The answer is because not only does this sort of content Bring in morbid viewership, it also makes the parents & teachers look heroic & gets viewers such as yourself to leave positive comments.
Truly takes a village to raise a child..thank God for good people 🙏
That statement is lunatic leftism at its worst. It came from a narcissistic, power grubbing, corrupt politician: Hilary Clinton. Her daughter was "raised" by nannies while her parents feathered their nest. It takes a committed, married couple with good values to raise a child in a society that reflects those same values. Since the West has gone down the toilet morally, good parents are usually on their own. What if your neighbors dumped their kids on you for a night/weekend and claimed you as part of their village. The sane reponse: you would call social services immediately. Pull your head out.
being misunderstood is so lonely. these kids are acting out because they’re pleading for someone to notice how they feel. having trauma at such a young age will forever change you. kids are resilient and when they figure out that it doesn’t have to be that way, it can be scary.
I love the glitter activity and building a feelings sensory jar….better way to gain info than weird questions, while providing a tactile and visual way for the student to see what their emotions are doing. Going to use that one! (I really feel like the girl in this piece has a degree of ASD too…having it myself and knowing how differently it presents in girls).
I find it fascinating how Luke will cuddle himself up in a blanket when he is feeling troubled. It seems like his sort of escape. I wonder if it was something he did when he was younger to soothe himself when no one else was?
Probably feels so lonely and misunderstood.
I work at a school for kids with behavioral disorders. Learning disabilities go hand in hand with that. I don't know why I'm watching this after getting off work. This is my work life daily.
One big difference I see is in Illinois where I work we are no longer allowed to restrain a child (because of a student being held wrong and suffocating in California a few years ago). My school had already moved away from restraining; but now it's law. And if we do restrain there is a ton of paperwork that is needed to be reported to the state within 24 hours.
I probably say "you are not making safe choices right now, can we please figure out a better way to x y z" at least 100 times a day. Great to see how similar these staff members are to our own
Everyone can always learn more. Perhaps that's you, and that's good! Learn all you can.☺️
I was one of these kids, now I run multiple businesses! I wouldn't have made it if not for teachers like these that understand some kids just need "more"!
Kids in pain is so hard to see. Their faces when they do laugh and smile must seem like the finest jewels
I'm absolutely amazed that some off the kids can explain really well how they feel in an "anger situation". I can't explain it as good as the wee lad 👍🏻
As someone who worked with high risk children ages 0-15 for 8yr prior to furthering my education and becoming a Pediatric (0-19yr old) Healthcare provider…I am wondering something that is essential to being able to handle high risk children.
Do all of you get on going
training that teaches you how to empathically connect with a child when they are in a state of heightened rage?
Saying to a child in a state of rage, “Clearly you just want to be in control…” You need more training on empathic connect-ability and patient verbalization.
Thankless and tireless work that you need to be committed to for the long haul. Teaching and working in these schools/ program is the equivalent of doing hard time.
How awesome for Josh, to have not one, but two Dad's - and - two Dad's rhat really care 🥰
When people say that family structure, and the way parents treat the child during early years as well as to the teen years don’t affect you in adult life…. The child’s brain is developing and when you add trauma, the brain won’t develop “normally”. I love how the head teacher said that there are no bad kids.
24:09 my jaw dropped, this kid is extremely intelligent whether it be in a good or a bad way.
I wish more nurses and psychologist would just work like this in regular schools especially in the USA it would be so incredible or each child involved
Thank you so much for uploading this. It was such interesting. I appreciate
These kids need love to heal them!
I feel for them and I hope they find healing at some point in their life
Trauma is at the heart of this. And its generational for whatever reason. These kids deserve to be loved
Josh is a wonderful and bright boy. I hope everything turns out well for him.
I cannot express how amazing these people are. I really wish that we had more of this in the USA. The UK is working with children at risk with such compassion, understanding and the resources which we somehow cannot manage here because of Capitalism. If only we had a "people first" model here, we would be better off as a society.
I would like to see an update on these kids, especially Josh
God Bless these children . Just like the one teacher said “I don’t believe in bad kids” she’s so right , the parents mess up these great children , and this school is helping , parents just don’t know how to love and protect , and they never learned it from there parents , it’s getting higher in rates because it’s just being passed down the generations of these certain groups of parents all over the world , and the children are suffering from the lack of good parenting , is so sad ,also getting worse .
It’s not always both parents or even the parents… sometimes in these situations a single parent has to work multiple jobs to provide for a kid… some of these kids also have mental health struggles that are outside of the parents control. The parents are always to blame and the kids are not to blame either.
It doesn't appear that Luke has any parents involved. Leaving Gloucester House, for a special needs school, probably makes him feel like he is being abandoned again. When he broke down at the end, I couldn't help but weep with him. His little heart has been battered and bruised during his short life. These are emotions that even adults struggle with. How is a young child supposed to understand?
I wish all these children the very best in life.
It would be absolutely horrible not to have a choice for who a fostered one gets put with. That in itself can make all the difference.
Sorry to say this but Josh’s future isn’t looking too bright. This kid has no empathy he knows he can manipulate people and he is quite proud of that fact.
What an amazing school. I'll have to see if there's something like this near where I live
25:15 in a mainstream school, he'd never be allowed to negotiate the behavioral norms for the term with a teacher; either you follow the class rules or they put you out. The therapeutic school puts such a big emphasis on managing the kids' need for control but the set-up gives them way more autonomy than what other children get.
Josh was very lucky to get his gay dads. They are doing a fantastic job for the boys.
I have autism and had behavioral problems as well people would often say don’t use your behavior as excuse just yesterday a lady bullied me calling me a bully and saying other stuff over time I was mock and bullied because my mind thinks different I suffered form anxiety depression and anger issues because I was bullied so badly over several past years I still get bullied which is really annoying
Truly sorry to hear that, it's unfortunately almost the same as my experience! Luckily I'm at the end of my final year of highschool but the marks of stuff that's happened to me still remains, especially one instance...
Stay strong, we'll get through that; take care 💙🐈⬛
I go to a therapeutic behavioral school it’s so hard and it’s so scary being in empty rooms and being restrained it’s so sad😭
Would you say, it still helps or is it just adding to the trauma?
Our mental health system in the US isn’t equipped to even deal with anyone under the age of 21 for mental health issues especially ones who self harm and have other diagnoses. They fail to focus on the self harming aspect and more on the others like depression, anxiety, etc and tend to not address the self harm which IMO is more important and needs addressing first as that triggers the others as I’m speaking from having two of my own as well as taking in numerous other kids whose parents kicked them out due to self harming.
This documentary has opened my eyes on thre perspective of the children that we as adults overlook and just judge them. God Bless these people who help and guide them 🙏
“Hurt kids Hurt kids!!!”👀🥺👀🥺
It all boils down to being NEGLECTED and feeling ABANDONED and feeling ALONE with receiving little 2 no attention
😞☹️Such bright kids it’s so sad to watch😕😞☹️😩🥺
Thee adults in these kids lives SEVERELY FAILED THEM🤬👎🏾🤬
I just want 2 grab each child up and squeeze them so tight not letting go THEYVE NEVER I’m sure have ever had or experienced that feeling of stability and Love🥺☹️😩🥺🥺🥺
Boils down?
I don’t want to sound negative but unless something drastic changes all I see for Luke is jail in his future ! 😢 poor josh is actually quite scary to see at such a young age how he knows how to manipulate people into what ever he wants & unless he realises that’s not the right way to go about things I worry for his future also !
I feel sorry for the little dog 😞
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The psychiatrist estimation is correct about the importance of child’s first six years of development. These children are made by the people who should NOT have had children!
I think that there should be some sort of counseling before becoming parents, learn how to manage a baby and the importance of those developmental, the foundation, years!
I’m sure many are drug
I like that lil dude “well why do you think I’m here?”
The staff is so patient and caring, that means the world to those children. They will always remember the staff
Luke’s goodbye broke my heart.. 😢
I went to school with some kids like this. They had the audacity to put psycho children into a school with a bunch of other”normal” kids, which is extremely dangerous.
The Ron Clark Story comes to mind. RIP Matthew Perry, who struggled with mental illness, depression, and addiction. Bless these kids' hearts...The absence of a loving father is so important. My family fell apart and I "acted out" so my mom institutionalized me for 7 months and 2 days at Coldwater Canyon Hospital in 1986, I was ten years old. The staff did awful things to those teens...I still don't talk to my mother. I stopped dating and self isolate in my room 24/7 after cps took my boys in 2016. At 14 and 15, I was locked up in Juvie for chronic kleptomania. Alcohol addiction ruined my life and career. I understand these kids. I worked as an ASL Interpreter in the local public school districts for 20 years until covid shut the classroom down in 2020.
I wish every child could have a second chance at life from a place like this. Poor broken hearts and scared souls, just utterly shatter me 💔 You can just see that hurt in then.
I wish I had proper help when I was a kid. at age 12 I was completely considered a bad kid and lost my friends due to it, I was known for my anger and aggression, I developed the issues when I was 10 especially because I began to get bullied but by 12 I was completely messed up. autism, anxiety, BPD, hypothyroidism and depression were the main reason behind my behavior and having a teacher who did not understand me at all only made it much worse. most troubled kids need someone who is willing to take the time to understand and know them, in my 20s now and I feel lots of regret for not being able to manage my issues back then.
Way to go Danni conquering your fear and kicking butt on that exam is super awesome pretty girl
i think it would do him well to not think about himself so much. Give him a break from all the criticism and correction of his behaviour, its stressful and frustrating when you cant handle ur emotions well and process ur feelings and communicate. That lady was spot on about identity and comfort in familiair behaviours, he needs new experiences to see himself in a new light. thats my two cents
Rehome the dog please, for her safety
When I was a kid I was in a place like this kids like these usually don't know or understand how to express thier selfs or handle thier emotions alot of times this starts with parenting and their home environment alot of times they are mocked looked down on they don't need to be ignored or thrown away somewhere they are normal and special in their own ways and alot of times need love special care and attention unlike so called normal kids define normal most kids and adults have mental or behavior issuses
Josh is already a master of manipulation and gaslighting 🤦 scary that he knows he is too.
I survived two programs in the US and Costa Rica 20 years ago. It kills most of us surviors to know kids are still stuck and suffering in these places. No one is coming to save them if we dont.
These children if not helped the way these brilliant teachers ,councillors , help and care for ,these children would be terrible people in society , with out saying the worlds ,you can figure out what or how they would be ,with out the awesome trading ,teachings ,counciling they all get from these brilliant teachers who should be acknowledged big time for all they do ,God Bless them all !
It might make me sound not understanding, but I think that they place far too much blame on the families and not enough on the fact that these are all kids who ALWAYS had a propensity toward violence. More than likely, even growing up in perfect families, most of these kids would’ve found some extremely ordinary occurrence in their life to blame their behavior on. After all, there are literally MILLIONS of us who came from extremely abusive and neglectful homes who haven’t committed any crimes or acts of violence against the public… I’ve known people who went through far more horrible things than I did at the hell I called home as a child, and they’re extremely gentle and kind people. These kids are NOT just the products of bad environments. They will go on to be diagnosed with disorders such as antisocial personality, psychopathy, obstinate defiant disorder, etc. either in prisons or mental health units. The home life was just the catalyst to bringing out the behaviors so early as opposed to at 16+.
I suggest that you read more on childhood development, and psychology because what you stated has many false elements.
@@ivysdiary1248 Um… I minored in psychology. I had to go through a few child psych classes and have a fair understanding of it. Fair enough, I’m not going to claim that I have a master’s in it or anything, and things may have updated in the years since, but I have studied my fair share of child psych.
I completely agree finally someone said it .
I came from a bad home, never really knew my dad , etc. I never behaved this way with my mother or anyone . Kids that hit, screech, hurt other people, bully others . They really need to be punished not coddled and let them do whatever they want all the time with no real punishment.
@@superdupersnowflake Right! I’m not saying that it’s right to abuse children AT ALL, but some children are so out of control that a good spanking or other very stern punishment is the only thing that’ll stop that behavior. If you don’t properly punish out of control kids, they become out of control adults. Obviously positive reinforcement should be used before any punishment should, but out of control children often don’t respond to positive reinforcement attempts!
I love the armchair professionals in the comments who think they know what these kids need.
Instead of changing the world, we observe its devastating effects and treat the symptoms, not the cause.
I hope that school manages to find a way to teach music to these kids.
It may be able to save them.
I never had any trouble reading, but I couldn’t read music until I was 27 and I remember how it crippled me.
I learned because I had a voice teacher who told me: you better be really stupid on the page than sound stupid when you read the music. She taught me some basic marks and gave me the legitimacy to put them on my page when no one else was marking theirs. I also learned that reading music is much easier once I memorized the melody, which then helped my brain relax a little when I’d get an unknown piece of music.
Also, reading in group and making mistakes together.
Bottom line is, good teachers, your own pace and music can help save an angry child. ❤️
Not that I’d know, because I’m awful with kids, but it’s how I learned.
I want to spread awareness about mental illness and bullying and autism no one deserves to be bullied just because they do it but it still happens and people get very angry because of it people can be very rude online now and often name call others so sad I don’t know how many adults and kids bully now in schools but happens very often even though we try and stop it it still hasn’t worked
I was extremely violent from ages 3-8. Unknown to my family at the time I am autistic. I had (and still have) issues understanding my emotions and regulating them. This plus sensory issues led to me lashing out through violence. I was never intentionally hurting others but I would throw things, scream, destroy things, and be over all very hostile. I was put in cbt therapy, which didn’t work and was moved to occupational therapy. We found that when I would lash out I needed pressure to regulate and get myself under control, now I rarely lash out (only at my parents).
I've been so concerned about the kid with his face taped in the into of all these videos, it's so funny to see he put it there himself and is just fine!
These children when they look back to this time in their lives, will realise just how lucky they are. Resources like this do not occur very often and these teachers are beyond wonderful.
I'm pretty sure these poor kids will grow up with serious trust issues as the parents/guardians & school that were supposed to help them with their problems just let a camera crew follow them around while they were having episodes & there "saintly" adopted parents told the whole world horrific personal stories about their mental health issues so that for the rest of their lives they'll be known as the "psycho" kids by their communities. there's nothing lucky about being exploited during you're childhood so that the adults in your life can get some clout. gross videos like these outta be banned.😠