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Awesome conversation Kings! Can you please include the names of everyone in the conversation in the description. The info will be helpful for you & your guests invites for future requests for speaking engagements.
@@carlalewis561 Thank you so much for the kind words and for sharing such a thoughtful suggestion. That’s a great idea, and we’ll definitely look into adding the names in the description to make it more helpful for future connections. I truly appreciate you taking the time to not only support but also offer ways to help us grow. Blessings to you! 🙏🏽✨
@@wendi_nicole That’s such a solid perspective. Commitment to marriage as a covenant rather than just a romantic notion aligns with God’s design. Ecclesiastes 4:12 says a cord of three strands is not easily broken…when God is at the center, marriage becomes a strong, enduring entity beyond feelings or seasons. Powerful insight.
@ absolutely! That verse kept me submitted and honoring in my former marriage. Even when my ex broke the vows I was committed to God and stayed until he gave me permission to leave
This is the 1st conversation by men of Christ on YT, I've ever heard discuss this topic from scripture! You three Kings👑👑👑...Glory to God🙏🏽🎁🙌🏽 Dating is a secular action. I've never heard any1 share my sentiment about dating. "Dating is for the birds". The Holy spirit reveals His childtens' mates. Period..but how many trust GOD'S process & order. Most children are not even at this level of trust & the world has NO CLUE.🙏🏽
Thank you so much for your thoughtful and powerful comment! Your perspective on trusting God’s process and order is so vital, especially in a world that often strays from divine principles. Your words reflect the importance of leaning on the Holy Spirit for guidance, even in relationships, and it’s a blessing to hear how this conversation resonated with you. Please continue to share this dialogue with others so that more people can encounter Christ’s truth and experience restoration in their lives. Men need this kind of leadership, and we’re grateful to play a part in pointing them to God’s design for relationships and purpose.
These are the conversations needed in the black community. Its so bad on both sides and this is what we need to progress and improve as a community. Good job fellas!
Grace and peace to you brothers. I must say as a God-fearing woman who has been studying the Scriptures continuously and walking by faith for a decade (All praises to The LORD JESUS CHRIST). I have yet to come across anyone on you tube who has moved me. You brothers were dropping so many gems, so many profound things were said that resonated with my spirit. Sincere genuine people recognize sincere genuine people. I am glad to have come across this channel. I appreciate you all sharing your testimonials. He who has an ear let him hear. I hope you all have an exquisite day in the LORD. Amen Grace and Peace!!! ❤🕊❤
Thank you so much for your kind and heartfelt words. Your encouragement means more than you know, and it’s a blessing to hear that the message resonated with your spirit. The fact that God is using this platform to reach hearts like yours reminds me of the importance of staying obedient to His call. You’re absolutely right. Sincere and genuine people do recognize the same in others, and it’s clear that your faith and dedication to walking with Christ shine brightly. This message isn’t just for one person though. It’s for anyone who’s seeking to align with God’s purpose for their lives. If this conversation stirred something in you, imagine how many others could benefit from hearing it too. I truly believe God is calling us to shift the culture. To show what His kingdom looks like on earth through men who lead, love, and serve with His heart. If you feel led, I’d be honored if you shared this conversation with those in your circle who need to hear it. Together, we can plant seeds of transformation and help others see what God has designed for them. Thank you again for your support and your willingness to engage in this journey with us. Grace and peace to you, and may your day be filled with His love and presence. Let’s keep building for the kingdom.
Everything in life has taught me to be very discerning about who I will choose to have intimacy ( not to be confused with just physical) with. My work life, my romantic relationships, my friendships all have been great lessons and now I’m very reserved in my choosing.
Man, that’s some real wisdom right there. Life will teach you who’s worth letting into your space and who’s not, and when you’ve been through enough, you start moving differently. It’s not about shutting people out, but making sure the people you let in are the ones who really value being there.
You bring up a great point about intentional dating. Being purposeful in relationships can save time and emotional energy, ensuring that efforts are aligned with shared values and goals. While dating can sometimes feel like it doesn’t lead anywhere, approaching it with clarity and intention can help create meaningful connections and outcomes. Thank you for sharing this perspective!
I definitely think we have to care more about the impact we’re making on society. Running through a medley of people. Men having a string of children with different women can’t be what is good .
Thank you men of God for this great conversation. One of my favorite parts of this conversation was the encouragement that God will use your bad experience for you to live a fulfilled life.' This is a word. The experience of hurt & pain is part of the process that results in joy. It is important for us to pray, praise, & press on in faith throughout the process. It's all working out for our good. 🙌
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Nah this was good and the right mindset for a men to be trying to date.Especially if they meet someone trying to build that friendship first and genuine.
This was a great discussion with insight and wisdom. I enjoy listening to you all. Thank you for pouring into us and directing us back to our Father, Son & Holy Spirit 🙌🏽🙌🏽
We greatly appreciate you … it’s a blessing when you come across something that hits you right where you are and helps you move forward. I hope it keeps giving you what you need to grow and push through.
Thank you so much! Your encouragement means a lot. I’m grateful to be able to share and connect with thoughtful people like you. Sending love and appreciation your way! 💬✨
You’re right… commitment to real growth takes work and a whole lot of honesty. It’s easy to point fingers, but the hardest thing is looking in the mirror and deciding to show up every day to be better. What do you think keeps people from taking that step to commit fully?
I appreciate this panel genuine conversation. Yes 2 whole people are powerful. 2 broken people thats not heal will only bring chaos amongs each other. For example unequally yolk.
Thank you for your kind and insightful comment! You’re absolutely right-when two whole, healed people come together, they create something powerful, but without healing, chaos often takes root. It’s conversations like these that spark the healing process and encourage us to grow in Christ. Please share this with others, as it’s through genuine discussions like this that we can glorify the Kingdom and bring restoration to broken places. Men need these truths now more than ever, and we’re so grateful for your encouragement!
19:55 I would say anything you try to sustain on your own will get heavy over time or even at the drop of a dime. Being able to go to God so he can carry it is a game changer. Being able to sleep peacefully while the storm is raging is something that you don’t have when you don’t include God🙏🏾💜
This is such a beautiful and powerful reminder. It’s true… when we try to carry life’s burdens on our own, they become overwhelming because we were never meant to carry them alone. God’s design is for us to lean on Him, to surrender what’s too heavy, and to experience the peace that surpasses all understanding, even in the midst of the storm. The ability to rest in God’s presence while the chaos surrounds us is a gift only He can provide. It’s a reflection of His sovereignty… His love… and His promise to never leave us or forsake us. Trusting Him to carry what we cannot doesn’t just change the game… it transforms our entire lives. What’s one area in your life where you’ve seen God show up and lighten the load? Let’s keep encouraging each other with those testimonies. 🙏🏽💜
All these definitions is just about giving labels to fornicating…. It’s not dating, it’s not talking too, it’s not friends with benefits, it’s not side chick or dude; it’s fornicating if you aren’t married. And it’s adulterous if you are married and the person you are giving these labels to is not your spouse…. The problem is we are doing too much making up things when we have the greatest book ever written that gives us all we need…. Even dating with $ex before marriage is NOT God’s design. When you fornicate before marriage; your wedding is your first attempt at monogamy and/or attempt to heal yourself from the sin of fornicating. 🙁❤️🙏
Your perspective highlights a deep truth about the spiritual weight of our decisions, particularly in relationships. While labels like dating or talking may aim to organize our human experiences, God’s Word cuts through all these constructs to call us into holiness, purity, and covenant love. It’s less about the label we use and more about whether our actions align with the eternal design of God for intimacy and relationship. As 1 Thessalonians 4:3-5 says, “It is God’s will that you should be sanctified: that you should avoid sexual immorality; that each of you should learn to control your own body in a way that is holy and honorable, not in passionate lust like the pagans, who do not know God.” Addressing sin is important, but we must also lean on God’s grace-grace that redeems, restores, and transforms us when we fall short. The gospel doesn’t stop at calling out sin; it meets us where we are and lifts us into a new identity in Christ (2 Corinthians 5:17). For many, the journey to live out God’s design is not instant but a process of growth, accountability, and surrender, as described in Philippians 1:6: “He who began a good work in you will carry it on to completion until the day of Christ Jesus.” The invitation is not just to avoid fornication or adultery but to pursue God’s heart for relationships-to honor Him with our bodies, minds, and spirits in every step of the journey. 1 Corinthians 6:19-20 reminds us, “Do you not know that your bodies are temples of the Holy Spirit, who is in you, whom you have received from God? You are not your own; you were bought at a price. Therefore, honor God with your bodies.” Labels lose their power when our pursuit is righteousness over culture and truth over convenience. Let’s continue encouraging one another in love and truth, always pointing each other back to the One who authored the blueprint for love and intimacy, knowing that “all Scripture is God-breathed and is useful for teaching, rebuking, correcting and training in righteousness” (2 Timothy 3:16).
@ ❤️🙏🏽. Most people abuse grace because they believe grace is weakness…. Therefore, instead of taking grace for what it is and changing they push the envelope. God does not give none of us what we deserve but one thing about it; saved or not; we can not go back and dig all the roots from a fully grown tree from seeds we implanted throughout our life. There are consequences behind our actions…. And believe it or not; people need to play attention to others lives who abused that grace. Repent NOW sand give up what is yours to receive what it’s his…. All this labeling is just spouse swooping and spreading demonic $exual spirits and chronic STDs. I advise anyone who is still In this yo submit to God NOW before that be your reality. As much as we like to sugarcoat or life after redemption we must admit there are and always will be consequences of our previous actions. There’s a burden of our sin and that is a reality…. God grace doesn’t exclude all of our consequences but gives us the strength to ensure it. What these people need to pay attention to is accept the grace God has given them and take their loses NOW and repent; otherwise there will be more to come and what’s to come might not be so easy to deal with as a lifetime consequence…. John 3:16 doesn’t work without Romans 12:2. 🙁❤️🙏
Exactly. It's all fornicating but they won't talk about that. They will always make excuses like "God gives us grace" or "no one is perfect." This makes them look like a joke.
I refuse to date or engage in sex, maybe ever. This is coming from a pure place. One of peace and resolution. My worldy desires are very few. I'm considering a convent. Isaiah 54:5-6 For your Maker is your husband, The LORD of hosts is His name;
@@thefreequency This is such a beautiful and powerful declaration of peace and purpose. Your heart for God and your willingness to align with His will is inspiring. Isaiah 54:5-6 is a comforting reminder of His unfailing love and faithfulness. Praying that you continue to find joy, strength, and fulfillment in this journey with your Maker as your guide and your source. Stay encouraged in the path He has called you to walk.
@ I appreciate that. Wishing this level of clarity for all my siblings in Christ. The acceptance is very difficult but there's only so much resistance He will allow
Glad you enjoyed it…I hope it blessed you too. Please share it with as many people as you can. We want people to know that Christ-like…Kingdom-minded men are still out here. Our goal is to grow this movement and make it a normal part of today’s culture and beyond. Let’s keep pushing forward.
Let’s marry because the person has your back, is warm and comforting, is astute enough to do life’s requirements and responsibilities, brings a vibe/positive energy, will be a partner in keeping life together.
I deeply resonate with the sentiment being expressed. It’s a call to accountability and to building a society rooted in love, responsibility, and intentionality. The way we live and the choices we make as individuals have ripple effects on the lives around us, especially the lives of children who depend on stability, love, and guidance to flourish. Marriage and partnerships should indeed be more than surface-level attractions or fleeting moments of convenience. A true union is about building something lasting, a foundation of trust, care, and shared purpose. It’s about creating a space where both people can thrive, where warmth, comfort, and partnership come together to navigate life’s challenges and joys. When relationships are approached with this mindset, they honor the people involved and contribute to a legacy of love and strength that communities desperately need. Choosing thoughtfully, loving deeply, and leading lives that leave a positive impact are essential for shaping a better world for future generations.
I will! God is our strength. And as long as we have faith and believe we will be good. Romans 10:9 says, "If you confess with your mouth that Jesus is Lord and believe in your heart that God raised him from the dead, you will be saved".
Thank you so much for your support and kind words! It’s incredibly encouraging to know that you enjoyed this conversation. These moments of truth and authenticity are all about glorifying Christ and advancing the Kingdom. Please share this with others-your support in spreading this message helps bring restoration and truth to those who need it. Men everywhere need these conversations, and together, we can make an impact for His glory. Thank you again for engaging with us!
Also to add on to you brothers point about (attraction to your spouse) Proverbs 31:30 Amp version. Charm and grace are deceptive, and {superficial} beauty is vain, But a woman who fears the LORD {reverently worshiping, obeying, serving, and trusting Him with awe-filled respect}, She shall be praised. 1peter 3;3-4(Amp) The Lord tells Women not to solely focus on the outer beauty of fixing up the hair and wearing fancy clothes and jewelry, which it's nothing wrong with a woman getting dressed up in being beautiful. Thats not what the LORD says beauty is, verse 4 says "but let it be the inner beauty. the hidden person of the heart (Christ is the inner person within her). with the imperishable quality and unfading charm of a gentle and peaceful spirit. One that is calm and self-controlled, not overanxious, but serene and spiritually mature. Which is very precious in the sight of God."
@@JesusisKing144-12 What you’ve shared is so powerful and aligns beautifully with the heart of God. It’s a reminder that while external beauty has its place, what truly matters is the beauty of a spirit rooted in Christ. Proverbs 31:30 and 1 Peter 3:3-4 point us to the value of a woman who reveres the Lord. Her inner beauty and spiritual maturity radiate in a way that cannot be diminished by time or circumstance. That being said, it’s also important to acknowledge that God created us as whole beings with desires, preferences, and the ability to be drawn to beauty. There’s nothing wrong with appreciating or being attracted to someone outwardly. As long as it’s balanced with a deeper desire for the qualities that reflect Christ within them. Think of it this way. God gave Adam Eve, not just as a helper but as someone uniquely crafted to be pleasing to him in every sense, including physically. Genesis 2:23 shows Adam’s delight in recognizing Eve as “bone of my bones and flesh of my flesh.” It’s a beautiful picture of how God cares about the things that bring us joy when they align with His purpose. What’s key here is alignment. When our attraction, both outward and inward, points back to God’s design and reflects His values, it becomes something holy and pleasing to Him. Beauty, in its proper place, isn’t vanity. It’s a reflection of God’s own creativity and glory. And when we recognize that the foundation of attraction must first be spiritual, rooted in reverence for the Lord, it elevates everything else. Our preferences and desires become purified, not driven by the world’s standards but by God’s heart. So yes, it’s okay to appreciate outward beauty. God gave us eyes to see and hearts to feel. But let’s always prioritize the incorruptible beauty of a gentle, peaceful, and spiritually mature spirit. That’s the kind of beauty that not only pleases God but also sustains and deepens relationships over time. Thank you for adding this to the conversation. It challenges us to remember that what we see is only a glimpse of what truly matters. The heart aligned with Christ. Let’s continue to build on this kingdom perspective, bringing a culture that celebrates beauty in all the ways God intended, both inside and out.
Dating= something casual. Whether it’s with one or multiples. This is a time that some are actually “collecting data” to rule many out to chose that one; or some are playing musical beds and being promiscuous. However I’m single and dating to me is taking applications without sex.
I hear your perspective, and it’s refreshing to see someone value intentionality in a world where dating can often feel so chaotic. Your approach of ‘taking applications without sex’ shows a lot of self-respect and wisdom. Proverbs 4:23 reminds us to ‘guard your heart, for everything you do flows from it.’ By choosing to honor yourself and others in the process, you’re building a foundation that aligns with God’s design for relationships… one that’s about connection, not confusion. Keep standing firm in your convictions…your clarity and integrity will draw the right kind of person into your life.
Good conversation 👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾Only thing he is wrong about the purpose for arranged marriages. Cultural beliefs and maintaining hierarchy are reasons for arranged marriages there is also a dark side of it that needs to be discussed.
Thank you so much for sharing your thoughts and engaging in this conversation with such insight and care. I truly appreciate your perspective and the points you’ve raised about cultural beliefs, hierarchy, and the nuanced complexities of arranged marriages. It’s always a blessing to engage in meaningful discussions like this…especially when they highlight areas that deserve more exploration. You’re absolutely right…arranged marriages have historically served purposes beyond just uniting two individuals. In many cultures, they’ve been instrumental in preserving family legacies, upholding societal structures, and even fostering alliances that maintain peace or stability. These arrangements, when done with mutual respect and consent, can be beautiful reflections of commitment and partnership. At the same time, as you pointed out, there’s a darker side that cannot be overlooked…cases where these arrangements become tools for control, exploitation, or the suppression of individual choice. This is where love, wisdom, and compassion must prevail to ensure that such traditions align with God’s design for marriage…a covenant built on love, respect, and mutual submission as described in Ephesians 5:21-33. It’s important to acknowledge both the positive intentions and the potential challenges of these practices. Thank you for encouraging this kind of dialogue and for shedding light on the broader aspects of this topic. Conversations like these help us grow in understanding, and I’m grateful for the opportunity to explore this with you. Sending love and blessings your way.
Brother said, "If His word doesn’t change...we[Men] are still the finders." Bwoy, you betta preach now! Men: Proverbs18:22 He who finds a wife finds a treasure, and he receives favor from the Lord. Women: Proverbs 19:14 Only the Lord can give an understanding wife. Pray to be an understanding, congenial,prudent, wise wife/future wife. #noproposingtomen
@GraceSpeaks1515 This hits so deep and reflects so much truth. God’s design for relationships doesn’t change, and I love how it points to purpose and alignment. Proverbs 18:22 reminds us that a man isn’t just finding a wife…he’s stepping into a blessing, a favor that comes straight from God when he’s intentional and aligned with Him. And Proverbs 19:14 is such a powerful word for women… it’s about becoming, not just waiting. Praying for understanding, wisdom, and the grace to be who God has called you to be isn’t just preparation for marriage…it’s preparation for purpose. Only God can mold someone into that kind of gift. This reminds me that relationships aren’t just about the people involved but about honoring God through the roles He’s called us to.
Thank you for sharing your perspective. I appreciate the honesty and depth in your comment. It’s important to have conversations like these that challenge assumptions and foster understanding. Sending love and gratitude for your voice in this space! 💛🙏
I'm not sure that we must go through heartbreak and divorce to understand how to be in love and truly enjoy a successful marriage .. At least that's what I believe. I proclaim that in the name of Jesus! (sorry if I have misinterpreted something)
Thank you for sharing your heart. I completely understand your perspective, and I love the faith you’re standing on in the name of Jesus. Heartbreak and divorce are not what God desires for us, but even in those moments, He has a way of using our pain for growth and His purpose. It’s beautiful to see your conviction in God’s plan for love and marriage. Blessings to you, and I’m so grateful for your thoughtful comment. 🙏🏽
The leading of prayer was awesome and sweet. Having listened to this conversation I can’t help but feel so hopeful that God still has some God fearing spirit lead men. I was mishandled by a man who I held up for over three years for him to leave me for his bm. It bothered me hearing him say Amen when praying about our relationship so this conversation blessed me.
Thank you for sharing your heart so openly… it takes courage to be vulnerable, especially about something that hurt deeply. First, I want to affirm that your hope in God-fearing, Spirit-led men isn’t misplaced…there are men striving to lead with the love of Christ, and your faith will help you recognize them when they appear. Romans 8:28 says, ‘And we know that in all things God works for the good of those who love him, who have been called according to his purpose.’ Even in the pain of being mishandled, God is working to heal you and prepare you for someone who will honor the blessing of who you are. It’s also okay to grieve and release what wasn’t for you… it’s part of the healing process. Remember, God isn’t just restoring you, He’s refining you for His greater plans. Stay hopeful and encouraged…what’s ahead is far better than what’s behind.
Thank you for sharing this perspective… it’s a great point and a much-needed reminder. Words matter, and the way we address each other reflects the respect and honor we should embody as adults and as representatives of Christ. I truly appreciate the call to elevate the conversation and ensure that the language we use aligns with the dignity of who we’re speaking about. Thank you again for holding us accountable in love… it’s how we grow and represent the Kingdom better.
Great catch! That was definitely a typo. The download link does have the correct title: Becoming The Husband God Designed. Thanks again for pointing that out. We’ll make sure to be more locked in with the execution and efficiency of our content and presentation. 🙏🏽
Thank you for sharing your perspective. I understand that these kinds of conversations may not resonate with everyone. I believe there’s immense value in addressing topics that challenge us to grow and reflect. Sometimes, the most important messages aren’t the most popular. They’re the ones that plant seeds for transformation in ways we may not see immediately. My hope is to reach those who are ready to listen and inspire those who may not even know they need it yet. Every great movement starts with a few willing hearts, and that’s enough to make an impact. Blessings to you, and thank you for engaging.
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Awesome conversation Kings! Can you please include the names of everyone in the conversation in the description. The info will be helpful for you & your guests invites for future requests for speaking engagements.
@@carlalewis561 Thank you so much for the kind words and for sharing such a thoughtful suggestion. That’s a great idea, and we’ll definitely look into adding the names in the description to make it more helpful for future connections. I truly appreciate you taking the time to not only support but also offer ways to help us grow. Blessings to you! 🙏🏽✨
Another reason arranged marriages work is because they’re committed to marriage as an entity and not a romantic notion.
@@wendi_nicole That’s such a solid perspective. Commitment to marriage as a covenant rather than just a romantic notion aligns with God’s design. Ecclesiastes 4:12 says a cord of three strands is not easily broken…when God is at the center, marriage becomes a strong, enduring entity beyond feelings or seasons. Powerful insight.
Sounds like slavery 🤦🏾♂️
@ absolutely! That verse kept me submitted and honoring in my former marriage. Even when my ex broke the vows I was committed to God and stayed until he gave me permission to leave
@ 🤯🤯🤯that’s powerful 🙏🏽
My mouth dropped when the host went into prayer. It stayed open for several minutes after that 😂 bravo gentleman!
Thank you for tuning in!! 😊😊😊
Same here...Never watched any one "in Christ" on YT start with prayer.😮🙄..amazing. Glory to God🙏🏽
Consider stepping outside the race ladies
This is the 1st conversation by men of Christ on YT, I've ever heard discuss this topic from scripture! You three Kings👑👑👑...Glory to God🙏🏽🎁🙌🏽
Dating is a secular action. I've never heard any1 share my sentiment about dating. "Dating is for the birds". The Holy spirit reveals His childtens' mates. Period..but how many trust GOD'S process & order. Most children are not even at this level of trust & the world has NO CLUE.🙏🏽
Thank you so much for your thoughtful and powerful comment! Your perspective on trusting God’s process and order is so vital, especially in a world that often strays from divine principles. Your words reflect the importance of leaning on the Holy Spirit for guidance, even in relationships, and it’s a blessing to hear how this conversation resonated with you. Please continue to share this dialogue with others so that more people can encounter Christ’s truth and experience restoration in their lives. Men need this kind of leadership, and we’re grateful to play a part in pointing them to God’s design for relationships and purpose.
These are the conversations needed in the black community. Its so bad on both sides and this is what we need to progress and improve as a community. Good job fellas!
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Grace and peace to you brothers. I must say as a God-fearing woman who has been studying the Scriptures continuously and walking by faith for a decade (All praises to The LORD JESUS CHRIST). I have yet to come across anyone on you tube who has moved me. You brothers were dropping so many gems, so many profound things were said that resonated with my spirit. Sincere genuine people recognize sincere genuine people. I am glad to have come across this channel. I appreciate you all sharing your testimonials. He who has an ear let him hear. I hope you all have an exquisite day in the LORD. Amen Grace and Peace!!! ❤🕊❤
Thank you so much for your kind and heartfelt words. Your encouragement means more than you know, and it’s a blessing to hear that the message resonated with your spirit. The fact that God is using this platform to reach hearts like yours reminds me of the importance of staying obedient to His call.
You’re absolutely right. Sincere and genuine people do recognize the same in others, and it’s clear that your faith and dedication to walking with Christ shine brightly. This message isn’t just for one person though. It’s for anyone who’s seeking to align with God’s purpose for their lives. If this conversation stirred something in you, imagine how many others could benefit from hearing it too.
I truly believe God is calling us to shift the culture. To show what His kingdom looks like on earth through men who lead, love, and serve with His heart. If you feel led, I’d be honored if you shared this conversation with those in your circle who need to hear it. Together, we can plant seeds of transformation and help others see what God has designed for them.
Thank you again for your support and your willingness to engage in this journey with us. Grace and peace to you, and may your day be filled with His love and presence. Let’s keep building for the kingdom.
The timing of this was perfect for me. Great message
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Everything in life has taught me to be very discerning about who I will choose to have intimacy ( not to be confused with just physical) with. My work life, my romantic relationships, my friendships all have been great lessons and now I’m very reserved in my choosing.
Man, that’s some real wisdom right there. Life will teach you who’s worth letting into your space and who’s not, and when you’ve been through enough, you start moving differently. It’s not about shutting people out, but making sure the people you let in are the ones who really value being there.
This is why some people now do Intentional dating, not to waste time. Alot 'of dating dosent go anywhere unfortunately..
You bring up a great point about intentional dating. Being purposeful in relationships can save time and emotional energy, ensuring that efforts are aligned with shared values and goals. While dating can sometimes feel like it doesn’t lead anywhere, approaching it with clarity and intention can help create meaningful connections and outcomes. Thank you for sharing this perspective!
I definitely think we have to care more about the impact we’re making on society. Running through a medley of people. Men having a string of children with different women can’t be what is good .
Thank you men of God for this great conversation. One of my favorite parts of this conversation was the encouragement that God will use your bad experience for you to live a fulfilled life.' This is a word.
The experience of hurt & pain is part of the process that results in joy. It is important for us to pray, praise, & press on in faith throughout the process. It's all working out for our good. 🙌
@@carlalewis561 Thank you for taking the time to invest in the conversation and share your feedback. Please keep us covered in prayer and share this message with others. We truly appreciate you.
Fellas the conversation was so good. I really enjoyed it! 🙏🏽👏🏽
@@lauradanielle1343 Thank you for taking the time to watch. It means alot.
Nah this was good and the right mindset for a men to be trying to date.Especially if they meet someone trying to build that friendship first and genuine.
I listened to this with my son and nephew. Productive conversation
@@amaxwellnelson Thank you so much for sharing the experience with your young men….as well as supporting this Kingdom movement. God Bless!
This was a great discussion with insight and wisdom. I enjoy listening to you all. Thank you for pouring into us and directing us back to our Father, Son & Holy Spirit 🙌🏽🙌🏽
@@marciapagan9635 Thank you for taking the time to watch, support, & encourage us.
the issues is people have simply forgot how to be FRIENDS. love means nothing if you cant even be friends with the person
Say it for the people in the Back!!! 🙏🏽🤞🏾‼️
Glad I found this podcast.
We greatly appreciate you … it’s a blessing when you come across something that hits you right where you are and helps you move forward. I hope it keeps giving you what you need to grow and push through.
That was amazing!!!
Thank you so much! Your encouragement means a lot. I’m grateful to be able to share and connect with thoughtful people like you. Sending love and appreciation your way! 💬✨
Amen the breath that is in our body comes from God Amen absolutely true. I think people choose to ignore God.
@@gracelong3975 great point made
It’s people who really don’t truly commit to fixing themselves.
You’re right… commitment to real growth takes work and a whole lot of honesty. It’s easy to point fingers, but the hardest thing is looking in the mirror and deciding to show up every day to be better. What do you think keeps people from taking that step to commit fully?
I appreciate this panel genuine conversation. Yes 2 whole people are powerful. 2 broken people thats not heal will only bring chaos amongs each other. For example unequally yolk.
Thank you for your kind and insightful comment! You’re absolutely right-when two whole, healed people come together, they create something powerful, but without healing, chaos often takes root. It’s conversations like these that spark the healing process and encourage us to grow in Christ. Please share this with others, as it’s through genuine discussions like this that we can glorify the Kingdom and bring restoration to broken places. Men need these truths now more than ever, and we’re so grateful for your encouragement!
19:55 I would say anything you try to sustain on your own will get heavy over time or even at the drop of a dime. Being able to go to God so he can carry it is a game changer. Being able to sleep peacefully while the storm is raging is something that you don’t have when you don’t include God🙏🏾💜
This is such a beautiful and powerful reminder. It’s true… when we try to carry life’s burdens on our own, they become overwhelming because we were never meant to carry them alone. God’s design is for us to lean on Him, to surrender what’s too heavy, and to experience the peace that surpasses all understanding, even in the midst of the storm.
The ability to rest in God’s presence while the chaos surrounds us is a gift only He can provide. It’s a reflection of His sovereignty… His love… and His promise to never leave us or forsake us. Trusting Him to carry what we cannot doesn’t just change the game… it transforms our entire lives.
What’s one area in your life where you’ve seen God show up and lighten the load? Let’s keep encouraging each other with those testimonies. 🙏🏽💜
Great conversation - thank you!
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All these definitions is just about giving labels to fornicating…. It’s not dating, it’s not talking too, it’s not friends with benefits, it’s not side chick or dude; it’s fornicating if you aren’t married. And it’s adulterous if you are married and the person you are giving these labels to is not your spouse…. The problem is we are doing too much making up things when we have the greatest book ever written that gives us all we need…. Even dating with $ex before marriage is NOT God’s design. When you fornicate before marriage; your wedding is your first attempt at monogamy and/or attempt to heal yourself from the sin of fornicating. 🙁❤️🙏
Your perspective highlights a deep truth about the spiritual weight of our decisions, particularly in relationships. While labels like dating or talking may aim to organize our human experiences, God’s Word cuts through all these constructs to call us into holiness, purity, and covenant love. It’s less about the label we use and more about whether our actions align with the eternal design of God for intimacy and relationship. As 1 Thessalonians 4:3-5 says, “It is God’s will that you should be sanctified: that you should avoid sexual immorality; that each of you should learn to control your own body in a way that is holy and honorable, not in passionate lust like the pagans, who do not know God.”
Addressing sin is important, but we must also lean on God’s grace-grace that redeems, restores, and transforms us when we fall short. The gospel doesn’t stop at calling out sin; it meets us where we are and lifts us into a new identity in Christ (2 Corinthians 5:17). For many, the journey to live out God’s design is not instant but a process of growth, accountability, and surrender, as described in Philippians 1:6: “He who began a good work in you will carry it on to completion until the day of Christ Jesus.”
The invitation is not just to avoid fornication or adultery but to pursue God’s heart for relationships-to honor Him with our bodies, minds, and spirits in every step of the journey. 1 Corinthians 6:19-20 reminds us, “Do you not know that your bodies are temples of the Holy Spirit, who is in you, whom you have received from God? You are not your own; you were bought at a price. Therefore, honor God with your bodies.” Labels lose their power when our pursuit is righteousness over culture and truth over convenience. Let’s continue encouraging one another in love and truth, always pointing each other back to the One who authored the blueprint for love and intimacy, knowing that “all Scripture is God-breathed and is useful for teaching, rebuking, correcting and training in righteousness” (2 Timothy 3:16).
@ ❤️🙏🏽. Most people abuse grace because they believe grace is weakness…. Therefore, instead of taking grace for what it is and changing they push the envelope. God does not give none of us what we deserve but one thing about it; saved or not; we can not go back and dig all
the roots from a fully grown tree from seeds we implanted throughout our life. There are consequences behind our actions…. And believe it or not; people need to play attention to others lives who abused that grace. Repent NOW sand give up what is yours to receive what it’s his…. All this labeling is just spouse swooping and spreading demonic $exual spirits and chronic STDs. I advise anyone who is still
In this yo submit to God NOW before that be your reality. As much as we like to sugarcoat or life after redemption we must admit there are and always will be consequences of our previous actions. There’s a burden of our sin and that is a reality…. God grace doesn’t exclude all of our consequences but gives us the strength to ensure it. What these people need to pay attention to is accept the grace God has given them and take their loses NOW and repent; otherwise there will be more to come and what’s to come might not be so easy to deal with as a lifetime consequence…. John 3:16 doesn’t work without Romans 12:2. 🙁❤️🙏
Exactly. It's all fornicating but they won't talk about that. They will always make excuses like "God gives us grace" or "no one is perfect." This makes them look like a joke.
I refuse to date or engage in sex, maybe ever. This is coming from a pure place. One of peace and resolution. My worldy desires are very few. I'm considering a convent.
Isaiah 54:5-6
For your Maker is your husband,
The LORD of hosts is His name;
@@thefreequency This is such a beautiful and powerful declaration of peace and purpose. Your heart for God and your willingness to align with His will is inspiring. Isaiah 54:5-6 is a comforting reminder of His unfailing love and faithfulness. Praying that you continue to find joy, strength, and fulfillment in this journey with your Maker as your guide and your source. Stay encouraged in the path He has called you to walk.
@ I appreciate that. Wishing this level of clarity for all my siblings in Christ. The acceptance is very difficult but there's only so much resistance He will allow
Great conversation Gentleman… thank you .
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This was really good!
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I am happy they are quitting
😊 😉
Let’s marry because the person has your back, is warm and comforting, is astute enough to do life’s requirements and responsibilities, brings a vibe/positive energy, will be a partner in keeping life together.
I deeply resonate with the sentiment being expressed. It’s a call to accountability and to building a society rooted in love, responsibility, and intentionality. The way we live and the choices we make as individuals have ripple effects on the lives around us, especially the lives of children who depend on stability, love, and guidance to flourish.
Marriage and partnerships should indeed be more than surface-level attractions or fleeting moments of convenience. A true union is about building something lasting, a foundation of trust, care, and shared purpose. It’s about creating a space where both people can thrive, where warmth, comfort, and partnership come together to navigate life’s challenges and joys.
When relationships are approached with this mindset, they honor the people involved and contribute to a legacy of love and strength that communities desperately need. Choosing thoughtfully, loving deeply, and leading lives that leave a positive impact are essential for shaping a better world for future generations.
Much needed conversation
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Absolutely love this conversation
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I will! God is our strength. And as long as we have faith and believe we will be good. Romans 10:9 says, "If you confess with your mouth that Jesus is Lord and believe in your heart that God raised him from the dead, you will be saved".
Enjoyed this! ❤❤❤
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Also to add on to you brothers point about (attraction to your spouse) Proverbs 31:30 Amp version. Charm and grace are deceptive, and {superficial} beauty is vain, But a woman who fears the LORD {reverently worshiping, obeying, serving, and trusting Him with awe-filled respect}, She shall be praised.
1peter 3;3-4(Amp) The Lord tells Women not to solely focus on the outer beauty of fixing up the hair and wearing fancy clothes and jewelry, which it's nothing wrong with a woman getting dressed up in being beautiful. Thats not what the LORD says beauty is, verse 4 says "but let it be the inner beauty. the hidden person of the heart (Christ is the inner person within her). with the imperishable quality and unfading charm of a gentle and peaceful spirit. One that is calm and self-controlled, not overanxious, but serene and spiritually mature. Which is very precious in the sight of God."
@@JesusisKing144-12 What you’ve shared is so powerful and aligns beautifully with the heart of God. It’s a reminder that while external beauty has its place, what truly matters is the beauty of a spirit rooted in Christ. Proverbs 31:30 and 1 Peter 3:3-4 point us to the value of a woman who reveres the Lord. Her inner beauty and spiritual maturity radiate in a way that cannot be diminished by time or circumstance.
That being said, it’s also important to acknowledge that God created us as whole beings with desires, preferences, and the ability to be drawn to beauty. There’s nothing wrong with appreciating or being attracted to someone outwardly. As long as it’s balanced with a deeper desire for the qualities that reflect Christ within them. Think of it this way. God gave Adam Eve, not just as a helper but as someone uniquely crafted to be pleasing to him in every sense, including physically. Genesis 2:23 shows Adam’s delight in recognizing Eve as “bone of my bones and flesh of my flesh.” It’s a beautiful picture of how God cares about the things that bring us joy when they align with His purpose.
What’s key here is alignment. When our attraction, both outward and inward, points back to God’s design and reflects His values, it becomes something holy and pleasing to Him. Beauty, in its proper place, isn’t vanity. It’s a reflection of God’s own creativity and glory. And when we recognize that the foundation of attraction must first be spiritual, rooted in reverence for the Lord, it elevates everything else. Our preferences and desires become purified, not driven by the world’s standards but by God’s heart.
So yes, it’s okay to appreciate outward beauty. God gave us eyes to see and hearts to feel. But let’s always prioritize the incorruptible beauty of a gentle, peaceful, and spiritually mature spirit. That’s the kind of beauty that not only pleases God but also sustains and deepens relationships over time.
Thank you for adding this to the conversation. It challenges us to remember that what we see is only a glimpse of what truly matters. The heart aligned with Christ. Let’s continue to build on this kingdom perspective, bringing a culture that celebrates beauty in all the ways God intended, both inside and out.
Dating= something casual. Whether it’s with one or multiples. This is a time that some are actually “collecting data” to rule many out to chose that one; or some are playing musical beds and being promiscuous.
However I’m single and dating to me is taking applications without sex.
I hear your perspective, and it’s refreshing to see someone value intentionality in a world where dating can often feel so chaotic. Your approach of ‘taking applications without sex’ shows a lot of self-respect and wisdom. Proverbs 4:23 reminds us to ‘guard your heart, for everything you do flows from it.’ By choosing to honor yourself and others in the process, you’re building a foundation that aligns with God’s design for relationships… one that’s about connection, not confusion. Keep standing firm in your convictions…your clarity and integrity will draw the right kind of person into your life.
Good conversation 👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾Only thing he is wrong about the purpose for arranged marriages. Cultural beliefs and maintaining hierarchy are reasons for arranged marriages there is also a dark side of it that needs to be discussed.
Thank you so much for sharing your thoughts and engaging in this conversation with such insight and care. I truly appreciate your perspective and the points you’ve raised about cultural beliefs, hierarchy, and the nuanced complexities of arranged marriages. It’s always a blessing to engage in meaningful discussions like this…especially when they highlight areas that deserve more exploration.
You’re absolutely right…arranged marriages have historically served purposes beyond just uniting two individuals. In many cultures, they’ve been instrumental in preserving family legacies, upholding societal structures, and even fostering alliances that maintain peace or stability. These arrangements, when done with mutual respect and consent, can be beautiful reflections of commitment and partnership.
At the same time, as you pointed out, there’s a darker side that cannot be overlooked…cases where these arrangements become tools for control, exploitation, or the suppression of individual choice. This is where love, wisdom, and compassion must prevail to ensure that such traditions align with God’s design for marriage…a covenant built on love, respect, and mutual submission as described in Ephesians 5:21-33.
It’s important to acknowledge both the positive intentions and the potential challenges of these practices. Thank you for encouraging this kind of dialogue and for shedding light on the broader aspects of this topic. Conversations like these help us grow in understanding, and I’m grateful for the opportunity to explore this with you. Sending love and blessings your way.
Paradise here on earth “as it is in heaven”. It’s part of the Lord’s Prayer.
Brother said, "If His word doesn’t change...we[Men] are still the finders." Bwoy, you betta preach now!
Men: Proverbs18:22 He who finds a wife finds a treasure, and he receives favor from the Lord.
Women: Proverbs 19:14 Only the Lord can give an understanding wife. Pray to be an understanding, congenial,prudent, wise wife/future wife. #noproposingtomen
@GraceSpeaks1515 This hits so deep and reflects so much truth. God’s design for relationships doesn’t change, and I love how it points to purpose and alignment. Proverbs 18:22 reminds us that a man isn’t just finding a wife…he’s stepping into a blessing, a favor that comes straight from God when he’s intentional and aligned with Him.
And Proverbs 19:14 is such a powerful word for women… it’s about becoming, not just waiting. Praying for understanding, wisdom, and the grace to be who God has called you to be isn’t just preparation for marriage…it’s preparation for purpose. Only God can mold someone into that kind of gift.
This reminds me that relationships aren’t just about the people involved but about honoring God through the roles He’s called us to.
Men are quitting dating women but they still date men that’s what they really mean
Thank you for sharing your perspective. I appreciate the honesty and depth in your comment. It’s important to have conversations like these that challenge assumptions and foster understanding. Sending love and gratitude for your voice in this space! 💛🙏
49:47 I just said this the other day. IT HAD TO HAPPEN.
I'm not sure that we must go through heartbreak and divorce to understand how to be in love and truly enjoy a successful marriage .. At least that's what I believe. I proclaim that in the name of Jesus! (sorry if I have misinterpreted something)
Thank you for sharing your heart. I completely understand your perspective, and I love the faith you’re standing on in the name of Jesus. Heartbreak and divorce are not what God desires for us, but even in those moments, He has a way of using our pain for growth and His purpose. It’s beautiful to see your conviction in God’s plan for love and marriage. Blessings to you, and I’m so grateful for your thoughtful comment. 🙏🏽
We don’t. That idea is flawed. If we follow gods direction we don’t need to have heartbreak or divorce.
This is true. We don't have to go through multiple relationships. That's just some bs that they are saying to justify their wrongdoing.
The leading of prayer was awesome and sweet. Having listened to this conversation I can’t help but feel so hopeful that God still has some God fearing spirit lead men. I was mishandled by a man who I held up for over three years for him to leave me for his bm. It bothered me hearing him say Amen when praying about our relationship so this conversation blessed me.
Thank you for sharing your heart so openly… it takes courage to be vulnerable, especially about something that hurt deeply. First, I want to affirm that your hope in God-fearing, Spirit-led men isn’t misplaced…there are men striving to lead with the love of Christ, and your faith will help you recognize them when they appear. Romans 8:28 says, ‘And we know that in all things God works for the good of those who love him, who have been called according to his purpose.’ Even in the pain of being mishandled, God is working to heal you and prepare you for someone who will honor the blessing of who you are.
It’s also okay to grieve and release what wasn’t for you… it’s part of the healing process. Remember, God isn’t just restoring you, He’s refining you for His greater plans. Stay hopeful and encouraged…what’s ahead is far better than what’s behind.
Yep, cbf, more important things to do
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If You Men... are going to discuss ADULT relationship...STOP SAYING GIRL. Let's go with WOMEN.
Imagine WOMEN referring to you all as BOYS....
Smh
Thank you for sharing this perspective… it’s a great point and a much-needed reminder. Words matter, and the way we address each other reflects the respect and honor we should embody as adults and as representatives of Christ. I truly appreciate the call to elevate the conversation and ensure that the language we use aligns with the dignity of who we’re speaking about. Thank you again for holding us accountable in love… it’s how we grow and represent the Kingdom better.
Does the book title say: becoming the god husband designed? 😂
Great catch! That was definitely a typo. The download link does have the correct title: Becoming The Husband God Designed. Thanks again for pointing that out. We’ll make sure to be more locked in with the execution and efficiency of our content and presentation. 🙏🏽
This podcast and conversation won’t be popular. BM aren’t interested in hearing this type of message
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Great topic and message.
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