My guy did all that. Was progressing, we both are in similar type of tribe, I’ve made clear from the beginning I’m not looking for a fwb, he’s consistent, makes time for me, calls me daily, invests his time into me, is willing to be vulnerable even though he hates talking about feelings, is extremely attracted to me, but wouldn’t commit. He didn’t pull away. I left and he begged me to stay in his life. Said he’d do anything but commit to a relationship. We had so much chemistry, friendship, attraction, and history together. Makes no effing sense and it broke my heart.
Right. It boggles my mind. I don’t understand it. This tells me they’re unable to pair bond with one person and form attachments the way I can I guess. When I’m that into someone and feel that strongly, I want to be in a committed relationship with them. It’s like they’re an entirely different species.
I had that with my best friend, everytime we met up it was sparks and perfect. (An ldr friendship) but he gave me so many reasons why it wouldn't work. Still each time we've met up so far it was spark and intimacy. The last time I couldn't do it anymore. He confused tf out of me and I didn't wanna fall deeper into someone who seems like they don't know what they want. (That or he's just a master manipulator or player) I'm still very hurt and feel very cautious with everyone now 😢
So sorry. That does sound very similar. The pain of that is very difficult to recover from and it is affecting my interactions with other men. Trying to heal. Best wishes for you.
Elliot you are the best dating coach out there for real. I just got out of a 7-months situationship because he aint meeting my emotional needs. I"m so proud of myself and your videos are helping me a lot.
As soon as they get the 'goods' and you 'put out' a couple of times....it's finished!! from personal experience, they completely stop making an effort, basically act you don't even exist. No more attention, dates, compliments, texts...finito!!
im 70 years young. this same thing happened to me with my last 'boyfrinds, They' were all consistant, investing a lot, taking me out a lot. 2 had proposed marriage. so, i naturally thought we were in a forever love relationship. ... until i discovered they all were hitting on other women during the time i was with each one.. so sad, what could i do but walk away. older men seem to be especially into this deceptive behavior
We were behaving like we were in a relationship up until a few months ago since 2019. He was so consistent and planning. There were some times he needed a break. He seemed like he wanted to integrate into my life. Then he started to pull away.
5 stars that makes a guy commits to you : 1. You're very attractive 2. Best option 3. A lot of assets and limited liability 4. You make him a better man. 5. His life is better with you in it.
This guy and myself are friends with benefits because He and I love it like that. I give him space, and he actually follows and it works all the time, because I love ❤ my space 🙌🏽🙌🏽
We're almost at the 8 month mark and he is doing all of these things. I caught him at a time where there are alot of things going on that are preventing the commitment (a few months out of a relationship, starting over financially, etc)
Jeez… when does it ever end? If a man keeps looking for the next best thing because of all these options, how could any woman be ‘good enough’? It’s so discouraging for us women.
Yeah I've noticed there really nice and consistent in the beginning. After a hook up they usually lose interest. That's why I say I want a relationship so they know what I want. And I even say that I want to be respected. Make sure there on the same page as you.
Me & a guy really hit it off. Our first date was a walk in the park. Our second date was at my place and we painted pumpkins, played a dating card game and made smores. One of the dating cards asked how long it takes to get into a relationship and he told me 6 month’s minimum. I dont want to wait 6 months…is he telling me that so I don’t expect anything? We havent had sex & I don’t plan on it soon
Second dates should not be in anyones home. Don't do that again. They shouldn't even know your house number or exact location. It's the 2nd meet up!!! He is a stranger..
We are fwb, we started off seeing eachother all the time. We always fall asleep in eachother’s arms and spend the night, sometimes with morning coffee. We had a huge misunderstanding at 10 months. I went no contact, after a month we’re back to the same. He seems pretty emotionally unavailable as he does not talk about emotions or our relationship
I thought if they won’t commit after 2 months, then they’re not going to… my situationship did all this stuff and I was still advised he’d never commit…I’m confused with the advice
Same here ,,,known each other like 7 years,,,didnt talk for a LONG time, then we started talking/texting again. Breadcrumbing is his speciality, he's a moron,,,,his loss!
I love your videos, but the last part is not true for me. We got all the way to #4 a committed relationship. It was really quick, but we have known each other for years. He wanted the "relationship" much faster than me, but I went with it because I really cared for him. Now, he has broken the relationship with me with No Contact because I text-bombed him. I love him dearly and wanted a life with him, but he ran away at the first sign of conflict and could not communicate. I desperately want to speak with him but have no way other than snail mail. I am convinced he is not a narcissist but more of a man who had been hurt in past relationships and shut me out because we had our first miscommunication, which I might add was really not a big deal, at least to me anyway. If I sent a letter by snail mail, it would look like I am despite or breaking his boundaries. I might add I am heartbroken!!!
you mention the tribe thing in almost all your videos and I think it's irrelevant and superficial. The "tribe" thing literally only exists in the "nerd community". In the long run, liking the same Marvel movies and debating anime is not the formula to a lasting relationship, character of a person is what determines that. I know plenty of couples who are opposite in their interests and have happy marriages. These fleeting things are only pivotal in immature relationships with young people.
You don't even know what tribe is from that comment 🤣 you literally said everything I said a tribe wasn't in my guide. Sit down please or go become a coach yourself since you know what makes things last
We usually spend 5 days out of the week together in between work and we still go out and we act like a couple but he says hes still not ready even though its been going on for 8 months and we've been friends for 13 years
I slipped one time, i dont want to end up in a situationship. I have sexual snd narcissistic abuse behind me . He's in a open relationship I refuse to talk with him, he humiliated me last week wanted me to take in his group. I hate abd love him. He tries to het me in but he'll lose. I never give in I'm Aries imz not begging for love or bread crumbs . He will seek for connection i will deny all this to him and make him suffer like he humiliated me verbally. Such men deal with weak women who cant resist I have enough interested ppl i dont have just him 😂
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My guy did all that. Was progressing, we both are in similar type of tribe, I’ve made clear from the beginning I’m not looking for a fwb, he’s consistent, makes time for me, calls me daily, invests his time into me, is willing to be vulnerable even though he hates talking about feelings, is extremely attracted to me, but wouldn’t commit. He didn’t pull away. I left and he begged me to stay in his life. Said he’d do anything but commit to a relationship. We had so much chemistry, friendship, attraction, and history together. Makes no effing sense and it broke my heart.
Men can literally fall in love with you and cry over you and still rather lose you than commit. Death over commitment.
Right. It boggles my mind. I don’t understand it. This tells me they’re unable to pair bond with one person and form attachments the way I can I guess. When I’m that into someone and feel that strongly, I want to be in a committed relationship with them. It’s like they’re an entirely different species.
Stuff like this is why I stopped wasting time with casual dating. It is frustrating and confusing.
I had that with my best friend, everytime we met up it was sparks and perfect. (An ldr friendship) but he gave me so many reasons why it wouldn't work. Still each time we've met up so far it was spark and intimacy. The last time I couldn't do it anymore. He confused tf out of me and I didn't wanna fall deeper into someone who seems like they don't know what they want.
(That or he's just a master manipulator or player)
I'm still very hurt and feel very cautious with everyone now 😢
So sorry. That does sound very similar. The pain of that is very difficult to recover from and it is affecting my interactions with other men. Trying to heal. Best wishes for you.
Elliot you are the best dating coach out there for real. I just got out of a 7-months situationship because he aint meeting my emotional needs. I"m so proud of myself and your videos are helping me a lot.
As soon as they get the 'goods' and you 'put out' a couple of times....it's finished!! from personal experience, they completely stop making an effort, basically act you don't even exist. No more attention, dates, compliments, texts...finito!!
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Yup
This. That's why so many people tell women to stop putting out so easily. Make them invest. Have high standards.
Guys should be more respectfull.
@@LotusSellers-r5zexactly. It's always women who have to adjust to flawed men
im 70 years young. this same thing happened to me with my last 'boyfrinds, They' were all consistant, investing a lot, taking me out a lot. 2 had proposed marriage. so, i naturally thought we were in a forever love relationship. ... until i discovered they all were hitting on other women during the time i was with each one.. so sad, what could i do but walk away. older men seem to be especially into this deceptive behavior
Grabe. Napaka sama ng mga lalake. Men are evil!
Older men have learned from the young ones to be A-holes to women. They gave up morality, loyalty, and respect. That includes self-respect.
Same situation. I thought it was just the younger generations but found out the hard way it’s our age group also.
Older men are looking for a nurse with a purse, sis.
We were behaving like we were in a relationship up until a few months ago since 2019. He was so consistent and planning. There were some times he needed a break. He seemed like he wanted to integrate into my life. Then he started to pull away.
It's been 4 years. At this point if he ain't sure.... leave.
5 stars that makes a guy commits to you :
1. You're very attractive
2. Best option
3. A lot of assets and limited liability
4. You make him a better man.
5. His life is better with you in it.
This guy and myself are friends with benefits because He and I love it like that. I give him space, and he actually follows and it works all the time, because I love ❤ my space 🙌🏽🙌🏽
Hi! I’m curious. Are you also afraid of commitment? I was wondering if you have an avoidant attachment style too. Thanks in advance!
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Awe shucks :)
truth!!
yeah, he is super likable
Sus ang nega nga nya!
We're almost at the 8 month mark and he is doing all of these things. I caught him at a time where there are alot of things going on that are preventing the commitment (a few months out of a relationship, starting over financially, etc)
Jeez… when does it ever end? If a man keeps looking for the next best thing because of all these options, how could any woman be ‘good enough’? It’s so discouraging for us women.
FACTS!! 😔
The fire anime selections though lol! Hahah >>>>
I told a dude who said friends that I'm husband hunting. Didst agree to friends. Then he got angry bc I started dated others lol
they're only consistent in the beginning
Yeah I've noticed there really nice and consistent in the beginning. After a hook up they usually lose interest. That's why I say I want a relationship so they know what I want. And I even say that I want to be respected. Make sure there on the same page as you.
Me & a guy really hit it off. Our first date was a walk in the park. Our second date was at my place and we painted pumpkins, played a dating card game and made smores. One of the dating cards asked how long it takes to get into a relationship and he told me 6 month’s minimum. I dont want to wait 6 months…is he telling me that so I don’t expect anything? We havent had sex & I don’t plan on it soon
Second dates should not be in anyones home. Don't do that again. They shouldn't even know your house number or exact location. It's the 2nd meet up!!! He is a stranger..
I have one question for you... Why are you single Elliot?. How can you give advice on relationships
I don’t think he is single but regardless he’s a guy
How does that work in long distance relationships/situations hips?
Wow good job we have a wonderful time Thank you for sharing
Elliot...great hairstyle on you💯
We are fwb, we started off seeing eachother all the time. We always fall asleep in eachother’s arms and spend the night, sometimes with morning coffee. We had a huge misunderstanding at 10 months. I went no contact, after a month we’re back to the same. He seems pretty emotionally unavailable as he does not talk about emotions or our relationship
Sounds like he’s using you for company
Whom is it benefitting? I think the man is...
I thought if they won’t commit after 2 months, then they’re not going to… my situationship did all this stuff and I was still advised he’d never commit…I’m confused with the advice
My ex pull away should I block him
another sleeper hit. Thanks Elliot
Looking for hope where there is none. I need to just let it go. 4 years of breadcrumbing, whew
Same here ,,,known each other like 7 years,,,didnt talk for a LONG time, then we started talking/texting again. Breadcrumbing is his speciality, he's a moron,,,,his loss!
@@graceperez1281 we have to stop being willing participants. Please check on me in a year or so. I hope to have evolved 🙏🏾
I just make sure guys know right away that I don't want a hook up.
@@graceperez1281 SAME!
I love your videos, but the last part is not true for me. We got all the way to #4 a committed relationship. It was really quick, but we have known each other for years. He wanted the "relationship" much faster than me, but I went with it because I really cared for him. Now, he has broken the relationship with me with No Contact because I text-bombed him. I love him dearly and wanted a life with him, but he ran away at the first sign of conflict and could not communicate. I desperately want to speak with him but have no way other than snail mail. I am convinced he is not a narcissist but more of a man who had been hurt in past relationships and shut me out because we had our first miscommunication, which I might add was really not a big deal, at least to me anyway. If I sent a letter by snail mail, it would look like I am despite or breaking his boundaries. I might add I am heartbroken!!!
Are you that guy that is unavailable
Hey Elliott I have a question about my situation if u could reply to this that’ll be great!
you mention the tribe thing in almost all your videos and I think it's irrelevant and superficial. The "tribe" thing literally only exists in the "nerd community". In the long run, liking the same Marvel movies and debating anime is not the formula to a lasting relationship, character of a person is what determines that. I know plenty of couples who are opposite in their interests and have happy marriages. These fleeting things are only pivotal in immature relationships with young people.
You don't even know what tribe is from that comment 🤣 you literally said everything I said a tribe wasn't in my guide. Sit down please or go become a coach yourself since you know what makes things last
@@ElliotScottDatingjusko patola kapanga bonak mo
We usually spend 5 days out of the week together in between work and we still go out and we act like a couple but he says hes still not ready even though its been going on for 8 months and we've been friends for 13 years
Leave... your giving him wife privileges. For FREE..The friendship doesn't make it valid. It's a tactic men use.
@@jessicahitchens6926 I won't leave him currently...I gave him a time limit and it's complicated
@jerseygirljenn4155 You're not leaving? Why complain; what do you expect him to do?
14:15 😂
What about years ?
I've been stupid I've known him for years.
Can you go more into what is happening in the mind of the EU man when he’s “in his head”?
Guys are more eager to get into relationships these days your gonna have to update all your videos buddy
wrong kid. Every stat says otherwise.
Uhm nope. They're not.
ummm...no
@@ElliotScottDating🙄
16:12
Or are you just trying to make money 🤔
2 months😂 its been a year
I slipped one time, i dont want to end up in a situationship. I have sexual snd narcissistic abuse behind me . He's in a open relationship I refuse to talk with him, he humiliated me last week wanted me to take in his group. I hate abd love him. He tries to het me in but he'll lose. I never give in I'm Aries imz not begging for love or bread crumbs . He will seek for connection i will deny all this to him and make him suffer like he humiliated me verbally. Such men deal with weak women who cant resist I have enough interested ppl i dont have just him 😂
I was a rebound he did this casual and proces than he pulled away