Mistakes men make during Break-ups - Shaffie Weru, Dr. Ofweneke, Robert Burale share lessons

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  • @SwitchTVKenya
    @SwitchTVKenya  4 ปีที่แล้ว +12

    Don't forget to subscribe to our TH-cam channel.. Click here to subscribe -- th-cam.com/users/switchtvkenya

    • @andrewbritandy7386
      @andrewbritandy7386 4 ปีที่แล้ว

      Hey Tamima i need Burale's number

    • @samkamuchwe3465
      @samkamuchwe3465 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      @@andrewbritandy7386 did you get burale. I really need him also

  • @belindajane89
    @belindajane89 4 ปีที่แล้ว +8

    With all honesty, hats off for Shaffie.
    Not that my respect to him matters but you have earned my respect and am so sorry for propelling,fuelling,the tabloid propaganda.

  • @moiben663
    @moiben663 4 ปีที่แล้ว +42

    Shaffie's story is so real..big up king of zamunda

  • @doleenwambaa9229
    @doleenwambaa9229 4 ปีที่แล้ว +22

    Thanks shaffi for sharing I respect you.for not saying bad things about the mother of your only children.am keeping that. For myself

  • @nellythuranira6732
    @nellythuranira6732 4 ปีที่แล้ว +16

    This guy burale got a lot of wisdom May God bless him forever!!

  • @soniakithinji
    @soniakithinji 3 ปีที่แล้ว +5

    This three gentlemen have just made me realize I don't need to explain myself anymore, I was in the middle of the mtview story that has trended last three weeks.. It was full of falsehoods I was planning to speak my truth but now I have changed my mind.

  • @TheKoreankook
    @TheKoreankook 4 ปีที่แล้ว +17

    It has come at the right time in my life, learnt a lot on my birth day.

  • @Elwaque
    @Elwaque 4 ปีที่แล้ว +62

    'You cannot enjoy the intimacy that brought a child forth and run away from the responsibility'
    Real talk!

  • @alexcharo272
    @alexcharo272 4 ปีที่แล้ว +14

    whether am married, separated or devorced, I just wanna have peace of heart in my life, that's all I want, isn't that what we all want?

  • @agnesmawondo1706
    @agnesmawondo1706 4 ปีที่แล้ว +39

    I can't lie, I've learned a lot from this conversion.you guys you've said it all.i would love every man to listen to this.wapi likes za hawa wasee

    • @bensobnny
      @bensobnny 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Hongera

  • @muddymakaveli9401
    @muddymakaveli9401 3 ปีที่แล้ว +5

    I've watched this 20 time,passing trough shaffie situation

  • @TheKaysti
    @TheKaysti 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Men have been vilified and blanket-blamed for breakups. Big up to these guys for coming out and speaking for the most of us.

  • @polycapnyakoi8609
    @polycapnyakoi8609 4 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    As a new dad this just came at the right moment... Guys you indeed gave me a life lesson.. Been struggling emotionally but am now stable having listened to your conversations...

  • @JastoLeleJnr
    @JastoLeleJnr 4 ปีที่แล้ว +15

    Shaffie's story is similar to mine...reaches a point where you let the women be, and be on your own

  • @lui5503
    @lui5503 4 ปีที่แล้ว +16

    Respect 🙌🙌🙌 to these men and all the other unsung heroes doing right by their children and exes inspite of all else. Thank you Tamima for highlighting them.

  • @Ngaiseri_teddy
    @Ngaiseri_teddy 4 ปีที่แล้ว +5

    wow just WOW.. I appreciate these men and the beautiful Tamima for talking about this.

  • @cathythuo8606
    @cathythuo8606 4 ปีที่แล้ว +12

    I really enjoyed this candid conversation. Hilarious but eye opening too!

  • @blandinamnyinga8318
    @blandinamnyinga8318 4 ปีที่แล้ว +27

    when the dust settles people will start knowing the actual truth wow!!!!being a woman who never said anything to anyone about what exactly happened in my marriage and even after the horrible separation 5 years ago,took all faults because I never wanted to shame my husband,am thankful to listen and watch this today.thank you Burale and the rest cause as am writing this people had all the answers they wanted.Silence is the best medicine during breakups.

  • @Ukversuskenya
    @Ukversuskenya 4 ปีที่แล้ว +8

    This was a healthy round table. It's good for the boy child.

  • @littlelloyd3930
    @littlelloyd3930 4 ปีที่แล้ว +25

    I totally agree with the great words,'Marriage is a Bond between a person Who never Remembers Anniversaries and another Who never Forgets them.' Great Conversations Gentlemen.On behalf of senior bachelors,we're still happy!

    • @littlelloyd3930
      @littlelloyd3930 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      @Robert Burale Thanks. May I know you please?

  • @judyagutu5099
    @judyagutu5099 4 ปีที่แล้ว +7

    Wow! Am starting to love shafie even more. He's full of wisdom

    • @bellaolum9768
      @bellaolum9768 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      I'm shocked, when i saw the thumbnail I was like why Shaffie?? But I'm impressed!

  • @sav.savi.
    @sav.savi. 4 ปีที่แล้ว +38

    untill men and women start having honest conversation about who they truly are, what demons they battle with, where they lack and what the truly want, love will continue to be a temporary emotion.

    • @lucykamamia1867
      @lucykamamia1867 4 ปีที่แล้ว

      Sure 🤦‍♀️

    • @miminiss5145
      @miminiss5145 4 ปีที่แล้ว

      So true, we have to be Open with ourselves

    • @cashmoneybrother
      @cashmoneybrother 4 ปีที่แล้ว

      I totally concur

    • @bensobnny
      @bensobnny 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      As long as Adam and Eve ate the fruit . That will never happen

  • @SammyCJuma
    @SammyCJuma 4 ปีที่แล้ว +30

    Great conversation from the three gentlemen. I am going through a breakup myself and this couldn't have come at a better time for me. I have really learn't a lot. Thanks guys!

    • @gruendlichmummy4083
      @gruendlichmummy4083 4 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      I wish you all the best

    • @maryann591
      @maryann591 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Wish you the best Sammy

    • @bensobnny
      @bensobnny 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      Join the broken arrow ship

  • @tashmuthama7502
    @tashmuthama7502 3 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    Respect to tamima how she contacts the interview. And also the chat spot show need so much intelligence and maturity ,big up tamima ad the crew

  • @fireone9692
    @fireone9692 4 ปีที่แล้ว +7

    A looooong video , I could not move every word from this wise men is important. Thanks to switch Tv.

  • @samops1074
    @samops1074 4 ปีที่แล้ว +12

    Well Said guys am also a single father and it's not easy. However God gives grace to men

    • @brendanasubo3571
      @brendanasubo3571 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      God will see you through

    • @samops1074
      @samops1074 4 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@brendanasubo3571 (Thank you)

  • @cgichunge
    @cgichunge 4 ปีที่แล้ว +13

    Shaffie is smart ! Relationship is not a competition

  • @paulmainasmily
    @paulmainasmily 3 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Wow I mean this was an hour full of wisdom and vulnerability in depth God bless you guys for sharing.

  • @Kevin_nyareru
    @Kevin_nyareru 4 ปีที่แล้ว +19

    This show just gave me life time lesson....... keep it up

  • @maloikevin9183
    @maloikevin9183 4 ปีที่แล้ว +18

    Marriage is not meant for everyone,
    Sometimes it's better to be alone and happy than go through all the heart break. relationship are piece of work nowdays and the society has exaggerated relationship/ marriage.

  • @silaton305
    @silaton305 4 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    I love you Shaffie. So real really Smart. God bless you and your gorgeous family.

  • @gayazbundeh8424
    @gayazbundeh8424 4 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    the is the best discussion have had on our media so far....

  • @teresagitonga8749
    @teresagitonga8749 4 ปีที่แล้ว +45

    Finally men opening up !! This is great miss Tamima. Hongera sana to these men for being open.

  • @sammugz
    @sammugz 3 ปีที่แล้ว

    This is a very good advice from the men, I wish every one would watch and listen to these gentlemen.

  • @jacksonkimondo6957
    @jacksonkimondo6957 4 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Thanks for the wisdom. Marriage is not a walk in the park. Parenting is eternal. Men we can do this💪

    • @jacksonkimondo6957
      @jacksonkimondo6957 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      @Robert Burale is this you sir🤔. I have seen this message before word for word. Is this really you sir?

  • @christabelfavoured9759
    @christabelfavoured9759 4 ปีที่แล้ว +16

    Why are you busting ofweneke....... These men are just real to the best of my knowledge...... God bless me with valuable friends in my life 🙏🙏

  • @counselgreen
    @counselgreen 4 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Shaffie was quite candid. Awesome dude.

  • @wagithiesther9583
    @wagithiesther9583 8 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Every moment I listen to this I get new strength

  • @bensobnny
    @bensobnny 3 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Get more men of national caliber with this kind of impact to the society

  • @gachihiwilson3590
    @gachihiwilson3590 4 ปีที่แล้ว +5

    Amazing candid talk, my favorite gentlemen led by his excellency R.B

  • @authentic_aquarius97
    @authentic_aquarius97 4 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Ofweneke oozing wisdom..my favorite comedian

  • @miriammwangi1520
    @miriammwangi1520 4 ปีที่แล้ว +23

    Weru at least you are honest "YOU REAP WHAT YOU SOW"

  • @ronaldkavehagi2988
    @ronaldkavehagi2988 4 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    I like Burale insights...

  • @sarahndegwa3212
    @sarahndegwa3212 4 ปีที่แล้ว +28

    this girl is so smart

  • @moreen734
    @moreen734 4 ปีที่แล้ว +16

    OMG this Is the real shaffe weru...
    wow! I have to admit i thought he was different.

  • @inmyveinsinmyveins1465
    @inmyveinsinmyveins1465 ปีที่แล้ว

    I just love how Tamima manages this talk. Had seen this video, it would have been great.

  • @kaykanana2700
    @kaykanana2700 4 ปีที่แล้ว +18

    So true! Kenyans we are too ignorant....and the social media has really destroyed us.And it's even worse in the year 2020.....

  • @karimiaggie4541
    @karimiaggie4541 4 ปีที่แล้ว +30

    I hope to see all of them happily married again.. They have learnt from their mistakes.. They are wise men

  • @generaliglobal.
    @generaliglobal. 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Candid conversation from the men. It would be unfair for me to ignore the adept host. Tamima you are the best!

  • @africangirl189
    @africangirl189 2 ปีที่แล้ว

    Just here to listen to Shaffie Weru the one Kenyan man i adore and salute 😍👌🏿 rare gem.

    • @africangirl189
      @africangirl189 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      And he said it " you can't go destroying people's lives thinking you are the king of Zamunda trust me you will pay" karma . 💯💯...long live Shaffie Weru saying as it is.

    • @africangirl189
      @africangirl189 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      Did i mention he is a Muslim too ☺️

  • @judyngina2330
    @judyngina2330 4 ปีที่แล้ว +7

    Shaffie made me burst out.. ati 'King of Zamunda' hahahaha.. thanks for sharing

  • @veronicahndungu4353
    @veronicahndungu4353 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    I love Shaffie's honesty.

  • @dianidiaries
    @dianidiaries 4 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    When you know better you can do better 😋😋....know your circle....very important

  • @bettynthembwa760
    @bettynthembwa760 4 ปีที่แล้ว +30

    Shaffie Weru is real... I can't say the same on Ofweneke,

  • @ttenda2836
    @ttenda2836 3 ปีที่แล้ว

    Men were built to be honored and respected, women on the other hand love,affection, protection and companionship..i learnt that late in life....

  • @benkikz
    @benkikz 4 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    Thank you Tamima for addressing this issue. I always tuned in.

  • @veronicahnjoroge3653
    @veronicahnjoroge3653 3 ปีที่แล้ว

    Respect jameni. These guys are very mature and I wish all men and women can be this mature. This talk has been very enlightening

  • @suemugofwa1711
    @suemugofwa1711 4 ปีที่แล้ว +6

    This was a very good conversation, really enjoyed the interaction and inputs.

  • @calidlamini7823
    @calidlamini7823 4 ปีที่แล้ว +9

    I'm glad I've listened to this three guys who are talking about these naked truths. If I were in kenya I would love to meet with one of them. May God bless you as you help others to find themselves in the lovelife journey. Love you guys

  • @gitauwamukui5031
    @gitauwamukui5031 4 ปีที่แล้ว +12

    This is great . We need a part 2 of this.

  • @kirigomathu7434
    @kirigomathu7434 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Very true burale when men feel uncovered you might lose the chance to get him completely. It's good to learn how to control your words when dealing with breakup. I lost someone I would it wish to live without him but I learned so hard

  • @rugambwarobert7597
    @rugambwarobert7597 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Live from Uganda, thank you so much

  • @maryannndichu1470
    @maryannndichu1470 3 ปีที่แล้ว

    I love this men. Keep doing this coz a whole generation of men and women who believe in love relationship and good vibe are right behind y’all.

  • @nadinedonnah9100
    @nadinedonnah9100 4 ปีที่แล้ว +8

    Wow, shaffie's maturity is on another level

  • @ceciliamwakala3071
    @ceciliamwakala3071 4 ปีที่แล้ว +6

    I watched this and I learned so much especially on co-parenting .. thank you tamima

  • @veemuyambo
    @veemuyambo 4 ปีที่แล้ว +10

    That statement """MAN ALSO HURT ""Its deep.

  • @annecongratulationswagga8231
    @annecongratulationswagga8231 4 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Burale i like your advice i think it can teach many ...........

  • @daveondiekaaron2204
    @daveondiekaaron2204 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    MARRIAGE IS NEVER ABOUT WHAT YOU CAN GET. IT'S ALWAYS ABOUT WHAT YOU CAN GIVE.
    This Is For Beautiful Ladies...
    1. Prayerful, Respectful and Telling The Truth 🤔

  • @Mordred254
    @Mordred254 3 ปีที่แล้ว

    Burale you're a real coach...you got comforting words...have learnt alot from you guys ...i don't even know where to start n how to end it..but am surprised that men get hurts too...wow...hope from this i change to someone more better than i am n have learnt to always tame my tongue...
    Will start a program soon n will concentrate more on men n what thy go through..... In relationships, marriages n so all...

  • @dianawairimu1431
    @dianawairimu1431 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Iam enjoying this and as well learning so much . Thank you guys for being there . You all are going far by the Grace of God .

  • @assmanhadi3907
    @assmanhadi3907 4 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Wonderful conversation with great men. Thanks Madam

  • @cliffmwangi9168
    @cliffmwangi9168 3 ปีที่แล้ว

    CAN'T IS NEVER A MAN'S VOCABULARY! Shaffie. & Yes, There is Nothing You Can not Do.

  • @dolly8081
    @dolly8081 4 ปีที่แล้ว +7

    This channel is full of interesting and intelligent programs....so much to learn . But hey do we even have channels like this in Nigeria?

  • @florahariwo7833
    @florahariwo7833 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Wow wow wow... This is deep... The maturity is absolutely 👌.. Wishing you guys happiness and peace

  • @bensobnny
    @bensobnny 3 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    This is really good and big up to Shaffie those words are a nail deep in hammered . Am marriage to a my wife (EA) just came to an end and am back to Kenya broken shattered and damaged . I took her thru college and university . Further I didn't the same to her sister . Gave her family life . But when I was doing all things she was out there doing her things. Infidelity and all . Caught her twice . Forgave her and married her in her big wedding . And she never stopped. I have said enough after she came to me saying she is pregnant with another man's kid while we have a 6rs daughter . I moved out in Dec 13th 2019 and now this round table comes 1year . She has given birth to a baby boy and she now turns it and saying is my kind . How can I agree to this .. and what is your advise way forward . ? After a year and but my small investigation she seems to be in a relationship or something . But now what of my kind or kinds ?

    • @jamz2636
      @jamz2636 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      Let it go!! You did your best,her loss ..move on with your head held high..her actions speak disrespect to you as a man.There is life after that break up!

  • @annewanjira5909
    @annewanjira5909 4 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    Shaffie..... realest OG...God bless

  • @gracewanjiru1175
    @gracewanjiru1175 4 ปีที่แล้ว +5

    Thank you Tamima for the lengthy talk..It's, way much better than those short, short vlogs. I have really learned a lot. Thank you GENTLEmen for sharing your experience. Note I wrote GENTLE because not every man is a gentleman..In the same breathe heartbreaks are hell..Mine is 2yrs down the line and am still nursing the same wound..I clearly need help.

    • @ZaiStoic
      @ZaiStoic 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Find someone to talk. Deal with your pain and trauma. Forgive, if you were wronged. If it's a divorce, I have had it said, that it feels like death of sorts. You will be fine though. Cry it out
      And don't be scared to letting people into your space

    • @gracewanjiru1175
      @gracewanjiru1175 4 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@ZaiStoic thank you am very skeptical with people I talk to..now days it's hard to get someone you can have are talk with..it's was a 3yr rlship not marriage.

    • @gracewanjiru1175
      @gracewanjiru1175 4 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@ZaiStoic raw talk

    • @vannabella5853
      @vannabella5853 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Pole sana

  • @lenny_kitash6276
    @lenny_kitash6276 4 ปีที่แล้ว

    was I love this... So encouraged....wise men

  • @thomasmachuma9271
    @thomasmachuma9271 4 ปีที่แล้ว +6

    Wise burale 💯well articulated

  • @zakayomwangi3661
    @zakayomwangi3661 4 ปีที่แล้ว +9

    I've come to a conclusion that we men go thru alot it's only that we keep our eyes open and our mouths shut.

    • @janemusa9529
      @janemusa9529 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Because of your doings they never go unpunished.

    • @bellaolum9768
      @bellaolum9768 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      Talking to someone helps a lot

  • @noristermwambwa8620
    @noristermwambwa8620 2 ปีที่แล้ว

    I'm watching you from Namibia it's so powerful

  • @brianaluso
    @brianaluso 4 ปีที่แล้ว +58

    Guys am on a break up and the kids are involve. This is the hardest time in my life. I have broken down. 😭😭😭 . This interview has given me so much hopes. Kindly connect me with a therapist/psychologist

    • @rachaelwanjiku0
      @rachaelwanjiku0 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      God is in control it shall be well

    • @aliceondeko3455
      @aliceondeko3455 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      God will see you through

    • @marthakamau5540
      @marthakamau5540 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Pole sana, God is in control n all will be well

    • @mpendamuziki
      @mpendamuziki 4 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      When people break up and there are kids, it becomes a fight of ego..maybe the former lady would use the kids to punish you, and you may feel like she can't control me over my own kids..this is a very typical problem. This will obviously degenerate to a custody battle. First of all calm down completely. Stress kills and your own body can turn on you. I wish I could talk to you somehow.

    • @Tireito24
      @Tireito24 4 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      Contact burale or Benjamin Zulu

  • @evadtrent5607
    @evadtrent5607 4 ปีที่แล้ว +16

    I knew she would introduce Robert Burale first. He is calm cool and collected

    • @lilianmacharia3322
      @lilianmacharia3322 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Burale is the only professional counsellor among the 3 men

    • @lilianmacharia3322
      @lilianmacharia3322 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Burale is the only professional counsellor there in that panel

    • @s.k634
      @s.k634 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      and also a know conman

    • @evadtrent5607
      @evadtrent5607 4 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@s.k634 ala!

  • @RaymondKIMATHI
    @RaymondKIMATHI 4 ปีที่แล้ว +29

    Things are rough for men in the 21st Century. If wishes were horses I would like to live within a primitive society in the forest.

  • @jaineebito2661
    @jaineebito2661 4 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    RESPECT to you MEN n all alike out there, be blessed. To the boys out there its neva too late to transform...fatherhood is neva delegated, Children will always remember the effort U made.

    • @georgengethe7280
      @georgengethe7280 11 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Thanx wat if someone manipulates u u do everytin for the kid then hataki uonge na mtoi ,even hataki u b with the kid wen school are closed utado??

  • @josemigel
    @josemigel 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    One of shaffies tois looks like Andrew kibe ..the show is lit though.. Very insightful

  • @mercysophiasiloba1749
    @mercysophiasiloba1749 4 ปีที่แล้ว

    Marriage is not a walk in the park...thanx for this programme talk ..

  • @josephsosi3109
    @josephsosi3109 3 ปีที่แล้ว

    Wow!!!you guys are amazing......I thought I went through this alone ......thanks guys am really build-up

  • @bosscollionspares2281
    @bosscollionspares2281 3 ปีที่แล้ว

    Shafi and Ofweneke i had a very different perception of you. Wise words🕺

  • @jeyykeyy2279
    @jeyykeyy2279 4 ปีที่แล้ว +43

    Shaffie talks alot of Debbie... The first cut is the deepest.. Don't play with the first love... 😎😎😎😎

    • @janemusa9529
      @janemusa9529 4 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      True he still loves her.

    • @elizabethmuhuga9512
      @elizabethmuhuga9512 4 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      High school love i remember they were always in the pulse magazine. I loved Debbie kwanza their group tatuu

  • @broken_arrow1813
    @broken_arrow1813 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    So much wisdom in this conversation.

  • @catem8752
    @catem8752 3 ปีที่แล้ว

    Such a refreshing conversation.

  • @judithdani9644
    @judithdani9644 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Indeed a candid conversation.

  • @mercyriungu6913
    @mercyriungu6913 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Great insights.This conversation is the real deal

  • @prosperlilian1371
    @prosperlilian1371 4 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    So edifying. Thank you big brothers

  • @TheUnboxedMan
    @TheUnboxedMan 4 ปีที่แล้ว +5

    I am not a father. But I have gone through a break up that almost lost me entirely. Hearing what I am hearing from shaffie. I feel better

  • @ladygloko8753
    @ladygloko8753 4 ปีที่แล้ว

    The three of you are real gentlemen .

  • @jnjugu10
    @jnjugu10 3 ปีที่แล้ว

    The short stint I had as a receptionist in Radio Africa I came to learn that Shaffie Weru was a gentleman, he was kind and he would always say hi to me, I was a bit timid coz I had the perception that he has 'petho'.

  • @stephenmumina1796
    @stephenmumina1796 4 ปีที่แล้ว +6

    I Guess this is exactly what I needed to hear... Might have lost it all with my feelings n in the process hurting innocent ladies every now n then. You guys spoke to me

  • @fatmanasir6691
    @fatmanasir6691 4 ปีที่แล้ว

    Very mature talk. Thanks Tamima. I was very surprised by the guests too but a pleasant one. I love the fact how Shaffie weru(Big up bruh for sharing, sad& funny), Dr Ofueneke got vulnerable and real. Burale has had the biggest bash of it. It's tough to pick your stuff and walk, you literally feel a heart attack(not able to breathe) maaan does it not take time. You think you have healed then someone says something that triggers it off. It's 9 years of working on it...God help me, still solo&trying to get back in the game.