If they do it again a month later?!? What if it’s a daily thing? Can’t they remember when it’s several times a day?? It’s not necessarily violence, but rough touching and saying unkind things.
Same here. And the thing is when we do talk about it afterwards he seems to fully understand how wrong it is. But definitely good information that I'll try to implement.
My ADHD son (11) constantly instigates my younger son (7) and has for the last couple years. So my younger son is the one who shows the physical aggression toward his brother, who is an instigator. It’s so frustrating.
I didn't know about ADHD 15 years ago. I never understood why play therapy or counseling or anything never helped. Now I have a 20yr old that is dependent, and violent.
Im having a lot of trouble with my 5 year old son. Hes been super mean and agressive. He yells, screams, pushes, punches and kicks me when he gets upset about not getting his way. He doesn't like it when i tell him no on something or he doesn't get his way. He doesn't respect me at all and im at my whitts ends idk what to do with him and hes only 5! Hes acting like a full on rebellious teenager. Please help me!?
What about destructive behavior, like when my 8 year old threatens to scratch the car or destroy other things of value when he's dysregulated? Its very hard to walk away and not give the attention. I stay quiet but have to bare witness until hes calm. Very difficult.
This is something I fear becoming an Issue. She is my bonus kiddo. But is the youngest. I up until recently had instructed my two kids 11 &15 that if she is violent towards them to not reciprocate. But come and let adults know so it can be taken care of. Until I realized that she does not care what her repercussions are. And continues to throw things at them and hit them. I know it's Alot on my older two who have NEVER laid a hand on each other in Anger. So I'm curious to see what the right way to handle this situation is. 😊
We tried most methods on both soft and hard approach towards our boy’s behavior, but it does not seemed to work. As you mentioned, it is like he has “short term memory”, where he tends to forget what had happened earlier. Guess last resort is to go with medication? Does the prescribed medication has any side effects? Will it be a long term till his adulthood?
I do struggle with the support group part. I can’t think of anyone that my son would consider “important” enough that he wouldn’t want them to know about his violence. He gets exactly same violent with all the other people he seeming likes the most. And I don’t think he is that far ahead to actually feel ashamed about something. Is there a way to “stimulate” this part? He is 7 years old.
Please advise I have a 17 yo son who has a bit of ADHD and has a bit of mobility issues too. He will be giving his year12 exam soon He is an average student and has all the potential to secure 50% marks. he understands the importance of scores and dreams of joining uni but has very poor inhibition control How can I help him to achieve what he is capable of
What do you do with a 3.5 year old in this scenario. They cant read, and have level 1 autism. When she gets overloaded or has sensory issues/tired/frustrated she tends to bite or kick me. How do i handle this when shes not the most verbal and also still very young?
Yes now our therapists we have been seeing is recommended a couples group for ADHD a 8 week teaching course this fall!!!! Also did some neurofeedback therapy but … not working at the moment… I wish there was someone my son recounted he really has so filter anywhere anytime… n And also seeing a psychologist…
That's good, Dr. Ari Tuckman has some good stuff on couples where someone has ADHD. Neurofeedback is not a recommended treatment for ADHD. The research data shows it can help temporarily, but no long-term benefit. "Talk therapy" is also not an evidence-based recommended treatment for kids with ADHD: th-cam.com/video/KZIxXIw-lEk/w-d-xo.html The "filter" part is about perspective-taking skills: th-cam.com/video/Ma22zPsFuHs/w-d-xo.htmlsi=vv1NROVvLNJNer5F
My middle child has tantrums.,issues like comparison with my elder or younger child. Means its not possible he didn't fight with me( mother).insulting me.what is a solution. I'm worried because he's hit me ,push ,a lot behaviour issues. Now he's 13 years old.
We are having trouble with our 6 year old. When she gets triggered she can become aggressive towards family, screaming and yelling in faces, throw things and run out of the house. Recently she has become obsessed with a neighbor girl, if she sees her outside playing she insists on going out to play with her. We tell her she cannot but she will go out by herself without us if we try to get her inside she will run down the street away from us and then become violent if we try to restrain her and bring her inside.
OK, without medication I don't think you're going to see much improvement as this is an impulse control issue and she has the executive function age of a 3-4 year old. The American Academy of Pediatrics treatment recommendation for children 6 and up is Parent Traininging (provided through the ADHD Dude Membership Site) in conjunction with medication management. Play therapy, talk therapy, etc. are not going to help with impulse control, which is why therapy is not a recommended treatment for kids with ADHD>
Wow I'm so glad I randomly stumbled on this video. I will have to try this
Glad you found it
Going to try this really helpful advice. Thank you
Thank you for watching!
Brilliant, thanks! This is increasingly relevant in mainstream schools, very helpful 😊
You're welcome. Thank you for watching!
This makes so much sense! Thank you! 🙏 ❤🎉
Thanks for watching!
If they do it again a month later?!? What if it’s a daily thing? Can’t they remember when it’s several times a day?? It’s not necessarily violence, but rough touching and saying unkind things.
Same here. And the thing is when we do talk about it afterwards he seems to fully understand how wrong it is.
But definitely good information that I'll try to implement.
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My ADHD son (11) constantly instigates my younger son (7) and has for the last couple years. So my younger son is the one who shows the physical aggression toward his brother, who is an instigator. It’s so frustrating.
I didn't know about ADHD 15 years ago. I never understood why play therapy or counseling or anything never helped. Now I have a 20yr old that is dependent, and violent.
Im having a lot of trouble with my 5 year old son. Hes been super mean and agressive. He yells, screams, pushes, punches and kicks me when he gets upset about not getting his way. He doesn't like it when i tell him no on something or he doesn't get his way. He doesn't respect me at all and im at my whitts ends idk what to do with him and hes only 5! Hes acting like a full on rebellious teenager. Please help me!?
Follow the protocol I outline in this video, as well as my videos about not giving attention to negative behavior.
Oh I feel you..hoping this vid method will help
What about destructive behavior, like when my 8 year old threatens to scratch the car or destroy other things of value when he's dysregulated? Its very hard to walk away and not give the attention. I stay quiet but have to bare witness until hes calm. Very difficult.
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This is something I fear becoming an Issue. She is my bonus kiddo. But is the youngest. I up until recently had instructed my two kids 11 &15 that if she is violent towards them to not reciprocate. But come and let adults know so it can be taken care of. Until I realized that she does not care what her repercussions are. And continues to throw things at them and hit them. I know it's Alot on my older two who have NEVER laid a hand on each other in Anger. So I'm curious to see what the right way to handle this situation is. 😊
I would strongly suggest following this protocol before things become worse.
We tried most methods on both soft and hard approach towards our boy’s behavior, but it does not seemed to work.
As you mentioned, it is like he has “short term memory”, where he tends to forget what had happened earlier.
Guess last resort is to go with medication?
Does the prescribed medication has any side effects? Will it be a long term till his adulthood?
I do struggle with the support group part. I can’t think of anyone that my son would consider “important” enough that he wouldn’t want them to know about his violence. He gets exactly same violent with all the other people he seeming likes the most. And I don’t think he is that far ahead to actually feel ashamed about something. Is there a way to “stimulate” this part? He is 7 years old.
Anyone who the child respects can be a supporter. This is covered more in depth in the program
Please advise
I have a 17 yo son who has a bit of ADHD and has a bit of mobility issues too. He will be giving his year12 exam soon He is an average student and has all the potential to secure 50% marks. he understands the importance of scores and dreams of joining uni but has very poor inhibition control
How can I help him to achieve what he is capable of
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What do you do with a 3.5 year old in this scenario. They cant read, and have level 1 autism. When she gets overloaded or has sensory issues/tired/frustrated she tends to bite or kick me. How do i handle this when shes not the most verbal and also still very young?
I would work with a BCBA to help implement a home program
Do you have the link for the announcement letter please?
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Yes now our therapists we have been seeing is recommended a couples group for ADHD a 8 week teaching course this fall!!!!
Also did some neurofeedback therapy but … not working at the moment…
I wish there was someone my son recounted he really has so filter anywhere anytime… n
And also seeing a psychologist…
That's good, Dr. Ari Tuckman has some good stuff on couples where someone has ADHD.
Neurofeedback is not a recommended treatment for ADHD. The research data shows it can help temporarily, but no long-term benefit.
"Talk therapy" is also not an evidence-based recommended treatment for kids with ADHD: th-cam.com/video/KZIxXIw-lEk/w-d-xo.html
The "filter" part is about perspective-taking skills: th-cam.com/video/Ma22zPsFuHs/w-d-xo.htmlsi=vv1NROVvLNJNer5F
My middle child has tantrums.,issues like comparison with my elder or younger child. Means its not possible he didn't fight with me( mother).insulting me.what is a solution. I'm worried because he's hit me ,push ,a lot behaviour issues. Now he's 13 years old.
We are having trouble with our 6 year old. When she gets triggered she can become aggressive towards family, screaming and yelling in faces, throw things and run out of the house. Recently she has become obsessed with a neighbor girl, if she sees her outside playing she insists on going out to play with her. We tell her she cannot but she will go out by herself without us if we try to get her inside she will run down the street away from us and then become violent if we try to restrain her and bring her inside.
I can't make any suggestions without knowing if she's medicated or not.
@@ADHDDude no she is not medicated
OK, without medication I don't think you're going to see much improvement as this is an impulse control issue and she has the executive function age of a 3-4 year old. The American Academy of Pediatrics treatment recommendation for children 6 and up is Parent Traininging (provided through the ADHD Dude Membership Site) in conjunction with medication management. Play therapy, talk therapy, etc. are not going to help with impulse control, which is why therapy is not a recommended treatment for kids with ADHD>
Are those Arizona mountains???
They are!
What happens when a person is an adult and still is violent?
They will deal with the legal ramifications of their behavior
I hope we live that long.
when he is in school? We have no control over his action then
Correct, you do not.