Two Autistic Teen Orphans (A Story of Resilience and Survival)

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  • Melina and Deimos are both autistic teen orphans and siblings. After surviving a traumatic childhood, they both were diagnosed with multiple mental health disorders. Melina says, "I haven't been living, but only surviving my whole life." She hopes that others will be nice instead of calling her weird.
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  • @veryhotpocket
    @veryhotpocket 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +1091

    thank you for the interview 💜

    • @SpecialBooksbySpecialKids
      @SpecialBooksbySpecialKids  3 หลายเดือนก่อน +85

      It was great to meet you Deimos!

    • @C6lvxn
      @C6lvxn 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +39

      Hi Deimos, I'm Calvin. I am 19 and autistic! I feel so empathetic towards you, I just want you to know there is another teenager out there struggling with autism, and the trauma of growing up undiagnosed autistic. I wish nothing but the best for you. Your friend, Calvin.

    • @breathdontforgettobreath9839
      @breathdontforgettobreath9839 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +17

      I'm so grateful for you both speaking about everything. Thank you. You helped me alot.

    • @Merusclaws
      @Merusclaws 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +17

      You’re amazing, brought tears to my eyes, I feel so much of your pain. I’d love to be your friend, keep going, you’re meant to be here🖤

    • @Dollbaby630
      @Dollbaby630 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +6

      Subbed to you girl. Make videos. Raise awareness. U r beautiful ❤

  • @crmelly
    @crmelly 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +4802

    thank you so much for interviewing me!!! it means so much to me

    • @gemmadirenna7712
      @gemmadirenna7712 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +170

      Best wishes to you and your sibling ❤ thank you for sharing your story, it taught me a lot and helped me empathize with your struggles. Sending love to you both!

    • @debbieschultz9768
      @debbieschultz9768 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +91

      I’m so glad I got to meet you on this video. I think you are beautiful inside and out and my wish is that you have a life full of love and happiness❤❤

    • @buppy.
      @buppy. 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +60

      MELLLL hii its finn!!! im so proud of u for this interview

    • @carinashero1215
      @carinashero1215 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +53

      Thank you so much for sharing your story with us! Wrapping you in so much love ❤️🫂❤️

    • @xdani_thethinkingneko
      @xdani_thethinkingneko 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +39

      I’m not sure if my first comment posted -
      Both of your stories are truly impactful. You speaking out like this is so important. I’m honestly crying right now, because I see so much of myself and you. Especially my younger self ( I’m 28). You are both so bright, and clearly sweet. (Plus you like cat boys and beastars so you’re good in my book 😝)
      I hope you can truly heal.
      Don’t give up the good fight! A book that helps me even as an adult, is the little train that could. Maybe it would help you both 💗 it is silly like that really struggling and it does actually help ( in combination with other supports of course) best of luck 💗

  • @beautiful_israelite_princess
    @beautiful_israelite_princess 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +2538

    Oh my god when she said "Instead of living I've been surviving for most of my life" I felt that DEEP in my soul.. Jesus

    • @CrisOnTheInternet
      @CrisOnTheInternet 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +37

      That crushed me 😭

    • @13lueBomber
      @13lueBomber 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +32

      That’s life, simply just trying to survive, day after day, day in and day out, *repeat.* ♾️

    • @bel7903
      @bel7903 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +7

      Me too💔💙💔

    • @JessicaBeschizza
      @JessicaBeschizza 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +15

      Same! Sat here crying 3 seconds into the video 😢😅

    • @bearbro10
      @bearbro10 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +6

      ​@13lueBomber well that ain't all of it

  • @aurorarockman9389
    @aurorarockman9389 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +667

    I’m really struck by the body language at 30:00. They looked a bit nervous and tense earlier in the video, but you can just see the sense of relief and love and support that they feel now that their uncle’s there. What a wonderful guy.

    • @laurenm9203
      @laurenm9203 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +23

      I noticed this too. Also when the dog came over 💕

    • @DoABarellJo
      @DoABarellJo 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      ​@@Repent-and-believe-in-Jesus1wtf does that have to do with this conversation?

    • @Tomluke5823
      @Tomluke5823 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      ​@@DoABarellJoits prolly a bot

    • @lewando7687
      @lewando7687 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +6

      his deep voice is proably vibrating through the room. i feel calmer listening to him 😁

    • @Jonion-onion
      @Jonion-onion หลายเดือนก่อน +3

      I love how you can see him turn his head to make sure he can hear what they are talking about. He wants to make sure that they know they are being heard.

  • @mementomori7266
    @mementomori7266 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +628

    "Even if you've been through the ugly, you can make it beautiful." What a wonderful message!

    • @cosmic_kysf
      @cosmic_kysf 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

      Ok

    • @Milkytears222
      @Milkytears222 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +5

      @@cosmic_kysfwhat’s wrong with you

    • @lightingthedarkremoteviewi8086
      @lightingthedarkremoteviewi8086 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +6

      They are very lucky they have each other and some support. Some never get that despite trying to get it over and over.

  • @Deetroiter
    @Deetroiter 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +1081

    I don't know if they'll ever see my comments but I want them to know that they are so extremely strong and resilient. We all are grateful for you sharing your stories with us. Again, you two are so amazingly strong ❤

    • @biglovebetterworldbetteryou
      @biglovebetterworldbetteryou 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +21

      They say its the thought that counts ! Well it does !

    • @montauk081
      @montauk081 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +12

      ​@@biglovebetterworldbetteryou ♥️🥹that's the nicest reply to this beautiful comment

    • @frederiquebarretteletourne7719
      @frederiquebarretteletourne7719 3 หลายเดือนก่อน

      😝😝😝😝😝😝😝😝😝😝😝😝😝😝😝😝😝😝😝😝😝😝😝😝

    • @cosmic_kysf
      @cosmic_kysf 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      😂😂

    • @Melancholian
      @Melancholian 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

      @@Repent-and-believe-in-Jesus1 as an autist I agree

  • @ANG3L0FM3RCY
    @ANG3L0FM3RCY 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +649

    The dog bark and then "bro!" was so funny. I really wish these two beautiful people love and healing.

    • @Meeeesje
      @Meeeesje 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +19

      I'm always sad there aren't (more) questions about the pets. 😂 This was another cutie!

    • @only900more2go
      @only900more2go 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +6

      The tension was so high with the tragic back story and then the pup just cuts it with the bark and then starts snorting into the cushions ignoring Deimos' spotlight. I have experienced similar when I tell my own intense stories and then something totally random and innocent just interrupts. It's irritating that it distracts you but also is so funny and helps sometimes too.

    • @Elijah42069
      @Elijah42069 3 หลายเดือนก่อน

      its like you are surprised that something normal can happen to these people hahaha

    • @camaleonsacor1618
      @camaleonsacor1618 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

      @@only900more2go but maybe now I read you again and you were saying that you got distracted when you are the one talking haha. My bad is that is the case. Well she wasnt distracted tho xD

  • @MoxyVerve
    @MoxyVerve 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +954

    You both deserve a mom whom knows their MOST important role is to:
    1. Protect
    2. Guide
    3. Love UNCONDITIONALLY .
    I would be so proud to have children as brave and courageous as you both!

    • @spaztor7723
      @spaztor7723 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +34

      and a father

    • @moralebooster8437
      @moralebooster8437 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +6

      Beautiful 💛

    • @pianoreigns
      @pianoreigns 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +8

      Or a DAD

    • @juliansearcie1758
      @juliansearcie1758 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +5

      Nah they need a father we protect and lead with love and truth not delusion

    • @michaelatopalov1990
      @michaelatopalov1990 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +8

      Thanks for sharing your brave stories. You both are obviously beautiful inside and out, very intelligent, and growing healthier everyday. I send my hugs to you both! I am so sorry that people have hurt you by making fun of you. You have come so far, just don’t give upon your lives. God will use this pain in your lives to help others!

  • @muslimah42
    @muslimah42 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +501

    Melina I’m a mom of a little autistic boy❤ you aren’t weird ! You look and sound lovely with a beautiful pure and intelligent soul !
    I’ve went through a lot in my childhood and that’s why my biggest dream in life was to give my kids the best and most loving life possible. My biological mother had biopolar too with istrionic personality, and I went through a lot of abuse. I want you to know that it is possible to have a beautiful life full of people that love you and embrace everything about you even your hard past. ❤

    • @mommyjo1325
      @mommyjo1325 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +7

      Well said! 💕

  • @buppy.
    @buppy. 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +626

    deimos and mel, its finn. I just have to say how proud i am of the both of you and how much i dearly treasure our friendships. i know i dont talk to you both as much as i used to but im so glad you are people i know!! thank you sbsk for giving them the space to talk about their stories, as they are genuinely some of the bravest people ive ever known

    • @oodlesofaxolootls3655
      @oodlesofaxolootls3655 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +41

      I'm so glad you know them, I really hope they see this! Maybe reach out to them and tell them you are proud of them to tell their story ❤ I really hope they know how much this helped me

    • @heatherphelps7379
      @heatherphelps7379 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +22

      They should see this. One of them responded with a comment up above! That's wonderful that you know them. Great and such strong individuals

    • @bigsharon7263
      @bigsharon7263 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +19

      hi finn! its me, your girlfriend, i love you

    • @biglovebetterworldbetteryou
      @biglovebetterworldbetteryou 3 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Holographic Kinetics ~ ( Aboriginal Healing )@@oodlesofaxolootls3655

    • @buppy.
      @buppy. 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      @@bigsharon7263 hehe love you too babe

  • @tamarblackburn4312
    @tamarblackburn4312 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +133

    Stories like this are why I want to be a foster parent, just to be able to give people a safe home where they don’t feel judged. Thank you for sharing.

    • @yeralmuzika
      @yeralmuzika 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +12

      I feel the same way. I can't have kids because of personal conditions but always thought of adopting or fostering.... there's so many kids out there that deserve better homes ❤

    • @gabriellarossi5925
      @gabriellarossi5925 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +8

      Same here! I've always wanted to adopt children ever since the time I came to know about it. There are just so many kids out there lacking homes, love, guidance, security. Even though I believe I can have children, I hesitate about having my own biologically and depriving another one already out there of what I could give them that others won't/can't.

  • @GinnyRamone
    @GinnyRamone 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +319

    So I've been sitting here for, like, almost 20 minutes trying to coalesce my thoughts and emotions into something that could be reasonably articulate. I'm also autistic and I have epilepsy, so there are a number of videos on this channel that I deeply resonate with, and as I've gotten older, most of these videos make me wish I could jump through my screen and hold these kids and be, I guess, a "mom friend" to them. I was deeply touched by the story of a couple girls, Haley and Ellie, who SBSK interviewed a few years ago, but this video really hit me on a profound level.
    As I was watching, my first thought was along the lines of, please, Adonai, let these two be in a safe and healthy place, so I am so happy that they have Michael and indeed appear to be safe and loved.
    Melina and Deimos, I hope you don't mind me saying so as a complete stranger, but I just want to say how incredibly proud I am of both of you. You've experienced so much pain and trauma, and that just isn't fair and you never deserved that, but you did survive, and you are clearly growing up into strong, smart, and compassionate young people, and I hope you can take some pride in that, and above all else, I hope that your future surrounds all of you with so much love, safety and support, because you both deserve nothing less.

    • @pinlight97
      @pinlight97 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +13

      Well said! As a mom I completely agree.

  • @kaheivi
    @kaheivi 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +303

    i was diagnosed with autism at 17 and it felt like a weight lifted off of my shoulders. everything made sense for once. im so glad they find support in each other.

    • @sbocaj22
      @sbocaj22 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +23

      I figured out my autism at 21-22. And got my diagnosis at 23. I’m almost 25 now and felt the same way when I discovered my autism. Literally felt like someone took a big heavy rock filled pack off my shoulders. Suddenly eveything made else. Everything I spent my whole life trying to figure out finally had an answer. I’m so glad you were also able to experience this

    • @phoenixc7245
      @phoenixc7245 3 หลายเดือนก่อน

      I figured out I'm autistic at 15-16. I'm 17 now and I still don't have that diagnosis even though I got tested. Everyone I know thinks I have autism ​@sbocaj22

    • @Adrielle.
      @Adrielle. 3 หลายเดือนก่อน

      @@cosmic_kysf Me :)

    • @Adrielle.
      @Adrielle. 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +9

      @@cosmic_kysf
      Do you want attention?

    • @cosmic_kysf
      @cosmic_kysf 3 หลายเดือนก่อน

      @@Adrielle. obviously

  • @jillwatkins78
    @jillwatkins78 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +270

    Only have way through the video and I’m amazed at the intelligence of these girls! I’m Jases Mom from the last video and Chris went to see these sweet girls right after leaving our home. He didn’t tell us anything about who he was seeing but we prayed over his trip and who he would be interviewing. These girls have had a hard life so far but I can tell they will do great things!

    • @FaytheInJesus
      @FaytheInJesus 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +11

      You are a great mom and person God Bless

    • @TomHutchinson5
      @TomHutchinson5 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +14

      Ma'am, you're a good mom, raising a good kid with love. It must be hard to protect him. I think you are right about these two. Bright futures ahead.

    • @TomHutchinson5
      @TomHutchinson5 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +9

      ps grandma is a real gem

  • @annaautuori567
    @annaautuori567 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +209

    I was called weird for as long as I can remember. As I became a teen, I began to embrace the word proudly. I'm 67 now and still proudly wave my "weird" flag but now I call it unique.
    I think you both are beautiful! I'm so sorry for what you went through.

    • @Catlily5
      @Catlily5 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      Me too. I am 48 and I like being different.

  • @Periwinkle184
    @Periwinkle184 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +107

    Their childhood is a lot like mine. I'm not autistic though but I also started therapy recently. So far I'm diagnosed with depression, anxiety and PTSD and ADHD. Im happy I'm not alone in the world.

  • @user-ug1gm7vb8u
    @user-ug1gm7vb8u 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +164

    Both are extremely intelligent and they are articulate. Im glad they have each other.

  • @MissBdmay
    @MissBdmay 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +37

    Hearing her mom say she didnt like her... Sweetheart, you did nothing wrong. All you wanted was your moms love. Its NOT YOUR FAULT that your mother treated you terribly. Not even a little bit. I so hope you girls are doing well. And have someone you can turn to that cares about you.

  • @morganbudreau8957
    @morganbudreau8957 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +173

    These teens are so resilient. I have a dear friend who is autistic and a trauma survivor, so I know in a way how hard simply living can be. They need friends to have their backs.

    • @kaylakain6039
      @kaylakain6039 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      This doesn’t have anything to do with autism

    • @Catlily5
      @Catlily5 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

      ​@@kaylakain6039 I have autism and PTSD. They are showing the PTSD side more in this interview but that doesn't mean that they don't have autism as well.

    • @catonyoutoob
      @catonyoutoob หลายเดือนก่อน +3

      @@kaylakain6039 Autism plays a huge role in their story, their challenges, and even the lens through which they view and navigate the world. Saying this has nothing to do with autism is just ignorant. Being autistic comes with a unique set of struggles that are debilitating in their own right, and autistic people are significantly more likely to have complex trauma and other mental health problems.

    • @Catlily5
      @Catlily5 12 วันที่ผ่านมา

      @@crmelly ?? How am I downplaying your autism?

    • @Catlily5
      @Catlily5 12 วันที่ผ่านมา

      @@crmelly ?? I think you have the wrong person. I didn't even make a comment to you.

  • @robotv8707
    @robotv8707 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +44

    I hope these girls understand that they aren't alone. Women with autism being overlooked is extremely common and has been for a long time. Both of you are so honest and kind, thank you for sharing your experiences.

  • @minervagalvez4748
    @minervagalvez4748 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +38

    THE TRAUMAS ARE SO VISBLE FOR THEM ESPECIALLY THE TREMBLING OF HOW SCARED THEY ARE AND THE HURT THEY ENDURED BY THEIR PARENTS/FOSTER PARENTS.

  • @AA-cm3pd
    @AA-cm3pd 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +111

    They're incredible and did not deserve their childhoods... I'm so glad they have their uncle now.

  • @kassi4837
    @kassi4837 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +50

    I feel like Borderline is a personality disorder that stems from not having consistent and stable emotional connection and guidance during critical periods of childhood development. It sounds like a form of attachment trauma.
    Also, at the end, when she says, even if you’ve been through the ugly, you can make it beautiful .. I love that so much. And yes fellow Autistics and such need to hear that. It’s ridiculously hard to navigate life and social situations with mental health conditions and it’s so important to be encouraged by others and the community.
    I’m so glad these brilliant ladies have their uncle to finally love them like they deserve.

    • @ReineDeLaSeine14
      @ReineDeLaSeine14 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +5

      BPD does come along with insecure attachment and can come from early childhood abandonment.

  • @Mithraschosen
    @Mithraschosen 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +52

    I really want to give them a hug.

    • @ambry99
      @ambry99 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +9

      I was just thinking the same thing. They deserved so much better.

    • @margodphd
      @margodphd 25 วันที่ผ่านมา

      Same. I hope their future makes up for the past.

  • @qoooooooq
    @qoooooooq 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +27

    Autism in girls and women will always be overlooked. Im sorry you two had to go through of this.

    • @fungustheclown666
      @fungustheclown666 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

      Hopefully not always!! If we keep spreading information and experiences we can change the world

    • @AgnesBalla9602
      @AgnesBalla9602 14 วันที่ผ่านมา

      I hope things will change. But it is soo sad that even medical professionals don’t believe that a girl has autism. They are misdiagnosed and given psych meds. But if it is a boy.. totally different story

  • @tarynelise225
    @tarynelise225 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +43

    A few years ago I left a comment saying you inspired me to work with individuals that have developmental disabilities. I now work in a day home doing just that. Thank you for all the positive work you are doing and showing others respect, compassion, and empathy.

  • @ZombieLynn
    @ZombieLynn 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +102

    Melina, you are going to be an incredible social worker. I am so serious when I say the field needs people like you. I can tell you're going to help so many people, regardless of where you go in life.
    thank you so much to both of you for being so honest, vulnerable, and open about yourselves and your lives. you're right, no one is alone in their adversity.

  • @sophaloph1129
    @sophaloph1129 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +56

    not even a minute in and I’m sobbing. I was expecting to hear someone else’s story, not reflecting on mine! So heartbreaking people have gone through what I have and worse, no one deserves that!

  • @mbb-gl7tv
    @mbb-gl7tv 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +58

    As an adoptive mom and mom of triplets (one autistic) I just wanted to say never have I seen such brave, beautiful and much more mature than many teens I know then these two. You all are amazing and strong and I pray that all the pain you had to go through (is turning to strength and you all find the happiness and joy you deserve.

  • @Jakowergo
    @Jakowergo 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +85

    As someone with bpd and childhood trauma...this was really uplifting. Wish both Melina and Deimos the best in life.

  • @zzzaaannnn
    @zzzaaannnn 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +58

    i think this is one of my favorite sbsk videos ever

    • @CheyennePwns
      @CheyennePwns 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +5

      It was mine too 🤍 inspired.

  • @freila8156
    @freila8156 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +29

    From what I remember reading, DID is a very misunderstood disorder thanks to movies/books portraying it wrongly. To develop it, a person needs to repeatedly go through traumatic events in their early childhood, which the second sibling seems to point out. That's probably why it's so rare. I don't think I've ever seen any awareness campaign about it like there's for Bipolar Disorder. Borderline is also more unknown by the average person, but it doesn't have the misconception DID has. I hope they meet more people willing to understand them. I feel like it's very brave of those two to show their vulnerability online.

    • @Catlily5
      @Catlily5 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

      That is because psychiatrists and psychologists are still fighting about whether it is an actual disorder and how to treat it.

    • @fungustheclown666
      @fungustheclown666 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      ​@@Catlily5 I mean, people experiences prove it to be an actual disorder. Some psychologists will always be a devils advocate

  • @cherrystarlights
    @cherrystarlights 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +82

    im 17 and have several disorders melina and deimos have and a bad family situation, so this video brought me a lot of comfort. thank you so much for this interview both of you, it really did make me feel like im not alone. i hope both of you have a wonderful day!!!!!!!

    • @kathyjohnson2043
      @kathyjohnson2043 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +7

      Wishing you better days ahead

    • @cherrystarlights
      @cherrystarlights 3 หลายเดือนก่อน

      @@kathyjohnson2043 ❤️❤️❤️

  • @kathyjohnson2043
    @kathyjohnson2043 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +115

    Michael, thank you for stepping up to be their support! It wasn't something you had to do or would have been expected to do. I hope learning about you will inspire others to do the same.

  • @spiralghosts
    @spiralghosts 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +284

    I feel like a lot of teens with a similar story and diagnoses to Melina and Deimos tend to get the "faker" treatment online, simply because of their age or gender or physical appearance. Glad to see them on here so people can see it's not so unbelievable. :) Wishing all the best to them.

    • @ALGARIC
      @ALGARIC 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +5

      Wdym faker treatment?

    • @aaausername
      @aaausername 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +39

      @@ALGARIC people telling you don't have those disorders based of a 20 second video they see of you online.

  • @claras-it8bl
    @claras-it8bl 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +18

    I wish you could interview my uncle. He is 39 and living with his parents. He was born 28 weeks permutation. He is severely disabled but a Musical genius. He has cerebral palsy and we were told he Whould never communicate. He stared singing, than talking.he also has atisam, diebits, brain lesoers. He has seizures. And fetal achol syndrome. His parents died soon after he was born. He has been though a lot but he is truly an amazing person.

    • @amdonut8091
      @amdonut8091 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      I think they have someway to contact them at the end of the video or their website. Check out their description or something

  • @ajsmellypiratehooker1019
    @ajsmellypiratehooker1019 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +31

    My chosen sister has DID. When I first thought about it, it freaked me out until I realized they are ALL her. Her "system" is vast and it helped her survive horrible things in childhood that most of us can't even fathom. The problem is that alters persist past the traumatic situation, and can negatively impact life. She is not interested in changing anything-- why would she, when these alters helped her survive? They are a detriment now and I wish things were different. 😢

    • @deconstructeddissonance
      @deconstructeddissonance 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

      as someone who has did, you can't really change anything. there's no way to really make them go away, even with therapy and medication. you can figure out ways to deal with more harmful alters, sure, but you can't manually make them go dormant at all. ihope both you and your sister can find peace, did can be really hard to live with.

  • @xdani_thethinkingneko
    @xdani_thethinkingneko 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +47

    5:47
    Really breaks my heart that just because they had lower support needs than there brother. Clearly the specialist was not doing their job correctly. Especially because they are triplets, you would think they would’ve gotten the girls tested just to be sure. My heart is really breaking for these girls, especially the part where one of them was getting nervous and wanted to restart. You can see how much they’ve been through 😓💗
    Hopefully now that they have a proper diagnosis, they will get the help and support they need to thrive. After everything that they’ve been through that’s the least they deserve.
    If you girls happen to see this, best of luck. You both seem very bright and kind. I truly see a bright future ahead of you. I know it may sound silly too, but a book that really helps me even though I’m 28 is , the little train that could. Maybe it’ll help you ?💗

  • @rumham7466
    @rumham7466 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +61

    I’m glad they talked about DID. Over the years I’ve learned so much about it. I find it so fascinating just what the brain is capable of. It’s devastating and sad by its cause. But I am interested in how the brain operates in survival.

  • @Nonethelessersoulcoin
    @Nonethelessersoulcoin 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +19

    Melina's quote at the end "Psychology is biology" really sticked with me. That is an amazing way to think of it and it is absolutely true. We all need to be a little more empathetic, something I am trying to practice day to day! Thank you Melina and Deimos for sharing

  • @balaam_7087
    @balaam_7087 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +91

    This is powerful stuff. Took great courage for the two of you to speak so openly about this type of trauma. That’s a position of strength, and something no one can steal or take away from you. Keep seeking out these kind hearted, righteously motivated individuals like Chris here to tell your stories to and there is no limit to the good you can accomplish.

  • @pekeninu
    @pekeninu 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +45

    "Even if you've been through the ugly, you can make it beautiful!" - That's problably the most inspiring sentence i've ever heard.
    Thank you fot that Melina! YOU ARE INSPIRING!😊

  • @gemmadirenna7712
    @gemmadirenna7712 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +65

    These two siblings seem like such lovely and kind people, so interesting and fun to talk to. It’s so easy to understand them; they articulate their feelings very clearly and it is easy to empathize with their struggles. I loved hearing their stories and wish the very best for both of them ❤ I would love to be their friend for sure!

  • @sarahsmiles3271
    @sarahsmiles3271 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +49

    These sisters are smarter than most. Very intelligent with pure hearts. ❤

  • @mabel6261
    @mabel6261 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +27

    "the neuropath ways in my brain felt different" oh my god ive been saying the same exact thing for years & nobody ever understood what i was saying but i feel like melina does ❤ wow. that one sentence was so validating to me in so many ways. just to know other people have that thought & maybe they're experiencing the same thing as me makes me want to cry with relief. both of these girls are so beautiful inside & out thank you for having them on your channel chris & thank you both for sharing some of your experiences with us ❤❤

  • @icare6076
    @icare6076 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +55

    Wow. This interview touched my heart profoundly. The emotional strength and capacity in these two young people is amazing. Both intelligent and articulate and self-aware. I wish all the best for them, and I do believe that by sharing their stories they have helped this world. ❤

  • @ashleycook300
    @ashleycook300 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +16

    That image of them both curled up with their cousin and he has his arms open to them, and they are both just basking in the safety and warmth of his presence is so beautiful to me. You can clearly see how happy they are to be loved and cherished the way they deserve to be! 💖
    You are both so brave! Thank you both for talking about such hard things! Your messages are beautiful! And I love your style Melina! Your outfit looked great! 👍👍

  • @colinkrulz
    @colinkrulz 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +22

    I love how despite everything they have been through, you can just tell how relaxed they both were whenever Michael was sitting on the couch with them. Props to him for stepping up and being the father figure they deserve! ❤

  • @ChenkoTheDog
    @ChenkoTheDog 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +44

    oh my goodness 30 seconds in and my heart is already saddened. You are not alone.

  • @winstonchurchll
    @winstonchurchll 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +68

    I'm here because I want to understand what you're feeling and going through. You're helping me to understand better how to be a friend and help others. Thank you for being brave and sharing your story with us.

  • @joaovictoripiraja761
    @joaovictoripiraja761 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +22

    I've always had a difficult life being autistic even though I have several privileges: money in Brazil and parents present. Seeing this other perspective of the two sisters, I was impressed by how much repertoire they developed on this journey and how desperate they seemed. They don't deserve this. These kinds of stories inspire me to push through so many simple things in daily neurotypical life. Its so exhausting that sometimes i consider to give up. Girls, thank you so much for being so strong in telling your story

  • @byefelicia7358
    @byefelicia7358 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +24

    Holy cow, I’m barely into this! My heart is breaking for them. SBSK has traversed into the territory usually reserved for hard hitting investigative reporters. Thank you for this intimate slice of life from a great place of love and kindness. Society has failed our children. We can do so much better.

  • @proverbialwhatever
    @proverbialwhatever 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +19

    Melina and Deimos are so eloquent and well-describing of their experiences and conditions. So insightful!

  • @begentlebutdontallowshit2549
    @begentlebutdontallowshit2549 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +22

    I am autistic myself and I truly get her. To whoever is reading this and might struggle rn for whatever reason, please keep going, you're doing fine! No matter how slow your progress, each new week is filled with tiny steps forward. Be proud of yourself you got this! It’s worth hanging in there, it truly is. Stay strong kind strangers!❤

  • @sugarzblossom8168
    @sugarzblossom8168 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +36

    I understand her happiness. The way he interacts with people is great he can make friends with nearly anyone no matter how different from the norm people consider them.
    I hope this channel brings people even a bit of comfort.

  • @lululee1653
    @lululee1653 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +13

    I’m so relieved that they have an adult helping them ❤

  • @maccart67
    @maccart67 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +29

    Hi Melina and Deimos, wishing you all the very best. You are both beautiful! Hugs and peace to all including Michael. 🌻🇦🇺.

  • @LittleTFam
    @LittleTFam 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +20

    I feel so inspired to see this! What a wonderful man to step in and take care of his cousin's kids.

  • @BoldWarrior78
    @BoldWarrior78 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +5

    These two amazing young women prove that it's not their autism and other condition's that disable them. It's the world and people's attitudes towards them that does that. They are unique and talented people and will do well with the right environment and support. Also, they're incredibly courageous in sharing their story and are a great inspiration. Thank you Melina and Deimos!

  • @renroxhrd
    @renroxhrd 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +12

    These girls sound so much like me when I was in high school. I was diagnosed with aspergers/autism as a child but my mom kept it from me until recently. I was bullied in school, had low self esteem. Home life was stable but a lot of abuse, trauma. I have a lot of the same disorders they do (anxiety, depression with dissociation, PTSD, signs of BPD). I don't have DID but I feel like I have different voices in my head/personalities. I am in school to be a counselor now for these reasons. Good luck to both of these people.

  • @lapinamoric
    @lapinamoric 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +14

    one important thing to note is that the terminology of "favorite person" is an online term ! it stems from online circles, and as such, medical professionals may not understand / may overlook it. i think if you are a borderline persomn struggling with having a "favorite person" then it is so so important to not use terms that dull the impact of what it is - obsessive behaviour. take a step back and take care of yourself, so so much love from another autistic borderline with DID

    • @CHLOCHLOLP
      @CHLOCHLOLP หลายเดือนก่อน

      During my time in dialectical behavior therapy that term was used, but the therapist specialized in thay type of therapy which is common to treat BPD so maybe more generalized therapists wouldnt be aware of it. But i agree with your point that you shouldnt minimize the behavior just because the term doesnt sound very negative. Obsessing over people and putting so much pressure on them ruins relationships. You can easily end up hurting the people you care most about.

  • @biddiemutter3481
    @biddiemutter3481 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +6

    To the twins: thank you for sharing your experiences. You didn't deserve the childhood you had and you are very brave to share.
    I'm glad your relative found you .

  • @kerrynphillips9153
    @kerrynphillips9153 4 วันที่ผ่านมา +1

    These young ladies show such intelligence, such resilience. I pray that their future is so very much better than their past.

  • @monicadiazrivera3907
    @monicadiazrivera3907 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +10

    These kids deserved so much more. Makes me feel guilty I had a whole family, super protected and loved. This mom should have had these kids taken away. So sorry girls.

  • @nerdcave0
    @nerdcave0 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +8

    Such amazing people. The lack of guidance and trauma they describe is so deeply unfair, nobody chooses to be born into these circumstances. And yet, they've still managed to find their way onto a better path forward. Wish them much success and an easier life.

  • @Mina-px3zb
    @Mina-px3zb 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +15

    Big hugs and love to Melinda and Deimos. You two are definitely not alone. There are kind people out there. We love you. I love you. Keep going and shine bright like the resilient diamonds that you are. Sending you hugs

  • @ilovegeenadavis
    @ilovegeenadavis หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    This is genuinely the most relatable and heartbreaking story, I hope we find peace in this lifetime.

  • @albertoponcemusic
    @albertoponcemusic 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +16

    God bless them, they have struggled so much unnecessarily, they are who they are and should feel comfortable being themselves 🙏❤️🫶

  • @Brycesaggiebabe
    @Brycesaggiebabe 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +22

    You two did an amazing job describing yourselves. Thank you for being so open and sharing.

  • @jas_bataille
    @jas_bataille 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +8

    I'm 27 years old, I'm autistic + ADHD and a cancer survivor. I have sleeping pills, Aderall, anti-anxiolitics, and painkillers. Fro 20 years I had no pain medication, none whatsoever. The pain I lived with was around 7/10 everyday. It still is regularly. I had a therapist who said to me I was tough to walk without complaining, and I can workout extremely hard - much more than average - if I really want to (depression gets in the way of that) and I'm very physical. I learned to never, ever told anyone. To be as quiet and stoic over what people can imagine is even possible. One of my friend realized how much pain I live with, she's an athlete and trainer, and she said, even I have no idea how much pain you have and I was crying when I realized it. To this day people mock me and tell me regularly that I don't know what real pain is. When I was 8 I took 6 needle shots through my right knee bone with no analgesic. I am in so much pain that if I slip and fall, I will feel better because of the adrenaline. Some people will not believe me and I don't care.
    Thanks for all this. Hope to be on the show someday! :)(

    • @Catlily5
      @Catlily5 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      Sorry you are in so much pain.

    • @mitch5222
      @mitch5222 11 วันที่ผ่านมา

      I am in pain everyday for 12 years. It is exausting. I am disabled. I dont take any pill anymore cos made my body even worst. Anxiety, depression everyday. Ppl tell me same thing about pain.

  • @emasa97
    @emasa97 15 ชั่วโมงที่ผ่านมา

    The uncle brings so much meaning to these beautiful souls' lives :') I wish everybody can heal people like this

  • @prashant381
    @prashant381 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +12

    We understand. People laugh at us too. All of us laugh at all of us. And that is our "normal" behavior. If we are normal by any stretch of imagination and still don't have the guts to pour our heart like you have done - that tells you that we are struggling bad and listening to your story to get inspired ! And you have each other to lean on for all the advice in the world ❤

  • @KoreanJindoVlad
    @KoreanJindoVlad 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +17

    I found these young women to be delightful, beautiful, and intelligent. Thank you for sharing your story.

  • @Rose11485
    @Rose11485 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +5

    i was glued. These siblings are so beautiful, captivating, and articulate! wow! their phrasing of things is extremely relatable.

  • @CheyennePwns
    @CheyennePwns 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +10

    This was one of my favorite SBSK episodes to date. Mel and Deimos, your light is absolutely infectious.
    Your story, courage and love truly moved me. You two are capable of anything you put your mind to.
    Keep being you. Keep spreading your light.

  • @romeosantos3261
    @romeosantos3261 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +13

    These are brave and strong souls!!

  • @SoliRhymesWithJulie
    @SoliRhymesWithJulie 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +11

    Melina and Deimos, my heart goes out to you. No one should have to go through even one iota of what you have experienced. I have ADHD myself, and a significant portion of my friends are neurodiverse, or have mental illness, or chronic illness. (Even two friends with DID) You're not alone and I know there are so many people who will be elated to have you in their lives.

  • @Wolfstar26
    @Wolfstar26 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +6

    wow, i admire these two kids so much, i'm so happy they were able to find a parental figure later in life.

  • @HarleySLA
    @HarleySLA 7 วันที่ผ่านมา +1

    That intro got me in the feels. Respect to you ma'am.

  • @karengilburg3196
    @karengilburg3196 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

    All those disorders are most likely from the way they have been treated there whole life! When they don’t get loved it totally affects you! I wish I could hug these adorable children!

  • @katharine5606
    @katharine5606 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +15

    Thank you so much for sharing, Melina and Deimos. You sure have experienced a lot in your lives. It's great that you are close to each other and now have Michael for support. I wish you both the best going forward. 🧡

  • @floral-smoke
    @floral-smoke หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    Wow, it was eye opening when she said it is traumatic to *not* be diagnosed. I am a teacher, and unfortunately have dealt with parents who refuse to allow their children to receiving testing because I'm assuming they don't want them to have the stigma attached with being "labeled". I think it's ridiculous because the symptoms don't go away because you choose not to have your child receive a diagnosis. Now, I'm even more devastated for my previous students who will continue without support they need because of parents old fashioned way of thinking

  • @FurryToraChan
    @FurryToraChan 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +9

    Melina and Deimos.. you are both amazing people

  • @RubyGeeScuderia
    @RubyGeeScuderia 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +5

    "It's kinda traumatising to not be diagnosed" This!!!! YES!!

  • @momof2momof2
    @momof2momof2 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +12

    For all these lovely young ladies have been through, they are so well spoken, kind and so aware of themselves. God Bless them in all they are and all tey do in their lives.

  • @nancykahn4125
    @nancykahn4125 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +8

    You both are so intelligent,articulate,and self-aware. You have been through so much, but you have so much potential for the future. You also have each other.

  • @mellynn277
    @mellynn277 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +38

    This is one of my favorite SBSK videos. I am so inspired and uplifted by the stories of these young women. What warriors and survivors. What a wonderful uncle to come along side them and take care of them. Thank you all for sharing your stories. You are cared for by all of us.

  • @leannejones7080
    @leannejones7080 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +5

    Wow…. My 23yr old daughter has ASD, BPD and CPTSD, she’s currently residing in a MH hospital on a section. Her way of coping is slf harm, her arms, legs, forehead and worst of all slitting her own throat….. 11 x in 12 months. She’s a beautiful human being but loves to care for others but not herself. As a mum it’s heartbreaking and all I can do is pray she stays alive. I hope these ladies continue support each other xxxx 🇬🇧

    • @Hwgt888
      @Hwgt888 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

      Yeah you let someone touch your kid clearly

    • @Catlily5
      @Catlily5 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

      ​@@Hwgt888You don't know that.

    • @Catlily5
      @Catlily5 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      ​@@Hwgt888I know a lot of abused people. Sometimes the mom let it happen sometimes they didn't.

    • @reallyradrabbit
      @reallyradrabbit 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      @@Hwgt888what????????? literally what is wrong with you

  • @WindElementor14
    @WindElementor14 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +27

    I feel her pain 😢

  • @4SherylB
    @4SherylB 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +22

    These two girls are intelligent and well spoken. Cute as well. You go girls, and be you. You're as special and valuable as anyone.

  • @inputoutput3539
    @inputoutput3539 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +12

    This was such a good insightful and personal interview… it felt different…. Peace and love to these two young ladies 🫶🏽🌻☺️

  • @realcanadiangirl64
    @realcanadiangirl64 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

    As a mother my heart broke hearing these girls stories. I would be proud to call these two girls my daughters ❤

  • @fandoms5ever
    @fandoms5ever 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

    They’re both so pretty and unique. Like they could be stars on a TV series.

  • @realunrealpony
    @realunrealpony 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

    Hello from Germany - There are people all over the world who struggle with similar difficulties (such as DID and autism). It's so unbearable sometimes... But you must never give up. If you manage to let lovely people into your life, things will eventually get better... Thanks for the video.

  • @fibifeo
    @fibifeo 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +8

    Beautiful girls . I’m glad they’re getting good guidance now . I wish them a happy healthy future x

  • @Glocktopus129
    @Glocktopus129 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +28

    As someone who is neurotypical I just wanna say there are those of us that feel the same about people not understanding us. It must be 100% harder for you but just know there’s people out there that identify with what you said and make an effort every day to be understanding. I’m so sorry for what you two have gone through. I had an abusive childhood as well and no child should EVER have to go through that. Things get hard but you two have each other and that’s what matters. 🖤

  • @RealityTrailers
    @RealityTrailers 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +12

    Fantastic interview!! What amazing people Melina and Deimos truly are!!!! Very glad they offered their experiences to the world here.

  • @tmc3178
    @tmc3178 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +17

    The chicken bones thing is just a traditional Mexican thing 😅
    Damn this hit me hard though. Much love to you beautiful ladies. You did nothing wrong. It took me so long to figure that out.

  • @garbhanmyles
    @garbhanmyles 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +9

    I can honestly say that you are two of the most incredible people I’ve listened to in a long time. I was so moved by what your story. I wish you both all the very best on your paths through life. So much respect for you two!🙏

  • @Luna83644
    @Luna83644 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

    Mel stops being anxious when her ‘father figure’ is around that’s so cute